WEBVTT - RHOBH Exclusive: Annemarie’s Final Word 0:00:00.640 --> 0:00:01.640 Hey, rain Drops. 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:06.200 Reality with the King podcast is going on tour. Yes, 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:10.639 I am coming to a city near you, but I'm 0:00:10.680 --> 0:00:11.799 not coming alone. 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:13.280 I am bringing a. 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:18.200 Few special guests along with me, starting with Real Housewives 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:23.560 of New Jersey star Teresa Judais on April thirteenth at 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:28.760 the White Eagle Hall in Jersey City, New Jersey. On 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:34.000 Monday April twenty second, I have Tamar Braxton coming to 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:40.000 Atlanta at City Winery on April twenty fifth. 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Twice a week on Reality with 0:01:32.520 --> 0:01:34.920 the King, We'll sit down with my friends across the 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:40.320 entertainment industry, recap our favorite reality shows and revisit unforgetable 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:45.400 moments that we are still talking and tweeting about. 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.160 Everybody. Welcome to Reality with the King. 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:53.960 I have talked about this woman recently on my podcast 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:57.720 doing the reunion of Real House spotsor Billy Hills, and 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:00.960 I'm so happy she said yes when I reach out 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:02.720 to her, like, girl, I want to talk to you 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:05.320 because you know, I'm not al thot some some you 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:07.440 know as I'm watching the show, so please give it 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:10.240 up with them, beautiful ten across the board. 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:14.400 Bitch Aunt Marie Wiley for. 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:19.000 Having me, Carlos excited to be here. Thank you. Okay, wait, 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:24.520 first I have to say, Anna Marie, Anna Marie, Anna Marie. 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:27.360 That's why you're here. We're gonna clarify something. So it's 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:29.919 Anna Marie, Anna Marie not an eight point five. 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:33.840 Okay. So let's go into that. Okay, So okay, this 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.640 is how I approach that. I was an athlete growing up, right, 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:39.520 and so I'm like, I'm never gonna have a coach 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.800 that's like you're perfect. Everything you do is perfect, there's 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.360 no room for improvement. You had a perfect game. My 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:48.600 mindset is like there's always room for improvement. You can 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:52.040 always be better, you can always create a better version 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.240 of yourself. And so one of the things that like 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.799 I love about my husband and we play off each 0:02:56.800 --> 0:02:59.959 other really well in this regard is that we always 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:02.760 push each other and like he's my best friend, Like 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.640 we have that kind of relationship. He's never gonna be like, oh, babe, 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:07.920 you're perfect. Everything you do is perfect, and like, you know, 0:03:08.000 --> 0:03:09.920 you don't need to do anything better. He's like he's 0:03:09.960 --> 0:03:13.200 honest with me. I'm honest with him, and that's why 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:15.120 I love him because I'm like I never have to 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:19.160 guess if anything that he's telling me is true because 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:21.160 I'm like, if he's like you're in eight point five, 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:22.639 I know he's telling me the truth. 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:23.320 Right. 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:26.480 If that's stunning on me, I know it really does, 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:29.000 because he's not just pandering to me. He's not just 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.760 pandering saying what he thinks I need to hear. And like, 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.320 you know, I have healthy self esteem like that, like 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.720 I don't. I don't need to be perfect. Nobody's perfect. 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.240 Nothing's perfect. You can always be. 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:39.400 Better, No, not at all. 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:42.360 And that's the thing about you because when I'm watch 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:44.600 you on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, I was 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:48.680 so intrigued because it's not easy, and trust me, I 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:49.080 know this. 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:49.960 Yeah, it's not. 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:54.800 Easy for a newbie to enter a shell that's been 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:59.320 offered many seasons and have a voice is very intimidating. 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:03.920 And you came in like a wrecking ball, came Ola Cyrus. 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:07.320 But I was so intrigued, really intrigued by you. 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:11.400 I obviously did not and so did the rain drops 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.200 and a lot of people who you know, watch the show. 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:16.840 I never felt like I knew you. 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:19.560 And what I want to do, really briefly is I 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.359 want to get to know you because, like you just said, 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:25.720 you are an athlete, So like, talk to me about 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:29.680 your childhood where you like the girl that the volleyball, cheerleading, basketball, 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:30.360 all those things. 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:32.600 Yeah, so let's like, let's bring it all the way back. 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:36.120 Let's start from like the very beginning. So I'm biracial. 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:38.679 I was put up for adoption when I was born. 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:44.440 My mother's Dutch, my pological father's Nigerian, and I've never 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:46.400 met them, so they put me up for adoption when 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:49.880 I was born. I've never met them, so they put 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:51.920 me it for adoption when I was born. I was 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:55.160 adopted at two weeks old by a Dutch Indonesian family. 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.000 So I grew up, you know, it was a biracial 0:04:57.040 --> 0:05:01.160 girl in an Asian household. And then my parents got 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:03.719 divorced when I was ten, so I was raised by 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:06.200 my mom, by a single mother. She raised me and 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:09.360 my two sisters. I grew up in a very small 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:12.760 farm town about an hour outside of Vancouver in Canada. 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:15.359 And yeah, I was super into sports. I started running 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:17.600 track when I was five. I did that all the 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:20.120 way up to high school and then switched over to 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:23.400 like basketball, Yes, volleyball, like all the things, but basketball 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:26.400 was my primary sport and I played that through high school. 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:29.160 Like I said, I played in college as well, and 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:32.960 that was really my vehicle to you know, get my degree. 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.240 I got my bachelor's degree in nursing. You know, because 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.360 I didn't grow up with a lot right Like, I 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:40.919 wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth. I 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.560 had to work really hard and make really good decisions 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:46.760 to be where I am now. So played basketball in college, 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:50.320 got my nursing degree. I moved to la six months 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:55.719 after I graduated, and then I became a CRNA, met 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:59.880 my husband, who was an NFL player. We got married 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:05.320 for children. Later we started a nonprofit foundation to help 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:09.600 youth and underserved communities. And then I was out of 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:11.599 the blue, asked of me on a reality show. So 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.440 there you go in a nutshell, that's Anna Marie. 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:14.960 Wow. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:18.040 So one of the biggest things that you just said 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:22.440 that really really makes me understand you more too, is 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:26.760 the fact that you never met your biological parents and 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:31.520 being a biracial girl growing up in a pretty much 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:34.520 an Asian family, right, yeap. What was that like for 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:38.039 you in terms of your identity? Were you aware that 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:41.599 you were black biracial? Was that confusing for you at all? 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:46.359 I'm so glad you asked that it was. I was 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:50.799 always the anomaly. I was always the girl that was different. 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:55.800 I never quite fit in anywhere. There were not a 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:57.880 lot of black people where I was from, so I 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:02.120 was always the only black person, and you know, it 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:03.960 was it was hard like not seeing people that look 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:07.520 like me. And I think that was, you know, kind 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:10.080 of one of the factors for me moving down here 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:13.800 as well, because I didn't want to always be different. 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:16.800 I didn't want to always have to explain everything from 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.800 from the smallest things to like why do you wrap 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:23.800 your hair at night? To like, you know, why, you 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.040 know I have a muscular frame. I feel like that's 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.800 sometimes a little bit more accepted by like the black 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:33.120 community maybe as an athlete. And so, yeah, it was, 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:36.320 it was. It was hard. I struggled with my identity 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:39.440 a lot growing up, and then even when I moved here, 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:43.840 you know, I felt like I wasn't black enough for 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:46.920 the black girls, but I wasn't white enough for the 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:50.080 white girls. So I was always kind of this other category. 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:53.920 And you know, I just eventually, you know, matured and 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:57.280 got to this age and this space in my life 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:01.560 where I just really came into my own and became 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:05.360 comfortable with who I am and just kind of embraced 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:07.760 it and was like, you know what, I'm not like 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:11.240 anybody else, and that's okay, That's what makes me me, 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:15.600 That's what makes me unique, and I'm going to celebrate that. 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.640 You Know, my husband, one of the things that he 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:22.400 told me when we first met, and I'll never forget this, 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:25.680 he's like, you need to always be your own biggest cheerleader. 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:29.440 He's like, no one should cheer louder for you than yourself, 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:31.080 and I've always carried that with me. 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:36.160 Did you have any black women that were like your mentors, 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:40.040 who can like educate you, like you said, this stuff 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.319 like wrapping your hair at I and just like the 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.200 applies that black women go through. 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:45.640 No, no, I did it. 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:48.520 I mean, you know, Vancouver at that time, I think 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:52.640 there were was maybe one black hair salon, but you 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:55.000 know it was like two hours away from where I lived. 0:08:55.920 --> 0:08:58.480 So my mom, she used to do my hair when 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:01.360 I was little. I remember sitting there in the middle 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:05.360 of the kitchen her doing my hair. It's so funny. 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.880 I posted about it this morning, actually, and I hated it. 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:12.400 I hated it so much. Both of my sisters one 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:15.040 is Dutch Indonesian, one's half Filipinos, so you know, they've 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:19.160 got really straight, dark hair, and so you know, they're 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:21.480 outside playing in the sandbox doing all the things. I'm 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:24.000 sitting there in the kitchen getting my hair done and 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:27.679 just wishing that I had hair like my sisters and 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.880 like the rest of my family. So no, I didn't 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:34.920 learn to wrap my hair until maybe ten years ago. 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:38.360 Like I just there was there was no one ten 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:40.520 years ago, Carlos. There were just that's that was not 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:43.199 my upbringing. There was there was not a black community 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:47.920 for me. When I started running track when I was twelve, 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:52.640 there was, you know, another black family who lived in 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:57.920 another city, and my mom and her bonded over my 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:01.280 hair actually, and so my used to drive me to 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:03.960 her house about an hour away, and this woman was 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.440 so kind she used to braid my hair for me. 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:08.240 So I started getting my hair braided when I was 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:11.200 I think thirteen years old, and that was, you know, 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:15.440 my introduction to that. But that's kind of where that 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:18.480 was the extent of it. And then when I went 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:22.720 to college and Vancouver, I started driving over the border 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:26.400 to Seattle to black hair salons, and you know that's 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:30.560 when I was introduced to like hair extensions and all 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:32.959 those kinds of things. And then you know, I moved 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:35.600 to Los Angeles shortly after that, and then you know, 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:38.839 my brain just went like whoa, because it was just 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.920 it was a whole new world of stuff and I'm 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:43.960 like wow, Like I was like a sponge just like 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:48.560 absorbing all this black culture that I didn't grow up with, 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:53.200 and I was just so so curious to learn. So yeah, 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.040 it was moving here was a very very big learning 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:57.839 experience for me. 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:04.320 Do you have any desire to find and your biological parents? 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:11.760 So I didn't. Growing up, my older sister was also adopted. 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:17.040 She's half Indonesian and half Caucasian, and she's four years 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.000 older than me, and she didn't have any desire to 0:11:20.120 --> 0:11:22.480 so I think because she didn't, I just kind of 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.839 followed suit, like, Oh, my big sister doesn't care, so 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:28.280 I don't care either, Like, and my family is wonderful. 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:31.920 I grew up in the most loving, huge Indonesian family, 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:35.280 just the most amazing, loving family. So no, I didn't. 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:39.760 I didn't really care. And then as time has kind 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:43.600 of gone on and I lost my mother this past year. 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:45.040 I'm sorry, thank you. 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:53.320 After that happened, I've my curiosity is kind of grown. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:12:00.240 And my older sister in I guess about three months 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:05.000 ago now, after our mom passed, she became more curious 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:09.880 and she had sent away for additional adoption paperwork that 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:14.400 I didn't even know existed. And the paperwork contained her 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:18.480 biological father's name in it, and she actually found him 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:25.720 on Facebook, so she reached out. The craziest story. They 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:32.439 were both separately married, her parents they conceived her broke 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:35.240 up gave her up for adoption. A year later, they 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.960 got back together and they've been together for forty years. 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:40.880 So she just reckoned. She just found them. So she has, 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:43.560 you know, her parents are together, she has four brothers 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:47.000 and sisters. Everyone in her biological family has you know, 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:49.240 fully embraced her. She has this whole It's like a 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:53.560 puzzle piece that she's had put back into place. So 0:12:54.720 --> 0:13:02.560 that happening for her has sorry, it has made me 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:09.760 feel that void in my life. And then there's this 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:15.560 story that I actually told Erica and Dreet when we 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:19.679 were in Spain at the Pia dinner. I have a 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:23.400 friend here in La that lives in this gated community 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:30.240 and oh thank you O, my God, like all the 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:34.960 real stuff. So who lives in this community? And one 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:38.880 day I was visiting her house and the security guard 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:41.440 and I were chit chatting on my way in and 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:44.959 he's Congolese and he's like, sister, where are you from? 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:46.520 And I said, oh, I'm half. 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:48.880 Nigerian and he's like, okay, well, like have you been 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.600 And I said no, I haven't. I was like, I 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:53.559 was adopted. I don't know much about the culture, and 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.600 I don't know my family. There and he said, you 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.920 were adopted and you're Nigerian. And he said, who's night 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:01.760 and your mom or your dad? And I said my 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:05.520 biological father and he said, you need to find him. 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:08.559 He said he doesn't know you exist. He said biological 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:14.280 men are biological or sorry, he said, Nigerian men don't 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.240 leave their children. You need to find him because he 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:25.800 doesn't know that you exist. So, and you know, Dare 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:27.960 and Eric were, you know, they were so awesome when 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.160 I told him this. They were so supportive and so loving. 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:37.000 So that in combination with my older sister just finding 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:44.000 her biological family and my mother passing so suddenly, it 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:47.040 really does feel like I have this huge void in 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:52.960 my life now. So I also sent away for the 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:56.480 same paperwork that my sister did that and I'm waiting 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.800 for it to come back now, and I'm hoping that 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:03.560 there is, you know, a name or something in it 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:08.640 additional that you know, can hopefully lead be in that 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:13.120 direction to try to find him. The paperwork that I 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:18.560 do have currently, my biological mother had expressed in it 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.080 that she didn't want me to try to reach out 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:24.080 to her or try to find her at all. She 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:26.960 just believed that she wasn't equipped, you know, at the 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:28.760 time to take care of a child, which you know, 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:32.120 I fully understand and I fully respect, but because it 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:34.640 doesn't have any mention of him, it does make me 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:36.840 wonder if he knows that I exist. 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:41.360 Yeah, No, it's deep because obviously it was also an 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:45.200 interracial relationship and we don't know what that was like 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:47.360 for your mom to deal with in her household with 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:51.520 her parents, and whether or not, you know, getting pregnant 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.360 by a black man something that just was was very 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.680 taboo at the time. We just don't know. But the spirit, 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:01.160 I'm very spiritual. The spirit that I'm feeling right now 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:06.480 is I also agree with him that I don't think 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:09.640 your father knows and listen, everything happens for a reason. 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:12.600 That's just the way the cookie crumbles. Absolutely, And I 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:20.000 think your visibility right now could also include you reconciling 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:23.000 with your biological dad and having that relationship and the 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:24.720 story I want to share with you, and I'll move 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:25.520 on from this after that. 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.200 But my Miami realtor, her name is Aja Crowder. 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:33.280 She's married to Channing Crowder, who has a podcast, and 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:38.400 she recently met her biological father a couple of years ago. 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:41.320 And he now works for her brokerage. 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:45.800 They're super closed and you know, like she's like our 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:50.880 age knows, you know, and she's just like she had 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:52.280 to find him and. 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.560 Is beautiful to see this adult. 0:16:56.280 --> 0:17:00.680 Rump woman have this and they're like this, they're like 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:04.880 super tight and it happened the way it was supposed 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:08.000 to happen. But my point in saying that it's never 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:11.879 too late. And he's such a good grandfather to you know, 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:15.280 his grandkids and they cannot get enough of him, and 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:18.680 they all live in the same you know, community in Florida. 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:23.439 So I wanted to share that to you so that 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.760 you're aware that it's never too late. 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:30.000 And my prayer tonight that I'll. 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:33.040 When I speak to Jesus honey, because is I'm going 0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:35.200 to include you on my prayer list because I want 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:36.200 that for you. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:37.880 And it's sad because. 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:39.600 These are the things I wanted to see on The 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:43.800 Real House Billy Hills, because you know, listen, I'm a 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:49.200 huge fan of the show, and when you came on 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:52.800 the show, I'm like, Wow, she's kind of like the 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:55.959 most unlikable person on this I've ever seen on Housewise, 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:58.720 like what is going on here? 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:00.560 And you know, I'm like, I want to give sister 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:06.040 a chance. Listen, what about black people? We're like, I'm alright. 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:09.200 For you because when black people watch Family Feud, Yeah, 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:13.240 well alert we group with the black people. We're watching 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:16.520 family Feud for the black family, right, it is what 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:16.840 it is. 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:21.360 We're like, you guys were running on one. Prove us 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:22.200 right hard? 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:22.600 Si? 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:27.199 So right, how did you get the call to even like, 0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:29.480 did you audition casting tape? 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:32.800 I didn't audition for well, okay, so this is how 0:18:32.840 --> 0:18:34.720 it happened, Kyle. 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:37.400 So when we moved. 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:39.320 From our old home to our new home two and 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:42.119 a half years ago, we bought our house through the agency, 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:47.800 right Mauricio's company. And then maybe so fast forward to 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:53.520 the holidays. Right before they they asked me to come on. Okay, 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:56.680 so December two thousand, what is this twenty twenty two maybe, 0:18:57.280 --> 0:19:00.719 and they had a VIP event or some of their 0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:03.080 clients at their home. My husband and I are running 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:06.000 around the holiday scene doing all the parties and we're like, oh, 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:08.000 it's on our street. They live on our street. So 0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:09.800 we were like, yeah, let's go drop by. So we 0:19:09.920 --> 0:19:12.760 go and they thought my husband was like hysterical because 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:15.560 he has such a character and so they totally hit 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:19.440 it off and I didn't even talk that much that night. 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:24.879 And then so fast forward three months, Kyle sends me 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:28.600 a message and she's like, hey, we just started filming 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:31.800 season thirteen of Housewives and the producers are interested in 0:19:31.800 --> 0:19:33.840 talking to you. Do you have any interest? And I 0:19:33.880 --> 0:19:37.080 show this to my husband because I was like like what, 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:38.679 and like what do I do with this? Because this 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.840 had never been anything that was like, you know, on 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:45.560 my radar, in my realm. You know, I was very 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:49.200 happy being like a private person. My husband obviously is 0:19:49.240 --> 0:19:52.760 a public person, very happy being a private person, taking 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:54.840 care of the home, the family, going to work, doing 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:58.199 all my things. And I never really saw myself in 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:01.639 that light. But and my husband was like, you know 0:20:01.680 --> 0:20:04.479 what I've been telling you for years. He's like, you're 0:20:04.520 --> 0:20:08.199 such a dynamic person. You're a multi hyphen it. You 0:20:08.320 --> 0:20:13.080 have this huge personality and a story to tell. He's like, 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:14.760 I think you should do it. He's like, I think 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:18.320 it would be a great platform to get your message out. Ultimately, 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:21.320 I just want to inspire and motivate people. That's literally 0:20:21.320 --> 0:20:23.280 all I'm about. And he's like, I think this would 0:20:23.280 --> 0:20:24.639 be a great platform for you to do it. And 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:27.280 I was like, you know what, say yes, say all 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:29.000 the yeses, Like why not? You know what I mean, 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:30.879 I'm in this point in my life, I'm forty one 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:35.920 years old. Why not? So they called me like two 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:38.560 seconds later, and then casting called me two seconds later. 0:20:38.640 --> 0:20:42.560 Right after that, I did my casting tape maybe two 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:45.080 days later, and I was filming it within two weeks. 0:20:45.520 --> 0:20:47.920 What Yeah, So they had already been filming for six 0:20:47.960 --> 0:20:51.359 weeks when they reached out to me, and then so 0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:54.199 then I was just kind of you know, went in 0:20:54.240 --> 0:20:58.680 there week eight and yeah, so that was that was that. 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:01.400 Did you want the show? Prior to being on. 0:21:01.359 --> 0:21:04.359 It, i'd watched maybe the first maybe like five seasons 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:06.240 or something, you know, like way back in the day, 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:08.919 like you know, before kids, before I was married, all 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:11.040 that kind of stuff. I hadn't watched it, and I 0:21:11.040 --> 0:21:15.720 don't know however many years so when they cast me 0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:18.440 and when they were working when my contract was being negotiated, 0:21:19.080 --> 0:21:20.879 I binge watched all of the last season because I 0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:22.200 was like, who are these people? 0:21:22.320 --> 0:21:24.040 What is happening? What am I about to do? 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:26.680 Like I didn't know anything, So I binge watched it 0:21:27.240 --> 0:21:30.639 and then and then yeah, first night show up at 0:21:30.680 --> 0:21:33.720 Kyle's house for the wee dinner. So that was it. 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:38.560 That was it. It happened very fast and fully, fully 0:21:38.640 --> 0:21:39.400 out of nowhere. 0:21:39.880 --> 0:21:44.439 What's funny is again me being a producer. Yeah, I 0:21:44.520 --> 0:21:47.760 see things that the audience may not always see, right 0:21:48.080 --> 0:21:52.000 for sure, So I knew the moment you were inserted. Yeah, 0:21:52.200 --> 0:21:56.400 I said, nothing was happening the first couple of weeks clearly, 0:21:57.080 --> 0:22:00.359 and they needed a fireball to come in and to 0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:04.639 sort of like change the temperature in the room. Teddy 0:22:04.680 --> 0:22:06.280 Meller Camp is a good friend of mine. I've been 0:22:06.320 --> 0:22:09.359 on her podcast and she and I even talked about 0:22:09.359 --> 0:22:11.320 the fact because she filmed the scene that never aired. 0:22:11.720 --> 0:22:14.040 And what's funny is the scene she and I spoke 0:22:14.080 --> 0:22:18.199 about her podcast. She got into it with somebody. I'm like, 0:22:18.200 --> 0:22:21.400 oh my god, Stady's back, and I'm like, girl, are 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:22.919 you going to like Bee a friend of And she 0:22:23.040 --> 0:22:26.200 said they called me to come back, and I. 0:22:26.160 --> 0:22:30.120 Said, I need to get paid really, yes, didn't tell 0:22:30.160 --> 0:22:30.640 me that. 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:35.240 Yeah, wow, yes, She's like, you know, and I was like, well, girl, 0:22:35.280 --> 0:22:37.800