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Speaker 1: We have a segment that we we are now loving.

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Speaker 1: It's called you ask and we answer, And there was one.

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Speaker 1: There's a couple that we're gonna get to. We're actually

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Speaker 1: running out of time. We just having so much fun today. Um,

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Speaker 1: so you got one? Are you okay? So? Um? And

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Speaker 1: people ask me this a lot because I have three

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Speaker 1: girls that are around the same age. Grace is eighteen

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Speaker 1: months older than the twins, and so the question is

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Speaker 1: how do I manage spending time with each of your

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Speaker 1: daughters and not leaving anyone out. This particular person has

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Speaker 1: three kids six, ten, and twelve, and they have very

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Speaker 1: different personalities. So let me tell you something that is

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Speaker 1: extremely hard. So I have to intentionally work on spending

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Speaker 1: individual time with my kids. Um. It's a little easier

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Speaker 1: because I have twins, and the twins want to do

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Speaker 1: things together with me, but they still want their own

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Speaker 1: individual time. So I can say that every day. You

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Speaker 1: know that I'm home pretty much at night. Um, the

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Speaker 1: girls always come into my room, but they come in

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Speaker 1: one by one. So Angel comes in first, and she

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Speaker 1: and I have like a time to like just go

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Speaker 1: over our day. What happened. She wants to tell me

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Speaker 1: her highs and lows. She wants to give me what

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Speaker 1: happened in her classes. Angels very smart, She's gonna break down,

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Speaker 1: she's gonna use several words I don't know the definition of.

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Speaker 1: And we're just gonna have our like all one time.

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Speaker 1: Um Adora will come in and and then Grace will

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Speaker 1: come in. I I typically go to Grace's room and

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Speaker 1: spend time with her. Um. She doesn't she doesn't really

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Speaker 1: require much. Grace just you know, she wants a quick

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Speaker 1: hug and she wants me to tell her she's beautiful

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Speaker 1: because she is. And she's off a door. I get

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Speaker 1: hurt um alone time with her because like on the

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Speaker 1: weekends when I run errands, she's like my road dog.

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Speaker 1: So if I have to go to the cleaners or um,

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Speaker 1: whatever I need to do, she's in the car with

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Speaker 1: me and she's in my little errands and she loves

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Speaker 1: to do it and we just talk and laugh. And

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Speaker 1: that is the way. It doesn't happen all the time,

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Speaker 1: but it happens organically that but you do. You do

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Speaker 1: have to be intentional about like giving your children their

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Speaker 1: own moments, because they're looking for it, they want it. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's always great when we're all together, but they definitely

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Speaker 1: want their own individual time. Yeah. And I saw you

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Speaker 1: recently post um you and the twins went to tea

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Speaker 1: It was like your time with the twins. And I

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Speaker 1: know I've seen you do stuff one on one with

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Speaker 1: Grace and I think that I mean, gosh, like you're

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Speaker 1: already so busy, and so the fact that you make

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Speaker 1: you know, the twins and Grace or whatever like, that's

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Speaker 1: that's so admirable. Thank you. Yes, And I think that's

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Speaker 1: going to like just your girls will forever remember that

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Speaker 1: you appreciate that. Before the pandemic, I decided we were

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Speaker 1: going to go to like different places for high tea

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Speaker 1: because because they like it. They're a little bougie kids,

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Speaker 1: little bougie, so we're exposing them to the finer things. Ye.

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Speaker 1: So um, I couldn't get a reservation at the Mandarin,

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Speaker 1: that's like a really nice one, and so the pandemic hid,

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Speaker 1: of course we didn't do anything. But now the Mandarin

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Speaker 1: they have all kinds of reservations available, So that's where

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Speaker 1: to go before the pandemic. So it was great. And

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Speaker 1: now we're we're on a quest. We'll be on we'll

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Speaker 1: be doing high tea all the time. Now that's the

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Speaker 1: type of stuff that I hear that makes me want

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Speaker 1: a little girl. Yeah, it's a little girls are special.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like I keep my boy. Can I take

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Speaker 1: my boys to high tea? No? You cannot, No, we cannot,

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Speaker 1: but I love my boys. Yes. UM, all right, so

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Speaker 1: let's see I have UM how hard was it to

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Speaker 1: what you wanted to do and where did you start? So? UM,

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Speaker 1: I think I'm glad you asked us. I actually had

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Speaker 1: a lot of questions about business, and I know we

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Speaker 1: from you know, somewhere else. Um. I have an e

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Speaker 1: you can just it doesn't matter. You can have one product,

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Speaker 1: build your website, and bam you have a business. So

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Speaker 1: you need a tax ID number to to officially run

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Speaker 1: a business. UM, and you get that with your state. Well,

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Speaker 1: you get the tax ID number from the FED. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and you get your state one. So you get your art.

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Speaker 1: You form your articles of incorporation with the state. UM,

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Speaker 1: the FED UM and then UM. Honestly, I think when

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Speaker 1: people think about starting a business, they think it has

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Speaker 1: that they have to you know, achieve a certain amount

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Speaker 1: of sales or whatever. I always tell people it's okay

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Speaker 1: to start very very very small. Just start with small

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Speaker 1: goals and say, you know what if I just I

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Speaker 1: want to make one sale this week and then you

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Speaker 1: next week, Okay, I want to make five sales and

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Speaker 1: then next month I want to make thirty said whatever

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Speaker 1: it is, so don't overthink it. Just start it, just start,

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Speaker 1: just get started, just do it. And literally, if you

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Speaker 1: just start working on your website. If you're not ready

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Speaker 1: working on your website, one little, you know, task at

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Speaker 1: a time. And so don't make the mountain bigger than

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Speaker 1: what it is. Just just tackle it in little, small

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Speaker 1: all you have to do is just get started. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I mean, I'm telling you we're so blessed to

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Speaker 1: live in the age that we do now. I would

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Speaker 1: course you have social media and stuff, but I'm telling you, like,

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Speaker 1: So don't let us stop you. So I love that. One.

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Speaker 1: we're talking about like who in your family? And so

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Speaker 1: And that's so funny. Of course I share you know,

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Speaker 1: So it's like coming from both sides and it's so funny.

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Speaker 1: My cousin texted me. She says she listened to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: She was like, oh my gosh, I felt that happened

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Speaker 1: so you know, Corey's got brown and Carters like like

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Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just something about it, like sometimes

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Speaker 1: I didn't want my boys to be pretty boy. Well

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Speaker 1: they are anyway without the light eyes. Yeah they're they're. Yes.

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