Speaker 1: You're listening to the mess.
Speaker 2: Okay, girly, we're back.
Speaker 3: Hey girl, you know what, I'm actually feeling so good.
Speaker 3: I'm back on meds.
Speaker 1: Is.
Speaker 3: I've been on it for like twenty minutes and it's worked.
Speaker 3: It's absolutely I'm glowing.
Speaker 2: Is that it happens now? It takes like two weeks,
Speaker 2: three weeks, okay, six months? This is a lie. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's a placebo effect. Right now. How about you? You're
Speaker 2: feeling good? Should I get some drug? No, you don't
Speaker 2: need it. You got you got like rooms and edibles
Speaker 2: and God and God.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you pray, write that down. I just pray it
Speaker 3: just a little bit. I feel like you secretly pray.
Speaker 3: I don't feel like you're the ones on your knees,
Speaker 3: but you're definitely saying no, I'm not on my knees
Speaker 3: and I'm not like a prey before I eat type
Speaker 3: of person.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: But like if I'm trying to catch a flight, I'll
Speaker 3: pray if I especially now you know, planes falling out
Speaker 3: the sky, and if i'm taking it, like if I'm
Speaker 3: at the doctor and.
Speaker 2: I'm waiting for my results, I'll perate.
Speaker 3: So God is like, Marie, you're so unseerious when you're
Speaker 3: praying to me it's nothing, it's nothing. I'd be like, hey, girls,
Speaker 3: so I know we haven't talked. You know my heart? Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know my heart. That's also a good title, girl.
Speaker 3: But uh yeah yeah, yeah, so you're feeling good.
Speaker 2: I love that. Yes, a little bit of mess.
Speaker 3: So I've talked about this before, like we I think
Speaker 3: we put this on the page, but like you know,
Speaker 3: doing pop ups during Valentine's Day, my my gal did
Speaker 3: that to me.
Speaker 2: She popped up at a show.
Speaker 3: I mean, we talked about her coming, but she we
Speaker 3: didn't solidify.
Speaker 2: She didn't confirm. She didn't confirm.
Speaker 3: So if you don't confirm, hey, we need confirmation in
Speaker 3: twenty twenty five, it's a yes or so no it's
Speaker 3: happening or it's not. It's not a oh maybe no,
Speaker 3: no no. So, because the tickets were expensive, I thought
Speaker 3: she wasn't coming. Then all of a sudden, I didn't
Speaker 3: paid all this money for these flowers. She's not even home.
Speaker 2: She's not even home. Mess.
Speaker 3: She came, You delivered the flowers to her, and she
Speaker 3: wasn't there a get them yeah exactly.
Speaker 2: So what they do They just leave them on the stoop.
Speaker 3: Well, luckily, you know, they so unprofessional they didn't deliver
Speaker 3: them until two days later. I said, what if I
Speaker 3: was what if I had fucked up and I needed
Speaker 3: these flowers to be there on that day?
Speaker 2: You were to ruin my relationship. This is a this
Speaker 2: is a black owned blitz. No, it was.
Speaker 3: It was avas flowers could be three stars.
Speaker 2: The flowers were nice, but they were late as a
Speaker 2: late girly. I'm a letter rocks.
Speaker 3: No. Vali's Days the busiest time of year for flower people,
Speaker 3: and whatever funeral season is, I don't know that is right.
Speaker 3: Valentine's Day is the busiest season for them. They should
Speaker 3: have been prepared for that. Three stars.
Speaker 2: I won't lie. I did order it the ten am
Speaker 2: that day that day. Yeah, might be messed. I might
Speaker 2: be messed.
Speaker 3: It's not about the time. It's the thought that matters. Okay,
Speaker 3: you thought about it too late? But what about your mess?
Speaker 2: What is my mess? Wow?
Speaker 3: I do this every week every week. I'm like, should
Speaker 3: I written something down? I guess my mess today? Is
Speaker 3: I got my hair done recently?
Speaker 2: Right? Yes? And I mean you can't relate to it's
Speaker 2: it's not really given. Whatever we're gonna fix it in post.
Speaker 3: But I got my hair done, and before I got
Speaker 3: this style done, I was going to do something like that.
Speaker 3: And I made an appointment with the lady and everything, and.
Speaker 2: She canceled my appointment as they do day as they do.
Speaker 2: My appointment was at noon. She canceled it at twelve
Speaker 2: oh five.
Speaker 3: It be your own people, as so what'd you do?
Speaker 2: I had to pivot.
Speaker 3: I had to do something else. I was sitting in
Speaker 3: the chair getting my braids taken out. I had to
Speaker 3: get some braids out so I can go to this appointment.
Speaker 3: So I was runing late to the appointment anyway, Okay,
Speaker 3: but I was. But I had been trying to call
Speaker 3: her and cancel and postpone, like from the day before.
Speaker 3: She never picked up, She didn't respond to no email,
Speaker 3: she never responded to any of my texts. And at
Speaker 3: twelve or five she called me and I was like, oh, great,
Speaker 3: let me see if I could tell I'll be there
Speaker 3: at like twelve.
Speaker 2: Thirty in stead of twelve. She said, hey, are you
Speaker 2: coming to your appointment?
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I just wanted you to know
Speaker 3: that I'm running lake And we push back to like
Speaker 3: twelve thirty or one. She was like, no, and your
Speaker 3: deposit is non refundable, and then she hung up the phone.
Speaker 2: I said, find you.
Speaker 3: I had like three bohole braids left to take out
Speaker 3: and I'm sitting there like, so what am I going
Speaker 3: to do? So it do be your own people, And
Speaker 3: she did keep my deposit and I will be posting
Speaker 3: about this later because she deserved to get dragged drag.
Speaker 2: But also, you know, it's mess hair. Hair in general.
Speaker 3: The whole system, the industry is messed up, and they
Speaker 3: don't understand how stressed that we are and how we
Speaker 3: be on camera and then they be in the comments
Speaker 3: like look.
Speaker 2: At that wag lifted.
Speaker 3: It's like, hey, babe, we all have to work together
Speaker 3: to make sure black hair community. You know, it takes
Speaker 3: a village to raise a lace front. And I need
Speaker 3: them to be on I need them to be on time.
Speaker 2: I need them to care more than me.
Speaker 3: I need them to be on time. I need them
Speaker 3: to be off book because a lot of the girls
Speaker 3: are hair and makeup people, but they can only do
Speaker 3: a certain type of person hair and makeup. And it's like,
Speaker 3: can you call yourself a professional if you can only
Speaker 3: do straight like one beat like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Not one beat? What's the white people hair?
Speaker 1: Two?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. Becca, if I'm a force?
Speaker 2: She like a three? What are you? Maybe our guests
Speaker 2: will know.
Speaker 3: Maybe our guest will know what I don't know.
Speaker 2: They definitely don't. I am so excited for our guests.
Speaker 3: Giannas in here today, just glowing, just youthful, all their teeth.
Speaker 2: It's crazy, Okay.
Speaker 3: Saying all their teeth implies that I don't have all No, no.
Speaker 2: Let me talk. No, no, Marie.
Speaker 3: If the shoe don't fit, honey, I'm not talking about Yeah,
Speaker 3: that's not my signe.
Speaker 2: I'm missing her too, I'm talking about me. Damn, my
Speaker 2: bad fort stepping on the intro. It's okay.
Speaker 3: Anyway, we have Hunter and Peyton from let me say
Speaker 3: this today at least, So what do you think of
Speaker 3: our mess this week?
Speaker 2: Any thoughts? Hair is a good one? Oh my god?
Speaker 4: Like the DM for appointments, like the dms, the no dms.
Speaker 4: That is like anxiety inducing for me.
Speaker 2: First of all.
Speaker 3: I mean especially if it's a place that you've never
Speaker 3: been before. But like you, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: Like if your friend has gone and you go because
Speaker 3: you're like, oh, who did this?
Speaker 2: And then now you know. But if it's a place
Speaker 2: you've never been, but you.
Speaker 3: You watch some tiktoks, yeah, or you've seen some reels
Speaker 3: and you're like, oh, okay with it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's different.
Speaker 1: Before you came in. Actually, we were talking about gatekeeping
Speaker 1: our braiders.
Speaker 2: Now you have to. You have to absolutely because why.
Speaker 1: Can I not get an appointment when I put you on?
Speaker 1: And it makes sense.
Speaker 2: We put her on and she won't do anything for us.
Speaker 4: She won't do anything except for my hair, which I
Speaker 4: pay for, Okay, Like I can get parity booking.
Speaker 2: I can't shay anything extra for putting you on. Well
Speaker 2: that's in the thing is just like you want her
Speaker 2: to get more money. I want.
Speaker 3: I want this future for usis but because you don't
Speaker 3: do right by me, and now I gotta take it away.
Speaker 2: Now I gotta take this way.
Speaker 3: That's how I feel about, like like getting my hair
Speaker 3: done and people be like see my page and be like, oh,
Speaker 3: make sure you tag me, and it's like, but you
Speaker 3: didn't look me up this I'm paying full price and
Speaker 3: I tip.
Speaker 2: And I did and I was only five minutes late.
Speaker 2: Like I'm not even like that late.
Speaker 1: It's just well, the grace policy needs to be also
Speaker 1: like on both ends. Because I went to get my
Speaker 1: hair done and I was ten minutes late or no,
Speaker 1: I was eleven minutes late, and the cutoff of ten,
Speaker 1: well exactly if before the cutuf should be fifteen fifteen
Speaker 1: is regular, but then like when it flips and they're
Speaker 1: late to starting my hair, I don't get a discount.
Speaker 3: Man, And let's just say fifteen. Ya know, we're gonna
Speaker 3: be late to fifteen, but give me fifteen.
Speaker 2: Then I'll take eleven. And were like, all know I'm
Speaker 2: lying about eleven. I didn't want to be like.
Speaker 1: I also wanted to ask you, are you a god
Speaker 1: fearing woman?
Speaker 2: Am I god? Woman of God?
Speaker 1: Woman?
Speaker 3: Like I said on paper on paper, I'm a god
Speaker 3: fearing woman?
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, like well, or or let's.
Speaker 3: Say this, I was raised, I was raised by God
Speaker 3: like and but then obviously I ventured off did some
Speaker 3: devilish thing.
Speaker 2: But now I'm because.
Speaker 3: When you say delis me eat, I'm still.
Speaker 2: De Yeah, well, but I do I have a relationship
Speaker 2: with God. Okay, okay, are.
Speaker 3: You if you say you're atheist, I'm shutting no black parents.
Speaker 3: I don't, but you feel like my relationship with the
Speaker 3: Lord shifted. But I thought there always had to be
Speaker 3: like in one friendship, there needs to be one real
Speaker 3: god fearing.
Speaker 4: Especially in the black friendship, and then one kind of
Speaker 4: like there's something higher up there.
Speaker 2: You know, like like.
Speaker 4: And they're like like unders someone who's up in the
Speaker 4: church and someone who grew up reading horoscopes like the newspaper,
Speaker 4: and like that's yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's which one is? Which one of you? Oklahoma
Speaker 2: a good hearing woman. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So like a little church in black and white, that's
Speaker 3: what you went, like the kill Bill Church.
Speaker 4: Uh No, more like like like like a black mega
Speaker 4: Churchla mega church. Yes, Bishop Harrison.
Speaker 2: R I P. He's done now. Coulson, Carlton Pearson Carton.
Speaker 3: Is a good pastor, but he's what's the difference between
Speaker 3: a bishop and a pastor?
Speaker 2: More money? Guess what bishops? I own this whole building. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So I was like, I'm clocking in visit. It's not official. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm a guest are Yeah.
Speaker 4: So there were like lots of big churches, like black
Speaker 4: churches and Tulsa for I'm from. And so that was
Speaker 4: But then of course, like I don't know, I had
Speaker 4: to go to church all the time. Yeah, like I
Speaker 4: had to go eat pizza and like after after church
Speaker 4: care like children's church.
Speaker 2: Yes, we did not get pizza. We got in a
Speaker 2: fish sandwiches. Oh lord, okay, wondering.
Speaker 1: Strayed from the world.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my gospel. They're also l I love it.
Speaker 2: Are y'all here for pop ups? Somebody? You know some surprise.
Speaker 2: I thought you meant pop ups like shopping pop ups us.
Speaker 3: I'm talking about popping up, like someone popped up on you, Like.
Speaker 2: Oh, I hate that. I hate running into people too.
Speaker 2: Oh you do?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh that's crazy. We ran into you a couple
Speaker 3: of weeks ago and you acted like you were Yeah,
Speaker 3: you were like, hey, I love you. When somebody is
Speaker 3: obvious that, it's like, oh, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: I feel like your nightmare scenarios like being on a
Speaker 1: train multip stops away and someone sees you and comes
Speaker 1: up to you and it's.
Speaker 2: Like, oh my god, happened to me.
Speaker 4: That happening from Blood High School with I could not
Speaker 4: remember her name. She's so nice, but it was just like,
Speaker 4: what's her name, Mary Francis?
Speaker 3: Okay, that's her name that's an Oklahoma PERSONA yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: but it was just so like, is that.
Speaker 2: Like I'm stealing that?
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm not good with faces or names, so I'll see.
Speaker 3: People neither, right, So I see people and I'd be
Speaker 3: like do I know this person? But you know, people
Speaker 3: will come up to me and be like and I
Speaker 3: don't know if they know me or if they know me,
Speaker 3: so I just be like, good.
Speaker 2: To see you.
Speaker 1: I love.
Speaker 3: Leg. But if you think about it, it's like, well,
Speaker 3: I'm a public figure, You're supposed to know me.
Speaker 2: I don't. What do you do your childhood best friend?
Speaker 2: They're like bitch, and I'm like, how's your mom doing?
Speaker 3: I did bump into somebody once that I I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I recognize this person. And we were both turning the
Speaker 3: corner at the same time, so we crashed into each
Speaker 3: other and I was like, oh hi, and he was
Speaker 3: like hey, and I was like trying to figure out
Speaker 3: where I know him from, and I was like maybe
Speaker 3: I know his mom, And I did ask how's your
Speaker 3: mama doing?
Speaker 2: And then we parted. He was like she's good, blah
Speaker 2: blah blah. We parted ways.
Speaker 3: Turns out it was an actor I did not know him.
Speaker 3: Somebody I recognized from a movie that I had seen.
Speaker 3: It was Lina He at Least Housewive.
Speaker 2: He's in the center of Bailey's husband husband.
Speaker 3: Right, But that's what it was because I was like, wait,
Speaker 3: he did everywhere and it was literally I recognized him
Speaker 3: from David Ruffin.
Speaker 1: And he said, he.
Speaker 2: Everything with you. I was like, it's good. So he's
Speaker 2: just like us. Real.
Speaker 4: I love that he's like, like much older than us.
Speaker 4: You're like, how's your mom? He's like, you.
Speaker 2: Don't crack up? Yeah, so you know, look at this
Speaker 2: thirty year old man I'm talking to. This was a
Speaker 2: couple of years ago.
Speaker 3: But yeah, so sometimes you just gotta fake it, but
Speaker 3: don't show up to where I'm at.
Speaker 2: But not if you're performing.
Speaker 4: That would make me really nervous if like someone just
Speaker 4: shows up and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, oh, But technically it was like we had talked
Speaker 3: about it, so it wasn't It wasn't like me, it's
Speaker 3: not how I'm presenting it.
Speaker 2: It's just I'm trying to be more dramatic about it.
Speaker 3: But and for me, I had already I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be in my bed, I'm gonna be scrolling
Speaker 3: or I'm gonna be closing like but so now you
Speaker 3: know she was coming and I was like, oh wait,
Speaker 3: now I gotta be like alive and so, but I
Speaker 3: think surprises are good, but then it's.
Speaker 2: Like, do you really want a surprise? It is romantic though,
Speaker 2: I think it's like, hey, I'm in theory.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I like surprises that I curated myself totally.
Speaker 1: So it's not right, please the right attitude of this reframe.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, so y'all came in here with y'all, y'all
Speaker 5: good old mess, which is birthdays, birthdays, birthdays, boundaries and bangs.
Speaker 3: I like that there's three bees whose birthday is the closest.
Speaker 3: Who mine is on the September Sydney.
Speaker 1: Just passed, Oh, I guess mine because mine's in April April.
Speaker 2: And what's your birthday? August? Oh? What's that? August ninth? Birthdays, Whitney, Easton, London.
Speaker 2: I feel like that would be in a bio somewhere.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it should be.
Speaker 2: Wait, what are you two?
Speaker 1: Sign wise?
Speaker 2: Libro right aquarious? You kind of said that was shame.
Speaker 3: You're at love because sometimes she accidentally called herself a pisces.
Speaker 3: There was one time, honey, I am I stamped wrong
Speaker 3: capital a aquarius?
Speaker 2: Any famous people born on your birthday? I don't care
Speaker 2: about them.
Speaker 4: It's all about what wait, what are aquarius traits?
Speaker 3: We're I would I would say that we are stars
Speaker 3: chill about it, like we're not like in your face.
Speaker 2: Star crazy, but so crazy at the same time. It's
Speaker 2: like very like you see what you Yeah, that's why
Speaker 2: I thought she was a most sensitive friend. I am.
Speaker 2: Oh that was one time, Marie. One time Sidney.
Speaker 3: Sydney's tears are like interesting because she'll start crying and
Speaker 3: then she'll be laughing and then the tears are sucked
Speaker 3: back in and it's like.
Speaker 2: Did that happen? Call mental illness? But also you sham
Speaker 2: wow tears? Is that y'all? Do that? I feel like
Speaker 2: one of y'all. I feel you, like you're the one
Speaker 2: that would be like, wait are you crying? Oh?
Speaker 1: No, I like be weeping religiously really and I'm one
Speaker 1: of those annoying but just it's like, because I'm gonna
Speaker 1: beutiful crier. I look.
Speaker 4: So many photos of your cry that she sent me
Speaker 4: that she hasn't me cry in a public place or
Speaker 4: at home wherever.
Speaker 3: You want me to cry, You'll cry the streets in
Speaker 3: New York and then you'll take a picture, and then
Speaker 3: you'll share the photo.
Speaker 1: Close friends, if you will one and the one that
Speaker 1: she has specifically is from Kylie Jenner's baby announcement.
Speaker 2: But how you're like this and you're like, bal yeah,
Speaker 2: what a time? Can you please send us the photo?
Speaker 2: So you're gonna need that, You're going to need going in.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm sensitive as fuck. Unfortunately, I'm sensitive as hell.
Speaker 2: You're a tourist. Yeah, grip.
Speaker 3: Suburbs you you don't know what senses you, but it's.
Speaker 1: Lonely at the top of being correct.
Speaker 2: Your head loud.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're Emilio no no, no, I mean like
Speaker 3: you're are you emotional or you the opposite of her?
Speaker 2: I think I've grown a lot.
Speaker 1: You're learning to be You're learning to open up.
Speaker 4: I used to be very like that thirty Rock gift
Speaker 4: of like petting someone with a broom when they're crying.
Speaker 2: Now I'm like you, they were like alternate if you
Speaker 2: put your hand up, Okay, what're this?
Speaker 1: Literally I was crying not even a week ago on
Speaker 1: a walk with Hunter, and she went like it was
Speaker 1: kind of like a slat more than it was a
Speaker 1: pat no rub, it was just kind.
Speaker 2: Of she was she was trying to knock the tears
Speaker 2: out of your body.
Speaker 1: And I understand that. Wait, do you cry on your birthday?
Speaker 3: Your universe cry once a year every year, and it
Speaker 3: would be on my birthday.
Speaker 4: But now I don't know, not as not as much.
Speaker 4: I think you have to cry on your birthday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's one legal time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4: I used to be so surprised when I cried on
Speaker 4: my birthday, Like why am I so sad? And it's
Speaker 4: like because you feel like no one cares about you
Speaker 4: until everyone is around and you're like, oh my god, wait,
Speaker 4: I love birthdays.
Speaker 2: Why is it the long day in the world? Like
Speaker 2: your birthdays?
Speaker 1: Like, oh, everyone fucking hates no matter how many Facebook
Speaker 1: messages I or how many likes on a post.
Speaker 2: Literally you don't mean it.
Speaker 4: Even when it's like someone text me at like eleven am.
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, it's my birthday for eleven
Speaker 4: hours and you had no fucking you didn't care at all, like.
Speaker 2: You realize it's my birthday.
Speaker 3: Truly, It's like, oh my god, I would just feel
Speaker 3: sad about like getting older and being around people who
Speaker 3: I feel like are twelve.
Speaker 2: And on the Forbes twelve under twelve. You know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, like.
Speaker 1: The twelve under twelve to come into blood.
Speaker 2: It's happening. Please don't do that. I already feel bad
Speaker 2: on my birthday. We don't need that. But not no more.
Speaker 3: I mean, last time you cried on your birthday was
Speaker 3: in Tulum, but you was you were you were much
Speaker 3: room the time you were like crying for really you know,
Speaker 3: it was like it was like happy, Like, Wow, I'm
Speaker 3: standing in the ocean, the Gulf of America, the Gulf
Speaker 3: of Mexico, and yeah, I was like my mom stood
Speaker 3: in these same waters, my grandma stood in these waters.
Speaker 2: Tears, that's really sweet.
Speaker 1: Oh you start crying in Tulum? My god, that sounds
Speaker 1: so much cheaper than crying and like that's a Starbucks.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, oh, fully we lived different lives. So why
Speaker 3: are birthdays so messy? Is it the planning of stuff
Speaker 3: for people? Is it like personal mess? Is it because
Speaker 3: you're trying to I don't know. I don't like planning
Speaker 3: things for groups of people because I don't want to.
Speaker 3: I don't want to be worried about people having a
Speaker 3: good time. I just want people to have a good
Speaker 3: time or else or else.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I do this thing with birthdays where like I never
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh I don't care. Oh, like who cares?
Speaker 4: I don't need to do anything. I don't want to
Speaker 4: dinner like don't. And then and then August eighth, I'm like,
Speaker 4: what the fuck is happening? Like we better do something
Speaker 4: big for my birthday? And that, like Cat's Cradle of
Speaker 4: Expectation versus Reality is like just awful every single year.
Speaker 4: But then I also have a really unique scale of
Speaker 4: making other people's birthdays messy.
Speaker 3: Oh you showing up hotter than the birthday?
Speaker 4: Yea?
Speaker 2: What he was doing? Yeh? I thought we were starting
Speaker 2: at nine o six, like you have a spotlight on
Speaker 2: your turn and it's like, oh, totally no.
Speaker 4: Well you were mad because I went to your birthday
Speaker 4: party last year.
Speaker 2: Yeah, wearing a.
Speaker 1: Just a simple white tea, a white tea that said
Speaker 1: LEO on it on my very hard headed ass Taurus
Speaker 1: birthday and I said, pack your bag.
Speaker 2: No, you're remember.
Speaker 1: Because Hunter got wasted blackout and lost her expensive coat.
Speaker 1: And I said, that's why you need to wear But.
Speaker 2: To the top cover up.
Speaker 3: Wait you got you got blackout drunk at her birthday?
Speaker 1: It was that was the thing.
Speaker 2: Let me say it was.
Speaker 4: It was the worst day of my life. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 4: but it's also like I can't remember what happened that
Speaker 4: day to make me like so crazy.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I know, like before that.
Speaker 3: She was black out day, I got black out.
Speaker 2: And so I go to Peyton's birthday. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: what are we gonna wear?
Speaker 4: Okay, cute this like top and skirt, and then I
Speaker 4: lost a coat that costs I'll say four figures. It
Speaker 4: was what it was like, and I'm ashamed to say it,
Speaker 4: but I need to own it because it's I need
Speaker 4: to shave myself into like skirt stream you bought that coat? Yeah,
Speaker 4: it was my birthday. Gret for myself that I got
Speaker 4: was like.
Speaker 2: Most early what kind of coat is it? It doesn't matter,
Speaker 2: Yeah it does.
Speaker 3: We were.
Speaker 2: Maybe would be like maybe they were it.
Speaker 4: Do you want a It was the tame scarf jacket
Speaker 4: and it has like it's like yeah attached.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that so yeah.
Speaker 4: So I lost the coat at the first location at
Speaker 4: the bar, and then I we went to a different bar,
Speaker 4: and I thought I lost it there, but I didn't.
Speaker 4: And then I went back to my apartment again Blackout
Speaker 4: had to walk my dog. Didn't know how that happened.
Speaker 4: I woke up sleep on my sofa. Dog out, she's
Speaker 4: always sleeps in her crate.
Speaker 2: I was like, what the heck?
Speaker 4: And then I had to go get blood drawn, and
Speaker 4: then I had to go to the gym. When I
Speaker 4: had to go get my eyelashes done, and I had
Speaker 4: to go to but my tape a podcast in a basement.
Speaker 2: Why were you in blood drawn? That's the thing for
Speaker 2: me that I'm like.
Speaker 4: It was like I had the appointment set and I
Speaker 4: just I don't know it, like in my in my
Speaker 4: just trauma brain, I was like, oh, I have to
Speaker 4: keep the appointment.
Speaker 2: I can't leave. And then I also didn't want to
Speaker 2: cancel the workout so my trainer would know that. I
Speaker 2: was like so messy. She knew I wanted to cover
Speaker 2: up the masks. You didn't think he was gonna look
Speaker 2: at you and be like, I know what happened?
Speaker 4: No, And she didn't. She was like, oh, weird, what
Speaker 4: happened your arm? I was like, oh, I just got
Speaker 4: blood drawn yesterday.
Speaker 2: So was it the blood drawn.
Speaker 3: The blood drawn thing feel like because you had a
Speaker 3: blood alcohol content of blackout. Then you went to the
Speaker 3: gym with the big gass band aid righty, And.
Speaker 2: Then how did I pass out? Died?
Speaker 4: Because I'm a god ring woman, He's got me. And
Speaker 4: then the story is so messy. And then in the
Speaker 4: middle getting blood drawn, the nurse took a smoke break.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, love that for her.
Speaker 2: So you were in Brooklyn. Was there a balcony off
Speaker 2: the road? She fully was like she fully? I was like,
Speaker 2: where's she going? She was like, bye? It was crazy.
Speaker 2: It was the craziest day.
Speaker 3: So you you cried at her birthday? Or no, you
Speaker 3: got blackout drunk?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Okay, yeah, you love close. I cried the next day.
Speaker 2: I cried.
Speaker 4: You know what would have been like eight hours later?
Speaker 4: Did you get black out drunk at that birthday?
Speaker 1: Yeah? It was my birthday?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: And her right, yeah, thanks, she deserves us.
Speaker 2: So what messy things are happening on your birthday? Was
Speaker 2: I that?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Well my birthday it felt like was actually fine.
Speaker 2: It was thirty. So it was like, I don't like
Speaker 2: why you said it?
Speaker 3: Well, like that that felt aggressive, It felt like well,
Speaker 3: you know, it's like like young, it wasn't a big deal,
Speaker 3: like just another day thirty.
Speaker 2: Like it felt very it felt very I was targeted. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it was actually in sensitive. I should have whispered. That's
Speaker 2: what I.
Speaker 1: Just made it. It was like, what could go wrong? It's thirty,
Speaker 1: Like it's so I'm gonna get wasted. And then I
Speaker 1: like went upstate with my friends the next like a
Speaker 1: couple of days and played games.
Speaker 2: How wholesome. Oh I forgot about that detail that I
Speaker 2: had a flight the next day too.
Speaker 3: Oh you had to go. Yeah, half of that stuff.
Speaker 4: I can't remember what because I remember I was texting
Speaker 4: the bar owner from my flight.
Speaker 2: I think you had a wedding? Do I have a wedding?
Speaker 3: I always texting the bar owner somebody you knew.
Speaker 2: No black coat. He's like, what is it?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: I was like, it has a scarf attached. He's like, no, damn,
Speaker 2: what's the last time you lost the coat?
Speaker 3: I feel like the last time I lost the coat
Speaker 3: was like I don't even remember.
Speaker 2: I'm not a club no coat.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want a coat so good that I'm wearing
Speaker 3: it because it's an outfit. I don't want to even
Speaker 3: put it down like I want to have it on. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't want to lose it.
Speaker 1: You know what I lose often, it's being of being black.
Speaker 1: Is my my phone? My cellular device? You lose your phone,
Speaker 1: which is ironic considering when I'm drinking heavily. I made
Speaker 1: back of the uber kind of.
Speaker 2: That's what you lose it sticking photo.
Speaker 1: So I really that's what I'm saying, So it's surprising
Speaker 1: that it leaves my hand. I'mo point five BackFlash always.
Speaker 1: I stay strapped.
Speaker 3: Yeah, wait, you you use let me do it now?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. How do you do that?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's awesome you it's I the youth
Speaker 1: taught me. I used to be a hater of it,
Speaker 1: and now I'm a lover. You go like a back
Speaker 1: cameras if I'm taking phot of you, point five zoom's
Speaker 1: out and you got to hit like a nice forty
Speaker 1: five degree angle, a little up, yeah, and then you
Speaker 1: click like this upside right here.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And when it's night, like when you're out, you should
Speaker 1: do it with a flash and it'll looks so cumty
Speaker 1: and you look so snatched.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm not trying to talk to people yea
Speaker 3: age just not Eve gonna know your off guard.
Speaker 2: Now he's stressed.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm trying to take a photo.
Speaker 2: Why are you doing this right? I was just giving back.
Speaker 2: I was giving giving back, giving back and giving back.
Speaker 1: I'm paying it forward. Okay, I learned.
Speaker 2: I am now a back camera, point five flash beach
Speaker 2: to the more.
Speaker 3: You know, we'll all do it and then we'll put
Speaker 3: it in a in the dumps for us.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: Think the most important question how many people? Is too
Speaker 3: many people at a birthday dinner?
Speaker 2: What a great dinner. I'm telling you we'll do. That's
Speaker 2: we'll do is putting the check because that was a
Speaker 2: second and we need it and we need to end
Speaker 2: it right there, like no more.
Speaker 1: I think, like a solid I want to say eight,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna say six. Six is too I think, no,
Speaker 1: I think six is the exact number. Like I think
Speaker 1: it needs to be intimate. Birthday just need to be intimate.
Speaker 1: I think once it's going to table one, that's on
Speaker 1: you now. Actually, if you're booking like crazy, like a
Speaker 1: big backyard or a moment, you're paying for.
Speaker 3: That actually, right because now you start yeah yeah versus
Speaker 3: a dinner.
Speaker 1: And I think like the whole point of a birthday
Speaker 1: dinner is like intimacy. Yes, after that, it's too much
Speaker 1: and there's always something for.
Speaker 2: The girl because I feel like they don't know, they
Speaker 2: don't know. Eight is good.
Speaker 4: I think eight or nine. It depends on trying to
Speaker 4: do the math of like yes, but then no plus ones.
Speaker 4: That's the really big thing.
Speaker 1: You just one on a birthday dinner straight couples. That
Speaker 1: sounds like I'm not gonna.
Speaker 2: Say friends, so and so people.
Speaker 4: Are always like, hey, can I bring someone, and it's like, no,
Speaker 4: it's a dinner.
Speaker 2: It's a dinner.
Speaker 1: Also yeah, because who doesn't unless it's a clurb like
Speaker 1: and also you obviously need the plus ones to fill
Speaker 1: this place blackment but.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if we're we're all seated.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, But then the sputing the check thing
Speaker 4: is so weird. I've been to dinners where it's like
Speaker 4: you know, someone, girls like oh I just had this
Speaker 4: one salad and it's like no, you didn't, Like I
Speaker 4: need to be like, no, you didn't.
Speaker 2: I saw how many bites you took of everything you need.
Speaker 3: You tasted everything that means you pay in fairly thing, Yeah,
Speaker 3: but not you clocking them like I see everything you got.
Speaker 2: What's going on? You the octopus earlier? So could I agree?
Speaker 1: I think like you can't.
Speaker 4: You're either all in or you have to be full.
Speaker 4: And then everyone also has to pay for the birthday
Speaker 4: person's meal. Yeah, not be controversial.
Speaker 2: Oh no no no, no no no no.
Speaker 3: Pay for the that's not controversial. Okay, pay for that.
Speaker 2: I'm saying.
Speaker 3: If I'm watching you order steak and I'm eating, you
Speaker 3: know I got.
Speaker 2: The little I got the chicken, I got the roasted
Speaker 2: chicken or whatever.
Speaker 1: The roast chicken can be crazy though.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's make it something small. Let's maybe I didn't
Speaker 2: get that. Maybe I got the chicken salad. You can
Speaker 2: sell it.
Speaker 3: Why are you gonna chicken sell it on my birthday? Listen,
Speaker 3: we going a big a go home. What are you doing?
Speaker 3: But I'm saying that there are there is an imbalance.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it is nobody that they doing a lot, they
Speaker 2: doing a surfing turf.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're like, oh, well, I'm gonna just do this,
Speaker 3: and we need to decide going in because everyone's on
Speaker 3: the same level.
Speaker 2: Everyone's like, okay, yeah, we're gonna like eat a lot
Speaker 2: of food, good food.
Speaker 4: No one's going to be like okay, like doing the
Speaker 4: math in their head out there, like you know, no
Speaker 4: one meeting me.
Speaker 3: We a la carte is mess prefixed only, like so
Speaker 3: we all know we're all spending the same amount of money.
Speaker 3: And if you want to get drinks or extra like
Speaker 3: we buying a bottle, we're doing bottles. Like if no,
Speaker 3: none of that, you get this and you get that,
Speaker 3: and we'll share shared plates.
Speaker 2: No, when if it's more than four people share plates?
Speaker 2: Do you hate me? I don't want to do that.
Speaker 1: I don't want to share a plate.
Speaker 2: I don't plate.
Speaker 3: Let's get up, let's get two chickens, let's get the
Speaker 3: fish for the table.
Speaker 1: I'm not mad a style, yes, but I also like, then,
Speaker 1: don't invite a bitch with a complicated fucking diet. Leave
Speaker 1: her at home.
Speaker 2: I'm an only child. I I you don't want to share.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, so what you eating?
Speaker 2: That's a birthday dinner? Yeah, tell us you're tell us
Speaker 2: your order. I don't know what I'm eating, meaning like
Speaker 2: a pasta that I'm like, okay, that's why we're se
Speaker 2: about you to No.
Speaker 3: No, I think I'm anti dinners for birthdays. I think
Speaker 3: if you want to take somebody else to dinner one
Speaker 3: on one, next grade. But I like an activity. I
Speaker 3: think like like somebody renting down a room. We're playing games, karaoke.
Speaker 3: People come when they can, like they go in and.
Speaker 2: Out that like real strict we're doing.
Speaker 3: It's at this point, I've done it so many times
Speaker 3: it's actually boring. Now, it's actually boring to be with
Speaker 3: ten to fifteen people out a dinner.
Speaker 2: I can't even speak to you. I don't want I
Speaker 2: actually want to.
Speaker 3: I don't want to talk to your mouth as full,
Speaker 3: like we're not having a good time.
Speaker 2: So I'd rather that being said. I will accept a
Speaker 2: sponsored dinner. Yeah, come on call. Actually that was my birthday,
Speaker 2: September twenty third.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you got a couple of seasons to get in
Speaker 3: to get so many and Sydney will be there, Yeah,
Speaker 3: she complained, she'll be cross their dinner is cute because
Speaker 3: then we all know, like we're gonna be taking pictures
Speaker 3: tagging him, and we not thinking about no check, you're
Speaker 3: putting the check, you're getting a check. You know.
Speaker 2: Actually we help them with the check, so you should
Speaker 2: buy us. So actually, actually it's a business dinner.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we did go to a Michael's birthday Oh yeah,
Speaker 4: a segregated birthday birthday dinner.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all the black people actually got there early. It
Speaker 2: sounds Jack and Jill is these Jack and Jill black
Speaker 2: one Jack and Jail.
Speaker 4: No, so yeah, every black person was at one table,
Speaker 4: every white person's at another table.
Speaker 3: And will you tell the black people two hours before
Speaker 3: it actually started.
Speaker 2: No, but we just all happened to be there on
Speaker 2: time for once. It was crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well one of okay, this is this is birthday
Speaker 1: Michael's birthday related. I think the year after I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, everyone just swing me. I'll put the car down,
Speaker 1: and you know I do this all the time, and
Speaker 1: I forgot that I put the car down, and I
Speaker 1: forgot eight months later I heard until six months later
Speaker 1: before and was like this feels weird to venral request
Speaker 1: people now being like, by the way, this dinner we
Speaker 1: went to six months ago, like what happen cut off
Speaker 1: for I only had to do it once with Hunter
Speaker 1: because we had a very expensive hotel.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, so you didn't vemo request people,
Speaker 4: I'm not that dinner.
Speaker 2: I got a VEMO request. Yeah, because she's good for it.
Speaker 2: You see that person there, she's good for it.
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know the little a little Motley crew
Speaker 1: before on that birthday, ma, I don't memo clearer.
Speaker 2: Wait, do I need to put my card down for
Speaker 2: a birthday? If you want the points, you really should. Yeah,
Speaker 2: Oh that's if you don't have a memory of old fish,
Speaker 2: you should. It's not really about the love.
Speaker 3: Six months later, as wild, you are in your house
Speaker 3: washing dishes or watering your plants, and then you went
Speaker 3: literally raging like reverse and you were like.
Speaker 2: You went in your phone and found the thirst sea
Speaker 2: and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, and I just told myself it was a
Speaker 1: thankfully under six people. It was a small enough dinner
Speaker 1: that I was like, this is my gift to Michael.
Speaker 3: So it was like four hundred dollars four one hundred dollars. No,
Speaker 3: we do a lot of pocket watching on this.
Speaker 2: You were talking, I know she got you ten ninety
Speaker 2: nine for the podcast, and You're.
Speaker 1: Like going through her under the bus and I was like, no,
Speaker 1: she's got money.
Speaker 3: You said she's good for it, and you pointed to her, Pa,
Speaker 3: it's a spiser.
Speaker 2: Man, you really I'm tired of it.
Speaker 1: This has been for a while I never knew the
Speaker 1: price of that coach, so that that was the first
Speaker 1: time you heard it her first. That's an excluse.
Speaker 3: Another important question, has there been a birthday where there's
Speaker 3: a big ass fallout. I had a birthday. We were
Speaker 3: all drinking and having a good time. My sister got
Speaker 3: there late. I think it was my twenty first birthday.
Speaker 3: My sister got it so just a couple of years ago.
Speaker 3: My sister got there late with her friend from college,
Speaker 3: and she saw all the drinks on the table and
Speaker 3: she just, I want to catch up to you guys,
Speaker 3: just started drinking.
Speaker 2: Of course, my.
Speaker 3: Sister threw up at the place, I want to say,
Speaker 3: she threw up on the table like something messy, and they,
Speaker 3: you know, Jesse jefted her out of the venue.
Speaker 2: Now everyone that had been drunk and.
Speaker 3: Was feeling good is sober, and we put her in
Speaker 3: a car to go all the way back to school,
Speaker 3: and her friend paid for it. And then my sister
Speaker 3: had to like venmo her in the morning and she
Speaker 3: was like, it was so expensive.
Speaker 2: Why would you put me in a cat? We put
Speaker 2: her in a yellow cab. We put her Well, you
Speaker 2: deserve you got to think about.
Speaker 3: What you did, truly, yes, And when you're paying it off,
Speaker 3: you don't think about how you just like you don't.
Speaker 3: That's not how people drink as adults, but you know,
Speaker 3: when you're seventeen eighteen or her old, she was, that's
Speaker 3: how you do it.
Speaker 2: But did y'all have a falla? We didn't want to
Speaker 2: talk to her after that. She saw your sister. No,
Speaker 2: she's dead to me.
Speaker 1: Legally speaking.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm obigaty to say yes no. But yeah, I
Speaker 3: just don't know what to somebody's birthday and like do
Speaker 3: more than what they did.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think I've had any falling outs from birthday.
Speaker 1: I've just had like met when I went to Vegas
Speaker 1: for my birthday when.
Speaker 3: My bock that's insane Vegas Usher, when Usher was a
Speaker 3: couple of so yeah I twenty twenty one. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 3: that was twenty twenty two, I think recent. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: so that's good. Okay, that is a birthday, that's great. Yeah.
Speaker 1: My friend got like so belligerently drunk. I mean it
Speaker 1: was Vegas with Usher, you got there's no, not that
Speaker 1: night the next night when SO and I just was like,
Speaker 1: we don't try to get somewhere. You're a fishing a team.
Speaker 2: You are, I can stand you.
Speaker 1: It was my birthday and I was desperately trying to
Speaker 1: get to the strip club, and they wanted to take
Speaker 1: me all these like heterosexual clubs, and I just wanted
Speaker 1: to see some todays. And I was like yelling that
Speaker 1: no one wanted to like adhere to my planet.
Speaker 2: They were saying heterosexual club.
Speaker 1: That was something like, no, no, no, I want to
Speaker 1: go to the strip club. They want to go to
Speaker 1: a regular club, like just like a string dance club. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I got the tips. Don't worry, I've found my way.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh no.
Speaker 2: You look like the type this You're gonna get what
Speaker 2: you well.
Speaker 1: I'm a feminist in the stripper yeah, oh god, I'm like,
Speaker 1: what do you need? Daddy Warbucks on me the way
Speaker 1: Michael's Birthday dinner. Constantly in the strip club. My bount
Speaker 1: hate to see me coming.
Speaker 2: Oh I love it. This is exciting. Don't go to
Speaker 2: the strip club being.
Speaker 3: Cheap, no, no, never, at least be throwing somebody else's
Speaker 3: money if you can.
Speaker 2: Never right. Yeah, but I.
Speaker 3: Remember going to the strip club with uh, with another
Speaker 3: comedian and other comedians. But he was like, I'm taking y'all,
Speaker 3: and then he gave us all money. And then one
Speaker 3: of the comedians was just being like.
Speaker 2: One another here another there.
Speaker 3: I said, you broke if you don't give these strippers
Speaker 3: that money?
Speaker 2: Are you grazy? Rent? You're so insane disgusting. I was like,
Speaker 2: you should be embarrassed, and then I was I smacked it.
Speaker 3: Now it's all on the floor. Now what you're gonna do?
Speaker 3: You don't do that in the strip club. That's insane,
Speaker 3: you know what I haven't I have an issue with like,
Speaker 3: like because I I am older than y'all girls, but
Speaker 3: I used to like plan birthdays and then there comes
Speaker 3: a point where you're exhausted you don't want to plan.
Speaker 2: On more birthdays. That's where I'm at.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I honestly have been like even though we've
Speaker 3: been friends for a long time, it's like I had
Speaker 3: a whole nother life where it was like every birthday
Speaker 3: was like we're going out, I'm getting stuff for free,
Speaker 3: We're going to the club. Y'all don't have to pay
Speaker 3: club another. Yes, we've seen the Barbie story. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: so now it's like now it's about people have to
Speaker 3: have effort, because if you plan everything, you do it,
Speaker 3: then people just show up. How do you really know
Speaker 3: if they down for you or they just like, well
Speaker 3: everything's taken care of.
Speaker 2: Were just coming through.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: My friend right now was planning a birthday trip for
Speaker 4: her thirdayth birthday, and like her level of organization, I'm like,
Speaker 4: oh my god, you should just like for a living
Speaker 4: Like She's so like, do you want to go to
Speaker 4: yach day? Do we want to do horseback ridding? All
Speaker 4: of this stuff?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I don't want to do that. I don't.
Speaker 2: I could not plan all of that.
Speaker 4: It's like, no, I would plan a wedding if I
Speaker 4: had that stand wanna girl, I thought.
Speaker 2: I want wedding planner. I could see it. Maybe it's
Speaker 2: a friend tip. Maybe it.
Speaker 3: Looks like and like the Rosie blush, Yeah planner and
Speaker 3: things are color coated with you.
Speaker 2: You have the sticker tabs. Yeah. Yeah, that trucks.
Speaker 4: But I do you mean what like the effort to
Speaker 4: plan a birthday is really a lot, and we should
Speaker 4: get another day for ourselves actually.
Speaker 3: So you have your actual birthday and then another day
Speaker 3: where it's your shoe.
Speaker 4: Yeah, just for planning, someone else's birthday, you get like
Speaker 4: an extra day.
Speaker 3: I just I feel like birthday trips. I mean, I'm
Speaker 3: good for birthday trips. We just went to Morocco for
Speaker 3: my birthday and it was so cute.
Speaker 2: Who I did fall off a camel on my birthday.
Speaker 3: We did to Loom for my birthday when like during
Speaker 3: the pandemic, when everybody was like.
Speaker 2: Don't leave the country, don't leave your house, you left.
Speaker 3: We were like, I was like, it was like all
Speaker 3: the influencers that I follow are in to Loom.
Speaker 2: Should we go to tou Loom?
Speaker 3: And everyone in the group that was like yes, And
Speaker 3: then Sidney was like, let's not post and I was like, girl,
Speaker 3: they know I'm not home.
Speaker 2: It's sunny here and right, but uh, we're gone to Miami.
Speaker 2: We were summer for your birthday. Yeah to Brazil.
Speaker 1: Yeah, come to Brazil.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. I Mean. The thing is is that when
Speaker 2: you go on a trip, it's.
Speaker 3: Like like this is how we normally go, and we
Speaker 3: just like we're gonna figure it out.
Speaker 2: There's like one or two things we know we want
Speaker 2: to do, you know, we just kind of leave it loose. Yeah.
Speaker 3: But the last trip we took together, we were with
Speaker 3: somebody who like planned it all out, like down to
Speaker 3: the hour, and it was like yes, well a libra
Speaker 3: libravirgo cusp. And we were like we were tired from
Speaker 3: doing the stuff, you know what I mean. And it's
Speaker 3: like some people that's just how they plan trips.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I like going on trips to people who
Speaker 4: plan downtime, who like schedule and like, okay, we like
Speaker 4: at least an afternoon for people like reset and.
Speaker 3: Here before we go out here yeah, with messes not
Speaker 3: having an app. I so you're saying we've been up
Speaker 3: since eight am, and you think I'm go.
Speaker 2: Go go, go, go, go, go go go. This is
Speaker 2: not Top Model. I'm not doing a challenge.
Speaker 3: If I don't close my eyes for at least forty
Speaker 3: five minutes, I'll smack all you hose like.
Speaker 2: Somebody gonna die tonight. I need like an hour to
Speaker 2: be like non purple in my back, Like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: you're going through pick let me scroll right?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Please hold. You have been friends since twenty twelve.
Speaker 1: Yeah we met in college.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh y'all got some time on you. Yeah yeah that's
Speaker 2: meters and rugs and you're doing a podcast together. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and you'll be hanging out just regular normal sometimes christ Sydney.
Speaker 3: Everything you're saying about them is Usay again, we get
Speaker 3: friends for about the same amount of time. We have
Speaker 3: a podcast together and we hang out. We've done carryo
Speaker 3: together before.
Speaker 2: We carry before. Yeah, you know, you know, do you
Speaker 2: have boundaries? Because everything is on me. We have boundaries.
Speaker 1: I don't think we've had to like U start like,
Speaker 1: I think we know each other well enough to know
Speaker 1: when Hunter needs to go non verbal. Even when we're
Speaker 1: hanging out with the group, I'm like, okay, so I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tap in because Hunter goes mm.
Speaker 2: Waiting for her food.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay. That's like we have friends that we
Speaker 1: love in the door, but like are like very over
Speaker 1: stimulating and like I know Hunters fuses shorter for that sometimes,
Speaker 1: so I'll clock in and then I'll clock out and
Speaker 1: she'll clock Yeah. With each other, we like know where
Speaker 1: it's like I'm gonna need a loon time or I'm
Speaker 1: gonna like I need to just to parallel play.
Speaker 2: I love parallel It's like a dog together.
Speaker 4: Yeah, It's like we're just kind of like sitting at
Speaker 4: each other, but we don't have to be interacting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that, love that friendship. I'm gonna use
Speaker 3: that later. I'm gonna be like, so, now, are y'all
Speaker 3: the type of people that will hang out and then
Speaker 3: when you get home FaceTime to debrief about what happened,
Speaker 3: just happened or are you You get home and it's like,
Speaker 3: I'll talk to you tomorrow.
Speaker 2: We usually after meetings with a lot yeah, like did
Speaker 2: you hear this? You be on the zoom liked.
Speaker 1: No, No, Like I like you my because like all
Speaker 1: the text me and are literally like hunting a meeting
Speaker 1: being totally but.
Speaker 4: Also I'm so embarrassed, like people hearing like nails and it's.
Speaker 3: About D and D and then my notifications will be
Speaker 3: on on my laptop. Yes, yeah, and you're like the
Speaker 3: laptop is the op for sure. There was one meeting
Speaker 3: where I was in with another friend and the guy
Speaker 3: started talking.
Speaker 2: And I immediately picked up my phone.
Speaker 3: But you, I thought you couldn't see me, but she
Speaker 3: texted me she said, girl, we can see you.
Speaker 2: Because I was texting like, well, why this is so hot?
Speaker 2: Because you got it. I was in an iPad.
Speaker 3: I was an iPad, so the framing was weird, so
Speaker 3: I thought I was out of frame and he was
Speaker 3: like this.
Speaker 1: Having me on a corporate call, except I was in
Speaker 1: a bra I'm like, thankfully had a sweater kind of
Speaker 1: draped over my shoulders, and my like coworker friend text
Speaker 1: me being like, your tits are out, and I was like,
Speaker 1: for sure, I.
Speaker 2: Would have been like you said it to.
Speaker 6: Me, yeah, And then you wanted to talk about hair.
Speaker 2: Hair is mess because we haven't.
Speaker 3: We started with hair right bangs, specifically.
Speaker 1: I didn't cut my bangs, and my friend, who is
Speaker 1: a drag queen and also just like the countiest person
Speaker 1: I've ever met, was like, oh, you could have just
Speaker 1: got a wig, and I was.
Speaker 2: Like, oh wait, Like no wait, but these bangs are
Speaker 2: in because you got the straight to the side.
Speaker 1: They're really greasy right now. That's why we're under we're
Speaker 1: incognito mode at the moment. But like, I know, the
Speaker 1: haircut was highly praised and should be. It looks phenomenally
Speaker 1: accentually my cheekbones. Thay god. But I did think right after, oh,
Speaker 1: what about when it's curly, because.
Speaker 2: Like, oh, yeah you do, yeah you do. Yeah, it
Speaker 2: might feel a little you gotta lose, Like, yeah.
Speaker 1: It's gonna look really, it's not gonna hit out my cheekbones.
Speaker 1: It's gonna hit like out my eyes.
Speaker 3: To be curls, though they'll still be long, he said
Speaker 3: to me. See, she know she knows what the texture
Speaker 3: is to be curls. But also she got because you like,
Speaker 3: we're gonna make it work, You're you're happened.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I would have thought about that beforehand, but
Speaker 4: I think it looks good.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I just like to live, so I but taking risk
Speaker 3: is important for hair because like.
Speaker 2: I have gonna grow bad.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have bangs for about ten twelve years.
Speaker 2: It was insane. I would not let up.
Speaker 3: And then I'm back Marie and she was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: you stay in a bang in the gold eyeshadow.
Speaker 2: Tell you. She was like you, girl, you can't used.
Speaker 3: To stay with a thick, a nice, a nice like
Speaker 3: Brazilian bang. But and I was like, girl what She
Speaker 3: was like, I hate my forehead it's so big. And
Speaker 3: I was like, you hate it because you don't see
Speaker 3: it right if you first see it. If you're always
Speaker 3: with a bang, you're used to your face being this big.
Speaker 3: But if you just let it, if you put breathe
Speaker 3: a little bit, you'll get used to your forehead and
Speaker 3: you did and then you didn't.
Speaker 2: I said, is trying to set me up? I love
Speaker 2: a bang?
Speaker 3: And oh you know when she said that I love
Speaker 3: a bang, you touched my bangs immediate?
Speaker 2: Is there a problem?
Speaker 3: And then like because the thing about bangs is it's
Speaker 3: a whole lifestyle. It's like you got you got tom
Speaker 3: closed that matched the bangs, that match the mood. Like
Speaker 3: you're not just popping on anything, like you're wearing a
Speaker 3: bang and a hot ink like lipstick.
Speaker 2: Unless it's a cost, you know.
Speaker 3: So I feel like if you do bangs, it's either
Speaker 3: oh you're going through something more it's.
Speaker 2: A full like suspassion.
Speaker 1: Yeah, bisexuality both both are you're going through something when
Speaker 1: I'm bored, when you're bored by all right, that might
Speaker 1: I like, that's rising bisexuality, Sun lesbian, moon asexual moon
Speaker 1: lesbian most of the time. Yeah, okay, rising is bisexual,
Speaker 1: Rising bisexual, I give bisexual, And I know that about myself.
Speaker 1: I know I thought she was I thought she was la.
Speaker 1: Really yeah, that lower case I would say, more than
Speaker 1: upper case you, I would. Wow, that's so different than
Speaker 1: how most people I think perceive me.
Speaker 2: It's clear, I don't know, you don't know. It's like
Speaker 2: the vast button down black right now is very specific.
Speaker 2: Looks like you being bushwick. That don't have nothing to
Speaker 2: do with sexuality. It's just you know, wait, so you
Speaker 2: pulled a gun on me? No, no, no, before her
Speaker 2: did say you were on the J train.
Speaker 1: Okay you might as well, lomer, but she said you
Speaker 1: er you get off that murder white off, don't you.
Speaker 1: That was what you just said to me from the
Speaker 1: uber though, from the uber thank you.
Speaker 2: I'm not touching any of that. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Well lesbian on Locassian crying and helping your.
Speaker 2: Holds on now.
Speaker 3: Actually I wish that I was able to be so
Speaker 3: like outward like you are, like about like.
Speaker 2: No, not your sexuality.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, like you you make it fun and like
Speaker 3: interesting and like oh yeah, like I feel like you
Speaker 3: can recruit the girls.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm here for.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when I talk about my lesbian ship, my friends
Speaker 3: be like, oh they got them straight man.
Speaker 2: A lot. She's just showing up. She's just popping up.
Speaker 2: Yeah at your job. Yeah, but you like just being
Speaker 2: a crop top and just be like girls girls girls,
Speaker 2: And I mean like in a shawl like, yes, you
Speaker 2: know those women. Yeah, she's cold is.
Speaker 1: A representation matters?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 2: Beautiful and hunter you're straight? Yes? Yes? What kind of
Speaker 2: people do you date? Not for now girls, girl? What
Speaker 2: kind of people do you usually date? Men?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: But like what come like great homophonbi God, that was church.
Speaker 2: Men of man, the pizza at children's church. Believe that
Speaker 2: now that was good? That was good? Men seven like
Speaker 2: like creative people? Are are you dating? Finance bros? Is
Speaker 2: he six y five? Blue eyes? You got a boyfriend? Yeah?
Speaker 2: You cuped up? No? No, damn Sydney. Why are you?
Speaker 3: I thought I know, I thought I had the research
Speaker 3: on the people I clearly yeah many weeks.
Speaker 2: I'm so behind. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, here you can go opportunity though, just not Bushwick.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah Bushwick sixty. To me, I need someone who
Speaker 4: loves a bonnet.
Speaker 2: Oh so.
Speaker 4: You need someone who was like like you know those
Speaker 4: girls who on tiktalk who are like, oh like bonnet,
Speaker 4: Like I would never wear a bonnet to like the airport,
Speaker 4: But I want someone who like loves that for me,
Speaker 4: who like maybe sees it in my future.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: So when if you walked out with a bonnet. They
Speaker 3: would be like, oh my god, I can't believe you
Speaker 3: doing it. Yeah, yeah, someone who loves a bonnet.
Speaker 2: That sounds like a white man, a white man loves.
Speaker 2: Oh you're doing something different, jum on queen.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, are.
Speaker 2: You like, are you going to go see your family later?
Speaker 3: Like you look like a sexy pill girl.
Speaker 2: I take it back.
Speaker 3: I no, no, big big bonnet.
Speaker 2: Who paid me to say that this episode?
Speaker 1: You know you're coming in that one from now?
Speaker 2: Would you ever do bangs? No?
Speaker 4: I don't, like I have a big forehead, but so
Speaker 4: maybe maybe in my future a little bit. But this
Speaker 4: is the thing I really hate when white women have
Speaker 4: curly bangs.
Speaker 3: No. I love a curly bank like there's or like
Speaker 3: a curly bank like a big I love like like
Speaker 3: like curls like in the front, like a shaggy bang.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I hate it. I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't like like like an ungroomed dog girl.
Speaker 2: Now the whole club what you're talking about?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, what does she do to you? Did
Speaker 1: she say to your productosha? Like the lesbian white lesbian haircut?
Speaker 2: They I don't like a curly bang either, though, I
Speaker 2: love a curly bang. It just it feels very.
Speaker 4: Like like fake seventies, like period movie, like set in
Speaker 4: nineteen seventy two, but it's like, fully, we know those
Speaker 4: twenty fourteen That's what it's giving to me.
Speaker 2: It sounds like a James Frankl project. You know what,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna pull it. I'm gonna pop out with a
Speaker 2: curly bang and not dare you bitches?
Speaker 3: They got a clip on a clip on curly bang.
Speaker 3: You know you're not fucking with that?
Speaker 1: No holding it?
Speaker 2: Holding it?
Speaker 3: Wait?
Speaker 2: Great, say that, because that would be going in the
Speaker 2: I found your bank? Can you put this under your.
Speaker 3: I love that, you know what? You know what I
Speaker 3: do hate that has nothing to do with bangs. It's
Speaker 3: just like people policing people's hair because it's just so
Speaker 3: hard to figure it out the whole. There's so much
Speaker 3: trial and error, and like you walk out, you think
Speaker 3: you're confident, You're like, I'm killing it, and then somebody
Speaker 3: will just be staring at the side of your head
Speaker 3: and it's like.
Speaker 2: What what is it? Yeah? What is it? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's cut wrong. Yes, what do you want me to do? Oh?
Speaker 2: Wear a hat? Can't wear we're at a ball. I
Speaker 2: can't wear a hat and the ball a ball, girl?
Speaker 2: Where are you going?
Speaker 3: We hit the ball and the ball the ball.
Speaker 2: We're the bald girl. The galla is a gallon wall.
Speaker 2: What are you talking about? And maybe it is a ball. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's the med.
Speaker 1: Gall between the gala and a ball.
Speaker 2: I mean, wait, hunter, do you ever wear your hair straight? Not? Really?
Speaker 2: I hate my own hair. It's not the real mouth.
Speaker 4: You need the cream, you need the oil, but you
Speaker 4: can't hit the leven. We all seed the spray and
Speaker 4: then god forbid, you need the spec a brush.
Speaker 3: But the way it looks when you leave the salon
Speaker 3: and you're feeling good about yourself, it's not the way
Speaker 3: it's gonna look when you wake up. No, no, no,
Speaker 3: And then like if I got to get up and
Speaker 3: do it every day.
Speaker 2: My arm hurts when I'm drinking my own hair. Good,
Speaker 2: I'm painful a punzel.
Speaker 1: Oh inches, yeah, so much. So.
Speaker 2: Many of the trees are very long. Wait, should we
Speaker 2: do some like mess versus living? You have some mess living?
Speaker 2: Let's do it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, your friend is unhoused, but you're like, no, you
Speaker 3: can't stay with me?
Speaker 2: Is that mess? Or living? Like forever?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean That's the thing is like you never
Speaker 3: know when they don't You don't know, you never know
Speaker 3: when they ask you and you're like, actually, I don't
Speaker 3: want this.
Speaker 2: Is that? Is that mess? Or living? But I would say.
Speaker 4: Yes, and then you're just yet available, book on an airbnb,
Speaker 4: anyone to stay with you, anybody the.
Speaker 1: Guns I know, I know hundreds of different talks pockets.
Speaker 1: So she doesn't know about like kind of letting people
Speaker 1: into your home.
Speaker 2: I'm just kind of giving back to the strife.
Speaker 3: Look like she had blood work.
Speaker 1: Your own doing.
Speaker 2: She chose that curse. She let me get a glass
Speaker 2: of water.
Speaker 3: I'm going to say a living I would with me.
Speaker 3: Yeah before I said if say, for instance, me in
Speaker 3: the front app and I said no, is that mess?
Speaker 2: And I'm like no, or is it living? Because I'm
Speaker 2: putting up this this boundary that I don't want you
Speaker 2: to just say, oh god.
Speaker 1: I just a little bit of mess. I think having
Speaker 1: a hard time of like a hard time out of
Speaker 1: like you have one week or you have like two weeks,
Speaker 1: not like I think you need to set a boundary there,
Speaker 1: but let them into your home, let them you got
Speaker 1: a week.
Speaker 2: And then you had to figure out something else.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the boundary is the time women, not the entering
Speaker 1: into the home.
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, what's the podcast you love?
Speaker 1: We can do her things.
Speaker 2: Yes, we can do hard things and the Glenna Doyle
Speaker 2: can do hard things.
Speaker 3: We can do hard things. Is that what you learned
Speaker 3: from We can do hard things? And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: we can't do things. I like doing hard things. They're hard.
Speaker 2: That's mess. You gotta do some hard things, like what
Speaker 2: life is hard? I want my life to be easy,
Speaker 2: but it has to be hard. And yes, a long cigarette.
Speaker 1: It's like actually one of those little clip things like
Speaker 1: Krilla Deville.
Speaker 2: Corilla Deville, mess or just living, just living. She really
Speaker 2: is just living, like what she can't be fabulous. Well,
Speaker 2: you can't get you can't kill dogs. She didn't kill
Speaker 2: the dog. She wanted.
Speaker 4: And wanted to redistribute their first.
Speaker 2: You're gonna have to shut out, he said. She wanted
Speaker 2: tostribute the redistribed. It is the day of the is
Speaker 2: the word of the day.
Speaker 1: Make sure you use it.
Speaker 2: In a sentence this week.
Speaker 3: I'm definitely right now now, right now. Friend doesn't like fiance.
Speaker 3: Friend doesn't like fiance. Fiance. They're about to get married.
Speaker 3: They're like this friend can't come to the wedding, mess
Speaker 3: or just living that's mess.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think mess too.
Speaker 3: That's loss of a friend, close friend, very close. So
Speaker 3: why she don't like the fiance? I need information?
Speaker 2: Some people just don't get along. Well, if you don't
Speaker 2: get along, then you don't have to be here. But
Speaker 2: did he do something? You know?
Speaker 3: I can't say all the Oh, I can't say everything,
Speaker 3: but I'm just saying this is not.
Speaker 2: Custom.
Speaker 3: I also want to say that it is. You don't
Speaker 3: have to like somebody's fiance or whatever. But then it's like,
Speaker 3: why do you want to go to the wedding because
Speaker 3: it's like, bitch, I've.
Speaker 2: Been through all these she my friend ran through.
Speaker 3: I should at least see her at the final Yes,
Speaker 3: the final.
Speaker 4: Bro.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well there's all those like uh like videos on
Speaker 3: line or whatever, and it'll be like me dancing at
Speaker 3: my friend's wedding after I told her to dump him
Speaker 3: seventeen times.
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, I'm gonna be at the wedding. I'll
Speaker 2: be there.
Speaker 1: No, I want to party, Yeah, of course, of course
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be there. I think that's I though. I
Speaker 1: am a big believer and like my partner has to
Speaker 1: get along with my people. I think it's like a
Speaker 1: bad sign if depending on how you're close to your
Speaker 1: relationships are, which like for me, I feel really close
Speaker 1: to my friends. If there's haters that are like this
Speaker 1: isn't right, like I trust them, I don't trust myself.
Speaker 1: I trust them sometimes like hell though I've made some
Speaker 1: dumb decisions.
Speaker 2: But I feel like if that is like there's already.
Speaker 1: A bunch of conflict there, that's not a good sign
Speaker 1: to begin with, Like is this even the person you
Speaker 1: need to be marrying?
Speaker 2: Wait?
Speaker 4: When's the friend not liking the fiance or the fiance
Speaker 4: not liking the friend?
Speaker 3: The friend the friend doesn't like the fiance. Friend don't
Speaker 3: fuck with fiance. Yeah, I'm not I don't really want
Speaker 3: to be around this guy. But wedding is in Sue
Speaker 3: and it's like, Okay, how come I didn't get that invite? Well,
Speaker 3: you don't like you don't like my man. She's like,
Speaker 3: but I'm I'm there for.
Speaker 2: You, yeah, yester.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But he was like, don't she don't like me?
Speaker 3: And the friend is like, hey, are you going to
Speaker 3: fight for me or not? Fiance said, I'm not paying
Speaker 3: for that plate.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and no, you have the friend has to be
Speaker 2: right to the wedding.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because listen, she's been with a friend more than
Speaker 4: she's been with a man.
Speaker 1: That's a real relationship.
Speaker 2: Okay, I think we did the work today.
Speaker 3: Is there anything else that you would like to list
Speaker 3: for the people as being messy? We can lightning round
Speaker 3: it and then we'll let you go. Like I feel
Speaker 3: like we're in midtown. Midtown is mess always.
Speaker 2: Office buildings are mess wait, especially now, office.
Speaker 4: Buildings are mess every every elevator bay is different, every
Speaker 4: front desk is different. I joy to take my idea out.
Speaker 4: Do you need to pass all that stuff? I'm like,
Speaker 4: it makes me nervous.
Speaker 2: Office buildings are mess.
Speaker 1: One hallway in this building is a mess.
Speaker 3: No, No, that is the different music every time I
Speaker 3: walked by.
Speaker 2: Oh my, you know I took a photo of it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I loved the way it was different than the sonic
Speaker 1: Like I thought I was under attack. It was crazy.
Speaker 2: I didn't I know I was under attacked.
Speaker 4: They're playing Miley Cyrus that you take is a different station, right,
Speaker 4: So I stopped moving physically and it was like, I
Speaker 4: don't need to be woken up like this.
Speaker 2: It really shook me. You didn't hear any songs that
Speaker 2: you like, is what I'm hearing.
Speaker 1: Well, I was playing my own we Can Do Hard
Speaker 1: Things podcast, and you can imagine the peace and serenity.
Speaker 1: I was experiencing the two white women in.
Speaker 2: My ear, and I was like, I did.
Speaker 1: So dense. I don't know, I like to be a
Speaker 1: simulated I'm.
Speaker 2: Gonna say, Amtrak is mess.
Speaker 4: Oh business, I think it's just mess side No, truly,
Speaker 4: we were coming from d C.
Speaker 2: First of all, that's already mess. You set yourself up
Speaker 2: for the mess.
Speaker 4: Hot we had we could expense that, so we did
Speaker 4: business class or just somehow the very last train on
Speaker 4: the car back of the bus, her last car on
Speaker 4: the train, and we were like, it was like the
Speaker 4: Wendy Williams thing, like the wind Wioms gift of her,
Speaker 4: like jumping up and down.
Speaker 2: It was crazy. It was so so bumpy.
Speaker 1: I was so.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the trucks, it was. It was unreal.
Speaker 3: Now would you rather be on a plane in a
Speaker 3: drop like which one track? After everything that's been going on?
Speaker 3: I was, I just took the train and I said,
Speaker 3: showy is nice. I know, I'm I know, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: be okay, let me see the ground the quiet car quite.
Speaker 2: Respect respect.
Speaker 4: I think my new thing is I won't take a
Speaker 4: plane unless Denzel is like the captain.
Speaker 2: But he was drunk. He wasn't alcoholic. He landed the plane,
Speaker 2: but they didn't. Somebody die. Well, I don't know if
Speaker 2: somebody died or not, but.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I think that one.
Speaker 2: But it wasn't his fault. Yeah, the one was. It
Speaker 2: was literally literally his football. But it was a plane malfunction.
Speaker 2: He know, the only thing.
Speaker 4: They tested like twenty pilots and no one could land
Speaker 4: the plane except for him.
Speaker 2: Every simulation crashed. Yes, I do love flight, it's serious.
Speaker 2: I didn't even know about the simulation. So he was
Speaker 2: an alcoholic who was flying a plane.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you can be both.
Speaker 3: Okay that for Southwest.
Speaker 2: I want to on thongs or mess. I'm done with
Speaker 2: I know, and I'm tired.
Speaker 3: It's just in there and it's just going back and
Speaker 3: forth and it's just it's just there.
Speaker 2: And now are you wearing the wrong side or the
Speaker 2: wrong I will say the poem is is out there,
Speaker 2: so you know, I might mean need another size, it's probably,
Speaker 2: but what you're.
Speaker 3: Looking at, miss Brawls.
Speaker 2: That thank you so much. This is amazing.
Speaker 3: Please let everybody know where they can find your asses.
Speaker 2: Please.
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