WEBVTT - CONVOS ABOUT 100% 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:02.480 What's up? 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:05.439 And welcome back to another episode of No Salers Podcast 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:16.320 with your host. Now, fuck that with your load glasses, Malone. 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:20.040 They brothers, you should do one hundred. They say, no, 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:23.200 I'm gonna do fifty. But I'm still one hundred percent 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:23.760 of provider. 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:25.320 How is that possible? 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:30.520 A man is one hundred percent provider when he's unable 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:34.159 to provide one hundred percent. The woman picks up the slack. Correct, 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:36.200 Now the woman is not just picking up his slack 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:38.479 but doing hers. So she's picking up the slack of 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:41.840 a man that's fifty percent right providing, a woman fifty 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:46.320 percent nurturing. So she's fifty percent provider fifty percent nurturer 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:50.199 who picks up the slack of the woman. The child, 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.840 Now the child is fifty percent of child and fifty 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:57.640 percent of nurturer. Now the child is nurturing the siblings 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:03.080 man fifty percent, one hundred percent child one hundred percent. 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:05.480 So a man that's going fifty percent with this woman 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.039 is like a man's not even there. Because if that 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.640 man left, the woman will still be fifty percent provider, 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:14.479 fifty percent nurture. The child will still be fifty percent child, 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:19.080 fifty percent nurture. The man is the only one comfortable 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:22.640 in that equation, and that's why he says, no, YadA, 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:24.400 don't tell him the truth because. 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:29.800 I'm comfortable thoughts Peter thoughts, thoughts my man instant. 0:01:29.800 --> 0:01:33.280 Though Tragically, our our show is confined to a one 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:35.840 hour time period, so I won't be able to give 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:45.240 my thoughts. It's there's some principles in that that are true. 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:50.160 I agree with the basic concept. I think maybe it's 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:58.400 just the way it's being pieced together is a mess. So, 0:01:59.880 --> 0:02:06.160 I mean, the reality is there aren't a lot of 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:10.440 fathers that are there that don't do any parenting. You know, 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:17.200 that's ridiculous. If the father left and took his earnings 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:19.520 with him and the court didn't take some of them back, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.280 it's not the same scenario for that woman. I think 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:30.880 everybody agrees with that. I don't know. To me personally, 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:38.800 I there's so many weird dynamics with dual income households. 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:39.480 It's just. 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:45.480 It's almost on a case by case basis. 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:48.320 Okay, first off, what are you drinking? 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:53.600 Well? Since I couldn't get anything to drink at the 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:57.200 drink Champs today, I was the I didn't make the 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.519 playoffs and drink champs today unfortunately. So I'm just having 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:00.640 a rum, and. 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:02.280 Why you didn't gett nothing to drink? They didn't give 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:02.880 you nothing to drink. 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:07.160 I'm not going to put it on those guys, but 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.600 I didn't. I wasn't. I wasn't offer anything to drink, 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:13.000 and it's not my place. So I wasn't gonna go 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:14.519 I'm walking around my hand out. 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.240 Make sure I'm there. They give you all the good shit. 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:20.880 Well that would be very thoughtful. But yeah, after my 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:23.400 last episode, I said, how came women live with their handout? 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:28.200 I wasn't gonna walk around my handout? Just a week later, okay, So. 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:33.040 One part of the math was when he said, so 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:36.840 the man is a fifty percent provider and then the 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:39.840 woman's a fifty percent provider and a fifty percent nurture, 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:43.640 and then the child ends up taking a hike or 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.800 taking a hit because they have to become fifty percent 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:51.920 nurturer and fifty percent child. He said, if the man left, 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:56.200 nothing would change because the woman would be fifty percent nurturer, 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:59.800 fifty percent provider, and the child was still fifty percent child, 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.920 fifty percent nurturer. Well, where the fuck is the other 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:08.960 fifty percent coming from So unless he advises sisters to 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:15.240 get on government uh, government assistance, you'd be short fifty percent. 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:17.960 But YEA very true. 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:21.760 I guess I get the point of what he's I 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:29.680 get the point of what he's saying. I don't know 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:34.080 if you put in one hundred percent that means a 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.520 woman is going to be one hundred percent nurturer. 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:47.200 I'll take three women in my family, all right, my mom, 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:53.120 my aunt, and my slet grandma. Now, Mom, did. 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:54.840 You just call your grandmother a slut? 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:59.640 Yeah? Why my other grandma wasn't a slut? 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.159 What is wrong with white people? 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:02.719 Ask her? 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:07.920 White men like you? In fucking eminem? Why is your grandmother? 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:12.159 No? No, no, I don't know why she is. She 0:05:12.240 --> 0:05:12.960 insists upon it. 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:17.200 I don't know why you can't your grandmother slud. 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:21.560 Watch me after I tell you why, you'll go. Oh, okay, 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:25.960 I guarantee it. I'll hold that for the end. 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:26.200 Though. 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:36.240 Okay, she did not work. She didn't parent either. I 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.279 don't know what the fuck she did. I mean, I 0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:39.919 know what if the fuck she did, But none of 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:43.640 it was nurturing or providing. Okay, that's a fact. 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:47.920 This is your This is your granted you talking about. 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:48.920 This's my slupt grandma, not my good grandma. I got 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:52.400 good grandma. She's dead, dead grandma and slept grandma. 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:55.040 Who's whose mother is this? Pete? Is this? 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:56.800 We're not gonna be that specific. 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:59.960 Okay, cool, At least you respect only the grandmother that 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:03.039 knows she's alive, and she listens to no siblings eventually 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:04.000 knows who you're talking about. 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:07.239 God, I'm pretty sure she doesn't, but that's. 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:09.320 May surprise you. She may call your motherfucking mass and 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:09.479 be like. 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:14.919 Who you fucking calling and select Peter, go ahead, phase 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:17.560 me one bit. And then and then and then my 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:21.640 mom and my aunt, who are in laws, not both sisters, 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:26.920 they both started their marriages off as just stay at 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:34.400 home moms and then just wanted more to do and 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:38.160 became full time teachers, and then both retired and then 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:41.360 both started working part time after a little walk because 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:45.480 they were bored again. So and and and in those 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:49.960 cases also, that money is not usually gonna be fifty 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:52.960 to fifty either. So there's there's that like in our household, 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:55.640 my mom's teaching money that wasn't fifty percent of nothing 0:06:55.839 --> 0:07:02.239 all right at all? And you know, all all three 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:06.440 fathers in these scenarios were all doing things. They were 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:09.400 helping coach kids, they were picking kids up here, they 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:12.080 were doing nurturing full time, providing full time. They were 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:14.760 doing all the yeah, and they were active, actively engaged 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.560 nurturing and raising and rearing these children. Lord knows, my 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:20.600 sluck grandma wasn't rearing well. She wasn't rearing the children. 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:24.600 Broll. You gotta stop calling your grandmother killing. 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:26.680 I'll tell you why. I'm going to tell you why. 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:27.360 Wait to the end. 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:31.320 Just please, at least this is the en I'll tell 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:31.520 you why. 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:33.840 Just wait till the last fifty eight minutes to deal. 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:35.840 Just hold that. 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:39.680 Just oh oh a minute fifty eight okay, all right, 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:42.120 just wait a minute. That'll be the closer. 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:44.080 Don't worry, please please want closer. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:45.040 I got closer. 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:48.080 It's just as a black person, as a black man, 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:54.200 it feels so weird to listen to something. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:55.840 Insulting about their grandmother. But I get it. 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:58.640 Wait till I tell you about her mother, my slept 0:07:58.640 --> 0:07:59.240 great grandma. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:01.600 Oh what the fuck? 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:04.360 She was a scientist and architect. Did you know she 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:07.960 was an early pioneer in glory whole technology? 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:14.280 Fucking man. Ah man, you're gonna make this episode long. 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:19.320 No, I got a commitment at fifty eight minutes in. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:25.560 Okay, okay, okay, so let me ask you something. Do 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:37.000 you believe? Okay, no, siilings gl glasses. 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:43.839 Low me and Pete popping game. Yeah, I know how 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:50.520 we do it on those seilings about this time, so okay, 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:56.920 the initial see it could almost to me like his math, 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.560 Like when people talk like that, it almost seems like 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:06.560 they're catering to kind of the the desire of women 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:11.839 right where it's like that. I don't think what was 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:13.360 my first sentence in the group chat. 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:15.160 I don't remember what was it. 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:21.679 I said, more simp talk trying to tell a female 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:24.319 audience what they want to hear, to try to gain 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:25.800 quick popularity. 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:34.360 Okay, so long story short. I don't think there's a 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:37.760 man who do would not like to provide one of 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:43.120 everything for their family. I don't think there's a man 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:49.800 that that's not the goal, right if it's possible, I 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:55.600 think every man, every healthy man, right healthy like if 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:59.360 you're healthy, right like like if you're mentally healthy, like 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.520 you have been through any of the bullshit that that 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:07.280 makes you develop that poison where you just don't trust women. 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.439 So you like, you know, the traditional she live here 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:14.080 too guys because something bad happened before. Right, So I 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:18.680 think every man would like to provide one hundred percent, 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:22.680 one hundred and seventeen percent of everything for their family, right. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:27.560 But I think most men right in America are not 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:30.480 in positions too, especially people that come from where we 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:33.960 come from, right, because it ain't like we fast tracked 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:37.200 into any you know, jobs or companies and shit. So 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:41.320 I think as a defense mechanism, right, because they have 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:46.640 been unable to obtain it. Right, That's where you get 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:49.360 kind of the fifty to fifty bros. Whereas like she 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:55.199 live here too, because they don't make enough money and 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:58.200 they don't want to be in a situation to where 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:00.000 it's like they don't have anything. 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.200 Ain't giving up everything? 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:12.400 Yeah, real quick? Did you see the statistical release by 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:16.720 well with somebody else? And then Yahoo Finance did their 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:22.920 own analysis that was even more egregious of what the 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:28.640 requisite annual income is to afford the median house price 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:31.320 in America now versus four years ago. 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:33.800 I think you sent it to me, but remind me anyway. 0:11:35.120 --> 0:11:38.640 Fifty eight thousand to one hundred and six thousand in 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.360 four years to afford the median home price in America. 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:43.840 Just the home itself. 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:55.880 Well, Yahoo factored in increases in prices of power and 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:57.160 insurance as well. 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:01.880 So, but just the price of home, not the bills, 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:04.920 not the card notes, not the insurances. 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.720 Homeowners insurance. For the y'all here won it was homos insurance. 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.960 So just the home and and the note, yeah, the note, 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:14.640 the insurance, and and and and I think the power bill. 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:19.360 But yeah, just that fifty eight to one hundred. 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:21.720 Yeah, one hundred and six, fifty hundred and. 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:24.840 Six across America for. 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:25.800 The median price. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:33.520 Foh, you know what I was telling somebody? Damn, I 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.280 was telling somebody something you explained to me about California. 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:38.959 We were talking about California. This is right around the 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:41.360 time he was like, Yo, I'm gonna leave. Gee, y'all 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:43.320 gotta get the fucking body here, you know what I mean. 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:45.800 I gotta be smart, right, And you was telling me, 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:48.920 tell me the story about how California was and when 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:53.440 your grandparents, your grandfather came right when he came here 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:56.319 because it was cheap and it wasn't a lot of 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.360 opportunities obviously, it wasn't this version of California that we 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:04.880 know roughly almost one hundred years later. Now, oh shit, 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:11.760 it is supposed in the years and like nineties, like theties, right, Yeah. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:15.040 So obviously it was a great depression, so it wasn't 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:19.240 like the best of times, but California was a beacon 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:23.000 of growth relative to other areas. And then after that 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:25.760 you had the World War two Pacific theater war Machine 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:31.240 and the subsequent wave of momentum from that. But yeah, 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:34.920 it was a smaller population state. You had a wave 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:37.800 of people that moved there where there was a demand 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:42.720 for people within the market. Now there's a ton of 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.880 people and there's a demand for market among the people, 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:52.480 so it's inverted. But yeah, they're incomparable. It's it's utterly incomparable. 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.200 I wouldn't even know how where you would want me 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:58.240 to go to describe the differences between, Like. 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:00.480 You were saying, they came and then would and then 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:02.640 they ended up on the beach when the beach was 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:03.679 still cheap. 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.600 Oh yeah, yeah. Over time. Yeah, Like my family had 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:10.160 one side was in lind with the other one at 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:14.720 Hunting Park and they moved from there to Downey. I 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:17.000 think in the fifties and by the early sixties from 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:20.560 Downey they moved to One part of the family moved 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:25.200 to Palace Verities, and the other one moved to Newport Beach, Okay. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:31.320 Is there a state in the United States of America 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:37.360 that something like that is happening to right now? It 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:44.040 happened where there's a there's a lack of people but 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:46.480 a surplus in demand for human beings. 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:50.600 It's a little more scattered. I would say the closest 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:56.960 thing to that would be Texas. Florida was that probably 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:59.040 ten years ago. But Florida's had a ton of people 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:00.680 and a ton of people with money that you move here. 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:08.160 So it's the wages to expenses situation in Florida is 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:14.600 tough right now. It's better than California probably, but it's brutal. 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:21.960 But Texas has a lot of opportunity and it doesn't 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.880 have a lot of the issues that would drive up 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:30.640 cost immediately. You can get stuff and have a cash 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:31.440 surplus there. 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:40.080 What would you think is the next state to Actually 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:44.440 it's hard to predict that, right because California obviously benefited 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:48.880 off of World War Two with everything that happened, you know, 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:54.440 on the Pacific coast with Japan World War two, right, So. 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:55.920 Yeah, it had that, and then it had the entertainment 0:15:55.960 --> 0:16:03.640 industry all went from I mean that industry from Charlie 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:06.120 Chaplin to John Wayne wasn't that long in time, but 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:10.480 it was big and scope and scale, sure. And also 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:12.400 you had so that's a lot of new technology, new 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:15.760 movie technology, new television technology, new radio technology, all the above. 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:19.880 And then after that you had the biggest wave of 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:23.760 all in northern California was the tech explosion. Ten trillion 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:27.880 dollars in market capitalization in like three tiny little counties 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:30.880 up there, booie, the entire state financially right now. 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.920 Okay, So the reason I'm asking is because we having 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:37.680 a conversation about one hundred percent men that would like 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:40.440 to provide for their families top to bottom, you know. 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:42.480 And I don't want to take the route, bro, especially 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:44.960 with brothers, you know what I mean. I don't want 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:46.560 to take the route of beating it like. 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:48.640 We didn't beat the We didn't beat brothers up for 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:51.080 long enough around this motherfucker right in this country. 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:55.920 Sure, if a brother wanted to take care of their family, 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:58.320 let's say he got married and then he got a 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:00.960 kid or two, he said, you need to move to 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:05.359 another state. Right, where would you advise that person? What 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:07.480 state would they move to? Being that you went to 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:11.680 the financial kindas the financial models of this of these 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:13.760 this country in different states like that. 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:17.480 I would say move to Texas because in Texas you 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:21.359 don't need to have like the greatest you know, you 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:23.600 don't have to have some barrier of entry skill set 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:27.160 that's a mile high, like oh, move to out moved 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:29.440 to Silicon Valley because there's just money falling out of 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:31.680 the sky there. Well, you have to be incredibly specially 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:33.520 equipped to be able to get that money there. 0:17:33.640 --> 0:17:35.920 It's not it's not where it's not a blue collar town. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:42.280 No, the energy sector in Texas East and West has 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:44.800 a lot of opportunity for you to go down there 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:46.680 and get paid good money. There's a lot of money 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:49.320 in that field, and it is blue collar, and then 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:51.280 your expenses are going to be very very very low, 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:55.640 so you can shoulder a lot more there. 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:59.120 What about town How far are town's like Memphis away? 0:17:59.840 --> 0:18:03.040 Is it even in the like towns like Detroit where 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:07.280 you're hearing stuff like I'm hearing stuff about Michigan and Detroit. 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:08.720 I'm hearing things. 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:13.160 Right, certain wealthy white man you know, wealthy power structures 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:16.040 are taking an interest in Detroit. Like how far a 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:20.080 place is like Memphis and Detroit away from because like 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:22.040 I look at somewhere like Atlanta, Like I. 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:22.960 Went to Atlanta. 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:24.840 We we was in Atlanta a couple months ago, right, 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:28.520 and it looked like Compton did to me. Not all 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:30.960 of Atlanta. Atlanta has you know, Buckhead, all the nice places, 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:33.560 but I'm saying even the ghetto started to it went 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:36.720 from looking like third world like when I first went 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:40.200 to looking like Compton. So I was able to put 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:43.119 it on a growth economic I could see where it 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:43.840 was going. 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:46.920 With sure, and Atlanta has had that. It has a 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:47.440 lot of growth. 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:49.439 So so if you go into Georgia now you're a 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:50.200 little behind. 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:54.200 Yeah, you probably are price wise. 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:58.240 Because they don't have the economy for humans just yet. 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.639 Like California, the variety. 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:05.720 They have it it's just largely full. I mean usually 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:09.119 the way that stuff works is, yeah, it grows and 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:11.479 then people fill it and then demand increases and then 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:13.800 prices go up. Prices have already gone up there a lot, 0:19:14.280 --> 0:19:18.800 so that is more mature. Yeah. The problem with Memphis 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:22.120 is there's no economy really there unless you specifically find 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:28.360 like the right job of FedEx or at that oil refinery. 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:31.200 There's not a lot going on there, so stuff's cheap. 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:33.080 But there's not a lot going on there. 0:19:33.119 --> 0:19:36.800 So that's a place where they don't have the economy. 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:40.120 So things are but so things are hella affordable because 0:19:40.480 --> 0:19:42.240 you got to make do what what's available. 0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:46.360 Yeah, you don't have to have much money to buy 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:50.960 anything there, but good good luck finding it it being 0:19:51.000 --> 0:19:51.399 the money. 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:55.080 What about places like Detroit? Same at this point. 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:59.400 Detroit was doing well when the car factories and then 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:03.360 as they lost those what fifty years ago, now it's 0:20:03.400 --> 0:20:07.720 fifty years ago now, shit, probably in the seventies. 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:11.240 Forty fifty something like that. Yeah, maybe started in the seventies. 0:20:11.240 --> 0:20:13.880 I know, the the eighties and nineties had accelerated a lot. 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:17.520 Okay, So so at this point it's all about just 0:20:18.240 --> 0:20:22.160 figuring out where these huge economies are. Right, and historically 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:26.840 an American War has done really well for certain states. 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:33.359 And you're right, California has had the benefit of multiple 0:20:34.760 --> 0:20:37.720 to some degree, revolutions when it comes to economies, you know, 0:20:37.800 --> 0:20:39.200 to tech Hollywood. 0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:46.959 Sure, I mean there's like Tennessee and Alabama. There's some 0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:52.200 potential there, Like metropolitan Nashville has gotten very, very very 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:57.560 expensive the last couple of years, but there's you know, 0:20:57.600 --> 0:21:00.520 there's gold to be found, so to speak, around those 0:21:00.520 --> 0:21:05.800 two states. And there is some military infrastructure. There's, like 0:21:06.160 --> 0:21:08.480 I was looking up the other day, somewhere in Tennessee, 0:21:08.520 --> 0:21:12.399 there's like a really huge munitions factory. There's some car 0:21:12.480 --> 0:21:15.760 factories from foreign cars that got government deals to be 0:21:16.400 --> 0:21:22.199 placed in Tennessee. So there's some stuff like that there. 0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:33.720 So so it's not even realistic for most men. So 0:21:34.160 --> 0:21:39.520 so when that conversation is happening, shouldn't the conversation not 0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:41.760 be so much, Hey, you know what you need to 0:21:41.800 --> 0:21:44.240 provide one hundred percent versus saying and you need to 0:21:44.280 --> 0:21:46.800 be more involved in nurturing your family. 0:21:48.840 --> 0:21:49.040 Yeah. 0:21:49.080 --> 0:21:53.560 I think to me personally, the it surrounds the conversation 0:21:53.720 --> 0:21:58.000 of the variable of time. If you and your partner 0:21:58.119 --> 0:22:01.399 decide we're in love, we're gonna on this mission together, 0:22:01.640 --> 0:22:05.000 and we're twenty two and we're gonna take it as 0:22:05.040 --> 0:22:08.439 it comes, then your expectation is to be differently different 0:22:08.480 --> 0:22:13.439 because you set off on a mission when the man 0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:19.040 is very very early in his career development arc. You 0:22:19.080 --> 0:22:22.119 can do that, and you have to understand what that means. 0:22:22.200 --> 0:22:29.400 You're prioritizing love and emotion. Don't forget that's your priority. 0:22:29.560 --> 0:22:33.320 Or you can wait and say I'm gonna set, you know, 0:22:33.400 --> 0:22:35.480 sit back a little bit. I'm not ready for this. 0:22:36.280 --> 0:22:38.919 When I'm set at twenty two thirty two, I'll have 0:22:39.040 --> 0:22:42.680 ten years of you know, some savings. I'll have maybe 0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:45.720 a promotion that's happened in this time. I'm a little 0:22:45.760 --> 0:22:49.360 more prepared to shoulder this burden. I'm gonna be financially responsible. 0:22:49.480 --> 0:22:53.879 That's gonna be my paradigm, primary objective. And then you 0:22:53.920 --> 0:22:58.720 can do it that way. But you can't choose one 0:22:59.000 --> 0:23:02.199 and then act like you chose the other in the 0:23:02.200 --> 0:23:03.960 rear for your mirror. No, you chose the one you 0:23:04.000 --> 0:23:06.639 wanted to dive in in your early twenties. This is 0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:08.879 what diving in your early twenties means. You have to 0:23:08.880 --> 0:23:09.480 be realistic. 0:23:10.000 --> 0:23:14.200 Well, I think men know that, you know, well they do. 0:23:14.400 --> 0:23:22.120 But then they like to fuck those girls, so you know, hey, yeah, 0:23:22.080 --> 0:23:24.760 I mean you can be responsible all the time, you 0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:28.600 gotta be responsible at the pull out moment too. 0:23:29.800 --> 0:23:38.680 M Dan whatever, I'm just thinking. 0:23:40.400 --> 0:23:42.480 Okay, but let's talk about guys that are in that 0:23:42.600 --> 0:23:49.000 situation right now currently, Sure would a woman respects you? 0:23:50.200 --> 0:23:52.960 I don't know if a woman would respect you if 0:23:53.160 --> 0:23:58.719 you become fifty percent nurturer, especially in the way that 0:23:58.760 --> 0:24:01.240 they nurture. Right, So say, if you're like, well, look, 0:24:01.280 --> 0:24:06.520 you know what, baby, I'm only making maybe maybe like, 0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:10.480 I'm only making fifty percent of the income in this house, 0:24:10.880 --> 0:24:13.160 so I'm gonna start cooking fifty percent of the time. 0:24:13.240 --> 0:24:15.480 Should that be the conversation when they're in the middle 0:24:15.520 --> 0:24:18.440 of it, Hey, you know what, You'm you cook Sunday 0:24:18.480 --> 0:24:21.400 through Wednesday. I'm gonna cook Thursday through Friday. 0:24:22.680 --> 0:24:23.880 Does that really. 0:24:25.240 --> 0:24:28.400 Seem like a satisfying Like I think the initial thought 0:24:28.440 --> 0:24:30.760 would make a woman feel cool, But I don't know 0:24:30.920 --> 0:24:34.080 if ten years after that they'll be like, this is 0:24:34.080 --> 0:24:34.760 still cool. 0:24:38.600 --> 0:24:42.159 I think that's a reasonable concern. It probably depends on 0:24:42.160 --> 0:24:43.840 the woman, and it also depends on how you shake 0:24:43.880 --> 0:24:49.240 it out. If it's like you, you know, the woman 0:24:49.320 --> 0:24:52.440 want to work and cook or whatever, but you're waking 0:24:52.520 --> 0:24:54.720 up an extra hour earlier, getting the kids ready, or 0:24:54.760 --> 0:24:56.280 taking them to school on your way to work, or 0:24:56.280 --> 0:24:58.679 picking them up afterwards, or doing whatever else, Like if 0:24:58.720 --> 0:25:01.000 you're breaking your back eleven hours a day, then you know, 0:25:01.000 --> 0:25:03.800