WEBVTT - Ep 10: The Nerd 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:06.520 Novel. 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:13.720 This show contains adult material and swearing. You have been warned. 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:16.040 I swear to God. 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:19.919 If this man has fucked my gay therapist when I'm 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:23.640 in weak out begging to get my dicks up by him, 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:32.200 I'm going to screaming me I'm a savage. 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:37.000 Are you bored of modern dating? Meeting the same people 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.680 from the same apps in the same bar You've only 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:41.800 chosen because it's close to your house and you can 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:45.159 make your usual quick getaway. It's time to change the 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:48.040 narrative on how we find love. It's time to start 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:52.400 looking for love in all the wrong places. I'm going 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:55.840 on a wild dating adventure, only picking people who are 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:58.880 the total opposite of my type. And after twenty eight 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:02.040 of these dates in two months, will I find that 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:05.800 special someone? Or Well, this experiment proved that I should 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:09.600 just give up on dating all together. It's time to 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:14.440 find out. I'm Grace Campbell and this is twenty eight 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:21.520 dates later. Dan, Yeah, how are you? 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:23.880 Yeah? I'm good. Last night I had the man thing 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:24.880 that happened to me cool. 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:27.680 It was like eleven thirty at night, and I come 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.640 back from the theater because I'm cultured, and the doorbell 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:32.800 rang and I opened the door and there was this 0:01:32.920 --> 0:01:34.800 guy and he was like drawing a chat for a 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:36.880 bit and I was like, sorry, what's going on? 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:38.760 And like he had his foot in the door. I 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:39.920 couldn't close the door. 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:43.120 And he was liked and it was actually quite bad, 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:44.840 and he was like, yeah, you're real cuteh we chat 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:46.280 and I was like, baby, I don't know you nah, 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:48.040 and he was like come on, what's wrong this chat? 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.240 And then he was like look at this and showed 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:52.640 me a video of his girlfriend's sucking his dick. I 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:54.440 think he thought that I lived in like a gay brothel, 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:56.080 like I know my house looks a bit like a 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:56.640 gay brothel. 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:58.400 But he was like he was like do you work here? 0:01:58.440 --> 0:01:59.600 And I was like nah, I live here. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:01.640 And then like to get him to go away, I 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.960 had to be like, look, my partner's upstairs, which isld 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:08.480 face line we wish and there he was like now, 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:10.440 but like take my number, like texting me and asking 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:12.560 him that text me. But it was like this like 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.640 DL guy like on the down load, like he's stray 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:17.000 but gay wanting sex so bad. 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:18.679 And I was just a bit like what. 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:19.919 That's really terrified? 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.440 Okay, yeah, but he was a big guy as well. 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:25.320 I was a bit like and then and then I've 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:26.160 been like playing out in my head. 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:27.640 I was like, is there every a situation where like 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:28.639 I would have. 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:31.280 Been like, yeah, fuck it, that's a porn moment. Actually 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:32.280 now it was not cute. 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:34.920 I don't think it sounds like that kind of porn moment. No, 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.520 I know what you mean, because once an edf man 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:41.760 came to my house. That's an energy person to anyone 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:44.160 that's not in the UK. But he was installing my 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:48.680 energy meter and he was so pang and then we 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:51.200 were like really flirting because he went and stood over 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:53.560 my kitchen counter, which he had no reason to be near, 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:55.920 and was like, your kitchen count is like so low. 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:57.519 And then I went over and he was like why 0:02:57.560 --> 0:02:58.960 is it so low? And I was like it's not low, 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:01.600 it's like a normal height. Maybe you're just really tall 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:03.200 and that's why it feels really low. 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:03.720 Wow. 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:05.720 And then I really thought we were going to fark 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:07.560 and then he lat no, but we do want to 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.720 find that. That would have been a great That was like, 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:11.200 I really would thought you were gonna have sex. 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:13.880 Well, my friend he had someone come around to fix 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:16.680 his washing machine. They did end up having sex, but 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:18.520 it meant that the guy didn't have time to fix. 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:19.080 His washing machine. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.200 So then he his washing machine was broken for like months, 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.280 had to go to the launderer, which they don't show 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.960 you in porn. 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:27.160 The admin. 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:29.679 So hot, it'd be so hot. 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:31.320 So I would love something like that to happen to 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:31.799 me one day. 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.359 Yeah, same, but not what happened to me the other day. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.760 But something No, not like that, but more like the 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:37.600 DF man. 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:38.280 How is your day? 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:41.560 I went on a date with a guy who is 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:45.080 a self professed nerd, and he calls himself a nerd, right, 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:47.600 that's what that means. Yeah, I was just explaining because 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:49.960 some people, you know, aren't miss book like Dan. 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:54.600 As well read for those who don't understand what self 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:57.520 professed muse, it's a Latin. 0:03:57.400 --> 0:04:00.800 For calls himself call himself. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.720 Exactly, So basically he callses off a nerd, which is 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:06.240 very different to my type I have always gone out of, 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:08.080 like really laddie boys. 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:10.000 Well yeah, mainly. 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.320 I will just say that for these of this bit, yeah, 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.520 we'll not actual footballers, but men who play fither side 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.720 football and men who like fucking play FIFA on their 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.080 laptop and championship manager. 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:24.120 I think they always do like their little they're perfect. 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:26.560 Team which fantasy football, Fantasy league football. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:27.960 Yes, so sad. 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:31.240 So that's always been like my kind of guy. So 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:35.480 he is a nerd, and I didn't really know what 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:38.560 to expect, but I found him really easy to talk to, 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:42.520 maybe because stuck inside me is a nerd. 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:44.560 Well, you need to stop eating nerds. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:48.520 It wouldn't be as many nerds inside judge. A nerd 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:50.000 just means that you have a passion, right. 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:52.799 I guess like what he's doing by being clear about 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:57.800 that is he's preparing you that he's not a cool guy. 0:04:58.000 --> 0:05:00.200 But like that's nice because sometimes like being cool is 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:01.800 caring too much about what other people find. 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:04.760 I agree, and I actually like even though it was 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:06.200 really popular at school. But that's the last time I 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:06.560 mentioned this. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:08.760 But you've actually ever mentioned that every single episode. 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:11.760 I actually hate people who are desperate to people I 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:13.919 don't actually connect with them. I've been invited to so 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.640 many like fashion parties, and when I'm there, which I 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:22.560 very rarely go to, range too exactly exactly with like 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:26.440 my faded period of blood like on my jeans, I know, 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:29.760 I feel so uncomfortable there and I do feel more 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:33.159 comfortable with people like this guy. Absolutely, I can't go 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:34.520 out with someone who is badly dressed. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:35.960 Yeah, and also this is not to say that all 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.360 nerds dress badly, because also, what's dressing badly? 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.679 No, there's dressing badly dressing. 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:44.240 But I don't mind seeing someone in the outfit that's 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:45.160 such a choice for them. 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.120 If it's a sort of like distinctive look, I wouldn't 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:53.120 try and change that. But I'm saying fucking non branded trainers, 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:56.880 ill fitting jeans, a fucking T shirt with the Rolling 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:58.000 Stones logo on it. 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:01.640 You're literally just describing what I'm wearing right now, joking, joking. 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:02.320 Wouldn't be seen dead. 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:04.680 No, but there was a time where you wore that 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:05.440 exact outfit. 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:07.559 No, but my mum used to buy me five pound 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.160 trainers from like Tesco, and I wore them until I 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:10.920 was about twenty three. 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:13.600 Okay, that's fine, I'm not dating twenty three year old Dan. 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:15.279 Yeah yeah, yeah, yah yeah. 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:16.920 Anyways, I'm just saying I would date a nerd, but 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:18.320 I would have to make sure that they're, you know, 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:19.680 like wearing good trainers. 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:22.520 I agree, Like, I think dating a nerd is so 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:24.360 much better than dating someone who thinks they're cool. 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:26.680 Yeah, do you think you're me than being like but 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:28.200 they would have to be cool. 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:34.120 Says you, who's actually talked about being cool at school 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:35.040 every single episode. 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:36.760 Yeah, and am saying I could day a nerve. I'd 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:37.880 have to make them look cool. 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:44.200 Yeah, you said. 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:48.040 You're a massive nerd, so traditionally, Like, well, that's so traditional. 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:52.440 Video games, board games and stuff like that, TV and stuff. 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:54.159 You know, it just sounds it kind of just sounds 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:58.080 very generic. It sort of is you know, that's sort 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:02.600 of generic stuff. Oh now I'm kind of like self conscious. 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.160 Self conscious. I mean all I do is watching me. 0:07:06.040 --> 0:07:10.040 Okay, that's the thing. When COVID came, I quite liked it. 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.320 It don't sound quite bad where because I'm like, okay, 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:15.120 I you have to say inside. But it's like I 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:17.640 was quite happy, just like I had my computer, had TV. 0:07:17.960 --> 0:07:23.440 Yeah, everything was great. I mean so sweet, so sweet 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:24.880 and so pure. Yeah. 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.640 I loved COVID, like because I don't think anybody loved 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:31.240 that part of people dying. But I get that that 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:33.160 I watched all of our Housewives of Beverly Hills. 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:35.960 He sounds a bit like an old RSC actor. Like 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:38.840 he's got quite like a good voice. It's quite nice. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:42.400 It was from I do want to try out dungeons 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:43.280 and Dragons. 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:46.280 No, dungeons and Dragons is a huge fucking thing. Did 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:46.960 he mention that? 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:48.800 No, but I want to like a friend of mine 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:49.720 the other day was like, oh. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.360 I played a movie coming out movie. 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:54.400 No, but like I kind of all like laughing. I 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:56.040 want to dress up and go to the words. 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:57.640 Have you ever done an escape room? 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:00.760 I remember doing an skate room with my family for 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:03.400 like someone's birthday, and I just pretended that I was 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:05.320 in one of the sore films. So the whole time, 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:06.880 like I wouldn't help with any clues. I was just 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:08.840 like screaming at the person on like the microphone who's 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:10.080 like watching us, be like. 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.000 Let us out, please stop it. 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:13.400 And then like I would pretend that I was being 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:16.640 tortured by something, but then actually my family would be 0:08:16.640 --> 0:08:19.000 stuck in something and I'd be like, it's this like. 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:19.920 I was watching. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:22.080 I've never done a skat ingom with my family, but 0:08:22.280 --> 0:08:23.160 we just call it home. 0:08:31.840 --> 0:08:34.280 I barely have time for me and the cat. I 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:36.440 don't have time for which is why like I don't 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:38.960 like I do dates, but I just don't do too 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:40.120 many because I'm. 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:41.360 Just like, I don't have time for people. 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:44.160 It doesn't sound terrible, but I've told people that if 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:46.960 I didn't have my cat Sasha, I would be a 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:47.800 way worse place. 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:49.680 I don't know, probably true. 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:52.560 Exactly Are you are you an introvert? 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:56.400 Would you say no, I'm a bit introverted for me. 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.000 I'm just like because with the app field, I've got 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:01.800 into it mainly for like the poly aspect. Okay, sweet, 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:04.240 if I meet someone they've got someone that it's like, okay. 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:06.000 Is that a dream scenario for you? 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:07.199 Just because like. 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:10.840 They still have people that they can be intimate and 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:13.480 have a relationship with them, will have to take one 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:14.160 hundred percent. 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:19.000 Of my time. Okay, I'm literally crying. That relationship he 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:22.040 has with his cat is honestly, he brought. 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:24.960 His cat on the day no no, no, I had 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.920 Eddie though, but of course for Christmas, so he did 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:30.959 Christmas him and his cat, and he loved it, and 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:32.719 he made him a Christmas dinner and made the cat 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:37.000 a Christmas dinner. Valentine's Day, he got his cat Valentine's card. 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:39.840 I mean it got too much for a second, it's 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:44.840 turning against like Stephen King misery like slightly, But. 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:46.079 I actually don't know about that. I think it's really sweet, 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:47.040 and I think it's really sweet. 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:47.880 A cat can't read. 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:52.200 Car I buy Eddie presents all the time, Like whenever 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:53.719 I go away, I bring her back a present. 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:56.240 Yeah, getting it, getting like a little dog toy. That's fine. 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:57.240 A cat can't read. 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:01.440 But sweet exactly, you don't know. I think it's sweet 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:04.000 that he's talking about this on a day. This is 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.720 what I liked about him. There was no kind of 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:09.400 shame in some of the things that I think, Like 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.240 I'm sometimes embarrassed with how much I love my dog 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.160 and don't want to admit that I would kind of 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:16.600 be happy just me and her forever. 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:18.760 Now, well, this is the thing with the quote unquote 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:20.920 like nerdy person, Like they don't care so much about 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.200 what you think about them because they enjoy the things 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:24.040 and the life they have. 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:26.640 Yeah exactly. But then also what was interesting is then 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:29.280 he was talking about like dating people, and it wasn't 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.880 like he doesn't date. He basically just prefers dating people 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:33.960 who are already in a poly relationship so that he 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:36.000 can just see them maybe once every few weeks because 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:38.360 he hasn't got time because he's got him and his cat. 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:41.080 But I love that it's like his main emotional connection 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:42.880 with his cat. But like if he wants has sex 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:43.839 with someone and he wants on. 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.599 The side, Yeah, exactly, I love that. 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.160 I mean, it ain't a bad life. But also, like 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:49.640 it is weird the attachment. 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:49.840 You get with a pet. 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:51.000 It's really weird. 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:52.800 I live with two cats and they're not even my own, 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:55.840 but my god, I'm so attached to the way. 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:58.840 And it's weird how much that attachment can fill avoid 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.160 that you would otherwise want to get from a human. 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.480 Yeah, because I was thinking about the other day. It's 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:06.240 the learning of someone. It's like, because they can't communicate, 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:08.839 you have to learn what they like, so like how 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:10.760 they like to be stroked, or like what sort of 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:12.880 things they enjoy doing. Like you learn that on like 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:15.880 a real like micro level, and that connection and time 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.960 spent learning what Sue enjoys is a nice thing. I 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:22.080 enjoy like knowing that, like my cat prefers being striked 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:22.480 on the head. 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:27.240 Okay, let's let's keep it clean, please, getting of it. 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:31.040 I will not steal. This will not happen again. I 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:33.360 always say, like, listen, you've got to get back. 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:39.000 In the horse the ads to get bagging. You can. 0:11:39.040 --> 0:11:41.079 I just say right now that I do not fuck animals. 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:56.200 But he said that thing about being interested in poly people. 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:57.520 I was that kind of interesting because I was like, 0:11:57.920 --> 0:11:59.880 I've identified you as someone who doesn't really have that 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:02.600 go on dates. So then I asked him about what 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:04.640 his dating life is actually like, you know, then I 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:06.760 was like, okay, maybe a player. 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:09.840 Yeah, but sometimes also like the freakiest people are the 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:12.040 ones that make a card for their count Valentine's Day. 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.680 So how was the daily he went on with the therapist. 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:17.040 It's okay. 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.079 The whole date was making sure we were back to 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:23.160 my tough sex. That's basically all everything was leading up to. 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:23.680 Fine. 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:27.280 And was that sort of mutually agreed thing, yeah, that 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.040 agreed before you mat Yeah, yeaheah quite a bit. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:31.600 I think it's one of the first things we said. 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:35.400 We're like, yeah, let's look up Yeah, okay, I. 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:39.240 Guess sounds very nothing about. 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:42.880 Not particularly I put in a lot of effort really, 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:46.000 But the great thing was that he did mention like 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:49.280 a particularly like a queer therapist website. I'm like, okay, sweet, 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:50.920 So I was looking through that the other day to 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:52.480 try and find her everything. 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:02.440 I swear to God, if this man has fucked my 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:06.520 gay therapist, I'm gonna scream. If that's a therapist that 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:09.360 he's talking about having sex with when I'm weak in 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.080 week out begging to get my dick sucked by him 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:14.760 and he's just fucking him, I'm going to be so. 0:13:14.800 --> 0:13:18.240 Upset, especially on a podcast where all you've done is 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.360 speak about how much you want to fuck your therapist. 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:22.560 All you've done is say how cool you were at school. 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:25.360 Yeah, I'm not siding on a pedestal headan and soundings 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:26.240 over eagle to you. 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:28.199 Yeah, I know, I'm just like you. 0:13:29.200 --> 0:13:30.080 I'm just like you. 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:32.840 Wait, I can't keep saying I want to fuck my therapist. 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:35.160 I actually don't. It's just it's that same. It's like 0:13:35.160 --> 0:13:37.720 that porn situation, Like is I don't. 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:41.760 That's fine, we hear you loud and clear, dance my 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:45.160 therapist shaking Dan, Dan, the microphone's shaking a bit more. 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:47.600 The problem is you sound just like my therapist right now. 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:49.640 That's what he says to me in my sessions. 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:56.640 Basically for the past half of the day. I felt 0:13:56.679 --> 0:14:00.600 really like calm and likely how I feel around straight 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:03.000 men with this man. And once he said that he'd 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:04.280 been on the date of the man, I was like, Oh, 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.880 that's why I feel so calm about you, because you 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:10.400 are either like bisexual, queer, I don't know. Then I 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:12.560 was like, oh, that's why we're getting along really well. 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:14.920 Yeah, I mean he sounds a little bit like a 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:15.600 little funck boy. 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:17.840 To be honest, a lot of my life I thought 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.040 it was homosexual cells on grinder a lot more. I 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:23.560 dated Marraman for like six months. Really, yeah, they were 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:26.480 sort of they was together, but only like a living together. 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:29.200 They fine, They emotionally separated a while ago. 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:30.920 And yeah, it was great. 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:32.560 That was the That was a fun time. You just 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:36.760 bought me everything. Really, I think I was four. I'm like, yeah, 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:38.400 they'll buy my drinks all the time, taking out to 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:42.400 meals by me, all the drops. Everything was real fun. Yeah, 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:45.800 and then because I was a young person and a 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:49.280 bit of an asshole, they didn't want to be with 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.760 me that, you know. 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:53.440 Yeah, fun for a time, Yeah, exactly. 0:14:55.720 --> 0:14:58.040 I love the journey of South do. I mean, this 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:01.520 person's figuring themselves out, like if you were in popular school, 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:02.080 you care so. 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:04.800 Much about you, and then you wouldn't do some of 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.360 the things that something you might have wanted to do. 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:09.840 Yeah, like at school, if I could have dated a 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.640 married man who is buying me stuff, that's all I wanted. 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:15.520 Yeah, especially in your twenties for them to just pay 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:16.800 for everything. It's the dream. 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:18.920 I'm just scared that now I'm too old to like 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:20.880 get a sugar daddy. How can you get a sugar 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:24.040 daddy if you are a daddy. 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:25.200 But you're not a daddy grow up. You're not even thirty. 0:15:26.480 --> 0:15:28.680 You're not a daddy grow up, So you want me 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:29.280 to be a daddy. 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:32.720 I'm just saying, and I mean this energetically. 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:34.840 It's energetic, No, because you are very much. 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:38.240 Still in the baby era, like we are not even 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:39.080 in our thirties. 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:41.800 No, I know, but I just feel like sometimes it's 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:44.040 like not necessarily about age. It can be about like 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:46.640 size and energy. Like I'm a big old person. 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:49.600 I think that's a really self fulfilling prophecy that isn't true, 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:53.080 but that you're speaking into existence for yourself. I don't 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:54.320 believe that to be true. 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.680 Okay, this is the nicest conversation we've ever heard that, 0:15:58.120 --> 0:15:58.920 but you're saying that. 0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:02.760 I'm shouting, but I'm saying that because you're duel, that 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:04.240 you can never have a sugar daddy. 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:06.240 Like that's I think sometimes it's like the thing of 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.520 I think sometimes it's like older bear, small little twink. 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:12.080 No, but I think that's something that you have decided, 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:14.400 and I don't believe that is true. 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:17.880 Okay, Wow, we're getting having a breakthrough today. 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:19.600 Okay, can everybody leave the rough much? Because I think 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:20.640 I'm about to really. 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:25.600 Close the door? Thanks? And should I take off my 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:32.160 top for me? 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:35.160 I don't want to seem like the creepy male, and 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:37.040 like obviously I'm a nerd as well, so it's like, 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:39.320 oh god, do I look like one of these are 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:41.080 what they called a good guys? 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:43.840 Nice guys. I don't want to seem like that. 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:45.160 I don't want to be creepy. 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:50.880 I don't think you have that by I really wouldn't. 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:54.720 I don't. I think you've got like a good energy. Also, 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:59.680 if you're not straight, that you know means that I'm 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:00.440 going to costume. 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:02.400 Yeah, but I think if I make people and realize 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:05.800 I'm actually quite straight passing, sometimes I'm like, yeah, so 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:09.040 that's why I have to say things to certain people. 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:12.040 Exactly exactly. 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:15.560 Yeah, It's mad how much instantly like more like comfortable 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:17.440 and safe I feel with someone when I find out 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:17.880 they're not. 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:22.480 Like yeah, this is it's my shirt work. I ship 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:24.920 on straight men all the time and I'm like, no, they're 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:28.440 technically a protective class, so I can't really say anything 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:29.360 negative about them. 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.520