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Speaker 1: I went on a trip the same day as my

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Speaker 1: home to the craziest true stories on Earth. I'm Sophia

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Speaker 1: and Riley. What trip are you going on that is

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Speaker 1: better than a wedding?

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'm gonna go on a family vacation in Florida.

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Speaker 2: That's in Florida.

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Speaker 1: That is that is fun. So thrower a adman says,

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Speaker 1: my eighteen female father is going to marry his girlfriend

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Speaker 1: next week, a day before my cousin's twenty one females birthday.

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Speaker 1: My mother died four years ago, and almost two weeks later.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it was even two weeks after that

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Speaker 1: my father was dating that woman. No, two weeks after

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Speaker 2: Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa.

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Speaker 1: No, there's absolutely no.

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Speaker 2: There's a rule given by Sam. I know that his

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Speaker 2: rules with marriage is very interesting. Yeah, but for every

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Speaker 2: year you may married someone, make that a month. So

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Speaker 2: you have to stay single for sixteen months. I'm just

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Speaker 2: saying that they stay together to stand. They may have

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Speaker 2: you gotta stay single for twenty months before you go

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this just seems this is outrageous. That's not even

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Speaker 2: They're a little bit like like Iceberg's coming very closely,

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Speaker 2: like they're two big things, but they look like they're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm wondering was there already an overlap in

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Speaker 1: that she has always been my father's mistress has been

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Speaker 1: which will last a week. It was given to her

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Speaker 2: Well nice, nice.

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Speaker 1: My aunt and uncle won't go to the wedding. Some

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Speaker 1: go to the trip too. My cousin arranged the trip

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Speaker 1: entirely on purpose to ruin my father's wedding, since my

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Speaker 1: Father was mad at her, but my cousin told him

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Speaker 1: Today my father found out that I will be going

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Speaker 1: And he just finally found love. His words, he said,

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Speaker 1: Oh can you really find the love of your life

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Speaker 1: Everything was always about how he feels and wants. Oh,

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Speaker 1: that's so sad. I can't believe. Yeah, I can't believe

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Speaker 2: It's so hard to switch from your mother is my soulmate? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: That's the crazy part.

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Speaker 1: Because if it was like he wasn't even taking care

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Speaker 2: That's insane to me.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I think there was one hundred percent overlap. I think, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and like to be smart, I mean, I know,

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Speaker 2: I know a relationship can get pretty fast in two weeks,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this friend, Yeah that two weeks less than two weeks.

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Speaker 2: Everyone's grieving, Come on, don So it might be his

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Speaker 1: But there are some additional comments from Ope in response

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Speaker 1: relevant comments tight lips, thick kIPS, tight lips not the

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't go either, Opie responds. She didn't move into

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, wow, what he's a horrible person. Oh

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Speaker 2: and there is an update that's insane. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, this is the family, but like my immediate

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Speaker 2: That's whack. That's what I meant. But that's whack.

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Speaker 1: Probably they have a really fun time on their trip

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Speaker 1: Thanks to the comments. That day, I decided to talk

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Speaker 1: This she now she stays like, you know, like, oh

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Speaker 2: Do you think she helped him, helped her a lot?

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Speaker 2: Or do you think he kind of like half asked.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he seems like a horrible person. When my mother died,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't understand what kind of education those people had.

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Speaker 2: It's interesting that she thinks that, because a lot of parents,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well she had to take on kind of like

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Speaker 1: So obviously like emotionally cheating him his wife. The fact

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Speaker 1: Don't know if he kissed her. I think he might

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It's funny how different cultures. Like in Japan, I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they were just talking. Yeah, but like they hooked.

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Speaker 2: Well, what's that this next story?

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Speaker 1: Let's go, am I the a hole for not allowing

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Speaker 2: What are we making? What do we add into it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Like, what's the what's the vision?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you have right, you have right to be bad.

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Speaker 2: That's what the title said.

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Speaker 1: Let me touch it up. Yeah, this makes more sense.

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Speaker 1: I have always dreamed of walking her down the aisle.

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Speaker 1: wear it as a dress I offered that her girlfriend

442
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 1: could wear it as a dress instead, but my daughter

443
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,800
Speaker 1: said that she would still be ruining it. Her girlfriend

444
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:25,640
Speaker 1: is a much larger woman than me, so it would

445
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 1: need more altering, and has since not been answering my messages,

446
00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:31,879
Speaker 1: except with saying that the dress would be a connection

447
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:35,000
Speaker 1: to her dad, so she's disappointed not to have it.

448
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 1: I offered to go to dress shopping with her for replacement,

449
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:40,399
Speaker 1: but apparently some of her family think I'm stopping her

450
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,320
Speaker 1: from having the dress because I disagree with her being masculine.

451
00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 1: So am I the ahle for telling her that she

452
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:47,760
Speaker 1: can have it as a dress or not have it

453
00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:49,800
Speaker 1: at all. I may be the a hole because I

454
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:52,000
Speaker 1: promised it to her, but that was when she was

455
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,439
Speaker 1: very young and before I knew she wanted to change it.

456
00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:59,560
Speaker 1: And there are some relevant comments, but whoa I think,

457
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,680
Speaker 1: not the not the whole. I think. I don't think

458
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,520
Speaker 1: it's fair for Opie's daughter to expect that she gets

459
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:10,359
Speaker 1: to like, significantly alter a like dress that has a

460
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: lot of significance, especially because Opie lost her husband. Yeah,

461
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,200
Speaker 1: and I understand like the daughter wanting to have a

462
00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,359
Speaker 1: connection with her dad, but like at the end, of

463
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 1: the day. This is Opie's mom's or sorry, Opie's dress.

464
00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:26,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it is Opie's dress. I think it'd be

465
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 2: interesting if she could wear something of her dad's.

466
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:33,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, or that's such a great idea.

467
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 2: That would be cool. I think a tie, Yeah, it

468
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,040
Speaker 2: would be super cool.

469
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think that's genius.

470
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

471
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, because she wants to wear like this, The

472
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 1: daughter wants to wear something more masculine, and so I

473
00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:45,360
Speaker 1: think it makes more sense to like.

474
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Speaker 2: Take on the father's side, especially.

475
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: If she wants to have the connection with her dad. Yeah, yeah, no,

476
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 1: because I don't. I don't think it's totally fair to

477
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 1: ask your mom to like completely change the dress that

478
00:22:57,800 --> 00:22:58,280
Speaker 1: she you know.

479
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I think huge ash.

480
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:02,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think if the mom was like, no, why

481
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,440
Speaker 1: are you wearing magicaline clothes? Blah blah blah, that would

482
00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,160
Speaker 1: be a holish. But that's not what she's doing. She's

483
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 1: just saying, like, hey, I don't feel comfortable giving this

484
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 1: dress knowing that it will be so significantly changed and altered. Yeah,

485
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:15,439
Speaker 1: So I think not the a.

486
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 2: Whole, and she's been supportive, but this is a huge.

487
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 1: That's a huge ass huge ask. Yeah, but there are

488
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 1: some relevant comments. Commenter says, what happens to the dress

489
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: if she doesn't wear it? Is it just going to

490
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 1: sit in storage? Or do you still look at it

491
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 1: fairly regularly? In other words, what will you lose if

492
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 1: she alters it? Opie says, it lives in my closet.

493
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 1: I don't seek it out, but I see it. If

494
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 1: the dress could be returned to its original state, or

495
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,440
Speaker 1: is there something from Opie's late husband that the daughter

496
00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 1: could wear? As you said, thank you, I will be

497
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 1: talking to a professional about it if possible to recover

498
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,199
Speaker 1: the dress after splitting it. I only have my husband's

499
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,400
Speaker 1: cuff links from his wedding suit as he was buried

500
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 1: in it.

501
00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 2: Wow, and I.

502
00:23:57,359 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: Will offer her those. You obviously just aren't happy with

503
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:02,920
Speaker 1: her not wanting to wear a dress. You would have

504
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,679
Speaker 1: been fine with significantly altering it for your daughter's fiance,

505
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 1: but now you're not. You are homophobic. Then you said

506
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,360
Speaker 1: in the past it was difficult to convince your daughter

507
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 1: to wear dresses to formal events. You have a history

508
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 1: of trying to get your daughter to wear dresses instead

509
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: of respecting your choices. Why did you make her wear them?

510
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 1: I think in the past. That's I mean, like, I

511
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 1: guess that's a good point. I forgot that she was

512
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 1: asking her daughter to wear dresses and stuff. However, I

513
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 1: think in those instances not great. You know, she should

514
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 1: have let her daughter wear what she wants to wear.

515
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: But I think in this instance it does seem like

516
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,199
Speaker 1: it's more from a place of like, this is like

517
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 1: a meaningful dress.

518
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I could, I would. Yeah, I wouldn't say

519
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:53,160
Speaker 2: it sounded homophobic earlier because like she probably didn't under

520
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 2: maybe I don't know.

521
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 1: Op he says, I was trying to prevent her from

522
00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: being judged by people more traditional that I don't Yeah,

523
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:02,639
Speaker 1: that I don't like. I think I think the past

524
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: instances were not great, but it seems like she might

525
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 1: have grown and stuff and like taken it in. So

526
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 1: I'm like not holding that too much against her because

527
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 1: she was supportive in the face of the wedding. But

528
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 1: then another commenter says, y'all, she doesn't want suggestions she

529
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 1: wants to be vindicated in her homophobia. I don't know

530
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 1: if I would go that far. I don't know if

531
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 1: I would go that far. I feel like it's I

532
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 1: feel like it's fair to not want to drastically change

533
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 1: address that had like a really meaningful part to play

534
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 1: in life.

535
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:34,439
Speaker 2: And how could she be homophobic if she has a

536
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,679
Speaker 2: gay daughter. Come on, she's not homophobic.

537
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 1: Well she don't think that's exactly what it works. But

538
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: you know, thank you for.

539
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 2: Your she's not.

540
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: She's good guys, I swear, yeah, I'm a gay friend.

541
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 2: Oh oh you.

542
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,240
Speaker 1: So the commoner also said you would have been fine

543
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 1: with significantly altering it for your daughter's fiance, but she

544
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 1: wasn't fine with that, Like she brought up the idea

545
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,119
Speaker 1: and then after realizing that how much it would have

546
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: to be changed, she was like, actually, I'm not okay

547
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 1: with that either. So I feel like that's not really

548
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,879
Speaker 1: a point. I don't know. I feel like I don't know.

549
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think it's I don't think

550
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 1: in this instance, not wanting to like or wanting to

551
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 1: keep the dress the same is.

552
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 2: I don't think that's I wouldn't consider it homophobic.

553
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: Oh, he says, I'm not homophobic. I support my daughter.

554
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 1: I've just been surprised and I'm struggling. I've gotten direct

555
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: messages telling me that I'm right not to give my

556
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: daughter the dress because they are homophobic and thinks she

557
00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 1: should not be getting married. If I didn't feel so

558
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: strongly about the dress, I would give it to her

559
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 1: simply to spite them. Oh yeah, so she's getting all

560
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: the homophobes being like, hell, yeah, don't give her the dress.

561
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: That's not they're missing the point. I don't. Yeah, this

562
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: is so wow. Yikes, No, I think everyone. I feel

563
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:54,919
Speaker 1: like we're getting too extremes onside, and she's just like,

564
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 1: I wanted to see if there's a way where I

565
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,360
Speaker 1: could keep my dress intact.

566
00:26:59,160 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 2: Just looking first.

567
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 1: Suggestions should go ahead r slash sewing. Yeah, like she

568
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 1: even asked. She was like, she already brought up the

569
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: fact that she went to a tailor. She's going to

570
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:13,439
Speaker 1: a tailor to see if she can get it like

571
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: fixed after it's altered. So like, obviously she's opened to suggestions. Commenter,

572
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: you're the a hole. Read other comments regarding Micro's microaggressions, transphobia, homophobia.

573
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 1: I want to wear a suit to my wedding too.

574
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 1: It's not wrong. If you're unwilling to give your child

575
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 1: a family heirloom because you want it to remain untouched,

576
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 1: don't offer it to them Opi says, I truly do

577
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 1: not want to be microaggressive to my daughter. I offered

578
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 1: to her long before any thought that she would want

579
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: it to be changed. I wouldn't change my My mom

580
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: offered me her wedding dress, and if I decided I

581
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,719
Speaker 1: wanted a completely different dress, I wouldn't wear that one.

582
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: I would just buy anyone. And Opie's not even saying

583
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: I am like, you know what, I feel like, I'm

584
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 1: kind of I'm kind of shocked by the amount of

585
00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,400
Speaker 1: people who are like, you're the a holding her because

586
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:05,439
Speaker 1: I too, I super disagree. Usually I'm like on the

587
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: side of the redditors, but in this case, I disagree.

588
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, it looks like there's a split. She died not

589
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 2: the ahole, but there are plenty of.

590
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 1: Plenty of other ones. I don't think we have enough

591
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: information for people to be like so at our throat.

592
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like in the.

593
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,959
Speaker 1: Past, like the only things that I've kind of like

594
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: still get stuck out to me, where her being like, well,

595
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 1: I didn't want people to get honor because or like

596
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 1: more traditional people to attack her because obviously that's just

597
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 1: kind of like, you know, not important. And then the

598
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 1: other part where she was like Oh, she wanted to

599
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: be a boy, she wanted to dress like a boy.

600
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:43,840
Speaker 1: Obviously that's more traditional mindset. But I don't, I don't.

601
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: I think she's probably just like an older lady and she's,

602
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 1: you know, trying to save my drums.

603
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

604
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: No, I really don't think she's being an a whole.

605
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: I think she's just like I don't think so. Yeah,

606
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 1: there is an update, so OPI is voted not the ahole,

607
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: though there are plenty of people who voted both. Update

608
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: three days later. I posted recently about my daughter surprising

609
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: me by wanting to turn my wedding dress into a suit,

610
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 1: which I refused despite having promised her because the reality

611
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 1: hurt me. I was upset, and it made me feel

612
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: better to see people agree with me. But the comments

613
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: that made me upset made me think the most about

614
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 1: the future and helped me empathize with my daughter. My

615
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 1: daughter came over tonight and apologized for ignoring me, and

616
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: explained that she had always thought she had been promised

617
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: she could have the dress to own rather than borrow,

618
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 1: so she was sad to have lost that dream. I

619
00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: apologize for if I have ever come off as not

620
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: supportive of her, as many comments said I sounded homophobic,

621
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: and I want to be clear that I'm not. I

622
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 1: respect and love my daughter. We talked about many things,

623
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: especially about my husband, how his presence could still be

624
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: felt on the day, how my daughter felt jealous that

625
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 1: her fiance would get to share the day with both

626
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: of her parents while she had only a memory. We

627
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 1: watched the wedding video again it's been a few years,

628
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 1: and cried a bit. We also had some wine, so

629
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 1: I apologize if this is not completely clear. I told

630
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: her that I hadn't realized how much giving up the

631
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: dress would hurt, and that I didn't think I could

632
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 1: completely sacrifice it, and that I would talk to a

633
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: tailor about if the dress could be separated and be

634
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,719
Speaker 1: put back together and returned to me, but if not,

635
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 1: then I would help her find a suit as an

636
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,240
Speaker 1: alternative and give her some of the dresses lining to use.

637
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: I'm also surprised her. Oh. I also surprised her with

638
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 1: her father's wedding coufflings to wear and as suggested by

639
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 1: many commenters and my veil, in case her fiance wanted

640
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:38,479
Speaker 1: to wear it, and she was extremely happy with this

641
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:41,959
Speaker 1: as a compromise. Oh that's really sweet. She asked if

642
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: she could try the dress on, just to see what

643
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 1: it just to see what it would be like. I

644
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: will admit I was hoping she would change her mind.

645
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 1: When she had it on, she let me do her

646
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: hair and makeup. However I felt like it. Oh, however,

647
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: I felt like she was laughing so hard because it

648
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 1: reminded her of when I did her braids for school.

649
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 1: She picked out things for me to wear it too,

650
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 1: in her style, just to see how I would look.

651
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 1: And we took pictures together and danced. Ah, choking, that's

652
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 1: so sweet. She looked beautiful in the dress. It was

653
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 1: like I had always dreamed when she was my little girl.

654
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: But she didn't look herself. Oh, suddenly I knew a

655
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 1: lot of you had been right. I hugged her and

656
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,880
Speaker 1: apologized and told her to take it and do whatever

657
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Speaker 1: she wants. Wow. Wow, Wow, she has gone home. Now.

658
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: In some parts of me regret giving it to her.

659
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 1: I've been teary putting away the photos. But more than that,

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00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 1: but more than that, I'm thankful that I got to

661
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: see what I thought would happen and realize it wasn't right,

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00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,400
Speaker 1: and that I can say goodbye to the expectations I

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00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 1: had for so long. My daughter is happy as herself,

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00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: and it is an honor that she wants to share

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00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: that with me. That's oh. I mean, I'm glad that

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00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 1: they like she realized that she could give that dress up.

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00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 1: I don't think she. I think that she wouldn't have

668
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: been homophobis she if she decided she couldn't give it up?

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00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: But I'm glad that she realized that she was able

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00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 1: to give that to her daughter and make that sacrifice.

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Speaker 2: Very sweet moment.

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00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, in response to a deleted comment, it's hard letting

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00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: go of something I wanted, Yes, but I realized that

674
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: I had been motivated more by the fact that I

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00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 1: wanted to her to look feminine, and getting to see

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00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 1: that in practice made me realize that wanting my daughter

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00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: to wear the dress as a dress was based on

678
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 1: outdated expectations and it just wasn't her. I'm happy with

679
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 1: my decision. You're going to regret it because you were

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00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 1: caught up in the moment, says someone else. I don't

681
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: regret it. Sometimes it takes a strong moment to overcome

682
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: emotional inertia. And then another comment or says this whole

683
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 1: scene is so touching to me as a queer person

684
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: because it's a battle I've experienced internally as well. There

685
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: are times I still fall back on old expectations that

686
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: I should be pretty and feminine, But every time I

687
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 1: give in and try dressing up, it's exactly like this.

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Speaker 1: It's not that I don't look good in a dress

689
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 1: and makeup, but I can't look or feel like myself,

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00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 1: and that's more important. It's really moving to me that

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00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: you were able to let go of your expectations and

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00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 1: embrace your daughter as herself. It sounds like the wedding

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00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 1: will be beautiful and full of meeting. Ohpi says. I

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00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 1: know I've gone too far at times and expecting her

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00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: to be feminine while thinking I was being supportive or protective,

696
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: there was always a small anxiety there that she should

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00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: fit in more to be accepted, even if I didn't

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00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 1: think there was anything wrong with her. That is gone now,

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00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 1: and that is it. That's the whole story.

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Speaker 2: It's that story.

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Speaker 1: Wow, very I love it, very so sweet.

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Speaker 2: It was a huge switch up right there at the end.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean I was like I was happy that

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Speaker 1: they talked it out. I was like, yeah, they figured

705
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 1: it out, and then she fully switched up and was like,

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00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 1: you know what, Actually, I think it was in part

707
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,479
Speaker 1: because I wanted to wear a dress and she can

708
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: have it and change it up. Yeah that's really sweet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that is weird.

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00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 2: Yeah sweet.

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00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 1: No, I'm glad this has all worked out because really cute.

712
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah, But you know what else is really cute?

713
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 2: What's that?

714
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: Maybe this next story?

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Speaker 2: Oh,