WEBVTT - Dr. Harvey Karp Answers Your Questions 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.280 So Hi, everybody, Welcome to Katie's crib. We are talking 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.799 to Stay to Dr Harvey Carp. He is a pediatrician 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:13.840 and child development expert who's practiced pediatrics in Los Angeles 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:15.760 for over twenty five years. He is the founder and 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:19.760 CEO of Happiest Baby, a smart tech and parenting solutions company, 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:23.720 and Dr carp is the author of three books, Happiest 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:26.759 Baby on the Block, Happiest Toddler on the Block, The 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:29.840 Happiest Baby Guide to Great Sleep, which is for the 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:31.880 first five years of life. It's such a weird title, 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:34.640 Happiest Baby Guy, but it's really for the first five years. 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:40.680 So sleep from from five yeah, yeah, wow, okay, um, Amazon, 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:43.880 get ready for that purchase today. But just to start 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:46.960 us off, and just so I understand, yes, I know 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:49.840 it's a loss. Landel is filmed in that next room. 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:52.479 Is that right? Is this this? This is the main studio. 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:54.760 This is also a studio a lot. Now, this is 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:58.520 one in my house and this is one of the 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:03.600 room I usually at about five pm in this playroom, 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:07.040 Albie plays and I drink wine and then I invite 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:10.800 over other mommies that have babies or kids of any age. 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:13.679 And they literally tear the room apart while we doing wine. 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:18.399 Mother's juice, Yeah, mother's juice exactly. Can you tell us 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:22.880 a little bit about yourself and what you do. So 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:26.520 I'm a pediatrician, and that's what I do. I mean, 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:31.399 for decades, I was the neighborhood doctor. And what happened 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:34.000 was I kind of observed some things that hadn't really 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.679 been written about before. I'm always interested in problems that 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:40.039 haven't been solved, and so I was interested. Babies cry, 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:42.360 and you would be told, oh, babies just cry, there's 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:45.200 nothing you can do about it, or sleep babies they 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:47.280 don't sleep well in the beginning, and just suck it 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:49.160 up and deal with it and sooner or later we'll 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:51.120 get better or let them cry it out. And that 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:55.960 stuff never made sense to me. So um so long 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.360 long time ago. I came to realize that people in 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:02.680 other culture is much more successful at calming their babies. 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:05.440 You go to some some you know areas in the 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:09.720 world you never hear a crying baby, and and they're 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.520 they're not like genetically different babies. I mean, it's the 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.360 parents doing different things. So that got me interested, and 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:17.400 I started to study that and then I did it 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:20.960 on thousands of babies to really perfect my techniques, and 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.200 that's when I wrote the Happiest Baby on the Block video, 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:27.480 And those five s is exactly right. The five s 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:30.639 is are literally like the most famous thing of all time, 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:33.919 like everyone knows, like in my group of friends, it's 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:37.560 a lifesaver. Can you explain to people what the five 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:41.799 uses are for the fifty billion? Well? No, I mean 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.320 I love it because it's just so empowering to parents. 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.080 So five us so well. The first key concept is 0:02:47.560 --> 0:02:50.040 babies are not ready to be born after nine months. 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:53.960 Horses are ready. Cows are ready. They can run. A 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:55.800 horse doesn't get stuck by its head. It gets stuck 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:59.120 by the body. And the body is as strong as 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.079 it can be, so it can run that first day 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:05.440 because otherwise it'll get eaten exactly exactly our babies, and 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:09.560 we survived because of our noodles. And so the brain 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:11.160 is as big as it can be and still get 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.200 out and it's a tight fit. I don't need to 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:17.560 tell you that. So um, and what happens I kind 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:19.960 of think of it like these James Bond movies. You know, 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:24.040 James Bond is on the motorcycle and he's rushing out 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:28.200 this underground parking lot and the metal door is coming down, 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:30.079 and he's rushing in. The door is coming down. He's 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:32.000 going to be locked in there. And at the last 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:35.080 second he puts the motorcycle down. No, he lies it 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:37.280 on the ground and slides underneath just as this thing 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:42.600 is closing. That's our baby's heads exactly so. And if 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:44.960 you miss that opportunity, then that's why we do ces 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.240 arean sections, and we're lucky we can do that because 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:53.040 like my wife's grandmother died, I mean, that wasn't that uncommon. 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:55.360 So because the head is so big and we get 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:59.360 out earlier than say other mammals do. We have this 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:03.960 thing called fourth trymester exactly right now where the baby 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:07.720 really should still sort of be mimicking the world in 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.840 which it was in the womb, because it feels unsafe. 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:11.920 It's such a huge transition, and this is why it's 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:15.320 so tough for new parents because the next four months 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:18.080 or five months, you are one big walking uterus. I 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:21.400 mean inside you're holding your baby NonStop. You're rocking every 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.559 time you breathe, and every time you walk, your baby 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:29.760 is being rocked and jiggled the sound is. Actually it is, 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:36.120 except babies are underwater, so when you're underwater, you can't 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:40.120 hear the high pitch. So it isn't that that they 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:46.640 hear what they hear and your voice and other things 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:50.680 like that, but it's because they're underwater. Wow, So then 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:52.720 it's so shocking for them to be out. I mean 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:55.560 June Refuel, who is a wonderful actress and a dear 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.039 front of mine, she was on Katie's Crib the first 0:04:58.040 --> 0:04:59.920 season and she said the first three months she calls 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:05.400 the dark days of your But basically why is because 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:10.240 it's it is you are essentially still providing a wound 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.440 for your kid, but it's just now so full on 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:15.480 because you have to consciously carry them around, consciously make 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:18.080 those sounds, consciously make them feel safe close to you, 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.800 which is hard. But you're doing it fourteen hours a 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:23.640 day and you used to do the twenty four hours 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:25.880 a day. From the baby's point view, it's a rip off, right, 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:29.600 It's like whoa Bayton switch? And from our point of view, 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:32.839 it's like, are you kidding me? This is NonStop? But 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:35.400 this is the big lie because today if you have 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:38.560 a nanny or a night nursey. You know, you're pretty 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:40.800 well off if you have two nanny's. I mean you're 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:44.919 like really well off. Who the hell has that? But 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:48.479 like what no? Okay, so I mean you don't have that. However, 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:52.640 up until a hundred years ago, everyone has five nanni's. Right, 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:58.680 your grandma, you're yeah, your extra neighbor's older daughter. Can 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:01.240 you held the baby for you? Okay? So, I mean 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:04.680 the mother was babied as much as the baby was babied. 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:07.960 In fact, in many cultures they have a hundred years, 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:11.400 a hundred days ceremony where for the first hundred days 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.280 you don't leave the house. You are taking care of. 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:17.000 You were bathed, you were fed, you were pampered first 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:19.880 forty days. But I didn't know the first hundred days. Yeah, 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:23.160 so many many Asian countries, guys, you hear it here 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:26.039 on Katie's Crib. First, can we start a sucking movement 0:06:26.960 --> 0:06:30.159 called the first hundred days where the mom and the 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.880 baby are just totally taken care of for a hundred days, Like, 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:34.800 why can't that be happening? And you know, we just 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.040 came back from Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving, all you Katie's Crib 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:41.400 listeners and viewers, but there was a six week old 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:43.799 baby there, and I think she had a wonderful weekend 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:46.760 because every time the baby was like fussy or communicating, 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.880 the baby got passed around to grandma too great grandma, 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.440 to aunts, to uncles, two cousins, and so the baby 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:56.680 was always like I was getting new someone who had 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:59.240 energy when the mom is so tired, like I can't 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:01.360 be holding the baby and I know the baby wants 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:03.560 to be held right now. No mother in history ever 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:05.520 did that. And women, this is one of the things 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:10.160 that so upsetting to me because women are told, hey, listen, 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:13.320 you decide to have a baby, so this is your responsibility. 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.160 Now it's your problem, and don't complain about it because 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.040 you wanted to be a mom. Well I did want 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.040 to be a mom, but I do have to sleep also, 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:24.160 and everyone's different. Some people do fine without sleep, other 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:28.040 people it's total torture. Well, I understood for the first 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:30.800 time ever why sleep deprivation is a form of torture. 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:32.880 More times, I was like, if I got behind the 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:34.520 wheel of a car right now, I might drive off 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:38.000 a cliff that I can't do only four hours of sleep. 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.440 I can for a week, but I can't do it 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:44.080 four weeks well, and even the four hours, it's broken 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:46.440 up in little pieces. It's not even continual sleep to 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.080 get as a new mom, and that makes it even Tougher. 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:55.400 Studies definitely show that if you get six hours or less, 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:59.960 you're essentially equivalent to a drunk person. You get into 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:03.160 car accidents the way drunk people can take constance. You 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.520 do you're kind of disoriented, and some people, again are 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:08.320 much more sensitive to that. It's not even six hours, 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:12.000 it's broken up little pieces of six hours. So the 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:17.400 fourth fourth just wanting to follow up this one point 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:24.680 about being drunk. Yeah, besides momagers, um we um. It's 0:08:24.680 --> 0:08:30.440 a really serious issue because so many mothers accidentally or 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:35.719 intentionally fall asleep with the baby and and you'll read, oh, well, 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:38.480 in other cultures they do that and it encourages breastfeeding, 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:42.560 and and there's some truth to that. However, you would 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:46.040 never bring your baby in bed with you if you 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:49.760 were drunk, Well, why would you do it? If you're 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:53.079 so exhausted, you're the equivalent of drunk. And video studies 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:55.880 have been done that show that mothers, you know you're 0:08:55.920 --> 0:08:58.920 not you just you think you have one eye open 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:01.600 all night long. But you own you're so tired that 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:03.959 you fall into a deep sleep and you can pull 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:08.120 the blankets. Over seventy almost four thousand babies die each 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:10.720 year in the United States in the first year of 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:15.040 life in their sleep. Of those babies die in bed 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.760 with their parents or in another unsafe place, like on 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:20.920 the sofa with their parents. Things like that. Terrible say 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.720 I did. It happened to us once when Albi was 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:27.000 really little, like maybe six weeks. I was so tired. 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:29.719 Adam went out for one thing for the night for 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:32.360 a couple of hours, and I was I never took 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:34.079 him in bed with me. I always breastfed him in 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:37.400 a chair in his room, but I was like, I'm 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.640 going to try it, and I breastfed laying down in 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:41.439 my bed. And the next thing I knew, Adam came 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.040 in and he was like Katie, Katie, And I was 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.560 like what, And he said, Albie's head looked really weird. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.960 He had gotten himself now a blanket wasn't over and 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.160 he had gotten himself in a position. And I fell 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:52.760 asleep and I didn't even realize, No, no, you don't 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:54.360 And I don't know for how long, and I don't 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:57.400 know me you know, Harry, there's something called micro asleep. 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:00.320 This is a little a little science here. So we 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:02.200 go to sleep, we think, okay, and now I'm going 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:03.560 to go to bed. I put my head on the 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:05.920 pillow and then I fall asleep. And you think that 0:10:06.440 --> 0:10:09.440 you're kind of aware when you're allowing yourself to fall asleep. 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:12.920 But actually there's something called microsleep, which is when part 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.160 of the brain goes to sleep before all of the 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:17.760 brain goes to sleep. And this is what happens when 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:19.840 you're driving and you know you're tired, and your eyes 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:21.880 are rolling around a little bit, but you're still awake, 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:25.479 and then suddenly you fell asleep. When you have microsleep, 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:28.800 the brain is so close that boom, just in a second, 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:32.160 the lights can go off, I mean in your head 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:34.440 and you can fall asleep. And that's what happens with 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:38.160 the baby because it's cozy and swede and I freaking tire. Yeah. 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:43.360 So just the five s is that are a savior 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:46.640 for women, especially in this first three months where a 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.280 baby can be really, really fussy, because like you said, 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:51.600 they're not really ready to be outside of their mom yet. 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:55.800 They have to scientifically and physically. But the five S 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:58.480 stand for it. Right, So the five s is are 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:03.720 five ways to imitate the womb. And interestingly, they don't 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.480 just make the baby nostalgic. Oh cool, this is where 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:08.640 I used to live. It's not like that. It's you're 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:12.800 actually turning on a reflex, a response that's built into 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:18.040 the baby. So babies are are okay learners, but they're 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:19.920 not great yet, right, It's gonna take a few years 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.959 to get great. But they do learn things in the womb. 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:26.679 They're learning to recognize flavors, recognize your voice, recognize the 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:31.520 sounds around them. Um. But mostly babies are built on reflexes, 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:34.319 which is built in software. So in other words, when 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.840 you buy a computer already has stuff there that allows 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:39.720 you to start using it right away, babies have stuff 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:42.880 in there that's pre programmed. So sucking, you don't teach 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.000 your baby how to suck, how to cry, how to swallow, 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.960 how to blink. That stuff has to be there for survival. 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:53.840 Even even you know, there are ancient reflexes that are there. 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:56.120 Like you put something in the baby's hand, they grab 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:58.480 on you. You put something in the baby's foot, it 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.960 grabs on you. Is that you know? That's an interesting one. 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:06.880 So um. It turns out that what's the new information 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:09.360 and Happiest Baby is this idea that babies actually have 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.880 a reflex we never knew about before, which is like 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:14.440 an off switch for crying in an on switch for sleep. 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.920 It's not really a switch, but it kind of gets 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:20.960 them there if they're if they're ready to like, if 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.360 the baby is super hungry, you can do the five 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:25.640 s is. It's never gonna it's never gonna work because 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:27.920 they need something else. But if they're you know, kind 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:31.160 of not hungry and they're not in discomfort, it'll ease 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:34.760 them into into sleep and sometimes it will calm crying 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:37.160 in seconds. Oh I've seen you on the video but 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:39.839 there there you go. It's like you guys the great 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:42.080 How long is that dvd? And half hour? There's a 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:45.760 half hour dvd Happiest Baby on the DVD and they 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:49.680 they hand you screaming babies and it's Adam, and Adam 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.600 would always do an imitation of it where like you know, 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:56.920 they just go like livet in their arms. It's absolutely incredible. Well, 0:12:56.960 --> 0:12:59.280 and my my publisher hates me to say this, but 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:01.600 I really really recommend. I mean, the book is a 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:06.360 really interesting books read the book, but the only baby 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:13.520 book I read, actually I did. I tried pregnant to 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.360 make it through a lot of books. I really tried, 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:17.440 but I was really tired and I would get through stuff. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.800 But yours, I actually read the whole thing because it's 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.400 it's it's my type of book. It's broken up in chapters, 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:25.640 so it's very goal oriented for me. Yeah, like it's 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:28.120 very and it's not like huge or you know, it 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:31.479 was just but anyway, the way you learn the techniques, 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:34.480 it's really by watching, and so I encourage people to 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:36.319 watch the video, kind of like learning how to tie 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.160 your shoelaces. You can learn it from a book, but 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:42.400 but it's better to see it. Yeah, and especially for guys, 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:45.760 because men actually are great at it. They're the best 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:49.439 in the family. Men are terrible at breastfeeding, but men 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:54.839 are really really good at baby coming. Um. They swaddle, snugger, 0:13:55.080 --> 0:14:00.320 they jiggle more jiggling. It was horrible, it's horrible. Well anyway, 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.200 so the five is stand for our five ways of 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:05.600 imitating the womb. Swaddling is the first is the cornerstone 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:10.560 arms down actually's best um and there's people get confused 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:12.360 about that, but it's really, that's the way it works, 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:15.240 even though it looks weird and like you would hate it. 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:17.800 But babies don't get the vote. And this is an 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:21.040 important thing everyone. Some people go, my baby doesn't like it, 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:23.600 because kids, when they're upset, they'll struggle and fight you, 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:27.080 and you'll think that the baby doesn't like it. They 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:28.960 need it. They need it. They don't know it's best 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.440 for the swaddled for months and then when he got 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:36.440 out of we slowly decided at like around three or 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:41.960 four months two. Then he spent time unswaddled just one arm, 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:44.760 and then like weeks later he got the other arm 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:46.880 and we only swaddled the legs, and then weeks later 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.720 he got the legs out because he slowly introduced him 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:53.400 to freedom. Right, No, that's right for whatever they can handle. Yes, 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:59.800 you know so, um so that's swaddling and swaddling offen 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:02.440 Tis most of the time doesn't turn on the calming reflex. 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.840 In fact, sometimes they cry more, and that's what makes 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.200 you think that they don't like it. But they have 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.960 to be swaddled. It makes everything else work better, and 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:12.800 then it also allows them to be calm or longer 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.360 because they're not upsetting themselves with because if they're not 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:16.960 swallowed in the middle of the night and they go 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:19.480 like that, they wake themselves up. We're crying, We're here 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:21.480 all over again. But if they have that thing but 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:23.720 they feel like they're in the womb and it's still constricted, 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.880 that's right. They're not wagging themselves in the face now. 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.440 So that's the first step, and then you layer on 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.920 the other four things. So then it's the side or 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:35.040 stomach position. The back is the worst position for calming 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:37.480 a baby. It's the best position for sleep, the only 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:41.040 safe position for sleep, So side stomach is never for sleeping, 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.080 only the back for sleeping. But the back is the 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.520 worst because they kind of feel like they're falling. The 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:50.880 third is um is sure in your arm, you put 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:53.200 them on their side, or you put them on their stomach, 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.600 exactly right, so they call that the football hold or 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:59.160 up over your shoulder where they're leaning forward. Um. The 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:03.560 third S is sure or white noise, but it has 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.080 to be we'll talk about this maybe in a minute. 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:08.720 There's different types of white noise. Some work better for crying, 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:12.000 some work better for sleep. The third S is swinging 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:15.360 or rhythmic motion. UH. And the and The fifth test 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:19.440 is sucking, and every baby is different. They all need swaddling. 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.840 But some babies you swallow them and do the sound 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:26.000 and their golden. Other babies should swallow and do the sound. 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:29.080 It does nothing until you have the motion. Other babies 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:32.640 need this sucking. Some babies need all five at the 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:37.080 same time to turn on the reflex and even vigorously 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:41.720 like and once you get them calm and again, if 0:16:41.720 --> 0:16:45.120 you do it right, oftentimes it happens in seconds. Then 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:49.000 you kind of slow it down and kind of gradually 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:54.560 get them to kind of downshift into into sleep. Um. 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.960 We have to talk about this new which we used 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:03.560 like crazy um and was like having what you would 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:06.159 say a night nurse or a nanny or any of 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:11.000 your cousins. That's kind of doing it itself right. So 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:14.560 here's the thing. You should have your older sister with 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:16.840 you and she would come in and say, you know, Katie, 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:19.800 you guys sleep. I'm gonna hold rock and shush the 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:23.000 baby all night long. The baby gets upsettled, jiggle and 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:24.560 shish a little more. And if I can't come the 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:27.960 baby down, I'm getting you to feed the baby. And 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.399 what happens is that when babies wake up in the 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:33.320 middle of the night. Number one, if you just put 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:38.680 the baby in a regular bassonet, they're lying there. It's 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:43.280 so different than the world inside. So that's why they 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:46.480 don't sleep well. You could sleep on the on the 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:49.120 cement floor if you had to. You're not gonna sleep well, 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.639 but you will sleep because you're gonna be so tired. 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:54.960 Babies will sleep on their backs in a quiet, still bead, 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:57.320 they're just going to wake up more so if you 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:00.720 swaddle them safely and you use the type of white 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:03.359 noise and you use the right type of motion. So 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:07.000 for babies who are asleep, of course, it's just natural, right, 0:18:07.040 --> 0:18:10.040 it's just general rock feels like they're still in there. Yeah, exactly, 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:12.960 because even all night long when you're pregnant, every time 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:16.359 you breathe, your diet fragm is moving and rocking your baby. 0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:21.160 So so they expect that they Why take away everything 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:24.000 that I love and I need to sleep? I just guys, born, 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:26.600 why are you taking it always from me? Then? What 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:30.000 snow does, in addition to rocking and shishing all night 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:34.280 is that it hears when the baby cries and responds 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:40.600 with a little bit more jiggle and shish well, you 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:44.639 know we built it, uh my initials super chice looking 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:48.359 thanks like just Google snow. We'll put a link to 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:51.800 it on on we of Katie's crib notes below every podcast. 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:56.400 But it's beautiful, Like it's so beautiful. We're the most 0:18:56.440 --> 0:19:01.200 awarded baby product in history for innovation, technology, of ge, safety, 0:19:01.359 --> 0:19:04.080 and design. It's in three of the leading art museums 0:19:04.160 --> 0:19:05.760 around the world. We loved it because I was a 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:10.159 bad swaddler and so this new comes with a really 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:15.600 beautifully tight zip up a bowl sleep sack sort of 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:17.080 thing that you put the baby in, and it is 0:19:17.359 --> 0:19:20.040 a swat. It's a swaddle, but I'm not doing it 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:21.959 with all this material that he's getting out of it. 0:19:21.960 --> 0:19:26.440 It's terrible. Um. And then it has was it four 0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:29.520 different levels, so it's four different levels of sound in 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:32.200 motion and then the baseline which is where they sleep. 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:35.320 But it has an app because some kids need a 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:39.800 little yea. The app also every day you can you 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:42.479 get a download graphic of how your baby slapped and 0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:45.080 how how it's changing over the last week. It's the 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:48.480 biggest deal. Lever like Beyonce uses it. We have a 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:52.880 lot of a lot of I'm saying I heard that 0:19:52.960 --> 0:19:56.919 Beyonce used it. It's beautiful, it's amazing, and it's really 0:19:57.960 --> 0:20:02.760 as far as yes, it is a pricey crib, but 0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:05.280 you're not paying for a night nurse which is like 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:08.399 two thousand dollars a week, and you can't pay for sleep, 0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:11.520 which is literally the only most thing you need that 0:20:11.560 --> 0:20:14.480 you would so here for Here's there are two There 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:18.000 are two questions that people have about snow when they 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:20.800 hear about it. Uh, two big ones. One is, oh, 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:22.240 my god, my baby is going to get used to it, 0:20:22.240 --> 0:20:23.920 and then my baby's never going to get my baby 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:25.720 off of it. And it turns out it's a piece 0:20:25.720 --> 0:20:27.960 of cake if you wait for five six months, because 0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:30.919 then your baby is mature enough to move out. So 0:20:30.960 --> 0:20:32.920 it's kind of like eating food. You give your baby 0:20:32.960 --> 0:20:35.639 milk for every meal for the first six months. You 0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:38.120 don't worry. They're never going to eat food, right, I mean, 0:20:38.160 --> 0:20:40.080 you know they will when the time is right. And 0:20:40.119 --> 0:20:42.160 the same thing happens with sleep once they get into 0:20:42.200 --> 0:20:45.439 a really great sleep pattern. So snoop by the motion 0:20:45.480 --> 0:20:48.680 and sound, trains babies to be better sleepers. It immediately 0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:51.200 adds an extra hour to two to a baby's sleep 0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:54.000 and usually by two three months, or sleeping seven eight 0:20:54.040 --> 0:20:59.199 hours straight, I mean dream the same thing happening and 0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:01.199 he's seven to seven now and we trained them out 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:03.320 of it. No problem, there you come. So that's the 0:21:03.359 --> 0:21:05.800 one thing. The second thing is the price. It turns 0:21:05.920 --> 0:21:08.280 out though that I mean, we have sales all the 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:13.560 time anyway on the website, but it's which is pricey 0:21:13.640 --> 0:21:16.520 for a baby bed, but this is a gorgeous bed, 0:21:17.040 --> 0:21:19.919 the most sophisticated, white noise machine, the safest swing. The 0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:22.280 baby is swaddled and attached to the bed so they 0:21:22.280 --> 0:21:24.440 can't roll to an unsafe position. So it's the safest 0:21:24.440 --> 0:21:27.560