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Speaker 1: All right, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: and if you need advice on dating, work, sex, parenting

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Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Buckle up an hold

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Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is

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Speaker 1: a Strawberry letter. All right, thank you. Subject my husband's

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Speaker 1: supportive secretary, Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for fourteen

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Speaker 1: years and we have two sons. My husband is a

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Speaker 1: middle school principal and I work full time in an office.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me. My husband and I have a great social life,

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Speaker 1: and we used to focus on keeping the romance alive

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Speaker 1: in our marriage, but my boys are very active in

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Speaker 1: sports now, so it's hard to find time to hang

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Speaker 1: out together. It has not affected my husband's social life

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Speaker 1: at all, though he still hangs out after work and

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Speaker 1: I have a big issue with who he chooses to

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Speaker 1: spend his time with. He has been going out with

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Speaker 1: his secretary to have a quick dinner or just to

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Speaker 1: grab a drink, as he says. His secretary is married too,

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Speaker 1: but her kids are grown so she doesn't have to

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Speaker 1: rush home after work. After the first couple of times,

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Speaker 1: the two of them went out. I went up to

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Speaker 1: the school and had a talk with both of them.

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Speaker 1: She told me that they are merely co workers and

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Speaker 1: good friend that tell each other everything. He told me

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Speaker 1: that I should not have come up there and that

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Speaker 1: there was nothing going on. Later, when he got home,

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Speaker 1: he was angry with me and told me that I

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Speaker 1: don't support who he is as a black man, and

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Speaker 1: the secretary is easy to talk to. She listens to him.

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Speaker 1: I was furious and humiliated. Meanwhile, he's hanging out after work.

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Speaker 1: I am running around with our boys, making sure there

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Speaker 1: at all of their practices and games. But I'm not supportive.

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Speaker 1: I really need some good advice before I ring his neck.

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Speaker 1: Please help go ahead and ring his neck? Go ahead,

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Speaker 1: because he is wrong. I mean, your husband's out of order.

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Speaker 1: He's ignoring everything you're telling him, just doing whatever he

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Speaker 1: wants to do with his so called best friend and

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Speaker 1: very supportive secretary. I think your husband's disrespectful and he knows.

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Speaker 1: Should you have gone up to his job? No, no,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't have gone up to his job because you

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Speaker 1: know that could cause him to get fired or whatever,

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Speaker 1: depending on you know what happened after that. But he didn't,

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Speaker 1: So that's okay. If you guys can't work this stuff

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Speaker 1: A telling line in the letter, he said a couple

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Speaker 1: of them, I don't think that you don't support who

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Speaker 1: with anything? Right? But yeah, he tried her, didn't he

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Speaker 1: try her? Yeah, he tried it. And but this is

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Speaker 1: a real telling line. The secretary is easy to talk to.

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Speaker 1: She listens to him. Yeah, that was a very telling line,

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Speaker 1: and you had every right to be furious and humiliated.

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Speaker 1: He's not listening to you. She listens to him. But

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Speaker 1: he's not listening to you at all. And where he

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Speaker 1: wants your support? Where's his support? You're the one running

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Speaker 1: around with the boys making sure they're at all of

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Speaker 1: their practices and games. Isn't that something that usually the

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Speaker 1: dad does or you guys do together, you both support

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Speaker 1: your children. Meanwhile he's at the club, hanging out doing

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Speaker 1: his thing with his secretary. No, this is wrong, and

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Speaker 1: your and your husband is wrong. He's not supporting you

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Speaker 1: as a black woman, as a black wife, as a mother,

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Speaker 1: as a lover all of these things. Okay, he's wrong.

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Speaker 1: He needs to get it together, and I'm all for

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Speaker 1: you ringing his next, Steve, Well let's start with this

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Speaker 1: feeling good. All he gonna do is go over there

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Speaker 1: because she listens. Here you is ringing next. Now I

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Speaker 1: and listener pushing me. You're just making it easy for

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Speaker 1: the clean up woman to get your man's love. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: that song was written for you. Now let me walk

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Speaker 1: you through it. Steve, you wrong on this one. Whatever,

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Speaker 1: it's a letter out people here to He wrong for that.

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Speaker 1: You and your husband have a great social life. We

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Speaker 1: Well you ain't gonna do that no more. See you

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Speaker 1: don't have to focus on keeping it alive no more. Oh,

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Speaker 1: his his ears is live here, dealer out drinking. His

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Speaker 1: social life is live. But you're boys is actively in sports,

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Speaker 1: I ain't coming home. I'm going to grab some dinner

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Speaker 1: and a quick drink with this girl. Dog. Say that

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Speaker 1: out loud, act like you're on the phone. Baby, it's me. Hey,

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Speaker 1: how you doing? Hey, listen, I'm fit to go grab

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Speaker 1: And how does that sound crazy? So after they did

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Speaker 1: you what happens. It ain't did it. We come back,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna go over what God said to your face?

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Speaker 1: What you miss that didn't get said to your face?

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Speaker 1: Let the chests say amen, Amen. All right, Coming up

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response to My Husband's Supportive Secretary

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Speaker 1: at twenty three after the hour, right after this, you're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject my

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Speaker 1: husband's supportive secretary. Then used to have a social life.

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Speaker 1: They worked on and everything. But they got these two boys.

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Speaker 1: They had sports, so you relegated yourself to taking them

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Speaker 1: Her husband his social life good because he going out

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Speaker 1: know who this stupid as a husband is yours. You're married.

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Speaker 1: But there ain't no where in the world I'd have

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Speaker 1: she ain't got to rush home after work. Now, they

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Speaker 1: good friends that can tell each other anything. So I

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Speaker 1: guess the part about him being married to his best friend.

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Speaker 1: and that that was nothing. Go, you shouldn't have came

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Speaker 1: up hill talking to both of us. Right, chew up hill, fault.

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Speaker 1: Ain't nothing going on now. Later, when he got home,

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Speaker 1: he came in to dough mad with you, like he posted.

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Speaker 1: Because what I'd have told you, ladies, the best defense

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Speaker 1: not crazy. You look you know what the people say,

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Speaker 1: Then you're all up at the school, coat open. You

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Speaker 1: second time having drinks and dinner, really ain't got nothing

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Speaker 1: The ain't got nothing to do with being a good,

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Speaker 1: So quit tripping, he lying. But then he said, and

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Speaker 1: She said, I was furious and Humilia. See it really

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Speaker 1: who you mad too. It's stupid, behaud. He wanted them

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Speaker 1: over educated dudes. He's so damn he's so damn smart.

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Speaker 1: He dumb. I'm going out to dinner with this woman.

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Speaker 1: We haven't dinner in drinks. Then you come up down time.

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Speaker 1: I talked to about what she said. We talked about it.

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Speaker 1: They yeah, coup because she listens to me. Meanwhile, he's

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Speaker 1: ring his neck. First of all, what you're gonna when

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Speaker 1: you say ring his neck, what that means? It ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna stop nothing. You already man, you didn't came up

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Speaker 1: I know you didn't already thought it, because if you

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Speaker 1: don't wrote the letter women think of everything. I know

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Speaker 1: you're gonna call her already, Oh, already married? Do you

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Speaker 1: think that I already notice what she gonna do? Dog?

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Speaker 1: She didn't wrote this letter. She fings in there and

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Speaker 1: stuff about her damn self. Car. Oh everybody know about

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Speaker 1: this dog. I don't see. I ain't seen. Nobody won't

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Speaker 1: do that. Yeah, Oh, did your husband know y'all going

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Speaker 1: he understands. As part of my work. I'm telling you

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Speaker 1: agree with this? Right? No? So so that's why she

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Speaker 1: gonna tell the ladies husband. Now the lady husband gonna

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Speaker 1: educated dudes. We are square, dude. He came in and

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Speaker 1: punched me. I wasn't looking. I'm they're educating children and

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Speaker 1: asked me, was I Howard? Of course I couldn't lie.

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Speaker 1: I said yes something, mister Howard, and plat out right

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Speaker 1: say that once when he was talking to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: on his radio show and he just said plat out

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Speaker 1: right in my eye. It hurt like all heck, and

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Speaker 1: I'm pressing charges. We gotta go email us, Instagram, not

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Speaker 1: even if she looks like you've described her, all right,

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Speaker 1: email us or Instagram. She looked like me, I know,

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Speaker 1: good hair wear him wanting Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey.

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Speaker 1: F M. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show