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Speaker 1: this episode featuring Passport Cuddy.

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Speaker 2: M Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica

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Speaker 2: and I'm Mela.

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Speaker 1: Happy humpday, bitches. Hope y'all are humping because I'm not

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Speaker 1: still celibate?

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Speaker 2: Bitches? How many days has been one week? No, it's

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Speaker 1: It's been eight days, long enough that I'm celibate. Okay,

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Speaker 1: and that's all that matters. What about you, bitch.

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Speaker 2: You're the one that proclaims celibacy January first and literally

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Speaker 2: unclaimed it January second. So what don't judge me, bitch.

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Speaker 2: I'm actually back on my journey. I'm actually back on

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Speaker 2: my celibacy journey. Thanks to you. Thank you. I'm so

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Speaker 2: glad to know all about your posting. Got check in

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Speaker 2: Jamala's Pussy every week.

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Speaker 3: This is the Jamila's Pussy check in. You know, I've

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Speaker 3: met with somebody. Yesterday one of our listeners shout out

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Speaker 3: I'm actually considering enjoying that again. Oh you're talking about

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Speaker 3: your former, my former last years, but I'm doing it again.

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Speaker 2: So I was really proud of you too. You went,

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Speaker 2: Speaking of going in pussy, I have a special guest

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Speaker 2: here and we have pastport Cuddy, the Unconventional Life coach

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Speaker 2: author and the woman that is going to help us

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Speaker 2: get money from that. It is this Fussy is good,

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Speaker 2: so funny. Hey guys, thank you for joining me, having

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Speaker 2: me all the way from New York so happy that

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Speaker 2: you're here. I got a lot of questions. I have

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Speaker 2: some answer. Apparently me and Yorky have been doing it

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Speaker 2: Stop talking? So that's why I'm sullivanting again. Well, it's

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Speaker 2: not so much stop fucking, it's use your fucking make

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Speaker 1: So when I was doing my research on you and

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Speaker 1: your book, and I was, I was because when my

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Speaker 1: And I was like why what did she get her

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Speaker 1: about you know it Chris Rock Special that men can't

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Speaker 2: that is so true. Yeah he does. That's my favorite comedian.

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Speaker 2: It's true because before my baby Daddy, like I was

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Speaker 1: I think everybody needs to get your book for Men

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Speaker 2: No, everybody's not all of them. You might be one

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Speaker 2: that's not like there's no productivity going on in your life.

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Speaker 3: It's so funny that it came out, because that's shit.

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Speaker 3: I was thinking, you know, next time one of my

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Speaker 2: Damn, how you're going to go from zero? Tay, I

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Speaker 1: how you identify a spender. So what are the ways

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Speaker 2: So it's not well, yeah, if he's a spender, but

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Speaker 2: also what type of spender he is, like what he

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Speaker 2: spends on? Right, So a lot of this can be

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Speaker 2: overturned over the phone, text, telephone call. I hate texting, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I literally just like like ended the relationship yesterday about it.

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Speaker 2: No, I love I love speaking on the phone as well.

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Speaker 2: So they're like, what's cheap? And I'm like, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: See, but I'm not doing that anymore. So let me

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Speaker 2: I didn't want him to feel who cares? Yeah, not

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Speaker 3: About them in the courting area, That's what. And I

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Speaker 3: But they came with me to the club, me, him

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Speaker 2: I had to like say it young. But with friends,

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Speaker 3: I don't even like a guy to talk to me

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Speaker 2: Hate that ship. Yeah, it's true.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like I was telling Jamil, I was like,

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Speaker 2: And I'm what the has happened?

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Speaker 3: So then he so I ended up going on a

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Speaker 3: So we went out. We actually had a good time.

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Speaker 3: a purse or some lip injections. You know that's big

429
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 3: in La.

430
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 2: So how do you like? How do you different? I

431
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,400
Speaker 2: don't want to. I think a lot of times when

432
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:46,359
Speaker 2: I do certain things, it's.

433
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 3: Because I don't want to fall in line with these

434
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,679
Speaker 3: other dumb bitches who are just like, you know, like

435
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:52,720
Speaker 3: Instagram hosts.

436
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 2: Okay, well there's a lot of things that I'm packed there.

437
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 2: First of all, the Instagram holes get exactly what they ask.

438
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:06,880
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's so true. So it's kind of like, oh,

439
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 2: she just wants a fifty two hundred dollars no bag,

440
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 2: and it's like, but she got it. So that's one thing.

441
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:20,120
Speaker 2: Number two is that you just got to choose what

442
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 2: you want them to spend on. Now, doesn't mean that

443
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 2: he's gonna be okay with that. Because some guys are

444
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 2: cool with giving a bag because it's just an item,

445
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,120
Speaker 2: and some guys don't want to spend fifty two hundred

446
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,400
Speaker 2: dolls sending you to school because for the semester, because

447
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, yeah, like all of that. Like there's

448
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 2: some guys who It's true, there's some guys who give cash,

449
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 2: is some guys who give items. There's some guys who

450
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 2: will pay for the experience. It's some guys who will

451
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 2: do something to elevate you, you know, help you in your journey,

452
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 2: push you forward, whatever. But you just have to identify

453
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 2: who that is. Like, and I tell people all the time,

454
00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:00,360
Speaker 2: like I'm gonna take whatever he's willing to give. That's

455
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 2: just that's what that guy his category is, like he's

456
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:11,400
Speaker 2: he's a guy's But also as far as you not

457
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 2: wanting to look a certain way to him and you

458
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 2: saying like, oh, you know, I don't want you to

459
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 2: think or I don't want you to be talking ship

460
00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 2: later on whatever. The same way we set up out

461
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 2: the tone, how we're trying to set up the tone,

462
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 2: that's all they're doing back, They're that's conditioning you to

463
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 2: do those things prior to meeting him. He's like venting

464
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 2: about it's the same thing that we do.

465
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 3: Inventing to you so that you don't not offer money

466
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 3: if to myself, Oh my god, and he writes, then

467
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 3: he write, met the man with next week.

468
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell him I'm coming. I'm not getting you

469
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 2: a dime for gas. Yeah, like in exactly how we're like,

470
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm gonna tell him. I don't like

471
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 2: cheap guys. I don't like guys who make me split.

472
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: I don't like guys who do this. And we're doing

473
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 2: that to condition them and let them know, like prior

474
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: to meeting them, they're doing the same thing and they

475
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:08,360
Speaker 2: have no problem doing that. Exactly. The problem is I'm

476
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 2: too busy thinking what if he thinks this is zero

477
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 2: and he does not care? Because the thing is, if

478
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 2: we're not equally yoked in that way, then we're just

479
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,639
Speaker 2: not meant to fuck with each other, because that's gonna

480
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 2: continue to be an issue. Like, Okay, let's say he

481
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 2: is the type of person who thinks that women and

482
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:33,359
Speaker 2: men should split. So let's say the first time he

483
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 2: doesn't make you split, but the second time, and the

484
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 2: third time and the fourth time, it's gonna be like

485
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,959
Speaker 2: it's gonna keep on being a thing on you know.

486
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:45,199
Speaker 2: The elephant in the room is like he's not. But

487
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:49,199
Speaker 2: now I'm not happy and that's because I allowed. I

488
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 2: didn't listen to this. So so many people contact me

489
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 2: and say, you know, like it's been long enough. We've

490
00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 2: been together for a long time and we've been splitting

491
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 2: for so long, and I never believed in that, but

492
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 2: now I don't know how to turn it around, you know,

493
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 2: And I'm like, well, I would just say, you know,

494
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 2: you didn't have the money back then. I was trying

495
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 2: to meet you halfway. You have the money now, Like

496
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 2: I don't like it like this, like it's gone your

497
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 2: way for this long.

498
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, do you really think, though, that you

499
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 1: can flip it around after it's been going on for

500
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 1: that long.

501
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure you can, and not everybody, but you

502
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 2: can because you just got to be vocal, like you

503
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 2: gotta kind of let them know, like you're getting turned off,

504
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 2: like I don't like this. This is how I did

505
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 2: it for a while because I didn't want you to

506
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 2: think this. I didn't want you to feel this way.

507
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: I wanted to be more considerate of you, your funds,

508
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 2: you you know, we've been together for seven years. Seven

509
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 2: years ago you were making nineteen dollars an hour. Now

510
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 2: you're making thirty five dollars an hour. You know, like

511
00:26:56,680 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 2: it's come on, whether it's trips, rent, you know, going

512
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:05,879
Speaker 2: on dates, this that all is splitting going on. I

513
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 2: would have a conversation about it. I would be like,

514
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 2: you know, first of all, I'm always having a conversation

515
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 2: about money with in my relationships, whether it's my boyfriend,

516
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 2: guys I'm dating, a sugar daddy situation, a married situation,

517
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 2: like whatever it is, that's always a topic of conversation

518
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 2: because somebody's paying for this shit. Oh about what you

519
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 2: the things you need and want? Yeah, like or what

520
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 2: they are not what they are doing or not doing.

521
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 2: Like if I'm in my own relationship, I'll be like,

522
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 2: you haven't paid for shit in two fucking months. The

523
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,200
Speaker 2: fuck do you think this hair gets done by itself?

524
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 3: Yeah?

525
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 2: You know, like, or I'll say you keep on wanting

526
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:51,439
Speaker 2: mistake every two days, or you know, salmon Whole Foods

527
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 2: is a shitload of money. I'm spending one hundred and

528
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 2: twenty dollars in there for two meals, you know, and

529
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 2: you want it ready and and taking care of and

530
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 2: hot when you come home. But I needs money, you know,

531
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 2: but are you in a relationship. It's complicated as of

532
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: right now, maybe we like are like broken up kind

533
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 2: of as of like an hour when you say because

534
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 2: like I was also when I was listening, you were

535
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 2: talking about just you touched on splitting the bill, but

536
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,359
Speaker 2: you said that if you're on a date with a

537
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 2: of someone that you know is wealthy, sometimes it's better

538
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 2: to pay for the bill. It's kind of like it's

539
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 2: reverse psychology. Yeah, Like it's there's no benefit in paying

540
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 2: for the guy who doesn't have it. He's just want

541
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 2: to if you're not there anywhere. I mean you're not

542
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 2: if he doesn't have it, You're not there because you're

543
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 2: trying to get something. You might be trying to get

544
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 2: the dick. You know, we all know broken got great day.

545
00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 2: But then you can get the dick without paying for

546
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 2: his meal, right, he probably don't even have a house exactly. Whatever.

547
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, people always saying like, oh, but

548
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 2: he has such great he has such great dick as

549
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 2: an excuse for why they're paying for ship. I'm like,

550
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: he's gonna give it to you.

551
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 1: Get right, or no, he's he's reverse psychology. But but

552
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: but but back on like paying for a wealthy man,

553
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 1: Like how do you know the difference though, because that

554
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: you can go with a wealthy man that might appreciate

555
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:37,239
Speaker 1: you paying the bill, right, But then also you go

556
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 1: to date with a wealthy man and then you pay,

557
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: you pay that bill, and he's like, oh, you're a

558
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: you're too independent.

559
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 3: Well you also have that think was on the vocal

560
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 3: lot like not only sometimes you'll like pay because like

561
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 3: I'm sure a lot of bitches don't do this for you,

562
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 3: but also this is what I need, you know.

563
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 2: One thing you did say.

564
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 3: I did date this young guy who at first was

565
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 3: just like I was fucking because he was cute, and

566
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 3: then like we started kind of and I was like,

567
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 3: I'm not I don't want to splitch shit anymore. And

568
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 3: so one day I had a conversation with him and

569
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 3: I was like, let me explain something to you. I

570
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 3: was like, if you go on a date with a

571
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 3: girl you've known less long longer than me, do you pay?

572
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: He's like yeah, I said, why can you try to

573
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 2: get some pussy? Right? He said yeah? And You're like,

574
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 2: do you care about.

575
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 3: The impression you're makinghim, I said, I've known you much

576
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 3: longer and I'm higher on the rank. Yeah, So for

577
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 3: that reason, I don't even want this conversation again. I

578
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 3: was like, and in fact, like me, paying is not

579
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 3: making my pussy wet.

580
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 2: I literally broke it like that. Never asked me to

581
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 2: pay for anything ever again. See, because I said it

582
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 2: very clear, I had to like breakwa, Well, what you're

583
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 2: already having sex? You could say whatever the fuck you want?

584
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 2: Right to answer your question, I would say, if you

585
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 2: invite him, then that's ah, that's a invitation to pay. Yeah,

586
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 2: for you to pay, yeah, okay, Like if he invites

587
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 2: you out and then you go to pay, it's not

588
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 2: necessary really, Yeah, but if you know that he has money,

589
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: like let me take you off for dinner or let's

590
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 2: go for drinks or whatever. But if you make that initiate,

591
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 2: you know, if you initiate getting up together and having

592
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 2: those drinks though, going out or going wherever it is

593
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 2: that you're gonna go, that's when I feel like, is more,

594
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 2: you know, appropriate for you to pay. But if he

595
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 2: invites you, it doesn't make any sense. So what are

596
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 2: the you touched on your book too about the reasons

597
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 2: why why people like women can't get money. Yeah, and

598
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 2: I'm definitely identified oh with the independent woman, the yeah success.

599
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: Well yeah, because I'm like, why is it like I

600
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 1: feel like, well, I I'm aware that I think a

601
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: lot of men think that I don't need them, that

602
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: because of what I do for work, that you know,

603
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: everything's handled. They may even assume that because of who

604
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: my daughter's father.

605
00:31:55,760 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 2: Is, that everything's taken care of. Right. No, but see,

606
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 2: now this is the thing. Every single woman who identifies

607
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 2: as the independent woman or you know, somebody who has

608
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 2: all this shit together, has that same concern. Every city

609
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 2: I went to, every you know, state, country that I

610
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 2: went to that I had this event about the book,

611
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 2: they all had the same concern. And I told them,

612
00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:23,239
Speaker 2: you can absolutely be one hundred percent independent, have all

613
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 2: your shit together, and still tell a guy, yes, I'm

614
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 2: doing great, but I only fuck with people who look

615
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 2: out for me. So what you're gonna do? You know

616
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 2: this girl in Houston, Well, this woman in Houston, she

617
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 2: said like, this guy said like, oh, I'm so happy

618
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:45,000
Speaker 2: that you got your shit together. Like girls that I'm

619
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: usually used to dealing with, they be needing all of

620
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 2: this stuff they be wanting all this stuff, they don't have,

621
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 2: you know, this stuff together, whatever the case is, She's like,

622
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 2: how do I let him know? But like, I still

623
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 2: want you to do it? I was like, and at

624
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 2: that moment, you've been like, yeah, you know what, You're

625
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 2: so right, I'm so proud. But there's still only with

626
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 2: people who look out for me. So I don't know

627
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 2: what that means to you. But so if he asks you,

628
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 2: what does that mean to you? How do how do

629
00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 2: you reply without sounding like no, you're not sounding like anything.

630
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 2: If he says, so, what does that mean to be? Like,

631
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 2: I still expect a man to be a man. I

632
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 2: still expect him to pay for dates. I still expect

633
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 2: him to, you know, be generous, buy me stuff whatever

634
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 2: I'm gonna because this is how I look at it,

635
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 2: and this is and I ask every guy that I

636
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 2: come in contact with, I'm like, you guys are always complaining,

637
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 2: well what do you what do we get? What do

638
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 2: we get for giving out all this money? And my

639
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:43,239
Speaker 2: question is what do you want? You know right, what

640
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 2: do you want?

641
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 3: It?

642
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 2: It is not money.

643
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 1: They never say I want money back, They never say

644
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: they want attention. They want pussy and exactly.

645
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 2: So you tell me what you want, and I'm telling

646
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 2: you what I want, Like it's that simple. Because and

647
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 2: they they kind of clam up when you ask that

648
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 2: question because they don't even know, you know, they know

649
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 2: once you ask them that they know that it's not

650
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 2: money that they want. So then they're kind of like

651
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 2: stuck because they're like, oh, damn, Like, it's not that

652
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:20,279
Speaker 2: I want her to pay. It's not that I want

653
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 2: her to give me money. It's not that I want

654
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 2: her to buy me anything, like I want her to

655
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 2: cook and be sexy, and uh, I don't want to

656
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 2: have to ask for head and I don't want to

657
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 2: have to, you know, wash my laundry, and I don't

658
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 2: want to have to like what is it that you

659
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 2: want me to do? I'll take care of those things

660
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 2: and you take care of the things that I want.

661
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 2: So and and I think that people are just too

662
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 2: scared to really identify what it is. But guys know

663
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 2: that they don't want money back from us. They don't

664
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: like it's very like the percentage of God, your ego

665
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 2: won't even let them say it. Yeah, it's not even

666
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 2: even if they wanted it. Some asshole might say it

667
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 2: just to fuck with you. Yeah, like I want, I want,

668
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 2: I want you to pay a bill for me sometimes. Yeah,

669
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 2: that's what REVERSE like call that. I find these niggas

670
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 2: do because because, like I said before, we're in this

671
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 2: space where women are more independent than ever and like

672
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 2: financially especially, and men are using that to not pay

673
00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 2: for shit. But I still even the brokest of the

674
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 2: broke guy the the most the user. You know, I

675
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 2: have never really heard that a guy say like, how

676
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 2: about your paying my phone bills? Sometimes? I've never heard

677
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 2: a guy say that, like ever, never, never, never.

678
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 3: My problem is is that I want stuff, but also

679
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:34,280
Speaker 3: I want you to just offer.

680
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:38,799
Speaker 2: I don't want to have to ask. Is that realistic? No,

681
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 2: it's not realistic, but well it's realistic in a sense

682
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 2: that everybody feels that way, Like why should I have

683
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 2: to ask? And I constantly say like we do not

684
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 2: know the context of their life, like we don't know

685
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 2: their history, we don't know what they're used to. You know.

686
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 2: I just put out some content the other day on

687
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 2: YouTube and this guy says I said to him, like,

688
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:08,319
Speaker 2: will you pay for girls hair? And he was like no,

689
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 2: And I was like he was like no, I'm not

690
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: paying for any of that personal maintenance Like no, He's like,

691
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 2: I grew up with a mother who you know, was

692
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 2: super independent. She took care of everything, blah blah blah,

693
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 2: she took care of me, and so you want to

694
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 2: date your mom? So I told him, I said, so,

695
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 2: when your mom was doing all this stuff by herself,

696
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:31,399
Speaker 2: do you think that she would have been happy if

697
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 2: somebody offered to pay for her hair? And he was like,

698
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 2: I mean yeah, And I'm like, so, don't you think

699
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 2: that it would be nice for you to offer to

700
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 2: pay for some single moms.

701
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 3: Especially because you've seen a woman actually do everything, including

702
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 3: whatever it is for your ass.

703
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:51,359
Speaker 2: You think when she was doing it, she's like, I'm

704
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 2: so happy to do this on my own, all my money,

705
00:36:56,640 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 2: exactly struggling, you know, so overworked, underpaid, tired, whatever or

706
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 2: maybe not underpaid, who knows.

707
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 3: But it's like, come on, now that irritates me, Like

708
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 3: what for a man to make that comment?

709
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 2: Now they all do that, but this is the that's

710
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 2: the answer to what you're saying, Like, is it realistic

711
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:20,360
Speaker 2: to just expect that he's supposed to know? But he

712
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 2: didn't have a father, so how was he supposed to

713
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 2: know what men are supposed to make for there was

714
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 2: no guy around, you know, like, how was he supposed

715
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 2: to know that, you know, women would like that if

716
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: nobody if he never saw the smile on his mother's

717
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 2: face when somebody said here go get a wash and said,

718
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:38,240
Speaker 2: you know, like here go get a jed girl. Whatever.

719
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 2: And then you have the people who, you know, maybe

720
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 2: they had a super independent mom. Maybe maybe they did

721
00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 2: have a father and their father was a bob, you know,

722
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 2: like maybe he didn't have no job. Maybe there was

723
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: so many you know, like there's so many different situations

724
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,120
Speaker 2: that he could have grown up in. And then and

725
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 2: you have you know, guys who go from being with

726
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: their mom to living with another girl. You know what

727
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 2: about that first girl that he got with was just

728
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 2: like his mom or you know, just wanted a boyfriend.

729
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 2: Like all the guys, all the girls that he dealt

730
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 2: with before, were just like you. I don't want him

731
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 2: to think, I don't want him to say, I don't

732
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 2: want him to feel no one's making him step up exactly.

733
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 2: So now he gets to you and he's like, huh

734
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 2: m hm. You know, like my mom didn't teach me that.

735
00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 2: Those last two bitches they didn't care. They didn't want it,

736
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 2: you know. So that's why I say, like, it's not

737
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 2: a big deal if they don't offer. It's so true.

738
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 3: And now that I'm like you're telling you this, I'm

739
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:44,240
Speaker 3: having all these fucking flashbacks I had as mom tell.

740
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: Me, you know, oh my god, about his dad. You know,

741
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 2: so and so is not very driven.

742
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, okay, so this is the

743
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 3: standards in which you roperated.

744
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 2: This is what he's seen right now.

745
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 3: This is the stairs in which you're basically tell me

746
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 3: I shouldaporate because this is just your household. Nor even

747
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 3: that young guy who I just I was telling you

748
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,399
Speaker 3: I broke down to him, Yeah, don't ever fucking ask

749
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:09,720
Speaker 3: me to pay for anything at dinner.

750
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 2: I had to ask him.

751
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 3: I was like, he had like a weird thing with

752
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 3: like his aunts and his mom. He felt like, I

753
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 3: guess they were like cheaters or using men.

754
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 2: And I was like, you think all women are going

755
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 2: to use you? You feel like it's weak. I noticed it,

756
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:26,879
Speaker 2: and I targeted that shit and he was like, yeah,

757
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 2: kind of.

758
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 3: And I'm like I didn't even realize even with those

759
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:33,279
Speaker 3: two conversations, how much like how we're brought up and

760
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 3: conditioned really plays a part on how like the relationship

761
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,759
Speaker 3: you have with women and women with money and all

762
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 3: those things.

763
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 2: If you don't have an example, you don't know, right,

764
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 2: you just have to teach people how to treat you.

765
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 2: And it may not be you guys may not speak

766
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 2: the same language. And it's fine. You guys are not

767
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 2: meant to be because why keep on having this struggle?

768
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 2: And it's not about money, you know, Like, it's not

769
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 2: about you have to give me money. It's about even

770
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 2: like the offering or what he the things that he

771
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 2: wants to do. Let's say you want to go on vacation.

772
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 2: He doesn't want to go on vacation. He doesn't like

773
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:10,920
Speaker 2: to travel. So now you're always going by yourself where

774
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 2: you're going with your friends or whatever. But wouldn't you

775
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 2: love if you found somebody who you could go on

776
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:18,760
Speaker 2: vacation with, Like that was more into what you were into.

777
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 2: You know, a guy who you know likes to go

778
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 2: to fancy restaurants or like whatever it is. It doesn't

779
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 2: even have to be that. It could be maybe you

780
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 2: guys like to stay in the house and don't go anywhere,

781
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 2: you know, or watch Netflix. But you know, you just

782
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 2: got to make sure that whoever you're dealing with, you're

783
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 2: willing to compromise. But if you're unhappy with this compromise,

784
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 2: then this is just not the person for you. Like,

785
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:47,399
Speaker 2: I think we force a lot, like we'd like one

786
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 2: thing or two things, but then as time goes on,

787
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 2: we're just like, you know, we're mad at ourselves that

788
00:40:54,440 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 2: we keep on settling when in fact the answers or thing,

789
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:03,799
Speaker 2: but settling for things that we really don't like. And

790
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: we could have changed it around from the jump instead.

791
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:09,800
Speaker 3: Of developing feelings for someone who's really not on the

792
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 3: same page as you too.

793
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:15,200
Speaker 2: Can you go down the list, because I feel like

794
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,800
Speaker 2: there's women out here that like for me, Like listening

795
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 2: to your list of reasons why we're not attracting the

796
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 2: help or the generosity or even the man, the men

797
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 2: that we want as partners or sponsors. One of them,

798
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 2: I know, like I've touched on, is independent, too independent.

799
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 2: And then there's like I think there's a few more. Yeah,

800
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 2: so there's the woman who has a reputation I don't

801
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 2: I don't like that one that well, I mean, I

802
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 2: don't like that one that much as a woman because

803
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 2: I'm like, who hasn't you know, who hasn't fucked? Yeah,

804
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: I said that. I was like, oh, like our podcast. No,

805
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 2: well that is that does fall under the category.

806
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: And to be honest, in the last like two or

807
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 1: three weeks, I've been feeling super insecure about my podcast

808
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: and dating. I never even put two and two together

809
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:15,400
Speaker 1: of like how a man might perceive me based on

810
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: my conversations about sex because I don't consider myself to

811
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:22,800
Speaker 1: be a hoe. I consider myself to have sex equally

812
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 1: or maybe less than a man. I just talk about

813
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 1: the past, my present and what I want. But I

814
00:42:29,560 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 1: think for some men, like I was in New York

815
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:33,319
Speaker 1: and I was telling her I went on this date

816
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 1: with this guy that I've known for a long time

817
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: and he knows about my podcast. And he said he

818
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 1: was joking, but he wasn't joking, and he irritated the

819
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: fuck out of me. And he said, you're fast. I said, wait,

820
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:50,799
Speaker 1: who says fast? And he said, well, I'm fast too,

821
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 1: but I don't talk about it.

822
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 3: What was the conversation that led to your fast?

823
00:42:57,880 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 2: I can't remember. I mean he was trying to get

824
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 2: in my pants anyway. I was like, and I said,

825
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:02,919
Speaker 2: that's the way, and that's what I said.

826
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 1: I said, you're actually like one of those kids in

827
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 1: the school or that pushes me and things because you

828
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: diss me, I'm a fuck you And I was like,

829
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 1: absolutely not.

830
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:10,759
Speaker 2: And I was like, you've offended me. You basically called

831
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 2: me a home and a nice and then related to

832
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 2: your trying to make it seem like, well so am

833
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 2: I And I'm like, why would you even say that?

834
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 2: And then he said, well, you talk about sex on

835
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: your podcast. You know. I'm sure women listen to your

836
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 2: podcast and are like, oh my god, I can't believe

837
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 2: she said that, but like still listen because you know

838
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 2: they're entice, but maybe they're not living the same life

839
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 2: as you. And I'm like, what kind of life do

840
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: you think I'm living? And right and what does any

841
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 2: of this mean?

842
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: But him saying that made me think like, wow, like

843
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 1: I have I've been seeing over two and a half years.

844
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 1: Most of that time, I was definitely not looking for

845
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 1: no partnership. I was looking for just a good time

846
00:43:41,239 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 1: and maybe like some sort of like you know, connection.

847
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 1: Now I'm in the place now where I'm open to

848
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 1: it and I feel like the men that I'm encountering

849
00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 1: are not like consistent, And I'm like, is it because

850
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 1: they they have some sort of like baseline of like

851
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: who I am and what I do, and I think

852
00:43:57,880 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 1: like I have a reputation.

853
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I know firsthand all about that. That has

854
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:08,800
Speaker 2: been the plague to my day life.

855
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

856
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 2: For I am so mild now from what I used

857
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,320
Speaker 2: to be. I got my popularity on Twitter. My Twitter

858
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:21,360
Speaker 2: was off the chain, like literally, that's how I got

859
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:25,280
Speaker 2: my popularity, talking about sex, talking about dating, talking about

860
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 2: sugar daddy's, talking about getting money out of a guy.

861
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 2: Like that's literally where my popularity stems from. It grew,

862
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 2: and that's how I got so many women to contact

863
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:41,400
Speaker 2: me saying, Cuddie, how did I get money out of guy? Cuddy?

864
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 2: Oh my god, how do you get How did you

865
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 2: get a sugar daddy? Cuttie? Cuddy? How did you do that?

866
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:46,319
Speaker 2: And Cuddy, how did you do that? You know, like

867
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 2: all of these people started coming to me because I

868
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:54,399
Speaker 2: was so vocal about what I was doing, and it

869
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 2: definitely ruined my entire dating life. It ruined I've been

870
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:03,759
Speaker 2: with so many different guys from different walks of life,

871
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 2: it's all the same. They cannot handle it, they judge you.

872
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 2: They have all these preconceived notions. They're you know, they're

873
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 2: insecure about it. They constantly bring it up when they

874
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:18,799
Speaker 2: feel like it. They're just their emotions are all over

875
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 2: the place about what they think, how they feel about it,

876
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 2: what they think about you. And it's like some people,

877
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:31,800
Speaker 2: even the ones who support it, still will throw it

878
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:34,759
Speaker 2: in your face at the right moment, you know. So,

879
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 2: but I just had to say to myself that I

880
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 2: this has more longevity whatever it is that I'm doing

881
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 2: than them, because at the end of the day, this

882
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 2: is like my passion, this is what I'm doing. If

883
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 2: you don't support it, then you just don't support it.

884
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,399
Speaker 2: But I don't let people guild me about it. They

885
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:07,280
Speaker 2: definitely bring it up, you know. I tell my dude

886
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,240
Speaker 2: all the time, I'm like, if I'm talking about sucking

887
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 2: dick right now, it doesn't mean I did it five

888
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:19,800
Speaker 2: minutes ago, before previous. But and then he's like, sometimes

889
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 2: he's like, sometimes the argument used to be thinking that

890
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:26,240
Speaker 2: I'm actively doing it now, and then sometimes the argument

891
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 2: is that I'm actually talking about it. Period. It's always

892
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 2: I don't want.

893
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,439
Speaker 3: It's always about what other people because they obviously with you,

894
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 3: but then you're also you're also saying all these things

895
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:43,320
Speaker 3: about me. You actually don't like an appecihape. But it's honestly,

896
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:44,240
Speaker 3: it's just because you can't.

897
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 2: Exactly exactly just it is what it is, right, So

898
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: that's the reputation. And when I had the events, it

899
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 2: was like, you counteract the reputation part? Can you counteract

900
00:46:56,480 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 2: the real recognizes this reason what I'm talking about if

901
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,359
Speaker 2: your purpose is to okay, But the thing about that,

902
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 2: though I have, I might have to disagree with the

903
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:06,960
Speaker 2: reputation thing because I'll.

904
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 1: See a lot of these holes jumping from nigga to

905
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 1: nigga that nigga, the last nigga knew what the fuck

906
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:12,879
Speaker 1: she did and the other nigga know what she did.

907
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 1: Reputation is working for her, then, yes, her reputation of

908
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 1: tricking and being and doing whatever she.

909
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:23,880
Speaker 2: Does working for her. You may have a reputation of

910
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 2: being a gold digger. That's fine, Like your reputation is

911
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 2: still uh setting the tone for you and this guy

912
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 2: you know, like he may feel like, oh, I know

913
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to spend five thousand on her to fuck,

914
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:44,960
Speaker 2: but I'm not gonna make her my girl, you know

915
00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 2: what I mean. And she may not care.

916
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 3: She may just making them their girl, though they do

917
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 3: be making them their girls.

918
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:58,320
Speaker 2: May be on Instagram posting them hands, it's true, talking

919
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 2: them down, it's true. But the quality of the relationship,

920
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 2: like you even make.

921
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,319
Speaker 1: Somebody you know, he doesn't fully respect her, right, Like

922
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 1: I know outland he wouldn't do to I know tons of.

923
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 2: Rappers, athletes, millionaires, you know, just rich guys who they

924
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 2: will make somebody their girl, whether whatever her reputation is,

925
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 2: and I know so many other people they're fucking you know, like,

926
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 2: does this woman really want him to be doing that

927
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 2: with all these other people? She's not getting respected right truly,

928
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 2: you know, like she's getting stuff, but it's still gonna right,

929
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 2: it's still gonna hurt her feelings, it's still gonna make

930
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:43,279
Speaker 2: her feel bad unless she's like the probability of her

931
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 2: truly and genuinely not caring at all is like super low.

932
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:48,799
Speaker 3: Right.

933
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 2: Even the people would be like I don't care, I know,

934
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:55,040
Speaker 2: be fucking whatever deeps outside, they've just turned numb to it.

935
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 2: At some point they cared, at some point it hurt them.

936
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 2: At some point they're like, wow, you know, but the

937
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 2: reputation thing, it could work both ways. It can make

938
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 2: you not get things, or it could work in your favor.

939
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:12,479
Speaker 2: Like like I said, you have a reputation for being

940
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 2: a stripper, a gold digger, a porn star, uh, independent woman,

941
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:21,280
Speaker 2: somebody who talks about sex online, you know, like whatever

942
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 2: the reputation is. And then like like I said, I'm

943
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 2: just trying to start the series where I round up

944
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,960
Speaker 2: like guys and girls have told about relationships and dating

945
00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 2: and what their you know, thoughts are about it. And

946
00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 2: like the guys, the last one that I just posted

947
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: this rain is this gonna be okay you guys, it's raining,

948
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 2: I interrupt you, but I'm like it's getting louder, and

949
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:46,959
Speaker 2: like it's like the only it never rains this hard.

950
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 2: This is like a storm. And this is like aromatherapy. Yeah,

951
00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 2: you know what we're smoking weed talking about. This is

952
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 2: we're talking about how to manifested the man we want. Yes,

953
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 2: So I think that the reputation. Oh yeah. So the

954
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:10,319
Speaker 2: guys were like, I said, have you ever not dealt

955
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 2: with a woman based on her reputation? He was like,

956
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 2: and you know most of them were like yeah, like

957
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 2: whatever it is, and you know, they all had different

958
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 2: Was it all related to sex or no? Yeah? You know,

959
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:30,799
Speaker 2: like one guy said that he didn't do things for

960
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:33,520
Speaker 2: girls because he felt like she was just gonna have

961
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 2: a guy do it tomorrow, you know, have another guy

962
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 2: do it. Yeah, well he didn't feel like he just

963
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:41,720
Speaker 2: didn't want to be one of the people on her roster,

964
00:50:42,200 --> 00:50:48,680
Speaker 2: you know. And yeah, I guess he just so then

965
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:51,640
Speaker 2: he would you would see it like this. And then

966
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 2: you have the mede or greedy one that's the one

967
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,720
Speaker 2: who like has no game. She's like begging for small

968
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,840
Speaker 2: change all the time. Makes it seem like she just

969
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:03,799
Speaker 2: doesn't have what do you mean by game? Like what

970
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:07,880
Speaker 2: is what's a finesse? But when I say game, I

971
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 2: mean like just the confidence to speak up, okay, you know,

972
00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 2: because I don't. There's even some women who think that

973
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 2: they're doing it right and they're really not. That's why

974
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 2: I love the audience. That's why I love the audible.

975
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 2: So like, you gotta hear the tone of something right, Yeah,

976
00:51:26,200 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 2: I'm getting like, can't I do that? Yeah? I have

977
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:30,880
Speaker 2: no problem speaking up. Probably need to shut the fuck up.

978
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:34,320
Speaker 2: So let me tell you what always like you're crazy?

979
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. I don't care, you won't know.

980
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:44,560
Speaker 2: There's there's this one version of how women try to

981
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 2: get their point across that I hate the most, and

982
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 2: a lot of what is it if a guy asks you?

983
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 2: I mean, if you ask the guy for something and

984
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:57,320
Speaker 2: he like is negotiating on a rebutter, you know, rebutting

985
00:51:57,400 --> 00:52:00,560
Speaker 2: like why you know, like why to do that? Or

986
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 2: I gotta pay for that, or you know, like whatever

987
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 2: a girl's like because I'm giving you pussy. No no,

988
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:12,839
Speaker 2: But every time it's like there's not a day that

989
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 2: goes by that somebody doesn't think that they're saying the

990
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:18,839
Speaker 2: right thing, like well, I'm giving you pussy, like oh,

991
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:21,239
Speaker 2: is your mom gonna fuck you? Or is this or

992
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 2: you know, I'm sucking your deck or you know, like

993
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 2: you should do this because and they present the sex.

994
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 1: I would never say that out loud, and I think

995
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:35,080
Speaker 1: that that's like weak because it's like you're putting a

996
00:52:35,200 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 1: value on your pussy.

997
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 2: But also in my head though I thought it. I

998
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:45,959
Speaker 2: definitely thought it in my head. But that's why I said,

999
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 2: that's why it folds under the category of not having

1000
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 2: no game, because we're all thinking it, but you don't

1001
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:58,279
Speaker 2: say it like I masculated way I want to talk

1002
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:01,880
Speaker 2: about my pussy. I be like orbitch, like you're supposed

1003
00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:04,799
Speaker 2: to be the man, right right right, asking And if

1004
00:53:04,800 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 2: I didn't need I would ask you yea and so.

1005
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 2: And then the last one is have sex sou fast?

1006
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:15,719
Speaker 2: And then number one question is what's fast?

1007
00:53:15,800 --> 00:53:19,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need to take Okay, what is too I have?

1008
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 1: So I have some friends that are so good and

1009
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:25,840
Speaker 1: not having sex, So what is too fast? Well, you

1010
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 1: guys are gonna have to tune in next week for

1011
00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:31,400
Speaker 1: part two of this episode to find out. And if

1012
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1013
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1014
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1015
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1016
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 1: here with a little clip from one of our recent

1017
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Speaker 1: bad choices. I hope you guys enjoy this clip and

1025
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Speaker 1: have a wonderful week. Okay, it's by anonymous, and here

1026
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Speaker 1: we go.

1027
00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, all right.

1028
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 1: I recently found out in high school my boyfriend would

1029
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 1: meet up with a gay friend of mine in the

1030
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: bathroom and would get a blowjob from him. There was

1031
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 1: rumors that they made a sex tape, and when I

1032
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:33,240
Speaker 1: started dating him, I asked him if it was true,

1033
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,360
Speaker 1: and he denied it, but my friends told me that

1034
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 1: it that it was and to tell him I saw

1035
00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 1: the video. I later told him, don't lie. I saw

1036
00:54:40,600 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: the sex tape and I knew it was him. He

1037
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: admitted to it and told me he didn't like it

1038
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: and would never do it again, so I believed him.

1039
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 1: Later on, it came out it happened multiple times, and

1040
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 1: I asked him again about it, and he said the

1041
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 1: same thing, that he didn't like it and it was

1042
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:56,240
Speaker 1: in his stake and so forth. I was clearly bothered

1043
00:54:56,239 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 1: by it, and it took me time not to think

1044
00:54:57,719 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 1: about this. Flash forward too years of dating and we

1045
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: are now in college and a friend of ours both

1046
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:06,400
Speaker 1: told me my boyfriend made a secret snapchat to contact

1047
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:09,319
Speaker 1: the gay man and show to contact gay men, and

1048
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,759
Speaker 1: showed me there was a video on the site of

1049
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:14,520
Speaker 1: the gay of this gay man giving a blowjob to

1050
00:55:14,560 --> 00:55:16,799
Speaker 1: an unknown guy which kind of looked like his dick

1051
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 1: and was also in a bathroom.

1052
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 2: But I couldn't tell.

1053
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't get it out of my head, and of

1054
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:24,240
Speaker 1: course asked him, and he denied it, but he seemed

1055
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 1: very denied this and seemed very convincing.

1056
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 2: What do I do? Is my boyfriend gay?

1057
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:33,440
Speaker 1: The gay man he got blowjobs from is very feminine?

1058
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 2: Does that matter? Thank you? Okay, Well,