Speaker 1: I'm Honey Germy. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2: I'm Carolina Bermudez soy nika a wins but I was
Speaker 2: born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
Speaker 2: and a worker bee.
Speaker 1: This is life in spanglish.
Speaker 3: Did you just hear me take a big goal? Welcome
Speaker 3: back everybody? Oh you didn't?
Speaker 2: Okay, good because I'm like over here hydrating because you
Speaker 2: know we're just talking all day and welcome to life
Speaker 2: in spanglish.
Speaker 3: That is what it's all about. We just keep it
Speaker 3: all the way.
Speaker 1: Real, yem benidos. Carolina has to keep nice and loubed
Speaker 1: so we can keep talking.
Speaker 2: She said, nice and lubed. And wait until you guys
Speaker 2: hear about the con What are we going to talk
Speaker 2: about today? And that's what you're leading us in with lead.
Speaker 1: I'm just joking, but go ahead.
Speaker 2: That has to stay because I mean seen that because
Speaker 2: Honey wants to talk about something today that I think
Speaker 2: is really cool that a lot of people may shy
Speaker 2: away from. But I love that you noticed this because
Speaker 2: I have to be honest I did not notice this
Speaker 2: about some of our favorite celebrities.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, for a long time, it's like I
Speaker 1: feel like people are not expressing their love for God,
Speaker 1: their belief, their spirituality. Like I feel like people are
Speaker 1: not putting it out there in the forefront, especially on
Speaker 1: social media, because I don't think they think it's cool,
Speaker 1: like going to church is not cool or loving God
Speaker 1: is not cool. But then I'm my very close friend
Speaker 1: aj Ramos. He is successful beyond Carolina, and he has
Speaker 1: incorporated his love for God into his social media presence.
Speaker 1: He goes to church, he gives us even prayers, and
Speaker 1: I see him as such a dope person and even
Speaker 1: cooler now that he loves God and he's not afraid
Speaker 1: to do it. And he's inspired me to not be
Speaker 1: kind of like shy about like I love God. I
Speaker 1: go to church and I see celebrities are doing it too,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, it's a movement. It's cool to
Speaker 1: love God again.
Speaker 2: Carolina, Well, you know, why do you think, though, why
Speaker 2: do you think that it has been something that's been missing.
Speaker 1: I think people saw like church and like love for God.
Speaker 1: Let's say, like awilitas me my mom, Mithia, no it's
Speaker 1: not cool because it's like no jo pereo rong, Like
Speaker 1: how do you incorporate your love for God into let's say,
Speaker 1: a social media persona that is so turned you over
Speaker 1: here on boats you're you're traveling. It just didn't have
Speaker 1: I guess, a space in people's lives, and if it did,
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people were holding back
Speaker 1: and not trying to put it to the forefront because
Speaker 1: of they thought maybe their image would change, it would
Speaker 1: make it better for me. I would see you as
Speaker 1: a different person that you had these type of layers,
Speaker 1: but I feel like it was just hidden.
Speaker 2: Or that you have that type of faith, like that
Speaker 2: type of strength and that connection to your faith, Like
Speaker 2: you're saying that that would make you feel more inclined.
Speaker 3: To like support somebody because you know who they are.
Speaker 2: You're seeing who they are, you know, like they're being
Speaker 2: very upfront and transparent about it. But you know, I
Speaker 2: just think in the society that we live in, it's
Speaker 2: it's really become so combative. Like I'll be honest with you,
Speaker 2: I guarantee you there are some people who might not
Speaker 2: listen to this episode because they don't want to hear it.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, Like.
Speaker 2: There are some people who may be so disconnected that
Speaker 2: it makes them uncomfortable, or there may be people that
Speaker 2: are so disconnected that are looking for a way and
Speaker 2: this could be the sign that maybe they need to
Speaker 2: go back to whatever it is that they believe in,
Speaker 2: whether it's you know, Catholicism or you know, whatever religion that.
Speaker 3: You were raised in.
Speaker 2: So, you know, I think spirituality, more than anything, is
Speaker 2: so important. But I do know that whenever celebrities or
Speaker 2: people that you know are out there they start talking
Speaker 2: about it, people roll their eyes.
Speaker 3: They don't want to hear it.
Speaker 2: They think that they already have the blessings, you know,
Speaker 2: but like there really is truth behind it.
Speaker 3: Like I am very very centered in my faith.
Speaker 1: As am I Caroline, and I feel like I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be where I am today if I wasn't so plugged
Speaker 1: in with my church, my faith, and my God. It's
Speaker 1: it's something that you know, I feel like it makes
Speaker 1: up probably like sixty five to seventy five percent of
Speaker 1: who I am.
Speaker 2: Well, you were telling me about some of the people
Speaker 2: who were coming. I know, Mark Wahlberg is a very
Speaker 2: vocal I mean, he's even chosen projects I think he
Speaker 2: chose a movie, was it Father Stu.
Speaker 1: I love that movie. That movie is amazing.
Speaker 2: I know that when he was doing like the Junkets,
Speaker 2: when he was doing interviews and things like that, he
Speaker 2: had said that part of the reason why he felt
Speaker 2: like he got so far in his career was because
Speaker 2: of his faith. And you know how he never compromised,
Speaker 2: like going to church and being with his family. In fact,
Speaker 2: you know, he moved out of LA and he's over
Speaker 2: in Vegas now with his family.
Speaker 1: Vegas out of all places for a god, you're a
Speaker 1: man that's different.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, I mean I think that he just wanted
Speaker 2: to get out of that fast, like LA lifestyle and
Speaker 2: things like that. And you know people used to say,
Speaker 2: I don't remember if it was the Church of Good Shepherd,
Speaker 2: and I know that people used to say, oh, you
Speaker 2: can always see him at church.
Speaker 1: It like that you mentioned that because he was doing press.
Speaker 1: I don't know what Father's too, but it was it
Speaker 1: happened to be an ash Wednesday and he was on
Speaker 1: TV Carol. Yes, he did not wipe it off like
Speaker 1: it was just like this is who I am. I
Speaker 1: went to church, I got my ashes and this is
Speaker 1: going to be televised.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: I mean what a statement though, You know what I
Speaker 2: mean because typically when you do these things and people
Speaker 2: who don't know you know, you go to these hotels
Speaker 2: and these actors or actresses, they will do a bunch
Speaker 2: of interviews about the project, and so they have all
Speaker 2: the different outlets like Entertainment, Tonight, Hollywood, he News, all
Speaker 2: of these different outlets to go in there and you
Speaker 2: basically do like just rounds and rounds of interviews. But
Speaker 2: when you go in there, all of these celebrities have
Speaker 2: makeup artists, and here are people and they're looking at
Speaker 2: the shot and they're coming in and they're powdering them
Speaker 2: and they're doing all of these things.
Speaker 3: So for him to say, no, no.
Speaker 2: You're not going to do that, today was the day
Speaker 2: of obligation for me and I'm going to rock this.
Speaker 3: That makes a big statement.
Speaker 1: And I love when people make these type of statements, Carolina,
Speaker 1: because it's like, I'm not going to hide who I am.
Speaker 1: Remember remember when Kanye first came out, he did Jesus
Speaker 1: Walks and he said that line, if I talk about Jesus,
Speaker 1: my records won't get played. Yeah, because it's real. The
Speaker 1: rejection of people of faith is very, very real. And
Speaker 1: I got to commend Kanye because throughout his entire career
Speaker 1: up until he decided to kind of like fade away
Speaker 1: a couple of months ago, he was always very big
Speaker 1: on God. But he even had the Sunday service, and
Speaker 1: I commend him for it because rappers coming forward, black
Speaker 1: men coming forward to media and be like I love
Speaker 1: God and live for God. Unless you know your your Bishop,
Speaker 1: TD Jakes or someone of them, it's just it's just
Speaker 1: not common.
Speaker 2: Well, the thing about that too, that I thought was
Speaker 2: very cool was that Kanye found a way to bring
Speaker 2: people of a certain status and take them to a
Speaker 2: field in California and basically strip away all of the
Speaker 2: things that you know, kind of make them who they are,
Speaker 2: like the cars and the blank and they like all
Speaker 2: that stuff. And don't quote me on this because I
Speaker 2: really don't know, but like, do you think that that
Speaker 2: had something to do with him?
Speaker 3: Like with the sweatshirt, the sweatpants and the sweat.
Speaker 2: Like everybody was kind of like the same, Like, you know,
Speaker 2: everybody was wearing the same color palette. And I know
Speaker 2: that he's a designer, but I really do believe that
Speaker 2: it kind of like shifted the focus instead of making
Speaker 2: it about overall celebrities gathering here, and it made it
Speaker 2: more about what they were gathering for.
Speaker 1: And I love those Sunday services. They disappeared, he doesn't
Speaker 1: do them anymore, but I loved when he was doing
Speaker 1: them because it's like, even if some people saw it
Speaker 1: as an opportunity to be photographed or an opportunity to
Speaker 1: do something that was cool, it was connecting them with
Speaker 1: God regardless.
Speaker 2: And that's a hard thing to do. It's a hard
Speaker 2: thing to get to somebody and to really get them
Speaker 2: to reveal what their innermost thoughts are about religion or
Speaker 2: about God.
Speaker 3: I mean, I know that it's challenging for a lot
Speaker 3: of people to discuss it.
Speaker 2: And look, I mean there are plenty of people who
Speaker 2: have been through the Ring or with their religions, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean I had an experience that was really kind
Speaker 2: of traumatizing earlier on, and you know, it definitely, it
Speaker 2: definitely changed my opinion on the Church. But like, my
Speaker 2: faith is so strong that I had there was no way.
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is what I believe and this is
Speaker 2: who I am. You know, in a nutshell, I was
Speaker 2: basically not granted confession by a priest because he told
Speaker 2: me I was living in sin because I was living
Speaker 2: with my husband or my boyfriend at the time with Mark,
Speaker 2: you know, and yeah, there are rules, and no I.
Speaker 3: Wasn't following those rules.
Speaker 2: But I think that I felt such shame and I
Speaker 2: almost was like wow, like here you have a person
Speaker 2: who's actually active, like I actually believe, and I actually
Speaker 2: do all of the things that I'm supposed to do,
Speaker 2: and You're not going to grant me confession because I'm
Speaker 2: living with my boyfriend. So it made me pause and
Speaker 2: made me reflect and think do I want to be
Speaker 2: aligned with this church? Like do I want to be
Speaker 2: aligned with some of the things that they stand for.
Speaker 2: So I really went through a tough period just personally,
Speaker 2: you know, with my relationship with the church, and you
Speaker 2: know how I felt about it. But you know, I
Speaker 2: found my way back, and there are certain things that
Speaker 2: I'm just like not okay with and you know, I
Speaker 2: have to find a way to work through that. But
Speaker 2: you know, I think that it's a very personal thing
Speaker 2: for a lot of people to talk about.
Speaker 1: It is, and we we do have some celebrities that
Speaker 1: you know, are very vocal about it. Carolina and let's
Speaker 1: say ectoral father. He was. He was a reggaeton artist
Speaker 1: in Puerto Rico and he lived that life, you know,
Speaker 1: like chains this that he was not into church at all,
Speaker 1: and now he's a preacher, like he totally gave his
Speaker 1: life to God and this is what he does.
Speaker 3: What about the guy who's was it Farruko?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Farruko too.
Speaker 2: He won't sing badpas now because he said that he's
Speaker 2: completely been, you know, he's seen the light and he
Speaker 2: doesn't want to talk about drugs and things of that
Speaker 2: nature anymore. And I'm paraphrasing because I feel like I
Speaker 2: remember reading an article about him years ago.
Speaker 1: You know, it was it's crazy because this happened during
Speaker 1: the pandemic, and I remember his team was like, honey,
Speaker 1: we want you to interview Faruko and I was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: no problem, let's do it. Let's do it. We did hair, makeup,
Speaker 1: we did everything. This was out in Miami and like
Speaker 1: half an hour before they were like, he can't do it,
Speaker 1: he can't do it, he can't do it, he can't
Speaker 1: do it. Like okay, okay, okay, no problem. But they
Speaker 1: were like very like I guess a little frantic next day,
Speaker 1: he goes on stage in a concert and he just
Speaker 1: has this breakdown, Carolina and just cries and weeps and
Speaker 1: just says he gave his life to the Lord. And
Speaker 1: you are right. He doesn't perform bad Bas no longer
Speaker 1: because he just doesn't stand by the message the song has.
Speaker 1: And it was his biggest song of his career and
Speaker 1: he doesn't do it. And God bless him, man, God
Speaker 1: touched him.
Speaker 2: It's really important, I think for people like that to,
Speaker 2: you know, tell people about their journey though, you know.
Speaker 2: And then I wanted to ask you about a couple
Speaker 2: of other people.
Speaker 3: That you were mentioning to me.
Speaker 2: We'll get into that right after the breakway. So, honey,
Speaker 2: you were telling me about some people like you.
Speaker 3: Were mentioning the Rock.
Speaker 2: Now, I'm not very familiar with the Rock and him
Speaker 2: being so vocal about I know that he's very generous.
Speaker 2: I know that he definitely like took care of his
Speaker 2: mom and dad, and you know, I believe one of
Speaker 2: them has passed. And you know, I know that he's
Speaker 2: always been a very kind person, but I never really
Speaker 2: saw him as somebody who was very outwardly outspoken about
Speaker 2: his faith.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's kind, of like in the same realm of
Speaker 1: like Steve Harvey. You know, they're cool, they do what
Speaker 1: they do, but when it's time to talk about being thankful,
Speaker 1: they always mentioned God. They always mentioned their faith, and
Speaker 1: they're not hiding it. They're forward with it. And I
Speaker 1: love the Rock for that. Your boy, Justin him, he's
Speaker 1: he's amazing with the God thing.
Speaker 2: Oh well, Justin Bieber. And see that's where I feel
Speaker 2: like it's tough because why, well, Justin Bieber was associated
Speaker 2: with Hillsong Church.
Speaker 3: And did you ever watch the documentary on Hillsong Oh?
Speaker 1: Yes, I did.
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't want to pair him.
Speaker 1: With with with that, I don't know why I want
Speaker 1: to separate him.
Speaker 2: But see that's the unfortunate thing though, because that was
Speaker 2: the association there, right like when he when he started
Speaker 2: coming like being vocal about his faith and how you know,
Speaker 2: he really connected with the preacher and the guy's name
Speaker 2: is escaping me.
Speaker 3: Now I forget it.
Speaker 1: Carl Lentz.
Speaker 2: Carl Lentz, yes, yes, yes, that's the unfortunate part of this.
Speaker 2: You know, it's because you get these people who get
Speaker 2: this opportunity to really highlight things that are important to
Speaker 2: other people. And then they I don't know, they just
Speaker 2: do a dirty you know, I mean, for lack of
Speaker 2: a better term, I don't want to like because I
Speaker 2: also don't know the ins and outs and all of
Speaker 2: the facts about the church, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But again, I know I know where you're coming from.
Speaker 1: It's like he was making it cool, like everybody was
Speaker 1: going to it was.
Speaker 3: Hill it was a movement. It was I went to hill.
Speaker 1: Saw in Jersey. They had they had some services in
Speaker 1: Jersey and it just felt good. It was good, it
Speaker 1: was young, it was hopeful, it was music.
Speaker 2: Was current, like they were trying to bring you in.
Speaker 2: And then it's like.
Speaker 3: You see all of these ex Jose's honey.
Speaker 2: I was even trying to go to a Hillsong service
Speaker 2: from Long Island one time because I was like, what
Speaker 2: is this was so cool?
Speaker 1: Right? And there there are a lot, a lot, a
Speaker 1: lot of cool churches. Like when I am in Miami,
Speaker 1: I go to vou and Rich Wilkerson is the pastor.
Speaker 1: He actually married Kim and Kanye and he has like
Speaker 1: the dopest movement out in Miami. If you're listening in Miami,
Speaker 1: you don't go to church and you want to experience
Speaker 1: something dope and get close to God. WU Church is
Speaker 1: the spot. It's kind of like the same way Hillsong was,
Speaker 1: minus Carlinz being involved.
Speaker 3: So but that's the whole thing.
Speaker 2: It's like, you get this guy out there that you
Speaker 2: know has this opportunity to really push forth the message,
Speaker 2: and then you have all of these exposs of these
Speaker 2: ex employees discussing how completely toxic it was, how there
Speaker 2: are allegations of you know, inappropriate relationships that he had.
Speaker 2: I believe that he cheated on his wife from you
Speaker 2: know what I had read what I saw on the documentary.
Speaker 2: And again, these are you know, I'm saying alleged because
Speaker 2: I wasn't there. I don't know, but you know, where
Speaker 2: there's smoke, there's fire, and that is so damaging, you know,
Speaker 2: because then there are people who are really on this journey.
Speaker 3: And that's what bothers me about it.
Speaker 2: It's like, there really are wholesome people who are looking
Speaker 2: for something to believe in.
Speaker 3: There are people who are looking for that connection.
Speaker 2: And then when you take that and you do like
Speaker 2: I said, like you do this to it, it's just like, well,
Speaker 2: then no wonder people have trust issues.
Speaker 1: Well, we have to start with, we should only idolize God.
Speaker 1: This man is just reading the word of God. We
Speaker 1: shouldn't idolize let's say, Rich Wolcusen, Karl Lenz, Timberlake, like,
Speaker 1: we shouldn't idolize any of them. Yeah, they're leading us,
Speaker 1: but let's not put all our faith and trust in
Speaker 1: a man that is just like us.
Speaker 2: No, it's very true, you know, And you have to
Speaker 2: find that space where you know, Look, there are so
Speaker 2: many impressionable people we've gotten involved in like cults and
Speaker 2: who have followed these and I don't want to call
Speaker 2: them religions, but they followed these.
Speaker 1: Groups where natics like fanatic, Yeah, because.
Speaker 3: They're searching for something and then once they experience something
Speaker 3: that traumatizing, who can blame them for not trusting or
Speaker 3: wanting to be involved in something like that?
Speaker 2: You know. So, I mean this is like a really
Speaker 2: really tough one because people are it's just such a
Speaker 2: personal relationship.
Speaker 3: That you have with God.
Speaker 2: And now look, I mean I'm raising my kids both
Speaker 2: in the Catholic and Jewish faith. Were an interfaith family,
Speaker 2: so there isn't anything that we don't discuss in our
Speaker 2: family when it comes to religion, which Our hope is
Speaker 2: that our kids will have a broader view where they'll
Speaker 2: be more accepting and more understanding of people that have
Speaker 2: different religions. You know, we told them, we're like, you
Speaker 2: know what, We're giving you the tools with these two
Speaker 2: things that we know, but that doesn't limit you to
Speaker 2: that when you get older, if you want to study
Speaker 2: different types of religion or theology or whatever it is.
Speaker 1: They want to pick out the turn and study it,
Speaker 1: that's on you, I.
Speaker 2: Think exactly, and I welcome that teach me something, you
Speaker 2: know what I need So no for real, because like.
Speaker 3: I'm just so open to it.
Speaker 2: But there are also families who only have this myopitay
Speaker 2: like this, they only have one view and that's it,
Speaker 2: and they don't allow.
Speaker 3: For exploration, you know.
Speaker 2: So I just think that as we continue, as my
Speaker 2: kids get older, my hope is that you know, you
Speaker 2: turn on the TV and you see that, like, there
Speaker 2: are certain people who are against certain religions, and there
Speaker 2: are certain people who, like you know, are targeting different religions.
Speaker 2: And that is so absolutely horrifying to me because you
Speaker 2: would think in twenty twenty three we would have more
Speaker 2: of an open view, a more welcoming view, you.
Speaker 1: Know, unity, tolerance, like we it's humanity. It's like, how
Speaker 1: are we still committing hate crimes based on faith and religion?
Speaker 1: Like that blows my mind?
Speaker 3: Mmmm mm hmmm mm hmmm. Yeah, it's just it's so crazy.
Speaker 3: And you know what, but that's like the world that
Speaker 3: we live in.
Speaker 2: So, you know, as uncomfortable as it makes people, I
Speaker 2: think that we have to have these conversations and be
Speaker 2: open to having them because so many people are unwilling.
Speaker 2: And the thing is, it's like, just because you believe
Speaker 2: something that I don't, that doesn't make you a terrible person.
Speaker 1: Absolutely not, especially when it's faith based, like we're both
Speaker 1: trying to become better and you know, connect with a
Speaker 1: higher being just on that strength with the same.
Speaker 2: Well, it's I always say to my boys, you know,
Speaker 2: there is always something more, There's something higher, there's something
Speaker 2: that is unexplainable that you know is responsible for us.
Speaker 2: And I always say to them, you know, at night
Speaker 2: before you go to bed, I mean because I pray,
Speaker 2: you know, I want you to have that relationship where
Speaker 2: you feel that connection because it's such a beautiful thing
Speaker 2: once you experience it, and I know, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm talking about, honey, because I know that you're very
Speaker 2: deeply rooted in your faith, and that's what I want
Speaker 2: for my boys.
Speaker 3: And that's why I told him.
Speaker 2: I said, you know, whether it's this or whether it's
Speaker 2: another religion, like, I want you guys to feel that
Speaker 2: goodness in your spirit the way that I feel it.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean. It's hard to explain.
Speaker 1: And you know what, I love Carolina that you're giving
Speaker 1: them this gift so early in life. It's not that
Speaker 1: they have to go through. Let's say Carlos Santana, right,
Speaker 1: he attempted suicide seven different times, Carolina.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: He has since given his life to Christ, and he's
Speaker 1: openly said that he plans to become a minister once
Speaker 1: he's done with music. But it took seven suicide attempts
Speaker 1: for him to find the Lord. But you're instilling this
Speaker 1: in your children at what eight?
Speaker 3: At seven?
Speaker 2: And then but oh my gosh, I just got goosebumps.
Speaker 2: You know what, God told him. No, you're not right.
Speaker 2: You are there for a reason. You have a purpose
Speaker 2: down there. That's the reason why he's vibed. Did you
Speaker 2: ever see the movie A man called Auto? No? Oh,
Speaker 2: my god, Hanks, Oh honey, I need.
Speaker 1: To watch I saw the preview and I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm gonna watch it tonight.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: After the story that you just told me about Santana,
Speaker 2: you need to go and watch this film. I was
Speaker 2: watching it on my way on a plane back from
Speaker 2: LA I was a disaster.
Speaker 3: It was crying.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I wasn't even it was ugly boohoo hooing cry,
Speaker 2: like like, oh my goodness. And it talks just about
Speaker 2: like it's not your time, you have a reason for
Speaker 2: being here.
Speaker 1: Oh stop, Carolina, don't don't take me down that path
Speaker 1: because I've always told you. I know I have a
Speaker 1: calling on my life. I don't know what it is
Speaker 1: just yet, but I do know it has to do
Speaker 1: with leadership and it has to do with God.
Speaker 2: I was gonna ask you, would you ever see yourself
Speaker 2: going into kind of like a ministry of some sort,
Speaker 2: because I know that that's something that you had mentioned before.
Speaker 3: You Know.
Speaker 1: What's crazy is like I always talk to my friend Aj.
Speaker 1: He even narrates for like prayer apps. He's very in
Speaker 1: tune with God and his religion, and he tells me
Speaker 1: all the time. There is something there. We're going to
Speaker 1: figure it out. You have a light, you have a calling.
Speaker 1: We just got to figure out what it is. But
Speaker 1: I would love to even if it means like, okay, stop,
Speaker 1: no more celebrity news, stop, no more celebrity interviews, I
Speaker 1: would switch all that Carolina to serve God and to
Speaker 1: help people find their faith. I'll turn it off today,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, but I gotta find I gotta find
Speaker 1: my group. I gotta find my people. And I got
Speaker 1: to really feel like this is it, this is the day,
Speaker 1: and my mission starts now. And I guess my data
Speaker 1: is not here yet. You'll see it, don't worry, you'll
Speaker 1: see it till then we'll be here.
Speaker 3: Oh wow.
Speaker 2: Well, on that note, we're going to take a break
Speaker 2: and then we are going to come back because we
Speaker 2: have to answer your questions in the salon.
Speaker 3: So all right now we're back.
Speaker 2: I mean, man, this was like not a heavy episode,
Speaker 2: but a heavy episode.
Speaker 3: But I feel like in a good way.
Speaker 1: You know, a deep episode. That's what. That's the way
Speaker 1: deep as absolutely.
Speaker 3: I like deep better.
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Speaker 2: us in the DMS. I'm at the real Carolina, Honey
Speaker 2: you are.
Speaker 1: I am Honey German on Instagram, and if you want
Speaker 1: to reach me anywhere else, I'm just playing on Honey German,
Speaker 1: the only one out here in these streets.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So, so basically, we ask you guys to send us
Speaker 2: your problems and then we want to hear all about it,
Speaker 2: and we try to help you with some solutions. I
Speaker 2: will tell you most of the time, Honey and I
Speaker 2: do not agree.
Speaker 1: So Charlena gives the good advice and I'll just tell
Speaker 1: you advice that might get you locked up.
Speaker 3: You stop it.
Speaker 2: No, we both keep it very real and very true
Speaker 2: to who we are. So we got this letter and
Speaker 2: it says, dear Honey and Carolina. I'm writing in because
Speaker 2: I'm currently going through it. My best friend let's call
Speaker 2: her Rosa. Just told me she needed some space in
Speaker 2: our friendship because I am too attached. We have been
Speaker 2: practically inseparable, almost like sisters for about ten years with
Speaker 2: no issues.
Speaker 3: But recently she.
Speaker 2: Got a new boyfriend and I noticed that she's been
Speaker 2: acting different. I want to bring it up that it
Speaker 2: could be the new boyfriend, but I also don't want
Speaker 2: this friendship to implode. I'm not sure what to do
Speaker 2: and could use your advice. Sincerely from Luisa. Okay, well,
Speaker 2: here's what I get from this letter. At it, your
Speaker 2: girl got herself a new man and you're getting cut
Speaker 2: out of the equation. There is not enough time being
Speaker 2: distributed among all people, and I feel like you're feeling
Speaker 2: a little bit slighted.
Speaker 1: It happens a lot, but I don't.
Speaker 2: Like the way she put She said we needed some
Speaker 2: space in our friendship because I am air quotes too attached.
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm hanging on to that because like,
Speaker 2: did the boyfriend say something to her?
Speaker 3: Is she feeling some type of way? Like what do
Speaker 3: you think about that?
Speaker 1: It could be. I feel like when people enter new relationships,
Speaker 1: they want to give all their time to this new person,
Speaker 1: you know, you're heavy, you want to not hang out
Speaker 1: with nobody but them. So maybe she did mention it, like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'm neglecting my best friend. It was always about us.
Speaker 1: It was always every day her, We talk all day.
Speaker 1: And he probably did say that girl's too attach to you.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to tell her to fall back if
Speaker 1: this is gonna work for us. So it could be
Speaker 1: that the guy told her, or it could just be
Speaker 1: that maybe she's just like, I need some breathing room.
Speaker 1: Ten years is a long time, especially if she wasn't
Speaker 1: in a relationship those ten years that was her relationship.
Speaker 3: No, but they didn't have issues.
Speaker 2: I would I would see if like they had a
Speaker 2: roller coaster friendship like up and down always, Oh she's
Speaker 2: not talking to me this week. Oh you know, we
Speaker 2: had a falling out here or there. Ten years, no issues,
Speaker 2: and now she's got this new boyfriend.
Speaker 3: I will remind you men come and go, women come
Speaker 3: and go.
Speaker 2: But real true friendships, those are like gold. You know.
Speaker 2: I saw a meme the other day that said long
Speaker 2: distance friendships because that's what I have with my best friend.
Speaker 2: Long distance friendships are like gold, because this is a
Speaker 2: person who's rooting for you, who's crying with you, crying
Speaker 2: tears of joy, tears of sadness with you, who's there
Speaker 2: to support and love you? Like, Friendships don't come easily,
Speaker 2: especially now in twenty twenty.
Speaker 1: Three, so especially as adults. How about that, Carolina, How
Speaker 1: hard is it to make new friends as an adult?
Speaker 2: Well, now Luisa is saying she wants to bring it up,
Speaker 2: that it could be the new boyfriend, but she doesn't
Speaker 2: want the friendship to implode. That's the hard part because
Speaker 2: then it's like she is going to immediately become defensive
Speaker 2: if you bring up her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: For sure, Yeah, you're not gonna you can't say nothing like, yo,
Speaker 1: your new man is breaking us up, even though it
Speaker 1: might be real, because I know a lot of women
Speaker 1: that it's like every time they find somebody new, they disappear.
Speaker 1: What happened to Fulana? I know, like some women are
Speaker 1: like that, And it just might be that this is
Speaker 1: what's happening here, and you're not doing anything wrong. It's
Speaker 1: just she's wild open off a new man and anybody
Speaker 1: and anybody that she can cut out to give them
Speaker 1: more time is feeling.
Speaker 2: It, I know, But then you know what I also
Speaker 2: feel for you, Luisa, because this is a tough situation
Speaker 2: to be in. You want your friendship, and you know,
Speaker 2: you didn't tell us whether or not you like the
Speaker 2: new boyfriend.
Speaker 3: I didn't really get a whole lot out of that.
Speaker 2: But what I think is happening here is that you're
Speaker 2: kind of being put to the side because of the
Speaker 2: new man. And I would approach her and just be like, hey,
Speaker 2: I'm totally like down to give your space. I know
Speaker 2: you have I would I would actually approach it this way.
Speaker 2: I would say I got the message. I'm not upset
Speaker 2: with you about it. I'm upset that you know we're
Speaker 2: not going to be spending as much time together. But
Speaker 2: I understand that you have a new boyfriend and you
Speaker 2: want to explore that. But you know my feelings. My
Speaker 2: feelings matter too, and you know, I just really hope
Speaker 2: that we can still continue to be as great friends
Speaker 2: as we were in the past, because you know, I
Speaker 2: never want anybody to come between us. But I want
Speaker 2: to give you your space and I want you to
Speaker 2: explore this relationship. But it's almost I don't know. I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm being wishy washy kind of let her know,
Speaker 2: but don't let her know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know, Carolyn, I've seen memes where they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know you're best friends when you don't talk for
Speaker 1: three weeks and then you send the memes and everything
Speaker 1: is fine. So it's like, maybe the friendship doesn't need
Speaker 1: to be so intense or let's say time consuming. It's like,
Speaker 1: I understand it's your homie, you're used to it, but
Speaker 1: you know, I fall back for a little bit, see
Speaker 1: where they goes, who knows this relationship? My end in
Speaker 1: a month and boom, y'all back at it. But it
Speaker 1: happens when somebody gets into a relationship. The dynamics change.
Speaker 3: Definitely dynamics changing. You know what.
Speaker 2: Maybe I wouldn't say be a third wheel, but maybe
Speaker 2: you could get a group together and maybe you have
Speaker 2: to know the new boyfriend a little bit so that
Speaker 2: maybe he can kind of like, you know, warm up
Speaker 2: to the fact that you're going to be around, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like, maybe he can get to
Speaker 2: know you a little bit more because maybe right now
Speaker 2: all he knows is what she like. He sees that
Speaker 2: you guys were so tight and that you guys were
Speaker 2: best friends.
Speaker 3: So instead of.
Speaker 2: It being you you and them and making it like
Speaker 2: a third wheel situation. Maybe arrange something where all of
Speaker 2: your friends can come through, right, Like, then, it doesn't
Speaker 2: look like you're trying to just single him out and
Speaker 2: make it awkward.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if she's down to like include him, I don't
Speaker 1: see why it would be an issue. I think throw
Speaker 1: a barbecue, invite him. You know, I've gotten to know
Speaker 1: my friend's significant others. Maybe get you a man and
Speaker 1: just start double dating too. You get your girlfriend back,
Speaker 1: but like, girl, let's go out with the guys, and
Speaker 1: then you just hold her hand behind his back.
Speaker 2: Honey, it's you stop that right now? What are you
Speaker 2: advising her? And by the way you say it, like
Speaker 2: it's so easy for people to just be able to
Speaker 2: find a boyfriend right now, she is not trying to
Speaker 2: find a man to just keep up with her friends.
Speaker 1: Listen, your new girl, your girlfriend's new man. But like, yo,
Speaker 1: way to Homie's at what's up with of cousins? You
Speaker 1: ain't got looking boys? Make it okay?
Speaker 3: I love it? I love it, you know, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think maybe just it all comes back to communication.
Speaker 2: Letting her know that you do know. And look, I'm
Speaker 2: happy for you. I love that you have this new boyfriend.
Speaker 2: I know we're not spending as much time together, but
Speaker 2: you know, whenever we can do something just us or
Speaker 2: if you want to come through, I'm going to invite everybody.
Speaker 2: We would love to get to know him a little
Speaker 2: bit more. I think that's the better of a pro
Speaker 2: which because ten years is a long time for our
Speaker 2: friendship and you don't want to lose that.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna lose it. Just give her time to
Speaker 1: explore every little nook and cranny that manbody and she'll
Speaker 1: be back there.
Speaker 2: You go, well, I mean, I guess we solved all
Speaker 2: of life's problems. So if you want to ask us
Speaker 2: about your situation, you can always hit us up. Like
Speaker 2: we said, I'm at the Real Carolina on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I am Honey German on Instagram.
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