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Speaker 1: All right, attention, Steve Harvey. Nation election day is November two,

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Speaker 1: That is this Tuesday. We're almost out of time. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So New Jersey, thirty three other states, and come on Virginia,

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Speaker 1: Come on Virginia and get this black owned casino. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it is time to vote early for state and local elections.

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Speaker 1: Go to when we all vote dot org to register,

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Speaker 1: we're voting Democratic because I'm just telling you, man, what's

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Speaker 1: happening in this party right now is the Trump Party,

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Speaker 1: and these Republicans are holding the line. I don't even

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Speaker 1: care no more because they're not good Republicans. If you're

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Speaker 1: just honoring Donald Trump, even in his absence, I'm against that.

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Speaker 1: All way Democratic ticket is what we're voting on the

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Speaker 1: governor's race in Virginia and up in New Jersey. So

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Speaker 1: here's the deal. Also in Virginia, flip over the ballot

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Speaker 1: on the back where they have the bills and resolutions.

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Speaker 1: The last one to vote for is do you want

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Speaker 1: casino gaming? In two thousand and one Walmsley Road in Richmond, Virginia.

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Speaker 1: We are voting yes because that will give us the

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Speaker 1: very first African American owned casino on the resort. So

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Speaker 1: flip over the ballot, go to the last one and

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Speaker 1: vote yes for do you want casino gaming in Richmond, Richmond, Virginia.

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Speaker 1: The ballot is that piece of paper. Okay, that's that

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Speaker 1: piece of paper you write your vote on. That's the ballot.

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Speaker 1: Don't go looking for us. So where the ballot? Because

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Speaker 1: Steve said, flipping over, it's the piece of paper you're

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Speaker 1: voting on already in your hands. Already, it's already, So

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Speaker 1: don't vote, and didn't go back up there and said

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Speaker 1: dot or all right, Dane, it's time. Now we're gonna

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Speaker 1: switch it here. It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and morris,

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Speaker 1: and you never know, we could be reading your letter

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Speaker 1: live on the air, just like this one right here. Okay,

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Speaker 1: just like that one right there. Buckle up and hold

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Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter, Thank Enough. Subject. He's a lot different

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Speaker 1: after a few drinks. Dear Stephen Shirley. I married my

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Speaker 1: college sweetheart and we have had our ups and downs,

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Speaker 1: but cheating was never an issue in our marriage. Now

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking of stepping out on my husband of seven years.

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Speaker 1: He's a great guy and everyone loves him when he's

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Speaker 1: not drinking. When he gets that tequila in a system,

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Speaker 1: he becomes an actor, singer, and porn star. I mean,

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Speaker 1: he is really his best in bed. He's been drinking

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Speaker 1: all night. It's like his kryptonite. The only issue with

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Speaker 1: and dirty the whole time. He's even called me someone

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Speaker 1: really bringing it that night. He doesn't remember anything the

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Speaker 1: because I can't stand him when he's drunk or sober.

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Speaker 1: we don't have any children, and I earn all of

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Speaker 1: Should I take him to counseling and try to work

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Speaker 1: Please advise? Well, I mean, really and truly, only you

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Speaker 1: it's some crazy mess, and I feel you because no

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Speaker 1: But you can't deny that you do love having sex

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Speaker 1: But then again, it's confusing because you're willing to work

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Speaker 1: you're scared of him. Which one is it? I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is a lot going on. You say you don't

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Speaker 1: Here I suggest getting help with that first. If he'll go,

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Speaker 1: then you can decide whether you want to stay in

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Speaker 1: this crazy marriage. Steve, ah Lady, it's so many flips

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Speaker 1: I tried to stay with you, but you lost me

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Speaker 1: about seven times. So here we go. I married my

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Speaker 1: college sweetheart and we've had ups and downs, but cheating

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Speaker 1: thinking about stepping out on my husband and seven years

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Speaker 1: what where did that come from? It's just such a

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Speaker 1: quick flip. What what happened college, Sweetheart, We've had ups

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Speaker 1: and downs, but cheat was never an issue. Not Marrid.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm thinking about stepping out on my hubland seven years.

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Speaker 1: What okay, let's flip right back. He's a great guy

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Speaker 1: and everybody loves him when he's not drinking. When he

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Speaker 1: his Kryptoonite. No, lady, the kryptonite that's not krypton Nite

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Speaker 1: used to take Superman's powers. I'm so confused in this. Damn.

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Speaker 1: When we get back, we finished his headache right after this,

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Speaker 1: all right? The Strawberry letters subject, he's a lot different

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Speaker 1: minutes after right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: different after a few drinks. Y'all. This letter so confusing

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Speaker 1: story is better. All Right, I got married to my

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Speaker 1: What where did that come from? Okay, you're ready for

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Speaker 1: another flip. He's a great guy and everybody loves him.

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Speaker 1: Ready for the next flip. When he's not drinking, when

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Speaker 1: all night. It's like his Crypto knighte. No, see, lady,

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Speaker 1: Crypto Knite used to take Superman's powers when he drank

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Speaker 1: to Keila. It give him power. Here a pawn star,

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Speaker 1: that are end the marriage right there? That she said, no,

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Speaker 1: as long as you bringing it that night. Fellus, fella us,

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Speaker 1: don't listen to this just to get you in court.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't remember anything the next day, and recently he

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Speaker 1: told me that we haven't had sex in a long time.

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Speaker 1: I agree with him. Now here's another ready, ready for this.

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Speaker 1: I agree with him because I can't stand him when

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Speaker 1: all sober. There's another's flip. I've started sleeping in the

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Speaker 1: sure why I still put up with him. That's gonna

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Speaker 1: don't have any children, I earned all the money, so

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Speaker 1: I don't need him at all. I've gone to counseling

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Speaker 1: by myself a few times. That's another problem. You ain't

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Speaker 1: in that solving no damn problems in counseling by yourself.

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Speaker 1: sure why I still put up with him. It's because

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Speaker 1: I had a woman tell me I can't stand you

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Speaker 1: when you've gone or hill I would work. Leave us

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