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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: This week's Thursday Therapy, We've got Sonya Satra. She is

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Speaker 1: an actress turn mindset guru. She's got a new book

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Speaker 1: out called what If It Were Easy? Using movement and

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Speaker 1: mindset to create success in life, love and business. Let's

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Speaker 1: get her on.

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Speaker 2: Hey. Hey, I'm Jana Dana.

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Speaker 1: Well, happy New Year, Thanks for coming on wind Down.

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Speaker 1: You had a book that came out in October. It

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Speaker 1: was called what If It Were Easy? Using movement and

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Speaker 1: mindset to Create success in life, love and business. And

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Speaker 1: I first just want to go back because you're an actress.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how long did you do soaps?

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Speaker 2: For? Six seven years?

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Speaker 3: Six seven years?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And then was that world? Because I've acted in the

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Speaker 1: wild since I was like nineteen. But it's one of

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Speaker 1: those things where sometimes the mental aspect of that world

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Speaker 1: can really drive you nuts. I'm curious, did that?

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Speaker 2: Is that what drove me out? Are you out?

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Speaker 1: Or are you just kind of this is always like

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Speaker 1: your passion too, It is kind of what kind of

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Speaker 1: went okay, this is the route that you know, but

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Speaker 1: it feels most authentic.

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Speaker 2: Or yes, definitely, And I think the acting being is

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Speaker 2: being in an industry where you're rejected so much. Definitely,

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Speaker 2: I got into mindset just to sort of sustain.

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Speaker 1: That one thousand percent. I think that's definitely the thing,

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Speaker 1: the mindset piece of it, because when I was talking

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Speaker 1: to my fiance earlier, I'm like, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: you know, you never know if you're going to book

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Speaker 1: a movie this year or you're going to book a role.

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Speaker 1: It's like you just and then you're like, well, what

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Speaker 1: is my purpose? And then what am I doing? And

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Speaker 1: then and then how am I making money? And then

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Speaker 1: you just start to spiral, right, And that's where the

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Speaker 1: mind has to be more powerful than the chaos you're

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Speaker 1: creating around it. And so I'm curious, how how do

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Speaker 1: you do that to stay grounded? Because I think that's

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Speaker 1: my problems. I start to go with one problem and

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Speaker 1: then and by the end of that minute, I've got

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Speaker 1: thirty problems that are just blowing up around me.

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Speaker 2: I think that's when you have to really step backwards

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Speaker 2: and really step out and become much more objective and

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Speaker 2: look at it from a different perspective, because you're starting

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Speaker 2: to go out from you, we are going down the

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Speaker 2: rabbit hole at that point, and we're creating a whole

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Speaker 2: lot of scenarios that may or may not be real,

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Speaker 2: and each thought creates an anxious feeling or any other

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Speaker 2: number of probably negative feelings. And so I think it's

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Speaker 2: really more important to step back out and be like,

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Speaker 2: all right, what's the current perspective? Like, is what's real

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Speaker 2: and what's not? And what am I in control of?

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Speaker 2: And what am I not? And what can I be

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Speaker 2: in control of? What sure? Because I think when you

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Speaker 2: start to shift into and what do I really want

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Speaker 2: and sort of to revisit And that's actually a lot

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Speaker 2: of the process that ended up in the book, a

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Speaker 2: lot of that restart kind of thing of getting connected

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Speaker 2: to that vision and reconnecting to what it does the

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Speaker 2: you have. What is it that you can do sort

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Speaker 2: of burning those stuff that's stopping you and then taking action?

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Speaker 1: Right what action pieces are more helpful or most helpful

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Speaker 1: for you?

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Speaker 2: I think it depends a little bit on what it

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Speaker 2: is that is the problem, because I think sometimes you

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Speaker 2: need to just like get out of your own way.

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Speaker 2: Maybe you need some kind of self care. Maybe I

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Speaker 2: need to go for a run, or I need to

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Speaker 2: get a massage, or I need to just stop, And

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Speaker 2: other times I think it's more of productive action. You know,

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Speaker 2: who do I need to reach out to? Who do

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Speaker 2: I know who might be able to help me with

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Speaker 2: a specific thing that I'm after, Or maybe it's I

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Speaker 2: need to go delve back into some sort of a

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm doing what it is that I

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Speaker 2: love or even what could I produce, you know, whether

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Speaker 2: many more things because there's more accessible things for YouTube

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Speaker 2: and other mediums, or a play. I used to produce

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Speaker 1: FAST's that's an interesting piece to the almost the play

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Speaker 1: was like, you know what, it went great? And he's like, well,

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Speaker 1: what was so different about it? I go because I

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Speaker 1: got to play, and normally we just were up here

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Speaker 1: and we just self tape from up here, and I

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Speaker 1: just I do what I normally do, and that's it,

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Speaker 1: send the tape in. And he was like, why don't

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Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is so much fun. I totally

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Speaker 1: got to get those work done. I had to send

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Speaker 1: then it's just was that my best work? Probably not,

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Speaker 1: but I had to get it done before the baby

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Speaker 1: play with it, and then I'll enjoy it a little

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Speaker 2: I think that is so true and I think that

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Speaker 2: the beginning of the self tape, well, that was a

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Speaker 2: huge transition for me because there is something to having

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Speaker 2: in person pressure was a better I think for me

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Speaker 2: think when it became more of a thing where you

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Speaker 2: I thought that was more pressure but more fun.

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Speaker 1: No, I agree with you also, like just on that

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Speaker 1: I don't win in self tapes because it's like you

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Speaker 1: can't really get that across. You know who you are

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Speaker 1: and how you are. So I'm like, oh, but it

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Speaker 1: just in life in general, I'm like, man, we dropped

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Speaker 1: the fun piece in it. We've just now kind of

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Speaker 1: put our heads down. And that's where I'm I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to change my mindset having it be a new Year,

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Speaker 1: going okay, let's just have more fun with it, and

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Speaker 1: it being the new year. Where do you think people

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Speaker 2: Well, I think that I think a lot of it

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Speaker 2: to old patterns and old thinking. So I love New

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Speaker 2: still believe in New Year's resolutions, and I do love

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Speaker 2: that coming out of the gate feeling. But I think

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Speaker 2: it's really really important to remember it's not just New

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna have hurdles, we're gonna have challenges, we're

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Speaker 1: Right, What do you think sets you apart and your

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Speaker 1: book apart from all the other you know, people out

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Speaker 1: there doing the transformations and the mindsets and the and

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Speaker 1: the messages that you know that we all need to hear.

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Speaker 2: I think motor size, which is what I came up with.

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to bring that up, but I didn't

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Speaker 3: Let her talk.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And it actually is something that I did inadvertently

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Speaker 2: You know, really bad imposter syndrome. It was right after

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Speaker 2: I was like why did I do that? But I left,

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Speaker 2: was like, why did you? Why did you do that?

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Speaker 2: I really embodied those beliefs. And I was turtle sitting

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry turtle sitting like that's you were actually turtle okay,

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Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, that must be a new

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Speaker 2: Just for some extra cash. And as I was sort

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Speaker 2: And before I would use questions like what can I do?

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Speaker 1: Because because you're coaching, right, So I do, yes.

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Speaker 2: And I'm on all the social media Instagram, Facebook, Twitter

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Speaker 2: or x or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I still want to call it Twitter

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Speaker 1: because it's yeah Twitter, It's fine. Well, thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for coming on. Everyone, go get her amazing book,

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Speaker 1: What If it were easy using movement and mindset to

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Speaker 1: create success in life, love and business. And thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for coming on. Appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks so much.

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Speaker 3: Hi bye girl,