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Speaker 1: Welcome to Local Radio Season seven, Take us to your network,

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Speaker 1: La La Locomotives. Welcome back to local Radio. I'm and

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Speaker 1: I'm Mala. You're tuning into last time on look a Radio.

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Speaker 1: Was it the oh My God Like episode? No, it

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Speaker 1: was actually the Amber Heard Meg, the Stallion comparison episode. Okay,

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Speaker 1: a heavier episode, a much more serious episode, but both

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Speaker 1: busy It was a busy December, very busy. Let's talk

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Speaker 1: if you have not seen via social media, I launched

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Speaker 1: a husband. I got married December. It was I was there,

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Speaker 1: it was beautiful, it was gorgeous. You're calling it a

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Speaker 1: I think it's like having hobbies, having shared interests, going

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Speaker 1: to going to things. You gotta go out and do things.

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Speaker 1: You have to do things. You know people we talked

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Speaker 1: friends or even lovers. We've seen it happen. We have

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Speaker 1: literally seen it with our own eyes. Look at that.

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Speaker 1: I love connection. Yeah, there's a lot of not just

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Speaker 1: us right, podcast collectives, medica, those projects of different kinds, musicians,

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Speaker 1: This like indie creative circuit. There's literally always something going on.

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Speaker 1: Go to those good events where the community where you

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Speaker 1: think you might find your vibe, you know. I think

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Speaker 1: how do I dip my toes back in because pandemic

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Speaker 1: like being a physically active member of my community, Like

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Speaker 1: I can support my friends and other like artists projects,

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Speaker 1: but showing up in person, I think like has kind

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Speaker 1: I think it's a combination of things. So yeah, I

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Speaker 1: last question, can you share any advice moving from moving

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Speaker 1: community or culture. Dang, that's a hard one. Um okay,

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Speaker 1: So first I want to say like for the time being,

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Speaker 1: think like it's very easy. Like like on the reverse,

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Speaker 1: wherever they're from and immediately they don't have this in

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Speaker 1: don't have this in l A. I missed this from

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Speaker 1: back home. I missed that from back home. And it's

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Speaker 1: like you just got here. There's a lot to learn

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Speaker 1: and see and explore. You just might find something that

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Speaker 1: let it marinate, you know again, leave your house, go

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Speaker 1: to an event, get out there. You know, I don't

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Speaker 1: like there's some pretty hop in spots. The Midwest is

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Speaker 1: like not all desolate this, I know. You know, there's life,

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Speaker 1: there's community, there's culture, there's art. Um give it a chance,

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Speaker 1: you know, get out there and see see what's up.

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Speaker 1: And also there's like I don't know what your community

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Speaker 1: is like, I don't know, like you know, heritage culture,

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Speaker 1: So I feel like that's also where the exploration might

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Speaker 1: lead you, is to like the community out there that

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Speaker 1: maybe won't replace your community at home, but might remind

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Speaker 1: I admire about her so much is she has like

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Speaker 1: brand new state where she didn't have anyone, and it's thriving.

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Speaker 1: And she comes back to visit and yes, she gets

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Speaker 1: homesick because this is where all her family is, but

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Speaker 1: And so I think, like that's something that she did

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Speaker 1: documented that along the way and has shared with me

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Speaker 1: and calls me when she's driving, like I'm driving to

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Speaker 1: this place, I'm going to meet this person. I'm trying

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Speaker 1: this is She started like taking dance classes and she's

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Speaker 1: I think was rock climbing one time. She's like just

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Speaker 1: trying the new things. And so I think, like that

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Speaker 1: sounds like maybe the little like seasoning that you need

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Speaker 1: in your life. That's a perfect example it can be done.

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Speaker 1: In fact, women are doing it women are doing it.

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Speaker 1: Look at solving problems, saving lives. So we like to

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Speaker 1: say like this is our advice, but also do what

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Speaker 1: you want, do whatever you want, and so listen to this,

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Speaker 1: but still do what you want, do you whatever it is.

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Speaker 1: It's the right thing for you. Know, we support you.

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Speaker 1: So thank you all for listening to Another Cup Radio.

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