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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject. I'm dating super Fly. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm in my late forties and I'm a puppeteer and

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Speaker 1: I do stage plays and at the children's theater. I

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Speaker 1: also teach theater at a community college and I work

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Speaker 1: part time in a village boutique. I just got out

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Speaker 1: of a bad relationship, so I was just trying to

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Speaker 1: stay busy. But then I'm at a slightly older man

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Speaker 1: and I'm fascinated by him. He came into the boutique

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Speaker 1: about three months ago, and he told me he's a

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Speaker 1: thrift store fanatic because he likes clothes from the sixties

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Speaker 1: and seventies. I sold him a lot of vintage shirts,

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Speaker 1: two pairs of bell bottomed slacks we want. We went

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Speaker 1: on a few dates and I realized that he really

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Speaker 1: does like the old school vibe in his clothing. He

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Speaker 1: visited my home after we went out a few times,

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Speaker 1: and he said it was too modern for his taste.

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Speaker 1: And he suggested I get wall to wall carpet because

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Speaker 1: hardwood floors make make a home less comfortable. Then I

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Speaker 1: visited huh. Then I visited his home and it was

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Speaker 1: like a time warp. He has a picture of the

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Speaker 1: Jackson five on his mantel and it is signed by

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Speaker 1: Joe Jackson. He said that his e that's his era,

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Speaker 1: and he loves old music. I figured that it was

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Speaker 1: a great time for him in his life, so he

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Speaker 1: kind of is stuck there. Now when we go out,

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Speaker 1: it's not as embarrassing, and I love his old cologne

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Speaker 1: and his pinky ring. He is well spoken, so when

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Speaker 1: he chooses to talk in seventies jargon, it throws me off,

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Speaker 1: but I don't show it. The more time we spend together,

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Speaker 1: the more I'm falling for him. But I don't know

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Speaker 1: if he will ever snap out of this phase. There's

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Speaker 1: no way I could live in his house with the

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Speaker 1: laminate kitchen counters and furry rugs all over the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: and he can't live in mine with the hardwood floors.

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Speaker 1: I want to ask him what his intentions are, but

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be too forward. I also want

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Speaker 1: to know if he's willing to compromise on his superfly tendencies.

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Speaker 1: How do I handle this? Well? You dig anyway? Well,

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Speaker 1: I get all wrapped up in this man and his quirks,

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Speaker 1: and you already know he's not going to change. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think you're setting yourself up to lose and to

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Speaker 1: be hurt in this situation. He is not going to change.

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Speaker 1: He's been like this since the seventies. This is twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty one, you know, Like you said, the seventies were

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Speaker 1: probably a good time for him, and yes the music

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Speaker 1: was everything. But how can he be so stuck and

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Speaker 1: live his entire life in the past. What about all

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Speaker 1: the stuff that's happened since then? I mean, he is

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Speaker 1: not super Fly. That was a movie, okay, did even

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Speaker 1: see the remake a few years ago? That was really good.

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Speaker 1: He probably missed that though, because he's still stuck in

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Speaker 1: the seventies. The point is we cannot live in the past.

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Speaker 1: The past is over. We have to find something we

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Speaker 1: enjoy about this life here and now make the best

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Speaker 1: of it, because one thing's for sure, life is short.

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Speaker 1: Everything changes, and we must make those necessary adjustments and

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Speaker 1: just be grateful that we got a chance to see

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Speaker 1: and appreciate the seventies. But embrace where you are now.

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Speaker 1: You can't go back there and stay there with him.

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Speaker 1: Live in the now, because that's all you have. Mister

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Speaker 1: Superfly doesn't see it that way. So that's why I say,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you guys are gonna make it. Steve,

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Speaker 1: I disagree with everything Shirley just said. I do. I'll

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Speaker 1: support this brother. I am all about the era he's from.

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Speaker 1: I love him. I don't see how you're gonna get

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Speaker 1: hurt in this. Nah. Let me say this. He is

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Speaker 1: not going to change at all that much. Shirley got right.

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Speaker 1: That don't mean he gonna hurt you now. First of all, ladies,

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Speaker 1: let me start with child. You're in your late parties.

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Speaker 1: You are puppeteer, and you do stage plays as a

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Speaker 1: children's theater. You're lucky. Anybody talking to you, because if

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Speaker 1: your old ass tell me you're a puppeteer and you

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Speaker 1: do a children's theater, I'm fen to walk away because

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Speaker 1: you ain't even the puppet. You're the puppet tear for

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Speaker 1: you're the one up under the thing, talking with your

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Speaker 1: hand like you got a sock on it. So now

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Speaker 1: let's not getting mad at him, Sirley, she didn't bring

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Speaker 1: a whole lot to the table to start with, puppeteer

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Speaker 1: children to play part and work part time at the

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Speaker 1: vintage boutique. Come on, now, let's stay focused, which is

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Speaker 1: where he walked into and you met him. He bought

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Speaker 1: a bunch of old sixty seventy shirts and two pair

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Speaker 1: of bill bops. Y'all went on some dates and you

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Speaker 1: realize he loves old school vibe in his clothes. You

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Speaker 1: out on the date with ron O'Neil, y'aut on the

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Speaker 1: date with the Mac, You out on a date with

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Speaker 1: pretty Tony, You out on the date with the seventies.

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Speaker 1: You in his car. If he could still have an

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Speaker 1: eight track, he would. I'm telling you he got a

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Speaker 1: really real in his house somewhere. So now you say

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Speaker 1: you do you kind of like the old cologne he

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Speaker 1: wears that's high karate, draw car Polo, Houston and Brute.

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Speaker 1: He got all of it on the counter. I love

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Speaker 1: this dude right here. When we come back, Shirley and

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Speaker 1: Tommy will ask Pimping questions any question they won't, and

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Speaker 1: he gonna show you why the seventies was all in

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Speaker 1: that litter. Jim. When we come back, one of the

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Speaker 1: greatest players from the seventies, Pimping will be here to respond.

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Speaker 1: Coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour, I'm

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Speaker 1: dating super Fly is the Strawberry letter subject. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject I'm dating Sue. Wow, Steve,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be here just for a minute, because what

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna introduce you to is somebody from the seventies. Now,

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Speaker 1: this woman that met this man that is ventage. He's

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Speaker 1: slightly old and she forty something, so we already know

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Speaker 1: he's probably sixty at least, because he loved his seventies,

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Speaker 1: as do I, and now she kind of liked her.

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Speaker 1: The stuff he were a cologne which is high Karati

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Speaker 1: to car Polo Houston brute, but his house is waller

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Speaker 1: wall carpet. And got a picture that Jackson five signed

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Speaker 1: up there by Joe Jackson, which means he was no

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Speaker 1: where near to Jackson five. But he did see Joe

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Speaker 1: somewhere at a club at a tag, so he got

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Speaker 1: Joe to sign the picture, and that meant a lot

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Speaker 1: to it. He's got laminated kitchen, countless furry rugs all

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Speaker 1: over the bathroom. He can't live in your house because

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Speaker 1: of the hallwood floors, and he didn't told you you

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Speaker 1: need waller waff carbon to make your house. I want

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Speaker 1: to ask him what his intentions all, but I don't

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Speaker 1: want to be too far to also want to know

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Speaker 1: if he's willing to compromise on his super fly tendency.

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Speaker 1: That ain't gonna happen, lady, and here to help you

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Speaker 1: understand it. Please welcome Pimpon m oh Man. What's happening?

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Speaker 1: You know? I don't never get to come in it

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Speaker 1: just time? What's it? What's up? Timmy? What's up? Pepper?

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Speaker 1: And how you doing? Man? It ain't nothing? Everything everything everything?

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Speaker 1: It was up? Shanny? How you doing this letter about you? Don't?

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Speaker 1: You mustn't sound like it to me, Sammy, he man, blacks,

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Speaker 1: be me. Let me try to help out you y'all

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Speaker 1: gonna ask me some questions. I can help us, you know,

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Speaker 1: get to get a grip on what is was going?

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Speaker 1: Ain't you know what? Hold long, Timmy hold on you still? Yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: I can just checking me now, don't come in everything'tney

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Speaker 1: you know I mean, you know, you know, I mean

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Speaker 1: if the back they will open, holl a a player,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Go ahead and Tommy, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so you know she'll look concerned and lady and let

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Speaker 1: him man about the you know, the wall to wall

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Speaker 1: carved man? Can you can you break that down for us? Oh?

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Speaker 1: You gouss it had wall to wall corvet man. You

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. When it's just so much plushness

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Speaker 1: running up through your toes, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: And shag is the best kind. You know. Anytime you

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Speaker 1: need a plastic rate to raise up the nap on

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Speaker 1: your compat, that's when pimping has never been easy out man, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: see me. The lady the puppet talked a lot about

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Speaker 1: what he wore, but she didn't say what kind of

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Speaker 1: car he drives? What what kind of car can'tact. What

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Speaker 1: ass you're thinking? Again? What are gonna dout? You kind

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Speaker 1: of like an out here and something people ain't getting

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Speaker 1: know out here? Man? I got a s veghal with

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Speaker 1: the slanted trunk on it, with the towel on the bank.

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Speaker 1: You feel me that long dog? I got that el

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Speaker 1: the rattle that long dog too. Dog. You know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, I ain't. He got a couple of Cadillacs.

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Speaker 1: That's what he needs. And you're gonna ride in it too.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot more room in it. The only thing

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Speaker 1: about them calls from the seventies. All the leather than

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Speaker 1: trying to okay what Pepperman? I really don't think she

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Speaker 1: liked the shoes you got on? Man? What what kind

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Speaker 1: of shoes are? Though? I mean, what's it not to like?

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Speaker 1: Name morris O, the big block crop? Why would you

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Speaker 1: not like the big block crock? I don't even understand

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Speaker 1: square times No, no, no, we're still pointed. I got

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Speaker 1: some square toes if you want them. I got some

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Speaker 1: pilgrim shoes. I got a bull with the gold buck

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Speaker 1: along top of our way there that things giving, So

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Speaker 1: you just put those back in the closet. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: bringing them out there. Things get shooting for the year,

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Speaker 1: all right? So, um, what if she needs to get

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Speaker 1: in touch with you? You know what while you guys

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Speaker 1: weren't in in the seventies. No, I am what I

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Speaker 1: need a cell phone? Phone? But you know they've been

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Speaker 1: shutting down pay phones now I don't know what's happening. Yeah, yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: change I'm gonna make I'm gonna gonna get a cell phone.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that for okay. Yeah, okay, Now here's

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Speaker 1: a no, I'm gonna get on at Walmart in case

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Speaker 1: I don't want to see you no more. I can't

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Speaker 1: throw it away like a drug dealer. They said burn it?

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Speaker 1: What you know? Like on the wine? Where were you

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Speaker 1: gonna ask Tommy so Pepper? You know the young ladies

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Speaker 1: complaining that it's too dark in your house? Man? What

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Speaker 1: is all? What kind of lights you got hanging in him?

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Speaker 1: Why would you cut the lights on? How you gonna see?

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Speaker 1: How you gonna see? The lava lamp if you got

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Speaker 1: all these damn lights on that lava lamp, man, it's

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Speaker 1: a beautiful thing. It ain't ever the same, it chant

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Speaker 1: only time. And then I got my black light posters up. Man,

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Speaker 1: I got black lights on in here. Just be careful

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Speaker 1: with the line on your clothes because it showed everything

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Speaker 1: when you put that black line on it. Baby, you

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Speaker 1: gotta be careil man, wear some white. If you wear black,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna look nasty. One last thing he told her,

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Speaker 1: He told her her house was too modern, you know,

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Speaker 1: for him. So how what should she change? How what

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Speaker 1: should she do to man? This girl? It's just a

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Speaker 1: couple of things. Man, Get yourself a few bean bags

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Speaker 1: divide these areas off with some beads hanging out the signal.

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Speaker 1: And that's all she needs. Only wide over space walking through.

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