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Speaker 1: Time now for the Strawberry Letter. Guys. If you need

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Speaker 1: we're gonna do. We're gonna read your letter live on

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Speaker 1: the air, just like we're gonna do this one right here,

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Speaker 1: right now. That's for you, Jake, buckle up and hold

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Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Subject. I'm falling in love with a

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Speaker 1: big baby. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm forty years old and

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend is a forty five year old successful businessman.

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Speaker 1: He's divorced and has one kid from his marriage. We've

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Speaker 1: been dating for seven months and I love his kid

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Speaker 1: and I get along well with his ex wife. A

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Speaker 1: few weeks ago, his X and I were chatting in

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Speaker 1: the driveway when she dropped their child off. She asked

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Speaker 1: me if my boyfriend had revealed his big secret to

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Speaker 1: me yet. I asked her what was she talking about,

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Speaker 1: and she assured me that I wasn't that it wasn't

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Speaker 1: about him cheating or anything like that, but it's very

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Speaker 1: strange and it was the cause of their divorce. What

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Speaker 1: He admitted that he was holding back something that he

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Speaker 1: come on in, mommy, and what sounded like a baby's voice.

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Speaker 1: I opened the door and he yelled, mommy, mommy, come

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Speaker 1: in amazement, and he said I was bad, mommy, and

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Speaker 1: I need a thanking. I screamed and ran out of

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Speaker 1: the house, and when I got in my car, I

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Speaker 1: his secret. She said it's called infantilism and he's been

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Speaker 1: doing it for years. I'm staying with my parents temporarily,

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Speaker 1: and he's been blowing up my phone asking for a

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Speaker 1: second chance. He is perfect for me in every way

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Speaker 1: except this one. I will never be comfortable with this

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Speaker 1: kind of role playing. Should I scrap the man because

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Speaker 1: he's a little weird? Or should I help him work

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Speaker 1: through this? Infantilism? I looked it up at means retention

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Speaker 1: of childish physical, mental, or emotional qualities in adult life. Okay, what? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So just out of the blue, he puts on a

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Speaker 1: diaper and wants you to spank him and he's talking

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Speaker 1: I would just say that's weird. I mean, I don't

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Speaker 1: but I don't know anyone who's into this. Jerry, why

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Speaker 1: are you laughing? It does sound weird, It sounds very weird,

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Speaker 1: but I mean, to be honest, it also's hard. It

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Speaker 1: sounds kind of harmless. It sounds harmless, but I mean

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Speaker 1: it doesn't sound scary. It doesn't sound like anyone will

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Speaker 1: like that. I mean, you know, I just don't spank

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Speaker 1: Should you scrap the man or help him work through this?

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Speaker 1: You ask because you say he's perfect for you in

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Speaker 1: every way except this particular role playing situation, and you're

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Speaker 1: not complaining about him acting up or cheating or anything else.

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Speaker 1: But you're not personally or professionally equipped to handle him

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Speaker 1: and to help him work through this. So, as I

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Speaker 1: see it, you have two, no, three options. Okay. You

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Speaker 1: can number one, you can stay gone over your parents' house,

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Speaker 1: you can come back and get into it and spank him,

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Speaker 1: or or you could do that. I'm just saying, if

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Speaker 1: She said, he's perfect in everything every way other than that.

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Speaker 1: Or three, see if this is something that requires therapy,

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Speaker 1: because it sounds like it does. See if this is

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Speaker 1: something do your research, something that you can work through. Okay,

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Speaker 1: because you say this guy is perfect in every way?

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Speaker 1: You know, those are your three options as far as

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Speaker 1: I see it, all right, Steve, Yeah, ain't nobody got

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Speaker 1: put some damn white booty's on it. A diper here, Mommy, mommy,

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Speaker 1: you are what. Nobody got time for this. This ain't

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Speaker 1: even a mama's boy. This is a mama's baby. Y'all

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Speaker 1: sitting up in there. Y'all got enough to work through

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Speaker 1: but seven months. Run get your ass out. Where is

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Speaker 1: If he all that, he's so damn perfect, he forty five,

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Speaker 1: why ain't he got nobody? Listen to me, this is

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Speaker 1: what you want to do. Drop his ass off at

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Speaker 1: daycare and drive off, leave his ass right down. I

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Speaker 1: got more for this letter when I come back. But

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Speaker 1: you this right here, this is nowhere for you. Lady.

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Speaker 1: You've got to be kidding me. Why would you take

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Speaker 1: this on? You can't fix. It's called infant infantileism? What

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Speaker 1: it's a thing. Then you gotta get past. What about

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Speaker 1: just infidelity? Well she said he doesn't cheat, She said that,

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Speaker 1: all right? Rather that then coming here and your ass

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Speaker 1: got to die. All the words poo pooed in this

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Speaker 1: damn bad you're rolling around in it. Tom. I need

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Speaker 1: to get Whitey, gonna get your ass nothing Shirley says,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two of your response coming up in

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Uh today's letter I'm

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Speaker 1: falling in love with a big baby. We'll be back

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening Steve Morning Show. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters, subjects I'm falling

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Speaker 1: in love with a big baby. Yeah, and I'm not

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Speaker 1: recapping the damn thing. Listen to me. People know now,

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Speaker 1: if y'all this woman is in love with this man

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Speaker 1: that's got a problem. His ex wife told the woman

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Speaker 1: little kids. You love a kid now here. The problem

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Speaker 1: is he suffers with this thing called infantili where he

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Speaker 1: told her. She asked him if that's something she wants,

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Speaker 1: said yeah, Actually is told her to go out the room.

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Speaker 1: She go out the room. Come back his big ass,

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Speaker 1: fortify you old man to put a dipper on, got

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Speaker 1: about he wants her to spank hill. Mommy, mommy is

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Speaker 1: metaby my mommy coming, man, if you don't get your

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Speaker 1: know how far this is going. This ain't therapy. You

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Speaker 1: ain't got time for this. I don't care higgrade of

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Speaker 1: a guy he is. He got some other damn problems.

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Speaker 1: Listen to me, mamma, black ass sucking down of fits

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Speaker 1: bad to put your damn pants on? Where's your draws?

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Speaker 1: He gotta dipper or sitting up in there, sitting up

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Speaker 1: in here, and now he pulled point on himself. You

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Speaker 1: gotta wipe his big ass. She did not. Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying, you don't know how far this is going.

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Speaker 1: If he plays this infantilism, how far is he gonna go?

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Speaker 1: Is he gonna wake up one morning decide he don't

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Speaker 1: feel like going to work, use he won't go outside

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Speaker 1: and play? What does he even do? But saying talk,

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Speaker 1: I don't stay then have to play today? No, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to go to work. I want to watch

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Speaker 1: the cartoons. Well, you gotta go to work. We gotta eat,

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Speaker 1: We got to eat, you gotta make it. I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to bottle. I don't want to eat. I want

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Speaker 1: to eat that. I want apple sauce. We don't. We

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Speaker 1: don't have no appisades. We all out, We're completely you

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Speaker 1: know why we out there up sauce because my ass

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Speaker 1: ain't been what this month? What I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: was gonna keep this dip on it. See how long

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Speaker 1: I could milk this thing? You see how this sounds?

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Speaker 1: Don't make no damn sense. Got to stop this hell,

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Speaker 1: We got to stop this hell. We cannot. Lady, get

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Speaker 1: out of this relationship. I don't give a damn what

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Speaker 1: are you talking about? The lady told you what he'd do.

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Speaker 1: He'd been doing it for it. Are you familiar with

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Speaker 1: this secret? No? So you asked him about it? He

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Speaker 1: get on all for here. I've been wanting to tell

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Speaker 1: you about what. That's craziness. He's a grown ass man.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got time to go back to infantilism. He

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Speaker 1: needs to help Steve. Now let me at forty five,

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Speaker 1: he got about another thirty years. He may be in

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Speaker 1: that die for any damn one. See so now what

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Speaker 1: he were in it for? Now? See here in to die.

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Speaker 1: But now that's too early. I'm just sick of people

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Speaker 1: like this. Here, all the letters we got, you know

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Speaker 1: what stuff going on? You pull his diaper down and

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Speaker 1: beat his as Yeah, but you ain't gonna belea. She

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Speaker 1: needs help. I'd give him some wood. I snatched that

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Speaker 1: dipper down and down. I got some sci fi stuff

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Speaker 1: at the house. Places. Boy, baby talk one more time, Hoad,

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Speaker 1: this is baby talk right here to watch it. I

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Speaker 1: want you to say real baby I one, that's baby talk.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to play no more, Mama. You're beating

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Speaker 1: me to h Now you got to try to control.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why this letter reminded me of Jay

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Speaker 1: though I've done some kinky things, but that one I happened.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that. A. Yeah, so that's real baby talk.

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Speaker 1: Say this right here, say say say say spank spanked

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Speaker 1: me really hard? That's spank me really hard? Really you

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Speaker 1: gonna walk into bed room? You're forty five year old man.

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Speaker 1: Sound like that? How that ain't gonna work? Oh? I

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Speaker 1: asked me so? So you don't. I think you need

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Speaker 1: a nap. You should just take a nap. Danger, Naw,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to nap. You want to cook. You

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Speaker 1: want to rest it. You want that, not from you, sir,

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Speaker 1: even though you may be capable, not from you. And

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Speaker 1: I don't want one of yo cookies either, because Yo

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Speaker 1: cookie the last time my head, Yo, cookie Uncle Jake,

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Speaker 1: I would hide here. That's what you should do, one

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Speaker 1: of these cookies. That guy. All right, thank you guys.

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