WEBVTT - Let’s Talk Religion – Are You Connected With a Higher Power?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Honey Germy. My parents are Dominican. I was born

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<v Speaker 1>and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a body positive advocate.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Carolina Bermudez soy nika a wins but I was

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<v Speaker 2>born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,

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<v Speaker 2>and a worker bee.

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<v Speaker 1>This is life in spanglish.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you just hear me take a big goal? Welcome

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<v Speaker 3>back everybody? Oh you didn't?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, good because I'm like over here hydrating because you

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<v Speaker 2>know we're just talking all day and welcome to life

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<v Speaker 2>in spanglish.

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<v Speaker 3>That is what it's all about. We just keep it

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<v Speaker 3>all the way.

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<v Speaker 1>Real, yem benidos. Carolina has to keep nice and loubed

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<v Speaker 1>so we can keep talking.

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<v Speaker 2>She said, nice and lubed. And wait until you guys

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<v Speaker 2>hear about the con What are we going to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about today? And that's what you're leading us in with lead.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just joking, but go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>That has to stay because I mean seen that because

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<v Speaker 2>Honey wants to talk about something today that I think

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<v Speaker 2>is really cool that a lot of people may shy

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<v Speaker 2>away from. But I love that you noticed this because

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<v Speaker 2>I have to be honest I did not notice this

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<v Speaker 2>about some of our favorite celebrities.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, for a long time, it's like I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like people are not expressing their love for God,

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<v Speaker 1>their belief, their spirituality. Like I feel like people are

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<v Speaker 1>not putting it out there in the forefront, especially on

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<v Speaker 1>social media, because I don't think they think it's cool,

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<v Speaker 1>like going to church is not cool or loving God

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<v Speaker 1>is not cool. But then I'm my very close friend

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<v Speaker 1>aj Ramos. He is successful beyond Carolina, and he has

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<v Speaker 1>incorporated his love for God into his social media presence.

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<v Speaker 1>He goes to church, he gives us even prayers, and

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<v Speaker 1>I see him as such a dope person and even

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<v Speaker 1>cooler now that he loves God and he's not afraid

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<v Speaker 1>to do it. And he's inspired me to not be

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like shy about like I love God. I

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<v Speaker 1>go to church and I see celebrities are doing it too,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, yeah, it's a movement. It's cool to

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<v Speaker 1>love God again.

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<v Speaker 2>Carolina, Well, you know, why do you think, though, why

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<v Speaker 2>do you think that it has been something that's been missing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think people saw like church and like love for God.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's say, like awilitas me my mom, Mithia, no it's

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<v Speaker 1>not cool because it's like no jo pereo rong, Like

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<v Speaker 1>how do you incorporate your love for God into let's say,

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<v Speaker 1>a social media persona that is so turned you over

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<v Speaker 1>here on boats you're you're traveling. It just didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>I guess, a space in people's lives, and if it did,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like a lot of people were holding back

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<v Speaker 1>and not trying to put it to the forefront because

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<v Speaker 1>of they thought maybe their image would change, it would

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<v Speaker 1>make it better for me. I would see you as

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<v Speaker 1>a different person that you had these type of layers,

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<v Speaker 1>but I feel like it was just hidden.

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<v Speaker 2>Or that you have that type of faith, like that

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<v Speaker 2>type of strength and that connection to your faith, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you're saying that that would make you feel more inclined.

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<v Speaker 3>To like support somebody because you know who they are.

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<v Speaker 2>You're seeing who they are, you know, like they're being

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<v Speaker 2>very upfront and transparent about it. But you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>just think in the society that we live in, it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's really become so combative. Like I'll be honest with you,

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<v Speaker 2>I guarantee you there are some people who might not

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<v Speaker 2>listen to this episode because they don't want to hear it.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>There are some people who may be so disconnected that

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<v Speaker 2>it makes them uncomfortable, or there may be people that

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<v Speaker 2>are so disconnected that are looking for a way and

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<v Speaker 2>this could be the sign that maybe they need to

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<v Speaker 2>go back to whatever it is that they believe in,

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<v Speaker 2>whether it's you know, Catholicism or you know, whatever religion that.

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<v Speaker 3>You were raised in.

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<v Speaker 2>So, you know, I think spirituality, more than anything, is

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<v Speaker 2>so important. But I do know that whenever celebrities or

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<v Speaker 2>people that you know are out there they start talking

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<v Speaker 2>about it, people roll their eyes.

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<v Speaker 3>They don't want to hear it.

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<v Speaker 2>They think that they already have the blessings, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>but like there really is truth behind it.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I am very very centered in my faith.

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<v Speaker 1>As am I Caroline, and I feel like I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be where I am today if I wasn't so plugged

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<v Speaker 1>in with my church, my faith, and my God. It's

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<v Speaker 1>it's something that you know, I feel like it makes

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<v Speaker 1>up probably like sixty five to seventy five percent of

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<v Speaker 1>who I am.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you were telling me about some of the people

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<v Speaker 2>who were coming. I know, Mark Wahlberg is a very

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<v Speaker 2>vocal I mean, he's even chosen projects I think he

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<v Speaker 2>chose a movie, was it Father Stu.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that movie. That movie is amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that when he was doing like the Junkets,

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<v Speaker 2>when he was doing interviews and things like that, he

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<v Speaker 2>had said that part of the reason why he felt

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<v Speaker 2>like he got so far in his career was because

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<v Speaker 2>of his faith. And you know how he never compromised,

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<v Speaker 2>like going to church and being with his family. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, he moved out of LA and he's over

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<v Speaker 2>in Vegas now with his family.

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<v Speaker 1>Vegas out of all places for a god, you're a

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<v Speaker 1>man that's different.

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<v Speaker 2>Well yeah, I mean I think that he just wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to get out of that fast, like LA lifestyle and

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<v Speaker 2>things like that. And you know people used to say,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't remember if it was the Church of Good Shepherd,

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<v Speaker 2>and I know that people used to say, oh, you

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<v Speaker 2>can always see him at church.

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<v Speaker 1>It like that you mentioned that because he was doing press.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what Father's too, but it was it

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<v Speaker 1>happened to be an ash Wednesday and he was on

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<v Speaker 1>TV Carol. Yes, he did not wipe it off like

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<v Speaker 1>it was just like this is who I am. I

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<v Speaker 1>went to church, I got my ashes and this is

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<v Speaker 1>going to be televised.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean what a statement though, You know what I

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<v Speaker 2>mean because typically when you do these things and people

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<v Speaker 2>who don't know you know, you go to these hotels

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<v Speaker 2>and these actors or actresses, they will do a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of interviews about the project, and so they have all

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<v Speaker 2>the different outlets like Entertainment, Tonight, Hollywood, he News, all

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<v Speaker 2>of these different outlets to go in there and you

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<v Speaker 2>basically do like just rounds and rounds of interviews. But

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<v Speaker 2>when you go in there, all of these celebrities have

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<v Speaker 2>makeup artists, and here are people and they're looking at

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<v Speaker 2>the shot and they're coming in and they're powdering them

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<v Speaker 2>and they're doing all of these things.

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<v Speaker 3>So for him to say, no, no.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not going to do that, today was the day

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<v Speaker 2>of obligation for me and I'm going to rock this.

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<v Speaker 3>That makes a big statement.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love when people make these type of statements, Carolina,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's like, I'm not going to hide who I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember remember when Kanye first came out, he did Jesus

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<v Speaker 1>Walks and he said that line, if I talk about Jesus,

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<v Speaker 1>my records won't get played. Yeah, because it's real. The

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<v Speaker 1>rejection of people of faith is very, very real. And

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<v Speaker 1>I got to commend Kanye because throughout his entire career

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<v Speaker 1>up until he decided to kind of like fade away

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of months ago, he was always very big

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<v Speaker 1>on God. But he even had the Sunday service, and

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<v Speaker 1>I commend him for it because rappers coming forward, black

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<v Speaker 1>men coming forward to media and be like I love

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<v Speaker 1>God and live for God. Unless you know your your Bishop,

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<v Speaker 1>TD Jakes or someone of them, it's just it's just

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<v Speaker 1>not common.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the thing about that too, that I thought was

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<v Speaker 2>very cool was that Kanye found a way to bring

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<v Speaker 2>people of a certain status and take them to a

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<v Speaker 2>field in California and basically strip away all of the

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<v Speaker 2>things that you know, kind of make them who they are,

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<v Speaker 2>like the cars and the blank and they like all

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff. And don't quote me on this because I

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<v Speaker 2>really don't know, but like, do you think that that

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<v Speaker 2>had something to do with him?

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<v Speaker 3>Like with the sweatshirt, the sweatpants and the sweat.

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<v Speaker 2>Like everybody was kind of like the same, Like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody was wearing the same color palette. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>that he's a designer, but I really do believe that

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<v Speaker 2>it kind of like shifted the focus instead of making

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<v Speaker 2>it about overall celebrities gathering here, and it made it

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<v Speaker 2>more about what they were gathering for.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love those Sunday services. They disappeared, he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>do them anymore, but I loved when he was doing

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<v Speaker 1>them because it's like, even if some people saw it

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<v Speaker 1>as an opportunity to be photographed or an opportunity to

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<v Speaker 1>do something that was cool, it was connecting them with

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<v Speaker 1>God regardless.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's a hard thing to do. It's a hard

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<v Speaker 2>thing to get to somebody and to really get them

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<v Speaker 2>to reveal what their innermost thoughts are about religion or

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<v Speaker 2>about God.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I know that it's challenging for a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of people to discuss it.

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<v Speaker 2>And look, I mean there are plenty of people who

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<v Speaker 2>have been through the Ring or with their religions, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I had an experience that was really kind

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<v Speaker 2>of traumatizing earlier on, and you know, it definitely, it

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<v Speaker 2>definitely changed my opinion on the Church. But like, my

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<v Speaker 2>faith is so strong that I had there was no way.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, this is what I believe and this is

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<v Speaker 2>who I am. You know, in a nutshell, I was

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<v Speaker 2>basically not granted confession by a priest because he told

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<v Speaker 2>me I was living in sin because I was living

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<v Speaker 2>with my husband or my boyfriend at the time with Mark,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and yeah, there are rules, and no I.

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<v Speaker 3>Wasn't following those rules.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that I felt such shame and I

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<v Speaker 2>almost was like wow, like here you have a person

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<v Speaker 2>who's actually active, like I actually believe, and I actually

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<v Speaker 2>do all of the things that I'm supposed to do,

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<v Speaker 2>and You're not going to grant me confession because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>living with my boyfriend. So it made me pause and

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<v Speaker 2>made me reflect and think do I want to be

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<v Speaker 2>aligned with this church? Like do I want to be

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<v Speaker 2>aligned with some of the things that they stand for.

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<v Speaker 2>So I really went through a tough period just personally,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, with my relationship with the church, and you

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<v Speaker 2>know how I felt about it. But you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>found my way back, and there are certain things that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just like not okay with and you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>have to find a way to work through that. But

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I think that it's a very personal thing

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<v Speaker 2>for a lot of people to talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>It is, and we we do have some celebrities that

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<v Speaker 1>you know, are very vocal about it. Carolina and let's

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<v Speaker 1>say ectoral father. He was. He was a reggaeton artist

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<v Speaker 1>in Puerto Rico and he lived that life, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like chains this that he was not into church at all,

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<v Speaker 1>and now he's a preacher, like he totally gave his

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<v Speaker 1>life to God and this is what he does.

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<v Speaker 3>What about the guy who's was it Farruko?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, Farruko too.

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<v Speaker 2>He won't sing badpas now because he said that he's

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<v Speaker 2>completely been, you know, he's seen the light and he

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't want to talk about drugs and things of that

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<v Speaker 2>nature anymore. And I'm paraphrasing because I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>remember reading an article about him years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it was it's crazy because this happened during

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<v Speaker 1>the pandemic, and I remember his team was like, honey,

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<v Speaker 1>we want you to interview Faruko and I was like, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>no problem, let's do it. Let's do it. We did hair, makeup,

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<v Speaker 1>we did everything. This was out in Miami and like

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<v Speaker 1>half an hour before they were like, he can't do it,

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<v Speaker 1>he can't do it, he can't do it, he can't

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<v Speaker 1>do it. Like okay, okay, okay, no problem. But they

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<v Speaker 1>were like very like I guess a little frantic next day,

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<v Speaker 1>he goes on stage in a concert and he just

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<v Speaker 1>has this breakdown, Carolina and just cries and weeps and

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<v Speaker 1>just says he gave his life to the Lord. And

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<v Speaker 1>you are right. He doesn't perform bad Bas no longer

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<v Speaker 1>because he just doesn't stand by the message the song has.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was his biggest song of his career and

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<v Speaker 1>he doesn't do it. And God bless him, man, God

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<v Speaker 1>touched him.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really important, I think for people like that to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, tell people about their journey though, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I wanted to ask you about a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of other people.

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<v Speaker 3>That you were mentioning to me.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll get into that right after the breakway. So, honey,

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<v Speaker 2>you were telling me about some people like you.

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<v Speaker 3>Were mentioning the Rock.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, I'm not very familiar with the Rock and him

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<v Speaker 2>being so vocal about I know that he's very generous.

0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:56.240
<v Speaker 2>I know that he definitely like took care of his

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<v Speaker 2>mom and dad, and you know, I believe one of

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<v Speaker 2>them has passed. And you know, I know that he's

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<v Speaker 2>always been a very kind person, but I never really

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<v Speaker 2>saw him as somebody who was very outwardly outspoken about

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<v Speaker 2>his faith.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he's kind, of like in the same realm of

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<v Speaker 1>like Steve Harvey. You know, they're cool, they do what

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<v Speaker 1>they do, but when it's time to talk about being thankful,

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<v Speaker 1>they always mentioned God. They always mentioned their faith, and

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<v Speaker 1>they're not hiding it. They're forward with it. And I

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<v Speaker 1>love the Rock for that. Your boy, Justin him, he's

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<v Speaker 1>he's amazing with the God thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh well, Justin Bieber. And see that's where I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like it's tough because why, well, Justin Bieber was associated

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<v Speaker 2>with Hillsong Church.

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<v Speaker 3>And did you ever watch the documentary on Hillsong Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I did.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I don't want to pair him.

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<v Speaker 1>With with with that, I don't know why I want

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<v Speaker 1>to separate him.

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<v Speaker 2>But see that's the unfortunate thing though, because that was

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<v Speaker 2>the association there, right like when he when he started

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<v Speaker 2>coming like being vocal about his faith and how you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he really connected with the preacher and the guy's name

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<v Speaker 2>is escaping me.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I forget it.

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<v Speaker 1>Carl Lentz.

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<v Speaker 2>Carl Lentz, yes, yes, yes, that's the unfortunate part of this.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's because you get these people who get

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<v Speaker 2>this opportunity to really highlight things that are important to

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<v Speaker 2>other people. And then they I don't know, they just

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<v Speaker 2>do a dirty you know, I mean, for lack of

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<v Speaker 2>a better term, I don't want to like because I

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<v Speaker 2>also don't know the ins and outs and all of

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<v Speaker 2>the facts about the church, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>But again, I know I know where you're coming from.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like he was making it cool, like everybody was

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<v Speaker 1>going to it was.

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<v Speaker 3>Hill it was a movement. It was I went to hill.

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<v Speaker 1>Saw in Jersey. They had they had some services in

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<v Speaker 1>Jersey and it just felt good. It was good, it

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<v Speaker 1>was young, it was hopeful, it was music.

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<v Speaker 2>Was current, like they were trying to bring you in.

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<v Speaker 2>And then it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>You see all of these ex Jose's honey.

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<v Speaker 2>I was even trying to go to a Hillsong service

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<v Speaker 2>from Long Island one time because I was like, what

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<v Speaker 2>is this was so cool?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? And there there are a lot, a lot, a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of cool churches. Like when I am in Miami,

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<v Speaker 1>I go to vou and Rich Wilkerson is the pastor.

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<v Speaker 1>He actually married Kim and Kanye and he has like

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<v Speaker 1>the dopest movement out in Miami. If you're listening in Miami,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't go to church and you want to experience

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<v Speaker 1>something dope and get close to God. WU Church is

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<v Speaker 1>the spot. It's kind of like the same way Hillsong was,

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<v Speaker 1>minus Carlinz being involved.

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<v Speaker 3>So but that's the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, you get this guy out there that you

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<v Speaker 2>know has this opportunity to really push forth the message,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you have all of these exposs of these

0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:52.720
<v Speaker 2>ex employees discussing how completely toxic it was, how there

0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:56.560
<v Speaker 2>are allegations of you know, inappropriate relationships that he had.

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<v Speaker 2>I believe that he cheated on his wife from you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I had read what I saw on the documentary.

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<v Speaker 2>And again, these are you know, I'm saying alleged because

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't there. I don't know, but you know, where

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<v Speaker 2>there's smoke, there's fire, and that is so damaging, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>because then there are people who are really on this journey.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what bothers me about it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, there really are wholesome people who are looking

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<v Speaker 2>for something to believe in.

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<v Speaker 3>There are people who are looking for that connection.

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<v Speaker 2>And then when you take that and you do like

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<v Speaker 2>I said, like you do this to it, it's just like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>then no wonder people have trust issues.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we have to start with, we should only idolize God.

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<v Speaker 1>This man is just reading the word of God. We

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't idolize let's say, Rich Wolcusen, Karl Lenz, Timberlake, like,

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<v Speaker 1>we shouldn't idolize any of them. Yeah, they're leading us,

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<v Speaker 1>but let's not put all our faith and trust in

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<v Speaker 1>a man that is just like us.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's very true, you know, And you have to

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<v Speaker 2>find that space where you know, Look, there are so

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<v Speaker 2>many impressionable people we've gotten involved in like cults and

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<v Speaker 2>who have followed these and I don't want to call

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<v Speaker 2>them religions, but they followed these.

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<v Speaker 1>Groups where natics like fanatic, Yeah, because.

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<v Speaker 3>They're searching for something and then once they experience something

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<v Speaker 3>that traumatizing, who can blame them for not trusting or

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<v Speaker 3>wanting to be involved in something like that?

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<v Speaker 2>You know. So, I mean this is like a really

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<v Speaker 2>really tough one because people are it's just such a

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<v Speaker 2>personal relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>That you have with God.

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<v Speaker 2>And now look, I mean I'm raising my kids both

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<v Speaker 2>in the Catholic and Jewish faith. Were an interfaith family,

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<v Speaker 2>so there isn't anything that we don't discuss in our

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<v Speaker 2>family when it comes to religion, which Our hope is

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<v Speaker 2>that our kids will have a broader view where they'll

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<v Speaker 2>be more accepting and more understanding of people that have

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<v Speaker 2>different religions. You know, we told them, we're like, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what, We're giving you the tools with these two

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<v Speaker 2>things that we know, but that doesn't limit you to

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<v Speaker 2>that when you get older, if you want to study

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<v Speaker 2>different types of religion or theology or whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 1>They want to pick out the turn and study it,

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<v Speaker 1>that's on you, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think exactly, and I welcome that teach me something, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I need So no for real, because like.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just so open to it.

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<v Speaker 2>But there are also families who only have this myopitay

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<v Speaker 2>like this, they only have one view and that's it,

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<v Speaker 2>and they don't allow.

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<v Speaker 3>For exploration, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just think that as we continue, as my

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<v Speaker 2>kids get older, my hope is that you know, you

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<v Speaker 2>turn on the TV and you see that, like, there

0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:41.239
<v Speaker 2>are certain people who are against certain religions, and there

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<v Speaker 2>are certain people who, like you know, are targeting different religions.

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<v Speaker 2>And that is so absolutely horrifying to me because you

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<v Speaker 2>would think in twenty twenty three we would have more

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<v Speaker 2>of an open view, a more welcoming view, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, unity, tolerance, like we it's humanity. It's like, how

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<v Speaker 1>are we still committing hate crimes based on faith and religion?

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<v Speaker 1>Like that blows my mind?

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<v Speaker 3>Mmmm mm hmmm mm hmmm. Yeah, it's just it's so crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know what, but that's like the world that

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<v Speaker 3>we live in.

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<v Speaker 2>So, you know, as uncomfortable as it makes people, I

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<v Speaker 2>think that we have to have these conversations and be

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<v Speaker 2>open to having them because so many people are unwilling.

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<v Speaker 2>And the thing is, it's like, just because you believe

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<v Speaker 2>something that I don't, that doesn't make you a terrible person.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely not, especially when it's faith based, like we're both

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<v Speaker 1>trying to become better and you know, connect with a

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<v Speaker 1>higher being just on that strength with the same.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's I always say to my boys, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>there is always something more, There's something higher, there's something

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<v Speaker 2>that is unexplainable that you know is responsible for us.

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<v Speaker 2>And I always say to them, you know, at night

0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:52.359
<v Speaker 2>before you go to bed, I mean because I pray,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I want you to have that relationship where

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<v Speaker 2>you feel that connection because it's such a beautiful thing

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<v Speaker 2>once you experience it, and I know, you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about, honey, because I know that you're very

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<v Speaker 2>deeply rooted in your faith, and that's what I want

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<v Speaker 2>for my boys.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's why I told him.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, you know, whether it's this or whether it's

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<v Speaker 2>another religion, like, I want you guys to feel that

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<v Speaker 2>goodness in your spirit the way that I feel it.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean. It's hard to explain.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what, I love Carolina that you're giving

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<v Speaker 1>them this gift so early in life. It's not that

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<v Speaker 1>they have to go through. Let's say Carlos Santana, right,

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<v Speaker 1>he attempted suicide seven different times, Carolina.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>He has since given his life to Christ, and he's

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<v Speaker 1>openly said that he plans to become a minister once

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<v Speaker 1>he's done with music. But it took seven suicide attempts

0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:45.879
<v Speaker 1>for him to find the Lord. But you're instilling this

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<v Speaker 1>in your children at what eight?

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<v Speaker 3>At seven?

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<v Speaker 2>And then but oh my gosh, I just got goosebumps.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, God told him. No, you're not right.

0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:57.680
<v Speaker 2>You are there for a reason. You have a purpose

0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:01.399
<v Speaker 2>down there. That's the reason why he's vibed. Did you

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<v Speaker 2>ever see the movie A man called Auto? No? Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>my god, Hanks, Oh honey, I need.

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<v Speaker 1>To watch I saw the preview and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm gonna watch it tonight.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 2>After the story that you just told me about Santana,

0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:19.800
<v Speaker 2>you need to go and watch this film. I was

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<v Speaker 2>watching it on my way on a plane back from

0:20:22.280 --> 0:20:24.359
<v Speaker 2>LA I was a disaster.

0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:25.280
<v Speaker 3>It was crying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I wasn't even it was ugly boohoo hooing cry,

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<v Speaker 2>like like, oh my goodness. And it talks just about

0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:36.320
<v Speaker 2>like it's not your time, you have a reason for

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<v Speaker 2>being here.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh stop, Carolina, don't don't take me down that path

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<v Speaker 1>because I've always told you. I know I have a

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<v Speaker 1>calling on my life. I don't know what it is

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<v Speaker 1>just yet, but I do know it has to do

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<v Speaker 1>with leadership and it has to do with God.

0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:53.520
<v Speaker 2>I was gonna ask you, would you ever see yourself

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<v Speaker 2>going into kind of like a ministry of some sort,

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<v Speaker 2>because I know that that's something that you had mentioned before.

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<v Speaker 3>You Know.

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<v Speaker 1>What's crazy is like I always talk to my friend Aj.

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<v Speaker 1>He even narrates for like prayer apps. He's very in

0:21:07.440 --> 0:21:09.639
<v Speaker 1>tune with God and his religion, and he tells me

0:21:09.680 --> 0:21:12.320
<v Speaker 1>all the time. There is something there. We're going to

0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:14.359
<v Speaker 1>figure it out. You have a light, you have a calling.

0:21:14.440 --> 0:21:16.320
<v Speaker 1>We just got to figure out what it is. But

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to even if it means like, okay, stop,

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<v Speaker 1>no more celebrity news, stop, no more celebrity interviews, I

0:21:23.000 --> 0:21:26.280
<v Speaker 1>would switch all that Carolina to serve God and to

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<v Speaker 1>help people find their faith. I'll turn it off today,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you, but I gotta find I gotta find

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<v Speaker 1>my group. I gotta find my people. And I got

0:21:35.359 --> 0:21:38.160
<v Speaker 1>to really feel like this is it, this is the day,

0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:42.000
<v Speaker 1>and my mission starts now. And I guess my data

0:21:42.040 --> 0:21:44.080
<v Speaker 1>is not here yet. You'll see it, don't worry, you'll

0:21:44.080 --> 0:21:45.560
<v Speaker 1>see it till then we'll be here.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, on that note, we're going to take a break

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<v Speaker 2>and then we are going to come back because we

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<v Speaker 2>have to answer your questions in the salon.

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<v Speaker 3>So all right now we're back.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, man, this was like not a heavy episode,

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<v Speaker 2>but a heavy episode.

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<v Speaker 3>But I feel like in a good way.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, a deep episode. That's what. That's the way

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<v Speaker 1>deep as absolutely.

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<v Speaker 3>I like deep better.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So we ask you guys to send us your

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<v Speaker 2>questions Life in Spanglish at gmail dot com. And we

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes get different types of listen. I have answered some

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<v Speaker 2>of these not on the podcast because I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>some of them are so personal and I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to be airing out your dirty laundry.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, we pick some of the ones that.

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<v Speaker 2>We feel like are a little bit more relatable to people.

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<v Speaker 2>But definitely definitely let us know. You can always hit

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<v Speaker 2>us in the DMS. I'm at the real Carolina, Honey

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<v Speaker 2>you are.

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<v Speaker 1>I am Honey German on Instagram, and if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to reach me anywhere else, I'm just playing on Honey German,

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<v Speaker 1>the only one out here in these streets.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So, so basically, we ask you guys to send us

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<v Speaker 2>your problems and then we want to hear all about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and we try to help you with some solutions. I

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<v Speaker 2>will tell you most of the time, Honey and I

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<v Speaker 2>do not agree.

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<v Speaker 1>So Charlena gives the good advice and I'll just tell

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<v Speaker 1>you advice that might get you locked up.

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<v Speaker 3>You stop it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we both keep it very real and very true

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<v Speaker 2>to who we are. So we got this letter and

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<v Speaker 2>it says, dear Honey and Carolina. I'm writing in because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm currently going through it. My best friend let's call

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<v Speaker 2>her Rosa. Just told me she needed some space in

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<v Speaker 2>our friendship because I am too attached. We have been

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<v Speaker 2>practically inseparable, almost like sisters for about ten years with

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<v Speaker 2>no issues.

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<v Speaker 3>But recently she.

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<v Speaker 2>Got a new boyfriend and I noticed that she's been

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<v Speaker 2>acting different. I want to bring it up that it

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<v Speaker 2>could be the new boyfriend, but I also don't want

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<v Speaker 2>this friendship to implode. I'm not sure what to do

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<v Speaker 2>and could use your advice. Sincerely from Luisa. Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 2>here's what I get from this letter. At it, your

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<v Speaker 2>girl got herself a new man and you're getting cut

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<v Speaker 2>out of the equation. There is not enough time being

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<v Speaker 2>distributed among all people, and I feel like you're feeling

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit slighted.

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<v Speaker 1>It happens a lot, but I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Like the way she put She said we needed some

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<v Speaker 2>space in our friendship because I am air quotes too attached.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I'm hanging on to that because like,

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<v Speaker 2>did the boyfriend say something to her?

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<v Speaker 3>Is she feeling some type of way? Like what do

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<v Speaker 3>you think about that?

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<v Speaker 1>It could be. I feel like when people enter new relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>they want to give all their time to this new person,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you're heavy, you want to not hang out

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<v Speaker 1>with nobody but them. So maybe she did mention it, like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm neglecting my best friend. It was always about us.

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<v Speaker 1>It was always every day her, We talk all day.

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<v Speaker 1>And he probably did say that girl's too attach to you.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna have to tell her to fall back if

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<v Speaker 1>this is gonna work for us. So it could be

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<v Speaker 1>that the guy told her, or it could just be

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<v Speaker 1>that maybe she's just like, I need some breathing room.

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<v Speaker 1>Ten years is a long time, especially if she wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship those ten years that was her relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>No, but they didn't have issues.

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<v Speaker 2>I would I would see if like they had a

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<v Speaker 2>roller coaster friendship like up and down always, Oh she's

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<v Speaker 2>not talking to me this week. Oh you know, we

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<v Speaker 2>had a falling out here or there. Ten years, no issues,

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<v Speaker 2>and now she's got this new boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 3>I will remind you men come and go, women come

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<v Speaker 3>and go.

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<v Speaker 2>But real true friendships, those are like gold. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a meme the other day that said long

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<v Speaker 2>distance friendships because that's what I have with my best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Long distance friendships are like gold, because this is a

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<v Speaker 2>person who's rooting for you, who's crying with you, crying

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<v Speaker 2>tears of joy, tears of sadness with you, who's there

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<v Speaker 2>to support and love you? Like, Friendships don't come easily,

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<v Speaker 2>especially now in twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>Three, so especially as adults. How about that, Carolina, How

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<v Speaker 1>hard is it to make new friends as an adult?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, now Luisa is saying she wants to bring it up,

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<v Speaker 2>that it could be the new boyfriend, but she doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>want the friendship to implode. That's the hard part because

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<v Speaker 2>then it's like she is going to immediately become defensive

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<v Speaker 2>if you bring up her boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure, Yeah, you're not gonna you can't say nothing like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>your new man is breaking us up, even though it

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<v Speaker 1>might be real, because I know a lot of women

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<v Speaker 1>that it's like every time they find somebody new, they disappear.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened to Fulana? I know, like some women are

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<v Speaker 1>like that, And it just might be that this is

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening here, and you're not doing anything wrong. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just she's wild open off a new man and anybody

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<v Speaker 1>and anybody that she can cut out to give them

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<v Speaker 1>more time is feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>It, I know, But then you know what I also

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<v Speaker 2>feel for you, Luisa, because this is a tough situation

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<v Speaker 2>to be in. You want your friendship, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't tell us whether or not you like the

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<v Speaker 2>new boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't really get a whole lot out of that.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I think is happening here is that you're

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<v Speaker 2>kind of being put to the side because of the

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<v Speaker 2>new man. And I would approach her and just be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm totally like down to give your space. I know

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<v Speaker 2>you have I would I would actually approach it this way.

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<v Speaker 2>I would say I got the message. I'm not upset

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<v Speaker 2>with you about it. I'm upset that you know we're

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<v Speaker 2>not going to be spending as much time together. But

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<v Speaker 2>I understand that you have a new boyfriend and you

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<v Speaker 2>want to explore that. But you know my feelings. My

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<v Speaker 2>feelings matter too, and you know, I just really hope

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<v Speaker 2>that we can still continue to be as great friends

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<v Speaker 2>as we were in the past, because you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>never want anybody to come between us. But I want

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<v Speaker 2>to give you your space and I want you to

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<v Speaker 2>explore this relationship. But it's almost I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I'm being wishy washy kind of let her know,

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<v Speaker 2>but don't let her know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but you know, Carolyn, I've seen memes where they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know you're best friends when you don't talk for

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<v Speaker 1>three weeks and then you send the memes and everything

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<v Speaker 1>is fine. So it's like, maybe the friendship doesn't need

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<v Speaker 1>to be so intense or let's say time consuming. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand it's your homie, you're used to it, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I fall back for a little bit, see

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<v Speaker 1>where they goes, who knows this relationship? My end in

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<v Speaker 1>a month and boom, y'all back at it. But it

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<v Speaker 1>happens when somebody gets into a relationship. The dynamics change.

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely dynamics changing. You know what.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I wouldn't say be a third wheel, but maybe

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<v Speaker 2>you could get a group together and maybe you have

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<v Speaker 2>to know the new boyfriend a little bit so that

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<v Speaker 2>maybe he can kind of like, you know, warm up

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<v Speaker 2>to the fact that you're going to be around, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean, Like, maybe he can get to

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<v Speaker 2>know you a little bit more because maybe right now

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<v Speaker 2>all he knows is what she like. He sees that

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<v Speaker 2>you guys were so tight and that you guys were

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<v Speaker 2>best friends.

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<v Speaker 3>So instead of.

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<v Speaker 2>It being you you and them and making it like

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<v Speaker 2>a third wheel situation. Maybe arrange something where all of

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<v Speaker 2>your friends can come through, right, Like, then, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>look like you're trying to just single him out and

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<v Speaker 2>make it awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, if she's down to like include him, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>see why it would be an issue. I think throw

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<v Speaker 1>a barbecue, invite him. You know, I've gotten to know

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<v Speaker 1>my friend's significant others. Maybe get you a man and

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<v Speaker 1>just start double dating too. You get your girlfriend back,

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<v Speaker 1>but like, girl, let's go out with the guys, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you just hold her hand behind his back.

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<v Speaker 2>Honey, it's you stop that right now? What are you

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<v Speaker 2>advising her? And by the way you say it, like

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<v Speaker 2>it's so easy for people to just be able to

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<v Speaker 2>find a boyfriend right now, she is not trying to

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<v Speaker 2>find a man to just keep up with her friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, your new girl, your girlfriend's new man. But like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>way to Homie's at what's up with of cousins? You

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<v Speaker 1>ain't got looking boys? Make it okay?

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<v Speaker 3>I love it? I love it, you know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I think maybe just it all comes back to communication.

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<v Speaker 2>Letting her know that you do know. And look, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>happy for you. I love that you have this new boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we're not spending as much time together, but

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<v Speaker 2>you know, whenever we can do something just us or

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<v Speaker 2>if you want to come through, I'm going to invite everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>We would love to get to know him a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more. I think that's the better of a pro

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<v Speaker 2>which because ten years is a long time for our

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<v Speaker 2>friendship and you don't want to lose that.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna lose it. Just give her time to

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<v Speaker 1>explore every little nook and cranny that manbody and she'll

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<v Speaker 1>be back there.

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<v Speaker 2>You go, well, I mean, I guess we solved all

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<v Speaker 2>of life's problems. So if you want to ask us

0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:21.160
<v Speaker 2>about your situation, you can always hit us up. Like

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<v Speaker 2>we said, I'm at the Real Carolina on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I am Honey German on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>And we'll be back next week with another episode. So

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