Speaker 1: Hey, guys, it's I Do Part two. I'm wor some
Speaker 1: of your celebrity vns. I'm Alexi Napola and I'm joined
Speaker 1: today by my fellow housewife, Kelly Benzim.
Speaker 2: Hi Kelly, Hi, how are you happy? End of summer? Yes?
Speaker 1: Well, I feel like it's still summer for me. It's
Speaker 1: not officially over till like October. I mean here in Miami,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's summer all year long. But yes,
Speaker 1: you know, we'll start getting into it in a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks, but we'll startinly like it's fall.
Speaker 3: You're dressed for the US Open. You're ready to go
Speaker 3: in your tennis white.
Speaker 1: I actually have a little tennis stress because now they're
Speaker 1: very popular. I feel like tennis fashion is super hot
Speaker 1: right now.
Speaker 2: You would look so good in tennis dress too. Thank you.
Speaker 4: They're cute. I think they're so cute.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you'd be like, Hi, guys, let's go and have
Speaker 3: a honeydew and my Islexi im and be like, I'm
Speaker 3: with her whatever. The girl at the blonde is the
Speaker 3: barbie with the I'm with her.
Speaker 1: Speaking of tennis today, we're going to be talking about
Speaker 1: the US Open going on in New York City right now,
Speaker 1: and Kelly is going to give us all the information
Speaker 1: that we need to know. For all you single ladies
Speaker 1: that want to attend a US Open is it a
Speaker 1: good place to meet the love of your life or
Speaker 1: is it just a place to go off on with
Speaker 1: your girls? You're based in New York, Kelly, so for
Speaker 1: our listeners, describe what the atmosphere is like at the match.
Speaker 3: So the atmosphere at the match is, first of all,
Speaker 3: it's outside of New York City, so it takes a
Speaker 3: second to get there. But the atmosphere is very colorful,
Speaker 3: like very energetic. Everyone is really excited to be there,
Speaker 3: and there's a lot of you know, like you said,
Speaker 3: like super well dressed, you know, men and women are
Speaker 3: like I mean, it's definitely a vibe. And it's also
Speaker 3: it's not like next door. It's not like you walk
Speaker 3: outside and you're like, I'm going to take a taxi there.
Speaker 3: It's you know, it's a it's a truck to get there.
Speaker 3: So people really really make an effort.
Speaker 1: Amazing, you know, I feel like all those big sporting
Speaker 1: events you know, are always like hosted outside of the city,
Speaker 1: but you know, people really make it you know a
Speaker 1: thing to go and you know, to attend, you know,
Speaker 1: especially the US Open in New York and I've never been.
Speaker 1: I would love to go so and not only to
Speaker 1: find love, but I think just like the whole experience.
Speaker 1: You know, First of all, I love sports, you know,
Speaker 1: and I do believe that tennis is so much different,
Speaker 1: you know, from basketball, let's say, or baseball or football.
Speaker 1: I feel like when you go to a tennis match,
Speaker 1: the whole a Beyonce, the people that attend, and just
Speaker 1: everything is different. You know, It's a different sport where
Speaker 1: I feel like basketball and football and baseball are more
Speaker 1: like family events. And don't get me wrong, tennis can
Speaker 1: be as well. But I just feel like in tennis,
Speaker 1: it's more like you're there because you love the sport
Speaker 1: and you you know, you're.
Speaker 2: A tennis fan.
Speaker 1: You want to you want to actually sit down and
Speaker 1: see the match, where I feel like in basketball and
Speaker 1: other sports, it's more like you just want to be
Speaker 1: like everywhere, you can see it from everywhere.
Speaker 4: You want you know, you want to drink and you want.
Speaker 1: To have fun and you want to eat, and in tennis,
Speaker 1: I just see it more like a serious sport.
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I have. I've only been to one US Open. I
Speaker 1: mean actually it wasn't even a US Open. And we
Speaker 1: need to talk about that because in Miami we don't
Speaker 1: have the US Open. We have the Miami Open, and
Speaker 1: a lot of people confuse that with the US Open.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's very similar.
Speaker 3: The Miami Open and the US openers are very very similar.
Speaker 4: Oh they're similar and different, but yeah, yes they are.
Speaker 3: I mean I think one thing that like one point
Speaker 3: that you're you're making is that when you go to
Speaker 3: like let's say you go to a basketball game, there's
Speaker 3: all the celebrities are on the floor or they're in
Speaker 3: the they're in the boxes, so you can like see celebrities,
Speaker 3: and then there's like, you know a lot of you know,
Speaker 3: younger kids and parents kind of like you know, just
Speaker 3: there with their with their families. It's not far to
Speaker 3: get to, you know, you just like hop on a
Speaker 3: train or hop in an uber to get there.
Speaker 2: But like again, like going to the US Open, I
Speaker 2: mean it's in Queens.
Speaker 3: It takes a lot of time to get there, so
Speaker 3: and it's also very expensive, so it's not like it's
Speaker 3: not like you can just go and get like a ticket.
Speaker 3: You can't be like at a bar and be like, hey,
Speaker 3: I'm going to pick up there.
Speaker 4: You go, well, you see that's what right there?
Speaker 2: It's expensive.
Speaker 3: Yes, So the people, the caliber of men and women
Speaker 3: that you're going to be meeting there are you know,
Speaker 3: people that are you know, not afraid to spend you know,
Speaker 3: a couple of hundred dollars on you.
Speaker 2: Know, on tickets.
Speaker 3: Also, like the vibe there, it's like all the activations
Speaker 3: are very high end, you know, like the big brands
Speaker 3: are there, and it's just like it's it's again, it's
Speaker 3: like when you're going to like a baseball game, you're
Speaker 3: i mean a basketball game, you're seeing the celebrities, but
Speaker 3: all the celebrities are tucked into these boxes. So you're
Speaker 3: just sitting next to you know, a finance guy or
Speaker 3: a tech guy or and you know, everyone is kind
Speaker 3: of like it's like democratic is like people are all
Speaker 3: in like baseball hats and they're all, oh, oh my god,
Speaker 3: did you see that? So it's like this very common.
Speaker 3: You're you don't feel intimidated to talk to someone.
Speaker 1: So you think definately you can meet better guys. Single
Speaker 1: women could meet better quality men out of tennis.
Speaker 3: I mean yes, if you can get tickets to a
Speaker 3: US Open, if you can get your tickets there, then
Speaker 3: yes you will meet higher quality guys. Also, like if
Speaker 3: you go to like you were saying before, the comparison
Speaker 3: of like a uh, you know basketball, Like there's a
Speaker 3: lot of guys in suits, and so a lot of
Speaker 3: women are like when they see a guy in the suit,
Speaker 3: some women are like, oh my god, I don't want
Speaker 3: to suit, and.
Speaker 2: Other women are like, I'm suits.
Speaker 3: Everyone is kind of like in a vibe like sweaters
Speaker 3: and shirts and collared shirts and polo shirts.
Speaker 1: Like more preppy, more like lower piana, more like like
Speaker 1: the real wealth.
Speaker 4: Right, Like that's how I like to see it, like
Speaker 4: coming from Miami.
Speaker 1: Right in Miami, for example, the Miami Open, the crowd
Speaker 1: that's there, there's a lot of like maybe you know
Speaker 1: Latina superstars, you know, Latin celebrities, but you know, there's
Speaker 1: also like a lot of influencers. Like do influencers like
Speaker 1: attend the US Open? You know? I feel like Miami's
Speaker 1: become a lot of that, Like the influencers get you know,
Speaker 1: tickets and get invited to all these things when they
Speaker 1: really can't even afford to be there. You know, they're
Speaker 1: just there because you know they they were hired, you know,
Speaker 1: to go, or they were given tickets. You know, Miami's
Speaker 1: vibe was more like sexy, tropical, and it's very different,
Speaker 1: you know. I feel the crowd that attends these things
Speaker 1: in Miami, they comfort they go for something different, whereas
Speaker 1: I see the US Open in New York more global.
Speaker 1: You know, there's international people, you know, from all over.
Speaker 1: There's entrepreneurs, there's you know, businessmen from Wall Street. There's
Speaker 1: also a lot of celebrities.
Speaker 4: And I just think it's like a different vibe.
Speaker 1: I just feel like I've never been, but like reading
Speaker 1: about this, I'm like excited to go. By the way,
Speaker 1: Martina and Julia are there, so I have my ticket already.
Speaker 1: I could definitely go with Martina and Julia. And I've
Speaker 1: been reading about so many celebrities you know that we've
Speaker 1: seen that attendees. You know, the attenda you was open.
Speaker 2: You should come, You should come, and we should go together.
Speaker 1: We should make it like a test, right, Like we'll
Speaker 1: go both single girls and see how, you know how
Speaker 1: it goes for us, Right, And they get back to
Speaker 1: the viewers and say, you know this is what happened.
Speaker 4: This is the research at least for us, and we'll
Speaker 4: share it.
Speaker 3: I would love that if you want to come, we
Speaker 3: will go together. So just back to like the vibe there,
Speaker 3: there's this drink that it's called the honey deuce like deuce,
Speaker 3: but people call it the honey dew because it's made
Speaker 3: it's like the condiment is honeydew.
Speaker 2: These little these little melon balls, You're so cute.
Speaker 3: It sounds so good, and they were making non alcoholic ones,
Speaker 3: so it's really fun to like and everyone's like, is
Speaker 3: that a honey deuce or a honey dew? So that
Speaker 3: could be kind of like what are you ordering?
Speaker 2: You know? What do you what are you going to
Speaker 2: getting in your honeydew or deuce? People don't know.
Speaker 3: So it's a fun way of like good opening line,
Speaker 3: you know, because people don't know. And so I'm I'm
Speaker 3: kind of like if you meet someone they're like, is
Speaker 3: that a I would like a honeydew and they're like,
Speaker 3: it's a deuce.
Speaker 2: You're like got it?
Speaker 3: Like that guy's been here before we know him. And
Speaker 3: also one of the things I see that like if
Speaker 3: I tell this to my kids and to myself, Like
Speaker 3: you never know who you're going to meet, and like,
Speaker 3: I meet so many people and then.
Speaker 2: Someone's like, oh my god, you single.
Speaker 3: Someone's so single, and you meet so many different people
Speaker 3: being in an environment, and this is a great environment
Speaker 3: because again, like there's you're talking about, Oh my god,
Speaker 3: like that you know that one athlete shaved his head.
Speaker 3: Why is that guy wearing purple? Oh my, it's so
Speaker 3: cool to see you know, Venus back playing tennis. Like
Speaker 3: you said, like you know your friends Martin and there,
Speaker 3: Like there's there's things to talk about. Like I'll be
Speaker 3: like like literally I was there the other the other day,
Speaker 3: and like I was with and Carl Radke and I
Speaker 3: was like, I was like, oh my god, Carl, look
Speaker 3: what they're wearing in Carls Like we were like having fun,
Speaker 3: like talking about what they were wearing.
Speaker 2: And it was fun. It was really fun.
Speaker 1: Do you think we need to know a little bit
Speaker 1: about tennis?
Speaker 3: No, I mean there's so many things to talk about, celebrities, clothing, vibe.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But I mean I think I think we should
Speaker 1: be a little educated as far as you know, like
Speaker 1: what you're there for, like who you're going for.
Speaker 4: You at least need to.
Speaker 1: Know like who's playing in the matches and you know,
Speaker 1: knowing that basic.
Speaker 4: I mean that's just me.
Speaker 1: I like to do that, Like I just don't like
Speaker 1: to show up somewhere especially. I mean, I've always been
Speaker 1: a sport fanatic. I love baseball, I love all the sports,
Speaker 1: and so if I would go, I would like to
Speaker 1: have a little bit of you know, knowledge, you know
Speaker 1: about the sport. And I think that's a good way too,
Speaker 1: because you never know who's sitting next to you, you.
Speaker 4: Know, and some guys think that's hot.
Speaker 1: Some guys think it's hot like for the woman to
Speaker 1: know about sports, And I mean, I don't care what
Speaker 1: they think, but I like it for myself, like I
Speaker 1: want to know, like at least you's plain. I feel
Speaker 1: like sometimes o ladies go to these sporting events and
Speaker 1: they're just there for that so like pick up guys
Speaker 1: and they're really not there for the sport, and you know,
Speaker 1: it doesn't for me, like it doesn't like look, you know,
Speaker 1: doesn't look so sexy like for me, you know, like
Speaker 1: you're just there for that. Like I like to know
Speaker 1: what I'm there, who's playing a little bit about the sport,
Speaker 1: and you know, I think that can also be like
Speaker 1: you know, cute, you know, like to start a conversation
Speaker 1: with the guy. You know.
Speaker 4: I think guys like that.
Speaker 3: I mean, I love that you are that engaged that
Speaker 3: you want to know. Not everybody is like knows really
Speaker 3: what's going on. They're just kind of like going to
Speaker 3: have fun or they're going to like, you know, see
Speaker 3: who's there. Like you were talking about the influencers that
Speaker 3: there's not that many influencers. There a high ticket item
Speaker 3: and it's not about your phone. If people are not
Speaker 3: on their phone, this is like watching tennis.
Speaker 1: People are like, oh right, well, you know, I think
Speaker 1: it's That's what I'm saying. Like you're sitting there and
Speaker 1: you have like full access and you're really like absorbing
Speaker 1: everything that's going on.
Speaker 4: So I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that nobody's on their phone because I feel like,
Speaker 1: you know, we've lost so much, you literally lose everything
Speaker 1: if you go to a game and you're the whole
Speaker 1: time on your phone or taking videos or taking pictures.
Speaker 1: You know, I think people are too caught up in that.
Speaker 3: Well people too, they're like if I if I if
Speaker 3: it wasn't if I didn't record it, if I don't
Speaker 3: have it on my phone. Then I wasn't there. I mean,
Speaker 3: that's not my vibe. Like I was there. I'm seeing it.
Speaker 3: I'm talking about it.
Speaker 2: Wait, but do you know what love means in tennis?
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Tell me, tell me it's a score.
Speaker 4: It's a score.
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, it's like forty loves right, It's not like
Speaker 3: forty kiss my face.
Speaker 2: It's like forty.
Speaker 1: Yes that I know.
Speaker 4: But you see that's what I mean. You need to know,
Speaker 4: like this.
Speaker 2: Is like love, let's kiss, not the kiss can.
Speaker 1: Do you know what loved tennis? So that's why I
Speaker 1: was like caught off. But yeah, I know that.
Speaker 4: You see that. We need to know you catch the
Speaker 4: open the game and not know that.
Speaker 3: So it means so forty love, So it means zero
Speaker 3: in scoring does not. It's not the kiss camp. People
Speaker 3: are like love and everyone kisses. No, it means zero.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I like it. I like that more than
Speaker 4: the kiss Camp.
Speaker 3: We've seen a lot of things happening with the kiss
Speaker 3: camp lately, exactly.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we don't want to see that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'll actually be fun if they had the
Speaker 3: kiss camp at at the tennis at the US Open.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, it's funny too, because people are like, like,
Speaker 5: do you think that going that going to the US
Speaker 5: Open is a good place for a first date?
Speaker 2: And like, I'm totally on the fence about it.
Speaker 3: Like on the one hand, I'm like, you have to
Speaker 3: like be ready at like four thirty and then it
Speaker 3: takes like an hour to get out there, and then
Speaker 3: you're like having a drink and maybe having some chicken
Speaker 3: nuggets with caviar, and it's a lot of fun things.
Speaker 2: But it's a very long date. So I'm like, maybe
Speaker 2: a second date.
Speaker 3: It would be really good for, or like a third date,
Speaker 3: but I feel like a first date, if you're just
Speaker 3: meeting someone and you're spending that much time with them,
Speaker 3: what are your thoughts?
Speaker 1: So I mean, the reason why I don't think that
Speaker 1: it's a good that I would like it for a
Speaker 1: first date is because I feel like a first date,
Speaker 1: you really need to have more conversations, You need to talk,
Speaker 1: you need to get to know each other. So it
Speaker 1: depends if it's your first date with somebody that you've
Speaker 1: already been talking to, it's it might be okay, even
Speaker 1: if it's a lot of hours. I think that that's
Speaker 1: actually good because you really get to know whether you
Speaker 1: like that person or not, so that can work. But
Speaker 1: if it's like a first date that you haven't had
Speaker 1: like too much conversation with and you really don't know,
Speaker 1: I think it could be you know, a little awkward.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean that's how I feel about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I totally with you.
Speaker 3: I think it could be a little awkward to be
Speaker 3: spending that much time with someone. And by the way,
Speaker 3: like I feel like when you're on a date, you
Speaker 3: should be on an actual date, like how is.
Speaker 2: Your day, not like, oh my god, did you see
Speaker 2: that job? How was your day?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: It would be like.
Speaker 1: Very personally, it's very like impersonal, you know, And that's why,
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't like it for a first date, but
Speaker 1: if it's someone that I'm dating, I think it's like
Speaker 1: a cool, fun activity to do as a couple. And
Speaker 1: how do you feel So the guys that go to
Speaker 1: the US open there, I feel like there's a lot
Speaker 1: of couples you know that send and but do you
Speaker 1: also you know, I guess it would also be like
Speaker 1: you know, single men, you know, like we talked about
Speaker 1: you know earlier, that you know with different professions that
Speaker 1: are just there, you know, to social network, or because
Speaker 1: you know their company, you know, got to got the
Speaker 1: seeds or a box, or they're there for the brand.
Speaker 1: There's so many reasons like while they're there, and just
Speaker 1: like single women, So as a woman, would you go
Speaker 1: there like by yourself.
Speaker 4: Or would you go with like a group of friends.
Speaker 3: I mean it's a massive, massive arena. I wouldn't necessarily
Speaker 3: go but myself. I mean I personally would not do that.
Speaker 3: But I have seen, you know, I see single women there.
Speaker 3: I see like, but I think it's better to go
Speaker 3: with someone because then.
Speaker 4: Also too, so I think that's the perfect Like if you.
Speaker 3: And I were together, we would be talking to people.
Speaker 3: We wouldn't just be standing there.
Speaker 1: I could be a wing woman also, right, we probably
Speaker 1: just a woman, which is great.
Speaker 2: And that's what the that's the whole vibe.
Speaker 3: And you know, I and again it's like a really
Speaker 3: fun environment and you meet a lot there's a lot
Speaker 3: of interesting people. Like I literally was just there and
Speaker 3: I met so many new people and it was just
Speaker 3: really you know, fun. And one person was in the theater,
Speaker 3: one person was on television, you know, one person wasn't
Speaker 3: you know, as an actor, And I just.
Speaker 2: Met a lot of different kinds of people.
Speaker 3: And it's funny because my friend of mine was like,
Speaker 3: you have to go on RIA because there's all these
Speaker 3: tennis people are on RIA right now because they're all
Speaker 3: in town, Like all these pros are there.
Speaker 4: So what do they do? They just get on Riot
Speaker 4: just while they're there.
Speaker 3: Well, you know, it's it like tells you like their
Speaker 3: location of where they are. So people are like in town,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, they're on Riot. People would
Speaker 3: be like Alexis and.
Speaker 2: In town Alexis and New York.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, so are you on I don't know.
Speaker 1: Some people have recommended that, but I've never That's like
Speaker 1: a whole different podcast, but I've never.
Speaker 2: I don't. I mean I would.
Speaker 3: I mean I dated an athlete, and I genuinely really
Speaker 3: I like athletes a lot.
Speaker 4: I like, I feel like a women love athletes.
Speaker 2: I like that they have discipline. That's what I like.
Speaker 4: Discipline, That's exactly what I like as well.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But I mean if you date like a hockey player,
Speaker 3: like they have a certain like you can't like go out.
Speaker 2: They don't go out, you know, they eat the certain
Speaker 2: same meals.
Speaker 3: They get massaged all the time, they work exercising, so
Speaker 3: that would be hard. But yeah, I mean I could
Speaker 3: date like I don't know, like a football player or something,
Speaker 3: or tennis player.
Speaker 2: I don't know if they seem to feel like a.
Speaker 4: Lot of players are married.
Speaker 1: It was like that hot tennis player that has the
Speaker 1: pretty girlfriend, Paige Lorentz.
Speaker 4: Whatever, did you do? You know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, so yeah, I think she's fabulous and like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I just love to see her and her fashion.
Speaker 1: So she shows up and that she was open looking beautiful, right,
Speaker 1: like her outfits are on point because you know, I
Speaker 1: also feel like the women dress differently to go to
Speaker 1: what you was open then obviously a basketball game or
Speaker 1: a baseball game. You know, I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: they can show up elegantly and then also you know,
Speaker 1: like sporty but like sexy, but they know exactly like
Speaker 1: how to dress, you know, to the event.
Speaker 2: Aren't in jeans, which is so nice too.
Speaker 3: It's like it's just nice to go to like an
Speaker 3: event where people aren't in jeans, like you know, people
Speaker 3: are in white jeans or in tennis swunters like you
Speaker 3: their dresses, their main dresses, but the men aren't in
Speaker 3: jeans and the women aren't in jeans. I mean, unless
Speaker 3: you're working for a tennis player, then they're a you know,
Speaker 3: at leisure. But I think it's also nice to just
Speaker 3: be an environment where we're like dressed and you're like, oh, okay,
Speaker 3: so they've put in the effort to get there. They
Speaker 3: put in the effort to get dressed, do you know
Speaker 3: what I mean, they're like there. It's like that's the
Speaker 3: kind of guy that you love that.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: There's no scrubs, like it's very like you know, they're
Speaker 3: they're putting in the effort to be.
Speaker 2: There, and I love that.
Speaker 4: I agree.
Speaker 2: I got a guy that puts in the efforts.
Speaker 1: We like it.
Speaker 4: We like the guy that dress as well.
Speaker 1: And I feel like the us open, like I said,
Speaker 1: is like you're going to get the best of the best. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I just not only in fashion, but I
Speaker 1: feel like the men that are there, you know, are
Speaker 1: all like educated men with careers, and I, like I said,
Speaker 1: I've never been, but I'm so excited to go next year.
Speaker 1: And you also have the fashion week going on in
Speaker 1: New York, No, the next week.
Speaker 2: That's coming up.
Speaker 3: I mean, I wouldn't necessarily bring a date to Fashion Week.
Speaker 3: I would definitely bring a day to the US Open.
Speaker 3: But if you're like, wow, it's really great, and for
Speaker 3: the way you don't in your date, like looking at
Speaker 3: mom and then being right and then look at you
Speaker 3: and you're like, hi, oh, that.
Speaker 1: Would never happen. Yeah, you know. I don't think men
Speaker 1: belong there unless they go by themselves and then there
Speaker 1: and that's creepy.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'll like, yeah. I had a guy
Speaker 2: that was like, oh my.
Speaker 3: He was like, can you bring me to the Victoria's
Speaker 3: Secret Fashion Show? And I was like, yeah, we can go,
Speaker 3: And then I'm like taking him to the Victoria's Secret
Speaker 3: Fashion He was like, oh my god, we so great.
Speaker 3: We're going to see all these girls. And I'm like,
Speaker 3: not with me right, thank you so much for now
Speaker 3: trying to like no, I'm not going to sit there
Speaker 3: and watch you like, you.
Speaker 4: Know, salivate over, jazz up over like a twenty year old.
Speaker 2: That's not happening.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: Thinking is like the US SO Open Fashion Week. I'm like,
Speaker 1: maybe next year I can do a little bit of both.
Speaker 1: I can do the US SO big the same time.
Speaker 3: You have to come, but you have to come to
Speaker 3: fashion Week obviously, but the US Opens at the same time.
Speaker 2: It's always like back to the US Open, which is
Speaker 2: really fun.
Speaker 3: But another thing, you know, there is so much fun
Speaker 3: on there and the people do dress up, and it's
Speaker 3: interesting because this would be a good reason to go
Speaker 3: on a date with someone that wants to go to
Speaker 3: the US Open, because my algorithm is like, these are
Speaker 3: the kind of guys you want to day.
Speaker 2: Like, I mean, I'm like, I literally.
Speaker 3: Wake up and my algorithm is like telling me all
Speaker 3: these different kinds of guys that I should be with.
Speaker 1: Well, I don't want to tell you what my algorithm says.
Speaker 1: Who keeps a private my algorithm is it's so funny, right,
Speaker 1: the phone like knows what like we're going through in
Speaker 1: our lives.
Speaker 2: It's crazy.
Speaker 1: It's so crazy, and it's good in many ways, but
Speaker 1: it's also not that great in others because it really
Speaker 1: gets to you because like the stuff is coming up.
Speaker 3: Starts thinking right, yeah, well wait, so my algorithm is
Speaker 3: telling me. It says that this, and this was something
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, this guy is I
Speaker 3: can't remember his name, but I'm like, this guy is
Speaker 3: really on point. Is that a guy who makes plans
Speaker 3: to see you in the future to do things that
Speaker 3: are interesting.
Speaker 2: Is A is a good guy?
Speaker 1: Oh what can I tell you something? Because algorithm is
Speaker 1: something different from yours. So a guys that makes you
Speaker 1: he could be future faking. He could make anti promises.
Speaker 2: No anty promises.
Speaker 3: Okay, hold on, like we're going get ready, put your
Speaker 3: Tinnis whatter on.
Speaker 1: A lot of these guys are bleaders and they're like
Speaker 1: love mombing you in the beginning, and they're saying, you know,
Speaker 1: like you know, promising all these empty promises and future faking.
Speaker 4: So you have to be you have to be careful.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Obviously, if you do like the guy, you want to
Speaker 1: be excited about it and you want them to be
Speaker 1: making plans for the future because that's a good sign.
Speaker 4: But you also have to be very.
Speaker 1: Aware that it could as it could be a good
Speaker 1: sign for normal guys and you know, emotionally available and
Speaker 1: well psychologically guys. It can also be the type of
Speaker 1: guy that does it with every woman or it's just
Speaker 1: part of his personality trait that he's you know, faking
Speaker 1: it and he's just like offering you all these things
Speaker 1: and making empty promises and you know, I'm not trying
Speaker 1: to be negative. You know, I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: if that's what it's telling you to do, and that's
Speaker 1: what you want, but just be aware that's just all
Speaker 1: same because my augior say something else.
Speaker 2: Empty promises to redfly. But where where are you, Alexi?
Speaker 2: Where are you in your life right now?
Speaker 1: So I am divorced and I am on the other side,
Speaker 1: luckily and gratefully.
Speaker 4: It's been you know, hard, a very hard year for me.
Speaker 1: You know, the show is still airing, so reliving, you know,
Speaker 1: all these episodes and.
Speaker 4: Just seeing me like this this this season.
Speaker 1: You know, I it's not me, you know, it's like
Speaker 1: not me, Like I've put up with so much, not
Speaker 1: only on the show, you know, as as a cast
Speaker 1: me and if you're watching this show, you can see
Speaker 1: because it's not the Alexia.
Speaker 4: It's kind of like my life was simmed.
Speaker 1: And you know, I wasn't depressed, because I really don't
Speaker 1: get depressed, but you know, I was so emotional and
Speaker 1: I was so I was going through so much on
Speaker 1: my personal life that I was just like shutting out
Speaker 1: all the noise, you know, like I wasn't really invested,
Speaker 1: you know, with the girls, what was going on. I
Speaker 1: was just kind of like sitting back watching it play
Speaker 1: and it's kind of like what I was going through
Speaker 1: with my personal life, you know.
Speaker 4: I was just kind of.
Speaker 1: Like sitting back just watching it all play out, seeing
Speaker 1: the patterns, gathering information and kind of just like figuring
Speaker 1: things out. But like I said, I'm like on the
Speaker 1: other side now, and you know, it was really difficult,
Speaker 1: but you know, and it's not that I chose the show.
Speaker 2: I chose me.
Speaker 1: I had to choose me, and it took me all
Speaker 1: this time to know that what I did was the
Speaker 1: right thing.
Speaker 2: So I hate that you say that your light was damn.
Speaker 3: I mean, obviously you're just so bright and beautiful and
Speaker 3: sweet and that.
Speaker 2: Makes me seek Kelly.
Speaker 4: Thank you, Kelly.
Speaker 2: I know you've been through a lot.
Speaker 4: You know it is.
Speaker 1: And I look back and I see like even like,
Speaker 1: you know, looking at the comments and all that, I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't believe. You know, we have a
Speaker 1: certain girl on the show that I came in super
Speaker 1: solid or a new cast member, and she wanted to
Speaker 1: take over, and like literally she was insulting me. It
Speaker 1: was like verbal assault. And I was okay with that,
Speaker 1: and I guess because I was okay with that in
Speaker 1: my personal life, and I just I was just like
Speaker 1: in a really really you know, dark stage in my life,
Speaker 1: you know, going through that in my personal life.
Speaker 4: And then I was just like taking it from everybody.
Speaker 1: But you know, the alexis back, you know, and you'll
Speaker 1: see a different you know, I'm so excited for people
Speaker 1: to see, like who I really am. I've always been
Speaker 1: very genuine and raw on the show, as I am
Speaker 1: in my personal life. But you know, when you're going
Speaker 1: through things like this in your personal life, it could
Speaker 1: really affect you, you know, in.
Speaker 4: A way and you don't even notice.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's awful and I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3: But also, you know, just talking about like you know,
Speaker 3: new beginnings and you know it's coming, fall is coming,
Speaker 3: and just doing different things, and I just feel like
Speaker 3: when you're around other people, you know, like, Okay, we
Speaker 3: can watch tennis, and it's fun to meet people and
Speaker 3: drink these honeydews and have fun and that's great, but
Speaker 3: you know, just being around other people is just you know,
Speaker 3: we're humans and we need that human interaction. And I
Speaker 3: think it's I think that's one thing that that's why
Speaker 3: people really love The Open Too, is because the enthusiasm
Speaker 3: is so contagious, and so wherever you are in your life,
Speaker 3: if you're like you know, if you have love issues,
Speaker 3: or if your kids are going to college or having
Speaker 3: like kind of like an end of the summer, it's
Speaker 3: almost brings this new energy to like fall forward into fall,
Speaker 3: you know what i mean, and just a new way
Speaker 3: to connect with other people. That's like there's no there's
Speaker 3: nothing to win, nothing to lose, Like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: what do you think of that guy wearing purple?
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like there's nothing to lose and there's everything to gain
Speaker 3: by just having fun.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think God to have such great friends,
Speaker 1: you know, that have brought a lot of joy and laughter.
Speaker 4: To my life.
Speaker 2: I always have fun with you.
Speaker 1: I know, I'm gonna give me York next month and
Speaker 1: the following also, like for the next two weeks, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be in New York a lot, so I'm gonna
Speaker 1: call you so we can definitely go out.
Speaker 4: And catch up.
Speaker 2: I would love that.
Speaker 1: Yah. You know. As far as dating, I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: not very at Kelly because I need to you know,
Speaker 1: I'm still healing and and I just need to be
Speaker 1: good with myself. You know, I feel like I've gone
Speaker 1: into a lot of these relationships with men because of
Speaker 1: comeing to my life. When I've been I haven't been
Speaker 1: in a good place, and that's what I've attracted.
Speaker 4: So I need to be great. I need to be
Speaker 4: so good.
Speaker 1: So I'm going to keep on focusing on me, on
Speaker 1: my boys that you know, like you that I know
Speaker 1: you're a great mom. That's through my life, and that's
Speaker 1: you know what I've always like my life has been,
Speaker 1: you know about them. I'm going to continue to do
Speaker 1: that focus on me, and you know, when I do
Speaker 1: believe in love, and I'm sure you know, I'll move
Speaker 1: on with my life. But you know, for the first
Speaker 1: time in my life, Kelly, I'm not ready to be
Speaker 1: with anybody else. And I've always been ready. I've gone
Speaker 1: from like one. I feel like I've been married on
Speaker 1: my life and always in a relationship. But you know,
Speaker 1: marriage didn't work out so good for me, so I'm
Speaker 1: not planning on getting married again. Maybe I'll just say
Speaker 1: girlfriend or whatever. But I believe in love, whether it's
Speaker 1: in the tennis, whether I'm going to find it and
Speaker 1: you is open or a fashion week or in Miami
Speaker 1: or in Madrid, wherever it is. My heart is always
Speaker 1: open for love, but my part needs to heal.
Speaker 2: That's super brave of you. First of all, Oh don't cry,
Speaker 2: don't cry. I'm here for you. I think too.
Speaker 3: Listen Alexia that you know there's some people that just
Speaker 3: you know, are like I need to be with somebody.
Speaker 2: And you know, do you know how like cool it
Speaker 2: is for you to just like take time for yourself.
Speaker 3: I mean, with everything that you've been going through personally, professionally,
Speaker 3: everybody loves you, and you know we're all here for you.
Speaker 2: We support you one hundred percent, and you know you
Speaker 2: can take all the time you want. This is not
Speaker 2: a race, this is not a sprint. It's a marathon.
Speaker 3: And you know, there's you have so much time, and
Speaker 3: some people are like, Okay, I'm going to start September one,
Speaker 3: or some people are like, okay, I just need to
Speaker 3: start dating immediately. And I think it's just very cool
Speaker 3: of you, and I'm like that, like I just like
Speaker 3: after my breakup, I was like I just need a
Speaker 3: second to like just take a second. And there's nothing
Speaker 3: wrong with that and nothing wrong with it, and there's
Speaker 3: just so many opportunities out there to meet people and
Speaker 3: just to have fun with no commitment, not trying to
Speaker 3: meet it, no intention to meet anyone.
Speaker 1: Right at that stage, it like the intentional like I'm
Speaker 1: not looking for any fag Like, I'm not like like
Speaker 1: you said, I want to have fun.
Speaker 4: I want to feel free.
Speaker 1: I want to just be me, you know, I want
Speaker 1: to like find myself again, because sometimes you lose yourself
Speaker 1: in these relationships.
Speaker 2: That's one lesson that I have learned.
Speaker 3: And also my kids are like, mom, like, this is
Speaker 3: what's going on. This is how it's I'm like, why
Speaker 3: is everyone like, how did they get so bright?
Speaker 4: Well, they learned through us something good.
Speaker 2: I'm an adult in the room. They're like, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: this is how it works.
Speaker 1: Someone got you good well, daughters that call you out
Speaker 1: and remind you. Sometimes we need to be reminded, you know,
Speaker 1: by either our friends or our family or our daughters
Speaker 1: or whatever.
Speaker 3: But that's why this pod is so good too, because
Speaker 3: we can connect and talk about things that we may
Speaker 3: not necessarily talk about, like filming or just an everyday life.
Speaker 4: Filming is pretty different.
Speaker 1: You know you've been part of it, so you know,
Speaker 1: you know, for filming you know, we're nine girls, so
Speaker 1: we each have a story. And I was very protective
Speaker 1: of my story because I was going through it in
Speaker 1: a real.
Speaker 4: Time, and I was protective of him. I was protective
Speaker 4: of us.
Speaker 1: You.
Speaker 4: I better on my relationship. So I didn't share.
Speaker 1: A lot this season because when you're when it's real
Speaker 1: and you're going through it and you what you guys
Speaker 1: saw is actually what was really happening in my life.
Speaker 1: It was emotional chaos and turmoil when they were a
Speaker 1: good when you were bad. But like you said, you know,
Speaker 1: when you're feeling, you can't share all that. Like the
Speaker 1: viewers don't see the whole story, they see like bits
Speaker 1: and pieces of it, and then there's editing obviously, so
Speaker 1: then you know, it just changes things.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: So I love that you do have this platform, you know,
Speaker 1: and I love to share it with you. What we
Speaker 1: can talk about relationships and we can talk about us.
Speaker 4: And just you know, inspire help anybody else that's going
Speaker 4: through it.
Speaker 1: Now. I'm not ready to go with you this year
Speaker 1: to the US Open, but next year I probviously will
Speaker 1: be ready. We're gonna kick ass and we're gonna have
Speaker 1: fun more than anything, because for me, it's all about
Speaker 1: having fun.
Speaker 4: I've never like been that kind of one.
Speaker 1: And I don't know about you, even when I've been
Speaker 1: single the short time that i've been single like that,
Speaker 1: that I go out with my friends and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: let's go here because you know the welfing men go
Speaker 1: there and we can meet a welfing.
Speaker 4: Like it's never been in my mind to meet somebody.
Speaker 1: And you know, despite the you know, the the whatever,
Speaker 1: you know, the image that some people may have of
Speaker 1: me that I'm a gold digger, which I'm not because
Speaker 1: I would have so many millions of I was so
Speaker 1: and I believe, you know, haven't gotten much from that,
Speaker 1: but whatever, except uh, you know, they they sell you, well,
Speaker 1: what is it that they say? They sell you a
Speaker 1: dream and then they deliver a nightmare. So that's pretty been. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But what I'm trying to say is like my thing
Speaker 1: has never been that, Like I want to go to
Speaker 1: the US Open Besides that, you know, we're talking about
Speaker 1: that it could be a great place to meet eligible
Speaker 1: bachelors and whatnot.
Speaker 4: But like you said, to have fun, you know, and
Speaker 4: if something good comes.
Speaker 1: Out of it, if I meet, you know, a man
Speaker 1: that potentially I can have a relationship with the throll
Speaker 1: in love good. But I feel like we need to
Speaker 1: just go for fun, not to really look for what
Speaker 1: you're looking for, because for me, it's never happened that way.
Speaker 3: By the way, the lis Open is not a place
Speaker 3: to find billionaires or private planes or.
Speaker 2: Any of these things.
Speaker 3: It's just a baseline of people that have interests and
Speaker 3: hobbies and that are using their you know, their what
Speaker 3: you know, their money, that their work. You know, they
Speaker 3: work hard for to do things like they're playing tennis
Speaker 3: on a Tuesday if they want, they're playing, they're starting pickleball.
Speaker 3: You know, there's there they were invited, that they're making
Speaker 3: an effort. You know, it's not necessarily about how much
Speaker 3: money that they have. For me, it's about who they
Speaker 3: are as a person and how they're living their life.
Speaker 3: I mean, I want to be with someone who like
Speaker 3: loves their life.
Speaker 2: I don't want to be with.
Speaker 3: Someone that's like, oh, here's my great life, like you
Speaker 3: can't have it, and that's someone I want I want
Speaker 3: to I want to have someone that's like loving their
Speaker 3: life and be like, oh my god, guess what we're
Speaker 3: doing today.
Speaker 4: Right right, and wants to share it.
Speaker 1: With you. So yeah, I mean absolutely, But that's like
Speaker 1: what you know, I told my my my girlfriends that
Speaker 1: have been single for a long time, and I think
Speaker 1: it's just they go looking for it. So you know,
Speaker 1: I want to like make that Yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: send that message to the women that like, don't go
Speaker 1: looking for it when you're not looking for it. It's
Speaker 1: like when it comes to you. And at least that's
Speaker 1: how it's been, you know, for me. And and you know, yes,
Speaker 1: the US open might be a great place to potentially
Speaker 1: meet someone, but you know what, so is the supermarket.
Speaker 4: So it's the bank.
Speaker 3: And so I always say, I always say Sundays at
Speaker 3: the supermarket is the best, right.
Speaker 1: And Sundays at the gym in the morning that means
Speaker 1: it's a guy that doesn't like to go out a night.
Speaker 1: Sundays early in the morning is also a good place,
Speaker 1: like you know, to me, guys, but you know, I
Speaker 1: get I feel like you can meet them anywhere, you
Speaker 1: just have to be open to it. And and you know,
Speaker 1: and at our age, you know, I think that we're
Speaker 1: at a stage in our lives that we really know
Speaker 1: what we want and don't know and we know, like
Speaker 1: all the rest flags, you know, because we've gone through it.
Speaker 1: We have experienced, you know, we have life experience and lessons,
Speaker 1: so we have an advantage, my friend.
Speaker 5: We do, we would advantage we do that you're using
Speaker 5: all the tennis lingo, Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well I'm I again, like I think you're
Speaker 3: amazing and appreciate you opening up and you know, US
Speaker 3: Open is really really fun, but friendships are even more fun.
Speaker 3: And I'm just having such a great time like getting
Speaker 3: to know you and supporting you on your journey.
Speaker 4: Thank you, Kelly. It's always great to talk to you
Speaker 4: and look forward to seeing you in New York. Yes,
Speaker 4: and talking for sure and doing more podcasts together because.
Speaker 2: I would love that talk to you. Love that.
Speaker 1: So if you're going to the US Open, we hope
Speaker 1: you have the best time. And if you meet someone,
Speaker 1: call us and tell us all about it or email
Speaker 1: and phone number are in the show notes. Follow us
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