Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. He
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Speaker 1: show dedicated to these niggas and you hosts and your
Speaker 1: co host a J. What up, y'all? See a J
Speaker 1: being out with the cute dogs all weekend? That's why
Speaker 1: her energy low? She tired, you're cute dollars, You're tired girl, Charlotte.
Speaker 1: Hell no, I didn't look. I was out there, but
Speaker 1: I wasn't out there like it was out of body experience. Now,
Speaker 1: did you I know I sent you that posted that
Speaker 1: girl talking on Facebook about the mother fucking cues and
Speaker 1: niggas was a tippet. She said, they can't she could
Speaker 1: wait for their dusty ask to get the hell up
Speaker 1: out of Charlotte and they and did you see comments? Yes, yes, y'all.
Speaker 1: Hey it's Tam Bam, y'all. And they ran her from philm.
Speaker 1: You can't talk about a group of the whole body
Speaker 1: of people like that. No, right, a whole fucking frat
Speaker 1: because of a couple of people. Now, I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you the older niggas, they were the worst. Okay, and
Speaker 1: this is just being in a couple of places. I
Speaker 1: went to um in Uptown. Child, girl, if that man listened,
Speaker 1: see now this is why I might not get married,
Speaker 1: because if I find out my husband is like a
Speaker 1: real simple at sixty five, Like I got a real
Speaker 1: problem with that, these thiggas with simps simps drooling at
Speaker 1: the fucking mouth. Just I don't want that to be
Speaker 1: my life. You know, my husband just can't wait to
Speaker 1: get out of town to be a whole at sixty
Speaker 1: A man Mr what was his name? Damn? What was
Speaker 1: his name? Mr? Bruno? What is that he was? He
Speaker 1: came up to me on Friday, Mr Bruno, Mr Bruno,
Speaker 1: Like he was like, can I sit down next to
Speaker 1: your baby? Yes, sir girl. They' goddamn granddaddy d's that
Speaker 1: was out there and the younger ones they just looking
Speaker 1: sweaty just in the streets. You know how to you know,
Speaker 1: to look eating air COUCHI on that air COUCHI getting eating.
Speaker 1: I couldn't take a girl. I was so aggravate. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm out there with my home girl. I'm like I'm
Speaker 1: ready to go, Like this is not my cup of tea.
Speaker 1: I'm ready to go. Yeah. I stayed in after Friday night.
Speaker 1: I stayed in. The rest of them, I just wish
Speaker 1: I would have stayed barking at me. They were scared
Speaker 1: than me barking me. I was like, oh ship, that's
Speaker 1: all you heard all day? My dog? Get okay, get
Speaker 1: someone was real fine. But I can't handle all of
Speaker 1: them congregated together. There's just too much. What happened is
Speaker 1: stupid internet news. Child. What we got going on. We
Speaker 1: gotta gotta god dad preacher getting robbed uh in New York. Lord, Okay,
Speaker 1: so apparently this man's congregation got robbed for somewhere uh
Speaker 1: around four hundred thousand dollars in in belongings their estimating
Speaker 1: uh lamar white head. Okay, he's a bishop in New York.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It looks kind of scam likely to me. Okay,
Speaker 1: it looks like it's given insurance fraud to me, I
Speaker 1: don't know where you think, yes, given it was looking
Speaker 1: like scammera scam gate, it's given scam and the middle
Speaker 1: of service you just see him getting down on the
Speaker 1: ground and armed men walking into the damn church recorded
Speaker 1: so that I mean I would be some good evidence
Speaker 1: for the insurance companies to show. Hey, look it's on camera.
Speaker 1: How we got robbed? I don't know, but this man
Speaker 1: would be riding around New York and it got damn
Speaker 1: Bentley drop topos, and we know that's one of the
Speaker 1: one Charlotte drug dealers. He looked like a Charlotte drug
Speaker 1: deal He looked like exactly listen that I might. I
Speaker 1: might just get into the church business one day. I
Speaker 1: just feel like, my word, you know, I might get
Speaker 1: into that business. You don't pay taxes. Get your nice
Speaker 1: little five and one seed three were in there, but
Speaker 1: you're gonna have Are you gonna preach the word? I
Speaker 1: would probably be more like I don't know if y'all
Speaker 1: know who Reverend Ike is, but I would probably be
Speaker 1: more of a Reverend Ike. I would be preaching about
Speaker 1: self and and manifestation. That's what I would be preaching about.
Speaker 1: I would be preaching the real truth. Mm hmm, yeah,
Speaker 1: that would that would be my gospel. Uh A J's house,
Speaker 1: a hustle, the whole house, not the whole house. I
Speaker 1: don't know, but I feel like he Finessing, He Finessing
Speaker 1: and Seance Companiana Dayan congregation because he probably got all
Speaker 1: the jewels underneath the church like the Vatican. That's what's
Speaker 1: going on with that nigga. Um, let me see what
Speaker 1: else you got going on. Okay, dammy, are you taking
Speaker 1: niggas on dates? In m M. I'll take my nigga
Speaker 1: on a date, So this is I'm not gonna like,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna take a new nigga on a date, right,
Speaker 1: So you know, I don't know. It's like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if people are doing it for like click baid
Speaker 1: or but the pic mischa ship is just getting out
Speaker 1: of hand. Um. I think it's younger women too. I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe maybe they're just adapting to the times. Men just
Speaker 1: don't have the same type of money the younger guys
Speaker 1: may just not the women are having to adapt to it.
Speaker 1: I don't know what the case may be. But when
Speaker 1: I see these videos of these headlines about who pays
Speaker 1: for what and aled is bullshit, I'm always like, Okay,
Speaker 1: are we talking about new relationships or are we talking
Speaker 1: about like, uh, you know, existing relationships, Because in a
Speaker 1: new relationship, hell no, I'm not paying for any damn
Speaker 1: dates When you're supposed to be courting me, Like, what
Speaker 1: are we talking about? Yeah? Like, why why would you
Speaker 1: you know, why would you be paying for dates if
Speaker 1: this man is supposedly interested in you and hopefully he's
Speaker 1: the one that's asking in a date. But like, I'm
Speaker 1: also a firm believer. Now, if you out here messaging
Speaker 1: every nigg in your cell phones trying to see who
Speaker 1: taking you out, you need to be prepared to pay,
Speaker 1: because if that man wanted to take you out, he
Speaker 1: would have been you know, you know, you guys got
Speaker 1: to ask the right question, say will you take me
Speaker 1: on a date? Don't say do you want to go out?
Speaker 1: Because that implies that your pain. You want to take
Speaker 1: me to dinner? Say that. I don't say you want
Speaker 1: to go to because where where's your money? Right? So
Speaker 1: the young lady was like, you know, I pay for dates?
Speaker 1: Like what's wrong with that? Y'all? Pitches can't pay for dates?
Speaker 1: Like it just depends, Okay, ma'am. If I'm with somebody
Speaker 1: for a while, that's no longer dating. Okay, that's my man.
Speaker 1: Of course, I'm you know, willing to pay for things.
Speaker 1: But if we're dating and we're like in the accorting stage,
Speaker 1: you might be dating multiple people women should not be
Speaker 1: all here paying for dates. Y'all sucking the game up. Okay,
Speaker 1: y'all are really fucking the game. We need to have
Speaker 1: a zoom call about this ship. I took a guy
Speaker 1: on the date that I was just getting in there.
Speaker 1: But it didn't cost me ship because I used my
Speaker 1: A B T car and I got some grapes and
Speaker 1: some like cheese and pepperoni and stuff like that, and
Speaker 1: then I took him out to I took about to
Speaker 1: where the planes fly over with Yeah. We had a
Speaker 1: charcouterie board and watched the planes flying over the beach.
Speaker 1: I didn't pay not one. I pay for gas getting
Speaker 1: to the place. That's the girl. I went bike riding
Speaker 1: with a nigga last weekend. And when I tell you,
Speaker 1: he is still talking about that bike ride like he
Speaker 1: was like it's fun. Yeah. He was like, man, I
Speaker 1: appreciate you so much. What the snakes is easy? Easy?
Speaker 1: Not a dollar when your own bike, sir. I provided
Speaker 1: the second bike. Okay, I provided the bike. He was like,
Speaker 1: this is like a real What was he saying? He
Speaker 1: was like, this is like a real uh. Y'all was
Speaker 1: on a limidate that's like a limidd day yeah, Like
Speaker 1: we rolled from the house down to like the river,
Speaker 1: so it's about maybe about three miles three or four
Speaker 1: miles or something like that to get to the river.
Speaker 1: But girl, you know, and adult dolphins was out, the
Speaker 1: boats was out. It was really nice. Okay, oh that
Speaker 1: is nice. And see, listen, guys, you can take a
Speaker 1: woman on a nice day if you're playing something. You
Speaker 1: can take a woman on a nice day that won't
Speaker 1: be expensive. You just gotta use your mind. Like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get I'm gonna rent two bikes. Were gonna bite
Speaker 1: down to the river, get to ice cream cones, and
Speaker 1: bike the funk back. And a woman will appreciate that
Speaker 1: unless she's just like fat and lazy and don't want
Speaker 1: to But most women will appreciate a date like, yes,
Speaker 1: a nice day. And then we got caught in the rain,
Speaker 1: so it's even more fun because it started raining. So no,
Speaker 1: that's not fun. It was fun to me. We was
Speaker 1: out there like some kids, girl, okay, riding in the
Speaker 1: rain on the way back home. So y'all, I got
Speaker 1: a random text from a random guy that it was fine.
Speaker 1: He sent a picture for American Airlines. All right, now
Speaker 1: I'm gonna play Are you gonna die from turbulence on
Speaker 1: a commercial airline flight? The answer is no. But let's
Speaker 1: talk more about it. Right here in the United States,
Speaker 1: more than million adults the same voice. It doesn't sound
Speaker 1: like it doesn't. So let me break down exactly how
Speaker 1: safe airline travel is and why you should not be
Speaker 1: afraid of I don't I don't know. That guy sounded
Speaker 1: kind of manic go on that phone just now. He
Speaker 1: was talking really fast, right, but he might have been nervous.
Speaker 1: M hmm. I don't know. I don't know. We're gonna
Speaker 1: see though, I got a pistol. Look, let's be clear.
Speaker 1: But okay, we're gonna see what that's about. That was weird. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's get back into the stupid internet news like we're
Speaker 1: gonna tam' gonna give y'all the update next week on
Speaker 1: that phone call. But um, okay. So Nick Cannon was
Speaker 1: on Angel Angels Lip Lip Service recently and he made
Speaker 1: some big claims. He said that of women have bad hygiene.
Speaker 1: I don't know that Nick Cannon has fu of women
Speaker 1: on this earth. I don't know. He might be. He
Speaker 1: might be trying based on you know, his track record,
Speaker 1: but he said you know only about where he you know,
Speaker 1: he never smelled anything or whatever. And uh, what was
Speaker 1: funny was Prima Donna commented on them the Post online
Speaker 1: and said that that's probably because you're sleeping about six
Speaker 1: different women and you've got everybody pH thrown off, which
Speaker 1: is the fuck truth right exactly, because you're clearly not
Speaker 1: using cond exactly, and even if these women have good hygiene,
Speaker 1: even if he doesn't have a disease, like everybody's pH
Speaker 1: doesn't mix right, so it's going to cause an issue
Speaker 1: even women using you know, the wrong type of soap
Speaker 1: that could cause some type of problem exactly. So that
Speaker 1: has nothing to do with hygiene. And I think men
Speaker 1: really need to shut the funk up when it comes
Speaker 1: to that type of thing. Okay, that's just really really
Speaker 1: weird that you'd be on a public platform with that
Speaker 1: type of assumption. That's crazy to me. And you know,
Speaker 1: if he wasn't who he was, we would consider him
Speaker 1: dirty D. Let's be clear. You got all these baby
Speaker 1: mamas back to back like community D Yes, community dirty D.
Speaker 1: I would I can. I matter of fact, I'm going
Speaker 1: to go ahead and make that statement. You're the reason
Speaker 1: why the women you've been with pussy stink? Right, was
Speaker 1: it stink the first time or was it stink after
Speaker 1: you here? Exactly? Yeah? Like, what the hell is wrong
Speaker 1: with man? Jeez? Man, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. M hmm. Got to
Speaker 1: be more careful. We got a transition into no, do
Speaker 1: you be a one of Caddon's baby mom? Nope? The fuck? Well?
Speaker 1: All right? That brings me to my next topic. Actually,
Speaker 1: I went to the movies last night and I went
Speaker 1: to see the movie Nope. Um, apparently the It was
Speaker 1: actually I mean, it wasn't like a cinematic masterpiece or anything,
Speaker 1: but it was good. Um. I enjoyed it. And I
Speaker 1: think it had like some symbolic meaning, like you know, uh,
Speaker 1: what's his name? Jordan Peel is that his name? He? Um?
Speaker 1: He always tries to have like some subliminal messages in
Speaker 1: his movie, and I just think it might have been
Speaker 1: a message about like taking pictures and videos of ourselves
Speaker 1: all the time. But I mean, you should go see it.
Speaker 1: It was actually good. Keiki Palmer was really good in it.
Speaker 1: I love Keiki Palmer. Uh. I think her character to
Speaker 1: is lesbian. I'm not sure. I think's all in the movie,
Speaker 1: but it's more a love story about her and her brother. Honestly,
Speaker 1: So y'all go watch that. It's pretty good and I
Speaker 1: know it did well. People are going back to the movies.
Speaker 1: I was surprised to see so many people in new movies. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they said it um ranking over nineteen point five million dollars.
Speaker 1: I wonder what the budget was for. I like to
Speaker 1: look at I like to make comparisons. I can really
Speaker 1: see how people actually made on movies. I'm nosy in
Speaker 1: that way. Um yeah, I want to see. Because they
Speaker 1: said Thor only made six point four million, so of
Speaker 1: it made? Um wait, Thor meanwhile, took in close to
Speaker 1: six point four million, bringing the Marvel Disney flick to
Speaker 1: hut four point two million domestically. Mhm, never mind, sorry,
Speaker 1: it made six points It made six point four just
Speaker 1: last week, okay, and then Jordan's Note made nineteen point
Speaker 1: five on opening night. Right. Yeah. Yeah, I love the movies.
Speaker 1: I used to go to the movies all the time.
Speaker 1: This is my first time going back since the pandemic started. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I haven't been back to the movies either. I haven't
Speaker 1: been to the movies. I'm gonna go but I like
Speaker 1: to go to Matinee's. I really don't like to go
Speaker 1: to theaters when people other people in there. I like
Speaker 1: to go like early in the daytime. I just don't
Speaker 1: be wanting to waste my day with the movie theaters.
Speaker 1: Why are you saying and they're watching TV? Because I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm just sitting there watching TV and I
Speaker 1: don't watch TV as is. So like the last movie
Speaker 1: I wanted to go and see was Doctor Strange. I
Speaker 1: never made it to the to the movie theater, but
Speaker 1: now it's on HBO, so I watched it already. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't like sitting in the movie theaters. M See.
Speaker 1: What I like to do is I like to like
Speaker 1: fill my purse up with snacks that came from somewhere else,
Speaker 1: food and everything. My bag is full. I like to
Speaker 1: like smoke a joint in the parking lot before I
Speaker 1: go in. It's little you got the whole thing, And
Speaker 1: then I have to go to one of those movie
Speaker 1: theaters with the reclining seats and stuff like that. Oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: then it's it's about I don't know anyway, child. What
Speaker 1: we got for the listeners this week when we talked back,
Speaker 1: we want to talk about different forms of relationships or
Speaker 1: a different type of relationship that maybe we might need
Speaker 1: to look at if it's a possibility for us perhaps
Speaker 1: or at least for me. Yeah, we'll be back, y'all. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's get into it all right, y'all, we are back
Speaker 1: and we have our guests with us. Thank you guys
Speaker 1: for joining us. Do you want to go by Hucci,
Speaker 1: Poppy or Ricky? You? Ricky? All right? So it's Ricky
Speaker 1: and Joe to you, guys. They are in a polly
Speaker 1: amorous relationship. Is that what you like to call it? Yes,
Speaker 1: So we want to talk about being black and polly.
Speaker 1: Talk to us about yourselves first, individually, like who you are,
Speaker 1: and then we'll get into how y'all came together? You
Speaker 1: go first journey? Um, ain't you talking about myself? I'm
Speaker 1: a retired senior. I'm a license SiGe therapist. Uh, I'm
Speaker 1: an actor, spicy and man? And where are you from? Missouri? Missouri?
Speaker 1: Is that where you reside now? No, I'll reside in
Speaker 1: Los Angeles, l A. Progressive Okay. I'm only been living
Speaker 1: in l A seven months. Okay, so new to l A.
Speaker 1: It's expensive out there. I don't know how y'all doing that.
Speaker 1: Y'all need to come on back to the out right
Speaker 1: and Ricky, what about you? Um? I am going to
Speaker 1: raised from St. Louis, Missouri. I've been living in l
Speaker 1: A for ten years. I am a model, an adult
Speaker 1: content creator. Well, I'm a content creating creator all over
Speaker 1: the board. Okay, the adult content creating pays the bills. Okay. Um,
Speaker 1: And I am pan sexual, so okay for our listeners
Speaker 1: that don't understand what pain sexually is, what is that?
Speaker 1: Because she's not sucking frying pans, y'all? But you know,
Speaker 1: you know what, some some pans are quite sexy. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm really um, pans sexual is basically, I
Speaker 1: really just love humans, Like I don't care what you
Speaker 1: identify as. I don't care you're about your sexual orientation.
Speaker 1: If we vibe, we vibe. So I mean, I've had
Speaker 1: to tell people because some people like to argue all
Speaker 1: your bisexual and I'm like, nah, because I've dated trands before,
Speaker 1: so I really don't. I don't care if you got
Speaker 1: a dick or a pussy, if you gave straight by
Speaker 1: try whatever. If we vibe, we vibe. It's all about
Speaker 1: our chemistry, the human connection. Okay, that's so interesting. So
Speaker 1: all right, how did you two guys meet? We met
Speaker 1: years ago? I want to say, maybe like twelve years ago.
Speaker 1: We knew of each other because he was I guess
Speaker 1: so a friend of mine was his side check m hm.
Speaker 1: And then me and me and her are no longer
Speaker 1: her friends years ago past, and we finally got to
Speaker 1: actually sit down and meet each other. Uh two years ago? Yeah,
Speaker 1: two years ago in Vegas. And then y'all just how
Speaker 1: did y'all become like a thing like we fox when
Speaker 1: we met in Vegas and that was like in August sometimes,
Speaker 1: and then we just in contact during that that time,
Speaker 1: and um, I was coming back to Vegas and she
Speaker 1: had a mutual friend and she was like, yo, she
Speaker 1: had a mutual friend of like, yo, you wanna have
Speaker 1: a three soon with Jody? So Jody My Jodie. So
Speaker 1: her friend was down and she was like, yo, when
Speaker 1: you had a threesome, you know you mine after that,
Speaker 1: and pretty much we had a threesome in front of
Speaker 1: like five other women I was watching. I think it
Speaker 1: was like seven. Okay. I tried to downplay it, but yeah,
Speaker 1: who came later? So they just set you up, Jody.
Speaker 1: They literally said, I felt like drive by. They were
Speaker 1: sitting in a room watching me have sex. So it
Speaker 1: streight did y'all is there any footage out there? I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm just there. We need that for research purposes. That
Speaker 1: to us, so all right, okay, that was the fucking
Speaker 1: But then how did y'all decide like, Okay, we're we
Speaker 1: want to be a thing, We're gonna be partners, are together. Um, Well,
Speaker 1: before we even decided to get into a relationship, I
Speaker 1: had already discussed with him like, hey, I haven't had
Speaker 1: a child, I've never been pregnant. I want to make
Speaker 1: him maybe with you, will you be the father of
Speaker 1: my child? And he was like that's what you want? Okay,
Speaker 1: And then it was that easy. We kind of just
Speaker 1: kind of like just kept growing. But you know, I
Speaker 1: ain't pregnant. We were planning later, not right now, but
Speaker 1: we want to be my baby daddy. That's what happened.
Speaker 1: I want to appropriate with you. And then later on,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know if it was a
Speaker 1: year later, but wasn't a year baby or maybe like
Speaker 1: maybe five months I was like, hey, I want to
Speaker 1: build with you, and I think that really made him
Speaker 1: buck with the knees. He was like, yeah, it was
Speaker 1: the bill word. It was the bill word. It was like,
Speaker 1: I want to grow with you, I want to be more.
Speaker 1: It was she put her intentions out there and she
Speaker 1: knew what she wanted. So that really like, y'all, I'm
Speaker 1: with that. Okay, So that made y'all a couple. But
Speaker 1: then how did you y'all decide that we're gonna polly
Speaker 1: ally this thing? Well, I'm polly um okay, I don't
Speaker 1: care what situation. If it forbid, something happens and I'm
Speaker 1: no longer with him, I'm still gonna be Polly. So
Speaker 1: growing up, I would see I was raised by my father,
Speaker 1: and I would see him just got a woman here,
Speaker 1: I got a woman here there, And they all know
Speaker 1: about each other, but they all hate each other, and
Speaker 1: I'm lying to all of them. And as a young girl,
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so you're happy with all of them,
Speaker 1: but you keep lying to all of them. But they
Speaker 1: know you're lying to all of them because they know
Speaker 1: about each other they've even met. So why don't everybody
Speaker 1: just be happy with what's going on instead of you
Speaker 1: having to lie all the time. So growing up, you know,
Speaker 1: when you start dating, everything is everything has to be monogamous.
Speaker 1: And I was like, got older, I started to see
Speaker 1: like I might be a cheater. But then once I
Speaker 1: started just being open with it, saund like, listen, talked
Speaker 1: to this person. I talked to this person. It felt
Speaker 1: so much better than lying. And when I realized that
Speaker 1: I could go out and guys are like, damn, girl,
Speaker 1: you gotta you gott a boyfriend, I'm like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: got three. You want to be the fourth one. They'd
Speaker 1: be like yeah, I'm like, okay, you gotta cover this building.
Speaker 1: And it was just that easy exactly. They don't care,
Speaker 1: and women don't, well some women care, but they were like, okay,
Speaker 1: and Jody, you don't mind her having other male sexual
Speaker 1: partners because as a black man, that's not common. Like
Speaker 1: black men is like very territorial with their women, like
Speaker 1: they a lot of time they treat them as something
Speaker 1: to be owned. And he says, a human who has experiences,
Speaker 1: I don't mind, as long as we talk about it
Speaker 1: all the time. Like that's always been the biggest thing
Speaker 1: in communication. Not only did I was I was like
Speaker 1: a jigga for a moment and growing up, so it
Speaker 1: was more always always decide to I'm used to women
Speaker 1: having another man, and I was used to it, but
Speaker 1: now in this situation, it's more like, so I had
Speaker 1: girlfriends in Paris and I used to cheat on them.
Speaker 1: I'm open and it's just more of a sign relief
Speaker 1: of just being able to communicate. That's yeah. So me
Speaker 1: and Tam we talked about open relationships a lot because
Speaker 1: the older you get, you realize, like a lot of
Speaker 1: people are in fake, you know, monogamous relationships. And then
Speaker 1: now like the traditional traditional monogamy is just like just
Speaker 1: sucking one person at a time, right, that's what we
Speaker 1: consider monogamy at this point. But a lot of men
Speaker 1: don't realize that there is somebody out here for everybody, right,
Speaker 1: So instead of lying to women and forcing them into
Speaker 1: because we've seen this right now with Tristan Thompson, was
Speaker 1: it Tristan Thomas and Chloe right, that man is not
Speaker 1: a monogamous man. So when you meet women, you tell
Speaker 1: them that and you give them the option, you know,
Speaker 1: if they want to sign up for that ship or not,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like you give people exactly right,
Speaker 1: you're taking away their power choice of choice. That's what
Speaker 1: people fall into the point of we're selfish. We don't
Speaker 1: want to give the option of losing something that we
Speaker 1: already have, so we don't want to be open with
Speaker 1: people and tell them like, yo, I got lobster over here,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna keep that. But why do I use
Speaker 1: that analogy all the time to food? Like you get
Speaker 1: tired of the slice of pizza, and you get tired
Speaker 1: of the shrimp. You want to slice of pizza every
Speaker 1: now and then, and it's like, hey, doesn't mean you
Speaker 1: don't like shrimp anymore. I want to change your palette
Speaker 1: up a little bit. But but as a man, why
Speaker 1: why why are we even looking at it um as
Speaker 1: if somebody you're going because you can tell this person
Speaker 1: that's from the beginning, just like Ricky just said when
Speaker 1: she meets people, like she let them know right right,
Speaker 1: Like if you let them know in them begin and
Speaker 1: then it's not going to be a situation where you're
Speaker 1: trying to now cohet somebody into some ship to keep
Speaker 1: them where men are natural hunters. So I feel like
Speaker 1: it's more of I don't want to lose my opportunity,
Speaker 1: like we I could give you you ain't never had before,
Speaker 1: never had before? Why you can't pussy the truth? Because
Speaker 1: we want the pussy no matter what, Like if we're
Speaker 1: gonna set the trap and we're gonna try to get it,
Speaker 1: like no matter how it is, it's just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be honest with you. I may tell
Speaker 1: you afterwards, you know, and some people don't. Men usually
Speaker 1: wait for a question to come to us as well.
Speaker 1: So I say men don't have integrity? Is that what
Speaker 1: we're saying? I have six with a girl and she
Speaker 1: woke up the next mornings like you don't have a girlfriend,
Speaker 1: do you. I'm like, well, we already fun, so I'm
Speaker 1: not about to tell you the truth either. So she
Speaker 1: ain't got it, like I'm you didn't care before, So
Speaker 1: like it's not a we wait for the intentions to
Speaker 1: come like we want we want to be told before
Speaker 1: we approached. Hmmm, So are are there any boundaries in
Speaker 1: this kind of relationship? Well, we have boundaries and every polly,
Speaker 1: with every relationship, whether is polly or monogamy, anything like that,
Speaker 1: there should be boundaries. When there's no boundaries or the
Speaker 1: boundaries are not discussed, that's when the issues start to rise.
Speaker 1: So with us. Our boundaries, um are If he feels
Speaker 1: that he needs to venture off and find another partner, um,
Speaker 1: I want us to talk about it first. Same here,
Speaker 1: we talk about it first, we discuss it, and we
Speaker 1: move forward. I would like to meet them. And if
Speaker 1: he just having sex, I mean I don't, I don't know.
Speaker 1: But if he feels like, hey, babe, I want this
Speaker 1: person as a partner, I feel like I should meet
Speaker 1: them because what if they're out somewhere and something happens,
Speaker 1: who she gonna call me? And the police? Probably? But
Speaker 1: you know, you just don't you just I just want
Speaker 1: to know who's dealing with my man because he's a
Speaker 1: part of me. That's my business. So basically you have
Speaker 1: to have a relationship with that person too. You feel
Speaker 1: like you would like basically have a relationships with No.
Speaker 1: I don't need to have like an intimate relationship with her,
Speaker 1: but I should know who she is. You know, I
Speaker 1: should have at least a friendship or something, because if
Speaker 1: she doesn't want to be with me, that's fine, But
Speaker 1: nine times, without a chance, she's gonna want to be
Speaker 1: with me, So, UM, I would I just feel like
Speaker 1: I should know who that individual is. You know because
Speaker 1: say like say, I'm you decided, Hey, I want to
Speaker 1: be in a relationship with Jodi, but not Ricky. I
Speaker 1: would still want you to have a conversation with me,
Speaker 1: and when we see each other, we should be cordial.
Speaker 1: I should be able to show you love, you should
Speaker 1: be able to show me love, and everybody just go
Speaker 1: out their day. So this type of relationship there's no
Speaker 1: jealousy involved. Ever. Well, I'm not a jealous person. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't believe he is either. I'm very confident,
Speaker 1: I guess that's what it is. I'm confident in our
Speaker 1: communication and I'm confident that I'm doing the best I
Speaker 1: possibly can. So I don't ever get jels because if
Speaker 1: I'm getting somebody everything, you know, I appreciate it, that's
Speaker 1: your loss. So I don't get jether. Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: we just saw um. Did y'all see Laura London on
Speaker 1: Angie Martinez Show and they can see yeah, the one
Speaker 1: to eclip. She basically essentially she didn't say Polly, she
Speaker 1: didn't say open, but that's where the conversation was going at,
Speaker 1: and she was talking about ego and how you know
Speaker 1: that jealousy thing we feel when when somebody's stepping. Stepping
Speaker 1: in our territory is ego And if you say you
Speaker 1: love somebody, I don't have ego when it comes to
Speaker 1: somebody I love, Like I would literally overlook a thousand
Speaker 1: things out of love for this person, right, So I
Speaker 1: think that, Um, yeah, Like, if you're trying to possess somebody,
Speaker 1: that's definitely coming from a place of ego. And how
Speaker 1: do you got to just experience people? You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I don't know. So so for for Ricky,
Speaker 1: do you have other men that you then have to
Speaker 1: introduce to Jody or is this just something that Jody
Speaker 1: explores most of the time and you deal with other women.
Speaker 1: So it's a joke amongst like as friends where they
Speaker 1: always be like Ricky really is the last year? She
Speaker 1: just got a sexy ass nigga on my side. And
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, um, but don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: like I do I aesthetically I like women more like
Speaker 1: you see a woman, you just gotta look, you know.
Speaker 1: But um and right now, I'm just happy with just
Speaker 1: this one man in my life as of now, I
Speaker 1: don't see I'm not really seeing all other dudes. Like
Speaker 1: we'll be out and about and he'll see them looking
Speaker 1: at me and I'm just I'm livius. But um, women, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've had somebody else as far as a woman, but
Speaker 1: that didn't last because she was trying to play games.
Speaker 1: I only play games when it's connected to a console,
Speaker 1: so we don't play my games over here. And I
Speaker 1: mean in the future, I can't say like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be be with another guy or I'm not right now,
Speaker 1: I'm not looking to be with a guy. I'm happy
Speaker 1: with the guy that I have now. So all right,
Speaker 1: help me understand in our listeners the difference between an
Speaker 1: open relationship and polyamory. Is there really a difference? Yes,
Speaker 1: I would say so open it's more a couple and
Speaker 1: open is sexual base. Polly is more of emotional base. Well, um,
Speaker 1: and that's what it is. Like open, like, oh, I
Speaker 1: can go ahead, this person is person, but Polly is
Speaker 1: more of emotional we're actually having dates, we're actually experiencing
Speaker 1: each other's company and time and actually learning that particular person.
Speaker 1: It's open, it's like one nice things. So what however
Speaker 1: you want to say, like like you don't get to
Speaker 1: build emotional connections exactly in the open relationship. Are you sitting.
Speaker 1: It's the introduction to like, kay, like, babe, this is person,
Speaker 1: be this, this is gonna be in our life. This
Speaker 1: person may make me mad one day and you have
Speaker 1: the experience and deal with emotion. I'm dealing. So that's
Speaker 1: more of like the actual full connection because probably just
Speaker 1: I think open relationships are sexual just truly sexual. Base
Speaker 1: probably is just having a great friendship with everybody. It's one, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I think when we think Polly, we think like
Speaker 1: when men have more than one wife, and so it's
Speaker 1: a commitment. Well that is that's a type of Polly,
Speaker 1: but then it's polyandry. Yeah. Yeah, so Polly amory is
Speaker 1: like you're not married to know, and people always, especially
Speaker 1: with our relationship, everybody views it as like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: the one who wants to three, I'm the one who
Speaker 1: want the the women. But it's actually reversed because she's
Speaker 1: the one who want and you know, I'm here, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm applying, and who am I to tell her no?
Speaker 1: Not the dicks supply and the girls, you know, the girls,
Speaker 1: I don't know, like they like going up to him.
Speaker 1: They liked being like hi, Jody, and then you know,
Speaker 1: talking to him and it was like, so, how's ricky?
Speaker 1: It was like chick bait. He's chicken because you have
Speaker 1: never entered I'm gonna say, all the girls that I
Speaker 1: know are her friends now, like all the people recently
Speaker 1: she's mad about to ask woman I've introduced it like
Speaker 1: women were talking where they hit her up more than me.
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, I lost I lost female friends. Women
Speaker 1: friends to to my girl, she still all your bitches still.
Speaker 1: You know, a lot of times the girls don't even
Speaker 1: want to, like by myself, they don't really want to
Speaker 1: talk to me because I don't know. I don't think
Speaker 1: I come off as a bitch, but they they don't
Speaker 1: really say anything. And then it's like, let me ease
Speaker 1: my way in with the guy. Hi, now we're friends,
Speaker 1: and don't like, who is that? I think I was?
Speaker 1: Cardi b you know, because Cardi is bisexual. She talks
Speaker 1: about a lot and she was saying how it's easier
Speaker 1: for her to haul that men than women, Like she
Speaker 1: gets really shy, we're trying to haul at a woman,
Speaker 1: So maybe that's me. It's easy to haul at whatever
Speaker 1: I want. So all right, what would constitute cheating for y'all.
Speaker 1: What would be cheating? Is there cheating? Oh yeah, it
Speaker 1: could be me going out with somebody guy or girl
Speaker 1: and and not telling him, having sex with somebody and
Speaker 1: not telling him, or even like, I feel like an
Speaker 1: emotional bond is way like deeper than any That's not
Speaker 1: what polyamory is, though, the intimate bonds with other people
Speaker 1: know it is. But I for our boundaries, I need
Speaker 1: to tell right and he needs to tell me. So
Speaker 1: if I'm if I meet somebody out, I meet a
Speaker 1: fine woman out and I want to court her or whatever,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, babe, listen, I met this girl. That's
Speaker 1: what she looked like. Snap, Can I take a picture
Speaker 1: of you real quick? Send it to my dude real quick?
Speaker 1: You know? And where I'm telling him like I want
Speaker 1: to take her out on a date, I want to
Speaker 1: do this, I want to do that. And that's that's
Speaker 1: what we're that's our relationship. Now. If I'm like not
Speaker 1: saying nothing and sneaking around, that's cheap, I'm lying. I'm
Speaker 1: basically lying. She definitely did that. I don't have to
Speaker 1: write a girl. She took a picture, she sent me
Speaker 1: the picture and then she was like, can I sucked her.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, like and that's what happened. Like
Speaker 1: if she just has sex with her, did anything like
Speaker 1: that without telling me, that's cheating. So what she sent
Speaker 1: you a picture of a nigger and said can I
Speaker 1: fuck them? You would be like be safe. Yeah, damn,
Speaker 1: that's so progressive because niggas don't be thinking like that
Speaker 1: A lot of times. They'd be like, if you're gonna
Speaker 1: bring your ass home and stop, you got to find
Speaker 1: a bit out there to bring home. She's already there though,
Speaker 1: Like if she's hanging with this dude and already it's
Speaker 1: already set up, like she's gonna do anyway. If I
Speaker 1: take that away from her, she's gonna feel certain type
Speaker 1: of white you know at the end, like girls, But
Speaker 1: I should have sucked that nigga, blah blah blah, Like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna take that away from you. If you
Speaker 1: feel like that's what you want to do, that's what
Speaker 1: you want to do, Who am I to stop you?
Speaker 1: So with our relationship, it well for me, I look
Speaker 1: at all my past monogamous relationships and I don't want
Speaker 1: none of that in this relationship. So like I've from
Speaker 1: what I've learned and from my experiences, monomy is all
Speaker 1: about control. Yes, it just seems like it's just always, Ah,
Speaker 1: you're my girl, you're my partner, you're supposed to be
Speaker 1: with me. You shouldn't be going out to Jenner with
Speaker 1: nobody but me. Like way, they don't make sense. If
Speaker 1: I could get pregnant by anything in this world, and
Speaker 1: anybody in this in this world can give me an orgasm,
Speaker 1: why don't have to just give it you? It don't
Speaker 1: even make sense to me by biologically, we're not designed
Speaker 1: to be with one person. That was some man made
Speaker 1: bullshit and based off religion. But even in the Bible,
Speaker 1: like when they say, uh, some Solomon had four wives
Speaker 1: and he didn't marry all of them. He was fucking
Speaker 1: just his body count was four. Yeah, that's what he
Speaker 1: had sex with a woman that that was probably Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't even the Bible. When people bring up the Bible,
Speaker 1: that's just scary. Really really No church in a While.
Speaker 1: We had an episode. We had an episode no church
Speaker 1: in a while because Kanye you know that that song
Speaker 1: no Church in a While. Yeah, So that line on there.
Speaker 1: He was like, we formed our own religion and the
Speaker 1: only felony is you fucking somebody without telling him. That's
Speaker 1: the only felony. Let me ask you this, how do
Speaker 1: you How does your families feel about your relationships and
Speaker 1: your choices, your life choices. Yeah, you can talking about
Speaker 1: the Bible in it. No, So my family is very
Speaker 1: support of whatever I do. That My mom is like, yo,
Speaker 1: as long as you're being safe, as long as you're healthy,
Speaker 1: I don't care what you do. Whatever life choices you make,
Speaker 1: that's your life choices. And I'm supporting about what you know,
Speaker 1: monsterly support and loving like that. What about your dad?
Speaker 1: Me and my dad have a strange relationship. My dad
Speaker 1: was in carslready most of my life, so it's like
Speaker 1: I didn't meet him in town like twenty three, so
Speaker 1: it's like we don't have to Yeah, yeah, you didn't
Speaker 1: raise me, So that's that's the understanding, Like like you're
Speaker 1: just gonna have to go with whatever the funk I
Speaker 1: got going on, Pops right right? What about you, Ricky? Honestly,
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know, and I don't care because
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, this is my life.
Speaker 1: I Mean, in the past, they've kind of like said
Speaker 1: they're two cents about it, but at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, like, I'm gonna still do what I want
Speaker 1: to do. So was in our position. Some some of
Speaker 1: the family was like why is she doing that? Like
Speaker 1: she just all of them getting cheated on, And then
Speaker 1: the other like it's like split you got some that's like,
Speaker 1: why is she doing that? She just want to live
Speaker 1: loud and free and blah blah. She's never gonna find
Speaker 1: anyone that's gonna love her. No one wants that. And
Speaker 1: then the other side is like, she's so loving, we
Speaker 1: love Ricky. Just let her do what she wants to do.
Speaker 1: And then then it's me, I don't even funk what
Speaker 1: you got to say, because I asked right, y'a don't
Speaker 1: pay y'all don't pay no bills over here, So it
Speaker 1: don't make a difference what your opinion is that mm hmm.
Speaker 1: What else? Like what other? Oh? I have a question
Speaker 1: about safety? So with sex, is there any boundaries when
Speaker 1: it comes to condoms and eating pussy and you know,
Speaker 1: because I mean there's diseases that can be passed even
Speaker 1: with oral sex, Like what what type of godlinestea I
Speaker 1: have for that? Well, I'm not having sex with anybody
Speaker 1: without let him know. And um, most of the time
Speaker 1: we we word we get tested. Everybody gets tested m
Speaker 1: M because lately I think M majority of the people
Speaker 1: that we've dealt with together on a sexual level, it
Speaker 1: was all sex workers and we all get tested. So person,
Speaker 1: ya'll never roll the dice on a Saturday night. There
Speaker 1: ain't never been no dice. Everybody be rolling the damn dice.
Speaker 1: No right, yeah, me and him, I'm protected even before
Speaker 1: I was with him, like dealing with in my past,
Speaker 1: I kept my status clean and I hope they kept
Speaker 1: their status clean. But we I would have discussions with people,
Speaker 1: and a lot of times it would be the guys.
Speaker 1: I'd like, so when last time you got tested? And
Speaker 1: I want to know, because niggles cheat off the women test,
Speaker 1: Like if the women they don't have nothing, then they yeah,
Speaker 1: you know. And I feel like now when your girl
Speaker 1: got tested, when you get tested, I don't play that
Speaker 1: because theybe out here putting their love things in anything chill,
Speaker 1: a hot bowl of soup, a warm apple pie. I
Speaker 1: feel good. I found out that they're doing it with bacon.
Speaker 1: They're wrapping bacon around it. What wait what because bacon
Speaker 1: is greasy? So we give it the slip. Niggas is
Speaker 1: wrapping baking around? They did? Is it is? It's not
Speaker 1: cook baking, it's baking. What a waste? That much? Is
Speaker 1: baking costive? But guess what they've been doing that since
Speaker 1: they was living in castles. They still do that. It's
Speaker 1: like illegal to have to own sheep if you're not married,
Speaker 1: and that's still like in the law books you have
Speaker 1: to have a wife to own sheep because they say
Speaker 1: the sheep pussy feels like a woman's vagina. Why do
Speaker 1: they know that because like a sheep, they sheep. Yeah,
Speaker 1: poor animals. You don't see that guy, a black guy
Speaker 1: just went in Charlotte for smashing the horse. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was a black guy in Charlotte went to jail
Speaker 1: for having sex with a dog. Like the neighbor caught
Speaker 1: him sucking a dog in the backyard. Yo, I feel
Speaker 1: like people have been doing that. Ask on up with
Speaker 1: hot worms? Me and Joe was just talking to heartworm disease.
Speaker 1: Was just talking about like how some of the gay
Speaker 1: guys sometimes maybe having gerbils in their bodies. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I wasn't what actors thought that was a joke. It's real.
Speaker 1: They just want to rode it running around in their
Speaker 1: ass because your ass whole out, it'd be tickling the
Speaker 1: prostrate when they'd be climbing up in their booty bold
Speaker 1: trying to survive, to hold out. I hope it bite
Speaker 1: your to the hospital with them things stuck up there.
Speaker 1: But yeah, because what was that actor? He had to
Speaker 1: go to the hospital to get a gerbil removed from
Speaker 1: his asshole. I don't know the actor, but I know
Speaker 1: whole what you're being the hat out. A whole lot
Speaker 1: of gerbils up there, gerbils, hamsters or whatever they are.
Speaker 1: Stop putting them animals up your butt. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: Stop dealing with animals period on the sexual So that's
Speaker 1: not that's not a part of the l g B
Speaker 1: t Q like bestiality. I'm just asking, is it not?
Speaker 1: Hell No, you're supposed to be with humans, You're supposed
Speaker 1: to be with adults. I'm asking. I don't know, Listen,
Speaker 1: I'd be needing clarity. Job let me, you's gonna get show,
Speaker 1: take it off. Don't put that girl me tell you
Speaker 1: can't nobody take ship from me? How about that part? Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm asking because I want clarity, so we are allowed
Speaker 1: to ask questions. Well, so, so a j the thing
Speaker 1: is the gerbil or the rodent thing. It started because
Speaker 1: gay men were doing that. Two. I guess reach have
Speaker 1: a different type of we're guys, but that is not
Speaker 1: part of the lgbt Q plus all them let us,
Speaker 1: it's not part of that lifestyle. What they Yeah, those
Speaker 1: men maybe gay, but they also have issues and they
Speaker 1: like animals. That's weird. All right, let's get back on topic.
Speaker 1: We went somewhere else with that. So uh um and
Speaker 1: the polyamory relationship, do y'all want to get married or
Speaker 1: it's just marriage off the table? You just would rather
Speaker 1: be in relationship forever and never put like ring on it,
Speaker 1: Like what does that look like? At first, I didn't
Speaker 1: want to get married because I just I really don't
Speaker 1: want a wedding. But if he was to say, like, hey, baby,
Speaker 1: want to get married, I'd like maybe when? How? But
Speaker 1: right now I am not like, I'm not like in
Speaker 1: a rush. Marriage kind of scares me, m but I
Speaker 1: do I do want to be with him forever to
Speaker 1: like that. I don't think that's beautiful. I don't think
Speaker 1: we need like a piece of paper in the government
Speaker 1: to be like y'all together. But then again, sometimes when
Speaker 1: you get married, there's different opportunities. You know, what about you? Jody?
Speaker 1: I agree? Now marriage is a business contract. Really, what
Speaker 1: you're signed? Jody virgo um virgo? I know you like
Speaker 1: I already know, already know Ricky is aquarious. I saw that.
Speaker 1: So what do you say you do? Want to get married? Enough?
Speaker 1: I'm with it. It just had to hit me, but
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a marriage contract. But I agree,
Speaker 1: like I don't need to go and get a piece
Speaker 1: of paper to say with Mary do other things like
Speaker 1: I'm with her, She's my forever girl right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess people think about I think about like, well,
Speaker 1: you could always do a will right instead of having
Speaker 1: a marriage license, because people think about, like, you know
Speaker 1: what if something happened to this person, you know how,
Speaker 1: how would we're talking about finances and things being left.
Speaker 1: This is why people think getting married is so important.
Speaker 1: ALC together exactly. But it's still paperwork. So what is
Speaker 1: the big difference between an LLC in a marriage degree?
Speaker 1: Why not? Right, there's no difference, So why are we
Speaker 1: so afraid of that? Yeah? It was the fear. People
Speaker 1: have kids, but they're scared to get married. That's an
Speaker 1: eight ten year commitment. That's a lifelong commitment where you
Speaker 1: have the baby. Yeah, because you you said, uh, will
Speaker 1: you be my baby daddy? Now will you be my husband?
Speaker 1: So why I figured, well, yeah, he does have a child.
Speaker 1: And at the moment when I did ask him that,
Speaker 1: I was just more so focused on I need to
Speaker 1: bring one baby into this world. And I want them
Speaker 1: to have his jeans. I want them to have. I
Speaker 1: want them to have like, yeah, I want his genetic
Speaker 1: makeup from the mind to the feet, I want all that.
Speaker 1: And she liked your feet eat everything about you. I
Speaker 1: guess that's the luxury of waiting, you know, because when
Speaker 1: people have kids, like real young, you end up like
Speaker 1: I got this fucking kid around here with this nigga
Speaker 1: DNA stupid. So you get to wait, and now you
Speaker 1: understand like how important lineage and DNA is and ship
Speaker 1: like that to make sure you get the proper mate.
Speaker 1: Because that's why them old people always be like who
Speaker 1: his people is? Where are he from? Because they want
Speaker 1: to know who the fuck you procreating with all these
Speaker 1: people you you might be creating with your cousin exactly.
Speaker 1: That's everywhere, girl, let's not listen. The first week I
Speaker 1: moved to St. Louis, I saw some niggas on a
Speaker 1: horse with red cups. Okay, let's be clear that is
Speaker 1: the country is country. I'm like, where the hell did
Speaker 1: I just moved to? Like? Why the fund is these
Speaker 1: niggas on? What's that part of django or django? He
Speaker 1: was like, what was that up for? Now? What that
Speaker 1: nigg up? Or? No? Stair girl with the red cup Chippawa?
Speaker 1: Yeah you was really in St. Louis? Yes, I lived
Speaker 1: off at Chippawa. Oh wow, yeah, I was going raised here.
Speaker 1: She's I'm happy. I'm going sorry. Is there any advice
Speaker 1: that you would want to give our listeners that might
Speaker 1: be ready to jump into this polly lifestyle? What would
Speaker 1: you what advice would you leave in with? First, learn
Speaker 1: yourself and love yourself. You need to know what you like,
Speaker 1: what you want, what you need, and you need to
Speaker 1: know how you're going to react when something's not gonna
Speaker 1: happen the way that you wanted to go. And you
Speaker 1: just really need to authentically just love yourself because, like
Speaker 1: they always say, if you don't love yourself, you can't
Speaker 1: let nobody else properly mm hm hm. And be transparent
Speaker 1: whether you're doing Polly or not. Right, Yeah, transparency, be
Speaker 1: very transparent, communicated as much as you can. Uh, and
Speaker 1: be understanding. That's the main thing I think for men
Speaker 1: need to learn to feel a lot of things that
Speaker 1: they were taught and understand a woman is equal to
Speaker 1: you as well, and it's not about controlling the person.
Speaker 1: It's also about welcome this person your spaces. You will
Speaker 1: welcome in that person space as well. And just understanding
Speaker 1: gang you need both types of energies to make things work.
Speaker 1: That creates balance. Things can't be one sided. Yes, we
Speaker 1: should have been talking about that, that masculine versus that
Speaker 1: feminine energy because people think you got to operate in
Speaker 1: one or the other, you know, but you need to
Speaker 1: balance them exactly. Got to have both. Yeah, both beings
Speaker 1: need to know when they both need to be balanced
Speaker 1: so they can come together and be equally yoked. Right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the hard part, that's the hard part. It's really and
Speaker 1: it's really not I don't think I feel like that's
Speaker 1: the hard part in the relationship, finding that balance. Because
Speaker 1: you see TV. Jakes was just like we're raising our
Speaker 1: women to be men. T. G. Jacks just said that
Speaker 1: you have masculine feminine. Yeah, that's I think that's the problem.
Speaker 1: That error is very stuck in. Like we can talk
Speaker 1: about the Bible. The Bible is one side. They don't
Speaker 1: value women in the Bible as much. I was just
Speaker 1: having a conversation at all. When you remove that and
Speaker 1: you teach men that constantly, they grow up thinking women
Speaker 1: are not equal to them. So that that that makes
Speaker 1: a toxic kind of form of masculinity, like, oh, women
Speaker 1: shouldn't be this, should be that. But no, if if
Speaker 1: she's part of you, like she should still have the
Speaker 1: same equal amount to help complete you. Everybody want to
Speaker 1: complete circle. Like I said, the yenang, it's still masculin
Speaker 1: and um feminine energy on both sides. Yeah, it's that.
Speaker 1: It's that Adam and Eve creation story that function up
Speaker 1: when people recognize that black women in particular are the gods,
Speaker 1: Like the closest thing you're gonna get to to God
Speaker 1: on earth. You'll be all right. Because I'm a direct
Speaker 1: descendant of Lilith. I'd like to think maybe tam is too,
Speaker 1: But listen, and Adam received his directions from God directly
Speaker 1: to Adam, So why the hell we blaming even the Bible,
Speaker 1: even if we want to look at that story, why
Speaker 1: are we blaming the women like they demonize women in
Speaker 1: the Bible. And that's why we have all this ship
Speaker 1: going on now in the real world, because you know,
Speaker 1: even if you don't believe in Christianity or the Bible,
Speaker 1: it's a good reference, gud for how its gonna be,
Speaker 1: you know, and how ship is going. And we can
Speaker 1: see you playing out right now. Patriarchy is running out
Speaker 1: fucking muck. Yeah, oh yeah it is, yeah, because these
Speaker 1: niggas is not balanced something they I feel like they're
Speaker 1: trying to check our pussy away from us. They are.
Speaker 1: All right, you guys, please plug yourself for our listeners.
Speaker 1: Plugging your businesses, your social media platforms, anything you would
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Speaker 1: I'm Jody roar Um on Instagram, TikTok, I'm Jody roar
Speaker 1: Love on whatever is it? Twitter, and then Twitter and
Speaker 1: that's pretty much it. Very come. We got Ricky and Jody. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: so follow them. Follow Jody there, what about you? Ricky
Speaker 1: Um on Instagram? I am you know, it's who Chi Pappy,
Speaker 1: but some people say who Kie Poppy? U um on
Speaker 1: what is it? Twitter? On everything else? I'm the black Asian.
Speaker 1: I couldn't use the black Asian on Instagram because they
Speaker 1: keep deleting me, and so that black Asian yeah yo, yeah,
Speaker 1: de black Asian. Why do they keep deleting me? I'm
Speaker 1: a But there's the other sex oh, and I'm glad
Speaker 1: your name. I'm a. I'm a sex worker. I'm a
Speaker 1: black woman that's a sex workers. I can't do what
Speaker 1: the white girls do on the internet. So I can
Speaker 1: be in a bathing suit and I'll get flagged. It's
Speaker 1: like I have to do certain things at a certain
Speaker 1: time a certain way because I can't follow with the other.
Speaker 1: You think it's like a system thing like the algorithm,
Speaker 1: or you think it's actual people doing it. I think
Speaker 1: it's both. I think it's AI and people. I think
Speaker 1: I got some haters for mentors, right, and then it's
Speaker 1: definitely AI because I get in trouble on TikTok and
Speaker 1: I really don't violate anything on TikTok, but AI, after
Speaker 1: after seeing a documentary and doing a little bit of
Speaker 1: reading about artificial intelligence everything about us, it's a threat.
Speaker 1: So I just I just found out that fat is
Speaker 1: a cuss word on Instagram. I got Yeah, it's that's
Speaker 1: like being derogatory towards people who are Fatma that doesn't
Speaker 1: want to come back on so we can discuss why
Speaker 1: we're a threat to AI. Oh, I don't mind coming
Speaker 1: back on it talking about that because I just I
Speaker 1: really feel like that's a that's a joke, as this
Speaker 1: just seems like the more we progressed in life, and
Speaker 1: just as human beings, black people are in those spaces
Speaker 1: to create all this stuff in technology, So just automatically,
Speaker 1: it's like you got all these lighter complected people who
Speaker 1: are creating artificial intelligence and they're literally telling these robots
Speaker 1: dark skinned too much, too much, hits too too much. Booty,
Speaker 1: that's a threat, black Man too. Buck, that's a threat. Dreadlocks,
Speaker 1: that's a threat. That's so sad. It's just so sad.
Speaker 1: But everybody, but they don't like Nigga's boy. Everybody want
Speaker 1: to be a nigga. Tell it's time to be a nigga.
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