1 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: It's I Do Part two and I'm back on the 2 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: Pond once again, and it is one of your favorite 3 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: golden shows that you don't recognize my voice, it's Susan Oles. 4 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 1: And today it's going to be a really fun episode 5 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: because I have one of my dearest Bachelor Nation friends here, 6 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: Teresa Iss Teresa in the house. Hi, Hi, it's so 7 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: good to see. I know, I know you can tell 8 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: them how I. 9 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 2: Guess a few weeks ago, maybe three weeks ago, he 10 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 2: went on June twenty first that you got he's your house, 11 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 2: and I felt like, well, it's all like she lives 12 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:51,560 Speaker 2: here forever. 13 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 3: You were so good, it was all set up for you. 14 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 3: Jersey's like part of me too. 15 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: But I kept saying, Teresa, I love North Jersey and 16 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: all your friends and every This isn't North Jersey. 17 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 3: It was Central Jersey, and say, oh my god, so 18 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:12,759 Speaker 3: she considers this North Jersey. No, it's Central Jersey. Such 19 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:14,119 Speaker 3: a good time. We did. 20 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: We ate well, we drank well, we shopped well, and 21 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: I even got her to go on the beach. However, 22 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 1: she wore long sleeves and covers. But I don't want 23 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: to contend. 24 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 2: No, Honestly, I had so many things planned for you. 25 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 2: I was going to take take you to about nine 26 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 2: different beach towns and you saw these boutiques and you said, 27 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 2: that's it, that's all I want to do. 28 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: We saw Hamy, we saw four, didn't we It was 29 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:41,040 Speaker 1: at least four beach so far. Yeah, that's funny. And 30 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: I guess what. I had such a good time. You 31 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 1: have a lovely home, great friend. And I would come 32 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: back so we could see the other five. 33 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 3: It's awesome. Okay, I'm ready. 34 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 1: All right, So today on this podcast I do part two. 35 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: It's all about love and loss and finding love again. 36 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: So today I thought it would be fun to dive 37 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:06,559 Speaker 1: into some topics that are a reality for us Golden's. 38 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 3: And obviously we got them. 39 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: Something's happening in the bachelor world that we've got to 40 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: talk about too, don't you think. 41 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that I know. 42 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: Okay, So we gave him a little background of where 43 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: we've been at for you. 44 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 3: You have lost a husband. You want to share just 45 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 3: to update everybody. Yeah, sure. 46 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 2: So it's really hard to believe that it will be 47 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: eleven years. I'm Veterans Day this year that my husband 48 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:32,360 Speaker 2: passed away. 49 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: So now. 50 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 2: I was sixty one when he died. I'm about to 51 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 2: be seventy two. 52 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 3: It's very, very hard to believe. 53 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 2: When my husband first passed away, I don't know if 54 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:49,399 Speaker 2: it's the reaction of every woman, but I really thought 55 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 2: it was the end. 56 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 3: I said, I will never have sex again, I will 57 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 3: never fall in love again, I'll never be with a 58 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 3: man again. And that was the way it was. 59 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 2: I cried for like fourteen months and then found one 60 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 2: day I woke up and I said to my daughter, 61 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 2: that's it. I just want to go out to dinner 62 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 2: with a man. And she put me on Match and 63 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 2: the rest is history. So I've got a lot of 64 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 2: I had a down path how to get on Match, 65 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 2: how to do that? 66 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:17,840 Speaker 1: And sometimes we hate Match, you know, yeah, yeah, And 67 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: everybody knows that I was married and had three children, 68 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: six great grandchildren, and we're still friends, but we are divorced. 69 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: And I did find love just this year. It's just 70 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: been five months and it's his first time in the 71 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: United States. So so many people online on social media 72 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: have comments and beautiful ones, but you know, Teresa had 73 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: some negativity out there. He just wants a green card 74 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: and he's using you for your money. I wish I 75 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: had all that money. 76 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 4: No, no, no, it's about love. It's about love. It's 77 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 4: an important thing in the world. I mean, how wonderful 78 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 4: for you that you found love. I'm really so thrilled 79 00:03:58,480 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 4: and so happy for you, Susan. 80 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: I wanted for everybody. Yeah, for everybody. So what approached now, 81 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: especially after the show that we used to do back 82 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: in the day when we were young you met people 83 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: out or somebody introduced you, right, yeah, and then we 84 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: tried the dating apps after we had our lives with 85 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: kids and husbands and such. And now when we first 86 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: got off the show, were you jumping back on No? 87 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 2: I wasn't at all, you know, I did. I jump 88 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 2: back into my life because I really do have a 89 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 2: beautiful life. I mean, I've got a beautiful family. I 90 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 2: have seven grandsons. 91 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 3: I am more content now than I've ever been. I mean, 92 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 3: the show taught me so much. 93 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 2: It was the most incredible, wonderful experience. But it kind 94 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 2: of really did teach me to be happier. 95 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:53,840 Speaker 3: With what I have. And it's not I really want love. 96 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 3: I really want to be in love. I think it's 97 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 3: the most wonderful feeling in the world. 98 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 2: I am open to it floor that, But it's not 99 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 2: like I'm desperate to. 100 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 3: Do that, right, You're fine by your. 101 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, and you know would say you know your 102 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 2: Thank goodness, you don't have to go on dating apps. 103 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 3: But even if you. 104 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 2: Go on a dating app, I'm seventy two. There is 105 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 2: no man at the age of seventy two. 106 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 3: You gotta go on the re search criteria a seventy 107 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 3: two year old woman. It just doesn't happen. They gotta 108 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 3: go younger. 109 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:28,719 Speaker 2: Yes, it's the way of the world. So I'm probably 110 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 2: okay with a ninety year old. 111 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 1: And you know, it's funny the dating trend right now. 112 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: I mean, think about it. Everybody splits the bill, or 113 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: they don't call, they only text. Ohor how about this 114 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: one being ghosted? Have you been I was ghosted? 115 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 3: No, I actually have not been disgusted. I haven't. But 116 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 3: that's not nice. That's so not nice to do. It's 117 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,480 Speaker 3: a terrible thing. I was like, what are you serious? 118 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 3: You know what it is. 119 00:05:57,720 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 2: It's just like the next day after a date. I 120 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 2: guess they aren't brave enough to say I don't think. 121 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 3: That we are a good fit. So you have to 122 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 3: be able to see that and be an adult. 123 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:10,160 Speaker 1: Don't you think it's easy to do it by text? 124 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:12,920 Speaker 1: I mean, yes, it's just a text. You don't even 125 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: have to look at them. 126 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, just a text. Just say it, just say I'm sorry. 127 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 2: I had a wonderful time, but I just don't think 128 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:21,280 Speaker 2: we're the right person for each other. 129 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 3: That's it. That's all you have to do. So ghosting 130 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 3: it is not nice. 131 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: Exactly when I got stood up, I called it back 132 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 1: in the day. It was being stood up and I 133 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: got ghosted. And I went to this place and I 134 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: sat at the bar. I had a glass of wine 135 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 1: and I'm never really early. 136 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 3: That's all I'm going to say. 137 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: And there was this lovely couple sitting next to me, 138 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 1: and I had a full glass of wine. I don't 139 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: drink that fast. And I'm just sitting there, sitting there, 140 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 1: and they're looking at me, and I finally shared with them, 141 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: well you had to hurt hear them. The husband was like, 142 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: if he does show up, I'm going to pull the 143 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: chair when he goes to siting now. 144 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 3: And the woman's I said. 145 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 1: To the woman, what do you think one glass of 146 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:06,040 Speaker 1: wine and go or do I order a second? And 147 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 1: she goes wow, I said no, that wasn't really a question. 148 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 3: A lot of ordering a second. 149 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: I mean, it hasn't happened to you, right, No. 150 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 2: It hasn't. Well, thankfully it hasn't. No, But but what 151 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 2: would happen? I will tell you that every time I 152 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 2: would go out to a data I had it down 153 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 2: to a science. I knew how how many times you 154 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 2: should text each other, and then when it moves to 155 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 2: a phone call, and how many phone calls until you 156 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 2: finally decided to meet. 157 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 3: And then there would be times when right away. 158 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 1: You would know that it wasn't working with in the 159 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: first two minutes, right, But I would. 160 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 2: Go there with such a great attitude, like I'm going 161 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 2: to have a great time. 162 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 3: This person went out of their way to meet me, 163 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 3: so let's just have fun. And I would always. 164 00:07:48,640 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 2: Offer to split the bill, and then if it didn't 165 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 2: work out, then you just tell them the. 166 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: Next day, so you know, it's funny, I do as 167 00:07:55,000 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: well offer you with the bill, and many many have said, oh, 168 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: thank you very much, and I will I know I'll. 169 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 3: Never see them again. 170 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 1: The first date I shared a deer not on your life, 171 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 1: you know, thank you. 172 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 3: It was very nice of you to offer. But yeah, 173 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 3: it's a gentleman. 174 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: But I also get that so many people are dating 175 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: so much on dating apps right that they can't afford 176 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: to meet three people. 177 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 3: In a week. 178 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you're right, that's true, Sarah. Men would 179 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 2: just say to me, no, my dad would never let 180 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 2: me live it down, so they would they would say that. 181 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 2: And you know, I've made friends, I've stayed friends with 182 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 2: some of these people. 183 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 3: So absolutely, it's all good. 184 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: Have you heard of silver divorce or a gray divorce? 185 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 3: By chance? No, I don't know what that is, no idea. 186 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: It's when people fifty plus get divorced after a very 187 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: long term marriage. Why do you think people are divorcing 188 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: so much later in life? 189 00:08:57,679 --> 00:08:59,199 Speaker 3: And do you know anyone? 190 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 2: I really do think it's because, and I didn't think 191 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 2: of this before. Maybe they wait until their children are 192 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 2: gone and out of the house. Maybe there were underlying 193 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 2: problems the entire time. And then you know, with women, 194 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 2: it takes them a long time to leave, and they 195 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 2: build it up and build it up and build it up, 196 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 2: and then all of a sudden, and I heard this 197 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 2: from so many men. 198 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 3: They'd say to me, Oh my god, I was blindsided. 199 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 2: I had no idea about my wife felt that way, 200 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 2: and all of a sudden, she just she left me. 201 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:30,440 Speaker 2: But with a woman, it's it takes a long time 202 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 2: to get there, but when she gets there, it's the end. 203 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 3: It's over. There's no turning back. 204 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: You hit the nail right on the head. I mean, 205 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 1: I did it. I waited till my kids were out 206 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: of high school, and they and they even said to me, Mom, 207 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: why did you wait so long. We weren't people that 208 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:48,319 Speaker 1: argued or fought or anything. We just kind of lived separately. 209 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. 210 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, And to know anyone who's done this, I have 211 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 1: to say yes. And in my experience the people that 212 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: I know, one of the partners were gay. 213 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 3: Wow, oh yeah, that happens. 214 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: It was a healthy marriage, yes, and there was no 215 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: bad points, but it was a man. It was actually 216 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: two and they came out later in life. And it's sad. 217 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 3: But and that is sad. 218 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's still said that they have to repress that 219 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:18,559 Speaker 4: the entire marriage. 220 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 3: And that's that. You just hit on another point. 221 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 2: That's really great that people grow differently, and they grow 222 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 2: and they have different goals in life and different passions, 223 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 2: and so you start growing apart, and it's really hard 224 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 2: to be married it's hard to be married for a 225 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 2: really long time. 226 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: It's no one told me it was the hardest job 227 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: you were ever going to have. 228 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:41,319 Speaker 3: Absolutely, like you go to you can't. 229 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 2: What happens is you start taking that person for granted, 230 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 2: and instead what you have to do is look at 231 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 2: them with new eyes every day and like, this is 232 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 2: why you chose this person. 233 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: And re event that the exciting times. I mean, I'm 234 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: sure things go stale. It was just raising kids and 235 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 1: things like that. A lot happens then about not doing 236 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:06,240 Speaker 1: each other, you know, in any favors. Yeah, because you 237 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,959 Speaker 1: were so occupied with your raising your children, keeping your housekeeping, 238 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:13,600 Speaker 1: your career. But today now I don't know how you feel, 239 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: but it's the best time to date or fall in 240 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: love because I don't have to worry about all that. 241 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 1: You focus on one another exactly. 242 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 2: And I think that was a misconception that younger people 243 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 2: had about us, that life was over. But we, all 244 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:31,800 Speaker 2: of us on the show and so many more women 245 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 2: in this world, are so full of life and energy 246 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 2: and desire and passion, and we want to do things 247 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 2: and we've got we feel like, we really do feel 248 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 2: like there's so much life left to live, So we're 249 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 2: forced to be reckoned with and these young people should 250 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:49,400 Speaker 2: feel so inspired by that and not fear of getting 251 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 2: old because of who we. 252 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: Are exactly, and there's a perfect example that their life 253 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: is full of possibilities and it's not over. One of 254 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 1: my favorite lines was, this is my last chapter in life, 255 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 1: and I hope it's the longest chapter. Yeah, yeah, being said, 256 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: I feel so much differently about who I am. 257 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 258 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: You have to love yourself, and a lot of the 259 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: young people believe they love themselves, but they're not there. 260 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, And you. 261 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,320 Speaker 2: Know at this point, if you don't know who you are, 262 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 2: you really know who you are and you know what's 263 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 2: important in your life. So you do love yourself and 264 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 2: you feel That's why I was saying before that I 265 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:32,719 Speaker 2: feel more at peace with myself and Eve exactly right. 266 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 3: And it's so great that you've found Frederica. 267 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: Oh yes it is. He met my children and my 268 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: little granddaughter four years old. We were all in the 269 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 1: pool at one point and she looks over and she goes, me, me, 270 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:48,080 Speaker 1: you like him. I said, that's Frederic. Yes, I know, 271 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:50,560 Speaker 1: she said. I said, he loves me me. She said, 272 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: he does. I said, Amimi loves him. She said you do? 273 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: I said yes, She goes okay and jumped right into 274 00:12:57,640 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 1: his arms. 275 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 3: That was it. So that is so cute. And my 276 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 3: boys they you know, shook his hand. How you doing? 277 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,559 Speaker 1: They can't understand the accent. My sisters really dry. 278 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 3: But how long is he staying? That's really nice. 279 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: He'll he'll be here two weeks. But we have been 280 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 1: on the go. 281 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:19,960 Speaker 3: On the good good, that's awesome. 282 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna do a little. I just want 283 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 1: your point on the sale. Woman as listening to this 284 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:30,319 Speaker 1: podcast right now. She lost her husband of twenty five years, 285 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,440 Speaker 1: but now it's been three years and she's ready to 286 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:37,080 Speaker 1: start dating again. What do we think should be the 287 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: first place she should start. 288 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 2: Well, she should tell everyone in her life that she's 289 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 2: ready and she's looking for someone, and be you know, 290 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:47,559 Speaker 2: be specific. 291 00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 3: Just tell everybody I'm looking for someone. Do you know anyone? 292 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 3: So she should start with our circle of family and friends. 293 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:57,920 Speaker 2: When she does go to the supermarket, she should smile, 294 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 2: She should be open and maybe even like mentally project 295 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:08,559 Speaker 2: that she's open and that she's looking for someone. Because 296 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 2: if you avert your eyes every time you see someone, 297 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 2: you're interested in it will go nowhere. 298 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:15,559 Speaker 3: And I know that's the hardest thing to. 299 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 2: Do because you don't even know if that person is 300 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 2: married or if they're gay. 301 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 3: I no, you don't know. 302 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 1: But I remember back when everybody said you meet them 303 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 1: at the grocery store, hang out in the fruit asal well, 304 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: guys that never worked. However, this girl right here when 305 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 1: I was up in Central Jersey, if you will, she 306 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 1: goes to the shake store and it's like a healthy 307 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 1: grocery store, not like a Wegman's or anything. It's small, 308 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: but it is a good place to meet because you 309 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:47,280 Speaker 1: have to wait for your shake. 310 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 3: And I remember us being there a shopping and they're buying. 311 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 2: Snacks, right, yeah, yeah, And there are people that we 312 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:54,840 Speaker 2: strike out conversations. 313 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 3: You're right. 314 00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 2: And then also if they haven't tried a dating website, then. 315 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 3: I would try to dance. I would too, I would 316 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 3: be really careful and selected. But it works, it kind 317 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 3: of does. It absolutely does. 318 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: That's how I met Frederic obviously. Or do a new hobby, 319 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 1: like when you do different new things that you hadn't 320 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: done before, you may meet somebody and sometimes you don't. 321 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, go to yacht clubs. I don't know, go golf? Right? 322 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 3: We went going? 323 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: Yes, I used to think that I took up golf, 324 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: so I go meet somebody on the golf course. 325 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 3: They're mostly married, Oh god, yeah. 326 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 2: And they were kind of more interested in in their 327 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 2: golf game than. 328 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 3: And looking at I know. We did good though. That 329 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:38,880 Speaker 3: was a lot of fun. You're really good. You're so good. 330 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 3: I got even better though. I got to tell you. 331 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 3: We got to come around too, or you could come down. Yeah. 332 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 1: How do you feel about the older people having getting 333 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:02,560 Speaker 1: scanned when they do try to go online? Has anything 334 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 1: like that ever happened to you? 335 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 2: It hasn't happened to me, but I do work in 336 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 2: an industry where we have seen it happen to our clients. 337 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 3: So and I well, actually it has been attempted on me. 338 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:15,600 Speaker 2: You know what happens is you know that the whole 339 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 2: trick is that they say, hey, my brothers saw your photo, 340 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 2: but he doesn't have any can you email me and so? 341 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 2: And that's the scam to get you off the website 342 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 2: and then talk to you about how beautiful you are 343 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 2: and then show you a picture of themselves which is 344 00:16:29,960 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 2: not really themselves of you. 345 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:33,800 Speaker 3: Is that what they call cat fishing. 346 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 2: Is that so, I think, So, I'm not. 347 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 3: It's slow, it's really it's very prevalent. So it's it happens. 348 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 3: There are so many of them out there, and I've 349 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 3: got it. 350 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 1: I've been on long enough to see they'll use the 351 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 1: word M instead of I am. 352 00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 3: It'll just be M. 353 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:54,880 Speaker 1: Just that at the end, it's like, oh, really big 354 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 1: and they ask you a billion questions, your favorite, this's 355 00:16:57,640 --> 00:17:00,320 Speaker 1: your favorite that before long they need money. 356 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 2: Right, yes, this, I'm sorry, I if you want to 357 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 2: hear this. She This woman kept on wiring twenty five, 358 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 2: twenty five, twenty five thousand. Finally it was fifty thousand, 359 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 2: and we stopped and called her son, and she was old. 360 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:13,959 Speaker 2: She said, no, no, no, I'm getting my announcin I'm 361 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 2: getting my hair done. I'm going to meet him at 362 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:17,239 Speaker 2: the airport. But he can't leave unless I wire him 363 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:20,600 Speaker 2: this forty five thousand. And it's sad because some women 364 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:23,200 Speaker 2: are just that lonely that they will fall. 365 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 1: For us, and they believe they be I believe. I 366 00:17:25,840 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 1: looked up catfish is when they don't use their pictures, 367 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:34,280 Speaker 1: their real pictures. Well, that's the same as scamming, you know. Yeah, 368 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 1: it's saying people have to be really careful. 369 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, we would, right, We have to warn everybody. 370 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:42,600 Speaker 2: And if they get right, if they have broken English 371 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:45,240 Speaker 2: and bad grammar and it looks like a picture photo 372 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 2: from the internet, then I think they get three. 373 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 1: Of them now too, so it really looks legit, like 374 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:54,159 Speaker 1: look at them here, look at them here. Yeah, yeah, 375 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:58,359 Speaker 1: it's funny, Teresa. I've always wanted to be a person 376 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 1: that helps men do their profile and their pictures. Oh 377 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:06,399 Speaker 1: you know they never take a selfie in your bathroom. 378 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, never take a selfie with a big fat fish 379 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 3: in your hands. Are they doing in the kitchen with 380 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 3: pilot dishes behind them? That's a good idea, since you 381 00:18:17,240 --> 00:18:20,439 Speaker 3: should do that, so you go along with your other business. 382 00:18:21,080 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 1: Have you ever tried speed dating or have a matchmaker? 383 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:27,960 Speaker 3: Any blind dat set up date? Never any of. 384 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:32,360 Speaker 2: The actually know the speed dating is a really great idea. 385 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 3: It sounds fun, doesn't it. Yeah, sounds really fun. I think. 386 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 2: I think what would be really good is if you 387 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:40,720 Speaker 2: went to like a pottery class and then you help 388 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 2: each other, or you went to a cooking class and 389 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 2: it was really for you know, to meet people. 390 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:50,399 Speaker 1: A singles cooking class. We can maybe help them with that, Teresa. 391 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're traveling with singles or something. 392 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 1: Well that they have those groups, those meetup groups about traveling. 393 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 1: I did try one of those. I never met any 394 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,360 Speaker 1: And you know, a lot of our listeners say they 395 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 1: live in really small towns. 396 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 3: It's hard for them to meet new people. One thing. 397 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:15,360 Speaker 1: Even if you live in a big city like Philadelphia 398 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 1: or New York City, it is so hard to meet somebody. 399 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 1: I've heard that so many times, and I know myself 400 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:23,440 Speaker 1: being in the city, it is hard, just. 401 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:26,640 Speaker 3: As hard as small towns, right, And I'll say that. 402 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 2: I mean, the older you get, the smaller the pool 403 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,000 Speaker 2: of available people are. 404 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 3: So you're lucky you went younger. Which was a really 405 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:37,960 Speaker 3: great idea. It just happened. 406 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 1: I didn't search for that, but it happened to be that, 407 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 1: which is great. What do you think about a single spruise? 408 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 1: Would you ever sign up for a single cruise? Yeah, jeez, 409 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. 410 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe I would. 411 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:52,800 Speaker 2: I would kind of feel like, well, if I didn't 412 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 2: like anybody on this cruise and kind of trapped here. 413 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 3: What am I? 414 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 1: I would have to go with a girlfriend though. 415 00:19:57,800 --> 00:19:59,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, if I wanted to one with a girlfriend 416 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 2: that would be great, that wouldn't have to be obligated 417 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:04,360 Speaker 2: to be exactly. 418 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 1: Exactly, and the other little events in your hometown, and 419 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 1: whether comedian's coming into town or a show, you know 420 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 1: what I mean. 421 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:16,880 Speaker 2: Just yeah, we've got so much music on the Jersey Shore, 422 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,879 Speaker 2: so many places to go, so you're right, yeah, to 423 00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:22,480 Speaker 2: go with a friend, but so many of my friends 424 00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:23,479 Speaker 2: are with people. 425 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: So you know, you took me to that little show 426 00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:31,840 Speaker 1: that was adorable, somebody's podcast show, right, they were so cute. 427 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 1: And we met one of the housewives. 428 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 3: Yes, we did. That was awesome. 429 00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 2: That was so good. 430 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,120 Speaker 1: She had everything planned. But if you come to my house, 431 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:41,919 Speaker 1: it's not going to be as good. I'm telling you, 432 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 1: it's okay. 433 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:45,640 Speaker 3: I'm just going to go in your pool in your backyard. 434 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: That absolutely, I finally got in it for the first time. 435 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:50,240 Speaker 1: I've been traveling so much myself. 436 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 3: Oh my god, good you got to get in there. 437 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,199 Speaker 1: And we've been asked both of us, Teresa this question, 438 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,960 Speaker 1: and I believe I say the same answers. But if 439 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:03,680 Speaker 1: there was one piece of advice that you could give 440 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: to your younger self when it comes to dating and relationships, 441 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 1: what would it be Okay, So. 442 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:15,080 Speaker 2: In any relationship, I think the most important thing is 443 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:18,000 Speaker 2: to be open and honest and communicate with that person, 444 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,560 Speaker 2: and if there are any issues with that person, to 445 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:25,240 Speaker 2: never go to anyone else and complain, to just leave 446 00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:28,600 Speaker 2: it within the relationship, because once you start going outside 447 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,840 Speaker 2: of that, then everyone has their opinion and starts talking 448 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 2: down about your person, and you're saying, no, no, I 449 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 2: really love this person. 450 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:37,240 Speaker 3: Don't say anything bad about my person. 451 00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:42,120 Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, you just heard a great bit of advice. 452 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:45,159 Speaker 3: That's awesome. You're absolutely right, Thank you. 453 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:48,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, I learned that a red flag is a red flag, 454 00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 1: and I'm not going to make it green by any Yeah, 455 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:57,880 Speaker 1: you're right. Just stop taking it and I still try 456 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: to practice it. Stop taking it so serious and thinking 457 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,359 Speaker 1: of the next level and the next step. Just be 458 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 1: in the moment and be true to yourself and your 459 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:07,959 Speaker 1: partner whoever right. 460 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 3: And I really do think that it should be easy. 461 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 2: It should not be difficult with somebody that you constantly 462 00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 2: have to compromise because you're thinking two different ways on 463 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 2: a subject, or you don't have the same goals and 464 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,640 Speaker 2: passions and ideas about subjects. 465 00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 3: Or life. I think it just makes it too hard, 466 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,479 Speaker 3: so it's easier. Yes, I agree. 467 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: Now you obviously know we had very different personalities, yet 468 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 1: we like each other a whole bunch. Okay, what would 469 00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: you say that we've learned from each other? What is 470 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: your favorite thing about me? And I'll tell you my 471 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: favorite thing about you. 472 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 2: I'm my favorite thing about you is that you are 473 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 2: so open and yourself and yet you're you're such a 474 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:55,120 Speaker 2: good person and you don't you don't hold back, and 475 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 2: that you're yes your openness. I remember when I was 476 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:00,239 Speaker 2: on the show. Remember when I said to you, I'm 477 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 2: going to make you a star. Oh boy, I didn't 478 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 2: need to make it. 479 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 3: I said, wow, what are you doing right now? Is 480 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 3: really cool because you're going, Oh Susan, do that. I said, 481 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:15,640 Speaker 3: I'm going to get you on the cover of People magazine. 482 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 3: I didn't know. 483 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:23,359 Speaker 1: I still no, no, and I think you are one 484 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 1: beautiful human being. 485 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:26,160 Speaker 3: You're fun. 486 00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 1: I didn't realize how fun you were. I mean, we guys, 487 00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: we I don't know if you caught our social media, 488 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: but Frank Sinatra in the house because this girl could sing. 489 00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 5: We had the top down at night with the stars 490 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,840 Speaker 5: that we had the music blaring, riding around singing like 491 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 5: we didn't get that experience were on the show. I 492 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 5: was waiting on the show, we were still worried about 493 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 5: zip it and I was trying to play. 494 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 3: So I zipped it. I couldn't be myself. I mean 495 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:01,120 Speaker 3: when I got when, I seemed like and sences, Hi, 496 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 3: how are you? What are you doing? This is awesome? 497 00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 3: And then on the show, I'm like, okay, not saying word? 498 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,359 Speaker 3: What do I say? Now? What do I do? Know? 499 00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:11,359 Speaker 3: Because it's weird when you just you know. 500 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I applaud you for being able to be 501 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,919 Speaker 2: yourself because I was not able to do that, and. 502 00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:21,040 Speaker 1: Honestly, to be perfectly honest with you, I won't use 503 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 1: the word it fends, but it was a curse rather 504 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: than a blessing that I mun apologetically susan and very 505 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,440 Speaker 1: outspoken and I say what I think, but I would 506 00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:38,680 Speaker 1: never hurt anyone's feelings. Yeah, but I'm pretty some people 507 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 1: would consider it obnoxious. 508 00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:45,040 Speaker 2: No, No, you're a very kind I'm. 509 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:48,160 Speaker 3: A very good person. You take things to heart, You're 510 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:53,160 Speaker 3: very sensitive and kind. So yeah, no, you're great. It's 511 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 3: all right. 512 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: So have you watched Bachelor in Paradise. 513 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:58,640 Speaker 3: I have watched. 514 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:04,359 Speaker 1: Paradise Baby, so it was okay, you know, and then 515 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: the Goldens arrived and I thought that was really exciting. 516 00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 3: Everybody so good. 517 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 1: Did you feel for a moment like, oh man, we 518 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: should be there saying hi to everybody. 519 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, you kind of felt like that. I mean, it 520 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:18,960 Speaker 2: just felt like we should all be there. 521 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 3: But I was. 522 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 2: I was so excited when they came on, and I 523 00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:26,440 Speaker 2: just and I felt the whole energy lift. And even 524 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,159 Speaker 2: they the young people really looked forward to it. 525 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 3: I mean they loved them. 526 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 1: Yes, there was so much drama and stuff going on 527 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,359 Speaker 1: in there. Yeah, and then when they came in, it 528 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: was like a breath of fresh air. 529 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, thank god somebody came here liking up this move. 530 00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 1: This is way there and my beautiful April is still April. 531 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 3: April has some really great line. 532 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 2: She is good and she was I think that April 533 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 2: on this show is really coming out on her own, 534 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 2: like you. 535 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:59,040 Speaker 3: Know, rachelle more confident. Felt good for her. I was 536 00:25:59,119 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 3: just talking to her. 537 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 1: I saw her kissing Jack and that was like in 538 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 1: the pool. 539 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 3: But what do you think. 540 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:11,200 Speaker 1: Of April possibly flirting with a younger guy Jonathan. 541 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,240 Speaker 3: Yes, it's okay. 542 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 2: Hey if there's if they are consenting parties, and that's fine. 543 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 3: If he's going to go for it, then let him 544 00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 3: go for it. I think I think all thing at 545 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,879 Speaker 3: more just it's so funny. I don't know I should 546 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 3: do that. 547 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,159 Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, even if it's just flirting and it 548 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 2: didn't go anywhere, I think there should be some of that. 549 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 2: There should be like hey, I mean, and Leslie said 550 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:36,679 Speaker 2: it too. Leslie said, hey, you know, Shar's got a 551 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 2: younger guy. 552 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 3: Why not be? Why we all do? We've got a 553 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 3: younger guys, So why not? 554 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 1: I don't know what the age difference is there, do you? 555 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not talking like a twenty nine year older. 556 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I can't go below my son's age. 557 00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:54,600 Speaker 2: My son is forty, so I can't go maybe maybe 558 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,199 Speaker 2: as well as fifty five. 559 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,120 Speaker 1: That's what friend's gonna be in November fifty five. 560 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:02,080 Speaker 3: So I'm exactly. But you're younger than I am. Aren't 561 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,919 Speaker 3: you just sixty? What are you? Sixty? Eight? Yeah? Eight? 562 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,360 Speaker 3: You send you to So no, I'm waiting. 563 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,359 Speaker 1: I was dying when Kathy with that game, and I 564 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:16,360 Speaker 1: was waiting for the person to own that secret mouths 565 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,000 Speaker 1: were dropped and they're. 566 00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 3: Like, Cat, I didn't think you had it in you. 567 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,920 Speaker 3: They were all, yeah, that was crazy. 568 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,560 Speaker 2: I mean, but there were some wild ones on there 569 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:32,800 Speaker 2: being a playmde to another couple and finding five hundred 570 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:34,320 Speaker 2: thousand dollars and what. 571 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:38,080 Speaker 1: About the foot one on the on the all, what 572 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,399 Speaker 1: what is it when you put your feet online? Only 573 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:42,920 Speaker 1: fans only fans? 574 00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:47,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, why not, let's do that. We should both 575 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,440 Speaker 3: do it, you know, if people are. 576 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:50,000 Speaker 2: Going to pay for that. 577 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:51,960 Speaker 3: I didn't do it though. 578 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 1: She wanted to win that contest, and because she got 579 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 1: a VIP sweet date. 580 00:27:57,960 --> 00:28:01,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, and she chose teeth right. What do you think? 581 00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 3: What do you think? I don't know. 582 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 2: It just seemed a lot more platonic. It didn't like 583 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:09,639 Speaker 2: a romance. Friendship, Yes, it seemed like a friendship. 584 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:11,879 Speaker 3: I don't know. 585 00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have liked to have seen a little flirting, 586 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:17,480 Speaker 2: a little romance, a little kiss, and that would have 587 00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,120 Speaker 2: been nice because it was the VIP suite. 588 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 1: And now to do something make down at least that was. 589 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 3: What it was all about, like, you know, a little 590 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:26,920 Speaker 3: making out in the pool. 591 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:31,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, they did the champagne thing. Teresa honestly, do 592 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,280 Speaker 1: you think on this show that we're going to see 593 00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 1: any kind of a love connection between the Goldens? 594 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:39,080 Speaker 3: That is a really good question. 595 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,480 Speaker 2: I hope. So I hope it gets better. I mean, 596 00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,160 Speaker 2: I hope it gets better in that department. Yes, there's 597 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 2: connections because we are capable of really, you know, having 598 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 2: the same things that any age group does. So I 599 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:57,120 Speaker 2: really hope that they do. I'm rooting for somebody to 600 00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 2: get this connection. And we haven't seen everybody haven't seen 601 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 2: all the different connections. 602 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,720 Speaker 1: And no, not yet, not everybody's even there yet. What 603 00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:08,160 Speaker 1: about R Jay and Natasha. 604 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:10,760 Speaker 4: R Jane Natasha, Wow, that would be full well, they 605 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 4: were flirting a little bit that they were flirting. 606 00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 3: She was sitting on his lap on the boat, so 607 00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:15,520 Speaker 3: that was good. 608 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:19,440 Speaker 1: I think everybody's trying to make a connection, right, And. 609 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 2: What about the rivalry between Jack and Kim for April 610 00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 2: and Kim is nassashing April's bag. 611 00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:34,840 Speaker 3: Till wait, wait, that's my woman, don't be touching my 612 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 3: mom and Apel and then she doesn't tell Jonathan, yeah, 613 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,400 Speaker 3: if you want to come to my rooms. And now 614 00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 3: we get a third guy. So Apel's having for life, 615 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:46,240 Speaker 3: so good for her. 616 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,239 Speaker 1: There's more Goldens coming, and I look forward to this. 617 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 1: I really do they come in attractions, if you will. 618 00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 1: When Faith says I might be the hoe of the show, 619 00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:58,480 Speaker 1: I was like, that was what. 620 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:06,680 Speaker 3: What Faith? You're another personality? Can we just see that? 621 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 3: And that's not the faith that we know. 622 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,720 Speaker 1: I would never hear that coming out of her mouth. 623 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,560 Speaker 3: Okay, That's why I'm gonna be so sorry when this 624 00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 3: show is over, because I'm really looking forward to that. 625 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,800 Speaker 3: I want to see what Faith does, like how she 626 00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,080 Speaker 3: grew men and what is really going to happen with 627 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 3: her because she was really making out of them. 628 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:38,960 Speaker 1: All right, all right, let's let's move on to the 629 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:45,280 Speaker 1: next Golden Bachelor, and let's be nice mel Owens. Okay, 630 00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:49,560 Speaker 1: all the comments that the people are making about his 631 00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 1: comment about wanting women on his cast to be between 632 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,880 Speaker 1: forty five and sixty, well, and if they're over six, 633 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 1: see he's cutting them. 634 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 3: And he said no artificial hips and or wigs, and 635 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:09,560 Speaker 3: he must have meant knees too, and you know whatever else. 636 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,640 Speaker 1: You know what, Honestly, I think I'm hoping at the 637 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,080 Speaker 1: l that he was seazing. I mean not seazing. 638 00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 2: He once a younger, but yeah, Mel, all I have 639 00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,840 Speaker 2: to say is, yeah, we are so like saggy. 640 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 3: I mean, we're so no, not coned whatsoever. You are bald, 641 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,480 Speaker 3: you know. No, once we get sixty, we might as 642 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 3: well be dead. Like we're really not. We're not viable anymore. 643 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,720 Speaker 2: So, Mel, you got you right on, because you know, 644 00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:39,160 Speaker 2: if I want a guy who's forty, thought too so, so. 645 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,000 Speaker 3: You're not You're not angry with him, No, I'm angry 646 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:42,360 Speaker 3: with him. 647 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:49,520 Speaker 2: So, so the whole idea of the Golden Bachelor is 648 00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:53,360 Speaker 2: that we are older, we have sixty sixty should. 649 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 3: Be at the bottom age, it's not should not be 650 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:56,280 Speaker 3: the top age. 651 00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:58,760 Speaker 2: So in order to be golden and I'm and so 652 00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 2: I think what's going to happen is that he'll see 653 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 2: these women. 654 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:03,320 Speaker 3: He's going to see that they're gorgeous. 655 00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:07,480 Speaker 2: I'm sure that they're all beautiful, accomplished women, and he'll 656 00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:10,400 Speaker 2: change his mind and I'll say, oh, I didn't even 657 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:13,520 Speaker 2: know that a woman could be this beautiful at this age. 658 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:17,840 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, you're gorgeous. Oh you are, you are 659 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:18,400 Speaker 2: in shape? 660 00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:20,200 Speaker 3: So I was wrong, that's what's going on. 661 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 1: You know what. I wish he didn't know the age 662 00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:27,520 Speaker 1: of the woman, that's right, until he dates them and 663 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 1: does it. I'm going to suggest that to us. 664 00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:32,600 Speaker 3: I think it's a great suggestion. I agree. I mean 665 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:36,160 Speaker 3: obviously that the team knows how old they are. Yeah, 666 00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 3: maybe the guy. 667 00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:40,480 Speaker 1: Shouldn't know, because you don't want to judge somebody because 668 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 1: of the age. 669 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:45,320 Speaker 3: I never act my age, right, It would be really cool. 670 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,520 Speaker 2: I love this idea where the whole audience knows how 671 00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:50,400 Speaker 2: old each woman is, but he doesn't know. 672 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,360 Speaker 3: With a sixty five year old and. 673 00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:59,280 Speaker 1: You know he's only sixty six, he's still younger than us. However, however, 674 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:01,200 Speaker 1: he would rock his world. 675 00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:04,000 Speaker 3: Yo, Mel, you think you got it all now, you 676 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:05,640 Speaker 3: don't say that ever again. 677 00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:07,720 Speaker 1: And I honest the guy don't think he meant it 678 00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:11,080 Speaker 1: to be disrespectful to women by any means. 679 00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 2: He didn't even know that this podcast was going to 680 00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 2: be released anywhere. 681 00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 3: He just thought he was talking football and the yeah, yeah, 682 00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,520 Speaker 3: talking is what they were doing. 683 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 2: He lost his mind. He just lost his mind, and 684 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,000 Speaker 2: the whole thing's going to change. So we can't wait 685 00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,640 Speaker 2: and see what he says. But that's that's the truth. 686 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,000 Speaker 2: Don't tell him how old these women are. 687 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:29,760 Speaker 3: Just sell us. 688 00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:35,600 Speaker 1: I'm calling ABC as soon as we're done today sending messages. 689 00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:37,280 Speaker 3: I got a brilliant idea. 690 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,560 Speaker 1: He's true because they won't let too young of a 691 00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:44,920 Speaker 1: woman or too old of a woman though, you. 692 00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:46,040 Speaker 3: Know, and the hip part. 693 00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:50,200 Speaker 1: Now, be careful. Some people have new knees. Some people 694 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:53,160 Speaker 1: it happens in their forties, so don't judge. He was 695 00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,479 Speaker 1: a football player, he was an athlete, so he's strong. 696 00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:00,080 Speaker 3: I get it. It could happen at any time. And 697 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,840 Speaker 3: who's wearing wigs nowadays? Anybody? 698 00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,040 Speaker 1: Can you imagine how bad I would be sweating. I 699 00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 1: sweat my own hair and a lot of. 700 00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:13,240 Speaker 3: Guys for two. And I'd rather have a bold guy anyway. 701 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:14,600 Speaker 3: That's I'll shame his head. 702 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:16,960 Speaker 1: I like the ones with the really short sides and 703 00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:20,040 Speaker 1: they're absolutely two hairs. Like sweetie, just let me, let 704 00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:20,719 Speaker 1: me take care of this. 705 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:24,759 Speaker 3: Get Oh and thank you for fixing my hair when 706 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:25,560 Speaker 3: you were at my house. 707 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,120 Speaker 1: Oh yes, did you do what I said? You went 708 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,040 Speaker 1: to your stylist. It looks great. 709 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:36,640 Speaker 3: I did this. Listen to me, Yeah, but it's not good. 710 00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:38,360 Speaker 3: I actually believe my season. I cut my hair and 711 00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,600 Speaker 3: the side is longer, So why do you think you 712 00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 3: could do? She's very talented to know my grandfather was 713 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,520 Speaker 3: a barber. Okay, I just go. I think I can 714 00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:51,960 Speaker 3: do it. I think, all right, Teresa, I do have 715 00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:56,080 Speaker 3: one question, and don't shoot me. Oh oh, I got it. 716 00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:59,480 Speaker 1: Remember when we were out, I think we had just 717 00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,480 Speaker 1: got dinner and maybe walk in to walk some of 718 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,759 Speaker 1: the glories off the digest the least, okay, And that 719 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:06,920 Speaker 1: gentleman came. 720 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:11,319 Speaker 3: Up to us and he said, Teresa, you go back 721 00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,800 Speaker 3: and forth, back and forth, and you're like, I dated you. 722 00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:22,480 Speaker 2: Book in peeriodes where were we? And we written Peer 723 00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,360 Speaker 2: at Peer Village in Long Branch. We were going to 724 00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,919 Speaker 2: a place to see if they had music. And he's 725 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,360 Speaker 2: walking towards us, and I'm looking at him. I go, 726 00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:33,440 Speaker 2: he looks so familiar. And I went out with him 727 00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:35,239 Speaker 2: twice and then never went out with him again. 728 00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:40,880 Speaker 3: I go, didn't I date you? Isn't that a weird? 729 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:43,480 Speaker 1: He was really nice? 730 00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,120 Speaker 3: Yeah? He was not. Why did I turn him down? 731 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:47,040 Speaker 4: Ye? Why? 732 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:47,600 Speaker 3: Why? 733 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:52,640 Speaker 1: I was saying, okay, don't look back, let's look forward. Yes, 734 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,319 Speaker 1: he approached you again. I think if you reached out 735 00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:56,800 Speaker 1: to him, say hey, you want to get together and 736 00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,319 Speaker 1: go listen to some music, he would definitely say yes, 737 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 1: and maybe now that you're more open and you give 738 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:03,480 Speaker 1: it another shot and even. 739 00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:05,839 Speaker 3: Just have friends. You know, I haven't had a phone number, 740 00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 3: but you never know. 741 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,040 Speaker 1: Oh, okay, we'll go hang on the board book. 742 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,120 Speaker 2: I've had men reach out to me again afterwards, like 743 00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:15,560 Speaker 2: I and I really deleted their numbers so I didn't 744 00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,520 Speaker 2: know who they were and I do you hate that? Yeah? 745 00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:20,480 Speaker 3: That's really like, I feel so bad to say, who 746 00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:20,719 Speaker 3: is this? 747 00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:25,320 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry I've actually lied and said my phone 748 00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:26,480 Speaker 1: was messed up. 749 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:30,680 Speaker 3: I should have thought of that one, susanide because they 750 00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:37,040 Speaker 3: don't believe that either. Yeah, right, oh my god? Anything else? 751 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:38,120 Speaker 1: No new prospects. 752 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:38,759 Speaker 3: Have you been out? 753 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:39,120 Speaker 1: Have you? 754 00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:42,080 Speaker 2: I go out? 755 00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,320 Speaker 3: But no new prospects. Well, you want to put the 756 00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:46,480 Speaker 3: pedal to the medal. 757 00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,960 Speaker 1: I'm in Atlantic City tonight with Frederic. 758 00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:49,600 Speaker 3: Come down. 759 00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm leaving tomorrow to go visit Leslie. Oh that's 760 00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:59,120 Speaker 2: tomorrow in Minneapolis tomorrow. So we're going to blatch the 761 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,240 Speaker 2: next episode Good of Paradise together. 762 00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,160 Speaker 1: Oh God, give her a hugging a kiss, hugging a 763 00:37:05,239 --> 00:37:05,719 Speaker 1: kiss for me? 764 00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:09,719 Speaker 3: Yes, I will, Yes, Peggy, did Peggy come? So Peggy's coming? 765 00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:12,040 Speaker 3: The next week. So I'm climbing back. I'll be back 766 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,080 Speaker 3: wednesday the next clean my house is really really fast. 767 00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:18,319 Speaker 1: And then Peggy her house, yes, and did you get 768 00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:19,600 Speaker 1: to go to your sons yet? 769 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:20,360 Speaker 3: And Charleston. 770 00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:21,840 Speaker 2: So I just came back from my sons, and I 771 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,040 Speaker 2: have to tell you a story. I put my eyes 772 00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:26,440 Speaker 2: out in the airport because you know, the one that 773 00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:32,800 Speaker 2: you loved, Braxton that with you, Yes, just was you know, 774 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:34,919 Speaker 2: hugging me and he wouldn't let me go, and he said, 775 00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:35,400 Speaker 2: I don't. 776 00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,440 Speaker 3: Want you to leave, and and you're not. When are 777 00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,839 Speaker 3: you coming back? And I said, Braxton, I'll be back 778 00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:40,279 Speaker 3: really soon. 779 00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,719 Speaker 2: I'm in the airport and these sad songs are coming 780 00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:44,920 Speaker 2: on and all of a sudden, turn on your heart light. 781 00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,719 Speaker 3: It says I'll come to The song starts with I 782 00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,120 Speaker 3: want to you know, I will come back. I'll come back. 783 00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,760 Speaker 3: And I texted him. I said, I miss you already 784 00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:57,840 Speaker 3: and he said miss you more. Oh my, oh my eyes. 785 00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,279 Speaker 3: The tears are streaming down my eyes and I'm does 786 00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:01,879 Speaker 3: anybody know who I am? And now they can see 787 00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 3: them all night. 788 00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:04,719 Speaker 2: And I said, I'm going to send you this song 789 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,600 Speaker 2: and you listen to it and you think about me 790 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,239 Speaker 2: and I'll think about you. It start sad, would come 791 00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,600 Speaker 2: back again. I want you to stay next time. Oh 792 00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 2: my god, I'm so sad. 793 00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:18,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, my four year old granddaughter sends me videos me me, 794 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:19,359 Speaker 1: are you coming? 795 00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,120 Speaker 3: I want you to come back. I want to come 796 00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:23,080 Speaker 3: swim in. I want to eat dinner with you. You 797 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:29,200 Speaker 3: come back? How old is she four? Yeah? That you 798 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,719 Speaker 3: gotta go back. You gotta see them all the time, 799 00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:33,759 Speaker 3: and you and I have to get together with our 800 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:34,479 Speaker 3: calendars again. 801 00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:36,400 Speaker 1: It took us a month or so to figure up 802 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,200 Speaker 1: a long time, so well well pre planned. 803 00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 2: The Holy Day was supposed to be we're doing it 804 00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:44,200 Speaker 2: wild Kathy unless we were gone, but then it was 805 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:45,239 Speaker 2: like four weeks later. 806 00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:47,399 Speaker 3: No, now we know we love each other. You gotta 807 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:52,200 Speaker 3: see her. Her she shed is beyond Oh Telly. It 808 00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:55,879 Speaker 3: was one of my favorite parts. Thank you, I love 809 00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 3: you now. 810 00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,680 Speaker 1: I love you, And thanks for giving such great advice 811 00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:01,120 Speaker 1: for people listening out there. 812 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,160 Speaker 3: Thank you, Susan. Thank you for coming. 813 00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:07,520 Speaker 1: Today and chatting with me so that everybody can hear. 814 00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:09,800 Speaker 1: And we talked just like we talk in person. 815 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:11,520 Speaker 3: Yes, I love a minute of it. 816 00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:12,600 Speaker 1: So thank you so much. 817 00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:16,040 Speaker 3: Susan. 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