WEBVTT - How I Maintain a Work-Life Balance 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:05.560 Yes, I have to pay the bills, but I also 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:07.360 have to make sure that my heart and my mind 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:10.240 and my spirit are centered and that I'm well in 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:13.119 order to still have that energy to go out and work. 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:15.960 The first thing I like to do is thank God. 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:18.800 It just kind of dedicate my day for me. It's 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:23.200 important to know that there's something bigger and stronger and 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:26.799 this force that's just much bigger than me. I grew 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:29.200 up in this mentality of working. Working, You've got to 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:32.519 work harder than everyone else, and working is important, but 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:39.640 also resting is important. You guys, Hey, what up, y'all? 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:42.840 And welcome to another episode of cheek Ease and Chill. 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:45.839 I'm your host cheek eas and today's episode will focus 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:48.520 on something I've been wanting to talk about for a while, 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:52.280 work life balance. I'm going to be sharing with you 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:54.440 some of the things I do to keep a healthy 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:57.240 balance and some other things I know I need to 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:00.360 improve on. So no need to waste any more time. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:08.399 This is cheek Ease and Chill. If you're like me, 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:10.880 you probably have a hard time switching off when you're 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:15.360 not working. My typical day looks like it changes because 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.160 I travel so much, but let's talk about when I'm home. 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:20.720 When I'm home, I like to wake up around seven 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:22.720 seven thirty. I used to wake up at six, you guys, 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:25.480 but now I'm waking up around seven seven thirty. The 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:27.760 first thing I like to do is thank God. For me, 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:30.280 it's super important to just not look at my phone. 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:32.640 There are days when I look at my phone before 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:35.080 doing anything else, like I'll get a message or something, 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:36.959 or I'll see an email and I respond to that 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:41.119 before I do my prayers in the morning. And when 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.720 I do that, when the first thing I do is 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:45.360 look at my phone, I feel like my day is 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:50.160 just more hectic and just stressful. So for me, it's 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:55.240 important to wake up. I thank God. I turn on 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:59.880 my meditation music. I usually go on Apple Music or Spotify, 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:04.080 or I'll just put something like Singing Bowls or Positive 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:07.360 Energy or Zen music, and I just put it on 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:11.320 and I liked my incense, and I do my prayer. 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:14.880 For me, it's important to know that there's something bigger 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:20.040 and stronger and this force that's just much bigger than me. 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:22.520 And that's why I like to get on my knees 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:24.280 and I like to just meditate and just kind of 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:27.920 dedicate my day, and I always say blessed the hours 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.560 ahead to just help me get through the day. Because 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.160 we all live, something always happens, like you just never know, 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:36.840 like you, there's always things that happened unexpectedly. So for me, 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:39.120 it's important. It's important to do that the first thing 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:42.880 I do. And if I have time that day, which 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:44.920 I usually do, I make time. I like to start 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:47.720 my working day around nine ten o'clock. I like to 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.519 work out some cardio, some weights. Might try to work 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:53.560 out anywhere from three to five times a week. I 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:55.720 used to do six, you guys, and but make sure 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:58.080 you're resting one day. It's important. We're talking about balance, 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:01.920 so it's good to work out, but always like have 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:05.480 one day where you just don't do anything, and I 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:08.600 mean like strenuous, you know. So usually I take off 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.120 Sundays from working out, whether I'm traveling or not. I 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.480 like to always have a hotel that has some type 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:16.440 of cardio machine so that I can sweat. It's important 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:20.160 to sweat and to release toxins because releasing toxins helps 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:22.919 you with stress levels, helps you not to get sick, 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:25.320 it helps you lose weight obviously, So just to sweat 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:27.760 and release toxins. For me is important and it's helped 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.720 me so much so anyways, that's working out for me. 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:34.160 Those two things are kind of like I'm giving myself love. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.280 I am putting myself first. I am centering myself in 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:40.320 the morning. I am connecting with my spirituality. I am 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:43.960 getting my body to move to sweat. Those are gifts 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:47.760 that I feel like I give myself and it becomes 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:50.800 a lifestyle and it becomes a part of your routine. 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:53.360 I think that the most successful people are those that 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:57.040 have routines that wake up at a certain time. For me, also, 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:58.920 another thing that's important is as soon as I wake up, 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.000 I drink water. I always have a water bottle next 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:03.080 to my bed, and I take that water bottle into 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:05.320 my restroom because in my restroom is where I meditate 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:09.120 and I'm constantly drinking water. Like the first hour of 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:13.160 my day, I start with just drinking pure water like 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:16.159 it I don't like get cold. It's just room temperature water, 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:18.760 and it's part of my routine. It's kind of like 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.120 I'm feeding my soul. It's kind of like watering a plant, 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.360 you know what I mean. Like that to me is 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:26.240 just I don't know it's important anyways, So that's what 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:29.000 I do. Those things are super important. Doesn't matter where 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:30.920 I am in the world. I always make time for that, 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:33.479 even in a hotel, in a corner anywhere, just to 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:37.360 center myself and put myself in God's hands. As far 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.920 as work goes, it's always different. Right now, I'm starting 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:43.520 to make changes in my life where I want to 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.440 take off Sundays and Mondays from everything. If I have 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.279 to travel from like a show and get home on 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.200 a Sunday, cool, But I don't want to do anything 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:52.480 else on a Sunday or Monday because I want to 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:54.600 dedicate it to my home because those things are important 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:56.960 to me. I've learned that when I'm working too much 0:04:57.000 --> 0:04:59.320 and my home isn't situated and it isn't clean, and 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.839 things aren't its place, it really messes with me. I 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:05.440 don't know if you guys understand me, but if my 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:07.720 bed isn't made, if my room is a mess, if 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.279 my car is a mess, places that I spend most 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:13.719 of my time, if they are unorganized and they're a mess, 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.320 I feel like emotionally I'm everywhere. So that's why I 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:19.440 was like, I just made the decision, and I told 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.800 my manager and I told, oh me, my assistant. You guys, 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:24.760 I need to take off Sunday and Monday, and I 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:27.000 need to be at home. I want to cook. I 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:29.200 want a grocery shop. I want to wash my own clothes. 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:32.520 It's important for me because I'm so particular, so anal 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:34.719 whatever you wanna call it, I've I've learned now with 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:36.960 age that I am very particular. I want things done 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:38.720 a certain way, and if they're not done a certain way, 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:41.400 then I'm upset. So I'd rather just do it myself. 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.640 So I like to wash my clothes. I like the 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:45.480 grocery shop, I want to cook. I want to just 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.479 end my week, which is Sunday, ending my week the 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:51.440 right way with myself in my home, and starting my 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.840 week which is Monday, in my home, and just setting 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:56.640 the tone of what the week is going to look like, 0:05:56.680 --> 0:06:00.200 because again, my week changes so much. I could be 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:03.400 super busy or I could have less busy days, but 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:05.359 there's always something to do in the life of chiggies, 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:07.560 to be honest, So that's what I'm doing. I just 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.840 started implementing that recently, having those days off so that 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:12.880 I could, you know, like I said, set the tone 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.719 for the week and figure out what I'm doing, because 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:19.640 if it's not phone interviews, it's interviews on zoom. I 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.080 have a bunch of meetings right now with the album 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.120 that just came out. We have shows, so I have 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:27.400 to prepare myself for my shows, and it's always different. 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:30.120 But I think, no matter how busy I am, it 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:34.840 is important for me to know that my home is 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:38.080 in place. I want to have quality time with my partner, 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:41.400 with my dogs, you know what I mean. Like I 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:43.120 want them to know that I'm not just gonna like 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:45.800 you know that they're my responsibility. It's weird because I 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:47.440 was bothering me for a while, you guys, because I 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:50.560 was so busy that I felt I was neglecting Buncho, 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.039 Like I felt like he probably didn't feel like he 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:55.640 was my son, like he probably felt, oh, he's only son, 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:58.040 or he was always at the hotel, at the dog hotel, 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:00.760 and it was bothering me. And I was like, wait, 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:02.440 like I don't know, I don't even know how to 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:04.000 explain it, but it was bothering me, and I wasn't 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:07.600 comfortable and I felt very out of balance. And those 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:09.880 things are important to me. So I think it's important 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.360 to check yourself and to just make mental notes and 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:15.240 write things down to bi. Okay, what makes me happy. 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.960 What makes me happy is giving my partner quality time, 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.040 giving my dog quality time, spending time with him, for 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:24.160 him to know he's my responsibility, that I love him. 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:27.120 Going to church, and I don't go every Sunday the 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.000 way I used to you guys, but I just say, Okay, 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:32.800 I'll try to go once every month. Spending time with 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:34.920 my siblings, like we try to do it once a 0:07:34.960 --> 0:07:36.760 month as well, Like we'll meet somewhere and we'll all 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:40.120 go to brunch or something like I go visit Johnny's grandma, 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.960 his dad's mom, and she cooks for us, and those 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.800 things just kind of for me. Help me keep my 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:50.000 feet on the ground, help me just stay like grounded. 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:52.320 You know. It's doing things like that where it's like, wait, 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:55.640 these are the important things in life. Yes, work is important. 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:59.160 You know. Everyone's just constantly chasing the dollar, you know 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:02.040 what I mean, and now really focusing on what's important, 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:05.040 you know, and not really focusing on the moment. And 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:06.920 I think that for a while I was doing that 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.720 where I was just like so engrossed in work, and 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:11.600 I'm like, I have to just keep going. I have 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:13.600 to pay the bills, and yes, I have to pay 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.960 the bills, but I also have to make sure that 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.840 my heart and my mind and my spirit are centered 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.160 and that I'm well in order to still have that 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.920 energy to go out and work. Does that make sense? 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:29.320 So I always put those things first. And that's what 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:32.240 I feel like is balanced. And believe me, you're always 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.240 going to be out of balance, like in some point 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:36.760 of your life. Like you know, you just have to 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.240 catch yourself and rail yourself back in and say, okay, 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.440 wait a second. I kind of feel myself getting out 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.720 of balance. It's normal because you start getting used to 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:48.080 just the routine of life. The important thing is catching 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:49.760 yourself and saying, okay, wait a second, let me take 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:52.840 a few steps back, center myself, recenter myself. You know, 0:08:53.360 --> 0:09:01.920 I think it's important. If I think about it, the 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.439 most stressful part of my day, if I'm being honest, 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:08.320 it would have to be anything that's work related. And 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:10.760 the reason I say this is because I'm the type 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:13.960 of person that wants to give my all to anything 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:15.800 that I'm doing. Like I feel like if I'm going 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:17.920 to do it. If I'm going to start it, I 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:20.360 need to finish it, and I need to finish it strong. 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.960 It could be anything. So for a long time, it 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:27.600 was like, oh my god, I have to work because 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:31.040 obviously so many people expect so much for me, and 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:34.000 I have so many different businesses that I feel like 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:35.800 I've done that to myself, you guys, where it's like 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:40.040 I I put myself in these situations where it seems 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:41.480 easy at the time, and I'm like, oh, yeah, I 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.000 want to get myself into this, and I say yes 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.959 to certain things at the moment because it sounds great 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.880 and it's a great business opportunity and great business move 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.840 without considering the fact that I have so much on 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:55.520 my plate already. That's another thing that I've learned this year, 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:57.360 where it's like, Okay, it's okay to say no to 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.280 certain things because I don't want to disappoint any body. 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:03.160 I'll say yes, but then I end up disappointing myself. 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:05.480 So I think for me, it's I've learned a little 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.679 more to say no this year, even to my management, 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:13.880 even to certain people, family members in my life, friends, whatever, 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:18.360 because I need to really just do what makes me 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:21.520 truly happy and at peace, you know. So going back 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:23.240 to what stresses me out, I think it it would 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:24.720 have to be work. It would have to be where 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.920 it's like I want to obviously have responsibilities at work 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:30.200 and I have to get things done, but I also 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:32.199 want to spend time with my partner, you know what 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.400 I mean, Because yes, Emilio is busy and he's doing 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:38.400 this thing or whatever, but I'm a lot busier, you 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:41.960 know what I mean. So finding that balance of I 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:43.840 have to do this video. Sometimes it's stuff that I 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.080 have to do videos for, like be flawless and push 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:49.760 certain products, and it's like he's home already. He gets 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:51.920 home and he's waiting for me, and I feel sometimes 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:53.360 like a little pressured. I'm like, oh my god, I 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.400 have to give him time. But I've learned to also 0:10:55.960 --> 0:10:57.960 speak my mind and let him know, hey, this is 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.000 my job. This is part of what makes me happy 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.720 be And I think for me that was like the 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:05.199 most stressful thing, even like a couple of months ago, 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:07.560 until I just spoke and I told him, Hey, I 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:09.240 need you to understand. And I think it was just 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.520 in my mind because he's like, hey, I'm totally fine, 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.800 Like don't worry about me, And I think I was 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:15.640 just creating things in my mind, you know. But once 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.040 I spoke about it and I let him know, then 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.880 it helped out the situation. I think sometimes we make 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:23.360 up all these stories in our mind and we don't 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:25.520 talk about it, and it makes us angry and more 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:27.920 stressed out when simply all you gotta do is talk 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.200 and then it's gone, you know what I mean. Right now, 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:35.400 I think my biggest stress is making sure that I'm 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.600 not so busy that I forget to eat. Sometimes I 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:42.360 forget to like feed myself and really sit down, you 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:45.079 guys and enjoy my food. Like sometimes I'm in the 0:11:45.160 --> 0:11:47.320 Russian I'm working and eating and it's like, no, like 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:50.280 you need to sit down, bless your food and say God, 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.960 thank you for this food. Eat, give yourself a good 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:57.040 twenty minutes thirty minutes to eat slowly, enjoy your food, 0:11:57.080 --> 0:12:01.040 and go back to work. I grew up, you guys 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:03.679 in this mentality of working. Working. You gotta work, you 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.720 gotta work harder than everyone else, And that's awesome, that's cool. Yes, 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.040 I want to show that to my children, show that 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:15.000 to my siblings. Working is important, but also resting is important, 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:18.160 you guys, taking time to sit down and enjoy your 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:20.880 food and drink your water. And now I've learned to 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:22.920 be like, Okay, I'm on the computer, I'm doing some work. 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.160 I'm there for like three hours straight and then I 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:27.160 go outside and I take a breath of fresh air, 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:32.920 and I'm like, I I realigned myself, and I'm like, Okay, 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:35.440 when they say stop and smell the roses, that's what 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:37.520 it means. It's like, yes, you could be busy doing 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:42.359 your thing, but stop and thank God for the sky, 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.520 for the flowers, for your dog, for the plants in 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:48.520 your house. I don't know anything, stop and smell the roses. 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:51.760 And I come from a background from a family that 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:57.360 it's like, you know, to make it, you need to 0:12:57.360 --> 0:12:59.400 suffer to make it in this world. And I had 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:01.800 that mentality for so long, and guys, my mom was 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.360 like that. My mom didn't know how to vacation. My 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:06.560 mom didn't know how to rest. I mean, we would 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:08.559 be at dinner and she was on her phone and 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:10.640 I would have arguments with her. I'm like, Mom, you're 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.920 with your kids, you're not here. Put your phone away. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:16.520 And we started implementing this thing that when mom was home, 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:18.120 we would all put our phones in the center of 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:21.200 the table and enjoy each other because you never know 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.520 what can happen. And you go out to restaurants, you guys, 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.760 and you look around and everyone is on their phone. 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.840 They're either taking fucking pictures or video supposed on Instagram 0:13:30.880 --> 0:13:34.040 and all this stuff, and they're not talking and not 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:37.360 having conversations. And that's what I mean. It's like everyone's 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:40.080 all about the hustle and bustle, and this whole thing 0:13:40.200 --> 0:13:41.800 was just like wait a second, like chill out, put 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:44.280 your phone to the side and listen, you know what 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.840 I mean. And my mom had that, and I learned 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:50.280 through my mentor, and he's the one that two years 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:54.360 ago said you need to rest. Your responsibility is also 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.600 in what you do is to rest. There's no shame 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.240 in resting. And I had shame about resting, you guys, 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:02.040 Like I was like, no, Like I'd be on vacation 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:04.439 and I feel guilty. I'd be sitting on my couch 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.000 for a little bit and I'd feel guilty, and I 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:07.600 know if Mom was here, I would have to be 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.000 doing something. Like my mom, it was hard for her 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:12.319 to just sit down and enjoy something and enjoy a movie, 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:13.560 you know what I mean. Even when we were at 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:15.920 the movie, she'd be on her phone answering emails and 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:19.200 stuff like that. And I want to change that in 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:21.840 my life. My Grandpa's the same way, Like I want 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:27.240 to work, yes, but also make some time in my schedule. 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:30.400 Now I'll plan out my vacations and I look forward 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:32.240 to that. I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna have a vacation 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:34.480 for my birthday. I'm gonna have a vacation for the 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:36.080 end of the year. And the rest of the year, 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:39.120 I'll work and Okay, I'm gonna work Tuesday through Saturday, 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:41.200 and I'm going to rest on Sunday and Monday. Because 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:43.960 it is important, you guys, to recharge your batteries to 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:47.520 regenerate yourself. It's something that I've had to learn and 0:14:47.560 --> 0:14:50.760 it's been hard, but I really recommend you guys doing 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:52.960 these things that I just mentioned because it changes your 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:56.440 life completely. Now I can go to dinner and not 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.480 have to post a video of my food. I'm really 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.440 just enjoy going the moment with whomever I'm with, and 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:04.520 it's not about just what I'm gonna put on Instagram. 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.440 Now I keep more things to myself in my heart, 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:10.120 in my mind of nice moments, or I take pictures, 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.120 but I don't post them. It's just for me. Before 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:14.120 I used to share everything you guys, and I just 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:16.720 felt like it became this. It was a little annoying 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:19.480 to be honest to people. I think around me and 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:23.160 talking about emails, and I'm the type of person that 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:27.520 needs to have everything clean in my phone. I need 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.760 to not see emails, like I don't even like to 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.760 see one one an opened one. But in the morning, 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.040 I don't look at my emails. I look at them 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:38.160 like after I've done everything, my personal things, my praying, 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:42.080 my working out, and that's my personal time. Now it's 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:43.680 work time, and I'll get into my emails and I'll 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:46.680 start responding. I usually start responding to my emails around 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:50.080 nine or ten, and I try to stop at a 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:52.480 certain time. There are times it's not all the time, 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:54.720 but I I sometimes answer them super late, like if 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:56.480 I'm really busy throughout the day, then right before i 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:59.280 go to bed, I'll go ahead and respond to two 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:00.880 emails because I don't like to leave him there for 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.240 a long time. I need to get better actually on 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:05.440 my emails you guys, I really do. I like to 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:07.720 just clean them out like the junk mill, and then 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:09.360 I just leave the other ones and open. I'm like, okay, 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:10.680 I'll get to them right now. But I do want 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:13.240 to get better at responding a little quicker to my emails. 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:15.560 But when I'm in bed, I'll just put my phone 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:18.320 to the side and I just focused. I like to 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:20.160 just spend time with my partner with the media and 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.880 like we'll watch like a show and it's just to unwind, 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.880 you know what I mean. And our thing is this 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.960 is exclusive information for my podcast because I've never said this, 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:33.080 but I have really turned to marijuana, you guys, to 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:35.760 sleep to relax. So I just put my phone to 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:38.080 the side. Like him and I are the same, and 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:39.920 it is something that he's taught me to be honest. 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:42.960 He's like, can we just have like the last hour 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.320 of our day to ourselves where you're not on your phone, 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:47.640 you're not on Instagram. And I'm like, yeah, you're right. 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:49.920 He's like, because it's important to me to spend time 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:51.920 with you. You've been busy. I've been busy all day. 0:16:52.160 --> 0:16:54.720 And I'm like, you're right, So I don't turn off 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:56.600 my phone. I try not to turn off my phone. 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:58.680 You guys, I'll get back to the week thing right now. 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:00.880 But I try not to turn off my phone because 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:02.960 in the back of my mind, and this is something 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:04.840 I have to get better at. I want to have 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:07.480 it on just in case my siblings need me. I 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:11.280 feel like, if Mikey something happens, because Mikey is the 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:13.240 type of guy that likes to be out late at night, 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:15.840 or Johnny sometimes drives all the way to San Diego, 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:18.080 like he has friends in San Diego, and I'm like, 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:19.919 what if they call me and my phone's off? And 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:21.480 I just started thinking all these things. So I want 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:23.919 to get better at that because I trust so much 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:27.440 in the universe and in God that I'm like, you know, 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:29.800 like I can't worry so much all the time about 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:32.600 my siblings. But the truth is that I leave it 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:36.200 on just in case they call me. I'll ignore text messages, 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:38.879 but I'm like, if it's important and someone calls me 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:42.240 and I turned off my phone on, do not disturb, 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:44.920 Like it would drive me nuts if I knew if 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:48.360 something happens and I didn't respond, you know what I mean. 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:50.480 But I have to just trust a little bit more 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:53.199 you know. But anyways, so what I've been doing is 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:54.800 put my phone on the side. We watched the show. 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:58.200 We smoke a little joint, a little blunt, a little marijuana. 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:00.879 It's a lot better than leaping pills, you guys. And 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:03.600 my personal opinion, okay, it's helped me out. I'll do 0:18:03.680 --> 0:18:07.160 melotonin once in a while, but I'm really enjoying smoking 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:11.000 a little bit of weed. Unwinding and I have such 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.080 a good night's rest, you guys. If I have a headache, 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:16.639 if my neck hurts, if I'm stressed out like I 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:19.520 forget about everything, of course I say my prayers. I 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:21.520 always get on my knees, you guys, before going to sleep, 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:24.000 getting on my knees and just thanking God for the day. 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:26.160 Even if I'm a little bit high, I'm like, God, 0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:28.240 you know what's up. You know you made this herb. 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:32.000 It's here for us because you made it so Him 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.160 and I we have a connection. That's part of my 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:37.399 spiritual gangster situation. So even if I'm high, it doesn't matter. 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:38.800 I'll get on my knees on my God, thank you. 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:40.119 And then I go to sleep, you guys, and I 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:44.199 feel so good. I wake up and I'm more energized. 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:47.119