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Speaker 2: And we have some human stories coming up, not alien.

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Speaker 1: But before we make a landing, stick around for this

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Speaker 1: these interstellar stories, John, tell me, do you think your

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Speaker 1: mom is even your mom?

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Speaker 2: You know, it's hard to say, even though we get

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Speaker 2: exactly like you know, people say I look like Tom

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Speaker 2: Cruise all the time. This doesn't mean I'm related to them.

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Speaker 3: I think you.

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Speaker 1: Gotta search for the truth, that's right, And you know

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Speaker 1: it's one good way to do that. Sam, what listening

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Speaker 1: to day six of mother May I have a DNA

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Speaker 3: Is that my real dad?

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Speaker 2: We're giving you cold hard evidence of ways to certain

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Speaker 2: to define the truth of your familial heritage, your genealogy

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Speaker 5: Am I the a hole for saying out loud that

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Speaker 5: I'm still in love with my cousin during a family reunion?

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Speaker 5: And this stands with the question of should DNA results

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Speaker 5: always be shared? So kindly, car seventy nine ninety six

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Speaker 5: there's no better way to say it. I'm sure there's

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Speaker 5: be very important. You can form your own ideas, but

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Speaker 5: that shows that me and Ali are actually cousins. This,

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Speaker 5: I don't know if I would address her ever as cousin.

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Speaker 5: I understand we're cousins, but it still hurts.

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Speaker 3: We shared a bed once. He was like, I noticed

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Speaker 3: Oh, Pee, that was the wrong thing to say.

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Speaker 6: Why would you say that?

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Speaker 5: Now, thinking back on it, I could have chose a

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Speaker 3: We shared a bed the movie nights. I'm sorry, but

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Speaker 5: The argument escalated to the point that he left, and

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 5: Yes, you said all of the wrong things.

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Speaker 3: I think Op's like trying to pass it off.

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Speaker 5: It was trying to say, oh, well, that's not what

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you literally said you're in love with her.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, in front of everyone. Well, well let's read these comments.

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Speaker 5: I feel bad for her and hope it doesn't harm

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Speaker 5: her like that, and then kindly. Carr, who is OP,

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Speaker 5: me because it made me realize that I did drop

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Speaker 5: the comments to annoy him. Being honest, I didn't think

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Speaker 5: So I thought it might slip up again because I

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Speaker 5: I was jealous and I said it to hurt him,

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Speaker 5: But even if our situation spread, it wouldn't reach many

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Speaker 6: But that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 7: I secretly learned my girlfriend's language. We ended up breaking up.

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Speaker 6: No, No, that was so cute.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, my girlfriend is South African. Her native language is Afrikaans.

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Speaker 6: I see you, man, I see you.

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Speaker 7: My plan was to surprise my girlfriend and her family

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Speaker 6: Okay, that's nice. That's nice.

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Speaker 7: My girlfriend wants to tattoo the names of literally all

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Speaker 6: That's so funny.

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Speaker 5: Both of these these are hilarious. So far, I'm not

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Speaker 5: Man bro learning a lot of things we didn't want

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Speaker 6: Yeah, some some fun, some bad.

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Speaker 6: How the show ends. Dude, this is crazy classic.

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Speaker 7: My girlfriend is thinking about canceling the high School Middleman

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Speaker 6: Dude, this is so so funny. My girlfriend expects her

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Speaker 7: I would have preferred not knowing most of those things,

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Speaker 7: much while having to pretend I know nothing some comments.

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Speaker 7: Monsters in my Wardrobe says, the punishment for forbidden knowledge

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Speaker 6: Lol.

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Speaker 7: Keep it a secret and when she asks you about it,

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Speaker 7: or I'll deflect and just be like, Better Call Saul?

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Speaker 6: Is there anything you'd like to tell me? Honey, sweetheart,

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Speaker 5: I like that, Like focus is like yeah, yeah, been

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Speaker 5: watching Better Call Saul with Noondred says watch Better Call

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Speaker 6: Really good in Afrikaans. That's funny.

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Speaker 7: Global Cattle sixty eight five says, ah, that wasn't all

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Speaker 7: mild f up know what that means.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what any of that means, but if

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but we do have an update four months later,

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Speaker 7: the following happened since my original post. I asked my girlfriend.

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Speaker 7: In Afrikaans, and she said, I really, I don't know

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Speaker 7: how to say that traffictly, but basically she agreed yes

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Speaker 7: reuniting with her original high school band members for my

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Speaker 7: like how she was struggling to get used to my

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Speaker 7: how much Afrikaans I was able to understand, and apologized

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Speaker 7: even though it wasn't necessary. Well, except for finishing better

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Speaker 7: calls all behind my back, that was playing with fire

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Speaker 7: moment in our relationship almost unforgivable. My fiance got one

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Speaker 7: of Therry Potter spells in her back erecto patronum. Oh,

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Speaker 7: another story. My fiance is still considering getting her back tattooed.

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Speaker 7: I said it was her choice, but I advise her

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Speaker 7: to avoid covering her entire back with Harry Potter spells

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Speaker 7: like she's some kind of death eater. Michael Schofield, My

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Speaker 7: fiance might be right about her dad not liking me,

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Speaker 7: because his expression of disappointment and dread when he heard

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Speaker 7: the news of our engagement was priceless. That said, I'll

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Speaker 7: win him over, though even if it kills him, jokes.

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Speaker 6: My fiance fully believes.

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Speaker 7: My parents are swingers based on the different couples she's

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Speaker 7: She wants us to investigate my parents because, for some reason,

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Speaker 6: And dad whose spicy sleep life is far more spicy

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Speaker 7: I'm not interested in opening that door, though, because I

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Speaker 6: However, something tells me that my fiance will not rest

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Speaker 7: I made it clear to my fiance that I had

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Speaker 7: no problem with her reuniting with her high school band

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Speaker 7: to perform at my birthday unless it was uncomfortable for

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Speaker 7: My fiance ultimately decided to cancel the band because of

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Speaker 7: interested in playing the Devil's music. The bass guitars wan

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Speaker 7: in money Man, that's bad fell apart. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 7: my fiance still wears her glasses during spicy sleep. Edit

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Speaker 7: to all the comments saying this is a repost, it's not.

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Speaker 7: It's an update of my original post from a few

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Speaker 7: months ago. Check my history, it's my story. There are

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Speaker 7: Never played for free Musicianship one O one, not so holy,

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Speaker 7: Mary says, And none of these things seem to be

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Speaker 7: very damaging to a relationship. Your girlfriend actually seems considerate,

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Speaker 7: wanted to surprise you but not knowing if it will

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Speaker 6: Could be a heck of a lot worse.

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Speaker 7: And of course, never worry about the weiener thing, not

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Speaker 7: the size, but hell, you use it right.

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Speaker 6: I'm a right.

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Speaker 7: Kama Cozi TM says, Except that she watched all of

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Speaker 7: better Calls all without him.

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Speaker 6: That's just downright rude. True. Update number two is a

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Speaker 7: There's everything's perfect, though, Oh do we have any final

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Speaker 3: I think everything's perfect.

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Speaker 6: I think everything's perfect. We should just stop right here?

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Speaker 6: Should stop?

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Speaker 5: I'm really worried.

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Speaker 6: There's another update now. Last time I was here, I

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Speaker 7: I deleted that update because I was keen to tell

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Speaker 7: I got engaged.

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Speaker 6: However, no, no, no, However, since then, we've not only

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Speaker 7: In my original post, my ex girlfriend, who was still

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Speaker 7: mom and dad were swingers just because they always had

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Speaker 7: that runed it. I never believed it, but I thought

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Speaker 7: it was hilarious that someone thought my parents were that interesting.

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Speaker 6: Not gonna lie. I struggled to move on after my

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Speaker 7: My apartment had too many memories of my ex, so

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Speaker 6: I don't like how this is going so far. Wait,

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Speaker 6: where did you guys break up? Well, you just said

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Speaker 6: it did. We're about to get engaged. What happened, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: what happened? Please but my parents?

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Speaker 3: I said yes.

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Speaker 7: My dad offered to pick me up, which I accepted.

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Speaker 7: What should have been a ten minute drive unexpectedly turned

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Speaker 6: When my dad was done making.

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Speaker 7: Dad jokes to help me get over my breakup, he

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Speaker 6: I see you, I of luck, but he's just going

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Speaker 6: oh boy.

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Speaker 7: I was forced to interrupt my dad and basically beg

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Speaker 7: If my ex was present at that moment, she would

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Speaker 7: have punched me on my shoulder and said, I I've

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Speaker 7: told you because my dad.

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Speaker 5: Confirmed her swinger theory dude.

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Speaker 6: Which no longer made it a theory, but the truth,

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Speaker 6: or as I like to call.

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Speaker 3: It, trauma.

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Speaker 6: Oh, oh my goodness, if you guys ended on good terms.

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00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:02,919
Speaker 6: I mean, I don't know.

447
00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,919
Speaker 5: I can't imagine you did because it yeah, broken engagement.

448
00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:08,080
Speaker 6: But I would go tell her.

449
00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,919
Speaker 7: I would, yeah, I would feel like, this is so random,

450
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 7: you don't have to respond.

451
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:16,600
Speaker 6: You were freaking around. My parents are swingers. Gosh.

452
00:20:18,720 --> 00:20:20,399
Speaker 7: By the time my dad and I finally made it

453
00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 7: to our destination, my dad made sure I knew.

454
00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:23,480
Speaker 6: Everything I needed to know.

455
00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:26,400
Speaker 7: I made a list based on what I learned from

456
00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,760
Speaker 7: my dad. Both my parents were swingers when they met.

457
00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:32,040
Speaker 7: Swinging was not something that my parents wanted to do

458
00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 7: while raising kids, so it was prohibited while my parents became.

459
00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:38,080
Speaker 6: Parents to see if they still got it.

460
00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:40,480
Speaker 7: My parents switched back to swinging when they had the

461
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:43,680
Speaker 7: house to themselves again, and loan and bhold they still

462
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:50,560
Speaker 7: got it. Hosting swinger parties was something my parents did frequently,

463
00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:55,360
Speaker 7: usually with themes cute. My parents were planning to host

464
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,240
Speaker 7: another swinger party, but my mom was leaning towards calling

465
00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:01,000
Speaker 7: it off so that I could come home and stay

466
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:02,800
Speaker 7: for as long as I wanted. If my parents were

467
00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,159
Speaker 7: forced to cancel, it would be the first party that

468
00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,400
Speaker 7: they called off since the VID. The theme was promn

469
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 7: I never expected my dad to go that hard in

470
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,840
Speaker 7: the too much information category, but as soon as he

471
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:17,760
Speaker 7: crossed that threshold, he got all out of his system.

472
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,400
Speaker 7: I stayed with my parents for a total of two

473
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 7: days before it came abundantly clear to me that knowledge

474
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,760
Speaker 7: might be power for some people, but for me, knowledge

475
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:28,000
Speaker 7: was a fake punishment. My mom, who was unaware that

476
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 7: I Loki knew that she was a swinger. Mom attempted

477
00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,440
Speaker 7: to convince me to stay longer, and she almost succeeded,

478
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 7: But I was just done with my dad using our

479
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:38,200
Speaker 7: father son bonding time to play guess which one of

480
00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 7: our neighbors are also swingers? No, oh gosh, I used

481
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 7: a newber to get back to my apartment.

482
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:45,439
Speaker 6: No more dad rides.

483
00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,359
Speaker 7: I've never been so happy to return to a place

484
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,199
Speaker 7: that was haunted by my failed relationship.

485
00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:54,919
Speaker 6: Oh my goodness.

486
00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:55,200
Speaker 3: You know.

487
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Speaker 7: What I do know is that you can listen to

488
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Speaker 7: full episodes with more stories just like this one. Just

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491
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Speaker 6: IHeartRadio, whatever you choose. We'll be there, We'll be there.

492
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 7: My ex and I broke up because of a tattoo

493
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 7: her friend passed away, Oh, I'm sorry, which promoted her

494
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 7: to literally get his name tattooed on the back of

495
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 7: her neck. The friend was someone my ex used to

496
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 7: sleep with before she met me.

497
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:23,120
Speaker 3: Wow.

498
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:26,440
Speaker 7: I made it clear to her prior to the tattoo

499
00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,119
Speaker 7: that I understood that it was her body to do

500
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 7: with whatever she wanted, but as someone who was prepared

501
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:32,920
Speaker 7: to be with her forever, it was gonna be uncomfortable

502
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:34,920
Speaker 7: for me to see another guy's name on her body

503
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 7: for the rest of our lives, especially the name of

504
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,080
Speaker 7: a guy that passed away that she had casual, spicy

505
00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:46,439
Speaker 7: sleep with. Hmm, my eggs got the tattoo anyway. The

506
00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 7: tattoo was small and barely visible. That was her defense.

507
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 7: I knew it was there, that was enough. It was

508
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 7: also very thing visible.

509
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 6: In certain positions.

510
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,680
Speaker 7: We argued about the tattoo until we eventually said enough

511
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 7: hurtful things that could now be unsaid. Clearly, the tattoo

512
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:04,440
Speaker 7: was worth losing me because the tattoo is still there

513
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 7: and I'm not well.

514
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 6: Not much you can do about getting rid of the tattoo.

515
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 7: When there are some comments. Second creative says, I can't

516
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 7: stay here. Too many sad memories two days later, save me.

517
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 6: From the horrible things I now know, sad memories.

518
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 7: That's exactly what happened, OPI responded, I'm gladly relieve the

519
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 7: pain of my relationship getting napalmed, then listening to my

520
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:32,959
Speaker 7: dad makeup synonyms for swingers like no no monogamos. The

521
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 7: real six says, don't tell your ex the no no monogamo.

522
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 7: She might add it to the list of spells she

523
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 7: wants to tattoo.

524
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:42,280
Speaker 6: On her back. Oh that's so good.

525
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:46,919
Speaker 7: Relevant reference says how much their decor is pineapple themed?

526
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:49,639
Speaker 7: OP says a few comments my previous posts made me

527
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:52,360
Speaker 7: aware of the meeting behind the pineapple and the swinger community,

528
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 7: So I've actually been on the lookout for anything that

529
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 7: so much as remotely resembled a pineapple whenever I was

530
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 7: with my parents, But to this day, no pineapples. That

531
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 7: being said, based on what I know now thanks to

532
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 7: my father, I actually won't be surprised if my parents

533
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 7: were literally living in a pineapple house like sponge Pops

534
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 7: that only other no no monogamos could see.

535
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 6: And that is the end of that story. Man, what a.

536
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:23,440
Speaker 5: Turn in this story. My partner finally proposed, but I'm

537
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 5: no longer interested.

538
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 6: Awkward.

539
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:29,840
Speaker 5: My partner bought the ring a long time ago. He

540
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 5: previously insisted that we had to live together to see

541
00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 5: if we were compatible before he could propose, and that

542
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 5: he wouldn't propose otherwise.

543
00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:37,680
Speaker 3: I think that's part.

544
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from Feisty eighty seven ninety

545
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 5: nine on the Arsla Shoky story. Time suffered it so

546
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 5: I have been ready for much longer than he has,

547
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,400
Speaker 5: and that's not his fault, of course. But after waiting

548
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,919
Speaker 5: and waiting, I have gone from anxiety to hope, to

549
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 5: excitement and finally just numbness. He didn't intend for me

550
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 5: to know, but my sister, who helped him finalize the

551
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 5: ring out of the one I had liked, was happy

552
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 5: about it and couldn't keep the.

553
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 6: Secret that he's proposing in just under a week.

554
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 5: It makes sense now that he was trying to get

555
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 5: me to take a couple of days off to go

556
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,440
Speaker 5: away for a mini break to the town in which

557
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 5: we met.

558
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 6: But I couldn't get leave approved.

559
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 5: She noticed that I've been feeling quite low throughout the

560
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 5: holiday season, and she thought it was because I was

561
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 5: waiting for a proposal. But the realities that I gave

562
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 5: up on it a month or two ago. A month

563
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 5: or two I've tried to convince myself that it's what

564
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 5: I still want, but that ship is sailed. It's quite

565
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 5: strange to be in the process of falling out of

566
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 5: love with him gradually. He's twenty nine and I'm about

567
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 5: to turn twenty nine. I fear I'm being irrational here

568
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 5: because in total we've been together for only three years,

569
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 5: but he's been telling me for a year and a

570
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 5: half that he will soon propose. I feel compelled to

571
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,000
Speaker 5: say yes now because everything is in place, but I

572
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 5: don't feel in love with him anymore. He seems happy

573
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 5: to talk about marriage now and is brought up marrying

574
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 5: in autumn a bunch of times, and I wish I

575
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 5: still felt the same joy at discussing wedding plans that

576
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:01,399
Speaker 5: I did before. Relevant comments is one three years is

577
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 5: nothing considering you could be spending the rest of your

578
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 5: life with this person. Be glad you realize now, Opie says,

579
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 5: I've only begun feeling this way when he kept saying

580
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 5: a proposal was coming soon and didn't propose for a

581
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 5: year and a half, and his insistence on living together

582
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 5: when he knew it was not something I was comfortable

583
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 5: with without being engaged. How long ago did Opie move

584
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 5: in with her boyfriend? Was it fine for her to

585
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 5: live with them? Opie says only a few months ago.

586
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 5: And I shouldn't have done it because I was not

587
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 5: happy to. I used to share a flat with my

588
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 5: friend and had done.

589
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 3: So for years.

590
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 5: The only way to live together was to move into

591
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:35,199
Speaker 5: the flat that he's been renting because he lives on

592
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 5: his own. Big mistake, doing something that didn't feel right

593
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,400
Speaker 5: to me at all. No, it's actually been fine living

594
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 5: with him, but living together before engagement was really something

595
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 5: I did not want to do, but he made it

596
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 5: a condition to get engaged after he bought the ring

597
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 5: earlier in the year. I shouldn't have agreed to it,

598
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,359
Speaker 5: but I did, and that's where the resentment has come from,

599
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 5: along with the year and a half wait. Commoner two says,

600
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 5: to feel that much resentment after such a rather short time,

601
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 5: which is yeah, my opinion is is sign that you

602
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 5: weren't right for each other anyway. Honestly, three years of

603
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 5: dating and requesting to live with each other before marriage

604
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 5: are totally reasonable at your age.

605
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 6: I agree me too.

606
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 5: Objectively, you are being a bit unfair here, but if

607
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,480
Speaker 5: you're just not feeling anymore, so be it. It's better

608
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 5: to end things now before the engagement. This is no

609
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 5: base for a lifetime commitment.

610
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 6: I completely agree too.

611
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 5: Opie says, I don't think feeling resentment after waiting for

612
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,359
Speaker 5: a year and a half is soon at all. He

613
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 5: said he would propose soon, and soon is not more

614
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 5: than a few months, certainly not over a year. I

615
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 5: disagree with them. He should have been honest that he

616
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,679
Speaker 5: wasn't ready, instead of dragging this for a year and

617
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,159
Speaker 5: a half. Opie is blaming her boyfriend for choices, and

618
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 5: she needs to communicate with her boyfriend about the issue,

619
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 5: or so I think some of the comments are saying.

620
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 5: Opie says, I don't believe I am, especially as he

621
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 5: wasn't communicating clearly with me on the issue until a

622
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 5: few months ago. Sometimes you do things that you feel

623
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 5: will work out fine, but you don't realize until later

624
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 5: how they will make you feel. I felt pushed into

625
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,199
Speaker 5: making that decision because of the various conversations that we

626
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,880
Speaker 5: had earlier this year year, in which he shared things

627
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 5: that he should have done a long time ago?

628
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 1: Like what?

629
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 8: Like?

630
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 3: What?

631
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 5: Commina three says two questions numbness aside? Do you want

632
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 5: to marry him? Like take away all of the pomp

633
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 5: and circumstance and the emotional politics around it. Do you

634
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 5: want him to be your life partner? What the f

635
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 5: is up with your sister? Why did she spill the beans?

636
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 5: I get it if she knew you were checking out

637
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,639
Speaker 5: and felt you needed a heads up. But if she

638
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 5: didn't know that, and it doesn't sound like she did,

639
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 5: what she did isn't okay anyway. It's normal to be

640
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 5: almost a little blue and getting engaged later than he wanted.

641
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 5: It doesn't mean that it won't work out unless you

642
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 5: don't want it to. It could mean that you just

643
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 5: need to have a good, healthy fight where you air

644
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 5: out all of your frustration that he has held you

645
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 5: hostage on this for so long.

646
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 3: I think, is I want?

647
00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 5: Obi says there was a time until recently when I

648
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 5: really wanted him to be my life partner and I

649
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 5: thought we were a good match, but not anymore. She

650
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 5: was mistaken and thought that I had been feeling low

651
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 5: because he hadn't proposed, so she was trying to cheer

652
00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 5: me up, thinking I'd be thrilled. He told her he

653
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 5: had everything planned and ready for a proposal on our anniversary,

654
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 5: so she thought I would be happy.

655
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 6: Dang, she's saying exactly what's gonna happen to update.

656
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 5: In the middle of twenty twenty three, he said he

657
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 5: was proposing soon, but a year later he still hadn't

658
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 5: and finally admitted he wouldn't until we lived together, even

659
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 5: though he had bought a ring. This was despite me

660
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 5: asking him a couple of times what was holding things up,

661
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 5: and he always assured me it would happen. Soon after

662
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 5: he finally shared this with me, he kept insisting I

663
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 5: move in, even though I wasn't interested in that before

664
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 5: an engagement, but I did because of how much I

665
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 5: loved him, and the resentment had been slowly building up

666
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 5: ever since. I know it's my fault for moving in,

667
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 5: and I should have been firmer about my boundaries. He

668
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 5: knew from very early on that I didn't want to

669
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 5: set up a household slash home with a partner without engagement.

670
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 5: Early in the relationship, eight to nine months in, he

671
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 5: wanted me to move in, but I told him that

672
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 5: I wouldn't do that with someone unless I was going

673
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 5: to marry the person and was engaged. He said at

674
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 5: that time that was okay and that he understood. So

675
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 5: why did he say he was going to propose soon?

676
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 5: Last year? Knowing where we still on this matter, Knowing

677
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:03,959
Speaker 5: he was going to propose, and realizing I didn't want

678
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 5: to marry him anymore, I told him on Saturday night

679
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 5: that we couldn't be together anymore. He didn't take it well.

680
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 5: He told me I had blindsided him and that he

681
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 5: thought we both wanted a future together. He initially said

682
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 5: he didn't know what he did wrong, and I had

683
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 5: to explain to him that he knew we had issues

684
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 5: regarding him always having his way and him knowing I

685
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 5: was uncomfortable about moving in before an engagement. The truth is,

686
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 5: whatever we disagree, I always end up giving in. He

687
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 5: doesn't compromise and isn't very flexible. I pointed this out

688
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 5: to him before and accept and he accepted that it

689
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 5: was an issue. Yet nothing changed. Now that I'm ending things,

690
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 5: he's saying he'll work on it and it's not something

691
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 5: to break up over. We could probably work through the

692
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 5: resentment and improve our communication, but I don't know if

693
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 5: I'll ever feel the same way about him again. Also,

694
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 5: given that he kept saying he was proposing soon but

695
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 5: waited for eighteen months, I worry that he might again

696
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 5: drag his feet when it comes to other things, like

697
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:58,280
Speaker 5: having kids or even with planning the wedding. He woke

698
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 5: up this morning, the thirty first, the day he was

699
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 5: planning to propose on as it's our anniversary, and said

700
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 5: he couldn't believe what was happening.

701
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 6: He said it didn't.

702
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 5: Feel real because we should be getting engaged today, but

703
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 5: instead we were in the process of breaking up. He

704
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 5: even asked at one point if we could try again,

705
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 5: saying our relationship had been happy for both of us

706
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 5: and that living together we had been very compatible irrespective

707
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 5: of how I felt about moving in. He asked if

708
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 5: I would consider giving the relationship another chance if we

709
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 5: took a break from each other for some time.

710
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 3: Again. I don't think this is a good idea.

711
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 5: The days since I ended the relationship have been really tough,

712
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 5: but it was the right thing to do because we

713
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 5: are incompatible. People in my previous post mentioned that I

714
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 5: just wanted to marry and get engaged and didn't care

715
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 5: who to but that's not true. My ex whom I

716
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 5: was from university, was keen to marry me and brought

717
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 5: it up soon after we started our first jobs.

718
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 6: However, there were a.

719
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,719
Speaker 5: Range of issues in that relationship and I didn't think

720
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 5: it would work, So after trying to resolve our issues

721
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 5: in not being able to for a year, I had

722
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 5: to end that relationship. If a marriage and engagement were

723
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,719
Speaker 5: all I wanted, I would have married him and ignored

724
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 5: the issues. I genuinely thought my current partner well x

725
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 5: now and I were a great match, but I suppose

726
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 5: I was wrong. I was living in a flat with

727
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 5: a friend and it was ideal for me in every way.

728
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 5: I had to find someone to take over my lease,

729
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 5: and I did this to move in with him. Now

730
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 5: I have to start looking for a new place again.

731
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 5: I've already started, and fortunately I live in a city

732
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 5: where finding a place won't be too difficult. My friend

733
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 5: said I should not move out in a rush, since

734
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 5: I'm paying half the rent towards this place, But the

735
00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 5: reality is that this place never felt like home because

736
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 5: I moved in begrudgingly. Again, I know it's my fault,

737
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 5: but I can't live in what is essentially his home

738
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 5: if we aren't going to be together, but you can

739
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 5: be together with us if you listen to full episodes

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742
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Speaker 3: Search a book a start time.

743
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Speaker 5: My sister said that I should think about the fact

744
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 5: that I'm going to be twenty nine and about how

745
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 5: it might be difficult to find someone have children with

746
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 5: before I hit my mid thirties. But it's better to

747
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 5: be single than in a relationship that's not right. I

748
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 5: know that I might not anyone else anytime soon or

749
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 5: at all, because you never know what life is going

750
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 5: to bring, but that's okay. There are other things in

751
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 5: my life that I plan to focus on, like studying

752
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 5: for a post rad diploma that I've been wanting to

753
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,320
Speaker 5: do for some time. I know it'll be fine soon

754
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 5: as he's quite resilient, and then both of us can

755
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 5: get on with our lives. Rel the comments, a down

756
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 5: voted commenter says, in this case, his hesitancy paid off

757
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 5: because it allowed the OPI to realize that they weren't

758
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 5: impatible for reasons unrelated to proposing. He was correct not

759
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 5: to propose. It saved a future divorce. This wasn't his intent.

760
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 5: But the overall issue here was the Opie wasn't happy

761
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 5: with how decisions were made in the relationship the partner was.

762
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 5: It took years for the Opie to express this. Now

763
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 5: that she has both can move on with their lives.

764
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 5: In this case, the issue appears to be she didn't

765
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 5: communicate with him the issues she was having. He was

766
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 5: quite clear that he wanted to live with someone before

767
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 5: getting married and proposed after a reasonable length of time

768
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 5: after it occurred. It's good she was finally able to

769
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 5: communicate and move on. Opie says he was not clear

770
00:33:57,760 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 5: about this and waited a year to tell me why

771
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 5: it wasn't And this was after early on the relationship

772
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 5: when he wanted us to live together. I had told

773
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 5: them I wouldn't live with someone unless the relationship was

774
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 5: going to lead to marriage and I was engaged, and

775
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,240
Speaker 5: he said that was fine and continue the relationship. Commoner

776
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 5: one says, did he need help with bills? Why did

777
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 5: you need to move in and pay half? Opie says

778
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 5: he didn't need help with paying the bills, but I

779
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 5: chose to pay as I think that's fair. I would

780
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 5: not be comfortable with him picking up the bills for

781
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,879
Speaker 5: both of us when we both work. Commoner two says,

782
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 5: he didn't fight for you. You'll meet the one you

783
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 5: know now what you don't want, and that's a good start.

784
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 5: And stick to your boundaries and goals always. Opie says

785
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 5: he's been quite difficult since that day, particularly about me

786
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 5: leaving and looking for somewhere to live, But I don't

787
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 5: want him to make it any more difficult by fighting

788
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 5: for me. Just can't wait to be out of the place.

789
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 5: Commoner three says he doesn't compromise and isn't very flexible.

790
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 5: I pointed this out to him before and he accepted

791
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 5: that it was an issue, yet nothing changed. You are

792
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 5: doing the right thing. Commoner four says, don't fall for

793
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 5: the trap of going back to a man who was

794
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 5: only willing to consider changing his ways when you already

795
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 5: have your foot out the do or he won't change,

796
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 5: and even if he does, it will only be temporary,

797
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 5: and that is the end of the story.

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Speaker 3: Here's johny og host here.

799
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but he's a

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00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: quick three minute break of ass from our sponsors.

801
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Speaker 8: I told my sister's boyfriend my life is none of

802
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 8: his business.

803
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 3: He keeps judging me because I'm not a stay at

804
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 3: home mom.

805
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 5: Well, why don't you mind your own beeswax boom roasted.

806
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 8: So I Female twenty two, have an older sister, Female

807
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 8: twenty eight. She has four kids, and she loves being

808
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 8: a mom and wants to be a stay at home mom,

809
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 8: and I encourage her to do whatever she wants. By

810
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 8: the way, this comes from user appropriate food fifty eight

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Speaker 8: fifty eight, and you can submit your stories to the

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Speaker 8: r slash okay storytime subreddit. So she herself understands that

813
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:45,760
Speaker 8: I have no desire to be a mom right now,

814
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 8: if not ever. I have two other older sisters who

815
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 8: are like me, who don't want to be a stay

816
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 8: at home mother.

817
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:52,320
Speaker 3: This is important to the story.

818
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 8: Her boyfriend is mad at me boyfriend male twenty seven,

819
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,879
Speaker 8: because he asked me when I'm going to settle down

820
00:35:57,960 --> 00:35:59,879
Speaker 8: and that he can introduce me to his friend, male

821
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 8: twenty five, who wants to stay at home wife. I

822
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 8: told him no that I don't want to date anyone

823
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 8: this year, and he got mad at me for some

824
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 8: reason and asked me why. So I told him my

825
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 8: ex boyfriend left me with trust issues. My ex cheated

826
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 8: on me for six months into a three year relationship.

827
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 8: He told me we broke up in twenty twenty three

828
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 8: and I should start getting back out there, and I

829
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 8: told him it's not his business, and he dropped it.

830
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 8: Two days ago, he asked me if I wanted to

831
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 8: be a stay at home wife and mother, and I

832
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 8: told him no that I don't and I'm not even

833
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 8: sure I want kids, let alone to get married. He

834
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 8: got defensive since his mom was a stay at home

835
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 8: wife and mom, and I told him I don't see

836
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,360
Speaker 8: anything wrong with being a stay at home mom, but

837
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 8: I don't personally want to depend on a man for anything,

838
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 8: and once again he got defensive and said, not all.

839
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 6: Mad are the same.

840
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:47,480
Speaker 8: He said, my sister wants to be a stay at

841
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,360
Speaker 8: home wife and mom, and I told him, congratulations on

842
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 8: finding that out with my sister, but I, once again

843
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 8: do not want to be a stay at home mom.

844
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 8: He got mad because he overheard my conversation about me

845
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 8: getting an IUD as well and told me I'm roo

846
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 8: God's plan to make me a mom one day, and

847
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 8: I told him whether I want kids or not is

848
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:06,720
Speaker 8: not his business. He got mad at me and told

849
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 8: me to get out of his home, so I did.

850
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 8: My older sister's asking me to apologize to him and

851
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 8: to not get an IUD since if I get pregnant

852
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 8: that it's God's plan. And she also told me I

853
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,399
Speaker 8: should reconsider being a stay at home mom. I told

854
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 8: her not everyone has that dream, and she accused me

855
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 8: of not respecting stay at home mothers or wives, which

856
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 8: is nothing but live. Oh.

857
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 5: He's just like, I don't want to do that, and

858
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 5: she's like, you hate me.

859
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

860
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 5: I was like, no, it's just not my thing.

861
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:36,319
Speaker 8: These people don't seem to be able to let other

862
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 8: people be different in any way.

863
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:43,879
Speaker 5: No, they're like, if you're not like us, you're Satan's Bam,

864
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:48,280
Speaker 5: you go into eighteen double hockey stay Indeed, indeed, everyone

865
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 5: knows God only likes one type of person.

866
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 3: Its housewives.

867
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 5: That's it.

868
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 3: You stay at home.

869
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,760
Speaker 5: He's really into Desperate Housewives.

870
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 8: My two other older sisters are on my side and

871
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 8: said my sister's boyfriend shouldn't be concerned with how I

872
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 8: live my life and that if I don't want to

873
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:10,879
Speaker 8: depend on anyone for the rest of my life, that's

874
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 8: my choice.

875
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 3: He also said I'm gonna go to h double hockey sticks.

876
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 6: For be and by.

877
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 8: So I screamed that, I guess his girlfriend my sister

878
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 8: is also going there.

879
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 3: Because she's bye as well. She already knew about Did

880
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:27,520
Speaker 3: he not like think that through? I guess not.

881
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 6: He really didn't know.

882
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 5: They're gonna make an exception because she's a state home mom.

883
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 3: But yeah, he's like, that's.

884
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 9: Why I'm trying to tell you that you need to

885
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 9: be at at home mom. I marry a man because

886
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 9: it cancels out, it cancels out the sin of being hot.

887
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 9: It's all written down. You read the Bible.

888
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,239
Speaker 3: You don't go to heaven. You do go to purgatute

889
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 3: the Bible.

890
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 8: Oh oh, I think we just did we just do

891
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 8: a da Vinci.

892
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 6: Code right now, just freaking cracked.

893
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 3: Are you freaking Dan Brown up in here? Yeah?

894
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 8: Now their friends are calling me and a hole, saying

895
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 8: that he cares about what I do with my body

896
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 8: since it's God's body and I should respect it.

897
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 3: And become a mom soon.

898
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,760
Speaker 8: So am I the ale for telling my sister's boyfriend

899
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 8: it's not his business if I don't want to be

900
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 8: a stay at home wife or mom.

901
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 5: No, no, no no, And you need different friends, You

902
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 5: need just a different family you need, you need different

903
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 5: people in your life. You need to give him a

904
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 5: Bible and just write on the runt of it, just

905
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 5: underline bye and then and then cross out bowl and

906
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 5: just write mind your own business.

907
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:41,360
Speaker 3: Yeah bye, mind your own business.

908
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:43,720
Speaker 6: Bye bye.

909
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 3: That's it.

910
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 5: Bye Comma, bye boy, yeah bye boy.

911
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 3: Bye boy. And then you have it.

912
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 6: And that's my advice to you.

913
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 3: And it's a clarify.

914
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,399
Speaker 8: I did put this in the comments, but three out

915
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 8: of her four kids aren't even his. My sister has

916
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 8: a seven four three and soon to be newborn at

917
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 8: number two. I also get asked this a lot about

918
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:07,280
Speaker 8: why I was discussing getting an IUD to my sister's boyfriend.

919
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 8: I wasn't discussing it to him. Me and my three

920
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 8: sisters were all discussing it at his house, but he

921
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 8: wasn't there. He walked in when I said I was

922
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 8: thinking of getting an IUD, and that's when he butted

923
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 8: into the conversation. And as soon as he said God's body,

924
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 8: not my body, me and my other two sisters started

925
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 8: talking to him about it, and he raised his voice,

926
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 8: so I raised mind and eventually we left. Since I

927
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 8: don't like conflict.

928
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 5: All those religious people forgot the whole point of God

929
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 5: giving us free will. Yeah, that's like his whole thing,

930
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 5: so we could exercise the free will.

931
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, check this out. Free will check the Bible, free

932
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 3: will check?

933
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 8: Whoa spun my hat all the way around? Why I

934
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:52,600
Speaker 8: don't know? I have free will?

935
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 6: Got free will?

936
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 3: Go free will?

937
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 6: What are you gonna do about it?

938
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 3: That apps, what are you gonna do about it? I

939
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:00,600
Speaker 3: got free will? Baby? All right?

940
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 8: We got some comments here. Natural Inevitable fifty says this

941
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 8: guy sounds.

942
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 3: Like a creep.

943
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 8: Who is he to dictate what you do with your life,

944
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:09,359
Speaker 8: your career, and your body. I hope your sister knows

945
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 8: about this and supports you, not.

946
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 3: The a hole. Hope, he responds.

947
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 8: My sister, who is with him, wholeheartedly supports him and

948
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 8: that I should be a stay at home mom. She

949
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 8: wants me to apologize to keep the peace, but I

950
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 8: told her I'm done keeping the peace. He also supports

951
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 8: the termination ban, which is his opinion. Me on the

952
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 8: other hand, I'm pro choice. He wants a national ban

953
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:32,400
Speaker 8: for every instance, which makes me more nervous to be

954
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 8: in a room with him. She also supports this Lee

955
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:37,959
Speaker 8: La Lalli Love says, not the a whole. His views

956
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,279
Speaker 8: on stay at home moms and traditional gender roles are

957
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 8: his own and he shouldn't be imposing them on you.

958
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 8: Actual spell forty six thirty four says he's not really

959
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 8: that traditional. He's not married to the mother of his child. Ooh,

960
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 8: good intelligence twenty eight sixty seven. People are quote traditional

961
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,359
Speaker 8: only when it's convenient to them. Not the a whole

962
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 8: was the judgment.

963
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 3: However, we got an update.

964
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 5: I don't know. Yeah, my only thought is that this

965
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 5: guy is a hypocrite and an a hole and I

966
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 5: wouldn't want to be around him either.

967
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,720
Speaker 6: Keep your keep your mouth to yourself, dude.

968
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 8: And it's like, wow, why how comes sometimes like the

969
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 8: rules don't apply to you? Yeah, I don't like, can't

970
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 8: it just be like all cool, like love that neighbor

971
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 8: and stuff?

972
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 3: Also be like, can't.

973
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 5: You listen to the first thing?

974
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, religion?

975
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:26,840
Speaker 8: Can't you just like actually follow like the cool parts

976
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 8: that are being taught instead of just being like God

977
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 8: hates you if you're not stay at home mom.

978
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 3: That's a wild take.

979
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 6: Like, I don't know, you got it.

980
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 5: Guys got to read the New Testament because Jesus was

981
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 5: doing a lot of love and in that Testament, And.

982
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 6: That's all I gotta say it like.

983
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 3: That, it was like woodstock in the New Testament. There's

984
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 3: so much love going on all everybody.

985
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 6: Oh and I saw.

986
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 8: I gotta say, did he flip those tables in that

987
00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 8: in the New test in it?

988
00:42:57,640 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 5: Oh?

989
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 3: He got mad flipping them table Yeah.

990
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 5: Because he was a freaking radical socialist. Hey, you cant

991
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:05,879
Speaker 5: be selling things in this house.

992
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 8: Yes, you don't be so anti capitalism, anti idolatry, capitalist principles.

993
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:16,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, I haven't read the Bible anyway. Update, So here

994
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 3: we go. This is the update. Woh.

995
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 8: I already knew I was going to go no contact

996
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 8: with her boyfriend, as I don't feel safe around him.

997
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 8: But I went ahead and called my sister to tell

998
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 8: her and why I chose no contact. And she is

999
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 8: now super mad at me, saying I overreacted and all

1000
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:34,359
Speaker 8: that fun stuff. So I asked her if they were

1001
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:37,280
Speaker 8: going to apologize. She said, they don't owe me an apology.

1002
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 8: I owe him an apology. He overheard us on the

1003
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 8: phone and once again got into the conversation, and I

1004
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 8: told him I have nothing to say to him. He

1005
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 8: told me he wanted to know an answer to two

1006
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 8: of his questions. Why I don't want to be a

1007
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 8: stay at o mom. I told him it's really none

1008
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 8: of his business and to stay in his lane. Why

1009
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 8: I don't want to date or marry his friend, told

1010
00:43:57,760 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 8: him that he isn't my type and never will be,

1011
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 8: and not talk to me again. I bet you he

1012
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 8: doesn't listen. Yeah, that's my money.

1013
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 3: My money's on here.

1014
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:08,839
Speaker 5: I'm gonna put money on that talking to you. Double

1015
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 5: down on that.

1016
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 8: He told me, if I don't stop overreacting, I won't

1017
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 8: have anything to do with my nephews and niece, and

1018
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 8: that I'm not gonna lie got to me, and I

1019
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 8: told him for my mental health, I'm done being around

1020
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 8: and talking to him. And my sister said, okay, you

1021
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 8: made your choice and now we'll make ours. So now

1022
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 8: I'm no contact with both of them. Also found out.

1023
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 8: My dad found out yesterday and this morning after I

1024
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 8: was on the phone with them, he went in yelled

1025
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 8: at Josh and told him to back off. Nice and

1026
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 8: that his daughter wasn't for sale or anything like that.

1027
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 3: Yeah nice ooh when they got into a fistfight.

1028
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 5: Oh and I mean wait, read the next line, and apparently.

1029
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 8: My dad won y Why literally w father w you

1030
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 8: had to put one in the W or the L column.

1031
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 3: You put Op's dad in a W.

1032
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 6: Yep, yah sucks to suck.

1033
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 5: Maybe if you were closer to God, he would have

1034
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 5: helped you win.

1035
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 8: Yeah, maybe God would have infused himself into that straight right. Yeah, yeah,

1036
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:11,439
Speaker 8: I'm not totally sure about that though about the w oh okay, well,

1037
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 8: you know what I'm sure about. I'm sure that you

1038
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 8: can listen to full episodes with stories like this. All

1039
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 8: you have to do is go to Spotify or Apple

1040
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 8: Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts from and search. Okay, storytime, Yeah,

1041
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 8: his dad nh About as easy as you gets right.

1042
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 6: There ain't nothing easier, and.

1043
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 8: You can listen to us for thousands of hours forever, forever, forever.

1044
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 6: But there is a little bit more to the story.

1045
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 8: There's a little bit more life. Let's get you go

1046
00:45:35,239 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 8: ahead and finish it. Yeah, I honestly these people contact right,

1047
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:40,839
Speaker 8: It's time to move on these You are better without

1048
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 8: these people in your lives. There any anyone who wants

1049
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 8: to just like control you and put you in a

1050
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 8: little box.

1051
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:48,240
Speaker 3: That's not good, So no bueno.

1052
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:51,399
Speaker 8: Let's continue my dad called me and apologized and asked

1053
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 8: me personally why I don't want to be a stay

1054
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:56,399
Speaker 8: at home mother. So I told him the reason, which

1055
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 8: had to do with my dad and stepmom. He apologized

1056
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 8: to me, saying that he never meant to do that tour.

1057
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 8: He was very abusive to her but never apologized for it.

1058
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 8: So interesting, father's got issues. Maybe let's rescind that and

1059
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 8: go back to neutral neutral Neutral. So I decided to

1060
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 8: cut off my sister and her boyfriend, which sucked because

1061
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:20,800
Speaker 8: I won't be able to see my niece and nephews anymore,

1062
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 8: but my mental health and physical health is more important

1063
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:23,359
Speaker 8: to me.

1064
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 3: To watch absolutely comments. Op says.

1065
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 8: There is one more thing that was said that I

1066
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 8: forgot to mention. So in my last post, there was

1067
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 8: so many people telling me to ask him when he's

1068
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:34,759
Speaker 8: going to marry my sister since they're not living in

1069
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 8: God's plan, So I asked him. His response was it's

1070
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 8: not my business to know, to which I said, and

1071
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 8: it's not his business to know anything about what I

1072
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 8: do with my body and who I date and all that.

1073
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 8: He got angry with me and proceeded to cuss me out.

1074
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:55,279
Speaker 5: Oh but I don't understand because you're a woman. You're

1075
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 5: a woman, so anything that he does is okay because

1076
00:46:59,160 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 5: he's a man.

1077
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 8: Yeah, that's the missing ingredient. See missing ingredient. Yeah, not

1078
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 8: a man, not a man, missing ingredient. He got angry

1079
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 8: with me and proceeded to cuss me out. I honestly

1080
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 8: just laughed. New Fishing twenty five ninety six. So it's

1081
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 8: his business to know about yours Quiet Moon twenty one

1082
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 8: ninety one. It's like he's trying to groom her to

1083
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 8: be his sister wife or a communal wife with his friend. Yeah,

1084
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:22,600
Speaker 8: creepy healthy brain fifty three fifty four. He probably promised

1085
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 8: his mate that he could have the sister. Okay, Yeah,

1086
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 8: that's gross and that's the end of that story.

1087
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 6: Well, what a fun thing to end on.

1088
00:47:32,960 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 5: I brought up wedding drama from years ago, and my

1089
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 5: sister lost it.

1090
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 3: Where is it? I don't know where?

1091
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 6: Where does the drama go?

1092
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 3: Oh? Sorry, I was that's your sister.

1093
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 5: I female thirty seven married my amazing husband male forty two,

1094
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 5: seven years ago. We dated for six and a half

1095
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,799
Speaker 5: years before we got engaged, and I was thirty when

1096
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 5: we got married. Hobby was thirty five. I mentioned this

1097
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:56,799
Speaker 5: because I'm from a small town in Indiana less than

1098
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 5: eight thousand population, and it is normal for people to

1099
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 5: get married young twenty one or twenty two. By the way,

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Speaker 5: this comes from frog Jump seventy four and if you

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Speaker 5: storytime Separate it.

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Speaker 8: So.

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Speaker 5: I am one of seven kids, five girls, two boys,

1105
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 5: and was the sixth in my family to get married.

1106
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:15,720
Speaker 5: I was also the oldest out of all the girls

1107
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 5: when I married. My sisters had all married by twenty

1108
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 5: four years old, way away. When my husband proposed, I

1109
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 5: was so filled with joy and love and I didn't

1110
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:25,400
Speaker 5: want to drag things out to plan a wedding. I

1111
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 5: knew that he was my forever and just wanted to

1112
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 5: be married to him. We got engaged in January and

1113
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 5: married in July, which is not that's not, honestly like

1114
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:33,919
Speaker 5: two too quick.

1115
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 3: I know some people take like a year to plan,

1116
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:38,240
Speaker 3: but I feel like seven months is plenty. Yeah.

1117
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 5: Our options for venues were limited because there aren't many

1118
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,400
Speaker 5: in the area, so many people book one to two

1119
00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 5: years in advance. In the end, we decided to get

1120
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 5: married on my family's farm. We were happy about this

1121
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 5: because it would help cut costs. We paid for ninety

1122
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:53,799
Speaker 5: percent of our wedding with a bit of help from

1123
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 5: our parents, and it would help us keep the guestless

1124
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 5: small because the barn could only hold one hundred people.

1125
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,400
Speaker 5: It is a tradition in my family that all of

1126
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 5: the women pitch in mom aunts, grandma's and sisters to

1127
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 5: help plan the event and diy what we can to

1128
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 5: help cut costs. This is where the first issue came up.

1129
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:14,240
Speaker 5: My parents and fiance's parents made a list of people

1130
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 5: to invite, keeping in mind that we were keeping it

1131
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 5: a small affair. They invited those close to them, but

1132
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 5: kept their lists small to respect our wishes for a

1133
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:24,200
Speaker 5: small event. Also, with the guest limit, we decided not

1134
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 5: to have children attend the reception. We made this decision

1135
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,960
Speaker 5: because A, I have fourteen nieces and nephews just from

1136
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:34,280
Speaker 5: my siblings, my husband has ten, and B we wanted

1137
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 5: to have a full bar and didn't feel comfortable doing

1138
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 5: that with so many kids around. Two of my sisters

1139
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 5: were very upset by this because they wanted their children

1140
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,319
Speaker 5: to be included in the special day. Funny enough, they

1141
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 5: both didn't include children in their weddings slash receptions. We

1142
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 5: included the kids by having them at the rehearsal dinner

1143
00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 5: and telling the parents that they could attend the wedding

1144
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 5: ceremony but not the reception. I thought that this was

1145
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 5: fair because all of my siblings live on the same

1146
00:49:57,800 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 5: street as my parents, so they didn't have to go

1147
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:01,919
Speaker 5: far to drop off the kids with a sitter after

1148
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 5: the ceremony. We also offered to pay for a few

1149
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 5: babysitters for the kids, as well as order pizza, snacks,

1150
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 5: and movies for them.

1151
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 6: It seems like they got it all sorted out.

1152
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 3: It seems like it.

1153
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 6: I'm just like they got it all sorted out.

1154
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 3: I anticipating that shoe to drop.

1155
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 5: The second issue was that although my mom, aunts and

1156
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 5: grandma were a great help with the planning, my sisters

1157
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 5: told them that they all had lunch and decided that

1158
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 5: they weren't going to help with the planning or DIY

1159
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:28,759
Speaker 5: part because as I was in my thirties, I was

1160
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 5: an old maid. Girl was like exactly thirty.

1161
00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:35,920
Speaker 3: What are we dugging about?

1162
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:38,800
Speaker 6: Hikes? And also just like insane.

1163
00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 5: However old she was, she could be sixty and that's

1164
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 5: still not cool.

1165
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:45,240
Speaker 3: You called all of us old maids this morning.

1166
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 5: Now that I did not say old maids, I said

1167
00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:51,640
Speaker 5: old because everyone was gaslighting me because I heard on noise.

1168
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 8: I heard you say old maids.

1169
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 5: That's crazy, and that most of the things that we

1170
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 5: did for their weddings wouldn't be appropriate for someone who's

1171
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 5: getting married later in life. I have great friends, and

1172
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,360
Speaker 5: after I got over the initial hurt, I had a

1173
00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 5: great time with the planning, surrounded by great women who

1174
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 5: supported me. Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner. I knew

1175
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 5: going into that day that my sisters weren't on the

1176
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:15,879
Speaker 5: best of terms with each other. I wasn't one hundred

1177
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 5: percent sure what happened, as none of them wanted to

1178
00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 5: talk about it, and I had spent the past months

1179
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 5: busy with wedding planning. My sisters were all bridesmaids. Knowing

1180
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 5: that they weren't on great terms with each other, I

1181
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:28,239
Speaker 5: spoke with each of them separately and told them to

1182
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 5: be on their best behavior for the weekend, and they

1183
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 5: all agreed that they would. We get through the rehearsal

1184
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 5: and move over to the area for dinner. We had

1185
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 5: some games and a drink station to keep people occupied

1186
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 5: before dinner. We also had a photographer there that day

1187
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 5: because I wanted photos of Hobby and I with the

1188
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 5: nieces and nephews. Things started out great, and we were

1189
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 5: having a lovely time hanging out with the kids and

1190
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 5: taking photos. The photographer asked all of my siblings and

1191
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:54,359
Speaker 5: their spouses and children to gather so that we could

1192
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 5: take a group photo. I was helping to gather everyone,

1193
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:59,720
Speaker 5: and I commented to my now husband about how blessed

1194
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 5: ill to have all of my family there and that

1195
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 5: I was having a great day. I turned back to

1196
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 5: the group just in time to see two of my

1197
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 5: older sisters arguing and see the older one slap the

1198
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 5: other one in the face.

1199
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 3: Oohoo, there's that other shoe I was talking about.

1200
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 5: I'm gonna assume this is two of my other sisters

1201
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:23,759
Speaker 5: arguing because if he said that she was the oldest sister.

1202
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's not her, right. Wait what this says?

1203
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 5: Two of my older sisters arguing? But I'm assuming that

1204
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 5: I meant to say other sister. I just froze. After

1205
00:52:34,600 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 5: a few seconds, I just turned around and walked away.

1206
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 5: I ended up standing behind a barn where I knew

1207
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:41,760
Speaker 5: I would have a few minutes alone to calm down.

1208
00:52:41,840 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 3: Why you start?

1209
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:44,160
Speaker 5: Why these sisterstt in drama?

1210
00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:46,839
Speaker 3: Just somebody you know son in drama. It's like they

1211
00:52:46,840 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 3: were raised in a barn.

1212
00:52:48,840 --> 00:52:50,840
Speaker 9: Ooh.

1213
00:52:50,880 --> 00:52:53,279
Speaker 5: At some point I heard someone calling my name, so

1214
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 5: I walked around the corner to see my dad and grandma.

1215
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:58,040
Speaker 5: They could tell that I had been crying and asked

1216
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 5: what happened. I told them about what shall be known

1217
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 5: as the slapping, and they said that they'd handle it.

1218
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:07,240
Speaker 3: The slapping, the slapping directed by M Night. Shall slap

1219
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:07,560
Speaker 3: it on.

1220
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, the steepest, the steepest m M steepest M

1221
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:14,760
Speaker 8: Night's step.

1222
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 3: The salons.

1223
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 5: Yes, I was probably given a glass of wine and

1224
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 5: told the chill for another few minutes before pictures would resume.

1225
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 5: When I walked back to the group of photos, I

1226
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:26,239
Speaker 5: noticed that my oldest sister wasn't there and that her

1227
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 5: husband and children were all gone. We took photos with

1228
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,360
Speaker 5: the rest of the group, enjoyed a delicious meal and

1229
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:34,399
Speaker 5: had a few cocktails before heading home for the night

1230
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 5: to prep for the wedding the next day. Fast forward

1231
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 5: to now. Remember I said that I was the sixth

1232
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 5: kid of seven to get married. Well, the last remaining

1233
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 5: unmarried child in my family just got engaged two weeks ago,

1234
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 5: and it is my twin brother, Mail thirty seven.

1235
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 6: We'll call him James.

1236
00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 3: Oh, good for James. Hey, good for you, James, good fun, James,

1237
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 3: good time, the James.

1238
00:53:56,320 --> 00:53:59,760
Speaker 5: I'm so excited for him and his absolutely wonderful fiance.

1239
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:02,040
Speaker 5: He was a great person and I'm so happy that

1240
00:54:02,080 --> 00:54:04,840
Speaker 5: he held out until he found the right partner in Jessica,

1241
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 5: female thirty five. I was so excited when they called

1242
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 5: to tell us the good news, as he had kept

1243
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 5: it a secret from all of us. Jessica's mother passed

1244
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 5: away five years ago, and she called my mother to

1245
00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 5: ask for some help with the planning. They got engaged

1246
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:19,800
Speaker 5: just before Christmas and our planning on getting married this June.

1247
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 5: My mom was so excited to be asked, and she

1248
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 5: planned a brunch for all of the girls in her

1249
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,400
Speaker 5: family and also invited Jessica's grandma and aunts so that

1250
00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 5: we could all meet and discuss the wedding. While at

1251
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 5: the brunch, Jessica got the same speech from my sisters

1252
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 5: that I did. Since she's older, they don't want to help.

1253
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 5: She pulled me aside and asked me if i'd be

1254
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 5: willing to help out, and I let her know that

1255
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 5: I'm happy to do whatever I can to make her

1256
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 5: day special. We set a time to gather at my

1257
00:54:43,840 --> 00:54:46,719
Speaker 5: mom's house the next week to start planning. The day

1258
00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 5: before we were supposed to meet up, Jessica called me

1259
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 5: and asked me if I could bring some photos from

1260
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 5: my wedding because my brother had mentioned to her that

1261
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 5: it was one of his favorite weddings that he had

1262
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:57,480
Speaker 5: attended and he had a lot of fun. We met

1263
00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,399
Speaker 5: a bit early at my mom's house and I had

1264
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 5: brought a flow drive with our photos, so we got

1265
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 5: some coffee and started looking through them. While we were

1266
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 5: looking through the photos, my oldest sister showed up, and

1267
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:09,640
Speaker 5: we didn't realize that she was there. When we got

1268
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:12,320
Speaker 5: to the rehearsal dinner photos just asked why my oldest

1269
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,880
Speaker 5: sister and her family worked in the family photos. I

1270
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:17,279
Speaker 5: avoided the question at first, but she asked again, so

1271
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 5: I explained to her what happened at our rehearsal dinner.

1272
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 5: But I'm going to explain to you that you guys

1273
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:25,719
Speaker 5: can listen to more episodes and stories like this if

1274
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:29,440
Speaker 5: you go on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast

1275
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:31,799
Speaker 5: app and search up. Okay, story time, and there is

1276
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 5: a little bit left to this tale where Opie's gonna

1277
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:39,680
Speaker 5: kind of we're to find out what happened, indeed, what

1278
00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:40,920
Speaker 5: preempted the slap.

1279
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:46,600
Speaker 3: I would just like to have one comment, yeah overall,

1280
00:55:46,640 --> 00:55:49,240
Speaker 3: which is that it doesn't matter when you get married.

1281
00:55:49,800 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter if you're the last one. Doesn't matter

1282
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 3: if you're the first one.

1283
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:54,760
Speaker 6: Or if you're in the middle.

1284
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 3: Truly, it doesn't matter if you get married at all.

1285
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:02,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, if you want someone to love and you find

1286
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 5: that person love, you love them, and that's all that matters.

1287
00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:09,879
Speaker 8: Hey, I'm gonna let that one just hang out there

1288
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:13,319
Speaker 8: because I was just hang out there. That was Put

1289
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 8: a bow on that one, wrap it up, put it

1290
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:17,680
Speaker 8: underneath the Christmas tree.

1291
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 3: That was a gift.

1292
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 5: You're welcome, But there's a little bit left. She thanked

1293
00:56:22,200 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 5: me and told me that she felt obligated to include

1294
00:56:24,520 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 5: myself and all of my sisters and her bridal party,

1295
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:30,359
Speaker 5: but was hesitant because my sisters have never treated her well.

1296
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 5: My sister overheard this and lost it. She said that

1297
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:34,680
Speaker 5: I was just bringing this up to make her look

1298
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 5: bad when everyone knows that she's the nice sister.

1299
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 3: The sister, and the slap off.

1300
00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 6: You can't.

1301
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:44,439
Speaker 5: You can't just like dub yourself the nice sister. Well,

1302
00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 5: that's kind of like a title that other people have

1303
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:46,400
Speaker 5: to give you.

1304
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:47,720
Speaker 3: She didn't dub herself.

1305
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 6: She's like everyone.

1306
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 8: Everyone knows that exactly. That's what she said. She everyone

1307
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:54,399
Speaker 8: else dubbed her the nice.

1308
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 5: It's not my fault that everyone told me that I'm

1309
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:56,280
Speaker 5: the nice sister.

1310
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:58,320
Speaker 3: You're sounding like the other sister.

1311
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:01,880
Speaker 5: She has complain to our whole extended family that I

1312
00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 5: have been telling lies about her to the bride so

1313
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 5: that I can be the star of the wedding, and

1314
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:08,120
Speaker 5: said that I have always been jealous of her because

1315
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 5: my wedding wasn't nearly as beautiful as any of her

1316
00:57:10,719 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 5: five weddings.

1317
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 3: Five did five weddings did five?

1318
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:18,000
Speaker 5: So am I the asual for telling the bride what

1319
00:57:18,160 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 5: really happened?

1320
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:20,439
Speaker 3: And edit.

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Speaker 5: My oldest sister has been married five times. Three of

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Speaker 5: the weddings were large events. They happened in her twenties.

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Speaker 5: The last who have been small events with just immediate

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Speaker 5: family when she was thirty two and forty. So I

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Speaker 5: guess it doesn't matter as long as you the first

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Speaker 5: time you get married, it's when you're twenty.

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Speaker 8: Right, the other think the other ones don't count. I

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Speaker 8: got the first one in our right, I got the

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Speaker 8: first one. Yeah, it's like a combo. It's like it's

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Speaker 8: it's twenty and then you multiply by the next one.

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Speaker 3: That's how many points that you get as a bride.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, so with five weddings, she has so many bridal

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Speaker 8: points that it's undisputed that she.

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Speaker 3: Is the nicest sister.

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Speaker 8: You can't beat her because how could someone have that

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Speaker 8: many bridal points if they weren't nice?

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Speaker 6: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 8: And I don't know what system I just invented, but

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Speaker 8: I feel bad for whoever wants to try to.

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Speaker 5: They're gonna keep the system going on everywhere. But that

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Speaker 5: is the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: My parents demand financial support for their.

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Speaker 8: Vehicle, and they guilt tripped me when I refused.

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Speaker 5: Why don't you guilt trip them right back?

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Speaker 8: First of all, I'm sorry for the mess. I'm very

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Speaker 8: emotional right now. Well it's okay, I'm twenty eight female

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Speaker 8: immigrated to Canada at eleven with my parents back home.

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Speaker 8: My parents were very comfortable and once they moved to Canada,

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Speaker 8: we were middle class. And I'll admit, while I wasn't spoiled,

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Speaker 8: I never missed anything growing up.

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Speaker 8: subrendit who So I'll spare the details, but my relationship

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Speaker 8: with my parents wasn't the best growing up.

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Speaker 3: While they never hit me, they were emotionally abusive.

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Speaker 8: My mom was mean and my dad was emotionally unavailable

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Speaker 8: and always wrapped up in his own world. I was

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Speaker 8: very ambitious from a young age. When I turned sixteen,

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Speaker 8: I got myself not only one, but two jobs h

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Speaker 8: h H, working eighty hours during the summers until I

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Speaker 8: turned twenty and moved out for college. I was financially

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Speaker 8: illiterate and irresponsible, so honestly, I spent all my money,

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Speaker 8: but I paid for everything myself except I lived there

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Speaker 8: for free. I had free food and free public school

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Speaker 8: education and free medical expenses.

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Speaker 3: At twenty two, I got admitted into law school.

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Speaker 8: My parents never directly said to me that they were

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Speaker 8: proud but never missed an opportunity to brag. When I

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Speaker 8: asked them for a laptop for college, my dad sat

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Speaker 8: me down and registered me for a student loan and

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Speaker 8: told me.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to the real world. You're now on your own kid.

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Speaker 8: When my sister got into college this year, he bought

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Speaker 8: her a laptop. Whenever I mentioned needing money during college,

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Speaker 8: he told me to use the student loan money. During

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Speaker 8: the first two years of college, my mom gave me

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Speaker 8: a monthly allowance of four hundred dollars, so I was

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Speaker 8: grateful for that. Later, I discovered that she took my

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Speaker 8: tax credit for the tuition I took a loan out for.

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Speaker 8: When I confronted them, they told me I was selfish

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Speaker 8: and ungrateful. I missed over seven thousand dollars worth of

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Speaker 8: tax return, so they pretty much paid what she gave me.

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Speaker 8: I told them that I was going to do my

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Speaker 8: taxes alone the year after, so she cut me off.

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Speaker 8: Fast forward three years later, I graduated from law school

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Speaker 8: and also did a master's degree, but I was in

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Speaker 8: one hundred and forty thousand dollars in student loan debt.

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Speaker 8: I'll admit college tuition is not that expensive in Canada,

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Speaker 8: And part of it was because I was irresponsible with money.

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Speaker 3: What do you mean? Wait a minute, what do you

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01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 3: mean what does that mean?

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Speaker 8: That's not you can't just be like I had one

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Speaker 8: hundred and forty thousand dollars in student loan debt, but

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Speaker 8: actually it was I bought a car for one hundred

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Speaker 8: thousand dollars, So really, yeah, what is that?

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Speaker 5: Because as Honeybee says, do they have free medical help

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Speaker 5: and school in Canada? I'm well, I'm assuming that, Oh,

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Speaker 5: he's probably paying for some sort of private healthcare.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they do have private Yeah they have Yeah.

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Speaker 5: You have the option there, and then maybe they're going

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Speaker 5: if they're going to like law school, probably more expensive.

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Speaker 3: I just love it.

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Speaker 5: Also, yeah, kind of crazy that the.

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Speaker 3: Ambiguousness of that comment.

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Speaker 8: I mean, most of it was because I was financially irresponsible.

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Speaker 8: It's like, you don't just randomly rack up one hundred

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Speaker 8: and forty thousand dollars of debt.

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Speaker 3: Gotta be real bad.

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Speaker 5: But it's just like it's like using their card. They're like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 5: just put it in my credit card.

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Speaker 3: I like how they're like, I'm not spoiled.

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Speaker 8: But also I can kind of accidentally rack up six

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Speaker 8: figures of debt.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's kind that you're spoiled as flippity doo do. True.

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Speaker 8: So I got my first job at a good law firm,

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Speaker 8: and my salary was one hundred and thirty thousand dollars

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Speaker 8: a year. I was stupid and told my parents how

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Speaker 8: much I made, so for them, I was rich and

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Speaker 8: it was the time to collect their return on their investment.

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Speaker 8: Little did they know I have seventeen hundred dollars a

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Speaker 8: month in student loan repayment. I live on my own

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Speaker 8: and expenses do rack up. I also had some mental

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Speaker 8: health issues, so I had to take three months off

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Speaker 8: of work. I don't blame my parents for my financial mistakes,

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Speaker 8: but I racked up ten thousand in credit card debt

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Speaker 8: on top of my student loans. I was trying to

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Speaker 8: live like my friends who made the same salary, but

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Speaker 8: they didn't have loans, and.

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Speaker 3: That was a mistake.

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Speaker 8: So I decided to be very strict on my budget

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Speaker 8: to pay off the debts as soon as possible. Since

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Speaker 8: I have little self control, I don't keep much in savings.

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Speaker 3: I just pay off as much as I can.

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Speaker 8: My parents always make comments on how frugal I became,

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Speaker 8: and how I never spend money on them. So on

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Speaker 8: two different occasions, we went to the restaurant with my

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Speaker 8: brother and sister. Then they gave the whole bill to me.

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Speaker 8: The first time I paid it and the second time

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Speaker 8: I refused. I visit them less and less now, but

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Speaker 8: every time they make comments on how rich I am

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Speaker 8: and how I never spend money on them, which is

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Speaker 8: that is weird?

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Speaker 3: It is weird.

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Speaker 6: Why are they asking you?

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Speaker 5: I don't understand, because again I thought they were rich.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like they lost all their money.

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Speaker 8: I think they when they moved to Canada, they weren't

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Speaker 8: making as much as they made that.

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Speaker 5: Must previously, yeah, but like to the point where they

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Speaker 5: have to beg ope for money.

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't know it just I don't know. So

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Speaker 3: we're gonna keep going.

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Speaker 8: They would always make comments on how rich I am

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Speaker 8: and how I never spend money on them. Keep in mind,

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Speaker 8: I got my mom a phone. I gave my dad

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Speaker 8: three hundred bucks on his birthday.

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Speaker 3: Same for my mom.

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Speaker 8: And years ago, when I was still in college, I

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01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:15,439
Speaker 8: was parking my aunt's car and I bumped his car.

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Speaker 3: I swear it was just a.

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Speaker 8: Tiny little bump on the door. So he asked me

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Speaker 8: to give him a thousand dollars for the repair. I

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Speaker 8: told him I was broke, so he had told me

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Speaker 8: that I'll have to pay for it when I graduate.

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Speaker 8: Low key, this sounds like you're being financially like abused

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Speaker 8: or manipulots.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he probably like, I don't know, put the car there.

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Speaker 5: He like, drove the car behind you, and he's like,

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Speaker 5: you ran into my car one thousand dollars for a

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Speaker 5: little day's trick or exploitive. Yeah, for real, you could

1475
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:40,960
Speaker 5: buff that out.

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01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:44,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, honestly, they sell tools for like five dollars that

1477
01:03:44,360 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 8: you could probably pull that dent right out of the medal.

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Speaker 8: This week, they decided to buy an Audi and needed

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Speaker 8: to sell their old car, so my dad asked me

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Speaker 8: to give him the thousand dollars. He never repaired it

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01:03:54,800 --> 01:03:56,800
Speaker 8: and he wasn't planning, but he told me that he

1482
01:03:56,800 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 8: would have to lower the price one thousand dollars when

1483
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:04,680
Speaker 8: negotiating because he's selling it on Facebook market. Therefore, I'll

1484
01:04:04,720 --> 01:04:06,880
Speaker 8: have to give him the money since I use all

1485
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:08,880
Speaker 8: my money to pay back as much debt as possible.

1486
01:04:08,880 --> 01:04:11,880
Speaker 8: The holidays were pricey, so I literally have only five

1487
01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:14,680
Speaker 8: hundred dollars in my account, so I tried to explain

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01:04:14,760 --> 01:04:16,959
Speaker 8: to them for the first time that I'm actually broke

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Speaker 8: and can't pay for it.

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Speaker 3: They were mad at me.

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01:04:18,880 --> 01:04:20,800
Speaker 8: And told me again that a lot of people my

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01:04:20,880 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 8: age were financially supporting their parents.

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01:04:26,320 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 6: I can tell you that ain't true.

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01:04:27,640 --> 01:04:28,600
Speaker 3: Chat. Is that a lie?

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01:04:28,760 --> 01:04:29,680
Speaker 5: Chat? Chat?

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01:04:29,920 --> 01:04:30,479
Speaker 6: That ain't true?

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01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 3: Chat? Are we being lied to?

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01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:33,600
Speaker 1: Oh?

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01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,240
Speaker 3: He continues, This is when I lost it.

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Speaker 8: I started crying and told them that most of my

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01:04:38,600 --> 01:04:41,120
Speaker 8: friends didn't have to pay a penny for their education,

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01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 8: and all they asked for is for them to not

1503
01:04:43,240 --> 01:04:46,160
Speaker 8: guilt trip me for not financially supporting them. They told

1504
01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:48,480
Speaker 8: me that my friend's parents were rich, and once again,

1505
01:04:48,600 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 8: I'm an ungrateful brat.

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01:04:49,800 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 3: They are far from broke.

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01:04:51,200 --> 01:04:53,160
Speaker 8: They just bought a bigger house in Canada, have two

1508
01:04:53,200 --> 01:04:55,919
Speaker 8: apartments and a big home back home.

1509
01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:57,640
Speaker 3: I broke down. I took a long.

1510
01:04:57,560 --> 01:04:59,680
Speaker 8: Walk, and when I came back, I tried to explain

1511
01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 8: to them calmly that their love felt conditional, since they

1512
01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:04,560
Speaker 8: made me feel like I had to pay them back

1513
01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:07,240
Speaker 8: for existing. So my dad told me that the thousand

1514
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Speaker 8: dollars was just for the principle, you made a mistake,

1515
01:05:09,840 --> 01:05:11,600
Speaker 8: you have to pay for it. And the other comments

1516
01:05:11,600 --> 01:05:13,400
Speaker 8: about supporting them were just jokes.

1517
01:05:14,240 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 6: Now they're trying to run it back.

1518
01:05:15,960 --> 01:05:18,560
Speaker 3: They're trying to run it back the good old fashioned No.

1519
01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:22,160
Speaker 6: No, you know, I was just joke us. It's all jokes.

1520
01:05:22,440 --> 01:05:24,520
Speaker 5: If you had paid us, we would have taken it.

1521
01:05:24,560 --> 01:05:25,480
Speaker 6: But it's all jokes.

1522
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:28,560
Speaker 8: Also, you know it's a joke. One thousand dollars based

1523
01:05:28,600 --> 01:05:30,960
Speaker 8: just on principle. Yeah, that's a one hundred bucks, right,

1524
01:05:30,960 --> 01:05:34,000
Speaker 8: that's a principle. Maybe two hundred, maybe.

1525
01:05:33,720 --> 01:05:37,680
Speaker 5: Two makes it. That's that's if we're not capped out

1526
01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:39,120
Speaker 5: it two THI big den.

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Speaker 8: Hey, Yeah, he reminded me that he bought me glasses

1528
01:05:43,560 --> 01:05:45,919
Speaker 8: the until high school. I told him it's the bare

1529
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:50,240
Speaker 8: minimum since I can't actually see without them. He's like,

1530
01:05:50,320 --> 01:05:52,800
Speaker 8: he really said, Yeah, I remember all the times I

1531
01:05:52,840 --> 01:05:53,680
Speaker 8: didn't neglect you.

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01:05:54,080 --> 01:05:56,520
Speaker 5: It's like, remember all the times when I helped you

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01:05:56,560 --> 01:05:57,800
Speaker 5: with your disability?

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Speaker 8: Mm hm no, Well, remember daughter, who I didn't consult

1535
01:06:06,000 --> 01:06:08,800
Speaker 8: with on if they wanted to exist or not. Remember

1536
01:06:08,840 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 8: when I single handedly prevented.

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Speaker 3: You from being blind?

1538
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:11,880
Speaker 7: Mmm.

1539
01:06:12,440 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 3: You're welcome purely out of the goodness of my heart.

1540
01:06:15,320 --> 01:06:19,560
Speaker 5: And also you should pay me now goodness of my heart,

1541
01:06:19,640 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 5: and also the promise of money in the future.

1542
01:06:22,000 --> 01:06:23,280
Speaker 8: Honestly, this is what I would do if I was

1543
01:06:23,280 --> 01:06:25,400
Speaker 8: opeaged really quick before you go back to the story, yeah,

1544
01:06:25,520 --> 01:06:28,920
Speaker 8: I would immediately stop caring about these people, right, they

1545
01:06:28,960 --> 01:06:31,400
Speaker 8: are literally just trying to suck money out of you

1546
01:06:32,240 --> 01:06:34,560
Speaker 8: and make your own itemized list.

1547
01:06:34,440 --> 01:06:35,800
Speaker 3: Of everything that you owe them.

1548
01:06:36,160 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 8: Right and once you give them that money, just be like, now,

1549
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:42,840
Speaker 8: never ask me for a single thing ever again.

1550
01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:46,600
Speaker 3: We're even, and then cut them off and be done.

1551
01:06:46,960 --> 01:06:49,160
Speaker 5: Or don't give them money and then just cut them off.

1552
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:50,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean either one, you know.

1553
01:06:51,440 --> 01:06:53,960
Speaker 8: He also said that he paid for my phone during

1554
01:06:54,040 --> 01:06:56,320
Speaker 8: high school and that I will get a big inheritance

1555
01:06:56,360 --> 01:06:58,440
Speaker 8: from the real estate they have. He then added, may

1556
01:06:58,480 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 8: God never make us dependent on you, blamed me for

1557
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:03,720
Speaker 8: making a scene for one thousand dollars, reminded me that

1558
01:07:03,760 --> 01:07:06,120
Speaker 8: he sacrificed his career for us when he moved to Canada,

1559
01:07:06,160 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 8: and told me that I will regret my behavior and

1560
01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 8: the way I was treating them. See how bitter they get,

1561
01:07:10,960 --> 01:07:13,480
Speaker 8: how spicy sugar doesn't.

1562
01:07:13,240 --> 01:07:14,800
Speaker 3: Work, how spicy they get.

1563
01:07:15,600 --> 01:07:19,200
Speaker 8: M M edit, thank you so much for everyone for

1564
01:07:19,280 --> 01:07:21,880
Speaker 8: your kind words, I just wanted to clarify I don't

1565
01:07:21,920 --> 01:07:24,600
Speaker 8: actually financially support them, and I don't think they're living

1566
01:07:24,600 --> 01:07:27,080
Speaker 8: beyond their means. However, I think they were expecting to

1567
01:07:27,120 --> 01:07:30,400
Speaker 8: get spoiled once me and my siblings graduated in exchange

1568
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:33,480
Speaker 8: for their sacrifices, and now they are salty and disappointed.

1569
01:07:33,520 --> 01:07:35,919
Speaker 3: If I could afford it, I would, but in this

1570
01:07:36,080 --> 01:07:39,120
Speaker 3: economy a faint no way. Op.

1571
01:07:39,160 --> 01:07:46,960
Speaker 5: He's got jokes, and also I said, oh he's got debt.

1572
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:49,680
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, she's got jokes and debts jokes, debt jokes.

1573
01:07:50,520 --> 01:07:53,120
Speaker 8: Also in college, my mom randomly called me once and

1574
01:07:53,240 --> 01:07:55,760
Speaker 8: was complaining on how she was tired of working. She said,

1575
01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:57,479
Speaker 8: if you and your brother give me a thousand dollars

1576
01:07:57,480 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 8: a month when you graduate, I could retire. You should

1577
01:07:59,920 --> 01:08:02,120
Speaker 8: just start calling everyone in the Yellow Book and making

1578
01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:02,760
Speaker 8: that same.

1579
01:08:02,560 --> 01:08:04,480
Speaker 5: Day, She's just like, if you all give me a

1580
01:08:04,720 --> 01:08:09,560
Speaker 5: if you all give me ten dollars, if a thousand

1581
01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:11,600
Speaker 5: people give me ten dollars, just start.

1582
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:14,240
Speaker 3: A group chat with a bunch of strangers, say can I.

1583
01:08:14,200 --> 01:08:14,880
Speaker 6: Have the bucks?

1584
01:08:14,920 --> 01:08:18,160
Speaker 3: Thank you, and then you just keep going down the line.

1585
01:08:18,240 --> 01:08:21,080
Speaker 8: I told her politely that it's not fair to start

1586
01:08:21,120 --> 01:08:23,439
Speaker 8: my professional life with such a burden. Since she's in

1587
01:08:23,520 --> 01:08:26,320
Speaker 8: her early fifties and able bodied. She got mad and

1588
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:28,040
Speaker 8: gave me the silent treatment for weeks.

1589
01:08:28,120 --> 01:08:30,760
Speaker 3: And by the way, you don't have to endure the silent.

1590
01:08:30,400 --> 01:08:33,080
Speaker 8: Treatment because you can listen to full episodes with stories

1591
01:08:33,120 --> 01:08:35,240
Speaker 8: like this whenever you want, and you can hear.

1592
01:08:35,200 --> 01:08:36,840
Speaker 3: Us go blah blah blah blah blah blah.

1593
01:08:37,000 --> 01:08:39,520
Speaker 8: All you have to do wrong is go through Spotify

1594
01:08:39,720 --> 01:08:45,360
Speaker 8: or Apple Podcasts or any place where you consume podcasts

1595
01:08:46,160 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 8: in search.

1596
01:08:46,520 --> 01:08:48,960
Speaker 3: Okay, storytime, do it? You won't.

1597
01:08:49,000 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 8: Oh did you hear that? You're lay down the gauntlet.

1598
01:08:53,080 --> 01:08:55,200
Speaker 8: She just said what she say.

1599
01:08:55,000 --> 01:08:55,400
Speaker 6: Do it?

1600
01:08:55,920 --> 01:08:56,400
Speaker 5: You won't.

1601
01:08:57,960 --> 01:09:03,000
Speaker 3: Oh my god, are you gonna take that? Couldn't be me.

1602
01:09:03,520 --> 01:09:05,280
Speaker 3: But hey, look you've got a little bit of story.

1603
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:09,200
Speaker 3: Leb uh. Let's just go ahead and run right into it.

1604
01:09:09,400 --> 01:09:11,719
Speaker 5: I'm run right into it, full steam ahead, like.

1605
01:09:11,640 --> 01:09:14,400
Speaker 3: A brick could choot choo. We will run.

1606
01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:17,680
Speaker 8: Finally, my mom was complaining to my sister that she

1607
01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 8: had to give a gift to her friend because her

1608
01:09:19,960 --> 01:09:22,280
Speaker 8: friend gave a gift to my sister on her birthday,

1609
01:09:22,320 --> 01:09:24,599
Speaker 8: and how much she had to repay for the gift

1610
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:26,719
Speaker 8: we received during our lives.

1611
01:09:26,920 --> 01:09:27,880
Speaker 3: What is going on here?

1612
01:09:28,520 --> 01:09:29,479
Speaker 5: He's bad parents?

1613
01:09:30,000 --> 01:09:30,720
Speaker 6: Hey? Yi?

1614
01:09:31,320 --> 01:09:31,679
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1615
01:09:31,840 --> 01:09:34,599
Speaker 8: I told her we didn't choose to be born, and

1616
01:09:34,640 --> 01:09:37,040
Speaker 8: she told me I didn't decide to have children, it

1617
01:09:37,080 --> 01:09:38,280
Speaker 8: was God's decision.

1618
01:09:38,360 --> 01:09:39,360
Speaker 3: Besides, I could.

1619
01:09:39,120 --> 01:09:40,920
Speaker 8: Have kicked you out at eighteen and asked you to

1620
01:09:40,920 --> 01:09:42,920
Speaker 8: pay for groceries when you got your first job, like

1621
01:09:43,080 --> 01:09:46,479
Speaker 8: white people. I explained to her that maybe one percent

1622
01:09:46,520 --> 01:09:49,360
Speaker 8: of white people did that comments. I mean, honestly, I

1623
01:09:49,360 --> 01:09:51,120
Speaker 8: don't even think that's a race thing. It's just it

1624
01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:54,240
Speaker 8: depends on well you need to like do you need

1625
01:09:54,360 --> 01:09:57,559
Speaker 8: all of the money, Like where's your income at exactly?

1626
01:09:57,840 --> 01:10:00,559
Speaker 5: Like I also, I'm wondering possibly if this is like

1627
01:10:00,600 --> 01:10:04,080
Speaker 5: the comments about, oh, like kids your age age are

1628
01:10:04,160 --> 01:10:06,519
Speaker 5: caring for their parents, if that's like potentially like probably

1629
01:10:06,560 --> 01:10:09,360
Speaker 5: cultural maybe yeah, potentially.

1630
01:10:10,200 --> 01:10:12,280
Speaker 8: I feel like it's almost a cultural thing that like

1631
01:10:12,600 --> 01:10:15,000
Speaker 8: white people completely abandon their parents.

1632
01:10:15,720 --> 01:10:18,040
Speaker 5: It's you know, I mean, I mean when the parents

1633
01:10:18,040 --> 01:10:20,880
Speaker 5: were saying, oh, you need to take care, like children

1634
01:10:20,960 --> 01:10:23,160
Speaker 5: your age are taking care of their parents earlier in

1635
01:10:23,200 --> 01:10:24,639
Speaker 5: the story, it's.

1636
01:10:24,479 --> 01:10:27,200
Speaker 8: Weird because culturally, I wonder where they came from before

1637
01:10:27,240 --> 01:10:29,479
Speaker 8: they came to Canada. Because like pretty much everywhere else

1638
01:10:29,520 --> 01:10:34,799
Speaker 8: on earth besides like America and like Western society or culture,

1639
01:10:34,840 --> 01:10:37,240
Speaker 8: whatever you want to call it, it's very normal and

1640
01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:40,320
Speaker 8: like basically expected thing to continue to live near your family. Yeah,

1641
01:10:40,360 --> 01:10:42,960
Speaker 8: and like your your parents and whatever, like it's the

1642
01:10:43,040 --> 01:10:44,280
Speaker 8: nucleus stays pretty tight.

1643
01:10:44,479 --> 01:10:44,719
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1644
01:10:44,760 --> 01:10:48,720
Speaker 8: But in you know, like American society or you know,

1645
01:10:48,760 --> 01:10:52,960
Speaker 8: Western North American culture, it's like if you don't get

1646
01:10:52,960 --> 01:10:54,800
Speaker 8: out of time, like the longer you're at home, like

1647
01:10:54,840 --> 01:10:56,960
Speaker 8: you're just the more of a loser you become, which

1648
01:10:57,000 --> 01:11:00,599
Speaker 8: is like not at all looked at like that everywhere

1649
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:04,479
Speaker 8: else on earth essentially, So it is like maybe there's

1650
01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:05,880
Speaker 8: a little bit of that where it's like, oh, I

1651
01:11:05,880 --> 01:11:08,680
Speaker 8: thought we were gonna stay tight or whatever, and it

1652
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:09,840
Speaker 8: seems like you're just trying to go.

1653
01:11:09,800 --> 01:11:11,000
Speaker 6: Do something tight.

1654
01:11:11,120 --> 01:11:12,160
Speaker 3: I thought we were gonna be cool.

1655
01:11:12,200 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 8: We moved to Canada, and now you're just like you

1656
01:11:14,400 --> 01:11:16,040
Speaker 8: got all these gross Canadian ideals.

1657
01:11:17,720 --> 01:11:19,520
Speaker 6: You do with those Canadian ideas.

1658
01:11:19,560 --> 01:11:23,680
Speaker 8: Anyway, let's finish it off. Comments Number one, Please do

1659
01:11:23,720 --> 01:11:25,679
Speaker 8: not give them any money. You're not the a hole.

1660
01:11:25,760 --> 01:11:27,840
Speaker 8: You've been very kind and generous. But this is another

1661
01:11:27,880 --> 01:11:30,240
Speaker 8: example of them showing that they do not see you

1662
01:11:30,280 --> 01:11:33,360
Speaker 8: as someone to love, only someone to use. Anything they

1663
01:11:33,360 --> 01:11:34,840
Speaker 8: bought you from the day you were born to the

1664
01:11:34,880 --> 01:11:37,240
Speaker 8: day you turned eighteen is the bare minimum. That's their

1665
01:11:37,479 --> 01:11:40,759
Speaker 8: job as parents. They didn't want to shell out the money.

1666
01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:42,960
Speaker 8: They don't have kids. You worked hard to get where

1667
01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:45,320
Speaker 8: you are now, and you did it without their help.

1668
01:11:45,479 --> 01:11:46,160
Speaker 7: Well I don't know.

1669
01:11:46,400 --> 01:11:48,320
Speaker 8: I think she got some They don't get to demand

1670
01:11:48,320 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 8: things from you now. Op he replied, thank you so

1671
01:11:50,240 --> 01:11:52,760
Speaker 8: much for your kind words. When I told my mom

1672
01:11:52,840 --> 01:11:54,800
Speaker 8: during the argument that I didn't ask to be born,

1673
01:11:54,880 --> 01:11:57,200
Speaker 8: she called me ungrateful and told me that she could

1674
01:11:57,200 --> 01:11:58,839
Speaker 8: have kicked me out as soon as I turned eighteen

1675
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 8: and could have given me the bare minimum to survive

1676
01:12:01,080 --> 01:12:02,800
Speaker 8: during my childhood like some parents do.

1677
01:12:03,160 --> 01:12:04,040
Speaker 3: Wow.

1678
01:12:04,200 --> 01:12:05,559
Speaker 6: Well, that's the end of that story.