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Speaker 2: Maybe she needs to.

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Speaker 3: Well, that's better than saying go back to the kitchen,

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Speaker 1: Too, And this is the answer the question what harsh

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Speaker 1: truice should you tell your partner? By the way, if

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Speaker 1: you're watching this episode, you know we're live every weekday

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Speaker 1: at three pm. All Live.

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Speaker 2: Come it over, Get it to the YouTube.

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Speaker 1: This comes from Georgia Power, who says my wife has

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Speaker 1: been out of work since twenty nineteen. She had a

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Speaker 1: mental breakdown during her fifth year of teaching. She has

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Speaker 1: been going to therapy since, and we started marriage counseling

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Speaker 1: during COVID. Reason for marriage counseling was she thought I

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Speaker 1: before her and her therapist thought she was ready.

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Speaker 2: I tried to.

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Speaker 1: Explain many times that was not my intent, but realistically speaking,

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Speaker 1: for me to keep up with expenses in retirement contributions,

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Speaker 1: I pretty much have to take extra shifts.

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Speaker 2: Sometime.

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Speaker 1: I clock in over eighteen hours a day. Wow, that's

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Speaker 1: a lot, and on average have been pulling eighty four

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Speaker 2: That's a lot of hours.

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Speaker 3: How is that possible?

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's possible, possible, But.

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Speaker 3: Like eighteen hours, that gives you roughly six hours of sleep.

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Speaker 2: That's it. That's all you need. You don't need any more.

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Speaker 3: Yes you do, Yes, you do need.

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Speaker 2: You need a live outside of that, No you don't.

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Speaker 2: That's been that's where That's where this guy is at.

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Speaker 2: That guy you.

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Speaker 1: New twenty four to seven livestream Future Riley. Riley never

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Speaker 1: goes to sleep from the chair. Hey, guys, just drinking

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I've been doing this since she stopped working five years ago.

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Speaker 2: She started working five years ago.

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Speaker 1: He's been doing this since she stopped working five years ago.

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Speaker 1: So he's been working eighty four hour weeks on average

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Speaker 2: Bro is he doing? Is he doing weekends too? Or

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Speaker 1: I mean with eighty four hours in a in a

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Speaker 2: So it's possible, it's Fine's complaining about sixteen hour days. Also,

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Speaker 3: Does and if you work more, doesn't that put you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly true. What is this lodgic? I'm surrounded by

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Speaker 1: We recently had a fight because I had an extremely

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Speaker 2: Of losing it. Five years, run the risk of losing

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Speaker 2: what progress? Motion? Progress, progress? That's that's that's dumb.

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Speaker 1: The we being her and her therapist. I told her,

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Speaker 1: I really don't give an Oh what are we as it? Oh? Oh?

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Speaker 2: I said, the progress of the Yes? Yes, five years, Bro,

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Speaker 2: five years of therapy and you can't go back to work.

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Speaker 2: No, dude, I mean she needs to go provide for herself. Yeah. Actually,

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Speaker 2: real quick, Riley, divorce, Is this okay?

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Speaker 3: Is this okay?

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Speaker 2: Work? Work? Eighty four? Hours a week just to make

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, but she's still working. See,

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Speaker 2: Right, yeah, exact interest, Yes, totally.

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Speaker 1: I told her I don't really give an f what

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Speaker 1: It sounds like she's in therapy a lot, which is

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Speaker 2: Problem. You couldn't possibly stop, you'll lose progress. Conspiracy theory. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: But what is she doing? He does not sound very comfortable.

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Speaker 2: He's he's working eighteen hour days, he's having and then

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Speaker 1: Dinner just to not have like a prepackaged or like

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Speaker 1: while what I said was harsh, I think it did

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Speaker 1: hole here? And I'm going to take a break, right

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Speaker 1: here's a nice little break in the story. Yep, First

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Speaker 2: No? I mean, oh, but like I all just think

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Speaker 2: If OP has a mental break, OP, he will not

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Speaker 2: So I think OP is getting to that point where

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Speaker 1: Eighty hours a week for five years is absolutely insane. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And I would feel like, do you even love me? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And it's like, I think there's something big to be said.

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Speaker 2: Not when I sit in bed, I am more sad. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I need to like go, Like I went surfing this morning, dude,

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Speaker 2: went surfing this morning. I was listening to Louis Armstrong

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Speaker 1: Nothing better. We need to do a morning surf sash

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Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah I did. I went surfing. Well, I have COVID,

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Speaker 2: no way. Yeah, I would love to go surfing. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it would be super fun. And I play chess afterwards.

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Speaker 2: If you always play some chess too, teach me. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how I got you. I got you.

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Speaker 2: I was playing with Anthony this morning. Dude, great bless

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Speaker 2: I'm there for it. But like I think, like, like

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Speaker 1: I think I think people need kind of a thing

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Speaker 1: I'm doing this, and then it's like okay, the therapy

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Speaker 1: nothing yeah, and going to therapy unless the head gag crazy,

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Speaker 2: That's that's not nothing. That's not nothing. That is something.

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Speaker 2: That is something, but not enough.

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Speaker 1: Her therapist said such a drastic change to her environment

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Speaker 2: I'm feeling divorced right now. I'm thinking, like, get a

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Speaker 1: And this to me, five years of like it's not

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's it's it's been five years since she

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Speaker 3: All we have is a five Like in twenty nineteen

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Speaker 2: I'm I feel like five years is a really long time.

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Speaker 3: Later on, he says, I'm not even thirty yet.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, yeah, well he's literally working eighty hours

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Speaker 2: Being a trad wife. It is not you know, just

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Speaker 2: a request for a two week vacation, Thank god.

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Speaker 1: During that time, I'm going to relax, my friends, play

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Speaker 2: No is actually mismanaging the money. No, no, no, dude,

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Speaker 2: Oh I wonder how much debt it is? I'm saying nothing.

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Speaker 2: Do you have to disclose your debt before you get married?

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Speaker 2: Am I getting married to someone they have like one

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Speaker 1: No? I you know what's I think it's I think,

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Speaker 2: Like you didn't get suddenly find out Riley, if you're

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Speaker 3: Not no, not a girlfriend. No love of my life.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. It's the love of your life.

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Speaker 2: You stive your life. But like do you need to

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Speaker 2: Just maybe not? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love of my life. I'd do it. I'd

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Speaker 1: But would you would you not? Like you could even

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Speaker 1: would you not get legally married? So you're not love

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Speaker 3: But I make money moves to be on that.

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Speaker 2: But then you could just pay her, you could just

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Speaker 1: You could still pay her, but you wouldn't be legally

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Speaker 2: If she left you or whatever happens.

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Speaker 3: I'll be like, hey, I'll have been married off, but

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so have it?

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Speaker 1: So still get legally married all that, but have a

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Speaker 2: It feels like a wiener thing. Yeah, I feel like

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Speaker 1: During this time, my friend said, I could crash at

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Speaker 1: on that offer. This will be my final post here though,

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Speaker 1: going over this, I made this post for all the

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Speaker 1: for that. Even so, I thank everyone because a lot

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Speaker 1: I do not have much in terms of family. Both

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Speaker 1: my parents have passed away. Thank you for the tough love.

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Speaker 1: Something has to change, and if my wife is unable,

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Speaker 1: I have to do it. I am young. I should

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Speaker 1: showed me pictures from before all of this happened. I

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Speaker 1: want to go back to the person I was then

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Speaker 1: stress a killer dress, a row aged like the Presidency

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Speaker 1: during Yeah, this is what I was gonna say. I

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Speaker 1: agree I was the a hole for what I said,

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Speaker 1: but I do not regret it. It was a wake

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Speaker 1: up call I needed. That is the end of the story.

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Speaker 1: Really quick. I want to ask specifically when he kind

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Speaker 1: of like wrung her out and was like just told

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Speaker 1: her what's what and basically kind of had like a

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Speaker 1: screaming match with her.

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Speaker 2: Do you think he was the a hole for that?

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Speaker 2: I mean it was it a screaming match. He was

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Speaker 2: yelling at her, and I think she was yelling back.

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Speaker 2: But like it like kind of distraught, and I'll pull

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Speaker 2: up some of the lines that he had said explicitly.

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Speaker 3: For it's five years of working that long, so much anger, resentment,

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Speaker 3: and he probably doesn't even have time to go to

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Speaker 3: therapy and figure this out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, yelling is never I think you're an

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Speaker 2: a whole if you yell. But like I I I

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Speaker 2: understand that he was at a breaking point, but I

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Speaker 2: don't think it like excuses. Yeah, that's that's true. I

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Speaker 2: don't think I excuses ever. But I like, like, literally,

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Speaker 2: she's killing him.

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Speaker 1: It's really bad, and like, honestly, what's crazy is uh?

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Speaker 1: In past stories, I think the sentiment of like, oh,

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Speaker 1: sometimes you like kind of need to get a little frustrated.

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Speaker 1: If that's what we'll get the messages sent through, because

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Speaker 1: it isn't she still doesn't even get the message.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But I also I don't agree with that, Like

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Speaker 2: I think actually yelling and Screaming almost always has the

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Speaker 2: opposite intention of what you're trying to communicate.

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Speaker 1: Because you could say, I'm I'm going to leave the relationship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a very serious thing. You can say what you're

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Speaker 1: gonna do. You can have real consequences. But yelling, like

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Speaker 1: I think yelling and screaming is, is not real consequences.

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Speaker 1: It's like it's uncontrolled emotion. It shows that you have

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Speaker 1: uncontrolled emotion, but I don't think it actually leads to

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Speaker 1: like res illusions that are helpful. And Op was like,

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Speaker 1: that was an f up and that was my bat.

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Speaker 1: I think he is taking accountability and ownership, but also

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Speaker 1: saying the sentiment and basically what I was communicating was

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Speaker 1: true that like I should not have to be doing this,

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Speaker 1: and like you're and your therapist are just like letting

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Speaker 1: you kind of like freeload and kind of like on

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Speaker 1: my back, you know, breaking my back to make sure

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Speaker 1: you can just kind of live how you want.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I hope I hope this. I hope this, Uh,

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Speaker 2: this vacation gives OP like the clarity and distance he

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Speaker 2: needs me too.

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Speaker 1: And you know, I hope that people that are watching

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Speaker 1: the end of the story lock our profile to join

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Speaker 1: us live because we're live right now.

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Speaker 2: What the heck, Go go check this, go check it out.

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Speaker 2: Please join us, But you know what we're gonna go into.

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Speaker 2: What this next story? All right, let's go