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Speaker 2: How can they bond? How can we how can we

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Speaker 1: How can you like something that you like together? Because

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Speaker 1: it's like also dude calling like like, I can't imagine

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Speaker 2: Well, you'll be able to like telepathically.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean yeah, like the metaverse or something. And

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Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, like Grandpa, like tell me about

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Speaker 1: the yachts of your day and you know, and and

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Speaker 2: Yachts will be in the graveyard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I know. I can barely understand what

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Speaker 2: I don't know your goons from your ski ties.

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Speaker 1: I don't know my goons from a skibities true. True.

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Speaker 2: And they say I'm not young.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he's got it. I'm with you know, he's compensating.

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Speaker 1: I mean sorry, he's keeping up watch it. They have

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Speaker 1: I would be breaking my son's house. He's my baby too,

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Speaker 1: with her. And I clarify that to her, and she

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Speaker 1: other better. Talking about it with my psychologist, he told

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Speaker 2: Smart smart.

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Speaker 1: The video game idea is great. Yeah great, I love

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Speaker 1: that idea. It's perfect. This last four days, my wife

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Speaker 1: Great idea. Also, I feel like we're seeing a lot

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Speaker 2: Well, I want to come back.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all caught this, but he said,

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Speaker 1: and being sure you're you're navigating this with poise.

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Speaker 3: That's right, Yeah, poison, prestige, poise and prestige, double peace,

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Speaker 3: double peas someone say app, someone say.

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Speaker 1: A PP, that's how you do it? Yeah, dude, that

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Speaker 1: our friend group is somewhat smart. Everyone laughed at PEP.

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Speaker 1: PEP is a timeless, a timeless comedic stronghold.

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Speaker 2: From kindergarten to the grave, PEP stronghold.

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Speaker 1: PEP will make me giggle internally at least as long

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Speaker 1: When did you leave the lost boys?

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Speaker 2: How is it burying your inner child?

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Speaker 2: But you know what else we love, sam, what healthy communication,

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Speaker 1: We're we're strongholds of scruples. You know. Well, yeah, bring

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Speaker 1: Know we won't. We won't let a little peepe poopoo

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Speaker 1: And we're about to see what happens in this edit.

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Speaker 1: So let's go. Okay, so we got some relevant comments,

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Speaker 1: let's go. We're going to dive in. Commenter says, if

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Speaker 1: I guess two strikes.

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Speaker 2: But ever't desire. I don't know if she can come back,

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Speaker 1: We got an update. I didn't really think about updating again,

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Speaker 1: or like like basically like when you put things in

436
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Speaker 1: the light of truth, darkness and the cloudiness eroads beautiful.

437
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Speaker 1: Something like that, Eddie, can you put all pull up

438
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Speaker 1: that guy lawyer, guy American that said something about putting

439
00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:15,359
Speaker 1: truth into the light like sanitizes something. That might be

440
00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:17,879
Speaker 1: a CHATGEPT question if you all know it, let me know,

441
00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,400
Speaker 1: try to think about it. So, how can you live

442
00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:25,000
Speaker 1: somewhere where you can see a psychologist but airfare is expensive?

443
00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:28,480
Speaker 1: This is a question from OP. Yeah, sunlight lawless of sunlight.

444
00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:32,040
Speaker 1: Here the OP response. I received a notification in my country.

445
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Speaker 1: There's something called Obra Social which gives me and my

446
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Speaker 1: wife and my kids free private healthcare, and therefore also

447
00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:42,840
Speaker 1: we get a psychologist for free. W WW. Flights are

448
00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,200
Speaker 1: only one thousand dollars to Europe, which is still expensive,

449
00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:47,560
Speaker 1: and you have the privilege of earning dollars and not

450
00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:51,320
Speaker 1: having a totally devalued economy. I don't hear many people

451
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Speaker 1: make less than two hundred and fifty dollars monthly. My

452
00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,920
Speaker 1: daughter lives in another continent, not Europe, and OP has

453
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Speaker 1: another update. I just wanted to have one last up

454
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Speaker 1: date before deleting my account. Wow, kriberly finds his Tony Busby.

455
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Speaker 1: I think it might be that, Edie, if you can

456
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Speaker 1: find it, or if someone in Chack can find it.

457
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Speaker 1: I would love to hear that quote again before deleting

458
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Speaker 1: the account, since I don't see the point of continuing

459
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Speaker 1: to have it. My daughter has been living with us. Okay,

460
00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:20,200
Speaker 1: so we're we're now with OP living with her daughter.

461
00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,800
Speaker 1: Wow right, we're now with OPI living with his daughter,

462
00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,160
Speaker 1: which means this is the true test, the true test.

463
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Speaker 1: I love it. This is like going to the top

464
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Speaker 1: of Mount Everest and seeing like, all right, can I

465
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Speaker 1: take the wind? Let's go? Can I breathe? Well? I

466
00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:33,520
Speaker 1: got yeah, maybe a little oxygen.

467
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Speaker 2: But like you probably can.

468
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Speaker 1: Let's see if you can do it saving My daughter

469
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Speaker 1: has been living with me for weeks now. My wife

470
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Speaker 1: and she get along well. Her little brother adores her,

471
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Speaker 1: and they can finally spend time together in person. He's

472
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Speaker 1: really excited to have her home now. My wife has

473
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Speaker 1: been working a lot in herself, and I have noticed

474
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Speaker 1: how much she changed in a good way and how

475
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Speaker 1: a relationship with my daughter is good. I noticed, especially

476
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Speaker 1: when we went to pick up my daughter at the airport,

477
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Speaker 1: and my wife was very excited to see her. They've

478
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Speaker 1: been watching movies together online for months. And I think again,

479
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:08,800
Speaker 1: like this change could only happen because Ope's wife said

480
00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 1: the bad parts, the ugly parts of herself out loud

481
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Speaker 1: to the person that the ugly parts had feelings about Yep.

482
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Speaker 1: And again, I just want to give this quote by

483
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Speaker 1: Tony Busby sunlight is the best disinfectant. And I am

484
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Speaker 1: quite certain the sun is coming, damn saver.

485
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Speaker 2: We ever was doing it with the sun.

486
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Speaker 1: Yeah, shout out to you. Yeah. But this is idea

487
00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:33,480
Speaker 1: of like once you shed truth on something, usually things

488
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Speaker 1: get better.

489
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Speaker 2: I love it.

490
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Speaker 1: So she is no longer jealous of my daughter, and

491
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Speaker 1: although it is a process that takes time, I know

492
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Speaker 1: that she is making an effort. My daughter has not

493
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Speaker 1: started school here, so she will have to wait until

494
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Speaker 1: next year. Anyway, we decided to bring her now since

495
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Speaker 1: in a few months the tickets will be much more expensive.

496
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Speaker 1: It was my wife who told me that she has

497
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Speaker 1: already felt ready to spend time with her in person.

498
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Speaker 1: I was really happy to hear say that. I didn't

499
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Speaker 1: expect her to already feel ready to tell me that

500
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Speaker 1: my daughter lived in a country in Asia, and although

501
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Speaker 1: it was really beautiful in a safe country, it was

502
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:02,639
Speaker 1: very difficult for her to adapt. And they're bullying is

503
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 1: something very serious, which much more towards her who had

504
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Speaker 1: so much difficulty with the language. Sometimes she obviously misses

505
00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 1: her mom, but they text a lot. I try to

506
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Speaker 1: spend as much time as I can with her so

507
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Speaker 1: that she doesn't miss her mother and step father too much.

508
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Speaker 1: I also take her to see relatives, and she has

509
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Speaker 1: met my wife's family as well. But in general, I

510
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,120
Speaker 1: know that she feels happy here, and she has told

511
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Speaker 1: me she misses her grandparents, uncles and cousins. The whole

512
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Speaker 1: family is very happy that she is back here, and

513
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Speaker 1: my wife and I are doing great.

514
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

515
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Speaker 1: I also work to myself by going to therapy. Now

516
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Speaker 1: we talk a lot whenever something bothers us or we

517
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Speaker 1: have some discontent.

518
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Speaker 2: This is great, This is great, This is great.

519
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Speaker 1: I feel like this is exactly how negative a negative

520
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:44,560
Speaker 1: situation should be navigated.

521
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Speaker 2: You know, this is the playbook of the playbook.

522
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:49,680
Speaker 1: This is the playbook. You know, this is the map

523
00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 1: that Sherpa has as he's walking you mount Everest dude

524
00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: like that. I think the key is that we can

525
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Speaker 1: communicate even if they are dark thoughts. I know that

526
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Speaker 1: she is a good person like everyone. She has dark thoughts,

527
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Speaker 1: but she is a good person because she works on

528
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Speaker 1: approving herself and I'm doing that too. I love her

529
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Speaker 1: and I know she's a good mother who wouldn't treat

530
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Speaker 1: my daughter badly. I like to take care of her children,

531
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Speaker 1: take care of them, clean and cook for them, although

532
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Speaker 1: I find it hard to understand that my daughter now

533
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Speaker 1: does all that by herself and I don't have to

534
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:19,720
Speaker 1: do it. But she's still small in my eyes, just

535
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 1: like her brother. Anyway, I'm sorry if it's a boring

536
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 1: update and everyone expects you to be to divorce my wife,

537
00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: but things are like this. Luckily, we are starting to

538
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:30,479
Speaker 1: solve our problems. They now have a relationship of friends,

539
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,400
Speaker 1: and I like if they are happy like that. I'm

540
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Speaker 1: gonna just read Op's response. My wife is not a

541
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Speaker 1: villain who's hiding her evil plan. I prefer to trust

542
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Speaker 1: what I see and know. My daughter feels comfortable and

543
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,520
Speaker 1: happy around my wife, and my wife feels the same.

544
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Speaker 1: My daughter is not paying for anything. She is happy

545
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,119
Speaker 1: and knows that if something bothers her, she can talk

546
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Speaker 1: about it to her mother's stepfather or me. People change.

547
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:53,960
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you've never experienced to see that change. And

548
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Speaker 1: that is where that story ends, a very happy note

549
00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 1: and really, you know, a great blue and for what

550
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 1: what change could look like? You know, this this wife

551
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 1: was was not in our greatest graces initially, not at all.

552
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Speaker 1: No no scruples negative, low scruples low zero percent. Yeah

553
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,040
Speaker 1: she was. She was on loan on our scruples negative

554
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 1: in the accounts. But by the time the story ended,

555
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 1: you know, like she had a good scruple portfolio.

556
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Speaker 3: This is the the needle in the haystack, the diamond

557
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Speaker 3: in the rough that kind of provides starting off in

558
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Speaker 3: a horrible place, but using just communication and you know,

559
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,679
Speaker 3: putting things out in the sunlight, to just keep working

560
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Speaker 3: at it until you either find find out if they're

561
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Speaker 3: really not a great person or if they really can

562
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Speaker 3: you know, pass the test and make it all the way.

563
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Speaker 2: And dare I say it? She passed the test?

564
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Speaker 1: And you know what, I think that's the that's the

565
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 1: whole point of having communication, right because it's like we

566
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 1: are human, we mess up, that's right, And you know,

567
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 1: the whole. Uh, those without Sinding cast the first style.

568
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Speaker 1: No one's casting that first dom because can't nobody doing it,

569
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 1: can't can't body do it right? But I think what

570
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 1: stories like this prove is like when you have open

571
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:08,879
Speaker 1: and honest communication, you can get through things that people

572
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 1: do that are wrong and come out stronger and better

573
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Speaker 1: on the other side.

574
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Speaker 2: It's a beautiful thing.

575
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Speaker 1: It's a beautiful thing. It allows It allows for us

576
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Speaker 1: to grow with people when they make mistakes, rather than

577
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:21,720
Speaker 1: just have a long line of people that we just

578
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 1: cut off in our life. And like, there you go.

579
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Speaker 1: If we do that, we're gonna be super lonely.

580
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Speaker 2: There's there's only so many people.

581
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Speaker 1: There's only so many people, and let's just say not

582
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 1: all of them are perfect. Big Bacs could have said

583
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: it bout myself, but that is where that episode ends.

584
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Speaker 1: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe. We

585
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Speaker 1: love you and see you tomorrow. This is an episode

586
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Speaker 1: from Deep within the Archives.

587
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Speaker 2: Time for okop relam.

588
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Speaker 3: My parents try to cancel my wedding and cut me

589
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Speaker 3: out of their life on my birthday.

590
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Speaker 1: Okop, this is okayop, I'm Samuel daughter, I'm John Fry

591
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Speaker 1: and we tell the funniest stories on Reddit and the

592
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Speaker 1: Internet to John, can you tell me your story they

593
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Speaker 1: have for me today that is going to make me

594
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Speaker 1: raffle in play. It's a little rhyme for your little

595
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Speaker 1: haiku bores bores or bors bores. Thanks.

596
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Speaker 3: My parents tried to cancel my wedding and cut me

597
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Speaker 3: out of their life on my birthday.

598
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Speaker 1: On the birthday. Terrible birthday gift. Happy birthday, not me

599
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Speaker 1: to no one. That's the worst time. Definitely the worst

600
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Speaker 1: birthday gift of all time.

601
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Speaker 3: Guarantee Ajeed agreed. Our parents came to us and offered

602
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Speaker 3: to help pay for our wedding. We didn't just ask

603
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Speaker 3: for money. They offered it after the engagement and wanted

604
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Speaker 3: to help us out financially. Now the debt we are

605
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 3: in is partially our fault. Granted we did get our

606
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Speaker 3: financial information stolen. Never get a loan unless you know

607
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,920
Speaker 3: with complete certainty you can pay it back. Yeah, that's fox, dude.

608
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Speaker 1: Sounds like some bad money management to start this off.

609
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Speaker 1: If only there was a show that we could do

610
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Speaker 1: about crypto and money.

611
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Speaker 3: Foreshadowing a while back, my fiance did leave her job

612
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:04,640
Speaker 3: at the post office because of unsafe working conditions.

613
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 2: Anyone who works there or has worked there can probably.

614
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Speaker 3: Relate to it in some wayoint some of you have

615
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 3: done some digging and seen the situation I was in.

616
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Speaker 3: It's slightly improved since then, as they gave me a

617
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Speaker 3: two dollars an hour raise at work.

618
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Speaker 2: Yikes, not not too MUCHO.

619
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's enough to probably pay off whatever alone you got.

620
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Speaker 2: Yeah, when your raises are in like dollars, it's it's

621
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Speaker 2: not solid.

622
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Speaker 3: Now. My fiance and my family have always been a

623
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Speaker 3: bit rocky when we first started dating because I come

624
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Speaker 3: from an upper class family and she did not. That

625
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Speaker 3: doesn't matter to me, of course, I'm engaged in over

626
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Speaker 3: the moon in love with this woman.

627
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Speaker 2: AnyWho. We are planning on having the wedding next year.

628
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Speaker 3: Just finished our first semnster in film school and got

629
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Speaker 3: approved for an internship this summer.

630
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Speaker 2: Nice.

631
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Speaker 1: Hey, things are looking up. Let's go if.

632
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Speaker 3: We moved out of state for school and have been

633
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Speaker 3: there for about two years. During that time, we have

634
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Speaker 3: had some money troubles trying to make it on our own.

635
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Speaker 3: So we were heading back down to see our family

636
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Speaker 3: for the holidays, and we had made it a point

637
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Speaker 3: to set up a dinner so our dads could meet

638
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Speaker 3: with us and talk about the wedding budget.

639
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 2: Seems straightforward. So we met at a restaurant for dinner,

640
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Speaker 2: her dad and my fiance. We're expecting a conversation about

641
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Speaker 2: a wedding budget.

642
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Speaker 3: First thing out of my parents' mouth is that we

643
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 3: should cancel the wedding all together.

644
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Speaker 1: What cancel the wedding?

645
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 2: Why?

646
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 3: So you're coming here, like, Okay, let's, you know, set

647
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 3: the budgets, make sure you know, we stay in line.

648
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 2: And they're like, we're let's cancel this wedding.

649
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 1: Let's know, let's not do it all together.

650
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Speaker 3: Now, keep in mind, this is a full year from now,

651
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Speaker 3: after we would be done with school and in our

652
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 3: new job. They want the wedding called off to focus

653
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 3: on us being more responsible with our money. But at

654
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Speaker 3: this point they haven't even looked at our budget yet,

655
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 3: so they don't even know what bills that we have

656
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 3: to pay. Her dad who already paid for the venue,

657
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Speaker 3: so her dad has already put money down.

658
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Speaker 1: Well, and the upper and like and like, the upper

659
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: class family isn't going to do it.

660
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 2: Yes, the upper class family is.

661
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Speaker 1: Wow.

662
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Speaker 3: So the owerclass dad has all ready put his money down.

663
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 3: My fiance's dad was completely taken aback by all of

664
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 3: this and is hearing it from people he has never

665
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 3: met before.

666
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Speaker 1: This is the first thing they say when they's ridiculous.

667
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Speaker 1: You're not a good impression. You're not even a good

668
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Speaker 1: impression at all, Carol, My fiance.

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Speaker 3: And I immediately got pissed because we had planned to

670
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Speaker 3: come down to see the venue, thinking we could all

671
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Speaker 3: go together and then get the money thing sorted out.

672
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Speaker 3: Then my dad said, in addition to canceling the wedding,

673
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 3: we should give up on school he never approved on

674
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Speaker 3: it from the get go and move in with him.

675
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Speaker 1: Wait, this is this, This dinner has gone where they

676
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: thought it was going to be. Not only is he

677
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 1: gonna stop the marriage, but he's like, drop out of school,

678
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 1: just stay at ours, Like this seems like the worst

679
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: parental advice ever.

680
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 2: Literally, and and he just like he just disapproves of

681
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 2: literally every single life choice that that has done. Is

682
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is crazy.

683
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 3: And then my mom chimed in, saying that if we

684
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 3: were having money troubles and needed their help, we weren't

685
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 3: really living on our own at all and should cut

686
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 3: back and sell all of our pets.

687
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 1: How many pets do they have a good question. I

688
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: don't know's it's very expensive.

689
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 3: We just got a very cute cat by the way.

690
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, my girlfriend's cat from New York is now

691
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 3: living with us. Although she's like she's got a lot

692
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 3: of anxiety, So I I kid you not. She's literally

693
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 3: hiding like eight feet up in our tallest, tallest cat.

694
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: Now you're a cat dad.

695
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:36,719
Speaker 2: Now I'm a cat dad. Here we go, cat deadio. Now.

696
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 3: The thing is, my fiance has some issues when it

697
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 3: comes to controlling her feeling though.

698
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 2: I think you know what's about to happen.

699
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: Uh oh, this is gonna be World War three over here.

700
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

701
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 3: So she basically went off on my parents saying how

702
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 3: it is not right for them to do this to us,

703
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 3: and how wrong it is for my dad to put

704
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 3: me down all the time in regards to my schooling, which.

705
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 2: I completely agree with.

706
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Speaker 3: My dad immediately saying how disrespectful we are being, even

707
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Speaker 3: though he started it all by saying we should cancel

708
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Speaker 3: the wedding.

709
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 2: The most disrespectful thing you can start with this.

710
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: This is going downhill, dude, just.

711
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 3: Like you think, like, oh, I can't get any crazier

712
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 3: or even harder. Now here's the thing. My dad had

713
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:26,400
Speaker 3: already agreed to pay for parts of the wedding before

714
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 3: all of this. So, prior to this conversation, the dad

715
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 3: had said, yes, I will pay for some parts of

716
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Speaker 3: the way.

717
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 2: Like, guy say that. In the beginning, the.

718
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 3: Only thing we asked him to do was cover catering

719
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 3: for about seventy people we invited at dinner. He said

720
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 3: he wasn't going to throw twenty thousand dollars out the window?

721
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 1: Is it really out the window?

722
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 3: Though?

723
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 1: Like this is the wedding.

724
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Speaker 3: Here's the thing though, Op goes on to say, we

725
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 3: only asked my dad for three thousand dollars after he

726
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 3: said he wanted to contribute, So he's like, oh, I

727
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 3: don't want to throw twenty k. Yeah, we only asked

728
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 3: for three k for the caterer. Now he's a successful surgeon,

729
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 3: so three.

730
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 2: K is not. Dad's a surgeon. Aaddy is a surgeon.

731
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Speaker 1: You're not You're not. You do, bro, You gotta you

732
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 1: gotta spend some of those soldiery bucks on the wedding.

733
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 2: You're making two, three, four, five hundred K.

734
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 3: Year man Like, yeah, surgeons make him bag baby, make

735
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 3: him baby like a bakery, like.

736
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: A bakery inside the body. Do you know the muffin

737
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: man with the scalpeld I wonder, I wonder if he's

738
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: eating any human feet.

739
00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 2: Oh god, reference.

740
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 3: Reference to yeah, our last episode whenever that crazy thing

741
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 3: comes out. And now here's the thing. My fiance's dad

742
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 3: was contributing five K, so we didn't ask him to

743
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 3: do any extra work. At this point. The dinner was

744
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 3: an absolute flop. Both of my parents just straight up left.

745
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 3: I thought things were cool, but it got worse.

746
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 1: If you why, why do they always say but it

747
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: got worse. It's always getting worse.

748
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 3: It got worse, and I snapped, those are they? The

749
00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 3: next day, after a meeting with my mom and exchanging

750
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 3: and exchanging presence, remember this is Christmas.

751
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: No, not only is it the wedding's not going through,

752
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 1: but it's Christmas. Oh my gosh, it's his birthday. It's Christmas.

753
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: This is just the worst worst possible combination effects.

754
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 3: So we went on acting as if the didn'ner happened,

755
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 3: which was odd because then my dad called and he

756
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 3: canceled Christmas at his house and he said he just

757
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 3: wanted to grab coffee, just me and him. I thought

758
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 3: he just wanted to exchange presents and talk things out.

759
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 3: I thought to myself, all right, he was pissed, but

760
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 3: now he's had time to cool off and he wants

761
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 3: to go over the details. So I asked him if

762
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: I could bring my fiance's dad so they could have

763
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 3: a do over.

764
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 2: My dad said no.

765
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 3: I asked him if I could bring a general budget

766
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 3: of our finances so we could go over it and

767
00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 3: I could get some advice from him, man to man.

768
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 2: He said no.

769
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 3: So he's reaching out. He's like, all right, you know,

770
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 3: let me get my life together if you know so much.

771
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 3: And he's like nope. So he pulls up in his

772
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 3: Porsche Classy, Oh my God, to come pick me up

773
00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 3: from my fiance's dad's house. Doesn't even get out to

774
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 3: say hello. I get in the car and instead of

775
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 3: driving off to get coffee, we drive to my mom's house. Okay,

776
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 3: so now it was both of my parents.

777
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 2: No big deal. I go in.

778
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 3: It is literally my entire family. They had set up

779
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 3: an intervention to get me to leave my fiance in

780
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 3: another state, just ditch her completely.

781
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 2: What Yes, this.

782
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: Gets so much worse. And also the coordination that you

783
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: need to set up a whole intervention like that, and

784
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 1: and a coordination you need without anyone knowing. That's impressive.

785
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:43,920
Speaker 2: You know what could use that coordination a wedding.

786
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, have you put in like a modicum of the

787
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: amount of effort that you put into this into this

788
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 1: freaking uh the circus. You would have a great wedding

789
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: on your hands.

790
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 3: They said that I could stay with them. They could

791
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 3: drain all the bank accounts I have with her, and

792
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 3: I could start over. They accused her of stealing cash

793
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 3: from their house. They said she was abusive, and they

794
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,319
Speaker 3: said I could find someone better back home with them.

795
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 2: They wanted me to walk away from everything we were

796
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 2: trying to accomplish.

797
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 3: I could quit school and I could go into a

798
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 3: more successful occupation.

799
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 2: Uh.

800
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 1: They see there. They have a problem with the film major.

801
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,720
Speaker 1: They want. I want him to be a rocket surgeon

802
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 1: or something.

803
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,320
Speaker 2: Rocket surgeon.

804
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 3: I love that you took surgeon and a rocket scientist

805
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 3: one mega mega careers the best. No. Oh, here, here's

806
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 3: what they do. They repair rockets while performing surgery.

807
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 2: That's the rocket surgeon.

808
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: That's the best. That's the you know, I think that

809
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: is the ideal job for anyone.

810
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 2: Double salad.

811
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 1: That's what, yeah, double the salary. It's it's like it's

812
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,760
Speaker 1: if you're if you're ambidextrous, that you could do surgery

813
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 1: with one hand and rocket science at the.

814
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:57,720
Speaker 2: Other, creating careers over here, and okay, yeah, you're welcome.

815
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 1: We're hiring all they rocket surgeons, only.

816
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 2: Rocket sur op.

817
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 3: He goes on to say, they said I could go

818
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 3: back to my old job, which actually pays less than

819
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 3: what I'm making now, and start classes for an online

820
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 3: bachelor's degree.

821
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 2: Instead of going to trade school. I said no.

822
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 3: They said that they are cutting me off as their son,

823
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 3: and they are not coming to the world what's not

824
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:20,360
Speaker 3: only financially.

825
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 2: As their son.

826
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 1: Escalated way out of line, seriously, this escalated so much.

827
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 3: I said, fine, I'm heading back home. Her dad offered

828
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 3: to help us with the whole wedding and our money struggles.

829
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: In the end, this is a this is a crappy

830
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: situation right here. Terrible, I would say, I would say,

831
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 1: like top ten crap situations that you could have, not

832
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: only as all this like happening, but it's happening on

833
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: your birthday, Christmas Day. Like that's that's hard, dude, that's tough, man.

834
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, these parents are freaking no, thank you.

835
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like like to to disown your son because

836
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: of this.

837
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 3: That's that's so much insecurity and ego and like stuff

838
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:09,319
Speaker 3: from the parents, like they're not comfortable with their son

839
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,400
Speaker 3: not being you know, a doctor or a rocket surgeon,

840
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 3: a rocket surgeon exactly, Like they're like, oh, you can't

841
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,959
Speaker 3: be in film school, Like god, just so so sad.

842
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 1: Also, like you know, there's the there's like the trope

843
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: where strict parents want you to be a lawyer, doctor,

844
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,239
Speaker 1: engineer and want you to study that in college, right,

845
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: but like I studied engineering UCLA, and like, dude, those

846
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:40,320
Speaker 1: classes taught me nothing, Like like I learned everything I

847
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 1: needed from freaking con academy and YouTube. That was the

848
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 1: only education I got, uh the like like college in

849
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 1: a university degree is nothing but a piece of paper.

850
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 1: Everything I think worth doing you can learn on the Internet.

851
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 1: And there's way more money to be made, like by

852
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 1: being a creator than by being a doctor.

853
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 3: So many I mean think like like real estate or like,

854
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 3: you know, there's just a million paths that like just

855
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 3: by researching doing it, you know, have so much more money.

856
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's all to say, follow your dreams, follow your.

857
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 2: Dreams and you know what else, your path your finger.

858
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 1: Should follow follow the subscribe but.

859
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 2: I realized now I could have pathed to the follow button.

860
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: But you know it's you got it. You gotta try.

861
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: We try.

862
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, Follow us on Spotify, subscribe on YouTube, and if

863
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Speaker 1: we love you you. We're gonna shout you out and

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Speaker 1: all of these.

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Speaker 2: So many shout outs. Kathy, You're.

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