WEBVTT - Stomp! Stomp! Clap! 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:17.320 Oh we know it's parenting. Is here again? Here we are. 0:00:17.480 --> 0:00:21.000 I'm Peter McNerney, I'm Beth Newell. Like I said, we're 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:23.560 here again. We're here again. What do you think it 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:27.280 was gonna be somebody else? What did you think you 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:29.080 were getting into? What do you think You hear that 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:32.440 awesome Mates of State theme song kick in and it'd 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:36.840 suddenly be two different people without kids? Think again, Mr. 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:41.120 I always I forget that that's our music, and I'm 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:45.519 having a completely different podcast experience to our listeners who 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:50.000 are hearing the words that I'm saying. Yeah, that's so 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:53.280 funny because I edit this so I hear that song 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:59.480 every single week, literally never. If you've wondered where does 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:02.480 that awesome theme song come from, it's made of State 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:05.800 Mates of State, which I said this on the podcast before, 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:10.280 But we're we're Mates of States fans back from our 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:12.800 college days. We always have been. And when I was 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:18.440 in college or just out of college, the female half 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:21.039 of Mats of State, I think, what's her name, I 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:25.640 don't know, Carrie Wrong, I don't know. Um. She had 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.600 a blog about like touring around with their kids, and 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:31.480 I was like, actually found it really inspirational to be 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:34.840 like a creative person can have a career and somehow 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:38.120 make it work with children. They're married, they have kids, 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:40.640 and they still do their thing. Yeah, they still do 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:43.120 their thing and they let us use their themes. So 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:46.080 they let us se themes. The story is incredible because 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:50.680 we were sending you know, the folks over at the network. 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:52.400 We're like, hey, what do you want your theme song 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:54.800 to be? Well, write it for you and Ago, Well, 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.680 here's a bunch of music styles that we like, and 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.840 we sound up a bunch of mates State and good 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:03.559 old Chuck Bryant as tonal examples. Yeah, we said, here's 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:08.080 the sound we're looking for. Everyone's favorite podcast host, Chuck 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.640 Bryant from Selfishnell movie Crush just said, Oh, I'll just 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:15.120 ask them. Of course he knows them. Of course we 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:20.680 didn't know, and they they let us use it. Yeah, 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:23.720 that's the story of the theme song. Life is like 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:26.560 a box of chocolates. You know what sometimes did you 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:34.120 ask you'll get the chocolate? Well, it's called manifesting folks. Folks. Folks. Um, 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:36.960 we started, we started using folks, and now we have 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:44.960 to use it for the rest of this podcast. Alright, folks, alright, folks, 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.360 what happened in this weekend? Are week in parenting? What 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:50.720 happened in this week? So we're finally back in our home. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:54.800 We talked about that last week. No, yes, oh my gosh, 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:58.120 yeah we recorded here last week. Okay, but now we're 0:02:58.160 --> 0:03:01.960 like settled, and the bathroom is so nice. The bathroom 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:07.240 is great. The lovely woman who UM comes twice a 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:12.799 month to clean UM was very impressed with the bathroom. Yeah, 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:18.200 she liked it. When she Yeah, she was like, oh, 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:21.720 And I was like, she's so happy to clean a 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:24.880 bathroom that doesn't have a rotting window sill. She's so 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:27.840 happy to have a bathroom that's clean. Uble She's like, oh, 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:32.080 you want me to clean this duct taped tile? Great? Um, 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:36.120 thank you. Yes. So we didn't mention this so long ago. 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:40.480 This we knew that this bathroom. But there was a 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:43.760 little soap dish in the tile wall of the shower 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:47.080 and one day you put your foot on it to 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:49.640 shave your legs, which is a reasonable thing to do, 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:51.400 and the whole thing just ripped out of the wall. 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:56.280 And so the solution was white du duct tape to 0:03:56.400 --> 0:04:00.920 cover the hole for three years and literally really all 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.520 of the naked baby photos of our children over the 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:10.680 past five years have been with a mildowy tile behind 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:16.960 them and the duct tape tile. The duct tape was 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:21.960 surprised lasted a surprisingly long time without getting gross. I 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:26.520 replaced it, probably replaced it twice, yeah again instead of 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:28.719 getting it fixed. If I have one piece of advice 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:33.600 for people for being poor, it's find the money for 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:40.080 a duck team. Um. Yeah. Now the wooden window sill 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:44.120 inside the shower that just was in the corner of 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:48.040 the of this piece of wood, it was mostly as 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:51.719 soft as a blanket. This would because it was completely 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:54.520 rotted away and causing a leaf. Because a blanket what 0:04:54.640 --> 0:05:01.440 a weird anoug is a blanket not soft. I feel 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:03.520 like we've covered the state of our bathroom before, so 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.400 we can move. Do you want to hear how I 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:09.560 got to the logic about blanket because I was like, 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:13.080 that's too soft, and then I was like a memory foam, 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:16.360 and I was like stop too weirdly, Okay, So then 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:24.160 I said blanket. We so that happened. Um. Our Christmas 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:27.200 presents are mostly packed away, although of course the box 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:31.559 we shipped back some of our presents from Chicago and 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.120 of like five boxes. The one that got lost was 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:40.480 the one that included very expensive gift cards. Um can 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:42.640 who knows what else we lost in there. We'll just 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:46.760 never remember, at least the book some pantowels fancy soap. 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:51.080 But so my dad went to the post office where 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:55.279 from which I mailed the boxes, because he has my 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:59.560 same name, and I knew exactly what time I sent them, 0:05:59.600 --> 0:06:01.800 and I had of it from my credit card and 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:03.640 the other boxes, and I was like, well, they can 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:05.640 find the tracking number because they know exactly when we 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:08.520 send it. Nope, they don't do that. No, of course 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.120 they don't. It's the United States Postal Service. That's why 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:13.000 they give you the long receipt and they circle the 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.400 thing and they say, this is your tracking number. This 0:06:15.560 --> 0:06:18.960 is now in your hands. But the thing that's crazy 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:24.440 is the that data exists very easily in their system. 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:27.280 Oh you mean the United States Postal Service has not 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:32.240 hired Harvard's top data collectors to connect their systems. And 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:36.839 you want bigger government? Is this what you want? Yeah? 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:42.000 I do want bigger, want more post That made me 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:45.280 sound a lot more Republican than let's not get on 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:51.160 this bath. So our kids had second Christmas. Your parents 0:06:51.160 --> 0:06:58.720 came down this weekend. My parents came down and um, 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.440 they had some breaks is used in the last are 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:05.120 They had a drop in the shop. Luckily it was 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:09.200 not a huge deal. They got taken care of. Um. 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:12.520 But we have a lot more presence. This is what's 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:16.360 kind of stressing me out right now, is like as 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:20.360 a virgo who's always scanning my surroundings for flaws, the 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:24.960 we have too much stuff again, and we need to 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.000 get rid of stuff. And I know it's just like 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:29.840 to swear through all the toys is just such an 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:34.600 annoying chore. I secretly throw things away. I just do it. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.440 I don't tell anyone. I do that too, But like 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:41.080 it needs an overhaul. It's we're a way, We're yeah, 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:45.560 it's overdue. It's just there's just so much stuff. It's like, 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:49.680 I think, what's frustrating, like for a lot of people. 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.320 And I don't think our family is particularly bad about this. 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:55.080 It's just that there's so many people who give you stuff. 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:59.200 But like I think our generation is like less likely 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:02.360 to own a home, like a physical home, and like 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:05.520 don't have as much space and don't have like like 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:08.600 there are is a little more conscious of the environment, 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:14.160 and our families still give us presents and you don't. 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:16.800 You can't be like, hey, stop giving us things like 0:08:16.920 --> 0:08:19.960 it's hard to it's it's all still very very nice. 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:23.720 It's nice, love it, but it's just as a sum total, 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:27.640 it's so much stuff. The next day you're like, I 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:31.120 have no more cabinets. I mean someday, I guess we'll 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:34.840 have like a playroom, but it still feels like more 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:39.520 stuff than children can enjoy. Oh, the entire blanket is 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:44.400 falling off the wall. Wow, did you see that happening? Yeah, 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.680 after you started screaming about it, I could see it. 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:51.480 I can see it dropping if you're just kind of 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:56.240 a little echoly or around Beth. Because the incredible sound 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:59.600 installation system I have, which is literally hanging blankets all 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.760 around us, we sound like a mess. What we're actually 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:07.280 doing really well, everything we're good. Um, literally have a 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:12.160 new bathroom that we've mentioned nine million times. Okay, so 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:16.800 we my parents came. Oh so then on Sunday, my 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:19.880 parents had to hang out because their car was being 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:26.080 repaired because just classic family thing, their brakes started to fail. 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:29.360 It's such a classic family things. It's not classic my 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:32.360 family thing that on the one day they're coming here, 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:37.959 their brakes would stop working on their cars, so they like, um, 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:39.640 they had to get their car fixed, and so they're 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.839 barring our car. And then I took the kids after 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:45.640 you left on Sunday to go to work. I took 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:48.959 the kids to their hotel nearby, which has an indoor 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:51.959 pool in it, which we know about because your parents 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:57.960 stayed there and we went to that and so yeah, 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:02.560 but very warm. It is in that scenario, in like 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:06.440 an indoor hotel pool that clearly like everyone is coming by, 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:10.040 like just USA pool. I feel like I want there 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:12.559 to be way too much chlorine. I mean that is 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.480 that's their safety net, just kill everything. Yeah. I'm not 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:19.800 usually like a big germophobe, but in that scenario, let's 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:22.680 or not either. But it is. It's not like the 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.960 pool ice woman every day. It's like a one time 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:28.240 visit to like the most used pool in town. I 0:10:28.800 --> 0:10:31.120 save that pool for a long long time and it 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:34.440 really dried me out. Yeah that's part of the fun. 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.520 But we took them to the pool um, which they love. 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:42.360 But of course when we got there, the floor was wet. 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:46.000 There's kids in the pool and Brin just like walking 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:50.440 a little too fast, his heel just like skidded. He 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:54.880 fell backwards, slammed his head into the ground and was crying, 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:57.880 and it was like, I mean his butt hit first, 0:10:57.920 --> 0:10:59.640 so I was like, I don't think he has like 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:02.199 a cushion, but it's like not something you ever want 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:05.520 to see happen to your kid's head. And then he 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:07.599 calmed down and he seemed fine, and we played in 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:10.680 the pool for a while, and then we're getting out 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:16.560 of the pool and then Maven just standing there like 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:19.880 barely even walking. She does the same thing and slams 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.880 like the side of her head into the ground, what 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:27.160 like just really hard like slams, and it's just like, 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.840 oh my god. And then she's like crying and like, 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:34.760 you know, and I've talked about this in the past, 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:38.080 how when we're with our families, they're not like as 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:41.000 tuned into kids needs as we are. So while I'm 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:44.960 trying to comfort throw me into that, well, I just 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:48.480 think people who don't spend every single day of their 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:53.000 life with our children are not as aware of their 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:59.840 quirks and videosyncrasies. So that's happening. And I'm looking over 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.160 at Bryan, who like, because when this happened with Brint earlier, 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:04.880 Maybe is just like stumbling around, and I was like, 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:06.920 can you please just sit down like for once, you know, 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:11.400 Like I'm just like they're both idiots. And so then well, 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:13.680 in scenarios like this where I'm like, oh, great, people's 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:18.360 lives are in danger. Um, so then I'm conforting maybe, 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:22.080 And while this is happening, Brin is like walking around 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.160 and I was just like trying to comfort maybe, and 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:25.920 my mom was like giving me a play by play 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:27.520 of how she felt, and I was just like, can 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:32.920 you watch him? Like he's just like wandering like and 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:35.560 it was fine, he didn't fall, but I was just like, 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.240 I really thought this story was going towards a third fault. No, 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:40.480 there wasn't a third fault, but I was just like, 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:45.880 that's the scenarios that I find very frustrating in terms 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:50.960 of just like you stupid kids, like just stop moving 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:55.000 for one second. It feels like in a video game, 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:58.800 we walk into like a field of land mines and 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:00.959 I'm like, okay, hey, you guys, there's this thing, and 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.440 then they're just like blonder, like they're just it's like 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:07.640 giving a kid a computer with a game of mind 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:11.080 Sweeper open and just saying, hey, guess where the minds are. 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:12.599 But I'm not going to explain the word. They just 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:16.160 start clicking everywhere. It's like buying ice cream when my 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:20.520 husband is home and expecting him not to devour it. 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:24.679 When I'm not like, well that's you, that's on you. No, 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:28.880 you've told me as the victim. It's my pahl. Yeah, 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:31.440 I said, don't bring ice cream into this house because 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:37.439 we're all going to feel bad for different reasons. I 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:43.920 don't I don't have any control. You're right, No, one 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:48.720 shouldn't be held accountable for their own actions. I have 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:54.920 an ice cream addiction and you don't respect that. You 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:57.199 know what it's it's certainly back to not having enough 0:13:57.240 --> 0:14:01.200 space for anything. It's circling back. Yeah. You know, my 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.160 parents sent me that big tub of all my stuff, 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.000 like from high school and stuff, and they're like, time 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:10.440 for you to take this. We can't store it anymore. 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:14.360 You mean like ten years ago? No, this was Yeah, 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:18.320 it was like that we had less space and you know, 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:22.920 they have a humongous house with a giant basement with 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:25.720 a lot of space. I was like, I'm not going 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:30.120 to complain but I think they can hold onto it 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:32.440 until I have space. But I still don't have space. 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:39.960 We'll never have enough space for them parents. No, I 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:45.320 just mean boomers belongings. Belongings. You mean our belongings that 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:49.720 we're expecting our our boomers to hold on to us forever. No, 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:54.360 I'm not expecting anything to be held onto um. And 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:58.200 I don't have neither one of us do I don't 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:01.280 have a lot of stuff from No, we have a 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:04.520 lot of stuff, but it's not like from our childhood. 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:15.440 I'm nostalgic for nostalgia. Nostalgia, i'd I'm nostalgic for things 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:20.360 that could be nostalgic that I don't have anymore. What 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:22.960 I don't know. Actually, don't ask me to defend what 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:25.160 I just said. I have no idea. Forget it. I'm sorry. 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:34.000 What's um um? Oh boy, oh boy, it's okay. You 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:36.800 know what it's We finally have a decade with an identity. 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:42.880 You know what I mean? Wait, I forgot to actually 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:46.280 tell you, like the best story of the week. Okay, Well, 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:48.400 let's not look ahead to the year quite yet. Then 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:52.440 go ahead. I'm sure you had something very important to say. 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:58.680 I'm not um, but I'm trying to find I was 0:15:58.760 --> 0:16:01.880 tweeting this that this week, but um, trying to find 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:05.960 the streets. The So Bryn had a played it yesterday 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.760 and his friend, one of his close friends, was over 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:14.320 and they're like, you know, just saying weird stuff to 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:19.120 each other. I think, here's what I think happened. Brynn 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:21.680 got a new book with extinct animals, and in one 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:28.720 part there's like this weird marsupial tiger thing, um, and 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:31.200 he I think maybe they were looking at that with 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:34.080 like the baby's coming out of it, and one with 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:38.640 the weird backward facing butt pouch. Yeah, that's the craziest 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:42.200 thing I've ever seen, by the way. So Bryn's friend 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.400 comes into the bedroom where I am and he walks 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:48.240 in and he goes, when you were pregnant with Bryn, 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:53.360 did he come out your butt? And I was like, 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:58.480 uh no. And then and then Bryn came in there like, 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:01.720 well did you come out your but belly? And I 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:04.919 was like he came out of my vagina? And like 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:09.119 it's just like I have to be honest about this, um. 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:13.199 And then they said like so many insane things over 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:15.800 the course of the play date. So I overheard Brent's 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:18.760 friend talking to him and he goes, do you guys 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:24.840 celebrate New Year's And Brent said, yeah, we do. Oh, wait, 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:29.280 no we don't. And then and then at one point, 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:31.800 Brinna was playing with him with his new X Men 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:35.560 toys and he said he kept he keeps insisting that 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:39.320 all the X Men are bad guys. So yeah, brand does. 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:43.520 And his logic for this I think is interesting because 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:47.159 it kind of like explains a lot of things culturally. 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:50.240 Brin is like, all the X Men are bad guys 0:17:50.320 --> 0:17:53.760 because everyone's mad at them. And he's right that in 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:57.320 the context of the show, everyone is prejudiced against X Men. 0:17:57.960 --> 0:18:02.080 So I understand failure of the definition of bad guy 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:09.280 or or he's his empathy is off both. I think 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:10.760 he's just picking up on the fact that he's like, 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:14.359 in this world, no one likes X Well. I think 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:18.360 it also like bad guy doesn't necessarily mean what it means. 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:21.359 But the other thing he said is that he said 0:18:21.880 --> 0:18:26.800 Professor X doesn't have any powers. Okay, that's that's that 0:18:27.040 --> 0:18:29.160 is very wrong, right, And then it made me wonder 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:31.000 if you watched like an episode where he's like losing 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:33.960 his powers or something. I don't know. Um, it is 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:38.240 a far more abstract concept to be like telepathic doesn't 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:42.000 have any powers for a five year old Ian Wolverine 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:45.280 is clear the band's got claws. So then we have 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:48.560 this new bathroom obviously, and Brian was showing his friend 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:50.960 to the bathroom and he showed him the new lock 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.560 on the door and he goes, there's a lock here 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:56.840 in case you need privacy. And his friend pulled down 0:18:56.960 --> 0:19:00.520 his pants and his underwear and said, yeah, I do 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:10.840 need privacy, and then he closed the door. Does it 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:14.760 look like I need privacy? Never gets old to me 0:19:15.040 --> 0:19:18.080 that are all of these kids are like I need 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:22.600 some privacy and then can you come wipe my butt? Um? 0:19:22.800 --> 0:19:25.119 Maybe it is obsessed where she has to go to 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:27.280 the bathroom and she goes, Daddy, I have to go 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:30.359 potty and I don't need help, and I need privacy 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:33.399 and I need you to when I'm done, but I 0:19:33.440 --> 0:19:35.840 want to flush the toilet. Yeah. She does a long 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:39.080 monologue every time she has to and I just go. 0:19:39.640 --> 0:19:41.880 Sometimes she says I do need help and I don't 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:44.280 need privacy, and she just like mixing. She's like, what 0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:46.639 do I feel like? Yeah? But either way she feels 0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:48.760 like she has to give us a long update on 0:19:48.800 --> 0:19:51.840 the status of going potty. I have one more important 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:54.000 thing to say before we have in this segment, which 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:56.600 is last last week. I did have one last thing, 0:19:57.680 --> 0:20:01.800 which is his friend later said Donald Trump is a 0:20:01.840 --> 0:20:04.040 mean president. We don't know if he's going to be 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:08.880 fired or not. I thought that was really smart. I've 0:20:08.880 --> 0:20:11.560 been avoiding the topic with brand altogether. I know our 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:14.360 kids don't really understand it. Our kids don't know who 0:20:14.400 --> 0:20:16.600 the president. I feel with Brandon would be cannan worms 0:20:16.600 --> 0:20:20.320 because he will start saying much more. That's exactly why. 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:24.320 Because he's going to start saying things as if he 0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:27.520 is the authority on it. I'm like, that's the problem 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.000 with our country. And then he gets create he has 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:32.639 creative license with it like you, and all of a 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:35.920 sudden he's saying things like a man can't marry a man. 0:20:38.440 --> 0:20:41.080 You really made it sound like that's something I say, no, 0:20:41.200 --> 0:20:56.119 but it's something our son has said. Now it's time 0:20:56.160 --> 0:20:59.520 for did you know this Holy crap? We got big news. 0:21:00.119 --> 0:21:07.240 It's a new segment. Crap. This segment is called holy crap. Okay, 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:10.800 we we feel bad because we're very honest on this podcast. 0:21:10.840 --> 0:21:14.560 I feel like we've been hiding something. There's really been 0:21:14.600 --> 0:21:18.200 a very big topic that we have not been talking about, 0:21:18.240 --> 0:21:22.119 mostly because we didn't want to tell our friends just 0:21:22.119 --> 0:21:24.399 because we didn't know what was happening. We wanted to 0:21:24.480 --> 0:21:29.360 know it's really happening before we had everyone's input an opinion. 0:21:29.920 --> 0:21:33.359 This also just realized we said a bunch of stuff 0:21:33.359 --> 0:21:39.720 in the first segment that we're active basically lies. What 0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:44.480 we were just talking about space and how someday we'll 0:21:44.520 --> 0:21:47.159 be able to deal with it. That wasn't lies. It 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:51.240 wasn't a lie. It was misleading. Okay, Well, the news 0:21:51.240 --> 0:21:55.679 is that we're buying a house. We're moving. We're moving, 0:21:56.119 --> 0:22:02.919 We're moving back to Brooklyn. Holy holy wrap the jolly 0:22:04.000 --> 0:22:10.720 holy cow. It's yeah, it's crazy, but we're s could be. Yeah, 0:22:10.760 --> 0:22:14.120 we've been stressed about it. We've been processing that it's 0:22:14.119 --> 0:22:19.879 really happening. I still don't fully in my mind, believe 0:22:19.960 --> 0:22:24.800 that it's happening, but theoretically it is happening. We've gotten 0:22:24.800 --> 0:22:29.679 the contract looks good. Everyone loves to hear about the 0:22:29.760 --> 0:22:35.679 legal detail. It's it's really been a big hole in 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:38.919 the podcast, and that really all I'm thinking about is this, 0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:41.080 and then I have to think. I can feel like, well, 0:22:41.119 --> 0:22:42.879 I can't talk about that, so I gotta think about 0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:47.800 something else. Yeah, it's been consuming us. Um, but we 0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:50.920 so we're moving into a property that requires a lot 0:22:50.960 --> 0:22:53.879 of renovations, so we won't be moving until the fall. 0:22:54.280 --> 0:22:57.800 So now we found a new thing to be stressed about. 0:22:58.880 --> 0:23:03.240 So tonight to make this about parenting. I told our 0:23:03.320 --> 0:23:09.000 kids about the move, yeah, and really specifically, well, yeah, 0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:10.560 we've told them about it a little bit. Um. I 0:23:10.600 --> 0:23:13.760 showed them their new home. I talked to I also 0:23:13.800 --> 0:23:17.600 talked about schools, and I saw Brin realize that he 0:23:17.720 --> 0:23:23.879 was gonna not be living near his friends anymore, and 0:23:23.920 --> 0:23:29.680 he got very sad for one second. Well then instantly 0:23:29.720 --> 0:23:32.200 he says, like we've talked about this, is like we're 0:23:32.320 --> 0:23:34.000 going to get a home and then we're probably gonna 0:23:34.000 --> 0:23:37.440 have to switch schools. And Britain always says not until 0:23:37.480 --> 0:23:40.400 I'm done with kindergarten. I mean, not until I'm done 0:23:40.400 --> 0:23:43.640 with first grade, then we can move. He changed it now, 0:23:43.800 --> 0:23:46.359 not until Maven's done with the first grade. Oh yeah, 0:23:46.359 --> 0:23:48.720 he keeps like upping the auntie. He was like, m 0:23:49.080 --> 0:23:52.440 just a little bit longer UM so that's gonna be hard, 0:23:52.480 --> 0:23:55.960 but I think he's young enough that he will instantly 0:23:56.000 --> 0:23:59.000 forget that he lived here and everyone he ever knew. 0:24:00.840 --> 0:24:04.200 Um yeah, well, hopefully we'll keep in touch. I feel 0:24:04.240 --> 0:24:08.639 like it's classic that, like like when you're just about 0:24:08.680 --> 0:24:11.919 to leave somewhere, it starts to get really good and 0:24:12.000 --> 0:24:15.040 like our bathroom is done, and then like we had 0:24:15.040 --> 0:24:18.720 this like crazy like sixty degree weekend, so we're outside 0:24:18.720 --> 0:24:21.800 and I was like actually able to have real conversations 0:24:21.840 --> 0:24:25.200 with like two different neighbors who have two different moms 0:24:25.200 --> 0:24:29.400 who have kids Brind's age, like separately, and I was like, oh, 0:24:29.520 --> 0:24:31.480 like I'm having a good time talking to them, because 0:24:31.520 --> 0:24:34.720 like usually when i'm running too them, I'm like running 0:24:34.720 --> 0:24:38.400 to work or something, or I've had toddlers and I'm 0:24:38.400 --> 0:24:40.600 just chasing them and I can't have a real conversation. 0:24:41.080 --> 0:24:43.200 It's like you're like finally get to this point where 0:24:43.200 --> 0:24:46.639 you're like I can like talk to these people. And 0:24:47.840 --> 0:24:50.200 up we moved to the suburbs away from We lived 0:24:50.200 --> 0:24:52.520 in Brooklyn for a long time and then we had 0:24:52.520 --> 0:24:54.800 a baby and we got we got out of Dodge 0:24:55.240 --> 0:24:57.359 and moved to the suburbs and had a baby and 0:24:57.440 --> 0:25:01.240 knew nobody, and you don't meet people until your kids 0:25:01.280 --> 0:25:04.280 in like kindergarten, and then you start meeting other parents 0:25:04.320 --> 0:25:06.280 and having play dates. And like, we're right at that 0:25:06.320 --> 0:25:09.560 point where we're realizing there are friends to be had, 0:25:10.320 --> 0:25:16.040 and we're doing the reverse commute, the reverse exodus of 0:25:16.080 --> 0:25:18.119 what everyone else does is that they have babies in 0:25:18.119 --> 0:25:20.160 New York and then they moved to the suburbs when 0:25:20.160 --> 0:25:23.960 their kids start to go to school. So we everyone 0:25:24.359 --> 0:25:27.640 we know and want to be around, we'll probably immediately 0:25:27.760 --> 0:25:30.000