1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: You want to make sure everyone's happy, but then conversely 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: putting everyone else's happiness before yours, and then you get resentful, 3 00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:08,799 Speaker 1: and then it all comes out. 4 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 2: Calm Down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio, Whitny. 5 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 1: Oh Hi, I'm looking with us is coming out of 6 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: the pantry. This dog Loves Trees. Welcome everybody to the 7 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: Calm Down Podcast. It is already July, whatever day it is. 8 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: The fourth has passed and we are off and running. 9 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: I hope all of you guys are enjoying what semblance 10 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 1: of a summer vacation you have keeping the kids occupied. 11 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: I always feel for those parents and it's like, oh 12 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 1: my god, what are we going to do with these 13 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 1: kids every day? Yes, you do? 14 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:50,239 Speaker 2: You do with the camps? 15 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: The this the like Jarrett was ordering a sandbox last 16 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: night when I was facetiming you, Mac is busy, this guy. 17 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: We got a lot of things to discuss, but also 18 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: not a lot of things to discuss. We're kind of 19 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: Aaron and Ireland just like weird holding patent, Like we're 20 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: not back to work, but we already have to like 21 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: ramp down our summer plans because it's going to start up. 22 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: What's happening with all of you guys? For those of 23 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: you that listen to on the pregame, we love love 24 00:01:19,480 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: your guys's questions, comments and concerns, so we always will 25 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:27,400 Speaker 1: address those whenever we can, including anonymous follow ups that 26 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: have those reminded reminding you to submit them because we 27 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,320 Speaker 1: do love a follow up. And we've got some fun 28 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: headlines today, Aaron. 29 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 2: Yes, we want to discuss well being a people pleaser, right, 30 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 2: We've CHRISA and I have had a lot of conversations 31 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 2: this week about that, not this week, actually this month, 32 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 2: actually the last two months. 33 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: Well we're I'm vascinating because I'm going back and forth 34 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: with like I am such a people pleaser, but then 35 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: I also don't really care, Like I don't know which 36 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:02,360 Speaker 1: one I am. Like some days it's like I really 37 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: care and I want to make sure everyone's happy, and 38 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: then another day I'm like, fuck everyone, like I don't care, 39 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,680 Speaker 1: Like just live your life and why does everyone care 40 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: about what everyone else doing? And why do I care? 41 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 1: So it's mad at me. I don't know. I'm in 42 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: a weird thing. So we can dive into that. And 43 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: then also because we're just in our feelings apparently really 44 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: in our feelings, you have concerns about what people's honesty 45 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: or something. 46 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,080 Speaker 2: No, no, no, we were just talking about being people pleasers. 47 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 2: And then I feel like it was it like a 48 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 2: question in our pregame about people that are fake and 49 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 2: maybe too audiust and not having a filter. Yeah, so 50 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 2: we have a little bit of therapy to go through, 51 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 2: and we have some great headlines that lead to always 52 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 2: fantastic conversations. So let's let's just lay down on the 53 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 2: couch right now, all of us and talk about anyone. 54 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: Pick your feet up and relax. Hopefully you're in a hammock. 55 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: It's the summer. Oh. 56 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 2: I am a people pleaser and I have had multiple 57 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 2: conversations with my husband this past week. Tears have been involved, 58 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 2: also alcohol. So it's fine. I want to stop. I 59 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 2: want to stop caring. I really really do, because here's 60 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 2: the bottom line. You can't make people happy. But in 61 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 2: the moment when I'm trying to, I get out of 62 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 2: my mind. I'm like running around like I just I 63 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 2: want to make everyone happy and I am having a 64 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 2: hard time with it. But then I have the attitude 65 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 2: where it's like, can't do it. Sorry, it's the you know, 66 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 2: I have one month left in my life so before 67 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 2: you know, football starts. So yeah, that's kind of where 68 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:33,160 Speaker 2: I am. And I'm really really bad about not being 69 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 2: a people pleaser, So. 70 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: I wonder what that is because you and I both 71 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: struggle with this a little bit as we delve into 72 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: the topic. We naturally want to make sure that everyone 73 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: is happy. Right. For example, at Max's first birthday party, 74 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:54,119 Speaker 1: you spend the majority of the time it did have fun. Right, 75 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: You're making because you're being a good host, but you 76 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 1: more than that. The headline is you want to make 77 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: sure that everyone else has had in a great time. 78 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: So what does that do to you? It means that 79 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 1: you're not having a great time because you're spending all 80 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: your energy worried about everybody else. I think it's a 81 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: great quality that you care so much, but going to 82 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: share my life, and I would love any therapist or 83 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: licensed professional that knows how to handle this, even if 84 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,599 Speaker 1: you didn't go to school or have formal training on it, 85 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 1: some ways where you can balance this need that Aaron 86 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: and I both have. And I know a lot of 87 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 1: people probably feel this way. Whether it's in your job, 88 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 1: whether it's in your relationship, whether it's with as a 89 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 1: parent or or whatever, it is is that you want 90 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 1: to make sure everyone's happy, but then conversely putting everyone 91 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: else's happiness before yours, and then you get resentful and 92 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: then it all comes out Like sometimes I do that 93 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: in a relationship, right, Like not necessarily so much with STY, 94 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 1: but like this idea where it's like you get pushed 95 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 1: and you get pushed and you get pushed to a 96 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: certain limit and then you just lose your shit one 97 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: day and it's like, well what about me? And it's 98 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: like I don't know how to balance that. And then 99 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 1: I also so have a tendency to say I'm sorry. 100 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 1: Like I had a situation with a work deal today 101 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,919 Speaker 1: where there was some confusion about scheduling and this and 102 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: that or whatever, and I was frustrated because now it 103 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: puts me behind in a certain capacity and now I 104 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: got to like scramble and get ready. And then as 105 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: soon as I bitched about it, then I felt bad 106 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: for bitching and I was like, oh, I'm so sorry, 107 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: Like I didn't need to be sorry, like it was 108 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: these were reasonable frustrations. So it's like, what is that 109 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: in us? And I know sometimes oh, we're women. I 110 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: don't buy that, because I think men can do this too. 111 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: How do we balance being people pleasers but then also 112 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: taking care of ourselves. I don't know what. 113 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 2: I don't know how to do it, and I wish. 114 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 2: Isn't there like a book called The Art of Not 115 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 2: Giving a Fuck? I think there I have. 116 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: I've read that, yeah, and I mean it's helped him. Right. Well. 117 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: The problem is, like you read it and you're like, 118 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: it all makes sense, especially and I don't know who 119 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: or I should know. It's probably around here somewhere. Actually, 120 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:05,040 Speaker 1: let me see it was right here, oh. 121 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 2: Chapter one somehow with a subtle, subtle art of not 122 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:10,839 Speaker 2: giving a fee. 123 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: Oh no, that book back there is attached different relationship styles. 124 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 1: Apparently I was reading that at one point. No, I uh, 125 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: I yes, the book is great, and especially the way 126 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: that it's written. It's so conversational and it makes sense 127 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: in the moment. I just I don't know how to 128 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 1: apply it. Yeah, So I would definitely love to learn 129 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 1: how to do that. And this idea of like standing 130 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 1: up for yourself and like this whole thing, but then 131 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: not coming across as being bitchy or being high maintenance 132 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 1: like that's when it is my fear, like at work 133 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: or anything like, I always want to be accommodating because naturally, 134 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: like I don't think I am a diva, Like if 135 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: the hair person or the make a person or whoever 136 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: Wardrop doesn't show up, Like I'm a forty two year 137 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: old woman, I can figure it out. I don't have 138 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 1: to like depend on everyone else for these things. No, 139 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: it's nice, and these are luxury things. But like you're 140 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: grown up. If something doesn't, you know, fall into place, 141 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: like how can you adjust? So yeah, I don't know. 142 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 1: I don't I don't try to get a therapist. Come 143 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 1: on and talk to us about it. Okay, let's look, 144 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: let's look into that. In the meantime, we do acknowledge 145 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: that this is something that we need to work on. 146 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 1: And also we're when you were talking about being like 147 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: people being honest a little too honest, I don't know. 148 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 1: Sometimes I like it. I mean I'm a little too 149 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 1: honest sometimes, but yeah, you feel so in. 150 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 2: A self deprecating way about yourself, not about like situations 151 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 2: or I mean I have friends, you know one very 152 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 2: well that is very honest. He'll be really honest right 153 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 2: up front, say how it is, and everybody's like, well like, 154 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 2: and I have a little anxiety around because I want 155 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 2: things to be perfect. But yeah, sometimes I'm very jealous 156 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 2: of those people that they can live that way, but 157 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 2: other times it's very hard to be around it. So yeah, 158 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 2: I think we got a question about just you know, 159 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 2: people that are fake or well, if you're honest or 160 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 2: not fake, but people that just put it out there 161 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 2: and say what they're going to say. I'm like, a 162 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 2: lot of times it's a little intimidated of that, but 163 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: that because I'm a people person, or just. 164 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: Say yeah, as as you're explaining that. I think it's 165 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: because we don't want to be so honest, because we 166 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: don't want to hurt people's feelings, right, right, interesting, all right, 167 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 1: I get a lot to work on these months, you know, Yeah, 168 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: you got to figure it all out this month. I 169 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: don't know if I'm going to figure it all out 170 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:47,600 Speaker 1: this month. But I do love the idea of constantly 171 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: not constantly let me rephrase that, I love becoming a 172 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:59,440 Speaker 1: better version of myself. Whether that's being conscious about deficiencies 173 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: that I have are things that I want to be 174 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 1: better at, whether that's in a friendship, whether that's in 175 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:07,679 Speaker 1: a relationship. I have a tendency too. I did it today. 176 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,680 Speaker 1: I was getting a facial and it was so lovely 177 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: and sweet Donna who gives me my facials, and it 178 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:14,839 Speaker 1: was just so relaxing, and she started to tell me 179 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:16,839 Speaker 1: a story about something that was going on in her life, 180 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: and I hijacked the conversation and then flipped it and 181 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 1: made it all about like my life and what had 182 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: happened to me in that same situation. So it was 183 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 1: like I I asked the words. I was like, I'm 184 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: so sorry, Like I just made this all about me 185 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: and we're talking about you. So I'm trying to be 186 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: more self aware of instead of being like, oh well 187 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: when this happened to me, Da da da dah, it's like, 188 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: do a better job, God bless you. Aaron just needed 189 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: her thing because she's me. It's a sweet girl doing 190 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: a better job of asking that person follow up questions 191 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: about what they're talking about, not trying to be like, 192 00:09:55,000 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: oh well when that happened to me, I blah blah blat. 193 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 1: It's because now I'm turning it those kinds of things. 194 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to be more aware of. 195 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that's smart. I feel like I do that too. 196 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 2: When people bring things up, I'm like, well, when I 197 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 2: dealt with something like this, and then I do the 198 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 2: same thing, and so then now I'm worried about not 199 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 2: pleasing those people. So it's all like a. 200 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 1: Big how's your guys' day going good? 201 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 2: Oh my god? Did we lose everybody? Are they here? 202 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 2: Let's talk about these headlines because they're great. 203 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:27,960 Speaker 1: You also know a good time. You also know it's 204 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 1: the time in our life when we're just in this 205 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:33,079 Speaker 1: like weird spot where we're like, what's wrong with us? 206 00:10:33,240 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: How can we be better? As opposed? We went to London, 207 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 1: we had great time, We're on vacation and I'm in love. 208 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 2: I'm in love. 209 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm in love. Here we go. 210 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 2: Great headlines, all right, Drinking just one alcoholic beverage per 211 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 2: day shortens your life stand by this insane amount. Well, 212 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 2: this is uplifting. Consuming just one alcoholic beverage per day, 213 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 2: whether it be a pint of beer, glass of wine, 214 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,880 Speaker 2: or a shot of your favorite spirit, can shorten your 215 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 2: life span by approximately two and a half months. So 216 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 2: I will be dead by the time Mac goes to 217 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 2: high school. That is so sad. 218 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 1: Well, here's the thing. Here's my feeling about all this. 219 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: I don't know. There's studies and there's another study that says, 220 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: like a glass of wine and this doesn't take it. 221 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to take anything away from doctor Stockwell, here, 222 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 1: you obviously have some research to support this. 223 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 2: Right, I you sound so uplifting. 224 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just think that it's one of those deals 225 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 1: that the next study could say, like a glass of 226 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 1: wine helps you every single day, right, like the European 227 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: way of life where it's like, oh, have a glass 228 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: of wine in the siesta in the middle of the day. Okay, fine, 229 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:52,680 Speaker 1: I think you got to do what's best for you. Now. Look, 230 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 1: excessive amounts of anything is not good, right. I don't 231 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 1: care if it's alcohol. I don't care if it's working out, 232 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 1: I don't care. I mean, anything in excess is a problem. 233 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna worry too much about this. I 234 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:08,960 Speaker 1: do believe though, in taking bricks, like I'm not drinking 235 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:11,719 Speaker 1: this week. Like that's like I just came off of 236 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: like a really fun time at the ranch. Like, you know, 237 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: I gave myself permission to, like, if I wanted to 238 00:12:17,080 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: have a drink at noon, have a drink at noon 239 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: or nine am, but like I don't. 240 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're dealing with big animals and machinery. Why not 241 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:25,960 Speaker 2: drink it now? You know what I mean? 242 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 1: When I'm operating that John Deer track, or you just 243 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: go ahead and throw back that yellow belly. You know 244 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: what I mean? Girl curls original correct, I just but 245 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: I do. You've got to like take a break today 246 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:40,439 Speaker 1: this week I'm having like and I'm excited about it. 247 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:42,680 Speaker 1: Like boy, this morning, you go in the cold tub, 248 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: you get the green juice like reset, recharge, and then 249 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 1: do what's best for you. But thank you for your thoughts. 250 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 2: Doctor love it. 251 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 1: I charge other moms for play dates with my daughter. 252 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 1: Trolls say it's tacky, but it's only fair. From TikTok, 253 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 1: my mother posted a video saying can we normalize ending 254 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: the other family money for play dates? My daughter had 255 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:05,839 Speaker 1: a friend over and asked her asked her mom for money. 256 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:07,440 Speaker 1: After the play date, I text her mom and said, 257 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:10,719 Speaker 1: thanks for letting Jamie play today because I don't know 258 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 1: people will have haout this share with the Venmo totally 259 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: fifteen dollars via Venmo. I also sidebar, we have to 260 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 1: stop making Venmo reasons public. Like today I saw on 261 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:24,920 Speaker 1: Venmo because I venmoed my sweet nail lady. One of 262 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: the things that people put on the reasons for venmoing 263 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 1: on here are absolutely insane. One of them I'm not 264 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 1: even kidding. Oh it says I always do a heart 265 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:38,320 Speaker 1: so people don't know what I'm doing. I thought, but 266 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 1: I think no, It's like, but why is this public? 267 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: Why are the reasons that you're paying someone public? It's bizarre, 268 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 1: hard work. I mean, I was public, you guys, we've 269 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:59,560 Speaker 1: got to normalize not being public. Kristen's car wash and 270 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,680 Speaker 1: then these dollar not You're like, wait, we are venmoing 271 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:06,079 Speaker 1: someone five dollars? Like anyways, going back to the initial conversation, 272 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 1: are you a Venmo judger? You're a Venmo judger one 273 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,200 Speaker 1: hundred percent. I'm a Venmo judger. 274 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 2: You're a people pleaser and a Venmo judger. How do 275 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 2: you live with yourself? 276 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:17,199 Speaker 1: By the way, because I am a people pleaser, I 277 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 1: would never in a million years be this woman who 278 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: asked for money for the play date. I wouldn't do 279 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,120 Speaker 1: you get a random request from people? I do one 280 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 1: hundred percent. Going through lifetime, you insane. I would love 281 00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 1: to help you, but this is not the way to 282 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: do it. Okay, I can no rand fifty dollars. No, 283 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:41,040 Speaker 1: I think it's I think. And everyone's in a different 284 00:14:41,600 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: situation economically, okay. And if you're under a hard financial 285 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 1: you know, time in your life, then maybe we have 286 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:50,120 Speaker 1: to say to your daughter, we're not going over to 287 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: play because we don't have the money to do that. 288 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,640 Speaker 1: I'll play with you outside or something. We can't be 289 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 1: asking people for money. Did you see what this is? 290 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:59,840 Speaker 1: A dollar for chalk applesaft a dollar frouit, a dollar 291 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: sat on the couch, wear and tear? A dollar? 292 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 2: Are we what? 293 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: Do we not have any shame in requesting? Can you imagine? 294 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: Is this someone for a dollar for wear and tear? 295 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 2: Yeah? That I'm about to like enter. Is this the world? 296 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 2: I find that incredible? Hey, I have something with children 297 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 2: that I'd like to ask people, And I won't charge 298 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:26,080 Speaker 2: you for your submissions, but I would love to know 299 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 2: if there are any good books out there about not 300 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 2: disciplining a child. I'm not looking for that, but just 301 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 2: like insight of dealing, I have a one year old. 302 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 2: There's a whole world out there of temper tantrums. You know, 303 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 2: here's a situation I had. We go to a fun 304 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 2: gym class and in the beginning is story time and 305 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:48,359 Speaker 2: Kitty Kat did not want to sit there for storytime. 306 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 2: He has just started walking, and my man wants to 307 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 2: go to the balance beam and try to figure out 308 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 2: how to hit his head. I mean, that is what 309 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 2: we are looking forward to. You got an electrical socket, 310 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 2: We're going to find it. But I kept picking him 311 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 2: up because we were the only ones not participating in storytime. 312 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 2: I kept picking him up and putting him down, and 313 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 2: We're screaming and we're whining, and I'm like, okay, what 314 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:14,520 Speaker 2: I what's the guideline for this? What am I doing? 315 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 2: This is one? Am I making him sit there? Am 316 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 2: I standing up holding him so we're still there? Or 317 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 2: do I just say, you know what, we want to 318 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 2: go play with the electrical outlets. Also, we're not playing 319 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 2: with the electrical outlets. I'm making a joke, but that's 320 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 2: what my man does. When you know he finds it. 321 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:30,640 Speaker 2: You need to know where to plug in your phone. 322 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:33,160 Speaker 2: My man, I'll find it. So yeah, I'm kind of 323 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 2: curious if anyone has a good book about like what 324 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 2: a guide or advice or because I can google or 325 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 2: look on TikTok, but that already screwed up my skin 326 00:16:42,800 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 2: with Chinese or excuse me, Korean skincare. So you know. 327 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 1: I got an idea. Why don't you read him the 328 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 1: subtle art of not giving a fuck? Okay, that's great. 329 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:58,880 Speaker 2: But look at what I was doing. I'm worried about 330 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 2: the story time. I'm worried about the people there. I'm 331 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:04,760 Speaker 2: the kid. Everybody knows. You know. It's like, well, I'll. 332 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: Tell you what. Who's not worried about anything? This mom 333 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:10,359 Speaker 1: that's asking for a dollar for shop? No, no, no, I'm sorry. 334 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:11,639 Speaker 2: No, I know I get in. 335 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: If your kid goes, if this kid's going on vacation 336 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 1: with another family, absolutely you give the kid a couple 337 00:17:17,080 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 1: hundred dollars. You don't need the family paying for every meal. 338 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: Like I get that. But then I'm also, again, who 339 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 1: am I? But I'm like, we're going to swap the 340 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 1: kids at one point. Your kid's gonna come over here 341 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:30,680 Speaker 1: and it's all going to balance out, so we can't 342 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: be charging. I'm sorry. Send me your Venmo and I'll 343 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 1: give you the fifteen dollars that you need for this 344 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 1: play day. I'm sorry. I can't handle that. I'll tell 345 00:17:38,960 --> 00:17:41,480 Speaker 1: you what I can handle. Can we give a round 346 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:45,400 Speaker 1: in the class for Greg Olsen? I'll Greg Olsen man 347 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 1: Wedding Guest of this Century Wedding guest. A photo of 348 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 1: Greg Olsen having an absolute blast at Christian McCaffrey's wedding. 349 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:57,240 Speaker 1: This guy he just anybody to the Travis Kelsey Taylor 350 00:17:57,240 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: Swift wedding. 351 00:17:57,920 --> 00:17:58,399 Speaker 2: I know it. 352 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,239 Speaker 1: I mean, I'll work is a parking lot attendant at 353 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 1: that wedding too. Greg is sweating through the shirt, disheveled 354 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: beyond repair, and he looks like he's having the time 355 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:12,680 Speaker 1: of his life. And that's how I want any guest 356 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 1: at the wedding. I'm not going to have to look 357 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:17,480 Speaker 1: like that, because that means we're having a great goddamn time. 358 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,120 Speaker 2: I If you know Greg, you know it doesn't take 359 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 2: much for him to be sweating through his shirt. I've 360 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 2: actually stood on top of the roof of the football 361 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:31,120 Speaker 2: stadium there in Arizona as we were doing Super Bowl 362 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:35,119 Speaker 2: promos YEP State Farm, and he just crushed his shirt, 363 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 2: his dress shirts. I took video of it. It was 364 00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:40,119 Speaker 2: a whole wow. It looked like we were doing an 365 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 2: underwater shoot. But I had to text him right away 366 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 2: when I saw it. He said he had an absolute blast. 367 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 2: He said it was just simply a time. And you're right. 368 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,520 Speaker 2: I mean, Greg Olsen, you're invited. I would invite him 369 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:57,480 Speaker 2: to any wedding ever. He is just first of all, 370 00:18:57,560 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 2: he's great at a Friday night dinner, Saturday night dinner. 371 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:05,720 Speaker 2: But my man, he crushed on those those pictures. You 372 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:08,720 Speaker 2: know what, Yeah, I'm gonna say something, do it. I 373 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:11,679 Speaker 2: know we gave a little shout out to Olivia and 374 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 2: the way she looked. I don't know if you saw 375 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:18,360 Speaker 2: any of the crap people gave her about the dress 376 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:21,920 Speaker 2: and her Vogue shoot and what they were saying. I 377 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:24,679 Speaker 2: texted her, I DMed her, and I said, you know what, 378 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 2: I hope you still have that fabulous glow after your wedding. 379 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:31,920 Speaker 2: Your husband's fantastic. You guys look like you had a time. 380 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:35,199 Speaker 2: By the way, are there any flowers left in the 381 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 2: state of Rhode Island? Because those were gorgeous? But like, 382 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:41,639 Speaker 2: you know what, like how sad is your life if 383 00:19:41,680 --> 00:19:44,800 Speaker 2: you have to rain on this woman's parade or wedding day. 384 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 2: It's just, by the way, raining on wedding day is 385 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 2: good luck, but you're just people are so mean. 386 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:53,320 Speaker 1: This always comes back to one thing for me is 387 00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 1: that whether it's ar Taylor Swift conversation or it's Olivia 388 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:01,600 Speaker 1: looking incredible at her wedding incrediblebody wants to find a 389 00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:04,119 Speaker 1: lot of people. I won't say it's some people there 390 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:07,920 Speaker 1: because there's a large contingent of people that are not happy. 391 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:12,240 Speaker 1: Unless they're unhappy, they have to bitch about something and 392 00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: it's like, why can I could go rescue four hundred 393 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 1: animals at a shelter and someone's going to say to me, well, 394 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:23,880 Speaker 1: why didn't you rescue five hundred? It's like, why can 395 00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: somebody not just enjoying their life? Or her looking beautiful 396 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,359 Speaker 1: on her wedding day and then having comments about what 397 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:33,040 Speaker 1: she wore the reception. Okay, she had a long sleeve, 398 00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,159 Speaker 1: who was every inch of her was covered up in 399 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: her wedding dress. So the perception if who wants to 400 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:40,840 Speaker 1: change into something that's like she looks incredible and as well, 401 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. It's I'm so bored with this 402 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,640 Speaker 1: idea that everyone's got to find something negative in everything. 403 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:51,119 Speaker 1: We talk about being people pleasers. This is why I 404 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: want to go the other way with it and not 405 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: try to please anyone, because you're never going to be 406 00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:59,240 Speaker 1: able to make everyone happy. I don't care if you're 407 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: doing the most iritable thing on the planet or if 408 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:04,919 Speaker 1: you're just trying to get married someone. In this world 409 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: that we live in, in all these platforms that they 410 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:10,480 Speaker 1: get a voice behind their stupid little screen to write 411 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:13,239 Speaker 1: and say whatever they want. I hit golf balls on 412 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 1: the on my own property, golf balls that are biodegradable, 413 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,960 Speaker 1: and some woman must be like, that's not good for 414 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:24,879 Speaker 1: the environment. I'm like Jesus Christ, like, okay, you know 415 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:28,199 Speaker 1: what what can I do? If I do anything? I 416 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,199 Speaker 1: had to kill a rattlesnake because the rattlesnakes are going 417 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:31,920 Speaker 1: to kill the dogs. Then we got the activists being like, 418 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:36,199 Speaker 1: don't kill rattlesnakes. It's like, why does everyone have to 419 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,879 Speaker 1: find something negative with anything you do in life? Shut 420 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 1: shut up. 421 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,920 Speaker 2: It's just it's beyond me. I don't under it was 422 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 2: that we thought we thought we had nothing to talk 423 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 2: about today. 424 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,719 Speaker 1: Well, we're never going to be silent. That's the problem. 425 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,400 Speaker 1: But for those of us, those be wonderful people that 426 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,440 Speaker 1: support the Calm Down Podcast, I know you guys are 427 00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:01,160 Speaker 1: with me that it's like just men people. Is it's 428 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 1: her weddings beautiful? She could show up wearing nothing if 429 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: she wants to her reading's bag Jesus grace. All right, 430 00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:13,199 Speaker 1: I actually likely that clap back at someone. Did you 431 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: see that? I guess I didn't see it, but I 432 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,199 Speaker 1: read a headline that and who knows if it was 433 00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:20,880 Speaker 1: even accurate that he like said something to the woman 434 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:22,959 Speaker 1: that was talking about her dress. Again, don't know if 435 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,119 Speaker 1: it's accurate. If it's not, we can edit this out. 436 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: But he's adorable and so sweet and I love him 437 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 1: sticking up for her. And it's just sad you have 438 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 1: to even give those people any attention. 439 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 2: But I well, that's the fine that's the fine line 440 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 2: too when you talk about giving people those attentions because 441 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:42,040 Speaker 2: I'm not someone in our world that we live in. 442 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,879 Speaker 1: Lord knows what people have said about me. I'm not 443 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,439 Speaker 1: and I learned very early, like on Twitter, not to 444 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,639 Speaker 1: write back. There's some other people that have been in 445 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 1: this industry that I would see them like whatever the 446 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: term is, clap back at people, and I'm like, it's 447 00:22:57,080 --> 00:23:00,400 Speaker 1: just giving. It's feeding that person like they want they want. 448 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: It's like they're almost baiting you to like write back, 449 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 1: and now they are validated because now they know that 450 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 1: they've upset you. So you're writing back, and it's like 451 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 1: a whole thing. Like I really don't go down that 452 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 1: rabbit hole, because Jesus Christ, I wouldn't leave my house. 453 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: But I think that there's a time and a place 454 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,640 Speaker 1: sometimes where you can stand up for yourself. I know, 455 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 1: like Chloe Kardashian's done it when people have said not 456 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:24,040 Speaker 1: just Chloe Kardashian, but I'm saying, there are certain people 457 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 1: where it's like gets to a point where you're allowed 458 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 1: to defend yourself and be like hey back. So I 459 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:32,919 Speaker 1: don't know, it's just tricky. 460 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 2: McCaffrey took a stance It's oh from his verified ig 461 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,720 Speaker 2: he responded to a video criticizing her dress. McCaffrey took 462 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:44,159 Speaker 2: a dance in the comments section, writing what an evil 463 00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 2: thing to post online. I hope you can find joy 464 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,160 Speaker 2: and peace in the world the way my beautiful wife does. 465 00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:51,480 Speaker 2: That'd be Cristie McCaffrey. 466 00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:52,879 Speaker 1: And it's very sweet. 467 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 2: And he doesn't like he's a quiet guy, like he 468 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 2: doesn't get. 469 00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 1: Involved in that. 470 00:23:56,640 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 2: That's where I was like, okay, CMC, go, may I. 471 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:13,600 Speaker 1: May last headline that we got for y'all this is wait, 472 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:16,679 Speaker 1: can I give a funny comment right now? My man 473 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:20,600 Speaker 1: is one of my favorite lines from David Ortiz, who 474 00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: says it a lot my man, and also my girl 475 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 1: Carissa Thompson, who one time I was on the phone 476 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,199 Speaker 1: with her and she was talking to somebody and she goes, 477 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,200 Speaker 1: you don't want to me my man. And so we've 478 00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:36,000 Speaker 1: gone on vacations, we've been around, and so I use 479 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:37,920 Speaker 1: it all of the time because if you know anything 480 00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:40,720 Speaker 1: about me, I love David Orties and I obviously love Carissa. 481 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 2: And well there's somebody we were sitting at lunch. Oh, 482 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:48,800 Speaker 2: we were sitting at lunch yesterday and we said something 483 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 2: about some guy and I go, my man, and our 484 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 2: danny goes, you have a lot of man, a lot 485 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 2: of men. And I was like no, because I said 486 00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:00,200 Speaker 2: I had to explain David Ortiz and Carissa. 487 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,360 Speaker 1: I'll tell you he did have a lot of men. 488 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 1: Me and my twenties. Apparently, if you listen to the pregame, 489 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 1: here we go. All right, don't make me have to 490 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:15,800 Speaker 1: defend another title. Enough already, please, ninety nine bottles of 491 00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:17,439 Speaker 1: beer on the wall. I'm sitting here saying that I 492 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:20,080 Speaker 1: should have been more promiscuous. I'll tell you who took 493 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 1: one down and passed it around. Greg Oldsen, Christian McCaffrey's party. 494 00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: I'm kidding. I love him. We can say that he 495 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:27,919 Speaker 1: would actually laugh at that joke and be like, you 496 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:32,280 Speaker 1: know what I mean, because he's mummy the ben He's mummy. 497 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:34,919 Speaker 2: Okay, we'll talk about. 498 00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: When Greg was on our podcast and he had that 499 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:42,679 Speaker 1: hat on because because because he was on vacation and 500 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: he had the vacation hat that like, the second he 501 00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,040 Speaker 1: goes to his vacation home, he puts on that hat, 502 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,639 Speaker 1: that's what we should have. I love traditions. So like, 503 00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:53,720 Speaker 1: by the way, doctor Tim Stockwell is not going to 504 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:55,639 Speaker 1: like this. The second we get to the ranch, Stephen, 505 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:57,120 Speaker 1: I drive to the saloon and we do a shot 506 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 1: of whiskey. I don't even like whiskey. But like, I 507 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:03,400 Speaker 1: love traditions and I love starting something where it's like, oh, 508 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,200 Speaker 1: this is what we do and it's the whole thing 509 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:08,159 Speaker 1: is so ingreat put on that hat. You look like 510 00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 1: the scarecrow with that hat on. I just love anything. 511 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,199 Speaker 1: I would just start doing more traditions. Let's have some 512 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:16,560 Speaker 1: like you and I need to like like on the page, 513 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like in life, like, oh, 514 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 1: I don't know. I just feel like. 515 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 2: A peanut butter and jelly sandwich before every game. Is 516 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:27,159 Speaker 2: that a tradition? Oh that's Oh I didn't know you 517 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,719 Speaker 2: have it before every game? Is that a superstition? I 518 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:33,040 Speaker 2: feel like it just gives me energy. I don't know. 519 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,879 Speaker 1: But let's say you let's say you forgot to have it. 520 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 1: Would you be like, oh shit, I didn't have that 521 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,440 Speaker 1: because you're hungry, or you're like superstitious? Are you superstitious? 522 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,399 Speaker 2: Yeah? I am you. I used to clear it. Yeah, 523 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,600 Speaker 2: I'm very superstitious. I know I would with a lot 524 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,800 Speaker 2: of things. Yeah. 525 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the only thing that like, I'm consistent about 526 00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: my superstition. Although I think I have a little OCD. 527 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:04,959 Speaker 1: I'm someone that you do. Oh wow, okay, doctor, doctor, 528 00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 1: don't mean don't mean the ACL surgery, the Tommy John. 529 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:16,400 Speaker 1: I I will leave the house. I will be halfway 530 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:18,919 Speaker 1: to the destination of where I'm going and be like, 531 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 1: oh shit, I don't know if I blew out the 532 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,280 Speaker 1: candle or I don't know if I locked the back door, 533 00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 1: I will drive back home and ensure that the candle's 534 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 1: out and the back door is locked. I have I 535 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,359 Speaker 1: will fixate on something, like I told you about the 536 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:36,240 Speaker 1: thing that I left at the ranch and I was like, 537 00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 1: oh my God, like like I will fixate on things, And. 538 00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:42,199 Speaker 2: I say, I have gotten to the point in my 539 00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:46,080 Speaker 2: life that yes, curling iron candle. Jarrett has told me 540 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,000 Speaker 2: numerous amounts of time, if you burn this house down, 541 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,159 Speaker 2: I'm going to be really pissed off. I have gotten 542 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,199 Speaker 2: to the point where like if I think, okay, so 543 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:59,120 Speaker 2: if in fact this curling iron is left on, how 544 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 2: much of the bathroom will ignite like and the granite 545 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:05,200 Speaker 2: and how much would that really. 546 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,800 Speaker 1: Be added with better grant in those bathrooms? 547 00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:10,119 Speaker 2: Well, I don't I don't know whatever we have, but 548 00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:13,360 Speaker 2: like Marble home right Marble, I don't know, so how 549 00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,960 Speaker 2: much will like okay, so will we lose our bedroom too? 550 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,400 Speaker 2: Like I'm thinking if nobody's guys, I'm not talking about 551 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,040 Speaker 2: the baby and the dog or in the house. I'm 552 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 2: just saying, okay, so if it does catch on fire, 553 00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,400 Speaker 2: so what is what? How much of the house will 554 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 2: we lose? And can I get it back? Like That's 555 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:31,000 Speaker 2: how fucked up I've gotten with that. I've had a 556 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 2: citronella candle on the other day and there was this 557 00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,080 Speaker 2: like succulent s plant right next to it, and in 558 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 2: my head this was outside. I was like, I wonder 559 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 2: if that succulently fell onto the candle and then would 560 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 2: it ignite and then on the table and tables would 561 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:45,480 Speaker 2: and then the whole goddamn ranch goes up. No, I 562 00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,320 Speaker 2: I think the same thing. And we have had we 563 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,160 Speaker 2: were we were we had Max party and I left 564 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,600 Speaker 2: the bathroom candle on and I know there was not 565 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 2: much left in it, Thank you, tom Ford, fucking fabulous, 566 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,120 Speaker 2: And I know there wasn't much left it. And I 567 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,320 Speaker 2: was in bed that night thinking to myself, Oh my god, 568 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:05,040 Speaker 2: is it still on? And if it is, will it 569 00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:07,160 Speaker 2: explode or will it Like? 570 00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a question Jade, who makes the wonderful candles? 571 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 1: And I know she can answer this question, so maybe 572 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: I could just text her, But we'll open this up 573 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:19,160 Speaker 1: to the conversation that is currently being had about candles. 574 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 1: If that thing goes, if it's all the way down, 575 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,920 Speaker 1: will it shatter the glass? Like That's what I think about. 576 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:29,479 Speaker 2: I've heard a story wasn't there some actress that a 577 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:33,680 Speaker 2: candle like she it exploded and like her house caught 578 00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:34,120 Speaker 2: on fire. 579 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,880 Speaker 1: I don't know, I know he's not happen. Oh, I'm 580 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: such a psychopath. Like I like to leave like an 581 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:44,160 Speaker 1: outside light on or whatever. Well, it's been very hot, 582 00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,360 Speaker 1: like in certain regions that I've been, and then I 583 00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: think to myself, will that light, will that light that 584 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,120 Speaker 1: they stayed on all that explode? Well, you're very much 585 00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,280 Speaker 1: that way with a dryer. You won't put a dryer on. 586 00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,520 Speaker 1: Absolutely not. You guys, do not leave your dryer on 587 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 1: when you leave the house. Not do it. Yeah, you're 588 00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 1: asking for trouble. I have so much anxiety right now. 589 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:11,160 Speaker 1: It is bana. This is crazy. Okay, Well you know 590 00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 1: I want to give you more anxiety with our last 591 00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: headline that's about religious God. 592 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 2: This is such an uplifting podcast. We go another Taylor 593 00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 2: Swift concert so we can fucking be like happy and 594 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 2: brace book on Jesus. 595 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:26,800 Speaker 1: Actually, you know what this goes to show is that 596 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:28,760 Speaker 1: we actually are really happy in our lives because we're 597 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: like looking for things to diagnose about ourselves as opposed 598 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 1: to them just being fucking glaring headlines. 599 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,920 Speaker 2: I've diagnosed a massive infection in my chin. Okay, go on, 600 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:39,760 Speaker 2: we need to we. 601 00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:41,720 Speaker 1: Need to figure this out. We need a therapist and 602 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:45,560 Speaker 1: a dermatologist on here. Why just the chin area for you? 603 00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:46,880 Speaker 1: Oh hormu? 604 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:50,240 Speaker 2: And fucking around with Korean skincare without getting advice of 605 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 2: what to use, and it was all clogged up, and 606 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 2: I used a scrub and I didn't know what it 607 00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 2: would ignite and make everything purge, which is actually a 608 00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:01,360 Speaker 2: good thing, but not when you can read braille. Oninite. 609 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 2: We have class pictures next week. 610 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,720 Speaker 1: Our favorite relationship advice of twenty twenty four so far 611 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 1: headlines from New York Times. We've got one, two, three, four, 612 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 1: five six Structure's relationship. Yeah, relationship headlines here. I will 613 00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:31,640 Speaker 1: like the first one, okay, then elaborate on why you 614 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:32,240 Speaker 1: like the first one. 615 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:36,400 Speaker 2: Sorry. Learn to give a satisfying apology. Let the person 616 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:39,400 Speaker 2: know that you desire their forgiveness, not because you want 617 00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 2: to whoa, not because you want to wriggle off the hook, 618 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 2: but because of how much you care about them. For 619 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 2: a show of remorse to be truly effective, it should 620 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 2: be focused on the other person's feelings and needs, not 621 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,320 Speaker 2: your own. I love that, especially being a people pleaser, 622 00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:56,280 Speaker 2: I might as well throw myself on the ground and 623 00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,240 Speaker 2: start crying as well. 624 00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,560 Speaker 1: I like that too, where it's like, don't just say 625 00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 1: it to say sorry, because you're going to say right, 626 00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:08,480 Speaker 1: actually mean it, and there's so much I got to 627 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 1: say it, Like there's so much power in just saying sorry. 628 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 1: Like at one point, you know, as somebody who clearly 629 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:17,800 Speaker 1: was in we've talked about it, we get it, and 630 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,800 Speaker 1: it's you were in mad relationships, but like I was 631 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 1: just I would purposely not say sorry because I didn't 632 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:24,960 Speaker 1: respect the person. And I didn't I was like, I 633 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:26,560 Speaker 1: don't even care if you're mad, I'm not gonna say 634 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 1: sorry like I am. But now, like being with someone 635 00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:33,600 Speaker 1: that you respect, like saying sorry has so much power, 636 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,760 Speaker 1: and like then I have to remember that too, like 637 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:38,680 Speaker 1: when someone like if Steve says sorry to me, accept 638 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,680 Speaker 1: the apology because don't just like keep fighting. Like that 639 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:45,240 Speaker 1: should be like a fire, like it ignites the fire 640 00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 1: and I don't be the one that we are worried 641 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 1: about from it. 642 00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:52,719 Speaker 2: Like Lee, I was having a discussion with a very 643 00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:56,000 Speaker 2: successful businessman and he told me, I said, what is 644 00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 2: your biggest piece of advice for why you've had so 645 00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 2: much success, And he said, I know when to say. 646 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:07,200 Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, but here's one that I liked. 647 00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 1: Inject some playfulness into financial conversation. 648 00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:12,920 Speaker 2: I don't think there's anything funny about that. 649 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 1: WHOA, you don't want to put dress up as a 650 00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:23,360 Speaker 1: bank teller and come and make some deposits. 651 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:26,960 Speaker 2: This is about financial conversations. This isn't sex talk. 652 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 1: You can make anything sexual if you want to lighten. 653 00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 2: Oh okay, well what does it say? 654 00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:36,480 Speaker 1: It says Megan McCoy is the superfessor in the Personal 655 00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:40,280 Speaker 1: Financing Planning department at Kansas City against the University. It's 656 00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,800 Speaker 1: a mistake not to only ever discuss the bad stuff. 657 00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:44,320 Speaker 1: A couple of times a year, she said. Her and 658 00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,000 Speaker 1: her husband buy a lottery ticket, go on a date, 659 00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,520 Speaker 1: and spend their time fantasizing about what to do with 660 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,960 Speaker 1: their millions. That kind of daydreaming can help reconnect you 661 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:54,360 Speaker 1: with your dreams and values. And Tyler Farfetch, I will 662 00:33:54,440 --> 00:34:00,600 Speaker 1: take this headline and make it not only about financial conversations, 663 00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:03,720 Speaker 1: because I have definitely you and I have talked about 664 00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:06,360 Speaker 1: this and I've vented because it is something that I'm 665 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:10,319 Speaker 1: very fearful of given my history and relationships where it's 666 00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:14,319 Speaker 1: like being taken advantage of or certain things or moving 667 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,359 Speaker 1: into my house and like all those sin of things. 668 00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:21,640 Speaker 1: So I'm very weary of. You know, I have a 669 00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:23,520 Speaker 1: pretty you know what I mean, like do certain things 670 00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,520 Speaker 1: to protect yourself financially, especially when you've been burned. And 671 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:28,400 Speaker 1: I say all this to be like, I believe in 672 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,239 Speaker 1: separate bank accounts, but I also, like Steve and I 673 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:33,520 Speaker 1: have a joint bank account where we each contribute a 674 00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,160 Speaker 1: certain amount of money every single month, so we can 675 00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,919 Speaker 1: say for something together, or our house together, and things 676 00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:43,040 Speaker 1: like that. I think that having fun with any uncomfortable 677 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:46,200 Speaker 1: conversations are great. And I've talked about this before, Like 678 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,520 Speaker 1: Steve and I joke and like have like white trash 679 00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,880 Speaker 1: names for each other. He's Tommy and I'm Linda, And 680 00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,040 Speaker 1: when I'm acting up, I'm Landa and he's like, oh 681 00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:58,120 Speaker 1: here goes Landa again. Crazy Landa's fucking all for Rocker 682 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:02,840 Speaker 1: and it makes me laugh. Instead of him attacking me personally, 683 00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:05,359 Speaker 1: it's like attacking an alter ego, and so then it 684 00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:08,000 Speaker 1: just diffuses a situation and it becomes comedic. So I 685 00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:11,880 Speaker 1: think whether it's something uncomfortable, like financial talk or anything 686 00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,400 Speaker 1: that's going on in your household that is not a 687 00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:18,399 Speaker 1: conversation you want to have bring some levity to it, 688 00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:22,759 Speaker 1: whether it's an alter ego or dress up or whatever 689 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:23,120 Speaker 1: you want. 690 00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:26,200 Speaker 2: But this thing said spend their time fantasizing about what 691 00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,680 Speaker 2: they would do with their millions, You're like thinking about 692 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,279 Speaker 2: what you'd really been doing in the mid mar. 693 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:38,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I just think like bringing some lightheartedness 694 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 1: to like difficult conversations is good for anything. We talked 695 00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:43,960 Speaker 1: about that earlier on the phone this week, is that 696 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:48,319 Speaker 1: instead of meeting something with resistance and being so like 697 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,719 Speaker 1: annoyed by it, like just flip the paradigm and be like, 698 00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:53,480 Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna laugh at this and let me 699 00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,840 Speaker 1: see if laughter helps get me through it, because getting 700 00:35:55,880 --> 00:36:00,160 Speaker 1: frustrated is also Like I think about this, like stress 701 00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: is such a big cause of cancer, and I don't 702 00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,480 Speaker 1: have to tell you as someone who's went through this, 703 00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:09,359 Speaker 1: like with cancer, it's like I don't want to infect 704 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,960 Speaker 1: my bin. Was so much stress that. 705 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:15,320 Speaker 2: I know, and I I'm struggling right now. 706 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,279 Speaker 1: Right, and so it's like we need to help each 707 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:21,440 Speaker 1: other constantly by reminding one another that stress is like 708 00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:23,440 Speaker 1: the number one killer. And you know, I hear what 709 00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 1: these fados died and have a heart attack. It's you know, 710 00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:27,480 Speaker 1: forty or this, and I'm like, oh my god, I'm 711 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: forty two. I don't have heart Like we just need. 712 00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 2: To calm down. I have a funny one about this 713 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:38,480 Speaker 2: number four. To strengthen your bond, read aloud to each other. 714 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,239 Speaker 2: Through the act of reading, we are transmitting emotions, we 715 00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:45,680 Speaker 2: are transmitting affection. I tried reading Jarrett all last night 716 00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:48,839 Speaker 2: about Taylor Swift's like little mash up about Travis and 717 00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,760 Speaker 2: her and the year anniversary, and he was like, Babe, 718 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,960 Speaker 2: I got it. They're in love. I got you. I 719 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,440 Speaker 2: got it. I'm like, no, what eighty seven and eighty 720 00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,520 Speaker 2: nine and my my My Mary's song and like the 721 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:06,120 Speaker 2: crinkle of an eye, like He's like, babe, yeah, yep, yeah, yeah, 722 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,319 Speaker 2: So I disagree. I was reading to him last night. 723 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:13,239 Speaker 2: Sure it was all Instagram, but you know he wasn't 724 00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:13,879 Speaker 2: going for it. 725 00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:17,920 Speaker 1: This is very funny then, because Steve says to me, 726 00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:21,520 Speaker 1: he goes, we're watching the local news and he goes, 727 00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:23,880 Speaker 1: I could do that, Like what could you do? He 728 00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 1: goes I could be a news anchor. He goes, okay. 729 00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:28,799 Speaker 1: He goes and goes, look how easy this is. They're 730 00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:31,200 Speaker 1: just reading a teleprompter and go okay. I said, so 731 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:34,239 Speaker 1: let's go ahead. I go, let's download the telepromp ter 732 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:38,000 Speaker 1: ab and walk my house. I do too. I'm up. 733 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:41,000 Speaker 1: I had craved it for practice for you, but it 734 00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,799 Speaker 1: is a great way to practice. I remember when I 735 00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:46,040 Speaker 1: first started out any future broadcasters out there, I was 736 00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:49,520 Speaker 1: told this, and it really helped me read everything out loud. 737 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, my dad says that, Yeah. 738 00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:54,880 Speaker 1: Mal, anything that you see a sign out there, it 739 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:56,920 Speaker 1: just helps to read it out louds to step. I 740 00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:01,000 Speaker 1: downloaded the telephone drab, uploaded an old script and this 741 00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:04,680 Speaker 1: fucking guy nailed it. And I was like, god damn it. 742 00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: And you know, his voice used the right inflection, and 743 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:08,880 Speaker 1: I was like I needed him to mess up, so 744 00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:10,920 Speaker 1: I kept like changing the speed to go faster. He 745 00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,600 Speaker 1: was keeping up. I was like, oh my god, this 746 00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,440 Speaker 1: is like he was actually really good. So Steven on 747 00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:17,400 Speaker 1: the local news. 748 00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,799 Speaker 2: My problem is now I read everything in like a 749 00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:24,759 Speaker 2: children's book voice. Like guilt or pressure to get your 750 00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:31,080 Speaker 2: partner take action rarely works. Experts said, like I was 751 00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,400 Speaker 2: getting my nails done the other day and my girl 752 00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:36,480 Speaker 2: was like, oh, flip the what is it? Not astrology, 753 00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:40,520 Speaker 2: but flip your reading or whatever the day? The reading 754 00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,080 Speaker 2: I don't know of the day, and I read it 755 00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:47,320 Speaker 2: like sparkling tauruses. They love this day the most because 756 00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,799 Speaker 2: it brings them all the sun and light they could 757 00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:52,960 Speaker 2: ever needs. 758 00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:02,960 Speaker 1: What else we like on here or anything? These are 759 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:06,719 Speaker 1: all great squabbling over household clutter. Focus on function. I 760 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:10,920 Speaker 1: also think delegating responsibilities. I hate to cook, It's not 761 00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,800 Speaker 1: my thing. Steve loves to cook. Steve hates doing laundry. 762 00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:16,280 Speaker 1: So the trade off is I do laundry, Steve cooks. 763 00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,080 Speaker 1: Find the things that you guys and relationships and maybe 764 00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:21,560 Speaker 1: if you're not in a relationship. I was talking about 765 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,680 Speaker 1: this today with my sweet Donna facialists. 766 00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,880 Speaker 2: Yeah made about you, Yeah we're I made it about me. 767 00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:31,799 Speaker 1: Sorry Donna. She had a lot of extractions to do. 768 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,000 Speaker 1: She was busy. She probably wasn't listening. Oh my god, 769 00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:38,239 Speaker 1: speaking up a lot. Not listening again. We just got 770 00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:39,879 Speaker 1: to have them on the podcast. We talked about Steve 771 00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:40,200 Speaker 1: and Jered. 772 00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:43,760 Speaker 2: We do, we ran, We're gonna it has to happen. 773 00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,760 Speaker 1: We're gonna give you guys are sick of hearing us anyways, 774 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,799 Speaker 1: I'm sure you're interested in hearing them. But the other 775 00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,359 Speaker 1: day just kept going. I was talking and I was like, 776 00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:55,360 Speaker 1: I need to just kept going uh huh, yeah, uh huh, 777 00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,000 Speaker 1: Like after four on Hans and yeah, I go, are 778 00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,759 Speaker 1: you just saying uh huh and yeah, and you're not 779 00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:02,719 Speaker 1: he goes uh huh. I was like, well, there you go. 780 00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:06,200 Speaker 1: Sometimes you just gotta uh huh and yang way through 781 00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,360 Speaker 1: the conversation. So I'm deaf. 782 00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,440 Speaker 2: I can't even say uh huh. Everything now with me 783 00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,640 Speaker 2: is why what was that? I can't hear shit? I 784 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:19,600 Speaker 2: can't and I when I well, we've discussed it. Air 785 00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:21,760 Speaker 2: plugs all the time, when I work out, when I sleep, 786 00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:24,960 Speaker 2: I'm shoving the wax in. Also we wear an eye 787 00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:28,120 Speaker 2: of beast shoving the wax in. I am going to 788 00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:30,960 Speaker 2: make an appointment to get the stuff out and see 789 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:31,920 Speaker 2: if that helps. 790 00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:34,160 Speaker 1: Can we go together because I feel like probably, I mean, 791 00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:37,520 Speaker 1: I'm not to that I'm deaf to agree, but I 792 00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:40,520 Speaker 1: what'd you say? No, I'm just dud I would love 793 00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:42,000 Speaker 1: to do that wax situation. 794 00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:46,560 Speaker 2: I would love you too. It's gonna be gross. Okay, 795 00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 2: so Ryan said we are good to wrap and that 796 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,640 Speaker 2: we should let everyone know will be off next week 797 00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:53,400 Speaker 2: but back in two weeks. 798 00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 1: Can you imagine how many things will have to say 799 00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:56,240 Speaker 1: after two weeks? 800 00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:58,960 Speaker 2: Hopefully it'll be a lot more uplifting than this up 801 00:40:58,960 --> 00:40:59,520 Speaker 2: with people. 802 00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,200 Speaker 1: Turn that round side. What do you learn today? Kids? 803 00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:04,880 Speaker 1: If you've made it to the very end, you are 804 00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:11,239 Speaker 1: causes cancer. Fan stress causes cancer. Be playful in your relationships. 805 00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:12,640 Speaker 1: Don't sweat the small stuff. 806 00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:13,879 Speaker 2: Okay, love you guys. 807 00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:15,400 Speaker 1: Bye. 808 00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:19,600 Speaker 2: Calm down with Erin and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio. 809 00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:24,120 Speaker 1: For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, 810 00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:30,200 Speaker 1: or wherever you get your podcasts.