Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Jubile Show.
Speaker 1: Yvonne is on the phone today for to Catch a
Speaker 1: Cheater and she thinks that her boyfriend of six years
Speaker 1: named Chuck might be cheating. So we'll see if we
Speaker 1: can help her out. Yavon tell us what's going on. Hi.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So my boyfriend Chuck and I have been together
Speaker 2: for six years. I'm actually the bread winner between the
Speaker 2: two of us, and I have a really nice job
Speaker 2: and Chucky, I think he has his art, Like he
Speaker 2: has like an okay job, he's a bar manager, but
Speaker 2: he's always like spending tons of his money and his
Speaker 2: time on his painting and his art, which you know,
Speaker 2: when I first started dating him, like I actually I
Speaker 2: thought that was like really cute and very sweet and
Speaker 2: he's you know, there's like some vulnerability in that. And
Speaker 2: now and like that's actually like how we used to
Speaker 2: spend a lot of our time together and now he's
Speaker 2: just off like painting in his office and he's like
Speaker 2: he's always been artsy, but in the last month or so,
Speaker 2: it's just become really intense. Like when he's not doing
Speaker 2: something in the bar and he's not with me, he's
Speaker 2: just off in his little room, and when I walk by,
Speaker 2: when he's like apparently working on a painting, he's actually
Speaker 2: just sitting on his phone, like texting I don't even
Speaker 2: know who. And so I know that he hangs around
Speaker 2: like a lot of the waitresses at his bar, and
Speaker 2: I don't know, I think he might be really tempted
Speaker 2: by one of them. And I've confronted him a couple
Speaker 2: of times about just being really shady around these girls,
Speaker 2: and he keeps denying it, and he keeps telling me
Speaker 2: that I'm gotting to worry about, and I just, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think he might be cheating on me with one
Speaker 2: of the waitresses. Like it just this past month specifically,
Speaker 2: he's really not been spending time with me. He's been
Speaker 2: in his little office, or he's been spending too much
Speaker 2: time at the bar. And that's why I'm reaching out
Speaker 2: to you.
Speaker 1: Now, Okay, you talked to him about this.
Speaker 2: I have, and I mean, I'm pretty convinced that she's
Speaker 2: cheating on me with one of the waitresses. And I
Speaker 2: have been like, hey, like you seem to be really shady.
Speaker 2: You seem to be spending a lot of time like
Speaker 2: you seem to not be hanging out with me, you
Speaker 2: seem to only be in your office, like what is
Speaker 2: going on? And he keeps denying it. So I have
Speaker 2: brought it up to him, and it certainly has he
Speaker 2: yielded any sort of result?
Speaker 3: Has he ever lied to you before? Any of this
Speaker 3: that you're aware of, not that I'm aware of.
Speaker 2: I mean, again, we've been together for six years, so
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's you know, like little stuff here and
Speaker 2: there that both of us probably you know, maybe don't
Speaker 2: share that. I wouldn't say it's like explicitly a lie, but.
Speaker 3: Not in this way, no, because I just wonder if
Speaker 3: like your your gut is probably correct, but what if
Speaker 3: it's just like, yeah, he likes the attention from this person.
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess that could still be a form
Speaker 3: of cheating.
Speaker 2: I mean I think depends on like how you exactly
Speaker 2: like you know, for me, an emotional cheat in some
Speaker 2: ways actually to the times to be worse than the
Speaker 2: physical cheats. Like you know, if you're spending time and
Speaker 2: energy with other people who who are not your girlfriends,
Speaker 2: it's a big concerning you know, And if you're not
Speaker 2: able to vocalize why you're doing that, then I think
Speaker 2: I have a reason to be even more concerned, Like
Speaker 2: you're not expressing to me, like what's not going well?
Speaker 2: You're not sharing with me why you're interested in talking
Speaker 2: to other people. Like, clearly something is broken that either
Speaker 2: the communication's not working that you're going to do this,
Speaker 2: or that you don't feel safe with me or comfortable
Speaker 2: with me, that you're not talking to me about this
Speaker 2: and I'm your girlfriend of six years.
Speaker 1: Other than that stuff, I mean that you know, it
Speaker 1: sounds like there's may be something going on. Have you checked,
Speaker 1: like is he doing his art? I mean, is he
Speaker 1: spending a lot of time on a project?
Speaker 2: I mean he's in his little office apparently doing art
Speaker 2: as Like, I'm not an artist myself, so I don't
Speaker 2: really know, like how quickly one is supposed to produce
Speaker 2: a painting, you know what they like, I don't know
Speaker 2: the like how long it takes to create a painting.
Speaker 2: It's like if he's like, I'm working on it, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna I'd like to trust that that's part of the
Speaker 2: process and we gabble around and mix your paint, don't
Speaker 2: I mean I don't what do I know?
Speaker 1: You know? Okay, you already told us what grocery store.
Speaker 1: You guys are rewards card members at So we'll call
Speaker 1: and pretend to be from the grocery store and say
Speaker 1: that every single month, we choose one rewards card member
Speaker 1: at random who gets free flowers delivered from our flooral department,
Speaker 1: and we'll see if he sends those to you or
Speaker 1: to somebody else.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, Roses would be like perfect. He usually actually
Speaker 2: actually gets me like a dozen every month, so that
Speaker 2: actually kind of is our thain.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well that works perfect. Then if you definitely
Speaker 1: if he sends them to someone else, that's weird. All right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll play us come back and then call him and
Speaker 1: get your to Catch cheeter. Right after this, right in
Speaker 1: the middle of to Catch a Cheater, if you're just
Speaker 1: joining us, Yvonne is on the phone and she thinks
Speaker 1: that her boyfriend of six years named Chuck might be
Speaker 1: cheating on her. So in a second, we're going to
Speaker 1: call him and see if we can catch him. But first,
Speaker 1: yvon why don't you catch everybody up in your situation?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess the long and short of it is
Speaker 2: that we've been together for six years. I'm the bread winner.
Speaker 2: Chuck works at a bar. He's really into art, and
Speaker 2: she has been the whole time he've been together, but
Speaker 2: more recently this half month specifically, she's anytime he's not
Speaker 2: at the bar, he's in his little office doing his
Speaker 2: apparent painting and or like what I think is like
Speaker 2: on his phone texting, and I'm just pretty convinced that
Speaker 2: he is cheating on me with one of the waitresses
Speaker 2: at the bar.
Speaker 1: All right, and we're about to call him from the
Speaker 1: grocery store where he's a rewards card member at and
Speaker 1: say that every single month we choose one rewards card
Speaker 1: member at random, we gets three flowers delivered from our
Speaker 1: florial department. Anyone. He said, he gets you flowers every
Speaker 1: month anyway, Right, that he does? Yeah, so sit really sweep.
Speaker 1: Hey it is if he sends them to somebody else,
Speaker 1: then I mean that is definitely a red flat, red flat,
Speaker 1: big one. All right, here we go.
Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, this is.
Speaker 1: Jafar calling from I was looking for a rewards member.
Speaker 4: Chuck, Yeah, that's me.
Speaker 1: Hey, Chuck, please don't hang up. This is not a
Speaker 1: marketing phone call. I'm calling to tell you congratulations. Here
Speaker 1: this must big winner. Oh thanks, I win the flowers. Yes, oh, Wow, cool.
Speaker 4: Like a bouquet or something like that, like, oh.
Speaker 1: Maybe you haven't seen the signs in the store. Every
Speaker 1: single month, we choose one Rewards Card member to get
Speaker 1: free flowers delivered from our Florida department. It's our way
Speaker 1: of saying thank you very much for being such a
Speaker 1: loyal customer. You'll get thirty six long stim red roses,
Speaker 1: a box of chocolates, and a card delivered to anybody
Speaker 1: that you like to deliver them to in the fifty
Speaker 1: United States of the Americas. So congratulations, Thank you very much.
Speaker 4: That's awesome.
Speaker 2: Cool.
Speaker 4: Thanks.
Speaker 1: I can take the information down in a matter of
Speaker 1: minutes if you know who you want to send it
Speaker 1: to right now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we can do it right now.
Speaker 1: First I would need to get the first and the
Speaker 1: last name of the person you'd like to send them to.
Speaker 4: Sure, So the first name is Yvonne.
Speaker 1: And do you want to put anything on a card there?
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do Okay, you get more roses this month
Speaker 4: because you're extra special.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I'll just let you know that she's on
Speaker 1: the phone and this is actually the Jewbel Show. It's
Speaker 1: a radio show. My name's Jewel. Hi am Nina Hi
Speaker 1: I'm Victoria and Yvonne, your girlfriend is on the phone
Speaker 1: by really. Yeah. We do a segment on the show.
Speaker 1: It's called to Catch a Cheater. It's where if you
Speaker 1: think your significant other might be cheating on you, we
Speaker 1: try to catch you based on things like who you
Speaker 1: send flowers to. So Yvonne has been suspicious.
Speaker 4: I don't believe this van for the last time. I
Speaker 4: am not eating on you. Indeed, does that make sense
Speaker 4: to you?
Speaker 2: Do you get that?
Speaker 4: I'm so tired of you accusing me of all of
Speaker 4: this book and just being straight and mean in general?
Speaker 4: You're how am I?
Speaker 2: How am I being with you?
Speaker 4: Do you actually want to go through this on the air?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I do?
Speaker 4: Okay, great, okay, So let's start with maybe the fact
Speaker 4: that you belittle my job every day. It's, oh, you're
Speaker 4: not making enough money. Oh you're working too many hours.
Speaker 4: You know, like you're always reminding me that you are,
Speaker 4: you know, the one putting in all the money, you're
Speaker 4: supporting us, which by the way, is not the case
Speaker 4: at all. I'm putting in my fair share. You just
Speaker 4: seem to have this need for control, right, and then uh, okay,
Speaker 4: let's go on to the next thing. Since you seem
Speaker 4: to have such a problem with me painting and being creative.
Speaker 4: I mean like it feels so unsupportive to me that
Speaker 4: it just makes me feel bad.
Speaker 3: I do have to ask really quick, Chuck, you sound
Speaker 3: very frustrated, and rightfully so.
Speaker 1: At any point have you told her how you feel? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I brought it up here. No, no, you haven't.
Speaker 2: And even if you haven't, honestly, I don't belittle you. No,
Speaker 2: I don't belittle you. Okay, if you want to look,
Speaker 2: if you want to do your art thing, you can
Speaker 2: go ahead and do it. I don't need I don't
Speaker 2: give a pay. Honestly, at the time that I understand
Speaker 2: or I get it you're saying.
Speaker 4: Just the fact that you call it your art thing,
Speaker 4: it sounds so condescending. It's like it just throws it away.
Speaker 4: It makes it seem like it's nothing. It makes it
Speaker 4: seem like, oh, it's just a hobby, like you know what,
Speaker 4: It's just so kind of.
Speaker 2: Well, it is a hobby. They're not making any money
Speaker 2: on it. Do you make money? No, it is a hobby.
Speaker 2: You sit in your little office and I don't know
Speaker 2: what you paint. You don't really talk about it with me.
Speaker 2: It is a hobby. So why am I supposed to
Speaker 2: understand this painting thing being anything more than you just
Speaker 2: sitting in a little office and dabbling on a on
Speaker 2: a canvas. Well barns and money. I make more, okay,
Speaker 2: so what I work hard and I get paid well
Speaker 2: so that you can do your little bar thing? Also okay,
Speaker 2: so art thing and bar thing same thing.
Speaker 4: You do make more money.
Speaker 2: And I'm maybe if you stayed home and talked to
Speaker 2: me instead of being in your little office, maybe if
Speaker 2: you paid any attention to me, maybe if you actually
Speaker 2: gave it about me and our relationship, I would give.
Speaker 4: About your art. Maybe I'm gonna tell you something. Nothing
Speaker 4: has changed in the last six years I've had this job.
Speaker 4: Since we started, I haven't changed.
Speaker 2: That's exactly problem. The problem is that nothing has changed.
Speaker 2: We've been together for six years. I think I'm just
Speaker 2: wanting to sit here and just twiddle my thumbs while
Speaker 2: you're doing what. I'm invested in our future together. It's
Speaker 2: in six years. What's the happening to us and our relationship?
Speaker 1: Nothing?
Speaker 2: And I'm tired of having the same conversation with you
Speaker 2: every single day.
Speaker 4: Okay, you know what Kip, I did cheat on you,
Speaker 4: and you know what, it wasn't one of the shifts.
Speaker 4: Do you want is that what you want to do?
Speaker 4: Is that what you wanted to hear?
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well I knew I was right. That's talk
Speaker 2: about a woman's intuition.
Speaker 4: Do you want to know why I did what I did?
Speaker 2: I don't give it.
Speaker 1: Why what.
Speaker 4: You had never given this?
Speaker 2: But I'm tell you putting on your girlfriend of six years,
Speaker 2: tell me anyway you're justified and cheating as opposed to
Speaker 2: communicating with your girlfriend.
Speaker 4: Of sixth Tell me, chuck, because she was nice to
Speaker 4: me and she gave it. Do you know how hard
Speaker 4: it is to come home and realize that the person
Speaker 4: that you spent all this time love and care with
Speaker 4: doesn't give us about who you are and what you do.
Speaker 4: And she was just I'm really glad.
Speaker 2: I'm really glad that all you really want in a
Speaker 2: relationship with someone to be nice to you. I'm really
Speaker 2: really glad that that's something that you're looking for.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad sometimes that's just enough. That's all I've
Speaker 1: ever wanted, And you know, I hope to get that
Speaker 1: someday too.
Speaker 2: But I know that she were today you, you flyar such.
Speaker 2: Eventually she's going to have her heartbroken because you're going
Speaker 2: to go cheat on her because maybe her niceness isot
Speaker 2: something that you're bored with, and then you'll just cheat again,
Speaker 2: always a cheater.
Speaker 4: You know what, Maybe what I did wasn't right, but
Speaker 4: I know that life is too short to be with
Speaker 4: somebody who doesn't support you, who doesn't give us about you.
Speaker 4: All right, well, you know what, I'm going to pack
Speaker 4: up my stupid little office with my stupid little art
Speaker 4: supplies and you see you never cool?
Speaker 2: That's great, Yeah, just run from your problems. Good on you.
Speaker 1: And they both hung up. Wow they should not be together.
Speaker 1: Definitely not this happened. What just happens is I think
Speaker 1: the most appropriate breakup ever. I'm squeezing my butt cheeks
Speaker 1: that whole time
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