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Speaker 1: My husband only eats off the kids menu and it's

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Speaker 1: ruining our family. Should I divorce him? This is okayop

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Speaker 1: Home of the Craziest Stories on Earth. I'm sofia And

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Speaker 1: should they divorce Riley? What do you think I mean?

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Speaker 2: From a social perspective? If he's the one eating Dino

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Speaker 2: nuggets while all the other bro dads are cooking steaks

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Speaker 2: protein shakes, this isn't looking good. No, yeah, Riley only

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Speaker 2: eats protein chicks. Yep, that's a fact I learned yesterday

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Speaker 2: when I met Riley for the first time.

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Speaker 3: I said, do you want to protein shakes?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Said sure.

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Speaker 1: I said sure then, and then I was told that

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Speaker 1: there would be a tax.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'm still waiting for that tax to come. I think

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Speaker 1: there might be interest on it. But would you think, oh,

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Speaker 1: on the dino nuggets or on the it was really good?

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Speaker 1: It was really good? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Are they going to get divorced?

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Speaker 1: Though? There's only one way to find out spill that tea.

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Speaker 1: So wife says, my husband will only eat chicken nuggets,

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Speaker 1: grilled cheese, and spaghettios. That's it. When we go over

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Speaker 1: to friends places, he'll actually bring some spaghettios. To heat

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Speaker 1: up in their microwave instead of eating anything else, even

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Speaker 1: if our friends cooked a wonderful meal. That's crazy. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god. If we go out anywhere to eat, he

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Speaker 1: will only order chicken nuggets off the kids menu if

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Speaker 1: they don't have them, he just won't eat. If I

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Speaker 1: try to cook literally anything except one of his three

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Speaker 1: food groups, he will claim he's allergic to some random

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Speaker 1: ingredient instead of just outright saying he doesn't want to

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Speaker 1: eat it. Well, then try to guilt me for forgetting

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Speaker 1: his allergy. Spoiler. We've been to the doctor and he's

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Speaker 1: not allergic to anything. My husband just turned thirty six

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Speaker 1: this month. Thirty six that's pretty old for Dino nuggets,

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Speaker 1: and he's eating off the kids. He's eating off the

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Speaker 1: kid I mean, the kid's menu is financially physically responsible.

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Speaker 1: It seems like he just he just eats kids food.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't just sound healthy either.

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Speaker 1: I'd be fine with people eating off the kids menu

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Speaker 1: or eating Dino nuggets, because Dino nuggets are cool. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't seem like he's eating any veggies.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's no like baby food veggies.

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Speaker 1: No, it doesn't seem like that. His food habits were

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Speaker 1: sort of cute and acceptable when we were both in

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Speaker 1: about his health. I also find myself avoiding any sort

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Speaker 1: harder than it sounds. I've tried talking to him about

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Speaker 1: I don't cook his meals. The only victory I ever

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Speaker 1: had in this situation. He doesn't think I have the

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Speaker 1: right to dictate what he can and can't eat. But

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Speaker 1: I mean, he doesn't even cook the meals. It's like reheating,

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Speaker 1: not cooking meals, really, that's reheating Dino nuggets. Side note,

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Speaker 1: apparently you can eat those Dino nuggets raw or like

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Speaker 1: chicken nuggets, because I had a friend who like recently

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Speaker 1: Yeah? She was fine. She was like, no, you can

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Speaker 3: I was like, what was it cold?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? It was really disturbing. Actually, like like freezer cold. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: not his mother, I'm his wife, but I just want

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Speaker 1: my husband, the man I love, to be healthy. What

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Speaker 1: do I do? What do you think?

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Speaker 2: Rightly? I think you just got to cut it off

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want to eat it. You can't force him

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Speaker 3: My questions like why is he only eating this food?

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Speaker 1: Well? Yeah, is he just like cause sometimes you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the social aspect, Yeah, that's I.

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Speaker 1: Think that's like where the underlying because I feel like

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Speaker 1: with friends. But there's more. We met when I was

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Speaker 1: after graduation and moved in together after. I didn't realize

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Speaker 1: Opie also says thank you for your comments and suggestions.

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Speaker 1: There are so many one wonderful comments that it takes

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Speaker 1: to address them here and then post an update tonight.

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Speaker 1: It does sound like avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, and

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Speaker 1: I agree that we need counseling. There's a good counseling

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Speaker 1: center nearby that I found last night that offers couple therapy.

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Speaker 1: I want to try them first. I'm going to bring

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Speaker 1: it up to him tonight and really try to explain

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Speaker 1: how much this issue bothers me and ou. At the

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Speaker 1: very least, we should discuss this with a counselor to

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Speaker 1: find a place where we're both happy. Do you have

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Speaker 2: It's really interesting that they are going to counseling because

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Speaker 2: low key it does kind of feel like trauma food

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Speaker 2: because some people whenever they are you know, stressed or whatever,

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Speaker 2: they either eat a lot of food or they don't

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Speaker 1: I feel like he needs to go to therapy specifically

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Speaker 2: it's couples therapy. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's fair because then you have a partner

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Speaker 3: Partner and a buddy peel punishing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but they're there are some relevant comment Oh, when

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Speaker 1: when they were nineteen, but I didn't realize that. Wait,

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, So she was nineteen, he was thirty two.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and now he's thirty six. So that's kind of crazy.

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Speaker 3: College at thirty two year old.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now he's going to college late. That's fine,

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Speaker 1: but I was confused about this. Okay, Okay, So the

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Speaker 1: timeline is, it's been four years of this. When they

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Speaker 1: and now he's thirty six and he's still eating badly.

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Speaker 1: And Opie says, looking back, I definitely wasn't mature enough

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Speaker 1: for a serious relationship. But he's always been thoughtful and understanding.

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Speaker 1: I never felt pressure to do anything I didn't want

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Speaker 1: I was legal. Yeah, I don't know what this is, Okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean if he's eating like a kid, then

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Speaker 2: he's basically the mindset is a few years off, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And then op added we met in college. He

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Speaker 1: falling in love. Admittedly, I was kind of odd when

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Speaker 1: ever made me feel pressured into anything, even as small

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Speaker 1: as drinking on my twenty first birthday. I have a

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Speaker 1: going to a nice dance night instead of clubbing. He

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Speaker 1: so he is capable of change. So I feel like,

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Speaker 1: you know, make another jump man, Yeah, just start eating

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Speaker 1: some veggies, little cooking night. I don't know, do something

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Speaker 1: fancy sushi. Sushi. Sushi's actually not that hard to make.

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Speaker 3: What would be like the best food for him to try?

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Speaker 1: Maybe not sushi? Maybe that's too big of a jump.

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Speaker 3: Chicken tenders.

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Speaker 1: Gets we go to chicken tenders, maybe some like home

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Speaker 3: Whole tissery chicken.

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Speaker 1: Ro tissery chicken. And then you start throwing some veggies

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Speaker 2: Cheese they tell them, or like the kids have Oh,

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Speaker 2: That's cool, But like, at some point you gotta be like, hey,

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Speaker 1: Sneaking veggies into your food for four years.

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Speaker 3: That's what she needs to start doing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, but tell him after four years just waiting up,

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Speaker 1: but there's a juicy update. Oh, oh my goodness. So

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Speaker 1: I did it. I confronted him when he came home.

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Speaker 1: open to. He seems sort of relieved that it's a

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Speaker 1: fairly common disorder. Some of you absolutely called it. He

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Speaker 1: this issue was so important to me. I'll admit I

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Speaker 1: I am about him eating himself into an early grave.

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Speaker 1: His foods are not healthy, and by the end of

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Speaker 1: this nice. That's so great. I'm so glad that there's

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Speaker 1: seems like there's a happy ending coming here. We'll be

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Speaker 1: going to couple therapy this weekend at a local clinic.

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Speaker 1: From there, we'll be looking into seeing a dietitian and

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Speaker 1: a specialized counselor for his eating disorder. Wow, I'm so

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Speaker 1: glad that they looked into it. That's great.

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Speaker 3: These are large steps.

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Speaker 1: It's so big. I'm so glad because it seems, you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: There's always once something big like this happens.

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Speaker 1: As some people stated, it is possible he doesn't know

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Speaker 3: Okay, I have an okay story time?

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Speaker 3: I'll dive into that.

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Speaker 1: I mean parents like either don't get their children tested

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Speaker 1: But there's another juicy update. Oh my god, jus, the

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Speaker 1: it's so sweet, but like I understand, but also like

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Speaker 3: She keeps secrets in her relationships.

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Speaker 1: Nobody's allowed to know anything about me? Ever, I explained

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Speaker 1: I didn't show the post I made, but I used

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Speaker 1: We went to bed upset.

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, never go to bed upset. Talk it out.

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Speaker 1: The next day, he acted like nothing happened. We ate breakfast,

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Speaker 1: Oh no, no, and what about our day? I kept

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Speaker 1: Our ride home was quiet. It wasn't until we got

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Speaker 1: Where was he reading this women have autism too? I

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Speaker 1: Who it's kind of dramatic. Yeah, I like she wasn't

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Speaker 1: But yeah, no, the lying is Yeah, he seems like

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Speaker 3: Like she's trying to help, but if he's ignored it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well it seems like he's like, oh, well, it

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Speaker 3: Like none of these things are bad. It's just like

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Speaker 1: No, I think it's less about like I'm leaving you

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Speaker 1: things affect me. This is kind of tough. Now. Many

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Speaker 1: he told someone I cheated on him. As a fake

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Speaker 1: and now he's just spreading rumors. Yeah, I haven't decided

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Speaker 1: if divorce is the right path. I know he's been

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Speaker 1: browsing in cell and other bitter male centric websites. We

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Speaker 1: called it. One of his friends is a self described

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Speaker 1: in cell who describes themselves as an.

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Speaker 3: Insul proud in cells.

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Speaker 1: Do proud in cells? Why don't do that? That's weird.

442
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Speaker 1: So I'm even more convinced that this isn't the man.

443
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Speaker 1: I'm married and mostly just confused. I've been avoiding him

444
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Speaker 1: at home and it feels like more of a roommate

445
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Speaker 1: situation at this point. He doesn't really leave his den

446
00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:52,080
Speaker 1: until it's time for work and then he's back in

447
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Speaker 1: the den until bed. It seems like everything is messed

448
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Speaker 1: up just for me wanting to help. I don't even

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Speaker 1: know what to expect at this point, much less how

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Speaker 1: to move on from here. I think that like, at

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Speaker 1: this point, like it seems like he doesn't want to

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Speaker 1: work through the relationship. He's lying about you to your friends. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and so now your friends are like being mean and

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Speaker 1: rude to you. I think this is a divorce chant moment.

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Speaker 2: Sadly, she's trying to work with you. Man, Yeah, you

456
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Speaker 2: got to work with her. It sounds like you don't.

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Speaker 3: You don't want to.

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Speaker 2: You just want to keep eating your Dino nuggets, which

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I can make fun of him

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Speaker 2: anymore for that, can we?

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Speaker 1: I don't think the problem is like him eating the

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Speaker 1: Dino nuggets, Like that's like a thing, you know, like

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Speaker 1: when you have you have your own special food sometimes. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but like the fact that when she tried to help

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Speaker 1: him and try to, you know, be there for him

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Speaker 1: and like lead him onto a healthier track, you just

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Speaker 1: start lying to her.

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Speaker 3: That is what happened. Yeah, I'll make fun of his lying.

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Speaker 1: Then, Yeah, make fun of him because he's a liar. Oh,

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Speaker 1: he says. There are so many more comments that I anticipated.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to at least read through most of them,

472
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Speaker 1: although I think I'm past my emotional ability to reply.

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Speaker 1: I'm really shocked at how overwhelmingly supportive people are being.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I'm going to be discussing divorce with a lawyer.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to bring it up with him,

476
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Speaker 1: but I'm past the point of caring. You're all right.

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Speaker 1: I dread coming homed him in the evenings. I dread

478
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Speaker 1: if he will miraculously want to talk. This isn't healthy

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Speaker 1: for either of us. At the very least, some time

480
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Speaker 1: apart will be good. That's all for now. I don't

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Speaker 1: think i'll update past this, as I'm already uncomfortable with

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Speaker 1: how quickly this blew up. But I will be living

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Speaker 1: elsewhere by the end of the month. Oh Op, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: This is really rough. Yeah, that's really rough. No, I

485
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Speaker 1: don't think that's.

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Speaker 3: On It's not like it's not on you.

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Speaker 1: You did your best.

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Speaker 3: You, you really did your best.

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Speaker 2: You fill upset and you want to divoice that and

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Speaker 2: he didn't want to hear you, and that's on him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. First, you guys What do you think op should

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Speaker 1: do should they get divorced? Do you think that there

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Speaker 1: was another way she could have gone about this?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: What should op do?

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Speaker 1: What should Opie do? That's for you. And then Riley,

497
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Speaker 1: what do you think op should have done? Differently? Do

498
00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:46,520
Speaker 1: you think she did everything?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I think I think she's doing what she can. Just divorce.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sadly, unfortunately at this point, I think it is divorce.

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Speaker 1: I think there were a lot of red flags. Oh yo,

503
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Speaker 1: what's that out of my head?

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Speaker 3: What do you got there?

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Speaker 1: This is a little merch, little merch we're releasing. I

506
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Speaker 1: don't wear hats, but for you guys, and because this

507
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Speaker 1: hat is so cool. I'm wearing a hat and I'm

508
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Speaker 1: covering my hair.

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Speaker 3: That's so nice.

510
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, kind of a saint, but this hat

511
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,800
Speaker 1: is super cool and we're releasing it. I don't really

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Speaker 1: know anything about that.

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Speaker 3: They haven't told us anything.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we don't know anything about it.

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Speaker 3: I just said wear this hat.

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Speaker 1: I said wear this hat, and I said, okay, I'll

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Speaker 1: wear it.

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Speaker 2: No, she first said I don't wear hats, and they said,

519
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Speaker 2: I don't care where this hat.

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Speaker 1: That's true, That's what I said. I don't wear hats,

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Speaker 1: but you know I'm wearing it for you so that

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Speaker 1: you for listeners.

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Speaker 3: It's imagine a how do we explain this? What your hat?

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Speaker 1: My hat?

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Speaker 3: For a podcast listeners?

526
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Speaker 1: Here?

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Speaker 3: Is it tan or beige?

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Speaker 1: I can't actually tell because the lightning is super cood.

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Speaker 3: Hold on, imagine a tan hat.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of it's kind of beige.

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Speaker 3: Okay, imagine a beige.

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Speaker 1: It's not grayish.

533
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Speaker 3: Imagine a gray What is it?

534
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Speaker 1: I don't know, it's super good.

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Speaker 3: Imagine a tan hat.

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Speaker 2: Imagine a tan hat. On the top you have red

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Speaker 2: flags upside down in lettering. Yeah, and then three red

538
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Speaker 2: flags like the the emoji, and on the side you

539
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Speaker 2: see a little okay, ope square check it out.

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Speaker 3: Go to our socials. Yeah, but Sophia, I feel like

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Speaker 3: you have another.

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Speaker 1: Thing for us, story time?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, okay, okay, story time.

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Speaker 1: What did I have?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Another story for us?

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Speaker 1: Oh? I did? Yeah?

548
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I do have an okay story?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, short time.

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Speaker 2: So I was with an old friend and we were

551
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Speaker 2: talking about my reading disorders. Yes, because in elementary school

552
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Speaker 2: I would doing recess, go with a teacher and read

553
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Speaker 2: things because I wasn't really good at reading. So I

554
00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,840
Speaker 2: would spend all the time reading different things and there

555
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Speaker 2: are a lot of whatever, and.

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Speaker 3: I thought it was normal.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I didn't think it was normal, but I'd

558
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Speaker 2: try to think it was normal. Like all the other

559
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Speaker 2: kids were playing outside and I was like reading. Yeah,

560
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Speaker 2: halfway I got to go. Half half of recess was reading. AnyWho,

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Speaker 2: Fast forward after my college career. I take this dyslexia test.

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Speaker 2: Turns out like online online, just like all the things

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Speaker 2: that I feel and symptoms when I read, I have

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Speaker 2: a mild thing of dyslexia or some form of dyslexia.

565
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Speaker 2: And I did not know this after college.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

567
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Speaker 3: And it feels like useless information.

568
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Speaker 1: Yeah, because when you're in Claude, you could have gotten the.

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Speaker 2: Little could have been like extra thirty yeah professor, Yeah,

570
00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 2: but no, that sucks. Yeah, well everyone studied for thirty minutes.

571
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:16,440
Speaker 2: It took me two hours. What doesn't kill you makes

572
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Speaker 2: you stronger.

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00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 1: And Riley is super strong. Now that's why they call

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Speaker 1: him big protein.

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Speaker 3: Big protein.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for telling that story.

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Speaker 3: Really, you're welcome.

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Speaker 1: Live your truth. Everyone out there, Live your truth. Get diagnosed.

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Speaker 1: Stigmas are stupid.

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Speaker 3: Yep, you know it's not stupid. This next story