Speaker 1: It's I Do Part two and I'm back on the
Speaker 1: Pond once again, and it is one of your favorite
Speaker 1: golden shows that you don't recognize my voice, it's Susan Oles.
Speaker 1: And today it's going to be a really fun episode
Speaker 1: because I have one of my dearest Bachelor Nation friends here,
Speaker 1: Teresa Iss Teresa in the house. Hi, Hi, it's so
Speaker 1: good to see. I know, I know you can tell
Speaker 1: them how I.
Speaker 2: Guess a few weeks ago, maybe three weeks ago, he
Speaker 2: went on June twenty first that you got he's your house,
Speaker 2: and I felt like, well, it's all like she lives
Speaker 2: here forever.
Speaker 3: You were so good, it was all set up for you.
Speaker 3: Jersey's like part of me too.
Speaker 1: But I kept saying, Teresa, I love North Jersey and
Speaker 1: all your friends and every This isn't North Jersey.
Speaker 3: It was Central Jersey, and say, oh my god, so
Speaker 3: she considers this North Jersey. No, it's Central Jersey. Such
Speaker 3: a good time. We did.
Speaker 1: We ate well, we drank well, we shopped well, and
Speaker 1: I even got her to go on the beach. However,
Speaker 1: she wore long sleeves and covers. But I don't want
Speaker 1: to contend.
Speaker 2: No, Honestly, I had so many things planned for you.
Speaker 2: I was going to take take you to about nine
Speaker 2: different beach towns and you saw these boutiques and you said,
Speaker 2: that's it, that's all I want to do.
Speaker 1: We saw Hamy, we saw four, didn't we It was
Speaker 1: at least four beach so far. Yeah, that's funny. And
Speaker 1: I guess what. I had such a good time. You
Speaker 1: have a lovely home, great friend. And I would come
Speaker 1: back so we could see the other five.
Speaker 3: It's awesome. Okay, I'm ready.
Speaker 1: All right, So today on this podcast I do part two.
Speaker 1: It's all about love and loss and finding love again.
Speaker 1: So today I thought it would be fun to dive
Speaker 1: into some topics that are a reality for us Golden's.
Speaker 3: And obviously we got them.
Speaker 1: Something's happening in the bachelor world that we've got to
Speaker 1: talk about too, don't you think.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that I know.
Speaker 1: Okay, So we gave him a little background of where
Speaker 1: we've been at for you.
Speaker 3: You have lost a husband. You want to share just
Speaker 3: to update everybody. Yeah, sure.
Speaker 2: So it's really hard to believe that it will be
Speaker 2: eleven years. I'm Veterans Day this year that my husband
Speaker 2: passed away.
Speaker 1: So now.
Speaker 2: I was sixty one when he died. I'm about to
Speaker 2: be seventy two.
Speaker 3: It's very, very hard to believe.
Speaker 2: When my husband first passed away, I don't know if
Speaker 2: it's the reaction of every woman, but I really thought
Speaker 2: it was the end.
Speaker 3: I said, I will never have sex again, I will
Speaker 3: never fall in love again, I'll never be with a
Speaker 3: man again. And that was the way it was.
Speaker 2: I cried for like fourteen months and then found one
Speaker 2: day I woke up and I said to my daughter,
Speaker 2: that's it. I just want to go out to dinner
Speaker 2: with a man. And she put me on Match and
Speaker 2: the rest is history. So I've got a lot of
Speaker 2: I had a down path how to get on Match,
Speaker 2: how to do that?
Speaker 1: And sometimes we hate Match, you know, yeah, yeah, And
Speaker 1: everybody knows that I was married and had three children,
Speaker 1: six great grandchildren, and we're still friends, but we are divorced.
Speaker 1: And I did find love just this year. It's just
Speaker 1: been five months and it's his first time in the
Speaker 1: United States. So so many people online on social media
Speaker 1: have comments and beautiful ones, but you know, Teresa had
Speaker 1: some negativity out there. He just wants a green card
Speaker 1: and he's using you for your money. I wish I
Speaker 1: had all that money.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, it's about love. It's about love. It's
Speaker 4: an important thing in the world. I mean, how wonderful
Speaker 4: for you that you found love. I'm really so thrilled
Speaker 4: and so happy for you, Susan.
Speaker 1: I wanted for everybody. Yeah, for everybody. So what approached now,
Speaker 1: especially after the show that we used to do back
Speaker 1: in the day when we were young you met people
Speaker 1: out or somebody introduced you, right, yeah, and then we
Speaker 1: tried the dating apps after we had our lives with
Speaker 1: kids and husbands and such. And now when we first
Speaker 1: got off the show, were you jumping back on No?
Speaker 2: I wasn't at all, you know, I did. I jump
Speaker 2: back into my life because I really do have a
Speaker 2: beautiful life. I mean, I've got a beautiful family. I
Speaker 2: have seven grandsons.
Speaker 3: I am more content now than I've ever been. I mean,
Speaker 3: the show taught me so much.
Speaker 2: It was the most incredible, wonderful experience. But it kind
Speaker 2: of really did teach me to be happier.
Speaker 3: With what I have. And it's not I really want love.
Speaker 3: I really want to be in love. I think it's
Speaker 3: the most wonderful feeling in the world.
Speaker 2: I am open to it floor that, But it's not
Speaker 2: like I'm desperate to.
Speaker 3: Do that, right, You're fine by your.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, and you know would say you know your
Speaker 2: Thank goodness, you don't have to go on dating apps.
Speaker 3: But even if you.
Speaker 2: Go on a dating app, I'm seventy two. There is
Speaker 2: no man at the age of seventy two.
Speaker 3: You gotta go on the re search criteria a seventy
Speaker 3: two year old woman. It just doesn't happen. They gotta
Speaker 3: go younger.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's the way of the world. So I'm probably
Speaker 2: okay with a ninety year old.
Speaker 1: And you know, it's funny the dating trend right now.
Speaker 1: I mean, think about it. Everybody splits the bill, or
Speaker 1: they don't call, they only text. Ohor how about this
Speaker 1: one being ghosted? Have you been I was ghosted?
Speaker 3: No, I actually have not been disgusted. I haven't. But
Speaker 3: that's not nice. That's so not nice to do. It's
Speaker 3: a terrible thing. I was like, what are you serious?
Speaker 3: You know what it is.
Speaker 2: It's just like the next day after a date. I
Speaker 2: guess they aren't brave enough to say I don't think.
Speaker 3: That we are a good fit. So you have to
Speaker 3: be able to see that and be an adult.
Speaker 1: Don't you think it's easy to do it by text?
Speaker 1: I mean, yes, it's just a text. You don't even
Speaker 1: have to look at them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, just a text. Just say it, just say I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: I had a wonderful time, but I just don't think
Speaker 2: we're the right person for each other.
Speaker 3: That's it. That's all you have to do. So ghosting
Speaker 3: it is not nice.
Speaker 1: Exactly when I got stood up, I called it back
Speaker 1: in the day. It was being stood up and I
Speaker 1: got ghosted. And I went to this place and I
Speaker 1: sat at the bar. I had a glass of wine
Speaker 1: and I'm never really early.
Speaker 3: That's all I'm going to say.
Speaker 1: And there was this lovely couple sitting next to me,
Speaker 1: and I had a full glass of wine. I don't
Speaker 1: drink that fast. And I'm just sitting there, sitting there,
Speaker 1: and they're looking at me, and I finally shared with them,
Speaker 1: well you had to hurt hear them. The husband was like,
Speaker 1: if he does show up, I'm going to pull the
Speaker 1: chair when he goes to siting now.
Speaker 3: And the woman's I said.
Speaker 1: To the woman, what do you think one glass of
Speaker 1: wine and go or do I order a second? And
Speaker 1: she goes wow, I said no, that wasn't really a question.
Speaker 3: A lot of ordering a second.
Speaker 1: I mean, it hasn't happened to you, right, No.
Speaker 2: It hasn't. Well, thankfully it hasn't. No, But but what
Speaker 2: would happen? I will tell you that every time I
Speaker 2: would go out to a data I had it down
Speaker 2: to a science. I knew how how many times you
Speaker 2: should text each other, and then when it moves to
Speaker 2: a phone call, and how many phone calls until you
Speaker 2: finally decided to meet.
Speaker 3: And then there would be times when right away.
Speaker 1: You would know that it wasn't working with in the
Speaker 1: first two minutes, right, But I would.
Speaker 2: Go there with such a great attitude, like I'm going
Speaker 2: to have a great time.
Speaker 3: This person went out of their way to meet me,
Speaker 3: so let's just have fun. And I would always.
Speaker 2: Offer to split the bill, and then if it didn't
Speaker 2: work out, then you just tell them the.
Speaker 1: Next day, so you know, it's funny, I do as
Speaker 1: well offer you with the bill, and many many have said, oh,
Speaker 1: thank you very much, and I will I know I'll.
Speaker 3: Never see them again.
Speaker 1: The first date I shared a deer not on your life,
Speaker 1: you know, thank you.
Speaker 3: It was very nice of you to offer. But yeah,
Speaker 3: it's a gentleman.
Speaker 1: But I also get that so many people are dating
Speaker 1: so much on dating apps right that they can't afford
Speaker 1: to meet three people.
Speaker 3: In a week.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you're right, that's true, Sarah. Men would
Speaker 2: just say to me, no, my dad would never let
Speaker 2: me live it down, so they would they would say that.
Speaker 2: And you know, I've made friends, I've stayed friends with
Speaker 2: some of these people.
Speaker 3: So absolutely, it's all good.
Speaker 1: Have you heard of silver divorce or a gray divorce?
Speaker 3: By chance? No, I don't know what that is, no idea.
Speaker 1: It's when people fifty plus get divorced after a very
Speaker 1: long term marriage. Why do you think people are divorcing
Speaker 1: so much later in life?
Speaker 3: And do you know anyone?
Speaker 2: I really do think it's because, and I didn't think
Speaker 2: of this before. Maybe they wait until their children are
Speaker 2: gone and out of the house. Maybe there were underlying
Speaker 2: problems the entire time. And then you know, with women,
Speaker 2: it takes them a long time to leave, and they
Speaker 2: build it up and build it up and build it up,
Speaker 2: and then all of a sudden, and I heard this
Speaker 2: from so many men.
Speaker 3: They'd say to me, Oh my god, I was blindsided.
Speaker 2: I had no idea about my wife felt that way,
Speaker 2: and all of a sudden, she just she left me.
Speaker 2: But with a woman, it's it takes a long time
Speaker 2: to get there, but when she gets there, it's the end.
Speaker 3: It's over. There's no turning back.
Speaker 1: You hit the nail right on the head. I mean,
Speaker 1: I did it. I waited till my kids were out
Speaker 1: of high school, and they and they even said to me, Mom,
Speaker 1: why did you wait so long. We weren't people that
Speaker 1: argued or fought or anything. We just kind of lived separately.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And to know anyone who's done this, I have
Speaker 1: to say yes. And in my experience the people that
Speaker 1: I know, one of the partners were gay.
Speaker 3: Wow, oh yeah, that happens.
Speaker 1: It was a healthy marriage, yes, and there was no
Speaker 1: bad points, but it was a man. It was actually
Speaker 1: two and they came out later in life. And it's sad.
Speaker 3: But and that is sad.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's still said that they have to repress that
Speaker 4: the entire marriage.
Speaker 3: And that's that. You just hit on another point.
Speaker 2: That's really great that people grow differently, and they grow
Speaker 2: and they have different goals in life and different passions,
Speaker 2: and so you start growing apart, and it's really hard
Speaker 2: to be married it's hard to be married for a
Speaker 2: really long time.
Speaker 1: It's no one told me it was the hardest job
Speaker 1: you were ever going to have.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, like you go to you can't.
Speaker 2: What happens is you start taking that person for granted,
Speaker 2: and instead what you have to do is look at
Speaker 2: them with new eyes every day and like, this is
Speaker 2: why you chose this person.
Speaker 1: And re event that the exciting times. I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: sure things go stale. It was just raising kids and
Speaker 1: things like that. A lot happens then about not doing
Speaker 1: each other, you know, in any favors. Yeah, because you
Speaker 1: were so occupied with your raising your children, keeping your housekeeping,
Speaker 1: your career. But today now I don't know how you feel,
Speaker 1: but it's the best time to date or fall in
Speaker 1: love because I don't have to worry about all that.
Speaker 1: You focus on one another exactly.
Speaker 2: And I think that was a misconception that younger people
Speaker 2: had about us, that life was over. But we, all
Speaker 2: of us on the show and so many more women
Speaker 2: in this world, are so full of life and energy
Speaker 2: and desire and passion, and we want to do things
Speaker 2: and we've got we feel like, we really do feel
Speaker 2: like there's so much life left to live, So we're
Speaker 2: forced to be reckoned with and these young people should
Speaker 2: feel so inspired by that and not fear of getting
Speaker 2: old because of who we.
Speaker 1: Are exactly, and there's a perfect example that their life
Speaker 1: is full of possibilities and it's not over. One of
Speaker 1: my favorite lines was, this is my last chapter in life,
Speaker 1: and I hope it's the longest chapter. Yeah, yeah, being said,
Speaker 1: I feel so much differently about who I am.
Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: You have to love yourself, and a lot of the
Speaker 1: young people believe they love themselves, but they're not there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And you.
Speaker 2: Know at this point, if you don't know who you are,
Speaker 2: you really know who you are and you know what's
Speaker 2: important in your life. So you do love yourself and
Speaker 2: you feel That's why I was saying before that I
Speaker 2: feel more at peace with myself and Eve exactly right.
Speaker 3: And it's so great that you've found Frederica.
Speaker 1: Oh yes it is. He met my children and my
Speaker 1: little granddaughter four years old. We were all in the
Speaker 1: pool at one point and she looks over and she goes, me, me,
Speaker 1: you like him. I said, that's Frederic. Yes, I know,
Speaker 1: she said. I said, he loves me me. She said,
Speaker 1: he does. I said, Amimi loves him. She said you do?
Speaker 1: I said yes, She goes okay and jumped right into
Speaker 1: his arms.
Speaker 3: That was it. So that is so cute. And my
Speaker 3: boys they you know, shook his hand. How you doing?
Speaker 1: They can't understand the accent. My sisters really dry.
Speaker 3: But how long is he staying? That's really nice.
Speaker 1: He'll he'll be here two weeks. But we have been
Speaker 1: on the go.
Speaker 3: On the good good, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna do a little. I just want
Speaker 1: your point on the sale. Woman as listening to this
Speaker 1: podcast right now. She lost her husband of twenty five years,
Speaker 1: but now it's been three years and she's ready to
Speaker 1: start dating again. What do we think should be the
Speaker 1: first place she should start.
Speaker 2: Well, she should tell everyone in her life that she's
Speaker 2: ready and she's looking for someone, and be you know,
Speaker 2: be specific.
Speaker 3: Just tell everybody I'm looking for someone. Do you know anyone?
Speaker 3: So she should start with our circle of family and friends.
Speaker 2: When she does go to the supermarket, she should smile,
Speaker 2: She should be open and maybe even like mentally project
Speaker 2: that she's open and that she's looking for someone. Because
Speaker 2: if you avert your eyes every time you see someone,
Speaker 2: you're interested in it will go nowhere.
Speaker 3: And I know that's the hardest thing to.
Speaker 2: Do because you don't even know if that person is
Speaker 2: married or if they're gay.
Speaker 3: I no, you don't know.
Speaker 1: But I remember back when everybody said you meet them
Speaker 1: at the grocery store, hang out in the fruit asal well,
Speaker 1: guys that never worked. However, this girl right here when
Speaker 1: I was up in Central Jersey, if you will, she
Speaker 1: goes to the shake store and it's like a healthy
Speaker 1: grocery store, not like a Wegman's or anything. It's small,
Speaker 1: but it is a good place to meet because you
Speaker 1: have to wait for your shake.
Speaker 3: And I remember us being there a shopping and they're buying.
Speaker 2: Snacks, right, yeah, yeah, And there are people that we
Speaker 2: strike out conversations.
Speaker 3: You're right.
Speaker 2: And then also if they haven't tried a dating website, then.
Speaker 3: I would try to dance. I would too, I would
Speaker 3: be really careful and selected. But it works, it kind
Speaker 3: of does. It absolutely does.
Speaker 1: That's how I met Frederic obviously. Or do a new hobby,
Speaker 1: like when you do different new things that you hadn't
Speaker 1: done before, you may meet somebody and sometimes you don't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, go to yacht clubs. I don't know, go golf? Right?
Speaker 3: We went going?
Speaker 1: Yes, I used to think that I took up golf,
Speaker 1: so I go meet somebody on the golf course.
Speaker 3: They're mostly married, Oh god, yeah.
Speaker 2: And they were kind of more interested in in their
Speaker 2: golf game than.
Speaker 3: And looking at I know. We did good though. That
Speaker 3: was a lot of fun. You're really good. You're so good.
Speaker 3: I got even better though. I got to tell you.
Speaker 3: We got to come around too, or you could come down. Yeah.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about the older people having getting
Speaker 1: scanned when they do try to go online? Has anything
Speaker 1: like that ever happened to you?
Speaker 2: It hasn't happened to me, but I do work in
Speaker 2: an industry where we have seen it happen to our clients.
Speaker 3: So and I well, actually it has been attempted on me.
Speaker 2: You know what happens is you know that the whole
Speaker 2: trick is that they say, hey, my brothers saw your photo,
Speaker 2: but he doesn't have any can you email me and so?
Speaker 2: And that's the scam to get you off the website
Speaker 2: and then talk to you about how beautiful you are
Speaker 2: and then show you a picture of themselves which is
Speaker 2: not really themselves of you.
Speaker 3: Is that what they call cat fishing.
Speaker 2: Is that so, I think, So, I'm not.
Speaker 3: It's slow, it's really it's very prevalent. So it's it happens.
Speaker 3: There are so many of them out there, and I've
Speaker 3: got it.
Speaker 1: I've been on long enough to see they'll use the
Speaker 1: word M instead of I am.
Speaker 3: It'll just be M.
Speaker 1: Just that at the end, it's like, oh, really big
Speaker 1: and they ask you a billion questions, your favorite, this's
Speaker 1: your favorite that before long they need money.
Speaker 2: Right, yes, this, I'm sorry, I if you want to
Speaker 2: hear this. She This woman kept on wiring twenty five,
Speaker 2: twenty five, twenty five thousand. Finally it was fifty thousand,
Speaker 2: and we stopped and called her son, and she was old.
Speaker 2: She said, no, no, no, I'm getting my announcin I'm
Speaker 2: getting my hair done. I'm going to meet him at
Speaker 2: the airport. But he can't leave unless I wire him
Speaker 2: this forty five thousand. And it's sad because some women
Speaker 2: are just that lonely that they will fall.
Speaker 1: For us, and they believe they be I believe. I
Speaker 1: looked up catfish is when they don't use their pictures,
Speaker 1: their real pictures. Well, that's the same as scamming, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's saying people have to be really careful.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we would, right, We have to warn everybody.
Speaker 2: And if they get right, if they have broken English
Speaker 2: and bad grammar and it looks like a picture photo
Speaker 2: from the internet, then I think they get three.
Speaker 1: Of them now too, so it really looks legit, like
Speaker 1: look at them here, look at them here. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's funny, Teresa. I've always wanted to be a person
Speaker 1: that helps men do their profile and their pictures. Oh
Speaker 1: you know they never take a selfie in your bathroom.
Speaker 3: Yeah, never take a selfie with a big fat fish
Speaker 3: in your hands. Are they doing in the kitchen with
Speaker 3: pilot dishes behind them? That's a good idea, since you
Speaker 3: should do that, so you go along with your other business.
Speaker 1: Have you ever tried speed dating or have a matchmaker?
Speaker 3: Any blind dat set up date? Never any of.
Speaker 2: The actually know the speed dating is a really great idea.
Speaker 3: It sounds fun, doesn't it. Yeah, sounds really fun. I think.
Speaker 2: I think what would be really good is if you
Speaker 2: went to like a pottery class and then you help
Speaker 2: each other, or you went to a cooking class and
Speaker 2: it was really for you know, to meet people.
Speaker 1: A singles cooking class. We can maybe help them with that, Teresa.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're traveling with singles or something.
Speaker 1: Well that they have those groups, those meetup groups about traveling.
Speaker 1: I did try one of those. I never met any
Speaker 1: And you know, a lot of our listeners say they
Speaker 1: live in really small towns.
Speaker 3: It's hard for them to meet new people. One thing.
Speaker 1: Even if you live in a big city like Philadelphia
Speaker 1: or New York City, it is so hard to meet somebody.
Speaker 1: I've heard that so many times, and I know myself
Speaker 1: being in the city, it is hard, just.
Speaker 3: As hard as small towns, right, And I'll say that.
Speaker 2: I mean, the older you get, the smaller the pool
Speaker 2: of available people are.
Speaker 3: So you're lucky you went younger. Which was a really
Speaker 3: great idea. It just happened.
Speaker 1: I didn't search for that, but it happened to be that,
Speaker 1: which is great. What do you think about a single spruise?
Speaker 1: Would you ever sign up for a single cruise? Yeah, jeez,
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe I would.
Speaker 2: I would kind of feel like, well, if I didn't
Speaker 2: like anybody on this cruise and kind of trapped here.
Speaker 3: What am I?
Speaker 1: I would have to go with a girlfriend though.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, if I wanted to one with a girlfriend
Speaker 2: that would be great, that wouldn't have to be obligated
Speaker 2: to be exactly.
Speaker 1: Exactly, and the other little events in your hometown, and
Speaker 1: whether comedian's coming into town or a show, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean.
Speaker 2: Just yeah, we've got so much music on the Jersey Shore,
Speaker 2: so many places to go, so you're right, yeah, to
Speaker 2: go with a friend, but so many of my friends
Speaker 2: are with people.
Speaker 1: So you know, you took me to that little show
Speaker 1: that was adorable, somebody's podcast show, right, they were so cute.
Speaker 1: And we met one of the housewives.
Speaker 3: Yes, we did. That was awesome.
Speaker 2: That was so good.
Speaker 1: She had everything planned. But if you come to my house,
Speaker 1: it's not going to be as good. I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: it's okay.
Speaker 3: I'm just going to go in your pool in your backyard.
Speaker 1: That absolutely, I finally got in it for the first time.
Speaker 1: I've been traveling so much myself.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, good you got to get in there.
Speaker 1: And we've been asked both of us, Teresa this question,
Speaker 1: and I believe I say the same answers. But if
Speaker 1: there was one piece of advice that you could give
Speaker 1: to your younger self when it comes to dating and relationships,
Speaker 1: what would it be Okay, So.
Speaker 2: In any relationship, I think the most important thing is
Speaker 2: to be open and honest and communicate with that person,
Speaker 2: and if there are any issues with that person, to
Speaker 2: never go to anyone else and complain, to just leave
Speaker 2: it within the relationship, because once you start going outside
Speaker 2: of that, then everyone has their opinion and starts talking
Speaker 2: down about your person, and you're saying, no, no, I
Speaker 2: really love this person.
Speaker 3: Don't say anything bad about my person.
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, you just heard a great bit of advice.
Speaker 3: That's awesome. You're absolutely right, Thank you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I learned that a red flag is a red flag,
Speaker 1: and I'm not going to make it green by any Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right. Just stop taking it and I still try
Speaker 1: to practice it. Stop taking it so serious and thinking
Speaker 1: of the next level and the next step. Just be
Speaker 1: in the moment and be true to yourself and your
Speaker 1: partner whoever right.
Speaker 3: And I really do think that it should be easy.
Speaker 2: It should not be difficult with somebody that you constantly
Speaker 2: have to compromise because you're thinking two different ways on
Speaker 2: a subject, or you don't have the same goals and
Speaker 2: passions and ideas about subjects.
Speaker 3: Or life. I think it just makes it too hard,
Speaker 3: so it's easier. Yes, I agree.
Speaker 1: Now you obviously know we had very different personalities, yet
Speaker 1: we like each other a whole bunch. Okay, what would
Speaker 1: you say that we've learned from each other? What is
Speaker 1: your favorite thing about me? And I'll tell you my
Speaker 1: favorite thing about you.
Speaker 2: I'm my favorite thing about you is that you are
Speaker 2: so open and yourself and yet you're you're such a
Speaker 2: good person and you don't you don't hold back, and
Speaker 2: that you're yes your openness. I remember when I was
Speaker 2: on the show. Remember when I said to you, I'm
Speaker 2: going to make you a star. Oh boy, I didn't
Speaker 2: need to make it.
Speaker 3: I said, wow, what are you doing right now? Is
Speaker 3: really cool because you're going, Oh Susan, do that. I said,
Speaker 3: I'm going to get you on the cover of People magazine.
Speaker 3: I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I still no, no, and I think you are one
Speaker 1: beautiful human being.
Speaker 3: You're fun.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize how fun you were. I mean, we guys,
Speaker 1: we I don't know if you caught our social media,
Speaker 1: but Frank Sinatra in the house because this girl could sing.
Speaker 5: We had the top down at night with the stars
Speaker 5: that we had the music blaring, riding around singing like
Speaker 5: we didn't get that experience were on the show. I
Speaker 5: was waiting on the show, we were still worried about
Speaker 5: zip it and I was trying to play.
Speaker 3: So I zipped it. I couldn't be myself. I mean
Speaker 3: when I got when, I seemed like and sences, Hi,
Speaker 3: how are you? What are you doing? This is awesome?
Speaker 3: And then on the show, I'm like, okay, not saying word?
Speaker 3: What do I say? Now? What do I do? Know?
Speaker 3: Because it's weird when you just you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I applaud you for being able to be
Speaker 2: yourself because I was not able to do that, and.
Speaker 1: Honestly, to be perfectly honest with you, I won't use
Speaker 1: the word it fends, but it was a curse rather
Speaker 1: than a blessing that I mun apologetically susan and very
Speaker 1: outspoken and I say what I think, but I would
Speaker 1: never hurt anyone's feelings. Yeah, but I'm pretty some people
Speaker 1: would consider it obnoxious.
Speaker 2: No, No, you're a very kind I'm.
Speaker 3: A very good person. You take things to heart, You're
Speaker 3: very sensitive and kind. So yeah, no, you're great. It's
Speaker 3: all right.
Speaker 1: So have you watched Bachelor in Paradise.
Speaker 3: I have watched.
Speaker 1: Paradise Baby, so it was okay, you know, and then
Speaker 1: the Goldens arrived and I thought that was really exciting.
Speaker 3: Everybody so good.
Speaker 1: Did you feel for a moment like, oh man, we
Speaker 1: should be there saying hi to everybody.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you kind of felt like that. I mean, it
Speaker 2: just felt like we should all be there.
Speaker 3: But I was.
Speaker 2: I was so excited when they came on, and I
Speaker 2: just and I felt the whole energy lift. And even
Speaker 2: they the young people really looked forward to it.
Speaker 3: I mean they loved them.
Speaker 1: Yes, there was so much drama and stuff going on
Speaker 1: in there. Yeah, and then when they came in, it
Speaker 1: was like a breath of fresh air.
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank god somebody came here liking up this move.
Speaker 1: This is way there and my beautiful April is still April.
Speaker 3: April has some really great line.
Speaker 2: She is good and she was I think that April
Speaker 2: on this show is really coming out on her own,
Speaker 2: like you.
Speaker 3: Know, rachelle more confident. Felt good for her. I was
Speaker 3: just talking to her.
Speaker 1: I saw her kissing Jack and that was like in
Speaker 1: the pool.
Speaker 3: But what do you think.
Speaker 1: Of April possibly flirting with a younger guy Jonathan.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's okay.
Speaker 2: Hey if there's if they are consenting parties, and that's fine.
Speaker 3: If he's going to go for it, then let him
Speaker 3: go for it. I think I think all thing at
Speaker 3: more just it's so funny. I don't know I should
Speaker 3: do that.
Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, even if it's just flirting and it
Speaker 2: didn't go anywhere, I think there should be some of that.
Speaker 2: There should be like hey, I mean, and Leslie said
Speaker 2: it too. Leslie said, hey, you know, Shar's got a
Speaker 2: younger guy.
Speaker 3: Why not be? Why we all do? We've got a
Speaker 3: younger guys, So why not?
Speaker 1: I don't know what the age difference is there, do you?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not talking like a twenty nine year older.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I can't go below my son's age.
Speaker 2: My son is forty, so I can't go maybe maybe
Speaker 2: as well as fifty five.
Speaker 1: That's what friend's gonna be in November fifty five.
Speaker 3: So I'm exactly. But you're younger than I am. Aren't
Speaker 3: you just sixty? What are you? Sixty? Eight? Yeah? Eight?
Speaker 3: You send you to So no, I'm waiting.
Speaker 1: I was dying when Kathy with that game, and I
Speaker 1: was waiting for the person to own that secret mouths
Speaker 1: were dropped and they're.
Speaker 3: Like, Cat, I didn't think you had it in you.
Speaker 3: They were all, yeah, that was crazy.
Speaker 2: I mean, but there were some wild ones on there
Speaker 2: being a playmde to another couple and finding five hundred
Speaker 2: thousand dollars and what.
Speaker 1: About the foot one on the on the all, what
Speaker 1: what is it when you put your feet online? Only
Speaker 1: fans only fans?
Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, why not, let's do that. We should both
Speaker 3: do it, you know, if people are.
Speaker 2: Going to pay for that.
Speaker 3: I didn't do it though.
Speaker 1: She wanted to win that contest, and because she got
Speaker 1: a VIP sweet date.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and she chose teeth right. What do you think?
Speaker 3: What do you think? I don't know.
Speaker 2: It just seemed a lot more platonic. It didn't like
Speaker 2: a romance. Friendship, Yes, it seemed like a friendship.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have liked to have seen a little flirting,
Speaker 2: a little romance, a little kiss, and that would have
Speaker 2: been nice because it was the VIP suite.
Speaker 1: And now to do something make down at least that was.
Speaker 3: What it was all about, like, you know, a little
Speaker 3: making out in the pool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, they did the champagne thing. Teresa honestly, do
Speaker 1: you think on this show that we're going to see
Speaker 1: any kind of a love connection between the Goldens?
Speaker 3: That is a really good question.
Speaker 2: I hope. So I hope it gets better. I mean,
Speaker 2: I hope it gets better in that department. Yes, there's
Speaker 2: connections because we are capable of really, you know, having
Speaker 2: the same things that any age group does. So I
Speaker 2: really hope that they do. I'm rooting for somebody to
Speaker 2: get this connection. And we haven't seen everybody haven't seen
Speaker 2: all the different connections.
Speaker 1: And no, not yet, not everybody's even there yet. What
Speaker 1: about R Jay and Natasha.
Speaker 4: R Jane Natasha, Wow, that would be full well, they
Speaker 4: were flirting a little bit that they were flirting.
Speaker 3: She was sitting on his lap on the boat, so
Speaker 3: that was good.
Speaker 1: I think everybody's trying to make a connection, right, And.
Speaker 2: What about the rivalry between Jack and Kim for April
Speaker 2: and Kim is nassashing April's bag.
Speaker 3: Till wait, wait, that's my woman, don't be touching my
Speaker 3: mom and Apel and then she doesn't tell Jonathan, yeah,
Speaker 3: if you want to come to my rooms. And now
Speaker 3: we get a third guy. So Apel's having for life,
Speaker 3: so good for her.
Speaker 1: There's more Goldens coming, and I look forward to this.
Speaker 1: I really do they come in attractions, if you will.
Speaker 1: When Faith says I might be the hoe of the show,
Speaker 1: I was like, that was what.
Speaker 3: What Faith? You're another personality? Can we just see that?
Speaker 3: And that's not the faith that we know.
Speaker 1: I would never hear that coming out of her mouth.
Speaker 3: Okay, That's why I'm gonna be so sorry when this
Speaker 3: show is over, because I'm really looking forward to that.
Speaker 3: I want to see what Faith does, like how she
Speaker 3: grew men and what is really going to happen with
Speaker 3: her because she was really making out of them.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, let's let's move on to the
Speaker 1: next Golden Bachelor, and let's be nice mel Owens. Okay,
Speaker 1: all the comments that the people are making about his
Speaker 1: comment about wanting women on his cast to be between
Speaker 1: forty five and sixty, well, and if they're over six,
Speaker 1: see he's cutting them.
Speaker 3: And he said no artificial hips and or wigs, and
Speaker 3: he must have meant knees too, and you know whatever else.
Speaker 1: You know what, Honestly, I think I'm hoping at the
Speaker 1: l that he was seazing. I mean not seazing.
Speaker 2: He once a younger, but yeah, Mel, all I have
Speaker 2: to say is, yeah, we are so like saggy.
Speaker 3: I mean, we're so no, not coned whatsoever. You are bald,
Speaker 3: you know. No, once we get sixty, we might as
Speaker 3: well be dead. Like we're really not. We're not viable anymore.
Speaker 2: So, Mel, you got you right on, because you know,
Speaker 2: if I want a guy who's forty, thought too so, so.
Speaker 3: You're not You're not angry with him, No, I'm angry
Speaker 3: with him.
Speaker 2: So, so the whole idea of the Golden Bachelor is
Speaker 2: that we are older, we have sixty sixty should.
Speaker 3: Be at the bottom age, it's not should not be
Speaker 3: the top age.
Speaker 2: So in order to be golden and I'm and so
Speaker 2: I think what's going to happen is that he'll see
Speaker 2: these women.
Speaker 3: He's going to see that they're gorgeous.
Speaker 2: I'm sure that they're all beautiful, accomplished women, and he'll
Speaker 2: change his mind and I'll say, oh, I didn't even
Speaker 2: know that a woman could be this beautiful at this age.
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, you're gorgeous. Oh you are, you are
Speaker 2: in shape?
Speaker 3: So I was wrong, that's what's going on.
Speaker 1: You know what. I wish he didn't know the age
Speaker 1: of the woman, that's right, until he dates them and
Speaker 1: does it. I'm going to suggest that to us.
Speaker 3: I think it's a great suggestion. I agree. I mean
Speaker 3: obviously that the team knows how old they are. Yeah,
Speaker 3: maybe the guy.
Speaker 1: Shouldn't know, because you don't want to judge somebody because
Speaker 1: of the age.
Speaker 3: I never act my age, right, It would be really cool.
Speaker 2: I love this idea where the whole audience knows how
Speaker 2: old each woman is, but he doesn't know.
Speaker 3: With a sixty five year old and.
Speaker 1: You know he's only sixty six, he's still younger than us. However, however,
Speaker 1: he would rock his world.
Speaker 3: Yo, Mel, you think you got it all now, you
Speaker 3: don't say that ever again.
Speaker 1: And I honest the guy don't think he meant it
Speaker 1: to be disrespectful to women by any means.
Speaker 2: He didn't even know that this podcast was going to
Speaker 2: be released anywhere.
Speaker 3: He just thought he was talking football and the yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: talking is what they were doing.
Speaker 2: He lost his mind. He just lost his mind, and
Speaker 2: the whole thing's going to change. So we can't wait
Speaker 2: and see what he says. But that's that's the truth.
Speaker 2: Don't tell him how old these women are.
Speaker 3: Just sell us.
Speaker 1: I'm calling ABC as soon as we're done today sending messages.
Speaker 3: I got a brilliant idea.
Speaker 1: He's true because they won't let too young of a
Speaker 1: woman or too old of a woman though, you.
Speaker 3: Know, and the hip part.
Speaker 1: Now, be careful. Some people have new knees. Some people
Speaker 1: it happens in their forties, so don't judge. He was
Speaker 1: a football player, he was an athlete, so he's strong.
Speaker 3: I get it. It could happen at any time. And
Speaker 3: who's wearing wigs nowadays? Anybody?
Speaker 1: Can you imagine how bad I would be sweating. I
Speaker 1: sweat my own hair and a lot of.
Speaker 3: Guys for two. And I'd rather have a bold guy anyway.
Speaker 3: That's I'll shame his head.
Speaker 1: I like the ones with the really short sides and
Speaker 1: they're absolutely two hairs. Like sweetie, just let me, let
Speaker 1: me take care of this.
Speaker 3: Get Oh and thank you for fixing my hair when
Speaker 3: you were at my house.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, did you do what I said? You went
Speaker 1: to your stylist. It looks great.
Speaker 3: I did this. Listen to me, Yeah, but it's not good.
Speaker 3: I actually believe my season. I cut my hair and
Speaker 3: the side is longer, So why do you think you
Speaker 3: could do? She's very talented to know my grandfather was
Speaker 3: a barber. Okay, I just go. I think I can
Speaker 3: do it. I think, all right, Teresa, I do have
Speaker 3: one question, and don't shoot me. Oh oh, I got it.
Speaker 1: Remember when we were out, I think we had just
Speaker 1: got dinner and maybe walk in to walk some of
Speaker 1: the glories off the digest the least, okay, And that
Speaker 1: gentleman came.
Speaker 3: Up to us and he said, Teresa, you go back
Speaker 3: and forth, back and forth, and you're like, I dated you.
Speaker 2: Book in peeriodes where were we? And we written Peer
Speaker 2: at Peer Village in Long Branch. We were going to
Speaker 2: a place to see if they had music. And he's
Speaker 2: walking towards us, and I'm looking at him. I go,
Speaker 2: he looks so familiar. And I went out with him
Speaker 2: twice and then never went out with him again.
Speaker 3: I go, didn't I date you? Isn't that a weird?
Speaker 1: He was really nice?
Speaker 3: Yeah? He was not. Why did I turn him down?
Speaker 4: Ye? Why?
Speaker 3: Why?
Speaker 1: I was saying, okay, don't look back, let's look forward. Yes,
Speaker 1: he approached you again. I think if you reached out
Speaker 1: to him, say hey, you want to get together and
Speaker 1: go listen to some music, he would definitely say yes,
Speaker 1: and maybe now that you're more open and you give
Speaker 1: it another shot and even.
Speaker 3: Just have friends. You know, I haven't had a phone number,
Speaker 3: but you never know.
Speaker 1: Oh, okay, we'll go hang on the board book.
Speaker 2: I've had men reach out to me again afterwards, like
Speaker 2: I and I really deleted their numbers so I didn't
Speaker 2: know who they were and I do you hate that? Yeah?
Speaker 3: That's really like, I feel so bad to say, who
Speaker 3: is this?
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry I've actually lied and said my phone
Speaker 1: was messed up.
Speaker 3: I should have thought of that one, susanide because they
Speaker 3: don't believe that either. Yeah, right, oh my god? Anything else?
Speaker 1: No new prospects.
Speaker 3: Have you been out?
Speaker 1: Have you?
Speaker 2: I go out?
Speaker 3: But no new prospects. Well, you want to put the
Speaker 3: pedal to the medal.
Speaker 1: I'm in Atlantic City tonight with Frederic.
Speaker 3: Come down.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm leaving tomorrow to go visit Leslie. Oh that's
Speaker 2: tomorrow in Minneapolis tomorrow. So we're going to blatch the
Speaker 2: next episode Good of Paradise together.
Speaker 1: Oh God, give her a hugging a kiss, hugging a
Speaker 1: kiss for me?
Speaker 3: Yes, I will, Yes, Peggy, did Peggy come? So Peggy's coming?
Speaker 3: The next week. So I'm climbing back. I'll be back
Speaker 3: wednesday the next clean my house is really really fast.
Speaker 1: And then Peggy her house, yes, and did you get
Speaker 1: to go to your sons yet?
Speaker 3: And Charleston.
Speaker 2: So I just came back from my sons, and I
Speaker 2: have to tell you a story. I put my eyes
Speaker 2: out in the airport because you know, the one that
Speaker 2: you loved, Braxton that with you, Yes, just was you know,
Speaker 2: hugging me and he wouldn't let me go, and he said,
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: Want you to leave, and and you're not. When are
Speaker 3: you coming back? And I said, Braxton, I'll be back
Speaker 3: really soon.
Speaker 2: I'm in the airport and these sad songs are coming
Speaker 2: on and all of a sudden, turn on your heart light.
Speaker 3: It says I'll come to The song starts with I
Speaker 3: want to you know, I will come back. I'll come back.
Speaker 3: And I texted him. I said, I miss you already
Speaker 3: and he said miss you more. Oh my, oh my eyes.
Speaker 3: The tears are streaming down my eyes and I'm does
Speaker 3: anybody know who I am? And now they can see
Speaker 3: them all night.
Speaker 2: And I said, I'm going to send you this song
Speaker 2: and you listen to it and you think about me
Speaker 2: and I'll think about you. It start sad, would come
Speaker 2: back again. I want you to stay next time. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, I'm so sad.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my four year old granddaughter sends me videos me me,
Speaker 1: are you coming?
Speaker 3: I want you to come back. I want to come
Speaker 3: swim in. I want to eat dinner with you. You
Speaker 3: come back? How old is she four? Yeah? That you
Speaker 3: gotta go back. You gotta see them all the time,
Speaker 3: and you and I have to get together with our
Speaker 3: calendars again.
Speaker 1: It took us a month or so to figure up
Speaker 1: a long time, so well well pre planned.
Speaker 2: The Holy Day was supposed to be we're doing it
Speaker 2: wild Kathy unless we were gone, but then it was
Speaker 2: like four weeks later.
Speaker 3: No, now we know we love each other. You gotta
Speaker 3: see her. Her she shed is beyond Oh Telly. It
Speaker 3: was one of my favorite parts. Thank you, I love
Speaker 3: you now.
Speaker 1: I love you, And thanks for giving such great advice
Speaker 1: for people listening out there.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Susan. Thank you for coming.
Speaker 1: Today and chatting with me so that everybody can hear.
Speaker 1: And we talked just like we talk in person.
Speaker 3: Yes, I love a minute of it.
Speaker 1: So thank you so much.
Speaker 3: Susan. Absolutely worthstangly at work.
Speaker 1: And if you're out there in your golden years and
Speaker 1: you're navigating dating or life after a divorce or a loss,
Speaker 1: ready to put yourself back out there but don't know
Speaker 1: where to start, call us or email us for advice.
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