1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 1: With the dump. It's time the donkey. 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 2: Around here. Yes, you are a donkey moncon. 3 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: To days just saw himself. Oh man, Charloaeagne, who you giving? 4 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: Don't ready to do till now? I just realized. 5 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:33,559 Speaker 2: Robert for Non said, what did he hall? As he realized, 6 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 2: don't get today? For Wednesday, July ninth, goes to a 7 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 2: twenty seven year old Minnesota man. 8 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: Named Jose Lewis Lopez CA. 9 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 2: I'm telling you right now, Donald Trump might deport him, okay, 10 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 2: with no due process, and I can understand why he 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 2: would feel that way. I still think everyone deserves due process, 12 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,599 Speaker 2: but I understand why you would want to deport this 13 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 2: demon without due process. Now I am forty seven years old, okay, 14 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 2: I am at that age. Well, I really hate people. Okay, 15 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 2: I'm not quite sure when I started really not liking humans. 16 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 2: But the old I've gotten, the more I get to 17 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 2: know people, the more I realize why Noah. 18 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:09,399 Speaker 1: Only allowed animals on the arc. 19 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:14,039 Speaker 2: Okay, I completely obastand Noah because that is the only 20 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 2: way to avoid creatures like Jose See. 21 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: Jose has been charged with second. 22 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:22,399 Speaker 2: Degree murder because on June twenty seventh, he decided to 23 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 2: take the life of a young twenty two year old 24 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 2: woman named Hayley Arsef simply because she rejected him. 25 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: Let's go to five Eyewitness News for the report. 26 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 3: Police a man is in jail tonight now charged with 27 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 3: murder in the death of a twenty two year old 28 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 3: woman in Richfield. As we've reported, Caylee Arsef was found 29 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 3: after being shot in her apartment last month. Today, Richfield 30 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 3: police announced they arrested twenty seven year old Jose Lopez 31 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 3: she K on Thursday. He's charged with second to gree murder. 32 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 3: Court documents show ar Seth and Lopez she K recently 33 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 3: met online and had been hanging out, but ar Seth 34 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 3: expressed she didn't want to be in a romantic relationship 35 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 3: with him, only friends. On June sixteenth, around noon, police 36 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 3: say Lopez Chike bought several items including tape, a mask 37 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 3: and apron, and gloves, and then around three point thirty pm, 38 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 3: his phone showed he was sitting outside ar sets apartment 39 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 3: texting her. 40 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 1: About an hour later, at. 41 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 3: Four thirty, a neighbor told police they heard yelling coming 42 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 3: from inside the apartment. The next day, officers went to 43 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:22,959 Speaker 3: her apartment for a welfare check and found ars's body 44 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,359 Speaker 3: and signs of a struggle. When officers arrested Lopez Chick 45 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 3: near his home, they say he did not ask why 46 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,399 Speaker 3: he was being arrested, but told officers to hurry it up. 47 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: Lord, have mercy. 48 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:36,639 Speaker 2: This is why women be online arguing about what's safe 49 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 2: for bears of men. Okay, irip to this young lady, 50 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 2: Kaylee arsef fellis, please go to therapy to learn how 51 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 2: to properly regulate your emotions. 52 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 1: Okay. 53 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:49,839 Speaker 2: Cognitive behavioral therapy focuses on teaching skills to manage emotions effectively, 54 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 2: and boy do we need it? 55 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: Like, what's wrong with hearing the word no? Jose? I 56 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: don't care how many gifts you bought this woman. 57 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 2: I'm looking at the complaint and it says, Jose, would 58 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,519 Speaker 2: you know, buy things for the victim, take the victim 59 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 2: on shopping trips, but the relationship was not romantic or sexual. 60 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 2: I wouldn't care if it was romantic or sexual. That 61 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 2: still is not a reason to shoot and kill a 62 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 2: woman execution style, simply because she didn't want to highlight 63 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 2: at you, simply because she told you. 64 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 3: No. 65 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 2: Investigators saw the victim's computer and it was logged into 66 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 2: her Snapchat account, and they noticed that the victim in 67 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 2: the Jose had a best. 68 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: Friend badge with a streak that had just ended. 69 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 2: I have absolutely no idea what the hell that means, Okay, 70 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 2: but I can guarantee it ain't worth killing somebody over 71 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 2: you tried to highlight her Jose. 72 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: She said, no, she had you in the friend zone. 73 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:38,960 Speaker 1: She said to. 74 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:42,600 Speaker 2: You, and I quote, I'm only interested in a friendship 75 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 2: and did not feel a romantic attraction to defendant. Okay, 76 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 2: by the way, my brothers, that don't mean it can't 77 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 2: evolve into's something else over time. Some of the best 78 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 2: romantic relationships start when two people are friends first. It's 79 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 2: actually great to have that foundation of friendship to stand on. 80 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 2: But that also doesn't mean you'd be trying to wear 81 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 2: her down. 82 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:04,000 Speaker 1: Okay. Perpetual persistence is not romantic. 83 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 2: In fact, it can be kind of predatory because you 84 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 2: are saying you are this person's friend, but you have 85 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 2: aulterior motives. 86 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: Okay. 87 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 2: If you don't know how to you know, check that 88 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 2: and truly just be friends, then it's probably best to 89 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 2: move on. 90 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:16,600 Speaker 1: Now. 91 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: When I look at these messages this young woman Kelly 92 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 2: sent to him, she was so emotionally intelligent and mature. 93 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 2: Jose told her he wanted to see more effort from 94 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 2: her and their relationship. 95 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: They hung out, and. 96 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 2: Kelly contacted Jose on Snapchat and said, I did enjoy 97 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 2: hanging out with you, but I don't have enough mental 98 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 2: capacity for any type of relationship right now. I'm trying 99 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 2: to figure out myself as well as manage my relationship 100 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 2: with my parents, and I'm overwhelmed and stressed already. 101 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: What a mature response. 102 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,280 Speaker 2: Okay, they had some more correspondence, nothing that would make 103 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 2: anyone think, you know, he was about to go to 104 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 2: her apartment and murder her. 105 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: But that's exactly what happened. Okay. 106 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:56,360 Speaker 2: When police showed up, the victim was face down on 107 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 2: her living room floor in a pool of blood when 108 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 2: a parent gu shot wound to her head. I would 109 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 2: say this is a sign of the times, but this 110 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 2: has been going on forever. 111 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 1: Okay. 112 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 2: Some men simply can't deal with rejection, and as a 113 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 2: father of four daughters, I pray that they never meet 114 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 2: these kind of dangerous ass men. Okay, you have to 115 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 2: teach people to not feel entitled to anything. It's a 116 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:21,719 Speaker 2: level of entitlement that makes people not be able to 117 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 2: handle rejection, fellas, you have to be able to hear 118 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 2: the word no and move on. Okay, you want to 119 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 2: know the problem. A lot of y'all never had to 120 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 2: write a letter that says. 121 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: Will you go with me? Yes? 122 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 3: No? 123 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: Or maybe gotta put them maybe? Okay. 124 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 2: Everything about that letter prepares you for rejection. You write it, Okay, 125 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:45,039 Speaker 2: you got all the options laid out. You have to 126 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 2: give it to her, So it's a lot of preparation 127 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 2: that goes into it. 128 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 1: And it wasn't any assuming. 129 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 2: Okay, you knew based on what she checked on that 130 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 2: box whether or not you should take things further. Yes 131 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 2: meant it was on and popping. Maybe meant it was 132 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 2: a chance. No meant no. 133 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,239 Speaker 1: But you were prepared for all options. 134 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 2: And if you got to know, you kept it moving 135 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 2: and wrote another letter for another young lady. 136 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: That's it, Okay. 137 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 2: If she said no, Jose, so what heartbreak shouldn't turn 138 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 2: to you being heartless? If your response to rejection is murder, 139 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,159 Speaker 2: then you're just not simply ready to date. 140 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: Okay, Look, look, man, rejection hurts. 141 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 2: Okay, it's normal, But what Jose did shows a complete 142 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 2: lack of self control. You handle rejection by feeling the emotion, 143 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 2: processing it, talk it out with somebody and use it 144 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 2: as fuel to. 145 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: Grow, not to destroy. 146 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 2: Okay, if you can't cope with the rejection, talk to somebody, 147 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 2: a parent, a therapist, a teacher, any rational adult that 148 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 2: can stop you from making a permanent decision based off 149 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:49,599 Speaker 2: temporary emotions. 150 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: Okay. 151 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 2: Rejection is not a crime, but violence is. She popped 152 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 2: a balloon on you and you popped her. That's not 153 00:06:57,120 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 2: how that should work. Please give jose Lewis low pecks. 154 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 2: She say the biggest he hull she came whatever the 155 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 2: hell's name is. Soon to be prison in May seven six, five, seven, nine, 156 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:14,040 Speaker 2: three four six. Well with no remorse, though, I'm talking 157 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 2: about hurry it up at the time of arrest. 158 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 1: That's crazy. 159 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 2: He's gonna be saying that for the rest of his 160 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: life in prison. Hurry it up when they're hitting it 161 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 2: from the back, and they ain't gonna hurry either. 162 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:27,600 Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you for that, Donkey of the death. 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