WEBVTT - Good Moms Gone Wild 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:24.759 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:29.160 I'm Mela and it's Wednesday. Are you laughing? 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:29.840 I'm high. 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:30.360 Guys. 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:35.040 We started early and bitches, well, what hi? 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:37.680 I thought you said you were gonna stop smoky. 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:40.520 But then you pass the blunt. You put the honey 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.560 on the blunt. It was like she put the back 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:44.760 with the honey. And then I had to say yes, 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:46.040 because you don't have a sugar addiction. 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:50.360 Say yes to Mela. That's an advertisement for saying yes 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:50.600 to me. 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:52.800 And you know I'm battling. I go. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:55.640 I battle sometimes between what I want to do impulsively 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:57.720 and like what I should do for my greater good, 0:00:57.800 --> 0:01:00.200 And sometimes I feel like they fight each other. But 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.240 then sometimes I feel like they're combined and it's hard 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:05.480 to distinguish which one I should follow with. And so 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:08.759 smoking sometimes I feel like is that when podcasting, Sometimes 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:11.399 I'm like, should I smoke? Also like I need to 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:13.240 clear my brain? But then I'm like, but I'm so 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:16.080 I like smoking and I enjoy smoking, but then I'm like. 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:18.560 Eating a lot. So I go back and forth. But 0:01:18.640 --> 0:01:20.040 today I succumbed. 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:23.440 She told me last week. She told me last week 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:25.720 or the other day I think I think I'm gonna 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:29.959 quit smoking. I was like, okay, because you're totally cannabis advocate, 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:35.600 gonna totally work for our speaking engagements. But same, I've 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:37.240 been trying to go into Juice de talks for like 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:38.279 the last seven years. 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:39.920 Yeah. 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:42.000 I eventually like, I can't wait to go to Mexico 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:44.039 and I'm like, did where did she bought juices? One 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:46.200 day I never heard of the Juice Dee talks again, 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:50.320 not once. Instead, I just saw her eating really lavish, 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:53.560 high protein fat meals every day. Well, I figured the 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:56.320 meat out of the country is better, so I'm gonna indulge. 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:58.240 I should indulge where they treat the animals better. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.960 Oh my god. Speaking of which, there is a a 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:05.160 kind pig that I met and we became friends. I 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:09.520 was feeding him water, and you know, I left to 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:13.320 the lakes to the for like five days, and I 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:15.800 came back and he was gone, and I was like, 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:20.720 where's Poncho. I'm pretty sure Pancho got eat it for dinner. 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:23.959 So now I'm really I'm gonna get on the juice cleans. 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:26.880 Also been like three weeks ago, you should have pay 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:28.200 and don't let this bitch fool you guys. 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.560 Also, but also I'm not getting any younger. I'm like 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.480 thirty four is like, bitch, you're a real adult. Like 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.399 I have this like mask in my thigh. Everyone's making 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:40.440 me freak out about it. I've had it for like 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.320 a year where they're like, got a doctor and then 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:44.280 I'm like, bitch, you should go to the doctor. You're 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:48.680 not like twenty, And then like we drink and I 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:50.040 just don't want to look old. I don't want to 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:50.600 have an old net. 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:54.720 I'm listen, I have Caucasian in me. I know I 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:57.840 don't tell a lot of people this, but I'm here 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:02.440 and I don't don't tell too many people. Sh I'm 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:06.480 worried I'm gonna report us. I'm worried that it's gonna 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:09.440 come for me in my looks. Okay, I think that 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.519 I have to tread lightly with how much alcohol and 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:16.320 fun time that I consume as I approach my mid 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:19.800 thirties and early forties, and I'm like, I think I 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:22.799 need to make a choice. I'll never forget one time 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:24.919 when I used to work for Macy Gray, she was 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:26.200 like she came back, She's like. 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.359 Oh my god, I talked to Sierra. I went to 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:31.160 lunch with Sierra. Sierra doesn't drink or smoke. She looks 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:34.280 fucking amazing. And you know she told you know who, Sierra. 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:36.400 You know who told Sierra to do it, j Lo. 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:38.440 And that's the secret, and that's why Jayla looks so 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:42.080 fucking amazing. She doesn't drink or smoke anything really ever. 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:44.840 And I was like, oh my god, and it stressed 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:45.080 me out. 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:46.440 And I was like, oh my god, do I, like 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.240 I am Mexican? Like do I need to not drink 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:49.680 or smoke? 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:50.520 Now? Does it have to start? 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:50.640 Now? 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:53.800 I'm gonna start cracking early, like is the melon gonna like? 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:55.840 Is there enough in there? It's gonna save me. 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:57.640 Let me tell you one thing. I used to work 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:00.640 at a recording studio and j Loo came in one time. 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:05.560 The bitch glows in the dark. She's glowing. She's she's floating. 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:08.680 I think she elevates like above the earth. It wasn't 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:10.440 even like she was stepping like a regular step. It 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:17.400 was just like Jenny from the Black you know. And 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:20.040 that's probably why, because you probably glow a little when 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:23.120 you don't TALX toxic your body with toxic. 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:24.279 And then you see all like the old people that 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:25.800 are been vegans her whole life, and they look. There's 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:27.279 that black woman. I can't remember her name, but she 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.960 like went viral for a second, and she has a 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:31.200 garden and she's been eating out of it. 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:34.040 Yeah, I saw her like years her husband who does 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:35.520 eat me and he looks old as fuss. 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:36.520 She looks yeah. 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:42.400 So basically, anyway, guys, the theme for this month Welcome 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:47.280 to Good Mom's Gone Wild, because it's Good Mom's Gone 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:50.599 Wild September because we have to find the balance between 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.599 the two, right, Like we can't deprive ourselves of things, 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:55.640 Like there's no fucking way I'm never drinking again, Like 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:56.440 that's just not gonna happen. 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.120 I'm not. I may not look like j Low, but 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:00.520 I will look like percent right. 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:02.200 Well, first of all, we got to be realistic about 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:03.760 the type of people we are. We're the type of 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:06.479 bitches that are going to stay young and beautiful because 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:09.920 we party hard. I have a few friends and they're old, 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:12.000 self preserved. You had to like almost like if you've 0:05:12.000 --> 0:05:14.200 been if we've been drinking tequila this long, if we 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:16.520 lose it, our bodies won't know how to react. They'll 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:19.559 be like bitch. So we're like it's already in our DNA, 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.000 like the tequila. So we have to keep a good balance. 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:25.919 But the trick is, the trick is very healthy, go 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.719 very hard because Okay, imagine like I was walking past 0:05:29.800 --> 0:05:31.120 the store in the mall. I don't know if it's 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:32.720 like Jay Hill. I don't know, it's like a very 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:34.479 like Jay Hill. I don't know. It was like the 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:36.960 gap or something. It's just like one of the Banana Republic, 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:39.320 like the ones where the like you could tell like 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.480 the Connecticut. Yeah, yeah, the conservative the conservative mom which 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:44.719 just turned forty but doesn't want anyone to see her breastline. 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:47.360 Is like shopping in there, like with the slacks, and 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:49.919 I was like, I never want to step a foot. 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.000 I don't care how old I get, don't ever let 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.520 me step a foot in there. Like maybe we're a 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:57.720 pearls like a tight bun and especially that little kitten Hill. 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.080 I don't want to ever, but we're that kitten Hill. 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:05.359 So I feel like the trick is you have to 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:09.039 go when you're the type of DNA like us, when 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.000 there's still like a lot of tequila in it, you 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:13.240 can't just go all the way off you have to 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:17.480 find a balanced life of going hard and being really healthy. 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:19.320 Yeah, I think that it's one or the other because 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:22.800 I look at people like Ozzy Osbourne who's clearly like partied, 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:25.000 like he's he's hay on by a thread, but he 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.320 looks great, Like if you look at his skin, like 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:31.080 it's it's preserved. I'm telling you some of these rock stars, 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.080 like it's like for meldehyde in their body, it is 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:38.480 Sequila's fair. They've injected it and they're halfway dead, but 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:41.560 their skin is fully alive and they look young. And 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.160 if they ever stopped drinking or using their croak, they 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:47.200 would die for sure. So you either have to do 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:49.520 that or you have to like be super healthy and 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:49.920 go hard. 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:51.719 You can't go in the middle. The middle is the 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:52.520 danger zone. 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:55.479 And definitely just don't step into like that store that 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:57.360 I think it was called j Hill. I don't know, 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:59.080 it's just why you know, the star's on top every 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.800 the gap is cool. Now you show some cleavage, let 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:05.080 down your hair. It's imperative to your like, like you 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.839 gotta go a little wild, like leave those kids at home, 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:12.360 even if you're really conservative in your regular life, even 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:15.320 if you go alone alone, Like, go away alone, don't 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:17.000 tell anyone, and just do some wild ship. 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:19.040 Just come to our live show. Just come to our 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:20.760 live show. That could be the wild shit you do. 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.720 Yeah, you have to be very stuffy in your day 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:25.120 life at PTA or at the office or wherever the fuck. 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:30.520 Your husband's very judgmental. Just order that shit from fashion Nova, 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:33.760 order that fucking spandex hide it and then just slip 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:35.160 it in the car like you did in high school 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:37.920 and come to the show. Feel you gona feel so 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:40.400 much better on Monday. Oh my god, you're gonna feel amazing. 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:43.080 And we're going on tour in September. You guys on 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:45.239 the East coast, well end of this month. 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:48.200 I know it's been a few weeks, so you get 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:51.960 the tickets. It's in this episode description. We're going to Philly, Chicago. 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:56.400 New York, Atlanta, Lanta, and DC and it's almost sold out, 0:07:56.560 --> 0:08:00.600 so it's very exclusive. You don't want to miss this opportunity. 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:03.280 What better bitches to party with than these two good 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:06.400 moms that are definitely gonna get wild. I might even 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:08.520 like ride your boat or whatever the girls are saying, 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:14.960 ride your boat. I'm gonna drive your boat. You sounded 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:20.640 like the BTA Mom, I'm gonna drive your boat whatever, 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:22.160 you know, what the fuck I mean, I'm gonna pour 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:25.720 some shit in your mouth. It's gonna be wild. Have 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:27.360 you seen a movie Hangover? It's gonna be like that, 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:28.440 but minus like ten. 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:30.320 But we'll get you home safely. 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:32.520 Uber you shoot Uber trash Ober. 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:34.800 Maybe Ober will give us a code, maybe not. Either way, 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:35.480 you'll get there. 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:40.960 And also come to meet other people who are down 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:43.760 to get ratchet too. You know, I think it's hard 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:48.360 to find like women who are you know what I realized, 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:52.640 it's it's radical to really be a mom and be 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:54.800 a woman and be like this is it, Like I'm 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:56.880 gonna be a wild bitch, Like I'm a little wild. 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:59.800 I'm gonna be a little wild. So I know it's 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:03.640 not like highly sought after, But if you want to 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:06.280 find a circle that you can actually come as that person, 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:08.680 I'm telling you this is the place to be because 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:10.600 look at us, this is who we attract people who 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:12.080 are gonna just want to be a little wild. So 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:15.040 you'll find your local little wild people and then you'll 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:16.679 have like a crew and that way you could like 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:18.440 get on discord and tell us what you guys are 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:19.120 doing on the weekends. 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:23.720 I know, and send pictures because we're nosy. I love 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:27.240 the tribe. I do. I really feel like we've I 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:29.360 love the tribe. Yeah, because it's true. People always like 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:30.520 I don't I can't meet my person. 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:31.040 This is it. 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:33.280 Sometimes you can come to a Costa Rica. Sometimes you 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:34.640 just go to a live show. Either way, you're going 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:35.320 to meet your people. 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:44.920 So yeah, yes, anyway, how are you? I'm good, my 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:48.079 heart is full. We're very, very, very very busy. I 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.240 can't believe we're going in a five city tour. I 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:51.240 feel like a rapper. 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:56.559 Are I know? I'm like, wait, we start booking festivals. 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:57.800 Oh my god, that's coming. 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:00.960 I'm performing at Bonaroo. Yeah, coach, Yeah, this is a 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:01.600 heire attempt. 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:04.840 Okay, we'll bait. This is hair four o'clock. Yeah, remember 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:05.960 back in the day when we still got. 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:09.120 That's my biggest Oh my god, you guys listen, I 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.760 need a collective manifestation of this. Are you listening to us? 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.760 It is my lifelong goal to perform at Coachella. I 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.280 didn't know what it was going to be, but it's 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:20.400 going to be podcasting Coachella, mark my words, is going 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:23.320 to start booking podcasters, and we are going to be 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:25.319 on that list, and it's going to be the most 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:30.000 epic Good Mom's Gone Wild Coachella edition you've ever fucking heard. 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:33.360 Okay, does that excite you? I know it's exciting. 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:35.720 I think I'm gonna get like a piniata filled with 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:37.800 drugs and then we're going to bring people up on 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.000 the stage and we're gonna sprinkle all the drugs into 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:45.560 the crowd. Of visualize that too, My god, Just nobody's 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:50.400 see us. No, it's gonna beautiful. It's gonna be never 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:51.240 Before she says. 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:54.280 A drug, she means weed, guys, weed edibles. 0:10:56.960 --> 0:10:57.360 I heard that. 0:10:57.400 --> 0:10:59.360 I heard I said this on another previous episode I 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:00.959 was listening to, and I just want to say it again, 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:05.720 just like the great and sometimes questionable Joe, Butden does 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:08.160 nothing I say on this episode. 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:12.479 Is uh factual entertainment purposes. 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:15.920 Everything is for entertainment purposes on this episode. 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:21.600 Speaking of manifestations and witchy magic shit, I think it's 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:22.319 Tarot time. 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:23.680 Do do do do do? 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:30.880 It's tarot tama oh man, not those not the vise. 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:38.680 I pulled the hangedman, hm, the hangedman. 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:41.880 It looks like it's scary. But one thing I've learned 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.560 about Taro is that the scary cards are not always 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:47.719 so scary. They're actually the most exciting ones usually, So 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:48.280 you gotta go. 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:53.880 A little deeper. It means pause, surrender, letting go, and 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:58.800 new perspectives. The Hangman reminds you that sometimes you have 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:00.719 to put everything on hold before you can take the 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:03.199 next step, or the universe will do it on your behalf, 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:05.840 and it may not always be at the most convenient time. 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:09.640 You may have heard the saying what got you here 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:14.160 at play? What got you here won't get you there, 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:17.200 and that indeed is at play. In this card, the 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:20.439 Hangman called you to release the old mental models and 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:23.319 behavioral patterns that no longer serve you, so you can 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.360 see your world from a new perspective and embrace new 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:29.920 opportunities that would have otherwise been hidden from you if 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:35.400 you didn't hit the brakes. Here's the thing. These pauses 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:39.000 can be voluntary or involuntary. If you're in tune with 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:41.480 your intuition, you'll start to have a sense for when 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:43.640 it's time to hit the brakes and put things on 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.800 hold before things get out of hand. But if you're 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:49.880 out of alignment and oblivious to those intuitive signs, the 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.280 universe will probably put things on hold. 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:54.000 For you, sit your ass down in the. 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:58.520 Form of continued obstacles, ill health, and breakdowns. When you 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.360 sense the pause coming, pay attention to it, otherwise the 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:04.440 universe will turn up the volume until you can't ignore 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:05.280 it any longer. 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:07.880 That really resonates with me and even what we were 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:12.839 just talking about earlier, with choosing between being young or 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:17.200 being fun and staying young and like feeling like I 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:17.600 need to. 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.560 Like refocus on my health. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.600 Like that's kind of like where I've been at because I, like, 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:25.240 you know, Mela always says I'm a hypochondriac, but I've 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:28.240 been really feeling and energetically like I need something needs 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.680 to shift. I don't feel good, I don't like I 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:34.080 feel heavy, I feel tired, like something has to be 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:36.920 eliminated and replaced with something that's going to fill me. 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:41.200 And I think this summer like really did that for me, 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:45.120 you know, like really, although we were really busy all summer, 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:48.040 I was super intentional and like tried to have better 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:52.480 boundaries around my health and like I what makes me 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.160 feel good so that I can be of service to 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:58.600 my kid, to myself, to my business, to you, like, 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:01.400 to my family, because because I was like burnt out, 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:05.760 you know, so I think that that definitely speaks to me. 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.680 I think as like our lives begin to move really 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.240 quickly and we are obligated to do more things. I 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:16.480 think it becomes you have to choose. You have to 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:19.720 choose to like cut out people and things and activities 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:22.840 that fall to the wayside, you know what I mean, 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:24.880 because you are so busy, so you have these super 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:27.080 intentional with your time and how you spend it, and 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:30.160 like like going to Mexico for a month, you know 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:31.360 what I mean. I was like, if I don't do this, 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:32.880 I'm not going to do it, you know. And like 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:38.360 granted I've been going ever since, but I agree, and 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:42.960 I I'm going to go on the juice cleans. I 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.680 just love to eat. I love to eat so much. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:48.520 But again I saw really quickly like my skin was 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:51.840 fucking up and Mexico, Like I just was like. 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.560 Have to change your perspective on what that means to you. 0:14:55.920 --> 0:14:57.400 You can still eat, bitch. 0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:00.840 Like you can still eat not a juice calle, maybe 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:01.080 not on. 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:03.760 Juice cleans, but even like your diet, like your diet 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.200 and drama saying you eat unhealthy. We've already done this debate. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:08.560 I'm not going to go back down that road. You should, 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:11.280 but I'm just saying like, as we get older, though, 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.920 like being more mindful, still eating and doing everything you want, 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.360 but like maybe like just adjusting and adding more nutritious 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:19.960 things to whatever that whether it's your body, whether it's 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:23.960 your lifestyle, whether it's your relationships, like knowing the things 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:28.000 that are taking away and also like making you feel decrepit. 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:31.360 You know, I was having like interesting thoughts, like very 0:15:31.360 --> 0:15:34.200 morbid thoughts like you. But I was like I after 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:36.800 I went to Mexico and then I went to New Orleans, 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:39.520 I went to Philly to go on a family trip 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:42.520 with my family to North Carolina and we rented a house. 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:46.000 But you know, it's with my grandmother and she's turning 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.560 eighty this year, and I was just like, you know, 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:51.360 like people die. My grandmother has been talking about it 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.440 for years, Like I'm not trying to live to one hundred, 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:54.400 like burn. 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:56.960 Me, Like my grandmother says, she's just like girl. 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.880 I'm cool. Like, but I was just thinking, like damn, 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:04.240 like this cycle comes to an end and you know, 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:06.920 like even being in love and being a mother, Like damn, 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:09.880 how can I care more about my health? Like what 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:13.000 if my func shit stops me? Like you know, anything 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:15.320 can happen, and just being like just grateful for the 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:17.920 vessel and like yeah, like you said, changing my perspective 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:23.400 of like starving myself versus like eating for growth and 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:25.640 eating for like just health, nutrition. 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:28.280 And fuel and and joy and pleasure all those things 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:30.320 because the balance and clarity. 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:31.920 And then I was getting really dark because you know 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:34.320 I feel about America, and I was like, if I'm 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:35.400 going to be healthy, I have to get out of 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:37.200 America because all they do is feed you poison because 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:39.600 I'm want to kill you, because the FDA and because 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:46.760 lobbyists and the money and pharmaceutical companies. And I was like, WHOA, sorry, 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:50.240 I didn't mean to put that on everybody. This is 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:51.080 how my mind, Like. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.160 You need to start your juice clans. 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.240 This is how my crazy brain works. So and she 0:16:57.320 --> 0:16:59.240 don't let me sit alone for too long. You already 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:01.880 know I'm one. That's literally, I am the morbid one. 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:04.320 I'm like, we're in the okay, speaking of New Orleans, 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:06.320 Let's go to New Orleans. Beau so we went to 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:09.439 essence Fest and we manifested essence Fest. 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:10.200 We really did. 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.000 We had been manifesting Essence Fest. And I want to 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:15.280 say for like maybe two previous we've been talking. 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:16.640 About this like a year and a half, two years. 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:19.479 The last one we were like, I really want to go, 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.320 but I think before that we talked about it, and 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:24.640 this year we almost didn't go. Like it was coming close. 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:26.639 We're like, damn, no one's called no. I think we 0:17:26.680 --> 0:17:29.240 applied and then they like sent to us and like 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:31.200 basically come for free. And I was like, ah, we're 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:32.840 gonna spend money to go. 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:35.280 No, And then you know, me and Mila we talked 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:36.840 about it in a previous episode. We're in a place 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:38.639 where we're like, no, well, we're gonna say no to 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:40.440 the things that maybe would have said yes to until 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:43.560 it feels like right, and so we said we passed 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:43.800 on it. 0:17:43.840 --> 0:17:44.960 We're like we're cool. 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:49.879 And then like two weeks later, knock knock on the door, 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.800 here comes Planned Parenthood and asking us to be a 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:55.959 part of their panel, which was like super meaningful and 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:59.440 it was about the birds and the bees, sex positive 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:01.679 parenting and you know that's our shit, and how like 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:04.159 that's important to us to spread that message for the 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:08.359 babies and like just for normalizing sex and sexuality. 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:12.399 And boila, we are at New Orleans. 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:16.400 At Essence Fest with all the greats, like so much 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:18.439 black excellence. I was thinking that, you know, I get 0:18:18.520 --> 0:18:21.280 high and I was like, imagine, like how hi, it's vibrating. 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:24.280 New Orleans is vibrating right now with all this black 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:28.320 excellence in this like very like ancient city that has 0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:29.840 all this like black history. 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:31.240 That's what I felt when I was there. 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:36.320 I could feel that presence, I could feel the magic. 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:41.080 I could feel the I don't know, like motivation. 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:44.520 It's motivation, but like just the belief in spirit there 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:48.479 and like that so many things have I guess almost 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:51.320 I felt like the inception point of a lot of magic, 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:55.640 especially with Black people in America there, like bringing that, 0:18:56.640 --> 0:19:00.639 bringing that from where we come from and like it 0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:03.639