Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Jubile Show.
Speaker 2: Yvonne is on the phone today for to Catch a
Speaker 2: Cheater and she thinks that her boyfriend of six years
Speaker 2: named Chuck might be cheating.
Speaker 1: So we'll see if we can help her out. Yvonne
Speaker 1: tell us what's going on?
Speaker 3: Hi, Yeah, So my boyfriend Chuck and I have been
Speaker 3: together for six years. I'm actually the breadwinner between the
Speaker 3: two of us, and I have a really nice job,
Speaker 3: and Chucky, i'd say he has his art. Like he
Speaker 3: has like an okay job.
Speaker 4: He's a bar manager, but he's always.
Speaker 3: Like spending tons of his money and his time on
Speaker 3: his painting and his art, which you know, when I
Speaker 3: first started dating him, like I actually I thought that
Speaker 3: was like really cute and very sweet and he's you know,
Speaker 3: there's like.
Speaker 4: Some vulnerability in that.
Speaker 3: And now and like that's actually like how we used
Speaker 3: to spend a lot of our time together and now
Speaker 3: he's just off like painting in his office and he's
Speaker 3: like always been artsy, but in the last month or so,
Speaker 3: it's just become really intense.
Speaker 2: Like when he's not doing something.
Speaker 3: In the bar and he's not with me, he's just
Speaker 3: off in his little room, and when I walk by,
Speaker 3: when he's like apparently working on a painting, he's actually
Speaker 3: just sitting on his phone, like texting I don't even
Speaker 3: know who. And so I know that he hangs around
Speaker 3: like a lot of the waitresses at his bar, and
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think he might be really tempted
Speaker 3: by one of them. And I've confronted him a couple
Speaker 3: of times about just being really shady around these girls,
Speaker 3: and he keeps denying it, and he keeps telling me
Speaker 3: that I have nothing to worry about, and I just, yeah,
Speaker 3: I think he might be cheating on me.
Speaker 4: With one of the waitresses.
Speaker 3: Like it just this past month specifically, he's really not
Speaker 3: been spending time with me. He's been in his little office,
Speaker 3: or he's been spending too much time at the bar.
Speaker 3: And that's why I'm reaching out to you.
Speaker 1: Now, Okay, have you talked to him about this?
Speaker 3: I have, And I mean, I'm pretty convinced that she's
Speaker 3: cheating on me with one of the waitresses.
Speaker 4: And I had been like, hey, like you seem to
Speaker 4: be really shady. You seem to be spending a.
Speaker 3: Lot of time, like you seem to not be hanging
Speaker 3: out with me. You seem to only be in your office,
Speaker 3: like what is going on? And he keeps denying it.
Speaker 3: So I have brought it up to him, and it's
Speaker 3: certainly hasn't yielded any sort of result.
Speaker 1: Has he ever lied to you before? Any of this
Speaker 1: that you're aware of.
Speaker 4: Not that I'm aware of. I mean, again, we've been
Speaker 4: together for six years, so I'm sure.
Speaker 3: There's you know, like little stuff here and there that
Speaker 3: both of us probably you know, maybe don't share that.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't say it's like explicitly a lie, but not
Speaker 3: in this way, no, because I.
Speaker 5: Just wonder if like your your gut is probably correct,
Speaker 5: but what if it's just like, yeah, he likes the
Speaker 5: attention from this person. I mean, I guess that could
Speaker 5: still be a form of cheating.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it depends on like how you
Speaker 3: exactly like you know, for me, an emotional cheat.
Speaker 4: In some ways actually to potentially be worse than the
Speaker 4: physical cheats.
Speaker 3: Like you know, if you're spending time and energy with
Speaker 3: other people who are who are not your girlfriend, it's
Speaker 3: a big concerning you know, And if you're not able
Speaker 3: to vocalize.
Speaker 4: Why you're doing that, then I.
Speaker 3: Think I have a reason to be even more concerned,
Speaker 3: Like you're not expressing to me, like what's not going well?
Speaker 3: You're not sharing with me why you're interested in talking
Speaker 3: to other people, Like, clearly something is broken that either
Speaker 3: the communication's not working that you're going to do this,
Speaker 3: or that you don't feel safe with me or comfortable
Speaker 3: with me that you're not talking to me about this
Speaker 3: and I'm your girlfriend of six years.
Speaker 2: Other than that stuff, I mean that you know, it
Speaker 2: sounds like there's may be something going on it. Have
Speaker 2: you checked, like is he doing his art? I mean,
Speaker 2: is he spending a lot of time on a project?
Speaker 3: I mean he's in his little office apparently doing art
Speaker 3: as like I'm not an artist myself, so I don't
Speaker 3: really know, like how quickly one is supposed to produce
Speaker 3: a painting, you know what? I like, I don't know
Speaker 3: the like how long it takes to creative painting. It's
Speaker 3: like if he's like, I'm working on it, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: I would like to trust that that's part of the
Speaker 3: process and.
Speaker 4: Gobble around and missed your paint I don't. I mean,
Speaker 4: I don't what do I know?
Speaker 1: You know, Okay, you already told us what grocery store.
Speaker 2: You guys are rewards card members at So we'll call
Speaker 2: and pretend to be from the grocery store and say
Speaker 2: that every single month, we choose one rewards card member
Speaker 2: at random who gets free flowers delivered from our floral department,
Speaker 2: and we'll see if he sends those to you or
Speaker 2: to somebody else.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, Roses would be like perfect.
Speaker 3: He usually actually actually guessed me like a dozen every month,
Speaker 3: so that actually kind of is our fame.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well that works perfect. Then if you definitely
Speaker 2: if you sends them to someone else, that's weird. All right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: well'll play a song. We'll come back and then call
Speaker 2: him and get here.
Speaker 1: To Catch a Cheeter.
Speaker 2: Right after this, right in the middle of To Catch
Speaker 2: a Cheater, if you're just joining us, Yvonne is on
Speaker 2: the phone and she thinks that her boyfriend of six
Speaker 2: years named Chuck might be cheating on her. So in
Speaker 2: a second, we're gonna call him and see if we
Speaker 2: can catch him. But first, Yvonne, why don't you catch
Speaker 2: everybody up in your situation?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I guess the long.
Speaker 4: And short of it is that we've been together for
Speaker 4: six years. I'm the bread winner.
Speaker 3: Chuck works at a bar. He's really into art, and
Speaker 3: she has been the whole time he've been together, but
Speaker 3: more recently this half month, specifically, she's anytime.
Speaker 6: He's not at the he's in his little office.
Speaker 3: Doing his apparent painting and or like what I think
Speaker 3: is like on his phone texting, and I'm just pretty
Speaker 3: convinced that he is cheating on me with one of
Speaker 3: the waitresses at the bar.
Speaker 2: All right, and we're about to call him from the
Speaker 2: grocery store where he's a rewards card member at and
Speaker 2: say that every single month we choose one rewards card
Speaker 2: member at random, we gets three flowers delivered from our
Speaker 2: floral department. Anyone, He said, he gets you flowers every
Speaker 2: month anyway, right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he dies?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so sit really sweet?
Speaker 2: Hey it is if he sends them to somebody else,
Speaker 2: then I mean that is definitely a red flat, red flat,
Speaker 2: big one. All right, here we go. He Hi, this
Speaker 2: is Jafar calling from I was looking for a rewards
Speaker 2: member check.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's me.
Speaker 2: Hey, Chuck, please don't hang up. This is not a
Speaker 2: marketing phone call. I'm calling to tell you congratulations. Here
Speaker 2: this must big winner. Oh thanks for when the flowers.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, cool, like a bouquet or something like that, Like, oh,
Speaker 2: maybe you haven't seen the signs in the store that
Speaker 2: every single month we choose one Rewards Card member to
Speaker 2: get free flowers delivered from our flooria department. It's our
Speaker 2: way of saying thank you very much for being such
Speaker 2: a loyal customer. You'll get thirty six long stim red roses,
Speaker 2: a box of chocolates, and a car delivered to anybody
Speaker 2: that you'd like to deliver them to in the fifty
Speaker 2: United States of the Americas. So congratulations, thank you very much.
Speaker 6: That's awesome.
Speaker 4: Cool.
Speaker 6: Thanks.
Speaker 2: I can take the information down in a matter of
Speaker 2: minutes if you know who you want to send it
Speaker 2: to right now.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we can do it right now.
Speaker 2: First I would need to get the first and the
Speaker 2: last name of the person you'd like to send them to.
Speaker 6: Sure, So the first name is Yvonne.
Speaker 1: And do you want to put anything on a card there?
Speaker 6: Yeah, let's do. Okay, you get more roses this month
Speaker 6: because you're extra special.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I'll just let you know that she's on
Speaker 2: the phone and this is actually the Jewbel Show.
Speaker 1: It's a radio show. My name is juwe Hi Amina Hi,
Speaker 1: I'm Victoria, and Yvonne, your girlfriend is on the phone
Speaker 1: by really. Yeah. We do a segment on the show.
Speaker 1: It's called to Catch a Cheater.
Speaker 2: It's where if you think your significant other might be
Speaker 2: cheating on you, we try to catch you based on
Speaker 2: things like who you send flowers to. So Yvonne has
Speaker 2: been suspicious.
Speaker 6: I don't believe this van For the last time. I
Speaker 6: am not eating on you. Does that make sense to you?
Speaker 4: Do you get that?
Speaker 6: I'm so tired of you accusing me of all of
Speaker 6: this book and just being straight and mean in general?
Speaker 6: You're how am I?
Speaker 3: How am I being?
Speaker 1: You?
Speaker 6: Do you actually want to go through this on the air?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I do? Okay, great, okay, So let's start with maybe
Speaker 6: the fact that you belittle my job every day. It's, oh,
Speaker 6: you're not making enough money. Oh you're working too many hours.
Speaker 6: You know, like you're always reminding me that you are,
Speaker 6: you know, the one putting in all the money, you're
Speaker 6: supporting us, which by the way, is not the case
Speaker 6: at all. I'm putting in my fair share. You just
Speaker 6: seem to have this need for control, right, and then uh, okay,
Speaker 6: let's go on to the next thing. Since you seem
Speaker 6: to have such a problem with me painting and being creative.
Speaker 6: I mean like it feels so unsupportive to me that
Speaker 6: and just makes me feel bad.
Speaker 5: I do have to ask really quick, Chuck, you sound
Speaker 5: very frustrated, and rightfully so.
Speaker 1: At any point have you told her how you feel? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I brought it up.
Speaker 6: No, no, you haven't.
Speaker 3: And even if you haven't, honestly, I don't belittle you. No,
Speaker 3: I don't belittle you. Okay, if you want to look,
Speaker 3: if you want to do your art thing, you can
Speaker 3: go ahead and do it. I don't need I don't
Speaker 3: give a pay. Honestly, at the time that I understand
Speaker 3: or I get it you are saying.
Speaker 6: Just the fact that you call it your art thing,
Speaker 6: it sounds so condescending. It's like it just throws it away.
Speaker 6: It makes it seem like it's nothing. It makes it
Speaker 6: seem like, oh, it's just a hobby, like you know what,
Speaker 6: It's just so kind of.
Speaker 4: Well, it is a hobby. You're not making any money
Speaker 4: on it. Do you make money?
Speaker 3: No, it is a hobby. You see your little office,
Speaker 3: and I don't know what you paid. You don't really
Speaker 3: talk about it with me. It is a hobby.
Speaker 4: So why am I supposed to understand.
Speaker 3: This painting thing being anything more than you just sitting
Speaker 3: in a little office and dabbling on a canvas. Wow,
Speaker 3: bars and money I make more, okay, so what I
Speaker 3: work hard and I get paid well so that you
Speaker 3: can do.
Speaker 4: Your little bar thing?
Speaker 3: Also okay, so art thing and bar thing, same thing
Speaker 3: you do make more money. I'm rend with me. Maybe
Speaker 3: if you stayed home and talked to me instead of
Speaker 3: being in your little office. Maybe if you paid any
Speaker 3: attention to me, Maybe if you actually gave it about
Speaker 3: me and our relationship, I would give.
Speaker 6: About your art. Maybe I'm gonna tell you something. Nothing
Speaker 6: has changed in the last six years I've had this job.
Speaker 6: Since we started, I haven't changed.
Speaker 3: That's exactly the problem. The problem is that nothing has changed.
Speaker 3: We've been together for six years. I think I'm just
Speaker 3: wanting to sit here and just twiddle my thumbs while
Speaker 3: you're doing what. I'm invested in our future together. It's
Speaker 3: in six years. What's the happening to us and our relationship?
Speaker 4: Nothing?
Speaker 3: And I'm tired of having the same conversation with you
Speaker 3: every single day.
Speaker 7: Okay, you know what, ship I did cheat on you?
Speaker 7: And you know what, it wasn't one of the shifts.
Speaker 7: Do you want is that what you want to do?
Speaker 7: Is that what you wanted to hear?
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, well I knew I was right. That's talk
Speaker 4: about the woman's intuition.
Speaker 6: Do you want to know why I did what I did?
Speaker 1: I don't give it.
Speaker 6: Why what did you had? Never given me? Telling on your.
Speaker 4: Girlfriend of six years?
Speaker 3: Tell me anyway you're justified and cheating as opposed to
Speaker 3: communicating with your girlfriend of sixth.
Speaker 6: Tell me, chuck, because she was nice to me and
Speaker 6: she gave Do you know how hard it is to
Speaker 6: come home and realize that the person that you spent
Speaker 6: all this time love and care with doesn't give us
Speaker 6: about who you are and what you do, and she
Speaker 6: was just I'm really glad.
Speaker 4: I'm really glad that all you really want in a
Speaker 4: relationship with someone to be nice to you. I'm really
Speaker 4: really glad that that's something that you're looking for.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad Sometimes that's just enough. That's all I've
Speaker 2: ever wanted, and you know, helped to get that someday too.
Speaker 3: But I know that w she were to date you,
Speaker 3: you flyar such. Eventually she's going to have her heartbroken
Speaker 3: because you're going to go cheat on her because maybe
Speaker 3: her niceness is not something that you're bored with, and
Speaker 3: then you'll just cheat again, always a cheater.
Speaker 6: You know what, Maybe what I did wasn't right, but
Speaker 6: I know that life is too short to be with
Speaker 6: somebody who doesn't support you, who doesn't give us about you.
Speaker 6: All right, well, you know what, I'm going to pack
Speaker 6: up my stupid little office with my stupid little art
Speaker 6: supplies and yeah, see you never cool.
Speaker 4: That's great, Yeah, just run from your problems. Good on you.
Speaker 1: And they both hung up. Wow they should not be together.
Speaker 2: Definitely not this happened. What just happens is I think
Speaker 2: the most appropriate breakup ever.
Speaker 1: I squeezing my butt cheeks that whole time
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