Speaker 1: Second date Update.
Speaker 2: We've got a girl on the phone for today's second
Speaker 2: date update named Cassidy, and she sent her email that
Speaker 2: they did a little social experiment on their first date.
Speaker 2: Didn't say what it was, but I've done a few myself. So, Cassidy,
Speaker 2: I'm guessing you both went to dinner with no pants
Speaker 2: on to see if they'd still serve you.
Speaker 3: No, I want to know.
Speaker 4: It doesn't work.
Speaker 2: I mean, it really depends on what restaurants you hit up. Yes,
Speaker 2: well yeah, if they have one of those make your
Speaker 2: own omelet stations, then you.
Speaker 1: Could probably get away with porky pig in it.
Speaker 5: There.
Speaker 6: I see, I see what you're saying.
Speaker 1: They're pretty lax.
Speaker 5: Uh huh.
Speaker 2: But uh, Cassidy, what are we talking about? Social experiment wise?
Speaker 5: Here?
Speaker 6: Cassidy?
Speaker 3: Oh hi guys, Oh hi, you're doing a.
Speaker 1: Second date update. Remember.
Speaker 4: Maybe the social experiment she's doing is let's get on
Speaker 4: the radio and then net talk see what happens.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I was texting somebody.
Speaker 6: Oh my god. Really, we can't put our phone.
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't want you to put your phone
Speaker 4: down now, but you know what I'm saying, concentrate.
Speaker 1: This is a priority for you.
Speaker 2: So who's this guy that you want to call it
Speaker 2: while you text away?
Speaker 5: Okay?
Speaker 7: So this guy's name is Sam and I met on Twitter,
Speaker 7: I mean on Tinder, okay, and I.
Speaker 3: Really liked him.
Speaker 7: He was like a really unique guy. He had like
Speaker 7: the perfect dad bod, which I'm very into.
Speaker 3: So he was like too muscular, he wasn't too skinny.
Speaker 6: I like that, stop it.
Speaker 4: Are you in your twenties, why are you going for
Speaker 4: dad bods? You have the rest of your life to
Speaker 4: be hooked up with a dad bod.
Speaker 1: Dad are important to society.
Speaker 4: Brother, I'm saying, man, your seeingle years should be not
Speaker 4: spent on dad bods.
Speaker 6: You got the next fifty of them to do that.
Speaker 3: It sounds like you're too old and you're not taking
Speaker 3: advantage of the dad bods round.
Speaker 1: She makes a good point her husband.
Speaker 4: Okay, all right, So dad bod Sam, that's his name?
Speaker 5: Yeah, all right?
Speaker 2: And what did you and Flabby do for your day?
Speaker 7: So we went to go eat seafood okay, and everything
Speaker 7: was really going great. And that's when the social experiment
Speaker 7: came in.
Speaker 6: Wait, is this something you guys came up with together.
Speaker 3: Or no, it was something that he came up with.
Speaker 6: Oh, what was it?
Speaker 3: So he looked at me and he goes, do you
Speaker 3: trust me? And I said yes?
Speaker 1: Why would you say that?
Speaker 2: You never say yes immediately to a guy that's just
Speaker 2: ran in me, Like do you jazz me?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Especially gout you met on Tinder? Yeah, I mean I
Speaker 4: think the universe is telling you scream no.
Speaker 1: He is not giving her a reason to not trust him.
Speaker 4: Okay, it on Tinder is enough reason not to trust someone,
Speaker 4: all right?
Speaker 1: So you said yes? What did he want you to do?
Speaker 3: So I hand him my cell phone.
Speaker 7: He tells me I can turn it off all over
Speaker 7: the waiter, and he hands the waiter both of our
Speaker 7: cell phones and he says to him, don't give it
Speaker 7: back until we're done with dessert.
Speaker 1: This guy's crazy.
Speaker 4: What no phone?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: I can't call for help now, little lady.
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess I could see that's being like
Speaker 2: a classy move, like he wants to focus on just
Speaker 2: the two of them. I have no distractions.
Speaker 7: So as the waiter is walking away with our cell phones,
Speaker 7: I was freaking out. I was like, what is going on?
Speaker 7: I don't understand. Is really strange.
Speaker 3: This is really weird.
Speaker 7: So I was just like trying not to be vocal
Speaker 7: about it, but yeah, it was a weird kind of
Speaker 7: thing to do.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's breaking into cold sweats and her hands start
Speaker 4: to shake.
Speaker 6: You you need your fix.
Speaker 4: I mean, how is anybody gonna know what your dessert
Speaker 4: looks like if you can't take a picture of it?
Speaker 2: Exactly? You don't answer during a date to feel the buzz,
Speaker 2: just to know what's on you.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah, like people are with me on this day, I'm
Speaker 6: not alone.
Speaker 2: It sounds so jaded over here. But he took the
Speaker 2: phone away, and so how did it go?
Speaker 7: Actually, after the phones were gone and we had no distractions,
Speaker 7: it ended.
Speaker 3: Up being really good and we were focusing on each other.
Speaker 3: We're both listening and talking and the whole thing was
Speaker 3: really sweet.
Speaker 6: Oh that's awesome.
Speaker 4: So I mean, did you end the day thinking, oh
Speaker 4: my god, I'm never going to use my phone again.
Speaker 7: I mean, listen, I would love to have my phone,
Speaker 7: you know, it's like a part of me. But it
Speaker 7: was really nice for like that hour that we were
Speaker 7: together that I didn't have it and we just got
Speaker 7: to be with each other.
Speaker 6: Okay, that's great.
Speaker 1: So besides that, did anything like weird happen?
Speaker 3: No, So afterwards, we had a really, really great time.
Speaker 3: There was a small kiss. Yeah, I thought for sure
Speaker 3: I would get a text or a call.
Speaker 7: But here's the thing, though, he's not taking initiative and
Speaker 7: he hasn't asked me out on a second date.
Speaker 3: So I'm honestly shocked, Like I don't understand.
Speaker 6: So have you tried to ask him out at all?
Speaker 7: I mean I've tried to like hint to him that
Speaker 7: I would be really interested in going on another date
Speaker 7: with him, but he's not.
Speaker 3: Taking the bait.
Speaker 1: So what do you think it is that maybe turned
Speaker 1: him off?
Speaker 3: I don't know, and I really want to know because
Speaker 3: I actually really like him.
Speaker 2: Well, how long has it been, because if he's not
Speaker 2: a big phone guy, obviously, maybe he literally isn't checking
Speaker 2: his phone.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's writing you letters in the mail.
Speaker 4: And then maybe a carrier pigeon is going to bring
Speaker 4: it to your doorstep.
Speaker 3: No, I mean it's been a while, and so he
Speaker 3: should have asked by now.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, I think this one is actually weird, like
Speaker 4: for someone to be interested in enough to want to
Speaker 4: actually concentrate on you during the date, give you a kiss.
Speaker 7: And I didn't tell you, guys, but he was super
Speaker 7: sweet and super cute during the dessert. How so, he
Speaker 7: asked for a candle for the tira misu and I
Speaker 7: looked at him and I was like, oh, it's not
Speaker 7: my birthday. It's not going to be my birthday for
Speaker 7: another six months. And he was like, well, we should
Speaker 7: celebrate your half birthday, and so the candle came out
Speaker 7: and You're like.
Speaker 3: Singing, happy half birthday two year.
Speaker 6: My god, that's really cute.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, Yeah, it was really cute.
Speaker 1: I would celebrate corner birthdays if we got free desserts.
Speaker 7: The other day.
Speaker 4: I hope Dad bought Sam turns out as good as
Speaker 4: you say, is I like you?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 2: All right, Well, Sam apparently has already won over everybody
Speaker 2: in this room. So if you won't go out with you,
Speaker 2: maybe he'll go out with Jose. Yeah, we're gonna play
Speaker 2: a song.
Speaker 1: Come back.
Speaker 2: We'll give him a call and see if we can
Speaker 2: get you a second date. Update All right, Cassidy, cool thinks. Okay,
Speaker 2: hold on, update, We've got a very special caller on
Speaker 2: the phone with us right now.
Speaker 1: One two three, Happy half birthday City, Happy half for
Speaker 1: birthday two Yeah?
Speaker 8: Yeah, Cassidy celebrated her half birthday recently when she went
Speaker 8: out to dinner with a guy named Sam, because Sam
Speaker 8: asked the waiter to bring a candle to put in
Speaker 8: their tearramsu And when Cassidy said, my birthday's not for
Speaker 8: six months, He's like, well, we'll just celebrate your half birthday.
Speaker 4: Yeah, dude, it's so cute, and Casside, I'm gonna say
Speaker 4: thumbs up for you, because I have been trying to
Speaker 4: get people to celebrate my half birthday for years and
Speaker 4: no one is on board.
Speaker 2: No one can count that high though, so it's really
Speaker 2: hard to celebrate her birthday.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Always the funniest thing you guys said all morning.
Speaker 1: Oh I praise.
Speaker 4: Has anything else come to your mind that's gone wrong?
Speaker 4: Because so far you have told us about the world's
Speaker 4: most perfect tender date ever.
Speaker 7: I'm telling you he was sweet, he had the perfect dad,
Speaker 7: thought everything was amazing.
Speaker 4: Okay, let me squeeze those love handles, baby.
Speaker 2: See, maybe you didn't have the right amount of dad bod.
Speaker 2: Did you ever think about that?
Speaker 3: Maybe? Maybe, maybe maybe she.
Speaker 2: Did a little bit more tear massue the next time
Speaker 2: before you go.
Speaker 5: Out on the date.
Speaker 6: That's the thing nobody finds mom bod sexy. Yeah, it's
Speaker 6: not a thing. It's a thing.
Speaker 1: I dare you say that's attractive? So even your.
Speaker 4: Own No, you're right, you're expecting, you're not.
Speaker 2: We're getting too weird. Let's just make the call to
Speaker 2: Sam and Cassidy. We're going to try and get your
Speaker 2: second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, cool? All right, here we go. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I talk to Sam please?
Speaker 5: This is Sam.
Speaker 2: This is young Jeffrey from the radio show Brook and
Speaker 2: Jeffrey in the Morning doing something called a second date update.
Speaker 4: Okay, so we're taking you don't listen very often, that's okay.
Speaker 5: Uh, I heard of it. I don't know.
Speaker 6: It's okay, Sam. This is actually probably pretty good news
Speaker 6: for you. I would think a.
Speaker 2: Girl named Cassidy told us about you. She said that
Speaker 2: you guys went on a date and she had a
Speaker 2: great time.
Speaker 5: So you're calling me? Why, I mean, what's going on?
Speaker 5: I don't understand.
Speaker 2: Well, we're calling you because part of the second date
Speaker 2: update is that we reach out to you and try
Speaker 2: and figure out the reason why you're not calling someone
Speaker 2: back after you go on a date with them.
Speaker 4: And Cassidy had a great time with you and for
Speaker 4: some reason, you haven't asked her out again, so.
Speaker 5: I'm assuming she talked to you guys about this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yep, she told us all about how sexy your.
Speaker 2: Dad bought is and oh my god, the little thing
Speaker 2: that you did with the tiramisu and the candle.
Speaker 4: Seriously applause. Good move with a half birthday thanks.
Speaker 2: On our end, the date seemed really good. So what's
Speaker 2: the reason that you're not calling her back?
Speaker 5: Well, I mean, after this first experience, I just can't
Speaker 5: really see myself with her. I guess you could say
Speaker 5: I don't know just the type of girl that she is.
Speaker 6: Yeah, what does that mean?
Speaker 5: Well, I mean just her personality. I just see some
Speaker 5: red flags.
Speaker 1: Okay, can you be more specific.
Speaker 5: When we first met. I mean, you know, first impressions
Speaker 5: are everything, and my first impression or her was really
Speaker 5: really good. It was it was almost kind of too good.
Speaker 6: Oh that's it, red flag too good. That's usually the
Speaker 6: number one.
Speaker 1: What is Yeah? What does that mean? It's too good?
Speaker 1: How is something too good?
Speaker 5: Look? Normal people, they don't make a really great first impression, Okay,
Speaker 5: there's usually something off, something a little weird or awkward,
Speaker 5: And with her, everything was just perfect. And really comfortable.
Speaker 4: Okay, Sam, we need to sit down because it sounds
Speaker 4: like you've been on Tinder too long and what you
Speaker 4: expect on a first date has really changed, because that
Speaker 4: is what you want.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Man Brooks, right, Like, what's re bothering you?
Speaker 5: Well, there's one thing about her. It's this listening thing.
Speaker 1: What listening thing she's She's.
Speaker 5: A really good listener.
Speaker 1: I thought he was gonna I don't know, what do
Speaker 1: you mean.
Speaker 6: I feel like you're not even hearing yourself right now, Sam.
Speaker 1: Hear him out.
Speaker 5: When somebody is a really good listener, it just puts
Speaker 5: a lot of pressure on me to kind of talk
Speaker 5: well and to be interesting. Okay, I'm not used to
Speaker 5: being on a date with a girl that was so
Speaker 5: focused on me.
Speaker 4: Well, but it wasn't that your whole plan because she
Speaker 4: told us about the like social experiment you did where
Speaker 4: you had the way to take your phones. Yeah, but
Speaker 4: because you wanted to have the time for you to
Speaker 4: to concentrate on each other, and that's exactly what happened.
Speaker 1: So yeah, your idea worked.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I know you're saying that you're upset that she was
Speaker 2: listening to you.
Speaker 5: She just seemed like way way too good of a listener,
Speaker 5: and it just it rubbed me a long way. It
Speaker 5: really did.
Speaker 7: You know?
Speaker 2: Actually, do kind of see what he's saying because she
Speaker 2: has been listening to this whole conversation.
Speaker 7: So basically, I'm too good of a listener, so you
Speaker 7: don't want to go on a date with me?
Speaker 1: She did hear it.
Speaker 4: She's listening the other line, listening to the conversation that
Speaker 4: was Cassidy.
Speaker 3: Hi, Like, are you serious?
Speaker 7: This is honestly the most bizarre thing I've ever heard.
Speaker 7: I've literally never heard a man complain about being too
Speaker 7: good of a listener.
Speaker 5: I mean, are you nor do you normally listen that? Well?
Speaker 6: What has happened in the dating world? You guys like you?
Speaker 6: Your red flag is all positives? Like you realize that, Sam.
Speaker 2: I feel like this isn't really about listening or fun conversations.
Speaker 1: Like, what's the real issue?
Speaker 6: I think he's scared. Are you scared of commitment? Is
Speaker 6: that what it is? You're scared of liking to?
Speaker 2: Are you in love with your mom? There's some deep
Speaker 2: seated route to this behavior. I'm trying to figure it out.
Speaker 5: Listen, Cassidy, you were so focused on me and you
Speaker 5: were just so overly kind of attentive. It just makes
Speaker 5: me think that, well, she doesn't know how to behave
Speaker 5: without her phone?
Speaker 7: Are you kidding me?
Speaker 4: Right now?
Speaker 3: That's how you think you're crazy?
Speaker 1: This is this is pretty crazy talk.
Speaker 6: I think I know, now I don't.
Speaker 1: It's like the same thing. I can never remember people's names.
Speaker 5: If someone can remember my name and met me once,
Speaker 5: I'm always like, how did you do that?
Speaker 1: So if a whole day goes flawlessly.
Speaker 6: I can kind of see why, it's like, how did
Speaker 6: that even happen?
Speaker 4: But how frustrating Cassidy? Like I would be so frustrated
Speaker 4: right now if I were you.
Speaker 3: Honestly, it just sounds like he wants another type of
Speaker 3: girl and not me.
Speaker 6: You think it's an excuse. You don't believe him.
Speaker 4: You think that he's just saying you're too perfect, just
Speaker 4: to let you down easy.
Speaker 5: Totally listen. No, it isn't like that at all. I
Speaker 5: really I would like to do this again. I just
Speaker 5: think that maybe I could throw out a couple of
Speaker 5: suggestions for you the next time we do go out.
Speaker 3: You know, Oh yeah, sure, Sam, why don't you list
Speaker 3: them off?
Speaker 1: I hope you're listening.
Speaker 5: Told you before that you made a really good first impression.
Speaker 5: How about this second time around? Maybe don't do that?
Speaker 6: What who do you want her to do? Like show
Speaker 6: up late?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 5: Maybe not be so engaging. Maybe I want her to
Speaker 5: have more awkward pauses.
Speaker 2: Yeah, stumble over your words make him feel more comfortable,
Speaker 2: like he's not intimidated by this perfect woman.
Speaker 3: I can't believe this is happening right now.
Speaker 5: Oh, Cassidy. People talk a lot about themselves, okay, and
Speaker 5: I don't want that, But I want someone that kind
Speaker 5: of talks about themselves, you know, a decent amount, huh,
Speaker 5: to the point where I have to kind of fight
Speaker 5: to get a word in. You know what that makes me? Listen, Kessie?
Speaker 4: Okay, wait, hold on, is what you're trying to say, Sam?
Speaker 4: You just want her to be more vulnerable with you
Speaker 4: and more herself.
Speaker 5: I just don't want somebody that makes that good of
Speaker 5: a first impression. I want somebody that doesn't listen that great.
Speaker 5: And I mean, even if you want to be kind
Speaker 5: of clinging towards me, I'm totally cool with it.
Speaker 2: Oh my, So just drop the y, just the cling
Speaker 2: a little clan from your ladies.
Speaker 6: Are you good? With that, Cassidy.
Speaker 2: No, no, hold on, Cassidy, so down. I thought you
Speaker 2: were a good listener. Let me ask, would you like
Speaker 2: to go out on another date with Sam? We will
Speaker 2: pay for it.
Speaker 4: Come on, Cassy, honestly think about it. It might be
Speaker 4: kind of fun to just go and try to have
Speaker 4: the worst date you possibly can.
Speaker 6: Really, I mean, just try to mess it up bad
Speaker 6: forget his name. It just be a fun night, Cassidy.
Speaker 5: Really listen to them, listen to what they're saying. I
Speaker 5: know you're a good listener. And if you just go
Speaker 5: by a couple of the suggestions that I made, I
Speaker 5: think it's gonna be good. It's gonna be not too good,
Speaker 5: but it's gonna be good.
Speaker 1: We don't want it to be great. So what do
Speaker 1: you say, Cassidy? Do you want to be his imperfect woman?
Speaker 3: He doesn't deserve me.
Speaker 7: He needs to be with someone who's got all of
Speaker 7: these things that he wants because he's a crazy person.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, he just needs a little less self confidence, Cassie.
Speaker 5: Actually, look, that wouldn't be that bad because she did
Speaker 5: come off very self confident.
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, yeah, that's an instant turn off.
Speaker 6: It's terrible congrats Cassidy.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, I mean congrats, but I'm sorry we couldn't
Speaker 2: get you a second date.
Speaker 3: We got to the bottom of it, yeah yeah, thanks
Speaker 3: for trying, you guys.
Speaker 1: All right, So did she say yes? I wasn't listening
Speaker 4: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning