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Speaker 1: It's the Fred Show. This is what's trending. Man sad news.

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Speaker 1: James Earld Jones passed away ninety three years old. Mostly

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Speaker 1: widely known as the Star Well the Voice I guess,

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Speaker 1: one of the stars of Star Wars. He was the

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Speaker 1: voice of Darth Vader, who passed away at the age

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Speaker 1: of ninety three. This home, surrounded by family. He discovers

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Speaker 1: his love for acting in the fifties, when he attended

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Speaker 1: the University of Michigan. Sorry, Kaitlin. He then moved on

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Speaker 1: to New York and worked as a janitor while attending

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Speaker 1: the American Theater Wing. He made his Broadway debut in

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Speaker 1: nineteen fifty eight, won two Tony Awards in sixty nine

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Speaker 1: and eighty seven. You know he never won. He got

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Speaker 1: an honorary Academy Award in twenty twelve, but he won

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Speaker 1: an Emmy, Grammy, Oscar and a Tony, but he never

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Speaker 1: won an Academy Award. He got the honorary one, but

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Speaker 1: he never won it. Per se, which is crazy to me.

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Speaker 1: Here he is that's a Is it on a second?

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Speaker 1: It's only four seconds? I don't If I trust this,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna click on it.

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Speaker 2: Probably interested I am your father.

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Speaker 1: No, it's supposedly him talking about having a stutter growing up,

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Speaker 1: which is amazing to think about. But I don't I

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Speaker 1: don't know, and I don't think that's the right clip.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna click on him. But yeah, everyone heard

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Speaker 1: his voice before. It's very sadasa. Yes, that's what I'm

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Speaker 1: sad about. The sand lot. Yeah yeah, field of dreams, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: field of dreams. So he was in a bunch of stuff.

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Speaker 1: So he passed away. So all right in America? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yes, that's right. Of yes, yes, any wore

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Speaker 1: that that came with the with the actual like tiger

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Speaker 1: head on it. Oh yeah, walked into the barbershop. You're

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Speaker 1: late for the Christmas passible? Oh my god, yes, of course. Uh.

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Speaker 1: Space guys. Space Ex's latest mission a bold and risky

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Speaker 1: trek into Earth's Van Allen radiation belt. Of course, you

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Speaker 1: know that the Van Allen radiation Belt. It's very one

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Speaker 1: trying to go. A four person civilian crew launched this

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Speaker 1: morning at five three Eastern. It's dubbed Polaris Dawn. It

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Speaker 1: lifts it off. The launch comes after several weather delays

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Speaker 1: in late August and earlier this morning. Further Complicating the

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Speaker 1: launch prospects was the fact that the space X needed

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Speaker 1: to ensure that there are calm waters and winds for

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Speaker 1: the crew's return. Timing is critical. The mission will have

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Speaker 1: only enough life support for five or six days in

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Speaker 1: space because carrying out a spacewalk will create a drain

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Speaker 1: and auxygen supplies. So it's the first commercial spacewalk. Cool

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Speaker 1: and four men and women boom up there. They're gonna wave.

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Speaker 1: The butchers today are.

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Speaker 2: Putting more up there.

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Speaker 3: Can we just get them there?

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Speaker 1: They're gonna cruise U. Yeah, we ain't got rumin the back.

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Speaker 1: Sorry for that.

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Speaker 3: We should send more.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and they get space walk their ass right up

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Speaker 1: to them and be like, hey, wild you know, if

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Speaker 1: we didn't spacewalk, we'd haven't enough oxygen for you. But

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Speaker 1: we are spacewalking, baby, So it's sorry. That is messed up.

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Speaker 1: Bunching Sunita up there going what you messing around the billions?

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Speaker 1: So walk and you you can't come through for five minutes.

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Speaker 1: Pick us up.

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Speaker 3: I hate it.

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Speaker 1: Here, hang on his seatbelt. It's going on. If you've

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Speaker 1: been wondering what's going on with Princess Kate, Princess Katherine,

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Speaker 1: the Princess of Wales. She has completed chemotherapy and is

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Speaker 1: doing what I can to stay cancer free. Do we

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Speaker 1: ever really know what happened exactly? I mean, she had cancer,

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Speaker 1: we know that, but she disappeared for a while, remember

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Speaker 1: all that, and people thought maybe she was dead and

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Speaker 1: they weren't telling anybody, or maybe it was like a

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Speaker 1: double and then we were seeing her and then weren't

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Speaker 4: I think they just tried to hide it, and they

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Speaker 4: did an awful job.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really bad. And then they were like

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Speaker 1: putting out old pictures and saying they were new. And

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Speaker 1: then of course the internet always wins, and they were

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Speaker 1: analyzing it and all of them. But she underwent major

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Speaker 1: abdominal surgery shortly after Christmas had Apparently she's doing much better.

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Speaker 1: Eight hundred million dollars, guys, tonight is the night I

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Speaker 1: decided to hold off. I didn't buy a ticket on Friday.

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Speaker 1: I decided to hold off. I wasn't feeling it, right,

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling it. I'm feeling it now. Eight hundred million

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Speaker 1: dollars is the Mega millions jackpot for tonight. I'm not

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you what the odds are to win. Does

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Speaker 1: it matter? The odds are not that good for you

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Speaker 1: because I'm going to win. But if you want to

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Speaker 1: contribute to my retirement fund, that's fine. Go on and

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Speaker 1: buy as many tickets as you want. I will not

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Speaker 1: forget about you when I win eight hundred million dollars.

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Speaker 2: What's the first thing you're gonna buy?

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Speaker 1: What is the first thing? I'm gonna buy a car

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Speaker 1: to drive away from this place? No, I don't know, nord, sir.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna buy the radio station. Fire some people who

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do. You all are safe. You're all getting

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Speaker 1: raises too. You're all gonna get raises from twelve dollars

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Speaker 1: an hour to fifteen dollars now actual actual minimum wage. Now,

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Speaker 1: don't worry. I got you. I got you.

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Speaker 5: What was it?

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Speaker 1: What would be the first thing you would buy?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 7: I would probably build my dream house. Okay, for some reason,

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Speaker 7: I'm going to build a house. TikTok and man, I

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Speaker 7: want to build a house. Okay, all right, well there

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Speaker 7: you go. I mean, do you imagine like huge, reasonable sized?

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Speaker 2: It's pretty huge?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty well?

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Speaker 1: What does it need to have in it? That's gonna

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Speaker 1: Why does it need to be so big.

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Speaker 2: I need my own chambers.

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Speaker 1: Chambers.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I need chambers like where I can do my

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Speaker 2: judge thing. And then a chamber.

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Speaker 1: Well too medieval even medieval stuff, thinking, yeah, is that

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Speaker 1: what you Timothy do? Y'all rush up like yeah, get

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Speaker 1: like swords and shields and stuff and leg Yeah. Every

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Speaker 1: time we talk about medieval times, I'm reminded of the

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Speaker 1: time the one time I was asked to go to

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Speaker 1: one of those things and like I was the honorary

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I was, like the mayor town, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: whatever I want. I got to like preside over the

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Speaker 1: I was like the king. I was the king for

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Speaker 1: the day or like an assistant king or something, and

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Speaker 1: I got to like sit on the throne and whatever.

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Speaker 1: And so we're backstage and and like there's a handler

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Speaker 1: explaining to me what I'm going to be doing, and

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Speaker 1: like the cash members are back there, and I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 1: nice to meet you. I'm Steve or you know whatever.

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Speaker 1: I'm speaking here. I'm friend, I'm speking this guy to

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Speaker 1: be like I'm Steve. I'm a plumber during the week

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Speaker 1: and I'm doing this on the weekend. Oh no, no,

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Speaker 1: we never broke character. We never broke character. It was

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Speaker 1: I am Gwendoline and I'm just like looking at it,

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Speaker 1: I'm like okay, like I'm Fred, you know, nice to

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Speaker 1: have you in my kingdom to die and we're like

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Speaker 1: backstage and like, dude, we don't have to do this

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Speaker 1: right now, like we could just be normal. Nope, we

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Speaker 1: did not break character. None of them did.

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Speaker 2: That's awesome the entire time, top tier acting.

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Speaker 3: That's my favorite South Park episode.

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Speaker 4: There at like a place like that and someone needs

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Speaker 4: to call nine get in an ambulance.

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Speaker 3: I think someone's injured or something. They're like a phone.

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Speaker 1: We don't have a phone, you know, like Rick for

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Speaker 1: a wheel, Like yeah, you know, they just they wouldn't

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Speaker 1: like they wouldn't. I'm just I really I appreciated the

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Speaker 1: commitment of the craft, but I was just expecting I'm Stacy,

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Speaker 1: I work in Hooters or whatever, like you know, I

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Speaker 1: am one of the daughter of the Kingdom, you know,

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Speaker 1: the generation of Yeah, right, Like what is going on?

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Speaker 1: You can stop that? Okay, So you need chambers? What

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Speaker 1: else you need?

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Speaker 7: I really want like soft cloths, drawers, like I'm really

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Speaker 7: upsessed with I.

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Speaker 1: Think you can have those in your current house.

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Speaker 7: No, I have them, but I want like a lot

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Speaker 7: of them, Like I want, I want a wall of

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Speaker 7: just soft clothes.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna win eight hundred million dollars and you're gonna

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Speaker 1: get a bunch of soft clothed.

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Speaker 7: Drawers and a champagne button, except I wanted to bring

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Speaker 7: me g in a vodka, so like a button when

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Speaker 7: I'm in my closet upstairs, my glamor room, then they

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Speaker 7: can shoot me up.

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Speaker 2: Simbaka.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, wow.

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Speaker 2: I'm not shooting you up, you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bring it to you and you'll drink it like

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Speaker 3: a bank thing.

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Speaker 1: She's sinking like a like a dumb waiter.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I shouldn't want hurt people to think she would

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Speaker 4: wants to be shot up with Jim.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, although that would go to your butchering past.

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Speaker 1: So maybe oh oh, I don't know if everybody took

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Speaker 1: it there, but yeah, okay, yeah, I'm not high, but

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Speaker 1: that's right. Yeah, So good luck with all the all

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Speaker 1: with your gin bidet or whatever your has called.

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Speaker 8: So so Kaitlyn doesn't have to go buy a ticket,

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Speaker 8: or should she still go buy a ticket?

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Speaker 2: What are you talking about? For the Megan. No, should

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Speaker 2: she still go buy a ticket?

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Speaker 3: No, she's not not today.

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Speaker 1: Why am I missing the joke? What's the joke he

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Speaker 1: wants me to do?

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Speaker 4: He wants me to try to order one?

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, you guys keep doing that to my boy, roof.

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Speaker 1: I forgot about that, Diddy, I forgot about that. I

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Speaker 1: forgot about that joke. I mean, I'm the guy that

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Speaker 1: tell the same jokes over and over again, so I'm

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Speaker 1: surprised I couldn't remember that.

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Speaker 3: It's our that we ask.

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Speaker 1: Cayleen had a bit of a bit of a struggle

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Speaker 1: with the purchasing of the lottery ticket. It was very

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Speaker 1: stressful for her.

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Speaker 3: I can't play to this day because I don't know

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Speaker 3: how to do it.

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Speaker 1: Cal No, step in, step it my bodega. Step in.

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Speaker 1: I'm standing there, I'm in character, are you? And I'm

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Speaker 1: behind the lottery machine? What would you like to buy?

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Speaker 2: Hi?

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Speaker 1: Welcome to my store?

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Speaker 3: Hi on, okay? Can I please have?

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Speaker 1: This? Is real?

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Speaker 3: By the way, No, I really can't do this.

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Speaker 1: No, I want you to really do it? How you

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Speaker 1: would do it? This is yeah? How are you how

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Speaker 1: you doing? I'm good, I'm Steve.

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Speaker 3: Oh I didn't ask.

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Speaker 1: On the weekend, would you like, can.

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Speaker 4: I please have no turkey like today? I know that's

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Speaker 4: my usual, but can I please have one Mega million's

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Speaker 4: ticket ticket to the Mega millions?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? But I want the multiplier. I want the multiplier

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Speaker 3: on one of them that.

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Speaker 1: Do they have that on Mega million? I thought it

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Speaker 1: was powerable? I see I don't know they have it

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Speaker 1: on the Mega million. Here's the good news. You don't

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Speaker 1: even have to do this. If you walk in and

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Speaker 1: just have twenty dollars in your hand, they already know.

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Speaker 9: So, like I said, we've been going through a rough patch.

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Speaker 1: know what they're doing right because nothing's going to change

438
00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:44,760
Speaker 1: unless that unless he in this case, just I guess,

439
00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:47,600
Speaker 1: caves on everything that he has an issue with, which

440
00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:49,040
Speaker 1: is not sustainable either.

441
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Speaker 2: What would you do I'm a big advocate for therapy.

442
00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:55,159
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think he should absolutely or she should absolutely

443
00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:57,680
Speaker 7: go to therapy to say her marriage, Like, your partner

444
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Speaker 7: is still there, Your partner is still willing to fight,

445
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:03,359
Speaker 7: They want to help you guys get over this hump,

446
00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,280
Speaker 7: like they still the desire to be together is still there.

447
00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:08,520
Speaker 7: And if that is the case, then you both parties

448
00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:11,160
Speaker 7: should be willing to do whatever it takes to get

449
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:12,000
Speaker 7: it right right.

450
00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,399
Speaker 1: But it sounds like, you know, in some cases, it's like, well,

451
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,760
Speaker 1: the problem is all his, And I think if you're

452
00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,720
Speaker 1: in a relationship and you're saying the problem is entirely

453
00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:23,560
Speaker 1: on someone else, I think that shows a tremendous lack

454
00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:26,560
Speaker 1: of self awareness because the problem is never one hundred

455
00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 1: rarely one hundred percent on one side. It may not

456
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:34,200
Speaker 1: be fifty to fifty all the time, but it's never

457
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:38,520
Speaker 1: always somebody else's fault. There's gotta be something that you

458
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,200
Speaker 1: could do in response or get out or leave if

459
00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:43,919
Speaker 1: it really is. If the person is that much of

460
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Speaker 1: a monster, then I don't know what you're doing there.

461
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 1: Then then what's the point And you can't fix it

462
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:49,520
Speaker 1: or work towards it, then what why even there?

463
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Speaker 7: True but as a couple, I just feel like you

464
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:53,479
Speaker 7: got to be willing. Even if you believe in your

465
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,720
Speaker 7: mind that it's all the other person, you're still in

466
00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 7: a relationship, so you need to be willing to help

467
00:20:58,320 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 7: help them work through their issue.

468
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Speaker 1: I also think sometimes when people won't go to therapy,

469
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:05,640
Speaker 1: it's because they know that they're going to be told

470
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Speaker 1: they're doing things wrong and they can't handle that.

471
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Speaker 2: True, that's a good point. I agree.

472
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Speaker 1: It's like they don't they don't want to go because

473
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Speaker 1: someone might hold them accountable for something, you know, and

474
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Speaker 1: they it might turn out that there are things that

475
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:18,720
Speaker 1: they could do better too, and they don't want to

476
00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:24,200
Speaker 1: hear it from a stranger. That's really yeah, and that's

477
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:27,440
Speaker 1: that's fair, and that's really that's really honest. So it's it's.

478
00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:30,040
Speaker 8: Been brought up in our marriage that you know, we've

479
00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,160
Speaker 8: gotten to the point where it's just like, well, fight

480
00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 8: and it's like a big fight.

481
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Speaker 2: And then she'll be like, you need we need therapy

482
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Speaker 2: like this, you know whatever.

483
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Speaker 8: And I am one that, like I advocate to anybody

484
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:43,159
Speaker 8: else to go to Like for me, I feel like

485
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Speaker 8: it I don't know, like it's it's a pride thing.

486
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,119
Speaker 8: It's a it's a cultural thing, like I feel like,

487
00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:50,200
Speaker 8: I don't know, but it's so you don't.

488
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Speaker 1: Want to go in there and have them say, hey,

489
00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 1: you know what, Rufio, like you should do this, this

490
00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:56,520
Speaker 1: and this differently, and you don't really want to hear

491
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Speaker 1: it from somebody. Yes, do you think though that I mean,

492
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 1: I'm sure they would have things for jests too, But

493
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,000
Speaker 1: do you think that if you could get past that,

494
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,399
Speaker 1: that hearing it or at least working through it with

495
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 1: somebody who's trained to sort of extract information from her

496
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 1: and extract information from you and then sort of because

497
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 1: it's not even necessarily they're going to sit there and

498
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 1: judge you. You know, in a lot of ways, it's

499
00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: about communication techniques. It's like you're going to say this,

500
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 1: and you're going to say that, and as opposed to

501
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:23,959
Speaker 1: having this impast where you both go to your corners, right,

502
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,760
Speaker 1: you know, it would be the professional who would then say, okay,

503
00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 1: are you hearing this from both sides? And you know

504
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, there's there's obviously a technique to

505
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 1: all this. It's not necessarily they're going to tell you

506
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 1: that you're a terrible husher. I know it yeah, I don't.

507
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: I just don't know.

508
00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 2: I don't.

509
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 8: The financial aspect of it also, right, So it's it's

510
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 8: there's so many issues, but like obviously Just and I

511
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:51,199
Speaker 8: work through our issues and then we're good. But like

512
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:54,159
Speaker 8: sometimes it does come up, and I'm always the one

513
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Speaker 8: that be like, like, I don't want to do it interesting.

514
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Speaker 4: So before things get you know what I mean, Like

515
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 4: you can go when things are good so that things

516
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 4: don't get back.

517
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:03,679
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

518
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 1: I know people who have gone when they're engaged like that, like, oh,

519
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 1: I think you should. Things are going great, I mean great,

520
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 1: great enough that you just got engaged, but they're going

521
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 1: ahead of time, Like it's almost you know, propylactically preemptively,

522
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,960
Speaker 1: because you're right, we're not fighting yet, but like, let's

523
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 1: maybe get ahead of it and discover some things about

524
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,000
Speaker 1: ourselves and our communication techniques and whatever else before it

525
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:24,640
Speaker 1: gets to that point.

526
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 3: It's honest, it's very scary to go from that.

527
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,439
Speaker 1: No, and that is super honest. I'm proud of you

528
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: for saying that. You know, I don't know, I think

529
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,720
Speaker 1: it could. You know, I'm always going to advocate for it.

530
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,720
Speaker 1: I'm always going to advocate for therapy because it's helped

531
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Speaker 1: me so much.

532
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 3: And my mom's a therapist, you know what I mean.

533
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 4: It's just making that call and like talking to someone new.

534
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,760
Speaker 3: And I grew up with a therapist, so yeah, I

535
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 3: get it.

536
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey Megan, Right, Hi Megan. So just let me

537
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: recap here stare go someone just tuning in. Brian called.

538
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,360
Speaker 1: He and his wife are having issues in their relationship

539
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:55,399
Speaker 1: and they fight all the time and they acknowledge that

540
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: there are issues. He's saying, hey, let's go to a

541
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 1: couple's therapies. She's saying I'm not going, and so he's

542
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 1: wondering what do I do? What does he do? Well?

543
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 11: I was in a very similar situation as Brian about

544
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,159
Speaker 11: two and a half years ago. I wanted to go

545
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 11: to a couple of counseling. I was seeing a therapist

546
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 11: on my own, and my then husband said, nope, I'm

547
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,720
Speaker 11: totally fine. There's nothing wrong with me. If we go

548
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:22,920
Speaker 11: to a couple of counseling, the counselor is going to

549
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 11: pick on you because you have all the issues, you

550
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 11: have all the problems. So he refused to go, and

551
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,119
Speaker 11: now we are two and a half years divorced. So

552
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 11: there's only so much you can do. So much you

553
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:36,400
Speaker 11: can say. Is she doesn't want to work on it,

554
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:40,120
Speaker 11: then yeah, she admits that there's problems, but the whole

555
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 11: vacation thing trying to run away again, problems are going

556
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:43,880
Speaker 11: to be there when you get back.

557
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Speaker 1: And I think it's interesting really in the case I'm

558
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 1: thinking of where it's like, well, then is friend of

559
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 1: mine for a long time, like, we'll go to him

560
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: as what does he suggest then, And the only thing

561
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: that he seems to suggest is that she should change

562
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 1: everything about who she is and everything that she's doing.

563
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 1: That is not sustainable, that is not realistic. And even

564
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: if she did all of that, that's not true to her.

565
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,199
Speaker 1: That's not a compromise, that's not being heard, that's not

566
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 1: being self aware or accountable. It's not gonna work. So,

567
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 1: you know, if you're worried about going to so and

568
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 1: so therapist or so and sow, then you pick it. Fine,

569
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 1: you go find somebody. Then you know, you go find

570
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 1: a professional and not your buddy, like someone who's logo,

571
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: your licensed, you know, who's independent. But thank you, Megan,

572
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: and I I'm sorry to hear about that outcome, but

573
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: I hope I hope, you know, moving forward, it was

574
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 1: a good thing.

575
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 11: Oh no, that's okay. I'm not sorry at all.

576
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 1: Fair enough, thank you. Someone said, did Fred to say prophylactically?

577
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: Look it up. It's not just condoms. I didn't just

578
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: tell people to wear condoms. There's another meaning for the words. Yeah,

579
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,400
Speaker 1: that's interesting. I actually how you do it. Every time

580
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: I say prophilectically, people are like, he just had condoms?

581
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 1: I did? I didn't, Hi, Ashley, what do you want

582
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 1: to say? So?

583
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:58,160
Speaker 5: I was saying go only because I went through literally

584
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 5: the same exact thing. But I have two experiences wanting

585
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,400
Speaker 5: of somebody I was with wanting to go to therapy.

586
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 5: The first time it happened, I was engaged. I was

587
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 5: so mentally checked out of that relationship. She was actually

588
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:15,239
Speaker 5: the one that wanted to go to therapy, and I

589
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:20,159
Speaker 5: was one hundred percent like how Brian's wife is acting,

590
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:23,680
Speaker 5: didn't want to go, blamed all the problems on her

591
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,880
Speaker 5: or whatever. Yeah, it wasn't great in that relationship, but

592
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,479
Speaker 5: he need us to say that relationship ended after we

593
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 5: were engaged, never got married. I am happily married. Now

594
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:34,360
Speaker 5: we kind of hit a little bit of a rough

595
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 5: patch my wife suggested therapy, and I, you know, I

596
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 5: love her so much and I was absolutely one hundred

597
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 5: percent on it with going to therapy with her.

598
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Speaker 3: I let her choose who we went to.

599
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 5: We've been seeing the same therapist for a couple months

600
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 5: now and it's actually been going amazing and it's been helping.

601
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Speaker 5: So I'm saying, oh, only because if she wanted to go,

602
00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 5: if she loved him and wanted to fix it.

603
00:26:58,359 --> 00:26:59,360
Speaker 9: She would go to therapy.

604
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:01,440
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, Ashley, thank you for sharing that. And I'm

605
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 1: glad that it sounds like maybe you learned from the

606
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: last situation and didn't make the same mistake twice. So

607
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: good for you. All right, thank you, Thank you, Ashley,

608
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,120
Speaker 1: have a good day. She's like, good, I got friend's approval,

609
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 1: so I can move on with life now. I don't

610
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 1: care what you think. Hey, Kendall, Hi, good.

611
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Speaker 12: Morning, Hey, good morning guys.

612
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 6: Hi.

613
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: Are you I go doing great? Stay?

614
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:21,879
Speaker 2: Go?

615
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 1: What do you think?

616
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:24,199
Speaker 5: So?

617
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,399
Speaker 12: I would say to try to stay And I only

618
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 12: say this, and I have to kind of backstory slightly.

619
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 12: I started therapy way back in the day when I

620
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 12: was eighteen or nineteen, and I had a father that

621
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 12: didn't advocate for therapy and told me I just needed

622
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 12: to try harder.

623
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 9: So it was really.

624
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:44,200
Speaker 12: Difficult to accept the help just on my own, going

625
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 12: I needed something else. So it's the one thing that

626
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 12: I've learned. And I'm happily married now we're solely wed

627
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 12: for going on three years. But with me doing the

628
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 12: therapy on my own, it's actually helped my perspective on

629
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 12: how I can make it with my husband. And yes,

630
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 12: it's hard to get someone to do something they don't

631
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 12: want to do. You can't force that. But by being

632
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 12: able to go, okay, well this is how I feel,

633
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 12: and to kind of pull the therapy card on them,

634
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 12: it does kind of help that communication with each other.

635
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 12: And I also feel there's that stereotype of, for whatever reason,

636
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 12: the generation before us think if you're in therapy, there's

637
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 12: something wrong with you. But again, as you all were saying,

638
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 12: it's very admirable to admit, hey, I need to work

639
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 12: on this, I need the help, we need the help,

640
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 12: and if it takes one person to just work a

641
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 12: little harder to kind of open that door for his

642
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 12: significant other, then that might be what happens.

643
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 11: And if it.

644
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 12: Doesn't, then there might be another discussion. But it's just

645
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 12: communication needs to go both ways. Yeah, yeah, I'm a

646
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:53,479
Speaker 12: coal advocate for therapy.

647
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: Well, and Kenda, I'm glad you've had your having success

648
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 1: and you're happy and everything's going well, and thank you

649
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: for listening for calling you have a great day. And

650
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 1: I know there are a lot of different barriers to

651
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: entry for therapy. Maybe it's expense, maybe it's a stigma,

652
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: maybe it's you know, I don't know, misunderstanding or whatever,

653
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: a lack of vulnerability. But I have to tell you,

654
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Speaker 1: as someone who has gone to therapy consistently for ten years,

655
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 1: I almost resent people in my life who refuse to

656
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Speaker 1: do it, especially if they want to sit back and

657
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: make comments about me or about a relationship. It's like,

658
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: wait a minute. But and in some ways I have

659
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: to even rain it in a little bit because I

660
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: become like it's almost the elitist. It's like, wait a minute,

661
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 1: I'm doing the work like I every week, and how

662
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: hard is it? I mean, I sit there and I

663
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: go and I bear my soul to this woman and

664
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 1: then she tells me what she thinks or whatever. But

665
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 1: it's like, but you're not even willing to do that

666
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 1: for yourself. But yet you're gonna tell me what you

667
00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 1: think about me. It's like, that's I don't like that.

668
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 1: I think it's very telling when you're doing the work

669
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 1: and somebody else won't do the work and will continue

670
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: to point fingers at you. Also, I've also known people

671
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: to web and therapy too, but that's a whole different conversation.

672
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: I think, I don't know. I think what happens in

673
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: the confines of your therapy, you have to keep in

674
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 1: mind is for you. And like you can tell your

675
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 1: therapist whatever you want. You can you can tell your

676
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 1: therapist any story you want, and they can give you

677
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 1: the advice based in the story you told. Then you

678
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: can use that against somebody else. Doesn't make it doesn't

679
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 1: mean it's true. It doesn't mean you were telling the

680
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 1: story accurately or that. And that's another thing too. It's like,

681
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 1: if you're going to go in and tell your therapist

682
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 1: a bunch of bs so that they can tell you

683
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 1: that your partner's an idiot, well that's not going to

684
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: help anything. So you're what you're wasting everybody's time at

685
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: that point, Like you got to go into this thing

686
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:38,960
Speaker 1: willing to say here, here are here are my issues?

687
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: That I have with the other person, and here are

688
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 1: the issues they have with me. You know, you've got

689
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 1: to be willing to do that, otherwise it won't work.

690
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Speaker 1: Is it a a met yep?

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Speaker 13: Different?

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Speaker 2: How you doing?

693
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Speaker 1: Hey? Good morning? Hi stairgo what do you do?

694
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Speaker 13: So?

695
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Speaker 1: One of my.

696
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Speaker 13: Mentas say, is a relationship beat spousal anything. It's always

697
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 13: one hundred hundred, not fifty to fifty. So I believe

698
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 13: at times when we as a spouse and I'm myself married,

699
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 13: we tend to see that, okay, what can we do

700
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,479
Speaker 13: together fifty fifty putting in the relationship. I think somehow

701
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 13: that dogma fails, and I think I'm just trying to

702
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 13: change the frame from going to couples therapy as a

703
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 13: question point to more of how could Brian solve this issue?

704
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 13: There are I'm from India and what I've seen is

705
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 13: back in India, unlike in Western cultures, a couple.

706
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 1: Therapy is not a big, big thing over there.

707
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 13: Over there, typically we seek advice from elders, and obviously

708
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 13: it could change something over here in a similar respect

709
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 13: looking but seeking advice from somebody who has gone through

710
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 13: those ups and downs in the journey is definitely very helpful.

711
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 13: And one of the advice that I think that can

712
00:31:54,760 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 13: help Brian would be that there's an event by totally Robbins.

713
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 13: He calls it as a date with Destiny, in which

714
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 13: there's a specific segment around relationships. So instead of if

715
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 13: this spouse is not ready to go for a couple therapy,

716
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 13: it's set up that same thing, but he opens the

717
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 13: door for your own opening, uh and changes a vantage

718
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 13: point to see the relationship itself and with the more

719
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Speaker 13: than so many people. I'm not advocate it event, but

720
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Speaker 13: I understand say some of those things, some of those

721
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 13: intations are definitely required. It could be in any shape

722
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Speaker 13: and form have been luck and best.

723
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Speaker 2: That's a good point.

724
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah it is. And thank you have a great day.

725
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: I'm glad you called them.

726
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 7: He may not have a therapist, but like he mentioned,

727
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 7: going to other couples who have been through it already

728
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 7: or confiding in like Elders.

729
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 2: I know for Timothy and.

730
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Speaker 7: I like, our therapist is my brother and his wife.

731
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 7: Like we both go to them when there's an issue

732
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 7: and we've had them you know, come to us with

733
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 7: things and it kind of like it helps. You know,

734
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 7: it's not therapy, but you should have an outlet that

735
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 7: you can trust that's non biased, that can help you

736
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Speaker 7: get it by.

737
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: And that's good that it's your people, but but you

738
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 1: both feel in this case like like like they're able

739
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 1: to be impartial rights because that's another thing is about

740
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 1: the therapy is you could go to your sister and

741
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: be like, big Tim's an idiot for all these reasons

742
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 1: and not talk about any of the you know, maybe

743
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 1: culpability that you have, right, maybe it's not fifty to fifty,

744
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: maybe it's seventy thirty, maybe it's sixty forty, whatever it is,

745
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 1: but it's you know, if you go to the Homer

746
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: and you tell the Homer everything's terrible, then they're going

747
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: to be they're gonna.

748
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 2: Tell you're right, right, Like if I go to my sister,

749
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 2: they're going to enable you.

750
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 7: There's absolutely like my she's like, Kiki's right, I don't

751
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 7: care what I was talking about. But my brothers will

752
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 7: actually called me out on my stuff too, So that's good.

753
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 2: That kind of couple or friendship that you can go

754
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 2: to is helpful.

755
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: To because everyone's got that person that can go to

756
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,080
Speaker 1: who's going to gas them up no matter what. And

757
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: it's just not that may not be helpful, you know,

758
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 1: because because they may just be gassing you up, but

759
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: you may be dead ass wrong.

760
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 10: Oh yeah, No, anyone tells me I'm wrong, but I

761
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 10: asked them. I'm like, be honest, especially my mom.

762
00:33:57,520 --> 00:33:59,959
Speaker 1: Because it doesn't do you any good for people just

763
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 1: to tell you that you're right all the time when

764
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 1: maybe you're not.

765
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 10: Nope, literally like, roast me, drill me, Like tell me

766
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 10: what you gotta tell me? No, like like like tell me,

767
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,319
Speaker 10: be honest, roast me.

768
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 1: Drill me. I think it's a song in it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, if.

769
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:17,440
Speaker 10: You want to drill me.

770
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Speaker 1: What were the other two tea push me.

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00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 2: Topic?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know it's coming up in just a minute,

773
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:29,839
Speaker 1: the entertainment Report and she'll be Shelly both next friends. Yeah,

774
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:33,960
Speaker 1: they talk better than they say. These are the radio

775
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,760
Speaker 1: blogs on the Fred Show, by for running in our diaries,

776
00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:40,919
Speaker 1: except we saying them aloud. We call them blogs. Paulina, Yes, ready.

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Speaker 2: I am go.

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00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, dear blog. I had a little.

779
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 10: Situation, was it two days ago at the house. And

780
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 10: one thing about me. I love a sale, Okay, I

781
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 10: love clearance. I love to buy baby clothes on clearance

782
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:56,920
Speaker 10: because babies will wear it for five minutes and then

783
00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 10: they grow out of it.

784
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 3: That's just how it goes.

785
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 10: So I bought a shirt, right it was unclearance the

786
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 10: shirt happens to say something that Hobby saw and was

787
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,960
Speaker 10: like freaked out for I could tell for a good

788
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,319
Speaker 10: like thirty and thirty minutes. I didn't say anything, but

789
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 10: I can tell his mood change and everything, and I

790
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:16,720
Speaker 10: was like, what's going on. So the shirt that baby

791
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 10: gd she was wearing said little sister.

792
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:24,320
Speaker 7: Oh my god, little sister.

793
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, big sister.

794
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 1: Sorry, little sister. I would be like, where's the big sister. See,

795
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 1: by the way, the big sister shirt, that's that's how

796
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: that's the picture that Polly, she was wearing that shirt

797
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: to announce that a baby sister was coming.

798
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 10: Yes, that's very common and really cute, but it wasn't

799
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 10: cute in my house because I only want one kid.

800
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,439
Speaker 10: He only wants one kid. We would like I don't

801
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 10: think I would tell him that way, but I think

802
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 10: he thought I did. Like that was me coming out

803
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 10: to him to the world, and like, you know, we

804
00:35:56,280 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 10: got on a baby literally to underdo like is cute

805
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 10: and all, but my personal hell personally, I don't know

806
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 10: if I could do. I'm not built for this, but

807
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 10: like even just two period would be really hard for me.

808
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 3: But I was like.

809
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:09,240
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no.

810
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:10,840
Speaker 10: Because you'd mentioned it. He was like, are you gonna

811
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 10: like tell me something? And I got kind of scared.

812
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 10: I was like, oh, tell you what, like binding to

813
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 10: the shirt.

814
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 3: And he's like, we gonna say anything, and like you

815
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 3: brought her out of the her nap with this. I

816
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,720
Speaker 3: was like, no, we're not big sisters.

817
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 7: It's so funny because you told us that you were

818
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 7: pregnant with T shirts.

819
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: Remember, yes, yeah, I don't want to wear it.

820
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god, your T shirts. But if you love

821
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: the T shirts, could you have bought another clearance shirt?

822
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 1: It hap to be that one.

823
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 10: I mean, I love a clearance item because they're gonna wear.

824
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 3: It for literally, you guys know what it meant, like

825
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:41,360
Speaker 3: big sister, Like, yes, you know what I mean? Do

826
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 3: you know what a big sister is? Even though you

827
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 3: are one guys?

828
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 10: Yes, I just wanted the shirt because it's like one

829
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 10: of those onesies she's in her face where she has

830
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 10: to wear the long sleep onesies because the sleepsack the

831
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 10: arms are out now she's rolling, she's on her stomach.

832
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 3: So that's the whole like premise of this.

833
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: I don't care what it says. It's just it's just

834
00:36:58,040 --> 00:36:58,399
Speaker 1: a shirt.

835
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 10: It's just suret she's gonna wear for one more month,

836
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 10: and it's going to go right to the donation, like

837
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 10: you know what I mean, we move on.

838
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 1: For somebody who's announcing it. It'll be perfect for an announcement.

839
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 10: So yeah, I don't know if anyone else had a

840
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 10: scare because that was mine.

841
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 3: Well I guess his scare.

842
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god. He's pretty calm about it, though.

843
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 10: He was, but I could tell he was like quiet,

844
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 10: and he was just probably waiting if I was going

845
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 10: to say something or pop up a balloons or something.

846
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 3: I don't know what he thought.

847
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 10: But also I have a IOE you, So I'm like,

848
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 10: we're definitely not getting preggers.

849
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 2: You got to I owe you, I got to iow you.

850
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,399
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I mean, you know, it's pretty full proof.

851
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 1: But every now and.

852
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:31,840
Speaker 2: Again, I know, I get scared.

853
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 1: I get really every now and again.

854
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 2: His face would have been priceless. Yeah, tell me thinking back,

855
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 2: like did we.

856
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 1: So? Yeah?

857
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 2: For thirty minutes that Yeah.

858
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:45,239
Speaker 1: You could have put that kid in a Green Bay

859
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 1: Packer's wednesdaie and it probably would have had less of

860
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: a reaction than that. You got something to tell me,

861
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 1: Oh my god, my bad, Jason. Yes, two blogs in

862
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:56,720
Speaker 1: a row.

863
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 3: Thank you, dear blog.

864
00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 6: So if you follow me on Instagram, I posted video

865
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 6: Sunday Nights of my washing machine and it was full

866
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,919
Speaker 6: of SuDS. And the reason for that is Mike woke

867
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:12,280
Speaker 6: up on Sunday morning and just felt that the washer

868
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 6: was dirty, so he decided to inspect it, take a

869
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:17,800
Speaker 6: look at And I immediately take offense to this because

870
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 6: I'm always the one that is supposed to like clean

871
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,439
Speaker 6: and make sure everything is like tidy. So he gets,

872
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 6: you know, this big bad attitude when he feels that

873
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 6: he needs to tackle something to clean. Now, this man

874
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 6: hasn't done a load of laundry in probably fourteen years

875
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 6: since I met him, so he you know, does a

876
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 6: couple of things to it. Still, you know, it's dirty,

877
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 6: it's dirty, okay, cool. For some reason, he decides that

878
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 6: it's a good idea to just dump every cleaning product

879
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 6: you can think of directly into the tub of the

880
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 6: washing machine, not through the little like you know tray

881
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 6: that the soap is supposed to go in.

882
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 2: We're gonna dump.

883
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 6: Multiple bottles of different cleaning solution in the washing machine. Okay, hey,

884
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 6: I'm just here. You do it better than me. So

885
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:02,959
Speaker 6: I'm just sitting here, right you need need a whole

886
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 6: disc grab you there, you see it right there. I

887
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 6: was like, okay, he's like, Orlando Bloom can get from

888
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 6: this edition break the washing machine. So then I go

889
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 6: to the bathroom. He went and was sitting on the

890
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 6: couch and I get up and go back in the kitchen.

891
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 6: SuDS the whole thing, like you can't even see to

892
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 6: the door. I was like, uh like this is full

893
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 6: of Suds's like literally literally just soap. So then he

894
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 6: comes in he's like uh oh, so immediately opens the

895
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 6: door and SuDS just you know, flow out of it

896
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 6: all over the floor. So I had to get him

897
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 6: a picture and a big tub and he's scooping SuDS

898
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,400
Speaker 6: out to the point where he's like, are you videoing this?

899
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 6: Because now he thinks he's gonna go viral. Right, So

900
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:52,839
Speaker 6: now he's like, you know whatever, because if he made

901
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 6: the mistake, it's okay, it's funny, right right, Oh wow?

902
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 6: But me filled the washer with SuDS. You you know,

903
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 6: I'm on a hunger strike for two weeks, right, so

904
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,280
Speaker 6: you know, but week cleared it up. It was funny, funny,

905
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 6: and now it's all good. So PSA, don't put soap

906
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 6: directly into the washer because.

907
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Speaker 1: It'll just be full of wow. Because like you see

908
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 1: how much you put in for like a load of clothing,

909
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,720
Speaker 1: it's like not a lot, right, so you start pouring

910
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 1: more than that in there. It's but he wouldn't know

911
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: because he's never.

912
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Speaker 6: Wouldn't know, right, jazy, He wouldn't know.

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