WEBVTT - A Touch of Lace

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<v Speaker 1>Hell Suck At Dating with Dean Angler and Jared Haven

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<v Speaker 1>I heart Radio podcast. Hey, welcome back to help buy

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<v Speaker 1>Suck At Dating. I'm Jared Habn. Dean Angler is having

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<v Speaker 1>technical difficulties right now. I'm pretty sure he's on the

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<v Speaker 1>top of a mountain. Uh so WiFi, as you can imagine,

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<v Speaker 1>not the best up there. I'm not joking. He showed

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<v Speaker 1>up on Zoom in full snowmobile, helmet on goggles, ready

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<v Speaker 1>to go. Oh he's back now, Well, we're gonna find

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<v Speaker 1>out if Dean's gonna join us on the podcast. He's

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<v Speaker 1>looking for a better WiFi spot. We have a very

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<v Speaker 1>special guest whos gonna go host this week's episode. You

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<v Speaker 1>know her. She was on Ben Higgins season of The Bachelor.

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<v Speaker 1>She was also on Bachelor in Paradise season three with

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<v Speaker 1>me before I became somewhat of a smart man. My

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<v Speaker 1>dog is barking in the background. This is a chaotic

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<v Speaker 1>podcast to already begin. Okay, we're all going to settle down.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still wonderful. The beautiful Lace Morris is joining us

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<v Speaker 1>on the podcast today. Lace, how are you? I'm amazing?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you? I'm doing well? It feels like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry. You're walking into this chaotic situation. Dean's literally

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<v Speaker 1>driving right now trying to find a better WiFi spot.

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<v Speaker 1>My dog is freaking out in the background for god

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<v Speaker 1>knows what. But we're so grateful for you to be here. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>Lace you were We were just talking off the podcast. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>We saw you a little over a year ago for

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<v Speaker 1>J J J J Lane and Kayla's wedding. And that

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<v Speaker 1>was like the last time we were at Ashley and

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<v Speaker 1>I were at any big gathering. It was like the

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<v Speaker 1>week before lockdown happened, right, Yeah, we got a little

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<v Speaker 1>fun in before we got locked down. That was a

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<v Speaker 1>fun wedding. That was the only time I've ever been

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<v Speaker 1>to Denver, which is the scariest airport I've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 1>Why because I think we have one of the best airports.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't really venture around, so I can't tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>But that horse with the red eyes, what the hell

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<v Speaker 1>is that about? You know that? Did you know that

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<v Speaker 1>killed the guy that built it? Hold on, what did

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<v Speaker 1>you know that? Wait? So it's a Bronco, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>hence the Denver Broncos. No it's not, but it's not. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so. Well, I'm in an assumption there,

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<v Speaker 1>which as we all know, it makes an asset of

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<v Speaker 1>it might be, but all I know is that his

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<v Speaker 1>own thing killed him because it's all over on him.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's terrifying. Well I heard that airport. There's like

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<v Speaker 1>conspiracy theories about that airport in Denver. Yeah, there is

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<v Speaker 1>a lot I have. I should probably look into that

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<v Speaker 1>ash and I looked into it, like there is some

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<v Speaker 1>secret underground layer where uh there's like aliens being held captive.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy, but I think it's really just because that

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<v Speaker 1>bronco with the red eyes. But anyway, like what it

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<v Speaker 1>was the purpose of putting the scary eyes in there,

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<v Speaker 1>It could have been really cool. You know. Maybe the

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<v Speaker 1>guy was like, listen, I love Denver so much that

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want anybody coming here. So as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>you touch ground in Denver, I'm just gonna put this

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<v Speaker 1>giant horse with red eyes staring directly into your soul

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<v Speaker 1>so it scares you the hell back wherever you came from.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't come here, Yeah, don't come here. It's too good. Uh. Well, Lace,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, everybody obviously knows you from Ben Higgins

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<v Speaker 1>season of the Bachelor, So how'd you end up getting

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<v Speaker 1>on the show originally anyway, Um, I had applied like

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<v Speaker 1>six months before they called me and just randomly. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know why, I just did it and then they

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<v Speaker 1>called me. But I was in a relationship, so I

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<v Speaker 1>was supposed to be on Ashley's season technically, but Crystal season. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Crystals and I had a boyfriend at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>but I knew we weren't going to work out. But

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<v Speaker 1>I just was like a moral thing, so I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe when I'm single again, They're like call us when

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<v Speaker 1>you're single. So I did, and it was just in

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<v Speaker 1>time for bed and season. So you did not pull

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<v Speaker 1>a Jed. That's a good decision, yea. Even though there

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<v Speaker 1>was some talk like a couple of weeks ago that

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<v Speaker 1>Jed was gonna say that he had like this explosive story.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what happened to that, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>it was a good decision, right, and then we never

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<v Speaker 1>got it, and then we never got it. Something happened again.

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<v Speaker 1>It was probably the Denver Airport. The Denver Airport controls everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>including Bachelor Nation. So so you signed up, So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>assuming you were single when you signed up, and then

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<v Speaker 1>you started dating guy, and then that's when they called you. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I actually I was headed to Vegas, but I met

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<v Speaker 1>them anyways behind his back and went and met like

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<v Speaker 1>Lacey what was the name? Lacy really liking me? And

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<v Speaker 1>well what's not to like? Thanks? Sick kind of cool?

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<v Speaker 1>Um but yeah, so um I called him when I

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<v Speaker 1>was single, like you're less than a year later? Oh wow,

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<v Speaker 1>Um it is crazy? How like just it it? So

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<v Speaker 1>when I got casted, I luckily was single, and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think I could have done what you did, which

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<v Speaker 1>is like reach back out. I've I felt terrified to

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<v Speaker 1>even tell them no. In the beginning, like anything they

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<v Speaker 1>wanted me to do. I remember first getting up because

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<v Speaker 1>obviously we all have to go to final casting weekend

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<v Speaker 1>and like we have that super intimidating moment moment where

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<v Speaker 1>you have to sit in front of the thirty producers

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<v Speaker 1>and um, horrible. Oh it's terrifying. I remember, like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm an outgoing person to a certain extent,

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<v Speaker 1>but like they had me imitating Batman and as it

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<v Speaker 1>like they were like, hey, why don't you, uh, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, walk up to this producer and pretend

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<v Speaker 1>you're Batman and in your best Batman impersonation, say what

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<v Speaker 1>you think Batman would say to the bachelorette. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like yeah. I was like, yeah, sure, no problem,

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<v Speaker 1>and then walked into the corner and like started sweating

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<v Speaker 1>immediately and was like, what the frigate am I doing

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<v Speaker 1>with my life right now? So what did you say? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I said something stupid. I said, like you wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>go right in my batmobile. It was like, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>believe they invited me on the show after that. So

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<v Speaker 1>then of course you are on Ben Higgins season to

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<v Speaker 1>the Bachelor, um, and then you were known. It's so

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<v Speaker 1>crazy because I find that people that go on the

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<v Speaker 1>show that are most polarizing are the people that I

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<v Speaker 1>like the most, and you were certainly a polarizing figure

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<v Speaker 1>in the beginning of Ben Higgen's season. Yeah, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>was drunk, But you gotta think like they were coming

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<v Speaker 1>in my hotel room before um, when you know, when

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<v Speaker 1>you get ready and you have to wait in there

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<v Speaker 1>for a while, and they'd come in with shots. So

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<v Speaker 1>I was drinking way earlier in the day. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you have campaign in the limo and then

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<v Speaker 1>behind the camera, I'm taking shots days. So then of

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<v Speaker 1>course you go on Bachelor in Paradise. That's where you

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<v Speaker 1>meet Grant. You guys get engaged. Doesn't work out? Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a question because a lot of people ask

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<v Speaker 1>us about matching tattoos. They're like, should we get couple

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<v Speaker 1>of tattoos? Have you ever talked about this? I know

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<v Speaker 1>you've probably talked so much about this that you were

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<v Speaker 1>so tired of the question, But I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>know your overall thoughts. What do you think of a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of tattoos? Now? Um, don't do it? Honestly? Never again?

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<v Speaker 1>Was that your or Grant side day? I don't well, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so I told Alan that I really wanted a tattoo

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<v Speaker 1>at some point of paradise. So he decided, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>smart them, why don't you guys do it together? And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember exactly whose idea it was. It wasn't mine,

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<v Speaker 1>but I didn't want to do it. No, you guys

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<v Speaker 1>got on your wrist though right, I'm getting I'm getting

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<v Speaker 1>rid of this thing. This is so ugly. Wait, didn't

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<v Speaker 1>you get it removed? I thought you got removed. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I have it, and I'm I just don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>deal with the pain, but I'm going to like the

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<v Speaker 1>physical pain or like the emotional pain and letting go.

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<v Speaker 1>Um that's long gone, thank you, Okay, just clarifying the

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<v Speaker 1>emotions are long gone. No pain, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>feel it. No, I don't blame, especially like a sensitive

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<v Speaker 1>spot on the wrist that must have hurt. Like help.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I was told that there might be one

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<v Speaker 1>where they give you laughing gas and you don't feel it. Interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have any other tattoos? Ah? Yeah, all my

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<v Speaker 1>tattoos are pretty dumb. How many do you have? Three? Okay, Dean,

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<v Speaker 1>I think he's joining us in a second. He's got

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<v Speaker 1>better WiFi. He's got tattoos all over the place. I've

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<v Speaker 1>always wanted a tattoo. I don't have one yet, but

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<v Speaker 1>I plan on getting one. It's funny because we were

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<v Speaker 1>talking about I don't know, I don't know something that

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<v Speaker 1>like symbolizes me, whether it be like it's something stupid

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<v Speaker 1>like Tom Brady a superman. I don't know if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna put it on my body. I wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>something that like I'm super passionate about. You should put

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<v Speaker 1>Tom Brady. You're like you're like obsessed with him. Uh yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's an accurate representation of how I feel

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<v Speaker 1>towards Tom Brady. Um, Dean, we walked into the perfect time,

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<v Speaker 1>the perfect time. We're talking about tattoos. Um, well yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>at Lace got a tattoo with Grant. Is that what

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about? Tattoos? Yes? Yeah? Nice? So Dean, would

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<v Speaker 1>you ever get a couple of tattooed with Kalin? I

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<v Speaker 1>was gonna get I got. We were getting couples tattoos,

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<v Speaker 1>and I went first. Don't do it. I we were

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<v Speaker 1>getting him. I went first, and then she was supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to go second, and she never went so never happened. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>if you guys got a couple tattoos, what would you get?

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<v Speaker 1>Me and Kaylin? No? Uh, you and me? Yes, you

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<v Speaker 1>and Kaylin. We should get couple of tattoos, Jared, we

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<v Speaker 1>could get dating tattoos. Um. I got a skydiver and

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<v Speaker 1>she got she was supposed to get like a paper

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<v Speaker 1>airplane or something, but she never got it, and she

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<v Speaker 1>still to this day says she's gonna get it, but

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<v Speaker 1>it has yet to happen. Yeah, that's why you got

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<v Speaker 1>yours though, right, yeah, I do. It's on my back

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<v Speaker 1>and Now every time someone sees my little parachute guy,

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's like, oh, why do you have a parachute guy?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, oh, my girlfriend was supposed to get

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<v Speaker 1>an airplane and that he jumped out of but she

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<v Speaker 1>never did, and so now I just have a parachute guy. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>at least you can hold that against her for the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of your life. Um. At last, do you like

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<v Speaker 1>guys with tattoos? I don't either way, I go either way.

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<v Speaker 1>My current boyfriend doesn't have any. I know, we saw that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna ask you about that. You just recently

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<v Speaker 1>uh posted a picture of a man uh and you said,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the cash one was found you very adorable.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing is, though, there's nobody tagged on that photo,

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<v Speaker 1>so I was unable to stalk him prior to this pod.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't that so great? No, it's quite sad. I needed

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<v Speaker 1>to know more about this human being. Can you do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to talk about him? Um? Yeah, yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>could talk about him. Great. So how do you guys meet? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>I got on hande to delete it and there was

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<v Speaker 1>a message from him. Really, so you went so you

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<v Speaker 1>were on hinge and then you didn't use it for

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<v Speaker 1>a while no, I just I mean I would go

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<v Speaker 1>on dates, but it wasn't working out. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to focus on work, not date whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>And then there he was what was his opening line? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a picture of my dog and I and he goes,

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful the dog. That is smart man. Diana and I

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<v Speaker 1>always talk about opening lines and d m ng someone,

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<v Speaker 1>and we always say the best way to do it

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<v Speaker 1>isn't just to say hi or hey, it's to bond

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<v Speaker 1>to a photo or it's too like if you're on hand,

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<v Speaker 1>you comment on a photo or even on Instagram, you

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<v Speaker 1>respond to an Instagram story something to like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>break the ice, start the conversation. I feel like no

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<v Speaker 1>girl or a lot of girls don't answer to like hey, hi, no,

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<v Speaker 1>some people are really boring. I do really like those icebreggers. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember this one time when a guy at the

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant came up and gave me a little white napkin

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<v Speaker 1>um and he drew this like very like this really

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<v Speaker 1>good picture of a polar bear and ice breaking and

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<v Speaker 1>he goes, I just wanted to break the ice and

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<v Speaker 1>put his phone number on it. That's really cute. Is

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<v Speaker 1>that the best pickup line and us on you? What

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<v Speaker 1>is that the best one you've ever had that I

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<v Speaker 1>can remember? All right, I don't remember any good pickup lines.

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<v Speaker 1>I had it on a woman. Lease. I have a

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<v Speaker 1>question because we kind of scared it over it. So

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't tag the guy on Instagram when you post

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<v Speaker 1>the picture? Does you not have an Instagram? Yeah? He

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<v Speaker 1>does not have Instagram. You got rid of it. Uh

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<v Speaker 1>this year like this a much better without true and

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<v Speaker 1>it works in my favor for all those stalkers. So right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>so what was his reaction, like, did he know that

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<v Speaker 1>you were on the Bachelor, Bachelor Paradise all that stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>or did he like what was his response to that? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he obviously had to like google who he's going on

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<v Speaker 1>a date with, right, so he got all these videos

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<v Speaker 1>he was like what, Um, he definitely watched the Grace

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<v Speaker 1>tattoo one that was about well that sounds you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he's just scant some information. Yeah, he said he watched

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<v Speaker 1>about poor that was enough, all right? Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>there's really no point in watching. That's curious. Like, it's

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<v Speaker 1>weird to even talk about this, but you know, being

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<v Speaker 1>married to Ash, we've never had to have those conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, the only conversation we've ever had to discussed

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<v Speaker 1>was like girls that I dated, you know, before we

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<v Speaker 1>got together. I don't know, it's I guess it's different

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<v Speaker 1>dating someone outside of the franchise to be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, well you need to know something about me.

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<v Speaker 1>I was on Bachelor, I dated people. There's like things

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<v Speaker 1>on TV. That's an interesting dynamic, especially for someone who

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't even watch any of that. So yeah, it's interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>But he's pretty cool about it. I mean, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>if I thought about it, if I was dating someone

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<v Speaker 1>and they had a tattoo with their ex, that'd be

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<v Speaker 1>uncomfortable a little bit get away. It's definitely weird, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's you know, I mean, like you said, it's it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't mean anything to you anymore. Yeah, I mean my

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<v Speaker 1>take on that is I've got so many meaningless tattoos

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<v Speaker 1>already that what's another one? You know, what's another five

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day. So I I personally

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<v Speaker 1>think it's that weird. Was he because did you get

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<v Speaker 1>yours covered up or like removed any No? I I

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<v Speaker 1>do want to remove it because I actually don't like

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<v Speaker 1>the design grant that he decided to do these little swirlies.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I don't really care for it personally. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's in a tough spot to the wrist. Is something

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<v Speaker 1>that you see like every day, no matter what you're doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't put it on my ass or anything to hide it, right, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a lot of dumb tattoos, but most of

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<v Speaker 1>my dumb ones are like on my back or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like places I can't really see all that. Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I went to a family dinner last night and my

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<v Speaker 1>brother showed up, who I haven't seen in four months,

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<v Speaker 1>and he got a lips on his neck. I'm so annoyed.

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<v Speaker 1>Who does That's pretty very noticeable that Amar who plays basketball.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't he do that? Yeah, that's so funny. I was

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<v Speaker 1>going to mention Kenyan Martin had it. He pulled it off.

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<v Speaker 1>He did pull it off. But I'm surprised, you know

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<v Speaker 1>that Kmart had it. I will say though, like I

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<v Speaker 1>wish I was a guy that was able to pull

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<v Speaker 1>off like an arms sleeve because those are pretty badass.

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<v Speaker 1>I could totally see you with an arm sleeve, me

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<v Speaker 1>with an arms sleeve. I have a picture of a

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<v Speaker 1>pig with a flower crown behind her. You think I

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<v Speaker 1>could pull off an armed sleeve. I appreciate that, though,

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<v Speaker 1>I really do. I feel like Ashley would beg to

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<v Speaker 1>differ once. Once you get to know me, and all

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<v Speaker 1>I do is talk about, you know, Superman and Rob Thomas.

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<v Speaker 1>It's quite pathetic. Um, So, how long have you and uh,

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<v Speaker 1>your boyfriend been dating? Now? How long has it been? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>Actually a month? Not very long? Okay, so like no

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<v Speaker 1>living together yet, nothing like that. I mean we stayed

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<v Speaker 1>together a lot, but not yet okay six months? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>one month? One month? That is very recent. You guys

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<v Speaker 1>are still in puppy love phase. I bet you like

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<v Speaker 1>you enjoy folding laundry together. Oh, it's our favorite to

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<v Speaker 1>have past time. Um. Hey, sometimes like when you know

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<v Speaker 1>you know? Yeah, that's fair, you know what. There's a question.

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<v Speaker 1>So in our next segment, I have some questions for

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<v Speaker 1>you in Dean. Uh, there's some weird dating facts out there,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to get your thoughts on there. But

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<v Speaker 1>before we do that, let's take a quick break. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome back to help I suck a dating. Like we

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<v Speaker 1>tease before the break, we have some weird dating facts

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<v Speaker 1>here on help I sucon dating because that's what we're

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<v Speaker 1>all about. I don't want to get Dan and Laces

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts on it, and I guess I'll give some mine

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<v Speaker 1>on as well. So Lace you talked about before, um

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<v Speaker 1>we took the break that when you know, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And funny enough, there's stats on relationships that reveal that

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<v Speaker 1>most people say they know whether or not they're attracted

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<v Speaker 1>to someone after three seconds of seeing them. So my

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<v Speaker 1>question is three seconds long enough to know whether you're

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to someone or not? Yes? I would think, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>three seconds. The moment I saw him, I was like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 1>he's hotter than I thought. Right, All right, fair point, Dean.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think? I think three seconds is a

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<v Speaker 1>good amount of time for a lot of things. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I think a lot can happen in three seconds.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot more than we expect to happen can happen

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<v Speaker 1>in three seconds. Some times you just have to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>go with it. And yeah, three seconds is plenty time

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<v Speaker 1>in my opinion. Here's my devil's advocate to this. When

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<v Speaker 1>I get to know someone, when I when I see them,

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<v Speaker 1>of course I know whether I'm attractive to them or not.

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<v Speaker 1>But when I get to know someone's personality they become

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<v Speaker 1>either more or less attractive to of course, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>so in my mind I need more than three seconds. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>there are people that like are physically attractive that you're like, whoa,

0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:30.879
<v Speaker 1>this person's got a nice smile, a big but beautiful eyes,

0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:32.440
<v Speaker 1>like that kind of thing. Like that's pretty easy to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out, I think when you say are attracted to someone, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's kind of like the first thing my mind goes

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<v Speaker 1>to was like, yeah, I can. I can go up

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<v Speaker 1>and down on someone pretty quick, but it does take

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<v Speaker 1>time to like figure out their personality and like decide

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<v Speaker 1>whether or not you're attracted to them more than just

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<v Speaker 1>the physical component, you know, Yeah, Dan needs not even

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<v Speaker 1>a second quick updown, but a bang, but a boom

0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:57.040
<v Speaker 1>Dean seconds man. Uh, you know it's another weird dating

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<v Speaker 1>effect and lace. I want to get your thoughts on

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<v Speaker 1>this one. Apparently, as Buddy shows that women are attracted

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<v Speaker 1>to men when they wear blue. This is something we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about on the podcast before, but obviously Dean and

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<v Speaker 1>I are dude, so we can't really answer this. So

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<v Speaker 1>at least, are you attracted to a man when he

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<v Speaker 1>wears blue more than any other color? I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I need to see a man of blue right now

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<v Speaker 1>to like decide wrap I'm not I'm wearing black. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think about a guy in ski helmet

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<v Speaker 1>and ski goggles and a ski jacket. It's pretty good jacket.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's a pretty good look right there. Better. Um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think blue looks good for some reason. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like blue brings out their eyes, especially the brown eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think I think guys, I think people in

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<v Speaker 1>general just look better wearing black. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with the blue thing, but black is definitely color.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there a meaning behind the color blue for this

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<v Speaker 1>that we could let's find out actually something to do

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<v Speaker 1>with it, a meaning behind the color blue? What does

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<v Speaker 1>the color blue mean? Blue is the color of sky

0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:09.000
<v Speaker 1>and see it is often associated with depth and stability

0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:16.760
<v Speaker 1>and trust, loyalty, wisdom, confidence, intelligence. So maybe interesting. That

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<v Speaker 1>is very interesting, because when I think of blue, I

0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:25.159
<v Speaker 1>think of like the blues, like I'm I'm sad, you know,

0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:28.360
<v Speaker 1>like the blues, like, oh I got the blues. That's

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<v Speaker 1>like the last thing that I think of. I think.

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<v Speaker 1>I just remember the fact when we were kids, everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>always like, what's your favorite color? What's your favorite color,

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<v Speaker 1>and if someone's favorite color was blue, they'd always be like, oh,

0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:42.800
<v Speaker 1>most geniuses favorite colors are blue when their kids, So

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<v Speaker 1>it's a good sign. I just remember that was like

0:19:44.920 --> 0:19:48.560
<v Speaker 1>things who told you that that's whatever? It's common knowledge

0:19:48.560 --> 0:19:50.840
<v Speaker 1>apparently when you're a kid. I don't know. But now

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<v Speaker 1>I just associate the color blue with intelligence. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>saying two out of the three people have never heard

0:19:56.160 --> 0:19:59.040
<v Speaker 1>this before in this podcast. I don't know where you

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<v Speaker 1>guys went to school, but where I went to school,

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<v Speaker 1>it was the color of intelligence. Feeling. Robert de Niro

0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:07.320
<v Speaker 1>just came out of beat the parents. You know, they

0:20:07.359 --> 0:20:13.960
<v Speaker 1>say genius is pickering um. All right, Another uh weird

0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:18.440
<v Speaker 1>dating fact of men say they date women that are

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<v Speaker 1>at least five years younger than them. So my question, lace,

0:20:25.160 --> 0:20:29.199
<v Speaker 1>are you older or younger than your boyfriend? Okay, alright,

0:20:29.240 --> 0:20:31.800
<v Speaker 1>so this one didn't go as far. Five years. That

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<v Speaker 1>seems like a little much. I think that seems a

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<v Speaker 1>little nice. I think five years is too much. No,

0:20:36.680 --> 0:20:39.679
<v Speaker 1>not too much. I just think that as a stat

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it seems like five years. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to like, I don't want to make this uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>Conversation or anything. But in April I turned thirty and

0:20:48.960 --> 0:20:54.960
<v Speaker 1>Caitlyn is so right into this narrative. I guess I'm

0:20:54.960 --> 0:20:57.200
<v Speaker 1>a weirdo, but only for a couple of months out

0:20:57.200 --> 0:20:59.560
<v Speaker 1>of the year because the other ten months I'm only

0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:02.800
<v Speaker 1>four years older than her. Well, no, I think the

0:21:03.000 --> 0:21:05.800
<v Speaker 1>h gap is good, Like that's fine. I'm just saying

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<v Speaker 1>as a stat five years seems if that's the you know,

0:21:10.480 --> 0:21:13.840
<v Speaker 1>the number of years most Pete. I don't know, Jared,

0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:16.760
<v Speaker 1>aren't you younger than Ashley? I am. I'm nine months

0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:20.720
<v Speaker 1>younger than Ashley. Also, Ashley's birthday is tomorrow. We're recording

0:21:20.720 --> 0:21:24.440
<v Speaker 1>this on Friday, and Ashley's yep, she's turning thirty three.

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<v Speaker 1>For uh, well, we're in the midst of moving right now,

0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:32.600
<v Speaker 1>so it's a little chaotic, but we're gonna go have

0:21:32.720 --> 0:21:36.480
<v Speaker 1>dinner with Tanner and Jade uh and I uh, I

0:21:36.520 --> 0:21:39.040
<v Speaker 1>have some things planned for her, small things, you know,

0:21:39.240 --> 0:21:43.280
<v Speaker 1>just a little little reminders. Moving out of your apartment

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<v Speaker 1>in l A. Yes, we are where a little place

0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:51.520
<v Speaker 1>called Rhode Island. I don't know you guys were moving,

0:21:51.640 --> 0:21:54.920
<v Speaker 1>that's yeah, So we're moving out of our apartment. Um,

0:21:54.960 --> 0:21:56.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean We're gonna probably be back and maybe get

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<v Speaker 1>a studio apartment sometime next year when things get normal,

0:21:59.160 --> 0:22:00.560
<v Speaker 1>like if we have to be here for work and

0:22:00.600 --> 0:22:02.840
<v Speaker 1>things of that nature. But it just didn't make sense

0:22:02.840 --> 0:22:04.280
<v Speaker 1>for us to be here in Los Angeles. We want

0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:06.399
<v Speaker 1>to be closer to our family. We love the East Coast.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to raise a family in Rhode Island. I've

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<v Speaker 1>always you know, when we got together, I told Ashley,

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<v Speaker 1>I've always wanted to move back, and she was like, no,

0:22:13.320 --> 0:22:15.879
<v Speaker 1>I would love to grow, you know, live in New England.

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<v Speaker 1>So we didn't plan to do this for a couple

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<v Speaker 1>more years. But with COVID, everything just kind of expedited

0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:23.520
<v Speaker 1>and we felt that now is the right time to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. And then if we need to come back

0:22:25.359 --> 0:22:27.560
<v Speaker 1>for you know, whatever work, or if we need to

0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:29.600
<v Speaker 1>be here for a few months, then we'll figure it out.

0:22:29.920 --> 0:22:33.879
<v Speaker 1>When we crossed that bridge, that is. So that is

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I was gonna say, because I remember you

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<v Speaker 1>saying that you did want to move to the East Coast,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was gonna be happening, like, you know, three

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<v Speaker 1>or four years. But I guess COVID kinda, I mean,

0:22:42.440 --> 0:22:44.800
<v Speaker 1>everything is remote. When's the next time you and I

0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:46.320
<v Speaker 1>are gonna be in studio. I mean, you're on top

0:22:46.400 --> 0:22:50.560
<v Speaker 1>of a mountain. We can't get you down, bro right

0:22:50.720 --> 0:22:53.440
<v Speaker 1>right right. It's it's my fault. That's why you're moving

0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:55.080
<v Speaker 1>to Rhode Island because you're not gonna see me in

0:22:55.160 --> 0:22:57.640
<v Speaker 1>studio anymore. I get it exactly. I was like, ash

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<v Speaker 1>we gotta move now. I mean, Dean, just now, the

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<v Speaker 1>time is nice. Do you guys have a place in

0:23:03.080 --> 0:23:05.560
<v Speaker 1>on the East Coast picked out? No? No, not yet.

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<v Speaker 1>We're looking at different plots of land, we're looking at

0:23:07.720 --> 0:23:10.400
<v Speaker 1>different houses. We don't have anything that you know we're

0:23:10.400 --> 0:23:12.600
<v Speaker 1>gonna buy. Yeah, we've never owned. We've never owned in

0:23:12.680 --> 0:23:14.160
<v Speaker 1>our lives, so this will be the first time we're

0:23:14.160 --> 0:23:16.840
<v Speaker 1>gonna be homeowners. Be honest. Did Kaylin and I buying

0:23:16.840 --> 0:23:19.919
<v Speaker 1>a house inspire you guys to buy a house? Were

0:23:20.000 --> 0:23:22.159
<v Speaker 1>you like, they're buying one, so now we have to, like,

0:23:22.440 --> 0:23:25.720
<v Speaker 1>you know, be better than them and buy one ourselves. Oh? Totally,

0:23:25.720 --> 0:23:27.880
<v Speaker 1>Except I didn't say it calmly. I was like, Ashley,

0:23:28.160 --> 0:23:30.360
<v Speaker 1>Dean and Kaylin have a house. We need to buy

0:23:30.359 --> 0:23:33.800
<v Speaker 1>a house right now, right right? That's fair. I respect that.

0:23:34.280 --> 0:23:36.520
<v Speaker 1>What are you building a house? On a plot of land,

0:23:36.640 --> 0:23:39.320
<v Speaker 1>or are you gonna buy and already built house. Uh,

0:23:39.440 --> 0:23:43.119
<v Speaker 1>we're leaning towards the former. You're gonna build a house

0:23:43.160 --> 0:23:44.920
<v Speaker 1>because that's that means you're gonna live with your parents

0:23:44.960 --> 0:23:47.160
<v Speaker 1>for like a year or something. We might rent. We're

0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:48.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna try to figure it out my sister and we're

0:23:48.960 --> 0:23:50.560
<v Speaker 1>gonna stay with my sister for a little while. We're

0:23:50.560 --> 0:23:55.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna we're gonna kind of figure it out. So uh yeah,

0:23:55.040 --> 0:23:56.920
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna we're kind of playing it by ear. But

0:23:57.920 --> 0:23:59.560
<v Speaker 1>the time to do that is now before we have

0:23:59.720 --> 0:24:02.919
<v Speaker 1>kids and we can't really do anything spontaneously. That's crazy, man.

0:24:02.920 --> 0:24:04.560
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's like a big a bomb being

0:24:04.640 --> 0:24:06.480
<v Speaker 1>dropped on me right now in the middle of a

0:24:06.520 --> 0:24:08.800
<v Speaker 1>casual conversation with Lace, and I feel like that's I

0:24:10.400 --> 0:24:13.520
<v Speaker 1>like to sneak in breaking news, like have we I

0:24:13.640 --> 0:24:15.359
<v Speaker 1>feel like you, I don't know, we can move on.

0:24:15.680 --> 0:24:17.400
<v Speaker 1>I am just still baffled. I feel like we haven't

0:24:17.400 --> 0:24:19.160
<v Speaker 1>talked about this and it's just a lot of things

0:24:19.240 --> 0:24:22.360
<v Speaker 1>to unpact. We'll talk about it more in definitely next podcast.

0:24:22.400 --> 0:24:28.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to Okay, okay, um me and Kitlin, Yeah,

0:24:28.960 --> 0:24:30.760
<v Speaker 1>we have a house in l A and we just

0:24:30.800 --> 0:24:35.000
<v Speaker 1>bought a house in Las Vegas. Okay, so, but I

0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:39.520
<v Speaker 1>think that we bought the house in January, told Jared

0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:42.600
<v Speaker 1>about it, and now apparently he's just trying to one

0:24:42.680 --> 0:24:45.000
<v Speaker 1>up us and buy a house in freaking New England.

0:24:45.280 --> 0:24:48.720
<v Speaker 1>As soon Ash and I will have a joint bank account. Yeah,

0:24:49.400 --> 0:24:51.639
<v Speaker 1>maybe on the same cell phone plan, you know. I

0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:54.120
<v Speaker 1>mean that's I mean, we're married, bro, I don't Let's

0:24:54.119 --> 0:24:58.000
<v Speaker 1>take one step at a time, um, lace. I also

0:24:58.040 --> 0:25:01.800
<v Speaker 1>want to ask you about this. Uh, only twenty percent

0:25:01.960 --> 0:25:05.600
<v Speaker 1>of women believe in love at first sight. So my

0:25:05.720 --> 0:25:08.399
<v Speaker 1>question to you is, do you believe a love at

0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:12.800
<v Speaker 1>first sight? I don't know how to answer this. Um yes,

0:25:12.880 --> 0:25:18.680
<v Speaker 1>And now, like I feel like after the first date,

0:25:19.720 --> 0:25:21.720
<v Speaker 1>I knew that, like Trenton and I are going to

0:25:22.920 --> 0:25:26.520
<v Speaker 1>blast forever. Oh that's so sweet. How do you know

0:25:27.000 --> 0:25:32.440
<v Speaker 1>after one day have this good intuition? You guys should

0:25:32.440 --> 0:25:37.440
<v Speaker 1>totally get matching tattoos. Leave me alone. They are on

0:25:37.520 --> 0:25:40.359
<v Speaker 1>the same page about everything, So we've talked about it.

0:25:41.119 --> 0:25:44.879
<v Speaker 1>That's so sweet? Is insane? Well, they always say, we

0:25:44.880 --> 0:25:46.840
<v Speaker 1>always say communication is the most important thing to have

0:25:46.920 --> 0:25:50.640
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship. Yeah, so you're you're saying you knew

0:25:50.760 --> 0:25:52.880
<v Speaker 1>right away that he was the one. It was after

0:25:52.960 --> 0:25:55.600
<v Speaker 1>that first date. I was like, yeah I did, And

0:25:55.720 --> 0:26:01.040
<v Speaker 1>he said he myself, it's cool listening to this. No,

0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:03.960
<v Speaker 1>he's working. Okay. Cool. I was gonna say we had

0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:05.159
<v Speaker 1>we would have to bring him in if that were

0:26:05.200 --> 0:26:08.760
<v Speaker 1>the case, He'd love to. He's a great speaker. Can

0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:11.320
<v Speaker 1>you say what he does? Um? He actually is a

0:26:11.400 --> 0:26:14.000
<v Speaker 1>director of sales for pharmaceutical sales and he has multiple

0:26:14.160 --> 0:26:22.200
<v Speaker 1>investment properties. Damn, you found a good one. I did. Um.

0:26:22.720 --> 0:26:25.320
<v Speaker 1>But well, this isn't kind of goes along with your

0:26:25.400 --> 0:26:31.120
<v Speaker 1>relationship right now as well. The status of current committed

0:26:31.200 --> 0:26:34.760
<v Speaker 1>relationships began online, which is not shocking at all. I

0:26:34.800 --> 0:26:40.680
<v Speaker 1>feel like everybody's beating online today. Yeah. I feel like

0:26:40.840 --> 0:26:42.520
<v Speaker 1>I feel like five years from now to that number

0:26:42.560 --> 0:26:43.960
<v Speaker 1>is gonna be a lot higher because I feel like

0:26:44.640 --> 0:26:48.880
<v Speaker 1>online dating is really just starting to take off, you know. Yeah.

0:26:48.880 --> 0:26:50.760
<v Speaker 1>I feel like, Okay, where'd you meet? Oh, we're at

0:26:50.800 --> 0:26:53.159
<v Speaker 1>on a hinge. It's just so common now, doesn't seem so.

0:26:53.760 --> 0:26:55.880
<v Speaker 1>It's so funny too, because like four years ago, people

0:26:55.920 --> 0:26:58.440
<v Speaker 1>would like make up stories about how they met when

0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:00.359
<v Speaker 1>in reality, they met on Tinder or some thing because

0:27:00.359 --> 0:27:03.080
<v Speaker 1>they were like ashamed of it. But now people are like,

0:27:03.160 --> 0:27:06.240
<v Speaker 1>it's just way more commonplace. Yeah, I'm glad it's becoming

0:27:06.280 --> 0:27:08.679
<v Speaker 1>more commonplace because You're right, Dean, I feel like there

0:27:08.760 --> 0:27:11.159
<v Speaker 1>is used to be this stigma against it, which is

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:14.320
<v Speaker 1>so weird because all you should really focus on is

0:27:14.600 --> 0:27:18.760
<v Speaker 1>achieving happiness, no matter how you get there. And like

0:27:18.920 --> 0:27:20.800
<v Speaker 1>even for me, when I was on dating apps, you know,

0:27:20.880 --> 0:27:23.480
<v Speaker 1>before one on the show, I was always ashamed. I

0:27:23.600 --> 0:27:25.080
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, I don't want people to know that

0:27:25.119 --> 0:27:27.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm on plenty of Fish. My my sister met her

0:27:27.400 --> 0:27:30.560
<v Speaker 1>husband on plenty of fish, you know, and fish is

0:27:30.680 --> 0:27:33.360
<v Speaker 1>so terrible. No, I love I love plenty of fish.

0:27:33.440 --> 0:27:35.760
<v Speaker 1>My my brother in law came from plenty of fish.

0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:40.600
<v Speaker 1>Funny memories of plenty of fish. Wow, I was. I

0:27:40.720 --> 0:27:42.480
<v Speaker 1>was skiing with this guy the other day in winter

0:27:42.600 --> 0:27:46.160
<v Speaker 1>park and he was like, so, how'd you meet your girlfriend?

0:27:46.400 --> 0:27:48.840
<v Speaker 1>And I hate that question because it just opens the

0:27:48.880 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 1>door for so much more like follow up conversation, and

0:27:51.040 --> 0:27:52.760
<v Speaker 1>so I'm always I always just tell people that she

0:27:52.800 --> 0:27:55.200
<v Speaker 1>slid into my d M s. You know, you lie

0:27:56.280 --> 0:27:58.560
<v Speaker 1>unless I'm like, unless I like the person I'm talking to,

0:27:58.640 --> 0:28:00.240
<v Speaker 1>and like I'm ready to have like a full Converse station,

0:28:00.240 --> 0:28:01.280
<v Speaker 1>and then I'll be like, yeah, we met on a

0:28:01.320 --> 0:28:04.239
<v Speaker 1>TV show, but I don't. It's not necessarily a lie

0:28:04.280 --> 0:28:06.840
<v Speaker 1>because she did slide into my d M s and

0:28:07.320 --> 0:28:09.400
<v Speaker 1>we like talked in the d M s before even

0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:13.320
<v Speaker 1>going on Bachelor Paradise, So it's not technically a lie. Okay, yeah,

0:28:13.400 --> 0:28:16.200
<v Speaker 1>that's true. Actually it's just not the whole truth. Yeah,

0:28:16.200 --> 0:28:19.320
<v Speaker 1>I I I usually tell people that ashe and I

0:28:19.440 --> 0:28:22.399
<v Speaker 1>met on TV show, usually like it's it's always funny

0:28:22.440 --> 0:28:24.600
<v Speaker 1>to me whenever I go golfing and I get paired

0:28:24.680 --> 0:28:26.760
<v Speaker 1>up with a random two and it's like a buddy

0:28:26.760 --> 0:28:28.960
<v Speaker 1>of mine and they're like, you know, we're just talking.

0:28:29.040 --> 0:28:30.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh yeah, I've been married for a year now,

0:28:30.880 --> 0:28:32.800
<v Speaker 1>and they're like, oh, where'd you meet your wife? And

0:28:32.840 --> 0:28:34.760
<v Speaker 1>I was like, a funny story, we met on a

0:28:35.040 --> 0:28:38.400
<v Speaker 1>we met on a show called Bachelor in Paradise. How

0:28:38.480 --> 0:28:43.240
<v Speaker 1>did you? Usually usually like it changes, it's so funny,

0:28:43.280 --> 0:28:46.080
<v Speaker 1>and I'm sure you guys can attest this where like

0:28:46.400 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 1>people will treat you differently once they know that you're

0:28:49.480 --> 0:28:52.680
<v Speaker 1>on TV. Weirdly enough, like guys will like, you know,

0:28:52.800 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 1>we're like busting balls or like I'm getting to know

0:28:55.480 --> 0:28:57.880
<v Speaker 1>someone and then like, oh, yeah, we met on Bachelor Paradise.

0:28:57.920 --> 0:28:59.720
<v Speaker 1>And then I'll kind of kinda go into the story

0:28:59.800 --> 0:29:02.640
<v Speaker 1>and are just like almost in awe a little bit,

0:29:02.920 --> 0:29:05.600
<v Speaker 1>mostly in Rhode Island, so it's like, it's it's funny.

0:29:05.920 --> 0:29:08.200
<v Speaker 1>I I always enjoy the reaction of people whenever I

0:29:08.240 --> 0:29:10.960
<v Speaker 1>say it right, They're like start, they start getting more

0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:13.480
<v Speaker 1>chummy with you, they get like more buddy buddy. Yeah,

0:29:13.840 --> 0:29:17.880
<v Speaker 1>like there's a business opportunity here. You know. It's interesting

0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:20.560
<v Speaker 1>dating Trent and though because so many people would message

0:29:20.600 --> 0:29:22.160
<v Speaker 1>him and be like you know who dating right and

0:29:22.640 --> 0:29:24.360
<v Speaker 1>stuff like that, you know, because he wasn't on the

0:29:24.360 --> 0:29:28.560
<v Speaker 1>show versus you guys dating really Yeah, people will message

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:31.160
<v Speaker 1>him and tell him about me or screenshot my stories

0:29:31.160 --> 0:29:34.040
<v Speaker 1>because they already follow me, and then give him the detail.

0:29:34.360 --> 0:29:37.880
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, Okay, were they what were they saying? Yeah?

0:29:38.200 --> 0:29:40.280
<v Speaker 1>I think bad. No one said anything bad. They're like,

0:29:40.720 --> 0:29:43.120
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, like what what is this? You know,

0:29:43.600 --> 0:29:46.760
<v Speaker 1>but that's really funny. He must have felt pretty cool.

0:29:47.680 --> 0:29:50.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I'm not sure or like, what did

0:29:50.840 --> 0:29:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I get myself into when the Yeah, either one could

0:29:53.120 --> 0:29:57.080
<v Speaker 1>go either way really. Um, all right, last haf before

0:29:57.160 --> 0:30:02.880
<v Speaker 1>we move on? Which one do I like the best? Uh?

0:30:03.360 --> 0:30:07.080
<v Speaker 1>You know, let's give the last one. Eighty percent of

0:30:07.160 --> 0:30:12.600
<v Speaker 1>women find money to be very important in a relationship, um,

0:30:13.320 --> 0:30:17.320
<v Speaker 1>which I agree with. If it's gonna be a long

0:30:17.440 --> 0:30:19.240
<v Speaker 1>term relationship. If you think that this is going to

0:30:19.320 --> 0:30:23.600
<v Speaker 1>be something that can be marriage material, then of course

0:30:23.640 --> 0:30:26.800
<v Speaker 1>I think obviously money places a factors. It's it's kind

0:30:26.840 --> 0:30:30.080
<v Speaker 1>of weird to say, but I just think it's true. Yeah,

0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:33.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, of course it's true, whether we want to

0:30:33.000 --> 0:30:35.040
<v Speaker 1>say it or not. It's like, like you said, especially

0:30:35.080 --> 0:30:37.720
<v Speaker 1>long term you want to have like a comfortable future.

0:30:38.360 --> 0:30:41.440
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say it's like obviously everything, but it definitely

0:30:41.480 --> 0:30:46.440
<v Speaker 1>has to be factored into your decision making I feel like, yeah,

0:30:46.640 --> 0:30:51.240
<v Speaker 1>on a date, like a guy that well money. No, yeah,

0:30:51.320 --> 0:30:54.320
<v Speaker 1>I mean sometimes I feel insecure. My Ashley's walking into

0:30:54.360 --> 0:30:56.760
<v Speaker 1>the room so rudely, I might add every week on

0:30:56.800 --> 0:31:00.440
<v Speaker 1>the podcast Last she always walks into the room and interrupts, No,

0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:04.000
<v Speaker 1>it's well. If I did this to her on her podcast,

0:31:04.040 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 1>I say it all the time, there would be hell

0:31:06.760 --> 0:31:10.400
<v Speaker 1>rained upon me. Anyhow are you going to tell the

0:31:10.480 --> 0:31:14.720
<v Speaker 1>podcasts that she's behind you naked, she's's well, she's not naked,

0:31:15.920 --> 0:31:18.440
<v Speaker 1>she's got booty shorts on. Um. Well, what I was

0:31:18.480 --> 0:31:20.520
<v Speaker 1>gonna say is Ashley, I don't mind saying this actually

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:23.200
<v Speaker 1>makes more more money than I and sometimes it's like

0:31:23.240 --> 0:31:25.920
<v Speaker 1>a little insecurity of mine. But we talked about it.

0:31:27.160 --> 0:31:28.480
<v Speaker 1>I told you, Jerry, that's why you gotta get the

0:31:28.520 --> 0:31:31.280
<v Speaker 1>joint bank account. Kalin out earns me by a freaking mile,

0:31:31.440 --> 0:31:33.520
<v Speaker 1>but we gotta join bank account. So it's cool. I

0:31:33.600 --> 0:31:36.520
<v Speaker 1>got I gotta I gotta contract right there. Yeah, same,

0:31:36.600 --> 0:31:40.640
<v Speaker 1>so do I contract? Not really? Actually? Uh? We actually

0:31:40.720 --> 0:31:44.120
<v Speaker 1>we bicker. Killen and I picker about money sometimes, Like,

0:31:44.280 --> 0:31:47.640
<v Speaker 1>for instance, whenever I drive us places, I always use

0:31:47.680 --> 0:31:49.600
<v Speaker 1>my credit cards, like pay for the gas and everything.

0:31:50.200 --> 0:31:53.080
<v Speaker 1>But then whenever she drives places, she uses the joint

0:31:53.440 --> 0:31:55.920
<v Speaker 1>credit card to pay for gas, and I'm like, well,

0:31:56.000 --> 0:31:57.840
<v Speaker 1>I trick you on the trips and pay for the gas,

0:31:57.880 --> 0:32:00.560
<v Speaker 1>but then you make us split gas when you places.

0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:04.680
<v Speaker 1>That's not fair. Also, I like never charged her for

0:32:04.800 --> 0:32:06.400
<v Speaker 1>her half of the cell phone bill for the past

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:08.360
<v Speaker 1>like year, and then all of a sudden one day

0:32:08.360 --> 0:32:09.640
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, hey, by the way, you owe me,

0:32:09.760 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 1>like you for the cell phone bill that I haven't

0:32:12.200 --> 0:32:14.400
<v Speaker 1>been charging you for and then like well like have

0:32:14.520 --> 0:32:16.959
<v Speaker 1>to like pick her back and forth to like settle

0:32:17.040 --> 0:32:21.080
<v Speaker 1>on an amount that seems more correct. But at the

0:32:21.120 --> 0:32:22.800
<v Speaker 1>end of the day, it's not like the biggest deal

0:32:22.800 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 1>in the world, but it's just like still funny. Adulting sucks, Yeah, adulting,

0:32:28.480 --> 0:32:33.320
<v Speaker 1>especially tax seasons. Forever on the corner, kid, it was

0:32:33.360 --> 0:32:36.000
<v Speaker 1>way better. All right, we'll make sure are you stay tuned.

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<v Speaker 1>That's just Mark though, that's just Marks or I think thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>had just gotten out of a series of pretty intense relationships.

0:34:47.760 --> 0:34:50.040
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't looking for anything serious. When I started dating

0:34:50.040 --> 0:34:52.759
<v Speaker 1>a new guy. I entered into the relationship thinking it

0:34:52.800 --> 0:34:55.080
<v Speaker 1>would just be a fling and wouldn't last long. In

0:34:55.160 --> 0:34:58.000
<v Speaker 1>the early dating phase, I slept with someone else, still

0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:00.760
<v Speaker 1>thinking the relationship wouldn't last longer than a couple of months.

0:35:01.360 --> 0:35:03.239
<v Speaker 1>Two and a half years later, I am head over

0:35:03.320 --> 0:35:05.320
<v Speaker 1>heels in love with this guy. We lived together, we

0:35:05.440 --> 0:35:08.160
<v Speaker 1>see a future together, et cetera. Do I tell him

0:35:08.160 --> 0:35:11.400
<v Speaker 1>about the guy I slept within the beginning? Technically that

0:35:11.600 --> 0:35:14.440
<v Speaker 1>was cheating as we were in a loose relationship at

0:35:14.480 --> 0:35:17.279
<v Speaker 1>the time. And if sty together, or do I just

0:35:17.400 --> 0:35:19.560
<v Speaker 1>forget it about it? Because nothing good would come from

0:35:19.600 --> 0:35:28.520
<v Speaker 1>telling him? Help, Because, like I want to say, some

0:35:28.640 --> 0:35:32.920
<v Speaker 1>things are better left on said. But m hm okay,

0:35:34.440 --> 0:35:41.520
<v Speaker 1>I think, oh, man, I think you tell him. I

0:35:41.600 --> 0:35:45.160
<v Speaker 1>think you tell him here, I don't know. I just

0:35:45.280 --> 0:35:47.480
<v Speaker 1>think that he'll forgive you. I think he'll forgive you

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:50.239
<v Speaker 1>if you tell him. If he finds out on his own,

0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:52.520
<v Speaker 1>God forbid he finds out on his own, then it

0:35:52.600 --> 0:35:56.919
<v Speaker 1>seems like you were hiding it from him. Half years later, Yeah,

0:35:56.960 --> 0:35:59.840
<v Speaker 1>but now if she thinks like, oh, I'm gonna marry

0:36:00.000 --> 0:36:02.440
<v Speaker 1>this dude, and I might have like technically cheated on

0:36:02.600 --> 0:36:04.719
<v Speaker 1>him in early part of the relationship. I would just

0:36:04.760 --> 0:36:07.040
<v Speaker 1>be nervous that if he finds out from someone else

0:36:07.719 --> 0:36:10.719
<v Speaker 1>that she did technically cheat on him, would he lose

0:36:10.800 --> 0:36:13.600
<v Speaker 1>trust in her rather than her just being like, hey, listen,

0:36:13.680 --> 0:36:15.680
<v Speaker 1>I want to be upfront about you because I want

0:36:15.680 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 1>to spend the rest of my life with you. Um,

0:36:17.880 --> 0:36:19.640
<v Speaker 1>there was this thing two and a half years ago,

0:36:19.800 --> 0:36:22.520
<v Speaker 1>right when we first dated. I was confused and something

0:36:22.600 --> 0:36:25.480
<v Speaker 1>happened and that was it. I don't know, I don't know.

0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:30.880
<v Speaker 1>I respect the honest David. That's tough. I agree. I

0:36:31.040 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 1>think that. At first I wanted to say, don't tell him,

0:36:34.000 --> 0:36:37.319
<v Speaker 1>but after hearing Jared's explaination, I agree, you gotta tell him.

0:36:37.880 --> 0:36:40.480
<v Speaker 1>You just gotta preface it and be like, hey, there's

0:36:40.520 --> 0:36:43.200
<v Speaker 1>something I gotta get off my chest. Not a big deal.

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:45.600
<v Speaker 1>But like when we first started talking, I also looked

0:36:45.640 --> 0:36:50.200
<v Speaker 1>up with someone else, uh way before we were you know, solidified,

0:36:50.520 --> 0:36:55.759
<v Speaker 1>and um, what's the word I'm looking for? Uh? I

0:36:55.800 --> 0:36:58.319
<v Speaker 1>guess right, like whatever it is, So like, I think

0:36:58.360 --> 0:37:01.879
<v Speaker 1>that's probably the move that way, like, let him make

0:37:01.960 --> 0:37:04.040
<v Speaker 1>his decision. If he doesn't want to be in the relationship,

0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 1>God forbid, obviously, so be at least you were the

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:09.760
<v Speaker 1>one that told him and came clean. And in my opinion,

0:37:10.040 --> 0:37:12.160
<v Speaker 1>for the record, I don't necessarily even think that she

0:37:12.280 --> 0:37:14.720
<v Speaker 1>did anything wrong, and I think that to be stated

0:37:14.760 --> 0:37:18.200
<v Speaker 1>because if they're especially in the beginning stages of relationships,

0:37:18.239 --> 0:37:22.000
<v Speaker 1>when things are so loosely defined, it's like, well, it's like,

0:37:22.440 --> 0:37:26.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's fine. In my opinion, that's kind of

0:37:26.239 --> 0:37:28.880
<v Speaker 1>why I was thinking, maybe just leave it alone, because

0:37:29.520 --> 0:37:34.440
<v Speaker 1>she technically wasn't with him. Yeah, that's a good argument too,

0:37:34.480 --> 0:37:35.920
<v Speaker 1>because then like what do you deal? Let go back

0:37:36.000 --> 0:37:37.879
<v Speaker 1>and recount every time he hooked up with a girl

0:37:38.080 --> 0:37:41.279
<v Speaker 1>before they were even together. I think there's two big

0:37:41.400 --> 0:37:43.320
<v Speaker 1>questions here that we don't have the answers to that

0:37:43.360 --> 0:37:46.560
<v Speaker 1>would help. On this one, what discussions were had at

0:37:46.640 --> 0:37:49.600
<v Speaker 1>the time. Had you had any talk about being putting

0:37:49.640 --> 0:37:52.440
<v Speaker 1>a label on it, putting commitment on it? Boyfriend girlfriend?

0:37:52.680 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 1>Was that happening at all? Because if not, you're probably fine.

0:37:55.560 --> 0:37:58.400
<v Speaker 1>And the second question is who is this guy? Is

0:37:58.480 --> 0:38:00.960
<v Speaker 1>it someone you both know, because that's going to be

0:38:01.040 --> 0:38:03.759
<v Speaker 1>weird and increases the odds that he would find out

0:38:03.760 --> 0:38:06.239
<v Speaker 1>again someday it was it a rando and he'll never

0:38:06.360 --> 0:38:09.759
<v Speaker 1>find out. I still leaned towards telling him, but who

0:38:09.840 --> 0:38:15.320
<v Speaker 1>it is has a big impact on that. Yeah, I

0:38:16.400 --> 0:38:18.800
<v Speaker 1>could see going either way. I think for me personally,

0:38:18.840 --> 0:38:21.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm such a paranoid person. I'd always be nervous that

0:38:21.040 --> 0:38:25.239
<v Speaker 1>they would find out and that that would then they

0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:27.880
<v Speaker 1>would lose trust in me. But I can also agree

0:38:27.920 --> 0:38:30.600
<v Speaker 1>with Lace, like doesn't really matter at this point. It

0:38:30.680 --> 0:38:32.120
<v Speaker 1>was two and a half years ago. Were you even

0:38:32.160 --> 0:38:36.080
<v Speaker 1>together then? Who was kind of loosely defined? Yeah, I

0:38:36.120 --> 0:38:37.600
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I kind of I don't know. I could

0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:40.160
<v Speaker 1>see it going both ways to now. It's like because

0:38:40.200 --> 0:38:42.080
<v Speaker 1>like if you tell him that, then like what else

0:38:42.520 --> 0:38:44.600
<v Speaker 1>are you expected to tell him about all of your

0:38:44.640 --> 0:38:48.160
<v Speaker 1>other previous relationships? That's kind of mine. That's like the

0:38:48.360 --> 0:38:50.560
<v Speaker 1>thing because like if I think about it, like I,

0:38:51.120 --> 0:38:53.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, from years ago, back in my promiscuous days,

0:38:53.760 --> 0:38:56.000
<v Speaker 1>like let's say, hooked up with someone that I'm now

0:38:56.120 --> 0:38:59.040
<v Speaker 1>like still good friends with, and now like if Kyla

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:00.640
<v Speaker 1>and I are hanging out with that person, isn't it

0:39:00.719 --> 0:39:02.440
<v Speaker 1>kind of just make it more awkward if I say, hey,

0:39:02.520 --> 0:39:04.040
<v Speaker 1>calein by the way, I hooked up with this person

0:39:04.160 --> 0:39:07.520
<v Speaker 1>eight years ago. Take that information as you well, but

0:39:07.640 --> 0:39:10.040
<v Speaker 1>like that's the truth, Like it almost makes sense just

0:39:10.080 --> 0:39:12.440
<v Speaker 1>to not even say anything at all. My question is,

0:39:12.560 --> 0:39:16.920
<v Speaker 1>would say the you were in the opposite position, Say

0:39:16.960 --> 0:39:19.279
<v Speaker 1>you were hanging out with Klin and this dude and

0:39:19.440 --> 0:39:21.319
<v Speaker 1>it was a friend of hers, but they had hooked

0:39:21.400 --> 0:39:23.279
<v Speaker 1>up eight years ago? Would you want to know? Would

0:39:23.280 --> 0:39:25.200
<v Speaker 1>you not want to know? I don't know. I mean,

0:39:25.280 --> 0:39:26.840
<v Speaker 1>you're right, I think I probably want to know. But

0:39:27.120 --> 0:39:29.759
<v Speaker 1>at the same time, if I don't know, what do

0:39:29.840 --> 0:39:31.799
<v Speaker 1>I care? Because I don't know what about you? Lace?

0:39:31.840 --> 0:39:34.640
<v Speaker 1>What do you think? I actually just had this conversation

0:39:34.680 --> 0:39:37.400
<v Speaker 1>with some of the other day, um, because my last

0:39:37.680 --> 0:39:40.400
<v Speaker 1>X would like, we'd go to a bar and run

0:39:40.480 --> 0:39:41.799
<v Speaker 1>into someone and he'd be like, did you have sex

0:39:41.840 --> 0:39:43.560
<v Speaker 1>with that person? I'm like, why would you even want

0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:46.000
<v Speaker 1>to know that? I want to know? If I like,

0:39:46.120 --> 0:39:48.359
<v Speaker 1>it's just weird to me. So that's a weird way

0:39:48.360 --> 0:39:52.680
<v Speaker 1>of approaching it, trust me, I know. So, Um, I

0:39:52.760 --> 0:39:55.680
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I just I think some things are just

0:39:55.880 --> 0:39:57.560
<v Speaker 1>better left on side. I think it's going to open

0:39:57.640 --> 0:40:00.040
<v Speaker 1>a candle worms, you know what I mean. Like to

0:40:00.120 --> 0:40:04.520
<v Speaker 1>her point point, in talking about previous hook up. Yeah,

0:40:04.680 --> 0:40:07.920
<v Speaker 1>whenever I think about that stuff with Kalen, like I remember,

0:40:08.040 --> 0:40:10.279
<v Speaker 1>like I wonder who she hooked up with before me,

0:40:10.440 --> 0:40:12.319
<v Speaker 1>like that, like weird thought that. I feel like it's

0:40:12.320 --> 0:40:15.840
<v Speaker 1>just natural and everyone gets at some Yeah. Yeah, I

0:40:15.880 --> 0:40:18.239
<v Speaker 1>always think about like I have I have literally zero

0:40:18.280 --> 0:40:20.560
<v Speaker 1>place to get upset about anything because whatever she did,

0:40:20.640 --> 0:40:24.440
<v Speaker 1>I probably did thirty times worse. So like I'm just

0:40:24.560 --> 0:40:27.520
<v Speaker 1>like super grateful that I don't even have to worry

0:40:27.520 --> 0:40:32.839
<v Speaker 1>about it. All right. This is from Mercedes. Since now

0:40:32.920 --> 0:40:35.400
<v Speaker 1>that Jared is married and Dana is dating, my question

0:40:35.600 --> 0:40:38.480
<v Speaker 1>is to do Ashley or Kalen ever listened to the podcast?

0:40:38.640 --> 0:40:40.759
<v Speaker 1>Are they ever offended about what has said? Or do

0:40:40.840 --> 0:40:43.440
<v Speaker 1>you advise them not to listen? If they do bring

0:40:43.520 --> 0:40:45.560
<v Speaker 1>up something you said on the podcast, how do you

0:40:45.680 --> 0:40:50.760
<v Speaker 1>handle it. I'm very lucky in this sense because whatever

0:40:50.960 --> 0:40:54.600
<v Speaker 1>I say on the podcast, Ashley has definitely said something

0:40:54.960 --> 0:40:59.480
<v Speaker 1>ten times worse. That's just Ashley's personality. I know who

0:40:59.560 --> 0:41:02.840
<v Speaker 1>I married. Read sometimes she just has word vomit. I

0:41:03.000 --> 0:41:05.200
<v Speaker 1>hear her talking on her I don't get a podcast

0:41:05.840 --> 0:41:09.320
<v Speaker 1>and she's talking about like kind of in detail, a

0:41:09.360 --> 0:41:12.440
<v Speaker 1>little bit us, you know, trying to make a baby,

0:41:12.600 --> 0:41:17.840
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, ash, don't say stuff like that. She

0:41:17.960 --> 0:41:20.200
<v Speaker 1>just came in shrugging, like, well that's what I am.

0:41:20.960 --> 0:41:24.040
<v Speaker 1>It's okay. I love you for it. Well let's ask Lace, Lace,

0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:28.200
<v Speaker 1>are you gonna let Trenton listen to this podcast? Ah? Yeah,

0:41:28.239 --> 0:41:30.759
<v Speaker 1>I think, Oh, no, Qualt, are you gonna encourage him

0:41:30.760 --> 0:41:32.359
<v Speaker 1>to listen to it or just like let him listen

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:34.600
<v Speaker 1>to it if he wants to do this morning he

0:41:34.680 --> 0:41:36.480
<v Speaker 1>asked me, He's like, should I listen to it? And

0:41:36.520 --> 0:41:38.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't even know. I didn't know what

0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:40.239
<v Speaker 1>to expect from this one, but I think this is

0:41:40.640 --> 0:41:42.680
<v Speaker 1>more interesting. I just did one with the twins. He

0:41:42.719 --> 0:41:46.000
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't he would be bored, right, because it was like

0:41:46.080 --> 0:41:49.000
<v Speaker 1>girl talk, But this one's interesting. Sometimes girl talk is

0:41:49.040 --> 0:41:50.800
<v Speaker 1>like it kind of would be interesting to get a

0:41:50.840 --> 0:41:53.799
<v Speaker 1>peek into your girlfriend's girl talk about you know, not too.

0:41:54.000 --> 0:41:56.279
<v Speaker 1>But I also am curious some of my answers on

0:41:56.360 --> 0:42:00.839
<v Speaker 1>this of what he would think. Yeah, I very early

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:04.360
<v Speaker 1>online courage Klin not to listen to this podcast. She

0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:07.359
<v Speaker 1>listened to like the first episode after we started dating

0:42:07.440 --> 0:42:09.200
<v Speaker 1>or something like that, and I was like, why did

0:42:09.239 --> 0:42:12.400
<v Speaker 1>you listen to it like there's no real reason for

0:42:12.480 --> 0:42:14.480
<v Speaker 1>you to listen to it, and basically everything I say

0:42:14.560 --> 0:42:17.040
<v Speaker 1>here I say to her anyway, So it's like not

0:42:17.200 --> 0:42:18.680
<v Speaker 1>the end of the like, not for that reason. I

0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:23.000
<v Speaker 1>just I just I think it's kind of weird. Well, Calin. Also,

0:42:23.680 --> 0:42:27.000
<v Speaker 1>I feel like Kalen, for going on a reality TV show,

0:42:27.640 --> 0:42:31.120
<v Speaker 1>is kind of a private person. She she comes off

0:42:31.160 --> 0:42:35.320
<v Speaker 1>that way. Yeah, she is pretty private, I suppose, and

0:42:35.400 --> 0:42:38.560
<v Speaker 1>I respect that a lot. I'm kind of like the

0:42:38.880 --> 0:42:40.600
<v Speaker 1>like I private as well, but I like, yeah, I

0:42:40.600 --> 0:42:43.879
<v Speaker 1>don't like, I don't have any um qualms about talking

0:42:43.920 --> 0:42:46.440
<v Speaker 1>about certain things obviously, but so yeah, so I don't

0:42:46.440 --> 0:42:48.200
<v Speaker 1>think you'd ever get mad. I mean, it's funny. There

0:42:48.320 --> 0:42:50.680
<v Speaker 1>is a episode like a couple of weeks ago, I

0:42:50.719 --> 0:42:52.320
<v Speaker 1>can't remember what it was, but she like read the

0:42:52.360 --> 0:42:55.080
<v Speaker 1>description of it for some reason and she goes, why

0:42:55.160 --> 0:42:56.759
<v Speaker 1>were you guys talking about this? Like what a random

0:42:56.800 --> 0:42:58.200
<v Speaker 1>thing for you to be talking about, Like I kind

0:42:58.200 --> 0:43:00.759
<v Speaker 1>of want to listen to it. And I was like, well,

0:43:00.800 --> 0:43:04.040
<v Speaker 1>whoever writes those descriptions, which I think is Eastern you know,

0:43:04.120 --> 0:43:05.920
<v Speaker 1>likes to embellish a little bit and get get a

0:43:05.960 --> 0:43:10.399
<v Speaker 1>little creative in there. Yeah, yeah, which is and that's

0:43:10.440 --> 0:43:13.080
<v Speaker 1>what I told her. But um, but yeah, no, I

0:43:13.440 --> 0:43:16.160
<v Speaker 1>encourage your not to listen more so just because it's like,

0:43:16.800 --> 0:43:19.279
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, like I'm obviously super sarcastic all the time,

0:43:20.000 --> 0:43:24.320
<v Speaker 1>and it's just I don't know, pointless to listen. We

0:43:24.760 --> 0:43:27.279
<v Speaker 1>should just really start making these headlines like full on

0:43:27.440 --> 0:43:29.759
<v Speaker 1>click bait and just completely lie about what we talked

0:43:29.760 --> 0:43:32.120
<v Speaker 1>about in the podcast, like this one Easton should be.

0:43:32.800 --> 0:43:35.360
<v Speaker 1>Dean tells the time he almost broke up with Kalin.

0:43:36.680 --> 0:43:40.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah at Jared on the brink of divorce with Ashley. Yeah,

0:43:41.520 --> 0:43:48.279
<v Speaker 1>Lace married Yeah uh good times, good times. Well a Lace.

0:43:48.360 --> 0:43:50.160
<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for joining us on the podcast

0:43:50.239 --> 0:43:53.960
<v Speaker 1>this week. We really appreciate it. You were uh, you

0:43:54.040 --> 0:43:55.520
<v Speaker 1>were great to have. It's always good to have a

0:43:55.560 --> 0:43:58.960
<v Speaker 1>female perspective because Dean and I just really ramble about

0:43:59.000 --> 0:44:02.600
<v Speaker 1>stupid guy stuff. Yeah no, this is this is fun. No,

0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:05.160
<v Speaker 1>thank you so much, and you have to come back soon. Um,

0:44:05.840 --> 0:44:08.840
<v Speaker 1>thank you too, Jenny and Mercedes for emailing us. We

0:44:08.920 --> 0:44:12.640
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0:44:21.800 --> 0:44:24.240
<v Speaker 1>thank you for joining us. Of course, everybody can follow

0:44:24.280 --> 0:44:29.280
<v Speaker 1>you on Instagram. Where else can they find you? Instagram?

0:44:29.400 --> 0:44:34.000
<v Speaker 1>That's it? Gram Dean any Dean Lace, any thoughts for

0:44:34.080 --> 0:44:38.680
<v Speaker 1>you before we go? Um, next time you have me,

0:44:38.800 --> 0:44:43.279
<v Speaker 1>we can have trenton On here like looking about if

0:44:43.320 --> 0:44:45.480
<v Speaker 1>you can have like a couple of perspective right then

0:44:45.560 --> 0:44:48.799
<v Speaker 1>you can get both of us. We'd love to. We'll

0:44:48.840 --> 0:44:51.239
<v Speaker 1>just have trenton On if that's okay, I'm gonna sit

0:44:51.280 --> 0:44:55.359
<v Speaker 1>here in the background. Yeah, with a gun to his back.

0:44:56.680 --> 0:45:00.719
<v Speaker 1>Say that sounds like a great idea. UM. I would

0:45:00.719 --> 0:45:02.360
<v Speaker 1>like to just say, oh gosh. I would just like

0:45:02.440 --> 0:45:06.520
<v Speaker 1>to apologize for my technical difficulties today. I like was

0:45:06.600 --> 0:45:08.239
<v Speaker 1>on the top of the mountain, or not the top

0:45:08.280 --> 0:45:09.960
<v Speaker 1>of the mountain. I like left the mountain early to

0:45:10.080 --> 0:45:13.680
<v Speaker 1>get settled into my van. Had full service on my phone,

0:45:13.760 --> 0:45:16.160
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, Okay, this is great, I'm being responsible.

0:45:16.280 --> 0:45:18.719
<v Speaker 1>I'll be there. And then I logged on and like

0:45:18.840 --> 0:45:20.839
<v Speaker 1>there was there. It was like fake service. It didn't

0:45:20.880 --> 0:45:22.680
<v Speaker 1>actually work. So I would like to apologize for my

0:45:23.480 --> 0:45:26.120
<v Speaker 1>who would have thought there'd be spotty WiFi on the

0:45:26.280 --> 0:45:28.920
<v Speaker 1>top of a Mountain. Well, I'm not at the top anymore.

0:45:29.239 --> 0:45:31.600
<v Speaker 1>And then also like now I'm parked on the side

0:45:31.640 --> 0:45:33.160
<v Speaker 1>of the road and there's a bunch of big trucks

0:45:33.239 --> 0:45:35.080
<v Speaker 1>driving by. So if you hear big trucks driving by,

0:45:35.080 --> 0:45:37.120
<v Speaker 1>I would also like to apologize for that. I'm sorry.

0:45:38.760 --> 0:45:41.160
<v Speaker 1>Montana not the best in terms of cell phone coverage,

0:45:41.200 --> 0:45:43.760
<v Speaker 1>but here we are. Anyways, Thank you guys for putting

0:45:43.840 --> 0:45:46.000
<v Speaker 1>up with me. Lace you rock. It's great to catch

0:45:46.080 --> 0:45:47.719
<v Speaker 1>up with you and hear how great things are going

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:51.839
<v Speaker 1>for you. Were stoked Jared freaking moving to Rhode Island. Dude,

0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:53.840
<v Speaker 1>what a bomb you just dropped on us this episode.

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<v Speaker 1>You're crazy. I want to talk to you more about

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