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Speaker 1: My wife gave birth to a biracial baby, which clearly

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Speaker 1: isn't mine, and I want a divorce, but what she

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Speaker 1: did next made it near impossible.

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Speaker 2: Let's see what is going to happen here.

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Speaker 1: A month ago, my wife gave birth to a black

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Speaker 1: baby girl. We are both white.

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Speaker 3: That's I mean, coming out of the gate, that's that's

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Speaker 3: that's a big accusation, Like, how are you sure?

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Speaker 2: Is my initial?

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm no, I'm no geneticist. Yeah no,

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Speaker 1: I'm no no domas. I'm I'm not even a domas.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know shit, but uh it seems like there

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Speaker 1: might be some something. So she was forced to admit

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Speaker 1: that the child was a result of a one night

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Speaker 1: stand last year.

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Speaker 3: Oh yo, So she just came out the gate like, yes,

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Speaker 3: this happened.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Also, man's shooting bullets from one night stand, one night

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Speaker 5: stand instapregnant man shooting bullets his his swimmers with his

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Speaker 5: swimmers would beat Michael Phelps.

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Speaker 4: I know, man gravy.

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Speaker 1: So I started the divorce proceedings, although we're still living

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Speaker 1: together for now. Between our two boys, age two and four,

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Speaker 1: I've had paternity tests for them and they came back positive.

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Speaker 1: So those kids are his, Okay, Between our two boys,

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Speaker 1: age two and four, I've had paternity tests and for them,

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Speaker 1: and they came back positive. Her infant daughter and her

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Speaker 1: having lost her job to COVID, living together as amicably

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Speaker 1: as possible until the divorce is settled is an unfortunate necessity.

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Speaker 3: Right, So he can't just like she technically could, but

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Speaker 3: she'd be like her and the baby.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's bad.

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Speaker 2: That's bad.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Naturally, I have no ill will towards the baby,

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Speaker 1: and I've been disgusted by some of the comments I've

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Speaker 1: heard from family members, friends and coworkers and others, all

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Speaker 1: who seem to be fixated on the racial angle of

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Speaker 1: this awful, as if the most salient part of this

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Speaker 1: isn't that my wife cheated, but somehow it's with a

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Speaker 1: black guy and that the baby is black. But honestly,

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Speaker 1: like this is, that's not that. What matters. What matters

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Speaker 1: is the infidelity. And also I love how like the

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Speaker 1: husband is still trying to like do right by life

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Speaker 1: and by the kid, but like, hot, damn, he should

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Speaker 1: have you know seen this coming. Yes, you should have

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Speaker 1: researched her beforehand or something yeah, exactly. You can use

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Speaker 1: public data check just to be sure, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean. Yeah, you can look up people as like

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Speaker 1: real names, their addresses, criminal records, any skeletons that might

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Speaker 1: be in the closet.

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 3: So if you have someone that you're not too sure about,

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Speaker 3: use public data check dot com or check our biolink.

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Speaker 4: Oh well, back to the stories.

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Speaker 1: So what really worries me, this is from Opie's perspective

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Speaker 1: and my two sons, is that they might pick up

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Speaker 1: on these narratives, like these things that are going on. Right,

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Speaker 1: they're too young to really understand what's happening now, but

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Speaker 1: I'm worried that as they grow to understand the situation,

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Speaker 1: that they might grow to resent their half sister for

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Speaker 1: breaking up their parents' marriage.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, wow, I didn't even that didn't cross my mind.

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Speaker 1: Oh he's thinking ahead, dude, he's thinking. He's thinking, so,

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Speaker 1: I mean, for everything that's going on, he's thinking very

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Speaker 1: clearly and very empathetically, which is really cool. Yes, and worse,

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Speaker 1: the resentment might express itself in a racist fashion. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: under the influence of the aforementioned racist narratives. Right, Like

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Speaker 1: if all the coworkers and families are saying racist, then

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Speaker 1: it's like the.

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Speaker 4: Kids get picked up on it.

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Speaker 2: Undred percent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so damn, he's like playing forty chess over, Yes,

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Speaker 1: as he should be. Any thoughts on how I should

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Speaker 1: try to influence my sons away from that perspective. It

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Speaker 1: probably doesn't help that we live in a suburb with

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Speaker 1: Oh man, I don't know what well, just really quick, yeah,

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Speaker 1: there is an updates before we get into it.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I hear what you think.

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Speaker 2: One hundred percent.

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Speaker 3: He should sit both of them down and like explain it,

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Speaker 3: probably multiple times when as they grow up, you think,

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Speaker 3: got to do it multiple times because they won't unders

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Speaker 3: remember now. But the subconscious biases can like sink in

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Speaker 3: mommy and daddy are are going to live separately.

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Speaker 1: This is your half sister. You know, she might not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no reason. There's no reason that you should

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Speaker 2: love her the same way to her.

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Speaker 3: Feel angry at her, or feel anything like you know

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Speaker 3: that wasn't And I think just having that conversation like

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Speaker 4: That's super smart.

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Speaker 1: I've actually never thought about like I've always thought of that, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: like when you had the sex talk with your kids, yeah,

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Speaker 1: or like stuff like that. Yeah, but like you can

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Speaker 1: you can just have that conversation multiple times at different levels.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm sure different scenarios require this thing. But

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Speaker 3: this I think he has gonna be careful of any

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Speaker 3: some conscious bias sinking in it. Now, do it early

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Speaker 3: and then just keep just do it, and they'll obviously

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Speaker 4: So there is an update.

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Speaker 1: Oh. The big takeaway for me was that I'd need

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Speaker 1: to lead by example here, not excluding her in any

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Speaker 3: That's great. Honestly, I've this approach is great. He's listening,

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Speaker 3: he's asking very smart.

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Speaker 1: Also, I need to be more active in confronting the

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Speaker 1: bigoted and ignorant nonsense I've been hearing and teach my

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Speaker 2: Yes, definitely.

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Speaker 1: I spoken to some of those responsible since and made

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Speaker 2: Good. So what you gotta do.

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Speaker 1: I've spoken to my wife about this. I love he's

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Speaker 1: kind of hear people do that sometimes. Yeah, it's rough.

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Speaker 1: I mean, when you think of someone for so long

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Speaker 1: as your wife like it, I get it, shed and

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Speaker 1: we're more and less on the same page. She's been

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Speaker 1: the divorce, but that's not going to happen. Even if

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Speaker 1: I didn't consider the cheating unforgivable, I just don't feel

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Speaker 1: for her as the mother of my children. My sons

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Speaker 1: are handling this as well as can be expected. My

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Speaker 1: the change in the household. Thankfully, he's easily distracted. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: give him like some a three DS.

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Speaker 4: That's dating me? Remember three D.

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Speaker 3: I guess that is dated. Huh psp, Yeah, that's old,

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Speaker 3: that's old.

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Speaker 2: I remember the thing with A or d S. D

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Speaker 3: And I remember it was like you could send like

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Speaker 3: and that's how a certain thing started.

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Speaker 2: What between kids, you know?

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Speaker 3: Give you give a you know, a twelve year old

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Speaker 3: coming into puberty, no way, way or just like messaging

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Speaker 2: Know what I mean, like flirting and like your idea.

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Speaker 3: I never had any that was like I didn't have

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Speaker 3: a DS, but I I witness I witnessed whoa I

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Speaker 3: like drawn like dirty pictures they're just like, yeah, getting

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Speaker 4: No way, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: My two year old is thankfully too young to comprehend

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Speaker 1: what's going on, but has definitely picked up on how

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Speaker 4: That's good.

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Speaker 1: My wife isn't in good shape at all. She's depressed

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Speaker 1: even before birth, and now with everything our divorce or

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Speaker 1: infidelity being revealed, in the backlash from family and friends,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it makes sense.

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Speaker 3: It's like why he get her to understand the error

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Speaker 3: for ways and growth from it. Like no, yeah, Like

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Speaker 3: I don't think continually punishing.

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Speaker 1: How much she still has to be the mother to

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Speaker 1: that other exact two kids. So you don't want her

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Speaker 4: Also, I'm just.

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Speaker 1: Realizing right now, like he didn't find out until the

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Speaker 1: what they call it, and like you're just like, that's

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Speaker 1: not my baby.

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Speaker 2: Dude, that would be fucked that.

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Speaker 4: Really, I didn't even think about it because.

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Speaker 2: You have because there's the delivery room. But for nine months, yeah,

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Speaker 2: up to it. That's my kid, this is your child.

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Speaker 3: You're getting ready like you're just mentally and then that

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Speaker 3: like that switch up is just insane.

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Speaker 4: Can you imagine?

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Speaker 2: And so that would be so fucked Wow.

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Speaker 1: It's become very obvious to me that even athlete and

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Speaker 1: divorce is finalized, we're going to have to live together

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Speaker 1: for a while. She's in no shape to be taking

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Speaker 1: care of three kids without someone else around to support her,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not willing to deprive her of her sons

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Speaker 1: by seeking soul custody. It's also too difficult financially. She's

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Speaker 1: lost her job because of COVID. Like what you gotta

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Speaker 1: do again? Salute to you, Opie. This is good stuff.

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Speaker 1: As for the baby girl, she's healthy and fairly easy

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Speaker 1: by baby standards. Since I've been helping take care for her,

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Speaker 1: I've bonded with her and I've discussed the possibility of

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Speaker 1: adopting her with my wife. She can't contact the father

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Speaker 1: as the only thing she knows about him is his

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Speaker 1: first name, damn bro.

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Speaker 2: Come on, Opie's wife, come on?

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Speaker 3: Oh God, Oh wat's that name be a fake name? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Damn bro.

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Speaker 1: And given our co parenting situation, it feels like adopting

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Speaker 4: Is it the right thing? Well?

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Speaker 1: So here's it's like, well will it will it hurt?

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Speaker 2: I found underwear that isn't mine in my boyfriend's drawer.

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Speaker 1: Uh, that is not a good situation. No, it is not, Samuel,

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Speaker 3: So I female, twenty seven, have been with my boyfriend,

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Speaker 2: We've lived together for three of those year.

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Speaker 2: That are clearly not mine.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, little do you, guys know that we've been through

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Speaker 1: Yes, professional coach, We we are professionals, and we give

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Speaker 3: But back to the story, Op says, I clearly knew

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Speaker 3: they weren't mine because they were extra small, which is

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Speaker 3: Oh my, and things were going really well in our relationship,

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Speaker 4: You mean, what they were? He's gonna be like, it's

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Speaker 2: No, you know what it is, bro, It's.

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Speaker 1: The worst gay of jeopardy. Ever, what is this object?

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Speaker 3: At first he lied and said that he didn't know.

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Speaker 2: It's their own private washer dryer.

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Speaker 1: That makes it very suspicious. That makes it very suspicious, right,

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Speaker 3: Now the other thing is it's in our shared guest

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Speaker 3: I pressed that they are not mine, and he admitted

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Speaker 1: Wait I was not ready for that third Yeah yeah, wait,

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Speaker 1: so does he know? Does she know her man's has

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Speaker 2: Only now this is the first time.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you know this. I were not

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Speaker 4: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and like these like like like Japanese businessmen will

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Speaker 3: Because I I don't know where, I was reading in

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Speaker 4: Dirty dirty. Yeah, it's dirty, dirty.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and like they mentioned Germans as well, Germans are

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Speaker 3: No, I've never heard of it. This show is sponsored

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean like, hey, we're happy to do that.

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Speaker 4: I think you're right.

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Speaker 4: I yeah, say it's a thing that happens. It happens.

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Speaker 4: It's a thing. Bro.

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Speaker 3: Well, getting getting back to Op's ordeal, it gets a

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Speaker 3: little more complicated here. See Op is willing to accept

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Speaker 3: the underwear sniffing and just move on. But here's the

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Speaker 3: thing that she can't figure out. She doesn't know who's

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Speaker 3: underwear it is, right, Like, She's.

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Speaker 2: Still like, it's a mystery. It's a mystery.

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Speaker 3: So he contacted her old roommate twenty five female, and

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Speaker 3: she swears that they are not hers and she's never

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Speaker 3: seen them. She also contacted her new roommate, twenty three

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Speaker 3: male and his girlfriend who comes over occasionally. They aren't

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Speaker 3: hers either, And I confirmed with my roommate that he

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Speaker 3: has not had other girls in the apartment. But if

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Speaker 3: that's what it is, it's just that the roommate was

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Speaker 3: sneaking around.

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Speaker 4: Oh the other roommatemate his girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: That would be a plot.

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Speaker 4: Fat.

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Speaker 3: Oh, Now the unit is pretty new, so I don't

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Speaker 3: know if it's possible that they are from the old tenant.

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Speaker 2: We've lived here for three years. Three year old underwear,

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't think so maybe maybe he saw it and

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Speaker 1: kept it around for a long time, because you know,

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Speaker 1: like Panny's age, like fine wine.

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Speaker 3: They say, well, he's well, he said that he like literally,

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Speaker 3: like I think he said he recently found him and

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Speaker 3: threw them right on top existing, so it seemed to

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Speaker 3: be like a recent an event. Now I've only told

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Speaker 3: a few people because it really is just underwear sniffing,

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Speaker 3: Like it's not that intense in op's perspective, and I

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Speaker 3: don't want to humiliate my boyfriend. I truly love him,

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Speaker 3: and I see myself spending my life with him. My

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Speaker 3: therapist thinks he wouldn't cheat on me, and that it's

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Speaker 3: not plausible and I should let it go. Now I

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Speaker 3: disagree with the therapists here. I'm like, I think it's

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Speaker 3: still plausible that he could be cheating.

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Speaker 4: But I think it's still plausible.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just thinking, like, sometimes I do laundry at

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Speaker 1: my parents' house, and there have been times where I

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Speaker 1: come back with my laundry and there is underwear that

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Speaker 1: is that is either my sisters.

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Speaker 4: Or my mom's.

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Speaker 1: Right, I don't want that underwear, but I forget to

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Speaker 1: bring it back, and so I probably have.

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Speaker 4: Some my parents or sisters underware. This is so good.

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Speaker 3: That is a theory that have the parents visited, has

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Speaker 3: a sister in law visited. That's actually a decent theory.

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Speaker 4: I think there's a lot.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot that could be going on there. I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't say he's cheating. I I don't believe it.

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Speaker 3: Well, I guess against that. A couple of my friends disagree.

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Speaker 3: They do think that he could be going out cheating.

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Speaker 3: I want so badly to just let it go, but

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Speaker 3: I don't know whose underwear it is, and they didn't

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Speaker 3: just appear out of nowhere. I honestly don't even know

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Speaker 3: what to think. I just came here to write it out.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't. I don't think it's a big deal.

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Speaker 3: It's tricky because if it really is the underwear sniffing thing,

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Speaker 3: then absolutely I agree with you.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's a big deal, but I am.

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Speaker 3: I am still suss about Op's boyfriend because I don't know, like.

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Speaker 2: How how how would they get there? I like your theory.

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Speaker 4: If he's just ordering it from the internet, that.

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Speaker 3: Is also possible. But then why did why didn't he

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Speaker 3: say that, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Because that would embarrassed about the about the situation.

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Speaker 2: It's possible, but he admitted to it, you know.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, I don't know. There is some plot holes, yeah,

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Speaker 4: definitely that are concerning.

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Speaker 2: But if it truly is just an underwear sniffing, that's

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Speaker 2: a big deal.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, sniff some underwear. I have a few laughs, It's fine.

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Speaker 2: You know what viewers could do other than sniffing underwear?

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