Speaker 1: Welcome to We talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women talk back.
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
Speaker 1: new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to
Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. This is your co host, AJ Holliday.
Speaker 1: What's up, Tam Bam?
Speaker 2: Hey, y'allays, Meet Tam Bam. I love y'all. I love
Speaker 2: you too. Aj. How you doing, Hey, girl?
Speaker 1: I love your bag.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something.
Speaker 3: A bit said that she know our voices apart because
Speaker 3: you sound articulate and I sound slow, like I be
Speaker 3: dragging my words and I just want.
Speaker 2: To say something, bitch, I am not slow.
Speaker 3: Sometimes my words may slur or you know, drag together
Speaker 3: one because I'm country in two because I haven't missed
Speaker 3: or I don't even I don't like saying I have it.
Speaker 2: There's some mss lingering around somewhere. So that's why, girl,
Speaker 2: I ain't slow ship.
Speaker 1: And there somewhere some ship in there, some motherfucking ship somewhere.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it stand for, some motherfucking ship.
Speaker 1: And you know the reason why I have to really
Speaker 1: sound like try to sound super articulate on that ship,
Speaker 1: and one day I'm gonna do a whole geee motherfucking episode,
Speaker 1: but I want to make sure that people are hear
Speaker 1: me and understand me, So I intentionally try to articulate
Speaker 1: as good as possible for y'all motherfuckers. And when I don't, like,
Speaker 1: say ship like hoiter, Okay, this bitch horse correct me.
Speaker 2: A hoiter.
Speaker 1: It's not no tea in that ship. I'm not adding
Speaker 1: a tea. I'm adding a d hoiter.
Speaker 2: It's a it's an extra letter somewhere in there.
Speaker 1: I remember when one of my homegirls was like, why
Speaker 1: you be saying again? And I'm like, huh what you mean?
Speaker 1: Like she was like, Okay, if I invite you someplace,
Speaker 1: you would hit me up and be like I ain't
Speaker 1: coming again.
Speaker 2: Like y'all don't say again, not at the end of
Speaker 2: that sentence.
Speaker 1: Okay, because in our minds, and I'm not gonna say mine, right,
Speaker 1: I was going to come, but now I'm not coming again.
Speaker 1: I've changed my mind. It makes sense to us. Mm again,
Speaker 1: it's like, bitch, yeah, what you had going on.
Speaker 3: My weekend was I ended up going to Dreamville Fest
Speaker 3: out of nowhere. One of my one of my homies
Speaker 3: for Innerscope was like, where are you at?
Speaker 2: Pull up?
Speaker 3: So you know, I gassed up the Jetta. I ain't
Speaker 3: got no Jeda, but I gased up the Jetta and
Speaker 3: shout out to Dreamville fest. It was so much fun.
Speaker 3: I took my little sister with me and that was
Speaker 3: her first festival. We had a time, girl. It was
Speaker 3: so many people. There's a lot of walking. It was
Speaker 3: a little chili. So the festival looks wasn't looking. Everybody
Speaker 3: kind of had on like hoodies and leggings, just trying
Speaker 3: to stay warm out.
Speaker 2: Though it was cold.
Speaker 3: It wasn't cold, but it wasn't warm, so so it
Speaker 3: was like somewhere in the middle, like j Cole got
Speaker 3: up there. Oh we're gonna talk about that. We'll talk
Speaker 3: about that in stupid internet news. But yeah, that's really
Speaker 3: all I did this weekend.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 1: My niece and her friends went to Dreamville. They had
Speaker 1: been planning for a month's child, so they did the
Speaker 1: two day thing. I've never been and maybe I'll go
Speaker 1: on you. I don't really like those big group things
Speaker 1: like concerts and shit like that. There's too much, too
Speaker 1: much shit going on too much energy is just too much.
Speaker 3: It's like if I didn't have VIP access, I wouldn't
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 1: That's I was about to say, like backstage VIP, yes,
Speaker 1: I'm there, But other than that, being in jim pop
Speaker 1: absolutely not.
Speaker 3: I mean, so I moved around gimpop a little bit
Speaker 3: because you know, that's where all the people are for
Speaker 3: the most part.
Speaker 2: But yeah, having to stay with random people, I'll get off.
Speaker 2: Little was said.
Speaker 1: I just got here. I just got here. So in
Speaker 1: Charleston this weekend was our annual bridge run, the Cooper
Speaker 1: River Bridge Run, so millions of people coming to the
Speaker 1: city jown. Y'all know. The Africans always win the race.
Speaker 1: The fastest was twenty three minutes. It was Kenyan, and
Speaker 1: then another was was he Ethiopia. I can't remember how
Speaker 1: long it was, thou, Well, it's the five it's five miles.
Speaker 2: Okay, five K was that that? No? Five K is
Speaker 2: three miles, ain't it?
Speaker 4: Girl?
Speaker 1: Listen, don't get me the line because I did the
Speaker 1: bridge run one time when I was in my most
Speaker 1: fittest form. That was in high school, my last year
Speaker 1: of high school. Actually, no, I think it was my
Speaker 1: freshman year of college. I did do the bridge run,
Speaker 1: and I ran most of it too.
Speaker 2: You participated this term.
Speaker 1: No, I participated in the after part. My cousin ran it.
Speaker 1: She's well, I only know a couple of people who
Speaker 1: actually did it this year. I'm pretty sure more people
Speaker 1: did it than I asked. But yeah, it was what
Speaker 1: is it celebration of? It's just for like nonprofit, you know, like,
Speaker 1: what is the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 2: There's a charity run charity there you go.
Speaker 4: You know what.
Speaker 1: It's been going on since the eighties. It's different organizations
Speaker 1: every time. Yeah, Like my cousin she ran, and it
Speaker 1: depends on what package you buy. She's a veteran, so
Speaker 1: she ran for home as veterans. So it's just different,
Speaker 1: different proceeds, different.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's dope. Yeah, man.
Speaker 1: So the fucking city was flooded. It's already always flooded
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, but it was nice. It was
Speaker 1: nice this weekend downtown Charleston. If y'all never been to Charleston, come, yeah,
Speaker 1: day them because we oh just come.
Speaker 2: Don't nobody want to stay? They just come and visit.
Speaker 1: Well, I guess our audience because I would I would
Speaker 1: like to think majority of our audience are probably brown people,
Speaker 1: but any beige people do not stay when y'all fucking comes,
Speaker 1: they gonna want to stay right this for them for y'all. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was my weekend. I just just him hanging out.
Speaker 1: That's about it. And now my social media has to.
Speaker 2: Rejuvenate your social media meter. Yeah, I know that feeling.
Speaker 2: All right, let's get into the scenes of the week.
Speaker 2: Let's go cock whoa.
Speaker 3: South Carolina defeated Iowa eighty seven and seventy five to
Speaker 3: win the National Championship and complete a perfect season.
Speaker 2: Go ahead, Don State period.
Speaker 1: They didn't lose a game, not a single game, and
Speaker 1: they gonna act like this Black women ain't amazing. Don Staley. Okay,
Speaker 1: I think she's from Philly, right.
Speaker 2: I wonder if she can't of Douce Staley.
Speaker 1: Oh no, who's that?
Speaker 2: Never mind, let's keep going. No tell me football player.
Speaker 3: He was like a long time retired now but big
Speaker 3: time football player out of South Carolina.
Speaker 1: But she's from Philly. I think though she's not well,
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean she doesn't have family from down here.
Speaker 3: But yeah, so you saw how CNN posted Carolina one
Speaker 3: but had a picture of Kaitlyn Clark up there, like.
Speaker 2: What is the what in the world? Why don't you
Speaker 2: have a picture of the winners?
Speaker 1: And people are talking about her future in women's basketball.
Speaker 1: Can we talk about the present? Can we talk about
Speaker 1: what just happened? Can we talk about this predominantly predominant
Speaker 1: black team in South Carolina of all places, coach by
Speaker 1: a black woman. Can we get some props at some point,
Speaker 1: like they just be so blatant with the bullshit now
Speaker 1: it's disgusting, Like quit playing in our faces. Okay, because
Speaker 1: I feel like that was me. I feel like I
Speaker 1: was a coach and I won. Okay, I wrote for
Speaker 1: all people black. I don't care who feel what way
Speaker 1: about what?
Speaker 3: Yeah, listen, I felt like I was Tammy Cardoza Cardova
Speaker 3: with him.
Speaker 2: I don't know how to pronounce it, but you couldn't
Speaker 2: tell me. I went.
Speaker 3: I was going around Dream Go Cos every five minutes,
Speaker 3: and you know that shit right there by NC State,
Speaker 3: So I know it was a lot of I know,
Speaker 3: we just whooped the ass last Friday, so I know
Speaker 3: they were still kind of sore.
Speaker 1: A lot of salt over there. Yep, go game Cocks.
Speaker 3: When I got into Uber to go from the hotel
Speaker 3: to the concert.
Speaker 2: I asked the uber driver. I was like, are you
Speaker 2: a game Cock fan? Because they just won. He's like no.
Speaker 2: I was like, zero stars, zero stars for you, sir.
Speaker 1: You're not recommend.
Speaker 2: Goodness.
Speaker 3: So at the Dreamville fanst j Cole got his ass
Speaker 3: up there and was like, I need to tell y'all
Speaker 3: some shit I ain't told nobody else. I ain't slept
Speaker 3: for two days behind this shit. It don't feel good
Speaker 3: with my soul. I shouldn't have that was laying me
Speaker 3: to let people influence me. And he's like, my phone
Speaker 3: was blowing up. I had thousand mis calls, a thousand
Speaker 3: texts like what you're gonna do? And I allow that
Speaker 3: to influence me to do something that just don't sit
Speaker 3: right with my spirit. And I know I called the
Speaker 3: album might delete later because I'm really about to delete
Speaker 3: this shit from the album. So if you don't know,
Speaker 3: Ja Cole made a dish to Kendrick Lamar's seven minute Drill,
Speaker 3: which I thought was lyrically good. I like the first
Speaker 3: half better than the second. I feel like people from
Speaker 3: up North like the second half better than the first.
Speaker 3: But here's the thing. My thing is why are people,
Speaker 3: cause you can be fans of both. You don't have
Speaker 3: to pick a side, you know you can be. I
Speaker 3: love both of these people. I love Kendrick Lamar and
Speaker 3: J Cole, and I feel like everybody wants you to
Speaker 3: to pick a side, and that's the problem. I don't
Speaker 3: have a side. I don't have a dog in a fight.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to hear more lyrical sparring from the two.
Speaker 3: So I still hope J Cole come back with a
Speaker 3: disc so there could be some more lyrical spar at
Speaker 3: least between drink and.
Speaker 1: So you admit that this wasn't a disc. It wasn't
Speaker 1: a diss at all. Wasn't a dis You said you
Speaker 1: wish that he would come back with a disc. So
Speaker 1: was his dis track an actual dis or not?
Speaker 2: Who oh shit? Who you talking about, Kendrid? Just now
Speaker 2: you said you wish that Kendrick comes back with it.
Speaker 1: No, you said J Cole, Right.
Speaker 3: No, Kendred. I'm hoping that he still responds. He probably
Speaker 3: not gonna respond with a disc after that, you know,
Speaker 3: or not toward J Cole, But I want him to
Speaker 3: because I enjoyed the lyrical sparn.
Speaker 1: Okay, first of all, I love J Cole and I
Speaker 1: love Kendrick Lamar. I love Kendrick Lamar a little bit
Speaker 1: more because he's a Gemini right, and to me, he's
Speaker 1: lyrically better than J Cole. They both have their low sauce,
Speaker 1: but it's just like a little extra seasoning. When I'm
Speaker 1: listening to Kendrick Lamar, I can relate to him more
Speaker 1: what I saw, okay, because first person Shooter, he says
Speaker 1: the Big Three, but then he says he's Ali, right,
Speaker 1: so basically he's the Ali of the Big Three. So
Speaker 1: you really stole down on the other two people that
Speaker 1: are supposedly in this big three lineup, which would be
Speaker 1: Kendrick Lamar, Drake and himself J Cole, which causes Kendrick
Speaker 1: Lamar to come off the bench. Gun is a blazing okay.
Speaker 1: And just like them white ladies that raised J Cole, see.
Speaker 2: Don't make it a racist thing, girl, don't make it just.
Speaker 1: Like the Karens that raised them. Niggas, y'all gonna y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all incite some bullshit and then you want to retreat
Speaker 1: and act like you're the bigger person. That's some bull shit. Nigga,
Speaker 1: where's the lyrics. What happened was he dropped that disc
Speaker 1: and realized that this in real time was not the shit.
Speaker 1: It was subpar, It was bare minimum.
Speaker 2: Bullshit, and it was not.
Speaker 1: Now how he feels like, damn, I shouldn't have done that,
Speaker 1: because it really wasn't that good of a dis in
Speaker 1: the first place. He has rap dis remorse. I don't
Speaker 1: know what I want to call it, but.
Speaker 3: I don't think it It wasn't He didn't eather him.
Speaker 2: It wasn't like.
Speaker 1: How nas you tap Kendrick in and now you're retreating.
Speaker 1: You tap that man in.
Speaker 3: But maybe he do feel bad in his spirit about it.
Speaker 3: Maybe he don't like.
Speaker 1: He should because the fucking lyrics was.
Speaker 3: I don't think it has to do with the lyrics.
Speaker 3: I think it just has to do with putting another
Speaker 3: black man down that he respects. I don't think it
Speaker 3: was meant to be a dis Drake didn't take it personal.
Speaker 3: Drake didn't write a verse against Ja Cole calling himself Ali.
Speaker 3: I think it was just him bigging himself up. And
Speaker 3: if you took that personal, maybe you need to look
Speaker 3: at what's internally going on with you instead of just
Speaker 3: bigging your own self up. You came to put down
Speaker 3: other people. I don't see how that was a disc
Speaker 3: You can take it as.
Speaker 1: Other things that be going on in the background with
Speaker 1: a lot of situations.
Speaker 3: Yeah, speak of their background, real lass, beach giving fuck
Speaker 3: by the nigga, what's.
Speaker 2: Going Oh, what's going on?
Speaker 1: And these shit that be going on in the background
Speaker 1: that the public doesn't know about. And so now this
Speaker 1: thing that plays out in the public is all the
Speaker 1: people know. So this is what people are. I never
Speaker 1: choose sides. I always stay down in the middle, okay,
Speaker 1: to talk about the lyrics. So now I can see
Speaker 1: both sides with the Kendrick Lamar shit, and I can
Speaker 1: see both sides with the JT and Young Miami bullshit.
Speaker 3: This week, Young Miami and JT got the squabbling over
Speaker 3: social media, JTN beefing with everybody with everybody right first,
Speaker 3: JT really refuting, and then after that it turned into
Speaker 3: JT and Kresha. I don't like how JT brought it
Speaker 3: to social media instead of calling that girl directly, like
Speaker 3: why are you sneak dissing your homegirl on social media?
Speaker 3: Even if y'all not homegirls right now, once it goes
Speaker 3: to social media, we listen, I had one of my
Speaker 3: closest friends put some bullshit about me on social media
Speaker 3: and we just spoke for the first time for real
Speaker 3: last year. And that shit happened around twenty nineteen. Because
Speaker 3: don't ever in your life try to play me on
Speaker 3: social media and think we're gonna be friends again.
Speaker 1: Ever, are you saying that JT initiated this beef with
Speaker 1: Young Miami.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying she initiated a beef. I'm saying she
Speaker 3: started speaking on it on social media.
Speaker 1: How when Young Miami put up you even thising me
Speaker 1: for weeks, that'suse.
Speaker 2: She but she didn't at her, she didn't hit her, Okay.
Speaker 3: So it was like, you don't say that, You've been
Speaker 3: saying little shit about me for weeks on social media.
Speaker 3: Now I'm gonna say something bad finally, because I know
Speaker 3: you're talking about me.
Speaker 1: She had been arguing with Sexy not Sexy read Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1: She hadn't arguing with Gorilla Glow. In the following days,
Speaker 1: Young Miami actually name dropped her first name first in
Speaker 1: these tweets without a response from JT. So I'm reading it.
Speaker 1: I'm reading the timestamps and stuff. So the thing is
Speaker 1: is that even at like let's say, for instance, she
Speaker 1: didn't say Jatavia like she called her name in her tweets,
Speaker 1: in her whole thing of tweets or whatever. If she
Speaker 1: didn't do that, if I know that you're talking about me,
Speaker 1: rather you're not saying my name right now in this
Speaker 1: moment or not saying what your whole chest. So if
Speaker 1: I didn't come and respond to what I know you're
Speaker 1: now saying about me publicly on Twitter, because that should
Speaker 1: have never started. Young Miami should have never went to
Speaker 1: Twitter with the shit. So now if I spawning you
Speaker 1: knowing that you're talking about me, how is that me
Speaker 1: now bringing it to Twitter?
Speaker 3: Well, I feel like it was JT that was making
Speaker 3: the subliminal messages.
Speaker 1: First, No, it wasn't.
Speaker 2: And that's why your Miami wasn't posting nothing. Young Miami
Speaker 2: wasn't talking about nothing on social media period.
Speaker 1: She Young miami first tweet was a bitchman sneak this
Speaker 1: in me for weeks and I ain't say shit bitch
Speaker 1: mad at me for a while, right.
Speaker 2: Right, So if she been sneaked this in her own
Speaker 2: social media for weeks.
Speaker 1: But JT said she hadn't been, and even if you
Speaker 1: think your friend was sneaked thising you, why not address
Speaker 1: her heads up.
Speaker 2: Call her she was doing that shit, Carr, I don't
Speaker 2: think so.
Speaker 1: I don't believe so. I don't believe that they I
Speaker 1: don't I believe that they have not been good for
Speaker 1: a while. Now. We saw them on the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 1: Even there, I feel like JT was in a blind
Speaker 1: y'all Miami's attitude, Charlemagne asked Young Miami. No excuse me.
Speaker 1: Charlamagne asked JT, which is she's gonna if we're gonna
Speaker 1: see her on Karesha's TV show, and she was like,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. We both got a lot
Speaker 1: of going on.
Speaker 2: D da da da.
Speaker 1: He Young Miami came and straight said, no, we're not
Speaker 1: even looking over at JT. She's just just like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't think so. And you could clearly see JT
Speaker 1: get uncomfortable, like, damn, what the fuck? So they haven't
Speaker 1: been good for a while. I leave, and I mean,
Speaker 1: it just be shit going on in the background that
Speaker 1: people don't know. So then you also have the fans
Speaker 1: that I don't know why people call haters fans anyway,
Speaker 1: because you're no fan of me. If you be hating
Speaker 1: on me via tweets and all that shit, you're not.
Speaker 3: If they're still they are fans because they keep they're
Speaker 3: keeping up with you, so they.
Speaker 2: Can hate on you.
Speaker 3: You're a fan and maybe negative energy that you're sitting
Speaker 3: in my way, but you keeping up with Miami move
Speaker 3: just so you can have some shit to talk.
Speaker 1: That you're a fan. But anyway, the fans probably helped
Speaker 1: ignite the bullshit between them. Now. Prior to JC beefing
Speaker 1: with Miami, she was also beefing with Gorilla Zo what
Speaker 1: the fuck not Gorillaz?
Speaker 2: He like, see how you didn't.
Speaker 1: Crilla?
Speaker 5: Yo?
Speaker 1: That's funny as fun okay, Glorilla. And the only thing
Speaker 1: I didn't like about that is how JT was saying
Speaker 1: how Gorilla Glorilla grew up living on a blow up mattress.
Speaker 1: That girl was very vulnerable talking on Club Shayshay, I
Speaker 1: am so happy for her after seeing an interview, I'm
Speaker 1: happy that and I feel like oftentimes it's usually the
Speaker 1: people who had the most struggle that we're growing up, yeah,
Speaker 1: because they they got that hustle, that grind right that
Speaker 1: gets them to next level. But she was very vulnerable
Speaker 1: and she was smiling the whole time, talking about her
Speaker 1: childhood like shit, fuck that shit now right, I'm good
Speaker 1: it might be up tomorrow.
Speaker 3: And then using it as AMMO against me because you know.
Speaker 3: And then the crazy part was if you listen to
Speaker 3: the song, she said, we ain't got no like we
Speaker 3: ain't friends, but it ain't no beef. So it was
Speaker 3: like she was really trying to clear the air. It
Speaker 3: wasn't like she was coming for JT. But JT wasn't
Speaker 3: having that.
Speaker 1: Well maybe because JT ain't get her lick back, because
Speaker 1: Glorilla said, nah, I ain't slap you, but I did
Speaker 1: hit you with my pocketbook, so maybe JT ain't get
Speaker 1: her lick back. You know, you're about to fight somebody.
Speaker 1: And people started like breaking people up and holding people,
Speaker 1: grubbing me hold them.
Speaker 3: But this is growing like, well, I guess they're still
Speaker 3: in their twenties, so they get a past thing in it.
Speaker 2: They ain't even in their thirty shit. But JT said, girl,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna poke you like the air.
Speaker 3: Matches, and I was like, are we all? Are we
Speaker 3: letting this slide? She's just talking about killing her like.
Speaker 1: That shit. Funny as hell it's crazy to say, like, dude,
Speaker 1: somebody got died behind us. I want both of them
Speaker 1: now to go on a comedy tour because goddamn Glorilla
Speaker 1: funny as hell and JT got the fucking jokes. Okay,
Speaker 1: I feel like they got an hour worth of stand
Speaker 1: up comedy for you.
Speaker 3: She's like, girl that's from stealing, not no fighting, ship
Speaker 3: post all your stealing mok shots Like you a gangster,
Speaker 3: You're just a terrible thief.
Speaker 1: Big bitch, kept getting caught. She had to change your profession, right, quicks,
Speaker 1: and now she's a rapper. Funny times man, them kids.
Speaker 1: I hope everybody grows up next week, y'all. We just
Speaker 1: had the solar eclipse this week. And notice how Tam
Speaker 1: had to read all our editorial y'all.
Speaker 2: This magical. I can do it that she came out
Speaker 2: here like I can't see today, and you.
Speaker 1: Like I can see, but I can't see the computer
Speaker 1: or this my fingers in front of me.
Speaker 2: If I wiggle them, I can't see them either.
Speaker 1: Like right now, it's a big star on your forehead, bitch,
Speaker 1: real shiny on your forehead.
Speaker 2: That's what the guy that's my orbitch. They'd be there
Speaker 2: every day. You're just seeing it right now.
Speaker 1: Like maybe I can see things now because I cannot
Speaker 1: see these cell phones. I cannot see the computer screen
Speaker 1: like it's like blurred up. But everything else in real
Speaker 1: life I can see. I actually see more color it hears.
Speaker 3: But everybody was so hyped for this eclipse, and I
Speaker 3: just went to sleep, like I took a nap. I
Speaker 3: was so tired. I was waiting on it. But I
Speaker 3: had went to Dreamville. I drove back last night after
Speaker 3: I did not even stay, which was so stupid. So
Speaker 3: I was so tired. I was sitting up and start
Speaker 3: getting a little dark. I was like, it's looking like naptime.
Speaker 1: He got in the fucking group text how but that
Speaker 1: eclipsed was so girl by you asleep?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't hear no trumpet sound. That's what I
Speaker 3: was waiting.
Speaker 1: On, not you, waiting for the goddamn I said everybody
Speaker 1: message like, hey, I just wish y'all to know I
Speaker 1: love y'all, just in case Jesus come back and he
Speaker 1: takes me y'all here.
Speaker 2: And when I text you back.
Speaker 3: So crazy shitbo to stop call listen. I'm magical. I've
Speaker 3: lived here several lifetimes and stop calling my house phone.
Speaker 2: Your man is not in the NBA. I was like, what,
Speaker 2: this is the same God, That's what I was saying.
Speaker 1: Listen, y'all. I sun gazed all the time. Yeah, the
Speaker 1: solar eclipse. The sun is a little bit more hot.
Speaker 1: I think it's beaming more. But I wasn't outside. I
Speaker 1: was laying undneath that window in the house looking up
Speaker 1: at the fucking sun. Not the whole entire time, but
Speaker 1: I definitely was laying on the floor like Meditaine for
Speaker 1: like two hours and shit, and periodically looking at the sun.
Speaker 1: And today now I have blurred vision a little bit,
Speaker 1: just a little bit, but this isn't the first time
Speaker 1: this has happened, and I'll get some repairs shortly.
Speaker 3: Crazy, But what would you talk about? Stop calling your
Speaker 3: house phone?
Speaker 1: Do you hear a household your I was talking as
Speaker 1: if I'm God, I said, my child.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you was.
Speaker 3: Talking about, oh, like for my husband, Stop calling my
Speaker 3: household for my husband.
Speaker 2: Get it out.
Speaker 1: I am God responding to your prayers.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're saying, I pray for the main line, right,
Speaker 2: you know people Jesus on the line.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I get it now, because I was like this
Speaker 3: bitch got a house phone.
Speaker 2: That's weird.
Speaker 4: Slow.
Speaker 3: I just didn't think of you as God. I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: I didn't get I was in in alignment with that.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, but let's get into it, y'all. We're going
Speaker 3: to have a commercial break and we'll be right back
Speaker 3: where our main topic. Don't beat them kids. We'll be
Speaker 3: right back, all right, y'all. So over the weekend, AJ
Speaker 3: sent me this clip of a woman. You couldn't see
Speaker 3: the mom, but the camera was pointed at her child's
Speaker 3: father's wife, and she was pretty much coming to check
Speaker 3: her because this woman, who else also helps to raise
Speaker 3: her kid verb I mean, physically reprimanded her for misbehaving.
Speaker 3: And the mom was livid about her putting her hands
Speaker 3: on her child. And she said, well, her father gave
Speaker 3: me permission. She was misbehaving, you know. And I beat
Speaker 3: her ass basically, and I'll do it again. That's that
Speaker 3: was her energy.
Speaker 1: I don't say i'll beat her ass because we don't
Speaker 1: even know if it was an actual ass whipping. Well
Speaker 1: it was pop pop, we don't know.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, that's a little ass whooping
Speaker 3: little pop pop. So either way, the mom was upset
Speaker 3: and we had like different opinions about it. It was like, Okay,
Speaker 3: this is the topic, so what's your opinion?
Speaker 2: AJ?
Speaker 1: Okay, I am. I have been a step mom to
Speaker 1: a few kids, because these niggas be having kids now.
Speaker 1: While I am a big advocate for children, because I'll
Speaker 1: probably take anybody out of this world for fucking with
Speaker 1: a kid on my watch, right, I don't believe in
Speaker 1: corporal punishment for children. I do not believe in putting
Speaker 1: my hands on kids. That's for me, right, and that's
Speaker 1: for the kids that I've been around. Now. Some kids
Speaker 1: may need they ass whooping. I think teenagers in particular
Speaker 1: do need to get their ass whoop. But like little people,
Speaker 1: I don't put my hands on little people because if
Speaker 1: your goal as an adult is to make a little
Speaker 1: person cry, there's a lot more that you can just
Speaker 1: tell them, hey, I'm disappointed in you, and they'll bust
Speaker 1: out crying. So if that's the goal, I feel like
Speaker 1: once you put your hand on a child, you as
Speaker 1: the adult, has lost control, not the child, right, But
Speaker 1: in some instances, in real time, the kid may need
Speaker 1: to be reprimanded and whatever way that adult sees suitable.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: And if this is this man's wife. He married her
Speaker 1: because he trusted her. Right. This woman is shown up
Speaker 1: to the door, not putting her face on camera. I
Speaker 1: don't think it was a skin or anything either. I
Speaker 1: feel like it was real. She came to that door
Speaker 1: with a problem. And I can bet you one hundred
Speaker 1: percent she doesn't have a man of her own, because
Speaker 1: your husband was not letting you pull up at your
Speaker 1: ex husband's house to talk crazy to the wife and
Speaker 1: him like that if you had a man to course
Speaker 1: correct your ass at the house.
Speaker 2: So it's a.
Speaker 1: Little bit of bitter baby mama shit in the background.
Speaker 2: You don't know that that's a speculator.
Speaker 1: Girl, That is not a speculator. I have seen this before.
Speaker 2: But you're assuming that there was nowhere in the video.
Speaker 1: It wasn't in the video, but she called her a
Speaker 1: hoe or bitch or something like that, and she was like, like,
Speaker 1: why are you coming to the door calling your ex's
Speaker 1: wife out? They name like that.
Speaker 2: There might be a backstory.
Speaker 1: That girl was very calm with her initially, and then
Speaker 1: she got our rate and she matched her energy eventually,
Speaker 1: and then the husband came to the door, like what
Speaker 1: the fuck you're at the door arguing with and it
Speaker 1: was her and he was like, you know, I gave
Speaker 1: her permission, So she communicated with him what was going
Speaker 1: on because he is the other parent, right, and obviously
Speaker 1: you trust this man with your child because the child
Speaker 1: is still able to go over to this house. Right,
Speaker 1: he obviously has good judgment and whatever with this woman. Right,
Speaker 1: he gave her permission to reprimand a child. What's your
Speaker 1: beef because he's also a parent. He's also the kid's
Speaker 1: parent too.
Speaker 3: My beef is, don't nobody put their motherfucking hands on
Speaker 3: my baby. I don't give a fuck. I don't give
Speaker 3: a fuck who you marry. I don't give fuck who
Speaker 3: she thinks she is. Do not put your hands on
Speaker 3: my child. You tell me you can take her phone away,
Speaker 3: you can take her toys away, you can punish her
Speaker 3: and ground her, have her sit in a corner, do
Speaker 3: all the things, but do not physically reprimand my kid.
Speaker 3: If you like, I want my child to respect you
Speaker 3: in your home, absolutely call me and I will knock
Speaker 3: her head through the door to the between the wash
Speaker 3: and the dryer.
Speaker 2: But don't you do it. Don't you ever do it.
Speaker 3: And listen, I've had I've been in relationships where we
Speaker 3: had the kids like at least for the summertime, and
Speaker 3: then it also it went into the school year, and
Speaker 3: I never once thought of ever yeah, and they would misbehave.
Speaker 3: I never thought of once ever putting my hands on
Speaker 3: those kids, cause what are they really doing that bad
Speaker 3: that I needed to physically physically reprimand them. I just
Speaker 3: didn't see the point for me to do that. Like
Speaker 3: I'd be like, listen, if you don't start behaving, I'm
Speaker 3: gonna tell your dad, I'm gonna tell your dad what you're.
Speaker 2: Doing, and he can do it.
Speaker 3: But the idea of me putting my hands on on
Speaker 3: any child, I'm really not a big person on beating kids,
Speaker 3: you know, because that's just I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm just not a huge or not.
Speaker 1: So if you are the mom, right and you beat
Speaker 1: your child, right, I feel like nobody should put their
Speaker 1: hands on a kid, right.
Speaker 3: I'm not like a huge beater parent. Yeah, I'm not
Speaker 3: a huge beater. But if it's gonna happen, it's gonna
Speaker 3: be me. It's not gonna be no step mama, no stepdaddy,
Speaker 3: no step nothing, because I'm a step my foot in
Speaker 3: your ass, and that should have been and that should
Speaker 3: have been communicated before prior, like there should have been
Speaker 3: a conversation about it, because now I'm coming, Yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: coming swinging if I found out that you put your
Speaker 3: hands on my kids.
Speaker 1: But based on her tone, I don't think she's a
Speaker 1: woman that you can reason with. I don't think that's
Speaker 1: someone that he could have.
Speaker 2: She might have just been upset.
Speaker 3: You know, you never know how you when you like,
Speaker 3: when you have this, this your baby, and you find
Speaker 3: out that somebody physically put their hands on them. She
Speaker 3: might have just been mad about her child, you know,
Speaker 3: like who thought she had the right to do that?
Speaker 2: Who gave her? I don't give a fuck what he said,
Speaker 2: don't ever.
Speaker 1: As a single woman, well as a woman with no
Speaker 1: children and in relationships with men with children, I'm always
Speaker 1: a huge advocate for the village. I'm always a huge
Speaker 1: advocate for blended families, right because people don't always stay together.
Speaker 1: So most people have a stepparent, A lot of people
Speaker 1: have step parents. So imagine in real time, we out
Speaker 1: of town somewhere and I'm supposed to I feel like,
Speaker 1: if a kid does something they need, it needs to
Speaker 1: be addressed right then and there just like when you
Speaker 1: training a dog, right, you don't. You don't wait till
Speaker 1: two three hours later to beat the dog for some
Speaker 1: shit he did two three hours ago.
Speaker 2: Right, So in.
Speaker 1: That moment when the thing is happening and you need
Speaker 1: to course correct a child, the parent, the stepparents should
Speaker 1: be able to I am not talking about abusing a child.
Speaker 1: I got a perfect example my niece when she she's
Speaker 1: a grown ass woman now and when she was a
Speaker 1: kid my sister. My sister is now married to this man,
Speaker 1: but at the time it was her boyfriend. He pulled
Speaker 1: my niece's tooth out. She had a tooth coming out,
Speaker 1: and he removed the tooth. She then tells her daddy
Speaker 1: that he hit her. Her dad then comes to my
Speaker 1: sister house and fought her boyfriend, the living boyfriend who's
Speaker 1: been raising your child when you're not there, right. They
Speaker 1: then get into a fight because the daughter couldn't articulate. Really, Now,
Speaker 1: that's where it depends on the age of the child also,
Speaker 1: and how there's their perception of what happened and how
Speaker 1: hard they got hit. Right, So now they can exaggerate
Speaker 1: a situation, especially mom, if you're at home already talking
Speaker 1: shit about your husband, your ex and his wife now, right,
Speaker 1: So all this the kid is hearing. So there's a
Speaker 1: lot of things based just watching the video that no,
Speaker 1: we don't know, right, but I know this type of woman.
Speaker 1: I know this type, this prototype of person. If you
Speaker 1: can run up to a woman's house and you're behind
Speaker 1: the camera not showing your face, if she really abused
Speaker 1: your child, why didn't you show up with the police.
Speaker 1: Why are you now trying to handle this situation by yourself?
Speaker 1: And where's your man?
Speaker 2: Because she wanted to smoke, I think, But that's.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you put your hands on my baby,
Speaker 2: I might want to smoke with you too.
Speaker 1: It just depends. I'm not gonna automatically go to smoke.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna as as the X. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to automatically go to smoke because regardless of what this is,
Speaker 1: this man's wife, I need to understand what happened and
Speaker 1: why the ass whooping was justified. I'm not gonna reprimand
Speaker 1: now a grown woman, Right, I'm not gonna assume you're
Speaker 1: abusing my child. I'm not gonna do that. That's very dangerous.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it just putting your hands on my child
Speaker 3: period is a problem for me. But I definitely would
Speaker 3: have communicated that up front.
Speaker 2: You know, yeahs our relationship.
Speaker 3: I want everybody should talk, yeah, like I want my
Speaker 3: child to respect you. And if my child misbehaves and
Speaker 3: does anything that you deem where she needs to be spanked,
Speaker 3: please call me because I'll be on my way to
Speaker 3: do it.
Speaker 2: I'll be on my way to do it.
Speaker 3: But please do not put your hands on my child.
Speaker 3: That's the only thing I ask that you don't do
Speaker 3: is physically, because you know physical it can turn into abuse,
Speaker 3: especially when someone is angry. You should never beat your
Speaker 3: be the kid while you're mad. You should never do that.
Speaker 1: That's usually when kids get to ask with.
Speaker 3: I know, but you shouldn't because it can be abused.
Speaker 3: A lot of us growing up, we were abused.
Speaker 1: Let's keep it around. But who were abused by? Were
Speaker 1: we abused by steps? Were we abused by our mom our?
Speaker 3: Actually I can't speak I haven't had I never had
Speaker 3: a step of parents, so I can't speak to that.
Speaker 3: But the only people who was beating me was my
Speaker 3: mom and my grandma. My daddy never whooped us, but yeah,
Speaker 3: they used to whoop our tail, I ass up, So
Speaker 3: I couldn't.
Speaker 2: I couldn't imagine having someone else who's angry at my
Speaker 2: child from misbehaving putting their hands on them.
Speaker 1: When that happened to me growing up, not from like
Speaker 1: a step but the fucking daycare like these people obviously
Speaker 1: was from a time where anybody could beat the kids
Speaker 1: and my mom. Once I finally realized that it was
Speaker 1: wrong that it was happening to me when I tell
Speaker 1: my mom went up there like it started to fucking
Speaker 1: hedgehog her and my aunt.
Speaker 2: Exactly my baby fucking airdisplace.
Speaker 1: But it wasn't just putting her hands on me like then,
Speaker 1: motherfuckers was putting my head underneath the water in the
Speaker 1: bathroom and shit like that, Like I was really being abused,
Speaker 1: but didn't know. No, that wasn't going on with me
Speaker 1: at the house, but it was going on with other
Speaker 1: kids at the facility, So I just thought that was regular.
Speaker 1: There was, yes, girl, but it was like a feud.
Speaker 1: So my family has a soulful restaurant.
Speaker 3: Was getting waterboarded at the daycare, girl, God dad girl.
Speaker 1: They used to have this big ass pink brush and
Speaker 1: those novelty big thick pencils from back in the day
Speaker 1: and they would hit us on our knuckles with it
Speaker 1: and then pinch it so it not swell up. Oh
Speaker 1: that that was how we were disciplined.
Speaker 2: That's abuse.
Speaker 1: And y'all I used to get disciplined because I wasn't bad,
Speaker 1: but I was peeing up the mad at naptime.
Speaker 3: You just had you were still a party like you know, yeah,
Speaker 3: like four or five years old.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, for that is crazy. Yep, I bet you stop.
Speaker 1: No, that does not stop and care from peeing on themselves.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 1: You know, my last relationship, I did not agree with
Speaker 1: his parenting style at all. And one morning he was like, wait,
Speaker 1: you have some kids and then you could tell me.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, if I'm gonna be with you right
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna have to deal with this. He's a
Speaker 1: little boy now, but he's going to be a teenager
Speaker 1: at some point. If I'm going to have to be
Speaker 1: in his life when he has issues from how you
Speaker 1: raised him, I have something to say today. I'm going
Speaker 1: to say something. If I don't like what's going on me.
Speaker 3: Too, I will. I don't have no problem with that.
Speaker 3: I just ain't don't want to physically have you, like,
Speaker 3: have you seen a kid's face after someone beats them.
Speaker 3: It's the saddest thing in the world. I couldn't imagine
Speaker 3: causing that to my child or anybody else's child.
Speaker 1: Now, she's the difference. We not beating anybody. Nobody's getting
Speaker 1: beat by us, right, But if your kid is getting
Speaker 1: beat at the house, how could you tell somebody else
Speaker 1: not to beat them?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 1: I can only I can be the only abuser over here.
Speaker 1: That doesn't make sense to me.
Speaker 3: Well, it depends on like it don't have to be abused.
Speaker 3: It could be you know, a refermand. But I just
Speaker 3: don't want nobody else doing it because I know I
Speaker 3: love my baby.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you love them.
Speaker 3: So I don't know how you are going to respond
Speaker 3: to this misbehavior And will it be in a way
Speaker 3: that I, you know, feel like it's going to teach
Speaker 3: the child a proper lesson or is it just to
Speaker 3: give them pain?
Speaker 7: You know?
Speaker 2: So I don't know.
Speaker 1: That's where the adults need to communicate. Like I said,
Speaker 1: if he meets, if your significant other meets or ex
Speaker 1: right meets a new person that's gonna be around your child,
Speaker 1: you should want to meet this person. There's a lot
Speaker 1: of women who don't want to meet the newbie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they don't want to meet you, they don't want to
Speaker 1: have a conversation. But if I'm gonna be around your
Speaker 1: child now, I gotta I gotta force a meeting with
Speaker 1: you as the mom. A lot of people do not
Speaker 1: have the maturity to deal with these things, and that's
Speaker 1: what I was seeing in that video. She did not
Speaker 1: have the emotional intelligence to handle this situation properly, and
Speaker 1: the way she came off crazy. The girl said, well,
Speaker 1: this is probably You're probably a reason why your daughter
Speaker 1: being rude over here.
Speaker 2: M And that's very maybe possibly true. But I don't
Speaker 2: give a damn. Don't put your hands on them now.
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna have that attitude with another woman. If
Speaker 1: I had a kid and this man chose this woman
Speaker 1: to be with, I want to meet her. Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: I want to have a conversation and we could talk
Speaker 1: about all of these things. And you know, and especially
Speaker 1: depending on like say, for instance, this was this girl.
Speaker 1: This lady has been in this kid's life since one
Speaker 1: years old, you know, and this man has been married
Speaker 1: to her for ten years. Are you saying he can't
Speaker 1: imagine a grown man, right, Imagine like the other side
Speaker 1: of this, the woman, the baby mom. Imagine her having
Speaker 1: a man and the child as a boy, and that
Speaker 1: man that's in the house can't discipline this boy in
Speaker 1: his house. That's a problem.
Speaker 3: Or he can discipline them like physical is not the
Speaker 3: only discipline. There's all forms of discipline that are effective
Speaker 3: outside of physical.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. But nobody should hit the child.
Speaker 1: If that's the case. For you to say I can
Speaker 1: whoop my child and knock her head between and watch
Speaker 1: your sheine and dryer, but nobody else can is a
Speaker 1: bigger problem to me.
Speaker 2: Why I'm the mother who pushed her out.
Speaker 1: That's the ego. Yeah, that's that's too much.
Speaker 6: Not to me.
Speaker 2: This is my child that I that I pushed out,
Speaker 2: and I ain't.
Speaker 3: Nobody gonna put their hands on the butt me because
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do everything I do. Is would love everything.
Speaker 3: But you may not love my kid the same way
Speaker 3: you might. Shit you marry him now, y'all might not
Speaker 3: even be together next year. Are you still gonna have
Speaker 3: a relationship with my child? You might divorce everybody. So no,
Speaker 3: don't ever put your hands on my baby. Ever, ever,
Speaker 3: I don't care. I just don't care. Maybe I don't
Speaker 3: have the emotional intelligence that requires and it is what
Speaker 3: it is. But don't do it, because now I'm going
Speaker 3: to jail about mine.
Speaker 1: A lot of paternal parents go to prison for abuse,
Speaker 1: they go to prison for neglect. It's not just step
Speaker 1: just step parents. So if a child is gonna be abused,
Speaker 1: it could happen from the hands of a step parent.
Speaker 3: I agree, but I'm just speaking on me, you know,
Speaker 3: I'm just speaking on me, and I know that I
Speaker 3: would not abuse my child.
Speaker 2: I'm not even a.
Speaker 3: Big advocate for physical punishment, but if it happens, it
Speaker 3: will be because I decided that was something that happened,
Speaker 3: not the step mama.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can call me.
Speaker 3: You can call me and tell me what happened, and
Speaker 3: I'll do it because I want my child to respect you.
Speaker 3: I want my child to respect all adults. So there
Speaker 3: will be punishment for that, but I don't know if
Speaker 3: it'll be physical, and you don't get to decide that.
Speaker 2: Period. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I just think that we are different from this person
Speaker 1: in the video. Yeah, so based on that video, she
Speaker 1: wanted smoke with this woman.
Speaker 2: Period.
Speaker 1: I understood and there are a lot of women like
Speaker 1: her and you may not. You can say, oh, we
Speaker 1: don't know if she better or not. That's all I heard.
Speaker 1: That's all I heard, Because at what point do you
Speaker 1: not call? She said she called him and he doesn't
Speaker 1: answer his phone. Right, there might be a reason why
Speaker 1: he don't answer the phone for her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they got a kid together, so he needed
Speaker 3: They need to work past whatever it is so he
Speaker 3: can answer the phone.
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever, there's another question we should have pose, like,
Speaker 1: but how is it dealing with these women of like
Speaker 1: the baby mama is, like it could be real. I
Speaker 1: don't give off the energy that anybody can play with
Speaker 1: me like that. I've never had a problem, for real
Speaker 1: with I've had more of a problem with the dad,
Speaker 1: like him not facilitating a relationship right with me and
Speaker 1: this other person. But I've never actually had a direct
Speaker 1: issue with a bitch.
Speaker 2: Man, I'd had a bitch really, like what I know.
Speaker 2: This bitch used to wake up in the morning be like, ah,
Speaker 2: how can I fuck up Timmy's day today?
Speaker 3: Like I swear that's how that bitch woke up. She
Speaker 3: just always everything was a problem everything, Oh my god,
Speaker 3: Like how I did their hair was a problem. And
Speaker 3: if I took like I'm going to get my nails done,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna take these girls with me to get their
Speaker 3: nails done too.
Speaker 2: Don't take my kids to get their nails done.
Speaker 3: They came here with chip the apolish on. It's not
Speaker 3: like I'm gonna get acrylic. I'm just gonna get their
Speaker 3: polish redone. You know, that's a problem. She just didn't
Speaker 3: want me to do nothing with them kids, like it
Speaker 3: was just so bad. And I was like, well, me
Speaker 3: or her need to have a conversation. We need to talk.
Speaker 3: She needs to have my number because their dad is
Speaker 3: at work all day. I'm with these kids all day long.
Speaker 3: You need to talk to me, you know, you need
Speaker 3: to let me know what's what's okay and what's not
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: But she refused to have a conversation with me. It's
Speaker 2: just such a mess.
Speaker 1: Oughod And that's what I saw in the video, though,
Speaker 1: I saw somebody who refused to to co parent. That's
Speaker 1: you cannot dictate what this man is doing in his
Speaker 1: house with this child. He has just as much right
Speaker 1: to the child as you do.
Speaker 3: Apparently I agree the father does, but we would just
Speaker 3: have to have a conversation about physical punishment, because that's
Speaker 3: just not something I'm okay with my soul. Doom that
Speaker 3: don't like Ja Cole, I couldn't sleep for two days
Speaker 3: and just did sit right with my spirit because why.
Speaker 1: We did ask you guys are listeners on Instagram to
Speaker 1: give us your take on this particular video. So when
Speaker 1: we come back from break, we're gonna listen to somebody
Speaker 1: and I like this part now, Okay, I like listening
Speaker 1: to people calling. Okay, so we'll be right back. All right,
Speaker 1: So y'all, we are back, and the first caller is
Speaker 1: actually a guy. Let's see what he has to say.
Speaker 7: Hey, this is Joe from Columbia and weighing in on
Speaker 7: the topic. I think that, you know, it depends on
Speaker 7: the parents, the responsible adults parents, who gets the discipline
Speaker 7: the child. I'm one that don't particularly care to discipline
Speaker 7: someone else's child physically. However, if there is a needed
Speaker 7: and in real time, I had to make that decision,
Speaker 7: and I'm talking about emergency only, and it would be
Speaker 7: justified and I can deal with the other parents you know,
Speaker 7: when it when it comes to that. But for the
Speaker 7: most part, I don't I don't. I personally, opinion wise,
Speaker 7: I don't know why one parent would want to or
Speaker 7: would be willing to, uh discipline another child that's that's
Speaker 7: not his own. But uh, that's a touchy subject, and
Speaker 7: I think that you know, it boils down to the
Speaker 7: parents and and how responsible and how much someone trusts
Speaker 7: the other parents decision making. Me personally, again, I wouldn't
Speaker 7: want to discipline someone else's child. It would I would
Speaker 7: have to be asked to do that, which I'd be uncomfortable.
Speaker 7: But I'd also be uncomfortable if the emergency situation happened
Speaker 7: and I had to that child.
Speaker 6: Would have put me in an uncomfortable position to need
Speaker 6: to discipline them physically.
Speaker 7: Now, as far as you know the woman I'm dealing
Speaker 7: with now, I don't think she would want to discipline
Speaker 7: my children physically, But I would have to say I'm
Speaker 7: open to her in an emergency situation having to do that.
Speaker 7: I know she wouldn't though, I honestly have to say
Speaker 7: I know she wouldn't do that, So you know that's
Speaker 7: where I stand on it.
Speaker 8: You know, if.
Speaker 7: Someone other than me discipline my child, I personally wouldn't
Speaker 7: Also wouldn't have a problem with it when.
Speaker 9: They're out of line.
Speaker 7: They're out of line, and that's for me and that
Speaker 7: other parent or that other adult to discuss, and then
Speaker 7: I'll judge that, you know, at that moment with that
Speaker 7: person face to face.
Speaker 6: But if it's if it's unjust, then I'll step in
Speaker 6: to send my child. But if it's just, then you know,
Speaker 6: he got what he deserves and the world's gonna treat
Speaker 6: him worse.
Speaker 1: Emergency emergency situation ass whoopings is crazy?
Speaker 2: Yeah, what is the emergency?
Speaker 3: Ass Now you're gonna break the glass on the belt.
Speaker 2: He's an emergency.
Speaker 1: Give me the emergency ass whooping.
Speaker 3: But you know what I thought about, give me the
Speaker 3: gun tray, Give me the gun tray like that.
Speaker 2: That's an emergency situation. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you read said I would have beat tray up
Speaker 3: at that moment. He might have stayed home.
Speaker 1: Listen, I agree with him. I'm not gonna make great
Speaker 1: friction between my ex and his significant other in regards
Speaker 1: to UH discipline in the kids. I would suggest, yes,
Speaker 1: don't put your hand on the kid. I don't beat
Speaker 1: my child. They'll know that because I can articulate that
Speaker 1: to them. She probably never explicitly stated shit based.
Speaker 3: On that video, because I think she would have been like,
Speaker 3: I already told.
Speaker 1: You, No, she did say that. I think she said that.
Speaker 1: She said she told him she don't want nobody. She
Speaker 1: told him that she don't want nobody putting their putting
Speaker 1: their hands on her child. But that could have just
Speaker 1: been before anything ever even happened. Like, why are you
Speaker 1: even assuming at some point somebody gonna beat your child?
Speaker 1: But it happened like THEYD beat that guy the kid.
Speaker 1: But I don't, I'm not. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I like harmony, me too, harmony, and I don't want
Speaker 3: my kid to get beat period.
Speaker 1: But if your kid need that ass whooped, like, I'll
Speaker 1: do it. Nah, I'll do it. Okay, let's listen to
Speaker 1: the next call.
Speaker 2: Y'all.
Speaker 3: You ain't never had a delayed ass whooping. All your
Speaker 3: ass whoopings came in real time. Yes, you ain't never
Speaker 3: like you're gonna get your ass beat when you get home.
Speaker 1: You ain't never had that. That's to me, that's abuse.
Speaker 2: How's that abuse?
Speaker 1: Because you ruined the kid's day for the rest of
Speaker 1: the day.
Speaker 2: Y'all are apparently whatever they did deserved it. Nah.
Speaker 1: We out somewhere in the midst of you not being
Speaker 1: when you told me you want to beat my ass.
Speaker 1: You were probably upset right at that moment. The day
Speaker 1: that went on, you no longer upset. Not you keeping
Speaker 1: your word and really whipping my ass six hours later.
Speaker 1: That is fucking crazy to me. It needs to happen
Speaker 1: right then and there. Delayed ass whoopings are abused to me.
Speaker 2: You can't You can't whip them in public.
Speaker 1: You could have took them in the bathroom, take them
Speaker 1: in the beginning.
Speaker 2: Of trouble for that. You can go to jail for that.
Speaker 1: Now keep your hands off little people. That's what I'm hearing,
Speaker 1: Because if it's against the lat to whip your child,
Speaker 1: now keep your hands off of little people. Everybody. How
Speaker 1: about that?
Speaker 2: How about that you don't sit.
Speaker 1: You don't own these people. You don't own these people,
Speaker 1: those kids, you don't own them just because you had.
Speaker 2: Them legs up when we get to the house.
Speaker 1: That is abuse. I never talked to a kid like that.
Speaker 1: I never fold my top lip at a kid like
Speaker 1: Let me tell you I used to do with my
Speaker 1: exes fucking son when them niggas went through what I say,
Speaker 1: I just delayed doing the things that they needed me
Speaker 1: to do, like feed them. Y'all want lunch, y'all have breakfast, right,
Speaker 1: y'all want lunch. I have told you to clean this
Speaker 1: room ten times. Now, guess what happens when they start coming.
Speaker 1: I'm hungry. I just delay getting up to make them
Speaker 1: something to fucking eat.
Speaker 2: Now, that's abuse to me.
Speaker 1: They're not that hungry. They want a snack. They want
Speaker 1: like little bullshit. You know what I'm saying throughout the day.
Speaker 1: So because you didn't do what I asked you to
Speaker 1: do very nicely, I'm not jumping to do anything a
Speaker 1: little person tells me to do. You're gonna wait now.
Speaker 3: I remember one time I had cooked dinner for the
Speaker 3: kids and they did not want what I prepared and
Speaker 3: red but they eat it all the time. It wasn't
Speaker 3: like something that they didn't eat. They just wanted to
Speaker 3: eat cinnamon toast crunch instead of the dinner. And my
Speaker 3: boyfriend at the time let them eat cinnamon toast crunch
Speaker 3: instead of what I prepare. And our money was tight,
Speaker 3: so we ain't have a lot of money like that,
Speaker 3: and it pissed me off that they didn't have to
Speaker 3: eat that dinner. So and they were just sitting there
Speaker 3: happy eating they little cinnamon toast crunch. I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: I got something for that. So the next day they
Speaker 3: was like, what's for breakfast? I was like, dinner, it's
Speaker 3: for breakfast.
Speaker 1: See that's a nice ass whooping. That's a good one.
Speaker 2: Dinner is for fucking breakfast. That's what you're about to eat.
Speaker 2: Y'all gonna eat this food?
Speaker 1: No, See my ex is different, like he was gonna
Speaker 1: force them to eat whatever I cooked. But my food
Speaker 1: was always good. Them niggas would wake up, he'd beat
Speaker 1: I gave him some bullshit. They waiting for me to
Speaker 1: get up so they can say like, no, we want
Speaker 1: your breakfast. I have literally forced myself to eat some
Speaker 1: shit I didn't like. While I'm watching the boys cry
Speaker 1: about having to eat this bullshit they daddy don'et cooked,
Speaker 1: and I'm forcing myself to eat it so they don't
Speaker 1: have to eat it by themselves. We always beat abused.
Speaker 2: All right, let's go to the next call.
Speaker 1: Let's see what we're talking about.
Speaker 8: Hello calling to answer the question when I let my
Speaker 8: man ex husband whatever significant other discipline our child. Answer
Speaker 8: is no, No, I would not, just because I don't
Speaker 8: know how and even if I didn't know that, Hell,
Speaker 8: I don't know that. Hell, I love that. You know,
Speaker 8: me and my man did not work out, and you know,
Speaker 8: he moved on and I moved on. I would love
Speaker 8: to have a great coparent relationship with not only him
Speaker 8: and I but with our significant others. But I think
Speaker 8: that disciplining my child physically is like where I draw
Speaker 8: the line because it can be a teaching moment for me,
Speaker 8: maybe like a pop pop and lay it down for her.
Speaker 8: So where I would think like, oh, hey, this is
Speaker 8: not a you know, a whoop situation. This is a
Speaker 8: situation where I like have a conversation.
Speaker 6: You know.
Speaker 8: It may be like like a situation where she's just
Speaker 8: like going straight to a whoop, and that's not I
Speaker 8: don't So I would prefer that, you know, she had
Speaker 8: a conversation with me and like that kind of situation,
Speaker 8: she just call me up and be like, hey, this
Speaker 8: is going on, and then I can decide, you know,
Speaker 8: what I'm going to do with my child and that moment.
Speaker 8: So yeah, and I still I don't know that home
Speaker 8: have a good one.
Speaker 1: You see, I don't know that whole like why we
Speaker 1: even have that type of energy for the for the
Speaker 1: other person, what is going on between you and this
Speaker 1: man's relationship. I'm not talking about her in particular, but
Speaker 1: this is a lot of women. I don't know that whole, Like,
Speaker 1: why don't you know that whole? This hole is around
Speaker 1: your child.
Speaker 2: Why do you need to know that whole?
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, and I don't want to know that whole.
Speaker 1: That's terrible, Like I need to know everybody that's around
Speaker 1: my child because women are predators as well. Okay, I
Speaker 1: need to know everybody. So at some point, somebody got
Speaker 1: to be an adult. May it be him, the new girlfriend,
Speaker 1: slash or wife or you. Somebody has to be the
Speaker 1: bigger person and have these conversations. Okay, so there's no
Speaker 1: confusion on what needs to be happening.
Speaker 3: Right So in that relationship, she was like, I'm not
Speaker 3: talking to her until she apologized to me, And I
Speaker 3: was like, but you need to just let bygones be bygones,
Speaker 3: because you ain't getting an all apology.
Speaker 2: Let's just move.
Speaker 3: Forward for the sake of the kids. Let's just have
Speaker 3: these conversations about the kids. We can do that, but
Speaker 3: in an apology, you will get.
Speaker 1: What you was needing to apologize for. What did you cause?
Speaker 2: I cussed her the fuck out?
Speaker 3: Why because she was talking about me in his phone
Speaker 3: and I've seen it, so I call her motherfucking ass
Speaker 3: And I was like, since you got so much to say, bitch.
Speaker 1: So now she's trying to make you, now the new girlfriend,
Speaker 1: bow down. No, we ain't doing that.
Speaker 2: Right, I'm not buying down to you.
Speaker 3: Let's just move forward, because you already was out your
Speaker 3: mouth phone and that's why I had to come correct you.
Speaker 2: That's why I was. I didn't want no smoke with you,
Speaker 2: but you asked for it. So let's just move forward
Speaker 2: and let's talk about these kids.
Speaker 1: Shame, all right, let's see next caller.
Speaker 4: Yes, so if the dad is an active father, meaning
Speaker 4: he takes full responsibility of the child with the mother,
Speaker 4: then yes, I would be open to his girlfriend or
Speaker 4: wife discipling the child. If he's not an active father,
Speaker 4: then I would not be open to it.
Speaker 1: I mean he probably if he's not an active father,
Speaker 1: and you just he only sees his kid like once
Speaker 1: every few months.
Speaker 2: Type and then a bitch beating them.
Speaker 1: No, that's crazy.
Speaker 3: I'm coming over there with a gun for everybody, because
Speaker 3: why he ain't seen this baby in seven months.
Speaker 1: You can't even beat this kid.
Speaker 2: Right, she come home, Toby, I got beat what that's crazy?
Speaker 3: This should be a happy experience. We don't know what's
Speaker 3: gonna happen again.
Speaker 1: Yo. Keep the kids from non active parents and active
Speaker 1: and active parents.
Speaker 3: No, because we want them to become active parents. So
Speaker 3: you want to let them see their parents as much
Speaker 3: as possible. But please don't put your hands on them.
Speaker 3: If you're not present, that's insane. They gonna hate you.
Speaker 3: You already don't come around, and you beat me when
Speaker 3: I do see you're saying.
Speaker 1: You know, Meg Scholar.
Speaker 9: So can the baking dead, current wife or living girlfriend
Speaker 9: discipline the child physically? One of the CONTI that is
Speaker 9: is I know that I don't feel comfortable physically disciplining
Speaker 9: someone else's children that I might be seeing. So with
Speaker 9: that said, I probably wouldn't be comfortable with someone doing
Speaker 9: that with mine. I feel like if both living parents
Speaker 9: are present, there's no need for me to step in physically.
Speaker 4: I should be.
Speaker 9: Able to verbally reprimand them or give them some types
Speaker 9: of consequences. If I am playing a part in helping
Speaker 9: to raise them, but to physically discipline them. I feel
Speaker 9: like I would I would rather leave that up to
Speaker 9: the two living parents, because at the end of the day,
Speaker 9: these children I didn't give birth to, they have two
Speaker 9: living parents. They can handle that peace. But if I
Speaker 9: do have to be a part of their lives in
Speaker 9: raising them, then I would like to think that at
Speaker 9: the very least I can verbally or some other productive
Speaker 9: way of reprimanding them, I think that could take place. So, yeah,
Speaker 9: I can't see myself fell uncomfortable physically reprimanding somebody else's
Speaker 9: kids me either.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not comfortable reprimanding any kid, though maybe my
Speaker 1: own or someone else's. That's the only point I'm really
Speaker 1: trying to make. I think, if you yourself practice corporal
Speaker 1: punishment on your child, how do you then get mad
Speaker 1: when somebody else doesn't.
Speaker 2: Because it's my child, it's not their child.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just weird to me. Nobody should be hitting
Speaker 1: a child. All right, we got one more caller and
Speaker 1: we're gonna rap it up.
Speaker 5: I think it really just depends on the relationship that
Speaker 5: you have with that child, because some of these girlfriends
Speaker 5: have been around since the kid was a baby. But
Speaker 5: then again, you are just a girlfriend. You're not even
Speaker 5: at a wife. But I have had a man who
Speaker 5: had his kids with me, like twenty four seven. He
Speaker 5: really just put this responsibility on me because his mother
Speaker 5: wasn't around, so I was just kind of helping him out.
Speaker 5: And it would be times when his daughter was really
Speaker 5: just out of line, and you know, he had been
Speaker 5: with me all the time, and it's like with my kids,
Speaker 5: I am disciplining them. You know, I would spank them,
Speaker 5: and his kids he didn't want me to spank them.
Speaker 5: But it's like, you're leaving these kids with me twenty
Speaker 5: four seven, and you know, because he had to work
Speaker 5: or go out of town or something, and you don't
Speaker 5: want me to spank them, But I'm speaking my kids.
Speaker 5: I don't know, Like I said, it just depends.
Speaker 3: Why the fuck you got these kids so long? That's
Speaker 3: how I used to be feeling, why the fuck I
Speaker 3: got these heirs?
Speaker 7: So oh.
Speaker 1: Yo? Leaving your kids with somebody for twenty four hours
Speaker 1: is wild, okay, longer than she was, like he going
Speaker 1: out of town?
Speaker 2: Where is they?
Speaker 1: Mama? One of my friends, one of my good friends,
Speaker 1: this guy's to date, we're still really good friends. But
Speaker 1: he has a daughter. When I tell you, she's such
Speaker 1: an angel, she is the sweetest little girl. She's so brilliant,
Speaker 1: Like I could not see anybody not liking her. And
Speaker 1: this girl he was dating was like really like telling him, Oh,
Speaker 1: you baby her too much and you do too much
Speaker 1: for her. Like literally his daughter was sitting next to
Speaker 1: him because they're at Thanksgiving with her family. The baby
Speaker 1: don't know anybody else. She's seven years old. She doesn't
Speaker 1: know anybody else at the house. Of course, I'm staying
Speaker 1: up underneath my dad. This bitch waits until she moves
Speaker 1: to like take her seat by her dad, and she's like,
Speaker 1: can I have my seat back? Like she was playing
Speaker 1: in these type of games with a little girl. And
Speaker 1: when I tell you, I'm so she was jealous the baby, Yes,
Speaker 1: where's this bitch? I was feeling so bad because like,
Speaker 1: where is this bitch? And I don't want to be
Speaker 1: with your daddy, But I love you nonetheless, but I
Speaker 1: did not like the fact that it was a woman
Speaker 1: mistreating this little angel, right, bitch, I'll beat you up
Speaker 1: about that girl. But yeah, man, you gotta be Yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta be careful with women. You do. You do
Speaker 1: have to be careful with people. But that's where communication
Speaker 1: comes in. At You know, somebody has to be the
Speaker 1: bigger person and have the hard conversations so that everybody
Speaker 1: is on the same page. You cannot just pull up
Speaker 1: at my door because Tammy was like she would have
Speaker 1: beat the bitch up as soon as she got to
Speaker 1: the house.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's because I would have made it very
Speaker 3: clear how I felt about it.
Speaker 2: It wouldn't have been like I didn't know. No, you
Speaker 2: knew exactly like what was up when it came to
Speaker 2: physical punishment for my child. Now I got to do
Speaker 2: the same thing to you.
Speaker 1: And as the girl, old friend or wife I was,
Speaker 1: I said I would beat that bitch ap as soon
Speaker 1: as I opened my door.
Speaker 3: Or got beat up, whichever one k first. Bible one.
Speaker 3: That don't mean you're gonna win. That don't mean you're
Speaker 3: gonna win. Because I'm listen.
Speaker 1: You might not have to fight. You might have got shot,
Speaker 1: not a kid, you had a parent, you ain't got
Speaker 1: You ain't the only one with a gun.
Speaker 2: Like your kid.
Speaker 3: You ain't the only one with the gun. Don't put
Speaker 3: your hands on my baby. But that's just a conversation
Speaker 3: that needs to be had, you know, prior to very
Speaker 3: clearly with all parties involved.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. Keep your hands off little people.
Speaker 1: That's my last last.
Speaker 2: Yeah, little kids.
Speaker 1: Children have half the life experience experiences of an adult.
Speaker 1: You cannot expect them to know what you know. You're
Speaker 1: gonna have to repeat yourself a thousand times. You gotta
Speaker 1: have patience when dealing with little people. Keep your cool.
Speaker 1: The people who I see yelling and cussing their kids
Speaker 1: out in public, I think you're a problem more than
Speaker 1: that kid. Yeah, because how did you let the kid
Speaker 1: get you there?
Speaker 2: And then?
Speaker 3: But you know, these kids will work your last fucking
Speaker 3: nerve though. They will, they'll take you to the outer limits.
Speaker 3: I remember one time we were in Belgium, me and
Speaker 3: my sister, all her friends came and everybody took their kids,
Speaker 3: and my niece was just had the soul of Satan
Speaker 3: in her that day.
Speaker 2: I don't know, she was just missing. She was behaving
Speaker 2: so terribly. Oh my god.
Speaker 3: And my sister came to me, She's like, I need
Speaker 3: you to get your niece and I need you to
Speaker 3: get her to fuck away from me because I'm going
Speaker 3: to jail today. And I knew my sister was at
Speaker 3: her wits end, and she's a very patient person, like,
Speaker 3: she's very non violent and very patient. But I knew
Speaker 3: that in that moment that I needed to get my
Speaker 3: niece very far away from her because she.
Speaker 1: Was about to die.
Speaker 2: I don't know, man, So the kids will take you there.
Speaker 3: She had like the smallness take and everything that she
Speaker 3: could do bad, she was doing it.
Speaker 2: God damn, sit your motherfucking ass down somewhere.
Speaker 1: Yeah, man. And this also it also goes back to
Speaker 1: like you shouldn't be doing it by yourself. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, You shouldn't be having to parent by yourself,
Speaker 1: because I think it gets even more frustrating at that
Speaker 1: point because you're always the disciplinary, You're always having to
Speaker 1: be the responsible person in this situation, like where is
Speaker 1: the other parent? So I can I see where the
Speaker 1: frustration comes from when raising children without having to be
Speaker 1: a parent myself. I'm definitely a mom. I'm a mother
Speaker 1: at heart. Yeah, But I think the longer you live
Speaker 1: without having kids, you see what, I feel like both
Speaker 1: you and I would be very very good parents. I
Speaker 1: don't think we have a lot of time to see
Speaker 1: what the fuck we ain't about to do with these
Speaker 1: goddamn kids. I feel like when you treat kids like adults,
Speaker 1: they act like adults. When you treat them like a kid,
Speaker 1: they act like a kid. Right, So I never subscribe
Speaker 1: to the this came out of me, this is mine.
Speaker 1: I feel like children choose their parents. We don't choose
Speaker 1: and choose our children. So you have to realize that, yes,
Speaker 1: you did give birth to this thing, and as you
Speaker 1: are responsible for this gift. Also, I just remember growing
Speaker 1: up and never feeling like I had a place to
Speaker 1: live because it was my mama house, my mama, my my, my,
Speaker 1: my mind. That's how I felt growing up. I don't
Speaker 1: ever want my kid to feel like they don't belong somewhere,
Speaker 1: or like it's a privilege to be here, because it's not.
Speaker 1: They didn't ask to be here. You are responsible for them, right.
Speaker 3: But you also don't want your kid to grow up
Speaker 3: in title and acting like they don't understand the value
Speaker 3: of what you're providing them. You know, I'm providing this
Speaker 3: for you, and I want you to understand that it
Speaker 3: is a luxury to have these things because some people
Speaker 3: don't have them, so you need to appreciate them.
Speaker 2: And that's as such.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, balance, So it got to be balance
Speaker 3: because you don't got no you come you slamming the door.
Speaker 3: You don't have no door.
Speaker 2: You don't have no door. That's my door.
Speaker 1: Door.
Speaker 2: They ain't got no door. They don't have a door
Speaker 2: to slam.
Speaker 3: Yet, when you buy a door and you pay for it,
Speaker 3: you can slam that motherfucker to come off the hedge.
Speaker 3: But in here, no yo, we used to break my
Speaker 3: old Take the door down you, I will take it.
Speaker 2: You come home from school, won't be no door. Your door,
Speaker 2: your door on craigs List, your door on eBay. Baby,
Speaker 2: you don't have no door no more. Please don't play
Speaker 2: with me.
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, hands off the moytherfucking churring. You ain't my daddy,
Speaker 1: my mama. The minute the kid tell me that shit,
Speaker 1: they can't come to my house no more.
Speaker 2: You're not my dad. Remember that, y'all.
Speaker 1: Listen, hold on before we go. I remember when I
Speaker 1: was leaving my eggs now, I was taking the girl
Speaker 1: because I eat a lot of things people don't eat, right,
Speaker 1: So I'm not taking like things out the refrigerator that
Speaker 1: I know they would eat. I'm taking things that I
Speaker 1: know they don't eat that will just go bad.
Speaker 6: Girl.
Speaker 1: Why is little nigga standing at the thresholder the kitchen, like,
Speaker 1: why are you taking all our food? I was like,
Speaker 1: you know you just like your fucking daddy. Bye. Nobody
Speaker 1: taking all y'all food that I bought. The fuck bile
Speaker 1: they waiting taking all the food they Likad said, bye, Lance,
Speaker 1: he ain't have no loyalty to me, boy like you
Speaker 1: and my daddy eat together no more.
Speaker 2: All right, bye bitch, But don't take the cinnamon toast
Speaker 2: crunch bitch. All right, y'all.
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