1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 1: Hey, lady, is doctor dom here. If you like this 2 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: show and you want to make your own, let me 3 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: tell you about the free platform Anchor. It's a creation 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: tool that allows you to record and edit your podcast 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: right from your phone or computer. You can add songs 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: from Spotify and create any type of content that you 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: are looking for. 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We we're your hosts, Doctor Dominique Bruce, a 19 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 3: college professor and psychologist, and. 20 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:06,399 Speaker 2: Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a world 21 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 2: where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please join 22 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 2: us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from five 23 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 2: boys to fake friends, and create a safe space where 24 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 2: black women. 25 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 4: Can just be. 26 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 5: So here we are. 27 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 4: We are Season three finale. 28 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 2: Season three finale, unbelievable. 29 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 3: Three quarters of the way through the years. So like 30 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 3: we're going into like fourth quarters. So like if you 31 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:38,960 Speaker 3: watch college football, then usually when it's time for the 32 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 3: fourth quarter of the star people get up and your 33 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 3: school has their own special dance, their own special shout out. 34 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 3: So we're going into quarter four. 35 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 2: Yes, tell I know it's crazy, you know what, We've 36 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 2: been doing this for what nine months now, We've had 37 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 2: this podcast later for nine months, and if you've been 38 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 2: tuning in from the beginning, hey girl, we thank you, 39 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 2: We appreciate you. But also I'm just still blown away 40 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 2: that we actually have a podcast. It still seems so 41 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 2: surreal to me because this was just an idea. And 42 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 2: I feel like we say that on every season finale 43 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 2: where it's like this was just an idea. I still 44 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 2: cannot believe that we are here, like this is something 45 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 2: we do every week. 46 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 3: And this season, not only did we hit fifty thousand 47 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 3: downloads this season, we also doubled that and by the 48 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 3: time this episode is airing, we have well over one 49 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 3: hundred thousand unique downloads since starting in January. Lady, I 50 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 3: don't think you fully understand how grateful we are to 51 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 3: you if it wasn't for you tuning in with us 52 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 3: every Friday and sharing this with your family and friends 53 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 3: and sharing this with your COVID workers and whoever else 54 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 3: wants to hear you say, girl, go check out her 55 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:09,520 Speaker 3: space podcast. From the bottom of our hearts, like, for real, 56 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 3: for real, we appreciate you. 57 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I am such a big baby because I guess 58 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,639 Speaker 2: so emotional, Like people don't have like you don't have 59 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 2: to tune in, you don't have to download an episode, 60 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 2: you don't have to share it with people. You don't 61 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 2: have to leave comments or leave reviews. And I think 62 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 2: for us, like, I mean, I would say that you 63 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 2: probably feel the same way down I think it validates 64 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: our work. I mean, I think back to when we 65 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,119 Speaker 2: met at Hazel's and we were like, girl, I want 66 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 2: to do something for black women. What should we do? 67 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 2: And we were just like, well, I'm busy, you're busy. 68 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 2: We both have jobs, Like I don't know, we don't 69 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 2: have a lot of time to do it. But sometimes 70 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 2: when you just take the leap and we were like, 71 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 2: we're gonna do a podcast, and now we're at this 72 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 2: point where and this feels like it's just the beginning. 73 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 2: I'm just like, whoa. This was so needed and lady, 74 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,000 Speaker 2: I mean, you're you're showing up and letting us know 75 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 2: that we're on the right track. So thank you so 76 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 2: much for that. All the comments, all of the dms, 77 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 2: the stories, I mean, and just the things that we hear. 78 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 2: I'm just like, oh my gosh. So this episode, as 79 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 2: you know if you've been tuning in, this is going 80 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 2: to be our season finale where we just showcase some 81 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 2: of the highlights and things that stood out to us 82 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 2: during this season. 83 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 3: So the first thing that we want to highlight is 84 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 3: to remind everyone that we have a wedding dress giveaway 85 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 3: going on. So check us out on Instagram and you 86 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 3: could be the winner of tease wedding dress. 87 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 4: Tell us more about it. 88 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, So, if you tuned into our episode on Grief, 89 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 2: I talked a bit about my grandmother passing away and 90 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 2: a ritual that I've sort of begun in my family 91 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 2: where we create legacy videos and so, long story short, 92 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 2: my grandmother was such an instrumental part of my life 93 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 2: and was also someone that helped out with my wedding 94 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,559 Speaker 2: and she was so altruistic and she always just gave 95 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 2: of herself and gave to people. So I really wanted 96 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 2: to gift my wedding dress to a bride and need. 97 00:04:56,120 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 2: And that includes the dress, the veil, the slip, and 98 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 2: it's worth over a thousand dollars and I'm giving away 99 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 2: for free. And so if you visit her space podcast 100 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 2: dot com, you can click that little button right in 101 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 2: the middle of your screen and you can learn more 102 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 2: about how to enter. That contest is super easy. We 103 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 2: have not had a lot of participants yet, so there's 104 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 2: a very good chance that you could win, but you 105 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 2: got to act fast because the deadline is September thirtieth, 106 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 2: So be sure to do that lady. 107 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 3: And know that even if you are not the person 108 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 3: who is getting married, know that if you know someone, 109 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 3: you can enter this contest on their behalf. We want 110 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:41,600 Speaker 3: to make sure that this dress goes to a loving, 111 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 3: caring home. 112 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 2: That's right. And as far as the highlights, so Dom 113 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 2: and I we interviewed a lot of guests this season. 114 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 2: So we started the season off with an episode on 115 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 2: sleep and why you should sleep and why it's important. 116 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 2: Then episode two was about our It was our anniversary, 117 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 2: and that's when we released a bloopers reel which to 118 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 2: see the very silly side of us. 119 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 6: Yeah. 120 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, So if you haven't checked that one out, going 121 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 3: ahead and go check that out so that you can 122 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:11,000 Speaker 3: really yeah, catch that silly side, catch those behind the 123 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 3: scene moments of her space yep. 124 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 2: And then we talked about five tips to help you 125 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 2: get on track and find your passion. That was a 126 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 2: really popular episode. We also did an episode on what 127 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:23,039 Speaker 2: to do when life comes at you fast. I think 128 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 2: that was the episode where we I was in Philly, right, yeah, 129 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 2: you were. That was the week of me going home 130 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 2: for my grandmother's funeral. It was so chaotic, so dramatic, 131 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 2: so emotional, and oh do I remember I was breaking 132 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 2: out really really bad that week because I was stressed. 133 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 2: I was in the hotel in Philly. You were in 134 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 2: San Francisco or in Oakland. Yeah. I think you had 135 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:46,159 Speaker 2: to teach that night, so you had to work full 136 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 2: time then teach. We recorded the podcast. We made it happen, 137 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 2: but it was like real life, like yo, we about 138 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:54,600 Speaker 2: to go behind the curtain and let you see exactly 139 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 2: how this happens. And I feel like I was so 140 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 2: all over the place mentally in the episode, but I 141 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 2: think we were able to share some really good tips 142 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,839 Speaker 2: on what to do well. Life just throws you curveballs, okay. 143 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 3: Because the thing was was that we really wanted to 144 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 3: make sure because we had gotten to this point halfway 145 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 3: through the year where we were consistent in putting out 146 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 3: an episode every single Friday, and again, we can't thank 147 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 3: y'all enough for listening, and because that's what fuels us 148 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 3: that in that moment, when we have so many other 149 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 3: things going on that are pulling us, that we said, no, 150 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 3: this is something that is meaningful not just to us, 151 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 3: but serves a purpose for a greater community, that we 152 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 3: need to figure out a way to make sure we 153 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 3: get this out. 154 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 2: That's right, that's right. Then we had episode five, which 155 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 2: was how to become more assertive and why it's important. 156 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 2: So in episode six we dove into how to thrive 157 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 2: as an introvert and a world built for extroverts, and 158 00:07:57,480 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 2: that was another very popular one. Ladies were like, girl, 159 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 2: you know when you speaking to me, I'm. 160 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 3: Like yus And we were speaking to so many people 161 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 3: that We're going to have an episode in this final 162 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 3: season of the year where we talk about social anxiety 163 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 3: because oftentimes, I think part of why that episode was 164 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 3: so popular is because people sometimes can mix up the 165 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 3: difference between being an extrovert and having social anxiety and 166 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 3: being shy, and those aren't the same things. So since 167 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 3: we gave you the episode on being an introvert, we 168 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:36,080 Speaker 3: want to make sure that we provide you information on 169 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 3: social anxiety, So tune in to a future episode of 170 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:40,959 Speaker 3: this season. 171 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 2: Then we had My Girl Rachel on Rachel was dropping 172 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 2: that knowledge about white supremacy and feminism, and that was 173 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 2: another episode that women were like, oh my gosh, I 174 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 2: didn't know I needed this, but I needed it and 175 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 2: I got my whole life. And one of the quotes 176 00:08:56,400 --> 00:09:01,079 Speaker 2: from that episode that Rachel dropped, she said, Christopher Columbus 177 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 2: didn't discover anything. He just happened to see something for 178 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 2: the first time, this concept that nothing exists until white 179 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 2: people see it. That's white supremacy. Wow, she broke it down, 180 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 2: she did. 181 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:16,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, I remember I had a couple of people like 182 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 3: texting me privately like damn, Like I wasn't. 183 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 4: Ready for all that. 184 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 3: Yes, in her space, we talk about everything, like we said, 185 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:32,319 Speaker 3: from fibroids to fake friends and any and everything in between. So, lady, 186 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 3: we want to keep you on your toes. We want 187 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 3: to make sure that you keep coming back to us 188 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:37,400 Speaker 3: every Friday. 189 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 5: So we. 190 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 3: Try to have a little bit of a range in 191 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:45,920 Speaker 3: the topics that we share and the guests that we 192 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 3: bring on, because we're all multifaceted women and all of 193 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 3: the topics that we bring up affect all of us 194 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 3: in some way, and white supremacy affects all of us. 195 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,959 Speaker 3: Whether we want to acknowledge it or not, it does. 196 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 3: And so that episode just had me like, Yeah. 197 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 2: Rachel's smartest shit, and I just love listening to her 198 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 2: talk and reading her work. I'm just like, girl, you 199 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 2: are so brilliant. And I think one of my favorite 200 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 2: parts about that episode is how she shared the resources 201 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 2: that she provides. So if you are over and you're like, yoah, 202 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 2: I'm tired of having to tell my friends about, you know, 203 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 2: white supremacy or having to deal with these microaggressions or 204 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 2: having to deal with this, she gives you a template 205 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 2: on how to have those conversations, because, as she stated 206 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 2: in the episode, we shouldn't always have to walk around 207 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 2: teaching people how to not be racist and how to 208 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 2: not be offensive, you know what I mean. So I 209 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 2: love that part about that episode, and. 210 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 3: I think the thing that stuck with me is something 211 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 3: that I'd been thinking about for a while too, is 212 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 3: this idea that we don't have to it is not 213 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 3: the job of the oppressed to educate the oppressor. And 214 00:10:59,880 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 3: I have since that episode, I have said that quote 215 00:11:04,160 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 3: multiple times that making sure that we understand that it 216 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:13,199 Speaker 3: is not our job to always educate the oppressor. If 217 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 3: they really want to know, they can look it up. 218 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 3: But one of the things that it also did for 219 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 3: me was it reminded me that in communities that I 220 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:26,599 Speaker 3: am not a part of, even if I'm not necessarily 221 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 3: the oppressor, in communities that I'm not a part of, 222 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 3: it is not my job. It is not my place 223 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:38,600 Speaker 3: to constantly ask them questions just because I'm curious. I 224 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 3: can go and do my Google searches, and so it 225 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 3: was also like a humbling thing for me as well. So, 226 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:48,199 Speaker 3: and that's one of the things that I love about 227 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 3: what we do is that every time we're shared, we 228 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 3: put out a new episode and we're providing information. I'm 229 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 3: not just out here like, oh, yeah, here have this 230 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 3: information because I'm this great person, I'm this expert. It's 231 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 3: oftentimes a reminder for me of like, yeah, girls. 232 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 4: Where you need to check yourself too. 233 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 2: Oh hands down. I feel like I learned so much 234 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:15,839 Speaker 2: from the episodes. I mean, even when we're going over 235 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 2: show notes or editing, I'm taking my own little notes. 236 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh damn, I got to remember that for 237 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 2: next time. You know, we get so many practical tools 238 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 2: that we share, but we're not experts on everything. So 239 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:27,040 Speaker 2: we have the experts come on here so we can 240 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:29,679 Speaker 2: learn with you. So I think that's pretty cool. And 241 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:31,720 Speaker 2: then the other cool thing is we had another guest 242 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 2: right after Rachel right, we had the doctor Joy hard 243 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:39,439 Speaker 2: and Bradford from Therapy for Black Girls. 244 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:42,600 Speaker 3: And Lady, if you are engaged in social media in 245 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 3: any way, there is no way possible that you have 246 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 3: not heard of doctor Joy and Therapy for Black Girls, 247 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 3: because she is very active on social media, and so 248 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 3: it was such a pleasure and an honor to have 249 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 3: her as a guest on our show to. 250 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 4: Talk about her journey. 251 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 3: And one of the things that I appreciated was how 252 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 3: she spoke to the importance of making sure that you 253 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 3: give back. That she had so many people that had 254 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 3: poured into her along the way, that she makes it 255 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:20,959 Speaker 3: a point to pour into other people, not just from 256 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:24,400 Speaker 3: a professional standpoint of being a psychologist. But that's part 257 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 3: of what sparked her starting Therapy for Black Girls. 258 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 2: Yes, that part, and I'm also I was very inspired 259 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 2: by the conversation, but also just by the life that 260 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 2: she's built for herself. The fact that she is a 261 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:39,400 Speaker 2: you know, a black woman, She's an entrepreneur, and she 262 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:41,840 Speaker 2: is she's doing her things, She creates her own schedule, 263 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:44,679 Speaker 2: she has the podcast and all these other resources for women, 264 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 2: and I just I think that's so it's like an 265 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 2: aspirational desire to be there one day where you can 266 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:52,320 Speaker 2: just create your own schedule, you can do what you 267 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:55,680 Speaker 2: love for a living, and you know, get back to 268 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:56,839 Speaker 2: your community. 269 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,880 Speaker 3: And make sure that you lady, as you're listening, then 270 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 3: you check out Therapy for Black Girls because one of 271 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:06,199 Speaker 3: the things that one of the reasons why we bring 272 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:09,520 Speaker 3: on guests on this show is to also like make 273 00:14:09,559 --> 00:14:13,960 Speaker 3: sure that people are aware of the multitude of resources 274 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 3: that are out there. And when we see dope women 275 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 3: doing dope things. We want to make sure we put 276 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 3: that out there that. 277 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 4: We show love. So with our fellow black girl Magic. 278 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 2: Now on, let's see, we had episode nine and that's 279 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 2: where we had my executive coach, Karean tie come on 280 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 2: and Karean ooh, she was on point two. That was 281 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 2: one of my favorite episodes. 282 00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 3: Yeah that Now, first of all, let me back up 283 00:14:41,280 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 3: and let me say that as we were getting started 284 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 3: with that episode, when we talk when I talk about 285 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 3: like that humility and that like, all right, I gotta 286 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 3: check myself. I gotta like understand something like I'm not 287 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 3: an expert and stuff. First of all, y'all, when you 288 00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 3: see Garean name, how many times did I have to 289 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 3: practice her name? Because I wanted to make sure that 290 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 3: I was getting it right. And I was like, this 291 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:10,240 Speaker 3: is her name, Like I can't, I can't fuck this up. 292 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 4: And then and then. 293 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 3: When we started talking about like fears and then like 294 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 3: I was like giving some of my like real life examples, 295 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 3: I was just like, oh wait, okay, I'm used to 296 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 3: being the therapist, used to being the one outside of 297 00:15:29,960 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 3: when I'm doing my own therapy, yeah, but used to 298 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 3: being the one that's like helping other people out, and 299 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 3: so like when it was this moment where she was 300 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:44,880 Speaker 3: like asking these questions and I was like being vulnerable, 301 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 3: And even if it didn't sound like I was being 302 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 3: vulnerable to those who were listening, talking about my fears, 303 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 3: like that was a vulnerable spot and I was like, oh, wow. 304 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 5: Okay, we're doing this. 305 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 2: I was glad that you were open too, because I 306 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 2: felt like you could feel what I could. At least 307 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 2: I could feel the energy shift when she's like, Hey, 308 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 2: don can I do this with you? And I was like, 309 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 2: oh damn. So I just got to sit back and watch, like, okay, cool. 310 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 2: I got to watch YouTube interact because when we when 311 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,240 Speaker 2: I'm in my coaching session with her, that's all she's 312 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 2: doing and asking me questions and encouraging me to grow 313 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 2: and all that. So when YouTube did it, I was like, Oh, 314 00:16:18,560 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 2: this is so dope to be able to watch it 315 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:23,640 Speaker 2: live and shared this experience with our listeners. So I 316 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 2: thought that was really cool and girl. As far as 317 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 2: the takeaways, I mean, one thing that really resonated with 318 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 2: me from that interview. You know, we talked about fear, 319 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:34,480 Speaker 2: how to make fear your greatest teacher, and the thing 320 00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:36,640 Speaker 2: that really stood out to me was getting curious, like 321 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 2: just being curious in general. So you know, I am learning. Okay, 322 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 2: so there are a few things, right, I'm getting really excited. 323 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 2: One thing we talked about was the narrative that we 324 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:52,200 Speaker 2: tell ourselves right. And I was in Chicago a few 325 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 2: weeks ago and I had to like work with the customers. 326 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 2: I flew in real quick, very quick trip. And the 327 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 2: funny thing is I got my hotel room. It was beautiful. 328 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 2: I'm all right, cool, you know, it's great. I'm chilling, relaxing, 329 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 2: and then all of a sudden, I start to hear 330 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:06,479 Speaker 2: music and I'm like, what the fuck's going on? I'm 331 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:07,800 Speaker 2: trying to do work and I like to be in 332 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 2: peace and quiet. I just really need a quiet environment 333 00:17:10,119 --> 00:17:13,440 Speaker 2: to work. And so I call the front desk. I'm like, hey, 334 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:15,719 Speaker 2: I'm hearing some music. You know what's going on. He's like, oh, 335 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:18,000 Speaker 2: they're having someone's having a private party. I was like, okay, 336 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 2: when does when do you think it'll end? He's like 337 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 2: ten thirty, And in my it was like five o'clock, 338 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 2: five or six o'clock, and I'm like, jeez. So the 339 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:26,640 Speaker 2: thing about it is my hotel room was right above 340 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 2: the restaurant and bar. So I can hear all the 341 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:31,280 Speaker 2: motherfucking music. I can hear all the turn up. I 342 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:32,160 Speaker 2: can hear everything. 343 00:17:32,280 --> 00:17:34,080 Speaker 3: Wait, you were trying to turn up on what was 344 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 3: that like a Thursday night or Thursday I would. 345 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 2: Have, but I had work to do. Yeah, I actually 346 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,399 Speaker 2: have so much work to do. I had just like, 347 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:45,440 Speaker 2: you know, put on my PJ. So I was I 348 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 2: was like in for the night for sure, after flying 349 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:51,359 Speaker 2: all day. So I'm like, all right, bet ten thirty comes, now, 350 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 2: I'm just sucking it up. I got my headphones, I'm 351 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 2: sucking it up. Ten thirty comes, I still hear music. 352 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:57,680 Speaker 2: So I'm like, all right, let me give them a 353 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:00,439 Speaker 2: couple more minutes. So about ten ten fifty, let me 354 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 2: call back. He's like, oh, it should be over soon. 355 00:18:02,119 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 2: But they didn't stop playing music until two am. So 356 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:06,600 Speaker 2: I was talking to my best friend and then my 357 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 2: husband at one point throughout that time, and I was 358 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 2: just like, you know what, I was so into the 359 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 2: narrative that I created, like I was so I was 360 00:18:15,119 --> 00:18:17,399 Speaker 2: such a victim. I was just like it's so loud, 361 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:19,320 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Like I didn't want to be the 362 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 2: victor of my story. I just wanted to be a victim, 363 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:22,920 Speaker 2: and so I wasn't trying to get curious. I wasn't 364 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 2: trying to find options or solutions. I was just embracing 365 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:30,160 Speaker 2: that moment like I'm just woe is me. And sometimes 366 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 2: in life it gets like that where we are going 367 00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 2: through a situation and you're like, I don't want to 368 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:35,840 Speaker 2: focus on solutions. I wanted to be braddy, and I 369 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:37,879 Speaker 2: just let myself do that in that space because I 370 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 2: was like the bigger picture, right, this is not a 371 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 2: serious life situation. I'm not impacting anyone. I feel like 372 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 2: being in a funk and I'm going to do that. 373 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:46,040 Speaker 2: And so it was an opportunity for me to potentially 374 00:18:46,080 --> 00:18:48,959 Speaker 2: explore being curious and find a solution. But there were 375 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 2: no other rooms in the hotel, and I was like, Okay, 376 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 2: I'm just going to be a brad about it. 377 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 4: So right, And I remember because we were supposed to 378 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 4: be recording all. 379 00:18:55,720 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 3: That night, right, right, And so you did have that 380 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 3: moment where you were like when you said you called 381 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 3: the front desk and they told you that time frame. 382 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 3: But then you also you did advocate for yourself and 383 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:12,880 Speaker 3: you were assertive and you said you knew you had 384 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:15,040 Speaker 3: stuff to do, You knew we were going to be recording, 385 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:20,120 Speaker 3: and so you didn't ask for another room. So it's 386 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 3: kind of like when life gives you lemons, you figure 387 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:27,919 Speaker 3: out what kind of drink you want to make with it. Okay, 388 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:30,320 Speaker 3: you know, are you gonna have some lemon water, You're 389 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:32,280 Speaker 3: gonna have some lemonade, or you just gonna suck them 390 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 3: limits and be sour. 391 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 2: Exactly, And I was being sour, right, And so this 392 00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:38,840 Speaker 2: episode I would definitely encourage you to check it out 393 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:40,399 Speaker 2: if you are trying to figure out how to have 394 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:44,359 Speaker 2: difficult conversations with family members. I mean, Green gave insight 395 00:19:44,440 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 2: on how to just have difficult conversations in general, or 396 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:50,439 Speaker 2: whether it's with your in laws, your partner, a difficult parent. 397 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:55,200 Speaker 2: So check out episode nine from season three. 398 00:19:55,480 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 3: So then we move into episode ten, where we talk 399 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 3: about death, and this is where we introduced our wedding 400 00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 3: dress giveaway. 401 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 4: But Terry also introduced. 402 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 3: Us to the idea of recording legacy videos and you 403 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 3: talked about your grandmother. 404 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 4: Yes, there was a lot in that episode. 405 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 2: There was a lot. And before the episode, it's funny, 406 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:25,639 Speaker 2: I was, okay, so this is a topic, right, and 407 00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 2: Dom knows this very well now, but anyone that knows 408 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 2: me very good, well, you know, like I talk about 409 00:20:31,119 --> 00:20:33,119 Speaker 2: death a lot, and I actually get kind of giddy 410 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 2: because it's very it's like a very exciting topic for 411 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:39,119 Speaker 2: me because it's just I have a different relationship and 412 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 2: connection with it. And so before we recorded, I was like, Dom, 413 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:43,919 Speaker 2: are you ready to go? And she was looking at 414 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:47,360 Speaker 2: me like, but if you don't comment, we're talking about death. 415 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 2: We ain't talking about going on the shopping spree. I 416 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:53,080 Speaker 2: was just I was so grateful for you don that 417 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:57,159 Speaker 2: day because it was such an exciting moment for me 418 00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 2: to be able to share this topic that I'm really 419 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:01,200 Speaker 2: excited about and it's not just like, oh, let's talk 420 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:02,680 Speaker 2: about death, but how can we talk about it in 421 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:06,440 Speaker 2: a productive way? And being able to share my grandmother's 422 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 2: voice with thousands of people around the world. She always 423 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 2: felt as though her impact wasn't big enough, and even 424 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:14,680 Speaker 2: though she helped so many people, and like she's just impact, 425 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,199 Speaker 2: she's influenced so many people's lives. The fact that we 426 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 2: were able to honor her and share her voice that 427 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 2: was just so amazing to me. And then the wedding 428 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,400 Speaker 2: dress giveaway was also really cool, and I just thought 429 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 2: that it was a nice a nice way to honor 430 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,359 Speaker 2: her and her legacy. But then also a woman I 431 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 2: forget who but reached out to us on Instagram. She 432 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:38,280 Speaker 2: tagged us and she shared a video of her grandmother 433 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:41,200 Speaker 2: and I was just like, oh my god, my heart, 434 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,760 Speaker 2: Like literally, if that episode did not touch anyone else, 435 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 2: shout out to our listener that tagged us on Instagram, 436 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:49,080 Speaker 2: I'm actually going to try to look for her name 437 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:51,439 Speaker 2: right now. Who tagged us on Instagram, who shared it 438 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 2: she was missing her grandmother who passed away, and she 439 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 2: said that she she enjoyed the episode and she shared 440 00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,560 Speaker 2: a video of her grandmother on her and I was 441 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 2: just like, oh my gosh, thiss, Like that is so amazing. 442 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 2: The fact that that episode prompted that, I just thought 443 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 2: it was incredible. So that was a fun episode to record. 444 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,639 Speaker 2: It was a little emotional, but it was definitely really fun. 445 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:17,640 Speaker 3: Yes, And I appreciate your willingness to share that with 446 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 3: everyone because one of the things for me, why I 447 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 3: was like looking at you, like, are you sure is 448 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 3: everything okay? Like the therapist in me was like, hmm, 449 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 3: like do I need to have an intervention here because 450 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 3: you were so giddy about it. And I think the 451 00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,399 Speaker 3: thing is is that when we talk about death, when 452 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:42,160 Speaker 3: we talk about grief, usually the conversation is very somber, 453 00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:45,880 Speaker 3: and so you were probably like the only person I 454 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:49,919 Speaker 3: know who gets excited about talking about it. 455 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 4: So that was new for me. 456 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:54,919 Speaker 3: But by the time we got through the episode, you 457 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 3: change my perspective on the idea of like legacy videos 458 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 3: and what that really means in terms of thinking about death. 459 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,520 Speaker 2: Oh, that's so cool. That was definitely a magical episode, 460 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:09,120 Speaker 2: one of my favorites. And then that moves us on 461 00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,880 Speaker 2: to another episode that was very, very tough to record. 462 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:17,639 Speaker 2: This was episode eleven, which is the silent Secret, the 463 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 2: silent Maybe we'll keep that in there for Blooper Episode eleven, 464 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 2: which is the silent secret, grief of miscarriage and the 465 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:29,520 Speaker 2: pressure to become a mom. And that's where I mean, I. 466 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,960 Speaker 3: Didn't even realize it until right now as we're talking 467 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 3: about this, that we literally went from one episode where 468 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,640 Speaker 3: we were talking about death to so we were talking 469 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,720 Speaker 3: about the end of life, and then the very next 470 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 3: week we totally switch it up on everybody and we're 471 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 3: talking about giving life like we just went complete one eighty. Yep, lady, 472 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,240 Speaker 3: thank you for rocking with us as we moved through 473 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 3: various different topics. 474 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 2: Yes, that episode was definitely tough. I thought we were 475 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,760 Speaker 2: gonna have to take a break. I had some tissues ready, 476 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 2: but it was emotional just talking about the miscarriage that 477 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 2: I had and the infertility issues that I was dealing 478 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,639 Speaker 2: with and kind of walking through all of you know, 479 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,359 Speaker 2: that whole journey. And then also my grandmother was like 480 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 2: an important piece of that too, because she wanted me 481 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:16,439 Speaker 2: to have She was excited and wanted me to have kids, 482 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 2: and then she passed away before I did, and that 483 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,359 Speaker 2: was that was That was a tough episode, but I 484 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:23,639 Speaker 2: was really grateful because it touched so many women, like 485 00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:26,760 Speaker 2: people reached out. And then I even saw a guy 486 00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 2: post on Instagram. He had shared the post and he 487 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,040 Speaker 2: was like, because what I said was I posted something 488 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 2: on social media after we did the miscarriage episode, and 489 00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 2: I was just like, I don't ask a woman when 490 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 2: she's having kids like just dope, okay, and it's not appropriate. 491 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:44,639 Speaker 2: And I shared different just thoughts and perspectives around that 492 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 2: and different ways that you can be supportive if someone 493 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 2: does have a miscarriage. And this guy shared the post 494 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:50,520 Speaker 2: and he was like, this really gave me something to 495 00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 2: think about, and I was like, okay, okay, that was 496 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 2: so cool. Yeah. Now, one thing I didn't mention the episode, 497 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,600 Speaker 2: and you know, you record content and then later you 498 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,399 Speaker 2: listen to it and you're like, oh shit, I forgot 499 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,399 Speaker 2: this part. The one thing I wanted to add to 500 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,679 Speaker 2: that episode is talking about the grieving. Is that the 501 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:12,639 Speaker 2: word I'm looking for, the grieving process that we have 502 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 2: for our lost or miscarried child. And so we actually 503 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 2: had it was like a low key ceremony that allowed 504 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,680 Speaker 2: us that my husband and I had allowed us to have 505 00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:25,480 Speaker 2: closure from the experience. That was something that people recommended, 506 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,639 Speaker 2: and so it was just more like, you know, just 507 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,040 Speaker 2: it could be whatever you wanted to be. But I 508 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,919 Speaker 2: did a lot of smudging and burnt some sage and 509 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 2: some white sage in the house and also just like 510 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 2: prayed and spoke to the child and even just getting 511 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 2: more spiritual and like tapping into my connection with my 512 00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 2: ancestors and things of that nature. So that was really 513 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,119 Speaker 2: healing for me too, to like actually do a physical 514 00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 2: act and ritual to my body already went to the process, 515 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:56,679 Speaker 2: but also in the physical. I wanted to give myself 516 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 2: space to have that closure. 517 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:05,879 Speaker 5: This season has been a lot for you, right, gear girl, 518 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:13,000 Speaker 5: It ass goddamn about yeah, this season really has. 519 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:15,760 Speaker 2: This year in general has been something else. I was 520 00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,719 Speaker 2: actually meditating the other night and I was just like, 521 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:19,560 Speaker 2: I put on this, you know, oh, I got to 522 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,280 Speaker 2: be strong, because I mean, to a certain degree, I 523 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 2: kind of do got to be strong. I still have 524 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,240 Speaker 2: a job to do, I still have things to do, 525 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:26,919 Speaker 2: but I kind of just I was like in my 526 00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 2: little meditation space and I just cried and I was like, 527 00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,119 Speaker 2: this has been very hard. This year has been so 528 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,760 Speaker 2: hard for me. I think about the relationships in my 529 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 2: life that have changed. I think about my grandmother, I 530 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 2: think about the miscarriage, and I'm just like, damn, I'm 531 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 2: human and it's not easy. You know, it's not easy 532 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 2: at all. But I am. Let me just tell you 533 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,080 Speaker 2: THATMB I am so hopeful and I am so optimistic. 534 00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,199 Speaker 2: And it might be I don't know what it is 535 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:54,959 Speaker 2: that contributes to that, but I am like declaring that 536 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,159 Speaker 2: even now things are changing for the better. But twenty twenty, 537 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:01,600 Speaker 2: I know it's going to be a magical year, and 538 00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 2: I feel like we got to start claiming that right now, 539 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 2: Like I declare that that is the year that everything 540 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 2: is gonna change and the things that I've struggled with 541 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 2: are gonna make a lot more sense. And so I 542 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 2: just keep telling myself that things are changing, like life 543 00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,400 Speaker 2: is getting better and everything's working out for my good. 544 00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:17,760 Speaker 2: And that's like my personal mantra. But sometimes you just 545 00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 2: gotta sit with stuff and be like, yo, girl, you 546 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,399 Speaker 2: don't been through a lot. I damn, this has been 547 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 2: rough you. 548 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 4: Sometimes you really do have to sit with it. 549 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 3: And that takes us into episode twelve, where we talk 550 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:38,320 Speaker 3: about healing intergenerational trauma with doctor Tam O'Brien Davis Child. 551 00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,840 Speaker 4: We'll let me tell you. Let me tell you. 552 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:49,560 Speaker 3: She had so many quotes and if y'all are not 553 00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 3: following her on Twitter, every single day she has a 554 00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:56,640 Speaker 3: quote that is just like. 555 00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:59,920 Speaker 4: But that ass okay, get your life? 556 00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:00,879 Speaker 5: Yeah, Like. 557 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:02,919 Speaker 4: It's it. 558 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 3: I mean it speaks to me all the time. And 559 00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:13,960 Speaker 3: her podcast Homecoming, which she just debuted in July. Her 560 00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:17,680 Speaker 3: podcast If you think her quotes get you together, her 561 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,439 Speaker 3: podcast get you together too, and not get you together 562 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:24,680 Speaker 3: in a way that makes you feel shame, but makes 563 00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 3: you feel heard and understood. And if you and lady, 564 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 3: if you haven't listened to this episode yet, go back 565 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 3: and listen, because damn yeah girl. 566 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 2: One of my favorite quotes from that episode. And again 567 00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 2: there were so many tweetables, like I couldn't even keep 568 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,280 Speaker 2: up listening, but one of the quotes that really stood 569 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,040 Speaker 2: out to me was I can forgive someone and still 570 00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 2: not hang around them. I can forgive someone who is 571 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:51,320 Speaker 2: not sorry, but I can only be reconciled with someone 572 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 2: who is authentically, truly repentant and transformed so that I 573 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,440 Speaker 2: do not continue to be exposed to trauma. And I 574 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 2: think sometimes in life we think, oh, oh, it's my mom, 575 00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:03,320 Speaker 2: it's my dad, it's my cousin, it's my brother's my sister. 576 00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,880 Speaker 2: I have to maintain this relationship. No the fuck you don't. 577 00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 2: Okay that person is causing if they're causing trauma, if 578 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:13,600 Speaker 2: they are contributing to your life in a way that 579 00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 2: does not allow you to live your best life and 580 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 2: to be free, and they keep trying to bring you down, 581 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:20,320 Speaker 2: it's okay to let them go. And even in our 582 00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 2: episode with Garea and we talked about how you know 583 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,680 Speaker 2: her chosen family. The people that she actually organized and 584 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,960 Speaker 2: orchestrated to be around her has sometimes been more supportive 585 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,520 Speaker 2: and more influential than her given family. And I am 586 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 2: now at that place where I'm like, you know what, 587 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:39,480 Speaker 2: I'm reconsidering relationships in my life because I don't do drama. 588 00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:41,960 Speaker 2: I don't do you know, constant trauma. If someone's in 589 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 2: a place where they don't know how to speak to 590 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 2: me in a way that's productive and they're not willing 591 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 2: to learn and willing to you know, change their ways, 592 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:53,000 Speaker 2: I'm done. I don't have the capacity to do that anymore. 593 00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,200 Speaker 2: And I don't care who the person is. And so 594 00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 2: that for me has been a game changer. And I've 595 00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 2: actually cut some people off after that episode because of 596 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,320 Speaker 2: the way they were showing up our relationships. And I mean, 597 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 2: she talked about addiction, she talked about you know what 598 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 2: else touched me from the episodem. She talked about how 599 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 2: sometimes someone is showing up in the world because of 600 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:21,000 Speaker 2: their wounds and so girls, and so let's say, for instance, 601 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 2: I'm gonna just give a random example. Let's say, for instance, 602 00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,800 Speaker 2: it's a loved one. Right, Let's say it's a loved 603 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:32,720 Speaker 2: one that you're working with, and they just continue to 604 00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:36,920 Speaker 2: show up in ways that are not productive, that. 605 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:41,880 Speaker 6: Are harmful and harmful and you have asserted yourself and 606 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 6: you have set your boundaries, and it's still not working 607 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,560 Speaker 6: because they haven't addressed their wounds. 608 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 4: For me, that was. 609 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 3: The biggest takeaway is that other people are dealing with 610 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 3: their own yes, and so I can't be mad at 611 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,880 Speaker 3: how someone is responded if I've made the changes. I 612 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,280 Speaker 3: can't be mad at someone who have for how they're 613 00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 3: responding to me, especially if I don't know what they're 614 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:13,520 Speaker 3: dealing with. 615 00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,320 Speaker 2: That part. And here's the thing that really got me down. 616 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 2: I've been thinking about this all week. If okay, let's 617 00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 2: say it's a parent. Right, Let's say it's your dad. 618 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 2: If your dad is communicating with you and he's only 619 00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:29,480 Speaker 2: only let's say, graduated from fourth grade, right, that's where 620 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 2: his communication level is. But you done gone on to 621 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,040 Speaker 2: college and your communication level is on a different space, right, 622 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,120 Speaker 2: You're just in it. You have a different level of awareness, 623 00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,800 Speaker 2: you have different tools in your communication toolbox. 624 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,760 Speaker 4: And your agree is in speech communication. 625 00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:43,640 Speaker 2: Okay, and you're trying to talk to him at the 626 00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:46,800 Speaker 2: fourth grade level. To me, it made me think about 627 00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,880 Speaker 2: my expectations. Sometimes I expect people to show up the 628 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,320 Speaker 2: way that I show up because I'm working from this 629 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:56,600 Speaker 2: degree in speech communications or whatever. The analogy is right, 630 00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 2: whereas this person is still in fourth grade, so I 631 00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 2: can't expect for them to use college or collegiate language 632 00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,400 Speaker 2: when they're still on that level. So it gives me 633 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 2: empathy for them, but also it lets me know I 634 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:09,640 Speaker 2: can't fuck with you if you're not willing to grow 635 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 2: and learn, if you're going to continue to cause me 636 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 2: harm and trauma because you're not willing to develop or 637 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:18,240 Speaker 2: even hear me out right right, girl, The episode is powerful. 638 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:22,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, and even if you listen to that episode already, 639 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:25,040 Speaker 3: go back and release. There were so many as we 640 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:29,000 Speaker 3: were doing the editing, like I would listen to one. 641 00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 3: I would listen to it once and I was like, oh, yeah, 642 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 3: I got that. That's a gym, and then listen to 643 00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,200 Speaker 3: it again and was like, oh, dang, I missed that 644 00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 3: the first time. Like there are so many gems in 645 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 3: that episode, and then now we bring out the fun 646 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:48,840 Speaker 3: Oh yes. 647 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:53,040 Speaker 2: That takes us to episode thirteen, where we had sisters 648 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:56,200 Speaker 2: Breezy and Bobby on to talk about free the cheeks 649 00:32:56,680 --> 00:33:01,880 Speaker 2: they're inspiring twerk church or work movement or class that 650 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:05,000 Speaker 2: they host every Saturday. That episode was so fun. I 651 00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,120 Speaker 2: love the fact that it was just like girl talk 652 00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,760 Speaker 2: and just us for women in the same space, just 653 00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:13,960 Speaker 2: being authentic, being open. We talked about sexuality, sensuality, and 654 00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 2: just being in our body and. 655 00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,840 Speaker 3: How healing it can be to just be in your 656 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 3: body in a way that defies the negative stereotypes and 657 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 3: defies like the patriarchy and all of those things that 658 00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:32,040 Speaker 3: make us that can often make us feel shame. And 659 00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:34,720 Speaker 3: one of the things that was so cool for me 660 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:37,600 Speaker 3: was this was our uh no, this was our second 661 00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:42,560 Speaker 3: time having guests in recording live with us, not just 662 00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:47,040 Speaker 3: like virtually right and with their sisters, and so watching 663 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:52,640 Speaker 3: their dynamic was similar to like watching me with my sisters, 664 00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,080 Speaker 3: Like like you could see there were a couple of 665 00:33:56,080 --> 00:34:00,280 Speaker 3: moments where Bobby was like looking at breathe. 666 00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:04,720 Speaker 4: Like really girl, and I could just I. 667 00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 3: Know that my sisters and I do things similar, and 668 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:10,000 Speaker 3: it was just so cool to like be a part 669 00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:11,439 Speaker 3: of their energy. 670 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 2: Like that I'm with you there and really make all 671 00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:16,520 Speaker 2: It makes me miss my sisters because they're not close 672 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 2: and I think it's funny. When my sisters and I 673 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,680 Speaker 2: are together, We're like all over each other. We're very 674 00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:24,319 Speaker 2: touchy feely, and so usually i'm out of my two 675 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:27,960 Speaker 2: youngest sisters, they're usually we just do random stuff. They'll 676 00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,359 Speaker 2: just either come up and hug you know, hug you, 677 00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 2: or we'll just randomly kiss on the cheek or just 678 00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,360 Speaker 2: like random, like innocent stuff like grab my butt or 679 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:36,520 Speaker 2: you know what I mean that They'll just do little 680 00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:37,719 Speaker 2: things like that, and I'm looking at her, like, girls, 681 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 2: you don't get off my butt. It's like random sisterly things. 682 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,200 Speaker 2: And I think it just displays like our love and 683 00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:44,880 Speaker 2: our care for each other, and I just it just 684 00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 2: made me really think about when my sisters and I 685 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,160 Speaker 2: get together. I will say one of the funniest parts 686 00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:53,600 Speaker 2: of that interview was when, Yo, this was hilarious. When 687 00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,640 Speaker 2: we got to the oh you clatch it segment, right, So, 688 00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:57,360 Speaker 2: you know that we do our oh you clatch it 689 00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,279 Speaker 2: and that's where we invite our guests to participate in 690 00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 2: our oh you clatch segment where we ask questions, and 691 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:03,600 Speaker 2: so we asked a Breezy and Bobby if they were 692 00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:07,400 Speaker 2: down for the challenge and Breezy is the twerk goddess. Okay, 693 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:10,520 Speaker 2: if you go on her damn Instagram, you will get 694 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,719 Speaker 2: your whole life and she will have you in the 695 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:16,359 Speaker 2: mirror tworking that ass. Okay, So Breezy, when we asked 696 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,200 Speaker 2: if she's ready for the ou CLASSIP segment, she was like, yeah, 697 00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 2: what I gotta do. I gotta get on the table 698 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,359 Speaker 2: and twerk. And we were like, no, Breezy, you don't 699 00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 2: have to do that. And Don was like, well, I 700 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 2: don't think our listeners can hear you work, and she 701 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:28,799 Speaker 2: was like, oh no, yeah I can. I could make 702 00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,280 Speaker 2: it clap. And I was like, oh yeah, I've actually 703 00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,560 Speaker 2: heard it in class and she can actually make her 704 00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,719 Speaker 2: ass clap, which is something One day I will get 705 00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:37,080 Speaker 2: to that place where I can make my thing clap. 706 00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,080 Speaker 2: But she literally was like ready to get up on 707 00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:42,040 Speaker 2: the table and t work for y'all, and I that 708 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:43,880 Speaker 2: shit took me out. It was hilarious. I thought it 709 00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:44,959 Speaker 2: was so funny, and. 710 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:48,200 Speaker 3: It's such a great way for us to kind of 711 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:51,239 Speaker 3: end season three, you know, because I think about like 712 00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:55,719 Speaker 3: all the episodes that we recorded this season, so and 713 00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:57,600 Speaker 3: think about all the things like we said that you 714 00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:02,719 Speaker 3: were dealing with personally, and we went in a multitude 715 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 3: of different directions, but all things that were relevant and 716 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:11,680 Speaker 3: important to all of us. And so as we move 717 00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:16,839 Speaker 3: into season four, one of the biggest lessons that I 718 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:20,680 Speaker 3: took away from this season, whether it was from a 719 00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:26,759 Speaker 3: particular episode or from just our behind the scenes process, 720 00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:31,920 Speaker 3: was that you can plan all you want, life will 721 00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:37,840 Speaker 3: do what it wants, and how much you let it 722 00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:44,360 Speaker 3: affect you that determines your next move, that determines your space. 723 00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:50,600 Speaker 3: And so that takes us right into our fourth quarter, 724 00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:57,000 Speaker 3: our season four, that home stretch of twenty nineteen, and 725 00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:03,200 Speaker 3: our topics will have you set up for really trying 726 00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:06,400 Speaker 3: to make sure that you were living your best life, 727 00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:12,120 Speaker 3: knowing that it will still be okay if the unexpected happens. 728 00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:16,239 Speaker 2: That part, but also, let's add on, you got to 729 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,879 Speaker 2: have your village like That's what I feel like, That's 730 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,280 Speaker 2: what I've learned throughout this whole process is I don't 731 00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:24,239 Speaker 2: have to be missed. I'm strong, I'm superwoman. I can 732 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 2: handle it on my own. If I would to try 733 00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:27,040 Speaker 2: to handle any of this on my own this past 734 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,000 Speaker 2: few months, I would have had a nervous breakdown. Folks 735 00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 2: show Okay, or girl, it could have been even worse, 736 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:33,800 Speaker 2: like I, it could have been bad because it was 737 00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:36,680 Speaker 2: so much. So I think tapping into your village in 738 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:40,600 Speaker 2: addition to you know, your self care, but having people 739 00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,080 Speaker 2: around is so key and not being afraid to ask 740 00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,400 Speaker 2: for help and tap into resources is so key. And 741 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:49,000 Speaker 2: when it comes to season four, Dom and I have 742 00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:51,279 Speaker 2: a lot of exciting things abo our sleeves. We've talked 743 00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:53,520 Speaker 2: about doing a live event, We've talked about meeting you 744 00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,520 Speaker 2: in person, so we want to do that, but we 745 00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:57,799 Speaker 2: got to get to know you. I feel like we 746 00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,960 Speaker 2: are you know, you know us pretty well, but whether 747 00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:03,640 Speaker 2: we want it, whether we know it or not. Like 748 00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:08,120 Speaker 2: we post content every week and you know certain words 749 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,960 Speaker 2: that we always say. You know our vibe, you know 750 00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:12,839 Speaker 2: our energy at this point, you know our voices if 751 00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:14,920 Speaker 2: you listen, you know when Dom's talking, you know when 752 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,279 Speaker 2: I'm speaking, And so we want to know about you. 753 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,640 Speaker 2: Like this is so one sided, ladies, And you gotta 754 00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:22,279 Speaker 2: be in the comments. You gotta head over to her 755 00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:25,360 Speaker 2: Space podcast on Instagram and let us know in the 756 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,719 Speaker 2: comments what do you think of dm us. We love 757 00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,640 Speaker 2: to get your emails and your feedback. We do respond 758 00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:35,279 Speaker 2: and also we're looking at where the most downloads are, 759 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,200 Speaker 2: and our first event will likely be in the US. 760 00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:39,960 Speaker 2: We're still trying to figure out the logistics, but we 761 00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:43,920 Speaker 2: need your help. So California is a high spot, like 762 00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,319 Speaker 2: lots of downloads in California. Texas is the next one. 763 00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:52,120 Speaker 2: We got Pennsylvania, and we also have New York, Georgia 764 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,680 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, yeah, Georgia, and then Florida. So if you 765 00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:57,560 Speaker 2: are in these areas, we're going to try to decide 766 00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,839 Speaker 2: on which place we're going to hit up first. Illinois 767 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:01,919 Speaker 2: in there, so we got a lot of the women 768 00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:02,520 Speaker 2: in Chicago. 769 00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:05,160 Speaker 3: It looks like, listen, I'm gonna need the five or 770 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:09,160 Speaker 3: four to come through and come on, y'all. 771 00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,680 Speaker 4: Come on, y'all know I'm always looking for a reason 772 00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:13,640 Speaker 4: to go home. Come on. 773 00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:16,760 Speaker 2: So what we're trying to do is if you continue 774 00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,160 Speaker 2: to share with your people and we get more downloads 775 00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,920 Speaker 2: in a specific state, that'll be the state that we 776 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:24,600 Speaker 2: go to for our first live event. We want to 777 00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,479 Speaker 2: meet you in person. We want to see your beautiful face. 778 00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:28,160 Speaker 2: We want to hear you know what you think of 779 00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 2: the podcast. We want to hear what ideas you have 780 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,799 Speaker 2: for additional content. So we want to get to know you. 781 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,799 Speaker 2: We have introduced ourselves. We've had what thirty something episodes 782 00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,360 Speaker 2: where you've gotten you had a chance to get to 783 00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 2: know us. We want to get to know you now, 784 00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,279 Speaker 2: so be sure to continue to share in downloads that 785 00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:44,880 Speaker 2: we can track the downloads and see which city we 786 00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:47,279 Speaker 2: will hit up first, because ideally we want to go 787 00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,080 Speaker 2: on a tour in the future, but we got to 788 00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:51,560 Speaker 2: make sure that there's an audience there. So, lady, we 789 00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:55,480 Speaker 2: appreciate you for tuning in and stay tuned for season four. 790 00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:56,359 Speaker 2: It's about to get real. 791 00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:01,240 Speaker 3: Thanks for joining us today in her Space. Please note 792 00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:05,719 Speaker 3: that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice, 793 00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:09,520 Speaker 3: self empowerment, and mental health, but it is by no 794 00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:12,960 Speaker 3: means meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal 795 00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:17,719 Speaker 3: relationship with a trained mental health provider. If you or 796 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,680 Speaker 3: someone you know is in need of mental health care, 797 00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:25,360 Speaker 3: please visit the Therapy for Black Girls directory Psychology today 798 00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:27,800 Speaker 3: or contact your insurance provider. 799 00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:30,120 Speaker 2: If you liked what you heard and want to keep 800 00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:33,560 Speaker 2: the conversation going, connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, and 801 00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:38,520 Speaker 2: Twitter at her Space podcast, or check out our website 802 00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:42,920 Speaker 2: at herspacepodcast dot com and before we meet again, repeat 803 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,880 Speaker 2: after me, I know that everything is working out for 804 00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,000 Speaker 2: my good, even when things don't go as planned. 805 00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:50,960 Speaker 4: We'll see you next week, lady.