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Speaker 1: Hey guys. Um, I have been starting it off saying

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Speaker 1: happy day of the week. That's just what I'm gonna say. UM,

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Speaker 1: I am super excited about this episode. Um. We are

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Speaker 1: actually sitting across from one of our listeners who emailed

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Speaker 1: us and I loved her story so much I brought

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Speaker 1: her in the studio. But before we get started, y'all

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Speaker 1: know this is horrible decisions. I'm your girl, Mandy b

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Speaker 1: a k A Peg the Stallion, and I am with

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Speaker 1: my lovely co host. Hi, I'm Wheezy, and we have

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Speaker 1: an amazing um guest today where I guess before we do,

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Speaker 1: we'll let let them know a little bit who you

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Speaker 1: are and then we'll get right into the ships. So

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Speaker 1: introduce yourself and let kind of our listeners know your status,

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Speaker 1: not not not that status, but like your um sexual

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Speaker 1: orientation and yeah, she's citizen. No, you're not right here.

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Speaker 1: You know, we're not worried about ice or anything, but

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Speaker 1: um no, just introduce yourself to our audience. Sorry, Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, So I'm Caroline Tony Um. I write a

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Speaker 1: sex blog called Tales of Tony about my dating life

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Speaker 1: and dating polyamorously no monogamously. And I'm biflexible. Biflexible. What

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Speaker 1: does that mean? That means that I do not need pussy,

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Speaker 1: but I like it. So from time to time it's me. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like I don't need it, but I like it sometimes.

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Speaker 1: So if I don't, If I don't, I don't know

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Speaker 1: there's a word for that. I didn't know that's my word.

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Speaker 1: I think like fluid maybe fluid, Okay, biflexible, Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: I like that explains a lot because I'm definitely bisexual. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: See you require more often, like you like it and

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Speaker 1: you want it often and all the time. I think

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Speaker 1: about it a lot. See. So yeah, if it's there

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Speaker 1: and it's like, oh, we're drunk, we having fun, I'm

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Speaker 1: eat your pussy. But I don't just be like I

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Speaker 1: want to eat sober. Damn, don't come for me. I

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Speaker 1: don't think i'd be sober. But when I drink, I

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Speaker 1: really turned gay, Like I like women when I'm drunk. Wait,

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Speaker 1: what what what we you look over there? I'm not

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Speaker 1: I'm just thinking like, yeah, I don't think I've been

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Speaker 1: with once over honestly in a threesome. Wow yeah wow, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know now that you said that, I meant I

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Speaker 1: I need to bring up in therapy. Now I can

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Speaker 1: have pussy at two pm. Yeah yeah, no, not me.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie like so this may be because

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Speaker 1: funny because I'm starting like a list of things, like

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Speaker 1: with these conversations, even an episode in conversation we just

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Speaker 1: a list of maybe like topics I do want to

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Speaker 1: tackle once I find the right therapist. Um. And especially

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Speaker 1: because I've been talking to Joe a lot and he thinks,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I do nothing but deflect my problem

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Speaker 1: looms and he's like, you need project or yeah, project

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Speaker 1: learn that from therapy? Because if so, I made the

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Speaker 1: just I could not so before we get into our

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Speaker 1: vanilla ship, I know, y'all are just like, damn y'all,

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Speaker 1: Polly biflexible, she eat pussy, okay, but what makes her special?

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Speaker 1: Why did y'all bring her on? Because everyone be like,

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Speaker 1: bring me on the show, and wee and I will

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Speaker 1: be like, well, what makes you special? I'm fun, I

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Speaker 1: she did what makes you and your best friends so special?

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Speaker 1: much and what would add to that? She's like, We've

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Speaker 1: no response. Do you really have to to to like

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Speaker 1: seriously like dive in with somebody about like what story? Like,

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Speaker 1: drunk storytelling and just gathering content. Right. It really comes

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Speaker 1: That is not that crazy? But people like and that's

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Speaker 1: Or what Caroline? Okay? While while she is an amazing

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Speaker 1: this show, um, one of the things that really pointed

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Speaker 1: further vanilla ship this week. This one I think ties

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Speaker 1: So there was apparently a study. It says, with Bumble,

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Speaker 1: when I shake a whole lot. But when I come,

423
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:55,840
Speaker 1: you might need word before because when I'm having an orgasm,

424
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 1: I'm always like, oh I got I'm about to come.

425
00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:00,440
Speaker 1: So I can't even get a word it out because

426
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 1: but I started shaking and I wouldn't I was. I

427
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 1: said something on the live. I ain't gonna say it

428
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:09,440
Speaker 1: because it's probably problematic. It is problematic, but I'm sorry

429
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 1: if you say the M word it's not the M word,

430
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 1: but we was just joking because I told you so

431
00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:18,199
Speaker 1: the last time we had sex, I actually squirted, like

432
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 1: it all went. So I went from the jigglely Puff

433
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 1: Pokemon to Squirtle and then because now I said, my

434
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,119
Speaker 1: pussy is scored a bit because he made me squirt,

435
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 1: and he's like, what you sparted before? And I'm like,

436
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 1: not where it came out. Like it's like if he

437
00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:34,360
Speaker 1: popped a bubble and with I was everywhere into cartoons

438
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:37,720
Speaker 1: and I'm not into it now. Anyways, my pussy went

439
00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 1: from jiggly Puff to Squirtle and then like we were

440
00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:43,320
Speaker 1: just talking about how I come and he said I

441
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: had Parkinson's pussy. That's it's not appropriate, but I really

442
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 1: be shaking a lot what I can. So he said

443
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:59,640
Speaker 1: I had Parkinson's pussy and I'm like, damn you this

444
00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:03,080
Speaker 1: not don't try me if you have someone in your family.

445
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 1: This was not offensive. I'm sorry. I'm just bringing in

446
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 1: an intimate conversation that we had and I was like,

447
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 1: you not ship. I feel bad for Remember when I

448
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 1: coshed me to comment about the girl live disease yes,

449
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,159
Speaker 1: and it was like I don't know because that was

450
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 1: it was a bonus. Whatever it was, it was a

451
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 1: real good bar. But I mean, look, I'm a shaker too,

452
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 1: and I have an embarrassing shake. I shake and push

453
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,199
Speaker 1: him out. So, yeah, you know, Brooklyn Bay whatever were

454
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: gonna I don't know his name. Yeah, you've made up

455
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 1: four different nicknames for the same niggas. I don't know,

456
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 1: but they say January Bay met you at a party, Bay,

457
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 1: Brooklyn Bay, nice house Bay. Can we get a goddamn

458
00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 1: name for this name? The Bay with the nice apartment.

459
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 1: Want to call him Old Bay because he looks young

460
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 1: like old Bay. Seas were gonna call him Cramboil. Been

461
00:23:54,600 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 1: doing it, okay, so old basis not so like the

462
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: last time he fucked right, But I didn't want to

463
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 1: let him know how bad it was. Damn, this is

464
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 1: so embarrassing. I can't believes tell the story. Okay, it's

465
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:15,360
Speaker 1: five in the morning. I want to give some context here.

466
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 1: He fucked the dog shit out of me. His homegirl

467
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 1: was over, we were all getting sucked up smoking. I

468
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: was like waiting the fun right because I'm like, damn,

469
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: is this bit gonna leave? So finally he tells me

470
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 1: going his room weight naked, she leaves, he comes in,

471
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: and I noticed Nigga was tired. Fucked the ship out

472
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: of me. I came so hard, you know when you

473
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: like squeeze the dick out, because it was like crazy, crazy,

474
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 1: crazy shakes, and I was like, oh my god, I'm

475
00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 1: so sorry. I need a minute. He's like, it's okay, bro.

476
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: I couldn't. I couldn't handle it, Like my body was

477
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 1: so tied becomes So I came so hard and needed

478
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: about two or three minutes that by this time I

479
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 1: thought he was never sucked me again. Then he felt

480
00:24:56,800 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: on top of me, sleep on top of me. And

481
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys remember Sex in the

482
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 1: City when Charlotte knocked on the door and she's like

483
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 1: he feels She's like, it's okay. She's like, what has

484
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:12,919
Speaker 1: it ever happened to you? Bitch? And you know what?

485
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 1: A part of me was embarrassed to tell that part.

486
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 1: But then I thought he really used all his last

487
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: energy before he really did, and I was so so

488
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,119
Speaker 1: I cleaned that house. When I woke up that is,

489
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, good morning to you. Yeah that's

490
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 1: really now, You're right, But I mean it was intense

491
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 1: and if maybe if I wouldn't have let him, like,

492
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 1: you know, maybe if I wouldn't have waited three minutes,

493
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:37,719
Speaker 1: he wouldn't have fell asleep. That might be part of

494
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:39,639
Speaker 1: the old Bay. I don't know, But what I know

495
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:41,680
Speaker 1: is he put them all goddamn work. That dick is

496
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: so good. I'm trying to share that. I'd literally be like,

497
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,359
Speaker 1: but I only will only share his dick to like

498
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: my friends that don't live here, because I don't want

499
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: them to get into it, because I'm not splitting my

500
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: time with you. But like, he'll go out of town

501
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,680
Speaker 1: and I'll be like, girl, he coming to you'll city

502
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: want to put you out, like in a group chat,

503
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:04,360
Speaker 1: and he'd be like, your friend, really do Like we'd

504
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 1: be talking and he'd be like, you know, I know.

505
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,199
Speaker 1: I want them to know so we can talk about it.

506
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 1: I don't want them to fle me literally the one

507
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 1: threes in my hat with him. With my home girl,

508
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:15,679
Speaker 1: I only had it with her because I knew she

509
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 1: was leaving New York and moving back to the West Coast.

510
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: I said, join me, you're leading, you lead me far away,

511
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 1: but this time you're gonna have some You're going to

512
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,040
Speaker 1: the West Coast. Oh yeah, girl, come join out. You know,

513
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,679
Speaker 1: I guess I'm concerned about how good the dick is

514
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 1: and how good the sex is. I want to say,

515
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 1: because pussy fire too. He was telling his home girl

516
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 1: that was at the house while I was in the

517
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: kitchen how I was like, Top, what do you say?

518
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: He's like, yo, Like the heck crazy when you get

519
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,719
Speaker 1: that accolade. He was telling his home girls. You think

520
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 1: he's trying to have his home girls joining. And I

521
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 1: wasn't even I don't think she's in the girls either,

522
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 1: and we weren't into each other, but like she had

523
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 1: just met me, and like he was saying to her

524
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 1: while I was in the kitchen, like and she cool.

525
00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 1: She's like, yeah she did. He was like, yo, top

526
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 1: three and I was in there like, but that sex

527
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: as good as I'm scared bitch, because like we'd be

528
00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 1: fucking talking about how good the sex is and he'd

529
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 1: be like, yo, I know you about to act crazy.

530
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: I'd be like, nigga, you about to add crazy. He's

531
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: like you about to be about favorite. I'm like, favorite, nigger,

532
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: you have options. But when dick, when the dick is good,

533
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: you just have to realize. I go lie seven decks

534
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: so I'll be like, you don't do you give it

535
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:30,199
Speaker 1: to everyone like this? How do you? Honestly? Some of

536
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: them bitches are undeserving, Like you just need to give

537
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:36,199
Speaker 1: him regular dick. But told me he had work to do.

538
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: When I was trying to get some dick, I was like,

539
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: I know he's lying, and it's okay. I'm going to

540
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:42,399
Speaker 1: take the line the next time. Just let me know

541
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: when I'm grateful for whatever I can get. Let me

542
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 1: tell you something. We went out to eat and I

543
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 1: was like, I was excited to put on this nice

544
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: dress and ship and I was saying I was eating

545
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 1: this octa fast fish, and I'm like, you know what,

546
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: this is just the perk because I am blessed. I

547
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,040
Speaker 1: am just going to enjoy this one. I could have

548
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,679
Speaker 1: done it myself, but you know what, fuck it, fuck it,

549
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: fuck it. I'm not gonna say anything to sun this

550
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 1: up because if I ruined the stick, that's a fifteen

551
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:08,200
Speaker 1: minute we were away. It's my that's my fifteen minute

552
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 1: world awaite f four I am Otherwise the g w

553
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 1: B be a fucking mess and then I'd be like, damn,

554
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:16,120
Speaker 1: forty two minutes, forty two minutes versus fifteen minutes. If

555
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: it's if it's during your traffic across the g w B. Right, Oh,

556
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 1: it's all the trucks. It's where everyone goes when they're

557
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,400
Speaker 1: doing the truck routes and ship So I'll literally being

558
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: standstill traffic literally public transportation no, not not into Jersey

559
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: and not And there's no train that goes across Bronx.

560
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: This is the Cross Bronx Expressway. Yes, like fuck, but yeah,

561
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,320
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Speaker 1: We're gonna go ahead and get into our decision this week.

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00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: Um again, I'm excited. So we are going to pretty

578
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 1: much be discussing um, not only polly dating, but having

579
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: sexual um, multiple sexual partners while having an STD that

580
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: is whether curable or not curable. But how to have

581
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: the conversation, how you bring it up, um, how to

582
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: feel less shame about it, um, and to realize that

583
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 1: we you know, we live in a world where she happens. Um.

584
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: So again, do you want to go through I mean,

585
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 1: is that is that an okay way to happens because

586
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:02,719
Speaker 1: it can happen anybody. Really, we're go so immune to anything? Yes, yeah, period,

587
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:04,959
Speaker 1: I mean unless you got there are shots that can

588
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 1: help you. But the assumption that you could be the

589
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: safest person ever, you know what I mean? Or or

590
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 1: even the assumption. And I'll say, I not that I

591
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: hated that you said it, but I also don't like

592
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: the idea that we, as free spirited women associate Damn,

593
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 1: I know I should catch something because I'm doing this.

594
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 1: We should also eliminate the stigma with it. Just because

595
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 1: I have multiple sex partners doesn't make me any less

596
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 1: clean or less dirty than they say that people that

597
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 1: are more actively single are generally getting tested more frequently.

598
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 1: The same with sex work, and we sha this and

599
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 1: they get tested every sex workers, I mean people that

600
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: are more frequent with sex. Which the irony of this, UM.

601
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: I hate to put these bitches out there, but when

602
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: I was working in an office, so many girls would

603
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: come to me about the STDs that they got from

604
00:30:56,680 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 1: just a happy hour that they die at me. Meanwhile,

605
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: they're looking at me like I'm out here itching my

606
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 1: pussy and I'm like, no, man. But was crazy that

607
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 1: that was actually one of the questions that was sent

608
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: in as well, not only when I discussed sex clubs,

609
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: but when we went to hedonism. People were like, you

610
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: weren't scared you was gonna get something because those people

611
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 1: out there and be like, and it's just like people.

612
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: When you're in this lifestyle and you are having as

613
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 1: much sex as you are nine times that attend, you're

614
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: more in tune with your body. You know when something's itching,

615
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 1: and bitch, it wasn't itching the day before. You know

616
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 1: your smells more because you're in tune with your body more.

617
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 1: You please not only do you please yourself more, but

618
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: you're interacting with people where you know your body. But

619
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 1: I was reading something about chlamydia recently that said they

620
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: like compared it to a U T. I so like,

621
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: obviously some STDs you won't have any symptoms, but people

622
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: were saying they could feel immediately, like I am. I'm

623
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: that person. I'm very sensitive and I can feel when

624
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 1: anything is slightly off, Like my first time, I not

625
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 1: my first my third time going to a party. Um,

626
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 1: I was just having way to much like sex and

627
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 1: I didn't have malub on me, and I was like

628
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 1: it was like it was over there, it was within reach,

629
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: but I just didn't want to get it. I was like,

630
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: I'm in the moment, is it so great? On it?

631
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: Like the next day I'm literally a cocon ailing it up,

632
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 1: and I'm like it didn't make a difference because that's

633
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 1: show enough. I got beavid the next day, which is

634
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: again not an STD because it's just an imbalancing your pH.

635
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: But because of the scarring that I was experiencing, I

636
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 1: was just like, yeah, this is not right, and I'm

637
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: like back to Doc. Then it was like, you know

638
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 1: this is I'm like again, I'm like, this is bullshit.

639
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 1: But yeah, essentially it happens like be no, your body

640
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 1: a thing that can happen to anybody. Bro bevy can happen.

641
00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 1: Like That's why when I was on vacation this weekend, Oh,

642
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: they was laughing at me because we would jump in

643
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: and out of the pool and I said, oh, let

644
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 1: me go, Chay, let me go get my most n

645
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 1: that's for U t I to you these infections bev.

646
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 1: All of those can literally if you're in a swims

647
00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 1: or you're using different soaps. Because I'm a class difference,

648
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 1: and every time I go to gym's, I'm like, oh,

649
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: exhale this gym, that gym, and I'm just like something

650
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: doesn't fear right, and it's like, um, how about you

651
00:32:56,880 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: to choose stuff about carry the same? So for me,

652
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: everywhere I go like just I can't even use So

653
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: You're you're now dating Polly, What does that mean to you?

654
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 1: What is your Because we've got different We've had different

655
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: um people who have been on the show who identify

656
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: as Polly. But yet there's there's still different ways and

657
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 1: how you could have a Polly Amiss relationship for me.

658
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 1: So only here was before I became. Before it's like

659
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 1: a hiatus of dating in general. Um it was I

660
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: was more non monogamous, where I was just like, if

661
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 1: I met you and I liked you, I told you

662
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 1: my side issue okay with that aspect with you, and

663
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 1: then it was a person I was seeing that it

664
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 1: was just dry, like the sex was great, but the

665
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 1: comment date was no conversation, there was nothing, it was

666
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 1: just sex, and I'm like, this is not fun for me.

667
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: And then so I read after my hiatus, I came

668
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 1: back and I was like, I want a connection. I

669
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 1: want to be able to talk to you and like

670
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: you and like do things with you and go on

671
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: days with you and actually enjoy your company and have

672
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 1: you support me and like being my life in a

673
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 1: more significant way. And and that essentially became the Polly

674
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: part of it, where I forced that first before non monogamy,

675
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: where one of the partners that I'm seeing right now,

676
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: we've been dating since I want to say February. We

677
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 1: just had sex last week. So we just were dating

678
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: and having great conversations and just being with each other

679
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 1: and each of this company. But we just recently have sex.

680
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 1: So it's like the conversation and the connection is primary

681
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: the sex of the bonus. Okay, so that's what it

682
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,760
Speaker 1: means for me. Okay, that makes sense. And so how

683
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: have you um over the last ten years with your

684
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 1: new partners um with being with in this polly relationship? Now,

685
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 1: how do you introduced to the partner your status? So

686
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: it really I again, when I came back into the

687
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 1: dating scene, I did an X, I did a bunch

688
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: of different things. I was on dating apps again and

689
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:41,399
Speaker 1: so on Tinder actually put on my profile. I didn't. Yeah,

690
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 1: I put on my profile on Tinder and on Hinge

691
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 1: and to the guys that I'm still seeing are from

692
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 1: Tinder and what did so what did it say? On um? What? Yeah?

693
00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:52,360
Speaker 1: What did you say? Literally? Dating profile did I deleted?

694
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,399
Speaker 1: Let me see if I can find it. But um, yeah,

695
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: I pretty much states that I'm not a monogamous, polyamorous,

696
00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:02,319
Speaker 1: non monogamous and herpes positive on your dating profile, yes,

697
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 1: she said on Hinge and on Yeah. And she said

698
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: two of her partners she actually found on both did

699
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 1: they have it as well? All my partners Actually it's

700
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 1: just to be negative. Wow. And they so what is it?

701
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: Is it them educating themselves, is it you making them

702
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:24,359
Speaker 1: feel comfortable? What it's a dialogue, It's a combination of both,

703
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 1: because a lot of people will assume that it's tag

704
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: your attack, you have it, and it's and it And

705
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: the reality is it can be that easy and it

706
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 1: can be not that easy to because I've dated, of

707
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 1: all the people that I've been with, my longest partner

708
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: of I want to say, I met him when I

709
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 1: was eighteen, and we just recently stopped having sex like

710
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: last year because I just got tired of the ships.

711
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 1: He wasn't good enough for me anymore. He's still negative,

712
00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: So it's very possible to live a long, healthy life

713
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 1: and be with someone who's negative and never transmit the viarris.

714
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: You just gotta be really careful, really into it with

715
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: your body. Is that because you have to have an

716
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 1: outbreak for no, you don't you so you are a

717
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: contage when you're having a break. Then there is levels

718
00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: of shedding where like you don't skin outbreak at all,

719
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 1: but you can commit the virus, which is why a

720
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: lot of people contracted. And the only way of knowing

721
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 1: if you have the virus, if you've never been tested

722
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 1: for it. If you don't have any symptoms, is to

723
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 1: be tested, But a lot of times they don't want

724
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,839
Speaker 1: to test for HSV or h V one, h V two,

725
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: And a lot of people, especially people with cold stords,

726
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,919
Speaker 1: don't considerate contagious. But a lot of theirs a rise

727
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: on genital herpes type one. I eat from cold towards

728
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 1: because but that's actually just from sharing bottles, like no

729
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: no skin to skin. It's it's very rare that like

730
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 1: a person would have to be having an active outbreak

731
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: and then pass it like it had to like cut

732
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 1: their lip or open up the wound of like the

733
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: virus and then like it would be on the surface

734
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 1: for it to be happy. Yes, yeah, they can that

735
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 1: that's not an issue as long as they're not having

736
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 1: an active outbreak and or not chatting. But again you

737
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: don't know if you're shedding or not. So it's like

738
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 1: so my question now is as like we and I

739
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 1: again just got back from hedonism. We didn't have sex there,

740
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 1: but it was like an open space to have sex,

741
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: and I do frequent sex clubs. Now, I'll say in

742
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 1: the times that I've been to sex clubs, um of

743
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 1: course there's condoms everywhere, but there hasn't been a conversation

744
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 1: of status or someone coming to me saying, hey, I

745
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:14,800
Speaker 1: have this, do you still want to have sex? You know?

746
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: So what is your conversation like in the setting of

747
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: a sex club with because girl? I don't know. So

748
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:24,800
Speaker 1: I went to It was the first couple I went to.

749
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: And so prior to actually going into the party, I

750
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: went to on Reddit and I went on Facebook to

751
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:31,839
Speaker 1: act people in that policy community how would they feel

752
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 1: about a person my situation actually going into their So

753
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,439
Speaker 1: I did like a little bit of research and yeah,

754
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 1: I want to be as I want to s as

755
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 1: honest as possible, Like if they're saying if you read

756
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 1: the guidelines, none of them ever say you can't come

757
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 1: if you haven't you know, they don't. So it's just

758
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 1: like okay, So I asked and they're like, just be

759
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: honest and just disclosed. One person gave me the advice

760
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,800
Speaker 1: to get their earlier second socialized and feel less stressed

761
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 1: out about like engaging, and I was like, okay, that

762
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,720
Speaker 1: works for me. So I end up going into the party,

763
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: I said at the bar, and I end up speaking

764
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 1: to one guy and I told him my status and

765
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: he was like, okay, thank you for telling me. Again,

766
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,319
Speaker 1: it's a lot of thank you for telling me. Oh,

767
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you're dealing with that conversation, but I'm just like,

768
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,320
Speaker 1: it happens. I'm human being. We all do. It's what

769
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 1: it is. And eventually he was like, so I would

770
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 1: like to go upstairs, you know. I'm like, okay, let's

771
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 1: go and we use a condom and I ate some

772
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 1: pussy balls up there. He had text with me and

773
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 1: it was like, great, you know my Arab affliction is

774
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: down here, so anything I can do with my mouth

775
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 1: is never risk any of my partner. So that's why, right,

776
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:26,359
Speaker 1: I'm open to eating and sucking versus like I had

777
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 1: to talk to you before we actually engage. I wanted

778
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 1: to mention like she said that it doesn't say that

779
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: you can come in if you have an STD. I

780
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 1: went to one sex party, um where you had to

781
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,799
Speaker 1: email your pictures before and stuff like that, and they

782
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 1: did ask for a photo of your i D and

783
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 1: then your results, like it had to be within a

784
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:48,280
Speaker 1: forty five day window, um. And what I found interesting

785
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: is to check the i D and like send the

786
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 1: result to make sure it's the same name, Like I

787
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 1: liked that they did that. I thought it was dope.

788
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 1: And then I think that they were talking about her pies.

789
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: So you know, how like have you ever looked at

790
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: your results and seeing how to'll say less than a

791
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:05,320
Speaker 1: certain percent Yes, they were showing the weight, like what

792
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 1: kind of percentage you can have? Wow? Yeah, because it's

793
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: like because essentially ideas that everybody has some form of

794
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: baby if you have, I think that I think there's

795
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 1: there's a totally different eight different types, and so that's

796
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: also why they're not tested, because all of us hold

797
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: at least one strain of it, and a lot of

798
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: us have had chicken pox growing up. Like it's just

799
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,839
Speaker 1: especially if you're a nineties baby or before. I don't

800
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 1: think chicken pox is a thing now with the with

801
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: the right, but a lot of us who were born

802
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 1: in either um the early nineties or before that was

803
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 1: a common thing. At some point you get chicken pox

804
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,200
Speaker 1: and then you can't go to school, and then once

805
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 1: it's all over and all the stoords are off, you know,

806
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: you get back to class um. So I guess, I

807
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,800
Speaker 1: guess I'm trying to think how I would respond to

808
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 1: someone telling me that, but I also think that this

809
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 1: goes to what we were saying earlier, when you are

810
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: open to these lifestyles, so the swinging lifestyles, the sex clubs.

811
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: I don't think shame is as attached to as t

812
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: DS as someone who's a little bit more closed minded,

813
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna lie. I was talking to this

814
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: guy find as Hell, and we were going through what

815
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 1: we liked in the bed, and I brought up like

816
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 1: Kinks and things that I was into, um, and of

817
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: course I brought up pegging and he was like, oh, yeah, nah,

818
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 1: I don't think I could suck you now because if

819
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 1: you if if you suck the nigga that lets you

820
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 1: peg them, that means he sucks with guys, and if

821
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 1: he works with guys, that means I don't know what

822
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 1: you got type ship. And I was like, you think

823
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:42,959
Speaker 1: because literally this was our conversation and it nigga plays

824
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: football just a little and I was just like, we

825
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: literally had to get into the conversation. I said, so

826
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 1: this is me opening what I'm saying to you. But

827
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: you don't think that you're dealing with a woman who's

828
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: casually fucking you think she knows everything that those men

829
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: have done and everything that the women that they've done

830
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 1: have done, like to be so closed minded when I'm

831
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,840
Speaker 1: telling you, it's like it really amazes me, like the

832
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 1: people who aren't in this lifestyle, how close minded they are,

833
00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: but to even still associate diseases back to gay men.

834
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 1: Like a few weeks ago to Miami, where there's three

835
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:16,800
Speaker 1: people at the table next to me. I was not

836
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 1: with these people, and I guess the girl brought a

837
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: gay friend, and so there was two men at the

838
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: table and a girl. This is the context. I just

839
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 1: hear her saying like, wow, my nigga, Like you don't

840
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: fucking know shit about him, Like like you worried about

841
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 1: a fucking sip of a drink? Are you serious? I

842
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: guess the dude maybe took a sip of some and

843
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 1: she was like, I'm the one who's a fucking bottle girl.

844
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm probably more liable to have ship than him. And

845
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 1: I was like that ship was so funny. And I'm

846
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 1: thinking to myself, like, you know, and and this is

847
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 1: no shade to like bottle girls are in the timan industry,

848
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: but like, seriously, though, it's like the avenue that men

849
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,399
Speaker 1: meet women in which is semi sex industry when it's

850
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 1: tripping or things like that, but like such a stigma

851
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 1: on gay men, such a freak out, such an inner homophobia.

852
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 1: Like I understand that it's more rampant, but still like

853
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 1: if you're hounds or that you're gonna get something with

854
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: a bitch. Either way, you think it's because I strapped up, Yeah, dumb, dumb,

855
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 1: or the idea that whoever you're fucking, you're aware of

856
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: their entire sexual history and everyone that they've fucked. So

857
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 1: the fact that he literally went from oh, you're into

858
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: this and one of the guys like a nigga actually

859
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 1: lets you do this to him, that means he's been

860
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 1: with men, And now that means I don't know if

861
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 1: I could have sex, and like I think I was

862
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: like three and he didn't have any more condoms. I

863
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: spent the night at his house and I was like, oh, well,

864
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:43,000
Speaker 1: like can we go get one somewhere? And he was like, yo, honestly,

865
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 1: he's like, I haven't been with nobody was like the

866
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: girl I talked to was like, she's a little secretary.

867
00:42:47,520 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 1: She she'll be out here. Oh the aans no one

868
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:57,320
Speaker 1: else I had to I had to cancel somebody a

869
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 1: couple of months ago because of the same ship. I'm

870
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:02,439
Speaker 1: just like, you're like, whatever you think that because again

871
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: in the lifestyle, he was like yo, and I asked him,

872
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: I just did you use a column with her? He's like,

873
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 1: that's not your business. I'm like, excuse me, it's wait

874
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 1: wait wait, wait, wait wait wait. You were dealing with

875
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 1: somebody he had sex with someone else, and you asked

876
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: him if he used a condomy and he said that

877
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:21,960
Speaker 1: it wasn't your business, but he still wanted to continue

878
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 1: having sex with you and had an ex girlfriend who

879
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: cheated on him. Like it was just like, so you're chicken.

880
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 1: We know your intuition ain't too good anyway. So so

881
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,400
Speaker 1: that's my thing too. And I think it's something that

882
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 1: for everyone listening. I think this is very important that

883
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 1: when you are having sex with someone, specifically in a

884
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 1: non monogamous fashion. Although maybe you feel like you can't

885
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:48,359
Speaker 1: be questioned because you guys are not in a relationship,

886
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:52,720
Speaker 1: it's one percent valid that I asked you about anything

887
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 1: that you're doing with somebody else in in to protect myself,

888
00:43:58,000 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 1: and you should be open enough. If I know you're

889
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 1: having sex with other people, be completely honest with me

890
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: about what you're doing when I'm not there, Like, we

891
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 1: know we're sucking other people. That's fine, but yes it

892
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: is my business if you're out here fucking people raw

893
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 1: and now you're coming to me and you potentially want

894
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 1: to suck me wrong because now, no, I'm not gonna happen, right,

895
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 1: not gonna happen. So yeah, I'm glad that you told him,

896
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 1: glad to shut the s down. He would got upset

897
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 1: with me and then again again. But the BackFlash, he

898
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 1: was like, well, you're the You're the You're the most

899
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 1: dangerous one out of all of them. Like, yes, let

900
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 1: us tell him that. I had to read him all

901
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: of his rights. I'm saying, you're a guy who had

902
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 1: your dick and two different females within the last two months.

903
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 1: I haven't had raw sex and almost two and a

904
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 1: half three years, so you need to get all of

905
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 1: your ship checked out. I said, we're not gonna go

906
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:45,359
Speaker 1: back when this is. If I see you, I think

907
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 1: you don't know me. But here's the truth. Though, your

908
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: transparency is such a admirable thing, because let's be real,

909
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 1: and what if they didn't have an outbreak and they're like, well,

910
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:56,839
Speaker 1: I'll just tell I'm not gonna tell him because it's

911
00:44:56,840 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 1: not it's funny. I was actually telling Um Vincent because

912
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: we were out in the lobby um waiting on the studio,

913
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 1: and we were having this conversation just about people admitting

914
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 1: to it and people not and I have you know

915
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: a friend that I know who million followers, does all

916
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 1: this and has herpes and decides not to disclose it

917
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 1: all to any of her partners. Not well, a lot

918
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: of well, I can answer because I was when I

919
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: first was diagnosed. I was very well in that I

920
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 1: don't know if I should disclose, because again I was

921
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 1: told I didn't have to disclose us I was serious,

922
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: which a lot of doctors are still telling people that

923
00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:38,760
Speaker 1: really yes, because they feel that condoms and using vos Alva,

924
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 1: h valtracks whatever minimize the risk. So if you're having

925
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,840
Speaker 1: casual one here, casual one there, the probability of you

926
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 1: passing it is highly unlikely. However, if you're having one

927
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:51,240
Speaker 1: person consistently seeing them all the time, it may become

928
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:54,400
Speaker 1: more transmissible. Whether or not that's here there. There are

929
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 1: doctors who are telling people, well, you don't have to

930
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:59,480
Speaker 1: telling you're serious and the fact that they and all

931
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 1: of these stuff that is a lot of us. When

932
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:03,839
Speaker 1: I was first diagnosed, I didn't other than knowing people

933
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:07,439
Speaker 1: who had serious like oral oral herpes. Those are people

934
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 1: who I asked and I said, well, how do you

935
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 1: date with this virus? Because at that moment I knew

936
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 1: it was the same thing. I didn't how I know

937
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 1: about shedding, which is when you can transurvive, that I

938
00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 1: have an any symptoms, So there was a part of

939
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 1: my mind that did not know that if unless that

940
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: I only knew that if I had an outbreak, I

941
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: was contagious. Other than that, I thought I was fine.

942
00:46:24,320 --> 00:46:26,239
Speaker 1: So I did, for a period of time have sex

943
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 1: without telling my partners until we became in a relationship,

944
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,440
Speaker 1: and luckily I had a good experience with I was

945
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 1: gonna say they received it fine, Yeah, they received the fine.

946
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: They understood, and again they understood why I didn't tell

947
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 1: because a lot of times you'll get judged by it

948
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 1: immediately rather it in and especially depending on how you

949
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 1: deliver the information, a lot of times it's like, oh

950
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: my god, I have herpes? Do you still want to

951
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: be with me? Versus and educated conversation about I have herpes.

952
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: This is how it's transmitted. You may have it, This

953
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: is the all of the things. A lot more people

954
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 1: are susceptible to understanding it, especially the reality when you

955
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 1: don't come shaming yourself it like such a badau. I know,

956
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:06,440
Speaker 1: you know, I'm a firm believer in the power of choice,

957
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,839
Speaker 1: and I think once you take someone's choice away, which

958
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 1: is why you know you putting it on your dating profile,

959
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: it's to me it's a lot, but I also get

960
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: why you do it. Yeah, now let's get it out

961
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 1: the way. Yeah, because a lot of it, and a

962
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: lot of it tied into how was dating before where?

963
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 1: Because I didn't tell them at first and I told

964
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:25,319
Speaker 1: him eventually. There was a guilt of me staying there

965
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 1: because I didn't get the initial choice, even though they

966
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: didn't contract it. Later on, I didn't want to leave

967
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 1: because I was also afraid of going back out there

968
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 1: starting all over again, and I didn't want to keep

969
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 1: having to do this conversation over nor again, so I

970
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,320
Speaker 1: stayed in relationship I shouldn't have stayed in. I didn't

971
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 1: disclose immediately, and then once I found out there were

972
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: like forums and like people who they were like communities,

973
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 1: of these people. Then I found out that shedding was

974
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 1: the thing, and I was like, holy shit. And then

975
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 1: that's when I changed my tun to be Okay, I

976
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 1: need something from the beginning that gives them got it

977
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 1: from shedding. Yeah, yeah, yeah, my exu I was dating for,

978
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 1: she was in a relationship. Yeah, that's very interesting. Well,

979
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead. I I love this talk, And

980
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 1: if you guys want to continue the conversation in the comments,

981
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:10,960
Speaker 1: If you guys have any um stories of your own

982
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 1: that you would like to share about dating with any

983
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:15,319
Speaker 1: sort of STD and how you came about with having

984
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 1: that conversation, we would love to hear it. We're gonna

985
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 1: get into our homemail real quick, um and it is

986
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: titled sexual mental Block. Hello, ladies, thank you so much

987
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 1: for what you do. I have been listening to you

988
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 1: guys for about a year. I am one of your

989
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: proud twenty seven white girl listeners. I need your advice.

990
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,720
Speaker 1: I started dating a new gus. You know, I started

991
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:37,959
Speaker 1: dating a new guy about a month ago. He's great.

992
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,680
Speaker 1: I'm totally falling for him, totally sexy, and we have

993
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 1: sexual fund together when we're partying, but when it's just

994
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: us I'm having trouble getting aroused and climaxing. I don't

995
00:48:47,680 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 1: have arousal problems usually, and I'm very attracted to him.

996
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,280
Speaker 1: When I think about him by myself, I get aroused.

997
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: When I think of him with other women. When we

998
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 1: are together, I get aroused, But I just can't seem

999
00:48:57,840 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 1: to get fully aroused naturally. AT think it's because I

1000
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 1: like him so much and think he's so damn cute.

1001
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,879
Speaker 1: He still makes me nervous and gives me butterflies. He's

1002
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 1: a fair haired, blue eyed, tall drink of water that

1003
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 1: I want to be able to funk as long as

1004
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 1: I can. I know it's mental, but I'm having trouble

1005
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:15,840
Speaker 1: overcoming it. I feel as time goes on and I

1006
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 1: get more comfortable with him, it will go away. I

1007
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 1: don't want to continue thinking about him with other women

1008
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: because of the whole sex magic thing. I did that

1009
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 1: with my ex and he went off and cheated. Not

1010
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: sure if it's related, but I don't want to risk

1011
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 1: it with this one. I'll think about it until I'm

1012
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,439
Speaker 1: ready to come. Until I'm ready to come, then stop

1013
00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: and focus on him, hoping that we will deter any

1014
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 1: sex magic from working anyway, what do you guys suggest

1015
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:39,800
Speaker 1: that would help me? We do watch porn together and

1016
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: that does help. I don't want to always watch porn

1017
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 1: though to have sex. Are there any stimulant products that

1018
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 1: don't feel like mental on the clip? Please? Any advice

1019
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 1: you can offer. I really like this guy. Sincerely frustrated.

1020
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 1: So when I read this, I'm getting the idea that

1021
00:49:55,360 --> 00:50:00,840
Speaker 1: she's associating arousal was being what because she's asking for stimulator.

1022
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 1: She said she gets aroused after watching porn, and she's

1023
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: asking for any type of products. Um, so she really

1024
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:09,959
Speaker 1: likes him. She wants to have sex. Do you guys

1025
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:14,160
Speaker 1: have any sort of maybe conversation or anything that she

1026
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 1: can do in order to feel more comfortable. I'm not

1027
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 1: like a super super wet person until like in the

1028
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:23,839
Speaker 1: middle of sex. That's the truth. Like, and I used

1029
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 1: to get super insecure about it because scissors is like

1030
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: fucking super soaker and like it's it's it's a sexy

1031
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: ass turn on. But like, I'm just not that way.

1032
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 1: It takes me more time. So generally my partners always

1033
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 1: give me head for it first, or even though I

1034
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 1: am aroused, like and they'll know I'm aroused, Like I

1035
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 1: do get wet at some point, like but I mean wet,

1036
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 1: I mean crazy wet, not like an uncomfortable drive. But

1037
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 1: I'm just not like soaked. Um, I'll be royal. The

1038
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:52,320
Speaker 1: times that I'm the most wet, and this is just

1039
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:55,960
Speaker 1: diet speaking, is when I'm drinking a lot of water.

1040
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: I know it sounds really basic, but like, seriously like it.

1041
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: It makes a difference. I've even tracked it. Um. And

1042
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 1: then I take women's daily vitamins and probiotics, and that

1043
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,360
Speaker 1: gets me more wet too, because the daily vitamins, like

1044
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 1: I don't know, I mean, I don't know how it helps.

1045
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 1: I'm sorry we didn't research this before, but on some

1046
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 1: real ship, I'm telling you what vitamins really help me?

1047
00:51:18,480 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: To me something that has gotten me um more aroused

1048
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 1: with someone that maybe I wasn't aroused with. And you're

1049
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:26,920
Speaker 1: saying that you like him a lot, So I know

1050
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:30,320
Speaker 1: we've talked about, you know, the idea of even shaming

1051
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 1: on not talking about sex too soon or coming across

1052
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:36,120
Speaker 1: as overly sexual because you don't want to look like

1053
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 1: a ho or whatever the case may be. I would

1054
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: say that it may help you become more aroused with

1055
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:43,360
Speaker 1: him alone. If you maybe play with that idea more so,

1056
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 1: secting him and letting him know you can't wait for

1057
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 1: you all to be together, um, and just maybe opening

1058
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 1: up more about the intimacy and sex that you want

1059
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:52,919
Speaker 1: with just him, Not when you're out in the club

1060
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 1: and you're grinding on him and now you're so aroused

1061
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 1: because you're having a good time, but literally leading up

1062
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:00,160
Speaker 1: to the sex where you two will just be alone own.

1063
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 1: Maybe start playing with it more, texting him about it,

1064
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: becoming more comfortable with the idea of sex just with him,

1065
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:08,360
Speaker 1: not that I not and not making it seem like,

1066
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:10,320
Speaker 1: oh my god, I know he fox and he's so sexy,

1067
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: but him with another woman, Oh that turns me on. No,

1068
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 1: I think the idea of you having sex with him

1069
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:16,319
Speaker 1: needs to turn you on just as much. I mean,

1070
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 1: being president in the moment, like is a big deal.

1071
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 1: I always try to compare things. I think I said

1072
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 1: yesterday and we were sitting with a sante and a

1073
00:52:22,320 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 1: girl asked a question, how would you feel if you

1074
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 1: knew that other person had to get off about you

1075
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:31,320
Speaker 1: with someone else? Like, yeah, it's it could be sexy,

1076
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,799
Speaker 1: but like knowing that you're not enough, Like how would

1077
00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:35,480
Speaker 1: that make you feel like, I think it's a good

1078
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 1: practice to try to engage with that person at one time,

1079
00:52:38,880 --> 00:52:41,560
Speaker 1: not in terms of monogamy, but just like being present

1080
00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 1: with that person and appreciating them for what they have,

1081
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: because I would be so upset if I'm not gonna

1082
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:49,360
Speaker 1: lie to me too, and so the idea that like

1083
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 1: and no, but I would say that's also something you

1084
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: might not want to let him know that you get

1085
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: aroused at the idea of him with someone else, but

1086
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 1: you don't get aroused at the idea of yourself with him,

1087
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:02,400
Speaker 1: because that could also just be an insecurity with yourself.

1088
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,400
Speaker 1: And I think that that is that what you're engaging

1089
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:07,360
Speaker 1: from that to feel that way too about that, because

1090
00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 1: I mean I've I've there have been cases where I'm

1091
00:53:10,040 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 1: just not fully there with the partners and it's just, yeah,

1092
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 1: I just insecurity. It's not like she's feeling jealous, right,

1093
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 1: She's not jealous, but maybe she might feel like she's

1094
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:22,359
Speaker 1: not enough. She knows that he's a tall glass of aquafina,

1095
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 1: or she him and likes the idea of people wanting him.

1096
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, now I will be real. I do

1097
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,719
Speaker 1: get off heavily when knowing them like bitches want to

1098
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 1: go with it's disgusting. Oh, I'm not gonna lie the

1099
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:37,680
Speaker 1: niggas that like I funk with, Like we get turned

1100
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:40,279
Speaker 1: on by seeing videos of us with other people. So

1101
00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 1: like anytime I'm about to have sex, like there's probably

1102
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:46,400
Speaker 1: like three niggas on my phone specifically, Like they'll ask me,

1103
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 1: hey have you lately did you record it? Like, and

1104
00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: they'll want to see me with other men and then

1105
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 1: the same like vice versa. They'll literally I'll be literally

1106
00:53:56,120 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 1: walk into the train and I'll get a fucking video

1107
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:02,000
Speaker 1: of another bit second age, like, so that turns us

1108
00:54:02,080 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 1: on seeing each other with other people, but also like

1109
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: we get excited because we do still want to see

1110
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:09,719
Speaker 1: each other and commit together, but we are both turned

1111
00:54:09,719 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: on as well by knowing we're sucking other people. It's

1112
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:15,840
Speaker 1: weird because me and the guy I'm another guy that

1113
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:18,919
Speaker 1: I'm dating, he's my primary now we're like talking about

1114
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 1: when we go to the next party, and I'm because

1115
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 1: I met him at a party, and who had thought

1116
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 1: that I would make someone I'm dating at a sex party? Whatever,

1117
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 1: you know, we got to thought and think that I'm like,

1118
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna just a sex that's what's going to be.

1119
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:31,160
Speaker 1: And then it's like I like you and we get

1120
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 1: along and we haven't but not only have to like

1121
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 1: someone then to know that they're also like in the

1122
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: same ship. I want to make sure we all know

1123
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:42,040
Speaker 1: and understand we have not been taught right. We have

1124
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 1: been listening to other women for years tell us like

1125
00:54:45,719 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 1: how they got where they got to, and they're older

1126
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 1: and they're in a different era. A lot of people

1127
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:56,320
Speaker 1: do need sex first, sometimes before the feeling that to me, like,

1128
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:59,799
Speaker 1: that's that's a huge bit of chemistry. When when I'm dating,

1129
00:54:59,840 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 1: I've feel like I need to be not only aroused

1130
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:05,160
Speaker 1: by you mentally, but sexually. Sex is a big thing

1131
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:06,360
Speaker 1: to me and I don't want to feel like I

1132
00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 1: have to go to somebody else to get what you

1133
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 1: can do. Relationships can happen from anything in anyone, any

1134
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 1: kind of situation, and I think, like, yeah, my ex

1135
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: brother first, okay, what I talked about it on the show.

1136
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:21,800
Speaker 1: I know, I want to thought we were together, and

1137
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 1: then the brothers ended up counting me as part of

1138
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:26,239
Speaker 1: the fan very much a test job before you draft

1139
00:55:26,280 --> 00:55:29,320
Speaker 1: kind of girl, and yeah, you know, not exactly, but

1140
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:36,760
Speaker 1: I mean same bloodline. So, um, I guess, um, before

1141
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: we get out of here, if you can let our

1142
00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:42,600
Speaker 1: listeners know, because you do have a Facebook support group,

1143
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 1: and then you also write a blog with your experiences.

1144
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 1: So if you can let our listeners know, maybe where

1145
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:49,200
Speaker 1: they can reach out to you and where they can

1146
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 1: open up and share more of their experiences. Because I

1147
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:53,839
Speaker 1: know this is gonna be an episode that I hope

1148
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 1: takes shame away from those who are fighting with this

1149
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,800
Speaker 1: right now, maybe people who are not telling their partners

1150
00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: and maybe they want to really get the courage to

1151
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:05,279
Speaker 1: open up about their status. Um, where can they find

1152
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 1: all of good? So my information is on my Instagram

1153
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 1: is Carolyne Tony. That's it. Um, my name is yeah,

1154
00:56:17,480 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 1: and then my blog is Tales of Tony like story Tales.

1155
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:23,719
Speaker 1: And then there are many support groups there. Um, if

1156
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:25,919
Speaker 1: you go on Facebook, if you just type in her group,

1157
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 1: they're like four or five of them. There are ones

1158
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: for like people who want to day people of color.

1159
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 1: There are also meet up groups in person and also

1160
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,439
Speaker 1: read a subgroups. I'm a part of a lovely group

1161
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:39,399
Speaker 1: called love Profound via the app meet up and it's

1162
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 1: run by a girl behind named is Devin and she

1163
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 1: We meet up once a month in Harlem and we

1164
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 1: just have conversations and making comment. It's a clear space,

1165
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:50,759
Speaker 1: but you can show yeah, she's amazing. I like that,

1166
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:53,080
Speaker 1: and this is and this is locally. So if you

1167
00:56:53,160 --> 00:56:56,120
Speaker 1: are in New York, um, definitely again reach out to

1168
00:56:56,200 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 1: her and just to have that support system and know

1169
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 1: that other people are going through what you're going through.

1170
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:05,480
Speaker 1: I think that that's why this podcast has definitely been

1171
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:08,680
Speaker 1: the success that it has, because we've created a space

1172
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 1: where you don't have to feel weird or abnormal or

1173
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 1: like you're the only person people are getting. Yeah. Yeah,

1174
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:20,520
Speaker 1: so I think that's like literally wait literally yes, yeah,

1175
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 1: Oh you're talking about literal ship. Yeah, Like we don't

1176
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 1: ever do it for fun too. I mean, I don't

1177
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 1: eat it. I'll like I lick ass, but I don't.

1178
00:57:31,440 --> 00:57:33,680
Speaker 1: Literally I didn't see you. Oh. I thought you were

1179
00:57:33,680 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 1: saying I eat ship. I'm like, I just licked the

1180
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 1: I just lick the gooch. What I literally eat? Oh?

1181
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 1: I thought she was throwing shade at me licking ass.

1182
00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 1: My bad because I'll be down there, like I just

1183
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 1: recently started. I just told him Nick, I want him

1184
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:51,880
Speaker 1: to record me while I lick his ass so that

1185
00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: I've never done before. That's video that like, no, it

1186
00:57:55,480 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 1: better never go nowhere. It's gonna be on my phone, bitch,

1187
00:57:58,040 --> 00:57:59,640
Speaker 1: And I feel like I wanted on my phone because

1188
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,200
Speaker 1: I clouds the way ship set up. I feel like

1189
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: there's levels two nudes that can leak that are like

1190
00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 1: like I I sent this nude too, just like necking

1191
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:13,040
Speaker 1: down casual, and I was like, you know what, I

1192
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 1: don't all the way trust these niggers, but this ain't bad. No,

1193
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:18,400
Speaker 1: but that's not a nude. You have panties on. Damn

1194
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 1: that camera's facing me, ain't it Okay? Well remember this

1195
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 1: minute mark before my titties end up on the on

1196
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:29,520
Speaker 1: the tube and not the you. Toddy's count is a

1197
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 1: new you could walk in in Times Square. Look both

1198
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:38,960
Speaker 1: like that. Aren't sucking nudes? Bro? You have your nipple

1199
00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 1: on Instagram. Um one nipple and it's nipples are allowed,

1200
00:58:43,480 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 1: so just you know what, thank you. Before we get

1201
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 1: out of here, I want to shout out to everyone

1202
00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: who's sitting at their desk and not because bitch, we

1203
00:58:55,440 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: really want to get on me. When I tell you

1204
00:58:56,840 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 1: y'all be at y'all desk. I gotta go back to

1205
00:58:58,440 --> 00:59:00,640
Speaker 1: my everybody who don't even got the job. Shout out

1206
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:03,000
Speaker 1: to y'all, hose Um, I do want to shout out.

1207
00:59:03,040 --> 00:59:04,840
Speaker 1: I guess we have truck drivers that listen to us

1208
00:59:04,840 --> 00:59:07,240
Speaker 1: as well, so shout out to them. Shout out to um,

1209
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:09,560
Speaker 1: you guys who are watching us on YouTube. But our

1210
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 1: biggest shout out, of course, is to our patrons. I

1211
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:16,960
Speaker 1: am a patroon. Shout out to you. What's your patrols? Funny,

1212
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: let's see probably maybe I came to the Horble's show too.

1213
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 1: That was one of my favorite shows. It was just

1214
00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 1: know they have a good time because make sure you

1215
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 1: bring your ass, yes, and bring your home girls because

1216
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 1: the bitches be ready to funk after justly that show.

1217
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 1: And people always say like, what makes a good show, Well,

1218
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Speaker 1: I don't know what. The energy. It's energy. It's energy.

1219
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Speaker 1: That would DC and the first l A show. Those

1220
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Speaker 1: were like my favorite shows of last tour. But we're

1221
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Speaker 1: hitting sixteen cities next. We're gonna drop those days later. Yeah,

1222
00:59:50,880 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 1: we're everywhere next, UM coming up. But again, shout out

1223
00:59:53,480 --> 00:59:56,760
Speaker 1: to the patrons for supporting us as always. UM, you

1224
00:59:56,880 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 1: guys are getting four episodes a month every Monday, we're here.

1225
01:00:00,160 --> 01:00:02,000
Speaker 1: But if you are all caught up and this isn't

1226
01:00:02,120 --> 01:00:05,800
Speaker 1: enough horseship for you, we dropped three bonus episodes a

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Speaker 1: month and you have the opportunity to receive merch for

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Speaker 1: our top tier patrons. Um weez the sending out sweatshirts,

1229
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Speaker 1: we have t shirts, and we're doing coffee mugs now

1230
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Speaker 1: so we can actually be on your desk at work,

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Speaker 1: or in your car or just at your house. For

1232
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Speaker 1: y'all who don't have a job, who don't have a desk,

1233
01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:25,120
Speaker 1: She's like, everyone sits at a desk, and I'm like, bitch,

1234
01:00:25,200 --> 01:00:30,000
Speaker 1: I think these holes be paying for those two. There's

1235
01:00:30,040 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 1: a woman who works for the m t A that

1236
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 1: told me that she listens to the show's shout out

1237
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 1: to y'all who don't have a desk. You ain't got

1238
01:00:38,160 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 1: one of the bitch I made one of my house

1239
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Speaker 1: with like I'm still an accounting at work. Bitch I

1240
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,360
Speaker 1: got two monitors, I got my laptop, I got a

1241
01:00:48,400 --> 01:00:51,080
Speaker 1: little squiggle chair, I got my drawers. Bitch I even

1242
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:54,240
Speaker 1: got filed like the file folders. Bitch I feel like

1243
01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 1: I'm still an account and I'd be in my account

1244
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Speaker 1: like let me. Move this screen over here, right here,

1245
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:01,400
Speaker 1: pull up a spread sheet. Oh bitch, I'll be having

1246
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:04,120
Speaker 1: it all going any who. As always, we're gonna leave

1247
01:01:04,160 --> 01:01:06,040
Speaker 1: you all with a five minute bonus clip from one

1248
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Speaker 1: of our Patron episodes. Um and if you think you

1249
01:01:08,880 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 1: like that ship and you want to listen to the rest,

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Speaker 1: become a patron at Patreon dot com back slash Horrible Decisions.

1251
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 1: If you, I mean, you will like it. But it

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01:01:16,800 --> 01:01:18,240
Speaker 1: is eighteen and up, so I know a lot of

1253
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Speaker 1: you guys going to Patreon and search us. We won't

1254
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:23,280
Speaker 1: show up because we are an eighteen plus content platform.

1255
01:01:23,640 --> 01:01:27,000
Speaker 1: So it is Patreon dot com back slash Horrible Decisions. Again,

1256
01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:28,760
Speaker 1: we're gonna leave you with a clip for that. And

1257
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 1: as always, UM, I don't know if it's Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday,

1258
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:38,320
Speaker 1: but have a rest of a week. I guess aways

1259
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:40,800
Speaker 1: we get you some dig get you some pussy or both.

1260
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Speaker 1: Um and again this has been yet another episode of

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Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions. It's Bony's beat. Hey guys, Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday,

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Speaker 1: Friddy and I ran into a girl in the train

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Speaker 1: who told me you guys always say happy Monday and

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Speaker 1: I actually I am a truck driver and listen to

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Speaker 1: you guys on a binge. She's like she listens to

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Speaker 1: like eight or ten episodes in one well, bitch, yo,

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Speaker 1: bad ship. I was like, oh, will we drop a

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Speaker 1: happy Day? Right? Okay, so we're gonna start doing that.

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Speaker 1: Then a happy day, happy happy day of a week?

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Speaker 1: What up time y'all listen to us? Do we get

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Speaker 1: the most listening on Monday or Tuesday? Monday the most

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Speaker 1: on Monday when we dropped maybe waiting bitchy, you know,

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Speaker 1: because if we late, We've only been late like four

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Speaker 1: maybe three times the entire in the two and a

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Speaker 1: half years that we've had this podcast, and if we're late,

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Speaker 1: we're like, bitch theyre waiting on the episode. So Monday

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Speaker 1: and our most listening to day. Um, I want to

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Speaker 1: thank all of you guys. Um we're Happy Day. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we've gotten into the rhythm of posting our bonus episodes

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Speaker 1: on Monday, so now you guys are getting two episodes

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Speaker 1: in a day, So I can get how maybe they

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Speaker 1: only listen to one and then maybe the second. You

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Speaker 1: can't get mad that our episodes are only an hour,

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Speaker 1: because really, you get dost working on my Spanish because

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Speaker 1: I'm going to Puerto Rico next weekend. Well, technically it's

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Speaker 1: the week that you're listening to this. I guess I'm

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Speaker 1: still there, like a fucking random trip I end up taking,

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Speaker 1: like just random, but very random, because so random. I

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Speaker 1: didn't even know about it. I just told you I

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Speaker 1: was going from the I found out from other people.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even know about this, and I'm like, oh, well,

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Speaker 1: that's nice that my coast is going on a vacation

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Speaker 1: that I wasn't aware of. You found out that I

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Speaker 1: was going to Puerto Rico. Yes, because I am going

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Speaker 1: to be a part of the friend Zone Live show

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Speaker 1: and they wanted Horrible Decisions a part of it, and

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Speaker 1: so they all let me know that they were inviting you.

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Speaker 1: I said, cool, well, we always want to support. So

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Speaker 1: I was at the Black Lady Comedy sketch Um screening

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Speaker 1: shot out. It was super cute, super funny, super black.

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Speaker 1: I loved it um and I also start today. Oh sorry,

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Speaker 1: August twod. It came out August second, so if you

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Speaker 1: have HBO, you can tune in. So we're literally getting

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Speaker 1: drinks on with Jade, Fran and Assante and they're like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I guess it's just gonna be you because we

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Speaker 1: is gonna be in Puerto Rico on the tent and

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Speaker 1: I said, she is. I said, I was unaware of this.

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad that you guys know no more about

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Speaker 1: my co host than I do because I had no

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Speaker 1: idea of let me show you where I'm going. So

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Speaker 1: here's a long story short. One of Rashida's friends rented

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Speaker 1: this fucking house. I'm gonna post it so you guys

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Speaker 1: can see it. I'll try to post as much as

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Speaker 1: I can of it. It's fucking sick. It's a thousand

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Speaker 1: dollars a night, ten bedrooms. Look at this. Hell that's nice, Like,

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Speaker 1: oh god, we're gonna see you naked and bikini's all

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Speaker 1: fucking weekend. I mean, but um, it's a scissors can't go,

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Speaker 1: which is probably a good thing because we probably have

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Speaker 1: sex the whole time. But there's just a bunch of

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Speaker 1: bitches going. So I'm excited to Yeah, that should be

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Speaker 1: a lot of fun. Um and I'm starting improv classes.

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Speaker 1: I am super nervous. I don't know what they're gonna be, Like,

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Speaker 1: no way, I hope not. I love that Mandy showing

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Speaker 1: me something, y'all. Nah nah nah, she gave the gift

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Speaker 1: for seat listen, shout out. I just want to give

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Speaker 1: I just recorded if you guys listen last week, shout

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Speaker 1: out to again Brianna Cummings and Amanda Mendez, who are

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Speaker 1: our patrons. Um Amanda brought us a gift to the

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Speaker 1: recording and bitch, I just looked a lot of price

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Speaker 1: sag and now I know she rich. I know what

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Speaker 1: she does for a living. But I'm just like, sis,

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Speaker 1: you didn't have to Holy shit, thank you. I love

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Speaker 1: mind you. The last the last guest we had on

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Speaker 1: brought us shrooms. So at this point, I just feel

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Speaker 1: like we get so many fucking random gifts from all

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Speaker 1: of our guests. We've got insects, toys, lingerie books. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, holy fucking ship. But yeah, shout out

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Speaker 1: to you guys. I haven't taken my shrooms yet. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna bring him to Puerto Rican either. Well. Jade also

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Speaker 1: told me, so make sure, maybe give me some coconut

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Speaker 1: weed ships, so make sure you can't take it when

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Speaker 1: you're in Puerto Ricotta know how it goes with traveling

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Speaker 1: with them bitches. But everyone that I've asked. I've talked

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Speaker 1: to three people about it because I just did Jada

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Speaker 1: Next Seed, so I brought them to do it with

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Speaker 1: Jade and she's like, listen, the only way you could

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Speaker 1: take these shrooms is if you're in a good space.

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Speaker 1: So if you're in Puerto Rico and maybe you get

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Speaker 1: into an argument, don't take them after Like, well, that's

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Speaker 1: really any drug the only drugs they say, So it's

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Speaker 1: like opie, Like if you take like a xan x

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Speaker 1: or marijuana, like, yeah, you can be in bed because

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Speaker 1: it'll just take you down. But any kind of drugs

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Speaker 1: that are hallucinogens or psychedelics open up, she said. Listen,

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Speaker 1: she said, if you're stressed right now, if there's anything

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Speaker 1: bothering you, do not take these shrooms until you are

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Speaker 1: literally in an ecstatic happy place, because otherwise you don't

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Speaker 1: know what your trip will be