WEBVTT - A Holiday Fix-Up! 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.359 Wine down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast. 0:00:06.920 --> 0:00:10.240 So I'm throwing my kid's birthday party today and I 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:11.920 just got the Christmas tree too, So I'm in the 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.159 middle of decorating Christmas tree and then also putting up 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:18.680 decorations for um Jason's party today. I should love to 0:00:18.680 --> 0:00:24.159 get ready because clearly hello, but I'm so excited, And 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:27.640 so Riley calls me. She's like, um, are you getting on? 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:32.880 And I was like, on what? Thank god I got 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:35.479 the message to my publs is like, hey, just a 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:38.120 friendly reminder. I go, thank god you told me. I 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:41.440 haven't looked at my calendar like I would have missed it. 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:44.880 What's so funny to me is that, like my publicist 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:46.479 told me about this, and I was like, that's so 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.880 weird that Jane didn't like text me or someone because 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.760 she usually reminds me she's the one who's on top 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:56.400 of it all. That is actually very true. I'm like, 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.480 when we had a press which we were we're gonna 0:00:58.520 --> 0:00:59.960 talk all about this in the movie. But when we 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.560 had press um for our movie, I had to text 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:06.320 Ryan and be like, Ryan, our next zoom starts in 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:10.200 fifteen minutes, and here's the zoom link to every one 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:17.280 the minute. Every I I don't read the whole email. 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:21.200 Usually I just log into the first link. And You're 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:25.119 so lucky you're a guy, because if me and Jana 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:33.160 did that, we would be Diva's nightmares. You're like, it's cute, Well, 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:35.319 what's funny about eating? And I'm curious because Maria, I 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:39.040 don't I don't really remember if we talked about it 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:41.560 on set or not, but like Ryan would always offer 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.080 me something, but I don't want the thing that he offered, 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:45.960 Like I want what the dinner is gonna be or 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:47.440 the lunch is gonna be here, Like I'm not just 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:52.520 gonna eat Like I'm a big snacker, but I want 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:54.120 to snack what I want to snack on. But if 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:56.560 when it comes to dinner and lunches and breakfast, like 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:59.280 I'm not going to just eat something that's not what 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.640 I want that makes sense, like throughout the day, like 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:04.240 I'll have Like it was like very specific because it 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.920 was like you know, your food wasn't gonna be there 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:10.000 for an hour and You're like, I'm not gonna snack now, 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:11.680 I'm gonna wait for my food. I'm like, yeah, but 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:15.120 you're crashing and you're not going to get through this scene. 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:19.160 And I could see the crash just like taking a 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:22.840 hard nosed dive because I started to stay am reasting 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:25.880 bitch space. I just stare you, Yeah, you know, my 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.400 pizza delivery just pulled up. I was like, who's that. 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:34.160 Thanks for reminding me have to order pizza for the party. Um, 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:38.040 But what's funny is I this happened to me on Thanksgiving, 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:39.600 so I was going to a friends because I didn't 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:41.760 have the kids for Thanksgiving, which, by the way, Maria, 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:43.480 I want to talk to you too, because I resonated 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:45.919 so much with your post as well, because I feel like, 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:48.760 whether it's in Ryan, you too. I had no idea 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:53.360 that you weren't home. So we all missed family this year, 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:57.480 and you know, mine was obviously the first being you know, 0:02:57.520 --> 0:03:00.160 without my kids on a major holiday, and that I'm mean, 0:03:00.240 --> 0:03:04.320 I pretty much cried, cried the entire day. But then 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:08.760 I also realized you were missing your mom. Ryan was 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:12.120 missing his family. I'm like, man, like we it's people 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:16.400 are there's whether it's grief, loss like it's or you know, separation, 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:19.120 like we're all missing something and I'm curious, like how 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.080 you guys were able to kind of turn that around 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:26.280 and and find gratefulness and gratitude even being apart from 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:32.680 from your loved ones. Yeah. I mean I think for me, 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:36.080 I am with my family, so I did get to 0:03:36.120 --> 0:03:38.120 be with my dad. I think not being with my 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:42.040 dad this year would have been like totally tragic and 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:46.440 horrible and hard. Um. And I was with my cousins 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:50.000 who we just lost my uncle, their dad forty days ago, 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:53.400 so we all got to be together. But it was 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:57.560 wild because you know, like we're so used to looking 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:01.880 forward to the holiday and and I was looking forward 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:03.200 to it, and then all of a sudden it hit me. 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.440 I'm like, wait, I'm gonna be at my cousin's house 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:07.800 and two massive people in our lives we're not going 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:11.360 to be there, my mom, their dad. And I was like, 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.720 this might be really really hard. So I was getting 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:18.440 dressed and you saw the post. I literally, Ryan, I 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:20.680 go into my closet. I put this turtle neck on. 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.200 I'm just gonna wear black like leggings to be comfy. 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:26.200 You want to be able to have expansiveness on Thanksgiving. 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:28.960 I was like, okay, put my black turtle. My god, 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:31.480 I put it on. And I was like, this thing 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.160 is gonna be choking me all day. I don't want 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:35.280 to be doing this the whole day. So what if 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:37.839 we were that? And I was like huh. So I 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:40.240 put on a tank top. I put this like, you know, 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:43.400 just open um like card to guinea kind of sweater 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.280 on and I was like, oh, this is good, but 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.720 it's not something I would normally wear. And I was like, wait, 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:52.160 this isn't mine. And I realized it was my mom's. 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.240 And I realized I had put it in my closet 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:57.240 here so that I wouldn't lose it and that I 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.479 could wear it and remember her. And so I thought, 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:04.880 how amazing that this happened, because now she's wrapping me 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:09.240 and keeping me warm. And then we were driving and 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:11.400 I was like, I saw the beautiful scenery and that 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.640 was just another message. So I took a picture. But 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:18.320 I got to my cousin's house and and it was interesting, 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:20.359 like my cousins were holding it together. I saw my 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:22.880 aunt and that's when I lost it. She goes, you know, 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:25.720 I lost my husband, you lost your mom. What are 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:29.320 we gonna do? And I'm heath crying now And now 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:34.080 I'm like completely losing my everyone else is staying calm 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:36.960 and and we went through the holiday and it was 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:40.920 it was fine after that, and everyone was kind of 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:45.080 just dealing. But it was different and weird and still 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:50.040 beautiful and great, but just different because there were two massive, 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:54.640 like kind of holes and we just kind of, you know, 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:58.640 we did it. You know. Um, I think a lot 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.480 of people are in work situations. Like I said to myself, 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:04.440 last Thanksgiving was the most brutal time of my life. 0:06:04.520 --> 0:06:08.760 Had two parents in hospitals, separate hospitals with COVID, both 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:13.520 of me and compromised. And so I was like, I know, 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:17.000 obviously we've lost my mom and that's horrible, but it's 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:19.480 worse for people who are like fighting for their lives 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:22.200 right now and suffering and little kids. And so I 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:25.320 tried to keep it in perspective. But it doesn't mean 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:28.280 that it wasn't it wasn't challenging. Ryan. How was it 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.400 for you, Well, I'm actually sitting here. I was just 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:34.599 totally engrossed with your story. I'm actually sitting in the room. 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.160 I'm back in Vancouver, which, by the way, I just 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:41.479 realized why you had to work on Thanksgiving, because I'm like, oh, 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:46.040 it's an American holiday. Yeah, yeah, because I was like, 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.800 why would you have to work on Thanksgiving? No? And 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:53.000 I actually and they didn't even do turkey service Arcaderine. 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.200 I was like, are you kidding me? Like there was 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:57.560 there was no acknowledgment of it because they already had 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.560 there's in October. I mean, that's true. Do we do 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:03.039 we acknowledge there is when we're on set the Canadians 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:04.960 that Well, they didn't really, but you know what I'm saying. 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:09.800 It's funny but yeah, well you're saying that we're bigger 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:11.840 and better. What are you trying to say here? But 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:17.400 they're not the executive producer, So I'm kidding. I'm kidding. 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:19.640 I gave him a lot of help for it, but um, 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:22.000 but I was just saying, Maria, I'm sitting in the room, 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:25.720 um that I actually reached out to because I had 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:30.520 all that time in quarantine in this same room when um, 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:35.200 we reconnected through that video that I watched of yours 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:37.680 that you know, when you when you went through the 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:39.840 whole thing with your parents and COVID and everything else, 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:43.640 And it was just like that touched me so much 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:45.680 and I was missing my family for the fourth of 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.239 July when I was up here, and that was maybe 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.480 the first and my birthday and Memorial Day in Labor 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:54.560 Day and all these other holidays this year. And I 0:07:54.640 --> 0:07:56.680 have to say that, you know, one of my co 0:07:56.760 --> 0:07:59.240 stars right now, even Tomorgo, who I worked with on 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:04.080 Passions a long time ago, she has lost three of 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:07.760 her brothers and her mother this past year and she's 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:11.520 also a grief counselor. So I've actually just sat and 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:17.400 taken in a lot of um, you know, just a 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:19.880 lot of listening, a lot of learning, and a lot 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:26.480 of gratitude, um for uh being present where I'm at 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:29.120 right now. And I think that Nick Saban told one 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:31.560 of his football players and then you know, this is 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:36.000 um something I'm gonna take with me. Uh. This kid 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:39.720 was not getting a chance to play for four years, 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:42.439 and his fifth year there he finally got the opportunity. 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:46.319 But every year up until then, Nick Saban's advice was 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:49.199 be where your feet are. And I'm going to take 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.080 that with me all the time. It's like, I have 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:55.080 to be present and as happy and grateful as possible 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:58.960 with wherever I'm at, wherever I am, with whomever I'm with. 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:03.640 And that's what I took with me that day. Now 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.319 leading up to that, when I was being passed around 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:10.880 on FaceTime to my family around Thanksgiving, that was hard 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:12.440 and I had to just put a brave face on. 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:15.160 I had a lump in my throat. And then my parents, 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:20.040 you know, and and and everybody in Chicago. But it's, um, 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:22.480 it's something I go would just get through today, you know, 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:25.640 suck it up, do my work, and I'll I'll be 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:27.599 there for Christmas, you know, and I have something to 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:30.840 look forward to for sure. So yeah, but be where 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:32.960 your feet are? That that was my That was my 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:35.920 takeaway and I heard that that day. Actually, I like that, 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:38.120 be where your feet are? You know? What was it 0:09:38.160 --> 0:09:41.280 like for you? Wow? Girl was so tough. I mean 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.880 it was like I get like, it's just people. It's 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:47.439 like it's just the day and you know, make traditions, 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:50.880 make Thanksgiving on a different day, which I get and 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:54.439 I and I'll do when they get a little bit older. Um, 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:58.760 but uh yeah, for me, it was it was it 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:01.000 was really tough, and it was, um, I think just 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:04.520 the first are are really hard, but I've been told 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:08.440 that it's uh, it gets easier every year. So and 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:11.000 next year, I have them, so that'll be good. But 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:14.880 to to finish out the Thanksgiving chat, I I got 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:17.319 stuck in in the food. I got stuck in mud, 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:18.960 so I thought I went to it was like a 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:22.560 friend's giving. So I went to a friend's house and 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:25.160 there was like a construction site. So I was like, oh, 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.360 my car can totally get through that. Like I'll just 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.640 like go up on whatever, so I'll go up in 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:31.600 the mud. Well I didn't. It was raining, so the 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:33.880 mud was like a little bit soft. So I get 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.959 to like and it's like, you know, I put the whatever. 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:38.960 I don't have four wheel drive, but I've got the 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:41.760 thing where you can like change it to you know, 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.840 off roading or whatever. So I put it to put 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:46.880 it to that. But then I realized when I get 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:49.400 to like almost the road, there's a curb and I'm like, crap, 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:51.000 I can't go over the curb like it would have 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:53.520 like totally it was like higher than my car. And 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:54.640 I was like, how did I not see that? Well 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:57.040 because it was writing in dark. So I go to reverse. 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:00.280 I get stuck in the mud, like literally stuck in 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:02.360 the mud. The dinner was at five o'clock. It was 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:06.520 four It was it was four and I'm just like, 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:10.000 this is not happening. I have to pee and I'm starving. 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:15.360 I'm like so then like I kind of start crying. 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:20.000 What well, So I called my friend's house that we're 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:23.120 going to, and I'm like, um, and I couldn't get 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:25.080 it out because I was laughing so hard. I was 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:30.959 like stuck in and they're like you're what And it's 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:32.640 like loud because there it's like a party. I was like, 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:36.280 I'm stuck in the mind, like I can't get my 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:38.559 car out when I keep reversing, and I've reversed it 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:42.439 so much that I've made like, you know, this like whatever, 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:45.600 a big, big enough like ditch hole. So I like 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:47.679 feel terrible because I don't know half the people at 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:50.240 this party, Like I only know like two people, three people. 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:54.960 So they're like, we'll be right there, and I'm like, 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:57.480 oh my god, I'm so embarrassed, and I can't get 0:11:57.480 --> 0:11:59.360 out because it's like I mean literally like it would 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.880 be up to like my like half of my leg 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:05.079 in like mud, and and then it just starts pouring 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:09.720 like pouring down rain. It's pitch dark. I'm starving, And 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.120 when I had my friends come and it was like 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:15.040 the dad. So they were like a lot of them too, 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:17.680 were like old military guys, so like they were like 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:20.000 back in like action man like. They were like I 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:23.400 was like, guys, I am so sorry, and they're like no, no, no, 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:26.319 like thank you. This is like so much fun for us. 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:30.360 And so I was like, but I'm so like, I'm like, 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:32.000 did you guys bring turkey? And they're like, oh, there's 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:33.599 a there's a bar on your seat and I was like, 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:35.840 oh no, And Ryan, I thought of you. I was like, 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:39.920 I'm not going to eat that. I'm waiting for the turkey. 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:44.400 I'm waiting for the sweet potatoes, Bethew. Ryan. But it's 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:46.680 so funny because it's like just memories from sounds like 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:49.000 just like I thought of you in that moment because 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:50.640 I was just like Ryan was here. He would have 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:54.800 laughed at that. Yeah. But anyways, by the way, I 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:57.560 got my snacking under control because I'm like, maybe there's 0:12:57.559 --> 0:13:02.719 something to that. How did did they have to use 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:05.640 like plywood under the tire? Yes? So they got they 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:07.320 got this. I mean you should have. It looked like 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:10.959 five I mean these five grown men, like I mean 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:14.560 they're like fifties. They had like these like orange jump 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.320 suits on. It looked like they just got a jail. Again. 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:17.880 I don't know these people, so I'm like, who are 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:22.440 these guys? So they come and they they climb out 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.240 of this like truck, all like five of them, and 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:27.680 they put this plywood underneath and then they um. So 0:13:27.720 --> 0:13:29.760 we tried that, and then I still was stuck, and 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:31.840 then they had to take um They had to pull 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:35.200 my car as I reverse. But I was like freaking out. 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:38.440 And then I got that's like the doomsday preppers, you know, 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:40.720 they're ready to go there in action. They got all 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:45.720 the supply. Like I profusely apologized, like even like scent flowers. 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:47.800 I'm so sorry, and they're like, no, seriously, like that 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:51.160 was the greatest day of our lives. Can I ask 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.280 you a question? Did you have an amazing time after? 0:13:53.920 --> 0:14:09.360 I had so much fun afterwards. Yeah, So can we 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:11.959 just talk about this for a second. So sorry to 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:17.760 bere deep on this, but the metaphor for where you 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:24.880 were at you were stuck in the blood and and 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:29.560 you've probably felt a little imprisoned in a way because 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.440 you don't have a lot of control in these situations. 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.680 So here are these guys in their jail suits coming 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.840 to save you, to tell you you're not that you 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:41.960 have more control than you than you think, and also 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:44.880 take you out of that place, like you were sent 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:48.200 rescuers to pull you out of that mud. But like 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:52.120 metaphorically too, when you said stuck in the mud, I 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:54.360 thought you were using a metaphor to begin with your 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:56.240 like I was stuck in the mud, and I was like, 0:14:56.720 --> 0:15:02.720 what is Like, that's be good, that's that's the title 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:06.520 of your podcast. But no, I mean, no, jeez, Maria, 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.160 I didn't even think of that, Like, but that's so true, 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:12.600 Like it's all messages to me. That's all messages right 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:16.960 there for you. I'm gonna cry, Mario, always bring the waterworks, 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:20.120 you know. But no, I mean, that's that is beyond true. 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:21.400 And I got I got out of the mud, and 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.000 then I enjoyed the rest of the day. So I'm 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:27.400 glad that we all were able to render I guess 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:29.920 is that the right word, the rest of our But 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:32.320 there's something too that my pastor said today in church. 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:37.080 He's like, there's so much um things to be grateful for, 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:39.560 But he goes he's like, for example, is like when 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:41.640 you go to the store and I don't worry, guys, 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:43.720 We're gonna get to the Christmas movie. But he's like, 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:47.000 when when when you go to the store, he's like, 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:49.160 you're not grateful for the things you purchased because you're 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:51.240 owed that. So he's like there's so many times when 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:58.240 like he's like, we we miss moments of gratefulness and gratitude. 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.120 And he gave us a challenge, which I'm gonna do. 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.200 But he's like every day he's like, for you know, 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:06.040 until Christmas, write down you know three things are grateful 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:09.240 for and then text someone or call someone once a 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:12.800 day and just say thank you, just you know, randomly 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:14.400 out of the blue, whether it's you know, not a 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:17.240 call to some nice of some things like. So that way, 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:21.120 you're walking into the holiday season full of gratitude because 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:22.920 I started to be like, God, I gotta get rid 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:25.400 of my kids on noon on Christmas Day. Well it's like, 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:27.160 well no, if I change my thought process, like I 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:32.840 get to have my kids, yeah, like and but then 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.120 but then also if you do those things I say, 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.520 like if you and I've never like I always think 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:39.320 it's a cool idea, but then I never follow through 0:16:39.320 --> 0:16:42.160 with that. I'm curious where you guys are at with that, 0:16:42.240 --> 0:16:43.640 like do you do you follow through on things like 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:45.480 that or you just kind of like do you just 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:50.000 live your life grateful? No, it's intentional. Like Marie and 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:53.040 I have both done a lot of um, you know, 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:56.160 we we've seen each other at the seminars, whether it's 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:59.920 Tony Robbins or whatever might be. And it's like to me, 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:04.400 I think that when I start my day with gratitude 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:07.600 and a little bit of meditation and think of the things, 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:10.520 it makes all the difference. And uh, you know, I 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:12.600 was telling my kids it's okay to be sad, it's 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:15.560 okay to allow yourself that the tears to come. But 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:18.159 I'm like, it's not okay to stay sad. So you've 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:21.080 got to figure out tools to get out of out 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:26.879 of the mud. You know, A grateful list at night, Okay, 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:30.120 every night, every night when I pray, I go through 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:32.160 my whole list of what I was grateful for that day. 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:35.439 And that reminds me of so many things that I 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:38.280 was taking for granted in a sense because I wasn't 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:41.800 remembering them. I was forgetting like huge moments because you 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:45.760 focus on the negative a lot and the stressors rather 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:48.560 than you know, the great things that happened. So it 0:17:48.680 --> 0:17:50.760 is a perspective shift. But it's funny you say that 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:54.439 because today, coming home from church, Kevin was saying, actually 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:57.600 going to church, Kevin said, my new thing that I'm 0:17:57.640 --> 0:18:02.600 doing is random X of appreciation. And I said, really, 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:05.600 he goes, I'm randomly texting people. He's like, I texted 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.400 my mom the other day and thanked her for this 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:11.639 moment back back in the day, just a one moment 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:13.720 kind of thing. And I said, oh, I like that, 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:18.159 that's really cool. Oh I'm standing by Yeah. I was like, 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:24.199 Covin was grateful for being next the snowman. He's like, 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:26.680 did you see how good I was in the background shot? 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:33.359 That was so embarrassing. Let's talk about that. John was good. 0:18:33.440 --> 0:18:36.000 Let's shift. Let's shift to our movie, The Holiday Fix 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:38.800 Up starring Maria and Ryan and I is coming out 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:43.399 December eleventh on Lifetime, and her husband, Maria's husband Kevin, 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:46.520 makes a cameo. So Maria, how did that come about? 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:50.840 And let's talk about Kevin's cameo? So that came about 0:18:50.880 --> 0:18:53.880 as a joke because once Brian and I were talking 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:56.600 and I was coming, I was like, we've got to 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:58.520 get Kevin in on something. He's like, no, I'm gonna 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:00.240 get Kevin a great goal, and he was like, so 0:19:00.680 --> 0:19:03.119 working on this. I mean, while Kevin's laughing. I have 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:06.760 a video of us in our kitchen crying laughing because 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:11.879 I go, You're going to ruin the movie. Kevin and 0:19:12.040 --> 0:19:14.480 I are crying laughing because I kept telling him he 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:17.320 was going to ruin the movie, that Ryan was going 0:19:17.359 --> 0:19:20.720 to actually probably make this joke happen, and then he's 0:19:20.720 --> 0:19:24.000 going to ruin it. And he's not the pressure too 0:19:24.080 --> 0:19:27.600 when because I said to him, I continued your joke 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:31.439 and said, I'm like, dude, God, I'm watching you on 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:33.600 the monitors, I'd really like you to give a little more, 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:37.000 like you're gonna ruin the movie. And he's like, he's like, dude, 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:39.919 don't don't say that. Don't say that. It's not funny 0:19:42.119 --> 0:19:45.320 dying guys. It's been so much like Kevin and I 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:48.800 like live to laugh. So, you know, there were certain 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:50.639 moments when he was in the background of like the 0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:52.239 end of the movie, and I would just look at 0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:56.600 him and just cry, laughing, do you want it to die? 0:19:57.320 --> 0:19:59.520 How about like when he was, you know, doing the 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:03.440 lantern with the little kids and the kids, and the 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:05.879 kids kept wanting talking the scene and they weren't supposed to. 0:20:05.920 --> 0:20:08.439 It's only supposed to be his line. He's like, get along, 0:20:08.680 --> 0:20:12.919 go ahead, leave now. He was he was, but he 0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:14.639 was great. So he's Nick the Snowman. So when you 0:20:14.640 --> 0:20:16.960 guys are watching the movie, he's the one that UM 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:21.760 puts on the uh snowdown snowball throw down. God, I 0:20:21.760 --> 0:20:25.200 could never say that even on that snowball throw down. UM, 0:20:25.240 --> 0:20:27.280 And yeah, I just I love what you just said 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:29.720 that you guys live to laugh, like what a great like, 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:31.480 and that's that's what I see when I look at 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:33.440 your stories too. I think you just post something the 0:20:33.480 --> 0:20:35.600 other day, just up close photos of you guys just 0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:38.120 like laughing, and I was just like, oh, I want 0:20:38.160 --> 0:20:40.000 that kind of love because you guys are just like 0:20:40.400 --> 0:20:45.680 I long been married for uh married three together it'll 0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:50.280 be yes, I just like, yeah, that's so crazy. And 0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:52.399 then Ryan, how long you've been married for? But listen, 0:20:52.440 --> 0:20:58.040 we fight too. It's not it's not perfect, nothing's going 0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:01.080 to be perfect, but we do live to laugh and 0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:06.800 it's usually making fun of each other. So yeah, no, 0:21:07.040 --> 0:21:11.040 it's it's Um. Yeah, we've been together twenty three years 0:21:11.160 --> 0:21:16.399 and married nineteen So yeah, half my life now, wow, 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:21.080 just give away my age. Um, but yeah, it's and 0:21:21.119 --> 0:21:24.800 by the way, that's what on this project. On every project, 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:28.280 I just I always say, it's not worth it if 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:30.920 we're not laughing, right, if we're not having a good 0:21:30.920 --> 0:21:32.880 time doing it, because these are hard hours. So people 0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:37.080