WEBVTT - You Aint My Daddy

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just two unapologetically black women talk back.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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<v Speaker 1>new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to

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<v Speaker 1>you dreamers and chasers. This is your co host, AJ Holliday.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, Tam Bam?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, y'allays, Meet Tam Bam. I love y'all. I love

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<v Speaker 2>you too. Aj. How you doing, Hey, girl?

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<v Speaker 1>I love your bag.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you something.

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<v Speaker 3>A bit said that she know our voices apart because

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<v Speaker 3>you sound articulate and I sound slow, like I be

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<v Speaker 3>dragging my words and I just want.

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<v Speaker 2>To say something, bitch, I am not slow.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes my words may slur or you know, drag together

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<v Speaker 3>one because I'm country in two because I haven't missed

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<v Speaker 3>or I don't even I don't like saying I have it.

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<v Speaker 2>There's some mss lingering around somewhere. So that's why, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't slow ship.

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<v Speaker 1>And there somewhere some ship in there, some motherfucking ship somewhere.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what it stand for, some motherfucking ship.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know the reason why I have to really

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<v Speaker 1>sound like try to sound super articulate on that ship,

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<v Speaker 1>and one day I'm gonna do a whole geee motherfucking episode,

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<v Speaker 1>but I want to make sure that people are hear

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<v Speaker 1>me and understand me, So I intentionally try to articulate

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<v Speaker 1>as good as possible for y'all motherfuckers. And when I don't, like,

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<v Speaker 1>say ship like hoiter, Okay, this bitch horse correct me.

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<v Speaker 2>A hoiter.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not no tea in that ship. I'm not adding

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<v Speaker 1>a tea. I'm adding a d hoiter.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a it's an extra letter somewhere in there.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember when one of my homegirls was like, why

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<v Speaker 1>you be saying again? And I'm like, huh what you mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Like she was like, Okay, if I invite you someplace,

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<v Speaker 1>you would hit me up and be like I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>coming again.

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<v Speaker 2>Like y'all don't say again, not at the end of

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<v Speaker 2>that sentence.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, because in our minds, and I'm not gonna say mine, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to come, but now I'm not coming again.

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<v Speaker 1>I've changed my mind. It makes sense to us. Mm again,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, bitch, yeah, what you had going on.

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<v Speaker 3>My weekend was I ended up going to Dreamville Fest

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<v Speaker 3>out of nowhere. One of my one of my homies

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<v Speaker 3>for Innerscope was like, where are you at?

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<v Speaker 2>Pull up?

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, I gassed up the Jetta. I ain't

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<v Speaker 3>got no Jeda, but I gased up the Jetta and

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<v Speaker 3>shout out to Dreamville fest. It was so much fun.

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<v Speaker 3>I took my little sister with me and that was

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<v Speaker 3>her first festival. We had a time, girl. It was

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<v Speaker 3>so many people. There's a lot of walking. It was

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<v Speaker 3>a little chili. So the festival looks wasn't looking. Everybody

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<v Speaker 3>kind of had on like hoodies and leggings, just trying

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<v Speaker 3>to stay warm out.

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<v Speaker 2>Though it was cold.

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<v Speaker 3>It wasn't cold, but it wasn't warm, so so it

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<v Speaker 3>was like somewhere in the middle, like j Cole got

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<v Speaker 3>up there. Oh we're gonna talk about that. We'll talk

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<v Speaker 3>about that in stupid internet news. But yeah, that's really

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<v Speaker 3>all I did this weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>What about you?

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<v Speaker 1>My niece and her friends went to Dreamville. They had

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<v Speaker 1>been planning for a month's child, so they did the

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<v Speaker 1>two day thing. I've never been and maybe I'll go

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<v Speaker 1>on you. I don't really like those big group things

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<v Speaker 1>like concerts and shit like that. There's too much, too

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<v Speaker 1>much shit going on too much energy is just too much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like if I didn't have VIP access, I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>like that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's I was about to say, like backstage VIP, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm there, But other than that, being in jim pop

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely not.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, so I moved around gimpop a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>because you know, that's where all the people are for

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<v Speaker 3>the most part.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, having to stay with random people, I'll get off.

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<v Speaker 2>Little was said.

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<v Speaker 1>I just got here. I just got here. So in

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<v Speaker 1>Charleston this weekend was our annual bridge run, the Cooper

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<v Speaker 1>River Bridge Run, so millions of people coming to the

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<v Speaker 1>city jown. Y'all know. The Africans always win the race.

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<v Speaker 1>The fastest was twenty three minutes. It was Kenyan, and

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<v Speaker 1>then another was was he Ethiopia. I can't remember how

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<v Speaker 1>long it was, thou, Well, it's the five it's five miles.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, five K was that that? No? Five K is

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<v Speaker 2>three miles, ain't it?

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<v Speaker 4>Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, don't get me the line because I did the

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<v Speaker 1>bridge run one time when I was in my most

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<v Speaker 1>fittest form. That was in high school, my last year

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<v Speaker 1>of high school. Actually, no, I think it was my

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<v Speaker 1>freshman year of college. I did do the bridge run,

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<v Speaker 1>and I ran most of it too.

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<v Speaker 2>You participated this term.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I participated in the after part. My cousin ran it.

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<v Speaker 1>She's well, I only know a couple of people who

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<v Speaker 1>actually did it this year. I'm pretty sure more people

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<v Speaker 1>did it than I asked. But yeah, it was what

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<v Speaker 1>is it celebration of? It's just for like nonprofit, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is the word I'm looking for?

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<v Speaker 2>There's a charity run charity there you go.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been going on since the eighties. It's different organizations

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<v Speaker 1>every time. Yeah, Like my cousin she ran, and it

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<v Speaker 1>depends on what package you buy. She's a veteran, so

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<v Speaker 1>she ran for home as veterans. So it's just different,

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<v Speaker 1>different proceeds, different.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's dope. Yeah, man.

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<v Speaker 1>So the fucking city was flooded. It's already always flooded

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<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden, but it was nice. It was

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<v Speaker 1>nice this weekend downtown Charleston. If y'all never been to Charleston, come, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>day them because we oh just come.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't nobody want to stay? They just come and visit.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I guess our audience because I would I would

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<v Speaker 1>like to think majority of our audience are probably brown people,

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<v Speaker 1>but any beige people do not stay when y'all fucking comes,

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<v Speaker 1>they gonna want to stay right this for them for y'all. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was my weekend. I just just him hanging out.

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<v Speaker 1>That's about it. And now my social media has to.

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<v Speaker 2>Rejuvenate your social media meter. Yeah, I know that feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, let's get into the scenes of the week.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's go cock whoa.

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<v Speaker 3>South Carolina defeated Iowa eighty seven and seventy five to

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<v Speaker 3>win the National Championship and complete a perfect season.

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<v Speaker 2>Go ahead, Don State period.

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<v Speaker 1>They didn't lose a game, not a single game, and

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<v Speaker 1>they gonna act like this Black women ain't amazing. Don Staley. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I think she's from Philly, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if she can't of Douce Staley.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, who's that?

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<v Speaker 2>Never mind, let's keep going. No tell me football player.

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<v Speaker 3>He was like a long time retired now but big

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<v Speaker 3>time football player out of South Carolina.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's from Philly. I think though she's not well,

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't mean she doesn't have family from down here.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, so you saw how CNN posted Carolina one

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<v Speaker 3>but had a picture of Kaitlyn Clark up there, like.

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<v Speaker 2>What is the what in the world? Why don't you

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<v Speaker 2>have a picture of the winners?

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<v Speaker 1>And people are talking about her future in women's basketball.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we talk about the present? Can we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>what just happened? Can we talk about this predominantly predominant

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<v Speaker 1>black team in South Carolina of all places, coach by

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<v Speaker 1>a black woman. Can we get some props at some point,

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<v Speaker 1>like they just be so blatant with the bullshit now

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<v Speaker 1>it's disgusting, Like quit playing in our faces. Okay, because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that was me. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>was a coach and I won. Okay, I wrote for

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<v Speaker 1>all people black. I don't care who feel what way

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<v Speaker 1>about what?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, listen, I felt like I was Tammy Cardoza Cardova

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<v Speaker 3>with him.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how to pronounce it, but you couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>tell me. I went.

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<v Speaker 3>I was going around Dream Go Cos every five minutes,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know that shit right there by NC State,

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<v Speaker 3>So I know it was a lot of I know,

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<v Speaker 3>we just whooped the ass last Friday, so I know

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<v Speaker 3>they were still kind of sore.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of salt over there. Yep, go game Cocks.

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<v Speaker 3>When I got into Uber to go from the hotel

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<v Speaker 3>to the concert.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked the uber driver. I was like, are you

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<v Speaker 2>a game Cock fan? Because they just won. He's like no.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, zero stars, zero stars for you, sir.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not recommend.

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<v Speaker 2>Goodness.

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<v Speaker 3>So at the Dreamville fanst j Cole got his ass

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<v Speaker 3>up there and was like, I need to tell y'all

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<v Speaker 3>some shit I ain't told nobody else. I ain't slept

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<v Speaker 3>for two days behind this shit. It don't feel good

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<v Speaker 3>with my soul. I shouldn't have that was laying me

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<v Speaker 3>to let people influence me. And he's like, my phone

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<v Speaker 3>was blowing up. I had thousand mis calls, a thousand

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<v Speaker 3>texts like what you're gonna do? And I allow that

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<v Speaker 3>to influence me to do something that just don't sit

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<v Speaker 3>right with my spirit. And I know I called the

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<v Speaker 3>album might delete later because I'm really about to delete

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<v Speaker 3>this shit from the album. So if you don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>Ja Cole made a dish to Kendrick Lamar's seven minute Drill,

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<v Speaker 3>which I thought was lyrically good. I like the first

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<v Speaker 3>half better than the second. I feel like people from

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<v Speaker 3>up North like the second half better than the first.

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<v Speaker 3>But here's the thing. My thing is why are people,

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<v Speaker 3>cause you can be fans of both. You don't have

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<v Speaker 3>to pick a side, you know you can be. I

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<v Speaker 3>love both of these people. I love Kendrick Lamar and

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<v Speaker 3>J Cole, and I feel like everybody wants you to

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<v Speaker 3>to pick a side, and that's the problem. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>have a side. I don't have a dog in a fight.

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<v Speaker 3>I just wanted to hear more lyrical sparring from the two.

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<v Speaker 3>So I still hope J Cole come back with a

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<v Speaker 3>disc so there could be some more lyrical spar at

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<v Speaker 3>least between drink and.

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<v Speaker 1>So you admit that this wasn't a disc. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>a diss at all. Wasn't a dis You said you

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<v Speaker 1>wish that he would come back with a disc. So

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<v Speaker 1>was his dis track an actual dis or not?

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<v Speaker 2>Who oh shit? Who you talking about, Kendrid? Just now

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<v Speaker 2>you said you wish that Kendrick comes back with it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you said J Cole, Right.

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<v Speaker 3>No, Kendred. I'm hoping that he still responds. He probably

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<v Speaker 3>not gonna respond with a disc after that, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>or not toward J Cole, But I want him to

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<v Speaker 3>because I enjoyed the lyrical sparn.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, first of all, I love J Cole and I

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<v Speaker 1>love Kendrick Lamar. I love Kendrick Lamar a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more because he's a Gemini right, and to me, he's

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<v Speaker 1>lyrically better than J Cole. They both have their low sauce,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's just like a little extra seasoning. When I'm

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<v Speaker 1>listening to Kendrick Lamar, I can relate to him more

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<v Speaker 1>what I saw, okay, because first person Shooter, he says

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<v Speaker 1>the Big Three, but then he says he's Ali, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so basically he's the Ali of the Big Three. So

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<v Speaker 1>you really stole down on the other two people that

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<v Speaker 1>are supposedly in this big three lineup, which would be

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<v Speaker 1>Kendrick Lamar, Drake and himself J Cole, which causes Kendrick

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<v Speaker 1>Lamar to come off the bench. Gun is a blazing okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And just like them white ladies that raised J Cole, see.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't make it a racist thing, girl, don't make it just.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the Karens that raised them. Niggas, y'all gonna y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all incite some bullshit and then you want to retreat

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<v Speaker 1>and act like you're the bigger person. That's some bull shit. Nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>where's the lyrics. What happened was he dropped that disc

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<v Speaker 1>and realized that this in real time was not the shit.

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<v Speaker 1>It was subpar, It was bare minimum.

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<v Speaker 2>Bullshit, and it was not.

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<v Speaker 1>Now how he feels like, damn, I shouldn't have done that,

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<v Speaker 1>because it really wasn't that good of a dis in

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<v Speaker 1>the first place. He has rap dis remorse. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what I want to call it, but.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think it It wasn't He didn't eather him.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't like.

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<v Speaker 1>How nas you tap Kendrick in and now you're retreating.

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<v Speaker 1>You tap that man in.

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<v Speaker 3>But maybe he do feel bad in his spirit about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe he don't like.

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<v Speaker 1>He should because the fucking lyrics was.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think it has to do with the lyrics.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it just has to do with putting another

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<v Speaker 3>black man down that he respects. I don't think it

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<v Speaker 3>was meant to be a dis Drake didn't take it personal.

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<v Speaker 3>Drake didn't write a verse against Ja Cole calling himself Ali.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it was just him bigging himself up. And

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<v Speaker 3>if you took that personal, maybe you need to look

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<v Speaker 3>at what's internally going on with you instead of just

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<v Speaker 3>bigging your own self up. You came to put down

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<v Speaker 3>other people. I don't see how that was a disc

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<v Speaker 3>You can take it as.

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<v Speaker 1>Other things that be going on in the background with

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of situations.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, speak of their background, real lass, beach giving fuck

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<v Speaker 3>by the nigga, what's.

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<v Speaker 2>Going Oh, what's going on?

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<v Speaker 1>And these shit that be going on in the background

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<v Speaker 1>that the public doesn't know about. And so now this

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<v Speaker 1>thing that plays out in the public is all the

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<v Speaker 1>people know. So this is what people are. I never

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<v Speaker 1>choose sides. I always stay down in the middle, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about the lyrics. So now I can see

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<v Speaker 1>both sides with the Kendrick Lamar shit, and I can

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<v Speaker 1>see both sides with the JT and Young Miami bullshit.

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<v Speaker 3>This week, Young Miami and JT got the squabbling over

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<v Speaker 3>social media, JTN beefing with everybody with everybody right first,

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<v Speaker 3>JT really refuting, and then after that it turned into

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<v Speaker 3>JT and Kresha. I don't like how JT brought it

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<v Speaker 3>to social media instead of calling that girl directly, like

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<v Speaker 3>why are you sneak dissing your homegirl on social media?

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<v Speaker 3>Even if y'all not homegirls right now, once it goes

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<v Speaker 3>to social media, we listen, I had one of my

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<v Speaker 3>closest friends put some bullshit about me on social media

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<v Speaker 3>and we just spoke for the first time for real

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<v Speaker 3>last year. And that shit happened around twenty nineteen. Because

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<v Speaker 3>don't ever in your life try to play me on

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<v Speaker 3>social media and think we're gonna be friends again.

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<v Speaker 1>Ever, are you saying that JT initiated this beef with

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<v Speaker 1>Young Miami.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not saying she initiated a beef. I'm saying she

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<v Speaker 3>started speaking on it on social media.

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<v Speaker 1>How when Young Miami put up you even thising me

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<v Speaker 1>for weeks, that'suse.

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<v Speaker 2>She but she didn't at her, she didn't hit her, Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was like, you don't say that, You've been

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<v Speaker 3>saying little shit about me for weeks on social media.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I'm gonna say something bad finally, because I know

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<v Speaker 3>you're talking about me.

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<v Speaker 1>She had been arguing with Sexy not Sexy read Jesus Christ.

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<v Speaker 1>She hadn't arguing with Gorilla Glow. In the following days,

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<v Speaker 1>Young Miami actually name dropped her first name first in

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<v Speaker 1>these tweets without a response from JT. So I'm reading it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reading the timestamps and stuff. So the thing is

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<v Speaker 1>is that even at like let's say, for instance, she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't say Jatavia like she called her name in her tweets,

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<v Speaker 1>in her whole thing of tweets or whatever. If she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't do that, if I know that you're talking about me,

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<v Speaker 1>rather you're not saying my name right now in this

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<v Speaker 1>moment or not saying what your whole chest. So if

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't come and respond to what I know you're

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<v Speaker 1>now saying about me publicly on Twitter, because that should

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<v Speaker 1>have never started. Young Miami should have never went to

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<v Speaker 1>Twitter with the shit. So now if I spawning you

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<v Speaker 1>knowing that you're talking about me, how is that me

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<v Speaker 1>now bringing it to Twitter?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I feel like it was JT that was making

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<v Speaker 3>the subliminal messages.

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<v Speaker 1>First, No, it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why your Miami wasn't posting nothing. Young Miami

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't talking about nothing on social media period.

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<v Speaker 1>She Young miami first tweet was a bitchman sneak this

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<v Speaker 1>in me for weeks and I ain't say shit bitch

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<v Speaker 1>mad at me for a while, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So if she been sneaked this in her own

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<v Speaker 2>social media for weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>But JT said she hadn't been, and even if you

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<v Speaker 1>think your friend was sneaked thising you, why not address

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<v Speaker 1>her heads up.

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<v Speaker 2>Call her she was doing that shit, Carr, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think so.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe so. I don't believe that they I

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<v Speaker 1>don't I believe that they have not been good for

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<v Speaker 1>a while. Now. We saw them on the Breakfast Club.

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<v Speaker 1>Even there, I feel like JT was in a blind

0:16:57.000 --> 0:17:02.280
<v Speaker 1>y'all Miami's attitude, Charlemagne asked Young Miami. No excuse me.

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<v Speaker 1>Charlamagne asked JT, which is she's gonna if we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>see her on Karesha's TV show, and she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't know. We both got a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of going on.

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<v Speaker 2>D da da da.

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<v Speaker 1>He Young Miami came and straight said, no, we're not

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<v Speaker 1>even looking over at JT. She's just just like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so. And you could clearly see JT

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<v Speaker 1>get uncomfortable, like, damn, what the fuck? So they haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been good for a while. I leave, and I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it just be shit going on in the background that

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<v Speaker 1>people don't know. So then you also have the fans

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<v Speaker 1>that I don't know why people call haters fans anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're no fan of me. If you be hating

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<v Speaker 1>on me via tweets and all that shit, you're not.

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<v Speaker 3>If they're still they are fans because they keep they're

0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.200
<v Speaker 3>keeping up with you, so they.

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<v Speaker 2>Can hate on you.

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<v Speaker 3>You're a fan and maybe negative energy that you're sitting

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<v Speaker 3>in my way, but you keeping up with Miami move

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<v Speaker 3>just so you can have some shit to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>That you're a fan. But anyway, the fans probably helped

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<v Speaker 1>ignite the bullshit between them. Now. Prior to JC beefing

0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:16.400
<v Speaker 1>with Miami, she was also beefing with Gorilla Zo what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck not Gorillaz?

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<v Speaker 2>He like, see how you didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Crilla?

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<v Speaker 5>Yo?

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<v Speaker 1>That's funny as fun okay, Glorilla. And the only thing

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't like about that is how JT was saying

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<v Speaker 1>how Gorilla Glorilla grew up living on a blow up mattress.

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<v Speaker 1>That girl was very vulnerable talking on Club Shayshay, I

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<v Speaker 1>am so happy for her after seeing an interview, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>happy that and I feel like oftentimes it's usually the

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<v Speaker 1>people who had the most struggle that we're growing up, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because they they got that hustle, that grind right that

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<v Speaker 1>gets them to next level. But she was very vulnerable

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<v Speaker 1>and she was smiling the whole time, talking about her

0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:08.120
<v Speaker 1>childhood like shit, fuck that shit now right, I'm good

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<v Speaker 1>it might be up tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 3>And then using it as AMMO against me because you know.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the crazy part was if you listen to

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<v Speaker 3>the song, she said, we ain't got no like we

0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:20.080
<v Speaker 3>ain't friends, but it ain't no beef. So it was

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<v Speaker 3>like she was really trying to clear the air. It

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't like she was coming for JT. But JT wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>having that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well maybe because JT ain't get her lick back, because

0:19:28.640 --> 0:19:30.719
<v Speaker 1>Glorilla said, nah, I ain't slap you, but I did

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<v Speaker 1>hit you with my pocketbook, so maybe JT ain't get

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<v Speaker 1>her lick back. You know, you're about to fight somebody.

0:19:38.119 --> 0:19:40.919
<v Speaker 1>And people started like breaking people up and holding people,

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<v Speaker 1>grubbing me hold them.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is growing like, well, I guess they're still

0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:49.119
<v Speaker 3>in their twenties, so they get a past thing in it.

0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:53.600
<v Speaker 2>They ain't even in their thirty shit. But JT said, girl,

0:19:53.640 --> 0:19:55.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna poke you like the air.

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<v Speaker 3>Matches, and I was like, are we all? Are we

0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:00.840
<v Speaker 3>letting this slide? She's just talking about killing her like.

0:20:02.680 --> 0:20:06.720
<v Speaker 1>That shit. Funny as hell it's crazy to say, like, dude,

0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:09.600
<v Speaker 1>somebody got died behind us. I want both of them

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<v Speaker 1>now to go on a comedy tour because goddamn Glorilla

0:20:14.160 --> 0:20:17.000
<v Speaker 1>funny as hell and JT got the fucking jokes. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like they got an hour worth of stand

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<v Speaker 1>up comedy for you.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, girl that's from stealing, not no fighting, ship

0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:30.320
<v Speaker 3>post all your stealing mok shots Like you a gangster,

0:20:35.200 --> 0:20:36.880
<v Speaker 3>You're just a terrible thief.

0:20:37.600 --> 0:20:40.600
<v Speaker 1>Big bitch, kept getting caught. She had to change your profession, right, quicks,

0:20:40.600 --> 0:20:46.480
<v Speaker 1>and now she's a rapper. Funny times man, them kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope everybody grows up next week, y'all. We just

0:20:48.920 --> 0:20:52.879
<v Speaker 1>had the solar eclipse this week. And notice how Tam

0:20:52.920 --> 0:20:56.840
<v Speaker 1>had to read all our editorial y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>This magical. I can do it that she came out

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<v Speaker 2>here like I can't see today, and you.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I can see, but I can't see the computer

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<v Speaker 1>or this my fingers in front of me.

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<v Speaker 2>If I wiggle them, I can't see them either.

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<v Speaker 1>Like right now, it's a big star on your forehead, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>real shiny on your forehead.

0:21:22.359 --> 0:21:25.080
<v Speaker 2>That's what the guy that's my orbitch. They'd be there

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<v Speaker 2>every day. You're just seeing it right now.

0:21:27.440 --> 0:21:30.040
<v Speaker 1>Like maybe I can see things now because I cannot

0:21:30.040 --> 0:21:32.600
<v Speaker 1>see these cell phones. I cannot see the computer screen

0:21:32.720 --> 0:21:35.440
<v Speaker 1>like it's like blurred up. But everything else in real

0:21:35.480 --> 0:21:38.959
<v Speaker 1>life I can see. I actually see more color it hears.

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<v Speaker 3>But everybody was so hyped for this eclipse, and I

0:21:43.320 --> 0:21:45.159
<v Speaker 3>just went to sleep, like I took a nap. I

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<v Speaker 3>was so tired. I was waiting on it. But I

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<v Speaker 3>had went to Dreamville. I drove back last night after

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<v Speaker 3>I did not even stay, which was so stupid. So

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<v Speaker 3>I was so tired. I was sitting up and start

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<v Speaker 3>getting a little dark. I was like, it's looking like naptime.

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<v Speaker 1>He got in the fucking group text how but that

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<v Speaker 1>eclipsed was so girl by you asleep?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I didn't hear no trumpet sound. That's what I

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<v Speaker 3>was waiting.

0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:15.159
<v Speaker 1>On, not you, waiting for the goddamn I said everybody

0:22:15.280 --> 0:22:17.399
<v Speaker 1>message like, hey, I just wish y'all to know I

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<v Speaker 1>love y'all, just in case Jesus come back and he

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<v Speaker 1>takes me y'all here.

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<v Speaker 2>And when I text you back.

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<v Speaker 3>So crazy shitbo to stop call listen. I'm magical. I've

0:22:30.000 --> 0:22:34.359
<v Speaker 3>lived here several lifetimes and stop calling my house phone.

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<v Speaker 2>Your man is not in the NBA. I was like, what,

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<v Speaker 2>this is the same God, That's what I was saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, y'all. I sun gazed all the time. Yeah, the

0:22:44.560 --> 0:22:47.440
<v Speaker 1>solar eclipse. The sun is a little bit more hot.

0:22:47.480 --> 0:22:50.399
<v Speaker 1>I think it's beaming more. But I wasn't outside. I

0:22:50.480 --> 0:22:53.520
<v Speaker 1>was laying undneath that window in the house looking up

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<v Speaker 1>at the fucking sun. Not the whole entire time, but

0:22:56.920 --> 0:22:59.280
<v Speaker 1>I definitely was laying on the floor like Meditaine for

0:22:59.320 --> 0:23:02.280
<v Speaker 1>like two hours and shit, and periodically looking at the sun.

0:23:02.560 --> 0:23:04.800
<v Speaker 1>And today now I have blurred vision a little bit,

0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:08.040
<v Speaker 1>just a little bit, but this isn't the first time

0:23:08.080 --> 0:23:12.320
<v Speaker 1>this has happened, and I'll get some repairs shortly.

0:23:15.600 --> 0:23:18.840
<v Speaker 3>Crazy, But what would you talk about? Stop calling your

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<v Speaker 3>house phone?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you hear a household your I was talking as

0:23:22.760 --> 0:23:24.639
<v Speaker 1>if I'm God, I said, my child.

0:23:25.280 --> 0:23:26.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you was.

0:23:26.359 --> 0:23:30.359
<v Speaker 3>Talking about, oh, like for my husband, Stop calling my

0:23:30.440 --> 0:23:31.720
<v Speaker 3>household for my husband.

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<v Speaker 2>Get it out.

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<v Speaker 1>I am God responding to your prayers.

0:23:36.080 --> 0:23:39.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're saying, I pray for the main line, right,

0:23:39.080 --> 0:23:41.040
<v Speaker 2>you know people Jesus on the line.

0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:43.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I get it now, because I was like this

0:23:44.000 --> 0:23:45.040
<v Speaker 3>bitch got a house phone.

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<v Speaker 2>That's weird.

0:23:46.400 --> 0:23:46.680
<v Speaker 4>Slow.

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<v Speaker 3>I just didn't think of you as God. I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't get I was in in alignment with that.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, but let's get into it, y'all. We're going

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<v Speaker 3>to have a commercial break and we'll be right back

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<v Speaker 3>where our main topic. Don't beat them kids. We'll be

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<v Speaker 3>right back, all right, y'all. So over the weekend, AJ

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<v Speaker 3>sent me this clip of a woman. You couldn't see

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<v Speaker 3>the mom, but the camera was pointed at her child's

0:24:19.000 --> 0:24:22.480
<v Speaker 3>father's wife, and she was pretty much coming to check

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<v Speaker 3>her because this woman, who else also helps to raise

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<v Speaker 3>her kid verb I mean, physically reprimanded her for misbehaving.

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<v Speaker 3>And the mom was livid about her putting her hands

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<v Speaker 3>on her child. And she said, well, her father gave

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<v Speaker 3>me permission. She was misbehaving, you know. And I beat

0:24:46.960 --> 0:24:49.520
<v Speaker 3>her ass basically, and I'll do it again. That's that

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<v Speaker 3>was her energy.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't say i'll beat her ass because we don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know if it was an actual ass whipping. Well

0:24:55.560 --> 0:24:58.119
<v Speaker 1>it was pop pop, we don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean, that's a little ass whooping

0:25:01.240 --> 0:25:04.479
<v Speaker 3>little pop pop. So either way, the mom was upset

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<v Speaker 3>and we had like different opinions about it. It was like, Okay,

0:25:07.680 --> 0:25:10.200
<v Speaker 3>this is the topic, so what's your opinion?

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<v Speaker 2>AJ?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I am. I have been a step mom to

0:25:14.560 --> 0:25:18.280
<v Speaker 1>a few kids, because these niggas be having kids now.

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<v Speaker 1>While I am a big advocate for children, because I'll

0:25:22.480 --> 0:25:24.720
<v Speaker 1>probably take anybody out of this world for fucking with

0:25:24.760 --> 0:25:29.560
<v Speaker 1>a kid on my watch, right, I don't believe in

0:25:30.080 --> 0:25:33.280
<v Speaker 1>corporal punishment for children. I do not believe in putting

0:25:33.280 --> 0:25:36.360
<v Speaker 1>my hands on kids. That's for me, right, and that's

0:25:36.400 --> 0:25:39.240
<v Speaker 1>for the kids that I've been around. Now. Some kids

0:25:39.320 --> 0:25:42.160
<v Speaker 1>may need they ass whooping. I think teenagers in particular

0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:44.879
<v Speaker 1>do need to get their ass whoop. But like little people,

0:25:45.000 --> 0:25:47.119
<v Speaker 1>I don't put my hands on little people because if

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<v Speaker 1>your goal as an adult is to make a little

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:52.399
<v Speaker 1>person cry, there's a lot more that you can just

0:25:52.400 --> 0:25:54.440
<v Speaker 1>tell them, hey, I'm disappointed in you, and they'll bust

0:25:54.440 --> 0:25:57.000
<v Speaker 1>out crying. So if that's the goal, I feel like

0:25:57.040 --> 0:25:59.280
<v Speaker 1>once you put your hand on a child, you as

0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:03.240
<v Speaker 1>the adult, has lost control, not the child, right, But

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<v Speaker 1>in some instances, in real time, the kid may need

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<v Speaker 1>to be reprimanded and whatever way that adult sees suitable.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>And if this is this man's wife. He married her

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<v Speaker 1>because he trusted her. Right. This woman is shown up

0:26:19.359 --> 0:26:21.960
<v Speaker 1>to the door, not putting her face on camera. I

0:26:21.960 --> 0:26:24.439
<v Speaker 1>don't think it was a skin or anything either. I

0:26:24.440 --> 0:26:29.000
<v Speaker 1>feel like it was real. She came to that door

0:26:29.240 --> 0:26:31.800
<v Speaker 1>with a problem. And I can bet you one hundred

0:26:31.800 --> 0:26:35.160
<v Speaker 1>percent she doesn't have a man of her own, because

0:26:35.200 --> 0:26:37.360
<v Speaker 1>your husband was not letting you pull up at your

0:26:37.400 --> 0:26:40.399
<v Speaker 1>ex husband's house to talk crazy to the wife and

0:26:40.480 --> 0:26:42.840
<v Speaker 1>him like that if you had a man to course

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<v Speaker 1>correct your ass at the house.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's a.

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<v Speaker 1>Little bit of bitter baby mama shit in the background.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't know that that's a speculator.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, That is not a speculator. I have seen this before.

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<v Speaker 2>But you're assuming that there was nowhere in the video.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't in the video, but she called her a

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<v Speaker 1>hoe or bitch or something like that, and she was like, like,

0:27:04.160 --> 0:27:07.480
<v Speaker 1>why are you coming to the door calling your ex's

0:27:07.520 --> 0:27:08.800
<v Speaker 1>wife out? They name like that.

0:27:09.320 --> 0:27:10.400
<v Speaker 2>There might be a backstory.

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<v Speaker 1>That girl was very calm with her initially, and then

0:27:14.440 --> 0:27:16.600
<v Speaker 1>she got our rate and she matched her energy eventually,

0:27:16.640 --> 0:27:18.000
<v Speaker 1>and then the husband came to the door, like what

0:27:18.040 --> 0:27:20.119
<v Speaker 1>the fuck you're at the door arguing with and it

0:27:20.200 --> 0:27:22.200
<v Speaker 1>was her and he was like, you know, I gave

0:27:22.240 --> 0:27:25.720
<v Speaker 1>her permission, So she communicated with him what was going

0:27:25.840 --> 0:27:29.160
<v Speaker 1>on because he is the other parent, right, and obviously

0:27:29.320 --> 0:27:32.600
<v Speaker 1>you trust this man with your child because the child

0:27:32.640 --> 0:27:35.840
<v Speaker 1>is still able to go over to this house. Right,

0:27:37.280 --> 0:27:42.160
<v Speaker 1>he obviously has good judgment and whatever with this woman. Right,

0:27:43.680 --> 0:27:47.840
<v Speaker 1>he gave her permission to reprimand a child. What's your

0:27:47.880 --> 0:27:50.679
<v Speaker 1>beef because he's also a parent. He's also the kid's

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<v Speaker 1>parent too.

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<v Speaker 3>My beef is, don't nobody put their motherfucking hands on

0:27:56.200 --> 0:27:58.640
<v Speaker 3>my baby. I don't give a fuck. I don't give

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<v Speaker 3>a fuck who you marry. I don't give fuck who

0:28:00.480 --> 0:28:02.439
<v Speaker 3>she thinks she is. Do not put your hands on

0:28:02.440 --> 0:28:05.399
<v Speaker 3>my child. You tell me you can take her phone away,

0:28:05.480 --> 0:28:07.600
<v Speaker 3>you can take her toys away, you can punish her

0:28:07.640 --> 0:28:09.840
<v Speaker 3>and ground her, have her sit in a corner, do

0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:14.240
<v Speaker 3>all the things, but do not physically reprimand my kid.

0:28:15.440 --> 0:28:17.960
<v Speaker 3>If you like, I want my child to respect you

0:28:18.000 --> 0:28:20.520
<v Speaker 3>in your home, absolutely call me and I will knock

0:28:20.560 --> 0:28:23.000
<v Speaker 3>her head through the door to the between the wash

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:23.560
<v Speaker 3>and the dryer.

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<v Speaker 2>But don't you do it. Don't you ever do it.

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<v Speaker 3>And listen, I've had I've been in relationships where we

0:28:29.480 --> 0:28:31.560
<v Speaker 3>had the kids like at least for the summertime, and

0:28:31.600 --> 0:28:34.040
<v Speaker 3>then it also it went into the school year, and

0:28:34.119 --> 0:28:37.480
<v Speaker 3>I never once thought of ever yeah, and they would misbehave.

0:28:37.800 --> 0:28:40.200
<v Speaker 3>I never thought of once ever putting my hands on

0:28:40.320 --> 0:28:43.640
<v Speaker 3>those kids, cause what are they really doing that bad

0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:48.320
<v Speaker 3>that I needed to physically physically reprimand them. I just

0:28:48.360 --> 0:28:51.040
<v Speaker 3>didn't see the point for me to do that. Like

0:28:51.080 --> 0:28:53.240
<v Speaker 3>I'd be like, listen, if you don't start behaving, I'm

0:28:53.240 --> 0:28:55.920
<v Speaker 3>gonna tell your dad, I'm gonna tell your dad what you're.

0:28:55.800 --> 0:28:57.480
<v Speaker 2>Doing, and he can do it.

0:28:57.560 --> 0:29:00.239
<v Speaker 3>But the idea of me putting my hands on on

0:29:01.520 --> 0:29:06.000
<v Speaker 3>any child, I'm really not a big person on beating kids,

0:29:06.200 --> 0:29:08.239
<v Speaker 3>you know, because that's just I don't know.

0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:09.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm just not a huge or not.

0:29:09.880 --> 0:29:12.440
<v Speaker 1>So if you are the mom, right and you beat

0:29:12.480 --> 0:29:15.719
<v Speaker 1>your child, right, I feel like nobody should put their

0:29:15.720 --> 0:29:16.520
<v Speaker 1>hands on a kid, right.

0:29:16.560 --> 0:29:18.800
<v Speaker 3>I'm not like a huge beater parent. Yeah, I'm not

0:29:18.840 --> 0:29:21.360
<v Speaker 3>a huge beater. But if it's gonna happen, it's gonna

0:29:21.360 --> 0:29:24.520
<v Speaker 3>be me. It's not gonna be no step mama, no stepdaddy,

0:29:24.560 --> 0:29:27.920
<v Speaker 3>no step nothing, because I'm a step my foot in

0:29:28.000 --> 0:29:30.480
<v Speaker 3>your ass, and that should have been and that should

0:29:30.480 --> 0:29:33.680
<v Speaker 3>have been communicated before prior, like there should have been

0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:38.239
<v Speaker 3>a conversation about it, because now I'm coming, Yeah, I'm

0:29:38.280 --> 0:29:40.280
<v Speaker 3>coming swinging if I found out that you put your

0:29:40.280 --> 0:29:41.080
<v Speaker 3>hands on my kids.

0:29:41.200 --> 0:29:43.080
<v Speaker 1>But based on her tone, I don't think she's a

0:29:43.120 --> 0:29:45.000
<v Speaker 1>woman that you can reason with. I don't think that's

0:29:45.040 --> 0:29:45.960
<v Speaker 1>someone that he could have.

0:29:46.160 --> 0:29:48.000
<v Speaker 2>She might have just been upset.

0:29:48.960 --> 0:29:51.680
<v Speaker 3>You know, you never know how you when you like,

0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:53.920
<v Speaker 3>when you have this, this your baby, and you find

0:29:53.920 --> 0:29:57.480
<v Speaker 3>out that somebody physically put their hands on them. She

0:29:57.720 --> 0:30:00.280
<v Speaker 3>might have just been mad about her child, you know,

0:30:00.360 --> 0:30:02.360
<v Speaker 3>like who thought she had the right to do that?

0:30:02.520 --> 0:30:04.440
<v Speaker 2>Who gave her? I don't give a fuck what he said,

0:30:04.480 --> 0:30:05.200
<v Speaker 2>don't ever.

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<v Speaker 1>As a single woman, well as a woman with no

0:30:10.520 --> 0:30:14.200
<v Speaker 1>children and in relationships with men with children, I'm always

0:30:14.240 --> 0:30:17.160
<v Speaker 1>a huge advocate for the village. I'm always a huge

0:30:17.200 --> 0:30:22.520
<v Speaker 1>advocate for blended families, right because people don't always stay together.

0:30:22.600 --> 0:30:25.520
<v Speaker 1>So most people have a stepparent, A lot of people

0:30:25.600 --> 0:30:29.400
<v Speaker 1>have step parents. So imagine in real time, we out

0:30:29.400 --> 0:30:32.440
<v Speaker 1>of town somewhere and I'm supposed to I feel like,

0:30:32.440 --> 0:30:34.640
<v Speaker 1>if a kid does something they need, it needs to

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:36.200
<v Speaker 1>be addressed right then and there just like when you

0:30:36.320 --> 0:30:39.320
<v Speaker 1>training a dog, right, you don't. You don't wait till

0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:41.480
<v Speaker 1>two three hours later to beat the dog for some

0:30:41.480 --> 0:30:43.400
<v Speaker 1>shit he did two three hours ago.

0:30:43.680 --> 0:30:44.680
<v Speaker 2>Right, So in.

0:30:44.760 --> 0:30:46.680
<v Speaker 1>That moment when the thing is happening and you need

0:30:46.720 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 1>to course correct a child, the parent, the stepparents should

0:30:50.520 --> 0:30:54.520
<v Speaker 1>be able to I am not talking about abusing a child.

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:58.120
<v Speaker 1>I got a perfect example my niece when she she's

0:30:58.120 --> 0:31:00.600
<v Speaker 1>a grown ass woman now and when she was a

0:31:00.680 --> 0:31:05.240
<v Speaker 1>kid my sister. My sister is now married to this man,

0:31:05.240 --> 0:31:10.800
<v Speaker 1>but at the time it was her boyfriend. He pulled

0:31:10.840 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 1>my niece's tooth out. She had a tooth coming out,

0:31:14.000 --> 0:31:18.640
<v Speaker 1>and he removed the tooth. She then tells her daddy

0:31:19.280 --> 0:31:23.560
<v Speaker 1>that he hit her. Her dad then comes to my

0:31:23.720 --> 0:31:29.200
<v Speaker 1>sister house and fought her boyfriend, the living boyfriend who's

0:31:29.240 --> 0:31:33.960
<v Speaker 1>been raising your child when you're not there, right. They

0:31:34.040 --> 0:31:37.760
<v Speaker 1>then get into a fight because the daughter couldn't articulate. Really, Now,

0:31:38.160 --> 0:31:40.240
<v Speaker 1>that's where it depends on the age of the child also,

0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:43.760
<v Speaker 1>and how there's their perception of what happened and how

0:31:43.800 --> 0:31:47.800
<v Speaker 1>hard they got hit. Right, So now they can exaggerate

0:31:47.840 --> 0:31:51.240
<v Speaker 1>a situation, especially mom, if you're at home already talking

0:31:51.240 --> 0:31:55.440
<v Speaker 1>shit about your husband, your ex and his wife now, right,

0:31:55.680 --> 0:31:58.120
<v Speaker 1>So all this the kid is hearing. So there's a

0:31:58.160 --> 0:32:00.600
<v Speaker 1>lot of things based just watching the video that no,

0:32:00.760 --> 0:32:04.000
<v Speaker 1>we don't know, right, but I know this type of woman.

0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:07.240
<v Speaker 1>I know this type, this prototype of person. If you

0:32:07.240 --> 0:32:09.640
<v Speaker 1>can run up to a woman's house and you're behind

0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:12.120
<v Speaker 1>the camera not showing your face, if she really abused

0:32:12.160 --> 0:32:13.840
<v Speaker 1>your child, why didn't you show up with the police.

0:32:15.160 --> 0:32:17.600
<v Speaker 1>Why are you now trying to handle this situation by yourself?

0:32:17.960 --> 0:32:18.920
<v Speaker 1>And where's your man?

0:32:19.560 --> 0:32:22.000
<v Speaker 2>Because she wanted to smoke, I think, But that's.

0:32:21.840 --> 0:32:22.720
<v Speaker 1>What I'm saying.

0:32:23.080 --> 0:32:25.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but if you put your hands on my baby,

0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:27.280
<v Speaker 2>I might want to smoke with you too.

0:32:27.880 --> 0:32:30.560
<v Speaker 1>It just depends. I'm not gonna automatically go to smoke.

0:32:31.120 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna as as the X. I'm not going

0:32:34.200 --> 0:32:36.880
<v Speaker 1>to automatically go to smoke because regardless of what this is,

0:32:36.920 --> 0:32:40.560
<v Speaker 1>this man's wife, I need to understand what happened and

0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:44.560
<v Speaker 1>why the ass whooping was justified. I'm not gonna reprimand

0:32:44.680 --> 0:32:47.120
<v Speaker 1>now a grown woman, Right, I'm not gonna assume you're

0:32:47.160 --> 0:32:49.960
<v Speaker 1>abusing my child. I'm not gonna do that. That's very dangerous.

0:32:50.360 --> 0:32:52.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but it just putting your hands on my child

0:32:52.280 --> 0:32:55.040
<v Speaker 3>period is a problem for me. But I definitely would

0:32:55.040 --> 0:32:56.720
<v Speaker 3>have communicated that up front.

0:32:56.840 --> 0:32:59.560
<v Speaker 2>You know, yeahs our relationship.

0:32:59.600 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 3>I want everybody should talk, yeah, like I want my

0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:06.080
<v Speaker 3>child to respect you. And if my child misbehaves and

0:33:06.120 --> 0:33:09.440
<v Speaker 3>does anything that you deem where she needs to be spanked,

0:33:10.000 --> 0:33:11.800
<v Speaker 3>please call me because I'll be on my way to

0:33:11.880 --> 0:33:12.200
<v Speaker 3>do it.

0:33:12.640 --> 0:33:13.760
<v Speaker 2>I'll be on my way to do it.

0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:15.840
<v Speaker 3>But please do not put your hands on my child.

0:33:16.160 --> 0:33:18.680
<v Speaker 3>That's the only thing I ask that you don't do

0:33:19.240 --> 0:33:23.040
<v Speaker 3>is physically, because you know physical it can turn into abuse,

0:33:23.120 --> 0:33:26.560
<v Speaker 3>especially when someone is angry. You should never beat your

0:33:26.720 --> 0:33:29.520
<v Speaker 3>be the kid while you're mad. You should never do that.

0:33:29.520 --> 0:33:31.200
<v Speaker 1>That's usually when kids get to ask with.

0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:34.640
<v Speaker 3>I know, but you shouldn't because it can be abused.

0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:37.280
<v Speaker 3>A lot of us growing up, we were abused.

0:33:37.560 --> 0:33:40.320
<v Speaker 1>Let's keep it around. But who were abused by? Were

0:33:40.320 --> 0:33:43.840
<v Speaker 1>we abused by steps? Were we abused by our mom our?

0:33:43.880 --> 0:33:46.600
<v Speaker 3>Actually I can't speak I haven't had I never had

0:33:46.600 --> 0:33:49.080
<v Speaker 3>a step of parents, so I can't speak to that.

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:52.720
<v Speaker 3>But the only people who was beating me was my

0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:57.880
<v Speaker 3>mom and my grandma. My daddy never whooped us, but yeah,

0:33:57.880 --> 0:34:00.040
<v Speaker 3>they used to whoop our tail, I ass up, So

0:34:00.080 --> 0:34:00.520
<v Speaker 3>I couldn't.

0:34:00.560 --> 0:34:04.160
<v Speaker 2>I couldn't imagine having someone else who's angry at my

0:34:04.280 --> 0:34:08.440
<v Speaker 2>child from misbehaving putting their hands on them.

0:34:07.600 --> 0:34:09.719
<v Speaker 1>When that happened to me growing up, not from like

0:34:09.760 --> 0:34:13.640
<v Speaker 1>a step but the fucking daycare like these people obviously

0:34:13.800 --> 0:34:17.400
<v Speaker 1>was from a time where anybody could beat the kids

0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:21.480
<v Speaker 1>and my mom. Once I finally realized that it was

0:34:21.520 --> 0:34:24.239
<v Speaker 1>wrong that it was happening to me when I tell

0:34:24.360 --> 0:34:26.280
<v Speaker 1>my mom went up there like it started to fucking

0:34:26.320 --> 0:34:27.800
<v Speaker 1>hedgehog her and my aunt.

0:34:28.160 --> 0:34:31.400
<v Speaker 2>Exactly my baby fucking airdisplace.

0:34:31.600 --> 0:34:33.359
<v Speaker 1>But it wasn't just putting her hands on me like then,

0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:35.840
<v Speaker 1>motherfuckers was putting my head underneath the water in the

0:34:35.840 --> 0:34:39.080
<v Speaker 1>bathroom and shit like that, Like I was really being abused,

0:34:39.560 --> 0:34:42.560
<v Speaker 1>but didn't know. No, that wasn't going on with me

0:34:42.600 --> 0:34:44.480
<v Speaker 1>at the house, but it was going on with other

0:34:44.560 --> 0:34:47.240
<v Speaker 1>kids at the facility, So I just thought that was regular.

0:34:47.719 --> 0:34:51.840
<v Speaker 1>There was, yes, girl, but it was like a feud.

0:34:51.920 --> 0:34:53.680
<v Speaker 1>So my family has a soulful restaurant.

0:34:54.040 --> 0:34:57.520
<v Speaker 3>Was getting waterboarded at the daycare, girl, God dad girl.

0:34:57.560 --> 0:35:01.200
<v Speaker 1>They used to have this big ass pink brush and

0:35:01.239 --> 0:35:03.960
<v Speaker 1>those novelty big thick pencils from back in the day

0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:06.120
<v Speaker 1>and they would hit us on our knuckles with it

0:35:06.160 --> 0:35:10.640
<v Speaker 1>and then pinch it so it not swell up. Oh

0:35:10.800 --> 0:35:12.560
<v Speaker 1>that that was how we were disciplined.

0:35:12.760 --> 0:35:13.520
<v Speaker 2>That's abuse.

0:35:14.120 --> 0:35:16.640
<v Speaker 1>And y'all I used to get disciplined because I wasn't bad,

0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:19.760
<v Speaker 1>but I was peeing up the mad at naptime.

0:35:22.360 --> 0:35:25.640
<v Speaker 3>You just had you were still a party like you know, yeah,

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:27.359
<v Speaker 3>like four or five years old.

0:35:27.520 --> 0:35:31.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, for that is crazy. Yep, I bet you stop.

0:35:36.120 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 1>No, that does not stop and care from peeing on themselves.

0:35:38.719 --> 0:35:38.879
<v Speaker 4>Man.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, my last relationship, I did not agree with

0:35:41.160 --> 0:35:44.799
<v Speaker 1>his parenting style at all. And one morning he was like, wait,

0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:46.839
<v Speaker 1>you have some kids and then you could tell me.

0:35:46.920 --> 0:35:49.520
<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, if I'm gonna be with you right

0:35:50.360 --> 0:35:52.200
<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna have to deal with this. He's a

0:35:52.200 --> 0:35:54.480
<v Speaker 1>little boy now, but he's going to be a teenager

0:35:54.520 --> 0:35:55.799
<v Speaker 1>at some point. If I'm going to have to be

0:35:55.880 --> 0:35:59.040
<v Speaker 1>in his life when he has issues from how you

0:35:59.160 --> 0:36:03.520
<v Speaker 1>raised him, I have something to say today. I'm going

0:36:03.560 --> 0:36:05.920
<v Speaker 1>to say something. If I don't like what's going on me.

0:36:05.920 --> 0:36:08.719
<v Speaker 3>Too, I will. I don't have no problem with that.

0:36:08.800 --> 0:36:11.480
<v Speaker 3>I just ain't don't want to physically have you, like,

0:36:12.480 --> 0:36:15.120
<v Speaker 3>have you seen a kid's face after someone beats them.

0:36:15.160 --> 0:36:18.200
<v Speaker 3>It's the saddest thing in the world. I couldn't imagine

0:36:18.320 --> 0:36:21.640
<v Speaker 3>causing that to my child or anybody else's child.

0:36:21.960 --> 0:36:25.040
<v Speaker 1>Now, she's the difference. We not beating anybody. Nobody's getting

0:36:25.040 --> 0:36:26.799
<v Speaker 1>beat by us, right, But if your kid is getting

0:36:26.840 --> 0:36:28.879
<v Speaker 1>beat at the house, how could you tell somebody else

0:36:28.960 --> 0:36:29.520
<v Speaker 1>not to beat them?

0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:30.160
<v Speaker 6>Oh?

0:36:30.200 --> 0:36:32.399
<v Speaker 1>I can only I can be the only abuser over here.

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:33.600
<v Speaker 1>That doesn't make sense to me.

0:36:33.719 --> 0:36:36.320
<v Speaker 3>Well, it depends on like it don't have to be abused.

0:36:36.360 --> 0:36:40.440
<v Speaker 3>It could be you know, a refermand. But I just

0:36:40.440 --> 0:36:43.000
<v Speaker 3>don't want nobody else doing it because I know I

0:36:43.040 --> 0:36:43.800
<v Speaker 3>love my baby.

0:36:44.480 --> 0:36:45.919
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you love them.

0:36:46.239 --> 0:36:48.760
<v Speaker 3>So I don't know how you are going to respond

0:36:48.800 --> 0:36:51.319
<v Speaker 3>to this misbehavior And will it be in a way

0:36:51.880 --> 0:36:54.879
<v Speaker 3>that I, you know, feel like it's going to teach

0:36:54.920 --> 0:36:57.400
<v Speaker 3>the child a proper lesson or is it just to

0:36:57.640 --> 0:36:58.360
<v Speaker 3>give them pain?

0:36:58.719 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 7>You know?

0:36:59.120 --> 0:37:00.520
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know.

0:37:00.840 --> 0:37:03.000
<v Speaker 1>That's where the adults need to communicate. Like I said,

0:37:03.040 --> 0:37:06.360
<v Speaker 1>if he meets, if your significant other meets or ex

0:37:06.680 --> 0:37:11.040
<v Speaker 1>right meets a new person that's gonna be around your child,

0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:15.719
<v Speaker 1>you should want to meet this person. There's a lot

0:37:15.719 --> 0:37:18.640
<v Speaker 1>of women who don't want to meet the newbie. Yeah,

0:37:18.680 --> 0:37:20.800
<v Speaker 1>they don't want to meet you, they don't want to

0:37:20.840 --> 0:37:22.799
<v Speaker 1>have a conversation. But if I'm gonna be around your

0:37:22.880 --> 0:37:25.759
<v Speaker 1>child now, I gotta I gotta force a meeting with

0:37:25.800 --> 0:37:27.799
<v Speaker 1>you as the mom. A lot of people do not

0:37:27.960 --> 0:37:31.319
<v Speaker 1>have the maturity to deal with these things, and that's

0:37:31.320 --> 0:37:33.440
<v Speaker 1>what I was seeing in that video. She did not

0:37:33.680 --> 0:37:39.400
<v Speaker 1>have the emotional intelligence to handle this situation properly, and

0:37:39.440 --> 0:37:41.799
<v Speaker 1>the way she came off crazy. The girl said, well,

0:37:41.880 --> 0:37:43.799
<v Speaker 1>this is probably You're probably a reason why your daughter

0:37:43.880 --> 0:37:44.719
<v Speaker 1>being rude over here.

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:50.960
<v Speaker 2>M And that's very maybe possibly true. But I don't

0:37:51.000 --> 0:37:53.080
<v Speaker 2>give a damn. Don't put your hands on them now.

0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:55.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm never gonna have that attitude with another woman. If

0:37:55.440 --> 0:37:58.240
<v Speaker 1>I had a kid and this man chose this woman

0:37:58.280 --> 0:38:01.080
<v Speaker 1>to be with, I want to meet her. Yeah, absolutely,

0:38:01.360 --> 0:38:03.239
<v Speaker 1>I want to have a conversation and we could talk

0:38:03.280 --> 0:38:06.400
<v Speaker 1>about all of these things. And you know, and especially

0:38:06.400 --> 0:38:08.919
<v Speaker 1>depending on like say, for instance, this was this girl.

0:38:08.960 --> 0:38:12.719
<v Speaker 1>This lady has been in this kid's life since one

0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:15.440
<v Speaker 1>years old, you know, and this man has been married

0:38:15.440 --> 0:38:17.280
<v Speaker 1>to her for ten years. Are you saying he can't

0:38:17.600 --> 0:38:22.000
<v Speaker 1>imagine a grown man, right, Imagine like the other side

0:38:22.040 --> 0:38:25.919
<v Speaker 1>of this, the woman, the baby mom. Imagine her having

0:38:25.960 --> 0:38:29.680
<v Speaker 1>a man and the child as a boy, and that

0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:32.799
<v Speaker 1>man that's in the house can't discipline this boy in

0:38:32.880 --> 0:38:36.000
<v Speaker 1>his house. That's a problem.

0:38:36.280 --> 0:38:38.600
<v Speaker 3>Or he can discipline them like physical is not the

0:38:38.640 --> 0:38:41.840
<v Speaker 3>only discipline. There's all forms of discipline that are effective

0:38:42.239 --> 0:38:44.160
<v Speaker 3>outside of physical.

0:38:44.040 --> 0:38:46.160
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. But nobody should hit the child.

0:38:46.200 --> 0:38:48.279
<v Speaker 1>If that's the case. For you to say I can

0:38:48.320 --> 0:38:50.399
<v Speaker 1>whoop my child and knock her head between and watch

0:38:50.360 --> 0:38:52.799
<v Speaker 1>your sheine and dryer, but nobody else can is a

0:38:52.800 --> 0:38:53.880
<v Speaker 1>bigger problem to me.

0:38:54.360 --> 0:38:57.200
<v Speaker 2>Why I'm the mother who pushed her out.

0:38:56.960 --> 0:39:00.800
<v Speaker 1>That's the ego. Yeah, that's that's too much.

0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:02.080
<v Speaker 6>Not to me.

0:39:02.239 --> 0:39:05.200
<v Speaker 2>This is my child that I that I pushed out,

0:39:05.360 --> 0:39:06.000
<v Speaker 2>and I ain't.

0:39:06.000 --> 0:39:09.000
<v Speaker 3>Nobody gonna put their hands on the butt me because

0:39:09.040 --> 0:39:12.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna do everything I do. Is would love everything.

0:39:12.360 --> 0:39:14.160
<v Speaker 3>But you may not love my kid the same way

0:39:14.600 --> 0:39:16.600
<v Speaker 3>you might. Shit you marry him now, y'all might not

0:39:16.640 --> 0:39:18.560
<v Speaker 3>even be together next year. Are you still gonna have

0:39:18.560 --> 0:39:23.480
<v Speaker 3>a relationship with my child? You might divorce everybody. So no,

0:39:23.600 --> 0:39:25.839
<v Speaker 3>don't ever put your hands on my baby. Ever, ever,

0:39:25.960 --> 0:39:27.879
<v Speaker 3>I don't care. I just don't care. Maybe I don't

0:39:27.880 --> 0:39:31.360
<v Speaker 3>have the emotional intelligence that requires and it is what

0:39:31.440 --> 0:39:35.000
<v Speaker 3>it is. But don't do it, because now I'm going

0:39:35.040 --> 0:39:36.000
<v Speaker 3>to jail about mine.

0:39:36.200 --> 0:39:39.880
<v Speaker 1>A lot of paternal parents go to prison for abuse,

0:39:40.200 --> 0:39:42.560
<v Speaker 1>they go to prison for neglect. It's not just step

0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:44.880
<v Speaker 1>just step parents. So if a child is gonna be abused,

0:39:44.920 --> 0:39:47.120
<v Speaker 1>it could happen from the hands of a step parent.

0:39:48.400 --> 0:39:51.200
<v Speaker 3>I agree, but I'm just speaking on me, you know,

0:39:51.280 --> 0:39:53.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm just speaking on me, and I know that I

0:39:53.520 --> 0:39:54.759
<v Speaker 3>would not abuse my child.

0:39:54.760 --> 0:39:55.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm not even a.

0:39:55.400 --> 0:39:59.680
<v Speaker 3>Big advocate for physical punishment, but if it happens, it

0:39:59.719 --> 0:40:02.800
<v Speaker 3>will be because I decided that was something that happened,

0:40:02.840 --> 0:40:04.960
<v Speaker 3>not the step mama.

0:40:05.239 --> 0:40:06.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you can call me.

0:40:06.880 --> 0:40:09.960
<v Speaker 3>You can call me and tell me what happened, and

0:40:10.120 --> 0:40:12.759
<v Speaker 3>I'll do it because I want my child to respect you.

0:40:12.800 --> 0:40:16.000
<v Speaker 3>I want my child to respect all adults. So there

0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:18.480
<v Speaker 3>will be punishment for that, but I don't know if

0:40:18.480 --> 0:40:21.040
<v Speaker 3>it'll be physical, and you don't get to decide that.

0:40:21.320 --> 0:40:21.960
<v Speaker 2>Period. Yeah.

0:40:22.560 --> 0:40:24.840
<v Speaker 1>I just think that we are different from this person

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:28.319
<v Speaker 1>in the video. Yeah, so based on that video, she

0:40:28.480 --> 0:40:30.080
<v Speaker 1>wanted smoke with this woman.

0:40:31.160 --> 0:40:31.560
<v Speaker 2>Period.

0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:35.520
<v Speaker 1>I understood and there are a lot of women like

0:40:35.600 --> 0:40:38.279
<v Speaker 1>her and you may not. You can say, oh, we

0:40:38.320 --> 0:40:40.600
<v Speaker 1>don't know if she better or not. That's all I heard.

0:40:41.480 --> 0:40:43.319
<v Speaker 1>That's all I heard, Because at what point do you

0:40:43.400 --> 0:40:46.720
<v Speaker 1>not call? She said she called him and he doesn't

0:40:46.719 --> 0:40:49.040
<v Speaker 1>answer his phone. Right, there might be a reason why

0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:50.239
<v Speaker 1>he don't answer the phone for her.

0:40:51.120 --> 0:40:52.919
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but they got a kid together, so he needed

0:40:53.000 --> 0:40:55.880
<v Speaker 3>They need to work past whatever it is so he

0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:57.000
<v Speaker 3>can answer the phone.

0:40:57.560 --> 0:40:59.840
<v Speaker 1>Have y'all ever, there's another question we should have pose, like,

0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:04.640
<v Speaker 1>but how is it dealing with these women of like

0:41:04.680 --> 0:41:07.400
<v Speaker 1>the baby mama is, like it could be real. I

0:41:07.400 --> 0:41:09.480
<v Speaker 1>don't give off the energy that anybody can play with

0:41:09.480 --> 0:41:11.439
<v Speaker 1>me like that. I've never had a problem, for real

0:41:12.080 --> 0:41:15.560
<v Speaker 1>with I've had more of a problem with the dad,

0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:21.160
<v Speaker 1>like him not facilitating a relationship right with me and

0:41:21.239 --> 0:41:24.480
<v Speaker 1>this other person. But I've never actually had a direct

0:41:24.520 --> 0:41:25.439
<v Speaker 1>issue with a bitch.

0:41:25.880 --> 0:41:28.440
<v Speaker 2>Man, I'd had a bitch really, like what I know.

0:41:28.560 --> 0:41:31.120
<v Speaker 2>This bitch used to wake up in the morning be like, ah,

0:41:32.760 --> 0:41:36.360
<v Speaker 2>how can I fuck up Timmy's day today?

0:41:36.719 --> 0:41:38.560
<v Speaker 3>Like I swear that's how that bitch woke up. She

0:41:38.719 --> 0:41:43.359
<v Speaker 3>just always everything was a problem everything, Oh my god,

0:41:43.560 --> 0:41:45.759
<v Speaker 3>Like how I did their hair was a problem. And

0:41:46.320 --> 0:41:48.800
<v Speaker 3>if I took like I'm going to get my nails done,

0:41:49.040 --> 0:41:50.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna take these girls with me to get their

0:41:50.760 --> 0:41:51.480
<v Speaker 3>nails done too.

0:41:51.760 --> 0:41:53.760
<v Speaker 2>Don't take my kids to get their nails done.

0:41:53.920 --> 0:41:56.279
<v Speaker 3>They came here with chip the apolish on. It's not

0:41:56.440 --> 0:41:59.239
<v Speaker 3>like I'm gonna get acrylic. I'm just gonna get their

0:41:59.239 --> 0:42:03.479
<v Speaker 3>polish redone. You know, that's a problem. She just didn't

0:42:03.520 --> 0:42:06.319
<v Speaker 3>want me to do nothing with them kids, like it

0:42:06.360 --> 0:42:08.000
<v Speaker 3>was just so bad. And I was like, well, me

0:42:08.080 --> 0:42:10.080
<v Speaker 3>or her need to have a conversation. We need to talk.

0:42:10.120 --> 0:42:12.319
<v Speaker 3>She needs to have my number because their dad is

0:42:12.360 --> 0:42:14.640
<v Speaker 3>at work all day. I'm with these kids all day long.

0:42:16.040 --> 0:42:18.319
<v Speaker 3>You need to talk to me, you know, you need

0:42:18.360 --> 0:42:20.560
<v Speaker 3>to let me know what's what's okay and what's not

0:42:21.360 --> 0:42:21.560
<v Speaker 3>you know.

0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:24.359
<v Speaker 2>But she refused to have a conversation with me. It's

0:42:24.400 --> 0:42:25.080
<v Speaker 2>just such a mess.

0:42:25.760 --> 0:42:28.600
<v Speaker 1>Oughod And that's what I saw in the video, though,

0:42:28.640 --> 0:42:34.239
<v Speaker 1>I saw somebody who refused to to co parent. That's

0:42:34.800 --> 0:42:37.200
<v Speaker 1>you cannot dictate what this man is doing in his

0:42:37.239 --> 0:42:40.640
<v Speaker 1>house with this child. He has just as much right

0:42:40.719 --> 0:42:42.000
<v Speaker 1>to the child as you do.

0:42:42.200 --> 0:42:45.680
<v Speaker 3>Apparently I agree the father does, but we would just

0:42:45.760 --> 0:42:51.759
<v Speaker 3>have to have a conversation about physical punishment, because that's

0:42:51.840 --> 0:42:54.759
<v Speaker 3>just not something I'm okay with my soul. Doom that

0:42:54.840 --> 0:42:57.600
<v Speaker 3>don't like Ja Cole, I couldn't sleep for two days

0:42:57.840 --> 0:43:03.600
<v Speaker 3>and just did sit right with my spirit because why.

0:43:03.480 --> 0:43:08.200
<v Speaker 1>We did ask you guys are listeners on Instagram to

0:43:08.239 --> 0:43:10.759
<v Speaker 1>give us your take on this particular video. So when

0:43:10.800 --> 0:43:13.800
<v Speaker 1>we come back from break, we're gonna listen to somebody

0:43:13.800 --> 0:43:16.040
<v Speaker 1>and I like this part now, Okay, I like listening

0:43:16.080 --> 0:43:24.080
<v Speaker 1>to people calling. Okay, so we'll be right back. All right,

0:43:24.120 --> 0:43:28.600
<v Speaker 1>So y'all, we are back, and the first caller is

0:43:28.640 --> 0:43:31.799
<v Speaker 1>actually a guy. Let's see what he has to say.

0:43:32.360 --> 0:43:37.239
<v Speaker 7>Hey, this is Joe from Columbia and weighing in on

0:43:37.280 --> 0:43:40.200
<v Speaker 7>the topic. I think that, you know, it depends on

0:43:40.239 --> 0:43:46.200
<v Speaker 7>the parents, the responsible adults parents, who gets the discipline

0:43:46.239 --> 0:43:53.400
<v Speaker 7>the child. I'm one that don't particularly care to discipline

0:43:53.480 --> 0:44:00.120
<v Speaker 7>someone else's child physically. However, if there is a needed

0:44:01.280 --> 0:44:04.880
<v Speaker 7>and in real time, I had to make that decision,

0:44:05.560 --> 0:44:08.600
<v Speaker 7>and I'm talking about emergency only, and it would be

0:44:08.760 --> 0:44:12.279
<v Speaker 7>justified and I can deal with the other parents you know,

0:44:12.360 --> 0:44:15.319
<v Speaker 7>when it when it comes to that. But for the

0:44:15.360 --> 0:44:21.720
<v Speaker 7>most part, I don't I don't. I personally, opinion wise,

0:44:21.840 --> 0:44:26.719
<v Speaker 7>I don't know why one parent would want to or

0:44:26.840 --> 0:44:33.719
<v Speaker 7>would be willing to, uh discipline another child that's that's

0:44:33.800 --> 0:44:38.279
<v Speaker 7>not his own. But uh, that's a touchy subject, and

0:44:39.680 --> 0:44:42.120
<v Speaker 7>I think that you know, it boils down to the

0:44:42.239 --> 0:44:47.400
<v Speaker 7>parents and and how responsible and how much someone trusts

0:44:48.120 --> 0:44:55.920
<v Speaker 7>the other parents decision making. Me personally, again, I wouldn't

0:44:55.960 --> 0:44:59.799
<v Speaker 7>want to discipline someone else's child. It would I would

0:44:59.800 --> 0:45:03.440
<v Speaker 7>have to be asked to do that, which I'd be uncomfortable.

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:09.720
<v Speaker 7>But I'd also be uncomfortable if the emergency situation happened

0:45:09.760 --> 0:45:12.680
<v Speaker 7>and I had to that child.

0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:19.120
<v Speaker 6>Would have put me in an uncomfortable position to need

0:45:19.200 --> 0:45:20.600
<v Speaker 6>to discipline them physically.

0:45:21.000 --> 0:45:25.720
<v Speaker 7>Now, as far as you know the woman I'm dealing

0:45:25.719 --> 0:45:29.200
<v Speaker 7>with now, I don't think she would want to discipline

0:45:29.400 --> 0:45:35.360
<v Speaker 7>my children physically, But I would have to say I'm

0:45:35.520 --> 0:45:42.480
<v Speaker 7>open to her in an emergency situation having to do that.

0:45:43.000 --> 0:45:47.200
<v Speaker 7>I know she wouldn't though, I honestly have to say

0:45:47.239 --> 0:45:51.080
<v Speaker 7>I know she wouldn't do that, So you know that's

0:45:51.120 --> 0:45:52.200
<v Speaker 7>where I stand on it.

0:45:52.440 --> 0:45:53.440
<v Speaker 8>You know, if.

0:45:53.280 --> 0:45:57.720
<v Speaker 7>Someone other than me discipline my child, I personally wouldn't

0:45:57.760 --> 0:46:00.360
<v Speaker 7>Also wouldn't have a problem with it when.

0:46:00.200 --> 0:46:00.919
<v Speaker 9>They're out of line.

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:04.920
<v Speaker 7>They're out of line, and that's for me and that

0:46:05.200 --> 0:46:09.200
<v Speaker 7>other parent or that other adult to discuss, and then

0:46:09.239 --> 0:46:13.120
<v Speaker 7>I'll judge that, you know, at that moment with that

0:46:13.160 --> 0:46:14.280
<v Speaker 7>person face to face.

0:46:14.400 --> 0:46:19.200
<v Speaker 6>But if it's if it's unjust, then I'll step in

0:46:19.360 --> 0:46:23.680
<v Speaker 6>to send my child. But if it's just, then you know,

0:46:23.760 --> 0:46:26.000
<v Speaker 6>he got what he deserves and the world's gonna treat

0:46:26.040 --> 0:46:26.439
<v Speaker 6>him worse.

0:46:29.160 --> 0:46:32.840
<v Speaker 1>Emergency emergency situation ass whoopings is crazy?

0:46:32.960 --> 0:46:34.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what is the emergency?

0:46:34.640 --> 0:46:38.960
<v Speaker 3>Ass Now you're gonna break the glass on the belt.

0:46:39.480 --> 0:46:40.560
<v Speaker 2>He's an emergency.

0:46:40.800 --> 0:46:48.200
<v Speaker 1>Give me the emergency ass whooping.

0:46:48.320 --> 0:46:50.960
<v Speaker 3>But you know what I thought about, give me the

0:46:50.960 --> 0:46:55.320
<v Speaker 3>gun tray, Give me the gun tray like that.

0:46:55.320 --> 0:46:58.759
<v Speaker 2>That's an emergency situation. Yeah.

0:46:59.120 --> 0:47:01.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you read said I would have beat tray up

0:47:01.560 --> 0:47:03.440
<v Speaker 3>at that moment. He might have stayed home.

0:47:07.200 --> 0:47:12.879
<v Speaker 1>Listen, I agree with him. I'm not gonna make great

0:47:12.960 --> 0:47:17.280
<v Speaker 1>friction between my ex and his significant other in regards

0:47:17.280 --> 0:47:22.080
<v Speaker 1>to UH discipline in the kids. I would suggest, yes,

0:47:22.120 --> 0:47:25.279
<v Speaker 1>don't put your hand on the kid. I don't beat

0:47:25.320 --> 0:47:29.879
<v Speaker 1>my child. They'll know that because I can articulate that

0:47:29.920 --> 0:47:34.799
<v Speaker 1>to them. She probably never explicitly stated shit based.

0:47:34.480 --> 0:47:38.480
<v Speaker 3>On that video, because I think she would have been like,

0:47:39.000 --> 0:47:40.200
<v Speaker 3>I already told.

0:47:39.960 --> 0:47:43.560
<v Speaker 1>You, No, she did say that. I think she said that.

0:47:44.640 --> 0:47:47.960
<v Speaker 1>She said she told him she don't want nobody. She

0:47:48.040 --> 0:47:50.560
<v Speaker 1>told him that she don't want nobody putting their putting

0:47:50.560 --> 0:47:52.840
<v Speaker 1>their hands on her child. But that could have just

0:47:52.880 --> 0:47:55.040
<v Speaker 1>been before anything ever even happened. Like, why are you

0:47:55.080 --> 0:47:57.400
<v Speaker 1>even assuming at some point somebody gonna beat your child?

0:47:58.800 --> 0:48:01.560
<v Speaker 1>But it happened like THEYD beat that guy the kid.

0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:04.319
<v Speaker 1>But I don't, I'm not. I don't know.

0:48:04.440 --> 0:48:08.400
<v Speaker 3>I like harmony, me too, harmony, and I don't want

0:48:08.440 --> 0:48:10.200
<v Speaker 3>my kid to get beat period.

0:48:10.760 --> 0:48:13.600
<v Speaker 1>But if your kid need that ass whooped, like, I'll

0:48:13.640 --> 0:48:17.080
<v Speaker 1>do it. Nah, I'll do it. Okay, let's listen to

0:48:17.080 --> 0:48:17.560
<v Speaker 1>the next call.

0:48:17.719 --> 0:48:18.000
<v Speaker 2>Y'all.

0:48:18.040 --> 0:48:20.680
<v Speaker 3>You ain't never had a delayed ass whooping. All your

0:48:20.680 --> 0:48:23.480
<v Speaker 3>ass whoopings came in real time. Yes, you ain't never

0:48:23.560 --> 0:48:25.759
<v Speaker 3>like you're gonna get your ass beat when you get home.

0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:28.560
<v Speaker 1>You ain't never had that. That's to me, that's abuse.

0:48:28.840 --> 0:48:29.680
<v Speaker 2>How's that abuse?

0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:32.040
<v Speaker 1>Because you ruined the kid's day for the rest of

0:48:32.080 --> 0:48:32.600
<v Speaker 1>the day.

0:48:32.880 --> 0:48:36.680
<v Speaker 2>Y'all are apparently whatever they did deserved it. Nah.

0:48:36.920 --> 0:48:39.600
<v Speaker 1>We out somewhere in the midst of you not being

0:48:39.719 --> 0:48:41.279
<v Speaker 1>when you told me you want to beat my ass.

0:48:41.320 --> 0:48:44.520
<v Speaker 1>You were probably upset right at that moment. The day

0:48:44.560 --> 0:48:47.640
<v Speaker 1>that went on, you no longer upset. Not you keeping

0:48:47.680 --> 0:48:50.080
<v Speaker 1>your word and really whipping my ass six hours later.

0:48:50.120 --> 0:48:52.280
<v Speaker 1>That is fucking crazy to me. It needs to happen

0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:56.400
<v Speaker 1>right then and there. Delayed ass whoopings are abused to me.

0:48:56.960 --> 0:48:58.880
<v Speaker 2>You can't You can't whip them in public.

0:49:00.040 --> 0:49:01.680
<v Speaker 1>You could have took them in the bathroom, take them

0:49:01.719 --> 0:49:02.440
<v Speaker 1>in the beginning.

0:49:02.160 --> 0:49:03.840
<v Speaker 2>Of trouble for that. You can go to jail for that.

0:49:03.960 --> 0:49:07.239
<v Speaker 1>Now keep your hands off little people. That's what I'm hearing,

0:49:07.239 --> 0:49:09.080
<v Speaker 1>Because if it's against the lat to whip your child,

0:49:09.080 --> 0:49:12.279
<v Speaker 1>now keep your hands off of little people. Everybody. How

0:49:12.320 --> 0:49:12.719
<v Speaker 1>about that?

0:49:14.040 --> 0:49:15.799
<v Speaker 2>How about that you don't sit.

0:49:15.880 --> 0:49:19.720
<v Speaker 1>You don't own these people. You don't own these people,

0:49:19.840 --> 0:49:22.480
<v Speaker 1>those kids, you don't own them just because you had.

0:49:22.280 --> 0:49:25.120
<v Speaker 2>Them legs up when we get to the house.

0:49:25.920 --> 0:49:30.279
<v Speaker 1>That is abuse. I never talked to a kid like that.

0:49:30.600 --> 0:49:33.040
<v Speaker 1>I never fold my top lip at a kid like

0:49:33.120 --> 0:49:34.200
<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you I used to do with my

0:49:34.239 --> 0:49:36.799
<v Speaker 1>exes fucking son when them niggas went through what I say,

0:49:37.520 --> 0:49:40.160
<v Speaker 1>I just delayed doing the things that they needed me

0:49:40.200 --> 0:49:44.799
<v Speaker 1>to do, like feed them. Y'all want lunch, y'all have breakfast, right,

0:49:44.880 --> 0:49:47.600
<v Speaker 1>y'all want lunch. I have told you to clean this

0:49:47.719 --> 0:49:52.040
<v Speaker 1>room ten times. Now, guess what happens when they start coming.

0:49:52.080 --> 0:49:56.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm hungry. I just delay getting up to make them

0:49:56.920 --> 0:49:57.799
<v Speaker 1>something to fucking eat.

0:49:58.160 --> 0:49:59.200
<v Speaker 2>Now, that's abuse to me.

0:50:00.680 --> 0:50:03.080
<v Speaker 1>They're not that hungry. They want a snack. They want

0:50:03.080 --> 0:50:05.279
<v Speaker 1>like little bullshit. You know what I'm saying throughout the day.

0:50:05.800 --> 0:50:07.680
<v Speaker 1>So because you didn't do what I asked you to

0:50:07.680 --> 0:50:11.040
<v Speaker 1>do very nicely, I'm not jumping to do anything a

0:50:11.040 --> 0:50:13.840
<v Speaker 1>little person tells me to do. You're gonna wait now.

0:50:14.160 --> 0:50:16.360
<v Speaker 3>I remember one time I had cooked dinner for the

0:50:16.440 --> 0:50:20.680
<v Speaker 3>kids and they did not want what I prepared and

0:50:21.120 --> 0:50:23.160
<v Speaker 3>red but they eat it all the time. It wasn't

0:50:23.200 --> 0:50:25.400
<v Speaker 3>like something that they didn't eat. They just wanted to

0:50:25.400 --> 0:50:29.440
<v Speaker 3>eat cinnamon toast crunch instead of the dinner. And my

0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:32.760
<v Speaker 3>boyfriend at the time let them eat cinnamon toast crunch

0:50:32.800 --> 0:50:34.839
<v Speaker 3>instead of what I prepare. And our money was tight,

0:50:35.200 --> 0:50:36.600
<v Speaker 3>so we ain't have a lot of money like that,

0:50:36.800 --> 0:50:39.200
<v Speaker 3>and it pissed me off that they didn't have to

0:50:39.200 --> 0:50:42.359
<v Speaker 3>eat that dinner. So and they were just sitting there

0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:44.920
<v Speaker 3>happy eating they little cinnamon toast crunch. I was like, okay,

0:50:44.960 --> 0:50:47.400
<v Speaker 3>I got something for that. So the next day they

0:50:47.480 --> 0:50:50.319
<v Speaker 3>was like, what's for breakfast? I was like, dinner, it's

0:50:50.440 --> 0:50:51.080
<v Speaker 3>for breakfast.

0:50:54.440 --> 0:50:59.399
<v Speaker 1>See that's a nice ass whooping. That's a good one.

0:51:00.200 --> 0:51:02.480
<v Speaker 2>Dinner is for fucking breakfast. That's what you're about to eat.

0:51:02.560 --> 0:51:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Y'all gonna eat this food?

0:51:04.800 --> 0:51:06.600
<v Speaker 1>No, See my ex is different, like he was gonna

0:51:06.600 --> 0:51:08.560
<v Speaker 1>force them to eat whatever I cooked. But my food

0:51:08.719 --> 0:51:10.839
<v Speaker 1>was always good. Them niggas would wake up, he'd beat

0:51:10.880 --> 0:51:12.920
<v Speaker 1>I gave him some bullshit. They waiting for me to

0:51:12.960 --> 0:51:15.520
<v Speaker 1>get up so they can say like, no, we want

0:51:15.600 --> 0:51:20.239
<v Speaker 1>your breakfast. I have literally forced myself to eat some

0:51:20.280 --> 0:51:23.200
<v Speaker 1>shit I didn't like. While I'm watching the boys cry

0:51:23.239 --> 0:51:25.960
<v Speaker 1>about having to eat this bullshit they daddy don'et cooked,

0:51:26.480 --> 0:51:29.239
<v Speaker 1>and I'm forcing myself to eat it so they don't

0:51:29.280 --> 0:51:33.200
<v Speaker 1>have to eat it by themselves. We always beat abused.

0:51:37.640 --> 0:51:39.080
<v Speaker 2>All right, let's go to the next call.

0:51:39.160 --> 0:51:40.240
<v Speaker 1>Let's see what we're talking about.

0:51:40.680 --> 0:51:43.680
<v Speaker 8>Hello calling to answer the question when I let my

0:51:44.800 --> 0:51:48.840
<v Speaker 8>man ex husband whatever significant other discipline our child. Answer

0:51:48.920 --> 0:51:53.359
<v Speaker 8>is no, No, I would not, just because I don't

0:51:53.400 --> 0:51:55.399
<v Speaker 8>know how and even if I didn't know that, Hell,

0:51:55.960 --> 0:51:59.360
<v Speaker 8>I don't know that. Hell, I love that. You know,

0:51:59.640 --> 0:52:01.759
<v Speaker 8>me and my man did not work out, and you know,

0:52:02.080 --> 0:52:04.080
<v Speaker 8>he moved on and I moved on. I would love

0:52:04.080 --> 0:52:06.759
<v Speaker 8>to have a great coparent relationship with not only him

0:52:06.800 --> 0:52:10.120
<v Speaker 8>and I but with our significant others. But I think

0:52:10.200 --> 0:52:13.520
<v Speaker 8>that disciplining my child physically is like where I draw

0:52:13.560 --> 0:52:15.640
<v Speaker 8>the line because it can be a teaching moment for me,

0:52:16.560 --> 0:52:19.319
<v Speaker 8>maybe like a pop pop and lay it down for her.

0:52:19.840 --> 0:52:21.640
<v Speaker 8>So where I would think like, oh, hey, this is

0:52:21.680 --> 0:52:23.759
<v Speaker 8>not a you know, a whoop situation. This is a

0:52:23.760 --> 0:52:25.440
<v Speaker 8>situation where I like have a conversation.

0:52:26.120 --> 0:52:26.359
<v Speaker 6>You know.

0:52:26.480 --> 0:52:29.400
<v Speaker 8>It may be like like a situation where she's just

0:52:29.440 --> 0:52:32.160
<v Speaker 8>like going straight to a whoop, and that's not I

0:52:32.160 --> 0:52:37.040
<v Speaker 8>don't So I would prefer that, you know, she had

0:52:37.040 --> 0:52:39.280
<v Speaker 8>a conversation with me and like that kind of situation,

0:52:39.360 --> 0:52:40.680
<v Speaker 8>she just call me up and be like, hey, this

0:52:40.719 --> 0:52:43.759
<v Speaker 8>is going on, and then I can decide, you know,

0:52:43.800 --> 0:52:45.839
<v Speaker 8>what I'm going to do with my child and that moment.

0:52:47.920 --> 0:52:50.520
<v Speaker 8>So yeah, and I still I don't know that home

0:52:51.760 --> 0:52:52.399
<v Speaker 8>have a good one.

0:52:52.680 --> 0:52:55.279
<v Speaker 1>You see, I don't know that whole like why we

0:52:55.320 --> 0:52:58.239
<v Speaker 1>even have that type of energy for the for the

0:52:58.280 --> 0:53:00.960
<v Speaker 1>other person, what is going on between you and this

0:53:01.080 --> 0:53:03.759
<v Speaker 1>man's relationship. I'm not talking about her in particular, but

0:53:03.840 --> 0:53:07.600
<v Speaker 1>this is a lot of women. I don't know that whole, Like,

0:53:07.719 --> 0:53:09.640
<v Speaker 1>why don't you know that whole? This hole is around

0:53:09.680 --> 0:53:10.200
<v Speaker 1>your child.

0:53:10.360 --> 0:53:11.719
<v Speaker 2>Why do you need to know that whole?

0:53:12.160 --> 0:53:15.480
<v Speaker 1>Yes, absolutely, and I don't want to know that whole.

0:53:15.560 --> 0:53:20.240
<v Speaker 1>That's terrible, Like I need to know everybody that's around

0:53:20.280 --> 0:53:24.160
<v Speaker 1>my child because women are predators as well. Okay, I

0:53:24.239 --> 0:53:26.960
<v Speaker 1>need to know everybody. So at some point, somebody got

0:53:26.960 --> 0:53:30.040
<v Speaker 1>to be an adult. May it be him, the new girlfriend,

0:53:30.080 --> 0:53:33.960
<v Speaker 1>slash or wife or you. Somebody has to be the

0:53:34.239 --> 0:53:39.719
<v Speaker 1>bigger person and have these conversations. Okay, so there's no

0:53:39.800 --> 0:53:41.960
<v Speaker 1>confusion on what needs to be happening.

0:53:42.520 --> 0:53:45.440
<v Speaker 3>Right So in that relationship, she was like, I'm not

0:53:45.560 --> 0:53:47.799
<v Speaker 3>talking to her until she apologized to me, And I

0:53:47.920 --> 0:53:51.600
<v Speaker 3>was like, but you need to just let bygones be bygones,

0:53:51.600 --> 0:53:53.200
<v Speaker 3>because you ain't getting an all apology.

0:53:53.360 --> 0:53:54.160
<v Speaker 2>Let's just move.

0:53:54.000 --> 0:53:56.319
<v Speaker 3>Forward for the sake of the kids. Let's just have

0:53:56.360 --> 0:53:58.960
<v Speaker 3>these conversations about the kids. We can do that, but

0:53:59.040 --> 0:54:00.640
<v Speaker 3>in an apology, you will get.

0:54:00.680 --> 0:54:02.799
<v Speaker 1>What you was needing to apologize for. What did you cause?

0:54:02.840 --> 0:54:04.440
<v Speaker 2>I cussed her the fuck out?

0:54:04.880 --> 0:54:08.920
<v Speaker 3>Why because she was talking about me in his phone

0:54:08.960 --> 0:54:11.840
<v Speaker 3>and I've seen it, so I call her motherfucking ass

0:54:12.239 --> 0:54:14.839
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, since you got so much to say, bitch.

0:54:16.880 --> 0:54:19.480
<v Speaker 1>So now she's trying to make you, now the new girlfriend,

0:54:19.520 --> 0:54:21.160
<v Speaker 1>bow down. No, we ain't doing that.

0:54:21.440 --> 0:54:22.640
<v Speaker 2>Right, I'm not buying down to you.

0:54:22.719 --> 0:54:26.000
<v Speaker 3>Let's just move forward, because you already was out your

0:54:26.040 --> 0:54:28.120
<v Speaker 3>mouth phone and that's why I had to come correct you.

0:54:28.400 --> 0:54:31.360
<v Speaker 2>That's why I was. I didn't want no smoke with you,

0:54:31.920 --> 0:54:33.919
<v Speaker 2>but you asked for it. So let's just move forward

0:54:34.120 --> 0:54:35.440
<v Speaker 2>and let's talk about these kids.

0:54:38.760 --> 0:54:41.920
<v Speaker 1>Shame, all right, let's see next caller.

0:54:43.080 --> 0:54:47.280
<v Speaker 4>Yes, so if the dad is an active father, meaning

0:54:47.360 --> 0:54:50.960
<v Speaker 4>he takes full responsibility of the child with the mother,

0:54:51.120 --> 0:54:55.000
<v Speaker 4>then yes, I would be open to his girlfriend or

0:54:55.800 --> 0:54:59.880
<v Speaker 4>wife discipling the child. If he's not an active father,

0:55:00.680 --> 0:55:02.279
<v Speaker 4>then I would not be open to it.

0:55:02.760 --> 0:55:05.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean he probably if he's not an active father,

0:55:06.280 --> 0:55:08.720
<v Speaker 1>and you just he only sees his kid like once

0:55:08.800 --> 0:55:09.760
<v Speaker 1>every few months.

0:55:09.560 --> 0:55:11.239
<v Speaker 2>Type and then a bitch beating them.

0:55:11.480 --> 0:55:14.040
<v Speaker 1>No, that's crazy.

0:55:15.200 --> 0:55:17.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm coming over there with a gun for everybody, because

0:55:17.640 --> 0:55:21.120
<v Speaker 3>why he ain't seen this baby in seven months.

0:55:21.800 --> 0:55:23.360
<v Speaker 1>You can't even beat this kid.

0:55:23.520 --> 0:55:28.640
<v Speaker 2>Right, she come home, Toby, I got beat what that's crazy?

0:55:29.000 --> 0:55:31.000
<v Speaker 3>This should be a happy experience. We don't know what's

0:55:31.040 --> 0:55:31.880
<v Speaker 3>gonna happen again.

0:55:34.320 --> 0:55:39.880
<v Speaker 1>Yo. Keep the kids from non active parents and active

0:55:40.080 --> 0:55:41.200
<v Speaker 1>and active parents.

0:55:42.520 --> 0:55:44.839
<v Speaker 3>No, because we want them to become active parents. So

0:55:45.160 --> 0:55:46.879
<v Speaker 3>you want to let them see their parents as much

0:55:46.880 --> 0:55:48.880
<v Speaker 3>as possible. But please don't put your hands on them.

0:55:48.880 --> 0:55:54.080
<v Speaker 3>If you're not present, that's insane. They gonna hate you.

0:55:54.080 --> 0:55:56.279
<v Speaker 3>You already don't come around, and you beat me when

0:55:56.280 --> 0:55:58.080
<v Speaker 3>I do see you're saying.

0:56:01.040 --> 0:56:02.440
<v Speaker 1>You know, Meg Scholar.

0:56:04.600 --> 0:56:07.800
<v Speaker 9>So can the baking dead, current wife or living girlfriend

0:56:07.840 --> 0:56:10.879
<v Speaker 9>discipline the child physically? One of the CONTI that is

0:56:10.880 --> 0:56:14.600
<v Speaker 9>is I know that I don't feel comfortable physically disciplining

0:56:14.760 --> 0:56:17.920
<v Speaker 9>someone else's children that I might be seeing. So with

0:56:18.040 --> 0:56:20.359
<v Speaker 9>that said, I probably wouldn't be comfortable with someone doing

0:56:20.400 --> 0:56:23.720
<v Speaker 9>that with mine. I feel like if both living parents

0:56:23.760 --> 0:56:26.800
<v Speaker 9>are present, there's no need for me to step in physically.

0:56:27.640 --> 0:56:28.279
<v Speaker 4>I should be.

0:56:28.239 --> 0:56:31.919
<v Speaker 9>Able to verbally reprimand them or give them some types

0:56:31.960 --> 0:56:35.960
<v Speaker 9>of consequences. If I am playing a part in helping

0:56:36.000 --> 0:56:39.600
<v Speaker 9>to raise them, but to physically discipline them. I feel

0:56:39.600 --> 0:56:41.759
<v Speaker 9>like I would I would rather leave that up to

0:56:42.560 --> 0:56:45.040
<v Speaker 9>the two living parents, because at the end of the day,

0:56:45.640 --> 0:56:48.480
<v Speaker 9>these children I didn't give birth to, they have two

0:56:48.480 --> 0:56:51.200
<v Speaker 9>living parents. They can handle that peace. But if I

0:56:51.239 --> 0:56:54.640
<v Speaker 9>do have to be a part of their lives in

0:56:54.800 --> 0:56:57.960
<v Speaker 9>raising them, then I would like to think that at

0:56:57.960 --> 0:57:02.680
<v Speaker 9>the very least I can verbally or some other productive

0:57:02.760 --> 0:57:07.080
<v Speaker 9>way of reprimanding them, I think that could take place. So, yeah,

0:57:07.160 --> 0:57:10.080
<v Speaker 9>I can't see myself fell uncomfortable physically reprimanding somebody else's

0:57:10.160 --> 0:57:11.280
<v Speaker 9>kids me either.

0:57:11.640 --> 0:57:15.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not comfortable reprimanding any kid, though maybe my

0:57:15.600 --> 0:57:18.160
<v Speaker 1>own or someone else's. That's the only point I'm really

0:57:18.200 --> 0:57:22.640
<v Speaker 1>trying to make. I think, if you yourself practice corporal

0:57:22.640 --> 0:57:27.560
<v Speaker 1>punishment on your child, how do you then get mad

0:57:27.600 --> 0:57:29.160
<v Speaker 1>when somebody else doesn't.

0:57:29.080 --> 0:57:31.720
<v Speaker 2>Because it's my child, it's not their child.

0:57:32.280 --> 0:57:34.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's just weird to me. Nobody should be hitting

0:57:34.520 --> 0:57:37.200
<v Speaker 1>a child. All right, we got one more caller and

0:57:37.240 --> 0:57:38.560
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna rap it up.

0:57:40.240 --> 0:57:43.640
<v Speaker 5>I think it really just depends on the relationship that

0:57:43.880 --> 0:57:49.440
<v Speaker 5>you have with that child, because some of these girlfriends

0:57:49.520 --> 0:57:54.280
<v Speaker 5>have been around since the kid was a baby. But

0:57:54.320 --> 0:57:57.000
<v Speaker 5>then again, you are just a girlfriend. You're not even

0:57:57.000 --> 0:58:02.080
<v Speaker 5>at a wife. But I have had a man who

0:58:02.280 --> 0:58:06.280
<v Speaker 5>had his kids with me, like twenty four seven. He

0:58:06.640 --> 0:58:09.400
<v Speaker 5>really just put this responsibility on me because his mother

0:58:09.520 --> 0:58:11.640
<v Speaker 5>wasn't around, so I was just kind of helping him out.

0:58:12.360 --> 0:58:17.320
<v Speaker 5>And it would be times when his daughter was really

0:58:17.440 --> 0:58:21.680
<v Speaker 5>just out of line, and you know, he had been

0:58:21.760 --> 0:58:24.880
<v Speaker 5>with me all the time, and it's like with my kids,

0:58:25.000 --> 0:58:28.880
<v Speaker 5>I am disciplining them. You know, I would spank them,

0:58:29.000 --> 0:58:32.720
<v Speaker 5>and his kids he didn't want me to spank them.

0:58:33.080 --> 0:58:35.320
<v Speaker 5>But it's like, you're leaving these kids with me twenty

0:58:35.360 --> 0:58:40.560
<v Speaker 5>four seven, and you know, because he had to work

0:58:40.640 --> 0:58:44.040
<v Speaker 5>or go out of town or something, and you don't

0:58:44.040 --> 0:58:49.080
<v Speaker 5>want me to spank them, But I'm speaking my kids.

0:58:49.360 --> 0:58:52.800
<v Speaker 5>I don't know, Like I said, it just depends.

0:58:52.520 --> 0:58:56.480
<v Speaker 3>Why the fuck you got these kids so long? That's

0:58:56.480 --> 0:58:58.840
<v Speaker 3>how I used to be feeling, why the fuck I

0:58:58.880 --> 0:58:59.600
<v Speaker 3>got these heirs?

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<v Speaker 7>So oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yo? Leaving your kids with somebody for twenty four hours

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<v Speaker 1>is wild, okay, longer than she was, like he going

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<v Speaker 1>out of town?

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<v Speaker 2>Where is they?

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<v Speaker 1>Mama? One of my friends, one of my good friends,

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<v Speaker 1>this guy's to date, we're still really good friends. But

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<v Speaker 1>he has a daughter. When I tell you, she's such

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<v Speaker 1>an angel, she is the sweetest little girl. She's so brilliant,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I could not see anybody not liking her. And

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<v Speaker 1>this girl he was dating was like really like telling him, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you baby her too much and you do too much

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<v Speaker 1>for her. Like literally his daughter was sitting next to

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<v Speaker 1>him because they're at Thanksgiving with her family. The baby

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<v Speaker 1>don't know anybody else. She's seven years old. She doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>know anybody else at the house. Of course, I'm staying

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<v Speaker 1>up underneath my dad. This bitch waits until she moves

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<v Speaker 1>to like take her seat by her dad, and she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>can I have my seat back? Like she was playing

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<v Speaker 1>in these type of games with a little girl. And

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<v Speaker 1>when I tell you, I'm so she was jealous the baby, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>where's this bitch? I was feeling so bad because like,

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<v Speaker 1>where is this bitch? And I don't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>with your daddy, But I love you nonetheless, but I

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<v Speaker 1>did not like the fact that it was a woman

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<v Speaker 1>mistreating this little angel, right, bitch, I'll beat you up

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<v Speaker 1>about that girl. But yeah, man, you gotta be Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta be careful with women. You do. You do

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<v Speaker 1>have to be careful with people. But that's where communication

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<v Speaker 1>comes in. At You know, somebody has to be the

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<v Speaker 1>bigger person and have the hard conversations so that everybody

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<v Speaker 1>is on the same page. You cannot just pull up

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<v Speaker 1>at my door because Tammy was like she would have

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<v Speaker 1>beat the bitch up as soon as she got to

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<v Speaker 1>the house.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but that's because I would have made it very

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<v Speaker 3>clear how I felt about it.

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<v Speaker 2>It wouldn't have been like I didn't know. No, you

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<v Speaker 2>knew exactly like what was up when it came to

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<v Speaker 2>physical punishment for my child. Now I got to do

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<v Speaker 2>the same thing to you.

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<v Speaker 1>And as the girl, old friend or wife I was,

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<v Speaker 1>I said I would beat that bitch ap as soon

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<v Speaker 1>as I opened my door.

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<v Speaker 3>Or got beat up, whichever one k first. Bible one.

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<v Speaker 3>That don't mean you're gonna win. That don't mean you're

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<v Speaker 3>gonna win. Because I'm listen.

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<v Speaker 1>You might not have to fight. You might have got shot,

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<v Speaker 1>not a kid, you had a parent, you ain't got

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't the only one with a gun.

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<v Speaker 2>Like your kid.

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<v Speaker 3>You ain't the only one with the gun. Don't put

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<v Speaker 3>your hands on my baby. But that's just a conversation

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<v Speaker 3>that needs to be had, you know, prior to very

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<v Speaker 3>clearly with all parties involved.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know. Keep your hands off little people.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my last last.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, little kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Children have half the life experience experiences of an adult.

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<v Speaker 1>You cannot expect them to know what you know. You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have to repeat yourself a thousand times. You gotta

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<v Speaker 1>have patience when dealing with little people. Keep your cool.

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<v Speaker 1>The people who I see yelling and cussing their kids

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<v Speaker 1>out in public, I think you're a problem more than

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<v Speaker 1>that kid. Yeah, because how did you let the kid

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<v Speaker 1>get you there?

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<v Speaker 2>And then?

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, these kids will work your last fucking

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<v Speaker 3>nerve though. They will, they'll take you to the outer limits.

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<v Speaker 3>I remember one time we were in Belgium, me and

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<v Speaker 3>my sister, all her friends came and everybody took their kids,

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<v Speaker 3>and my niece was just had the soul of Satan

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<v Speaker 3>in her that day.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, she was just missing. She was behaving

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<v Speaker 2>so terribly. Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>And my sister came to me, She's like, I need

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<v Speaker 3>you to get your niece and I need you to

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<v Speaker 3>get her to fuck away from me because I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to jail today. And I knew my sister was at

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<v Speaker 3>her wits end, and she's a very patient person, like,

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<v Speaker 3>she's very non violent and very patient. But I knew

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<v Speaker 3>that in that moment that I needed to get my

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<v Speaker 3>niece very far away from her because she.

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<v Speaker 1>Was about to die.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, man, So the kids will take you there.

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<v Speaker 3>She had like the smallness take and everything that she

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<v Speaker 3>could do bad, she was doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>God damn, sit your motherfucking ass down somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, man. And this also it also goes back to

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<v Speaker 1>like you shouldn't be doing it by yourself. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, You shouldn't be having to parent by yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think it gets even more frustrating at that

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<v Speaker 1>point because you're always the disciplinary, You're always having to

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<v Speaker 1>be the responsible person in this situation, like where is

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<v Speaker 1>the other parent? So I can I see where the

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<v Speaker 1>frustration comes from when raising children without having to be

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<v Speaker 1>a parent myself. I'm definitely a mom. I'm a mother

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<v Speaker 1>at heart. Yeah, But I think the longer you live

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<v Speaker 1>without having kids, you see what, I feel like both

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<v Speaker 1>you and I would be very very good parents. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think we have a lot of time to see

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<v Speaker 1>what the fuck we ain't about to do with these

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<v Speaker 1>goddamn kids. I feel like when you treat kids like adults,

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<v Speaker 1>they act like adults. When you treat them like a kid,

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<v Speaker 1>they act like a kid. Right, So I never subscribe

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<v Speaker 1>to the this came out of me, this is mine.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like children choose their parents. We don't choose

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<v Speaker 1>and choose our children. So you have to realize that, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you did give birth to this thing, and as you

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<v Speaker 1>are responsible for this gift. Also, I just remember growing

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<v Speaker 1>up and never feeling like I had a place to

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<v Speaker 1>live because it was my mama house, my mama, my my, my,

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<v Speaker 1>my mind. That's how I felt growing up. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>ever want my kid to feel like they don't belong somewhere,

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<v Speaker 1>or like it's a privilege to be here, because it's not.

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<v Speaker 1>They didn't ask to be here. You are responsible for them, right.

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<v Speaker 3>But you also don't want your kid to grow up

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<v Speaker 3>in title and acting like they don't understand the value

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<v Speaker 3>of what you're providing them. You know, I'm providing this

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<v Speaker 3>for you, and I want you to understand that it

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<v Speaker 3>is a luxury to have these things because some people

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<v Speaker 3>don't have them, so you need to appreciate them.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's as such.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know, balance, So it got to be balance

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<v Speaker 3>because you don't got no you come you slamming the door.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't have no door.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have no door. That's my door.

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<v Speaker 1>Door.

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<v Speaker 2>They ain't got no door. They don't have a door

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<v Speaker 2>to slam.

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<v Speaker 3>Yet, when you buy a door and you pay for it,

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<v Speaker 3>you can slam that motherfucker to come off the hedge.

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<v Speaker 3>But in here, no yo, we used to break my

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<v Speaker 3>old Take the door down you, I will take it.

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<v Speaker 2>You come home from school, won't be no door. Your door,

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<v Speaker 2>your door on craigs List, your door on eBay. Baby,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have no door no more. Please don't play

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<v Speaker 2>with me.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, y'all, hands off the moytherfucking churring. You ain't my daddy,

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<v Speaker 1>my mama. The minute the kid tell me that shit,

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<v Speaker 1>they can't come to my house no more.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not my dad. Remember that, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, hold on before we go. I remember when I

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<v Speaker 1>was leaving my eggs now, I was taking the girl

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<v Speaker 1>because I eat a lot of things people don't eat, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm not taking like things out the refrigerator that

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<v Speaker 1>I know they would eat. I'm taking things that I

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<v Speaker 1>know they don't eat that will just go bad.

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<v Speaker 6>Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Why is little nigga standing at the thresholder the kitchen, like,

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<v Speaker 1>why are you taking all our food? I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know you just like your fucking daddy. Bye. Nobody

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<v Speaker 1>taking all y'all food that I bought. The fuck bile

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<v Speaker 1>they waiting taking all the food they Likad said, bye, Lance,

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<v Speaker 1>he ain't have no loyalty to me, boy like you

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<v Speaker 1>and my daddy eat together no more.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, bye bitch, But don't take the cinnamon toast

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<v Speaker 2>crunch bitch. All right, y'all.

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