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Speaker 1: Am I overreacting for wanting to end a friendship because

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Speaker 1: they body shamed my child? So Doodoo Queen four twenty says,

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Speaker 1: I'm reaching out to Reddit because I could not stop

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Speaker 1: overreacting with this situation. I twenty seven female, was at

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Speaker 1: a friend's house last night with a group of friends

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Speaker 1: My son will call him Adam is seven, and I'll

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Speaker 1: be fully transparent. He's a chubby kid. My ethnic background

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Speaker 1: with plenty of muscle. However, since having a child, the

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Speaker 1: pandemic and working from home again, I'll be transparent. I've

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Speaker 1: My son's biological father also has an ethnic background that

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Speaker 1: is known for being thicker belt As a result, my

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Speaker 1: I hate referencing my son's body like this. He's always

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Speaker 2: Have you read this before?

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Speaker 1: Have we?

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Speaker 2: Mmm?

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Speaker 1: I sit in here, I'll just read the second one.

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Speaker 1: I think we've read this before. Yeah, I think so do. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: Wait and.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but let's get into this next story. Sorry, guys,

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend is getting close to another man who I

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Speaker 2: Oh this is way better.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is so much more interesting the other story

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Speaker 1: that we've already read. So a thrower ay two three

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Speaker 1: nine eight five zero says my girlfriend and I have

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Speaker 1: They give you the one hundred and five book tip

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Speaker 1: jazj'z the Wise. Perfect. All right, let's get grooving.

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Speaker 2: Then we or at another hour, another thirty minutes. Sorrygez,

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Speaker 1: Let's read this new story that is new and we

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Speaker 1: have not read. Now, my girlfriend and I have been

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Speaker 1: together for five years. We're both in our mid twenties,

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Speaker 1: to find a new place to live rather quickly. Thankfully,

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Speaker 1: I do think my girlfriend and Jenna texted every now

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Speaker 1: and then. Jenna is nice enough, but her boyfriend Sam

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Speaker 1: I do not like him. My girlfriend didn't like him

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Speaker 1: Again, Jenna is nice enough, but her boyfriend Sam. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: girlfriend and Jenna. This is Jenna is the girlfriend's friend. Oh,

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Speaker 1: he's girlfriend's friend, and Sam is the friend's or friend. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I've noticed Jenna noticing it too and being uncomfortable with it.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend wanted to knock and see if things were okay.

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Speaker 2: WHOA.

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Speaker 1: That next day, while I was at work, my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: we think? Is this maybe? And I see you maybe

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Speaker 1: we know who he cheated with. I feel like there's

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Speaker 1: Why would you?

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Speaker 2: Why would you?

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Speaker 1: Why would you want to get close to a cheater

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Speaker 1: I told her I've little uncomfortable with how close. They got.

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Speaker 1: He said, she feels bad because he doesn't really have anyone.

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Speaker 1: I told her it's his fault for being a cheater,

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Speaker 1: and it bothered me. She has sympathy for him. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: That's on him.

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Speaker 1: That's really whack. She agreed to dial it back, but

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Speaker 1: I said it's different when it's a who's been ifing

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Speaker 1: I took her silence after that as a yes. I

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Speaker 2: Guess you're just trying to get mad.

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Speaker 1: I okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: I would never ask a question like that.

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Speaker 1: But why would she answer those questions? Why would she

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Speaker 1: The fact that she's answering in this way break up

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Speaker 2: Ooh doesn't seem healthy though.

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Speaker 1: To ask these questions.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like those type of questions.

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Speaker 1: Well, it seems like he's like, do you like this guy?

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Speaker 1: I think that asking those questions is a barometer for it,

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Speaker 1: and the barometer is saying that she likes him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is breakup. This is breakup material. We were quiet

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Speaker 1: I said I have to think about some things and left.

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Speaker 1: So here I am sitting in a hotel room wondering

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Speaker 1: we both did. And there are some relevant comments and

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Speaker 1: I believe an update. Yes, let's getting freaking get into it,

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Speaker 1: so make life super says this guy is great at

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Speaker 1: him at all. I'm sorry this has happened to you,

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Speaker 1: under your nose. Heavy e seven nine says, I totally

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Speaker 1: think he made the move. As soon as she told him,

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Speaker 1: he packed his stuff and left. Sorry, Op, but there

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Speaker 1: are just too many red flags here to ignore and

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Speaker 1: no contest ninety sixteen says, guys, see that, oh guy

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Speaker 1: sees this as a competition. Your girlfriend is one of

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Speaker 1: his conquests. Girlfriend likes the attention and this experience is

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Speaker 1: She doesn't sound very smart though, and there is an update.

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Speaker 2: Oh bro's not a bro.

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Speaker 1: Bro's not a bro. He is not a bro. It's

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Speaker 1: a big yikes.

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Speaker 2: Yikes. I gotta use the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll chat chat with them.

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Speaker 2: Brb umm.

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Speaker 1: But shah, let's see what you come and say. Josephine

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Speaker 1: Medola Beerqui says, not the a hole leaver, because even

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Speaker 1: if she hasn't cheated yet, she will do it in

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Speaker 1: the future. Very true, very true. And Commander Waddle says, lol,

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Speaker 1: OKOPI may as well leave her at this point. She's

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Speaker 1: gonna pull up. We're on a break with you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and Harlene Quinzell says, my man and I have the

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Speaker 1: same password on our phones. We also leave them out,

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Speaker 1: no problem. We just say no to being with other people.

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Speaker 1: I just don't understand. I just don't understand. I don't

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Speaker 1: have it like I feel like if you have something

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Speaker 1: to there are there are. I don't think that all

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Speaker 1: like a relationship is devoid of secrets. I think there

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's that hard to not cheat. Just

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Speaker 1: It doesn't make sense. I don't get it. Also make

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Speaker 1: mentioned doing a paternity test, but he said no, he

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00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 1: wouldn't agree to it because I was his and he

432
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 1: didn't want to. But you're still using this against her,

433
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 1: Like you can say, oh, no, you're mine, I don't

434
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 1: want to know and yet and then you're gonna behave

435
00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 1: this way. Uh, you refuse to talk about it after that.

436
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,440
Speaker 1: I mentioned taking a paternity test to my sister twenty

437
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 1: four female, and she was adamant that it was a

438
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: bad idea. She said it would only start arguments and

439
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: that our mother would have never cheated on him. She

440
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,639
Speaker 1: is the spitting image of my dad, as is our

441
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: younger brother and the youngest sibling. We have looks like

442
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,399
Speaker 1: a combination of mom and Dad. I told her I

443
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 1: wouldn't do it, but I still planned to. I was

444
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,119
Speaker 1: trying to figure out how I was going to get

445
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,679
Speaker 1: a sample from either a sibling or my dad, but

446
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 1: my fiance twenty six mail told me that I would

447
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 1: be a huge a hole for saying I wouldn't and

448
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 1: then doing it anyways. I argue that none of them

449
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 1: understood what it felt like, and neither did he. It

450
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 1: blew up and he insists that all I'm doing is

451
00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 1: being dramatic and trying to hurt everyone. We went to

452
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: bed angry last night, and now I'm worried that I'm

453
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,640
Speaker 1: going to cause unnecessary drama, especially if it comes back

454
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,640
Speaker 1: he's my bio dad and they find out I did

455
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:41,399
Speaker 1: the test. So would I be the a hole for

456
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 1: not telling any of them. I know they're never going

457
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: to agree to it, so I feel like it's my

458
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: only option. I realized I never mentioned how I planned

459
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,359
Speaker 1: to get a sample. My youngest brother is very close

460
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 1: to me and I haven't asked, but I believe if

461
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,199
Speaker 1: I do, you'd be willing to give me a sample

462
00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: to see if we are full siblings. I was discussing

463
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 1: that with my fiance when he said I'd be a

464
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 1: huge ale for going behind everyone else's back. I did

465
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,479
Speaker 1: not make that very clear on the post. Sorry about that.

466
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:14,399
Speaker 1: And there is a additional information from op who says

467
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: I didn't want to mention everything in the post that

468
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: truly leads me to believe he might not be And

469
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:21,879
Speaker 1: I didn't want to say the biggest reason for needing

470
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 1: to know because it scares me the most. But I

471
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 1: think this comment makes me think I may have to

472
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: say it.

473
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 2: Hmmmm. Okay, he told.

474
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:32,679
Speaker 1: Me he thinks my real bio dad is before he

475
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:36,439
Speaker 1: decided to backpedal on it. Oh well, he told me

476
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: who he thinks my real biodad is before he decided

477
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: to backpedal on it. They were family friends of ours

478
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: when I was younger, and as an adult, I had

479
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,439
Speaker 1: a brief relationship with one of the sons. We dated

480
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 1: for a while, and the idea that I may have

481
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: been physical with a half sibling absolutely, absolutely haunts me.

482
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: You were family Oh oh oh oh okay, so OPI

483
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 1: is saying that he thinks, oh, the dad thinks that

484
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,159
Speaker 1: she might be one of their family friends as kids,

485
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,679
Speaker 1: and now she's like, oh my god, I you know

486
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 1: I was intimate with one of those kids, and now

487
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: she's like, what was that? My have sibling? He knew

488
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 1: about the relationship and voiced his opinion when we were

489
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 1: together that he didn't like it. We thought about it

490
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 1: back then, but he never brought up why my relationship

491
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 1: with my parents hasn't been good for a while. We

492
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 1: don't speak much anymore. But you're right about my siblings

493
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 1: and fiance. I don't want to ruin my relationship with them.

494
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: I don't want them to think differently of me. My

495
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 1: siblings don't know about the identity of the other guy

496
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:50,199
Speaker 1: but being my bio dad. But my fiance does. He

497
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: has nothing, He has done nothing but helped me get

498
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: through that an awful initial phase. And there is an update.

499
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 1: Make a poll. Who do you think, oh piece, who

500
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 1: which child is? Do you think family friend or or

501
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: or or og dad?

502
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 2: Dude? The worst part is that like they were with

503
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: a family friend.

504
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,199
Speaker 1: That yeah, that sucks. That sucks.

505
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 2: Sad mom knows this and did not say a word

506
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 2: about it.

507
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: Oh, so can you up the til dr Maybe maybe

508
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 1: Ace makes it says she definitely is not the a hole.

509
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:37,880
Speaker 1: I feel like if you're a parent or oh it's gone.

510
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: I feel like if you're the parent or the child

511
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: and have doubts, you're not the a hole for making

512
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 1: sure absolutely and two May and four says this is

513
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 1: why you tell people these things?

514
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 2: So true.

515
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 1: It's the title, I think. And then Lord mcphart, thank

516
00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 1: you for the thirty seven bucks, go little salute. Uh yeah,

517
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 1: this is this is a little concerning, right, yeah, poll

518
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: and then do whose child is which? Which? Who's child is?

519
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: Opis is OPI? Whose child is OP? There we go

520
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: and then og dad or family friend? And then we're

521
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 1: about to find out. We're gonna jump into this update

522
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: and see what these results are. Are you ready? We're

523
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: not quite ready?

524
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 2: There it is? Vote all right? Wait? Should we wait though?

525
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 1: Wait for them to vote? Okay, we get you get like.

526
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 2: A paragraph or two in. We're gonna get the results.

527
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, everyone vote. Get ready, let's get ready, let's

528
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: get pumped.

529
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 2: But one or two? One or two? Riley noping out

530
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 2: of the story. Yeah, this is dad. I'm getting the

531
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 2: we're getting the votes. We're getting the votes. Everyone's saying,

532
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 2: fam I got two votes for fan friend.

533
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all right, all right, all right.

534
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 2: I need pictures. I wish we could have pictures of.

535
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, should we yeah, bio dad and the family

536
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 1: the question if he doesn't, if she doesn't look like

537
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: the bio dad, but does look a little bit like

538
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 1: the family?

539
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 2: Friend like, I need a picture of the whole family,

540
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 2: like group picture in the family picture.

541
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 1: And then family photo.

542
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, who is sameone saying fan friend.

543
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 1: Who's to say? Yeah? All right, let's get into this update.

544
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 2: All right, I'm gonna figure this out.

545
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: Did a twenty three and me and got results. Oh so,

546
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 1: from my last post, many people suggested doing a twenty

547
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: three in me. I found a lot of other relatives

548
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: on my mom's side, and unfortunately found out that my

549
00:30:54,760 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: father is in fact not my bio. Oh damn. This

550
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: is information I have kept to myself and I do

551
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 1: not wish to share it with anyone else in my family.

552
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 2: Oh wow.

553
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 1: I know many of you wanted to know why my

554
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: fiance was so against it and why he called me

555
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 1: an a hole for it. He told me he was

556
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: only concerned for my mental health. I was doing very

557
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: poorly and he didn't want me to risk my relationship

558
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: with my siblings. In the end, he told me he

559
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: would support me, but insisted I at least start therapy first.

560
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 1: I did, and he has been incredibly supportive. We're married now.

561
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 1: Beat Dum. The man who's my biodad will never be

562
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: able to contact me. He was already blocked on any

563
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: social media I had, but even if I tried, I

564
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: wouldn't respond as I do not trust him. In the end,

565
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: this has given me a strange peace of mind. I

566
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 1: don't set up at night and worry over it. My

567
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: therapist is helping me grapple with the terms of it

568
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 1: as well. Has helped me through the disgust I feel

569
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 1: with myself over the relationship I had with who I

570
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: now know was my halfyouchyouch yauchi chou chouch. I can't

571
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 1: tell him as he passed away a couple of years ago.

572
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: In a car. Ooh God, yes, any better?

573
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 1: This is just oh god.

574
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 2: Ooh you get to like live with that?

575
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: Oh? My relationship with my parents was severed before I

576
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 1: ever did the test. I haven't spoken to either and

577
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 1: over a year now, and I'm happier than I ever happen.

578
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: My in laws are great to me, and a man

579
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 1: I've known for years for a few years has stepped

580
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 1: in and walked me down the aisle. Oh. I am

581
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 1: surrounded by people I love and it's amazing. I really

582
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 1: appreciate everyone's support from my original post. Many of you

583
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 1: helped me with the good suggestions and no one judged

584
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: me over the relationship I had had, so I can't

585
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 1: thank you all enough. I wish you all safe and happy.

586
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: Drop and there are some relevant comments to end the

587
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: story off.

588
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 2: Yeah why would she?

589
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 1: I know? I know, it's so messed up, so achy, like,

590
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 1: what are you doing?

591
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 2: Glad you're out of there though.

592
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, at least you're not marrying him.

593
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 2: Uh.

594
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 1: Ambitious estimate says, I'm glad you were at ease now.

595
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 1: But I'm curious did this topic make you cut ties

596
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: with your parents or was it something else? Good to

597
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: hear you have good in laws, and Opie says it

598
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: was definitely one of the things that pushed it. The

599
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 1: last straw was him coming to my house to bring

600
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: my brother and oh to bring my brother over and

601
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 1: he had been drinking. He completely ignored me in my

602
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 1: own home, and my mom stood there and cried and

603
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: called me selfish for being mad at him because it

604
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 1: stresses route. That was the moment that put me over

605
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: the edge. The reality is it was twenty six years

606
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: of hell before I stopped talking to them. I posted

607
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: a few months after I went no contact. Learning the

608
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 1: truth wasn't easy. I cried for two weeks pretty consistently

609
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:10,879
Speaker 1: and struggled with identity issues. My therapist helped me through it, though,

610
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:13,799
Speaker 1: and now I am where I am now. Nearly a

611
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: year later, Zingius Cobra says, you mentioned your previous post

612
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 1: you had an idea about who your biodad was, but

613
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: then didn't mention why he's already blocked on everything. Sounds

614
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 1: like there may have been more people in the know

615
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 1: and all the adults failed you. Opie says, I blocked

616
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 1: him myself. He was someone I didn't want in my

617
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 1: life before all this came to light, and I don't

618
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:36,840
Speaker 1: want him reaching out if he finds out. I know

619
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 1: his ex wife is who my dad cheated on my

620
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:44,320
Speaker 1: mom with, so they're all messed up and feisty. Extent

621
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 1: ninety one forty says, I'm sorry for the confusion you

622
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 1: are dealing with. I genuinely cannot believe your mother sat

623
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 1: by and watched you date your half sibling, assuming she

624
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:58,839
Speaker 1: knew or had any successions. He thought it was gonna

625
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: sneeze that that must be a really difficult thing to unpack,

626
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 1: and you really don't deserve any of this, Opie responds,

627
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 1: I never understood why my dad was so angry about it.

628
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:12,279
Speaker 1: He didn't tell me what the problem was. We were

629
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,919
Speaker 1: like nineteen, and we found we weren't compatible romantically after

630
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 1: a few months, but stayed friends up until he passed.

631
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,400
Speaker 1: I feel like telling me when we first started dating,

632
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 1: before anything turned physical would have been the best solution

633
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: to all of that. At the end of it, I

634
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 1: understand not wanting to tell me, but that doesn't make

635
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 1: it acceptable, especially knowing what I went through. And Feisty

636
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: Extent says, Oh wow, so parents knew. That really blows.

637
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 1: Does your sibling know, Opie says, none of my siblings know.

638
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: The half sibling I had a relationship with passed in

639
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: a car accident a couple of years ago. My other

640
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 1: siblings I grew up with have no idea, and I

641
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: won't tell them. The relationship with our parents is better

642
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: than mine, and I'm not out to destroy their lives.

643
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 1: I simply want my own peace, and I feel like

644
00:35:58,000 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 1: I'm on the path.

645
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 2: Finally, I mean, she's handling this very well.

646
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:08,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, O, he got the information and was like,

647
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: I don't need my parents in my life. Let's move

648
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 1: on happier things. And it seems like she is.

649
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Speaker 2: That's good. That's good, that's good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Lena come in and says, what is wrong with

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Speaker 2: I mean, the dad did say something sort of very indirectly,

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Speaker 2: but the mom, come.

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Speaker 1: On, come on, come on, come on. Yucky, yucky, yucky yucky.

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Speaker 1: A Elizabeth says, O MG, her parents thought that there

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Speaker 1: was a remote chance she was dating her sibling. They

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Speaker 1: were so wrong for not telling her, dude facts, very

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Speaker 1: wrong and Bala, thank you for the ten buck tip.

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Speaker 1: We appreciate you. Kimberly Fine says that's big of a pe,

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Speaker 1: but holy isolation. Really hard to like lose your parents

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Speaker 1: in this way of just them being really really awful shicks.

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Speaker 1: But that is the end of that story, and I

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Speaker 1: We can do another one more story?

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Speaker 2: Yup?

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Speaker 1: I trying? Oh you ready? Actually S two? Okay? Oh sorry,

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Speaker 1: S one. Oh they're just sorry. They're just labeled wrong.

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Speaker 1: That's my band.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all is well.

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Speaker 1: My friend won't let me label I can't. I can't

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Speaker 1: fix that. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: What a five eight two?

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Speaker 1: S two? Right?

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Speaker 2: Okay, I got you. Boom, it's the wait did we

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Speaker 2: do it? Yeah? I labeled it the fourteen under word

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into it. I'm trying to buy a

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Speaker 1: house but found out my dad stole my identity and

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Speaker 1: opened three cards in my name. What do I do?

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Speaker 2: Ooh?

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Speaker 1: Yikes? And tracy eyes and we did spend the wheel

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Speaker 1: and we got ten more minutes. Oh no, this is bad.

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Speaker 1: And this is to answer a question. The other one

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Speaker 1: didn't have questions, but this one has to answer a

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Speaker 1: question how do you deal with stealing between family members?

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Speaker 1: Which was oh sorry, that was an old question because

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Speaker 1: we didn't get to the story. But now we're getting

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Speaker 1: to it, and let's get into it. So where are

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Speaker 1: my pants? Says I? Found my dad using my information

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Speaker 1: to open what do you get that? What?

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Speaker 2: Honey? Where are my pants? The Hits Network? In the

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Speaker 2: Lego movie with Chris Pratt in twenty eleven twenty fourteen, Actually,

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Speaker 2: where are my Pants?

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Speaker 1: A Lego movie? Oh? Yeah, yeah, where are my pants?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who said that was? What was that roll up?

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Speaker 2: It was a TV show like honey, where are my pants?

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Speaker 2: On the Legos?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: No, I it's a user name.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay. I was like, what are you referencing?

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Speaker 2: All right, I'm done with my soapbox.

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Speaker 1: I found my dad used I found out that my

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Speaker 1: dad used my information to open three credit cards over

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Speaker 1: the last year. When I went to get a pre

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Speaker 1: approval for a mortgage, I was told by the lender

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Speaker 1: they wouldn't be able to give me a home loan

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Speaker 1: because of the defaulted credit cards. They also said I

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Speaker 1: probably wouldn't be able to get a loan from any

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Speaker 1: lender because of it, and gave me a sheet of

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Speaker 1: paper explaining what I need to do in order to

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Speaker 1: fix it. WHOA Diavian Wilder, thank you for the twenty

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Speaker 2: WHOA jangs Lawais That was last story.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well we're gonna keep going, not.

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Speaker 2: Today, but I will need to get a bathroom after

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Speaker 2: this story. You need to go now I can entertain

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Speaker 2: for a bid or we got it. We got a bit.

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Speaker 2: That one's pretty thick, all right, Oh yeah, here we go. U.

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Speaker 2: that that last part did not make sense to me,

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Speaker 2: but I think it makes sense to everyone else. Guys. Okay,

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Speaker 2: real blade, do you guys want to see my setup?

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Speaker 2: I have a new like monitor thing. It is pretty wild. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna show you. We'll have this one. This is

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Speaker 2: Then I have here where I do obs and I

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Speaker 2: the majority of you guys are. But I have adjust

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Speaker 2: gone in Florida. I did pretty good in Florida. I

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Speaker 2: you guys. It was said, yeah, what's up, I'm here. Whoa,

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Speaker 2: we're moving guys. Yep, we moved. We saw it. What

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Speaker 2: do you guys think? Rate my setup one through ten?

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Speaker 2: One through ten right now? Rate? It's also should I

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Speaker 2: get a new chair because I've been sitting in this chair.

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Speaker 2: I've been sitting in this chair for like, you know, ages,

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Speaker 2: and look at the chairs. They got a couch and

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Speaker 2: then that cool chair and that one that one like swivels.

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Speaker 2: It's really nice. But I'm thinking about geting new chair.

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Speaker 2: I got this new mouse set up thing so my

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Speaker 2: wrist doesn't hurt. I've been like streaming for hours, so

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Speaker 2: that really is really nice. And I kind of want

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Speaker 2: that's uh, that's what's up? Dude? Ah, dude, I'd send

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Speaker 2: I missed you guys. You guys, h I don't even

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Speaker 2: So that was super duper nice. Everyone thousand, How do

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Speaker 2: I get a membership. There's a link, but I think

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Speaker 2: someone can help you. Eight. Jen, I'm timing you out.

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Speaker 2: I'm timing you out. How about time you out?

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Speaker 1: Jen?

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Speaker 2: I'm timing you out for are where are you? Maybe? Oh? Nicole,

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Speaker 2: you're timed out. I'm timing you out for a minute.

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Speaker 2: Put user in time out ten seconds. Put you in

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Speaker 2: time out for ten seconds for your opinion? Boom? So

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Speaker 2: who else can I? Honestly, I'm gonna start timing you

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Speaker 2: guys out if you guys get to like to Tuesday

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Speaker 2: You can tie people out for comments and I threatened one.

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Speaker 2: All right? Oh we got some donus upside down. That

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Speaker 2: was really cool. How you did your name there? Uh?

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Speaker 2: Thanks for the five bucks. I had to done eight

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Speaker 2: because I have a conspiracy theory that the guy op

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Speaker 2: daated was not actually her bio half brother, but the

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Speaker 2: bio son of the dad who raised her. Since we

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Speaker 2: already know Up's dad cheated in the mom's affair. Oh

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Speaker 2: that is very interest. That would be a huge plot twist.

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Speaker 2: A Matt had Ter GAO. Thanks for the five bucks

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Speaker 2: as a person who has three monitors, one of them

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Speaker 2: being a TV. I give your set up a ten

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Speaker 2: out of ten. Well done, Dearie, thank you, uh and

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Speaker 2: Tony Q ten Riley. The way you're talking fucking a

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Speaker 2: ands anus do one gets the setup reminds me of

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Speaker 2: the of the look after my BF trended on TikTok.

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Speaker 1: What the way that you're talking and showing up the

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Speaker 1: setup reminds me of the look after my boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: Rented on TikTok.

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Speaker 1: The look after my boyfriend trying on TikTok? Like here,

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Speaker 1: can you look after my boyfriend? I need to go.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah that was me. Yeah that took that took

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Speaker 2: way too long for me.

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Speaker 1: Can you talk about my producer?

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Speaker 2: I have to go to the bathroom, that's what That's

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Speaker 2: what she did.

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Speaker 1: But let's get into this story. Yeah, I'm ready now, Okay, Hey.

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Speaker 2: Him, So I just I'll just start it over for

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Speaker 2: it starting it over?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, we didn't really get We didn't really get anywhere.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to buy a house but found out my

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Speaker 1: dad stole my identity and opened three cards in my name.

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Speaker 1: What do I do? So? Where are my pants? Says

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Speaker 1: I found out I vow my TV, but I vowed

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Speaker 1: my dad use my information to open three credit cards

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Speaker 1: over the last year. When I went to get a

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Speaker 1: pre approval for a mortgage, I was told by the

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Speaker 1: lender they wouldn't be able to give me a home

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Speaker 1: loan because of the defaulted credit card. They also said

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Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't be able to get a loan from

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Speaker 1: any lender because of it, and gave me a sheet

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Speaker 1: of paper explaining what I'd need to do in order

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Speaker 1: to fix it. When I tried disputing the cards, one

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Speaker 1: of which is already in collections, the disputes got closed

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Speaker 1: out as the depths debts were verified. I told my

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Speaker 1: divorced parents about it, and their answers were pretty wildly different.

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Speaker 1: My dad said that these things happen and that I

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Speaker 1: should be more careful in the future with my Social

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Speaker 1: Security number, seeing as I've always been careful. That made

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Speaker 1: me pretty mad. My mom said she thinks my dad

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Speaker 1: might have had something to do with that, since him

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Speaker 1: opening credit cards in her name had a part to

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Speaker 1: play in their divorce. She told me he ran up

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Speaker 1: about fifty thousand dollars in credit card debt on secret

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Speaker 1: credit card what the absolute audacity of this father saying, oh,

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Speaker 1: you know what, you really need to be more careful

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Speaker 1: with your Social Security number and then stealing his son's

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Speaker 1: money audacity Gail straight to jail. This is unbelievable. A

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Speaker 1: few days ago, I ended up casually telling my dad

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Speaker 1: I'm going to have to file a police report for

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Speaker 1: the credit cards. He told me I probably shouldn't do

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Speaker 1: that because fifteen thousand dollars that much in the grand

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Speaker 1: scheme of things. When I told him it was keeping

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Speaker 1: me from buying a house, he said I could just

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Speaker 1: wait a few years until they fell off my credit

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Speaker 1: card report. He said it would only take another four

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Speaker 1: and a half years. When I told him, I obviously

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Speaker 1: couldn't wait that long, so I have to file the

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Speaker 1: police report, he told me straight up not to do

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Speaker 1: it and to just be more careful in the future.

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Speaker 1: Once I told him I already got the paperwork together

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Speaker 1: for the credit card agencies, he told me he had

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Speaker 1: opened the cards to pay for living expenses over the

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Speaker 1: last year. He said his work slowed down a little bit,

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Speaker 1: but he'd do what he could. But he'd do what

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Speaker 1: he could to help pay it off. He said it

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Speaker 1: would ruin his life if it went to jail. Oh,

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Speaker 1: if he went to jail, you're already ruining your son's life.

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Speaker 1: You're putting him into massive amounts of debt and like

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Speaker 1: destroying his credit. I'm yeah, but.

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Speaker 2: It's but we can't do we can't destroy your life.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, but you're yeah, my life though, what about

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Speaker 1: my life? Son? It's fine, you don't need fifteen thousand dollars. No, yeah,

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Speaker 1: this dad is horrible, and throw him in jail, straight

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Speaker 1: into jail. Opie continues, I'm leaning towards going to the

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Speaker 1: police anyway, but I didn't write that minute. I have

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Speaker 1: everything in front of me today to go make the report.

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Speaker 1: I guess. I just want to make sure turning it

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Speaker 1: over to the police is the right thing to do here,

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Speaker 1: especially if I'm wanting to buy a house this year

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Speaker 1: and there are some relevant comments. Madogius says, report it

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Speaker 1: for fraud. I agree, and Opie says, that's what I'm

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Speaker 1: leaning towards. I'm realizing, if I want to buy a house,

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Speaker 1: I can't have those accounts on my credit. And Grace

863
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 1: Stranger than you says, if he wasn't your dad, you'd

864
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: have already have reported him already. Right, Well, think about this.

865
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 1: Why didn't he give you the same respect and not

866
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 1: ruin your credit because he's your fuck And there is

867
00:48:56,560 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 1: an update. But yeah, Sarah B. Says, fifteen grand is

868
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 1: so much. Yeah, yeah, it is a lot of money,

869
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 1: so much money. But let's get into this update because

870
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: this is wild. I spent about half the day reading

871
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: everybody's comments, and it's pretty much solidified what I was

872
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: going to do. The process itself was pretty easy. I

873
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:25,160
Speaker 1: went to the police department and the person at the

874
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 1: front desk had me wait about ten minutes before an

875
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 1: officer came out. We talked for about fifteen minutes and

876
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 1: he made copies of all the paperwork I gave him.

877
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: He told me the case would be assigned to a

878
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 1: detective on Tuesday, and gave me a pamphlet they have

879
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: about how to contact the credit agencies. I was given

880
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 1: a report number and was told I could use that

881
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 1: now to start disputing the accounts. A detective is going

882
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: to follow up with me in the next couple of weeks.

883
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: I asked what would end up happening to my dad,

884
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: and the officers said it looked pretty clear cut to me,

885
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 1: but the charge decision is one hundred percent with this

886
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:07,080
Speaker 1: date attorney's Attorney's office. He said, if they decide to

887
00:50:07,080 --> 00:50:09,480
Speaker 1: pursue charges, he'll likely get a warrant put out for

888
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:10,280
Speaker 1: his arrest.

889
00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:11,720
Speaker 2: Ooh.

890
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 1: He also said, typically, if this is his first felony,

891
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: he's probably going to get some sort of pre trial

892
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: diversion with court supervision or probation. He probably won't go

893
00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 1: to jail for years, but if he gets picked up

894
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 1: on a warrant, he's going to spend a little bit

895
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 1: of time behind bars. I've decided I'm okay with that

896
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 1: because it's obvious to me he did this purposely. He's

897
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:35,759
Speaker 1: never been arrested before, so hopefully this is a wake

898
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: up call for him. At the same time, he completely

899
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 1: did this to himself. I'll update when I learn more

900
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:49,320
Speaker 1: and there are some relevant comments and an update. Pooey

901
00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:57,800
Speaker 1: zooey Mama. Matth weely has says play stupid games win sincerely,

902
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: hope everything works out well for you, and Opie says,

903
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:02,839
Speaker 1: I think it will from what I understand. It might

904
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:04,600
Speaker 1: take a month or two for the cards to come

905
00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 1: off my credit, but once they do, my credit score

906
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 1: should shoot up. Jule Flip says, well done, Opie. I

907
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,240
Speaker 1: was so mad on your behalf reading the first post

908
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: it would take everything in me not to use his

909
00:51:16,800 --> 00:51:20,240
Speaker 1: words against him jail time. It's just a few years.

910
00:51:20,560 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 1: You've ruined my life. No, you did it by trying

911
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 1: to ruin mine. Snap back back. I hope the marks

912
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: come off your credit report like it's made of teflon.

913
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 1: Good luck on your home ownership journey. And there is

914
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 1: another baby updates.

915
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:39,879
Speaker 2: Do you think he's gonna go to Joe?

916
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: I hope. So he needs to pay up. He needs

917
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 1: to pay up, and op he needs to get all

918
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 1: this bad credit off of him. Yeah, what a weirdo?

919
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:53,279
Speaker 1: Says he obviously knew what he was doing and didn't care.

920
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 1: And Eclectic Rain says, wait, what's going on here?

921
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:56,359
Speaker 2: Late?

922
00:51:56,960 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: Basically, Opie's father took out a bunch of credit cards

923
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 1: in his name and was racking up like fifteen thousand

924
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: dollars worth of money on them, and so Opie's credit

925
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:12,240
Speaker 1: is now very messed up. And ohp he's pursuing charges,

926
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 1: filing charges against his dad. We're made in Aoki says

927
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:18,400
Speaker 1: he's going to get a record for sure, and an

928
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: ankle monitor. I think he could use some time behind bars.

929
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 1: It's the least he deserves. But let's get into this

930
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 1: new update. Good and Dad, There's been some good, a

931
00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 1: little bad, and a little real bad progress the past

932
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:36,400
Speaker 1: few days. The good. I used my report number and

933
00:52:36,440 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 1: disputed every account. When I checked my credit last, which

934
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 1: everyone should be doing regularly, the one with the lowest

935
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 1: balance was already off my account. The other cards and

936
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:49,479
Speaker 1: the collection account are still showing, but I have hope

937
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:51,320
Speaker 1: that they'll be falling off in the next few weeks.

938
00:52:51,840 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 1: I also received a call from someone at the prosecutor's

939
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 1: office who had a couple of extra questions for me

940
00:52:57,600 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 1: and asked if I would be willing to testify if

941
00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:02,799
Speaker 1: they charged him. I said yes, and they said they

942
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 1: would be making a decision on their charges before the

943
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: end of the month. The bad. Obviously, someone talked to

944
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:12,600
Speaker 1: my dad about this, because the last time he talked

945
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 1: he scolded me for going to the police and hasn't

946
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:18,280
Speaker 1: talked to me since. One of my brothers was also

947
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:20,360
Speaker 1: pretty bad about it and hasn't talked to me in

948
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: over a week. The rest of my siblings and my

949
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:28,320
Speaker 1: mom understood where I was coming from. The real bad

950
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 1: one of my brothers, not the one who was pissed,

951
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 1: found two open credit cards on his credit which weren't his.

952
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: He checked his credit score for the first time in

953
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: a couple of years, and he said it was down

954
00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 1: about one hundred and fifty points from where it used

955
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 1: to be. He's now in the process of dealing with that.

956
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:48,319
Speaker 1: He doesn't have any positive proof yet that it was

957
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:51,400
Speaker 1: our dad, but the fingers are pointing in that direction.

958
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 1: The steel blows my mind that a dad could do

959
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 1: this to his own children. I'm moving forward, though, and

960
00:53:58,080 --> 00:53:59,960
Speaker 1: I still hope to be able to purchase a house

961
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 1: before the end of the year, and a little additional

962
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 1: information from OPI to close the story off. Also, I

963
00:54:07,600 --> 00:54:09,520
Speaker 1: think all of my other siblings there are six of us,

964
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 1: are checking their credit to probably for the best.

965
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:18,280
Speaker 2: Ooh, dude, six pools to pull from. Yeau Kid's got money.

966
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:20,360
Speaker 1: Youch that he's stealing. I hope he's not stealing for

967
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:20,919
Speaker 1: all of them.

968
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:22,719
Speaker 2: Dude, his money's up right now.

969
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,880
Speaker 1: Yikes, big, yikes.

970
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 2: He definitely has an addiction. He spending all this money.

971
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, this is not good to say the least,

972
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:36,760
Speaker 1: And I hope that Opie sorts this out because yeah,

973
00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:38,680
Speaker 1: I think I think it was definitely the right move

974
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 1: to file charges, because how else would Opie get this

975
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 1: money back?

976
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 2: True? From her dad, he said he'd pay her back.

977
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:49,200
Speaker 1: He's like, fifteen thousand dollars is nothing. I'll buy you

978
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 1: lunch next week.

979
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 2: I'm steal fifteen thousand dollars from a kid every month.

980
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:55,880
Speaker 1: It's not that much, Biggie.

981
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 2: Don't worry really quick. It's worry be so.

982
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:03,960
Speaker 1: Mean to me. I just need money. Alan Dice Goblin,

983
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 1: thank you for the five fifty two. Good to have

984
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 1: you back, Big Protein. I want to send you snacks

985
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 1: from Normay. What would you all like?

986
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:11,760
Speaker 2: Whatever is your favorite?

987
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:14,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't I know. I'm not familiar with Norwegian snacks.

988
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 2: Whatever is your favorite that isn't chocolate, I'll be down.

989
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: But if you also have chocolate, I'll eat that, so

990
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:21,200
Speaker 1: don't worry about it.

991
00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 2: I like non chocolate things.

992
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 1: Lena Covenant, thank you for the celebrating your two months

993
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:28,399
Speaker 1: of membership. I love the setup. Friday. Get a good

994
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 1: chair and an ergonomic keyboard. It'll be worth it, so true.

995
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 2: Hours I spend behind here.

996
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I spent a lot of hours last week. This

997
00:55:38,160 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 1: week Kimberly fine, thank you for celebrating four months of membership.

998
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 1: Pay no attention to the inappropriate chat sappening right now?

999
00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 2: What do you mean, will what I mean?

1000
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:48,840
Speaker 1: What do you mean?

1001
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 2: I'm going to talk to the YouTube mods and be like,

1002
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:54,239
Speaker 2: who just said blah blah blah? Who does happening them out?

1003
00:55:54,440 --> 00:56:00,520
Speaker 2: For like ten minutes minus nine minutes and fifty seconds?

1004
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, Illy Rose, thank you for the five bucks. I've

1005
00:56:05,040 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 1: been watching the okop show all right, go on, I

1006
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:13,840
Speaker 1: don't know who that is for months now, but haven't

1007
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 1: had the chance to make it to stream till now.

1008
00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 1: So Hi Riley and beloved one queen.

1009
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 2: Hello, it was your first time wave waving the chat

1010
00:56:22,120 --> 00:56:23,080
Speaker 2: right now, wave in the chat.

1011
00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: Put sound off in the chat sound off?

1012
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 2: Just don't even like that one.

1013
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:33,560
Speaker 1: Ah. And then Bella, thank you for the tin buck

1014
00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 1: tep let's go, Mad Hatter Gal thank you for the

1015
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: ten bucks as well. The sad part of all this

1016
00:56:41,160 --> 00:56:43,840
Speaker 1: is that you trust your parents with your personal info

1017
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:48,400
Speaker 1: like social security and others, only for them to do

1018
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:52,760
Speaker 1: very true. Yeah, I mean yeah, your your parents should

1019
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:55,319
Speaker 1: be trustworthy individuals in your lives, and for them to

1020
00:56:55,400 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: take that, take that and you it's not okay, not,

1021
00:57:02,480 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: it's not okay.

1022
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 2: It'd make it would make me sad if my mom

1023
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 2: did that.

1024
00:57:07,280 --> 00:57:11,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, if my mom stole fifteen thousand dollars'd be like

1025
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:14,359
Speaker 1: that sucks or you know, ran up my credit, I'd

1026
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:20,400
Speaker 1: be like that sucks. Mom. That's not that's not you mom. Yeah,

1027
00:57:20,920 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 1: Lily says, I have never been here before. That is

1028
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 1: not true. You're a liar.

1029
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:28,920
Speaker 2: You're a regular.

1030
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 1: But you know what else is a regular?

1031
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 2: Stories? We read? Yeah, fraternity stories almost one three thousand,

1032
00:57:42,360 --> 00:57:51,600
Speaker 2: five and five. That would yeah, yeah, kadoky, How are

1033
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 2: you doing, Kentucky? You wanna get some caffeine? You take

1034
00:57:54,920 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 2: a sip of it? Hm hmm.

1035
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:05,800
Speaker 1: Let's get into it.

1036
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 2: So let's get out of guys. There's a personality swap

1037
00:58:10,040 --> 00:58:12,440
Speaker 2: on this thing. Like it so Sophia doesn't have to

1038
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:16,280
Speaker 2: read and I'll have to read. Okay, go do it.

1039
00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 2: Save your worm, queen, save her.

1040
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 1: Sam. We need you, Sam. Damn.

1041
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:33,720
Speaker 2: He heard us, definitely, he's had his headphones an old day,

1042
00:58:34,960 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 2: totally heard.

1043
00:58:36,120 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 1: All right, let's.

1044
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:51,000
Speaker 2: You got it? Yeah, come on, jumping, pop up, stching.

1045
00:58:53,120 --> 00:58:58,080
Speaker 2: He's on the floor now. Oh, she's doing runners lunges.

1046
00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 2: Now she's doing some big marching steps and she's doing

1047
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 2: some kick. She's ready. Look at her now, she's a

1048
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:10,960
Speaker 2: new persons.

1049
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:20,320
Speaker 1: It's so hot. They yeah, what is this? He's some water?

1050
00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:23,280
Speaker 1: Just put some water in this, keep us some fresh water.

1051
00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:37,800
Speaker 1: No noise please, okay, awesome, su Dinger, All right, as go,

1052
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 1: let's chat. Well, Raley gets me water. Thank you, dudgess, Cassanda,

1053
00:59:43,640 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 1: I do freaking got this. Let me play, thank you,

1054
00:59:49,040 --> 00:59:52,040
Speaker 1: Let's go as I've got it. What's I don't know?

1055
00:59:52,080 --> 00:59:55,920
Speaker 1: Ask me questions and I'll and I'll answer it. Truly,

1056
00:59:56,360 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 1: my mind is a blank vessel right now. What Oh

1057
01:00:02,520 --> 01:00:04,920
Speaker 1: we had our I oh, we had our polaroid party.

1058
01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 1: Uh last night. We just had a couple of friends

1059
01:00:07,760 --> 01:00:10,640
Speaker 1: over and we were moses, get that funky ice away

1060
01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:13,840
Speaker 1: from Sofia and thank you. We had our polaroid party

1061
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:15,400
Speaker 1: last night, which is why I'm kind of tired, because

1062
01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:18,560
Speaker 1: Riley and I grew up late having a little fun

1063
01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:21,880
Speaker 1: like having a blast at the party. But we were

1064
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 1: basically we would everyone had to take a picture as

1065
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:29,000
Speaker 1: if we were paparazzi. Uh, and so we all had

1066
01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 1: really fun pictures. I did one with one of my

1067
01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:34,479
Speaker 1: uh with some friends where I was like lying dead

1068
01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 1: on the stairs and they were they were standing over

1069
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:42,800
Speaker 1: to me horrified. It was very fun. Eh, thank you.

1070
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 1: What's your favorite book from your childhood? Easy, Ziggy. It

1071
01:00:46,960 --> 01:00:53,560
Speaker 1: is Percy Jackson, and specifically Percy Jackson. Oh gosh, I'll

1072
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:56,680
Speaker 1: take a sip Percy Jackson in the Battle of the Labyrinth.

1073
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:11,080
Speaker 1: I don't like it. Yeah, it's like a bad vitamin. See. Oh,

1074
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 1: just becausonists. I forgot what shapes you wanted from Australia.

1075
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 1: The pizza ones. I don't know what Sam would like,

1076
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 1: but we love I love the pizza shapes, we love

1077
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:26,920
Speaker 1: tim Tams, we love Vegemite. I mean yeah, there's a

1078
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:29,840
Speaker 1: lot of the Little how I love Violet Crumble, I

1079
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 1: love crunchies. Australian candy is so good.

1080
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna addu Yeah.

1081
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:40,480
Speaker 1: You give them five minutes for me dying eight Yeah,

1082
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 1: you guys get eight minutes.

1083
01:01:41,760 --> 01:01:42,320
Speaker 2: It's fine.

1084
01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:43,600
Speaker 1: Sam has to do it.

1085
01:01:45,080 --> 01:01:46,360
Speaker 2: All right, we're back.

1086
01:01:46,720 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 1: Let's do it.

1087
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 2: Moisturize me. Okay.

1088
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:49,960
Speaker 1: It's from doctor who.

1089
01:01:52,880 --> 01:01:55,440
Speaker 2: Made time here out for like a minute.

1090
01:01:55,760 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 1: No, that's from that's from doctor who.

1091
01:01:57,520 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 2: Oh never mind, don't time around.

1092
01:01:58,920 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 1: Don't time around. It's from Cassandra. There's this girl named

1093
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:06,440
Speaker 1: Cassandra or not like this woman and she's like skin

1094
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 1: because she's so old and she's done this whole thing

1095
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:12,240
Speaker 1: where she's like trying to stay alive and so she's

1096
01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:15,240
Speaker 1: literally just like a piece of skin stretched out and

1097
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:19,320
Speaker 1: so she has she goes moisturize made moistries.

1098
01:02:18,680 --> 01:02:22,400
Speaker 2: May oh, yeah, sorry, that wasn't called for my bad

1099
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:24,000
Speaker 2: non I got you.

1100
01:02:23,960 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 1: Girl, elite technician. They give you a five buck chip. Uh.

1101
01:02:30,520 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 1: I love it? I if I I love it, I

1102
01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 1: can catch your stream right now. I hurt my foot

1103
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:40,520
Speaker 1: with a heavy button glass cup and it broke. Ouch. Ouch.

1104
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:45,600
Speaker 1: All right, let's get let's get into let's get into it.

1105
01:02:49,200 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 2: What ever mind? You're good?

1106
01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 1: Go? Okay? Am I the a hole for wanting a

1107
01:02:55,160 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 1: maternity test from my wife after her best friend love aspicious?

1108
01:03:02,320 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 2: Bet that's a guy best friend.

1109
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 1: Everyone's hating on vegamin and the chat. It's it's an

1110
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:09,320
Speaker 1: acquired taste.

1111
01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:10,040
Speaker 2: It's discussed.

1112
01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:12,479
Speaker 1: It's an acquired taste. I love it, but you don't

1113
01:03:12,480 --> 01:03:13,360
Speaker 1: have to made.

1114
01:03:13,200 --> 01:03:16,200
Speaker 2: Me eat some And I wanted to punch her in

1115
01:03:16,200 --> 01:03:16,840
Speaker 2: the face.

1116
01:03:18,120 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: Thank you or not?

1117
01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 2: I can't.

1118
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:24,880
Speaker 1: So what if ninety three says, First of all, I

1119
01:03:24,960 --> 01:03:28,640
Speaker 1: know I made big, a big mistake. I know I

1120
01:03:28,720 --> 01:03:31,600
Speaker 1: heard her, but hear me out and be honest with

1121
01:03:31,640 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 1: me if I could still fix it or not. I'm Russian,

1122
01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:40,480
Speaker 1: so don't mind my English. I thirty two males started

1123
01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:43,840
Speaker 1: to date twenty nine female in twenty twenty one. We

1124
01:03:43,920 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 1: had a great relationship. She's calm, sweet and considerate. We

1125
01:03:48,120 --> 01:03:50,960
Speaker 1: dated for a year, then moved to another city. Everything

1126
01:03:51,040 --> 01:03:53,440
Speaker 1: was going great. We made new friends and built a

1127
01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:57,840
Speaker 1: life there. Problems started when a male best friend of

1128
01:03:57,840 --> 01:04:02,320
Speaker 1: hers decided to move to the same city and found

1129
01:04:02,400 --> 01:04:07,040
Speaker 1: himself a place right across the street. Okay, so too close.

1130
01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:09,480
Speaker 1: It's just friend. He's just a phrase, moving right across

1131
01:04:09,480 --> 01:04:11,080
Speaker 1: the street. That's that's fun.

1132
01:04:11,200 --> 01:04:12,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll too close.

1133
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:19,080
Speaker 1: Could be good, We'll see. Things started to change. He

1134
01:04:19,120 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 1: would visit almost every day. My ex was a people pleaser.

1135
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: I tried to make it clear to yeah, it's a

1136
01:04:25,760 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 1: very big red flag that it's getting annoying and that

1137
01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:30,880
Speaker 1: I don't like that guy. But she couldn't bring him

1138
01:04:30,960 --> 01:04:35,800
Speaker 1: herself to tell him or set some boundaries. He I

1139
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:37,840
Speaker 1: have big guys, put some ICUs in the job. We

1140
01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:40,880
Speaker 1: know where this is going. He was handsy and flirty

1141
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:44,920
Speaker 1: and away. I couldn't stand so many red blugs. She

1142
01:04:44,960 --> 01:04:47,200
Speaker 1: would hint that she's not comfortable and he would behave

1143
01:04:47,400 --> 01:04:50,840
Speaker 1: but five minutes later he starts with his usual stick.

1144
01:04:51,000 --> 01:04:53,160
Speaker 2: He's probably like a She's.

1145
01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:57,680
Speaker 1: Like, it'saw, I'm at uncomfortable, but I mean, honestly, he's

1146
01:04:57,720 --> 01:05:01,600
Speaker 1: an a hole for making her uncomfortable. However, she should

1147
01:05:02,120 --> 01:05:06,000
Speaker 1: end this relationship and this friendship for herself because if

1148
01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:08,479
Speaker 1: he's making her uncomfortable, you shouldn't be around someone who's

1149
01:05:08,480 --> 01:05:09,320
Speaker 1: making your uncomfortable.

1150
01:05:10,880 --> 01:05:12,960
Speaker 2: Big facts, big facts.

1151
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:16,800
Speaker 1: Uh. And she ended up telling me that he meant

1152
01:05:16,840 --> 01:05:19,640
Speaker 1: nothing and he's like this with everyone. Okay, so she's

1153
01:05:19,720 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 1: kind of like, she's saying, I'm uncomfortable, but it means nothing.

1154
01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:25,320
Speaker 1: If you are uncomfortable, that's something.

1155
01:05:25,080 --> 01:05:29,240
Speaker 2: Okay, I would know the percentage of whatever girl's like, oh,

1156
01:05:29,280 --> 01:05:33,919
Speaker 2: he's nothing, the percentage of him actually being something, because

1157
01:05:33,920 --> 01:05:37,360
Speaker 2: if he was actually not nothing, I think that would

1158
01:05:37,400 --> 01:05:40,400
Speaker 2: have been the response. I don't know, you know what

1159
01:05:40,400 --> 01:05:41,760
Speaker 2: I mean, this.

1160
01:05:41,720 --> 01:05:44,120
Speaker 1: Is my friend I've been over for a while. I

1161
01:05:44,120 --> 01:05:50,160
Speaker 1: don't even think of him like that. Fast forward to

1162
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three and we found out she was pregnant,

1163
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 1: nice with his baby. Let's go with baby, your baby.

1164
01:05:59,280 --> 01:06:03,200
Speaker 2: Everything's fine, everything's fine, everything's great.

1165
01:06:02,640 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 1: An yeah, yeah, she didn't. Her friend ended up being

1166
01:06:09,560 --> 01:06:13,320
Speaker 1: a great guy and everyone got along, and now we

1167
01:06:13,360 --> 01:06:16,040
Speaker 1: have a kid. I was a father or godfather, he's

1168
01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:19,240
Speaker 1: the godfather. We found out she was pregnant. I was

1169
01:06:19,320 --> 01:06:21,960
Speaker 1: over the moon, and both of us were extremely happy

1170
01:06:22,000 --> 01:06:25,439
Speaker 1: and excited. He stopped visiting, and after like two months

1171
01:06:25,560 --> 01:06:28,200
Speaker 1: or so, he moved back to his city. My ex

1172
01:06:28,200 --> 01:06:30,920
Speaker 1: and I had mutual friends. That's where one of our

1173
01:06:30,960 --> 01:06:34,720
Speaker 1: friends started connecting dots and started telling me, Oh, she

1174
01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:37,520
Speaker 1: suspected something, but kept quiet because she didn't want to

1175
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:41,400
Speaker 1: be the reason two people separate. But can't hold this anymore,

1176
01:06:42,160 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 1: and played with my mind. She said that my girlfriend

1177
01:06:45,840 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 1: and her best friend probably had a thing going on

1178
01:06:48,600 --> 01:06:51,560
Speaker 1: based on the way they used to act whenever we

1179
01:06:51,560 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 1: were out with friends, and how it's strange of him

1180
01:06:54,280 --> 01:06:58,640
Speaker 1: to leave just as she got pregnant. Okay, so a

1181
01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:01,960
Speaker 1: friend a mutual friend and is reaching out to op

1182
01:07:02,120 --> 01:07:06,960
Speaker 1: and saying, hey, I think something went on with your

1183
01:07:07,160 --> 01:07:12,680
Speaker 1: wife's friend or your girlfriend's friend. She suggested that I

1184
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:15,240
Speaker 1: don't put the baby on my name. In my name

1185
01:07:15,320 --> 01:07:19,520
Speaker 1: until a paternity test has been completed. I told my

1186
01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:21,680
Speaker 1: girlfriend about this, and she did not take it well.

1187
01:07:22,120 --> 01:07:26,000
Speaker 1: She broke up with me instantly. After a few weeks,

1188
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:28,720
Speaker 1: agreed to the paternity test thing, but she made it

1189
01:07:28,760 --> 01:07:31,480
Speaker 1: clear that nothing will change, that she will never forgive

1190
01:07:31,520 --> 01:07:35,080
Speaker 1: me and won't ever come back to me if I

1191
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:38,120
Speaker 1: ever regret what I did and ask for forgiveness. I

1192
01:07:38,200 --> 01:07:40,800
Speaker 1: told her we could just forget about the test, but

1193
01:07:40,840 --> 01:07:45,400
Speaker 1: she insisted. Our boy came a few days ago and

1194
01:07:45,440 --> 01:07:50,760
Speaker 1: we did the test. I think before we go on

1195
01:07:51,840 --> 01:07:56,160
Speaker 1: poll I think this reaction is she did not cheat.

1196
01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:59,440
Speaker 1: I don't think that she would have immediately broken up

1197
01:07:59,480 --> 01:08:03,360
Speaker 1: with him if she if she didn't if she if

1198
01:08:03,360 --> 01:08:04,080
Speaker 1: she cheated.

1199
01:08:03,880 --> 01:08:05,400
Speaker 2: I don't even have to I don't even have to

1200
01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:07,560
Speaker 2: reset the polls. I can just do the same pole

1201
01:08:07,640 --> 01:08:08,560
Speaker 2: we did.

1202
01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:14,360
Speaker 1: I think that she did not cheat. I think, yeah,

1203
01:08:15,400 --> 01:08:17,120
Speaker 1: I think maybe she was getting a little she would

1204
01:08:17,120 --> 01:08:18,960
Speaker 1: maybe a little thirty with this guy friend. But I

1205
01:08:19,000 --> 01:08:20,240
Speaker 1: don't think that she cheated.

1206
01:08:22,160 --> 01:08:23,519
Speaker 2: Did you look really cool right now?

1207
01:08:24,840 --> 01:08:35,920
Speaker 1: Oh? Thanks, thanks so much, Let's keep going. Yesterday, I

1208
01:08:35,960 --> 01:08:37,280
Speaker 1: got the results.

1209
01:08:37,400 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 2: Wait, okay, answers, just take a moment and to see

1210
01:08:44,080 --> 01:08:48,439
Speaker 2: what everyone thinks. You. Wait, you said I'm sorry. You

1211
01:08:48,439 --> 01:08:50,519
Speaker 2: said she you don't think she cheated. I don't think

1212
01:08:50,520 --> 01:08:55,599
Speaker 2: she cheated. Wait why because of her reaction? She has

1213
01:08:55,640 --> 01:08:56,800
Speaker 2: been pretty chill this whole time.

1214
01:08:56,880 --> 01:08:59,120
Speaker 1: I think. I think the fact that she immediately broke

1215
01:08:59,200 --> 01:09:02,960
Speaker 1: up with her boyfriend and feels to me like she

1216
01:09:03,240 --> 01:09:05,920
Speaker 1: didn't cheat and is very insulted that he's accusing her

1217
01:09:05,960 --> 01:09:06,400
Speaker 1: of cheating.

1218
01:09:06,600 --> 01:09:10,320
Speaker 2: Mmm, maybe she's read a lot of red stories. She

1219
01:09:10,800 --> 01:09:11,720
Speaker 2: knows how to play the game.

1220
01:09:12,600 --> 01:09:14,800
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a double if she did cheat.

1221
01:09:14,880 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 2: Okay, this sounds really bad. If she didn't cheat, and

1222
01:09:18,120 --> 01:09:21,640
Speaker 2: you do cheat and go through the similar scenario, this

1223
01:09:21,680 --> 01:09:22,360
Speaker 2: is the way to do it.

1224
01:09:22,520 --> 01:09:24,599
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is true.

1225
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:27,000
Speaker 2: I don't know some about it. I still feel like

1226
01:09:27,040 --> 01:09:28,040
Speaker 2: the fam friend.

1227
01:09:28,720 --> 01:09:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it's too much Hannah. Wait, that's gone. Someone said,

1228
01:09:33,320 --> 01:09:36,559
Speaker 1: maybe it's too much denial. Hannah. The Hannah rosays honestly

1229
01:09:36,600 --> 01:09:40,240
Speaker 1: thinks she did. I think she did because she's heavy

1230
01:09:40,280 --> 01:09:46,639
Speaker 1: in denial. Could be, could be? All right? Thirty four votes,

1231
01:09:47,080 --> 01:09:49,840
Speaker 1: sixty two percent of you say that op he is

1232
01:09:50,280 --> 01:09:50,759
Speaker 1: the father?

1233
01:09:51,800 --> 01:09:55,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, find out go here we go, this

1234
01:09:55,479 --> 01:09:55,760
Speaker 2: is it?

1235
01:09:55,920 --> 01:10:02,400
Speaker 1: This is it? Yesterday I got the results and yes,

1236
01:10:02,520 --> 01:10:05,800
Speaker 1: I feel my chest terribly tight with regret. I didn't

1237
01:10:05,880 --> 01:10:08,680
Speaker 1: drink or eat anything. I couldn't even bring myself to

1238
01:10:08,720 --> 01:10:12,280
Speaker 1: go to work. What do I do now? When we

1239
01:10:12,360 --> 01:10:15,320
Speaker 1: broke up, I never stopped helping throughout the pregnancy. She

1240
01:10:15,400 --> 01:10:19,240
Speaker 1: refused almost everything, but still I was always there for

1241
01:10:20,040 --> 01:10:22,160
Speaker 1: deep down I knew that the baby was mine, but

1242
01:10:22,200 --> 01:10:24,519
Speaker 1: the damage was done and I went with the plan.

1243
01:10:25,120 --> 01:10:27,920
Speaker 1: What to do now? How do I make it up

1244
01:10:27,960 --> 01:10:31,519
Speaker 1: to her? What to do? Uh? Oh? I know she

1245
01:10:31,560 --> 01:10:33,600
Speaker 1: would never come back to me, But how do I

1246
01:10:33,680 --> 01:10:38,720
Speaker 1: properly apologize? Just what do I do? And there is

1247
01:10:39,040 --> 01:10:41,840
Speaker 1: an edit so is d it is Yeah, it's his

1248
01:10:41,920 --> 01:10:43,280
Speaker 1: kid and an update?

1249
01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:45,920
Speaker 2: Uh, but like, what do you do with that? If

1250
01:10:45,920 --> 01:10:47,960
Speaker 2: you like have that deep down you're like, I don't

1251
01:10:47,960 --> 01:10:51,559
Speaker 2: even know, because you could. I could see his train

1252
01:10:51,600 --> 01:10:54,400
Speaker 2: of thought because the guy was there and then he

1253
01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:58,760
Speaker 2: left two months after they figured out like that she

1254
01:10:58,880 --> 01:10:59,400
Speaker 2: was pregnant.

1255
01:10:59,520 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 1: Might have he might have the friend, might have been

1256
01:11:02,120 --> 01:11:04,960
Speaker 1: interested in her, and then when he saw that they

1257
01:11:04,960 --> 01:11:06,559
Speaker 1: were having a kid, was like, Wow, this is not

1258
01:11:06,640 --> 01:11:09,760
Speaker 1: gonna happen. Like he's not She's not gonna break up

1259
01:11:09,760 --> 01:11:12,040
Speaker 1: with them? MJ grow Thank you for the five buck

1260
01:11:12,080 --> 01:11:14,720
Speaker 1: tip conspiracy theory. What if the friend wanted to them

1261
01:11:14,720 --> 01:11:20,439
Speaker 1: to break up because she wanted op oh, right, because

1262
01:11:20,520 --> 01:11:22,840
Speaker 1: they had an outside friend. Say, hey, I noticed some

1263
01:11:22,880 --> 01:11:25,439
Speaker 1: weird activity. That's right, I forgot that.

1264
01:11:26,640 --> 01:11:29,040
Speaker 2: That's pretty good. That's pretty good.

1265
01:11:29,040 --> 01:11:36,000
Speaker 1: Ooh, could be, could be. These are all good points,

1266
01:11:37,880 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 1: but let's get in this. Is it all right? Thank

1267
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:44,280
Speaker 1: you all for your opinions. I knew, and I know

1268
01:11:44,520 --> 01:11:46,720
Speaker 1: what an a hole I am. I know I fed up,

1269
01:11:47,080 --> 01:11:48,920
Speaker 1: but I never said I was planning to ask her

1270
01:11:48,960 --> 01:11:50,800
Speaker 1: to come back to me, since I know I hurt

1271
01:11:50,840 --> 01:11:54,040
Speaker 1: her badly and am in no place to ask such

1272
01:11:54,040 --> 01:11:56,360
Speaker 1: a thing. I also made it clear I had no

1273
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:59,800
Speaker 1: problem with taking responsibility as a dad. I don't know

1274
01:11:59,800 --> 01:12:02,320
Speaker 1: why I got called names about it in the comments.

1275
01:12:02,840 --> 01:12:05,600
Speaker 1: I'm happily ready to do everything in my power to

1276
01:12:05,640 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 1: be the best dad to my son, and of course

1277
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:12,600
Speaker 1: financially too. Also. I did try to explain and genuinely

1278
01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 1: apologize before even the test, but she wouldn't listen. I'm

1279
01:12:17,360 --> 01:12:20,479
Speaker 1: ready and never gonna stop trying to apologize to her

1280
01:12:20,560 --> 01:12:23,400
Speaker 1: for the hurt I caused, and I will always be

1281
01:12:23,520 --> 01:12:26,800
Speaker 1: there for the mother of my child. As for now,

1282
01:12:27,840 --> 01:12:30,839
Speaker 1: she just gave birth. I won't add up with my problem.

1283
01:12:30,960 --> 01:12:32,720
Speaker 1: I will be there for her until I feel like

1284
01:12:32,800 --> 01:12:35,800
Speaker 1: it's a good time. Then I will ask to talk

1285
01:12:35,840 --> 01:12:38,880
Speaker 1: about it. To talk about it. Edit for people asking

1286
01:12:38,920 --> 01:12:43,200
Speaker 1: how I did how I did it, I brought up Oh,

1287
01:12:43,280 --> 01:12:45,760
Speaker 1: for people asking how I brought up the test, We

1288
01:12:45,800 --> 01:12:48,400
Speaker 1: talked about it at home. I asked if she still

1289
01:12:48,439 --> 01:12:51,040
Speaker 1: thinks that her best friend's behavior is okay. She said yes.

1290
01:12:51,640 --> 01:12:53,639
Speaker 1: Then I try to reason with her by asking if

1291
01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:55,759
Speaker 1: it were the other way around, would it be okay

1292
01:12:55,760 --> 01:12:57,680
Speaker 1: for her to see another girl being that flirty and

1293
01:12:57,720 --> 01:13:00,640
Speaker 1: handsy with me? Then she said, you don't have a

1294
01:13:00,760 --> 01:13:03,280
Speaker 1: childhood friend that I know of. Then I went and

1295
01:13:03,320 --> 01:13:05,760
Speaker 1: told her if his behavior is still okay for her,

1296
01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:08,200
Speaker 1: then would it be okay for me to ask for

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01:13:08,320 --> 01:13:18,920
Speaker 1: a paternity ooh ooh, that's ooh.

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01:13:16,640 --> 01:13:20,000
Speaker 2: Because like he was very handsy. And then the friends

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01:13:20,520 --> 01:13:22,040
Speaker 2: said something that's.

1300
01:13:21,920 --> 01:13:25,439
Speaker 1: Such a direct way to ask it though he really like,

1301
01:13:25,600 --> 01:13:27,639
Speaker 1: oh yeah.

1302
01:13:27,240 --> 01:13:29,479
Speaker 2: It was in his head. He was just in his head.

1303
01:13:29,680 --> 01:13:30,840
Speaker 2: Please do in his head?

1304
01:13:31,920 --> 01:13:38,400
Speaker 1: Oh oh boy. Um, she said, if I don't want kids,

1305
01:13:38,439 --> 01:13:40,400
Speaker 1: I should have told her before, and then she has

1306
01:13:40,479 --> 01:13:44,160
Speaker 1: no problem going back home and raising her baby. Alone,

1307
01:13:44,760 --> 01:13:47,519
Speaker 1: That's where I lost it and said something along the

1308
01:13:47,560 --> 01:13:50,759
Speaker 1: lines that she's going after her best friend and asked

1309
01:13:50,840 --> 01:13:53,800
Speaker 1: if this was their plan. Wrong of me, I know.

1310
01:13:55,240 --> 01:13:57,880
Speaker 1: She broke up with me instantly, and just like I

1311
01:13:57,960 --> 01:14:01,599
Speaker 1: mentioned in the post or weeks later, a few weeks later,

1312
01:14:01,640 --> 01:14:05,320
Speaker 1: she called last edit. The mutual friend is married. She

1313
01:14:05,360 --> 01:14:07,080
Speaker 1: doesn't make it, She didn't make a move or anything,

1314
01:14:07,160 --> 01:14:10,599
Speaker 1: but she's an ex friend now. And for people asking

1315
01:14:10,640 --> 01:14:13,320
Speaker 1: what the male friend did to make this insecure? While

1316
01:14:13,320 --> 01:14:16,880
Speaker 1: whenever they're sitting beside each other, he would keep running

1317
01:14:16,960 --> 01:14:19,640
Speaker 1: his hand up or down her her arm, ankle, or

1318
01:14:19,640 --> 01:14:22,320
Speaker 1: her back based on the way she's sitting. He would

1319
01:14:22,360 --> 01:14:24,920
Speaker 1: compliment her body. When she would change her hair color,

1320
01:14:25,000 --> 01:14:26,800
Speaker 1: he would ask her to go back to whatever color

1321
01:14:26,840 --> 01:14:28,840
Speaker 1: he'd love to see her on her He could be

1322
01:14:28,880 --> 01:14:32,360
Speaker 1: really just too comfortable with her with his female childhood

1323
01:14:32,360 --> 01:14:34,639
Speaker 1: best friend, but I thought he could at least behave

1324
01:14:34,680 --> 01:14:38,200
Speaker 1: a little now that she's in a serious relationship. Also,

1325
01:14:38,280 --> 01:14:40,760
Speaker 1: some of you asked why I didn't talk to the

1326
01:14:40,800 --> 01:14:43,880
Speaker 1: guide directly. I didn't want to make her feel like

1327
01:14:43,920 --> 01:14:46,559
Speaker 1: a controlling freak, so I try to communicate with her

1328
01:14:46,560 --> 01:14:49,160
Speaker 1: and let her handle it the way I handled. The

1329
01:14:49,160 --> 01:14:52,719
Speaker 1: whole situation was wrong. When I accused her of planning

1330
01:14:52,760 --> 01:14:55,000
Speaker 1: to go back to her city just to be close

1331
01:14:55,040 --> 01:14:57,000
Speaker 1: to him, that was wrong of me too.

1332
01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:02,800
Speaker 2: And what oh no, I found I found it?

1333
01:15:03,080 --> 01:15:10,080
Speaker 1: Okay? Sorry, ah, yeah this is yeah, this is yeah,

1334
01:15:10,120 --> 01:15:10,880
Speaker 1: this is messy.

1335
01:15:11,040 --> 01:15:12,759
Speaker 2: There's so much more left.

1336
01:15:13,040 --> 01:15:17,040
Speaker 1: I know, I know. Maybe I'll just skip the comments. Yeah, yeah,

1337
01:15:17,040 --> 01:15:19,719
Speaker 1: because they don't feels it broll. There is an update, though,

1338
01:15:20,920 --> 01:15:23,799
Speaker 1: Sarah B says, dumbop. He doubled down on his idiocy.

1339
01:15:23,840 --> 01:15:26,840
Speaker 1: That's the thing that she was like, no, I like

1340
01:15:26,920 --> 01:15:28,640
Speaker 1: if you weren't ready for a kid, And then he

1341
01:15:29,160 --> 01:15:30,639
Speaker 1: full on accused her of cheating.

1342
01:15:32,439 --> 01:15:36,160
Speaker 2: What is this? And you had to punch him one

1343
01:15:36,200 --> 01:15:38,200
Speaker 2: day and kick him out for getting handsy with her?

1344
01:15:38,560 --> 01:15:41,000
Speaker 2: He shrugged it off casually. Who will also blame it

1345
01:15:41,040 --> 01:15:43,439
Speaker 2: on me and accused me of having angry issues too? Right, Oh,

1346
01:15:43,479 --> 01:15:46,120
Speaker 2: he's just getting mad at the people. Yeah, like like

1347
01:15:46,439 --> 01:15:48,280
Speaker 2: like you just come to read it. People are gonna

1348
01:15:48,320 --> 01:15:48,720
Speaker 2: call you this.

1349
01:15:48,960 --> 01:15:53,240
Speaker 1: Yeah. Narrati says, his jealousy is pretty off putting. Yeah,

1350
01:15:53,280 --> 01:15:57,160
Speaker 1: his reaction is a little bit like, Eh, the thing

1351
01:15:57,240 --> 01:16:01,240
Speaker 1: is that you can yeah. Valkyrie says, Oh, he isn't

1352
01:16:01,240 --> 01:16:03,400
Speaker 1: wrong in saying that the male friend is overstepping because

1353
01:16:03,400 --> 01:16:05,559
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be happy with that hands off if they

1354
01:16:05,560 --> 01:16:09,240
Speaker 1: aren't your partner. I agree, I totally agree. And he's

1355
01:16:09,240 --> 01:16:14,280
Speaker 1: in the right for being uncomfortable about the situation and

1356
01:16:14,320 --> 01:16:17,599
Speaker 1: asking to like have boundaries. I think that's totally fine.

1357
01:16:18,479 --> 01:16:23,839
Speaker 1: I think just the way that he approached it is messy,

1358
01:16:25,520 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 1: like it wasn't going to because earlier he did ask

1359
01:16:30,160 --> 01:16:34,720
Speaker 1: a I I'm uncomfortable with this. I think that that's

1360
01:16:34,760 --> 01:16:36,240
Speaker 1: totally fine. I think that, but he didn't.

1361
01:16:36,280 --> 01:16:37,840
Speaker 2: He didn't do that. I thought he did.

1362
01:16:38,080 --> 01:16:38,599
Speaker 1: He did.

1363
01:16:38,880 --> 01:16:40,800
Speaker 2: Oh, but what did she do then? After that?

1364
01:16:41,280 --> 01:16:43,280
Speaker 1: Oh, she was like, oh, it doesn't mean anything. I'm

1365
01:16:43,320 --> 01:16:44,920
Speaker 1: just saying the part where he was a little bit

1366
01:16:44,960 --> 01:16:49,679
Speaker 1: in the wrong of how he approached it was accusing

1367
01:16:49,720 --> 01:16:52,280
Speaker 1: her of cheating and saying, oh, like I want to

1368
01:16:52,280 --> 01:16:54,960
Speaker 1: paternity us, and like kind of lashing out at her.

1369
01:16:56,560 --> 01:16:58,680
Speaker 1: That both are sus for me about the rayhole, I

1370
01:16:58,680 --> 01:16:59,120
Speaker 1: think so too.

1371
01:16:59,280 --> 01:17:01,719
Speaker 2: I saw the earlier where a friend was like stirring

1372
01:17:01,800 --> 01:17:04,320
Speaker 2: the pot. Someone said that that friend was stirring the pot.

1373
01:17:04,479 --> 01:17:07,599
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I think so too. I think this

1374
01:17:07,680 --> 01:17:09,439
Speaker 1: is a little bit of everyone sucks here.

1375
01:17:09,640 --> 01:17:13,000
Speaker 2: But we have a lot more. I think a lot

1376
01:17:13,040 --> 01:17:15,720
Speaker 2: more is about to happen. Yeah, like it has to.

1377
01:17:16,000 --> 01:17:17,799
Speaker 1: It's gotta, it's gotta happen.

1378
01:17:18,200 --> 01:17:23,080
Speaker 2: I conspiracy theory. Yeah, I don't know. I just something

1379
01:17:23,120 --> 01:17:25,760
Speaker 2: in me. There's just something I adding up, something's not

1380
01:17:25,760 --> 01:17:30,200
Speaker 2: adding up. I don't know what it is. I hope

1381
01:17:30,240 --> 01:17:32,960
Speaker 2: i'm I hope I'm right because if I'm wrong, everyone's

1382
01:17:33,000 --> 01:17:33,599
Speaker 2: going to be like.

1383
01:17:35,600 --> 01:17:39,479
Speaker 1: You're wrong. Yeah, just like some of you advised me,

1384
01:17:39,640 --> 01:17:41,920
Speaker 1: I decided to do my part as a dad and

1385
01:17:42,080 --> 01:17:44,680
Speaker 1: also take care of the mother of my child and

1386
01:17:44,800 --> 01:17:48,120
Speaker 1: never try to talk about anything. For now. I work

1387
01:17:48,200 --> 01:17:51,240
Speaker 1: eight hours a day, I go back home, take a shower,

1388
01:17:51,439 --> 01:17:53,200
Speaker 1: and go to her mother's house to help with the

1389
01:17:53,240 --> 01:17:57,280
Speaker 1: baby until twelve oh one am. Then I go back home, rinse,

1390
01:17:57,439 --> 01:18:00,640
Speaker 1: and repeat. She's staying with her mom, cur So I

1391
01:18:00,680 --> 01:18:03,679
Speaker 1: try my best to do my part. Her mother always

1392
01:18:03,680 --> 01:18:05,760
Speaker 1: has been good to me. Even when we broke up.

1393
01:18:06,600 --> 01:18:09,360
Speaker 1: She called me and asked if I'm okay. So, since

1394
01:18:09,360 --> 01:18:11,639
Speaker 1: she's helping with my son, I ordered dinner for them

1395
01:18:11,680 --> 01:18:16,840
Speaker 1: every day. I'm a bad cook and tried to help

1396
01:18:16,880 --> 01:18:19,400
Speaker 1: around the house. When my son and ex are asleep,

1397
01:18:19,960 --> 01:18:21,840
Speaker 1: I buy things for him and made it clear that

1398
01:18:21,880 --> 01:18:23,880
Speaker 1: I'm more than happy to buy whatever they ask for

1399
01:18:23,960 --> 01:18:27,280
Speaker 1: me too. Because I still don't know much about the

1400
01:18:27,280 --> 01:18:30,559
Speaker 1: whole situation. That's all I can do for now. Nice

1401
01:18:30,760 --> 01:18:32,880
Speaker 1: three days ago, her mother was showing me how to

1402
01:18:32,960 --> 01:18:35,639
Speaker 1: change his diaper properly, which I nailed.

1403
01:18:35,960 --> 01:18:38,000
Speaker 2: Let's go it, but I nailed.

1404
01:18:38,200 --> 01:18:41,840
Speaker 1: Just to pause the story anyway, she went downstairs and

1405
01:18:41,880 --> 01:18:44,200
Speaker 1: it was just me and my ex and her baby

1406
01:18:44,200 --> 01:18:48,280
Speaker 1: in the room. Now, she said, I'm sorry, almost like

1407
01:18:48,320 --> 01:18:51,320
Speaker 1: a whisper. I asked her what forward, and she said nothing.

1408
01:18:51,960 --> 01:18:55,000
Speaker 1: I didn't want to press the issue and change the subject.

1409
01:18:55,560 --> 01:19:00,200
Speaker 1: Two days ago, she was on her phone texting with someone.

1410
01:19:07,960 --> 01:19:10,280
Speaker 1: After a few minutes, she told her mother that the

1411
01:19:10,320 --> 01:19:12,679
Speaker 1: best friend visiting tomorrow to see her and the baby.

1412
01:19:13,680 --> 01:19:15,280
Speaker 1: Then she turned to me and asked me if I

1413
01:19:15,360 --> 01:19:18,439
Speaker 1: was okay with that. I said, why wouldn't I be?

1414
01:19:19,240 --> 01:19:21,080
Speaker 1: Then she said she just thought I might not want

1415
01:19:21,120 --> 01:19:23,559
Speaker 1: him to see the baby. I told her it's her

1416
01:19:23,600 --> 01:19:27,160
Speaker 1: baby too, why would that be a problem for me? Anyway?

1417
01:19:27,840 --> 01:19:31,559
Speaker 1: Yesterday I was at work with when my ex texted

1418
01:19:31,600 --> 01:19:33,240
Speaker 1: me asking if I could stop by one of her

1419
01:19:33,240 --> 01:19:36,000
Speaker 1: favorite places and bring her a stake. I said, of course,

1420
01:19:36,479 --> 01:19:38,439
Speaker 1: the place closed to my work, and I used to

1421
01:19:38,520 --> 01:19:40,960
Speaker 1: buy her food on my way back home often.

1422
01:19:40,880 --> 01:19:44,000
Speaker 2: And she asked me to get another one it too.

1423
01:19:44,400 --> 01:19:47,759
Speaker 1: And maybe a little bottle of wine and some candles.

1424
01:19:47,760 --> 01:19:50,000
Speaker 2: Didn't drop it off at the door and leave.

1425
01:19:52,160 --> 01:19:54,640
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I. Oh. When I made it

1426
01:19:54,680 --> 01:19:57,200
Speaker 1: to her mother's house, I saw the best friend's carp

1427
01:19:58,080 --> 01:20:00,040
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I really didn't want to I

1428
01:20:00,080 --> 01:20:02,479
Speaker 1: see him, and if not for the food, I wouldn't

1429
01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:05,080
Speaker 1: have went in because part of me was afraid of

1430
01:20:05,120 --> 01:20:08,559
Speaker 1: what I might see. Well, her mother was happy to

1431
01:20:08,560 --> 01:20:11,519
Speaker 1: see me, but more happy than usual, if that makes sense.

1432
01:20:11,960 --> 01:20:14,200
Speaker 1: My ex and her best friend were sitting beside each

1433
01:20:14,200 --> 01:20:17,120
Speaker 1: other on the couch. He said hi and kept scrolling

1434
01:20:17,120 --> 01:20:19,840
Speaker 1: on his phone. I handed her the food and went

1435
01:20:19,920 --> 01:20:23,839
Speaker 1: on with my routine with my son. But I couldn't

1436
01:20:23,880 --> 01:20:30,439
Speaker 1: help but notice how he kept his hands to himself. Okay,

1437
01:20:30,640 --> 01:20:34,080
Speaker 1: I think right now? So she said, oh, oh, you know,

1438
01:20:34,080 --> 01:20:37,120
Speaker 1: I kept my hands to myself. I think maybe I

1439
01:20:37,160 --> 01:20:40,160
Speaker 1: am leaning back into cheating, at least on the emotional level.

1440
01:20:41,040 --> 01:20:44,599
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I think she might have punched. Ninety eight

1441
01:20:44,600 --> 01:20:46,240
Speaker 1: says she already did the test with her friend and

1442
01:20:46,280 --> 01:20:49,519
Speaker 1: that's why she was so sure. Oh god, I think

1443
01:20:49,560 --> 01:20:52,240
Speaker 1: there's a world where either she did the test or

1444
01:20:52,280 --> 01:20:54,479
Speaker 1: maybe hadn't slept with him and knew it was the

1445
01:20:55,600 --> 01:20:59,800
Speaker 1: opis baby, but still wanted to be with her friend,

1446
01:21:00,040 --> 01:21:02,479
Speaker 1: and so when he gave her that opportunity, she was

1447
01:21:02,560 --> 01:21:06,960
Speaker 1: just like, we're breaking up. I'm over and immediately went

1448
01:21:07,120 --> 01:21:07,719
Speaker 1: to the friend.

1449
01:21:09,400 --> 01:21:15,080
Speaker 2: That's wild And then she said, ooh, I'm sorry, But

1450
01:21:15,200 --> 01:21:16,639
Speaker 2: why nothing?

1451
01:21:16,760 --> 01:21:20,960
Speaker 1: She said. I don't think she said nothing. I think

1452
01:21:21,000 --> 01:21:21,840
Speaker 1: she just said nothing.

1453
01:21:23,640 --> 01:21:24,719
Speaker 2: You know, Yeah she said nothing.

1454
01:21:25,200 --> 01:21:27,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, like absence of sound.

1455
01:21:27,640 --> 01:21:28,880
Speaker 2: Yeah she just said nothing.

1456
01:21:29,200 --> 01:21:33,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, we're on the same page.

1457
01:21:34,200 --> 01:21:35,160
Speaker 2: Yeah she said nothing.

1458
01:21:36,560 --> 01:21:40,639
Speaker 1: Ah, But but how he didn't throw in appropriate comments.

1459
01:21:41,000 --> 01:21:43,600
Speaker 1: They talked and laughed and everything, just like before, but

1460
01:21:43,640 --> 01:21:46,600
Speaker 1: without being handsy and flirty. I was getting ready to

1461
01:21:46,680 --> 01:21:49,439
Speaker 1: leave when my ex's mother said I looked tired and

1462
01:21:49,479 --> 01:21:51,800
Speaker 1: could stay for the night if I want to. I

1463
01:21:51,840 --> 01:21:53,479
Speaker 1: didn't because it will be hard for me to go

1464
01:21:53,560 --> 01:21:55,120
Speaker 1: back to my place in the morning to get ready

1465
01:21:55,160 --> 01:21:58,880
Speaker 1: for work. I can't stop thinking about what could she

1466
01:21:58,920 --> 01:22:01,960
Speaker 1: have meant by I'm sorry? Why did she ask me

1467
01:22:02,000 --> 01:22:04,439
Speaker 1: if I was okay with her best friend visiting I'm

1468
01:22:04,479 --> 01:22:07,479
Speaker 1: trying my best to forget about what happened in folks, uncle, parenting,

1469
01:22:07,960 --> 01:22:10,880
Speaker 1: and nothing else, but can't seem to stop thinking about

1470
01:22:10,920 --> 01:22:14,200
Speaker 1: things anyway. I just feel like getting it off my

1471
01:22:14,320 --> 01:22:20,040
Speaker 1: chest and giving an update. And there is a final update,

1472
01:22:21,720 --> 01:22:27,479
Speaker 1: the final ultimate update. Maybe this stream off okay.

1473
01:22:27,840 --> 01:22:32,960
Speaker 2: Like someone said, she already got the pity the guy's

1474
01:22:33,000 --> 01:22:35,960
Speaker 2: being not himself around him because usually he's.

1475
01:22:35,840 --> 01:22:38,599
Speaker 1: Just like, they're probably trying to be respectful because they

1476
01:22:38,640 --> 01:22:40,960
Speaker 1: know that they were already kind of caught by him.

1477
01:22:41,040 --> 01:22:44,599
Speaker 2: And then the mom acting weird? What's over that? What

1478
01:22:44,680 --> 01:22:44,920
Speaker 2: is she?

1479
01:22:45,040 --> 01:22:47,880
Speaker 1: What is she getting? What are they hiding? What are

1480
01:22:47,880 --> 01:22:48,439
Speaker 1: they hiding?

1481
01:22:48,560 --> 01:22:50,200
Speaker 2: Why does she say why you can stay tonight?

1482
01:22:50,320 --> 01:22:51,360
Speaker 1: Something's going on?

1483
01:22:52,400 --> 01:22:55,000
Speaker 2: I'm so ready.

1484
01:22:54,840 --> 01:23:01,439
Speaker 1: Get into it. Yeah. Updates. The day after I posted

1485
01:23:01,479 --> 01:23:03,479
Speaker 1: my update, I was on my way home when I

1486
01:23:03,520 --> 01:23:06,680
Speaker 1: got a call from my ex's mother. She told me

1487
01:23:06,760 --> 01:23:10,960
Speaker 1: not to order or bring anything for dinner, and she

1488
01:23:11,000 --> 01:23:14,479
Speaker 1: seemed a little off anyway. When I made it to

1489
01:23:14,520 --> 01:23:17,280
Speaker 1: her mother's house, my ex was breastfeeding, so so I

1490
01:23:17,320 --> 01:23:20,000
Speaker 1: went to help her mother set the table. Both my

1491
01:23:20,080 --> 01:23:22,040
Speaker 1: ex and her mother didn't talk at all, and you

1492
01:23:22,080 --> 01:23:25,880
Speaker 1: could feel that something wasn't right. Her mother started a

1493
01:23:25,920 --> 01:23:29,200
Speaker 1: conversation about fatherhood and said something along the lines of

1494
01:23:29,560 --> 01:23:31,920
Speaker 1: you're a good dad yourself. I wouldn't have dreamed of

1495
01:23:31,960 --> 01:23:35,400
Speaker 1: a better dad to my grandchild. My ex mumbled, yeah,

1496
01:23:35,439 --> 01:23:38,000
Speaker 1: wait until he disappears before his son even turns one

1497
01:23:38,120 --> 01:23:41,240
Speaker 1: year old. That's a messed up comment.

1498
01:23:41,400 --> 01:23:43,600
Speaker 2: If he was gonna spare, he would have already.

1499
01:23:43,520 --> 01:23:45,559
Speaker 1: Have already done that. Why would you say that.

1500
01:23:46,120 --> 01:23:49,439
Speaker 2: Because like the mom's helping her then, like she honestly,

1501
01:23:49,560 --> 01:23:51,760
Speaker 2: like I don't think she needs that much help with

1502
01:23:51,760 --> 01:23:54,360
Speaker 2: the baby. But he's doing it out of niceness. Y.

1503
01:23:54,479 --> 01:23:57,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's being really like attentive, he's showing up, he's

1504
01:23:57,680 --> 01:24:02,759
Speaker 1: delivering her steak. That's really messed up up. That's a big,

1505
01:24:02,800 --> 01:24:10,120
Speaker 1: a whole comment. Definitely the guy, Yeah, like my father did.

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01:24:10,360 --> 01:24:10,400
Speaker 2: No.

1507
01:24:11,720 --> 01:24:14,040
Speaker 1: Oh my god, she's she's comparing him to his father.

1508
01:24:15,360 --> 01:24:18,320
Speaker 1: I felt myself shaking with rage. Her mother snapped at

1509
01:24:18,320 --> 01:24:20,640
Speaker 1: her instantly. I said nothing, as the baby was in

1510
01:24:20,680 --> 01:24:22,519
Speaker 1: the same room and didn't want to wake him with

1511
01:24:22,640 --> 01:24:28,080
Speaker 1: raised voices. I quietly left. Before I even made it home,

1512
01:24:28,200 --> 01:24:31,600
Speaker 1: she blew up my phone with text and miscalls. She

1513
01:24:31,720 --> 01:24:34,519
Speaker 1: was begging me to answer her call. I did. She

1514
01:24:34,600 --> 01:24:36,960
Speaker 1: apologized for bringing up my father and said she was

1515
01:24:37,040 --> 01:24:40,120
Speaker 1: angry at herself for everything, and instead of trying to

1516
01:24:40,160 --> 01:24:43,120
Speaker 1: fix things, she just made it even worse. She then

1517
01:24:43,240 --> 01:24:45,120
Speaker 1: said that she can't say this face to face and

1518
01:24:45,160 --> 01:24:48,160
Speaker 1: asked if I could listen to her without cutting her

1519
01:24:48,200 --> 01:24:53,880
Speaker 1: off until she finished. She apologized about how she didn't

1520
01:24:53,880 --> 01:24:56,760
Speaker 1: stop her best friend from ruining our relationship and that

1521
01:24:56,800 --> 01:24:59,400
Speaker 1: she now realizes how wrong the way both of them

1522
01:24:59,479 --> 01:25:03,360
Speaker 1: used to act was. I didn't say anything. I just

1523
01:25:03,439 --> 01:25:06,040
Speaker 1: kept listening to her. She also mentioned that her mother

1524
01:25:06,120 --> 01:25:08,400
Speaker 1: made her realize how the flirting and touching were too

1525
01:25:08,520 --> 01:25:12,400
Speaker 1: much for any man in his right mind to accept.

1526
01:25:13,439 --> 01:25:16,400
Speaker 1: She talked and talked, and I listened until she got

1527
01:25:16,479 --> 01:25:19,360
Speaker 1: everything out and asked her the question that had been

1528
01:25:19,400 --> 01:25:22,200
Speaker 1: eating me up, because I really needed the closure to

1529
01:25:22,200 --> 01:25:26,200
Speaker 1: put everything behind it. I asked if anything happened between

1530
01:25:26,240 --> 01:25:29,280
Speaker 1: them when we were still together. He said no, but

1531
01:25:29,400 --> 01:25:31,639
Speaker 1: the night he came to see the baby, he admitted

1532
01:25:31,680 --> 01:25:34,640
Speaker 1: to having feelings for her, which made her realize that

1533
01:25:34,680 --> 01:25:38,759
Speaker 1: the way he was handsy and flirty wasn't innocent.

1534
01:25:39,400 --> 01:25:41,519
Speaker 2: My god, how do you not see that?

1535
01:25:41,840 --> 01:25:45,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just I mean, you're just being blatantly naive.

1536
01:25:45,520 --> 01:25:51,080
Speaker 1: If you're I am glad that she didn't cheat, but

1537
01:25:51,120 --> 01:25:54,720
Speaker 1: she definitely wasn't. She's still the a hole for not

1538
01:25:55,560 --> 01:25:58,479
Speaker 1: for not realizing after op had said, Hey, this is

1539
01:25:58,600 --> 01:26:00,720
Speaker 1: pushing against my boundaries. I don't like the way that

1540
01:26:00,760 --> 01:26:04,120
Speaker 1: you're interacting with them, and then ignoring his concerns.

1541
01:26:04,280 --> 01:26:07,840
Speaker 2: Dude, w mom. Yeah that mom was like, ah, dude,

1542
01:26:07,840 --> 01:26:10,200
Speaker 2: that mom's so awes Yeah no this Yeah.

1543
01:26:10,320 --> 01:26:13,280
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think they're better off not together because this girl,

1544
01:26:13,800 --> 01:26:18,560
Speaker 1: this girl, this girl. I went the next day to

1545
01:26:18,600 --> 01:26:20,960
Speaker 1: see my son. I had a conversation with her mother

1546
01:26:21,000 --> 01:26:24,519
Speaker 1: about everything. She advised me to not let anything get

1547
01:26:24,560 --> 01:26:26,640
Speaker 1: in the way of my relationship with my son. I

1548
01:26:26,720 --> 01:26:30,599
Speaker 1: reassured her that my son son's well being is all

1549
01:26:30,640 --> 01:26:32,720
Speaker 1: I care about and nothing can affect the way I

1550
01:26:32,800 --> 01:26:35,960
Speaker 1: care about him. She also apologized for what her daughter

1551
01:26:36,000 --> 01:26:39,559
Speaker 1: said and validated my feelings. Later, my ex asked if

1552
01:26:39,560 --> 01:26:41,759
Speaker 1: both of us could start therapy to work out everything

1553
01:26:41,800 --> 01:26:44,280
Speaker 1: properly for the sake of our son, though we could

1554
01:26:44,360 --> 01:26:47,160
Speaker 1: co parent the best way we can. She looked more

1555
01:26:47,200 --> 01:26:50,400
Speaker 1: relaxed and herself for the first time after everything, and

1556
01:26:50,520 --> 01:26:53,439
Speaker 1: apologized again for bringing up my father and how she

1557
01:26:53,600 --> 01:26:56,519
Speaker 1: hated herself for it. That's all. I don't think there

1558
01:26:56,560 --> 01:26:59,320
Speaker 1: will be any more updates. This is it for me,

1559
01:26:59,680 --> 01:27:02,800
Speaker 1: both of us decide to do what is best for

1560
01:27:02,840 --> 01:27:05,960
Speaker 1: our son. For people advising me in the last post,

1561
01:27:06,479 --> 01:27:08,280
Speaker 1: I already went the legal route to get my legal

1562
01:27:08,320 --> 01:27:10,479
Speaker 1: rights to my child. I just forgot to mention it.

1563
01:27:11,160 --> 01:27:13,919
Speaker 1: I will delete the posts and my account this week.

1564
01:27:14,320 --> 01:27:16,439
Speaker 1: I just wanted to let you know how things went,

1565
01:27:16,640 --> 01:27:19,800
Speaker 1: since I already shared my problems with you. Thank you

1566
01:27:19,880 --> 01:27:23,679
Speaker 1: for your opinions, especially the ones that tried to see

1567
01:27:23,720 --> 01:27:27,680
Speaker 1: things from my perspective and tried to be kind. And

1568
01:27:27,720 --> 01:27:31,880
Speaker 1: that I think is where we will end that story.

1569
01:27:32,200 --> 01:27:37,519
Speaker 2: And the stream and the stream dang, that's ah, just

1570
01:27:38,439 --> 01:27:40,800
Speaker 2: let that guy ruin the relationship? Yeah, she really like,

1571
01:27:41,000 --> 01:27:42,960
Speaker 2: how can you let someone ruin your relationship and not

1572
01:27:43,000 --> 01:27:46,360
Speaker 2: have feelings for them, making.

1573
01:27:46,160 --> 01:27:49,800
Speaker 1: It seem so unaware of how he's acting and how

1574
01:27:49,800 --> 01:27:53,920
Speaker 1: that his actions and your actions are straining your relationship.

1575
01:27:54,200 --> 01:27:56,920
Speaker 2: Yeah that that that piece doesn't make sense to me.

1576
01:27:57,000 --> 01:28:01,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, big, big a hole on her part. But

1577
01:28:01,280 --> 01:28:03,800
Speaker 1: that is the end of the stream, and we will

1578
01:28:03,800 --> 01:28:06,920
Speaker 1: not see you this week, so we will we will

1579
01:28:06,960 --> 01:28:10,640
Speaker 1: be back on Tuesday. Uh, and I will be a

1580
01:28:10,720 --> 01:28:16,960
Speaker 1: year older. Yeah okay, last time I asked you, you said Tuesday.

1581
01:28:17,000 --> 01:28:22,360
Speaker 1: So we will be back on Monday and I will

1582
01:28:22,360 --> 01:28:26,960
Speaker 1: be a year older. Let's go, but if you love us,

1583
01:28:27,400 --> 01:28:28,560
Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe.

1584
01:28:29,040 --> 01:28:31,520
Speaker 2: We love you and see you tomorrow.