Speaker 1: I'm honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez wins it.
Speaker 1: But I was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife,
Speaker 1: a mama, and a worker being. This is life in Spanglish.
Speaker 1: Don't mess it up, honey. How are you feeling today?
Speaker 1: I'm feeling good. It's it's a good positive day. Yesterday
Speaker 1: was rainy, but today looks nice. I've been having a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks and this dog is about to go
Speaker 1: to the pound. No, I'm just kidding, um my dog,
Speaker 1: you guys, she is like in her puppy stage still.
Speaker 1: Everybody says that like a German shepherd, once they hit
Speaker 1: three years old, that's when they start to calm down.
Speaker 1: And how old is she? She was like a year
Speaker 1: and a half. I got a year and a half
Speaker 1: left of this and like I did not if that
Speaker 1: I would when something, well, yeah, the mambo whatever. I mean.
Speaker 1: This girl is ripping up my my house. I went upstairs.
Speaker 1: I had feathers everywhere, and I'm like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: When I tell you tore up a pillow, but not
Speaker 1: just any pillow, a down pillow. So I had like
Speaker 1: blue muss everywhere. I was finding blue mugs in my
Speaker 1: butt like after a week, like you just know, don't
Speaker 1: even know where they are, you know. So anyway, I
Speaker 1: am so glad to be here with you. She is
Speaker 1: safely upstairs, and we don't know why I keep picturing
Speaker 1: you coughing up feathers right now. I don't know why
Speaker 1: I care, because it's very likely that that would happen
Speaker 1: to I'm not even kidding you. Like I was finding
Speaker 1: feathers in my hair. I was like, I took a shower,
Speaker 1: like what is going on? This girl is driving me nuts?
Speaker 1: So you know what they say, pandemic dogs will make
Speaker 1: you pay, and she is one of them. Um But anyway,
Speaker 1: I digress. So I've been looking forward to talking to you, honey,
Speaker 1: because this is like my one time where I get
Speaker 1: to be me. This is my time where I get
Speaker 1: like it's me and you. We just sit down for real.
Speaker 1: It feels like like a date. It feels like a
Speaker 1: lunch date, and we just talk about what mean you
Speaker 1: want to talk about. There's nobody else involved totally, and
Speaker 1: I know that you had brought up an idea for today,
Speaker 1: which you know, I don't know. I feel like I
Speaker 1: speak to this a lot, but I definitely think there's
Speaker 1: a deeper dive that we can take on this because
Speaker 1: there are so many people who are in this stage
Speaker 1: of their life right now, especially after like these past
Speaker 1: two years where you're really thinking about things and reassessing
Speaker 1: kind of like your life situations. So um so talk
Speaker 1: to me and wondering you just overall, you know, what's
Speaker 1: your life calling? Like, what's your purpose on this earth?
Speaker 1: Because it definitely isn't working for a boss that doesn't
Speaker 1: appreciate you and underpays you. What is your life calling?
Speaker 1: I think we should definitely hit on that one totally.
Speaker 1: You know. It's it's so interesting whenever people ask me
Speaker 1: about this, like just working in the radio field, and
Speaker 1: I always go to my father. I don't even think
Speaker 1: about myself when I think about this topic. You know,
Speaker 1: I think about my dad, who was a little boy
Speaker 1: in Nicarawa who basically had a mother as a seamstress
Speaker 1: and a father who was you know, I mean they labored,
Speaker 1: they labored. Let's just say that, you know, they were
Speaker 1: not professional people. I mean, listen, they were beautiful people,
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, but they did not have a
Speaker 1: career profession per se. So you know, we can't really
Speaker 1: say that. So my dad, Yeah, we're talking about my
Speaker 1: grandparents on my father's side, you know. So, um, you know,
Speaker 1: my dad has a life calling and I really looked
Speaker 1: to him whenever people ask me this question because it's
Speaker 1: like it gives me goose bumps. You know, how did
Speaker 1: he know, like how did he know as a little boy,
Speaker 1: without having any kind of influence professionally, that he wanted
Speaker 1: to be a doctor, you know, and to have that
Speaker 1: dream and to work toward that dream. You know. So
Speaker 1: when my dad reached I believe it was seven years old,
Speaker 1: he retired. And we always go back to when we say, Daddy,
Speaker 1: you retired and you came out of retirement like not
Speaker 1: even a year later. And he said, yeah, he did
Speaker 1: not stay retired for very long. And I said, you
Speaker 1: know why, you this is your time. You can relax,
Speaker 1: you can go travel with mommy, you know, you can
Speaker 1: do all this stuff. And he said, this is my
Speaker 1: life's work. Helping people and being a doctor is all
Speaker 1: I ever wanted to do. So if you took that
Speaker 1: away from me, which is retirement. He was like, I
Speaker 1: just didn't feel like myself. And I'm like, wow, what
Speaker 1: a strong conviction to have, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like at seventy most people are like piecing out. They're like,
Speaker 1: don't call me, don't write me, don't ask me for help.
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, But for him, you know, it means something,
Speaker 1: you know it it touches his heart, like God bless him.
Speaker 1: You know the fact that he was lucky enough to
Speaker 1: determine his life calling you know, once and for all,
Speaker 1: because you know, different people have several careers throughout their
Speaker 1: life the end have developed this as a kid and
Speaker 1: at seventy to still want to do it, Like what
Speaker 1: a blessing. I envy him and a but I envy him.
Speaker 1: It is. It's a beautiful thing. And that's the reason
Speaker 1: why it's like, you know, there are so many people
Speaker 1: who were kind of like floundering. And I don't mean
Speaker 1: that in a negative way. You know, you've you've tried
Speaker 1: one thing, you dabbled in it, you know, and then
Speaker 1: from there you were like, maybe it's not for me.
Speaker 1: So then you know, you make the decision to have
Speaker 1: a changing career. So you go to the next thing.
Speaker 1: And you know, there a lot of people I've done it.
Speaker 1: You know, I've done it. I've been there. You know.
Speaker 1: The legal field was my life for like, you know,
Speaker 1: since I was a teenager, like you know, at like nineteen,
Speaker 1: I was already working in the legal field, you know,
Speaker 1: and I stood there for years. You know, I went
Speaker 1: on I did two years paralegal program, then I did
Speaker 1: four years criminal justice program. Then I started studying for
Speaker 1: the ELSAT and I was like, I'm going to be
Speaker 1: an attorney. And then she got all Kim Kardashian on us.
Speaker 1: She wanted to take the bar Elwoods Woods, and then
Speaker 1: media came about. And you know, when I started working
Speaker 1: for I Heart and for Power one oh five, I
Speaker 1: actually had the big Ask Else that book on the
Speaker 1: coffee table in my house and I lived five minutes
Speaker 1: from St. John's University because that's where I dreamed of
Speaker 1: going to school to be an attorney. And you know what,
Speaker 1: it was pivot time. I decided, no, you know what,
Speaker 1: I love music, I love hip hop, I love New
Speaker 1: York and I gave up all those dreams because I
Speaker 1: felt like my life purpose would probably be in media,
Speaker 1: in radio and in hip hop. So I mean, you've
Speaker 1: definitely made your mark, you know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: feel like it was a good decision. But for some
Speaker 1: people it really it really is a life change, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I'm not just talking about
Speaker 1: media in general. It's like, you know, there's somebody who
Speaker 1: we know who was in media and who basically now
Speaker 1: has decided I'm gonna become a nurse. I'm gonna become
Speaker 1: a nurse. I'm leaving the radio world and this has
Speaker 1: a better purpose for me and is going back to
Speaker 1: school and is doing all of the hard work and training,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, God, bless you, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like helping people does give you a sense of purpose.
Speaker 1: So I don't blame this person. And she's like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I did this for very long time, but
Speaker 1: did I really truly make a difference in this world?
Speaker 1: And maybe that's what they're seeking, And that is I
Speaker 1: think what a lot of people, including your dad, seek
Speaker 1: when they want to find a life purpose. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: like for me, there's never been a question like my
Speaker 1: life's calling. I mean, I don't know. I I look
Speaker 1: at it two ways. I've I've always wanted to be
Speaker 1: a mother, so I always say, like, the biggest job
Speaker 1: or the greatest job that I've ever had is being
Speaker 1: a mother to my two children. But like as a
Speaker 1: little girl, the only thing I ever dreamed of was
Speaker 1: being on the radio, and being on that's amazing is
Speaker 1: the only thing I ever wanted, you know. I remember
Speaker 1: I was nine years old, guys, okay, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: walk you back to like it was summer. My parents
Speaker 1: never really did a whole lot with us over the summer,
Speaker 1: so we were kind of like left to our own devices.
Speaker 1: And my parents would always put out the newspaper in
Speaker 1: the morning, right, no, no, yeah, you know like that.
Speaker 1: My mom was nutty about the air conditioner. Right. I
Speaker 1: remember being nine years old and I'm in my bedroom.
Speaker 1: You know what. I can even picture the wallpaper right now.
Speaker 1: It had beautiful little pink flowers, and I had curtains
Speaker 1: that were pink that were like, you know, framing my window.
Speaker 1: And I took up the War in Tribune upstairs, and
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I'm just gonna read the newspaper.
Speaker 1: I'm nine years old, right, so I'm reading the newspaper
Speaker 1: and then in the back. Now, for those of you
Speaker 1: who are listening, who don't remember newspapers. And I'm not
Speaker 1: saying that in a negative way or like in a
Speaker 1: condescending way. There are people who really don't know what
Speaker 1: newspapers look like. But back in the day, there was
Speaker 1: these things called the want ads. So people would put
Speaker 1: ads out for things that they needed, like, you know,
Speaker 1: whether you needed a lawnmowing service, you know, things of
Speaker 1: that nature. But I remember reading in the back of
Speaker 1: the paper and there was a ad and it said,
Speaker 1: so you want to be a star, how to how
Speaker 1: to get a Hollywood agent? How to make it in
Speaker 1: the business? Do you think you should be on TV?
Speaker 1: And it gave an address and it was a pamphlet.
Speaker 1: It was a pamphlet. So I remember thinking to myself,
Speaker 1: what am I going to do? I want this, I
Speaker 1: need I need in I want the information. I was
Speaker 1: nine years old, and so I remember I sent cash, honey,
Speaker 1: Bible hand to God. I sent cash and I sent
Speaker 1: my information. Did you steal it from your parents? No? No,
Speaker 1: because I used to earn money here and there, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like I was always like a
Speaker 1: worker bee. No, but I did memorize my dad's credit
Speaker 1: card later on. So but so anyway, I reached out
Speaker 1: to them, I send them cash. I get this booklet
Speaker 1: and it's all of this information on how to become
Speaker 1: how to get started in the world of television, you know.
Speaker 1: And it told you how you had to do theater,
Speaker 1: and you had to get a resume, you had to
Speaker 1: do all of these things. And so from that moment,
Speaker 1: I remember saying, this is what I need to do
Speaker 1: in order to get ahead. So really, from the age
Speaker 1: of nine years old, that's when it started for me.
Speaker 1: So life's calling, Yes, this has always been what I
Speaker 1: wanted to do, never a question, and you know, I
Speaker 1: think my lucky stars that I've been able to do it.
Speaker 1: But then I also want to remind people that there
Speaker 1: have been a lot of bumps along the way. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta share apparently you know it was a smooth sailing.
Speaker 1: Yeah you had your life calling nice and early, but
Speaker 1: you went through some ship absolutely, and you know what.
Speaker 1: Like So, there are many different phases of my life
Speaker 1: where I feel like, you know, maybe I could have,
Speaker 1: you know, seeing what I want to do with my life.
Speaker 1: So for example, you know, when I was single and
Speaker 1: working at Z one hundred, and I had the opportunity
Speaker 1: to go and help build an orphanage in Nicaragua. There
Speaker 1: is no feeling that can describe the way that it
Speaker 1: felt to look at that wall and to look at
Speaker 1: the different bricks and the things that we did to
Speaker 1: help lay the foundation to do all of those things.
Speaker 1: So that's where it's like, you know what, Yeah, is
Speaker 1: radio my life calling maybe, but you know, helping other people,
Speaker 1: going back to my parents country and giving back like
Speaker 1: that is my life calling. Being an amazing mother to
Speaker 1: my two children and raising two beautiful little humans that
Speaker 1: can give back, And you know, I mean that could
Speaker 1: be my life's calling. So you know, there's just it's
Speaker 1: just I guess it's just a matter of perspective. It
Speaker 1: really is what is important. You know, for some people,
Speaker 1: having money is important, you know, having status in the
Speaker 1: community is important. But to me, helping people is most important.
Speaker 1: And you know, sometimes I think, I'm like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: love my job, I love my career, but am I
Speaker 1: doing enough to help people? And that's the only thing
Speaker 1: that um that kind of like throws me off that
Speaker 1: I'm not doing enough to help people. You know, there
Speaker 1: was an intern that we had just a couple of
Speaker 1: years ago, and I always referenced her because I feel
Speaker 1: like she is just so strong, and you know, she
Speaker 1: was fearless when she decided to do this. So she
Speaker 1: became a teacher. She went to school, went to grad
Speaker 1: school to become a teacher, and was teaching for two years,
Speaker 1: I believe, you know, I'm I'm trying to remember all
Speaker 1: of the details, and decided one day this is not
Speaker 1: for me, this was not her life's calling. So she
Speaker 1: decided to go back to school to get into radio
Speaker 1: at possibly the worst time ever, because she was an
Speaker 1: intern and I just graduated and it was doing and
Speaker 1: was graduating and everything was doing stuff during the pandemic.
Speaker 1: And it's like I speak to her still and we
Speaker 1: communicate with each other, And I asked her, do you
Speaker 1: ever regret it? Like, do you ever regret not teaching
Speaker 1: and deciding to come into radio? And she says, without
Speaker 1: a doubt, no question, no, because I knew that I
Speaker 1: couldn't find the happiness that I wanted doing what I
Speaker 1: was doing. Like has it been hard? Has it been
Speaker 1: super challenging? Absolutely? But you know, the rewards I think
Speaker 1: are greater because you're doing what you have a passion for.
Speaker 1: You know, you know, it's sometimes it's hard, to really determine,
Speaker 1: like is this my life calling? You know, is this
Speaker 1: what I'm passionate about? Like how do you know, Caroline,
Speaker 1: I like, Okay, a d percent, this is it. There's
Speaker 1: no you know, doubt in your mind, like maybe I
Speaker 1: could have been a better doctor like my dad, or
Speaker 1: maybe I could have been a teacher. I love being
Speaker 1: a mom. Maybe I could have worked with a hundred
Speaker 1: kids versus two kids. Never a question, never a question, honestly,
Speaker 1: like no. And even when I was going to college,
Speaker 1: you know, and there was mass communication, was like the general, um,
Speaker 1: you know, direction that I could take at the one
Speaker 1: school that I was going to, I always said, broadcasting.
Speaker 1: I want to specialize in broadcasting. What can I do?
Speaker 1: There was just such a laser focus to what I
Speaker 1: wanted to do that even when I went to Arizona State,
Speaker 1: which offered so many different majors and so many different minors,
Speaker 1: it never swayed me from my course. I never said, well,
Speaker 1: you know, accounting was always really interesting to me, like hell, no,
Speaker 1: I'm really bad at numbers. I'm awful with science, Like
Speaker 1: I know where my strengths are and I'm no, no,
Speaker 1: it's just there's too much personality to be crunching numbers
Speaker 1: all day. You know, you know what's crazy. When I
Speaker 1: first started Long Island University, my major was communications. For
Speaker 1: some reason, I was like communications, and then after one semester,
Speaker 1: I was like, hell, no, I'm never gonna make it
Speaker 1: in media. I'm never gonna be on a radio. I'm not.
Speaker 1: And I kind of like off to myself out of
Speaker 1: where I am now. I want to I say that
Speaker 1: just to share that if you have a life calling
Speaker 1: in your mind, you know you love something and you
Speaker 1: want to do it, don't psych yourself out of it.
Speaker 1: Don't And you know what, if you love it, the
Speaker 1: money will come. I was always like, oh, hey, if
Speaker 1: I do legal, there's a million law firms. I could
Speaker 1: be a lawyer. I'll just take the bar. It'll be fine.
Speaker 1: I'll make money. But then I was like, with radio,
Speaker 1: there's only a certain amount of radio jobs. Nah, don't
Speaker 1: do this, girl. Don't waste your money. Ally, you is
Speaker 1: too much bread for you to be wasting it in communications.
Speaker 1: And then I graduated. I did four years criminal justice
Speaker 1: and then I got a job in media. Look at that,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's like it was still
Speaker 1: in the background. Maybe it was in your subconscious you
Speaker 1: know what. Morely was not it? Shortly surely was because
Speaker 1: you know my website honey German dot com, the gossip
Speaker 1: website that I launched, you know, probably fifteen years ago.
Speaker 1: I launched it, and I would do it during my
Speaker 1: break hour at the law firms wherever I worked. I
Speaker 1: always brought a laptop with me, and you're lunch, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't eat. I would go and conference room and I
Speaker 1: would bother my ass off. So it goes to show
Speaker 1: you like it never left me. I was just worried
Speaker 1: about monetary um security, especially you know, living in New York,
Speaker 1: there's no like you, and not coming from parents that
Speaker 1: had money and not marrying into money. I was always like,
Speaker 1: do loo Like. I always felt like I had to
Speaker 1: fend for myself. So I had to make these decisions,
Speaker 1: like you know where you're gonna make money at law firms,
Speaker 1: the legal field. If you don't know what you love
Speaker 1: and it's always like itching, go with it, that's your
Speaker 1: life calling. Man. If you can't shake it off, that's
Speaker 1: your life calling. Because it's kind of hard for a
Speaker 1: lot of people to determine, you know, what their life
Speaker 1: calling really really is. Yeah, it's so true too. And
Speaker 1: you know it's so funny when you bring up that
Speaker 1: you were blogging on your lunch hour. Do you follow
Speaker 1: an account on Instagram? It's called the Girl with No Job?
Speaker 1: She is okay, she just wrote a book. She's um.
Speaker 1: I listened to another podcast where she was discussing how
Speaker 1: she went on, like how she became what she is now,
Speaker 1: which is you know, like I mean, now she has
Speaker 1: her own podcast, she has her amazing account with millions
Speaker 1: of followers. And she said basically, she was in an
Speaker 1: entry level job and Instagram was new at the time,
Speaker 1: and she was sharing memes and it just became a
Speaker 1: thing and it steamrolled into like what her career is today.
Speaker 1: So was that her intentional life calling? Probably not, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like she was doing what you
Speaker 1: were doing exactly, you know, but she had an interest
Speaker 1: in this and she I guess she got in early,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, she got it, definitely got it.
Speaker 1: And let me ask you a question. Is Boy with
Speaker 1: No Job her boyfriend? I've always wondered. I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I didn't they didn't go into that,
Speaker 1: but you know, I think that It's like when you
Speaker 1: start something good and people are ripping you off. I mean,
Speaker 1: they say imitation is the highest form of flattery. So
Speaker 1: I guess somebody saw that she was doing great and
Speaker 1: they figured, well, I'm a guy with no job, you know,
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna start doing this job and growing no job. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you never know where you're gonna get your inspiration. Then again,
Speaker 1: there's also like, so let's say you do have your
Speaker 1: life calling. And for example, you know, I can always
Speaker 1: referenced back to when I was on Z one hundred
Speaker 1: and I decided to leave. There was one woman who
Speaker 1: is who was very influential, She has a very high position,
Speaker 1: and she looked at me and I kid you not,
Speaker 1: I was leaving the show and she said to me,
Speaker 1: you silly little girl. And I said, excuse me, but
Speaker 1: you were leaving the show to start your morning show, right, No,
Speaker 1: I was leaving the show to start a morning show
Speaker 1: on television, which to me was a huge opportunity even
Speaker 1: though it was a local morning show. It wasn't a
Speaker 1: syndicated show. You know, I feel like you were going
Speaker 1: home to hang out. You had something big lined up,
Speaker 1: well big for me, you know what I mean? Because
Speaker 1: it was like that was always the goal for me,
Speaker 1: was like, you know, working radio and television, and and
Speaker 1: you know, TV is even harder than radio to break into.
Speaker 1: And as a thirty something year old, I thought, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, anchoring a morning show in New York City
Speaker 1: market one, like there's no question exactly. And so for
Speaker 1: for this person who I really revered and looked up to,
Speaker 1: for for her to look at me and to say that,
Speaker 1: I felt so crushed. I was like, wow, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, like, thanks for stepping on my dream
Speaker 1: a little bit before I even get to go and
Speaker 1: do it. Now. It didn't exactly pan out. You know,
Speaker 1: the show got canceled after two years. I didn't know
Speaker 1: that it was part of a plan to just get
Speaker 1: a license, and there's all this backstory and stuff like
Speaker 1: that to it. But bottom line is I don't regret
Speaker 1: taking that leap and and trying something for myself because
Speaker 1: it wouldn't have put me on the course now where
Speaker 1: I am hosting a morning show and I am working
Speaker 1: with somebody who I used to work with, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So it's like, you know, fear. I
Speaker 1: think it holds a lot of people back and It's
Speaker 1: exactly what you were talking about, like your negative self speak.
Speaker 1: You were basically psyching yourself out of getting into media
Speaker 1: before you could even start. If I would have let
Speaker 1: that woman psych me out, I could have been like,
Speaker 1: well fuck it, I'm gonna stay here. You're right. What
Speaker 1: am I thinking? No? I had a rich experience that
Speaker 1: I will always look back on. And I'm living my life.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, you're not you get
Speaker 1: one chance to do this. You're not here for anyone else,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But there are so many
Speaker 1: people who find their life's calling later on in life. Girl,
Speaker 1: I've seen a bunch of memes. It's like such and such.
Speaker 1: Morgan Freeman started acting at like this age. Walt Disney
Speaker 1: got rejected fifty five times. Like I see those memes
Speaker 1: all the time. They're aspiring and they're not a lie.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna You're not necessarily gonna find your calling
Speaker 1: in your teens or your twenties. It happens different for
Speaker 1: every single one of us. You know, there's no like
Speaker 1: you know, timeline to life. Everything happens different. You know, marriage, parenthood, career,
Speaker 1: everything at your own pace and when you feel as
Speaker 1: ready and and when God feels like you're ready to
Speaker 1: enter into that area in phase of your life. In
Speaker 1: the movie Black Panther, her name was Dorothy Steele, and
Speaker 1: I believe she was one of the elders in the film.
Speaker 1: She began acting at eighty eight years old. God bless her.
Speaker 1: That to me is such an inspiration. Like if you
Speaker 1: think you can't do something like, looked at Dorothy Steele,
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm I'm sure there were a million
Speaker 1: people telling her nobody's gonna need you in Hollywood. And
Speaker 1: then she's in of all things, Black Panther. I saw that,
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, really she just started acting. That's amazing.
Speaker 1: And don't and don't ever think that it's like because
Speaker 1: it doesn't happen right away, or because it happens and
Speaker 1: maybe you gotta chill out for a little while, it's
Speaker 1: not gonna happen again. Because I was watching the documentary
Speaker 1: A girl that just went for it, somebody told me
Speaker 1: I need to watch that. They said this is so inspirational.
Speaker 1: You will literally like they said to me, They're like, Carolina,
Speaker 1: I can't believe you haven't seen it. I need to
Speaker 1: watch this. It's amazing. You will love her even more
Speaker 1: and you will hate Marlon Brando forever. But anyway, her,
Speaker 1: you know, it's like her career. At some point, like
Speaker 1: she was huge, she wanted to ask her and then
Speaker 1: one thing slowed down, you know, she went back, you know,
Speaker 1: she did some smaller things, and then now know, at
Speaker 1: like eighties something years old, she's starring in this show
Speaker 1: that is so wildly successful. It's like she could have
Speaker 1: been like, Okay, I died out. That's it, it's over
Speaker 1: in the yeah, the seventies and eighty. No, she never
Speaker 1: gave up. She kept working and even when things slowed
Speaker 1: down for her for years, she still moved forward with
Speaker 1: you know, her life calling, which was to entertain, to sing,
Speaker 1: to dance, and to be in front of people. So
Speaker 1: it's like even if sometimes you gotta like slow down,
Speaker 1: take a little break, don't give up. But it reminds
Speaker 1: me like that is exactly my dad, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. It's like, you know, he slowed down, he
Speaker 1: closed his practice, then he retired, but then he can't
Speaker 1: he couldn't stay away from it. And that's where I
Speaker 1: feel like people like Rita Moreno, you know, you think
Speaker 1: about her, and it's like no, she couldn't stop because
Speaker 1: she was so beyond passionate about it, you know, and
Speaker 1: I'm sure there were people in her life saying, like,
Speaker 1: get real, it's over. You know, this is your time
Speaker 1: to kind of like step back. You had your fifteen
Speaker 1: minutes and you got a quiet that noise you can't
Speaker 1: It's like she's she knew what she was born to do,
Speaker 1: you know, in a Wessa story like that was what
Speaker 1: like seventies or something sixties, you know how long she's
Speaker 1: been around and she's still like present in our life now,
Speaker 1: Like that's insane legend. And she's written books. I mean,
Speaker 1: she's started movies, she's done TV, she's done theater, you know.
Speaker 1: And I really do think that like that's the thing
Speaker 1: that maybe can motivate people today because I think that
Speaker 1: we're focusing on the entertainment industry. But like I said,
Speaker 1: I go to my dad in the medical field, or
Speaker 1: people who have done different you know, policemen, fireman, Like
Speaker 1: life's calling you want to talk about helping people, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like I know somebody who I mean,
Speaker 1: there was a story in the Post who there was
Speaker 1: a woman who had her career and she said you
Speaker 1: know what the police need me, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So going back and entering into the police academy, I'm
Speaker 1: sure as an older person can be super intimidating because
Speaker 1: you're with young recruits. You're with people who might be
Speaker 1: more fit, who might be younger than you. But you know,
Speaker 1: when you have that thing inside you that says, don't stop.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, you gotta go for it. You for
Speaker 1: sure have to go for it. Like I remember, like
Speaker 1: two weeks ago, right, and I saw that f D
Speaker 1: and Y. Like in the history of like the f
Speaker 1: D and Y, there's never been like a Latina lieutenant.
Speaker 1: And um, this girl, Joanne Diaz out in the Bronx
Speaker 1: made history first Latina ever, you know, to be a
Speaker 1: lieutenant for the f D and Y. And I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure when she started her career eighteen years prior to
Speaker 1: this promotion, she was a girl. You know f DN Y.
Speaker 1: It's like there's always an issue. They don't hire minorities,
Speaker 1: they don't hire blacks, don't hire Latinos. There's always like
Speaker 1: that type of sentiment and conversation for her to enter
Speaker 1: you know, this fire engine eighteen years ago as a
Speaker 1: young Latina and to you know, not let you know,
Speaker 1: the climate or the chatter, you know, just push her
Speaker 1: away from pursuing her career. You know, it makes me
Speaker 1: proud for her, Like I posted her because I was
Speaker 1: just like, bro, like I can't believe you did this,
Speaker 1: like you you tugged it out like no matter what.
Speaker 1: And I'm pretty sure you know, working with old men
Speaker 1: must have been tough for her. But you know what,
Speaker 1: here she is making history and making strides for us
Speaker 1: Latina's you know out here, even if even if it's
Speaker 1: just you know in the f D and Y and
Speaker 1: she still make a big difference and you know, making
Speaker 1: her mark and paving the way absolutely, And and that's
Speaker 1: the thing that I always keep going back to, is
Speaker 1: like there are so many people and so many things
Speaker 1: in your life that can tell you don't do it.
Speaker 1: You've got to, like you know, superseded, You've got to
Speaker 1: you've gotta get above it, rise above it, because there's
Speaker 1: always gonna be someone telling, you know, or forces telling
Speaker 1: you know. You know, you've got to find that inside
Speaker 1: and be like no, this is really what's for me.
Speaker 1: And it's gonna take work. And that's the thing though,
Speaker 1: you know, I mean I I talked to a lot
Speaker 1: of kids like now, and I say kids because you know,
Speaker 1: maybe they're in their twenties or people who ask me
Speaker 1: for advice. You know, how do I get into radio?
Speaker 1: This is what I want to do, and I and
Speaker 1: I keep just going back to it, and I say,
Speaker 1: it's not fun. It's not gonna be fun at first.
Speaker 1: You know, you've got to work, you've got to put
Speaker 1: in the hours, you've got to do the things like
Speaker 1: you've got to do this ship that other people don't
Speaker 1: want to do, and show people how committed you are.
Speaker 1: You know now for sure, when you first get started,
Speaker 1: you know it's not gonna make money, it's not gonna
Speaker 1: make sense. You're gonna get tons of ship from the
Speaker 1: higher ups. Nobody's ever gonna be happy with your work.
Speaker 1: But guess what, fast forward a couple of years, stick
Speaker 1: it out, and you're gonna start getting promoted. You're gonna
Speaker 1: start getting recognized, and you're gonna be walking in your
Speaker 1: purpose and you're gonna be happy with the career that
Speaker 1: you chose. Yeah, what about the people right now who
Speaker 1: are juggling like two jobs and going to school because
Speaker 1: they're pursuing their lives calling you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I always reference those people because you guys are the warriors.
Speaker 1: You know, you have one job, you have kids, you're
Speaker 1: going to school at night, you're freaking burning the candle
Speaker 1: at both ends. You know. For me, there's nothing, there
Speaker 1: is nothing that is more you know, uh positive, than
Speaker 1: than really giving yourself that chance, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And there are so many people who are facing this today.
Speaker 1: So you know, my hope is just that by us
Speaker 1: touching on it, you know, life's calling? What is it?
Speaker 1: What is it? Really? You know, I mean, is it?
Speaker 1: There are some people who say, you know, they never
Speaker 1: got to live out their dream, and that to me
Speaker 1: is one of the biggest regrets, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: you know, whether it's traveling or if it's you know, relationships.
Speaker 1: You know, you can apply this to anything in life.
Speaker 1: You know, you gotta go for it. You gotta go
Speaker 1: for it. Just figure out, like what do you love?
Speaker 1: What would you do for free? Like if you didn't
Speaker 1: get paid, what would you wake up every morning and
Speaker 1: be happy to do, whether it be cut hair, do makeup,
Speaker 1: you know, make cookies, wash dogs, or whatever it is
Speaker 1: that you would do, you know, gladly that's probably your
Speaker 1: life calling. Well, but you never know when it's gonna
Speaker 1: hit you either, because, um, I remember reading about a
Speaker 1: woman who was, um, you know, working on her sobriety,
Speaker 1: and while she was working on her sobriety, she started baking.
Speaker 1: And from that she started baking. Her cookies got in
Speaker 1: the right hands of the right people, and like Andy
Speaker 1: Cohen from Bravo had her on, she sold out all
Speaker 1: of her You couldn't even get her cookies for the
Speaker 1: holiday season because it was like ridiculous the demands. You know.
Speaker 1: It's like she found her life calling through what through
Speaker 1: her sobriety, you know what I mean. So it's like
Speaker 1: you just never know when it's gonna hit you. So
Speaker 1: just be ready to receive that message whatever it may be.
Speaker 1: You really really never know, because you know what's crazy, Karly,
Speaker 1: not like recovering from my stroke. You know, my husband
Speaker 1: learned a lot about exercises and you know, recovery, and
Speaker 1: he would learn from the physical therapist and then you
Speaker 1: would recreate them at home, and I'm like, wow, this
Speaker 1: man would probably make a great physical therapist. So it's like,
Speaker 1: you never and he loves it. He still likes to
Speaker 1: do it. He still trains me, we still go to
Speaker 1: the gym. And he absorbed it, learned it, and I
Speaker 1: feel like he can actually even like help other families
Speaker 1: on recovery on physical therapy related to brain injury. And
Speaker 1: I'm like wow. And he decided he wanted to go
Speaker 1: back to school and be a physical therapist because he could.
Speaker 1: But guess what, he loved it. He enjoyed it, you know,
Speaker 1: he absorbed it. So it's it's crazy you can find
Speaker 1: things accidentally and later on in life, well you know
Speaker 1: what it is. It's almost like you know, and and
Speaker 1: I say, it's a blessing because you know, thank goodness
Speaker 1: that you're okay now, and you know, but it's like
Speaker 1: the exposure he wouldn't have been exposed to that if
Speaker 1: what happened to you didn't happen, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So it's like there's so many different chain reactions that
Speaker 1: I think that we don't pay attention to. And that's
Speaker 1: why I said, it's like, just be open and you know,
Speaker 1: be ready to receive the message. And if you're listening
Speaker 1: right now and you're struggling and you're thinking to yourself,
Speaker 1: like I don't love my job, I work with a
Speaker 1: bunch of like, you know, losers, and I don't get
Speaker 1: along with people, you know. I mean, it's a lot
Speaker 1: of people, I'll tell you that much. It is. It is,
Speaker 1: But there's a lot of people, including people I know
Speaker 1: that staying jobs that don't like and that our dead
Speaker 1: end just because they're afraid of the uncertain. Yeah. You know,
Speaker 1: I know people that have been in the same position
Speaker 1: fifteen plus years and they won't try anything different, and
Speaker 1: they say, I'm just so used to it here, I'm
Speaker 1: just so comfortable. I just know the routine. And it's like, yo,
Speaker 1: that you're doing that the service to yourself. I understand,
Speaker 1: you know, liking things that are predictable and things that
Speaker 1: are comfortable and going to a job and just doing
Speaker 1: things on autopilot. But you're doing yourself a disservice. Please,
Speaker 1: if you love something, explore it. You never know what
Speaker 1: your second career will be. You never know. I love
Speaker 1: that definitely like to take the time to really kind
Speaker 1: of like listen to those feelings and see what you
Speaker 1: can do with it, even if it's in your spare time.
Speaker 1: You never ever know. So you know, hopefully we've provided
Speaker 1: you with like a little nugget of inspiration because that's
Speaker 1: what we're here to do today. We are just here
Speaker 1: to spread the sunshine, girl, and we did a good
Speaker 1: job at least I feel like it myself in the
Speaker 1: bathrooms off on the back totally. Now, social media, Carolina,
Speaker 1: let's tell these people that they can find us because
Speaker 1: we're both very active. I'm proud of how active you
Speaker 1: are lately. Well, thank you so much. No, but you
Speaker 1: know what, before we go into the social media part,
Speaker 1: let's talk about wyn with Paltrow because this story it's
Speaker 1: circulated a while ago and it just made me so uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: But who are we to step away from anything uncomfortable here?
Speaker 1: So Gwyneth Paltrow, you guys may be aware of her.
Speaker 1: She has this site called Goop. She sells like a
Speaker 1: lot of wacky stuff, like she has her own line,
Speaker 1: and then she also like talks about different designers and
Speaker 1: things that most of it, I'll be honest with you,
Speaker 1: is so overprized. I couldn't afford any of it, but
Speaker 1: like that's for another day. But anyway, there was this
Speaker 1: article about her talking about her son. She has a
Speaker 1: fifteen year old son and now on this site, you
Speaker 1: guys know, she was selling like the vagina egg, where
Speaker 1: you put this egg up your ja. Girlf're supposed to
Speaker 1: give you like some exercises. I'm not saying nothing my
Speaker 1: vagina that doesn't have something neither neither am I. So
Speaker 1: that was like the first thing I think. And then
Speaker 1: she had a candle that allegedly smelled like her you know,
Speaker 1: I saw that. I that I was like, why would
Speaker 1: I want my house to smell like Gwyneth Poutrow vagina?
Speaker 1: But that I'll just air out my vagina. It's not
Speaker 1: like mine. There you go, well, listen, whatever goes on
Speaker 1: at Honey's house, I'm gonna let it fly because you're
Speaker 1: over there. I mean, I got my old I'm still
Speaker 1: burning pumpkin spice from October. Okay, Like that's how late
Speaker 1: I am. So there you go. That's a candle that
Speaker 1: I'm doing. So no, but this whole story just made
Speaker 1: me feel so uncomfortable because she was like talking about
Speaker 1: all the different things that they sell on her website
Speaker 1: and that her son, She said her son was proud
Speaker 1: of her for selling vibrators, And I said, hold on, what,
Speaker 1: first of all, your fifteen year old son, Like, is
Speaker 1: this a discussion, like we've talked about this before. I
Speaker 1: never had a birds in the bees talk. My parents
Speaker 1: never sat me down and told me how it works
Speaker 1: or what happens or how you do a b and
Speaker 1: they just said, don't do it, you know. So the
Speaker 1: fact that she's talking about vibrators with her fifteen year
Speaker 1: old son, to me, it's kind of like, no, no,
Speaker 1: I feel. I feel. First of all, white people are
Speaker 1: different Carolina. You know, Latinos are not going to talk
Speaker 1: about the birds and the bees. Nonetheless, No, I don't
Speaker 1: even know if that's how you say it in Spanish,
Speaker 1: but you know, the cultural differences I guess would allow
Speaker 1: for this type of conversation to go down. And the
Speaker 1: Winneth Paltrow household, Yeah, Like I don't want to mom
Speaker 1: shoom her, and I don't want to make it seem
Speaker 1: like it's a bad thing to talk about this with
Speaker 1: your kids. And by the way, if you guys do it,
Speaker 1: please holler at me because I'm gonna need some um,
Speaker 1: you know, advice on how to talk about this with
Speaker 1: my boys, because we're not there yet. The boys aren't
Speaker 1: just they're they're really not there yet. We talk about
Speaker 1: other things, like you know, respecting your body and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. Like we're easing into it, right, But like
Speaker 1: how does that conversation go? Like little Billy comes in
Speaker 1: and said, or I don't know what her son's name is.
Speaker 1: It's probably something ridiculous, um, but yeah, her daughter Apple,
Speaker 1: And then I forget what her son's name is. But
Speaker 1: like does he come in and say, you know, mom,
Speaker 1: I'm just super proud of you for you know, sending
Speaker 1: those vibrators on the site. You know, there's something to
Speaker 1: be said about sexual freedom. I don't know if I
Speaker 1: want to talk about it with my kids. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like these celebrities, Oh, he's just doing the
Speaker 1: most and cloud chasing for stories like that probably never
Speaker 1: even happened. She's probably let me just throw this out there,
Speaker 1: see if TMD picks it up, you know, because she
Speaker 1: you know, you don't hear a lot about Wyneth Paltrow.
Speaker 1: She's probably like, Yo, this website, the sails are down.
Speaker 1: Let me sing my son out of me for selling
Speaker 1: these dildos, and then everybody, including Honey German, who never
Speaker 1: heard of my website, will now go to Hoop. I
Speaker 1: heard a push. That's the one with Courtney so it's
Speaker 1: goop and push, goop and push, and there's a I
Speaker 1: don't know what they're drinking over in l A, but
Speaker 1: seriously goop and where did they come up with this stuff?
Speaker 1: Like I'm just saying, my kids are grossed out when
Speaker 1: they see my husband and I kiss, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So it's like, how do you even get
Speaker 1: to that level of like vibrator discussion with your kids?
Speaker 1: It just made me feel icky. It's unnecessary, like once
Speaker 1: your kids are adults, if they find sex toys. While
Speaker 1: because tex sex toys, I feel like, come in after
Speaker 1: like you've already done said now you want to spice
Speaker 1: things up, there's here to the sex toice situation unless
Speaker 1: you're just single and a virgin for a long time.
Speaker 1: Then it comes in. I guess, yeah, no pen intent,
Speaker 1: but but yeah, I know, I just think that this
Speaker 1: this kind of thing. It makes me think like, as
Speaker 1: my kids are getting older, you know, I do want
Speaker 1: to have like this open dialogue with them, but I'm
Speaker 1: not sure that I want to like discussing. Let me
Speaker 1: ask you a question. You have two boys, do you
Speaker 1: feel like it's one pairent? Let's say, do you feel
Speaker 1: like it's the dad's place to talk to the boys,
Speaker 1: and if you had a daughter, it would be your
Speaker 1: place to talk to the girl or not plan on
Speaker 1: having like a joint conversation. Yeah, I mean, I definitely
Speaker 1: want to oversee what Mark tells the boys, not that
Speaker 1: he would tell them anything wrong, you know, I really
Speaker 1: want to explain to them the importance of sensitivity and
Speaker 1: romance and respect and how this is a beautiful thing
Speaker 1: and you know, when they find love, how it's special.
Speaker 1: I really you want them to retain that, I do,
Speaker 1: you know, And I think that like sometimes you know,
Speaker 1: man to man, good God, I think, you know, I
Speaker 1: think that Book is actually like a great guy. I
Speaker 1: don't think that he would really, you know, do anything
Speaker 1: that would be damaging to them. But I also want
Speaker 1: them to know that if they have questions, they can
Speaker 1: come to me. You know what. I'm sure that Mark
Speaker 1: will have his own separate conversations and stuff with them,
Speaker 1: but I think like initially, as we get into it,
Speaker 1: I want to have that kind of like imprint on
Speaker 1: their mind where they remember, like you know, my mom
Speaker 1: told me, you know, holding hands a special to a girl,
Speaker 1: or you know, calling after somebody goes home is really special,
Speaker 1: you know. I don't know. I just both as savages
Speaker 1: away in college, not remembering nothing you said, and it's
Speaker 1: probably gonna happen. It probably will happen, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, because there are guys and and but I
Speaker 1: definitely but I just thought about these kids gonna be
Speaker 1: across the country running in college. Rip my heart out
Speaker 1: right now, Why don't you. I don't even want to
Speaker 1: think about it. I don't want to think about my
Speaker 1: baby's not leaving. I seriously do. I like, I hugged
Speaker 1: them so hard, I wropped my legs around them. Sometimes
Speaker 1: I'm like, I love you so much, you know, but
Speaker 1: I want them to feel that, so, you know, and
Speaker 1: my mom shaming not necessarily. I think it just made
Speaker 1: me feel super awkward. So like, how did it make
Speaker 1: her kid feel to be discussing by and like, you know,
Speaker 1: he did not come up to her and be like, Mom,
Speaker 1: you're the woman because you're selling these vibrators on the
Speaker 1: site and stuff. I just think it's just that whole thing.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm old fashioned. And by the way, you guys
Speaker 1: can call me out if you feel like it, I
Speaker 1: would welcome it, teach me something new. I'm at the
Speaker 1: Real Carolina, So you can throw me that feedback. But
Speaker 1: I just thought this story was so wacky. Like back
Speaker 1: when I saw it, it's just different. I don't I
Speaker 1: feel like people be lying just to be in the blogs.
Speaker 1: The vagina candle was enough. The vagina egg I was
Speaker 1: just like, man, I remember doing my kegels, you know,
Speaker 1: back in the day. I still got to do them,
Speaker 1: you know, after you have kids, you gotta just kind
Speaker 1: of like, you know, actually, as we speak, I'm doing
Speaker 1: one right now. One look at that and yeah, look
Speaker 1: at her whole body move. Do you know you can't
Speaker 1: be letting people know that you're doing the key goals. Girl,
Speaker 1: I'm remembering them. It's so crazy. So yeah, like the
Speaker 1: birds and the bees stuff. I don't know, I just
Speaker 1: feel like it's so awkward. Like even now, I I
Speaker 1: just think like it might be something for Mark and
Speaker 1: I to do in a bit, But man, I am
Speaker 1: not ready for that day. For sure. Give it a
Speaker 1: little more time. Absolutely, absolutely, well, guys, you know what,
Speaker 1: it was so funny hanging out with you today. Definitely
Speaker 1: make sure that you hit us up on social media.
Speaker 1: I'm at the Real Carolina follow ellis English. Oh yes,
Speaker 1: hit me on. I am honey German on the ground. Definitely, guys,
Speaker 1: and check in with us and send us your questions too,
Speaker 1: because we love helping you guys out. We haven't been
Speaker 1: to the salon in a while, so make sure that
Speaker 1: you guys send us some you know of your issues
Speaker 1: or questions so that we can work them out for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: send them any which way you want, you know. D
Speaker 1: M Carolina you love letter and I'll make sure she
Speaker 1: reads it off her phone. I will do it too,
Speaker 1: you know it. I'm always in the d ms, but
Speaker 1: everybody's always asking me questions about like where'd you get
Speaker 1: them shoes? Girl. Nobody ever slides into my DMS for
Speaker 1: anything fun anymore, but I guess that's okay. Bye, guys.
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