WEBVTT - I Don't Owe You Sh*t

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Can't Believe, Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio,

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect. Hey, what's going on everybody? So

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<v Speaker 1>today it's gonna be a little different. I have something

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about and I am going to vent. It's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be a rant. There is no story time.

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<v Speaker 1>The whole thing is me just getting this ship off

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<v Speaker 1>my chest because I'm a little upset. So I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how many of you have seen on the blog

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<v Speaker 1>the Jazzmine brand, they did a story covering my upcoming

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<v Speaker 1>debut on Couple's Retreat. I'm going to be on a

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<v Speaker 1>show with my boyfriend. Yes, I have a boyfriend. Why

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<v Speaker 1>didn't you guys know? It's because it wasn't the right

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<v Speaker 1>time for you to know. Honestly, I didn't think that

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<v Speaker 1>the blogs will grab this ship this fast because the

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<v Speaker 1>show is not even supposed to air until Bruary twenty one,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a week after my birthday. So this gives

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<v Speaker 1>me and my boyfriend a lot of times to prepare

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<v Speaker 1>for our outing, right, So listen, I know exactly how

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<v Speaker 1>the internet can be toward people. I was into public

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<v Speaker 1>relationships prior to this one. Okay, I wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>this one a little different. I like him. I like

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<v Speaker 1>him a lot, he likes me, and that's how the

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<v Speaker 1>funk We're gonna keep it. We're together, we're enjoying the

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<v Speaker 1>moment that we are in. We're moving forward, We're getting

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<v Speaker 1>to know each other better so this ship can last,

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<v Speaker 1>which I have a lot of optimistic hopes about. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna say who it is, because if you

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<v Speaker 1>really care enough, you'll do your research. I said, the

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<v Speaker 1>blog is the jazz my brand. If you don't find

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<v Speaker 1>leave us the funk alone until y'all can't leave us

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<v Speaker 1>alone anymore. This is what I really want to vent about. Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I have family, I have friends, I have associates. I

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<v Speaker 1>have some people that are closer than others who called

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<v Speaker 1>me and decided to fucking vent to me about something

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<v Speaker 1>that I could be doing for them instead of taking

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend of only a few months on TV. There

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<v Speaker 1>were certain conversations that I deemed necessary to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>in my episode because this is carefully reckless and if

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<v Speaker 1>I can be real with anyone, it is my motherfucking fans,

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<v Speaker 1>it is my listeners, it is my supporters, the people

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<v Speaker 1>who listen to me every day, the very people who

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<v Speaker 1>will judge me, but not directly to my fucking face.

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<v Speaker 1>And I appreciate that because I don't know you and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know me. All you know is that you

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<v Speaker 1>love jess Hilarious. This is why I wake up and

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<v Speaker 1>do this ship every day. I'm talking about not even

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<v Speaker 1>just my podcast, my life, my fucking career. If I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not doing something for Ashton, I'm doing it for you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why I felt that I owed you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>Another side of me. All people know me for being

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<v Speaker 1>is je hilarious, very loud and oh clap back all

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<v Speaker 1>She's gonna scratch your ass if you say something about her.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh she's been canceled plenty of times. She just doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck. She's a hood bitch. She's this, she's that,

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<v Speaker 1>she's radget but no one sees the other side. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>the other side is Jessica Moore. I'd love for people

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<v Speaker 1>to know who I really am. I do not saying

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<v Speaker 1>that Jessilarious is not me at all, but just Hilarious

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<v Speaker 1>is a character, right, Just Hilarious is young Jessica Moore

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<v Speaker 1>before I actually like grew up, very unapologetic, very insensitive. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>still have a good heart, always had a good heart.

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<v Speaker 1>Got that from my mama. But I am still a

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<v Speaker 1>feminine woman, very soft, very vulnerable. I love I like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel. Just because I don't show it to you

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<v Speaker 1>guys online does not mean I am not emotionally available

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<v Speaker 1>and I am. I know that I am. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>cry baby. I love attention. I love to be spoiled.

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<v Speaker 1>I love all of that. Spoil me with your affection,

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<v Speaker 1>drown me and your fucking love, all that violent ship

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<v Speaker 1>that no one thinks that I am capable of feeling

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<v Speaker 1>or even liking, because all you see is what I

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<v Speaker 1>show you, and I haven't shown you that side. That's

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<v Speaker 1>where you'll get to see in this show. Back to

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<v Speaker 1>my ranting, I hate the fact that there are some

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<v Speaker 1>people in my life that just feel so fucking entitled

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<v Speaker 1>that they have to blame me for everything that's not

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<v Speaker 1>going right in their lives. And I won't say any names.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't go as far as saying any names, because

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<v Speaker 1>these people ultimately will know who they are if they

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<v Speaker 1>even listen to my podcast, and you know, a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of them don't. But I can count on you, guys

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<v Speaker 1>to pass the word and the world will get around

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<v Speaker 1>and the world will get around, and this person will

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<v Speaker 1>tell this person and then they'll have no other choice

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<v Speaker 1>but to come. Listen. How can you call yourself my

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<v Speaker 1>friend and you say shipped to me? Like I've set

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<v Speaker 1>back and I've watched you create jobs and create wealth

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<v Speaker 1>for other people, and I've just been sitting here and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't even I have a clothing line. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to get off the ground. And and why why do

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<v Speaker 1>I have to sit here and struggle with like you

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<v Speaker 1>leaving me here in the pits? What the funk are

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<v Speaker 1>we talking about here? You're a grown ass man, you're

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<v Speaker 1>a grown ass woman. Get the funk up off your

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<v Speaker 1>ass and go start from the fucking bottom like me,

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<v Speaker 1>Start from the fucking bottom. Go and do that. No

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<v Speaker 1>one even fucking knows you. Well, how the fuck am

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<v Speaker 1>I going to give you fame? How? This is why

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<v Speaker 1>you guys don't see me with a lot of fucking people.

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<v Speaker 1>And the people that you do see me with, or

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<v Speaker 1>you have seen me with, I slowly but surely weed

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<v Speaker 1>them the funk out, and then you may see me

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<v Speaker 1>with a person you've never seen me with before. Why?

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<v Speaker 1>Because everybody needs friends, everybody needs friends. It's up to

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<v Speaker 1>you to choose the ones that you need or to

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<v Speaker 1>keep around, the ones that you keep sucking attracting. But

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<v Speaker 1>everybody needs friends, everybody needs a certain energy to match theirs.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's all about your mood, It's all about

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<v Speaker 1>your personality. It's all about even take. You're not supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to just keep giving and giving and giving and giving,

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<v Speaker 1>and the other person is taking and taking and taking,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you look up and you're like, damn, well,

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<v Speaker 1>what the funk do you do for me? Other than

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<v Speaker 1>come around with your eluding, fucking presence? What do you

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<v Speaker 1>do for me? That's what I have to ask myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I got so many calls and fucking text messages hating

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<v Speaker 1>on the fact that I decided to take my new

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend on a v H one show. You've only fucking

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<v Speaker 1>known him for a couple of months. You've only and

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't only known him for a couple of months.

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<v Speaker 1>We're both from Baltimore City. I've known this guy for

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<v Speaker 1>at least five plus years. Actually, his little brother was

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<v Speaker 1>one of my good friends, and I didn't even know

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<v Speaker 1>that that was his brother. Listen, that's so craziest, It's

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<v Speaker 1>so funny, y'all. Hear about that on the show. But

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<v Speaker 1>anyway back to my ship? How can you feel so

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<v Speaker 1>fucking entitled to tell me any of this ship? I

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<v Speaker 1>got old guys that I used to talk to. Never

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<v Speaker 1>mind you, none of these guys were even my boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know everybody has somebody that they talked to

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<v Speaker 1>a talk to situations. Damn, I wasn't good enough. How

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<v Speaker 1>you gonna take yo on TV? I wasn't good enough.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even understand the ship that is coming out

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<v Speaker 1>of your fucking mouth. The ship that is coming out

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<v Speaker 1>of your mouth is saying, Jess, you're supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>my come up. Y'all don't even know that ship is

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<v Speaker 1>seeping through your voice. That's even louder than the actual

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<v Speaker 1>words that you're saying. Jess, you're supposed to put me

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<v Speaker 1>on Jess, You're supposed to be my come up so

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<v Speaker 1>I can use you up and then abuse you and

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<v Speaker 1>then fucking leave you. You're supposed to be my come up.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a fucking reason why I ain't fucking with either

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<v Speaker 1>one of your niggas no more. I even have a

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<v Speaker 1>friend that hits me about the new friend that I've

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<v Speaker 1>been around. If you have been paying attention to me

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<v Speaker 1>and then you will see I have a new friend.

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<v Speaker 1>This girl's energy is prophetic. I love it. It's her

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<v Speaker 1>fucking energy. She does something for me as well. No

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<v Speaker 1>fucking homo, because I know everybody's mind is gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>straight to the God. I'm not gay. I have a boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh but no, her energy is fucking needed. It's necessary.

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<v Speaker 1>All I've been fucking surrounded by here and there are

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<v Speaker 1>fucking leeching devils. Seriously, I'm so fucking sick of it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I hate to say it, but I fucking hate people.

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<v Speaker 1>I do, and that ship feels so good when I

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<v Speaker 1>say it. Maybe that's toxicity in its own right, but

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<v Speaker 1>I fucking hate people. Why Because the same exact people

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<v Speaker 1>who tell you, oh, I love you, Oh I'm always

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<v Speaker 1>there for you. Oh I I've been here since day one,

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<v Speaker 1>have fucking betrayed me, and I let you back in

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<v Speaker 1>my fucking life. Let's not sit here and act like

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<v Speaker 1>you're fucking married the saint and you haven't done anything

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<v Speaker 1>to make me question why the funk I'm even still

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<v Speaker 1>around you? Are you serious? Fuck you? I can't stand

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<v Speaker 1>people now. Let's kick it over to a brief break.

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<v Speaker 1>All I do is put the fucking people that are

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<v Speaker 1>closest to me on all of my YouTube shows that

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<v Speaker 1>do the co parents and therapy with my son's dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Who the funk is he? But I'm trying to put

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<v Speaker 1>them on, right, come on, I have gas on my

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<v Speaker 1>fucking podcast, so you people know who these people are

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. My sister, my best friend, my brother,

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<v Speaker 1>my other friend. I put people the funk on, But no,

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<v Speaker 1>there are levels. There are levels to certain ships that

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<v Speaker 1>I see. Maybe the podcast is not big enough for them.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh maybe them going on my YouTube one of my

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<v Speaker 1>YouTube series is not good enough for them. And then

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<v Speaker 1>not to mention, I'm still making it my goddamn self.

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<v Speaker 1>I still have dreams and things that I want to

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<v Speaker 1>do just by myself on my own v H one

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<v Speaker 1>Couples Retreat was a great opportunity more than me just

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<v Speaker 1>going on there with my boyfriend. Like I said, I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to open up my audience to a different side

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<v Speaker 1>of me. I'm kind of doing it right now, and

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of don't want to do it. I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of want to fucking just continue to be fucking ratchet

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<v Speaker 1>because that's when I get through to everybody. That's when

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<v Speaker 1>everybody is scared to say ship like that to me

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm at my mo scratch at this fucking point.

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<v Speaker 1>But I show a little bit of softness and all

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<v Speaker 1>that ship, and then everybody's like, well, damn, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>here since day one. What the funk makes him so great?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even understand the way that you look at me.

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<v Speaker 1>I see it. I see it clearer. I'm gonna come

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<v Speaker 1>up to a lot of the people that are close

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<v Speaker 1>to me, even when we go out to fucking eat,

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<v Speaker 1>or everybody's just looking looking at me to pay the bill,

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<v Speaker 1>No bitch, if it's fucking six of us and the

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<v Speaker 1>bill of six hundred dollars, cough up a hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 1>every fucking body, or I'm gonna start being like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>I'm broke, or maybe I won't come to funk out

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<v Speaker 1>no more. That's just it. I'm so sick of that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I am a regular human being. I'm not obligated to

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<v Speaker 1>make anyone famous. I'm not obligated to take anyone with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually tried to do that several times, and I've

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<v Speaker 1>got stepped in the back so many fucking times. So

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<v Speaker 1>when y'all text me and send me d M S

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, why him and why not me? And

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<v Speaker 1>all that ship? Think about how many times you've crossed me.

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<v Speaker 1>Think about the ship that I did do for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't fucking forget think about how many times I've taken

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<v Speaker 1>you back into my life. Friend X, whatever, family member,

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<v Speaker 1>whoever I'm talking to fucking everyone. I have two friends

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<v Speaker 1>right now who can't even be in the same fucking

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<v Speaker 1>room together for too long because one is so fucking

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<v Speaker 1>territorial that they don't like when I'm with the other one. Envy, jealousy,

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<v Speaker 1>intimidation for what then I feel like I spread myself

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<v Speaker 1>then trying not to put these two together. It's like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>I love the energy you bring me. I love hanging

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<v Speaker 1>around you, but I can't have you two together because

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<v Speaker 1>then I'm a fucking referee. I know you don't like

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<v Speaker 1>this person. I know you don't like this person, But

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<v Speaker 1>what the funk am I to do? Right? It puts

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<v Speaker 1>me in a fund up place? So what do I do?

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<v Speaker 1>I did that ship. I go get a new friend.

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<v Speaker 1>And that may sound very, very fucking cold. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck. You gotta start doing what you have

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<v Speaker 1>to do for you, because once you stop trying to

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<v Speaker 1>live for everybody else. You free yourself of all the

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<v Speaker 1>standards that people put on you. Like, what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>Why did I even feel bad for a split second.

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<v Speaker 1>One of my friends called me last night and was like, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>you told me that I was gonna be in one

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<v Speaker 1>of your shows. And then I look up and you

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<v Speaker 1>take your fucking boyfriends, even your real boyfriend, on TV.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you doing? How come we didn't even know

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<v Speaker 1>you had a boyfriend, You didn't even post them, but

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<v Speaker 1>you went on the show with them. I felt bad

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<v Speaker 1>for a second, and then I was like, wait a minute,

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<v Speaker 1>fuck you, fuck you for real, because I don't give

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<v Speaker 1>a fuck what you think. I don't care how you feel.

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<v Speaker 1>I need you to understand something about me. I've cared

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<v Speaker 1>so long about how others look at me, and and

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<v Speaker 1>this is news to y'all too, because I know I

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<v Speaker 1>seem so very unapologetic, and for the most part, I am.

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<v Speaker 1>But when it's people closest to me, they know how

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<v Speaker 1>to get under your skin. You may get online and

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<v Speaker 1>you may post a picture and realize that all your

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<v Speaker 1>bad comments come from people you don't know, and you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>fuck them. But when it comes from the people that

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<v Speaker 1>do know you. It's even more fucked up that you

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<v Speaker 1>can say that shit about me or to me. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's entitlement. I can't stand it. I don't owe anyone ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. My boyfriend didn't ask me to take him

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<v Speaker 1>on a show. My boyfriend actually said no a trillion

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<v Speaker 1>fucking times, a billion fucking times, and I had to

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<v Speaker 1>tell him, listen, I want to help you grow your

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<v Speaker 1>fucking brand, because you actually have one, unlike so many

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<v Speaker 1>people that I try to put on who don't have

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<v Speaker 1>any fucking thing going on. But I always want to

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<v Speaker 1>have the most to say. He said no, He said no.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, no, no, no no, no, no, that's your thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the actress, your celebrity, rather not I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to just I've not been on camera. I'm a really

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<v Speaker 1>really popular person, but I've not been on camera, and

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<v Speaker 1>that is not for me. It took me days and

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<v Speaker 1>days of fucking convincing. We weren't even about to do

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<v Speaker 1>it because he was taking so long to see the

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<v Speaker 1>vision that I had for him. Once he said yes,

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<v Speaker 1>once he checked with his child, he talked it over

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<v Speaker 1>with his male best friend, his female best friend to

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<v Speaker 1>get two different perspectives. Once he really, really really felt comfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>which he still did not, he told me yes, and

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<v Speaker 1>that was that. I'm like, I'll coach you. I got you.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to trust me. I'm not gonna have

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<v Speaker 1>you looking bad. I'm not gonna add to you looking

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<v Speaker 1>bad because listen, when this ship comes out, there are

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be people who hate you. There are gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>people who will judge you. There are gonna be people

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<v Speaker 1>that don't even know you that will look at you

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<v Speaker 1>and say anything they want to say. And that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what you gotta be prepared for, because I'm prepared

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<v Speaker 1>for it. There are so many things that I know

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<v Speaker 1>people are gonna say. I don't give a fuck. So

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<v Speaker 1>I convinced him to do it, and he did it.

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<v Speaker 1>He did it for me, and then by the end

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<v Speaker 1>he know he had did it for himself because it

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<v Speaker 1>helped him in so many fucking ways. You'll fucking see.

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<v Speaker 1>For the record, I love helping people who don't ask

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<v Speaker 1>for the fucking all the time. I love helping people

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<v Speaker 1>who I feel like will be better off after I

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<v Speaker 1>help them. I like helping people who can benefit me

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<v Speaker 1>as well. Like my trainer, she's my friend. I always

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<v Speaker 1>knew I wanted to fucking eat better. I just didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have the discipline. I didn't And I knew I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be vegan. I knew that that. I know that's

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<v Speaker 1>like a good thing, a better way of eating eating habits.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it prevents diabetes, it prevents all these fucking generational,

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<v Speaker 1>fucking curses of eating habits and ship. I know that

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to live a million more years being vegan.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just that when I was with Wayne and

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<v Speaker 1>he introduced me to vegan food, that ship was disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I met my trainer, her and her whole family cooks.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like a fucking vegan five star restaurant by themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>That's when I realized. I'm like, oh, so all vegan

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<v Speaker 1>ship isn't nasty. Okay, so now I can eat this ship. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you just have to find what's good for you. I

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<v Speaker 1>love to work out. I have a fitness brand. She's

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<v Speaker 1>a trainer. You see where I'm going with this. It's

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<v Speaker 1>an exchange of not only energy, but business as well.

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<v Speaker 1>We're creating content. She's a professional fucking trainer. I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to do videos just playing around, not even

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<v Speaker 1>really working out, and I will work out after, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you know, no, why not record the real

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<v Speaker 1>workout with an actual vegan trainer who's also helping me

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<v Speaker 1>change my diet, who's helping me meal prep, who's helping

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<v Speaker 1>me with fucking energy. Anyway, because I'm a woman and

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<v Speaker 1>she's a woman, it makes sense. These other people I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be around. If I can elevate you and

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<v Speaker 1>you can elevate me, this is great. If we can

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<v Speaker 1>help each other elevates. These are the people that I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be around. The people who will not use me,

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<v Speaker 1>the people who are not looking at me when the

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<v Speaker 1>fucking bill comes out. No, the people who are not

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<v Speaker 1>constantly asking me why are you hanging with? These people

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<v Speaker 1>hang with me? I hate that. I hate it. I

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<v Speaker 1>have a really really close friend and you know who

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<v Speaker 1>you are, bitch. You asked me you're always with them? Now, like,

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<v Speaker 1>where are you hanging with them? And you have a

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<v Speaker 1>mill jillion fucking friends, Bitch, I don't care. I hang

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<v Speaker 1>with who socially satisfied me. That's what it is. And

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<v Speaker 1>you'll gotta understand in the line of work that I'm in,

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<v Speaker 1>the ship that I do. It's so easy to attract,

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<v Speaker 1>evil people, people who will leach off of you. So

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<v Speaker 1>understand when I recognize an energy and I like it

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<v Speaker 1>and it's great. I hold onto that ship because that

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<v Speaker 1>ship is hard to come by. And just like that,

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<v Speaker 1>we have come to the end of the episode. I

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<v Speaker 1>love you, guys. Keep loving on me, because trust me,

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<v Speaker 1>I do need it. Keep loving me, keep loving me

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<v Speaker 1>for who the funk I am, And on February two,

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<v Speaker 1>you will see the other side of who I am.

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<v Speaker 1>And just like that, we are done. Peace carefully. Reckless

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