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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole. It's two pm today and

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Speaker 2: I'm starving. I am just coming back from the fast

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Speaker 2: food joined down the street, and I'm walking towards the

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Speaker 2: that my workplace is notorious for attracting. As I'm getting

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Speaker 2: to the door, this blonde woman around her fifties begins

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Speaker 1: Me, and she begins to do this stops.

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Speaker 2: That's so annoying. She continues about three times or so,

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Speaker 2: but I ignore her, since you know, I'm not a

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Speaker 2: little something like this woman.

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Speaker 1: I'm excused.

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Speaker 2: Me me, Oh sorry, ma'am. I am on right now,

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Speaker 2: but let me get one of the other employees to

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Speaker 2: help you out. At this point, I begin to reach

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Speaker 2: for my walkie talkie to call someone to the aisle

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Speaker 2: for help, but she isn't having any events.

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Speaker 3: Woman, Why I will not be treated like this? Why

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Speaker 3: are you a round customer and to be treated or sage?

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Speaker 3: You will provide you're furvish to me, right?

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Speaker 1: And that is that? No questions ask me, ma'am.

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Speaker 2: I would be happy to help you, but my lunch

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Speaker 2: break is only thirty minutes, and.

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Speaker 1: I don't care if you're a story lookstfer goes, you'll

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Speaker 2: Sim At this point, I didn't even tell you. I

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Speaker 2: I'm not dealing with this. I walked into the break

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Speaker 2: the manager, and of course the manager simply brown nosed

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Speaker 2: her and told her that I would be dealt with

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Speaker 2: as an employee should never refuse service to a customer.

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Speaker 1: Even if they are on break.

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Speaker 2: This supposedly applies even if I call an employee over

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Speaker 2: the walkie for help.

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Speaker 1: So there's an update.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is the a hole from walking away from this

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Speaker 1: My god, No, this poor person is just trying try

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Speaker 2: I called corporate to complain that I was basically being

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Speaker 2: reprimanded for falling policy and refusing service to a customer

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Speaker 2: during my break Of course, corporate immediately sided with me,

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Speaker 2: and everything seemed like it was going to be fixed

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Speaker 2: and my name would be cleared. But no, of course not.

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Speaker 2: In the world of retail, things aren't always so clear cut.

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Speaker 2: Lo and behold, there's another factor here. The f to

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Speaker 1: I be fired for being rude to her.

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Speaker 2: Now, guys, the thing is the store has cameras, and

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Speaker 2: turns out they investigated, and since the audio is not available,

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Speaker 1: Breakroom door behind me. Oh no, oh, pee, I guess

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Speaker 1: that doesn't look so good.

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Speaker 2: Now you think that's bad enough? Right, long, guess what?

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Speaker 2: I asked a supervisor who's a longtime buddy of mine

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Speaker 2: to check the punch in sheet. It is automatically filled

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Speaker 2: in by the computer, but is editable by management. So

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Speaker 2: I checked it just out of curiosity, and guess what,

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Speaker 2: someone effing deleted my break time that was logged into

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: So now not only am I being accused of refusing

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Speaker 2: of not clocking out and leaving the premises to get food.

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Speaker 2: Was this a computer error or did the manager really

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Speaker 2: does he simply not like me? We have a long

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Speaker 2: well known that he does not like me. I will

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Speaker 2: not lay down and die like them, That's right.

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Speaker 3: I will fight, even right now when it seems that

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Speaker 1: This is literally braveheart like, oh okay, there's another other thing.

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Speaker 2: So basically, two big things happen today, and I will

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Speaker 2: One I woke up bright and early in me to

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Speaker 2: word subpoena. As soon as I made the calm, yet

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Speaker 2: firm threat, the person immediately told me to hold on

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Speaker 2: for a second. You got a supervisor on the phone,

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Speaker 2: whom I explained my situation once again, and he assured

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Speaker 2: I also asked for a way to email the president

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Speaker 2: explaining my situation as well.

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Speaker 1: My boy is not given up. I had another plan.

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Speaker 1: I was going to catch my manager.

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Speaker 2: Myself red handed, you know, just in case corporate build goofs.

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Speaker 2: So two, I walk into work and I immediately go

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Speaker 2: and the conversation goes like this, Me, I have to

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Speaker 1: Manager. Get it wait, I need to finish looking over

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Speaker 1: these documents before twelve. Me, no, it can't wait.

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Speaker 2: Supervisor's name told me that my clock in and clockout

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Speaker 2: time from lunch three days ago was not in the

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Speaker 1: So what happened? Manager?

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Speaker 2: Huh weird? I'll look into it for you, all right, Me? Oh, no,

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Speaker 2: need I already called corporate and they said they look

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, buddy.

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Speaker 2: At this point, I had the whitish eating green I

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Speaker 2: real good. The manager audibly good at this point, No doubt, bricks. Manager,

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Speaker 2: you know that.

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Speaker 1: Wasn't really necessary. You could have come to me about

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Speaker 1: this first. Me.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I know, but I didn't want to waste your time,

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Speaker 2: seeing as you're so busy at all. You have more

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Speaker 2: he visibly begins to get annoyed by my attitude and

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Speaker 2: my sarcastic tone. But I've been just enjoying myself way

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Speaker 2: too much.

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Speaker 1: Manager, Now listen Tomato underscore ketchup. I'm not really liking

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Speaker 1: your tone right now. Me.

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Speaker 2: I apologize anyways. I just wanted to give you a

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Speaker 2: how they are. At this point, some of you might

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Speaker 2: be thinking why said the last part. Why Because I

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Speaker 2: had a small suspicion that, since he is a recently

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Speaker 2: the system logs all to and re entries. Sure you'd

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Speaker 2: trying my luck at this point because hey, I don't

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Speaker 2: see who else could have deleted my log times, and

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Speaker 2: b if it was him who deleted them, he obviously

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Speaker 1: So what was my endgame? Well?

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Speaker 2: Simple, I was hoping that due to this threat about corporate,

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Speaker 2: he would simply go back and add my times back

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Speaker 2: onto the lock.

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Speaker 1: And guess what, John.

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Speaker 2: What happened, Sam, He did just that. A couple of

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Speaker 1: Domato, catch up. I found out what the problem was.

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Speaker 1: It was a good to not system and apparently he

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Speaker 1: did register your punches. But everything's fixed now your long

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Speaker 1: time should be there. Me.

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Speaker 2: Wow, thanks, I appreciate it. Manager, no problem. But wait

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Speaker 2: a minute, there's more. Just a couple of hours into

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Speaker 2: my shift, I see the manager leaving the store angrily,

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Speaker 2: slamming the managers off store on his way out. When

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Speaker 2: I asked my supervisor buddy what had happened, conversation went

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Speaker 2: like this, Dude, why is he so angry? I know

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Speaker 2: he was with corporated on the phone for a few

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Speaker 2: the time logs were missing.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, let me find out.

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Speaker 2: So my supervisor runs out to the front doors to

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Speaker 2: to me and says, dude, I'm so sorry, but he's

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Speaker 1: Mike Tyson is a supervisor.

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Speaker 2: With found evidence of data tampoing and the punting log.

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Speaker 2: He deleted your times yesterday and added them back today

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Speaker 2: this morning to cover his death.

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Speaker 1: Me. Wow, supervisor, yep, so there's that.

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Speaker 2: He will probably get fired and I will probably keep

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Speaker 2: my job.

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Speaker 1: He wow, hey, oh p just masterful, masterful work. He

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Speaker 1: went against Karen's manager's corporate like every boss level all

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Speaker 1: read it. Who's who? Yeah, and he's defeated them all.

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Speaker 2: But I would love to hear everyone's like, you know,

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Speaker 2: terrible boss story. I feel like there's probably a ton

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Speaker 2: everyone's going I would love to know what you guys think.

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Speaker 2: Is OPD a hole for taking us all the way

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Speaker 2: to the top? John, What do you think?

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Speaker 1: Sweet justice is always so delicious? Like the Karen didn't

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Speaker 1: like Sack the boss, the terrible boss. And when all

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Speaker 1: have just chalked it up like, all right, it looks

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Speaker 1: didn't long his time, but then it worked out. I'm

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Speaker 1: obsessed with this jogger's gorgeous hair and just want to

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Speaker 1: touch it. Today I made contact, but now they think

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Speaker 1: I'm a stalker? Am I a hole? Did they see

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Speaker 1: you running? There might be some similarities. Podcast Jesus strap insuckers,

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Speaker 1: come and revel in my awkwardness. So for literally years now,

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Speaker 1: this dude has been running around a three square mile

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Speaker 1: in my area. The only reason I've ever noticed him

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Speaker 1: was because of his flowing hair that gracefully blows behind

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Speaker 1: him as he runs, and the frequency that we saw

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Speaker 1: him outside. Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'm taking pics now.

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Speaker 1: When he started, he was a little overweight, but dude

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Speaker 1: is so committed that he literally runs in rainstorms wearing

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Speaker 1: trash bags and his hair fit. Now, damn, where's your

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Speaker 1: trash bag? Salm?

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Speaker 2: I know, dude, My dad weighed one hundred and ninety

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Speaker 2: five pounds at his peak, and now it's my goal

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Speaker 2: to weigh two hundred pounds.

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Speaker 1: My dad was fucking ripped, dude. I mean, it's my dad,

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Speaker 1: absolute beefcake. Look how freakin ripped he is, dude. And

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Speaker 1: then look this freaking scrawny boy right here, freaking tiny, tiny,

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Speaker 1: amasly dude, measly, measly. Over the years, I would cheer

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Speaker 1: Working with you these past seven years has been terrible.

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Speaker 1: the scorn of nearly three hundred employees. Alan, it's pretty

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Speaker 1: effing hard, Allan. But guess what, don't diet it? Alan's

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Speaker 1: getting heat? What exactly is it that you do? I

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Speaker 1: You have one job, allan one fing job. How dare

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Speaker 1: You don't think I reported you to HR, did you? Uh?

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Speaker 1: I did, and they were appalled. It's part of the

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Speaker 1: What the hell were you looking for? Anyway? Yeah? Alan,

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Speaker 1: Debbie was efing handling my stuff while I was out.

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Speaker 2: I don't know of interrupting the birth of your child?

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Speaker 1: Coming back after maternity leave to the two hundred something

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Speaker 1: has effing cancer? Alan, Alan? Also, how dare you come

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Speaker 1: No one invited you. How did you even find out

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Speaker 1: You just stumbled into my closed office with that stupid

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Speaker 1: my god, f you Allen. I was pregnant. I was

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Speaker 1: gonna eat that cake. I said you could have one piece, Allan,

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Speaker 1: be so clueless? Alan, Tomorrow you have a review with

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Speaker 1: It sickens me to think that because of the jobs

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Speaker 1: in the fact that you're failing. I will dance, Alan,

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Speaker 1: I will dance, and I will celebrate with cake mine

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Speaker 2: I mean, that was a that was a manifesto. It

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Speaker 2: Pea's sake, anyone listening or watching has had like a

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Speaker 1: The terrible coworker stories. Y'all, y'all have to write on it.

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Speaker 1: We always ask, but this one you have to it

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Speaker 1: is now we need an indatory. Who are the Allen's

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Speaker 1: of your office. My husband's cheating on me with my

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Speaker 1: But you should bully him for it. I just can't

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Speaker 1: it could have been longer. There were no signs, no indications,

435
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 1: no change of behavior, no change in the bedroom. I

436
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 1: just found out by accident three weeks ago, when his

437
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,639
Speaker 1: phone was on the night stand. My husband was sleeping

438
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 1: with my high school holly. Yeah, he thought it was

439
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 1: over in high school, but guess what and your husband.

440
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,119
Speaker 1: I grew up in a small town and this woman

441
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 1: bullied me severely in middle school and high school. After graduation,

442
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 1: I did everything I could to find a job in

443
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: a bigger city and moved, leaving all of the hurtful memories.

444
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,400
Speaker 1: I worked hard for a year, found an apartment, bought

445
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 1: a car, and later started college. That's where I met

446
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,400
Speaker 1: my husband. We got married two years ago, and I'm

447
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:35,879
Speaker 1: eight weeks pregnant. Oh no, he doesn't know yet. I

448
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,439
Speaker 1: will tell him eventually, don't worry. When I was in college,

449
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 1: my bully reached out to me after we bumped into

450
00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 1: each other at a party. She was in a new

451
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:47,199
Speaker 1: town and was glad that she saw a familiar face.

452
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: She never acknowledged what she did, and I never confronted her.

453
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: I didn't want to open old wounds. However, I wasn't

454
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 1: going to befriend her, so I just rebuffed any attempt

455
00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: of reconnecting. She still moved in the same crowd as

456
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 1: my husband and me. I never told my husband anything

457
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,680
Speaker 1: about her or our past. I wasn't even sure he

458
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 1: knew her name. Sure, you know, it was a lot

459
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 1: more than her name. But three weeks ago, oh god,

460
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 1: when my husband was in the shower, he got a

461
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 1: notification on Messenger. I thought it was odd since he's

462
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: not been active on Facebook or Messenger in ages, we

463
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 1: don't know each other's codes. So I looked and there

464
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 1: was her name and pictures telling him she missed his sweet,

465
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:33,360
Speaker 1: sweet man meat. Oh it's a little telling. I scolled

466
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: a few messages back and there was a full conversation.

467
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: I felt sick and my eyes went blurry, so I

468
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 1: just left the phone back to where it was and

469
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:45,640
Speaker 1: acted like nothing happened. Oh no. Over the next two weeks,

470
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 1: I looked in his phone whenever I could. I found

471
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,239
Speaker 1: out that my husband deleted Messenger when he didn't use

472
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,959
Speaker 1: it except for the time that he forgot. I started

473
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: doing the same whenever he's sleeping, playing games, are out

474
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 1: for a run, I took his phone an installed Messenger.

475
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 1: I could trace back their relationship six months. They've been

476
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,360
Speaker 1: sleeping together for four A lot of graphic description of

477
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 1: what they want to do or have done to each other,

478
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 1: but also a lot about me. Although it was often

479
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: one sided. It's always my bully asking questions and trying

480
00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: to get answers about me, and my husband is either

481
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 1: reluctantly answering or outright telling her not to talk about me.

482
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 1: But they've discussed my sex life, and apparently I'm Vanillah.

483
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 1: To her constant questions about if he preferred me better,

484
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: he answered that it's different and he doesn't want to compare.

485
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 1: I have never cried my whole life combined, compared to

486
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 1: the last few weeks. I want to leave my husband,

487
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 1: but I don't want to tell him why. I don't

488
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 1: want to give him or my bully the satisfaction of

489
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: knowing that they hurt me. I just want to ask

490
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,880
Speaker 1: for the divorce and just tell him that I wasn't

491
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:56,919
Speaker 1: in love with him anymore and I'm not happy in

492
00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:00,239
Speaker 1: our marriage. I won't be lying technically because he's not

493
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: the man I loved and I'm not happy in our marriage.

494
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: I haven't told anyone what I've found out, and she's

495
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 1: freaking pregnant, but I've told my mom that I want

496
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 1: to leave my husband and stated the reasons above. She

497
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 1: went berserk. This is so out of the blue and moronic,

498
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,920
Speaker 1: and the first question she asked was whether I was

499
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 1: cheating on him or not. This was a preview to

500
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 1: what probably everyone else will think and say, but honestly,

501
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: I would rather live with being the perpetrator than the

502
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,880
Speaker 1: victim this time. I just can't let that be hurt

503
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: me again, watch me suffer and enjoy it. I just can't.

504
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 1: I know I'm being irrational right now, but please put

505
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 1: yourself in my shoes and tell me what you would

506
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 1: do instead. Well, there is an update. I guess we

507
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 1: answer the question, if you are in op shoes, what

508
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: do you do?

509
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 2: I see what she's saying where she's like she wants

510
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:53,479
Speaker 2: to leave it on her term. I don't think her

511
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 2: plan is necessarily bad. Yeah, I think do whatever she

512
00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 2: needs to do to feel good. I have broken the

513
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 2: news to my husband that I'm leaving. I had already

514
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: talked to my friends about it, and being unhappy in

515
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 2: my marriage seemed good enough a reason for them to

516
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 2: support me. One of them offered me her place until

517
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 2: I find my own. I got really emotional and hugged

518
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,440
Speaker 2: her and cried because that meant that I could leave

519
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 2: my husband's apartment.

520
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: Now, Oh my god. He was shocked when I told him.

521
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 1: I don't think he took me seriously at first, but

522
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:21,679
Speaker 1: he asked me if he had done something wrong. I

523
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 1: told him that I'm simply not happy with him, and

524
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: I think I'm still too young to waste my life

525
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 1: in an unhappy marriage. He said he noticed me being

526
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 1: distant this past month, but never would he have guessed

527
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: that I was unhappy with him. He begged me to

528
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:37,359
Speaker 1: tell him what's wrong, because this can't be it. You know,

529
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 1: you know, you know he believed me. However, when my

530
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: friend came to take me with her. This was Thursday.

531
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 1: He's been calling multiple times a day, but I haven't answered.

532
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: He showed up this morning to my friend's house and

533
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:52,439
Speaker 1: begged me to have breakfast with him. I agreed. He

534
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: looks like he hasn't slept or shaven since I asked

535
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: for a divorce. I told him that I was pregnant

536
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,120
Speaker 1: and that I'm keeping it, but he didn't have to

537
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 1: be part of the baby's life if he didn't want to. Damn,

538
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 1: man's getting freakin' done. His phone was on the table,

539
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:11,919
Speaker 1: and then he got a notification he had forgotten to

540
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,680
Speaker 1: the delete the app before meeting me. When I saw

541
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: her name on the screen, I told him, oh, is

542
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: that bully's name? You know she used to bully me

543
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 1: in school back when we lived in our hometown. He froze, oh,

544
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 1: I haven't told you about her. I told him everything

545
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: she did and how it affected me, how she never

546
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: apologized about anything. He was silent the whole time and

547
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: just looked at me. I ended it with, be careful

548
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: with her. I don't think she's changed much. To tell

549
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: you the truth, he grabbed my arm and just washed

550
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: my face like he wanted to see if I knew something.

551
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: That's pretty stone cold right there. Honestly, my plan is

552
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: to buy a small apartment because that's all I can

553
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 1: afford right now. A one bedroom is enough until I

554
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: have my baby and it's old enough to need its

555
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 1: own room. I can upgrade later when i've saved more.

556
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: I'm not leaving this city. I've spent my best years

557
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: here and have the greatest memories. I have my friends

558
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 1: around me, and hopefully they will be supporting me when

559
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: the divorce is a fact. I have already filed for divorce,

560
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 1: but he's probably going to ask for a thinking period.

561
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 1: I'm not in a hurry, though everything will be better

562
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: for now. I want to cry, try to get over him,

563
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 1: and heal to be there for my baby. Props to

564
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: her for basically doing everything she wanted to do. And

565
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: that's like a movie moment where she's like telling him

566
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 1: like it's over and then gets the messenger notification. With

567
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: the girl I know gets she gets the satisfaction of like, no,

568
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 1: oh yeah, this is knowing, this is who she is.

569
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 2: And also, you just traded me for someone who is

570
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 2: a complete asphole and bag that you can't trust. The

571
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,239
Speaker 2: question is, was Obi thehole? I don't think she did

572
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: anything wrong. You know, when you feel like the victim

573
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 2: so much and someone's just wrong to you you I

574
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 2: think she just wanted to feel a little bit of

575
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 2: like power, yeah and that and like that power wasn't

576
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 2: really taken in a malicious way. It wasn't even It

577
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 2: was just like the only power I'm just going to

578
00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,160
Speaker 2: have is the power of you not knowing if I

579
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 2: know you know.

580
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: But I feel bad forro Pema.

581
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 2: My sister is a big bully, and so I snitched

582
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 2: on that toxic bimbo to destroy her precious little life.

583
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 2: Now she might be suspended and my dad is pissed

584
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 2: at me. So am I the a whole.

585
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: We don't hear the pro anarchy argument enough.

586
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 2: I think anarchy is good the situation at hand. My stepsister,

587
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 2: seventeen female, has been bullying this girl in her grade,

588
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 2: Mia Dick. Mia is a very shy person. We were

589
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 2: never friends, but were friendly until the bullying started, and

590
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 2: then Mia withdrew from everyone.

591
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:35,719
Speaker 1: That sucks.

592
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 2: I found out about the bullying a month ago. People

593
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 2: described it as not real bullying. But my stepsister has

594
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 2: called her names and told her she doesn't deserve friends. Yo,

595
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 2: your stepsister is like the epitome of a stepsister. Yeah,

596
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 2: the Disney like the Disney representation of what a stepsister is.

597
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,800
Speaker 1: Bro. Disney really came for stepsisters. He came for step

598
00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 1: mother and stepsisters. Dude, they're like this particular group of

599
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 1: people fuck new marriages in particular. Yeah, if you have

600
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 1: ever had a new marriage that thing in particular, they

601
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 1: hate it. They hate it.

602
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 2: If you're widowed, stay widowed. I found a note telling

603
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: Mia this which first mistake. Never if you're going to

604
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: bully someone, don't do it. In writing, I was pissed.

605
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: My stepsester and I never had a good relationship, always fighting,

606
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 2: but I never figured out she was an actual bully,

607
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 2: just someone who got on my freaking nerves. I ended

608
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 2: up going to MIA's parents with what I knew and

609
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 2: the evidence of the bullying, and now it has been

610
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 2: brought up with the school and MIA's parents want my

611
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 2: stepsister expelled.

612
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 1: My dad is pissed.

613
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 2: He said, it's so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to

614
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 2: go to the girl's parents over sibling issues. It's not

615
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 2: really sibling issues if Mia is the collateral damage. I

616
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 2: told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling

617
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 2: issues because we're not siblings. Oh and my siblings younger

618
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 2: brother and sister would never do that to another person.

619
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 2: My stepsister has been suspended right now, but it looks

620
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 2: like she'll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens.

621
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 2: My dad's wife is freaking out, and so are my stepbrothers.

622
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 2: With the exception of my siblings, everyone seems to think

623
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 2: I'm wrong for doing what I did, for not at

624
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 2: least talking to my stepsister first. Also, like, if you're

625
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 2: going to get expelled for just the evidence of the

626
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 2: bullying that's happening, then you're probably doing something wrong.

627
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:25,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

628
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 2: I feel like going to be as parents was the

629
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 2: right call because of how serious bullying can be for

630
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 2: the person being bullied, and even calling someone names can

631
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 2: cut a person real deep. But I never expected this

632
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 2: kind of reaction. Life at home has been very awkward

633
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 2: right now.

634
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: So am I the angle? I want to know from

635
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 1: you guys, like what do you think? Also?

636
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 2: Were you a bully or have you been bullied? I

637
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: don't know if I want to know. The worst one

638
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 2: was the funniest way you've been bullied?

639
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: Funny, A funny maybe more lighthearted bully story, which I

640
00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: guess which I have one right right? Yeah? I was

641
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 1: bullied all I was bullied every which way, seriously funnily.

642
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: And one of the funny ones was we would sing

643
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: these church songs. There was a song called it was

644
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 1: like our God is an awesome got the raid that

645
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: was a beggar, but his rendition was armand is an

646
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 1: awesome dude, He's awesome because Sam suro and there was

647
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 1: a couple other verses and everyone sung that in church

648
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 1: instead of the real song. So that was my That

649
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: was my Those were my funny bullying stories. It was.

650
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 2: It wasn't funny in the moment, but pretty funny now.

651
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 2: But John, what do you think is OP the a

652
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 2: hole for going directly to me as parents? I don't

653
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 2: think at all that OP is wrong for going to

654
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 2: going to the parents. Definitely OP made the right call there.

655
00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 2: I imagine there's four name calling and then just like

656
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 2: you don't deserve yeah, and also the slippery slow stop

657
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 2: it while it's just small small.

658
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 1: So I you know, if if like in this like

659
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:14,760
Speaker 1: you know, perfect hypothetical scenario, that was all she said,

660
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 1: I would say that is too harsh. But I could

661
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: also see them being like, hey, we need to be

662
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 1: proactive so this doesn't escalate, especially with maybe other things

663
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,280
Speaker 1: that were that they found in the messages and stuff.

664
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 1: I'm also surprised that me I didn't go to her

665
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: parents about it. Maybe she's like, see, it's embarrassing. You know.

666
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 1: I could see that being hard in some instances. I

667
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 1: probably would myself. But there's this one kid who is

668
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: like like a frenem me, like I never knew if

669
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,360
Speaker 1: we were friends or like. His classic thing was you

670
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:42,840
Speaker 1: know that thing where you can like squirt like sliva,

671
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 1: like if you do something the right way to just

672
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 1: do like like a little spray. He would literally do

673
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 1: that to the back of my head all class sometimes

674
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 1: ew and yeah, that's so gross, it sucked. What would

675
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 1: you say I'd be like stop. He wouldn't stop. You know,

676
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: that just encouraged him to, oh, you mean stop this bit.

677
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,879
Speaker 1: One time the school was doing a video and he

678
00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 1: did this at the camera, and he tried to convince

679
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 1: them that he was doing a bow. My disgusting girlfriend

680
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: is ashamed of her disgusting daughter because she's a loser

681
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,839
Speaker 1: who will never be popular. So I gave her a

682
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 1: piece of my mind and made her cry. Am I

683
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 1: the a hole? When you don't birth out like a

684
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 1: homecoming queen, you're just a complete failure.

685
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 2: I'm a forty year old man and my girlfriend of

686
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 2: a year is thirty eight. She has a daughter from

687
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 2: a previous partner who is fourteen and a freshman in

688
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 2: high school. I imagined the daughter is fourteen and not

689
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 2: the previous partner.

690
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 1: It just says now that would be his story, Ladies

691
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,479
Speaker 1: and gentlemen. My god, I went.

692
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: Over there yesterday to find my girlfriend crying. I tried

693
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: to figure out what was going on and where I

694
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 2: could help. When she told me she was crying about

695
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,360
Speaker 2: her daughter and how she's doing in school.

696
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 1: Yeah she's not, she's not homecoming, She's but ugly. She

697
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 1: won Worst Dressed voted by me her own mother. I

698
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 1: love her daughter.

699
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,359
Speaker 2: She's the sweetest girl ever. I wish my daughters were

700
00:36:10,400 --> 00:36:11,879
Speaker 2: as well behaved as her.

701
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: I EO total narc and never doing anything fun. I

702
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: have to describe her daughter.

703
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 2: She has a nice friend group, does not have trouble

704
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 2: with bullies, and generally seems very happy. I bet you're

705
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,880
Speaker 2: wondering why her mother would be crying if this was

706
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 2: the case, sounds like the daughter's doing well. Her mother

707
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 2: slash my girlfriend was crying because her daughter is not

708
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 2: the popular athlete, cheerleader, homecoming queen.

709
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 1: That she was in school. Wow.

710
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 2: Oh well, maybe you should have given her some social lessons,

711
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 2: you know how to do that?

712
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 1: Who cares? Who gives a freak?

713
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 2: Her daughter marches to the beat of her own drum,

714
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,800
Speaker 2: which I think is the best anyone can hope for. Yeah,

715
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 2: she's a little dorky, but her mother referred to her

716
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,839
Speaker 2: as a louer during a crying fit.

717
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

718
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 2: She's very into anime. Her and some of her friends

719
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 2: actually started an anime club at their school, which I

720
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 2: don't know is when you have any homecoming queen?

721
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,320
Speaker 1: Yeah? Not not helping for the crown again.

722
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 2: She's a happy kid. She's got her social circle who

723
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 2: all have similar interests. It's just not the circle her

724
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 2: mom wishes she was in. Here are some of the

725
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 2: quotes from her during this that turned me RTT. I

726
00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 2: never would have imagined my daughter would be a dweep.

727
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 2: She needs to grow out of this before college. And

728
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 2: my personal favorite, I wouldn't have been caught dead with

729
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 2: kids that look like that. Dude who cares about being

730
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 2: happy and having a friend group that loves you and

731
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 2: likes the things you do if you're not hanging out

732
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 2: with straight tens, okay and all serious this, this mom

733
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 2: sounds like a dirtbag, bro. She's a little bit more.

734
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,440
Speaker 2: There's a little bit more. I called her disgusting and

735
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 2: told her she should be ashamed of herself, and I

736
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 2: said her daughter is happy, and how would she feel

737
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:56,840
Speaker 2: to hear her mom crying about her perceived popularity. I

738
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: told her how lucky she has it that her daughter

739
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 2: doesn't deal with a lot of issues kids these days have.

740
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 2: This ends with her being upset with me because instead

741
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:06,720
Speaker 2: of consoling her when she was crying, I called her names.

742
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:09,240
Speaker 2: I don't think the crying means anything. She was saying

743
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 2: horrible things. So is OPDA hole.

744
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 1: Well, I'm very curious to hear everyone's thoughts, especially their

745
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 1: thoughts on like maybe it's how do you raise your popularity? Matter,

746
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:22,760
Speaker 1: how do you raise your child?

747
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 2: Being comfortable with yourself That's way more important than being popular.

748
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 2: Like I was not popular in school, but like I

749
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 2: had this similar thing where, like, you know, I made

750
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 2: weird videos on YouTube, or I had like an internet comic,

751
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 2: and like I was just comfortable expressing that part of

752
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 2: myself even though it wouldn't make me popular. Knowing yourself

753
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 2: and allowing yourself to like just discover what your interests are,

754
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 2: that that's the most important thing.

755
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 1: And I feel like for us in our personal lives,

756
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 1: like that quality about ourselves is what has allowed us

757
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,760
Speaker 1: to like have the audacity to do something like this podcast,

758
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: or like being a full time contract, which is like

759
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 1: very hard to like put yourself starting a podcast that

760
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: that takes guts. Oh yeah, it's sorry forget about your

761
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 1: your uncle or your your grandpa that went the World

762
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: War two. Starting a podcast that's the real battleground. I'm

763
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 1: very curious to especially all the parents in our audience,

764
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: how do you instill like self confidence in a child.

765
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 1: I would love to see what you're saying that the

766
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 1: comments spend. Also, if you think the question to answer

767
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 1: the question is Opie the a whole? I do not

768
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: at all think OPI's the a whole? I think I

769
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 1: think the mom really really needed this reality check of

770
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: like listen, you're like, I feel like she's gonna instill

771
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 1: this like sense of insecurity in her daughter where she's

772
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,239
Speaker 1: gonna be like, am I like cool enough? Am I

773
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: like like constantly second guessing what she's doing. Would love

774
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: to know what you guys think, so put your answers

775
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: in the comments. I just slept with my cousin and

776
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 1: my friends are using that to destroy my life. But

777
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:51,360
Speaker 1: then my friend's dad took a paternity test and it

778
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 1: revealed the truth. Am I the a hole? It revealed

779
00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:58,239
Speaker 1: the truth that this cousin is smoking hot?

780
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 2: So I twenty one mail come from a very large

781
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 2: and messy family. Think the Gallaghers from Shameless multiplied by ten. Literally,

782
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 2: everyone has multiple baby mamas slash daddies. Everyone isn't speaking

783
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 2: to about half the family at an even time, and

784
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 2: a lot of people have had kids taken off them

785
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 2: to be adopted. Or to go in foster care, and

786
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 2: almost every single man has done time in prison and

787
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 2: about half the women.

788
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 1: Wow, what a first sentence? Am I right, dude? This

789
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:29,439
Speaker 1: is my paternal family. By the way.

790
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 2: My mom comes from a very normal family, and her

791
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 2: and my father have been divorced since I was six

792
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:36,359
Speaker 2: months old. I didn't see much of my dad growing up,

793
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 2: but I've been trying to get to know him and

794
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 2: his family now. They're nice people, they just have a

795
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 2: lot of issues. It freaking sounds like it for real,

796
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 2: my dude. I remained in state for college, but I

797
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 2: moved about ten hours away from my hometown. In October

798
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 2: of last year, I had a short fling with a

799
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 2: girl at college, twenty one female called Haley. In December,

800
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,760
Speaker 2: I spent Christmas with my paternal family because my dad

801
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 2: had just reconciled with his brother and he wanted me

802
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 2: to meet my cousins and it would just be.

803
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 1: My luck that Hailey No is no my no said.

804
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 2: I had no way of knowing, because we had never

805
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 2: met before, and she was adopted by her stepdad and

806
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 2: thus has his surname, not her father's surname. Once I

807
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 2: got over my shock and horror, I spoke to Haley

808
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,280
Speaker 2: and we agreed to take the knowledge of our fling

809
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 2: to our graves and just to be friendly around the family.

810
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 1: I mean, hey, loo friendly, we already we already knocked

811
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 1: down the door. We're already in the room. Yeah, we've

812
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 1: already knocked down the barn door. Might as well play

813
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:42,800
Speaker 1: with the horses while you're in there. Despite resolving the issue,

814
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 1: and waited my conscious for a bit, and I got

815
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 1: super drunk and told my.

816
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:49,800
Speaker 2: Friend group, not a great move, buddy, Yeah, what happened

817
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 2: to dying with the knowledge. Most are sympathetic and reassured

818
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 2: me that I wasn't a bad person. But Mike twenty

819
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 2: to mail found it hilarious. I wouldn't have cared about

820
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 2: a few jokes, because admittedly the situation is funny in

821
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,240
Speaker 2: a weird way, but Mike finds a way to werve

822
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,840
Speaker 2: it into every single conversation. I want to talk about

823
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 2: Game of Thrones, He'll make a jamiean Circe joke. He

824
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 2: sends the articles about weird incest cults and we'll say

825
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 2: things like, don't worry, man, it's some cultures. It's normal

826
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:20,360
Speaker 2: to get with your cousin to make fun of me.

827
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:24,400
Speaker 2: Stop No, do'stup? That's hilarious. I've been dealing with this

828
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 2: since that brewery, so when he brought it up yesterday

829
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 2: at a hangout, I blew up. Basically, Mike's parents divorced

830
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,759
Speaker 2: a few years ago because it was found out that

831
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 2: Mike's mom had been cheating around the time he was conceived,

832
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 2: and it took a year before Mike's dad agreed to

833
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 2: a paternity test. When he made a joke about Haley

834
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 2: and I, I just said, all right, but you didn't

835
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 2: know who your real father was for over a year.

836
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 2: Shut up.

837
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 1: If you can't take it, don't shoe fits snip off

838
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 1: foot's doing in it.

839
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 2: He left immediately and sent me a Texas say that

840
00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 2: it wasn't his fault that he didn't know who his

841
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 2: falling there was and I was an apple for throwing

842
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:04,280
Speaker 2: it in his face. Most of our friends are split

843
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 2: because I essentially called his mama stick by saying that,

844
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 2: But I think he had it coming. He wants an apology,

845
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 2: So am I the A hole? I want to know

846
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 2: what you guys think of the comments? Put it right now?

847
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 2: Do you think OP is the a hole for making

848
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 2: a joke about Mike's dad and Mike not knowing his

849
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 2: dad is for a joke about Op sleeping with a cousin. Also,

850
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: do you think OP os Mike an apology.

851
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: I think OP should apologize, and I think that Op

852
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 1: is the A hole. Really, I think that Op is

853
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 1: the a hole. Because here's here's my take. In my opinion,

854
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,759
Speaker 1: I don't think it's that like big of a deal.

855
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 1: It's you know, what's a we're up in the country

856
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 1: in Florida. By the way, again, I don't think there

857
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:52,240
Speaker 1: was that much harm there. And Ope's comments to Mike

858
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: bro that's deep, ye, a little little deep. I totally

859
00:43:57,400 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 1: understand OPI being like I want my to be so annoying,

860
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: like like I also don't want it to break out

861
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 1: like I told her this to you in confidence. I

862
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:07,759
Speaker 1: think he needs to sit Mike down and be like

863
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 1: you really have to stop. Like it's just like, hey,

864
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 1: it was funny, but like it's honestly, just like so whatever,

865
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: you know, whatever the explanation is.

866
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I want to know what you guys think.

867
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 2: So question to you guys, do you know someone that

868
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 2: hooked up with their cousin or did you.

869
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 1: Time my grandma is plotting to kidnap me for ransom.

870
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: I send money to support my family overseas, but apparently

871
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 1: not enough. Granny's trying to get her back. The title

872
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:41,400
Speaker 1: says it all. I don't really know how to process

873
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 1: or what there is to process as the story of

874
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:46,280
Speaker 1: immigrants go. My parents have been in the United States

875
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,960
Speaker 1: for about four decades. They spend their time working hard,

876
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: becoming citizens and setting up their kids the best that

877
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 1: they can. Even though we never had much, my mom

878
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 1: has done her best to help the family that she

879
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: left behind. She sent money to different folks for necessities

880
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: since the American dollar goes much further there. Whenever she visited,

881
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 1: she would bring clothes that we outgrew and helped with

882
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: installing hot water, internet, et cetera. Dude, the mom is

883
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: like all around. She's the plumber, she's the wife, the

884
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: bank like my goodness. Fast forward to last year. My

885
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: mom was visiting my grandma at their farm in a

886
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 1: remote part of the country for an extended period of time.

887
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 1: There on the farm, she learned how the money she

888
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 1: sent was actually being used all these years. She grew

889
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: angry and disappointed with her family, holding them accountable for

890
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,800
Speaker 1: the first time, It's unclear if there was a trigger

891
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 1: or if this was planned prior, but somehow her cousin

892
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: learned of the plans and told my grandma to run,

893
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: that she was in danger and that there was plans

894
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 1: to kidnap her. What my mom said at that moment,

895
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: several things clicked in her mind and she took off,

896
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: saying that there was an emergency here in the US. Sadly,

897
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:59,840
Speaker 1: their intent was confirmed by another cousin who witnessed the

898
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 1: aftermath after she left, men rushing in looking for her

899
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: and Grandma being angry, trying to get her to stay

900
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:10,319
Speaker 1: and discuss how they'll try again next time. This day,

901
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 1: it's believed that they don't know my mom knows. It's

902
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 1: also unclear if the extent was to extort money from

903
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:20,359
Speaker 1: her or us who were in the States at the time.

904
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 1: She's figured out that my uncle Slash her brother was

905
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 1: aware but didn't try to protect her. That's so crappy.

906
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: My mom told my dad and I today, about a

907
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:35,360
Speaker 1: year after it happened. It's just nuts. I'm angry. That's

908
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:41,280
Speaker 1: not my family. That's absolutely crazy. They like baited the mom.

909
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 2: The mom came over, and then the grandma's like, Oh,

910
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 2: I bet I can get more money, like they've been

911
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:48,719
Speaker 2: sending back all this money to me. I bet I

912
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 2: can get more money if I kidnapped the mom. Wow,

913
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,760
Speaker 2: maybe granny's being like pressured by someone else.

914
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: But to freakin put your own daughter up for ransom?

915
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 2: Hey, the economy man in this economy, so real question?

916
00:47:01,719 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 2: How much money would it take for you to sell

917
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 2: your grandma? Put your answers and the comments below.

918
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: My homophobic family. Thanks, trying to make it in Hollywood

919
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: will make me poor and like ment. But now the

920
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:17,839
Speaker 1: awards are rolling in? Are they trying to get my money? Now?

921
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,879
Speaker 1: I'm keeping this anonymous as possible because I don't want

922
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 1: this coming back to me. I've been working as a

923
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 1: crew member in the film industry for several years at

924
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: this point. While I'm always passionate about movies and knew

925
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 1: I wanted to work in the entertainment industry, my family

926
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: never supported me. Come on, fam They are a very

927
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: religious family from the Midwest with some very narrow minded ideas.

928
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: I could go into further detail, but one of their

929
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: long stating beliefs is that Hollywood is going to turn

930
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 1: me gay or into a socialist, which you know it

931
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:52,360
Speaker 1: will do both, but it doesn't stop my uncles and

932
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 1: cousins from cracking gay jokes or trying to make me

933
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 1: vote their way every time I visit. So then I

934
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 1: got a gig working for a movie a couple of

935
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 1: years ago. I can't say what movie it was, but

936
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 1: the director is known to be pretty left winged. Everyone watching,

937
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: I would love for you to. I bet one of

938
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 1: our audience could guess the correct director. So all of

939
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: you film buffs out there, comment what direct you think

940
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 1: it is? Now I had already stopped talking to most

941
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 1: of my relatives by then, but they still were talking

942
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: trash about how I was quote supporting anti Americanism and

943
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: labeled me stuff that would get this post banned. By

944
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,800
Speaker 1: working on this film, this family sounds like a peach

945
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:31,840
Speaker 1: as I'm typing this. The film I worked on is

946
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 1: a Academy Award nominee. Congrats, O fie dang. The gay

947
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 1: socialist agenda goes all the way to the top. Now,

948
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 1: I know Rednitt Likes is the Oscars, but for a

949
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: guy like me, this is a huge deal. But I

950
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: couldn't be prouder to be a part of it. Apparently

951
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: my family now thinks to too, because their Facebook feeds

952
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: are all about praising me and the movie.

953
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:56,360
Speaker 2: Oh so they turned a little a little three sixty

954
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 2: to little one eighty.

955
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 1: Now even all the members who bullied me, signed to

956
00:48:59,880 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 1: me up for certain political mailing lists and never support

957
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: of my career are now chiming in. I don't want

958
00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 1: to go into further detail, but normally they would be

959
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: singing another radically different tune if you catch my drift.

960
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: My wife is kind of pissed me now because I

961
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 1: took to Facebook and called everybody out. I made this

962
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 1: post venting about all the ways they were a holes

963
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:21,239
Speaker 1: to be growing up and leading up to now, and

964
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:25,080
Speaker 1: how they took every possible way to undermine my career

965
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: that I'm happy and proud of. And if I were

966
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 1: actually to make an Oscar speech, I sure as hell

967
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 1: would not be thinking them because they never gave a

968
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: damn about my accomplishments because it doesn't agree with their

969
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,600
Speaker 1: fed up ideology. So they should take down all these

970
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 1: posts praising my movie because it makes them look like idiots,

971
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: especially when you compare it to the rest of the

972
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 1: stuff they usually post. Opie did not hold back, I know,

973
00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 1: and put this all on the post. I wonder if

974
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:53,360
Speaker 1: he's like adding each individual family member and it's like

975
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 1: and Sandra, I know you just put that little Facebook

976
00:49:57,080 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 1: post praising my oscar, But how about when you called

977
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 1: me a dirty socialist? How about that My relatives have

978
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: been spamming my social media and phone and berating me

979
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:09,480
Speaker 1: for my posts, saying that I'm ungrateful and I owe

980
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 1: it to them for what I don't know. My wife,

981
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: while she doesn't like them either, thinks I went overboard

982
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: and I should have just cut ties with the toxic

983
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 1: members and ignore the posts. I disagree. They treated me

984
00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 1: like garbage for years, so they don't deserve to piggyback

985
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: on what basically is the biggest high of my career

986
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:30,399
Speaker 1: so far. If I don't tell them to knock it off,

987
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 1: they'll just continue to mooch on it. From afar, So

988
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:36,480
Speaker 1: am I the a hole? I mean? I want to

989
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 1: know what everyone else thinks? Maybe a little bit.

990
00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 2: I think the best response to your enemies is to

991
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 2: not be like them and like to call them out.

992
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 2: Maybe is being a little bit like them. The best

993
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 2: thing you could do is just ignore them and cut

994
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:50,320
Speaker 2: them out of your life.

995
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: I think at that point you just messaged them privately

996
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:56,239
Speaker 1: and you're like, listen, you clowned me for like all

997
00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:58,400
Speaker 1: these years. You don't get to be a part of

998
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:00,880
Speaker 1: my success, and now you have. You haven't stooped to

999
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 1: their level by publicly, you know, embarrassing them, but you've

1000
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 1: let them know like you cannot you know, ride my coattails.

1001
00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 2: But we'd love to know what you think. You know,

1002
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 2: what do you think, ohp he should do? You know,

1003
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,279
Speaker 2: maybe there's a little bit of an opportunity for education here.

1004
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 1: Who knows. My homophobic dad disowned me because I'm gay,

1005
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 1: but now he's marrying a man. I want to expose

1006
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 1: him and ruin the wedding. Am I the a hole?

1007
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:25,800
Speaker 1: My father threw me out of the house at fifteen

1008
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 1: for coming out as gay disgusting.

1009
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 2: I am now twenty one and happily married to the

1010
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,960
Speaker 2: boyfriend I wanted to introduce him to when I was fifteen.

1011
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 2: On my wedding day, my father had an invitation to

1012
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 2: his wedding hand delivered to me by one of those

1013
00:51:40,280 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 2: hired delivery people. I don't know what they're called. His

1014
00:51:43,239 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 2: wedding dates is the anniversary of when I started dating

1015
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 2: my husband. Both dates he knew because of my uncle, what.

1016
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:51,959
Speaker 1: Is going on over here.

1017
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 2: I threw the invitation away and didn't even think about

1018
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:58,240
Speaker 2: it until my aunt, his sister, reached out and told

1019
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 2: me he wanted to talk and appalledologized for everything, and

1020
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:05,280
Speaker 2: that he wanted me to be at his wedding. Okay,

1021
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:08,920
Speaker 2: I told her that I consider it and talk to

1022
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 2: my husband about it. He's the one who convinced me

1023
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 2: to go and said we should just see what he says.

1024
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 2: We drove down a day early, and my father basically

1025
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:19,839
Speaker 2: avoided us all day. I know weddings are a busy time,

1026
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 2: but every time one of us tried to speak to him,

1027
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:24,760
Speaker 2: he had to go somewhere, and then he said he'd

1028
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 2: talk to me after the wedding. The problem with this

1029
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 2: was that their reception wasn't supposed to end until two,

1030
00:52:30,239 --> 00:52:32,319
Speaker 2: and they had a flight for three point thirty to

1031
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 2: their honeymoon, so I knew he wouldn't be able to

1032
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:36,839
Speaker 2: talk to me, and then me and my husband were

1033
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 2: going to leave the reception as soon as was appropriate

1034
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 2: to go around our hometown to places we haunted in

1035
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 2: high school when we first started dating.

1036
00:52:44,520 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: But haunted doing me a goodness crasis. Oh, sound like

1037
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:54,280
Speaker 1: a dying wolf.

1038
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 2: I was going for a sexy ghosts. Because my father's

1039
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,279
Speaker 2: wedding was held in the morning, we thought we could

1040
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 2: celebrate our anniversary in the afternoon and evening. I informed

1041
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 2: him of this, and he said that he would just

1042
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 2: call me when he could. That's when I realized none

1043
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 2: of his fiance's family or his fiance had any idea

1044
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 2: that he had thrown me out and that he had

1045
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 2: told them I moved away from college. I gathered this

1046
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:22,359
Speaker 2: through talking to his fiance and his family. I'd never

1047
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 2: met the fiance nor his family until the day before

1048
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:27,880
Speaker 2: the wedding, and only briefly. I didn't really sit down

1049
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:29,840
Speaker 2: and talk to any of them until the morning of

1050
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:33,320
Speaker 2: the ceremony. So my dad's fiance asked me about college.

1051
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:36,839
Speaker 2: I was like, uh, I've never been to college. That's

1052
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:39,680
Speaker 2: when I realized what my father never told him, That

1053
00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:40,640
Speaker 2: he kicked out.

1054
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:43,319
Speaker 1: His own son for being gay. This guy has the

1055
00:53:43,360 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 1: audacity to bring him back.

1056
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 2: And like, yeah, you should really just like say what

1057
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:49,800
Speaker 2: happened in the past.

1058
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 1: Like it's going to come out. Also, how was the

1059
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: fiance or no one else like, oh, hey, here's your

1060
00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:55,920
Speaker 1: son we're meeting for the first time ever.

1061
00:53:56,200 --> 00:54:01,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, likeha, I told him the truth breakfast before we

1062
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:04,240
Speaker 2: even had left for the venue. I objected the marriage

1063
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 2: right then, before the ceremony even started. I objected because

1064
00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 2: I realized that this man was in love with my father,

1065
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 2: but my father had lied to him, and I felt

1066
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 2: that he deserved to know before they got married. I

1067
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 2: apologized and then explained the situation, and then promptly left.

1068
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:21,880
Speaker 2: A lot of my family members said I was an

1069
00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 2: asshole and that I could have waited until they got married.

1070
00:54:24,480 --> 00:54:26,959
Speaker 2: But I don't think the fiance deserved to marry someone

1071
00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 2: who lied about something so big, especially something that was homophobic,

1072
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 2: and they're a homosexual couple. I'm just surprised that the

1073
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:34,840
Speaker 2: father never said anything.

1074
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 1: Nothing. And hey, like, coming out.

1075
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 2: Is really really difficult, especially in some areas of the country,

1076
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:42,960
Speaker 2: and there can be a lot of self hatred for

1077
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 2: people who just don't feel comfortable in their own identities,

1078
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 2: and so like, yes, it sucks and it's not excusable,

1079
00:54:49,680 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 2: and it's like it's it's really really bad, but that

1080
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:54,920
Speaker 2: can be part of your your you know, coming of

1081
00:54:54,960 --> 00:54:56,799
Speaker 2: age and coming to terms with who you are and

1082
00:54:56,880 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 2: coming out story, and you can be you can say like, hey,

1083
00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:01,800
Speaker 2: I was terrible before, but I've come around.

1084
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:04,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, which hopefully is the case. It's like

1085
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:09,799
Speaker 1: I would have to imagine that. But it also is

1086
00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 1: still weird that he literally didn't talk to like, he

1087
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 1: didn't talk till the sun till it made him look good,

1088
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 1: which is the sun coming to the wedding. Yeah, you know.

1089
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 1: So it's just so confusing a little bit more to

1090
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:20,919
Speaker 1: the story.

1091
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 2: I only heard about the big fallout through my aunt

1092
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 2: because I left with my husband. But apparently my father

1093
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 2: an ex fiance, oh ex fiance got into a massive

1094
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:35,279
Speaker 2: argument and the wedding was called off. I don't speak

1095
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 2: to either parties now, though I did message the fiance

1096
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 2: on Facebook to apologize later that day because I felt

1097
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:43,800
Speaker 2: bad about ruining his wedding, but he said he was

1098
00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:46,239
Speaker 2: glad that I told him the truth. So the question,

1099
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 2: all of you beautiful people, is, is op the a

1100
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 2: hole by telling the truth about his homophobic father who's

1101
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 2: getting married to a man at the wedding?

1102
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:54,520
Speaker 1: Wow?

1103
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:57,239
Speaker 2: John, I want to tipp tapped right now on your

1104
00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 2: keyboards and tell us who you think the a hole is.

1105
00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 1: But John, what do you think help me out here, guys. Okay,

1106
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:05,879
Speaker 1: I do not think that OPI is the A hole,

1107
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 1: because I do think that this is a truth that

1108
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 1: both it's a a truth that the fiance deserves to

1109
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 1: know because it's pretty like integral to like his life.

1110
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:20,719
Speaker 1: He is a gay man, so to like that is

1111
00:56:20,719 --> 00:56:24,480
Speaker 1: an important part of your partner's past and like to

1112
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 1: know to be aware of. And also like the father

1113
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: literally kicked out his own son at fifteen years old

1114
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: and like thinks he's gonna skate out and like get

1115
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:38,359
Speaker 1: away with him repercussions to face the music, like that's

1116
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:42,759
Speaker 1: like no, so and hey, the fiance thanked OPI, like

1117
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:45,480
Speaker 1: thank you for telling me the truth. At least he

1118
00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:47,840
Speaker 1: didn't have to get the marriage and old like and

1119
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:50,319
Speaker 1: that's so crazy with the family, Like oh, just like

1120
00:56:50,400 --> 00:56:52,479
Speaker 1: wait till after the wedding. It's like bro, then they're

1121
00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:54,399
Speaker 1: married and they have to go through the divorce, which

1122
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 1: is not easy, so it's like what are we doing?

1123
00:56:57,080 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 1: I completely agree, I think op is not the A hole. Oh,

1124
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:02,080
Speaker 1: he didn't have a choice. He was literally like invited

1125
00:57:02,120 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 1: to the wedding and it happened, Like guys, tell tell

1126
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 1: the people before the goddamn wedding, Like, yeah, this is

1127
00:57:07,760 --> 00:57:08,959
Speaker 1: what we need to do.

1128
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:13,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, the dad could have saved the wedding if he

1129
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 2: had said what happened. Be honest, be honest because it's

1130
00:57:17,560 --> 00:57:19,440
Speaker 2: Good's all we're saying, Yo, just.

1131
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 1: Be honest, be honest, yourself homophobic, and then be honest. Yeah.

1132
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 2: Also, I would love to know if anyone has ever

1133
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 2: objected to a wedding.

1134
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:34,800
Speaker 1: Oh I object, bro, we need some straight shrek objections

1135
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:36,800
Speaker 1: in our comments. Please drop him back.

1136
00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 2: Guy, my best friend thinks it's our anniversary, but we're

1137
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:44,280
Speaker 2: not even dating. Now he's going on a sexist rant.

1138
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:46,480
Speaker 2: Should I get him canceled? Am I the a hole?

1139
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 2: I've known him for five years, different classes and courses,

1140
00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:52,240
Speaker 2: but same friend group. Over time, he has genuinely become

1141
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:54,439
Speaker 2: one of the best people I know, and it's only

1142
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 2: getting better every day.

1143
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 1: I can't lie. He's not my type.

1144
00:57:57,520 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 2: Nerdy, charming, sweet, funny, flirty with the right amount awkward.

1145
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 2: It sounds like you're describing your type.

1146
00:58:02,160 --> 00:58:02,880
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

1147
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 2: He's kind of perfect, but I've never even thought about

1148
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 2: putting the moves on him. He's never shown romantic interest

1149
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:13,040
Speaker 2: to me. We're friends, nothing more, or that's what I thought.

1150
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 1: Today. He was spending the.

1151
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:17,640
Speaker 2: Afternoon at my dorm. We're laying on my bed when

1152
00:58:17,680 --> 00:58:20,320
Speaker 2: he says, verbatim, so, baby, where do you want to

1153
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 2: go this Friday? No matter of fact that this is

1154
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 2: the first time I've been called baby by him, and

1155
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 2: so that kind of shocked me.

1156
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:27,919
Speaker 1: Instead of asking.

1157
00:58:27,720 --> 00:58:31,840
Speaker 2: Why, I froze and was just like, what's happening Friday?

1158
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 2: He turns to me and kisses me again, first time

1159
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:39,439
Speaker 2: thing with us, hugs my waist and goes our one

1160
00:58:39,560 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 2: year anniversary. Idiot, I'm making reservations.

1161
00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:44,840
Speaker 1: You're the idiot.

1162
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 2: I love pands like you know what. We're just dating

1163
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 2: right now. It's in my head. I'm just gonna make

1164
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 2: it a reality. At this point, I'm frozen. I genuinely

1165
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 2: don't know what to say. I'm gobsmacked. The dude I

1166
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 2: thought was my best friend, who never even showed interest

1167
00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:00,919
Speaker 2: in the dating thing, is under the idea that we've

1168
00:59:00,920 --> 00:59:05,360
Speaker 2: been dating for an entire year. I'm silent while he

1169
00:59:05,400 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 2: continues hugging me and scrolling on his phone, racking my

1170
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 2: brain thinking about what to tell him. When his phone

1171
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 2: starts ringing, it's his mom. Which he puts on speaker

1172
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: and she dead goes.

1173
00:59:18,160 --> 00:59:20,720
Speaker 1: Hi, honey, are you still with your girlfriend?

1174
00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god, So now his mom thanks for dating too,

1175
00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 2: He tells her sorry, I'll be back in a bit, sweetheart.

1176
00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:31,000
Speaker 2: I just nodded, and I was just like, all right,

1177
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:35,160
Speaker 2: see you in a bit. No questions, no screaming, just acceptance,

1178
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 2: which I guess is the best way that's going to

1179
00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:39,240
Speaker 2: gone for this guy, who is like, oh.

1180
00:59:38,960 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 1: I just pulled out the biggest sic in history.

1181
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 2: He gets up to put on his sneakers and leans

1182
00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 2: down to kiss me again, which I just accept at

1183
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 2: this point. It's a nice kiss besides the fact that

1184
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:51,680
Speaker 2: my mind is somewhere else and he leaves. Apparently the

1185
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:54,560
Speaker 2: majority of people I talked to think we're dating, or

1186
00:59:54,600 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 2: if I'm being correct here, no, we're dating, and just

1187
00:59:58,440 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 2: have never mentioned it to me.

1188
01:00:00,240 --> 01:00:02,920
Speaker 1: This makes no sense. I don't know what to do now.

1189
01:00:03,040 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 2: I mean, he's a great guy, don't get me wrong,

1190
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 2: and if the last five years or anything to go by,

1191
01:00:07,840 --> 01:00:11,840
Speaker 2: he would be is a great boyfriend, maybe even in

1192
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:14,480
Speaker 2: the future a husband. But I've never looked at him

1193
01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 2: that way, so I can't say I love him. When

1194
01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:18,880
Speaker 2: this occurred, it was like the glass shattered, and I

1195
01:00:18,920 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 2: saw how differently he looked at me, how he talked

1196
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:25,000
Speaker 2: and acted, stuff that never changed at the beginning. But

1197
01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:27,440
Speaker 2: for some reason I've never noticed. I can't sit here

1198
01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:30,080
Speaker 2: and pretend I love him like that. I wasn't thinking

1199
01:00:30,120 --> 01:00:31,400
Speaker 2: about him in that sense.

1200
01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:33,600
Speaker 1: All this time. But on the other side, I don't

1201
01:00:33,600 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 1: want to hurt him.

1202
01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:37,040
Speaker 2: He clearly thinks we've been together for that long, so

1203
01:00:37,200 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 2: he has to have strong feelings for me, and I

1204
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:41,800
Speaker 2: don't want to step on them and scar him like that.

1205
01:00:41,920 --> 01:00:44,640
Speaker 2: But a year, how do you not kiss for a

1206
01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:45,920
Speaker 2: year and think your data?

1207
01:00:45,960 --> 01:00:49,840
Speaker 1: The show was sponsored by your sweet sexy ass. If

1208
01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 1: you support our Patreon, you'll get one long, hard extra

1209
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:58,600
Speaker 1: bonus episode every week. I'm talking three juicy stories right

1210
01:00:58,640 --> 01:01:02,240
Speaker 1: into those year holes you get add free episodes. I'm

1211
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 1: talking all of those ads completely off, all naturalrow not

1212
01:01:07,680 --> 01:01:10,840
Speaker 1: to mention, we'll do it together live in front of

1213
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:13,760
Speaker 1: a camera with assholes anonymous. You'll get a chance to

1214
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,280
Speaker 1: talk to us directly and maybe be featured on the

1215
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:19,000
Speaker 1: YouTube channel Wait savee. Not like that. Like the fans

1216
01:01:19,040 --> 01:01:21,280
Speaker 1: get to share their stories with us and other fans,

1217
01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 1: and we get to talk about it right and then

1218
01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 1: moon each other at the end. Oh God, So if

1219
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:29,720
Speaker 1: you want all that axe ass, support your boys at

1220
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 1: patreon dot com slash okop show. That's patreon dot com

1221
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:34,840
Speaker 1: slash okop show.

1222
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:37,560
Speaker 2: I just don't know what to do. I'm scared and angry.

1223
01:01:37,640 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 2: It was that pointed in myself for not recognizing the

1224
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:43,280
Speaker 2: situation earlier. Feel like I'm stuck between the sword and

1225
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:45,880
Speaker 2: the wall. Last thing I want to do is hurt him,

1226
01:01:45,920 --> 01:01:47,440
Speaker 2: But I also don't want to lie to him. How

1227
01:01:47,480 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 2: should I go in about this with him? I've already

1228
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 2: sent him a message to meet after practice, he said guests,

1229
01:01:52,520 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 2: So I'll have to talk to him soon and there

1230
01:01:54,320 --> 01:01:54,920
Speaker 2: is an update.

1231
01:01:54,960 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 1: But John, what should OP do? Like totally shut it

1232
01:01:59,760 --> 01:02:02,439
Speaker 1: down because all of the things happened the first time

1233
01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:05,000
Speaker 1: this day? Have to shut it down. I think what

1234
01:02:05,040 --> 01:02:07,720
Speaker 1: he might be doing is lying to himself and convincing

1235
01:02:07,800 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 1: himself that I will accept. Let's see what happens. I

1236
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 1: decided that we should meet up in a public space

1237
01:02:12,160 --> 01:02:14,320
Speaker 1: before his practice. I sent him a text and asked

1238
01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:16,040
Speaker 1: if you wanted to meet up at a coffee shop

1239
01:02:16,080 --> 01:02:18,320
Speaker 1: we both know. He called and said yes, and you

1240
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 1: sound serious? Should I be worried, to which I said, honestly,

1241
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:24,480
Speaker 1: yes you should. Ooh. He told me to stop joking

1242
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 1: and went on to his practice. Today.

1243
01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:28,240
Speaker 2: Fast forward a couple hours, I'm sitting there and he

1244
01:02:28,240 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 2: comes in, Are you really okay? You didn't seem good

1245
01:02:30,400 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 2: a while ago, and from what you said, I'm actually

1246
01:02:32,640 --> 01:02:35,200
Speaker 2: worried now. So I laid out on him. I asked

1247
01:02:35,280 --> 01:02:37,880
Speaker 2: him why he thinks we're dating, and why does everyone

1248
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:40,080
Speaker 2: else too, and what led him.

1249
01:02:39,920 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 1: To thinking that. Now he's just quiet and I'm just

1250
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 1: looking at him, not saying anything.

1251
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,240
Speaker 2: Stuffed after. This is a bit fuzzy because I just

1252
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:48,720
Speaker 2: wanted to cry. This came very out of the blue

1253
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:51,240
Speaker 2: for me as well. It's just effing weird looking back

1254
01:02:51,280 --> 01:02:53,520
Speaker 2: at it. He said something like, I didn't really think

1255
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 2: we could actually date if I asked you up front,

1256
01:02:56,360 --> 01:02:59,120
Speaker 2: so he knew, to which I said, that's our relationships

1257
01:02:59,280 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 2: usually work you ask to which led him on a

1258
01:03:02,760 --> 01:03:05,439
Speaker 2: tangent about women in general. What I saw in front

1259
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 2: of me was no longer my best friend of five years.

1260
01:03:07,480 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 2: It was a boy who grew up to be a

1261
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 2: man and to have a very damaging idea of women.

1262
01:03:12,600 --> 01:03:15,000
Speaker 2: I just interrupted him and asked what led him to

1263
01:03:15,040 --> 01:03:17,360
Speaker 2: think about women this way. He was quiet for a while,

1264
01:03:17,440 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 2: and that did give me some pity until he opened

1265
01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:23,360
Speaker 2: that mouth of his again and said, you know, there's

1266
01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:28,240
Speaker 2: these podcasts no that let me know everything I needed to.

1267
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:31,600
Speaker 1: Oh, so you're a little Tate fanboy. Now he starts

1268
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:34,120
Speaker 1: arguing and yelling. To be honest, I'm not really listening

1269
01:03:34,160 --> 01:03:35,480
Speaker 1: to him at this point. I just want to get

1270
01:03:35,480 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 1: out of there and cry. I'm listening, but nothing is registering.

1271
01:03:38,520 --> 01:03:40,800
Speaker 1: Some of the milder things he started yelling are about

1272
01:03:40,800 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 1: women in our relationship with food, and how we should

1273
01:03:43,280 --> 01:03:45,680
Speaker 1: have a limited amount, how we're so vulnerable and emotional,

1274
01:03:45,840 --> 01:03:48,400
Speaker 1: ready to blame men for everything, and how we start

1275
01:03:48,480 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 1: yelling at every minute inconvenience, which is funny in hindsights,

1276
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:54,960
Speaker 1: how menstrual stuff was a hoax, and that I was

1277
01:03:55,040 --> 01:03:57,600
Speaker 1: no doubt lying when I couldn't walk from my period

1278
01:03:57,680 --> 01:04:00,880
Speaker 1: pains because I wanted his attention, and that no girl

1279
01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 1: can possibly feel a greater pain than that of a man.

1280
01:04:04,440 --> 01:04:06,880
Speaker 1: He also said that when we were talking about his

1281
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 1: course something to do with car parts, it was not

1282
01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 1: cute and sweet of me, let alone women in general

1283
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:14,760
Speaker 1: to act dumb and pretend I'm clueless, because that does

1284
01:04:14,800 --> 01:04:17,640
Speaker 1: not make me more appealing. I generally don't know how

1285
01:04:17,680 --> 01:04:18,360
Speaker 1: a car works.

1286
01:04:18,440 --> 01:04:20,360
Speaker 2: My effing back. I tell him that if this is

1287
01:04:20,360 --> 01:04:23,120
Speaker 2: all a big joke, it's not funny. He interrupts me

1288
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:25,200
Speaker 2: and talks about how he listens to these men but

1289
01:04:25,280 --> 01:04:27,840
Speaker 2: doesn't tell anyone because he knows I and our friends

1290
01:04:27,840 --> 01:04:32,080
Speaker 2: wouldn't agree. Tells me I'm not a perfect woman, whatever

1291
01:04:32,120 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 2: that means, but he would still like to date me,

1292
01:04:34,600 --> 01:04:37,360
Speaker 2: but couldn't tell me because I'd say no and ruin

1293
01:04:37,480 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 2: his fantasy. Bro, you know, the best way to get

1294
01:04:40,040 --> 01:04:41,560
Speaker 2: a girl to date you is to go on a

1295
01:04:41,640 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 2: sexist tyring.

1296
01:04:42,400 --> 01:04:46,280
Speaker 1: Wow, it works every time, you know? All right? I'm kidding,

1297
01:04:46,280 --> 01:04:48,240
Speaker 1: by the way, because it's a terrible way to approach it.

1298
01:04:48,280 --> 01:04:50,440
Speaker 1: I'm crying now and people are noticing, so I just

1299
01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:52,400
Speaker 1: want to get out of there immediately. I tell them,

1300
01:04:52,440 --> 01:04:55,960
Speaker 1: not verbatim, but along the lines of you're so effing stupid.

1301
01:04:56,200 --> 01:04:59,080
Speaker 1: You genuinely could have dated me if only you had

1302
01:04:59,160 --> 01:05:03,560
Speaker 1: asked everything, But you started listening to opinions of guys

1303
01:05:03,560 --> 01:05:05,960
Speaker 1: who have nothing. How sad can you be to pull

1304
01:05:06,000 --> 01:05:09,040
Speaker 1: a stunt like this? Instead of asking like a normal person,

1305
01:05:09,120 --> 01:05:11,200
Speaker 1: he starts yelling that I'm wrong and they know what

1306
01:05:11,360 --> 01:05:13,520
Speaker 1: is right, starting a whole rant that I don't have

1307
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 1: the strength to listen to him. I stand out, start

1308
01:05:16,360 --> 01:05:18,960
Speaker 1: walking and he grabs my arm. More people are staring.

1309
01:05:19,000 --> 01:05:20,880
Speaker 1: I tell him to let go, and he only does

1310
01:05:20,920 --> 01:05:22,919
Speaker 1: when I threatened to call the police. I left, telling

1311
01:05:23,000 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 1: him to never speak to me again. I am now home.

1312
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:28,360
Speaker 1: I blocked him on everything and told some friends what happened.

1313
01:05:28,400 --> 01:05:30,800
Speaker 1: They were all shocked by how he acted and what

1314
01:05:30,880 --> 01:05:33,240
Speaker 1: he said. One guy did tell me he was always

1315
01:05:33,280 --> 01:05:34,480
Speaker 1: easy to influence, though.

1316
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:36,680
Speaker 2: I asked why they thought we were dating, and they

1317
01:05:36,720 --> 01:05:39,080
Speaker 2: told me it was how we acted like a couple.

1318
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:40,880
Speaker 2: I guess that one is on me, combined with the

1319
01:05:40,880 --> 01:05:43,520
Speaker 2: fact that he told them yes when they asked, and

1320
01:05:43,560 --> 01:05:46,320
Speaker 2: since the behavior checked out, they just never thought to

1321
01:05:46,400 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 2: talk about it with me. So that is that I

1322
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:51,600
Speaker 2: thought I had a nice friend by my side, but

1323
01:05:51,720 --> 01:05:54,240
Speaker 2: guess not. Never trust a guy, even if you grew

1324
01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:57,280
Speaker 2: up with him, they'll disappoint you eventually. Hope he don't

1325
01:05:57,280 --> 01:06:00,720
Speaker 2: get too jaded, but this dude does sound like Wow,

1326
01:06:00,880 --> 01:06:03,080
Speaker 2: I don't know how this dude is still thinking the

1327
01:06:03,120 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 2: Tait method is working when it literally is not working

1328
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:08,040
Speaker 2: in front of his eyes.

1329
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:09,600
Speaker 1: Even if he wanted to be a little a little

1330
01:06:09,640 --> 01:06:12,280
Speaker 1: cutesy with it and be something like, hey, like, I

1331
01:06:12,320 --> 01:06:15,320
Speaker 1: want to celebrate our anniversary. We met a year ago,

1332
01:06:15,480 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 1: and yeah, I've been working up the nerve like I

1333
01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:19,600
Speaker 1: would love to take you out to dinner or I

1334
01:06:19,640 --> 01:06:23,040
Speaker 1: don't know. They're like, that's so cute. I love that,

1335
01:06:23,120 --> 01:06:25,160
Speaker 1: I love you could be cute about it. But he

1336
01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:29,080
Speaker 1: just went about the completely wrong opposite way.

1337
01:06:29,480 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 2: I can't believe it didn't come out earlier. I just

1338
01:06:32,000 --> 01:06:34,480
Speaker 2: rage quit my job of five years.

1339
01:06:34,560 --> 01:06:37,520
Speaker 1: Now. The company's failing and begging me to come back.

1340
01:06:37,680 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 1: I said no and twisted the knife.

1341
01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:43,040
Speaker 2: Am I tole a'm bit of backstory. I have worked

1342
01:06:43,040 --> 01:06:45,560
Speaker 2: at this very small, less than fifty people company for

1343
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:48,920
Speaker 2: about five years. I was brought on as an assistant,

1344
01:06:48,960 --> 01:06:51,280
Speaker 2: and within three years I worked my way up to

1345
01:06:51,360 --> 01:06:53,560
Speaker 2: one of the heads of the departments.

1346
01:06:53,040 --> 01:06:56,200
Speaker 1: Big head honcho over here. My job is a niece

1347
01:06:56,480 --> 01:06:59,640
Speaker 1: within a niece, so I was able to train myself

1348
01:06:59,720 --> 01:07:05,120
Speaker 1: in a very industry specific knowledge niche industry. When anyone

1349
01:07:05,360 --> 01:07:09,080
Speaker 1: explains their job on Reddit, they're super vague and they

1350
01:07:09,120 --> 01:07:13,040
Speaker 1: just say niche industry. My company has its problems.

1351
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:15,800
Speaker 2: Many of the higher ups are toxic, resort to bullying,

1352
01:07:16,000 --> 01:07:19,160
Speaker 2: and overall can be But I put up with it

1353
01:07:19,320 --> 01:07:22,680
Speaker 2: because I was learning very valuable skills and I truly

1354
01:07:22,800 --> 01:07:26,040
Speaker 2: am passionate about what I do in the industry.

1355
01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:27,800
Speaker 1: Niche industry with.

1356
01:07:27,880 --> 01:07:31,760
Speaker 2: A pandemic struck. My work refused to let people work

1357
01:07:31,760 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 2: from home. One person walked out, and I was so

1358
01:07:34,400 --> 01:07:37,080
Speaker 2: scared I started to have a panic attack. I live

1359
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:40,040
Speaker 2: with someone who was high risk, so I was terrified

1360
01:07:40,080 --> 01:07:41,760
Speaker 2: I was going to give it to them. I had

1361
01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:44,000
Speaker 2: to threaten to quit before.

1362
01:07:43,640 --> 01:07:45,240
Speaker 1: They let me work from home.

1363
01:07:45,360 --> 01:07:50,120
Speaker 2: They finally relent it, and guess what, my productivity skyrocketed.

1364
01:07:50,200 --> 01:07:52,680
Speaker 2: I increased our winning rate by twenty three percent since

1365
01:07:52,720 --> 01:07:55,120
Speaker 2: the beginning of twenty twenty alone. It has been better

1366
01:07:55,160 --> 01:07:57,080
Speaker 2: for my mental health to be away from the bullies

1367
01:07:57,280 --> 01:08:00,200
Speaker 2: and I can focus easier. It also improved my health.

1368
01:08:00,440 --> 01:08:03,840
Speaker 2: I lost thirty pounds without even trying. My carpool tunnel

1369
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:07,360
Speaker 2: practically disappeared. So it sounds like literally everything is better

1370
01:08:07,680 --> 01:08:10,600
Speaker 2: because they work from home. Last week, I was offered

1371
01:08:10,600 --> 01:08:14,240
Speaker 2: a job for a similar role in a bigger competing company.

1372
01:08:14,360 --> 01:08:17,200
Speaker 2: They were offering me a twenty three thousand dollars a

1373
01:08:17,280 --> 01:08:21,040
Speaker 2: year increase in salary and a fully remote position. And

1374
01:08:21,080 --> 01:08:23,479
Speaker 2: I was on the fence because despite more money, it

1375
01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 2: was hard to let go of a place that I

1376
01:08:25,240 --> 01:08:28,560
Speaker 2: spent so much time and so much professional development on.

1377
01:08:28,800 --> 01:08:32,000
Speaker 2: I also was worried about several of my coworkers.

1378
01:08:31,520 --> 01:08:33,000
Speaker 1: The ones who aren't bullied.

1379
01:08:33,080 --> 01:08:37,280
Speaker 2: I mean, but that twenty three koh like you can

1380
01:08:37,360 --> 01:08:40,679
Speaker 2: still be friends with these people outside work. On Monday morning,

1381
01:08:40,720 --> 01:08:43,160
Speaker 2: I go to one of my higher ups with my dilemma.

1382
01:08:43,280 --> 01:08:47,080
Speaker 2: She was so supportive, immediately congratulating me and said, I'm

1383
01:08:47,120 --> 01:08:49,519
Speaker 2: going to talk to the CEO tomorrow. I'll tell him

1384
01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:53,040
Speaker 2: your situation so he has the opportunity to counter offer you,

1385
01:08:53,200 --> 01:08:55,760
Speaker 2: which is great, that's super scolar. I told her it

1386
01:08:55,800 --> 01:08:59,120
Speaker 2: wasn't really the money, it was also the remote work policy.

1387
01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:01,640
Speaker 2: Said hey, I get a call the higher up and

1388
01:09:01,720 --> 01:09:04,479
Speaker 2: this is how our conversation went.

1389
01:09:04,920 --> 01:09:08,479
Speaker 1: Her. The CEO is willing to raise your salary, but

1390
01:09:08,600 --> 01:09:11,759
Speaker 1: first he wants to negotiate you coming back into the office.

1391
01:09:11,880 --> 01:09:16,000
Speaker 2: Me, What doesn't he realize this other position is fully remote?

1392
01:09:16,160 --> 01:09:16,479
Speaker 1: Her?

1393
01:09:16,640 --> 01:09:19,479
Speaker 2: Yes, but he says the company has been generous with

1394
01:09:19,600 --> 01:09:22,800
Speaker 2: working with you on being remote, and now you really

1395
01:09:22,880 --> 01:09:26,720
Speaker 2: need a doctor's note to remain such generous. There was

1396
01:09:26,760 --> 01:09:30,240
Speaker 2: a global pandemic. It wasn't some sort of favor to me.

1397
01:09:30,439 --> 01:09:33,080
Speaker 2: It was what the company had to do because of

1398
01:09:33,120 --> 01:09:36,080
Speaker 2: the VID. I'm glad they finally did it, but I

1399
01:09:36,120 --> 01:09:39,160
Speaker 2: had to beg because I was so scared I was

1400
01:09:39,200 --> 01:09:41,000
Speaker 2: going to unlive my partner.

1401
01:09:41,160 --> 01:09:46,320
Speaker 1: Her. Yes, but some people remained in office this whole time. Me,

1402
01:09:46,600 --> 01:09:49,240
Speaker 1: that's not my freaking problem. They were not taking it seriously,

1403
01:09:49,520 --> 01:09:52,639
Speaker 1: and there were no rules implemented by the company regarding masks,

1404
01:09:52,680 --> 01:09:56,280
Speaker 1: social distancing, etc. Them staying in the office made me

1405
01:09:56,320 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 1: realize I had to remain staying at home because I

1406
01:09:59,200 --> 01:10:02,519
Speaker 1: knew they weren't being saved Her. That's why he says

1407
01:10:02,560 --> 01:10:05,479
Speaker 1: it's generous. He has let you stay home for so long. Me.

1408
01:10:05,760 --> 01:10:08,000
Speaker 2: I also prove it. I am more effective in a

1409
01:10:08,040 --> 01:10:11,000
Speaker 2: remote position. It has been a net positive for the

1410
01:10:11,080 --> 01:10:15,639
Speaker 2: company as a whole. Her, I understood me, I don't

1411
01:10:15,680 --> 01:10:17,120
Speaker 2: care if you give me a salary increase.

1412
01:10:17,320 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 1: This is about r esb CD respect baby, Huh.

1413
01:10:21,760 --> 01:10:23,720
Speaker 2: I was on the fence about this new position, but

1414
01:10:23,800 --> 01:10:26,759
Speaker 2: now I see that I have to take it. Consider

1415
01:10:26,840 --> 01:10:31,000
Speaker 2: this my official notice I quit. I just signed the

1416
01:10:31,000 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 2: contract with a new company. Thanks for making it easy

1417
01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:37,639
Speaker 2: on me old company. And there is an update, John,

1418
01:10:37,800 --> 01:10:40,320
Speaker 2: there is an update. But I want to get your

1419
01:10:40,400 --> 01:10:43,439
Speaker 2: feel do you think OP should quit? What do you

1420
01:10:43,520 --> 01:10:46,679
Speaker 2: think is like the minimum necessary for OP to quit

1421
01:10:46,760 --> 01:10:47,880
Speaker 2: in this In this.

1422
01:10:47,880 --> 01:10:51,360
Speaker 1: Case, Man, I mean for OP definitely beat the twenty

1423
01:10:51,400 --> 01:10:54,040
Speaker 1: three k, because it's like, I feel like OP has

1424
01:10:54,120 --> 01:10:56,240
Speaker 1: gone through a lot of like headaches. So that's another

1425
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:58,240
Speaker 1: thing opstra way of like, do I want to kind

1426
01:10:58,240 --> 01:11:01,120
Speaker 1: of continue to deal with like potential headaches from his

1427
01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:03,120
Speaker 1: people in the future because they'd given me so many

1428
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:03,599
Speaker 1: in the past.

1429
01:11:03,680 --> 01:11:05,559
Speaker 2: I got another phone call the next day from my

1430
01:11:05,640 --> 01:11:07,639
Speaker 2: previous employer, asking if.

1431
01:11:07,479 --> 01:11:09,920
Speaker 1: I had decided on what I'm doing.

1432
01:11:10,040 --> 01:11:12,559
Speaker 2: I reiterated that I told you the first time I quit,

1433
01:11:12,760 --> 01:11:15,040
Speaker 2: and they pulled out a full guilt trip on.

1434
01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:17,519
Speaker 1: How I can't leave them high and dry.

1435
01:11:17,760 --> 01:11:20,320
Speaker 2: I hung up again, but decided ultimately to finish out

1436
01:11:20,360 --> 01:11:22,320
Speaker 2: the two weeks since I could use a paycheck. The

1437
01:11:22,400 --> 01:11:25,839
Speaker 2: two weeks were wild. They kept acting like I wasn't leaving.

1438
01:11:26,000 --> 01:11:29,240
Speaker 2: They kept assigning me to projects that I couldn't possibly finish,

1439
01:11:29,360 --> 01:11:31,760
Speaker 2: and every time I brought up my departure. They'd talk

1440
01:11:31,880 --> 01:11:34,800
Speaker 2: over me or ignore me whatever. I kept telling myself

1441
01:11:34,840 --> 01:11:36,880
Speaker 2: it wasn't my problem. So I decided just to half

1442
01:11:36,920 --> 01:11:39,679
Speaker 2: ass everything until my time was up and I would

1443
01:11:39,720 --> 01:11:42,240
Speaker 2: get my last paycheck. On my last day, I went

1444
01:11:42,280 --> 01:11:45,040
Speaker 2: to turn in my computer and everyone in the office

1445
01:11:45,120 --> 01:11:47,599
Speaker 2: kept asking me to do more work. I kept telling

1446
01:11:47,640 --> 01:11:51,879
Speaker 2: them it's my last day, I am leaving. My computer

1447
01:11:52,120 --> 01:11:56,120
Speaker 2: is being turned in, I can't possibly work further. One

1448
01:11:56,160 --> 01:11:59,559
Speaker 2: of the execs got teary and kept wailing about but

1449
01:11:59,720 --> 01:12:02,839
Speaker 2: who who is going to do all this? I shrugged

1450
01:12:02,840 --> 01:12:05,400
Speaker 2: and said, you guys had two weeks to figure that out.

1451
01:12:05,439 --> 01:12:09,440
Speaker 2: And this was generous of me, loopt it on them. Oh,

1452
01:12:09,840 --> 01:12:11,920
Speaker 2: the CEO ran out of the back door as soon

1453
01:12:11,960 --> 01:12:14,240
Speaker 2: as he heard me come in through the front door

1454
01:12:14,479 --> 01:12:17,240
Speaker 2: so he wouldn't have to say goodbye. He continued texting

1455
01:12:17,280 --> 01:12:19,719
Speaker 2: me to do work throughout the day, so I ended

1456
01:12:19,800 --> 01:12:22,120
Speaker 2: up blocking his number. And about the new job. I

1457
01:12:22,160 --> 01:12:24,600
Speaker 2: started the new job and it's been a dream. The

1458
01:12:24,720 --> 01:12:27,280
Speaker 2: pay and benefits are so much better. There isn't a

1459
01:12:27,320 --> 01:12:30,479
Speaker 2: bullying problem here, and it's almost like the blinders were

1460
01:12:30,560 --> 01:12:33,200
Speaker 2: pulled off of me. I didn't realize how abusive my

1461
01:12:33,280 --> 01:12:35,719
Speaker 2: old workplace was. Until I was working with a team

1462
01:12:35,880 --> 01:12:39,320
Speaker 2: of actually nice people for months, I'd react like a

1463
01:12:39,360 --> 01:12:42,880
Speaker 2: battered housewife. Every time I'd make a mistake, I'd be

1464
01:12:42,960 --> 01:12:45,920
Speaker 2: on the brink of tears and overly apologetic. But everyone

1465
01:12:45,960 --> 01:12:48,520
Speaker 2: here has been nothing but kind and supportive and understanding.

1466
01:12:48,640 --> 01:12:51,000
Speaker 2: Of course, there's always room for improvement, but it's like

1467
01:12:51,160 --> 01:12:54,120
Speaker 2: night and day better. Meanwhile, every few weeks, I'd get

1468
01:12:54,160 --> 01:12:56,559
Speaker 2: a phone call from my old company. Here are some

1469
01:12:56,600 --> 01:12:58,760
Speaker 2: of the highlights of what they have asked slash what

1470
01:12:58,840 --> 01:13:00,960
Speaker 2: has happened? None of this paper work is getting done,

1471
01:13:01,000 --> 01:13:02,560
Speaker 2: and no one knows how to do it. If I

1472
01:13:02,600 --> 01:13:04,840
Speaker 2: don't tell them, they will lose money. Guess what, not

1473
01:13:04,960 --> 01:13:07,680
Speaker 2: my problem? Come on, Will I come back if they

1474
01:13:07,760 --> 01:13:08,800
Speaker 2: hire me an assistant?

1475
01:13:09,000 --> 01:13:09,120
Speaker 1: No?

1476
01:13:09,400 --> 01:13:11,479
Speaker 2: Will I come back if they hire me an assistant

1477
01:13:11,520 --> 01:13:14,120
Speaker 2: and match my pay No? And you're supposed to give

1478
01:13:14,160 --> 01:13:17,080
Speaker 2: a counter offer before someone leaves for a new job,

1479
01:13:17,200 --> 01:13:20,719
Speaker 2: not months afterwards. Now my old position has been split

1480
01:13:20,760 --> 01:13:24,240
Speaker 2: into two positions and has two different job postings because

1481
01:13:24,280 --> 01:13:26,120
Speaker 2: they can't find anyone.

1482
01:13:25,880 --> 01:13:28,679
Speaker 1: Who can do all of it. Loll not my problem.

1483
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:31,160
Speaker 2: We hired someone for one of the positions but they

1484
01:13:31,360 --> 01:13:34,400
Speaker 2: quit on the spot and walked out after four days.

1485
01:13:34,560 --> 01:13:37,280
Speaker 2: Loll good for them. They sent me a contract to

1486
01:13:37,280 --> 01:13:39,760
Speaker 2: be an on call consultant for them, like they didn't

1487
01:13:39,800 --> 01:13:42,280
Speaker 2: even ask. They just sent it to my email with

1488
01:13:42,360 --> 01:13:45,519
Speaker 2: the email body saying please sign and return as soon

1489
01:13:45,600 --> 01:13:46,439
Speaker 2: as possible.

1490
01:13:46,600 --> 01:13:47,559
Speaker 1: I already have a job.

1491
01:13:47,800 --> 01:13:50,800
Speaker 2: Wo Now my old position has been split into three

1492
01:13:50,800 --> 01:13:54,439
Speaker 2: different positions with three job postings. My absence has made

1493
01:13:54,439 --> 01:13:57,000
Speaker 2: one of my former coworkers so stressed that she's now

1494
01:13:57,040 --> 01:13:59,400
Speaker 2: in the hospital, and they said I should be ashamed

1495
01:13:59,439 --> 01:14:01,559
Speaker 2: of myself to not come back and help her.

1496
01:14:01,600 --> 01:14:04,479
Speaker 1: It's not me overworking here to death, it's this company.

1497
01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:08,160
Speaker 2: Now my old position has split into four positions. That's right,

1498
01:14:08,320 --> 01:14:11,599
Speaker 2: fing four different positions with four different job postings. Will

1499
01:14:11,600 --> 01:14:13,760
Speaker 2: I come back if they literally offer me double the

1500
01:14:13,800 --> 01:14:16,799
Speaker 2: money with an assistant? I was so glad they asked.

1501
01:14:16,840 --> 01:14:18,960
Speaker 2: I got to tell them straight up, there are some

1502
01:14:19,080 --> 01:14:22,120
Speaker 2: things money can't buy, and I didn't quit over money,

1503
01:14:22,200 --> 01:14:25,160
Speaker 2: so you can't get me back with money. We are

1504
01:14:25,200 --> 01:14:27,839
Speaker 2: losing tons of money and may have to do layoffs

1505
01:14:27,840 --> 01:14:30,160
Speaker 2: soon if you don't come back, Sorry, but f you.

1506
01:14:30,760 --> 01:14:33,719
Speaker 2: Moral of the story, never accept the counter and don't

1507
01:14:33,720 --> 01:14:35,120
Speaker 2: put up with BS.

1508
01:14:35,400 --> 01:14:40,360
Speaker 1: Wow. Oh such a satisfying ending. Man. I know OP

1509
01:14:40,560 --> 01:14:43,080
Speaker 1: really stuck it to them. It sounds like Op was.

1510
01:14:43,120 --> 01:14:45,840
Speaker 2: Literally the whole company, Like they took Op out and

1511
01:14:45,880 --> 01:14:47,400
Speaker 2: then everything fell tosh.

1512
01:14:47,720 --> 01:14:50,760
Speaker 1: Over something as dumb as like them wanting people in person,

1513
01:14:50,840 --> 01:14:52,840
Speaker 1: and you know that it's just a stupid thing that

1514
01:14:52,880 --> 01:14:54,759
Speaker 1: they want because they're dummies.

1515
01:14:55,000 --> 01:14:58,200
Speaker 2: My mom's been twenty five thousand dollars on a fortune

1516
01:14:58,240 --> 01:15:02,720
Speaker 2: teller to find love, So dinner, No what am I

1517
01:15:02,800 --> 01:15:05,920
Speaker 2: the a hole? This might be a bit messy because

1518
01:15:05,960 --> 01:15:08,920
Speaker 2: my brain is still in shambles from what I just learned.

1519
01:15:08,960 --> 01:15:11,400
Speaker 1: But I'm trying to just make this all understandable. We're

1520
01:15:11,439 --> 01:15:13,320
Speaker 1: off to a great start. You always know what's good

1521
01:15:13,320 --> 01:15:14,040
Speaker 1: when it starts like that.

1522
01:15:14,240 --> 01:15:17,360
Speaker 2: So three years ago, my twenty one female mom forty

1523
01:15:17,400 --> 01:15:19,880
Speaker 2: seven male split from my dad thirty three male.

1524
01:15:20,000 --> 01:15:20,559
Speaker 1: Good decision.

1525
01:15:20,640 --> 01:15:24,280
Speaker 2: Really, Me and my siblings, who are seventeen gender fluid

1526
01:15:24,360 --> 01:15:27,519
Speaker 2: and fourteen male, were honestly relieved to have him out

1527
01:15:27,560 --> 01:15:29,760
Speaker 2: of the house for a variety of reasons that are

1528
01:15:29,800 --> 01:15:32,120
Speaker 2: not essential to the story. Around that time, our mom

1529
01:15:32,200 --> 01:15:34,439
Speaker 2: told me and my older sibling that she had been

1530
01:15:34,520 --> 01:15:36,519
Speaker 2: in love with a teacher from the crew that I

1531
01:15:36,560 --> 01:15:40,120
Speaker 2: went to and my siblings still attend for nine years

1532
01:15:40,320 --> 01:15:43,960
Speaker 2: twelve by now. We will call him g G because

1533
01:15:43,960 --> 01:15:47,320
Speaker 2: he knows how to hit that G spot. Oh goodness, honestly,

1534
01:15:47,720 --> 01:15:50,280
Speaker 2: he's great. Both me and my sibling encouraged her and

1535
01:15:50,360 --> 01:15:53,880
Speaker 2: pursuing a new relationship, and they actually started writing emails

1536
01:15:53,920 --> 01:15:54,639
Speaker 2: back and forth.

1537
01:15:54,720 --> 01:15:55,280
Speaker 1: That's cute.

1538
01:15:55,320 --> 01:15:58,320
Speaker 2: That's so cute, old people writing emails to each other.

1539
01:15:58,479 --> 01:16:00,719
Speaker 2: It went semi well for a while, but she started

1540
01:16:00,760 --> 01:16:02,840
Speaker 2: to become impatient. I don't even know how else to

1541
01:16:02,840 --> 01:16:05,320
Speaker 2: describe it, but to me and my sibling it felt

1542
01:16:05,360 --> 01:16:08,320
Speaker 2: like a descent into a legit madness. She is sort

1543
01:16:08,360 --> 01:16:10,439
Speaker 2: of a compulsive liar, and over the course of a year,

1544
01:16:10,479 --> 01:16:13,400
Speaker 2: she started to come up with more and more outrageous

1545
01:16:13,520 --> 01:16:16,760
Speaker 2: white lives and plans in order to get close to G.

1546
01:16:17,000 --> 01:16:19,320
Speaker 2: It was the only thing she could talk about. Girl

1547
01:16:19,360 --> 01:16:21,240
Speaker 2: needs a hobby. I didn't mind it in the beginning,

1548
01:16:21,280 --> 01:16:24,320
Speaker 2: and I tried to be supportive, but her entire mood

1549
01:16:24,479 --> 01:16:27,800
Speaker 2: started depending on those emails. She was either sulking and

1550
01:16:27,920 --> 01:16:30,479
Speaker 2: pity parting for herself if he took a while to respond,

1551
01:16:30,640 --> 01:16:33,000
Speaker 2: or she was scheming how to get him into her life.

1552
01:16:33,040 --> 01:16:35,840
Speaker 2: The way she wants him to be red flags, red

1553
01:16:35,840 --> 01:16:38,840
Speaker 2: flag city, six flags Right here. I'm talking hours and

1554
01:16:39,080 --> 01:16:42,200
Speaker 2: hours of running the same circles with her and discussing

1555
01:16:42,240 --> 01:16:44,559
Speaker 2: nothing else until late into the night, to the point

1556
01:16:44,560 --> 01:16:46,840
Speaker 2: where me and my siblings were trying to manage all

1557
01:16:46,840 --> 01:16:50,280
Speaker 2: her emotions. It was unbearable and it started freak us out.

1558
01:16:50,320 --> 01:16:54,280
Speaker 2: We were barely recognizing our mother anymore. Gee wasn't all

1559
01:16:54,360 --> 01:16:57,439
Speaker 2: too comfortable either. Apparently, after a little over a year,

1560
01:16:57,479 --> 01:17:00,280
Speaker 2: he sent her a message that basically shot down any

1561
01:17:00,320 --> 01:17:01,160
Speaker 2: further contact.

1562
01:17:01,280 --> 01:17:02,640
Speaker 1: If I have a feeling this is not going to

1563
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:05,559
Speaker 1: end well, Sam, I think she's going to go back. Yeah.

1564
01:17:05,640 --> 01:17:09,479
Speaker 2: The first thing I thought when I heard about it was, Oh,

1565
01:17:09,560 --> 01:17:11,439
Speaker 2: how am I going to get her to cope? It

1566
01:17:11,520 --> 01:17:14,080
Speaker 2: was then that I learned that in love is not

1567
01:17:14,320 --> 01:17:16,639
Speaker 2: the right way to describe what my mom is feeling.

1568
01:17:16,800 --> 01:17:21,000
Speaker 2: She is obsessed with this man stalker level, foaming at

1569
01:17:21,000 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 2: the mouth obsessed, and for months I spent every second

1570
01:17:25,000 --> 01:17:27,280
Speaker 2: that I was alone with her going over the words

1571
01:17:27,320 --> 01:17:30,720
Speaker 2: of this last goddamn email, listening to her theories and

1572
01:17:30,760 --> 01:17:34,400
Speaker 2: speculations and whatnot. It got better after a while when

1573
01:17:34,400 --> 01:17:37,240
Speaker 2: I managed to establish some boundaries, but my Mom fell

1574
01:17:37,240 --> 01:17:40,479
Speaker 2: into a borderline depression then, and I felt guilty for

1575
01:17:40,520 --> 01:17:43,880
Speaker 2: abandoning her with her feelings still, I thought she was

1576
01:17:43,920 --> 01:17:44,639
Speaker 2: getting over him.

1577
01:17:44,840 --> 01:17:48,320
Speaker 1: She thought. We always thought, why are you thinking? Stop thinking? Yes,

1578
01:17:48,520 --> 01:17:49,559
Speaker 1: turn that brain off.

1579
01:17:49,800 --> 01:17:54,120
Speaker 2: Wait a few months ago, the big change happened. Apparently

1580
01:17:54,200 --> 01:17:57,840
Speaker 2: a woman out of GE's social circle called our home

1581
01:17:58,040 --> 01:18:01,200
Speaker 2: and told her that he had feelings for her, but

1582
01:18:01,240 --> 01:18:03,599
Speaker 2: he is worried about his integrity as a teacher.

1583
01:18:03,600 --> 01:18:07,680
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah. Oh, so he's into it.

1584
01:18:07,760 --> 01:18:10,479
Speaker 2: I was shocked when she told me, because I would

1585
01:18:10,520 --> 01:18:13,880
Speaker 2: have bet on a restraining order over a confession. When

1586
01:18:13,920 --> 01:18:16,439
Speaker 2: I say it was like a shark smelling blood in

1587
01:18:16,479 --> 01:18:19,719
Speaker 2: the water, I am not exaggerating. There were the plans again,

1588
01:18:19,960 --> 01:18:23,680
Speaker 2: the theories, the obsession. She even memorized his schedule to

1589
01:18:23,760 --> 01:18:26,240
Speaker 2: run into him, and she wanted me to help. She

1590
01:18:26,400 --> 01:18:30,519
Speaker 2: semi blackmailed me, slash bribe me into an agreement, and

1591
01:18:30,560 --> 01:18:32,280
Speaker 2: then held my inaction.

1592
01:18:32,000 --> 01:18:34,599
Speaker 1: Over my head all the time, expecting me to come

1593
01:18:34,640 --> 01:18:36,800
Speaker 1: up with a perfect plan for her. She's like, Hey,

1594
01:18:36,840 --> 01:18:39,400
Speaker 1: you're a teenager, right, Get all your teenager friends and

1595
01:18:39,439 --> 01:18:41,559
Speaker 1: a Scooby new Ban together to solve the mystery of

1596
01:18:41,560 --> 01:18:44,240
Speaker 1: white doesn't love me. I think I'll solve the case.

1597
01:18:44,880 --> 01:18:46,160
Speaker 1: He just doesn't love you.

1598
01:18:46,200 --> 01:18:49,160
Speaker 2: No matter how much I tried to argue with her

1599
01:18:49,240 --> 01:18:52,120
Speaker 2: and hold her back, I could have tried stopping a

1600
01:18:52,120 --> 01:18:54,599
Speaker 2: moving train and it would have been more successful. All

1601
01:18:54,600 --> 01:18:57,000
Speaker 2: that is relevant about this, though, is that she sent

1602
01:18:57,120 --> 01:19:01,479
Speaker 2: G another lengthy email that was just God. I don't

1603
01:19:01,520 --> 01:19:04,559
Speaker 2: want to say pathetic what it was. I really want

1604
01:19:04,560 --> 01:19:07,160
Speaker 2: to read this email, me too. Release the email, release

1605
01:19:07,200 --> 01:19:09,760
Speaker 2: it today. Then my sibling tells me she saw an

1606
01:19:09,800 --> 01:19:12,920
Speaker 2: email in our mother's inbox from a woman that calls

1607
01:19:12,920 --> 01:19:16,760
Speaker 2: herself a spiritual therapist or some basically saying she is

1608
01:19:16,800 --> 01:19:19,840
Speaker 2: a media We know that because my sibling remembered her

1609
01:19:19,920 --> 01:19:22,000
Speaker 2: name and we googled it. I had such a bad

1610
01:19:22,040 --> 01:19:24,519
Speaker 2: feeling about this, but my gut was screaming at me

1611
01:19:24,640 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 2: like never before, so I logged into her email address

1612
01:19:27,240 --> 01:19:29,200
Speaker 2: from my phone. She once gave me her password in

1613
01:19:29,200 --> 01:19:31,400
Speaker 2: case she forgets it, and there were messages with this

1614
01:19:31,520 --> 01:19:34,400
Speaker 2: gruru lady going back all the way to when G

1615
01:19:34,680 --> 01:19:37,559
Speaker 2: dumped her. When I read those emails, I was shaking

1616
01:19:37,600 --> 01:19:41,759
Speaker 2: so hard I almost dropped my phone. Almost twenty five

1617
01:19:41,960 --> 01:19:47,240
Speaker 2: thousand dollars for this fake spit to connect with Jee's subconscious.

1618
01:19:47,400 --> 01:19:50,280
Speaker 2: She spent decades paying off her mortgage with my dad.

1619
01:19:50,400 --> 01:19:53,280
Speaker 2: She cries to us about having money issues, to the

1620
01:19:53,280 --> 01:19:56,840
Speaker 2: point where my fourteen year old brother had qualms about

1621
01:19:56,880 --> 01:20:01,599
Speaker 2: asking her for a new school backpack because he elt guilty. God,

1622
01:20:01,720 --> 01:20:03,600
Speaker 2: I am so livid just thinking about it. And the

1623
01:20:03,640 --> 01:20:07,400
Speaker 2: best part, the phone call from g's acquaintance wasn't real.

1624
01:20:07,600 --> 01:20:09,559
Speaker 2: It was what that doctor told her.

1625
01:20:10,080 --> 01:20:10,400
Speaker 1: No.

1626
01:20:11,240 --> 01:20:14,200
Speaker 2: I found literal quotes in the emails of things my

1627
01:20:14,320 --> 01:20:17,439
Speaker 2: mom told me the woman in the phone call told her,

1628
01:20:17,479 --> 01:20:20,800
Speaker 2: But it was all that money hungry scammer. On one hand,

1629
01:20:20,920 --> 01:20:23,040
Speaker 2: I am so angry at my mom for doing this.

1630
01:20:23,240 --> 01:20:25,720
Speaker 2: They also have extreme pity for her. This guru took

1631
01:20:25,760 --> 01:20:29,120
Speaker 2: advantage of a desperate, vulnerable state and is stringing.

1632
01:20:28,760 --> 01:20:31,880
Speaker 1: Her along with half wrection, costing my.

1633
01:20:31,920 --> 01:20:35,360
Speaker 2: Mom thousands of dollars. Well, my mother needs is actual

1634
01:20:35,400 --> 01:20:38,600
Speaker 2: effic therapy. I am completely at my wits end, but

1635
01:20:38,680 --> 01:20:40,760
Speaker 2: I know this can't keep going. Anyone who can give

1636
01:20:40,800 --> 01:20:43,760
Speaker 2: me advice, please please do. It feels like the floor

1637
01:20:43,960 --> 01:20:46,839
Speaker 2: just dropped out from underneath me, and I am scared

1638
01:20:46,920 --> 01:20:49,519
Speaker 2: of what will happen next to the TLDR. My mother

1639
01:20:49,640 --> 01:20:51,760
Speaker 2: is obsessed with a man and when he shot her down,

1640
01:20:51,800 --> 01:20:54,000
Speaker 2: I just found out she turned to a guru. She

1641
01:20:54,080 --> 01:20:56,240
Speaker 2: is about twenty five thousand dollars in debt on a

1642
01:20:56,280 --> 01:20:58,719
Speaker 2: minimum wage job with two.

1643
01:20:58,600 --> 01:21:01,920
Speaker 1: Kids to support. Help. So the question is what should

1644
01:21:01,960 --> 01:21:05,479
Speaker 1: Opie do? And also, have any of you ever.

1645
01:21:05,320 --> 01:21:07,880
Speaker 2: Had experiences with the clairvoyance and do you even believe

1646
01:21:07,920 --> 01:21:10,080
Speaker 2: in that? And have you ever had experiences that would

1647
01:21:10,080 --> 01:21:12,160
Speaker 2: either cause you to believe in it or cause you

1648
01:21:12,200 --> 01:21:14,120
Speaker 2: to definitively not believe in it?

1649
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:16,400
Speaker 1: Definitely drop your supernatural stories of a life.

1650
01:21:17,200 --> 01:21:19,880
Speaker 2: Right now, Tibby tap in those comments. But John, what

1651
01:21:19,880 --> 01:21:21,439
Speaker 2: do you think, like, what should Opie do?

1652
01:21:21,920 --> 01:21:26,040
Speaker 1: I think the mom needs a specialist to be able

1653
01:21:26,120 --> 01:21:29,439
Speaker 1: to sit down and like figure out what's going on here,

1654
01:21:29,479 --> 01:21:31,600
Speaker 1: because like I have no idea where to begin on

1655
01:21:31,640 --> 01:21:35,040
Speaker 1: a diagnosis or whatever. But maybe a professional could give

1656
01:21:35,080 --> 01:21:38,760
Speaker 1: her a diagnosis and along with that, what could be

1657
01:21:38,880 --> 01:21:41,960
Speaker 1: done to help her understand and see why this is

1658
01:21:41,960 --> 01:21:43,360
Speaker 1: so insane why she shouldn't do this.

1659
01:21:43,439 --> 01:21:45,559
Speaker 2: You know what I mean is freaking insane. And what

1660
01:21:45,800 --> 01:21:49,000
Speaker 2: annoys me is like these like fake psydekicks, like they

1661
01:21:49,360 --> 01:21:53,040
Speaker 2: prey on people. But maybe there's a few clairvoyance in

1662
01:21:53,040 --> 01:21:55,519
Speaker 2: the mix that are that are actually legit. That's actually

1663
01:21:55,520 --> 01:21:58,400
Speaker 2: where I love to store some stories from the Okay gang,

1664
01:21:58,479 --> 01:22:01,240
Speaker 2: like have you had experience? And says with fake psychics,

1665
01:22:01,240 --> 01:22:03,200
Speaker 2: with real psychics, we want to know your stories.

1666
01:22:03,439 --> 01:22:06,720
Speaker 1: My friends are furious at me after I saved a

1667
01:22:06,760 --> 01:22:11,240
Speaker 1: girl's life. They're mad because of how I administered first aid.

1668
01:22:11,600 --> 01:22:14,840
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? So this happened the other day,

1669
01:22:15,000 --> 01:22:17,880
Speaker 1: I twenty three mail was at a pool party at

1670
01:22:17,880 --> 01:22:21,839
Speaker 1: my best friend Gregg's house. There was also a slipping

1671
01:22:21,880 --> 01:22:24,960
Speaker 1: slide setup and people were using it having fun. My

1672
01:22:25,040 --> 01:22:30,160
Speaker 1: friend Amy used it and screamed a good scream, John

1673
01:22:30,200 --> 01:22:32,880
Speaker 1: good scam, good scam. The whole party turns to her

1674
01:22:33,160 --> 01:22:36,920
Speaker 1: and she's clutching her chest. There is blood pouring out

1675
01:22:36,960 --> 01:22:40,360
Speaker 1: of her hand. Oh my god. Okay. So turns out

1676
01:22:40,640 --> 01:22:43,280
Speaker 1: she had slid over a rock on the slip and

1677
01:22:43,320 --> 01:22:47,960
Speaker 1: slide and cut herself. That is oh so, I'm a

1678
01:22:48,040 --> 01:22:52,080
Speaker 1: nursing school. So I run over and ask to see

1679
01:22:52,080 --> 01:22:55,280
Speaker 1: the cut. She pulls her hand away and I see

1680
01:22:55,360 --> 01:22:58,080
Speaker 1: that it doesn't look too serious, but it definitely does

1681
01:22:58,240 --> 01:23:02,320
Speaker 1: need some attention. Yeah it does. Oh yes, it needs

1682
01:23:02,360 --> 01:23:08,280
Speaker 1: a little special attention. From you, boy. So I walk

1683
01:23:08,360 --> 01:23:10,720
Speaker 1: Amy into the house and I grab the first aid kit.

1684
01:23:10,800 --> 01:23:12,720
Speaker 1: I pause for a second and ask her if she's

1685
01:23:12,760 --> 01:23:14,840
Speaker 1: okay with me helping her with this or if she

1686
01:23:14,840 --> 01:23:18,559
Speaker 1: wants to do it herself because of where the cut is.

1687
01:23:18,840 --> 01:23:21,920
Speaker 1: If you catch my drift, where's the cut? John on

1688
01:23:22,080 --> 01:23:30,240
Speaker 1: a booby? Boy? Wow, it's the most like sophomoric episode ever,

1689
01:23:30,760 --> 01:23:35,040
Speaker 1: just like dumb dumb young bro energy, we've we've ever

1690
01:23:35,360 --> 01:23:39,639
Speaker 1: we all suited. Yeah, and she says no, I trust

1691
01:23:39,680 --> 01:23:42,160
Speaker 1: you and I want your help. So we go into

1692
01:23:42,160 --> 01:23:46,120
Speaker 1: the bathroom. Oh, you go into the bathroom. I look

1693
01:23:46,120 --> 01:23:48,920
Speaker 1: at it more closely to make sure it isn't more serious.

1694
01:23:49,200 --> 01:23:51,559
Speaker 1: I put some neosporn on it and I bandage it

1695
01:23:51,640 --> 01:23:54,360
Speaker 1: up nicely. Amy thanks me, and we go back outside.

1696
01:23:54,439 --> 01:23:56,800
Speaker 1: A couple of women come up to Amy and ask

1697
01:23:56,920 --> 01:23:59,559
Speaker 1: if she's okay, and one of them, Sarah, gives me

1698
01:23:59,560 --> 01:24:01,799
Speaker 1: a dirty look and they kind of lead her away.

1699
01:24:01,960 --> 01:24:03,840
Speaker 1: I go back to where I was sitting and Greg

1700
01:24:03,920 --> 01:24:06,639
Speaker 1: sits next to me and he says, yo, Uh, some

1701
01:24:06,680 --> 01:24:10,240
Speaker 1: people are talking some skit out here about you. What

1702
01:24:10,360 --> 01:24:12,880
Speaker 1: they talking? I did my best to defend you, but

1703
01:24:13,320 --> 01:24:16,360
Speaker 1: I figured you should know that they were talking shit

1704
01:24:16,600 --> 01:24:21,519
Speaker 1: about you helping Amy. Wait, the only guy like down

1705
01:24:21,600 --> 01:24:24,679
Speaker 1: to bandage up this lady and he's getting the shit

1706
01:24:24,800 --> 01:24:27,360
Speaker 1: what like, let her bleed out, let her die in peace?

1707
01:24:27,479 --> 01:24:29,519
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Just let it go like Elsa.

1708
01:24:29,800 --> 01:24:33,000
Speaker 1: Let it go like Elsa. I asked him what he meant,

1709
01:24:33,200 --> 01:24:35,200
Speaker 1: and he told me that Sarah was saying that it

1710
01:24:35,280 --> 01:24:38,640
Speaker 1: was creepy how I quote sprung into action when I

1711
01:24:38,680 --> 01:24:43,080
Speaker 1: saw an opportunity to play with a boob end quote

1712
01:24:43,880 --> 01:24:47,479
Speaker 1: oh man, and a few of the other women and

1713
01:24:47,560 --> 01:24:49,920
Speaker 1: one guy agreed and they were making fun of me.

1714
01:24:50,080 --> 01:24:52,240
Speaker 1: I was pretty upset about that, but I didn't want

1715
01:24:52,240 --> 01:24:54,200
Speaker 1: to make a scene, so I just ignored it for

1716
01:24:54,280 --> 01:24:57,439
Speaker 1: the time being. Yo, that's so whack. Later that day,

1717
01:24:57,640 --> 01:25:00,200
Speaker 1: I was sitting by the fire pit and Say was

1718
01:25:00,240 --> 01:25:03,040
Speaker 1: sitting across from me, and nobody else was around the area,

1719
01:25:03,360 --> 01:25:05,920
Speaker 1: so I asked her why she was making fun of

1720
01:25:05,920 --> 01:25:09,240
Speaker 1: me for helping Amy. She said, well, I guess that

1721
01:25:09,400 --> 01:25:13,360
Speaker 1: was a little mean all of me. I'm sorry that

1722
01:25:13,479 --> 01:25:16,439
Speaker 1: I did that, but I thought it was kind of

1723
01:25:16,520 --> 01:25:19,800
Speaker 1: weird how you just saw her boob was her and

1724
01:25:19,840 --> 01:25:23,639
Speaker 1: then you ran up to her and insisted on helping.

1725
01:25:23,920 --> 01:25:26,800
Speaker 1: I know, you're in nursing school, but I think you

1726
01:25:26,800 --> 01:25:31,000
Speaker 1: should let a girl literally nursing school. Bro, he's literally

1727
01:25:31,400 --> 01:25:35,280
Speaker 1: being paid to do like this. Well, Sarah ads at

1728
01:25:35,280 --> 01:25:41,200
Speaker 1: the end, we all know first aid too. Then why

1729
01:25:41,240 --> 01:25:43,960
Speaker 1: didn't you spring into action? Huh? I thanked her for

1730
01:25:44,000 --> 01:25:47,160
Speaker 1: her apology, and I don't like confrontation, so I just said,

1731
01:25:47,320 --> 01:25:49,800
Speaker 1: all right, I guess I'll keep that in mind from

1732
01:25:49,800 --> 01:25:53,240
Speaker 1: now on. So Sam, there is an update, and I

1733
01:25:53,240 --> 01:25:55,799
Speaker 1: think we get a little bit more closure. But jucy,

1734
01:25:56,040 --> 01:25:58,320
Speaker 1: how it's I think it's might have a little a

1735
01:25:58,360 --> 01:26:04,120
Speaker 1: little juice, maybe little milk. But how are you feeling

1736
01:26:04,200 --> 01:26:06,479
Speaker 1: so easy? Give me? Give me what's your what's your

1737
01:26:06,479 --> 01:26:09,920
Speaker 1: assessment right now? How are you feeling? Everyone's ridiculous? I mean,

1738
01:26:10,000 --> 01:26:14,400
Speaker 1: like like, if Amy agreed to have him care for her,

1739
01:26:14,520 --> 01:26:17,479
Speaker 1: then that end of story, right. I think that's yeah.

1740
01:26:17,840 --> 01:26:19,840
Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with it, But I

1741
01:26:19,840 --> 01:26:21,720
Speaker 1: would love to hear the update, like what's actually going

1742
01:26:21,760 --> 01:26:22,720
Speaker 1: on here? That's right?

1743
01:26:23,000 --> 01:26:25,479
Speaker 2: I would also like to hear if anyone of the

1744
01:26:25,560 --> 01:26:29,479
Speaker 2: audience has ever had an injury on one of their

1745
01:26:30,000 --> 01:26:34,040
Speaker 2: more sensitive areas and how that was, how that was

1746
01:26:34,080 --> 01:26:34,720
Speaker 2: taken care of.

1747
01:26:34,880 --> 01:26:37,800
Speaker 1: So I called Amy got some more info. I asked

1748
01:26:37,800 --> 01:26:40,320
Speaker 1: her how the cut was healing. She said that it

1749
01:26:40,360 --> 01:26:42,360
Speaker 1: was healing well and that she was keeping an eye

1750
01:26:42,400 --> 01:26:44,519
Speaker 1: on it, and then I asked her if she knew

1751
01:26:44,600 --> 01:26:46,960
Speaker 1: about the things that Sarah and the others had said

1752
01:26:46,960 --> 01:26:49,720
Speaker 1: about me and what Sarah had said at the fire pit.

1753
01:26:49,920 --> 01:26:53,960
Speaker 1: Turns out Amy had no idea Curious, She said the

1754
01:26:54,040 --> 01:26:56,840
Speaker 1: other women were asking her if she was okay and

1755
01:26:57,200 --> 01:26:59,360
Speaker 1: what happened and all that, but she assumed they were

1756
01:26:59,400 --> 01:27:02,320
Speaker 1: just worried about the injury, not my helping her. And

1757
01:27:02,400 --> 01:27:06,040
Speaker 1: Amy was absolutely pissed and went to the friend group

1758
01:27:06,120 --> 01:27:09,839
Speaker 1: chat and tore the people that were talking a whole

1759
01:27:10,040 --> 01:27:13,920
Speaker 1: new booty hole, especially Sarah Good Good.

1760
01:27:14,200 --> 01:27:17,439
Speaker 2: That's such a dick move, like like op was trying

1761
01:27:17,439 --> 01:27:19,200
Speaker 2: to do something nice and for the friend group to

1762
01:27:19,200 --> 01:27:21,360
Speaker 2: turn it into something weird is like not cool.

1763
01:27:21,600 --> 01:27:24,120
Speaker 1: Sarah and the others apologized to me in the group chat,

1764
01:27:24,120 --> 01:27:27,599
Speaker 1: but Amy kept going and said that I shouldn't accept

1765
01:27:27,600 --> 01:27:30,600
Speaker 1: their apologies because they sat back and talked pitt on

1766
01:27:30,680 --> 01:27:34,040
Speaker 1: the one person who stepped up and helped her. Amy

1767
01:27:34,200 --> 01:27:37,120
Speaker 1: also asked Greg not to invite Sarah to the next

1768
01:27:37,200 --> 01:27:40,160
Speaker 1: pool party, and Greg readily agreed. A few of the

1769
01:27:40,160 --> 01:27:42,880
Speaker 1: others tried to say that was too far, but Amy

1770
01:27:43,000 --> 01:27:45,599
Speaker 1: just told them to shut the f up and do

1771
01:27:45,680 --> 01:27:49,200
Speaker 1: something next time someone's hurt instead of sitting on their

1772
01:27:49,320 --> 01:27:53,879
Speaker 1: big old booties and insulting me. Well, ladies and gentlemen.

1773
01:27:54,000 --> 01:27:56,360
Speaker 1: I think I have two questions for everyone, Sam, I

1774
01:27:56,400 --> 01:27:59,439
Speaker 1: want all of you beautiful viewers of this. I want

1775
01:27:59,439 --> 01:28:01,439
Speaker 1: to know do you think Opie was the a hole

1776
01:28:01,600 --> 01:28:05,439
Speaker 1: for you know, helping? And but I b maybe is

1777
01:28:05,439 --> 01:28:09,640
Speaker 1: is Amy being an a hole? Here? Is her retaliation

1778
01:28:09,920 --> 01:28:13,439
Speaker 1: too much? Too much? Over the line? Sam, I will

1779
01:28:13,479 --> 01:28:14,600
Speaker 1: pass it to you. What do you What do you

1780
01:28:14,680 --> 01:28:16,040
Speaker 1: think here? What do you what do you think? Well?

1781
01:28:16,400 --> 01:28:19,640
Speaker 1: I think telling Sarah that what she did is not

1782
01:28:19,760 --> 01:28:22,160
Speaker 1: cool is important totally.

1783
01:28:22,280 --> 01:28:26,240
Speaker 2: Not inviting her maybe is a little bit too much

1784
01:28:26,439 --> 01:28:29,680
Speaker 2: because it like she's probably like I think, Sarah, it

1785
01:28:29,760 --> 01:28:31,439
Speaker 2: seems like we was just doing it as a joke,

1786
01:28:31,760 --> 01:28:35,559
Speaker 2: not being serious necessarily, but it is a like kind

1787
01:28:35,640 --> 01:28:38,799
Speaker 2: of a dick move. So I would say, hey, Sarah,

1788
01:28:38,840 --> 01:28:41,840
Speaker 2: that wasn't nice of you. You know this person OPI

1789
01:28:41,960 --> 01:28:44,439
Speaker 2: is doing something like actually kind what did you do?

1790
01:28:44,800 --> 01:28:45,920
Speaker 1: And you know I.

1791
01:28:46,720 --> 01:28:49,519
Speaker 2: Want better behavior from you at the next pool party.

1792
01:28:49,600 --> 01:28:51,720
Speaker 2: That's that's kind of what I would approach it. I

1793
01:28:51,720 --> 01:28:53,840
Speaker 2: would I wouldn't like and not invite her forever.

1794
01:28:54,120 --> 01:28:56,760
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like if I'm trying to empathize and

1795
01:28:56,800 --> 01:29:01,640
Speaker 1: put myself in amy shoes, it's not really that necessary to,

1796
01:29:02,200 --> 01:29:05,240
Speaker 1: you know, go that hard. But maybe maybe also Sarah

1797
01:29:05,439 --> 01:29:08,000
Speaker 1: is just kind of like not a good you know,

1798
01:29:08,360 --> 01:29:11,000
Speaker 1: maybe Sarah's just a little friend. This is yeah, maybe

1799
01:29:11,080 --> 01:29:14,120
Speaker 1: this is like, this is representative of other behavior. I

1800
01:29:14,200 --> 01:29:18,040
Speaker 1: got my useless assistant fired. I don't really care. I

1801
01:29:18,120 --> 01:29:21,160
Speaker 1: had to secure that bag. Am I've a hole. So

1802
01:29:21,240 --> 01:29:23,760
Speaker 1: I know how this sounds. But please read before you

1803
01:29:23,880 --> 01:29:27,519
Speaker 1: judge too, laideo p oh they we judge, then read,

1804
01:29:27,560 --> 01:29:31,120
Speaker 1: and then we judge again. Yeah. I thirty mail. Worked

1805
01:29:31,200 --> 01:29:34,360
Speaker 1: at my current employer for the last three years. Last year,

1806
01:29:34,479 --> 01:29:37,799
Speaker 1: March of twenty twenty, I received a promotion to project manager.

1807
01:29:37,880 --> 01:29:40,599
Speaker 1: In the beginning, everything went well, but in the last

1808
01:29:40,680 --> 01:29:44,000
Speaker 1: month I've been getting more and more negative feedback. I

1809
01:29:44,040 --> 01:29:46,599
Speaker 1: did not understand what was going on or why people

1810
01:29:46,600 --> 01:29:49,960
Speaker 1: were becoming so negative about me. I'm losing clients and

1811
01:29:50,040 --> 01:29:53,880
Speaker 1: several colleagues were really upset with me. Why, well, is

1812
01:29:53,920 --> 01:29:56,639
Speaker 1: there something going around the water cooler? I started talking

1813
01:29:56,640 --> 01:30:00,000
Speaker 1: to my manager and my department head about following courses,

1814
01:30:00,280 --> 01:30:03,320
Speaker 1: getting monthly feedback to perform better. I just wanted to

1815
01:30:03,360 --> 01:30:06,479
Speaker 1: live up to the promotion I received. I felt like

1816
01:30:06,640 --> 01:30:10,320
Speaker 1: I was failing. Then a friend slash colleague twenty seven

1817
01:30:10,360 --> 01:30:13,720
Speaker 1: female of mine came to me angry and demanded that

1818
01:30:13,840 --> 01:30:16,760
Speaker 1: I apologize for what I said. I was really confused,

1819
01:30:16,960 --> 01:30:19,720
Speaker 1: what did OP say and asked why she was so

1820
01:30:19,800 --> 01:30:22,799
Speaker 1: upset with me. She explained that she received an email

1821
01:30:22,960 --> 01:30:26,160
Speaker 1: where I was basically blaming her for the issues that

1822
01:30:26,360 --> 01:30:28,760
Speaker 1: I was dealing with. I was at a loss, and

1823
01:30:28,840 --> 01:30:32,400
Speaker 1: I explained that I never sent out that email and

1824
01:30:32,520 --> 01:30:35,200
Speaker 1: asked if she could show me. We're like Scooby doing this,

1825
01:30:35,400 --> 01:30:37,880
Speaker 1: like what's going on here? Well, she did it, and

1826
01:30:37,960 --> 01:30:41,360
Speaker 1: it had my name, my send address, and everything seemed

1827
01:30:41,640 --> 01:30:45,240
Speaker 1: like the email was for me, but I never sent it.

1828
01:30:45,680 --> 01:30:49,479
Speaker 1: Then it clicked with me. My assistant thirty nine female

1829
01:30:49,600 --> 01:30:53,080
Speaker 1: has access to my email and has the ability to

1830
01:30:53,280 --> 01:30:59,160
Speaker 1: send emails as me, But why, what's the motive? She's

1831
01:30:59,280 --> 01:31:03,200
Speaker 1: also the only one that has those rights. I was flabbergasted,

1832
01:31:03,439 --> 01:31:06,880
Speaker 1: and so much started to make sense. She was next

1833
01:31:06,880 --> 01:31:11,680
Speaker 1: in line for my job and did not receive the promotion. Oh,

1834
01:31:11,720 --> 01:31:15,320
Speaker 1: and so she's trying to sabotage I checked all her

1835
01:31:15,360 --> 01:31:17,640
Speaker 1: sent mail on her prec when she was out for

1836
01:31:17,720 --> 01:31:21,280
Speaker 1: lunch and saw dozens of emails sent as if it

1837
01:31:21,360 --> 01:31:24,960
Speaker 1: was me. Yeah, you're ruining relationships with these people. Cheus.

1838
01:31:25,479 --> 01:31:29,160
Speaker 1: An email still open on her screen showed my email

1839
01:31:29,200 --> 01:31:34,440
Speaker 1: address and a written message to clients with misinformation, passive aggressiveness,

1840
01:31:34,479 --> 01:31:38,920
Speaker 1: and straight up lies. These were sent out under my name.

1841
01:31:39,360 --> 01:31:43,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god. I took screenshots and sent them to myself,

1842
01:31:43,479 --> 01:31:46,040
Speaker 1: then went to my manager and the head of my department.

1843
01:31:46,200 --> 01:31:50,160
Speaker 1: They were pissed. I mean, I can't imagine. Why wouldn't

1844
01:31:50,200 --> 01:31:54,559
Speaker 1: you be. She was fired that same day. I was

1845
01:31:54,600 --> 01:31:57,679
Speaker 1: relieved and all of my colleagues were informed. I thought

1846
01:31:57,680 --> 01:32:00,280
Speaker 1: I was completely in the right here, but some people

1847
01:32:00,320 --> 01:32:03,840
Speaker 1: at work are complaining that I violated company policy for

1848
01:32:03,920 --> 01:32:08,320
Speaker 1: snooping on her PC and violating her privacy. Way what

1849
01:32:08,640 --> 01:32:11,920
Speaker 1: her privacy was violated. My boss and direct colleagues have

1850
01:32:12,040 --> 01:32:14,400
Speaker 1: my back, but the people that knew her she has

1851
01:32:14,439 --> 01:32:17,639
Speaker 1: worked here since twenty eleven and I've only been here

1852
01:32:17,680 --> 01:32:21,440
Speaker 1: since twenty eighteen, say that I went too far. Apparently

1853
01:32:21,600 --> 01:32:24,800
Speaker 1: she's a single mother, with two kids and needed this job. Well,

1854
01:32:24,800 --> 01:32:28,080
Speaker 1: maybe she shouldn't have tried to sabotage you. I also

1855
01:32:28,160 --> 01:32:30,559
Speaker 1: need this job, and she was more than willing to

1856
01:32:30,600 --> 01:32:33,680
Speaker 1: sacrifice me for her benefit. I don't see how I

1857
01:32:33,720 --> 01:32:36,599
Speaker 1: could be in the wrong for defending myself. Maybe I'm

1858
01:32:36,680 --> 01:32:39,559
Speaker 1: just too close to the situation. Did I go too

1859
01:32:39,640 --> 01:32:44,000
Speaker 1: far by going on her pc? There is an update?

1860
01:32:44,439 --> 01:32:48,479
Speaker 1: But Sam, ladies and gentlemen watching, what do we think?

1861
01:32:48,800 --> 01:32:49,120
Speaker 1: I mean?

1862
01:32:49,160 --> 01:32:54,479
Speaker 2: Going on someone else's computer is like kind generally not great. Yeah,

1863
01:32:54,800 --> 01:32:57,519
Speaker 2: I think he had enough evidence with the email that

1864
01:32:57,600 --> 01:33:01,200
Speaker 2: was sent from her already. Obviously the assistant is the ahole,

1865
01:33:01,280 --> 01:33:02,880
Speaker 2: but I think op's a little bit of the ahole

1866
01:33:03,000 --> 01:33:03,839
Speaker 2: for snooping.

1867
01:33:03,960 --> 01:33:06,160
Speaker 1: They just let me know that they're holding a meeting

1868
01:33:06,160 --> 01:33:09,680
Speaker 1: to clarify what exactly happened. They were catching on to

1869
01:33:09,800 --> 01:33:12,920
Speaker 1: the people that weren't happy about her being fired, and

1870
01:33:12,960 --> 01:33:16,120
Speaker 1: they want to resolve any issues before they start taking route.

1871
01:33:16,160 --> 01:33:19,040
Speaker 1: I'll update once the meeting is over. Update number two.

1872
01:33:19,200 --> 01:33:21,639
Speaker 1: Meeting took about an hour and a half, and after

1873
01:33:21,680 --> 01:33:24,040
Speaker 1: that I was in and out of talks with colleagues

1874
01:33:24,080 --> 01:33:26,760
Speaker 1: and other people who has poorly explained what she was

1875
01:33:26,800 --> 01:33:29,680
Speaker 1: doing and has done to me and the company. The

1876
01:33:29,720 --> 01:33:33,640
Speaker 1: attitude towards me noticeably changed in a positive direction, with

1877
01:33:33,680 --> 01:33:36,960
Speaker 1: a lot of people apologizing to me and explaining they've

1878
01:33:37,000 --> 01:33:39,800
Speaker 1: known her for years, were friends with her, and could

1879
01:33:39,800 --> 01:33:43,639
Speaker 1: not imagine she actually did something like this. Honestly, I'm

1880
01:33:43,640 --> 01:33:46,400
Speaker 1: happy it ended this way. Hr and my boss really

1881
01:33:46,400 --> 01:33:49,639
Speaker 1: had my back here and preemptively handled to avoid any

1882
01:33:49,760 --> 01:33:53,880
Speaker 1: lingering negative activity. Nothing but praise for them. I've requested

1883
01:33:53,920 --> 01:33:56,080
Speaker 1: some time off, which was approved, and I'll be home

1884
01:33:56,120 --> 01:33:59,360
Speaker 1: for a week starting next week. Her my request slash advice.

1885
01:33:59,400 --> 01:34:02,000
Speaker 1: They're going to revise or at least look at the

1886
01:34:02,080 --> 01:34:06,080
Speaker 1: company policy regarding access to other people's emails and other

1887
01:34:06,160 --> 01:34:09,240
Speaker 1: security issues that I've noticed. It'll probably be the last

1888
01:34:09,360 --> 01:34:11,960
Speaker 1: update for now. I might make an update post if

1889
01:34:12,000 --> 01:34:16,160
Speaker 1: anything else significant happens. Thank you all again. Well I'm

1890
01:34:16,200 --> 01:34:18,599
Speaker 1: glad it kind of all worked out for OP. Yeah.

1891
01:34:18,640 --> 01:34:22,320
Speaker 1: OP definitely deserved to be basically have their name cleared.

1892
01:34:22,479 --> 01:34:25,040
Speaker 1: I just found out my boyfriend is married and now

1893
01:34:25,080 --> 01:34:25,760
Speaker 1: I'm pregnant.

1894
01:34:25,800 --> 01:34:29,439
Speaker 2: So I'm going to a little tit for tat Hey,

1895
01:34:29,520 --> 01:34:31,280
Speaker 2: that's what we need more in this world.

1896
01:34:31,640 --> 01:34:34,479
Speaker 1: Tits. So I know how the title sounds, but to

1897
01:34:34,560 --> 01:34:35,040
Speaker 1: hear me out.

1898
01:34:35,240 --> 01:34:38,639
Speaker 2: I twenty six female, started dating my now boyfriend, thirty

1899
01:34:38,640 --> 01:34:41,360
Speaker 2: five male. We have been dating four seven months. A

1900
01:34:41,400 --> 01:34:43,639
Speaker 2: month ago, he told me that he had to talk

1901
01:34:43,680 --> 01:34:46,880
Speaker 2: to me about something important. I honestly thought maybe he

1902
01:34:46,960 --> 01:34:49,280
Speaker 2: wanted to break up with me, but what he said

1903
01:34:49,680 --> 01:34:51,639
Speaker 2: was so much worse.

1904
01:34:51,960 --> 01:34:52,680
Speaker 1: It always is.

1905
01:34:53,040 --> 01:34:55,519
Speaker 2: My boyfriend sat me down and said that there was

1906
01:34:55,560 --> 01:34:58,840
Speaker 2: a problem, the problem being he's falling in love with me.

1907
01:34:59,080 --> 01:35:01,040
Speaker 2: When he said that, I I was so confused. I

1908
01:35:01,040 --> 01:35:03,280
Speaker 2: didn't understand what the problem was. We don't understand either.

1909
01:35:03,439 --> 01:35:05,679
Speaker 2: I asked him why that was a problem, and that's

1910
01:35:05,720 --> 01:35:09,040
Speaker 2: when he told me that he's actually married and has

1911
01:35:09,120 --> 01:35:09,880
Speaker 2: been divorced.

1912
01:35:10,120 --> 01:35:13,559
Speaker 1: I wonder why, and he lied about his age. He's

1913
01:35:13,600 --> 01:35:17,320
Speaker 1: actually forty two, seven years older. That's old stuff. Hey,

1914
01:35:17,320 --> 01:35:18,840
Speaker 1: if you want a data forty two old right now.

1915
01:35:19,000 --> 01:35:23,519
Speaker 1: I mean, I sat there shocked. I didn't know what's saying.

1916
01:35:23,560 --> 01:35:25,839
Speaker 2: When I finally came out of the shock, I grabbed

1917
01:35:25,880 --> 01:35:28,880
Speaker 2: my stuff and told them, never call or text me

1918
01:35:28,920 --> 01:35:32,200
Speaker 2: ever again. Get out, take your walker with you. He tried,

1919
01:35:32,280 --> 01:35:35,120
Speaker 2: saying what most cheaters do, that I was different. His

1920
01:35:35,160 --> 01:35:37,800
Speaker 2: wife and him hadn't been happy in a really long time.

1921
01:35:37,920 --> 01:35:43,639
Speaker 1: And it was considering divorce, considering divorce. Ain't divorce, is it? Though? Divorce? Divorce?

1922
01:35:43,920 --> 01:35:47,840
Speaker 1: Why don't you consider it before you engage in the relationship.

1923
01:35:47,960 --> 01:35:51,080
Speaker 2: I still grabbed my stuff and left, and I didn't

1924
01:35:51,080 --> 01:35:52,080
Speaker 2: think twice about it.

1925
01:35:52,120 --> 01:35:53,080
Speaker 1: There we go, and for.

1926
01:35:53,080 --> 01:35:55,839
Speaker 2: You all, you got some standards off queen. The problem

1927
01:35:56,000 --> 01:36:00,439
Speaker 2: came about two weeks ago. My period was two months late.

1928
01:36:00,800 --> 01:36:03,360
Speaker 2: Two months, ladies, I would love to know when do

1929
01:36:03,400 --> 01:36:07,080
Speaker 2: you get worried about when your lateness is. I wasn't

1930
01:36:07,120 --> 01:36:10,559
Speaker 2: worried because I am extremely irregular, okay, But after being

1931
01:36:10,640 --> 01:36:13,880
Speaker 2: late for a second month, I decided to take a EPT,

1932
01:36:14,280 --> 01:36:18,880
Speaker 2: which is an emergency pregnancy test, and it was positive.

1933
01:36:19,160 --> 01:36:19,400
Speaker 1: Oh.

1934
01:36:19,960 --> 01:36:22,120
Speaker 2: I thought maybe it was a false positive and took

1935
01:36:22,320 --> 01:36:23,720
Speaker 2: six more tests.

1936
01:36:24,160 --> 01:36:27,960
Speaker 1: Damn, that's bro. Pregnancy test are like fifty bucks. Run

1937
01:36:28,000 --> 01:36:29,639
Speaker 1: it back and they were all positive.

1938
01:36:29,800 --> 01:36:31,680
Speaker 2: Don't ask me why I know the pregnancy test are

1939
01:36:31,720 --> 01:36:32,800
Speaker 2: fifty bucks.

1940
01:36:32,920 --> 01:36:34,000
Speaker 1: I was so upset.

1941
01:36:34,160 --> 01:36:37,240
Speaker 2: I cried out of shock and anger because of the

1942
01:36:37,320 --> 01:36:40,920
Speaker 2: situation as a whole. I call my now ex boyfriend

1943
01:36:41,120 --> 01:36:43,519
Speaker 2: and he didn't respond. I texted him telling him we

1944
01:36:43,560 --> 01:36:47,879
Speaker 2: need to talk, and radio silence. After days of calling

1945
01:36:47,960 --> 01:36:51,000
Speaker 2: and texting, he finally answered the phone and asked if

1946
01:36:51,040 --> 01:36:53,439
Speaker 2: I was pregnant. He didn't think it was his and

1947
01:36:53,479 --> 01:36:55,880
Speaker 2: he said to stop texting and calling and hung up.

1948
01:36:56,080 --> 01:37:04,759
Speaker 1: What happened all the stop it? I was livid? How

1949
01:37:05,040 --> 01:37:05,640
Speaker 1: dare he?

1950
01:37:06,040 --> 01:37:08,959
Speaker 2: I wasn't the one lying and cheating. Now being pregnant,

1951
01:37:09,080 --> 01:37:10,960
Speaker 2: I would have to explain to my family the real

1952
01:37:11,000 --> 01:37:14,120
Speaker 2: reason I broke up with him and tell them I'm pregnant.

1953
01:37:14,160 --> 01:37:15,639
Speaker 1: Fast forward to Mother's Day.

1954
01:37:15,800 --> 01:37:19,280
Speaker 2: Happy Mother's Day, HOPI, my family and I went out

1955
01:37:19,320 --> 01:37:22,120
Speaker 2: to dinner Saturday night to celebrate. I'm about twelve weeks

1956
01:37:22,160 --> 01:37:24,599
Speaker 2: a long in my pregnancy and have to pee all

1957
01:37:24,840 --> 01:37:27,320
Speaker 2: the time. As I was walking to the bathroom, I

1958
01:37:27,360 --> 01:37:30,600
Speaker 2: saw my lying, cheating hooker of an ex and he

1959
01:37:30,720 --> 01:37:32,519
Speaker 2: was there with his family and friends, and based on

1960
01:37:32,600 --> 01:37:35,200
Speaker 2: his body language, his wife.

1961
01:37:34,960 --> 01:37:39,320
Speaker 1: Oo, here we go good.

1962
01:37:39,680 --> 01:37:44,000
Speaker 2: Something good in the kitchen. I was so hurt and

1963
01:37:44,120 --> 01:37:47,960
Speaker 2: angry about everything. Rightfully, so ope, I didn't think before acting.

1964
01:37:48,120 --> 01:37:52,040
Speaker 2: I went to their table. Oh no, I introduced myself.

1965
01:37:52,160 --> 01:37:55,240
Speaker 1: I told everyone at the table what happened from start

1966
01:37:55,439 --> 01:37:59,839
Speaker 1: to finish, showed them pictures of us together and text

1967
01:38:00,040 --> 01:38:03,599
Speaker 1: and as a final note, I announced my pregnancy. Before

1968
01:38:03,640 --> 01:38:07,000
Speaker 1: I leave the table and I grabbed his drink and

1969
01:38:07,120 --> 01:38:12,040
Speaker 1: I threw it out him. I love it, Yo.

1970
01:38:15,960 --> 01:38:19,040
Speaker 2: I hope he's rich, and I hope the child support

1971
01:38:19,240 --> 01:38:23,040
Speaker 2: is oodles and yeah. I then looked over at his

1972
01:38:23,200 --> 01:38:26,559
Speaker 2: wife all and she was bawling. I felt bad, but

1973
01:38:26,680 --> 01:38:29,639
Speaker 2: I was so hurt and angry? So did I take

1974
01:38:29,640 --> 01:38:32,200
Speaker 2: it too far? Am I the A hole? Should I

1975
01:38:32,240 --> 01:38:35,120
Speaker 2: have done things differently? And there is an update? John,

1976
01:38:35,240 --> 01:38:38,240
Speaker 2: there is an update, But please tell me in the

1977
01:38:38,240 --> 01:38:40,559
Speaker 2: comments would you have taken it so like? Would you

1978
01:38:40,560 --> 01:38:42,320
Speaker 2: have taken it as far as OPI? Also, would you

1979
01:38:42,360 --> 01:38:45,400
Speaker 2: even have thought to do that? Because that was chef's

1980
01:38:45,479 --> 01:38:49,080
Speaker 2: kiss well orchestrated? Well, tell me what you would do

1981
01:38:49,200 --> 01:38:52,200
Speaker 2: in this situation if you saw your cheating, lying, dirty

1982
01:38:52,320 --> 01:38:56,120
Speaker 2: horror of an X and I guess baby daddy, daddy

1983
01:38:56,280 --> 01:38:58,360
Speaker 2: daddy in a restaurant with his wife. What would you do?

1984
01:38:58,560 --> 01:39:00,800
Speaker 2: But John, what would you do? Were getting to this update?

1985
01:39:00,840 --> 01:39:02,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know if

1986
01:39:02,280 --> 01:39:04,519
Speaker 1: I would have done that, but I'm here for.

1987
01:39:04,439 --> 01:39:07,000
Speaker 2: It, hon, But honestly, if you could also think about

1988
01:39:07,000 --> 01:39:09,160
Speaker 2: it like she's doing a service to this woman.

1989
01:39:09,479 --> 01:39:11,320
Speaker 1: She is and it's like at the end of the day,

1990
01:39:11,360 --> 01:39:13,680
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, like, you know, why would you make

1991
01:39:13,720 --> 01:39:20,280
Speaker 1: the wife cry like that the husband? The husbands happened, Yeah, exactly, exactly.

1992
01:39:20,479 --> 01:39:22,759
Speaker 2: Okay, So his wife reached out to me and wanted

1993
01:39:22,800 --> 01:39:24,680
Speaker 2: to meet up. I met up with her because I

1994
01:39:24,680 --> 01:39:26,400
Speaker 2: felt like it was the least I could do after

1995
01:39:26,439 --> 01:39:29,519
Speaker 2: everything that happened. She thanked me for everything I did

1996
01:39:29,680 --> 01:39:32,360
Speaker 2: and said she let me know she filed for divorce.

1997
01:39:32,640 --> 01:39:35,559
Speaker 2: She had enough of the lies and the cheating. I

1998
01:39:35,720 --> 01:39:38,479
Speaker 2: was one of many over the time with their marriage.

1999
01:39:38,520 --> 01:39:40,519
Speaker 2: She told me I was the first woman to actually

2000
01:39:40,520 --> 01:39:44,439
Speaker 2: present pictures of pregnancy test and ultrasound and felt I

2001
01:39:44,520 --> 01:39:47,280
Speaker 2: was being genuine about what happened. I apologize, saying I

2002
01:39:47,320 --> 01:39:50,080
Speaker 2: never wanted to embarrass her. I was just so angry

2003
01:39:50,120 --> 01:39:52,200
Speaker 2: and I saw red. I told her if I had

2004
01:39:52,240 --> 01:39:54,439
Speaker 2: known he was married, I would have never dated him.

2005
01:39:54,560 --> 01:39:57,120
Speaker 2: She told me not to worry and believe me, especially

2006
01:39:57,200 --> 01:39:59,440
Speaker 2: with what I did when I saw him. She apologized

2007
01:39:59,439 --> 01:40:01,360
Speaker 2: to me for everything he did. This woman is a

2008
01:40:01,400 --> 01:40:04,800
Speaker 2: freaking saint deserves better. We cried about everything we've been

2009
01:40:04,840 --> 01:40:08,320
Speaker 2: through and comforted each other through the mess he created.

2010
01:40:08,439 --> 01:40:10,200
Speaker 2: I felt so much better having a heart to heart

2011
01:40:10,200 --> 01:40:12,080
Speaker 2: with her. And wish her the best. It was no

2012
01:40:12,200 --> 01:40:15,840
Speaker 2: surprise that he came looking for me, begging me to forgive.

2013
01:40:15,640 --> 01:40:16,840
Speaker 1: Him, and now he lost his wife.

2014
01:40:16,840 --> 01:40:18,800
Speaker 2: He was like, all right, I best I gotta go

2015
01:40:18,840 --> 01:40:22,559
Speaker 2: to the mistress during my freaking child, I told him

2016
01:40:22,600 --> 01:40:25,040
Speaker 2: to get lost and I never wanted to see him again,

2017
01:40:25,320 --> 01:40:28,400
Speaker 2: especially after saying the baby was not his. I wasn't

2018
01:40:28,439 --> 01:40:31,000
Speaker 2: surprised he tried to come back, especially after his wife

2019
01:40:31,080 --> 01:40:33,720
Speaker 2: filed for divorce. When it comes to the baby, there

2020
01:40:33,800 --> 01:40:37,400
Speaker 2: is also an update. Oh, after a lot of thinking,

2021
01:40:37,680 --> 01:40:40,760
Speaker 2: I have decided to keep my baby. Unfortunately, I was

2022
01:40:40,800 --> 01:40:43,880
Speaker 2: having some issues with bleeding due to the fetus not

2023
01:40:43,960 --> 01:40:47,360
Speaker 2: being fully attached properly to my uterine wall. After being

2024
01:40:47,400 --> 01:40:50,040
Speaker 2: on bed rest this past week, bleeding got worse and

2025
01:40:50,080 --> 01:40:53,599
Speaker 2: I lost my baby. And after having this miscarriage, it's

2026
01:40:53,600 --> 01:40:55,519
Speaker 2: been a very difficult time. I know everything happens for

2027
01:40:55,560 --> 01:40:56,599
Speaker 2: a reason, but it really hurts.

2028
01:40:56,680 --> 01:40:58,719
Speaker 1: I have a lot of guilt surrounding the miscarriage because

2029
01:40:58,800 --> 01:41:03,240
Speaker 1: I wanted an abortion, so harshly blame myself. Don't do that, op, Yeah, no,

2030
01:41:03,320 --> 01:41:04,160
Speaker 1: I don't deserve that.

2031
01:41:04,240 --> 01:41:07,360
Speaker 2: So now I'm just taking some time to heal and

2032
01:41:07,439 --> 01:41:11,120
Speaker 2: grieve my baby. Thank you for all the advice and comments.

2033
01:41:11,360 --> 01:41:13,000
Speaker 2: Holy that was a doozy.

2034
01:41:13,280 --> 01:41:14,000
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.

2035
01:41:14,080 --> 01:41:16,200
Speaker 2: Let us know what you would have done in this situation, please?

2036
01:41:16,520 --> 01:41:20,040
Speaker 2: Would you have taken back this cheating X that is

2037
01:41:20,080 --> 01:41:22,240
Speaker 2: your baby daddy? Would you have done anything differently? Put

2038
01:41:22,280 --> 01:41:25,200
Speaker 2: your answers in the comments. John One final verdict.

2039
01:41:25,080 --> 01:41:28,040
Speaker 1: Yes, I do not think OP is the a hole

2040
01:41:28,240 --> 01:41:30,479
Speaker 1: you know, and and even more so after hearing in

2041
01:41:30,520 --> 01:41:33,479
Speaker 1: the update how like the now ex wife you know

2042
01:41:33,600 --> 01:41:35,240
Speaker 1: came to her and they were able to kind of

2043
01:41:35,360 --> 01:41:37,920
Speaker 1: like basically support each other in this moment, which which

2044
01:41:37,960 --> 01:41:41,720
Speaker 1: which was actually great to see. So obviously obviously the

2045
01:41:42,160 --> 01:41:47,360
Speaker 1: boyfriend X whatever like just clearly the a whole so bad. Oh,

2046
01:41:47,400 --> 01:41:49,759
Speaker 1: pretty much the only a hole in this whole story,

2047
01:41:49,800 --> 01:41:53,000
Speaker 1: which is rare, which which is rare, only one a hole.

2048
01:41:53,160 --> 01:41:56,639
Speaker 1: My psycho sister is obsessed with my boyfriend. I think

2049
01:41:56,680 --> 01:41:59,200
Speaker 1: she might try to steal him from me. What do

2050
01:41:59,280 --> 01:42:03,960
Speaker 1: I do a uglier boyfriend? So I female twenty three,

2051
01:42:04,040 --> 01:42:07,320
Speaker 1: have been dating my current boyfriend, male twenty eight for

2052
01:42:07,439 --> 01:42:11,040
Speaker 1: four months and I'm totally smitten. He's an old man.

2053
01:42:11,320 --> 01:42:15,719
Speaker 1: My boyfriend is the sweetest, smartest, kindest, most caring guy

2054
01:42:15,880 --> 01:42:18,720
Speaker 1: I have ever met, and I feel so lucky to

2055
01:42:18,840 --> 01:42:20,600
Speaker 1: have found him. We met at the start of the

2056
01:42:20,640 --> 01:42:23,800
Speaker 1: new semester at our university. He's a graduate student that

2057
01:42:23,920 --> 01:42:26,080
Speaker 1: was running a tutoring group that I joined. I'm a

2058
01:42:26,160 --> 01:42:29,640
Speaker 1: senior getting my bachelor's. We hit it off immediately and

2059
01:42:29,720 --> 01:42:32,920
Speaker 1: found out that we had a ton in common, including

2060
01:42:33,120 --> 01:42:35,800
Speaker 1: the same hometown. Nice. We even went to the same

2061
01:42:35,880 --> 01:42:39,320
Speaker 1: high school, although we never met previously. Yeah, because you're

2062
01:42:39,360 --> 01:42:43,559
Speaker 1: a baby's he's oldesta. He graduated the year before I

2063
01:42:43,640 --> 01:42:46,000
Speaker 1: started my freshman year, but he was in the same

2064
01:42:46,040 --> 01:42:48,360
Speaker 1: grade as my sister. I asked if he knew her,

2065
01:42:48,479 --> 01:42:52,759
Speaker 1: and he said yes, How well did you know her? Oh? God?

2066
01:42:53,080 --> 01:42:56,679
Speaker 1: But they hadn't kept in touch since graduation. We spent

2067
01:42:56,720 --> 01:42:59,080
Speaker 1: the last four months growing super close, and we were

2068
01:42:59,120 --> 01:43:01,639
Speaker 1: talking about maybe be bringing each other to our family

2069
01:43:01,680 --> 01:43:04,559
Speaker 1: holiday celebration. We didn't get to do Thanksgiving, but we

2070
01:43:04,720 --> 01:43:08,480
Speaker 1: decided to do Christmas together, and I was so excited.

2071
01:43:08,600 --> 01:43:11,200
Speaker 1: I hadn't told my parents or sister I was seeing anyone,

2072
01:43:11,280 --> 01:43:13,360
Speaker 1: so I decided to call them and let them know

2073
01:43:13,479 --> 01:43:15,600
Speaker 1: to make sure that it wasn't an issue if he

2074
01:43:15,680 --> 01:43:18,839
Speaker 1: came to our Christmas celebration this year. Ooh a boys

2075
01:43:19,000 --> 01:43:22,479
Speaker 1: coming over for Christmas. That's that's big new. That's big news, bears.

2076
01:43:22,560 --> 01:43:24,679
Speaker 1: My mom was super excited for me when I told

2077
01:43:24,720 --> 01:43:27,400
Speaker 1: her all about my boyfriend, and my dad said he

2078
01:43:27,520 --> 01:43:30,880
Speaker 1: sounded like a nice young man and he would be

2079
01:43:30,880 --> 01:43:34,160
Speaker 1: about the middle aged man, a little a nice middle

2080
01:43:34,160 --> 01:43:36,680
Speaker 1: aged man, twenty eight, one foot in the grave, come on.

2081
01:43:36,920 --> 01:43:39,920
Speaker 1: I then called my sister and I told her the

2082
01:43:39,960 --> 01:43:42,280
Speaker 1: news and even joked that it would be a little

2083
01:43:42,360 --> 01:43:45,519
Speaker 1: high school reunion for her. She was initially very excited

2084
01:43:45,560 --> 01:43:47,760
Speaker 1: to meet my new boyfriend, but when I told her

2085
01:43:47,840 --> 01:43:54,120
Speaker 1: who it was, oh, her mood changed dramatically. Uh oh,

2086
01:43:54,320 --> 01:43:58,080
Speaker 1: I think there's some history. She told me she would

2087
01:43:58,120 --> 01:44:01,720
Speaker 1: not be comfortable having a strange at her family's Christmas.

2088
01:44:01,800 --> 01:44:04,599
Speaker 1: He ain't no stranger. He ain't no stranger, for sure,

2089
01:44:04,840 --> 01:44:07,960
Speaker 1: and my sister said that she was sorry, but he

2090
01:44:08,439 --> 01:44:11,760
Speaker 1: can't come. They can inside of me. I was a

2091
01:44:11,760 --> 01:44:14,360
Speaker 1: bit shocked and asked her to explain, because she's very

2092
01:44:14,360 --> 01:44:17,120
Speaker 1: outgoing and never had a problem with strangers before. This

2093
01:44:17,240 --> 01:44:19,320
Speaker 1: isn't the first boyfriend that one of us has brought

2094
01:44:19,320 --> 01:44:21,400
Speaker 1: home for the holidays. I asked if she had not

2095
01:44:21,560 --> 01:44:23,679
Speaker 1: liked him in high school or something. And that's why

2096
01:44:23,680 --> 01:44:25,800
Speaker 1: she didn't want him to come. She said no, and

2097
01:44:25,840 --> 01:44:29,720
Speaker 1: that she I mean barely even remembered him, Like who

2098
01:44:29,800 --> 01:44:34,439
Speaker 1: is he? Like? Who is he? I remember? Is how

2099
01:44:35,240 --> 01:44:39,040
Speaker 1: ginormous his heart was? I asked if she would feel

2100
01:44:39,040 --> 01:44:42,280
Speaker 1: better meeting him before Christmas so it's not overwhelming on

2101
01:44:42,320 --> 01:44:46,160
Speaker 1: the actual holiday. She got really firm and told me

2102
01:44:46,400 --> 01:44:49,760
Speaker 1: that she didn't want to meet him before, during, or

2103
01:44:49,840 --> 01:44:52,920
Speaker 1: after Christmas and to drop it, and then she hung

2104
01:44:53,000 --> 01:44:55,040
Speaker 1: up on me. I mean, she's gonna have to meet

2105
01:44:55,120 --> 01:44:58,400
Speaker 1: him eventually if it keeps going, right, That is so true.

2106
01:44:58,479 --> 01:45:01,120
Speaker 1: So what are we gonna do? Like, never meet this dude?

2107
01:45:01,160 --> 01:45:03,519
Speaker 1: Come on, Yeah, at the wedding, she'll just be like

2108
01:45:03,600 --> 01:45:05,800
Speaker 1: sitting at home just like you. No, I don't want

2109
01:45:05,800 --> 01:45:08,360
Speaker 1: to talk to you. He's still a stranger to me.

2110
01:45:08,439 --> 01:45:12,560
Speaker 1: I haven't met him before has. She texted me a

2111
01:45:12,600 --> 01:45:15,040
Speaker 1: little later that it was rude of me to keep

2112
01:45:15,120 --> 01:45:17,840
Speaker 1: trying to force her to meet someone she doesn't want

2113
01:45:17,880 --> 01:45:20,240
Speaker 1: to and hopes I won't bring it up again. This

2114
01:45:20,360 --> 01:45:23,720
Speaker 1: makes no sense, bro, it's her boyfriend. Like, if it

2115
01:45:23,760 --> 01:45:27,559
Speaker 1: goes anywhere, she's they're gonna have to meet. Yeah, It's

2116
01:45:27,560 --> 01:45:30,040
Speaker 1: just God, this makes no sense. I asked my mom

2117
01:45:30,080 --> 01:45:32,519
Speaker 1: about it, but she's just as confused as I am,

2118
01:45:32,880 --> 01:45:35,200
Speaker 1: and said she would talk to her for me. I

2119
01:45:35,320 --> 01:45:37,800
Speaker 1: obviously won't bring it up to my boyfriend if it

2120
01:45:37,880 --> 01:45:40,559
Speaker 1: makes my sister uncomfortable. I just wish that she would

2121
01:45:40,560 --> 01:45:44,479
Speaker 1: give me a good reason, especially since she basically said

2122
01:45:44,560 --> 01:45:49,080
Speaker 1: she never wants to meet him. I am just so confused.

2123
01:45:49,439 --> 01:45:51,960
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? I talked to my boyfriend

2124
01:45:52,000 --> 01:45:54,840
Speaker 1: last night, and he also seems confused. I asked him

2125
01:45:54,880 --> 01:45:57,200
Speaker 1: to please be honest with me and to let me

2126
01:45:57,320 --> 01:46:00,600
Speaker 1: know if anything went on between them just running in

2127
01:46:00,640 --> 01:46:03,000
Speaker 1: the same circles. He told me no, and they had

2128
01:46:03,080 --> 01:46:06,280
Speaker 1: only ever hung out in groups. She was really more

2129
01:46:06,280 --> 01:46:08,400
Speaker 1: of a friend of a friend and he had a

2130
01:46:08,479 --> 01:46:11,600
Speaker 1: long term girlfriend he committed to throughout high school, so

2131
01:46:11,680 --> 01:46:14,439
Speaker 1: he didn't even hook up with her. She also never

2132
01:46:14,479 --> 01:46:18,080
Speaker 1: bullied him, and from his perspective, he never bullied her.

2133
01:46:18,200 --> 01:46:20,839
Speaker 1: He said that they always had a friendly slash civil

2134
01:46:21,040 --> 01:46:24,599
Speaker 1: relationship and never so much as got into an argument.

2135
01:46:24,880 --> 01:46:27,559
Speaker 1: He doesn't know what her issue is with him. There's

2136
01:46:27,640 --> 01:46:30,320
Speaker 1: obviously more to the story from my sister's side, so

2137
01:46:30,400 --> 01:46:33,600
Speaker 1: I have to try to speak to her again, possibly

2138
01:46:33,680 --> 01:46:36,679
Speaker 1: in a few days. When I go home for the holidays, Sam,

2139
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Speaker 1: there's a day coming up. There is an update. Yes,

2140
01:46:40,560 --> 01:46:43,960
Speaker 1: thank god. All my position stays the same.

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01:46:44,120 --> 01:46:46,960
Speaker 2: Opie is not the a hole and the sister slept

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01:46:47,000 --> 01:46:50,599
Speaker 2: with OPI's boyfriend, Yeah, because a massive crush or had

2143
01:46:50,640 --> 01:46:53,280
Speaker 2: a massive crush. Because maybe the boyfriend actually is telling

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01:46:53,360 --> 01:46:55,760
Speaker 2: the truth and she just had a massive crush that

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01:46:55,840 --> 01:46:57,120
Speaker 2: was like never reciprocated.

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01:46:57,160 --> 01:46:59,200
Speaker 1: I could see that being a thing too. There's only

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01:46:59,439 --> 01:47:02,360
Speaker 1: one way to to the bottom of that update. That night,

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01:47:02,400 --> 01:47:05,280
Speaker 1: I ended up messaging my sister's childhood best friend to

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01:47:05,280 --> 01:47:07,840
Speaker 1: see if she knew anything about my boyfriend. Oh, she's

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01:47:07,880 --> 01:47:11,599
Speaker 1: doing some investigative journalism. Now. I played it as did

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01:47:11,640 --> 01:47:14,320
Speaker 1: you know my boyfriend in high school? Rather than what

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01:47:14,360 --> 01:47:18,040
Speaker 1: the fuck is my sister's problem? Smart choice smart. She

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01:47:18,120 --> 01:47:22,479
Speaker 1: confirmed his name and then asked if my sister knew yet. Oho,

2154
01:47:23,479 --> 01:47:27,240
Speaker 1: Oh we have. We're starting to get to this, to

2155
01:47:27,280 --> 01:47:29,400
Speaker 1: get somewhere on the map. A red flag went up

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01:47:29,439 --> 01:47:32,600
Speaker 1: and I said yes, and she doesn't seem happy. She

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01:47:32,840 --> 01:47:36,680
Speaker 1: then asked to call me, and a lot of you

2158
01:47:37,040 --> 01:47:42,080
Speaker 1: were right. My sister was obsessed with my boyfriend from

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01:47:42,320 --> 01:47:45,920
Speaker 1: seventh grade all the way up until they graduated and

2160
01:47:46,080 --> 01:47:50,080
Speaker 1: went to college in different states, seven years of your

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01:47:50,160 --> 01:47:53,640
Speaker 1: childhood too. I asked her if there was more to

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01:47:53,760 --> 01:47:56,840
Speaker 1: it than that, because I can't believe my grown sister

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01:47:56,920 --> 01:47:59,360
Speaker 1: would act this way over a little crush. And she

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01:47:59,479 --> 01:48:02,960
Speaker 1: told me it wasn't a little crush. She was legit

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01:48:03,200 --> 01:48:06,120
Speaker 1: in love with him. Since she said in love, I

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01:48:06,240 --> 01:48:09,200
Speaker 1: asked if my boyfriend knew or if anything had happened

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01:48:09,200 --> 01:48:11,639
Speaker 1: between them, and she said that as far as she knew,

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01:48:11,840 --> 01:48:16,040
Speaker 1: he didn't know, and they for sure had never hooked up,

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01:48:16,120 --> 01:48:23,400
Speaker 1: to my sister's extreme displeasure. Oh wow, so it's like, basically,

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01:48:23,800 --> 01:48:27,800
Speaker 1: OPI has finally gotten what the ciss always wanted. I yeah,

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01:48:27,920 --> 01:48:30,200
Speaker 1: that must be what it is, you know, hikes, that

2172
01:48:30,800 --> 01:48:33,360
Speaker 1: must be what it is. She pined for him for

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01:48:33,520 --> 01:48:36,640
Speaker 1: years and was devastated when he started dating one of

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01:48:36,680 --> 01:48:39,280
Speaker 1: their other friends freshman year. She would show up to

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01:48:39,360 --> 01:48:42,360
Speaker 1: his work with other guys, only go to parties if

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01:48:42,400 --> 01:48:45,599
Speaker 1: she knew he was going, hooked up with his best

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01:48:45,640 --> 01:48:49,160
Speaker 1: friend to try to make him jealous, and once even

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01:48:49,280 --> 01:48:53,840
Speaker 1: tried to break him and his girlfriend up. Wow. Okay,

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01:48:53,960 --> 01:48:57,439
Speaker 1: I ope, He's sister is crazy. Yeah, she's a many

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01:48:57,600 --> 01:49:01,599
Speaker 1: full on this full on Psycho. When my boyfriend and

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01:49:01,640 --> 01:49:04,920
Speaker 1: his then girlfriend did eventually break up senior year, my

2182
01:49:05,040 --> 01:49:07,599
Speaker 1: sister thought it was her big moment, but he never

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01:49:07,680 --> 01:49:11,679
Speaker 1: even gave her a second glance. Apparently she still held

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01:49:11,720 --> 01:49:15,080
Speaker 1: a small torch for him all these years still, and

2185
01:49:15,120 --> 01:49:17,960
Speaker 1: her friend says she thinks that she would still want

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01:49:18,040 --> 01:49:20,200
Speaker 1: to be with him if he would have her, and

2187
01:49:20,240 --> 01:49:23,719
Speaker 1: she's probably just jealous. Oh, this is kind of crazy

2188
01:49:23,760 --> 01:49:26,519
Speaker 1: because you know that sister is going to be after

2189
01:49:26,560 --> 01:49:29,920
Speaker 1: this dude the whole relationship. That's the thing is like,

2190
01:49:30,080 --> 01:49:35,040
Speaker 1: that's what's crazy. Like this is like not a small obsession,

2191
01:49:35,200 --> 01:49:38,760
Speaker 1: like now that this dude is in her life. Ah, dude,

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01:49:38,840 --> 01:49:41,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like worried for the relationship. I'm just

2193
01:49:41,720 --> 01:49:44,320
Speaker 1: worried for the relationship if the sisters it sounds like

2194
01:49:44,320 --> 01:49:46,000
Speaker 1: the sister's going to try to sabotage it. I'm going

2195
01:49:46,040 --> 01:49:47,880
Speaker 1: to try to talk to her one more time and

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01:49:48,000 --> 01:49:50,479
Speaker 1: let her know that I know about her crush and

2197
01:49:50,520 --> 01:49:53,240
Speaker 1: hopefully we could deal with this like adults. My sister

2198
01:49:53,320 --> 01:49:55,479
Speaker 1: did end up calling me the next day and asked

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01:49:55,479 --> 01:49:57,200
Speaker 1: to come over to speak with me. When she got

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01:49:57,240 --> 01:50:01,000
Speaker 1: to my parents, she looked very sheepish. And immediate apologized

2201
01:50:01,000 --> 01:50:03,479
Speaker 1: for acting crazy and shutting me down for bringing my

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01:50:03,560 --> 01:50:07,400
Speaker 1: boyfriend without talking to me first. Little more reasonable. Now, Okay,

2203
01:50:07,439 --> 01:50:10,760
Speaker 1: she's probably just shocked, you know, probably yeah, yeah, still

2204
01:50:10,800 --> 01:50:12,559
Speaker 1: though still kind of crazy. It's still kind of crazy.

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01:50:12,640 --> 01:50:15,080
Speaker 1: I thanked her for apologizing and asked her to explain

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01:50:15,120 --> 01:50:18,519
Speaker 1: her reasoning in her own words. My sister finally admitted

2207
01:50:18,520 --> 01:50:20,479
Speaker 1: her huge crush and she just felt weird that the

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01:50:20,479 --> 01:50:23,240
Speaker 1: guy that she liked so much never noticed her but

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01:50:23,400 --> 01:50:26,040
Speaker 1: noticed her little sister and just felt a little icky

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01:50:26,120 --> 01:50:29,200
Speaker 1: about the whole situation. She didn't want to be around him,

2211
01:50:29,280 --> 01:50:32,040
Speaker 1: as it would make her feel like that desperate, insecure

2212
01:50:32,080 --> 01:50:35,479
Speaker 1: teenager all over again, and she was super embarrassed by

2213
01:50:35,479 --> 01:50:39,080
Speaker 1: her teenage self. Also, that makes sense. I asked if

2214
01:50:39,120 --> 01:50:41,639
Speaker 1: she still had feelings for my boyfriend, and she chuckled

2215
01:50:41,720 --> 01:50:45,679
Speaker 1: and said, ah, net, that ship has long sailed and

2216
01:50:45,960 --> 01:50:49,120
Speaker 1: she really truly is happy in her current relationship. Ah,

2217
01:50:49,160 --> 01:50:51,400
Speaker 1: so she's in a relationship. Okay, good, that's good. Her

2218
01:50:51,439 --> 01:50:55,320
Speaker 1: boyfriend also knows everything about the situation, as she confided

2219
01:50:55,360 --> 01:50:57,920
Speaker 1: in him. She doesn't want to face my boyfriend knowing

2220
01:50:58,000 --> 01:51:01,280
Speaker 1: how intense her feelings were, and she there's no way

2221
01:51:01,360 --> 01:51:04,080
Speaker 1: that he couldn't have noticed, I assured her. He said

2222
01:51:04,120 --> 01:51:06,040
Speaker 1: that he has no bad memories of her and is

2223
01:51:06,120 --> 01:51:09,040
Speaker 1: interested in getting to know my sister with a clean slate.

2224
01:51:09,240 --> 01:51:11,439
Speaker 1: My sister said she would try to move past her

2225
01:51:11,479 --> 01:51:14,760
Speaker 1: discomfort and is looking forward to seeing us both at Christmas.

2226
01:51:14,800 --> 01:51:18,240
Speaker 1: So with that, my boyfriend did end up coming to Christmas,

2227
01:51:18,240 --> 01:51:20,280
Speaker 1: and it was great. My sister gave him a bit

2228
01:51:20,280 --> 01:51:22,639
Speaker 1: of an awkward greeting and they didn't interact a ton,

2229
01:51:22,840 --> 01:51:25,439
Speaker 1: but we all played games together and my parents loved him.

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01:51:25,439 --> 01:51:27,800
Speaker 1: My boyfriend was super nice to my sister, and he

2231
01:51:27,840 --> 01:51:30,400
Speaker 1: said that he didn't feel uncomfortable in the slightest. It

2232
01:51:30,439 --> 01:51:33,040
Speaker 1: was honestly so lovely, and I feel like the awkwardness

2233
01:51:33,080 --> 01:51:35,879
Speaker 1: my sister is feeling will fade with time. She texted

2234
01:51:35,920 --> 01:51:38,280
Speaker 1: me after her and her boyfriend left that we made

2235
01:51:38,320 --> 01:51:41,360
Speaker 1: a great couple and she was again sorry for almost

2236
01:51:41,479 --> 01:51:44,519
Speaker 1: ruining my Christmas. I told her that I forgive her

2237
01:51:44,600 --> 01:51:46,240
Speaker 1: and I love her always.

2238
01:51:46,680 --> 01:51:50,160
Speaker 2: Wow, Okay, it kind of all worked out. It all

2239
01:51:50,200 --> 01:51:50,679
Speaker 2: worked out.

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Speaker 1: I was worried about it. I was worried. They Yeah,

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01:51:53,200 --> 01:51:55,439
Speaker 1: I was worried that she was still going to be obsessed,

2242
01:51:55,439 --> 01:51:57,840
Speaker 1: But sounds like it that wasn't the case totally. So

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01:51:58,040 --> 01:52:01,120
Speaker 1: I'm very curious for everyone everyone listening here, what would

2244
01:52:01,200 --> 01:52:04,680
Speaker 1: you do your childhood crush that you you know, obsessed

2245
01:52:04,680 --> 01:52:07,360
Speaker 1: over dates your sibling? You know, what do you what

2246
01:52:07,400 --> 01:52:08,840
Speaker 1: do you do in that scenario? So how do you

2247
01:52:08,880 --> 01:52:10,680
Speaker 1: tell your crush? I mean, like do you like what

2248
01:52:10,680 --> 01:52:13,760
Speaker 1: do people do like when with crushes? Do like like

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01:52:13,840 --> 01:52:15,640
Speaker 1: do you tell your crush? I mean I have like

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01:52:15,680 --> 01:52:18,400
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm talking like you know, uh, middle school.

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01:52:18,400 --> 01:52:20,880
Speaker 1: I actually probably maybe only middle school. But I guess

2252
01:52:20,880 --> 01:52:23,080
Speaker 1: I guess anyone you ask out is also someone well,

2253
01:52:23,120 --> 01:52:25,080
Speaker 1: like crush. A crush is kind of like a specific

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01:52:25,240 --> 01:52:28,240
Speaker 1: like yeah, specific, I guess like anyone, Yeah, anyone you

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01:52:28,280 --> 01:52:30,000
Speaker 1: ask out. That's kind of basically like you had a

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01:52:30,000 --> 01:52:32,240
Speaker 1: crush and then you're like, yo, what's it? Yes? But

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01:52:32,360 --> 01:52:34,400
Speaker 1: also it's like I feel like it's like like if

2258
01:52:34,400 --> 01:52:36,680
Speaker 1: you go up to someone, uh, you know, at like

2259
01:52:36,760 --> 01:52:39,960
Speaker 1: you know, uh house party, at a bar or even

2260
01:52:40,000 --> 01:52:42,280
Speaker 1: like Tinder, that's not really a crush because you haven't

2261
01:52:42,320 --> 01:52:44,479
Speaker 1: been able to like develop you know, some sort of

2262
01:52:44,600 --> 01:52:47,559
Speaker 1: like you know a little bit. Even though I like

2263
01:52:47,640 --> 01:52:49,800
Speaker 1: the idea, I think like I like, yeah, that's true.

2264
01:52:49,840 --> 01:52:51,880
Speaker 1: That's true. I do think though, one of the best

2265
01:52:51,880 --> 01:52:54,639
Speaker 1: ways to meet people is through friends or maybe through

2266
01:52:54,640 --> 01:52:57,160
Speaker 1: a friendship first. That is yeah. I feel like house

2267
01:52:57,200 --> 01:53:00,000
Speaker 1: parties of friends that you like really vibe with because

2268
01:53:00,000 --> 01:53:02,639
Speaker 1: because all of their mutuals are going to you know. Yeah,

2269
01:53:02,680 --> 01:53:05,439
Speaker 1: it's it's a filter right there, it's a filter right here,

2270
01:53:05,520 --> 01:53:07,040
Speaker 1: exactly exactly.

2271
01:53:07,200 --> 01:53:10,679
Speaker 2: I banned my homophobic grandma from my wedding. Now she's

2272
01:53:10,720 --> 01:53:15,120
Speaker 2: furious and still homophobic. Am I the l I'm getting married?

2273
01:53:15,240 --> 01:53:18,200
Speaker 2: And when I was on call with my grandmother seventy five,

2274
01:53:18,320 --> 01:53:21,080
Speaker 2: she was super excited to come, and I was excited

2275
01:53:21,080 --> 01:53:23,559
Speaker 2: to have her there. I'm her oldest grandchild, so we

2276
01:53:23,560 --> 01:53:26,240
Speaker 2: have a special relationship. But a few days ago she

2277
01:53:26,360 --> 01:53:29,080
Speaker 2: learned that my sister, my maid of honor, is gay

2278
01:53:29,240 --> 01:53:32,920
Speaker 2: and I invited her girlfriend. She was furious about the

2279
01:53:32,920 --> 01:53:35,040
Speaker 2: gay thing and told me that either I uninvite the

2280
01:53:35,080 --> 01:53:38,800
Speaker 2: girlfriend or she doesn't come. And I immediately said that

2281
01:53:38,920 --> 01:53:41,200
Speaker 2: if that's the way she thinks, I don't honor there.

2282
01:53:41,360 --> 01:53:44,040
Speaker 1: You gave me the option. Granny, you can't be mad

2283
01:53:44,040 --> 01:53:46,320
Speaker 1: at me. Now. Now my whole family is telling me

2284
01:53:46,400 --> 01:53:50,479
Speaker 1: to just uninvite the girlfriend and reinvite my grandma sounds bad,

2285
01:53:50,600 --> 01:53:53,800
Speaker 1: but I, my fiance, my sister, and a girlfriend live

2286
01:53:53,840 --> 01:53:56,000
Speaker 1: in one apartment now. They lost an apartment for twenty

2287
01:53:56,040 --> 01:53:59,240
Speaker 1: twenty reasons, and the girlfriend has basically been my roommate

2288
01:53:59,280 --> 01:54:02,240
Speaker 1: for six months. I'm very close to her, closer than

2289
01:54:02,240 --> 01:54:04,680
Speaker 1: my granny actually, and I really want her there. My

2290
01:54:04,800 --> 01:54:08,000
Speaker 1: family's opinion is that I'm the a hole. So there's

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01:54:08,000 --> 01:54:09,920
Speaker 1: a couple edits in an update. But before we get

2292
01:54:09,920 --> 01:54:12,160
Speaker 1: into that, John, what do you think is OP the

2293
01:54:12,240 --> 01:54:15,000
Speaker 1: a hole or not? Bro not at all, even if

2294
01:54:15,080 --> 01:54:18,439
Speaker 1: you want to side with the homophobic grandma when you shouldn't.

2295
01:54:18,680 --> 01:54:20,679
Speaker 1: This is Op's wedding.

2296
01:54:20,800 --> 01:54:24,080
Speaker 2: I'm Eastern European and homophobia is still very present here.

2297
01:54:24,200 --> 01:54:26,680
Speaker 2: That's why the family's okay with granny's behavior, even though

2298
01:54:26,680 --> 01:54:29,840
Speaker 2: they love my sister and tolerate her girlfriend. It's all

2299
01:54:30,000 --> 01:54:33,120
Speaker 2: around them, and at two I was never considering uninviting

2300
01:54:33,120 --> 01:54:35,400
Speaker 2: the girlfriend. The question is am I the hole for

2301
01:54:35,480 --> 01:54:38,480
Speaker 2: uninviting Grandma rather than letting her make the decision. And

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01:54:38,680 --> 01:54:41,480
Speaker 2: finally the updates. As many of you suggested, I told

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01:54:41,480 --> 01:54:43,960
Speaker 2: my sister and her girlfriend. My sister was mad that

2304
01:54:44,000 --> 01:54:46,560
Speaker 2: I didn't tell her sooner but we ended up agreeing

2305
01:54:46,600 --> 01:54:50,320
Speaker 2: that Grandma and one more relative actually are not invited

2306
01:54:50,480 --> 01:54:53,880
Speaker 2: and no way back turned out. Granny and especially the

2307
01:54:53,960 --> 01:54:57,640
Speaker 2: other relatives. We're bullying them on Facebook and other social media,

2308
01:54:57,720 --> 01:55:01,360
Speaker 2: but mostly Facebook, and we're outing them online. Apparently both

2309
01:55:01,360 --> 01:55:03,760
Speaker 2: have been messaging my sister to verbally abuse her since

2310
01:55:03,760 --> 01:55:05,440
Speaker 2: she came out, and she didn't want to tell me

2311
01:55:05,480 --> 01:55:07,520
Speaker 2: for the same reason I didn't tell her about the

2312
01:55:07,520 --> 01:55:08,160
Speaker 2: wedding stuff.

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01:55:08,200 --> 01:55:10,920
Speaker 1: So I'm no longer questioning who the here is.

2314
01:55:11,040 --> 01:55:13,520
Speaker 2: So I asked mods to stop the comments because my

2315
01:55:13,600 --> 01:55:15,440
Speaker 2: dumb has no idea how to do that. Thank you

2316
01:55:15,480 --> 01:55:18,400
Speaker 2: to everyone who believes my granny can change and I

2317
01:55:18,480 --> 01:55:21,400
Speaker 2: will keep trying with her after the wedding.

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01:55:21,600 --> 01:55:25,480
Speaker 1: Beer Beer, beer beer. Don't have to deal with the

2319
01:55:25,520 --> 01:55:27,680
Speaker 1: bs of having her at the wedding. And two you

2320
01:55:27,720 --> 01:55:31,040
Speaker 1: can still try to work with her, you know what

2321
01:55:31,080 --> 01:55:33,600
Speaker 1: I mean, to try and get her over like to

2322
01:55:33,680 --> 01:55:36,240
Speaker 1: see reason and stop being homophobic.

2323
01:55:36,320 --> 01:55:39,839
Speaker 2: Stop being homophobic. This is a PSA from Sama John. Yeah,

2324
01:55:39,880 --> 01:55:42,160
Speaker 2: stop it, look down, look down to your genitals.

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01:55:42,200 --> 01:55:42,480
Speaker 1: Bam.

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01:55:42,640 --> 01:55:46,200
Speaker 2: Those are the genitals on screens, right, embrace the genitals.

2327
01:55:46,320 --> 01:55:49,160
Speaker 1: Share your thoughts on this video. What would you do

2328
01:55:49,160 --> 01:55:49,760
Speaker 1: if you were an open