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Speaker 1: Boyfriend brought his female friend a Tiffany necklace for her birthday.

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Speaker 1: I feel weird about it. Should I break up with them?

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Speaker 1: All the links will be below. But we have to

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Speaker 1: ask the question, should this person break up with their

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Speaker 1: significant other they got they got a Tiffany necklace for

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Speaker 1: somebody else.

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Speaker 3: I misunderstood. I thought she was like, yeah, it's a

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Speaker 3: piece of crab tiff.

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Speaker 1: Try try next time. Exactly.

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Speaker 4: I would need to hear more about my gut is

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Speaker 4: saying break up with them.

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Speaker 2: I always think they should break up with them.

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Speaker 5: I think if you'll get a gift for anyone else

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Speaker 5: other than your partner, break up with them.

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Speaker 2: Get your mom.

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Speaker 1: I'm done.

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Speaker 5: Only be showering your girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: Right by Tiffany for just anybody? How much so?

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Speaker 4: They're expensive, even their sterling silver ones are like at

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Speaker 4: least I would say five hundred bus.

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Speaker 3: That's sterling silver exactly.

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Speaker 2: Imagine the goal.

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Speaker 1: That's not nothing, that's not nothing nothing that. Let's get

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Speaker 1: the actual context of the actual story here to make it.

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Speaker 1: Let's hear it.

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Speaker 5: I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: So this comes from GFq. They say, help me decide

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Speaker 1: if I'm blowing this out of proportion before I overreact.

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Speaker 1: We will. My boyfriend of eleven months has a best friend,

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Speaker 1: a girl best friend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I've been totally fine with this from the beginning because

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Speaker 1: she was there before me and they've been friends since college.

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Speaker 1: They are both twenty seven years old right now. Okay,

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Speaker 1: although I feel it's important to add that they've never

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Speaker 1: had the chance to date because they were both in

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Speaker 1: relationships when they met.

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Speaker 5: Had the chance.

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Speaker 1: That's worded a little yeah.

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Speaker 5: At it.

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Speaker 1: She's also been single for the past three months.

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Speaker 3: Boy, here's her chance, even better chance.

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Speaker 1: Her birthday is this Friday, and my boyfriend wanted to

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Speaker 1: get her something really special. Why. I thought that was

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Speaker 1: sweet of him until I realized what he had bought

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Speaker 1: for her. Now I feel like it's extremely inappropriate, and

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Speaker 1: at the risk of sounding like a bee, I want

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Speaker 1: him to take it back. He claims that she's been

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Speaker 1: wanting the specific necklace from Tiffany's forever, so he bought

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Speaker 1: it for.

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Speaker 2: Her, at least I think so.

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Speaker 1: He refused to tell me how much he spent on it,

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Speaker 1: but I found an identical one on their website and

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Speaker 1: it costs two hundred fifty dollars. Yeah, which we have.

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Speaker 1: We have a picture editors put put in the picture

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Speaker 1: of the notion there.

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Speaker 2: That's only two hundred and fifty bucks.

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Speaker 5: He's getting your heart heart, a.

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Speaker 3: Hard goofy heart.

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Speaker 1: Heart. I reserved the real hearts for you, babe. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I feel like if you give anyone like a heart

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Speaker 5: type jewelry, that is a sign that you're like somewhat

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Speaker 5: hitting on them.

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Speaker 3: I think so. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But also because I know Tiffany's, okay, and that's an

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Speaker 4: Alsa Paretti heart that is like a classic of Tiffany's,

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Speaker 4: and that is like the signature like love necklace, And

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Speaker 4: I really if it's that exact one, there's no way

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Speaker 4: that's only two hundred and fifty bucks, like two thousand,

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Speaker 4: five hundred, honestly, no way.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's gold.

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Speaker 1: Let me see, I'm pulling it up. They also gave

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Speaker 1: us the link here that I'm looking at real quick. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: two fifty kind of changed how I felt.

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Speaker 3: It was like, that's a lot cheaper than I Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it is a.

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Speaker 1: Lot cheaper than I thought. I'm seeing like twenty seven hundred,

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Speaker 1: one thousand and fifteen hundred. Yeah, I'm seeing those kinds

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Speaker 3: Thousand gold would not be Oh oh oh.

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Speaker 1: Here we go. That's open hard pendent six and that's.

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Speaker 2: The tiny one is six seventy five.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like it's it's like a thousand.

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Speaker 5: Maybe they're missing a zero on that.

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's what I'm thinking.

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Speaker 1: That could definitely because if it was a type one

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Speaker 3: Though sounding a lot like a surgery, I think we've

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Speaker 3: different names.

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Speaker 1: Well, my man needs some surgical precision to pull this off,

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Speaker 1: and he's going to really give this gift over, so

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Speaker 1: to put it mildly, my boyfriend's really excited to give

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Speaker 1: it to her. He says. It's also a thank you

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Speaker 1: gift for helping him get through a couple pretty crappy

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Speaker 1: semesters at graduate school. She's extremely smart and was in

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Speaker 1: the same program as him.

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Speaker 5: She's been spending a lot of time together, a lot of.

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Speaker 1: Time, nights, grinding hard on those text books.

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Speaker 5: This is not being set up for winning.

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Speaker 1: Says, okay, fine, but a necklace? Why not a gift

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Speaker 1: card or something less romantic and not so extremely She

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Speaker 1: wants to have a friend date with him on Thursday

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Speaker 1: as an early birthday celebration. So he's going to take

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Speaker 1: they're going to get drunk.

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Speaker 5: That just sounds like a date. If you give someone

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Speaker 5: a heart necklace after dinner, that.

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Speaker 4: Is a day's basically the weekend.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna get drunk.

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Speaker 5: That's a date.

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Speaker 1: It's perfect.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna go back to her place and light a

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Speaker 5: few candles. But it's just had together, platonic.

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Speaker 1: Just platonic in front of everything, and you're saying, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I've never had a problem with this girl, but I

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Speaker 1: don't like how close they are. She's always been nice

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Speaker 1: to me, But I can't help but feel like they

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Speaker 1: might have some underlying feelings for each other for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: how can I solve this? Perhaps I could say just

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Speaker 1: to him that we both get her something that's an

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Speaker 1: interesting idea, and they have him take back the necklace

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Speaker 1: while we still have time any ideas here, and we

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Speaker 1: do have some relevant comments and some updates, but let's

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Speaker 1: let's take a break here and diss this.

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Speaker 3: I like how her solution is just like, let's just

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Speaker 3: get her more stuff.

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Speaker 1: Showering.

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Speaker 4: That's what I don't understand, is like, Okay, now you

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Speaker 4: want to spend money on her.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't really make sense.

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Speaker 5: So it's like diversifying the Like the love, yeah, I

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Speaker 5: cannot coming from all one person, so le not he loves.

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Speaker 2: You, right, it's like a unit and.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, almost strengthens the relationship a little bit. It's

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Speaker 5: coming from the relationship that.

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Speaker 2: Like a united front.

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Speaker 3: I feel like she's just going around confronting him and

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Speaker 3: just trying to make it something that it's not. It's

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Speaker 3: like clearly a gesture on his behalf. You can't just

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Speaker 1: Do you think he's innocent here in his intentions?

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Speaker 3: I mean hearing that it's if if it's thousands of dollars,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, clearly not, that's just an inappropriate gift. But

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Speaker 3: I mean whatever, you know, if you're really rich or whatever.

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Speaker 3: I guess I could not apply.

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Speaker 5: It's a percentage of monthly income.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well his income.

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Speaker 5: Over twenty five percent of your monthly income, then it

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Speaker 5: is a love gift.

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Speaker 2: That's that's I would say even less.

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Speaker 1: Maybe ten percent. Yeah, like what is what is a

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Speaker 1: gift that you would also not just get like a friend,

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Speaker 1: but a friend that you want to make sure You're

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Speaker 1: not like sending any mixed signals to like I can

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Speaker 1: see you know what could be cool, like like a

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Speaker 1: little group activity or something like a group a groupon

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Speaker 1: for making pottery. I don't know, well that's kind of yeah,

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Speaker 1: what am I doing?

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Speaker 2: You make sense?

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Speaker 3: I feel like experiences though usually get a pass for

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Speaker 3: these kinds of things. Laws is not too intense, Like

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Speaker 3: it's like we're taking it so exactly solo trip to Hawaii.

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Speaker 3: It's okay, that's a romantic but like, yeah, group thing

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Speaker 3: to like the pottery, making.

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Speaker 4: Sure taking her out to eat, even if they like

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Speaker 4: went out together, and this wasn't somebody that like I

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Speaker 4: just feel like at the root of it, the girlfriend

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Speaker 4: feels like this is someone that he's like, Oh, you

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Speaker 4: don't need to worry about her kind of person in

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Speaker 4: their lives, Like it's one thing if it was just

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Speaker 4: truly like it was like, oh, it's like his best

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Speaker 4: friend he's known he forever. I'm not threatened, but the

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Speaker 4: fact that she has all of these other worries, I

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Speaker 4: feel like that's just the sign within itself.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like there are a lot of signs

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Speaker 5: that this is a little bit more than just friends,

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Speaker 5: and everyone can see it. Hope that's right, does see it,

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Speaker 5: which is why she's riding.

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Speaker 1: The exact place you want to know.

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Speaker 2: What I also want to know is what kind of

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Speaker 3: He get her?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? That is great?

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Speaker 2: Is she getting her Tiffany J.

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Speaker 3: Pennies babe I had left in the budget after.

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Speaker 2: She had mentioned that would get for your last right.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like since she didn't mention it,

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Speaker 4: it does kind of sound like he gets things kind

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Speaker 4: of like this for her, gets her nice gifts too.

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Speaker 4: Otherwise I feel like she'd be like, he doesn't get

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Speaker 4: me shipped like this. Yeah, so it'd be even more

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Speaker 4: of a red flag.

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Speaker 5: But you didn't get him through grad school.

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Speaker 2: That's true, but.

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Speaker 1: Exactly. Yeah, maybe she didn't help him get like ACE

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Speaker 1: his final exam, but she was like emotional hopefully, I

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Speaker 1: don't know.

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Speaker 5: I don't know. Emotional support doesn't deserve Tiffany's I guess.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it feels like now that he knows she's single,

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Speaker 4: he's like kind of.

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Speaker 1: Just so suspicious.

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Speaker 3: Jewelry not really a man gift either, you know what

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Speaker 3: I mean, if you got her like a PSI.

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Speaker 1: Barbecue, like let's go.

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Speaker 4: Actually, that's interesting, Like if it was the same amount

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Speaker 4: of money, but it was something like not as romantic,

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Speaker 2: Be, right?

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Speaker 4: Jewelry is so it's like that is meant for your

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Speaker 4: romantic partner, unless it's like your mom getting.

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Speaker 2: It for you. But you're you're not supposed to give

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Speaker 2: that to friends.

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Speaker 5: And heart shaped jewelry or jewelry. I mean, it's like

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Speaker 5: it's like almost the I feel like it's the equivalent

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Speaker 5: of giving a bouquet of roses.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, like a very expensive.

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Speaker 1: On a chariot with a white horse. But we do

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Speaker 1: have some relevant comments here, So Corus Norris says, I

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Speaker 1: hope to hell that you are going on that quote

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Speaker 1: unquote friend date with them. I mean, you can't be

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Speaker 1: Propose to her. Imagine imagine if that was the date

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Speaker 1: Shep He responds, Oh, freak, don't get me started on

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Speaker 3: He sent her some give me a break.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's so cross the line. He's way over. There's

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Speaker 3: She's mad at him for buying this girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, he knows better. Now, how do you

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Speaker 5: Feels like she's fishing for boyfriend presents. Like she's like

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Speaker 5: And then he gets a flower oh, I really like

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Speaker 5: this tiffany necklace, right, because.

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Speaker 2: That's what it was she suggested. She said she wanted it.

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Speaker 5: She's planting these these present ideas so they'll break up.

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Speaker 3: Got all these rose petals in a bath running.

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Speaker 5: I had someone to share it, clumsy.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to work a bath by myself.

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Speaker 4: I do like what that one comment said though, about

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Speaker 4: like how awkward it would be if like your guy

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Speaker 4: being the other way around, Like if you truly just

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Speaker 4: like this is too much, this feeling a little more intimate.

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Speaker 2: But clearly she likes it.

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Speaker 5: She wants, she does she wants.

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Speaker 1: So we have a big, juicy update we're about to

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Speaker 1: dive into, and I have to offer the tinfoil hat

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Speaker 1: if you have a conspiracy as to what's going to

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Speaker 1: Do you got one? Shannon?

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Speaker 3: I feel like we're all saying that, Well, then he's

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I would say that the conspiracy theory is, yeah,

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Speaker 2: She thinks, oh, pi's the other woman.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think I think the friend knows about.

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Speaker 5: A relationship, about the relationship. But I feel like I

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Speaker 5: agree that people feel like they're the main and they're.

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Speaker 2: Just weird, right, and the other one is the side check.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And she's like, Yo, dump your girl and get

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Speaker 5: Is like, I will, I will, just you know, let

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Speaker 2: What is an emotional affair?

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Speaker 1: What if the gift was like He's like, babe, I'm

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Speaker 1: And she's like, you know what you need to do

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Speaker 1: for me. You need to give me this Tiffany's necklace

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and yes, I think she's just milking him for

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Speaker 1: That would be a rough hot conspiracy takes over here.

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Speaker 5: I hope he's hubby is the sugar daddy. Basically yep,

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Speaker 1: Wow, I like this.

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Speaker 5: These are great like milking the conspiracy theories. Oh yes,

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Speaker 5: he actually also looked like little nipples.

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Speaker 1: They they really do. We have been we have been

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Speaker 1: I had a sit down talk with my boyfriend this afternoon.

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Speaker 1: I explained my feeling to him regarding the Tiffany Hart necklace,

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Speaker 1: until the friend dates here we go. This is where

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Speaker 5: Oh okay.

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Speaker 1: I asked him if it was okay, if I came along,

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Speaker 1: and he said, probably, but I should tell her first.

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Speaker 1: So I told him to text her and ask if

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Speaker 1: are you kidding me?

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Speaker 2: And she saw it.

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Speaker 1: I guess it's okay. I know you love her more

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Speaker 5: It feels red flag on her part for at least

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Speaker 1: Red flags red flag sure that that is a yeah.

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Speaker 5: Well, I mean it seems like she like, you don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh well of course, because what like to me

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Speaker 5: Little Dara and I'm like, sad face, I thought it

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Speaker 1: You know, Riley tries to, you know, be a third

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Speaker 5: I've been trying to do that for hell.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I would be vigorously excited.

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Speaker 2: Who doesn't want to?

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Speaker 4: You might have the chance to go home with him

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Speaker 4: and see his room exactly.

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Speaker 2: He showed his room and it is green.

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Speaker 1: Wow. You all interpret that as you will, ladies and gentlemen. Oh,

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Speaker 1: one day we should do a Riley's room tour.

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Speaker 4: I think the bestroom in the house. Boys.

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Speaker 1: So this is getting back after the sad face emoji

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Speaker 1: if I invite you to the blank concert next month,

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Speaker 1: it'd just be you and me. I already bought you

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Speaker 1: We'll just talk tonight.

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Speaker 2: Wow, yeah, there's something.

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Speaker 4: Dude.

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Speaker 1: What the F? This just proves that she is a snake.

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Speaker 1: I told my boyfriend I wasn't going to put up

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Speaker 5: At the very least, he is being somewhat understanding and

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Speaker 1: Maybe he just had the rose tinted glasses of the

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Speaker 1: you know what, you're right, I see reason now, right,

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Speaker 1: So I guess they're going to meet up and talk tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and f her birthday, so we do have

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Speaker 5: The friendship is over too.

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Speaker 3: I mean, she's been calling the shots the whole time

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Speaker 5: Like, yoh, whatever will get you. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah that it seems like she's like manipulating him a little.

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Speaker 5: Bit, and it seems like he's doing the same thing

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a pushover. It's a steamrolled lift.

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Speaker 3: And right.

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Speaker 4: I almost hope that they break up and he goes

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Speaker 1: Do you think that's the real relationship that should be

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Speaker 4: Think that I think Op needs to get out because

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Speaker 5: Couldn't do any boundaries and put any boundaries up. I

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Speaker 3: Flag, got to know to an extent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but go where the wind takes me.

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Speaker 4: Do you guys like agree with that theory of Like,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely disagree and think that platonic relationships can happen.

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Speaker 1: I think like a big thing is shutting it down

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like you can get dicey, but I

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Speaker 3: like early twenties stuff that it's like, Yeah, I mean,

448
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 3: I have so many girlfriends that I'm just not interested

449
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 3: in that way.

450
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 2: You know, I think so too.

451
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think as you mature, you're able to have

452
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 5: more of those relationships.

453
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 1: That's true.

454
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:11,680
Speaker 3: Like, No, I seen you ugly cry.

455
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 1: Not really, I got the eck. Well, guys, we get

456
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:27,479
Speaker 1: the conclusion of final update about three weeks later. I

457
00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 1: apologize in advance if this comes out as a huge

458
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 1: effing mess. It turns out he is not as innocent

459
00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 1: as I had previously thought.

460
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 5: Who could have seen that coming?

461
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:45,120
Speaker 1: I never knew, and now I feel like an effing fool. Here.

462
00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 1: Last night I stayed at his place and we talked

463
00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:50,119
Speaker 1: about it some more. He said he was going to

464
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 1: return the necklace first thing this morning. Well, he lied.

465
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,720
Speaker 1: I went over to his place on my lunch hour,

466
00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:00,919
Speaker 1: and the damn thing was still lying on his night stamp.

467
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:06,879
Speaker 5: Yeah, still in the box or out of that.

468
00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:07,879
Speaker 1: Box is bright blue.

469
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 2: You can't miss that.

470
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 1: Okay, there you go. He claims he forgot to take

471
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,160
Speaker 1: it back and we'll have to do it later, which

472
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 1: I mean, it's in my gut. I felt like he

473
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 1: was stalling me, and I was right. As I mentioned

474
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 1: in my prior post, my boyfriend and his best friend

475
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 1: were going to have a talk today. I honestly believed

476
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: that he was going to distance himself from her and

477
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:38,399
Speaker 1: explain to her that her actions were inappropriate. Well, that

478
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:41,880
Speaker 1: didn't happen. After two hours without hearing anything from him,

479
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,160
Speaker 1: I texted him to find out what was going on,

480
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:46,960
Speaker 1: because I wanted to see him after their talk tonight.

481
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 1: He responded and said that he was just going to

482
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: have the night to himself, maybe somebody else right away.

483
00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 1: Alarm bells are going off in my head because he's

484
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,199
Speaker 1: sending me short texts and is barely answering any of

485
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 1: my questions.

486
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 5: Oh my god.

487
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 1: I told him his evasive behavior was really beginning to

488
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: worry me, and he replied and said, I'm sorry, I'm

489
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: just confused.

490
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 5: Oh, so he has feelings for her? Yeah, of course, of.

491
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 1: Course, I texted back, what do you mean you're confused?

492
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:24,159
Speaker 1: Confused about what? He took forever to respond, but eventually

493
00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: admitted he was confused about our relationship yep, shocker. Instead

494
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: of fighting over text, I went over to his place

495
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 1: to figure out what the problem was, f around and

496
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 1: find out what my friends to.

497
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 5: Figure out what the problem was.

498
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:49,719
Speaker 1: After lots of arguing, he finally gave me the truth. Apparently,

499
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: during their friend talk this afternoon, she told him she's

500
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 1: had feelings for him since college and it's gotten to

501
00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 1: the point now or it's hard for her to be

502
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 1: around him. I asked him if the feelings were mutual,

503
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 1: and he replied, I don't know. In other words, yes.

504
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 1: I asked him what else was said during this talk,

505
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 1: and he said that she basically feels bad because she

506
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 1: feels like she's ruining our relationship and getting in between us. Well, no, shit,

507
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 1: that's when he brought up the idea, wait, taking a

508
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 1: break of us, possibly going on a break so he

509
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: can sort this friendship out. Honestly, I thought he was like,

510
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,360
Speaker 1: that's when he brought up the idea to bring her

511
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: in on the relationship so he can figure this out

512
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,679
Speaker 1: as a unit. Exactly, That's not what it was.

513
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 5: It's like just it's the same as bringing her in

514
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 5: on the gift giving.

515
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 1: We bring her a gift, we bring her relationship it's

516
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:48,679
Speaker 1: the same thing Tomato to.

517
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,479
Speaker 4: Also, the going on the break is so obvious that

518
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 4: he is going to try and see what happens with

519
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 4: the other girl. Figure.

520
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, let me just say, oh my gosh, just

521
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: give me a whole pass please, Just as I told him,

522
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,439
Speaker 1: I would never agree to something like that because it

523
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: just gives him the license to sleep with her, which

524
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,239
Speaker 1: brought up to my next point. I asked him if

525
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 1: he ever cheated on me with her, and suddenly he

526
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 1: became very defensive. Oh, he said they only fooled around

527
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 1: back when he was single. Funny how he never mentioned

528
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: that before, Yeah, which I can see why.

529
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 5: OP is like, well, yeah, you never want to hear that. Yeah,

530
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 5: his best female friend. They hooked up before.

531
00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:41,919
Speaker 1: That he has necessarily violated anything yet, But it's.

532
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:45,919
Speaker 5: Yeah, she should have told her, like a violation to

533
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 5: keep that from her.

534
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I feel like that's something like, oh, yeah,

535
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:51,679
Speaker 1: you know, we fooled around back in the day. I

536
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: once that comes up, you say it in that.

537
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 3: Mood, and he didn't want to because then how's he

538
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:57,640
Speaker 3: going to get a hang out with her and bring

539
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 3: her a changeless hour horizing fishing.

540
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, babe, I couldn't tell you because you wouldn't

541
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,239
Speaker 1: let me buy the three thousand dollars necklace. Okay, let

542
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,160
Speaker 1: me live. I told him I didn't believe him because

543
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: of how defensive he was. He then admitted that she

544
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 1: kissed him during their talk, but he pulled away after

545
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: a couple of seconds because he felt a couple of.

546
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 5: Couple of seconds, I think I kissing, and I feel

547
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 5: like he's downplaying it. Even in this like truth song.

548
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 5: It's definitely a partial truth for sure.

549
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 2: Definitely, but they probably fall on Fuck.

550
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, dinner on the table in front of the get

551
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 5: out of a restaurant.

552
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 1: I'm making love to my new lady. But quote unquote,

553
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 1: that's all that happened. Yeah, I'm not stupid. Even if

554
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 1: it was just a kiss, he should have made it

555
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 1: clear to her that he wasn't interested and also ran

556
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 1: to the girlfriend immediately be like, Yo, she just tried

557
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: to kiss me. I'm getting the f out of here. Yeah,

558
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 1: this is this is not.

559
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 5: The suspicious to keep that information, Like a good boyfriend

560
00:27:57,920 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 5: would say, like exactly what happened immediately?

561
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 1: Remember, he like he was staying so much longer, he

562
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: was like so shortened text It's like, what what were

563
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 1: you doing that whole time? I couldn't get to you.

564
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,400
Speaker 2: Also, I bet she was at his house.

565
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 1: Yeah I believe, Yeah, I believe that's what she was saying.

566
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 1: It's like, Yo, I'm here, where are you not this?

567
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: I don't know if I have feelings for her. BS.

568
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:23,120
Speaker 1: At that point, I told him we were done. There

569
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 1: we go, there we go, we too here at our

570
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: relationship is over. I don't want to be in a

571
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:33,120
Speaker 1: relationship with someone I cannot trust. He didn't even fight

572
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 1: for me. All he did was apologize and said that

573
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: he didn't mean to hurt me. Whatever. It's all Bs.

574
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: All the signs were there, but I chose to ignore them.

575
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: The flowers, the watch, the watch okay, where was that?

576
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: It went with the Tiffany's okay, the heart necklace, the

577
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: way she acted around him, et cetera, et cetera. All

578
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 1: the signs were there.

579
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 5: You just don't want to see it in the moment,

580
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 5: you know exactly.

581
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 1: I'm really trying to look at the right side. I

582
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 1: know I deserve better, Yes you do, queen Amen. I

583
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: already feel like a weight has lifted off of my shoulders.

584
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: My relationship wasn't going anywhere, especially with her in the picture,

585
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 1: and I should have just ended it earlier. I'm extremely

586
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: grateful that this has happened now and not a couple

587
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 1: of years down the road when we were engaged or

588
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: something like that. I have plenty of great friends and

589
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: family to lean on for support, so everything will be fine.

590
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 1: I am moving on for good. Thank you to everyone

591
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: for your help over the past couple of days. It's

592
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: been really therapeutic writing all of this stuff down.

593
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

594
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's.

595
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 5: Like happy, but it's better to drop that boyfriend than

596
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 5: to keep it.

597
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, totally.

598
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 4: I'm curious if they ended up together. Yeah, bes friend

599
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 4: and the boyfriend.

600
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 5: Did right, they got it. I mean they've known each

601
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 5: other so long.

602
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, and clearly they're you know, best friends for a reason.

603
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 4: And like, I don't I'm not really rooting for them

604
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 4: per se, but I guess if you're gonna have that happen,

605
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 4: it's nice to have a little it's worth.

606
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. You know we say that sometimes where

607
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, it's almost kind of worse when

608
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 1: they just like hook up once completely blow up the

609
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 1: relationship and then they're just like like all for nothing

610
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: at least commit you know, exactly.

611
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 5: Parties are just super upset and fucked Yeah, exactly. Person

612
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 5: it would have hurt.

613
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 4: So bad where it's like, oh my god, you actually

614
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 4: did find someone that you want to be with forever.

615
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 4: Like it would hurt so bad, but it would also

616
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 4: be like, okay, well at.

617
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 5: Least at least. Right, one of my friend's parents how

618
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 5: they met is his his dad was best friends with

619
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 5: the guy that his mom was dating, and so they

620
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 5: were dating for a couple of years and then the

621
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 5: dad swooped in and now they've been married for like

622
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 5: forty years.

623
00:30:58,120 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 2: Oh wait, really wow.

624
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 5: They're very happy together and then they don't talk to

625
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 5: that guy anymore.

626
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, it's tough because it's like that's a true

627
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 1: love for your marriage, sounds like, and it's like, you

628
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 1: have a chance.

629
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 4: One of my boyfriends like family members. They there was

630
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 4: two married couples. They were like next door neighbors, and

631
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 4: two of them were having an affair and then the

632
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 4: other two actually ended up together. The other husband and

633
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 4: wife like ended up together and now they're all married,

634
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 4: And isn't that crazy?

635
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 5: The little little wife swap.

636
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 2: Wait people, yeah, they're I think they're still together too. Yeah.

637
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, his family member was the one that ended up

638
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 4: that got cheated on and then ended up with the

639
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 4: other one, and.

640
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 5: It's gonna have I feel like that's like the best anything.

641
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 1: Real quick questions for everyone watching and both of you,

642
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 1: Where would you have cut it off? If like you

643
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 1: were op in the scenario, Like, when would have you

644
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 1: called it quits?

645
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 4: I guess, I mean the Tiffany's necklace is very questionable.

646
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, what do you think it's worse a watch of

647
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 5: a little bit more value? So like let's say like

648
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 5: a two thousand dollars watch, yeah, or one thousand dollars Tiffany's.

649
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would.

650
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 4: Say I still be like, why are you dropping two

651
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 4: k on her? Yeah, but like there is something about

652
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 4: a watch that's like just not as romantic. Yeah, but

653
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 4: I still would kind of be like, hmm, okay, this

654
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 4: is like a lot of money, Like what the fuck did.

655
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 5: You get me?

656
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 2: What are you gonna get me for my birthday? I

657
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 2: bet every twice that amount at least at least.

658
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 4: But I mean, I guess if I were her, I

659
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 4: I maybe probably would have acted the same way she

660
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 4: did of just like trying to figure it.

661
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: Out and like level with them, and.

662
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 5: Do we know how long we're in a relationship?

663
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 1: Eleven months? Eleven months from that point, basically a year

664
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 1: by the end. Basically year by the end.

665
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 5: Okay, relatively new relationship.

666
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of feel like he got caught in

667
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 3: with her. He doesn't really care about her. This is

668
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 3: his best friend. Like you're gonna say that, you know,

669
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 3: you're kind of supposed to marry your best friend. Yeah, Like,

670
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 3: I don't know, they might actually work out. I hate

671
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 3: to say it.

672
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 5: I think it's so much history.

673
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 1: They help, they're in the same grade, what if they

674
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: what if they go into the same career, if they're

675
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 1: in the same problem, they work business together for them.

676
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 5: Now they out perfect. He showers her with gifts and roses.

677
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think it is a little bit of a

678
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 4: red flag though, when they have like a platonic opposite

679
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 4: sex best friend.

680
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

681
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 4: I mean, unless, like I guess, grew up together, and

682
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 4: I guess there definitely is a way to be like

683
00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 4: I have a brother and sister relationship, like if you're

684
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 4: families are really close.

685
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I definitely can see that it

686
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 2: can work.

687
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:08,560
Speaker 4: But I think you just got to use your intuition

688
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,399
Speaker 4: about the relationship, Like, clearly she's been flagging it from

689
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 4: the start.

690
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 3: Well, I think you're nailing it.

691
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 4: Though.

692
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:17,399
Speaker 3: It's common interest, you know, if like family friend that's commonality,

693
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,760
Speaker 3: or if it's like you know, comedy or whatever podcasting,

694
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 3: it's like, yeah, you've got a reason to be hanging

695
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 3: out with them, but when you.

696
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,920
Speaker 4: Don't, it is a little sus But I guess they

697
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 4: did because they were like in grad school together.

698
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 1: Yeah that's fair.

699
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, it's just kind of weird, Like.

700
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 5: I'm excited for their future.

701
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:38,760
Speaker 4: Congratulations, guys, I can hear the wedding bells.

702
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:39,879
Speaker 5: But you know what else I can hear?

703
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 1: What can you hear?

704
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 5: The bells of this new story?

705
00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 1: Baby?

706
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for breaking up with my

707
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,800
Speaker 5: fiance for not bringing me lunch?

708
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 1: Oh god, nope, dump them, dump them, give me lunch.

709
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,359
Speaker 5: I need to be fed. He was just angry, That's right,

710
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 5: he was angry. You obviously get a break up with

711
00:34:59,080 --> 00:34:59,720
Speaker 5: you and you're angry.

712
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:01,760
Speaker 1: You do that, right. You can break off an engagement

713
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 1: just because you're angry.

714
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:06,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, and so yeah, eat a snicker a Snickers there

715
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 4: we go.

716
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 5: So this comes from empty World nineteen forty five, and

717
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 5: the original post is December fifteenth, twenty twenty three. So

718
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 5: I twenty five female and my fiance Mark twenty six

719
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 5: mail have been together two years. Me and Mark met

720
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 5: through mutual friends and went to the same high school together,

721
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 5: but didn't start dating till years after we graduated. He's

722
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:29,959
Speaker 5: currently in the military and is stationed in another state,

723
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 5: but kept our relationship strong through the long distance and

724
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 5: of course when he comes home for vacation breaks and holidays.

725
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 5: So it sounds like they've known each other for a while.

726
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 5: I got those common interests.

727
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 1: Oh, we don't know anything about that.

728
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 5: We also have a dog named Willie that we got together,

729
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,399
Speaker 5: but of course stays with me and sees Mark when

730
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 5: he's home. When he's home, he stays at my place

731
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 5: and spends time at his families while I'm at work.

732
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 5: Since he flies home, he leaves his personal vehicle at

733
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 5: base and sometimes uses my car. I imagine all these

734
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 5: details will be important soon, hopefully. Yeah, we're getting a

735
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:03,320
Speaker 5: lot of details.

736
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 3: I like learning him out their life.

737
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, it sounds really cute and domestic. So he also

738
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 5: picks me up for my lunch break and we eat together.

739
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 5: He doesn't miss a lunch day ever.

740
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: Wow.

741
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 5: He got home five days ago and I returned back

742
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 5: to work. Mark dropped me off so he could use

743
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 5: my car for errands and to re up on Willie's

744
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 5: food since we just ran out during his morning feed.

745
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 5: When he picked me up at the end of my shift,

746
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:30,280
Speaker 5: I asked Mark if he bought the big or small

747
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 5: bag of Willy's food. He paused and mentioned he forgot

748
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 5: to buy the food.

749
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 1: Mind you.

750
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 5: I work a ten hour shift and fed Willie the

751
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 5: minute I got up to get ready for work, which

752
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:44,360
Speaker 5: is eleven twelve hours ago. I asked Mark what he

753
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 5: had been doing while I was at work, and he

754
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 5: just said he was out spending time with his brothers.

755
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 5: Do we believe him he never missed lunch. He never

756
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:54,720
Speaker 5: misses lunch.

757
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, he seems like a pretty reliable guy.

758
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: Half truth. He was spending time I'm with his brothers

759
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,439
Speaker 1: at the strip club. Yeah, and there you go. There,

760
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: that's a babe. I told you the truth.

761
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 5: I swear I was just there for the hot wing.

762
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 1: Yes, it's delicious.

763
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,359
Speaker 5: I'm a very understanding and patient person. I was mad

764
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 5: that Willy had gone so long without eating, but gave

765
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 5: him the benefit of the doubt since he hasn't seen

766
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 5: his family in months. I let it go. So she's like, Hey,

767
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 5: I know you know our dog is starving, but since

768
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 5: you're back for a little bit, it's okay that you forgot.

769
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: I think Opie's man is thinking about a whole different

770
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: Willy right now. Oh that's what I'm saying. He is,

771
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 1: thanks little ahead.

772
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 5: A couple days later, Mark mentioned he was going Christmas

773
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,879
Speaker 5: shopping with his brothers and wouldn't be able to take

774
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 5: me to lunch since he was going before their shifts.

775
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 5: My brother in laws are twenty and twenty two and

776
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,919
Speaker 5: haven't saved up for their own cars, so he had

777
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 5: to use mine. We had a surprise meeting that day,

778
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 5: which extended my lunch to a later time that Mark

779
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 5: would be free for. I called Mark and told him

780
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 5: of my new lunch hour and asked if he could

781
00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 5: bring me a plate of food. Mark weirdly hesitated and

782
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 5: said he had to go feed Willy first since it

783
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 5: was time for his second feeding. We're flip flopping here now,

784
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 5: you're so concerned about feeding Willy, I suggested to feed

785
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 5: Willie after he dropped off some lunch for me. Since

786
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 5: my break was only for one hour and wouldn't have

787
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 5: enough time to eat if he went back home first.

788
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,760
Speaker 5: Mark heavily insisted on feeding Willy first because he didn't

789
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 5: want upset me the way he did when he forgot

790
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 5: to feed him a couple of days ago.

791
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 1: No, before you, I.

792
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,240
Speaker 3: Don't want to upset you, even though I'm not doing

793
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:38,360
Speaker 3: what you want me to do.

794
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 5: It's like, what okay, Yeah, so op, I think feels

795
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 5: how we all feel right now. I felt off. I

796
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 5: love Willy very much, but I told him Willy was

797
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:50,320
Speaker 5: not going to starve from five hours and not eating.

798
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 5: Mark suggested I just wait till the end of my

799
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:56,399
Speaker 5: shift to go eat after work. I was dumbfounded that

800
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 5: Mark was being heavily hesitant on bringing me food, especially

801
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,839
Speaker 5: since he's in my car and I haven't eaten since

802
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:05,439
Speaker 5: last night because I'm not much of a breakfast person.

803
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 5: So basically like he has her car, so she can't

804
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,319
Speaker 5: go and drive to get food. She was depending on

805
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 5: him for food. I guess she didn't pack anything going

806
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 5: in so.

807
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 3: He never misses luck.

808
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 1: Like what happened?

809
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, he was so reliable.

810
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 2: Until you're saying, okay.

811
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 5: But what could be more important than buying a plate

812
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:27,720
Speaker 5: of food for your starving partner.

813
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 2: Oh, starving, starving.

814
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 5: I feel like we're using a little bit of hyperbole

815
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 5: right here. I don't live starving, but very hungry at

816
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:40,280
Speaker 5: the very least. I mean, it's hard to antion and work.

817
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 2: On She's wait, what is she? A nurse? Is all

818
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 2: I heard?

819
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: No, it feels like the ten hour shift gave me.

820
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: Oh that she said a meeting though nurses have.

821
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 5: Nurses probably have meetings. I mean, I know, we know

822
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:55,280
Speaker 5: he is a in the military.

823
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know.

824
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 5: Anything on her. Yeah, I don't know if we know position,

825
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 5: I thought nurse though. I got upset and asked Mark

826
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 5: what's really going on? Because he's never missed a lunch

827
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:12,240
Speaker 5: date with me. Mark got loud and said I'm tripping

828
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:15,839
Speaker 5: and hung up on me. I called him back and

829
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 5: all calls were rejected. He texted me saying he was

830
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 5: going home and we could talk after work because he

831
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 5: was tired from shopping. For petty reasons, I had a

832
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 5: bag of chips in my desk that I refuse to

833
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:33,720
Speaker 5: eat so he could hear my stomach. Now, I won't

834
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 5: say anything. My stomach will do the talking and be

835
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 5: yelling at you. I see him pull up to the

836
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 5: front of my office building and I calmly get into

837
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 5: the car. The second we got home, I tell him

838
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 5: it's over and asked to pack his things and leave.

839
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 5: He calls me a cry baby, an effing dramatic and

840
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 5: will regret breaking up with me. Is he right? Or

841
00:40:55,680 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 5: am I just being extra for ending the relationship? And again,

842
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 5: they've begain they've been together two years.

843
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 1: Okay, they're engaged.

844
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 5: They're engaged. There are some relevant comments and an update,

845
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:14,280
Speaker 5: But I want to know from y'all. Is Opie overreacting

846
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 5: right now or is she justified?

847
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 4: I feel like I'm maybe I'm missing something, but I

848
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 4: feel like she's overreacting.

849
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

850
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:24,520
Speaker 3: I feel like we just did one like this. I

851
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 3: can't remember what it was now, but yeah, same thing

852
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 3: where it's like you're breaking up.

853
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:31,920
Speaker 2: Break for that. Yeah, I mean it was about the

854
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 2: party and the dog. The dog was dying.

855
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, he didn't answer her call. Basically he was

856
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:37,760
Speaker 3: at a party.

857
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:39,959
Speaker 2: Was this otherwise I'm not coming home?

858
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:40,360
Speaker 1: Whatever?

859
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 4: But it just seems so like dramatic and that there's

860
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 4: like underlying issues of why you're breaking up because you're

861
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:47,359
Speaker 4: going to break up over this.

862
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

863
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 4: I also just feel like pack can't fucking figure out

864
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 4: your own lunch plans, Like why does he have to

865
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:56,800
Speaker 4: be there at every lunch?

866
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:58,800
Speaker 2: I'm confused. He's so he saw him from the military

867
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 2: and he has the time off. Is that what it is?

868
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:00,919
Speaker 1: Yeah?

869
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,560
Speaker 5: I think it's about spending time together because maybe they

870
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 5: don't get to spend a lot of time because he's

871
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 5: always military.

872
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 1: About that's daring about I do.

873
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 5: As they do as they do, but it doesn't feel

874
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 5: like a time spent thing though. It actually feels like

875
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 5: I'm just trying to get sustenance. Like the reason she's

876
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 5: most mad is because she's starting too.

877
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 3: There's like a thing when people are very consistent and

878
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 3: then they get off that consistency, Like, to me, that

879
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:31,840
Speaker 3: usually is an indicator like something deeper is happening. Yeah. Yeah,

880
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 3: this is their ritual. It's what they do. I mean,

881
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 3: I agree with you. It doesn't need to be like

882
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 3: so regimented necessarily, but that is what it is. I mean,

883
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 3: he's a military.

884
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 4: Die and he should have said to her like, oh

885
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 4: I can't make lunch. They so figure out your plans.

886
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 5: Exactly two lunches and then it's like, like I feel

887
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 5: like it deserves a further talk at least, like what

888
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 5: is the golden rule? Three strikes and you're out?

889
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:00,240
Speaker 1: This is only.

890
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 5: We're calling it too. But there are some relevant comments,

891
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 5: so healer Heel says, So he's probably effing around for one,

892
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 5: which I'm sorry to hear. But he had told you

893
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 5: the day slash evening before that he couldn't make the

894
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 5: lunch date. So why did you bring food from home?

895
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 5: And this wasn't an issue for you until your break

896
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,760
Speaker 5: got changed. If it hadn't, what would you've eaten anyway?

897
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,240
Speaker 5: If you didn't bring anything? What the f lady?

898
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

899
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 5: And then he said, I had money to door dash.

900
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 5: I just needed to know what was so important to

901
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 5: not bring a plate of food for your partner. And

902
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 5: the mall does not take a whole lot. He was

903
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 5: already done with the mall to begin with, which is

904
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 5: why I asked. And then Bodacious Justice says, not being dramatic,

905
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 5: he's being super shady. I don't believe he was really

906
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 5: hanging out with his brothers these two days. He had

907
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 5: other plants. I don't know. I feel like we're getting

908
00:43:54,320 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 5: into like a little conspiracy. I mean, I think there

909
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 5: is a high chance that he is he is like

910
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 5: hooking up, but I don't know if he think if

911
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 5: we have enough information to actually justify that. I know

912
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 5: what you think.

913
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 3: I guess I'm not ready to jump to hooking up

914
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 3: because it seems so abrupt. Yeah, it's like he's doing something.

915
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:14,720
Speaker 3: He's doing something.

916
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's some sketchiness possibly with him going outside of

917
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 5: his ream.

918
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,600
Speaker 2: Maybe he just wants his own time, Like why is.

919
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 4: He Yeah, it feels just so like I don't want

920
00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 4: to say this word because it's like I don't know,

921
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 4: but she's seeming a little whiped.

922
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, that's okay to say.

923
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 5: But I think I think it just seems like we're

924
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 5: we're jumping the gun a little bit too too fast.

925
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. Really, it's not it's not like he's totally innocent

926
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 1: or there's nothing to suspect, but the punishment does not

927
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: fit the crime. I don't think so.

928
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 4: I mean, I understand her getting annoyed that he is

929
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 4: then like calling her all these names and getting frustrated

930
00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 4: with her, Like, but it's like have a conversation word on, Yeah,

931
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 4: here's your ring.

932
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 1: I wonder if she's done that before, like hold off

933
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 1: the relationship and it's like, I'm just playing with you

934
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 1: over she could.

935
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:19,800
Speaker 3: I'm hoping he's up to something, but it's not cheating.

936
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 5: I want him to be like he's been shopping for.

937
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 3: There it is I can't stop bowling like anything.

938
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 4: Yeah.

939
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's part of the league finals. Well it's a

940
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 5: back to reality and see what really happened. Alrighty, so

941
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 5: Opie responds. I asked after he was done hanging with

942
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 5: his brothers at the mall. I would not have asked

943
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 5: him to bail on his brothers in the middle of

944
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:46,799
Speaker 5: his plans. I also got super upset because he hung

945
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:48,720
Speaker 5: up right in the middle of her call and didn't

946
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:52,399
Speaker 5: answer any further phone calls or text He also never

947
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 5: went to go feed Willie. We don't share locations, so

948
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 5: I don't know where he was all this time. So

949
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 5: he's up to something, Okay. So he said he was

950
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:05,839
Speaker 5: feeding the dog and the dinner wasn't. That's pretty muss.

951
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 5: You better be cheating.

952
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 4: Actually, I was just asking this because I was watching

953
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 4: my parents dog last week and I was asking my mom.

954
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,919
Speaker 4: I was like, why don't dogs eat lunch. They only

955
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:17,920
Speaker 4: have breakfast and they only have dinner. I'm like, why

956
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 4: don't they get munch once a die.

957
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 3: Dog's inner minute? Fast?

958
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 1: My I remember my old dog Rest in Peace Paco.

959
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: She got so fat by us feeding him twice a day.

960
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 1: And the doctor was like, oh, I have to feed

961
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 1: him only one cup in the morning because he just

962
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 1: gets fat. It's just like what he one cop? How

963
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: big Paco? He's like this big. Yeah, he's like bigger

964
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 1: than he was mixed with some other dog, but like

965
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 1: he's a.

966
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 5: Much wider than he was long.

967
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, he got freaking fat, dude. So we had to

968
00:46:56,719 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: just like like please, I'm so excited, Like.

969
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:01,720
Speaker 3: Oh.

970
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 5: Really, you gotta burn off those pounds. But we do

971
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 5: have an update three days later. So to answer some

972
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 5: repeating questions, all gifts were bought and given to my

973
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 5: mother in laws and she loves to wrap and Mark

974
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 5: is super bad at keeping gifts a secret. Even if

975
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:22,839
Speaker 5: extra gifts were being bought a surprise, no gift would

976
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:25,400
Speaker 5: be okay to leave me with anxiety and overthinking for

977
00:47:25,440 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 5: the remaining six hours of my shift.

978
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 1: What what is that?

979
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 5: Even like, no gift would be okay to leave me? Oh, like.

980
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:36,479
Speaker 4: Yeah.

981
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 5: I also did not mention that I also had a

982
00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 5: feeling that he was probably cheating, since I wanted actually

983
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 5: to think and have a POV of everyone that read

984
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 5: through this, so she wanted the internet's thoughts first. OHI

985
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,800
Speaker 5: I wanted to see if everyone's gut feeling such intuition

986
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 5: was the same as mine without my influence. I also

987
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,799
Speaker 5: mentioned the part of me being petty to not paint

988
00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 5: myself as a saint. Some people say, I'm assuming to

989
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:04,839
Speaker 5: be and show my raw emotion, interrational thinking coming from

990
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 5: a place of hurt and anger. Now the update.

991
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 1: There we go.

992
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 5: Mark packed his stuff and left what The next morning,

993
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 5: I noticed he left an old college jacket that belonged

994
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 5: to his stepdad and meant a lot to him, with

995
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,240
Speaker 5: a deep meaning behind it. I could have been petty

996
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 5: and thrown it away, but decided to text Mark, maybe

997
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 5: even talk it out. After a night of being away

998
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 5: and letting things calm down, I texted Mark, hey, you

999
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 5: have some clothes behind In his response, wow, already crawling back.

1000
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 5: I don't like that ship they I don't care about

1001
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 5: myself A.

1002
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:47,320
Speaker 3: Couple he really reached for that crawl.

1003
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 5: He left just so he could say that it's like

1004
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,279
Speaker 5: the classic move of like leaving like an article of

1005
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 5: clothing behind us, like, oh, I left my hoodie over there?

1006
00:48:58,760 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 5: Can I come pick it up?

1007
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,400
Speaker 1: And knows she knows how important it is. He's probably

1008
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 1: told her the past, like.

1009
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, my dad gave me to sold this sole beauty.

1010
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 4: But then he saw on her to just throw it out.

1011
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 5: I left him on Red Petty too, and decided to

1012
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:17,839
Speaker 5: text his mother if I could stop buying drop off

1013
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 5: the said jacket. Actually that's pretty thoughtful, she said, of course,

1014
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 5: and told me to come by and also pick up

1015
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 5: the gifts. I'm assuming I want it back. I came

1016
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 5: over and was immediately greeted by his mother and stepdad,

1017
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 5: which hugged me and asked if I was okay. I

1018
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:33,279
Speaker 5: need to talk. I immediately broke down. I explained the

1019
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:36,399
Speaker 5: situation and basically told the same story as I told

1020
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 5: on here. His mother was pissed and decided call Mark

1021
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 5: and asked for his side of the story, but did

1022
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:45,799
Speaker 5: not mention I was there to listen in on the call. Wow,

1023
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 5: which I think is kind of whack.

1024
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:50,160
Speaker 3: I feel like that's the middle of school three way move.

1025
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:53,280
Speaker 3: You know, what do you think about Joey.

1026
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1027
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 1: Wow. Also like I feel like their like, shouldn't the

1028
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 1: parents be like, wait, why did you like leave my

1029
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: son over missing lunch twice?

1030
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:12,240
Speaker 5: Like taking her side? You know, like come on first

1031
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 5: before you like three ways sabotage your son, which is

1032
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:17,240
Speaker 5: a weird sentence to say in relationship.

1033
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 1: But there is a stepdad.

1034
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, there is a step dad.

1035
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 1: That is true.

1036
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 5: Mark answered by saying that I called him at the time.

1037
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 5: He was with Nick and Devin, his brothers, and told

1038
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:28,879
Speaker 5: me that he couldn't leave them at the mall since

1039
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 5: he was the only one of transportation, and immediately blew

1040
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:35,240
Speaker 5: up on them for picking his brothers over me. I yelled,

1041
00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:38,959
Speaker 5: that's not true out of frustration, and showed my mother

1042
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 5: in law the call history, which checked out at the

1043
00:50:41,520 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 5: time that both brothers were already clocked in for their shifts,

1044
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:48,800
Speaker 5: which mother and father in law confirmed to be their chefs.

1045
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 5: One brother in law also showed a picture of him

1046
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:54,919
Speaker 5: and some coworkers around the same time I asked him

1047
00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:56,879
Speaker 5: to bring me to lunch. Mark hung up the call,

1048
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:59,240
Speaker 5: so he was kind of caught in a lie. Yeah, wow,

1049
00:50:59,400 --> 00:51:02,799
Speaker 5: in law is texted Mark incided with me. I thanked

1050
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 5: them for the memories and love and left my engagement

1051
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 5: ring with them. Mark repeatedly called and has sent text

1052
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 5: messages begging to talk. After an hour, I finally answered

1053
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:16,399
Speaker 5: and told him to tell me the truth of this

1054
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 5: or this would be the last and final time we spoke.

1055
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 5: Mark admitted to seeing another woman.

1056
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 3: Ah, no, there you go, and X to be exact,

1057
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 3: really an ex and.

1058
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 5: Haven't answered since, which super sus I mean they probably

1059
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 5: were like cooking up for something. Yeah, I know it

1060
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:41,200
Speaker 5: says that this all happened today, but actually took place

1061
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 5: two days ago. I typed it out and left it

1062
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:45,839
Speaker 5: as a draft since I cried myself to sleep and

1063
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 5: I've been trying to keep it together. Update on Willie.

1064
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 5: Willy stays at doggy daycare while I'm at work. We

1065
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 5: both decided to leave Willy home while he was in

1066
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 5: town to save money.

1067
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 3: I feel like the ex was like, but don't bring

1068
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 3: back that fucking jacket. Yeah, I don't want to see it.

1069
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:03,439
Speaker 5: I don't want to see it.

1070
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:03,800
Speaker 1: Ever.

1071
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 5: Reminds me of my stepdad, who actually has good morals

1072
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 5: and people who deserve to be supported. Well, I guess

1073
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:12,839
Speaker 5: he was kind of indicated at the end.

1074
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 2: No, I know, I really sorry. I was not on

1075
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 2: her side.

1076
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 5: But interesting, we were jumping, but I feel like we

1077
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:24,720
Speaker 5: were jumping to a like logical conclusion. Yeah, you're missing

1078
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:26,920
Speaker 5: a few steps, but you have these stories and you

1079
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 5: realize everyone's cheating on him.

1080
00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 1: Maybe oh he just even even though she didn't like

1081
00:52:32,680 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 1: vocalize it and see it consciously at the time, she

1082
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:38,360
Speaker 1: was like, I feel like he's cheating on me and

1083
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 1: that's the real reason, like not not that he missed

1084
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: the two lunches, which.

1085
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:48,080
Speaker 4: Right, she had, uh intuition, intuition she was, she was

1086
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:48,680
Speaker 4: feeling it.

1087
00:52:48,920 --> 00:52:53,720
Speaker 3: She respects lunch and when a man conveys he respects lunch.

1088
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:56,320
Speaker 3: And then there's a disrespect toward lunch.

1089
00:52:56,640 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 5: He's cheating. It's not eating, he's cheating everywhere.

1090
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: Here we go, but shall we go into a final

1091
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:10,080
Speaker 1: the first episode, let's do it