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Speaker 1: I think you should bear witness to understanding whether or

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Speaker 2: It would be crazy if you knew that your kid

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Speaker 2: a DNA test. There you go. And I'm like, why

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Speaker 2: would you tell me that way? That would be why

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Speaker 1: I female thirty nine, have two kids, male seventeen and

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Speaker 1: Ah rough one night stand, dude. When my son was three,

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Speaker 1: He was disgusted but said he understood, and we left

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Speaker 2: So it is always you know when you bring the

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Speaker 1: This is October twenty fifth, twenty twenty three.

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Speaker 2: So hello all.

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Speaker 1: I got a few requests for an update, so here

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Speaker 1: it is. First, I'd like to thank everyone for their opinions.

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Speaker 1: I was questioning if I did the right thing since

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Speaker 1: A lot of people had a lot of assumptions about him,

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Speaker 2: Pasted to you, John, she literally saved and changed for

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, what would you do in this situation?

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Speaker 2: We'll see you. Assume can't quit my job.

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Speaker 1: If I'm taking my uniform, well, I guess I'm leaving naked.

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Speaker 2: I've heard of a big bear at all. I've heard

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Speaker 2: Big respect, dude, big respect, Big respect.

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Speaker 1: He followed me down the stairs and through the shop,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Does this guy have like a street cred or something? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, You're you're gonna go to like Merrill Lynch

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Speaker 1: Thinking back, that must have been a strange thing for

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Speaker 1: Ann's balling out, what do you what can you even

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think I bought computer stuff because

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Speaker 2: That's hey, honestly, look nerd, Nerds win.

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Speaker 1: Hey, nerds walk get us now look at us now thrones.

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Speaker 1: But I'm thinking about I'm already thinking about like how

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Speaker 2: New room that I'm moving in.

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Speaker 1: I'm planning on moving rooms, getting my own room, that's right.

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Speaker 1: I want to get the bust of Beethoven, the bust

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Speaker 2: Water will spill.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and that is exactly extinguished the whole the whole fire.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully, hopefully. I've watched I've watched this, this crew of scoundrels,

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Speaker 1: I guess it's the popcorn ceilings. That's the way you

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Speaker 2: Interesting, but Brandon's room does well. Or power to you

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Speaker 2: or my friend now,