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Speaker 1: discussion with the Breakfast Club. Talk about it morning, everybody

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Speaker 1: in CJ and V Charlomagne the guy. We are the

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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. We have Porsche Williams here and we're talking

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Speaker 1: open relationships. Now this conversation comes from Omnia. Now Moni

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Speaker 1: Have you ever been in open relationship? Never? Never, It's

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Speaker 1: don't work for me. No, No, I ain't gotta ask you.

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Speaker 1: Charlo Man, I know no, I've never been in an

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Speaker 1: old relationship. I don't even know anybody who's ever been

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Speaker 1: in one. I'm interested, though, because you know, um, it

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Speaker 1: seems to be working for some people. But I wonder

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Speaker 1: is it really all right? Well? Oh, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I do remember somebody telling me they were in an

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Speaker 1: can't name them, but she said it didn't work out,

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Speaker 1: and it was on the show. They was on the show,

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Speaker 1: and they told me that they had She told me

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Speaker 1: they had been an open relationship that two men, or

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Speaker 1: she dating and he dates. She wanted she was with women. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she was with women, and she wanted to continue to

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Speaker 1: He didn't like it. He thought it was just gonna

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Speaker 1: be sex, and so they had to stop just having sex.

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Speaker 1: I think most I wouldn't if I would think most

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Speaker 1: men would be cool with that. Like, my wife's got

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Speaker 1: what she'd fall in love with her. Now when you like, okay,

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Speaker 1: wait a minute, you really like this person. That girl

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Speaker 1: can do stuff with her tongue that you can't do. Well,

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Speaker 1: let her teach you. No, no, she can't teach you. Now,

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Speaker 1: you can't learn what a woman could do for a woman.

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Speaker 1: Most African men like to be with more than one woman.

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Speaker 1: Oh hold on, now, it's hold on that. It's a

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Speaker 1: religion thing. And my husband is Christian, so you know,

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Speaker 1: you know, but no, not necessar s not all right,

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Speaker 1: Let's go to the phone line. Hello, who's this Nie Agelannie?

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Speaker 1: Now tell us about your situation. Yours is very interesting, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: y'all actually a couple of years ago. Um, but I'm

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Speaker 1: probably I've been in an over relationship but officially for

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Speaker 1: about eight years with my husband. But we have been

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Speaker 1: living together for the last eight months with my other partner,

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Speaker 1: who I've been having an a betrothed part of lation

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Speaker 1: process with. I have another baby. Is it a man about?

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Speaker 1: That's the same thing. It has to be two two

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Speaker 1: black berries men? Yes, two men. So you have two

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Speaker 1: men living in your house? Now? Yeah, we all live together,

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Speaker 1: but we live we have our own bedroom, so you know,

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Speaker 1: how do you decide which man you sleep with it

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Speaker 1: each night? I sleep by myself. I didn't get a

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Speaker 1: camera over the house. Did they run on you? No,

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Speaker 1: it's not called team. It's definitely not gonna bad. No,

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Speaker 1: not at all. We've never even anything together in that way,

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Speaker 1: Ain't she sounds like the I choose complete whoever, I

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Speaker 1: choose completement, even if it's downside of the house. Is

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Speaker 1: all ethical. I'm honest about I'm not there. Why y'all's

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Speaker 1: going on? Because the first can the first my coolthd

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Speaker 1: my children's hired because I'm Polly. But I met this

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Speaker 1: we've been together. But now I want to have a

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Speaker 1: that's why you want to have a chowder with him?

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Speaker 1: And what about the first husband. Did y'all talk about

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Speaker 1: having a yowl together? We have two beautiful children, Okay,

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Speaker 1: new husband. Why do you explain? Y'all cheering? Y'all got

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Speaker 1: Why why you go there, ignorance? I'm not asking, I'm not.

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Speaker 1: most men, when you think of like an open relationship,

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Speaker 1: actually managed to have two men. So she got her

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Speaker 1: an open relationship. Yeah exactly, And that's where I have

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Speaker 1: the problem. My husband, my husband, they sell outside of me,

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Speaker 1: the capacity and the ability to date whomever they want to.

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Speaker 1: But I'm good, I'm good. They don't have to know

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Speaker 1: So what about when the new baby comes? Are you

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Speaker 1: what about can they have other women? Yeah? She said, yeah,

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Speaker 1: We're smart about this we've been doing it for a

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Speaker 1: I got my first husband, right, I brought my second

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Speaker 1: husband and we three are in a relationship. That's it.

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Speaker 1: We have a commitment. That's I can't understand it, but okay,

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Speaker 1: good morning. How are you? I'm good. You were in

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Speaker 1: him for that relationship. Damn did he know about it?

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Speaker 1: Did he know that you were still dating. Yeah, he knew.

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Speaker 1: we are still always gonna come back home. Well that's

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Speaker 1: in that open relationship and continue on. This is everybody's fit.

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Speaker 1: This ain't fair. You know what I'm saying. I opened

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Speaker 1: saying that ain't right. That's called monkey bar. That's holding

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Speaker 1: That's what it's called monkey bar. Exactly. You learn that

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Speaker 1: five one, five one. We're talking open relationships? Are you

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Speaker 1: We got poorshit williams our co guest host this morning,

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Speaker 1: and we're talking open relationships. Now, this comes from Monique,

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Speaker 1: So we're just asking, are you in one? How is

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Speaker 1: it working for you? Hello? Who's this? Hi? Hello? Hello?

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Speaker 1: I asked anonymous? Okay, anonymous? We got your name? No, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we definitely got your name, but we wouldn't have gonna

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Speaker 1: say Amberley, thank you. I was in an open relationship

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Speaker 1: the open relationship with the nail in our coffin, Lord

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Speaker 1: have mercy. Now that's a real open relationship. Yeah, thank you, mama.

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Speaker 1: That sounds like the movies I used to watch. What's

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Speaker 1: the movie? The twave movies? They don't end well. I

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Speaker 1: ain't seeing nobody have an open relationship in the end.

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Speaker 1: Well yet. Hello, who's a Hey? This is Jayton, Good morning.

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Speaker 1: Stay's my birthday and rest in peace? Thiggy, Hey, it's

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Speaker 1: bow Wow's birthday too, and Chinky too, Hey, happy birthday?

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Speaker 1: All right, what's your what's your story? BROBM, So I

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Speaker 1: and let me tell you say where y'all live at? Um?

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Speaker 1: You know, I think seeing in an open relationship is

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Speaker 1: an opportunity to select your communication skill and really learn

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Speaker 1: get stronger in my opinion, how old are you? I'm

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Speaker 1: twenty four today. Oh so his parents are like our age.

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Speaker 1: So your parents, your parents, your mom had dudes in

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Speaker 1: How do you look at the other dudes that's um

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Speaker 1: So did you start having your relationship because you knew

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