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Speaker 1: Right now. Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it

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Speaker 1: for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Subject the

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Speaker 1: cookie drove my best friend crazy. Dear Stephen Shirley. Every

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Speaker 1: time I say that, Steve, you go, Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty eight I am a twenty eight year

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Speaker 1: so good to be held and kissed so passionately. Well,

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Speaker 1: We knew that we could not be together because I'm

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Speaker 1: forward to twenty eighteen. My best friend is married and

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Speaker 1: I was in a really good relationship and I told

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Speaker 1: Out of the blue, my best friend started sending me

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Speaker 1: I told him to let it go. He said he

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Speaker 1: me and told them about how we made loved was

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Speaker 1: I want my boyfriend back, and I'm furious with my

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Speaker 1: so called best friend. What can I do? Please help? WHOA?

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Speaker 1: I honestly don't know if there's anything you can do.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you can do. I mean, man,

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Speaker 1: I mean he spoiled everything, and your your boyfriend broke

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Speaker 1: none of that. I mean, you know, I guess you

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Speaker 1: Your best friend was so out of line to embarrass

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Speaker 1: way to do it if he was in love with you.

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Speaker 1: told him about sleeping with your best friend, because it was,

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Speaker 1: after all, four years ago, and you asked your boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: doesn't want that for you because he wants you. How

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Speaker 1: selfish of him. But I don't know if there's anything

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Speaker 1: But I don't know. I don't know. There's always hope

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Speaker 1: get to it. Got a lot of cookie time. Had

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Speaker 1: He ended up giving him the cookie. Here the part

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Speaker 1: After it was over, we knew we could not be

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Speaker 1: Really ain't what y'all said last night out twenty eighteen,

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Speaker 1: So out the blue, your poor best friend started sending

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Speaker 1: I was so shocked. I told him to let it go.

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Speaker 1: Then he come to Texas. Now this was let's do

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Speaker 1: this one more time, just one more time, just this one.

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Speaker 1: Just can't find a way. That's some damn Jeane James

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Speaker 1: was the great great James. Yes, I thank you, brother.

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Speaker 1: talking about real hard. She said. It felt so good

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Speaker 1: Now after that it was over, we knew crew couldn't

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Speaker 1: When sheol was shot that it was that damn good.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of sampling. I don't know. Fast forward

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Speaker 1: before you getting married. You're talking about this special night

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Speaker 1: know what you you You're You're gonna take a lot

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to tell you now all that repeat performance

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Speaker 1: before he left yea four years ago, four years ago. Well,

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Speaker 1: I married him. I total him, no, he don't know. Well,

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Speaker 1: and told them about how we made love. Yeah, your mama, ye, daddy, yes,

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Speaker 1: the violence of it all. Dog can't come in here

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Speaker 1: Here's what you should do. You should tell him that

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Speaker 1: know what, everybody know. Everybody but set me. I meeting

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Speaker 1: everybody for the first time. And that's it. You can

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Speaker 1: let me ask something. When he left the house. You

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Speaker 1: don't think he called his boy and said, you ain't

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Speaker 1: feyna believe what the hell you ain't called? So you

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Speaker 1: gotta tell us something he did? What dope, man, I

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Speaker 1: thought you were gonna say he hooked up with someone else,

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