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Speaker 1: Welcome to We talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women talk back.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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Speaker 1: new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to

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Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. This is your co host, AJ Holliday.

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Speaker 1: What's up, Tam Bam?

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Speaker 2: Hey, y'allays, Meet Tam Bam. I love y'all. I love

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Speaker 2: you too. Aj. How you doing, Hey, girl?

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Speaker 1: I love your bag.

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you something.

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Speaker 3: A bit said that she know our voices apart because

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Speaker 3: you sound articulate and I sound slow, like I be

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Speaker 3: dragging my words and I just want.

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Speaker 2: To say something, bitch, I am not slow.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes my words may slur or you know, drag together

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Speaker 3: one because I'm country in two because I haven't missed

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Speaker 3: or I don't even I don't like saying I have it.

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Speaker 2: There's some mss lingering around somewhere. So that's why, girl,

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Speaker 2: I ain't slow ship.

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Speaker 1: And there somewhere some ship in there, some motherfucking ship somewhere.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it stand for, some motherfucking ship.

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Speaker 1: And you know the reason why I have to really

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Speaker 1: sound like try to sound super articulate on that ship,

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Speaker 1: and one day I'm gonna do a whole geee motherfucking episode,

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Speaker 1: but I want to make sure that people are hear

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Speaker 1: me and understand me, So I intentionally try to articulate

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Speaker 1: as good as possible for y'all motherfuckers. And when I don't, like,

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Speaker 1: say ship like hoiter, Okay, this bitch horse correct me.

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Speaker 2: A hoiter.

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Speaker 1: It's not no tea in that ship. I'm not adding

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Speaker 1: a tea. I'm adding a d hoiter.

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Speaker 2: It's a it's an extra letter somewhere in there.

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Speaker 1: I remember when one of my homegirls was like, why

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Speaker 1: you be saying again? And I'm like, huh what you mean?

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Speaker 1: Like she was like, Okay, if I invite you someplace,

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Speaker 1: you would hit me up and be like I ain't

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Speaker 1: coming again.

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Speaker 2: Like y'all don't say again, not at the end of

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Speaker 2: that sentence.

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Speaker 1: Okay, because in our minds, and I'm not gonna say mine, right,

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Speaker 1: I was going to come, but now I'm not coming again.

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Speaker 1: I've changed my mind. It makes sense to us. Mm again,

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Speaker 1: it's like, bitch, yeah, what you had going on.

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Speaker 3: My weekend was I ended up going to Dreamville Fest

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Speaker 3: out of nowhere. One of my one of my homies

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Speaker 3: for Innerscope was like, where are you at?

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Speaker 2: Pull up?

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Speaker 3: So you know, I gassed up the Jetta. I ain't

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Speaker 3: got no Jeda, but I gased up the Jetta and

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Speaker 3: shout out to Dreamville fest. It was so much fun.

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Speaker 3: I took my little sister with me and that was

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Speaker 3: her first festival. We had a time, girl. It was

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Speaker 3: so many people. There's a lot of walking. It was

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Speaker 3: a little chili. So the festival looks wasn't looking. Everybody

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Speaker 3: kind of had on like hoodies and leggings, just trying

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Speaker 3: to stay warm out.

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Speaker 2: Though it was cold.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't cold, but it wasn't warm, so so it

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Speaker 3: was like somewhere in the middle, like j Cole got

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Speaker 3: up there. Oh we're gonna talk about that. We'll talk

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Speaker 3: about that in stupid internet news. But yeah, that's really

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Speaker 3: all I did this weekend.

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Speaker 2: What about you?

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Speaker 1: My niece and her friends went to Dreamville. They had

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Speaker 1: been planning for a month's child, so they did the

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Speaker 1: two day thing. I've never been and maybe I'll go

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Speaker 1: on you. I don't really like those big group things

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Speaker 1: like concerts and shit like that. There's too much, too

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Speaker 1: much shit going on too much energy is just too much.

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Speaker 3: It's like if I didn't have VIP access, I wouldn't

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Speaker 3: like that.

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Speaker 1: That's I was about to say, like backstage VIP, yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm there, But other than that, being in jim pop

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Speaker 1: absolutely not.

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Speaker 3: I mean, so I moved around gimpop a little bit

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Speaker 3: because you know, that's where all the people are for

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Speaker 3: the most part.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, having to stay with random people, I'll get off.

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Speaker 2: Little was said.

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Speaker 1: I just got here. I just got here. So in

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Speaker 1: Charleston this weekend was our annual bridge run, the Cooper

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Speaker 1: River Bridge Run, so millions of people coming to the

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Speaker 1: city jown. Y'all know. The Africans always win the race.

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Speaker 1: The fastest was twenty three minutes. It was Kenyan, and

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Speaker 1: then another was was he Ethiopia. I can't remember how

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Speaker 1: long it was, thou, Well, it's the five it's five miles.

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Speaker 2: Okay, five K was that that? No? Five K is

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Speaker 2: three miles, ain't it?

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Speaker 4: Girl?

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Speaker 1: Listen, don't get me the line because I did the

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Speaker 1: bridge run one time when I was in my most

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Speaker 1: fittest form. That was in high school, my last year

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Speaker 1: of high school. Actually, no, I think it was my

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Speaker 1: freshman year of college. I did do the bridge run,

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Speaker 1: and I ran most of it too.

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Speaker 2: You participated this term.

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Speaker 1: No, I participated in the after part. My cousin ran it.

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Speaker 1: She's well, I only know a couple of people who

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Speaker 1: actually did it this year. I'm pretty sure more people

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Speaker 1: did it than I asked. But yeah, it was what

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Speaker 1: is it celebration of? It's just for like nonprofit, you know, like,

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Speaker 1: what is the word I'm looking for?

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Speaker 2: There's a charity run charity there you go.

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Speaker 4: You know what.

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Speaker 1: It's been going on since the eighties. It's different organizations

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Speaker 1: every time. Yeah, Like my cousin she ran, and it

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Speaker 1: depends on what package you buy. She's a veteran, so

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Speaker 1: she ran for home as veterans. So it's just different,

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Speaker 1: different proceeds, different.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's dope. Yeah, man.

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Speaker 1: So the fucking city was flooded. It's already always flooded

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Speaker 1: all of a sudden, but it was nice. It was

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Speaker 1: nice this weekend downtown Charleston. If y'all never been to Charleston, come, yeah,

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Speaker 1: day them because we oh just come.

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Speaker 2: Don't nobody want to stay? They just come and visit.

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess our audience because I would I would

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Speaker 1: like to think majority of our audience are probably brown people,

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Speaker 1: but any beige people do not stay when y'all fucking comes,

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Speaker 1: they gonna want to stay right this for them for y'all. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was my weekend. I just just him hanging out.

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Speaker 1: That's about it. And now my social media has to.

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Speaker 2: Rejuvenate your social media meter. Yeah, I know that feeling.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get into the scenes of the week.

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Speaker 2: Let's go cock whoa.

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Speaker 3: South Carolina defeated Iowa eighty seven and seventy five to

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Speaker 3: win the National Championship and complete a perfect season.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead, Don State period.

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Speaker 1: They didn't lose a game, not a single game, and

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Speaker 1: they gonna act like this Black women ain't amazing. Don Staley. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I think she's from Philly, right.

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Speaker 2: I wonder if she can't of Douce Staley.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, who's that?

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Speaker 2: Never mind, let's keep going. No tell me football player.

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Speaker 3: He was like a long time retired now but big

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Speaker 3: time football player out of South Carolina.

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Speaker 1: But she's from Philly. I think though she's not well,

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Speaker 1: that doesn't mean she doesn't have family from down here.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, so you saw how CNN posted Carolina one

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Speaker 3: but had a picture of Kaitlyn Clark up there, like.

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Speaker 2: What is the what in the world? Why don't you

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Speaker 2: have a picture of the winners?

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Speaker 1: And people are talking about her future in women's basketball.

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Speaker 1: Can we talk about the present? Can we talk about

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Speaker 1: what just happened? Can we talk about this predominantly predominant

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Speaker 1: black team in South Carolina of all places, coach by

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Speaker 1: a black woman. Can we get some props at some point,

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Speaker 1: like they just be so blatant with the bullshit now

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Speaker 1: it's disgusting, Like quit playing in our faces. Okay, because

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Speaker 1: I feel like that was me. I feel like I

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Speaker 1: was a coach and I won. Okay, I wrote for

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Speaker 1: all people black. I don't care who feel what way

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Speaker 1: about what?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, listen, I felt like I was Tammy Cardoza Cardova

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Speaker 3: with him.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to pronounce it, but you couldn't

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Speaker 2: tell me. I went.

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Speaker 3: I was going around Dream Go Cos every five minutes,

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Speaker 3: and you know that shit right there by NC State,

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Speaker 3: So I know it was a lot of I know,

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Speaker 3: we just whooped the ass last Friday, so I know

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Speaker 3: they were still kind of sore.

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Speaker 1: A lot of salt over there. Yep, go game Cocks.

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Speaker 3: When I got into Uber to go from the hotel

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Speaker 3: to the concert.

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Speaker 2: I asked the uber driver. I was like, are you

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Speaker 2: a game Cock fan? Because they just won. He's like no.

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Speaker 2: I was like, zero stars, zero stars for you, sir.

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Speaker 1: You're not recommend.

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Speaker 2: Goodness.

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Speaker 3: So at the Dreamville fanst j Cole got his ass

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Speaker 3: up there and was like, I need to tell y'all

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Speaker 3: some shit I ain't told nobody else. I ain't slept

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Speaker 3: for two days behind this shit. It don't feel good

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Speaker 3: with my soul. I shouldn't have that was laying me

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Speaker 3: to let people influence me. And he's like, my phone

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Speaker 3: was blowing up. I had thousand mis calls, a thousand

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Speaker 3: texts like what you're gonna do? And I allow that

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Speaker 3: to influence me to do something that just don't sit

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Speaker 3: right with my spirit. And I know I called the

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Speaker 3: album might delete later because I'm really about to delete

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Speaker 3: this shit from the album. So if you don't know,

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Speaker 3: Ja Cole made a dish to Kendrick Lamar's seven minute Drill,

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Speaker 3: which I thought was lyrically good. I like the first

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Speaker 3: half better than the second. I feel like people from

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Speaker 3: up North like the second half better than the first.

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Speaker 3: But here's the thing. My thing is why are people,

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Speaker 3: cause you can be fans of both. You don't have

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Speaker 3: to pick a side, you know you can be. I

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Speaker 3: love both of these people. I love Kendrick Lamar and

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Speaker 3: J Cole, and I feel like everybody wants you to

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Speaker 3: to pick a side, and that's the problem. I don't

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Speaker 3: have a side. I don't have a dog in a fight.

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to hear more lyrical sparring from the two.

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Speaker 3: So I still hope J Cole come back with a

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Speaker 3: disc so there could be some more lyrical spar at

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Speaker 3: least between drink and.

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Speaker 1: So you admit that this wasn't a disc. It wasn't

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Speaker 1: a diss at all. Wasn't a dis You said you

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Speaker 1: wish that he would come back with a disc. So

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Speaker 1: was his dis track an actual dis or not?

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Speaker 2: Who oh shit? Who you talking about, Kendrid? Just now

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Speaker 2: you said you wish that Kendrick comes back with it.

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Speaker 1: No, you said J Cole, Right.

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Speaker 3: No, Kendred. I'm hoping that he still responds. He probably

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Speaker 3: not gonna respond with a disc after that, you know,

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Speaker 3: or not toward J Cole, But I want him to

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Speaker 3: because I enjoyed the lyrical sparn.

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Speaker 1: Okay, first of all, I love J Cole and I

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Speaker 1: love Kendrick Lamar. I love Kendrick Lamar a little bit

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Speaker 1: more because he's a Gemini right, and to me, he's

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Speaker 1: lyrically better than J Cole. They both have their low sauce,

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Speaker 1: but it's just like a little extra seasoning. When I'm

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Speaker 1: listening to Kendrick Lamar, I can relate to him more

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Speaker 1: what I saw, okay, because first person Shooter, he says

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Speaker 1: the Big Three, but then he says he's Ali, right,

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Speaker 1: so basically he's the Ali of the Big Three. So

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Speaker 1: you really stole down on the other two people that

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Speaker 3: This week, Young Miami and JT got the squabbling over

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Speaker 1: Ever, are you saying that JT initiated this beef with

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying she initiated a beef. I'm saying she

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Speaker 1: How when Young Miami put up you even thising me

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Speaker 2: She but she didn't at her, she didn't hit her, Okay.

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Speaker 3: So it was like, you don't say that, You've been

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Speaker 1: She had been arguing with Sexy not Sexy read Jesus Christ.

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Speaker 1: She hadn't arguing with Gorilla Glow. In the following days,

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Speaker 1: rather you're not saying my name right now in this

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Speaker 3: Well, I feel like it was JT that was making

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Speaker 1: First, No, it wasn't.

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Speaker 2: And that's why your Miami wasn't posting nothing. Young Miami

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Speaker 1: She Young miami first tweet was a bitchman sneak this

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Speaker 1: in me for weeks and I ain't say shit bitch

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Speaker 2: Right, So if she been sneaked this in her own

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Speaker 2: social media for weeks.

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Speaker 1: But JT said she hadn't been, and even if you

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Speaker 2: Call her she was doing that shit, Carr, I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't believe so. I don't believe that they I

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Speaker 1: don't I believe that they have not been good for

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Speaker 1: a while. Now. We saw them on the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Even there, I feel like JT was in a blind

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Speaker 1: y'all Miami's attitude, Charlemagne asked Young Miami. No excuse me.

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Speaker 2: D da da da.

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Speaker 1: He Young Miami came and straight said, no, we're not

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Speaker 1: even looking over at JT. She's just just like, no,

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. And you could clearly see JT

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Speaker 1: been good for a while. I leave, and I mean,

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Speaker 1: that I don't know why people call haters fans anyway,

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Speaker 1: because you're no fan of me. If you be hating

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Speaker 3: If they're still they are fans because they keep they're

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Speaker 3: keeping up with you, so they.

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Speaker 2: Can hate on you.

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Speaker 3: You're a fan and maybe negative energy that you're sitting

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Speaker 3: in my way, but you keeping up with Miami move

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Speaker 3: just so you can have some shit to talk.

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Speaker 1: That you're a fan. But anyway, the fans probably helped

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Speaker 1: ignite the bullshit between them. Now. Prior to JC beefing

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Speaker 1: the fuck not Gorillaz?

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Speaker 2: He like, see how you didn't.

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Speaker 1: Crilla?

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Speaker 5: Yo?

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Speaker 1: That's funny as fun okay, Glorilla. And the only thing

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Speaker 1: I didn't like about that is how JT was saying

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Speaker 1: how Gorilla Glorilla grew up living on a blow up mattress.

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Speaker 1: That girl was very vulnerable talking on Club Shayshay, I

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Speaker 1: because they they got that hustle, that grind right that

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Speaker 3: And then using it as AMMO against me because you know.

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Speaker 3: And then the crazy part was if you listen to

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Speaker 1: Well maybe because JT ain't get her lick back, because

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Speaker 1: Glorilla said, nah, I ain't slap you, but I did

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Speaker 3: But this is growing like, well, I guess they're still

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Speaker 2: They ain't even in their thirty shit. But JT said, girl,

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Speaker 3: Matches, and I was like, are we all? Are we

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Speaker 1: That shit. Funny as hell it's crazy to say, like, dude,

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Speaker 1: now to go on a comedy tour because goddamn Glorilla

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Speaker 1: funny as hell and JT got the fucking jokes. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I feel like they got an hour worth of stand

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Speaker 3: She's like, girl that's from stealing, not no fighting, ship

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Speaker 3: You're just a terrible thief.

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Speaker 1: Big bitch, kept getting caught. She had to change your profession, right, quicks,

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Speaker 1: I hope everybody grows up next week, y'all. We just

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Speaker 2: This magical. I can do it that she came out

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Speaker 1: Like I can see, but I can't see the computer

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Speaker 2: If I wiggle them, I can't see them either.

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Speaker 1: Like right now, it's a big star on your forehead, bitch,

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Speaker 1: real shiny on your forehead.

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Speaker 2: That's what the guy that's my orbitch. They'd be there

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Speaker 1: Like maybe I can see things now because I cannot

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Speaker 3: But everybody was so hyped for this eclipse, and I

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Speaker 3: I did not even stay, which was so stupid. So

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Speaker 1: He got in the fucking group text how but that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't hear no trumpet sound. That's what I

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Speaker 1: On, not you, waiting for the goddamn I said everybody

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Speaker 1: message like, hey, I just wish y'all to know I

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Speaker 2: And when I text you back.

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Speaker 3: So crazy shitbo to stop call listen. I'm magical. I've

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Speaker 2: Your man is not in the NBA. I was like, what,

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Speaker 2: this is the same God, That's what I was saying.

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Speaker 1: I think it's beaming more. But I wasn't outside. I

436
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 1: was laying undneath that window in the house looking up

437
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 1: at the fucking sun. Not the whole entire time, but

438
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: I definitely was laying on the floor like Meditaine for

439
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 1: like two hours and shit, and periodically looking at the sun.

440
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 1: And today now I have blurred vision a little bit,

441
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 1: just a little bit, but this isn't the first time

442
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 1: this has happened, and I'll get some repairs shortly.

443
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 3: Crazy, But what would you talk about? Stop calling your

444
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 3: house phone?

445
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: Do you hear a household your I was talking as

446
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 1: if I'm God, I said, my child.

447
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:26,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, you was.

448
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:30,359
Speaker 3: Talking about, oh, like for my husband, Stop calling my

449
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 3: household for my husband.

450
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 2: Get it out.

451
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,000
Speaker 1: I am God responding to your prayers.

452
00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're saying, I pray for the main line, right,

453
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 2: you know people Jesus on the line.

454
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I get it now, because I was like this

455
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 3: bitch got a house phone.

456
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 2: That's weird.

457
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:46,680
Speaker 4: Slow.

458
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 3: I just didn't think of you as God. I'm sorry,

459
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 3: I didn't get I was in in alignment with that.

460
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 3: Oh okay, but let's get into it, y'all. We're going

461
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 3: to have a commercial break and we'll be right back

462
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 3: where our main topic. Don't beat them kids. We'll be

463
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 3: right back, all right, y'all. So over the weekend, AJ

464
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 3: sent me this clip of a woman. You couldn't see

465
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 3: the mom, but the camera was pointed at her child's

466
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 3: father's wife, and she was pretty much coming to check

467
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 3: her because this woman, who else also helps to raise

468
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:32,680
Speaker 3: her kid verb I mean, physically reprimanded her for misbehaving.

469
00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 3: And the mom was livid about her putting her hands

470
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 3: on her child. And she said, well, her father gave

471
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:46,960
Speaker 3: me permission. She was misbehaving, you know. And I beat

472
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 3: her ass basically, and I'll do it again. That's that

473
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 3: was her energy.

474
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:52,440
Speaker 1: I don't say i'll beat her ass because we don't

475
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: even know if it was an actual ass whipping. Well

476
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 1: it was pop pop, we don't know.

477
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, that's a little ass whooping

478
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:04,479
Speaker 3: little pop pop. So either way, the mom was upset

479
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,639
Speaker 3: and we had like different opinions about it. It was like, Okay,

480
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 3: this is the topic, so what's your opinion?

481
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 2: AJ?

482
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: Okay, I am. I have been a step mom to

483
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 1: a few kids, because these niggas be having kids now.

484
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: While I am a big advocate for children, because I'll

485
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 1: probably take anybody out of this world for fucking with

486
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 1: a kid on my watch, right, I don't believe in

487
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: corporal punishment for children. I do not believe in putting

488
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:36,360
Speaker 1: my hands on kids. That's for me, right, and that's

489
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 1: for the kids that I've been around. Now. Some kids

490
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 1: may need they ass whooping. I think teenagers in particular

491
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 1: do need to get their ass whoop. But like little people,

492
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 1: I don't put my hands on little people because if

493
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 1: your goal as an adult is to make a little

494
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 1: person cry, there's a lot more that you can just

495
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,440
Speaker 1: tell them, hey, I'm disappointed in you, and they'll bust

496
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: out crying. So if that's the goal, I feel like

497
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 1: once you put your hand on a child, you as

498
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: the adult, has lost control, not the child, right, But

499
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 1: in some instances, in real time, the kid may need

500
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 1: to be reprimanded and whatever way that adult sees suitable.

501
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 4: Right.

502
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:16,160
Speaker 1: And if this is this man's wife. He married her

503
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: because he trusted her. Right. This woman is shown up

504
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 1: to the door, not putting her face on camera. I

505
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,439
Speaker 1: don't think it was a skin or anything either. I

506
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: feel like it was real. She came to that door

507
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 1: with a problem. And I can bet you one hundred

508
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:35,160
Speaker 1: percent she doesn't have a man of her own, because

509
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,360
Speaker 1: your husband was not letting you pull up at your

510
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 1: ex husband's house to talk crazy to the wife and

511
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: him like that if you had a man to course

512
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:44,000
Speaker 1: correct your ass at the house.

513
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 2: So it's a.

514
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,440
Speaker 1: Little bit of bitter baby mama shit in the background.

515
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 2: You don't know that that's a speculator.

516
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 1: Girl, That is not a speculator. I have seen this before.

517
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 2: But you're assuming that there was nowhere in the video.

518
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 1: It wasn't in the video, but she called her a

519
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 1: hoe or bitch or something like that, and she was like, like,

520
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:07,480
Speaker 1: why are you coming to the door calling your ex's

521
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 1: wife out? They name like that.

522
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:10,400
Speaker 2: There might be a backstory.

523
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,400
Speaker 1: That girl was very calm with her initially, and then

524
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: she got our rate and she matched her energy eventually,

525
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: and then the husband came to the door, like what

526
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: the fuck you're at the door arguing with and it

527
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,200
Speaker 1: was her and he was like, you know, I gave

528
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: her permission, So she communicated with him what was going

529
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 1: on because he is the other parent, right, and obviously

530
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 1: you trust this man with your child because the child

531
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: is still able to go over to this house. Right,

532
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 1: he obviously has good judgment and whatever with this woman. Right,

533
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: he gave her permission to reprimand a child. What's your

534
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,679
Speaker 1: beef because he's also a parent. He's also the kid's

535
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 1: parent too.

536
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 3: My beef is, don't nobody put their motherfucking hands on

537
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 3: my baby. I don't give a fuck. I don't give

538
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 3: a fuck who you marry. I don't give fuck who

539
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 3: she thinks she is. Do not put your hands on

540
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,399
Speaker 3: my child. You tell me you can take her phone away,

541
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: you can take her toys away, you can punish her

542
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 3: and ground her, have her sit in a corner, do

543
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 3: all the things, but do not physically reprimand my kid.

544
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 3: If you like, I want my child to respect you

545
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 3: in your home, absolutely call me and I will knock

546
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 3: her head through the door to the between the wash

547
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 3: and the dryer.

548
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 2: But don't you do it. Don't you ever do it.

549
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 3: And listen, I've had I've been in relationships where we

550
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 3: had the kids like at least for the summertime, and

551
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 3: then it also it went into the school year, and

552
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:37,480
Speaker 3: I never once thought of ever yeah, and they would misbehave.

553
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 3: I never thought of once ever putting my hands on

554
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 3: those kids, cause what are they really doing that bad

555
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 3: that I needed to physically physically reprimand them. I just

556
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 3: didn't see the point for me to do that. Like

557
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 3: I'd be like, listen, if you don't start behaving, I'm

558
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 3: gonna tell your dad, I'm gonna tell your dad what you're.

559
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 2: Doing, and he can do it.

560
00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:00,239
Speaker 3: But the idea of me putting my hands on on

561
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 3: any child, I'm really not a big person on beating kids,

562
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,239
Speaker 3: you know, because that's just I don't know.

563
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 2: I'm just not a huge or not.

564
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 1: So if you are the mom, right and you beat

565
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,719
Speaker 1: your child, right, I feel like nobody should put their

566
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 1: hands on a kid, right.

567
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 3: I'm not like a huge beater parent. Yeah, I'm not

568
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 3: a huge beater. But if it's gonna happen, it's gonna

569
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 3: be me. It's not gonna be no step mama, no stepdaddy,

570
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 3: no step nothing, because I'm a step my foot in

571
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 3: your ass, and that should have been and that should

572
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 3: have been communicated before prior, like there should have been

573
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:38,239
Speaker 3: a conversation about it, because now I'm coming, Yeah, I'm

574
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 3: coming swinging if I found out that you put your

575
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 3: hands on my kids.

576
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: But based on her tone, I don't think she's a

577
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 1: woman that you can reason with. I don't think that's

578
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 1: someone that he could have.

579
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 2: She might have just been upset.

580
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 3: You know, you never know how you when you like,

581
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 3: when you have this, this your baby, and you find

582
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 3: out that somebody physically put their hands on them. She

583
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 3: might have just been mad about her child, you know,

584
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 3: like who thought she had the right to do that?

585
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 2: Who gave her? I don't give a fuck what he said,

586
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 2: don't ever.

587
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 1: As a single woman, well as a woman with no

588
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: children and in relationships with men with children, I'm always

589
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: a huge advocate for the village. I'm always a huge

590
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: advocate for blended families, right because people don't always stay together.

591
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 1: So most people have a stepparent, A lot of people

592
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: have step parents. So imagine in real time, we out

593
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 1: of town somewhere and I'm supposed to I feel like,

594
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: if a kid does something they need, it needs to

595
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 1: be addressed right then and there just like when you

596
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: training a dog, right, you don't. You don't wait till

597
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 1: two three hours later to beat the dog for some

598
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: shit he did two three hours ago.

599
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 2: Right, So in.

600
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 1: That moment when the thing is happening and you need

601
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 1: to course correct a child, the parent, the stepparents should

602
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 1: be able to I am not talking about abusing a child.

603
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 1: I got a perfect example my niece when she she's

604
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 1: a grown ass woman now and when she was a

605
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 1: kid my sister. My sister is now married to this man,

606
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 1: but at the time it was her boyfriend. He pulled

607
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: my niece's tooth out. She had a tooth coming out,

608
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 1: and he removed the tooth. She then tells her daddy

609
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: that he hit her. Her dad then comes to my

610
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 1: sister house and fought her boyfriend, the living boyfriend who's

611
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: been raising your child when you're not there, right. They

612
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: then get into a fight because the daughter couldn't articulate. Really, Now,

613
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 1: that's where it depends on the age of the child also,

614
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: and how there's their perception of what happened and how

615
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 1: hard they got hit. Right, So now they can exaggerate

616
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: a situation, especially mom, if you're at home already talking

617
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 1: shit about your husband, your ex and his wife now, right,

618
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 1: So all this the kid is hearing. So there's a

619
00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: lot of things based just watching the video that no,

620
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 1: we don't know, right, but I know this type of woman.

621
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: I know this type, this prototype of person. If you

622
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 1: can run up to a woman's house and you're behind

623
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 1: the camera not showing your face, if she really abused

624
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: your child, why didn't you show up with the police.

625
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: Why are you now trying to handle this situation by yourself?

626
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: And where's your man?

627
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 2: Because she wanted to smoke, I think, But that's.

628
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 1: What I'm saying.

629
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you put your hands on my baby,

630
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: I might want to smoke with you too.

631
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: It just depends. I'm not gonna automatically go to smoke.

632
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna as as the X. I'm not going

633
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 1: to automatically go to smoke because regardless of what this is,

634
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 1: this man's wife, I need to understand what happened and

635
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: why the ass whooping was justified. I'm not gonna reprimand

636
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: now a grown woman, Right, I'm not gonna assume you're

637
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: abusing my child. I'm not gonna do that. That's very dangerous.

638
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it just putting your hands on my child

639
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 3: period is a problem for me. But I definitely would

640
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 3: have communicated that up front.

641
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 2: You know, yeahs our relationship.

642
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 3: I want everybody should talk, yeah, like I want my

643
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 3: child to respect you. And if my child misbehaves and

644
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 3: does anything that you deem where she needs to be spanked,

645
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 3: please call me because I'll be on my way to

646
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 3: do it.

647
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 2: I'll be on my way to do it.

648
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 3: But please do not put your hands on my child.

649
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 3: That's the only thing I ask that you don't do

650
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 3: is physically, because you know physical it can turn into abuse,

651
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 3: especially when someone is angry. You should never beat your

652
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 3: be the kid while you're mad. You should never do that.

653
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 1: That's usually when kids get to ask with.

654
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 3: I know, but you shouldn't because it can be abused.

655
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 3: A lot of us growing up, we were abused.

656
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 1: Let's keep it around. But who were abused by? Were

657
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 1: we abused by steps? Were we abused by our mom our?

658
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 3: Actually I can't speak I haven't had I never had

659
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 3: a step of parents, so I can't speak to that.

660
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 3: But the only people who was beating me was my

661
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 3: mom and my grandma. My daddy never whooped us, but yeah,

662
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,040
Speaker 3: they used to whoop our tail, I ass up, So

663
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 3: I couldn't.

664
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 2: I couldn't imagine having someone else who's angry at my

665
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 2: child from misbehaving putting their hands on them.

666
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: When that happened to me growing up, not from like

667
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: a step but the fucking daycare like these people obviously

668
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 1: was from a time where anybody could beat the kids

669
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: and my mom. Once I finally realized that it was

670
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 1: wrong that it was happening to me when I tell

671
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,280
Speaker 1: my mom went up there like it started to fucking

672
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:27,800
Speaker 1: hedgehog her and my aunt.

673
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 2: Exactly my baby fucking airdisplace.

674
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 1: But it wasn't just putting her hands on me like then,

675
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 1: motherfuckers was putting my head underneath the water in the

676
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: bathroom and shit like that, Like I was really being abused,

677
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: but didn't know. No, that wasn't going on with me

678
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 1: at the house, but it was going on with other

679
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,240
Speaker 1: kids at the facility, So I just thought that was regular.

680
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 1: There was, yes, girl, but it was like a feud.

681
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 1: So my family has a soulful restaurant.

682
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 3: Was getting waterboarded at the daycare, girl, God dad girl.

683
00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: They used to have this big ass pink brush and

684
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 1: those novelty big thick pencils from back in the day

685
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 1: and they would hit us on our knuckles with it

686
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 1: and then pinch it so it not swell up. Oh

687
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: that that was how we were disciplined.

688
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 2: That's abuse.

689
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 1: And y'all I used to get disciplined because I wasn't bad,

690
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,760
Speaker 1: but I was peeing up the mad at naptime.

691
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 3: You just had you were still a party like you know, yeah,

692
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:27,359
Speaker 3: like four or five years old.

693
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, for that is crazy. Yep, I bet you stop.

694
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: No, that does not stop and care from peeing on themselves.

695
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:38,879
Speaker 4: Man.

696
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 1: You know, my last relationship, I did not agree with

697
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 1: his parenting style at all. And one morning he was like, wait,

698
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: you have some kids and then you could tell me.

699
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 1: But I'm like, if I'm gonna be with you right

700
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna have to deal with this. He's a

701
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: little boy now, but he's going to be a teenager

702
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 1: at some point. If I'm going to have to be

703
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: in his life when he has issues from how you

704
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 1: raised him, I have something to say today. I'm going

705
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 1: to say something. If I don't like what's going on me.

706
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 3: Too, I will. I don't have no problem with that.

707
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 3: I just ain't don't want to physically have you, like,

708
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 3: have you seen a kid's face after someone beats them.

709
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 3: It's the saddest thing in the world. I couldn't imagine

710
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 3: causing that to my child or anybody else's child.

711
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 1: Now, she's the difference. We not beating anybody. Nobody's getting

712
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 1: beat by us, right, But if your kid is getting

713
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 1: beat at the house, how could you tell somebody else

714
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: not to beat them?

715
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 6: Oh?

716
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,399
Speaker 1: I can only I can be the only abuser over here.

717
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: That doesn't make sense to me.

718
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 3: Well, it depends on like it don't have to be abused.

719
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 3: It could be you know, a refermand. But I just

720
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 3: don't want nobody else doing it because I know I

721
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:43,800
Speaker 3: love my baby.

722
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:45,919
Speaker 2: I don't know if you love them.

723
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,760
Speaker 3: So I don't know how you are going to respond

724
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,319
Speaker 3: to this misbehavior And will it be in a way

725
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,879
Speaker 3: that I, you know, feel like it's going to teach

726
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 3: the child a proper lesson or is it just to

727
00:36:57,640 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 3: give them pain?

728
00:36:58,719 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 7: You know?

729
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: So I don't know.

730
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: That's where the adults need to communicate. Like I said,

731
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: if he meets, if your significant other meets or ex

732
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: right meets a new person that's gonna be around your child,

733
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: you should want to meet this person. There's a lot

734
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 1: of women who don't want to meet the newbie. Yeah,

735
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 1: they don't want to meet you, they don't want to

736
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 1: have a conversation. But if I'm gonna be around your

737
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: child now, I gotta I gotta force a meeting with

738
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 1: you as the mom. A lot of people do not

739
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:31,319
Speaker 1: have the maturity to deal with these things, and that's

740
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 1: what I was seeing in that video. She did not

741
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 1: have the emotional intelligence to handle this situation properly, and

742
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 1: the way she came off crazy. The girl said, well,

743
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: this is probably You're probably a reason why your daughter

744
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 1: being rude over here.

745
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 2: M And that's very maybe possibly true. But I don't

746
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 2: give a damn. Don't put your hands on them now.

747
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna have that attitude with another woman. If

748
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 1: I had a kid and this man chose this woman

749
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 1: to be with, I want to meet her. Yeah, absolutely,

750
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 1: I want to have a conversation and we could talk

751
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 1: about all of these things. And you know, and especially

752
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,919
Speaker 1: depending on like say, for instance, this was this girl.

753
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 1: This lady has been in this kid's life since one

754
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 1: years old, you know, and this man has been married

755
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:17,280
Speaker 1: to her for ten years. Are you saying he can't

756
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 1: imagine a grown man, right, Imagine like the other side

757
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:25,919
Speaker 1: of this, the woman, the baby mom. Imagine her having

758
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: a man and the child as a boy, and that

759
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 1: man that's in the house can't discipline this boy in

760
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: his house. That's a problem.

761
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 3: Or he can discipline them like physical is not the

762
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 3: only discipline. There's all forms of discipline that are effective

763
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 3: outside of physical.

764
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. But nobody should hit the child.

765
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 1: If that's the case. For you to say I can

766
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,399
Speaker 1: whoop my child and knock her head between and watch

767
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 1: your sheine and dryer, but nobody else can is a

768
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: bigger problem to me.

769
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,200
Speaker 2: Why I'm the mother who pushed her out.

770
00:38:56,960 --> 00:39:00,800
Speaker 1: That's the ego. Yeah, that's that's too much.

771
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 6: Not to me.

772
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 2: This is my child that I that I pushed out,

773
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 2: and I ain't.

774
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 3: Nobody gonna put their hands on the butt me because

775
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do everything I do. Is would love everything.

776
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 3: But you may not love my kid the same way

777
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 3: you might. Shit you marry him now, y'all might not

778
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 3: even be together next year. Are you still gonna have

779
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: a relationship with my child? You might divorce everybody. So no,

780
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,839
Speaker 3: don't ever put your hands on my baby. Ever, ever,

781
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:27,879
Speaker 3: I don't care. I just don't care. Maybe I don't

782
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 3: have the emotional intelligence that requires and it is what

783
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 3: it is. But don't do it, because now I'm going

784
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 3: to jail about mine.

785
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 1: A lot of paternal parents go to prison for abuse,

786
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: they go to prison for neglect. It's not just step

787
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 1: just step parents. So if a child is gonna be abused,

788
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: it could happen from the hands of a step parent.

789
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 3: I agree, but I'm just speaking on me, you know,

790
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 3: I'm just speaking on me, and I know that I

791
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 3: would not abuse my child.

792
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: I'm not even a.

793
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 3: Big advocate for physical punishment, but if it happens, it

794
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,800
Speaker 3: will be because I decided that was something that happened,

795
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 3: not the step mama.

796
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can call me.

797
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 3: You can call me and tell me what happened, and

798
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 3: I'll do it because I want my child to respect you.

799
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 3: I want my child to respect all adults. So there

800
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 3: will be punishment for that, but I don't know if

801
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 3: it'll be physical, and you don't get to decide that.

802
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 2: Period. Yeah.

803
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:24,840
Speaker 1: I just think that we are different from this person

804
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: in the video. Yeah, so based on that video, she

805
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 1: wanted smoke with this woman.

806
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 2: Period.

807
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 1: I understood and there are a lot of women like

808
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 1: her and you may not. You can say, oh, we

809
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 1: don't know if she better or not. That's all I heard.

810
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 1: That's all I heard, Because at what point do you

811
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,720
Speaker 1: not call? She said she called him and he doesn't

812
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 1: answer his phone. Right, there might be a reason why

813
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: he don't answer the phone for her.

814
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:52,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they got a kid together, so he needed

815
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 3: They need to work past whatever it is so he

816
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 3: can answer the phone.

817
00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever, there's another question we should have pose, like,

818
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 1: but how is it dealing with these women of like

819
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,400
Speaker 1: the baby mama is, like it could be real. I

820
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: don't give off the energy that anybody can play with

821
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:11,439
Speaker 1: me like that. I've never had a problem, for real

822
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: with I've had more of a problem with the dad,

823
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 1: like him not facilitating a relationship right with me and

824
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 1: this other person. But I've never actually had a direct

825
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:25,439
Speaker 1: issue with a bitch.

826
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 2: Man, I'd had a bitch really, like what I know.

827
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 2: This bitch used to wake up in the morning be like, ah,

828
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:36,360
Speaker 2: how can I fuck up Timmy's day today?

829
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 3: Like I swear that's how that bitch woke up. She

830
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 3: just always everything was a problem everything, Oh my god,

831
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 3: Like how I did their hair was a problem. And

832
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:48,800
Speaker 3: if I took like I'm going to get my nails done,

833
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 3: I'm gonna take these girls with me to get their

834
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 3: nails done too.

835
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 2: Don't take my kids to get their nails done.

836
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 3: They came here with chip the apolish on. It's not

837
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 3: like I'm gonna get acrylic. I'm just gonna get their

838
00:41:59,239 --> 00:42:03,479
Speaker 3: polish redone. You know, that's a problem. She just didn't

839
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:06,319
Speaker 3: want me to do nothing with them kids, like it

840
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 3: was just so bad. And I was like, well, me

841
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 3: or her need to have a conversation. We need to talk.

842
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:12,319
Speaker 3: She needs to have my number because their dad is

843
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 3: at work all day. I'm with these kids all day long.

844
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 3: You need to talk to me, you know, you need

845
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 3: to let me know what's what's okay and what's not

846
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 3: you know.

847
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,359
Speaker 2: But she refused to have a conversation with me. It's

848
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 2: just such a mess.

849
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 1: Oughod And that's what I saw in the video, though,

850
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 1: I saw somebody who refused to to co parent. That's

851
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: you cannot dictate what this man is doing in his

852
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 1: house with this child. He has just as much right

853
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: to the child as you do.

854
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 3: Apparently I agree the father does, but we would just

855
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 3: have to have a conversation about physical punishment, because that's

856
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 3: just not something I'm okay with my soul. Doom that

857
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 3: don't like Ja Cole, I couldn't sleep for two days

858
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 3: and just did sit right with my spirit because why.

859
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 1: We did ask you guys are listeners on Instagram to

860
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,759
Speaker 1: give us your take on this particular video. So when

861
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:13,800
Speaker 1: we come back from break, we're gonna listen to somebody

862
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 1: and I like this part now, Okay, I like listening

863
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: to people calling. Okay, so we'll be right back. All right,

864
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 1: So y'all, we are back, and the first caller is

865
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:31,799
Speaker 1: actually a guy. Let's see what he has to say.

866
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 7: Hey, this is Joe from Columbia and weighing in on

867
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 7: the topic. I think that, you know, it depends on

868
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 7: the parents, the responsible adults parents, who gets the discipline

869
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 7: the child. I'm one that don't particularly care to discipline

870
00:43:53,480 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 7: someone else's child physically. However, if there is a needed

871
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 7: and in real time, I had to make that decision,

872
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 7: and I'm talking about emergency only, and it would be

873
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 7: justified and I can deal with the other parents you know,

874
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 7: when it when it comes to that. But for the

875
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:21,720
Speaker 7: most part, I don't I don't. I personally, opinion wise,

876
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 7: I don't know why one parent would want to or

877
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:33,719
Speaker 7: would be willing to, uh discipline another child that's that's

878
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 7: not his own. But uh, that's a touchy subject, and

879
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 7: I think that you know, it boils down to the

880
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 7: parents and and how responsible and how much someone trusts

881
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 7: the other parents decision making. Me personally, again, I wouldn't

882
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 7: want to discipline someone else's child. It would I would

883
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 7: have to be asked to do that, which I'd be uncomfortable.

884
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 7: But I'd also be uncomfortable if the emergency situation happened

885
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 7: and I had to that child.

886
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:19,120
Speaker 6: Would have put me in an uncomfortable position to need

887
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:20,600
Speaker 6: to discipline them physically.

888
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:25,720
Speaker 7: Now, as far as you know the woman I'm dealing

889
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 7: with now, I don't think she would want to discipline

890
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 7: my children physically, But I would have to say I'm

891
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 7: open to her in an emergency situation having to do that.

892
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 7: I know she wouldn't though, I honestly have to say

893
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 7: I know she wouldn't do that, So you know that's

894
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 7: where I stand on it.

895
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 8: You know, if.

896
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:57,720
Speaker 7: Someone other than me discipline my child, I personally wouldn't

897
00:45:57,760 --> 00:46:00,360
Speaker 7: Also wouldn't have a problem with it when.

898
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:00,919
Speaker 9: They're out of line.

899
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 7: They're out of line, and that's for me and that

900
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 7: other parent or that other adult to discuss, and then

901
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 7: I'll judge that, you know, at that moment with that

902
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:14,280
Speaker 7: person face to face.

903
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 6: But if it's if it's unjust, then I'll step in

904
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 6: to send my child. But if it's just, then you know,

905
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 6: he got what he deserves and the world's gonna treat

906
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:26,439
Speaker 6: him worse.

907
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:32,840
Speaker 1: Emergency emergency situation ass whoopings is crazy?

908
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, what is the emergency?

909
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 3: Ass Now you're gonna break the glass on the belt.

910
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 2: He's an emergency.

911
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: Give me the emergency ass whooping.

912
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 3: But you know what I thought about, give me the

913
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:55,320
Speaker 3: gun tray, Give me the gun tray like that.

914
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 2: That's an emergency situation. Yeah.

915
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, you read said I would have beat tray up

916
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 3: at that moment. He might have stayed home.

917
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:12,879
Speaker 1: Listen, I agree with him. I'm not gonna make great

918
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:17,280
Speaker 1: friction between my ex and his significant other in regards

919
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 1: to UH discipline in the kids. I would suggest, yes,

920
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 1: don't put your hand on the kid. I don't beat

921
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:29,879
Speaker 1: my child. They'll know that because I can articulate that

922
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 1: to them. She probably never explicitly stated shit based.

923
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 3: On that video, because I think she would have been like,

924
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 3: I already told.

925
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: You, No, she did say that. I think she said that.

926
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 1: She said she told him she don't want nobody. She

927
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 1: told him that she don't want nobody putting their putting

928
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 1: their hands on her child. But that could have just

929
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: been before anything ever even happened. Like, why are you

930
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 1: even assuming at some point somebody gonna beat your child?

931
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 1: But it happened like THEYD beat that guy the kid.

932
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 1: But I don't, I'm not. I don't know.

933
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 3: I like harmony, me too, harmony, and I don't want

934
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 3: my kid to get beat period.

935
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: But if your kid need that ass whooped, like, I'll

936
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 1: do it. Nah, I'll do it. Okay, let's listen to

937
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: the next call.

938
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: Y'all.

939
00:48:18,040 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 3: You ain't never had a delayed ass whooping. All your

940
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 3: ass whoopings came in real time. Yes, you ain't never

941
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 3: like you're gonna get your ass beat when you get home.

942
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 1: You ain't never had that. That's to me, that's abuse.

943
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 2: How's that abuse?

944
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 1: Because you ruined the kid's day for the rest of

945
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 1: the day.

946
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 2: Y'all are apparently whatever they did deserved it. Nah.

947
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: We out somewhere in the midst of you not being

948
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:41,279
Speaker 1: when you told me you want to beat my ass.

949
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 1: You were probably upset right at that moment. The day

950
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: that went on, you no longer upset. Not you keeping

951
00:48:47,680 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: your word and really whipping my ass six hours later.

952
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:52,280
Speaker 1: That is fucking crazy to me. It needs to happen

953
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 1: right then and there. Delayed ass whoopings are abused to me.

954
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:58,880
Speaker 2: You can't You can't whip them in public.

955
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: You could have took them in the bathroom, take them

956
00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:02,440
Speaker 1: in the beginning.

957
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:03,840
Speaker 2: Of trouble for that. You can go to jail for that.

958
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 1: Now keep your hands off little people. That's what I'm hearing,

959
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: Because if it's against the lat to whip your child,

960
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:12,279
Speaker 1: now keep your hands off of little people. Everybody. How

961
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:12,719
Speaker 1: about that?

962
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 2: How about that you don't sit.

963
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:19,720
Speaker 1: You don't own these people. You don't own these people,

964
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: those kids, you don't own them just because you had.

965
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 2: Them legs up when we get to the house.

966
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:30,279
Speaker 1: That is abuse. I never talked to a kid like that.

967
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 1: I never fold my top lip at a kid like

968
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: Let me tell you I used to do with my

969
00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 1: exes fucking son when them niggas went through what I say,

970
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: I just delayed doing the things that they needed me

971
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:44,799
Speaker 1: to do, like feed them. Y'all want lunch, y'all have breakfast, right,

972
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: y'all want lunch. I have told you to clean this

973
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: room ten times. Now, guess what happens when they start coming.

974
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:56,879
Speaker 1: I'm hungry. I just delay getting up to make them

975
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 1: something to fucking eat.

976
00:49:58,160 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 2: Now, that's abuse to me.

977
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: They're not that hungry. They want a snack. They want

978
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 1: like little bullshit. You know what I'm saying throughout the day.

979
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 1: So because you didn't do what I asked you to

980
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:11,040
Speaker 1: do very nicely, I'm not jumping to do anything a

981
00:50:11,040 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 1: little person tells me to do. You're gonna wait now.

982
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 3: I remember one time I had cooked dinner for the

983
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 3: kids and they did not want what I prepared and

984
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 3: red but they eat it all the time. It wasn't

985
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 3: like something that they didn't eat. They just wanted to

986
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 3: eat cinnamon toast crunch instead of the dinner. And my

987
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,760
Speaker 3: boyfriend at the time let them eat cinnamon toast crunch

988
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:34,839
Speaker 3: instead of what I prepare. And our money was tight,

989
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 3: so we ain't have a lot of money like that,

990
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:39,200
Speaker 3: and it pissed me off that they didn't have to

991
00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:42,359
Speaker 3: eat that dinner. So and they were just sitting there

992
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:44,920
Speaker 3: happy eating they little cinnamon toast crunch. I was like, okay,

993
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 3: I got something for that. So the next day they

994
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:50,319
Speaker 3: was like, what's for breakfast? I was like, dinner, it's

995
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 3: for breakfast.

996
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:59,399
Speaker 1: See that's a nice ass whooping. That's a good one.

997
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 2: Dinner is for fucking breakfast. That's what you're about to eat.

998
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 2: Y'all gonna eat this food?

999
00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 1: No, See my ex is different, like he was gonna

1000
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 1: force them to eat whatever I cooked. But my food

1001
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:10,839
Speaker 1: was always good. Them niggas would wake up, he'd beat

1002
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 1: I gave him some bullshit. They waiting for me to

1003
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 1: get up so they can say like, no, we want

1004
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: your breakfast. I have literally forced myself to eat some

1005
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 1: shit I didn't like. While I'm watching the boys cry

1006
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: about having to eat this bullshit they daddy don'et cooked,

1007
00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:29,239
Speaker 1: and I'm forcing myself to eat it so they don't

1008
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:33,200
Speaker 1: have to eat it by themselves. We always beat abused.

1009
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 2: All right, let's go to the next call.

1010
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:40,240
Speaker 1: Let's see what we're talking about.

1011
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 8: Hello calling to answer the question when I let my

1012
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 8: man ex husband whatever significant other discipline our child. Answer

1013
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:53,359
Speaker 8: is no, No, I would not, just because I don't

1014
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:55,399
Speaker 8: know how and even if I didn't know that, Hell,

1015
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:59,360
Speaker 8: I don't know that. Hell, I love that. You know,

1016
00:51:59,640 --> 00:52:01,759
Speaker 8: me and my man did not work out, and you know,

1017
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 8: he moved on and I moved on. I would love

1018
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:06,759
Speaker 8: to have a great coparent relationship with not only him

1019
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 8: and I but with our significant others. But I think

1020
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 8: that disciplining my child physically is like where I draw

1021
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:15,640
Speaker 8: the line because it can be a teaching moment for me,

1022
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 8: maybe like a pop pop and lay it down for her.

1023
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 8: So where I would think like, oh, hey, this is

1024
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,759
Speaker 8: not a you know, a whoop situation. This is a

1025
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 8: situation where I like have a conversation.

1026
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:26,359
Speaker 6: You know.

1027
00:52:26,480 --> 00:52:29,400
Speaker 8: It may be like like a situation where she's just

1028
00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 8: like going straight to a whoop, and that's not I

1029
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 8: don't So I would prefer that, you know, she had

1030
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:39,280
Speaker 8: a conversation with me and like that kind of situation,

1031
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 8: she just call me up and be like, hey, this

1032
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,759
Speaker 8: is going on, and then I can decide, you know,

1033
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:45,839
Speaker 8: what I'm going to do with my child and that moment.

1034
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 8: So yeah, and I still I don't know that home

1035
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 8: have a good one.

1036
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 1: You see, I don't know that whole like why we

1037
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:58,239
Speaker 1: even have that type of energy for the for the

1038
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 1: other person, what is going on between you and this

1039
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 1: man's relationship. I'm not talking about her in particular, but

1040
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: this is a lot of women. I don't know that whole, Like,

1041
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 1: why don't you know that whole? This hole is around

1042
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:10,200
Speaker 1: your child.

1043
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:11,719
Speaker 2: Why do you need to know that whole?

1044
00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, and I don't want to know that whole.

1045
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 1: That's terrible, Like I need to know everybody that's around

1046
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: my child because women are predators as well. Okay, I

1047
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:26,960
Speaker 1: need to know everybody. So at some point, somebody got

1048
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 1: to be an adult. May it be him, the new girlfriend,

1049
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 1: slash or wife or you. Somebody has to be the

1050
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 1: bigger person and have these conversations. Okay, so there's no

1051
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 1: confusion on what needs to be happening.

1052
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 3: Right So in that relationship, she was like, I'm not

1053
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 3: talking to her until she apologized to me, And I

1054
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:51,600
Speaker 3: was like, but you need to just let bygones be bygones,

1055
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 3: because you ain't getting an all apology.

1056
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 2: Let's just move.

1057
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:56,319
Speaker 3: Forward for the sake of the kids. Let's just have

1058
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 3: these conversations about the kids. We can do that, but

1059
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:00,640
Speaker 3: in an apology, you will get.

1060
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:02,799
Speaker 1: What you was needing to apologize for. What did you cause?

1061
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:04,440
Speaker 2: I cussed her the fuck out?

1062
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 3: Why because she was talking about me in his phone

1063
00:54:08,960 --> 00:54:11,840
Speaker 3: and I've seen it, so I call her motherfucking ass

1064
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:14,839
Speaker 3: And I was like, since you got so much to say, bitch.

1065
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:19,480
Speaker 1: So now she's trying to make you, now the new girlfriend,

1066
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: bow down. No, we ain't doing that.

1067
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 2: Right, I'm not buying down to you.

1068
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 3: Let's just move forward, because you already was out your

1069
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 3: mouth phone and that's why I had to come correct you.

1070
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 2: That's why I was. I didn't want no smoke with you,

1071
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:33,919
Speaker 2: but you asked for it. So let's just move forward

1072
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 2: and let's talk about these kids.

1073
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:41,920
Speaker 1: Shame, all right, let's see next caller.

1074
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:47,280
Speaker 4: Yes, so if the dad is an active father, meaning

1075
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 4: he takes full responsibility of the child with the mother,

1076
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 4: then yes, I would be open to his girlfriend or

1077
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:59,880
Speaker 4: wife discipling the child. If he's not an active father,

1078
00:55:00,680 --> 00:55:02,279
Speaker 4: then I would not be open to it.

1079
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:05,360
Speaker 1: I mean he probably if he's not an active father,

1080
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:08,720
Speaker 1: and you just he only sees his kid like once

1081
00:55:08,800 --> 00:55:09,760
Speaker 1: every few months.

1082
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 2: Type and then a bitch beating them.

1083
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:14,040
Speaker 1: No, that's crazy.

1084
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 3: I'm coming over there with a gun for everybody, because

1085
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 3: why he ain't seen this baby in seven months.

1086
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:23,360
Speaker 1: You can't even beat this kid.

1087
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:28,640
Speaker 2: Right, she come home, Toby, I got beat what that's crazy?

1088
00:55:29,000 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 3: This should be a happy experience. We don't know what's

1089
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:31,880
Speaker 3: gonna happen again.

1090
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 1: Yo. Keep the kids from non active parents and active

1091
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 1: and active parents.

1092
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:44,839
Speaker 3: No, because we want them to become active parents. So

1093
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:46,879
Speaker 3: you want to let them see their parents as much

1094
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 3: as possible. But please don't put your hands on them.

1095
00:55:48,880 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 3: If you're not present, that's insane. They gonna hate you.

1096
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:56,279
Speaker 3: You already don't come around, and you beat me when

1097
00:55:56,280 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 3: I do see you're saying.

1098
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:02,440
Speaker 1: You know, Meg Scholar.

1099
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:07,800
Speaker 9: So can the baking dead, current wife or living girlfriend

1100
00:56:07,840 --> 00:56:10,879
Speaker 9: discipline the child physically? One of the CONTI that is

1101
00:56:10,880 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 9: is I know that I don't feel comfortable physically disciplining

1102
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:17,920
Speaker 9: someone else's children that I might be seeing. So with

1103
00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:20,359
Speaker 9: that said, I probably wouldn't be comfortable with someone doing

1104
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:23,720
Speaker 9: that with mine. I feel like if both living parents

1105
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,800
Speaker 9: are present, there's no need for me to step in physically.

1106
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 4: I should be.

1107
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:31,919
Speaker 9: Able to verbally reprimand them or give them some types

1108
00:56:31,960 --> 00:56:35,960
Speaker 9: of consequences. If I am playing a part in helping

1109
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 9: to raise them, but to physically discipline them. I feel

1110
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:41,759
Speaker 9: like I would I would rather leave that up to

1111
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 9: the two living parents, because at the end of the day,

1112
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 9: these children I didn't give birth to, they have two

1113
00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 9: living parents. They can handle that peace. But if I

1114
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 9: do have to be a part of their lives in

1115
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:57,960
Speaker 9: raising them, then I would like to think that at

1116
00:56:57,960 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 9: the very least I can verbally or some other productive

1117
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 9: way of reprimanding them, I think that could take place. So, yeah,

1118
00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 9: I can't see myself fell uncomfortable physically reprimanding somebody else's

1119
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:11,280
Speaker 9: kids me either.

1120
00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not comfortable reprimanding any kid, though maybe my

1121
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 1: own or someone else's. That's the only point I'm really

1122
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 1: trying to make. I think, if you yourself practice corporal

1123
00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:27,560
Speaker 1: punishment on your child, how do you then get mad

1124
00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:29,160
Speaker 1: when somebody else doesn't.

1125
00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:31,720
Speaker 2: Because it's my child, it's not their child.

1126
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just weird to me. Nobody should be hitting

1127
00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 1: a child. All right, we got one more caller and

1128
00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 1: we're gonna rap it up.

1129
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 5: I think it really just depends on the relationship that

1130
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 5: you have with that child, because some of these girlfriends

1131
00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:54,280
Speaker 5: have been around since the kid was a baby. But

1132
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 5: then again, you are just a girlfriend. You're not even

1133
00:57:57,000 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 5: at a wife. But I have had a man who

1134
00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 5: had his kids with me, like twenty four seven. He

1135
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 5: really just put this responsibility on me because his mother

1136
00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 5: wasn't around, so I was just kind of helping him out.

1137
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:17,320
Speaker 5: And it would be times when his daughter was really

1138
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 5: just out of line, and you know, he had been

1139
00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 5: with me all the time, and it's like with my kids,

1140
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 5: I am disciplining them. You know, I would spank them,

1141
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 5: and his kids he didn't want me to spank them.

1142
00:58:33,080 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 5: But it's like, you're leaving these kids with me twenty

1143
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 5: four seven, and you know, because he had to work

1144
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 5: or go out of town or something, and you don't

1145
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:49,080
Speaker 5: want me to spank them, But I'm speaking my kids.

1146
00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 5: I don't know, Like I said, it just depends.

1147
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 3: Why the fuck you got these kids so long? That's

1148
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:58,840
Speaker 3: how I used to be feeling, why the fuck I

1149
00:58:58,880 --> 00:58:59,600
Speaker 3: got these heirs?

1150
00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:00,400
Speaker 7: So oh.

1151
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:04,480
Speaker 1: Yo? Leaving your kids with somebody for twenty four hours

1152
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:07,480
Speaker 1: is wild, okay, longer than she was, like he going

1153
00:59:07,520 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 1: out of town?

1154
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 2: Where is they?

1155
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:11,680
Speaker 1: Mama? One of my friends, one of my good friends,

1156
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 1: this guy's to date, we're still really good friends. But

1157
00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 1: he has a daughter. When I tell you, she's such

1158
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 1: an angel, she is the sweetest little girl. She's so brilliant,

1159
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 1: Like I could not see anybody not liking her. And

1160
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: this girl he was dating was like really like telling him, Oh,

1161
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 1: you baby her too much and you do too much

1162
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 1: for her. Like literally his daughter was sitting next to

1163
00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 1: him because they're at Thanksgiving with her family. The baby

1164
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:44,080
Speaker 1: don't know anybody else. She's seven years old. She doesn't

1165
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 1: know anybody else at the house. Of course, I'm staying

1166
00:59:45,840 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 1: up underneath my dad. This bitch waits until she moves

1167
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 1: to like take her seat by her dad, and she's like,

1168
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:55,240
Speaker 1: can I have my seat back? Like she was playing

1169
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 1: in these type of games with a little girl. And

1170
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:01,120
Speaker 1: when I tell you, I'm so she was jealous the baby, Yes,

1171
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:04,680
Speaker 1: where's this bitch? I was feeling so bad because like,

1172
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:06,480
Speaker 1: where is this bitch? And I don't want to be

1173
01:00:06,520 --> 01:00:10,800
Speaker 1: with your daddy, But I love you nonetheless, but I

1174
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 1: did not like the fact that it was a woman

1175
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 1: mistreating this little angel, right, bitch, I'll beat you up

1176
01:00:18,200 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: about that girl. But yeah, man, you gotta be Yeah,

1177
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 1: you gotta be careful with women. You do. You do

1178
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:31,520
Speaker 1: have to be careful with people. But that's where communication

1179
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:34,520
Speaker 1: comes in. At You know, somebody has to be the

1180
01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:39,040
Speaker 1: bigger person and have the hard conversations so that everybody

1181
01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 1: is on the same page. You cannot just pull up

1182
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:44,760
Speaker 1: at my door because Tammy was like she would have

1183
01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:46,200
Speaker 1: beat the bitch up as soon as she got to

1184
01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: the house.

1185
01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's because I would have made it very

1186
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:49,960
Speaker 3: clear how I felt about it.

1187
01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:52,600
Speaker 2: It wouldn't have been like I didn't know. No, you

1188
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:55,400
Speaker 2: knew exactly like what was up when it came to

1189
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 2: physical punishment for my child. Now I got to do

1190
01:00:57,800 --> 01:00:58,600
Speaker 2: the same thing to you.

1191
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:01,760
Speaker 1: And as the girl, old friend or wife I was,

1192
01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:04,360
Speaker 1: I said I would beat that bitch ap as soon

1193
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:05,480
Speaker 1: as I opened my door.

1194
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:12,439
Speaker 3: Or got beat up, whichever one k first. Bible one.

1195
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 3: That don't mean you're gonna win. That don't mean you're

1196
01:01:15,720 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 3: gonna win. Because I'm listen.

1197
01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 1: You might not have to fight. You might have got shot,

1198
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:23,720
Speaker 1: not a kid, you had a parent, you ain't got

1199
01:01:23,720 --> 01:01:25,240
Speaker 1: You ain't the only one with a gun.

1200
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:28,280
Speaker 2: Like your kid.

1201
01:01:28,560 --> 01:01:30,760
Speaker 3: You ain't the only one with the gun. Don't put

1202
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:33,280
Speaker 3: your hands on my baby. But that's just a conversation

1203
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 3: that needs to be had, you know, prior to very

1204
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:37,600
Speaker 3: clearly with all parties involved.

1205
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:42,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. Keep your hands off little people.

1206
01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:43,960
Speaker 1: That's my last last.

1207
01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, little kids.

1208
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 1: Children have half the life experience experiences of an adult.

1209
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:53,440
Speaker 1: You cannot expect them to know what you know. You're

1210
01:01:53,480 --> 01:01:56,200
Speaker 1: gonna have to repeat yourself a thousand times. You gotta

1211
01:01:56,240 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 1: have patience when dealing with little people. Keep your cool.

1212
01:02:00,360 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 1: The people who I see yelling and cussing their kids

1213
01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:05,880
Speaker 1: out in public, I think you're a problem more than

1214
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:09,480
Speaker 1: that kid. Yeah, because how did you let the kid

1215
01:02:09,520 --> 01:02:10,040
Speaker 1: get you there?

1216
01:02:10,480 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 2: And then?

1217
01:02:11,240 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 3: But you know, these kids will work your last fucking

1218
01:02:13,480 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 3: nerve though. They will, they'll take you to the outer limits.

1219
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:19,720
Speaker 3: I remember one time we were in Belgium, me and

1220
01:02:19,840 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 3: my sister, all her friends came and everybody took their kids,

1221
01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 3: and my niece was just had the soul of Satan

1222
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:28,440
Speaker 3: in her that day.

1223
01:02:28,480 --> 01:02:31,800
Speaker 2: I don't know, she was just missing. She was behaving

1224
01:02:32,120 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 2: so terribly. Oh my god.

1225
01:02:33,680 --> 01:02:36,600
Speaker 3: And my sister came to me, She's like, I need

1226
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 3: you to get your niece and I need you to

1227
01:02:38,680 --> 01:02:40,920
Speaker 3: get her to fuck away from me because I'm going

1228
01:02:41,280 --> 01:02:43,840
Speaker 3: to jail today. And I knew my sister was at

1229
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,640
Speaker 3: her wits end, and she's a very patient person, like,

1230
01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:49,400
Speaker 3: she's very non violent and very patient. But I knew

1231
01:02:49,440 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 3: that in that moment that I needed to get my

1232
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:53,720
Speaker 3: niece very far away from her because she.

1233
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:54,720
Speaker 1: Was about to die.

1234
01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 2: I don't know, man, So the kids will take you there.

1235
01:03:02,280 --> 01:03:04,560
Speaker 3: She had like the smallness take and everything that she

1236
01:03:04,600 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 3: could do bad, she was doing it.

1237
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 2: God damn, sit your motherfucking ass down somewhere.

1238
01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:11,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, man. And this also it also goes back to

1239
01:03:11,800 --> 01:03:15,600
Speaker 1: like you shouldn't be doing it by yourself. You know

1240
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:18,200
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, You shouldn't be having to parent by yourself,

1241
01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: because I think it gets even more frustrating at that

1242
01:03:22,200 --> 01:03:26,960
Speaker 1: point because you're always the disciplinary, You're always having to

1243
01:03:26,960 --> 01:03:29,760
Speaker 1: be the responsible person in this situation, like where is

1244
01:03:29,800 --> 01:03:33,880
Speaker 1: the other parent? So I can I see where the

1245
01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:37,240
Speaker 1: frustration comes from when raising children without having to be

1246
01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:40,520
Speaker 1: a parent myself. I'm definitely a mom. I'm a mother

1247
01:03:40,680 --> 01:03:44,200
Speaker 1: at heart. Yeah, But I think the longer you live

1248
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 1: without having kids, you see what, I feel like both

1249
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 1: you and I would be very very good parents. I

1250
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:54,960
Speaker 1: don't think we have a lot of time to see

1251
01:03:55,000 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 1: what the fuck we ain't about to do with these

1252
01:03:57,320 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 1: goddamn kids. I feel like when you treat kids like adults,

1253
01:04:00,480 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 1: they act like adults. When you treat them like a kid,

1254
01:04:04,040 --> 01:04:07,360
Speaker 1: they act like a kid. Right, So I never subscribe

1255
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:10,800
Speaker 1: to the this came out of me, this is mine.

1256
01:04:11,040 --> 01:04:14,360
Speaker 1: I feel like children choose their parents. We don't choose

1257
01:04:14,360 --> 01:04:18,040
Speaker 1: and choose our children. So you have to realize that, yes,

1258
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:19,640
Speaker 1: you did give birth to this thing, and as you

1259
01:04:20,160 --> 01:04:25,000
Speaker 1: are responsible for this gift. Also, I just remember growing

1260
01:04:25,080 --> 01:04:27,720
Speaker 1: up and never feeling like I had a place to

1261
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:30,680
Speaker 1: live because it was my mama house, my mama, my my, my,

1262
01:04:30,840 --> 01:04:33,160
Speaker 1: my mind. That's how I felt growing up. I don't

1263
01:04:33,200 --> 01:04:36,040
Speaker 1: ever want my kid to feel like they don't belong somewhere,

1264
01:04:36,080 --> 01:04:39,080
Speaker 1: or like it's a privilege to be here, because it's not.

1265
01:04:39,240 --> 01:04:42,760
Speaker 1: They didn't ask to be here. You are responsible for them, right.

1266
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:44,560
Speaker 3: But you also don't want your kid to grow up

1267
01:04:44,560 --> 01:04:47,520
Speaker 3: in title and acting like they don't understand the value

1268
01:04:47,520 --> 01:04:49,960
Speaker 3: of what you're providing them. You know, I'm providing this

1269
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:51,680
Speaker 3: for you, and I want you to understand that it

1270
01:04:51,720 --> 01:04:54,240
Speaker 3: is a luxury to have these things because some people

1271
01:04:54,320 --> 01:04:56,200
Speaker 3: don't have them, so you need to appreciate them.

1272
01:04:56,400 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 2: And that's as such.

1273
01:04:57,640 --> 01:05:00,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, balance, So it got to be balance

1274
01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:03,439
Speaker 3: because you don't got no you come you slamming the door.

1275
01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:04,800
Speaker 3: You don't have no door.

1276
01:05:05,240 --> 01:05:07,360
Speaker 2: You don't have no door. That's my door.

1277
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:10,000
Speaker 1: Door.

1278
01:05:10,200 --> 01:05:12,440
Speaker 2: They ain't got no door. They don't have a door

1279
01:05:12,480 --> 01:05:12,920
Speaker 2: to slam.

1280
01:05:13,000 --> 01:05:15,480
Speaker 3: Yet, when you buy a door and you pay for it,

1281
01:05:15,480 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 3: you can slam that motherfucker to come off the hedge.

1282
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:22,800
Speaker 3: But in here, no yo, we used to break my

1283
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:25,880
Speaker 3: old Take the door down you, I will take it.

1284
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 2: You come home from school, won't be no door. Your door,

1285
01:05:30,040 --> 01:05:32,920
Speaker 2: your door on craigs List, your door on eBay. Baby,

1286
01:05:33,080 --> 01:05:35,520
Speaker 2: you don't have no door no more. Please don't play

1287
01:05:35,560 --> 01:05:35,800
Speaker 2: with me.

1288
01:05:37,640 --> 01:05:43,000
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, hands off the moytherfucking churring. You ain't my daddy,

1289
01:05:43,920 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 1: my mama. The minute the kid tell me that shit,

1290
01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 1: they can't come to my house no more.

1291
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:52,600
Speaker 2: You're not my dad. Remember that, y'all.

1292
01:05:52,600 --> 01:05:55,360
Speaker 1: Listen, hold on before we go. I remember when I

1293
01:05:55,400 --> 01:05:57,520
Speaker 1: was leaving my eggs now, I was taking the girl

1294
01:05:57,560 --> 01:05:59,920
Speaker 1: because I eat a lot of things people don't eat, right,

1295
01:06:00,240 --> 01:06:02,400
Speaker 1: So I'm not taking like things out the refrigerator that

1296
01:06:02,480 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 1: I know they would eat. I'm taking things that I

1297
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:06,840
Speaker 1: know they don't eat that will just go bad.

1298
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:08,120
Speaker 6: Girl.

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Speaker 1: Why is little nigga standing at the thresholder the kitchen, like,

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Speaker 1: why are you taking all our food? I was like,

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Speaker 1: you know you just like your fucking daddy. Bye. Nobody

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Speaker 1: taking all y'all food that I bought. The fuck bile

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Speaker 1: they waiting taking all the food they Likad said, bye, Lance,

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Speaker 1: he ain't have no loyalty to me, boy like you

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Speaker 1: and my daddy eat together no more.

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Speaker 2: All right, bye bitch, But don't take the cinnamon toast

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Speaker 2: crunch bitch. All right, y'all.

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Speaker 1: If you enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in every Thursday

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Speaker 1: on the Black Effect Podcast Network. iHeartRadio Apple, wherever the

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Speaker 1: fuck you get your podcasts at. This is your co

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Speaker 1: host aj Holiday two point zero On Instagrams. Kick it Tam,

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Speaker 1: y'all's Tam Bam, y'all. I just want to say that

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Speaker 1: I'm getting finer every day. Y'all need to hop on

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Speaker 1: my page and get on this herbal life and get

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Speaker 1: you all life together and join my close friends because

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Speaker 1: these girls are getting it together and summer is on

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Speaker 1: the way.

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Speaker 3: Log in, look at my page, join me, join me.

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Speaker 3: I want you all to be my friend and let's

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Speaker 3: do this together. Y'all is official tam band. Remember to

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Speaker 3: speak now.

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Speaker 1: And never hold your motherfucker herbal life on this goddamn podcast.

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Speaker 2: Have a good dinny.

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