1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: Fred's show is on Fred's Biggest Stories. 2 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 2: Of the Day. 3 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 3: So I flew Delta for the first time. I'm going 4 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:11,480 Speaker 3: to Salt Lake City. I've never flown Delta my whole life, well, 5 00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 3: because I've never lived anywhere where you needed to fly 6 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 3: Delta or you really could. You know, Arizona, the Phoenix 7 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 3: is American, a US Air before that or whatever American, 8 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 3: and then a Dallas American for the most part, Charlotte 9 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 3: American for the most part. 10 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 2: I mean literally, I don't even know if they have 11 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 2: I don't. 12 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 3: Know if they have maybe two flights out of Phoenix 13 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 3: to Atlanta or something on Delta. 14 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 4: Do cities have specific airlines they kind. 15 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 3: Of love, see, well, they have, they have big hubs 16 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 3: where like you know, for example, well like if you 17 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 3: live in Chicago, you go to Midway, you're basically only 18 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 3: flying Southwest out of Midway. Basically, yes, there's a couple 19 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 3: other airlines, but like you're talking on one or two 20 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,520 Speaker 3: gates like Porter and a Velo, And I think there's 21 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 3: one Delta flight that goes to New York or something 22 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 3: back and forth all day. But whatever the case may be, 23 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 3: I've just never really had the occasion. But Salt Lake 24 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 3: City is a Delta hub, so I flew them. I 25 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 3: had a very nice experience. Some people last week didn't 26 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 3: have as nice as an experience, but they did walk 27 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 3: away and they're going to get thirty thousand dollars, which 28 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 3: is very nice, in addition to the being gazillions of 29 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 3: dollars in the lawsuit that they're going to be filing 30 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 3: that part two. However, ah Man another bad day for Delta. 31 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 3: A Delta flight bound for South Carolina was forced to 32 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:23,919 Speaker 3: return to Atlanta on Monday win some haze filled the cabin, 33 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 3: just two days after a similar mishap diverted yet another 34 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 3: Delta flight in LA. They were in the air, ninety 35 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 3: nine passengers and crew on board about eight thirty in 36 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 3: the morning. The pilot turned the mowing around and landed 37 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 3: back at the Hartsfield Jackson International Airport. Everybody evacuated on 38 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 3: the slides, no reported injuries. Footage taken before the plane 39 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 3: return shows passengers covering their noses inside the hazy cabin. 40 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 3: The FAA will be investigating a growing number of US 41 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 3: restaurants are responding to the nationwide egg shortage by adding 42 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 3: a temporary surcharge to their egg based meals at some locations, 43 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 3: So Denny's is going to do this a fifty cent 44 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 3: surch charge. Costco and Trader Joe's are taking action as well, 45 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 3: imposing limits on how many eggs one customer can buy. 46 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 3: And this is all because the Avian flu has killed 47 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 3: more than one hundred and forty million egg laying birds 48 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:18,040 Speaker 3: in the country Since twenty twenty two. At least eighteen 49 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 3: point nine million birds have been when is this cold 50 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 3: in the last in the past thirty days. It's a 51 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 3: a burge of dying all the time. That's very sad. 52 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 3: And I'm stuttering about it because I just don't have 53 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 3: enough egg intake in my life. I've just I fanned 54 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 3: them all I started. I bought chickens, and they're just 55 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 3: running around my house right now. I'm waiting for them 56 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 3: to lay their eggs. I'm told they just do that. 57 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 3: I don't know if I need to, Like, do I 58 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 3: need to talk to them about it? Or did I 59 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 3: doesn't anyone else need to be involved? 60 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 2: I mean, do I need to get a coop? 61 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 5: Right? 62 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 2: Do I need a coop? Do I almost said something? 63 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 3: I mean I was Yeah, I almost said something I 64 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 3: shouldn't say, even though it was it's I'm referring to 65 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 3: the animal itself. Do I need males too? Because I 66 00:02:56,600 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 3: only bought feet, I only bought hens. I didn't buy 67 00:02:59,120 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 3: any roosters. 68 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a problem. 69 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 3: Clearly, I don't know what I'm talking about, but my 70 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 3: HOA is going to have a real problem with them. 71 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 3: Seven and ten Americans would support a cell phone ban 72 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:09,239 Speaker 3: in schools. 73 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 2: That's trending today. 74 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 3: A new survey of two thousand American shows that only 75 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 3: twenty nine percent say that they would not support a 76 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 3: ban on cell phones in school. Seventy one percent are 77 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 3: in favor in some form. Fifty percent advocate for a 78 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 3: ban in elementary schools, lessening as people get older. The 79 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 3: biggest reason to support a ban is the worry over 80 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:32,359 Speaker 3: them distracting in lessons and impacting education the phones. That 81 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 3: is followed by overall worry that children are on devices 82 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 3: too much. The biggest reason people wouldn't support it is 83 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 3: that parents skill they should be able to get a 84 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 3: hold of their child at all times. Yeah, I mean 85 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 3: we didn't have phones. No, we didn't have them. No 86 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 3: one had phones. Didn't when I was in elementary school. Well, 87 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 3: phones existed, but we didn't have like. 88 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 2: Your iPhones, do you have a buck? There was There 89 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: wasn't an. 90 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 3: iPhone in nineteen ninety or whenever I was in elementary school. 91 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 3: They didn't exist that I'm sorry to say. 92 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe a pager, but yeah, I. 93 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 3: Didn't have a pager when I was in first grade either, 94 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 3: though that was more of a third grade thing. Home 95 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 3: was to hit me, hit me on the two way 96 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 3: you know, which you've heard me go on this rant before. 97 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 3: But I knew people and then the two thousands that 98 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 3: had those two way pagers that were they're very cool. 99 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 3: It was text message before text message, except the only way. 100 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 3: The only people you could talk to were the other 101 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 3: people that had two way pagers, so not a lot 102 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 3: of people had them, so like, the only person I 103 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 3: could hit up was and I didn't buy one because 104 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 3: I only knew one of the person that had one, 105 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:37,719 Speaker 3: and maybe I wanted to talk to more people than 106 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 3: just him. Of course you know who it is, Cam. 107 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 3: And my friend Billy the Kid had one. Of course 108 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:44,839 Speaker 3: he did. Of course he had one, and that was 109 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:48,159 Speaker 3: that's his name, Billy the Kid, and he had to 110 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 3: have a two way page. I don't know who he 111 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 3: was talking to. Because I didn't know anybody else who 112 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,719 Speaker 3: had one. So but anyway, I guess I don't know. 113 00:04:53,720 --> 00:04:57,560 Speaker 3: I feel like now most classrooms have phones in them, 114 00:04:57,600 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 3: so I would agree though that they've got to be 115 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 3: distract if you're a teacher, Oh yes, God's got to 116 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 3: be distracting for every single kid to have a device. 117 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:07,279 Speaker 2: Right, Like when was there not a band? Like I 118 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 2: had a band all the time I was in school. 119 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 5: It wasn't an option, Like if you got they would 120 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 5: take your phone literally take away. 121 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, if you're a teacher eight five five five nine 122 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 3: three five quickly, I would love to know if this 123 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 3: is an actual issue, because I get it. I mean, 124 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 3: if I'm a parent and I have a child, based 125 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 3: on some of the things that have been happening in 126 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 3: schools over the past decade, I would want to be 127 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 3: able to get to my whole a hold of my 128 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 3: child very quickly. That being said, I can also see 129 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 3: why I wouldn't want my kid to have one in 130 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 3: their pocket because they're going to be doing stuff other 131 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:35,800 Speaker 3: than learning. 132 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 2: Of course, we'll be on TikTok during class. 133 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 4: No, it's hard because like I think about this all 134 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 4: the time for my kid, I'm like I don't know 135 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 4: at what age am I going to get her a phone? 136 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 4: You know, I know most of her little friends are 137 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 4: going to have them at a young age. It's just 138 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 4: the world we live in. But I don't like that. 139 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 4: I don't agree with it. But I know that I 140 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 4: don't want her to be like cast it out because 141 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 4: she don't got a phone, because I was that Kiden 142 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 4: in lighth grade. But I also don't I don't know, 143 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 4: want her to be having access to so much. 144 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 6: A lot of kids now have Apple watches and not phones, 145 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:03,239 Speaker 6: so I can like communicate with them, But you don't 146 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 6: have access to the Internet and all that craziness. 147 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: I like that, so that might be an option. Well, 148 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:10,279 Speaker 2: how do you communicate with no access to the internet? 149 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:14,239 Speaker 2: Was it, wife? I maybe, well yeah, I think browse, 150 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 2: yeah yeah, but it's connected to something, so people could hit. 151 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 6: I just meant, like they can't go on YouTube and 152 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 6: see like a beheading. 153 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,039 Speaker 2: Oh well that's nice. 154 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:25,320 Speaker 3: I mean whenever I look at me, like, I like 155 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 3: the bigger screen typically for my beheading. It's like I 156 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 3: prefer when I'm going to watch the beheading, I use them. 157 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 6: We had no like like boundaries on the internet when 158 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 6: you're a little. 159 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure there aren't any neut either. But yeah, yeah, 160 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 3: when I'm looking at typically, I like to use my 161 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 3: ad inch for that. I mean, I want to really, 162 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 3: I want to capture the moment so scary. 163 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 2: I mean, yes, I would imagine it was. 164 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, putty an apple was just wouldn't do it 165 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 5: for me with that, you know, come on, unlocked, come 166 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 5: on like you know, God, you know, I could look 167 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:00,599 Speaker 5: at adult stuff on my phone, but I'm not watching 168 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 5: a movie on it. 169 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 3: You know, if I'm watching a motion picture, we need 170 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 3: something bigger. But you know, in a pinch, you know, 171 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 3: it's fine. Oh my god, Kaylen. Nothing good can come 172 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 3: from the TikTok trend. And this is another reason why 173 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 3: I guess we don't need phones in the classroom. The 174 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 3: hashtag for this new trend is dropping things on my foot? 175 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 3: What how about we don't? How about we don't make 176 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 3: videos of you dropping things on your foot? A doctor 177 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 3: is having to warn people that a TikTok trend that's 178 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:34,080 Speaker 3: gone viral under that hashtag is leading people disabled for life. 179 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 3: The trend involves people making videos of themselves dropping things 180 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,120 Speaker 3: on their actual feet. They then give a rating of 181 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 3: how much pain the object that was dropped on their 182 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 3: foot caused. One doctor says this trend, which is encouraging 183 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 3: people to drop sharp and increasingly heavy household objects on 184 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 3: their feet, is highly likely to result in foot injuries. 185 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 2: So maybe not. 186 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 3: And Ihop hopes to set a new Guinness World Record 187 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 3: for the most pancake served in eight hours to celebrate 188 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 3: National Pancake Days twentieth anniversary. They're having this in Santa Monica, California, 189 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 3: or at the Pier specifically on Saturday from nine to five. 190 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 3: They hope to serve twenty thousand pancakes and they're inviting 191 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 3: fans across La to take part in the festivities. There 192 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 3: is a charitable angle for every pancake served during the 193 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 3: record attempt, I hop will donate one dollar Defeating America, 194 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 3: benefiting the LA Regional Food Bank and its efforts to 195 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 3: fight hunger in LA County. If you're unable to go 196 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 3: to California, National Pancake Day is on March fourth, and 197 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 3: locations throughout the nation will offer a free short stack 198 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 3: of pancakes from seven am to eight pm. Don't order 199 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 3: an egg mill that'll cost you more. It's National Chocolate 200 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 3: Covered Nut Day and National Clam Chowder Day. 201 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 2: Michael Hi, Michael Hight. 202 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 3: We know how camn feels about it, But how about 203 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 3: cell phones in school? 204 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 1: So I used to be a feature grant that I 205 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: taught five year olds, so they don't really have the phones. 206 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: But I'm against the band I think, you know, teachers 207 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 1: have been having to you know, stop students from passing 208 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: notes all the time. And back when I was in school, 209 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: I had a razor, so I didn't have like internet 210 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: access and all that stuff. But to me, it just 211 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 1: kind of feels like we're faulting the kids just for 212 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: the how phones have changed, you know, just because now 213 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 1: we have iPhones, it doesn't I don't think that it's 214 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: appropriate for teachers to now have band phones from schools. 215 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 1: I think it just falls on teachers to have to 216 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: be able to you know, monitor that as well as 217 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 1: you would like notes in a classroom or things like that. 218 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 1: I'm I'm on the side of like if I if 219 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,719 Speaker 1: my son was in school and I couldn't reach him, 220 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: I'd be pretty pod. I would rather on my son 221 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: be able to have a phone and just let him know, like, 222 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:50,359 Speaker 1: don't use it in school inappropriately. 223 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 3: That's a valid argument, and thank you, Michael, have a 224 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 3: great day, thanks for listening. That's a valid argument about, 225 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 3: you know, wanting to get a hold of your kid 226 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 3: based on all the different things. 227 00:09:57,960 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 2: But you know, kids will never know. 228 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 3: You'll never know know what it's like to rip a 229 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 3: little piece of paper off the side and write and 230 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 3: write a note, or have to write in some form 231 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 3: of code or hieroglyphics, and then have to somehow pass 232 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 3: that to someone across the room not get caught, and 233 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 3: then receive a message back. I mean, these are the 234 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 3: kind of things that kids will never know. Kids will 235 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 3: never know what it's like to have to call a 236 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:21,319 Speaker 3: girl as a boy. Kids will never know what it's 237 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 3: like to have to call a girl's house and their 238 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 3: dad answers the phone, and you're got to navigate through 239 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 3: pops to get to the girl, you know, and dads 240 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 3: would be intentionally intimidating. Now they got the direct line, 241 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 3: they just call the cell phone, Dad's does an answer anymore. 242 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 3: Kids will never understand what that's like, the pressure. Hey Gina, 243 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:43,080 Speaker 3: hey can you hear me? 244 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 2: I can? I can hear you? 245 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:48,480 Speaker 3: So you're a teacher and your antiphone, why. 246 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 7: Even I mean First of all, they cheat all the time, 247 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 7: so like the smallest worksheet and they're just gonna look 248 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 7: up the answers and like not use their brains. But 249 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 7: what's really sad is if there's any downtime, instead of 250 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 7: talking to each other and interacting in like a natural way, 251 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 7: they're just all on their phone. That I want them 252 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:07,560 Speaker 7: to like speak to each other and get to know 253 00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 7: each other and like play a game, you know. 254 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. 255 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:13,559 Speaker 3: Kids will also never know, Gina, how you got to 256 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 3: be more creative and have some ingenuity win cheating. 257 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 2: Kids will never understand this exactly. 258 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 7: But you know what, I just force them. I offer 259 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 7: them extra credit at the beginning of the year, and 260 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 7: if you're on your phone, I take the extra credit away. 261 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,680 Speaker 7: So that seems to work. We're in no phone zone. 262 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 2: There you go. Thank you, Gina, have a good day. 263 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 2: I love that. 264 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 7: Thanks to you guys. 265 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 2: I'm fine with this. I'm fine with this. 266 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, because again, I think most schools have now they 267 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 3: have phones in the classroom, and there are other things 268 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,199 Speaker 3: that we also didn't have back in the day. I 269 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 3: don't think when my elementary school didn't have a landline 270 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 3: phone in the classroom. 271 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 2: None of them did so. 272 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 3: I mean the phone, a cell phone would have been 273 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 3: helpful back then, but now I think there are other ways. 274 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 2: Hey, Julie, Yes, hi Julie, good morning. 275 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 3: So phones in the classroom, a lot of people are 276 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 3: in favor of well, I guess, I guess some people 277 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 3: are in favor of a band. Most people are not, though, 278 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 3: because they want to get ahold of their kid all 279 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 3: the time. 280 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 8: Right. 281 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 9: I am a middle school teacher, and I am completely 282 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:16,520 Speaker 9: against it. I agree with the other listeners of Interact 283 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 9: and all that stuff. Well, just the other week, I 284 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 9: was my students were working on a project, and I 285 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 9: found that one of my students was live streaming in 286 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 9: my class. So I took your cell phone and was 287 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 9: going to turn it into the office. And the next 288 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 9: I talked to the mom. The mom was like, oh, 289 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,880 Speaker 9: thank you so much for taking the phone. And then 290 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 9: the next day that mother stopped traffic morning car traffic 291 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 9: to demand a meeting about me, the teacher taking the phone, 292 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:54,319 Speaker 9: not her son live streaming in class. 293 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 8: Wow. 294 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 2: Okay, wow, yeah, that's you're right. 295 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 3: I mean, whether it's live stream or whether it's watching 296 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:05,599 Speaker 3: YouTube videos, or cheating or or accessing stuff that you 297 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 3: wouldn't you know that no one's watching at home to 298 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:10,440 Speaker 3: see if you're looking at or whatever. I can see why, 299 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 3: you know, having that little device. The other thing is 300 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:14,959 Speaker 3: I used to lose stuff and break stuff in school 301 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 3: all the time, and like I didn't even get to 302 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 3: wear my nicest stuff to school either until I was 303 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:21,320 Speaker 3: older because I mess it up. 304 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 2: And so giving my. 305 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 3: Kid a thousand dollars phone to put in their pocket 306 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:26,079 Speaker 3: to carry around, I don't know about that. 307 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 2: Let's get them a jitterbut they. 308 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:30,680 Speaker 9: They can't even bring a pencil to my class. So 309 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:34,679 Speaker 9: bring a phone out of a right, keep trying that. 310 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 3: There you go, Thank you, Julie, have a good day. Yeah, 311 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 3: they begining like one of those old people phones where 312 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:42,319 Speaker 3: you know, you can call like two numbers. I can 313 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 3: call home and I can call the hospital and that's it. 314 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 10: And I don't know when I was in school, my 315 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 10: parents never wanted to talk to me like it was 316 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 10: you know, you're I'm at school there at work? Oh yeah, 317 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:54,720 Speaker 10: So what do we need to be in constant communication about? 318 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:56,160 Speaker 2: Like if you need the kids? 319 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 10: These kids need to feel the thrill of somebody coming 320 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 10: over to the intercom and saying, you know, Kiki, I 321 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 10: need you to come down to the office, and you 322 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 10: don't know why. 323 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 2: The whole class is like, well, that was because you 324 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:07,439 Speaker 2: were the ringleader of a girl gang, that's part of it. 325 00:14:08,840 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 10: But I didn't have a phone, so I was able. 326 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 10: I was the leader of a movement with no phone. 327 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 2: Just because you were the Griselda Blanco of your middle 328 00:14:16,080 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 2: school moment with no phone. 329 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 10: These kids need to know what it's like to write 330 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 10: a girl. Would you meet my girlfriend? Yes? 331 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 8: Or no? 332 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 2: You know the three old No. I agree. I agree. 333 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 3: There's there's personal contact that the kids don't have to 334 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 3: have anymore, and I think that that they're they're not 335 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 3: as well off for it. You need to know what 336 00:14:34,880 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 3: it's like to have to have the courage to speak 337 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 3: to someone. 338 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 4: Justice for the teachers, like, honestly, I do feel really 339 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 4: bad for teacher. 340 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 10: Yeah, you calling a meeting because your child was live 341 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 10: screaming or streaming in my class. 342 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 3: Oh you're right though, You're right in that when I 343 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 3: would use the phone to call home, it was either 344 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 3: because I forgot something and you were going to have 345 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:57,040 Speaker 3: to drive up and give it to me, like a book, 346 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 3: and it was thirty minutes away from my house. So 347 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:01,000 Speaker 3: if the phone, harang at home. My mom was going 348 00:15:01,040 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 3: to have to do something, come get me, cause I 349 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 3: was trying to say I was sick, because I usually wasn't, 350 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 3: but I was trying to go home, or I needed 351 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:10,920 Speaker 3: money for something. So you're right, those are the three 352 00:15:10,960 --> 00:15:12,960 Speaker 3: reasons that I would have been calling home. And I 353 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 3: don't think anybody wanted to hear him anyway. Yes, so yeah, 354 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 3: you know, how about like an I c B radio 355 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 3: if anyone knows what that is, break or breaker one niner, 356 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. There's a smokey on my 357 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 3: tail and if you don't know that joke, and I'm 358 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:28,880 Speaker 3: sorry for you. The Entertainment Report, next Fresh show, the. 359 00:15:28,880 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 2: Fread Show is on, it's Stay or Go. 360 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 3: So we called Melanie because she wrote us, We booked her, 361 00:15:36,480 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 3: We booked the lady who emailed us. 362 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 2: We called her. 363 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 3: A dude answered, yes, pretty sure, it's the dude we're 364 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 3: talking about right now. So let's just we're just gonna 365 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell you the story getting weird right like 366 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:47,680 Speaker 3: I didn't. 367 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 2: Want to tell him. 368 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 3: Hey, we're leut to talk about your you know, bedroom 369 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 3: prowess or lack thereof, But now we are so we 370 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 3: didn't tell him that. We should have been like, hey, 371 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 3: she wrote us this note about you, and she wanted 372 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 3: us to talk about you on the radio for millions 373 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 3: of people. But how about we just talk to you 374 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 3: about it instead? 375 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 2: What do you think? 376 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:07,080 Speaker 3: Right? So, this is this scenario that she laid out 377 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 3: for us. A woman named Melanie who we now can't 378 00:16:09,560 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 3: get a hold of. She is married and apparently this 379 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 3: dude went on medication to help with anxiety and depression. 380 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 3: The meads are working for him, which is wonderful, but 381 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 3: they have lowered his intimacy drive drastically, and so we'll 382 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,080 Speaker 3: leave it there. Anyone who's ever been on an antidepressant 383 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 3: knows this is a possible side effect. There are a 384 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 3: number of them. There can be issues with drive, there 385 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 3: can be issues with arousal. Is that a nice a 386 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 3: medical way of saying, because you know, I'm not currently licensed, 387 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 3: but we're working to get it back. But anyway, that's 388 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 3: the issue, I guess. She said she's happy that he 389 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:57,800 Speaker 3: feels better psychologically, but physical intimacy is extremely important to 390 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:00,080 Speaker 3: her and she doesn't want to be in a relationship 391 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 3: without it. When she brings it up, her husband gets defensive, 392 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:06,240 Speaker 3: and asks why she would want him off medication that 393 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:09,879 Speaker 3: is helping him, even though he says hits the medication. 394 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:13,720 Speaker 3: She can't help but feel like he is not attracted 395 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:14,600 Speaker 3: to her anymore. 396 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 2: What should she do? 397 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:18,200 Speaker 3: I can tell you this scenario back in the day 398 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 3: before I realized I maybe wasn't supposed to be taking 399 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 3: certain medicines and I stopped for different reasons. I can 400 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 3: relate to this because it does do a little number 401 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 3: on the drive. And as much as you'd show somebody like, look, 402 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 3: here are the actual side effects. Let's look at their website, like, 403 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:39,920 Speaker 3: this is real stuff here that happens when you take 404 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 3: certain It doesn't even have to be psychological medication. It 405 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,199 Speaker 3: could be in a number of different medications. But you know, 406 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:53,640 Speaker 3: medication can change people's what we'll call them sexual what's 407 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:55,120 Speaker 3: the word. I'm trying to come up with a nice 408 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 3: way of saying it. It can change the way that 409 00:17:56,880 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 3: people perform in the bedroom and so. But it's easy 410 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:03,240 Speaker 3: to get inside your head about that, right and be like, well, 411 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 3: of course, uh, this this has to be about me. 412 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 3: You know, everybody else I've been with this is how 413 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 3: they act and this is what happens. But again, the 414 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:15,399 Speaker 3: physiological results or repercussions or whatever you want to call 415 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:18,320 Speaker 3: them of taking medicine. The side effects are real, and 416 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:20,919 Speaker 3: so you know, you have to weigh in this case, 417 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:23,920 Speaker 3: this is helping him feel better as a human being 418 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:26,200 Speaker 3: day in and day out, but it is affecting the 419 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 3: bedroom stuff and it's making her feel self conscious. I 420 00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:33,880 Speaker 3: might argue that while that sucks or doesn't, that's not 421 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:37,400 Speaker 3: really fair for her to necessarily put that on him, 422 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 3: because he's saying, I'm taking this medicine, this is what's 423 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 3: doing it. This makes me feel better. Why are we 424 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 3: making this about you? You know, why are we making 425 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:47,119 Speaker 3: why do I have Why do I now have to 426 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 3: defend my attraction to you? Because I need to do 427 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 3: something that I think is better for my life. And 428 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 3: you know, he could probably go to the doctor and 429 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:56,920 Speaker 3: see if the dosing is right, or see if there's 430 00:18:56,920 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 3: an alternative. Oftentimes you can offset one with another. I mean, 431 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 3: there are different things you can do, and maybe he's 432 00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 3: done that, but I don't necessarily think it's fair that 433 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 3: when he can. I mean, it's scientifically proven that these 434 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:12,440 Speaker 3: are the effects that whatever kind of medicine. I think 435 00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 3: there are other medicines that do this too. I don't 436 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:17,400 Speaker 3: think it's just stuff for anxiety and depression. I think 437 00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:19,879 Speaker 3: other medicines can cause different kinds of side effects. It 438 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 3: could be detrimental to that part of your life. I 439 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 3: don't think it's fair for her to be like, well, 440 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:28,399 Speaker 3: he doesn't think I'm attractive anymore, when that may have 441 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,040 Speaker 3: absolutely nothing there's no proof of that. 442 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,679 Speaker 10: Yeah, I can only speak for what I would do, 443 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 10: and I would not leave my husband over this at all. 444 00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:38,240 Speaker 10: Like I would be so proud of my husband for 445 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 10: figuring out what's going on with him or trying to 446 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,879 Speaker 10: work through his issues getting medicated, like get it. I 447 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 10: would work with him through this entire process, let him 448 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:49,000 Speaker 10: get comfortable with the meds and figure it out, and 449 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,720 Speaker 10: then we can focus on getting our sex life back popping. 450 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:54,919 Speaker 10: Like most importantly for me in a relationship is my 451 00:19:54,960 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 10: partner's mental health. So I would sacrifice anything to know 452 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 10: that my partner is mentally feeling much better before I'm 453 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 10: worried about like why are you not trying to take 454 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,359 Speaker 10: me down? You know, Like it's so much bigger than that. 455 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 10: So I can only say what I would do. I 456 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:10,199 Speaker 10: would not leave my husband over this. 457 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:11,920 Speaker 2: I feel like. That's what she's saying to him. 458 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 3: Basically, though, is this makes me feel insecure, which I'm 459 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 3: sorry about, right, I don't. I'm sure he doesn't intend 460 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 3: for that. 461 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 2: No, but you're trying to get healthy. 462 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,560 Speaker 3: Essentially, I would rather, I'd almost rather that I feel 463 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 3: attractive and you not be comfortable in your everyday life. 464 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 3: That's whether she means to say that or not. That's 465 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:34,360 Speaker 3: what she's saying essentially, is I feel insecure. You may 466 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 3: have a good reason for it. I don't really care. 467 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 3: I don't want to feel insecure, so I need you 468 00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 3: back the way you were. And if that's not, if 469 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 3: that doesn't, if your quality of life suffers from that, 470 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,879 Speaker 3: then sorry, at least I feel wanted. I mean, I'm sorry, 471 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:49,800 Speaker 3: but that's the way that comes off to me. And 472 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 3: it is unfortunate that he has these issues and that 473 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:54,960 Speaker 3: the medicine is causing these issues to his libido. Thank 474 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:56,440 Speaker 3: you for the people who texted that was the word 475 00:20:56,440 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 3: I was looking for. But yet i's a problem. I 476 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 3: realize that's a huge problem. But I think you have 477 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 3: to ask yourself, what's a bigger problem my partner living 478 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 3: every day with crippling anxiety or ruminating or overthinking or 479 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 3: you know, I don't know whatever it is, or me 480 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:21,199 Speaker 3: being reinforced that I'm actually attractive. I don't mean to 481 00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 3: minimize it, but let's let's be honest to you. That's what 482 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:23,919 Speaker 3: we're saying. 483 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:25,960 Speaker 6: So is it like, I mean, I'm saying this as 484 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:28,000 Speaker 6: someone who's on antidepressant. 485 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 2: So obviously I am on his side. 486 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:30,639 Speaker 6: But is it like a wait and see, like do 487 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 6: we just wait for a while while you get stable 488 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:34,159 Speaker 6: and then we try a different medication or is it 489 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,400 Speaker 6: are we agreeing we're not really going to have that 490 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,440 Speaker 6: intimacy ever. 491 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 10: I say, wait and see, wait and see, and then 492 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 10: there's other options. Somebody on the text mentioned like there's 493 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:46,960 Speaker 10: a lot of other things you can do that may 494 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:50,360 Speaker 10: not you know, you can you can get freaky other ways, basically, 495 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,200 Speaker 10: like you know, I don't want to name. 496 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:59,159 Speaker 7: All the way, all the way all the ways you 497 00:21:59,160 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 7: can get freaky. 498 00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:03,439 Speaker 2: I'd like to hear it. That's with a tangent, but 499 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:10,719 Speaker 2: campy oil trim with me, because that's more importable. 500 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:12,159 Speaker 10: You know, like we could talk about other ways to 501 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 10: please me later once you get healthy. 502 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, and just quickly eight five five five three 503 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,359 Speaker 3: five if you want to chime in on this, on 504 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 3: this situation, Yes. 505 00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 4: Paulina, I'm curious, like not even talking about the sex life, 506 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,720 Speaker 4: but does the medication affect you in other ways, either 507 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,119 Speaker 4: our our caller's boyfriend or like people who are on it, 508 00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:31,160 Speaker 4: like Kyln, Like, does it affect you, know the other ways? 509 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,200 Speaker 4: Like when I was taking stuff for because I'm add 510 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,400 Speaker 4: they were giving me something to take, right, and I 511 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 4: was just a full on zombie all day. Nothing to 512 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:39,600 Speaker 4: do with my sex life, but I just didn't like 513 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 4: how I felt sleep. 514 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:44,159 Speaker 3: I mean, there's a ton of side effects sleeping, sweating, okay, 515 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:49,520 Speaker 3: poor sleeping appetite. I mean, there's a million differences, and 516 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:53,399 Speaker 3: unfortunately they don't all show up in everybody consistently, and 517 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:57,160 Speaker 3: there's not there's not a clear path to to you know, 518 00:22:57,160 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 3: knowing what's going to happen, knowing what medicine is going 519 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,359 Speaker 3: to do what, and then knowing how to upset it. 520 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 2: It can be tricky. Yeah, it can be tricky, of course, 521 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:04,720 Speaker 2: and it probably is. 522 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 4: And I only suggest this if it's affecting his day 523 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,480 Speaker 4: to day, right, maybe he's losing his personality or whatever 524 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,360 Speaker 4: it might be, Right, I think that's a. 525 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:15,440 Speaker 6: Misconception that a lot of people think if you take antidepressants, 526 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 6: a lot of people think, oh, it's going to numb 527 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 6: you out. It's going to numb you out. And yes, 528 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,159 Speaker 6: some of them can. Obviously, that would be the wrong medication. 529 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 6: They're wrong dosage. You know me, I am not numb, 530 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:26,560 Speaker 6: I cry, I'm happy, I can get angry, like I have, 531 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,639 Speaker 6: all the range of emotions. Absolutely, So if it's numbing 532 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,439 Speaker 6: you out or making you a zombie like adderall for example, 533 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 6: or whatever which is mine. 534 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:36,119 Speaker 2: You should switch medication. It shouldn't make you like that. 535 00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:40,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, he probably needs to at least examine tweaking into 536 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,400 Speaker 3: the dosage you're trying. I mean, is he that would 537 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:45,280 Speaker 3: be my question. Is he trying different things? Because I'm sure, 538 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 3: And that's another thing that people don't seem to take 539 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:50,239 Speaker 3: any consideration. I bet he don't like it either, right 540 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 3: of course. 541 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:53,119 Speaker 2: You know. Another issue that people have. 542 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:59,680 Speaker 3: Hypothetically is that they are excited to be there there's 543 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 3: just no finish, And that throws people off too, because 544 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,400 Speaker 3: it's like, oh, you know, I can't we can't get 545 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:09,520 Speaker 3: to the end. And it's like, trust me, I would 546 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:10,880 Speaker 3: love it, you know what I mean. 547 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 2: I'm trying to get there now. I'm a people. Please. 548 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 2: They don't even know. 549 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 3: I'm not saying like, I'm not saying this is easy 550 00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 3: and it would mess with me too. But if I 551 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:24,920 Speaker 3: love someone and I've seen the effects of whatever they're 552 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,639 Speaker 3: dealing with, whatever their medical condition is, it doesn't have 553 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,120 Speaker 3: to be psychological. And you're telling me this medicine makes 554 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:35,119 Speaker 3: your life better, which I think will ultimately make my 555 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 3: life better, then I got to be more understanding than 556 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:39,879 Speaker 3: I want to be because it's not about me. And 557 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 3: I think once you start projecting, oh, I'm unattractive or 558 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:44,639 Speaker 3: I'm not good in bed, or I'm not doing this stuff, 559 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:48,119 Speaker 3: it's just so unfair because this is this isn't up 560 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:51,720 Speaker 3: for interpretation. It's scientific, like, this is what the medicine does. 561 00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 3: It's been proven. 562 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:54,320 Speaker 6: Yeah, I would like to tell her if I could 563 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:55,359 Speaker 6: talk to her again, I don't know. 564 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:56,920 Speaker 2: We can just call this guy and tell him. 565 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:02,119 Speaker 6: There is a mouth swab that they offer now that 566 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 6: shows you how you metabolize each medication, so it gives 567 00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,120 Speaker 6: you a green zone, a yellow zone, and a red zone. 568 00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 6: Do not take a might work for you? And will 569 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 6: you can metabolize this? I did that it helped me 570 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 6: on my journey of knowing what works best for me, 571 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:16,199 Speaker 6: so that's helpful. 572 00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 2: That's also an option I feel for both of them. 573 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 3: I just think it's like, please, don't make this something 574 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:22,280 Speaker 3: that it probably isn't. 575 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,520 Speaker 2: Right making it about you sort of. 576 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, so now now I have to deal 577 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,440 Speaker 3: with this and prove to you that I'm still attracted 578 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 3: to you even though I am and always have been, 579 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 3: or I have to just deal with my condition, whatever 580 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 3: it is, and then I guess you'll feel better. I 581 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:44,120 Speaker 3: don't know about that. Hey, Elizabeth, Hi, Hi Elizabeth, Hey, 582 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 3: good morning. What do you want to say. 583 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 2: Mine? 584 00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 11: I'm totally anti farm so I don't like any of 585 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,399 Speaker 11: the part of cicles for a period of reasons. And 586 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:57,199 Speaker 11: also I'm like, that's the gramma of You're thirteen, so 587 00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,479 Speaker 11: I'm antey for my body is physically changing. And I 588 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 11: also had a relapse. Sublime to see Brendaitya of COVID 589 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:08,399 Speaker 11: and my guy he kind of stopped wanting to touch 590 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,840 Speaker 11: me stuff. I thought it would be as well, but 591 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:14,119 Speaker 11: he said, I didn't know how you were a pained. 592 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:17,200 Speaker 11: You were having emultions and all that, but he didn't 593 00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 11: want to lead you, but I didn't want to crush it. 594 00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:23,399 Speaker 11: And that was like a year ago, and it's like 595 00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:25,640 Speaker 11: in the last couple of months that it's the fact agreed. 596 00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,880 Speaker 3: So I say, see, okay, so you're saying, let's see 597 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:32,600 Speaker 3: how this, Let's just be patient and see over time 598 00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:36,400 Speaker 3: if things change or you know, make adjustments. 599 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,080 Speaker 11: If you love him, then understand that he's going to 600 00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:43,120 Speaker 11: do some things and not be so self censered about it. 601 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,919 Speaker 3: Okay, thank you, Elizabeth, have a good day, and we 602 00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:48,560 Speaker 3: don't care. You can be one hundred as long as 603 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,080 Speaker 3: you're part of the thirteen. It does it, but it all, 604 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:56,080 Speaker 3: it all counts, and it all matters. Hi, Michael, Hey Michael, 605 00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 3: So you can relate to this. 606 00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 8: I can. I'm being a a similar situation with my partner. 607 00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 8: He's been on anxiety depression meds for quite a while, 608 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 8: and you know, it's hard because it's it's a no 609 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:19,240 Speaker 8: win situation. You know, I think instinctually or everybody longs 610 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 8: to want to have that feelings. I can sympathize with 611 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,920 Speaker 8: her because this is for me, has been going on 612 00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:28,639 Speaker 8: for quite some time, and I choose to stay. But 613 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:33,119 Speaker 8: it's not an easy it's not an easy task to 614 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 8: stay because I say, because I love him and I 615 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:40,200 Speaker 8: understand that it's not his fault. But if she chooses 616 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,119 Speaker 8: to stay, it's going to take a lot of work 617 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:46,000 Speaker 8: to continue to stay. 618 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sure it's not easy, but I would encourage 619 00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,960 Speaker 3: her not to make this about her because it isn't 620 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:53,280 Speaker 3: It probably isn't. 621 00:27:55,400 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 8: I agree it's not about her, but you can't fight that. 622 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 8: That feeling of even if you take it as a 623 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 8: further just wanting to have, you know, more sex or 624 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:11,000 Speaker 8: your sex drives, is obviously still normal and healthy. So 625 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:17,240 Speaker 8: that that makes it very hard to kind of process everything. 626 00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:20,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, thank you, have a good dake God you called. 627 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:21,680 Speaker 10: Thank you. 628 00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,439 Speaker 3: Well, I'm not trying to be vague, but you know, 629 00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:25,840 Speaker 3: I'm a pilot and there's a whole list of things 630 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 3: we're not allowed to take as pilots. And I didn't 631 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:30,560 Speaker 3: know that much younger in my life, and so I 632 00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,919 Speaker 3: don't anymore. But I may have and I have been 633 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 3: in relationships for people basically have said to me, stop 634 00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:37,600 Speaker 3: taking it because I need that. 635 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 2: Oh, and I can. I'll be honest with you. 636 00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 3: It was the end of the relationship when that happened, 637 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,000 Speaker 3: because what you're saying to me is I don't care 638 00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,200 Speaker 3: about your quality of life. I need to feel wanted 639 00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:50,120 Speaker 3: more and you're not. And you're so not only are 640 00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:54,040 Speaker 3: you not fulfilling me, but I'm not concerned with your 641 00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,920 Speaker 3: well being. Is what the person saying to you, whether 642 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,840 Speaker 3: they mean it or not. And again, I'm sorry that 643 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 3: people feel that way when someone's not feeling well or 644 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 3: going through a bodily transition or a life transition, or 645 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 3: they're taking medicine and had side effects. That sucks. I'm sorry, 646 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 3: But isn't that sort of the nature of a relationship. 647 00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,480 Speaker 3: Is that if I'm working to try and fix it 648 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 3: and I am trying my best to make you feel wanted, 649 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 3: don't you want what's best for me? 650 00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:19,960 Speaker 1: Yeah? 651 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:22,280 Speaker 10: Yeah, But I do think as partners we do have 652 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 10: to have a plan in place, because my feelings matter too. 653 00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 2: And I just I'm getting this from the text. 654 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 10: Somebody said that they were in this situation and it's 655 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:31,560 Speaker 10: been five years that they haven't really been intimate because 656 00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:33,719 Speaker 10: of the same reason, and she's like, well, how much 657 00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 10: longer should I wait? That's the real thing, And as 658 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:39,479 Speaker 10: a partner, you have to work together so you know, 659 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 10: put his mental health first right now, but you know, 660 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 10: come together for a game plan in the future to 661 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 10: kind of figure out how you can please your partner, 662 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,160 Speaker 10: because five years. 663 00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:48,560 Speaker 3: Five years no intimacy. And by the way, I don't 664 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:51,600 Speaker 3: know that we're talking about no intimacy. I hope. I mean, 665 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 3: I think we're talking about different intimacy or more limited 666 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,240 Speaker 3: or some of the things we've talked about. No intimacy, 667 00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:58,240 Speaker 3: intimacy in five years. 668 00:29:58,280 --> 00:29:58,720 Speaker 2: That's tough. 669 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, that is, that's really different. You're gonna have to 670 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 3: I would agree. You got to figure out some kind 671 00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 3: of work around. Hey Jamie, Hi, guys, Hi, good morning. 672 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 3: What do you want to say this to a woman 673 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,880 Speaker 3: who we basically we wound up calling the guy that 674 00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,480 Speaker 3: we're talking about right now, and then we pretended that 675 00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:17,440 Speaker 3: we were a telemarketer and we starts speaking at less right, 676 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,240 Speaker 3: And so basically, though, this guy is on some medication 677 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 3: that's affecting his libido, and this woman's upset about it, 678 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,480 Speaker 3: and she said, I don't feel as attractive anymore, even 679 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 3: though I know he's on the meds, And like, I 680 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:27,560 Speaker 3: don't know what to do. 681 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:31,760 Speaker 12: What do you think, Well, I've been on anxiety medicine 682 00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:35,320 Speaker 12: for a long time, and this was an issue for 683 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:39,040 Speaker 12: me to lower text drive, and of course it was 684 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:44,320 Speaker 12: brought up and I was really offended and hurt, and 685 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,840 Speaker 12: it was an issue for a while, and then thankfully 686 00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:51,360 Speaker 12: I switched medicine so I could get pregnant. And now 687 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:55,720 Speaker 12: this medicine is the right one for me because everything 688 00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:59,280 Speaker 12: has returned to normal. But she definitely needs to give him, 689 00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:02,440 Speaker 12: like timed to figure that out and face to breathe 690 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 12: and just feel good for a while before this becomes 691 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:09,080 Speaker 12: an issue that she would leave him over. 692 00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I agree. Thank you, Jamie, have a 693 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:15,200 Speaker 3: great day. Thanks for listening too. Appreciate you sharing people 694 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,240 Speaker 3: have texted. Birth control can do this too. I've actually 695 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:23,480 Speaker 3: read about women changing birth control and becoming essentially resistant 696 00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 3: to their partner, like all of a sudden, they don't 697 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 3: smell good or they don't like going off. 698 00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:29,680 Speaker 2: It can do that too. Some of my friends have 699 00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:30,360 Speaker 2: experienced that. 700 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 3: Like we're all of a sudden there, it's like they're 701 00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 3: somehow revolted by the very same thing they were attracted 702 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,600 Speaker 3: to prior and because of pheromones or hormones or something, 703 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,080 Speaker 3: and it's like that's a problem, right, we got to 704 00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,440 Speaker 3: work through that somehow, But I mean to say, like, well, 705 00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 3: you better take those hormones to make me feel I 706 00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:49,440 Speaker 3: mean again, five years, that's a long time. But from 707 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 3: my reaction to be initially, I don't care what's best 708 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 3: for you or your body because I don't feel wanted. 709 00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:56,720 Speaker 2: That's not the way to approach it. 710 00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:01,360 Speaker 3: I don't think, Hey, Cassandra, Hi, so you're coming at 711 00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:03,640 Speaker 3: this from the perspective of a mental health therapist. 712 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 2: What do you think? 713 00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,440 Speaker 11: Yeah, so I've actually worked with clients, and I have 714 00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:12,440 Speaker 11: parental experience. I used to be on anti anxiety medication 715 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:14,719 Speaker 11: and depression medication before. 716 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:17,160 Speaker 8: I think she is. 717 00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:20,640 Speaker 11: Being incredibly selfish in the situation, and I know that 718 00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:24,080 Speaker 11: sounds very harsh. However, I believe she needs to do 719 00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 11: some self exploration as to like why this is making 720 00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:31,400 Speaker 11: her feel so insecure. And the beautiful thing about like 721 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,120 Speaker 11: medication and therapy is that it could be done like 722 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,200 Speaker 11: in tandem, so he could potentially get to the point 723 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,680 Speaker 11: like if he goes to therapy, he gets the coping 724 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,280 Speaker 11: skills for his anxiety and depression, and he gets to 725 00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,320 Speaker 11: the point where I'm like where he's like, hey, like 726 00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 11: I feel like I don't need to be on medication anymore, 727 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:50,480 Speaker 11: there's very much a possibility, but that work needs to 728 00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:54,560 Speaker 11: be done prior to that happening. So that way he 729 00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 11: has that foundation in place, he has all those tools 730 00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:00,640 Speaker 11: in place to help him with his data day life. 731 00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:05,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, Cassandra, thank you, have a good day. 732 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:06,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love you too. 733 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,160 Speaker 3: Again, I don't mean to make it seem like her 734 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:12,120 Speaker 3: needs don't matter, but again, I think when you from 735 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,680 Speaker 3: personal experience, when you approach somebody with Okay, well, this 736 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 3: isn't working for me, even though it's best for you. 737 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 3: And we're talking about your health and your and your 738 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:23,920 Speaker 3: quality of life. We're not talking about, uh, you know, 739 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,480 Speaker 3: whether you cut your all your hair off or shaved 740 00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 3: your beard off, or change your job or you know. 741 00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,400 Speaker 3: We're not talking about things that are I'm not going 742 00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:33,920 Speaker 3: to call them trivial, but things that can be adjusted 743 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,760 Speaker 3: or there's compromise. I mean, again, do you want me 744 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 3: to live this way forever? If I need this, or 745 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,720 Speaker 3: do you want to or do you need me to 746 00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,600 Speaker 3: reinforce that? I like you, I'm with you, I want 747 00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,160 Speaker 3: to be here, I want to do those And I 748 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,720 Speaker 3: think by by taking that perspective, you're also not giving 749 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 3: any consideration to this person and how they probably feel 750 00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:57,280 Speaker 3: about that, because trust me, it's not fun. It's not 751 00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,400 Speaker 3: fun to do the deal and not get the deal 752 00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,640 Speaker 3: at the end the deal and then. 753 00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:04,400 Speaker 2: Not the deal. Familiar with both deals. I want the deal, 754 00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,840 Speaker 2: you need the deal, the deal. How do you think 755 00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:11,040 Speaker 2: I feel? How are you getting the deal? That would 756 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:12,040 Speaker 2: be that's torture. 757 00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,040 Speaker 3: Like yeah, when I was like, you know, twenty and 758 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,200 Speaker 3: a strong wind would come by and and it, you know, 759 00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,200 Speaker 3: was over, I really would have I would have dreamed 760 00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:21,000 Speaker 3: for that scenario. 761 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:25,399 Speaker 2: You're right over there. She's crying, get the deal man. 762 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:27,240 Speaker 3: Well, no, I get the deal. This is this is 763 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:29,440 Speaker 3: this is old news. The deal has been I got 764 00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,799 Speaker 3: the dough. I found the deal. No, I don't say 765 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:34,440 Speaker 3: I found out I wasn't supposed to be doing that. 766 00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:36,800 Speaker 3: I'm not doing that, And I figured out other ways. 767 00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:39,240 Speaker 3: I did therapy and whatever else. Excuse me, professional coaching. 768 00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:41,040 Speaker 3: I mean, I go to professional coaching. 769 00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,400 Speaker 2: You've got a lot of rules and regulations. I'm just 770 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm gonna. I'm just here so I 771 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:47,479 Speaker 2: don't get fined. 772 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,200 Speaker 3: Let's see the entertainment report next in two minutes, Shelley, 773 00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,359 Speaker 3: if you want to take her on five hundred bucks? 774 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:53,839 Speaker 2: Is the price? 775 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:57,680 Speaker 3: Eight five five five three five Call now we'll play 776 00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:58,399 Speaker 3: next Fred Show