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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Noah is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Brooks.

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Speaker 3: So in a few minutes.

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Speaker 2: We'll call her and see if we can figure out

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Speaker 2: why he's getting ghosted and maybe get him a second date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Noah, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: talked to.

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Speaker 4: Brook I technically texted her yesterday, one of those no pressure,

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Speaker 4: just checking in type of text, which I guess is

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Speaker 4: still pressure. But I haven't really talked to her more

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Speaker 4: or less since the date.

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Speaker 3: And when was that?

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Speaker 4: Uh, it was like a week ago. We met for

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Speaker 4: coffee and it turned into one of those kind of

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Speaker 4: accidental three hour dates. You know.

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Speaker 3: That's nice.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we did coffee and then we walked through

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Speaker 4: a park and decided to grab dinner, and then we

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Speaker 4: just kind of didn't want to leave the restaurant, like

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Speaker 4: the conversation just kept flowing, no awkward silence, is there anything?

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Speaker 4: It felt good. It felt you know, mature and adults, so.

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Speaker 3: Mature that somebody's getting ghosted. Maybe sorry, I mean it

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Speaker 3: sounds like a good date.

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Speaker 2: If you're trying to get together for coffee and then

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Speaker 2: you're together basically all day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean she kept saying how refreshing it was

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Speaker 4: to have a guy actually listen, and like she opened

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Speaker 4: up to me, like really opened up. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I felt trusted and that doesn't happen a lot, and

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Speaker 4: it felt like there wasn't any like absurd small talk,

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Speaker 4: like just went straight to real conversation, which was nice.

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Speaker 3: What did did you guys do after dinner? Did was

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Speaker 3: that the it?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 3: How did you end it dinner?

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Speaker 4: Was it? We were there when they were still stacking

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Speaker 4: up chairs at the end of the restaurant, so we

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Speaker 4: pretty much closed down the restaurant. So that was pretty

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Speaker 4: much the rest of the date. But yeah, I don't know,

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Speaker 4: it was I thought it was great.

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Speaker 3: Was there like a kiss?

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Speaker 1: Huh?

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Speaker 4: A nice hug, you know, intimate hug?

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Speaker 2: Is there anything that you can think of that would

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Speaker 2: be a reason that she'd ghost you?

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Speaker 4: I've been over this in my head. The only thing

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Speaker 4: I can think I was a little late, not insanely late,

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Speaker 4: like ten minutes late, because the traffic was brutal, and

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Speaker 4: so I apologize by the way she was totally fine.

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Speaker 4: She even joked about it a little bit, said something

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Speaker 4: about she was on vacation and saw slots that moved faster.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, but maybe it wasn't actually fine. But

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Speaker 4: she also mentioned she hadn't been in a serious relationship

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Speaker 4: for a while, so I don't know. I don't know

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Speaker 4: if she's just having second thoughts her. But it was

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Speaker 4: like a great date, laughing dessert, like all of it

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Speaker 4: was great. And so I don't know if I'd messed up,

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Speaker 4: or she just decided dating wasn't right for her right

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Speaker 4: now or what. I'm just totally at a loss.

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Speaker 3: Did you text her that you going to be ten

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Speaker 3: minutes later? Did you show up ten minutes late and

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Speaker 3: then say sorry.

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Speaker 4: Nah, I just showed up ten minutes late. I should

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Speaker 4: have probably texted, but again, ten minutes you know, everybody

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Speaker 4: deals with the traffic, so I didn't think it was

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Speaker 4: going to be And like I said, she was kind

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Speaker 4: of joking about it, so it didn't feel like a

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Speaker 4: deal breaker or anything. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Noah is on the phone.

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Speaker 2: He's getting ghosted by Brooks, So we're about to call

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Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: him and maybe get him a second date. But before

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Speaker 2: we do that, and no, on, why don't you break

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Speaker 2: down your date again for us real quick?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's for coffee. And the conversation was

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Speaker 4: really great and everything was, you know, very comfortable, and

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Speaker 4: we talked about some kind of big, bigger stuff, not

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Speaker 4: just small talk nonsense. And we walked to the park

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Speaker 4: and then basically closed down a restaurant because the conversation

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Speaker 4: was so good. And yeah, just have not heard back

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Speaker 4: from her. It's been about a little over a week.

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Speaker 3: All right, Well, are you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm I'm gonna loss so please okay, that would

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Speaker 4: be great.

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Speaker 3: Here we go. Well, hi, may I speak to Brook? Please?

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Speaker 3: Hey Brooke? How are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 3: It's called the Jebil Show. Hi Brooke, I'm Nina. Hi,

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Speaker 3: I'm Victoria and my name is Jeble. What's up?

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Speaker 4: Wait?

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Speaker 1: This is a real radio show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, girl, you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 1: I have? Yes? Okay, I know exactly, Yeah, I know

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Speaker 1: I know you guys? Hi?

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Speaker 3: Oh sweet? Okay, cool, well you've probably heard a first

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Speaker 3: date follow up then?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Cool?

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Speaker 2: Well guess what Brooke, we're calling you today because you

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Speaker 2: know the first day fall Up, that's the segment where

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Speaker 2: if you go on a date and ghost somebody, they

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Speaker 2: can email us to call that person and find out why.

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Speaker 2: And that's why we're on the phone with you. You're

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Speaker 2: ghosting somebody and they want to know what they did wrong.

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Speaker 1: Noah, I mean it's Noah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, so you already know, yes, it's Noah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well why are you ghosting him? Uh?

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Speaker 1: Well, he he acted like my therapist.

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Speaker 3: Hmmmm, he acted like your therapist.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Every time I said something, he had another question,

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Speaker 1: or he was giving me advice, or he's like reframing

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Speaker 1: what I said.

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Speaker 3: You know, so he was reframing what he said. How

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Speaker 3: did that make you feel like?

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Speaker 1: It made me feel like I needed to give a

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Speaker 1: kopey to be honest.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, So it wasn't like he was actually listening,

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Speaker 3: you know.

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Speaker 1: He was listening. I just felt like it was clinical,

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Speaker 1: you know, it was just there was no romance. It

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Speaker 1: was very he was digging so deep and just terrafizing me.

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Speaker 3: It felt like, okay, so like you'd be in the

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Speaker 3: middle of a conversation that was cool, and then he

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Speaker 3: would just find a reason why that was your dad's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like he would ask me a question, I would

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Speaker 1: share something about myself and then he'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: this is another way to look at it, or you

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Speaker 1: could think about it like this, or how about if

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Speaker 1: you know, And I really wasn't. I just wasn't looking

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Speaker 1: for that, you know, I didn't ask for it.

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Speaker 3: Did you mention that at all? Like did you try

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Speaker 3: to squash or redirect a conversation? Just that curates I.

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Speaker 1: Felt like I was trying to redirect, but he was

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Speaker 1: asking very probing questions, you know. So it was the

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Speaker 1: first date. I didn't know why we were so deep.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so it got too deep for you and he

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Speaker 2: was more asking questions like he was a therapist.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know if he asked me if I'd ever

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Speaker 1: been to camp, and I had, like back in middle school,

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Speaker 1: and I just explained how it was like really rough

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Speaker 1: because the girls I was friends with at that time

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Speaker 1: like all kind of turned on me. But I was

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Speaker 1: just like it was there were some funny stories in there.

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Speaker 1: And he was like, have you considered, you know, reaching

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Speaker 1: out to them on Facebook and clearing a path so

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Speaker 1: that there's no negative or I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Whoa, Okay, all right, well thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know if you forgot or not, but

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Speaker 2: Noah is actually on the phone listening and wants to

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Speaker 2: talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yes, wow, Uh, totally unfair.

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Speaker 1: You asked me more questions than my actual therapist.

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Speaker 4: All right, yeah, I'm sorry. I actually like to get

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Speaker 4: to know people on a first date. That's definitely on me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're getting to know someone and then there's a

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Speaker 1: clinical intake form to be honest.

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Speaker 4: What's wrong with asking questions?

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Speaker 1: I'm nothing if I booked a session.

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Speaker 4: Honest, honestly from from when I heard, you obviously need

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Speaker 4: need advice like you, you really should probably consider therapy.

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Speaker 1: I'm in it. Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Well, maybe get a new one because the issues are deep.

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Speaker 4: I mean you you brought up your parents, your ex,

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Speaker 4: your attachment issues. What was I supposed to do? Just

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Speaker 1: Yes? How about flirting? Maybe eat tacos like on a

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Speaker 1: normal date, levity fun laugh.

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Speaker 4: I didn't know there was a limit on emotional honesty.

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Speaker 4: That's that You're right, that's on me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this was date one.

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Speaker 4: Maybe don't trauma dump on somebody. You just met.

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Speaker 1: Well, you called me to find out why I does

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Speaker 1: to do. That's it right there, And yeah, I mean

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Speaker 1: is this to see me again? Because that's not the

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Speaker 4: I mean I didn't want to see you again. But

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Speaker 4: apparently my advice went right out the door because your

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Speaker 4: issues are front and center.

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Speaker 1: Wow, maybe you don't go fix someone. Okay, cool, I'll

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Speaker 1: give I'll give your data call.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's healthy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, at least maybe he's some fun. Maybe he's got

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Speaker 1: some fun in his back pocket.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's daddy issues one on one. That's what that is.

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Speaker 4: That's uh, that's textbook, as they say.

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Speaker 1: But you know what's really cool, Like you're the type

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Speaker 1: of person where you do share something and then you

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Speaker 1: weaponize it as time goes on and not super clear.

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Speaker 4: So is a term you read on BuzzFeed or was

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Speaker 4: that just something.

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Speaker 1: That came up I opened books. I'm in therapy. I'm

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Speaker 1: a person of the world. Yeah, okay, well you should

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Speaker 1: be in therapy, by the way, like mister therapist, you

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Speaker 1: should be in it, are you?

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Speaker 4: Some people don't need it. Hey, people have awareness and

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Speaker 4: don't need the crouch of it.

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Speaker 3: Brooke, would you like to go on another date with it.

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Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm real good.

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Speaker 4: No, you're actually not good. You have a lot of

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Speaker 4: work to do. I think is the term wow, But

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Speaker 4: I hope you figured out.

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Speaker 1: Hey, good luck with your future patience buddy.

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Speaker 4: Good luck on avoiding real conversation.

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Speaker 1: Jubile's first date fall