Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 2: And welcome back to another episode of No Salers Podcast
Speaker 2: with your host. Now, fuck that with your load glasses, Malone.
Speaker 3: They brothers, you should do one hundred. They say, no,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do fifty. But I'm still one hundred percent
Speaker 3: of provider.
Speaker 1: How is that possible?
Speaker 3: A man is one hundred percent provider when he's unable
Speaker 3: to provide one hundred percent. The woman picks up the slack. Correct,
Speaker 3: Now the woman is not just picking up his slack
Speaker 3: but doing hers. So she's picking up the slack of
Speaker 3: a man that's fifty percent right providing, a woman fifty
Speaker 3: percent nurturing. So she's fifty percent provider fifty percent nurturer
Speaker 3: who picks up the slack of the woman. The child,
Speaker 3: Now the child is fifty percent of child and fifty
Speaker 3: percent of nurturer. Now the child is nurturing the siblings
Speaker 3: man fifty percent, one hundred percent child one hundred percent.
Speaker 3: So a man that's going fifty percent with this woman
Speaker 3: is like a man's not even there. Because if that
Speaker 3: man left, the woman will still be fifty percent provider,
Speaker 3: fifty percent nurture. The child will still be fifty percent child,
Speaker 3: fifty percent nurture. The man is the only one comfortable
Speaker 3: in that equation, and that's why he says, no, YadA,
Speaker 3: don't tell him the truth because.
Speaker 1: I'm comfortable thoughts Peter thoughts, thoughts my man instant.
Speaker 4: Though Tragically, our our show is confined to a one
Speaker 4: hour time period, so I won't be able to give
Speaker 4: my thoughts. It's there's some principles in that that are true.
Speaker 4: I agree with the basic concept. I think maybe it's
Speaker 4: just the way it's being pieced together is a mess. So,
Speaker 4: I mean, the reality is there aren't a lot of
Speaker 4: fathers that are there that don't do any parenting. You know,
Speaker 4: that's ridiculous. If the father left and took his earnings
Speaker 4: with him and the court didn't take some of them back,
Speaker 4: it's not the same scenario for that woman. I think
Speaker 4: everybody agrees with that. I don't know. To me personally,
Speaker 4: I there's so many weird dynamics with dual income households.
Speaker 1: It's just.
Speaker 4: It's almost on a case by case basis.
Speaker 1: Okay, first off, what are you drinking?
Speaker 4: Well? Since I couldn't get anything to drink at the
Speaker 4: drink Champs today, I was the I didn't make the
Speaker 4: playoffs and drink champs today unfortunately. So I'm just having
Speaker 4: a rum, and.
Speaker 1: Why you didn't gett nothing to drink? They didn't give
Speaker 1: you nothing to drink.
Speaker 4: I'm not going to put it on those guys, but
Speaker 4: I didn't. I wasn't. I wasn't offer anything to drink,
Speaker 4: and it's not my place. So I wasn't gonna go
Speaker 4: I'm walking around my hand out.
Speaker 1: Make sure I'm there. They give you all the good shit.
Speaker 4: Well that would be very thoughtful. But yeah, after my
Speaker 4: last episode, I said, how came women live with their handout?
Speaker 4: I wasn't gonna walk around my handout? Just a week later, okay, So.
Speaker 2: One part of the math was when he said, so
Speaker 2: the man is a fifty percent provider and then the
Speaker 2: woman's a fifty percent provider and a fifty percent nurture,
Speaker 2: and then the child ends up taking a hike or
Speaker 2: taking a hit because they have to become fifty percent
Speaker 2: nurturer and fifty percent child. He said, if the man left,
Speaker 2: nothing would change because the woman would be fifty percent nurturer,
Speaker 2: fifty percent provider, and the child was still fifty percent child,
Speaker 2: fifty percent nurturer. Well, where the fuck is the other
Speaker 2: fifty percent coming from So unless he advises sisters to
Speaker 2: get on government uh, government assistance, you'd be short fifty percent.
Speaker 4: But YEA very true.
Speaker 2: I guess I get the point of what he's I
Speaker 2: get the point of what he's saying. I don't know
Speaker 2: if you put in one hundred percent that means a
Speaker 2: woman is going to be one hundred percent nurturer.
Speaker 4: I'll take three women in my family, all right, my mom,
Speaker 4: my aunt, and my slet grandma. Now, Mom, did.
Speaker 1: You just call your grandmother a slut?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Why my other grandma wasn't a slut?
Speaker 1: What is wrong with white people?
Speaker 4: Ask her?
Speaker 1: White men like you? In fucking eminem? Why is your grandmother?
Speaker 4: No? No, no, I don't know why she is. She
Speaker 4: insists upon it.
Speaker 1: I don't know why you can't your grandmother slud.
Speaker 4: Watch me after I tell you why, you'll go. Oh, okay,
Speaker 4: I guarantee it. I'll hold that for the end.
Speaker 3: Though.
Speaker 4: Okay, she did not work. She didn't parent either. I
Speaker 4: don't know what the fuck she did. I mean, I
Speaker 4: know what if the fuck she did, But none of
Speaker 4: it was nurturing or providing. Okay, that's a fact.
Speaker 1: This is your This is your granted you talking about.
Speaker 4: This's my slupt grandma, not my good grandma. I got
Speaker 4: good grandma. She's dead, dead grandma and slept grandma.
Speaker 1: Who's whose mother is this? Pete? Is this?
Speaker 4: We're not gonna be that specific.
Speaker 2: Okay, cool, At least you respect only the grandmother that
Speaker 2: knows she's alive, and she listens to no siblings eventually
Speaker 2: knows who you're talking about.
Speaker 4: God, I'm pretty sure she doesn't, but that's.
Speaker 1: May surprise you. She may call your motherfucking mass and
Speaker 1: be like.
Speaker 4: Who you fucking calling and select Peter, go ahead, phase
Speaker 4: me one bit. And then and then and then my
Speaker 4: mom and my aunt, who are in laws, not both sisters,
Speaker 4: they both started their marriages off as just stay at
Speaker 4: home moms and then just wanted more to do and
Speaker 4: became full time teachers, and then both retired and then
Speaker 4: both started working part time after a little walk because
Speaker 4: they were bored again. So and and and in those
Speaker 4: cases also, that money is not usually gonna be fifty
Speaker 4: to fifty either. So there's there's that like in our household,
Speaker 4: my mom's teaching money that wasn't fifty percent of nothing
Speaker 4: all right at all? And you know, all all three
Speaker 4: fathers in these scenarios were all doing things. They were
Speaker 4: helping coach kids, they were picking kids up here, they
Speaker 4: were doing nurturing full time, providing full time. They were
Speaker 4: doing all the yeah, and they were active, actively engaged
Speaker 4: nurturing and raising and rearing these children. Lord knows, my
Speaker 4: sluck grandma wasn't rearing well. She wasn't rearing the children.
Speaker 1: Broll. You gotta stop calling your grandmother killing.
Speaker 4: I'll tell you why. I'm going to tell you why.
Speaker 1: Wait to the end.
Speaker 4: Just please, at least this is the en I'll tell
Speaker 4: you why.
Speaker 1: Just wait till the last fifty eight minutes to deal.
Speaker 1: Just hold that.
Speaker 4: Just oh oh a minute fifty eight okay, all right,
Speaker 4: just wait a minute. That'll be the closer.
Speaker 1: Don't worry, please please want closer.
Speaker 4: I got closer.
Speaker 2: It's just as a black person, as a black man,
Speaker 2: it feels so weird to listen to something.
Speaker 1: Insulting about their grandmother. But I get it.
Speaker 4: Wait till I tell you about her mother, my slept
Speaker 4: great grandma.
Speaker 1: Oh what the fuck?
Speaker 4: She was a scientist and architect. Did you know she
Speaker 4: was an early pioneer in glory whole technology?
Speaker 1: Fucking man. Ah man, you're gonna make this episode long.
Speaker 4: No, I got a commitment at fifty eight minutes in.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, so let me ask you something. Do
Speaker 1: you believe? Okay, no, siilings gl glasses.
Speaker 2: Low me and Pete popping game. Yeah, I know how
Speaker 2: we do it on those seilings about this time, so okay,
Speaker 2: the initial see it could almost to me like his math,
Speaker 2: Like when people talk like that, it almost seems like
Speaker 2: they're catering to kind of the the desire of women
Speaker 2: right where it's like that. I don't think what was
Speaker 2: my first sentence in the group chat.
Speaker 1: I don't remember what was it.
Speaker 4: I said, more simp talk trying to tell a female
Speaker 4: audience what they want to hear, to try to gain
Speaker 4: quick popularity.
Speaker 2: Okay, so long story short. I don't think there's a
Speaker 2: man who do would not like to provide one of
Speaker 2: everything for their family. I don't think there's a man
Speaker 2: that that's not the goal, right if it's possible, I
Speaker 2: think every man, every healthy man, right healthy like if
Speaker 2: you're healthy, right like like if you're mentally healthy, like
Speaker 2: you have been through any of the bullshit that that
Speaker 2: makes you develop that poison where you just don't trust women.
Speaker 2: So you like, you know, the traditional she live here
Speaker 2: too guys because something bad happened before. Right, So I
Speaker 2: think every man would like to provide one hundred percent,
Speaker 2: one hundred and seventeen percent of everything for their family, right.
Speaker 2: But I think most men right in America are not
Speaker 2: in positions too, especially people that come from where we
Speaker 2: come from, right, because it ain't like we fast tracked
Speaker 2: into any you know, jobs or companies and shit. So
Speaker 2: I think as a defense mechanism, right, because they have
Speaker 2: been unable to obtain it. Right, That's where you get
Speaker 2: kind of the fifty to fifty bros. Whereas like she
Speaker 2: live here too, because they don't make enough money and
Speaker 2: they don't want to be in a situation to where
Speaker 2: it's like they don't have anything.
Speaker 1: Ain't giving up everything?
Speaker 4: Yeah, real quick? Did you see the statistical release by
Speaker 4: well with somebody else? And then Yahoo Finance did their
Speaker 4: own analysis that was even more egregious of what the
Speaker 4: requisite annual income is to afford the median house price
Speaker 4: in America now versus four years ago.
Speaker 1: I think you sent it to me, but remind me anyway.
Speaker 4: Fifty eight thousand to one hundred and six thousand in
Speaker 4: four years to afford the median home price in America.
Speaker 1: Just the home itself.
Speaker 4: Well, Yahoo factored in increases in prices of power and
Speaker 4: insurance as well.
Speaker 2: So, but just the price of home, not the bills,
Speaker 2: not the card notes, not the insurances.
Speaker 4: Homeowners insurance. For the y'all here won it was homos insurance.
Speaker 4: So just the home and and the note, yeah, the note,
Speaker 4: the insurance, and and and and I think the power bill.
Speaker 1: But yeah, just that fifty eight to one hundred.
Speaker 4: Yeah, one hundred and six, fifty hundred and.
Speaker 1: Six across America for.
Speaker 4: The median price.
Speaker 2: Foh, you know what I was telling somebody? Damn, I
Speaker 2: was telling somebody something you explained to me about California.
Speaker 2: We were talking about California. This is right around the
Speaker 2: time he was like, Yo, I'm gonna leave. Gee, y'all
Speaker 2: gotta get the fucking body here, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I gotta be smart, right, And you was telling me,
Speaker 2: tell me the story about how California was and when
Speaker 2: your grandparents, your grandfather came right when he came here
Speaker 2: because it was cheap and it wasn't a lot of
Speaker 2: opportunities obviously, it wasn't this version of California that we
Speaker 2: know roughly almost one hundred years later. Now, oh shit,
Speaker 2: it is supposed in the years and like nineties, like theties, right, Yeah.
Speaker 4: So obviously it was a great depression, so it wasn't
Speaker 4: like the best of times, but California was a beacon
Speaker 4: of growth relative to other areas. And then after that
Speaker 4: you had the World War two Pacific theater war Machine
Speaker 4: and the subsequent wave of momentum from that. But yeah,
Speaker 4: it was a smaller population state. You had a wave
Speaker 4: of people that moved there where there was a demand
Speaker 4: for people within the market. Now there's a ton of
Speaker 4: people and there's a demand for market among the people,
Speaker 4: so it's inverted. But yeah, they're incomparable. It's it's utterly incomparable.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't even know how where you would want me
Speaker 4: to go to describe the differences between, Like.
Speaker 2: You were saying, they came and then would and then
Speaker 2: they ended up on the beach when the beach was
Speaker 2: still cheap.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah. Over time. Yeah, Like my family had
Speaker 4: one side was in lind with the other one at
Speaker 4: Hunting Park and they moved from there to Downey. I
Speaker 4: think in the fifties and by the early sixties from
Speaker 4: Downey they moved to One part of the family moved
Speaker 4: to Palace Verities, and the other one moved to Newport Beach, Okay.
Speaker 2: Is there a state in the United States of America
Speaker 2: that something like that is happening to right now? It
Speaker 2: happened where there's a there's a lack of people but
Speaker 2: a surplus in demand for human beings.
Speaker 4: It's a little more scattered. I would say the closest
Speaker 4: thing to that would be Texas. Florida was that probably
Speaker 4: ten years ago. But Florida's had a ton of people
Speaker 4: and a ton of people with money that you move here.
Speaker 4: So it's the wages to expenses situation in Florida is
Speaker 4: tough right now. It's better than California probably, but it's brutal.
Speaker 4: But Texas has a lot of opportunity and it doesn't
Speaker 4: have a lot of the issues that would drive up
Speaker 4: cost immediately. You can get stuff and have a cash
Speaker 4: surplus there.
Speaker 2: What would you think is the next state to Actually
Speaker 2: it's hard to predict that, right because California obviously benefited
Speaker 2: off of World War Two with everything that happened, you know,
Speaker 2: on the Pacific coast with Japan World War two, right, So.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it had that, and then it had the entertainment
Speaker 4: industry all went from I mean that industry from Charlie
Speaker 4: Chaplin to John Wayne wasn't that long in time, but
Speaker 4: it was big and scope and scale, sure. And also
Speaker 4: you had so that's a lot of new technology, new
Speaker 4: movie technology, new television technology, new radio technology, all the above.
Speaker 4: And then after that you had the biggest wave of
Speaker 4: all in northern California was the tech explosion. Ten trillion
Speaker 4: dollars in market capitalization in like three tiny little counties
Speaker 4: up there, booie, the entire state financially right now.
Speaker 2: Okay, So the reason I'm asking is because we having
Speaker 2: a conversation about one hundred percent men that would like
Speaker 2: to provide for their families top to bottom, you know.
Speaker 2: And I don't want to take the route, bro, especially
Speaker 2: with brothers, you know what I mean. I don't want
Speaker 2: to take the route of beating it like.
Speaker 1: We didn't beat the We didn't beat brothers up for
Speaker 1: long enough around this motherfucker right in this country.
Speaker 2: Sure, if a brother wanted to take care of their family,
Speaker 2: let's say he got married and then he got a
Speaker 2: kid or two, he said, you need to move to
Speaker 2: another state. Right, where would you advise that person? What
Speaker 2: state would they move to? Being that you went to
Speaker 2: the financial kindas the financial models of this of these
Speaker 2: this country in different states like that.
Speaker 4: I would say move to Texas because in Texas you
Speaker 4: don't need to have like the greatest you know, you
Speaker 4: don't have to have some barrier of entry skill set
Speaker 4: that's a mile high, like oh, move to out moved
Speaker 4: to Silicon Valley because there's just money falling out of
Speaker 4: the sky there. Well, you have to be incredibly specially
Speaker 4: equipped to be able to get that money there.
Speaker 1: It's not it's not where it's not a blue collar town.
Speaker 4: No, the energy sector in Texas East and West has
Speaker 4: a lot of opportunity for you to go down there
Speaker 4: and get paid good money. There's a lot of money
Speaker 4: in that field, and it is blue collar, and then
Speaker 4: your expenses are going to be very very very low,
Speaker 4: so you can shoulder a lot more there.
Speaker 2: What about town How far are town's like Memphis away?
Speaker 2: Is it even in the like towns like Detroit where
Speaker 2: you're hearing stuff like I'm hearing stuff about Michigan and Detroit.
Speaker 1: I'm hearing things.
Speaker 2: Right, certain wealthy white man you know, wealthy power structures
Speaker 2: are taking an interest in Detroit. Like how far a
Speaker 2: place is like Memphis and Detroit away from because like
Speaker 2: I look at somewhere like Atlanta, Like I.
Speaker 1: Went to Atlanta.
Speaker 2: We we was in Atlanta a couple months ago, right,
Speaker 2: and it looked like Compton did to me. Not all
Speaker 2: of Atlanta. Atlanta has you know, Buckhead, all the nice places,
Speaker 2: but I'm saying even the ghetto started to it went
Speaker 2: from looking like third world like when I first went
Speaker 2: to looking like Compton. So I was able to put
Speaker 2: it on a growth economic I could see where it
Speaker 2: was going.
Speaker 4: With sure, and Atlanta has had that. It has a
Speaker 4: lot of growth.
Speaker 1: So so if you go into Georgia now you're a
Speaker 1: little behind.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you probably are price wise.
Speaker 2: Because they don't have the economy for humans just yet.
Speaker 2: Like California, the variety.
Speaker 4: They have it it's just largely full. I mean usually
Speaker 4: the way that stuff works is, yeah, it grows and
Speaker 4: then people fill it and then demand increases and then
Speaker 4: prices go up. Prices have already gone up there a lot,
Speaker 4: so that is more mature. Yeah. The problem with Memphis
Speaker 4: is there's no economy really there unless you specifically find
Speaker 4: like the right job of FedEx or at that oil refinery.
Speaker 4: There's not a lot going on there, so stuff's cheap.
Speaker 4: But there's not a lot going on there.
Speaker 2: So that's a place where they don't have the economy.
Speaker 2: So things are but so things are hella affordable because
Speaker 2: you got to make do what what's available.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't have to have much money to buy
Speaker 4: anything there, but good good luck finding it it being
Speaker 4: the money.
Speaker 1: What about places like Detroit? Same at this point.
Speaker 2: Detroit was doing well when the car factories and then
Speaker 2: as they lost those what fifty years ago, now it's
Speaker 2: fifty years ago now, shit, probably in the seventies.
Speaker 4: Forty fifty something like that. Yeah, maybe started in the seventies.
Speaker 4: I know, the the eighties and nineties had accelerated a lot.
Speaker 2: Okay, So so at this point it's all about just
Speaker 2: figuring out where these huge economies are. Right, and historically
Speaker 2: an American War has done really well for certain states.
Speaker 2: And you're right, California has had the benefit of multiple
Speaker 2: to some degree, revolutions when it comes to economies, you know,
Speaker 2: to tech Hollywood.
Speaker 4: Sure, I mean there's like Tennessee and Alabama. There's some
Speaker 4: potential there, Like metropolitan Nashville has gotten very, very very
Speaker 4: expensive the last couple of years, but there's you know,
Speaker 4: there's gold to be found, so to speak, around those
Speaker 4: two states. And there is some military infrastructure. There's, like
Speaker 4: I was looking up the other day, somewhere in Tennessee,
Speaker 4: there's like a really huge munitions factory. There's some car
Speaker 4: factories from foreign cars that got government deals to be
Speaker 4: placed in Tennessee. So there's some stuff like that there.
Speaker 2: So so it's not even realistic for most men. So
Speaker 2: so when that conversation is happening, shouldn't the conversation not
Speaker 2: be so much, Hey, you know what you need to
Speaker 2: provide one hundred percent versus saying and you need to
Speaker 2: be more involved in nurturing your family.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I think to me personally, the it surrounds the conversation
Speaker 4: of the variable of time. If you and your partner
Speaker 4: decide we're in love, we're gonna on this mission together,
Speaker 4: and we're twenty two and we're gonna take it as
Speaker 4: it comes, then your expectation is to be differently different
Speaker 4: because you set off on a mission when the man
Speaker 4: is very very early in his career development arc. You
Speaker 4: can do that, and you have to understand what that means.
Speaker 4: You're prioritizing love and emotion. Don't forget that's your priority.
Speaker 4: Or you can wait and say I'm gonna set, you know,
Speaker 4: sit back a little bit. I'm not ready for this.
Speaker 4: When I'm set at twenty two thirty two, I'll have
Speaker 4: ten years of you know, some savings. I'll have maybe
Speaker 4: a promotion that's happened in this time. I'm a little
Speaker 4: more prepared to shoulder this burden. I'm gonna be financially responsible.
Speaker 4: That's gonna be my paradigm, primary objective. And then you
Speaker 4: can do it that way. But you can't choose one
Speaker 4: and then act like you chose the other in the
Speaker 4: rear for your mirror. No, you chose the one you
Speaker 4: wanted to dive in in your early twenties. This is
Speaker 4: what diving in your early twenties means. You have to
Speaker 4: be realistic.
Speaker 1: Well, I think men know that, you know, well they do.
Speaker 4: But then they like to fuck those girls, so you know, hey, yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean you can be responsible all the time, you
Speaker 4: gotta be responsible at the pull out moment too.
Speaker 1: M Dan whatever, I'm just thinking.
Speaker 2: Okay, but let's talk about guys that are in that
Speaker 2: situation right now currently, Sure would a woman respects you?
Speaker 2: I don't know if a woman would respect you if
Speaker 2: you become fifty percent nurturer, especially in the way that
Speaker 2: they nurture. Right, So say, if you're like, well, look,
Speaker 2: you know what, baby, I'm only making maybe maybe like,
Speaker 2: I'm only making fifty percent of the income in this house,
Speaker 2: so I'm gonna start cooking fifty percent of the time.
Speaker 2: Should that be the conversation when they're in the middle
Speaker 2: of it, Hey, you know what, You'm you cook Sunday
Speaker 2: through Wednesday. I'm gonna cook Thursday through Friday.
Speaker 1: Does that really.
Speaker 2: Seem like a satisfying Like I think the initial thought
Speaker 2: would make a woman feel cool, But I don't know
Speaker 2: if ten years after that they'll be like, this is
Speaker 2: still cool.
Speaker 4: I think that's a reasonable concern. It probably depends on
Speaker 4: the woman, and it also depends on how you shake
Speaker 4: it out. If it's like you, you know, the woman
Speaker 4: want to work and cook or whatever, but you're waking
Speaker 4: up an extra hour earlier, getting the kids ready, or
Speaker 4: taking them to school on your way to work, or
Speaker 4: picking them up afterwards, or doing whatever else, Like if
Speaker 4: you're breaking your back eleven hours a day, then you know,
Speaker 4: it depends. I think what really it amounts to is
Speaker 4: the woman has to feel like you're doing all that
Speaker 4: you can do physically, but.
Speaker 1: They can never think that they gonna still think you
Speaker 1: could do more. Obviously. I think you go back to
Speaker 1: that word expectations.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it is expectations and being realistic. This conversation is
Speaker 4: right now. This is why I don't have any kids.
Speaker 2: What's crazy is I've been making great money for seventeen eighteen,
Speaker 2: seventeen eighteen years. Even when I was selling dope, I
Speaker 2: was making really great money. So I probably made great
Speaker 2: money half of my life, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I just, oh, I don't know, man. Something about that
Speaker 2: conversation just feels disingenuous. And I don't know if it's
Speaker 2: because I think, you know, when people have it, it's
Speaker 2: about appeasing women as much as are you really taking
Speaker 2: into account modern economics.
Speaker 1: With most human beings.
Speaker 4: No one takes the latter into account properly. What's what's
Speaker 4: funny about the first part is it's interesting how entrenched
Speaker 4: the idea is. The conversations about appeasing women it's That's
Speaker 4: always what it's about. Isn't it heavy wife? Abby life?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Is it?
Speaker 4: Yeah? If they'll ever be That's one of my favorite
Speaker 4: comedy bits of all time. You know, Ron White, I'm
Speaker 4: from the blue collar. I love Ron White. He's like
Speaker 4: one of my faves. And he had a bit where
Speaker 4: he says, finally somebody in in advertising decided to be honest.
Speaker 4: He's talking about de Beer's diamonds. Is diamonds take her
Speaker 4: breath away, diamonds render her speechless? Why don't you just
Speaker 4: say what you mean? Diamonds that'll shut her up. It's
Speaker 4: a great bit. I love.
Speaker 2: It's pretty good. I get it. White comedy. I'll fuck
Speaker 2: with the white comedy, bro.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that kind I don't. I don't. I don't dig
Speaker 4: the vegan almond milk white comedy, but I'll funk with the.
Speaker 1: Vegan them in milk white comedy.
Speaker 4: You know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I guess I wouldn't watch it. Wait a minute, let
Speaker 2: me see if is Adam Sanderdck.
Speaker 4: No, no no, no, no, no, like Adam Sanderdeck, it would
Speaker 4: be like younger soft. You know, I don't want to offend.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna say all the right PC things whatever. I'm
Speaker 4: under thirty five white guy comedy.
Speaker 2: There's a white guy making that kind of comedy.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Man, you go to comedy clubs, you see a
Speaker 4: lot of white dudes up there, scared shitless to say anything.
Speaker 4: That's why I don't like white audiences, Like I won't
Speaker 4: perform it in front of a white audience on purpose.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, Oh it's They use the expression black don't crack,
Speaker 5: but apparently are white cracks because it's it's so thin.
Speaker 4: At least at least that's what I gathered from the
Speaker 4: comedy audiences. Very sensitive, very sensitive.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question.
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously I know your stance on it, and
Speaker 2: you're not looking to find a wife. That's not a
Speaker 2: primary goal right now, right now, it's all peak time,
Speaker 2: blah blah blah. I would imagine you would be one
Speaker 2: of those kind of guys, because that for sure, would
Speaker 2: want to take care of all the responsibilities financially inside
Speaker 2: your house. I know you, like I know how you.
Speaker 2: It's part of our you know, as me and as
Speaker 2: we carry ourselves. Right, You're a man, You're an accountable guy.
Speaker 4: I'm much more sinister than that you're.
Speaker 1: Much more sinister. Explain to me, this sinister that you are.
Speaker 4: Me at my worst, at my best, I don't want
Speaker 4: at my best. I want to pay all the bills
Speaker 4: and cover all the expenses and do all of that
Speaker 4: because I want to be the embodiment of what I
Speaker 4: believe a man is supposed to be because of my
Speaker 4: standards of integrity of the character.
Speaker 1: I agree.
Speaker 4: Then there's me at.
Speaker 1: My worst, and what's you at your worst?
Speaker 4: Me at my worst? I want to pay every goddamn
Speaker 4: bill and do every goddamn chore. And do you know why,
Speaker 4: because I don't want a bitch to think she contribute
Speaker 4: to a goddamn thing, to this operation.
Speaker 1: What the fuck is wrong? So you want to wash
Speaker 1: all the dishes and pay all the bill.
Speaker 4: I'll do all of it. I already do it all.
Speaker 4: Now I'm not gonna do it. I'm not going to
Speaker 4: let you stroll on in here and act like you
Speaker 4: bought fifty percent of this company. Sweetheart, you did not.
Speaker 4: You can sit your ass right over there. I'll take
Speaker 4: care of all of it, and when it's time for
Speaker 4: you to talk, I'll be out of the room.
Speaker 1: Oh man, your ass is crazy.
Speaker 4: Hey, I said, that's me at my worst.
Speaker 1: Where are you at right now?
Speaker 4: I'm always worst?
Speaker 1: What's the next?
Speaker 4: I've had girls ask me what is it that you
Speaker 4: want me to do? And I say nothing. I want
Speaker 4: you to just see like this, conversations come up.
Speaker 1: I just want you to be here.
Speaker 4: Just make me less miserable while I do all this shit.
Speaker 4: If you can. If you can't, don't worry about it.
Speaker 4: I'm still gonna be doing it.
Speaker 2: I can respect that. That's some weird way of controlling
Speaker 2: the situation.
Speaker 4: I guess it is. It does control the situation.
Speaker 2: So what would you advise to a man that has
Speaker 2: a wife and two kids and they're in California?
Speaker 1: Right They're not doing the best.
Speaker 2: They busting they balls, but they ain't getting it done.
Speaker 2: So your immediate thing is like, hey, brother, move to Texas.
Speaker 2: You can own you can you can afford a mortgage,
Speaker 2: and you you could do much more with your time.
Speaker 2: If you don't have a full set of special skills.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it be that, or you have to figure something out.
Speaker 4: You have to communicate, obviously, you and the woman have
Speaker 4: to communicate. You have to understand reality. I have to say, look,
Speaker 4: this is what it is. Here are options. We can
Speaker 4: stay right here. We can have very little and you
Speaker 4: can do very little, and I can do a lot
Speaker 4: and try to buy some time, and then over the
Speaker 4: while I'm working, and then also educating myself with a
Speaker 4: monetizable skill keyword monetizable. Over the next couple of years,
Speaker 4: then within three years we'll have a quality of life improvement.
Speaker 4: I just got to put myself through the ringer, and
Speaker 4: you're just gonna have to buite the bullet for three years.
Speaker 4: Or you can go work now and you can bite
Speaker 4: the bullet and I'll keep biting the bullet and we'll,
Speaker 4: you know, piece together our resources and we can start
Speaker 4: to make some improvements. Or we can find somewhere else
Speaker 4: to be, and you're gonna have to understand what that
Speaker 4: means and what that entails and whatever else. We can
Speaker 4: move somewhere else and you can continue to do your
Speaker 4: usual nothing, and I'll do my usual everything, but my
Speaker 4: price per hour will remain fixed and the cost will
Speaker 4: come down to meet my price, rather than raising my
Speaker 4: price to meet the cost. Whatever it is. You have
Speaker 4: to be on the same page. And if moving's what
Speaker 4: it takes, then moving is what it takes. And I
Speaker 4: wouldn't be opposed to that at all.
Speaker 1: Hm, that's a good game. That's for the brothers.
Speaker 2: That's looking to really be a lot closer to one
Speaker 2: hundred percent providers in the household.
Speaker 4: Wait was it? Was it the last podcast? Did I
Speaker 4: say my line on the last podcast?
Speaker 1: What's your line? Exactly?
Speaker 4: I said, I was telling this girl that all relationships
Speaker 4: are are female extortion rackets. And then the whole situation
Speaker 4: based off based off the idea that a woman is
Speaker 4: in a perpetual state of get me what I want
Speaker 4: because that guy over there has a dick in a
Speaker 4: credit card that works too.
Speaker 2: Oh man, these motherfucker's gonna kill you one of these days.
Speaker 1: Man, they gonna fucking kill you. Dog, cool women you like,
Speaker 1: gonna kill me all over again?
Speaker 4: Dog, what they're gonna do complain about? Oh? You yourself? Right?
Speaker 4: Fuck you you son of a bitch? You right, son
Speaker 4: of a bitch? Yeah, yeah, I am, I am right,
Speaker 4: son of a bitch.
Speaker 2: So what's the worst thing a man can do with
Speaker 2: his wife and his two kids in this current climate
Speaker 2: in California with no special skills.
Speaker 1: Have them?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: No, the worst thing to do is probably allow for
Speaker 4: an expectation to manifest that there's more of a budget
Speaker 4: available than there really is, because that's going to do
Speaker 4: two things simultaneously. Will at least do one thing right now,
Speaker 4: you get paid, say at the end of the week,
Speaker 4: for your time, and that time is X dollars. Will
Speaker 4: they give them to you all at once, And the
Speaker 4: longer you have them, the lower the value goes of
Speaker 4: that money. So your your compensation value is expiring perpetually.
Speaker 1: As soon as you get your take is worth less
Speaker 1: than the world five minutes ago.
Speaker 4: It's worth less. Yeah, it's like a used car now.
Speaker 4: So because of the ratios of your cash on hand,
Speaker 4: your earnings from cash on hand, and then your expenses,
Speaker 4: you need to be to be like just shoveling money
Speaker 4: into anything else that can increase in equity value or
Speaker 4: have some sort of dividend return payment. That's the paramount
Speaker 4: right now. No matter what you're doing, you have to
Speaker 4: start chipping away your money and saving and scraping something
Speaker 4: you have.
Speaker 1: To ship away. You have to chip away at inflation.
Speaker 4: You got to. So if you're sitting an expectation that yeah, sweetheart,
Speaker 4: you can get your hair done, your nails done, buying
Speaker 4: new shoe, buy a new bag, go to brunch with
Speaker 4: the girls, all these things every which every week that
Speaker 4: you want to live your happiest best life in your
Speaker 4: own mind, you you're not gonna be able to do that.
Speaker 4: And what you're also going to do, inevitably, in addition
Speaker 4: to not being able to take advantage of favorable markets
Speaker 4: in a intersection of you know, good markets and bad currency,
Speaker 4: you're also gonna start taking on credit card debt, which
Speaker 4: in high interest rates is gonna be like in the
Speaker 4: mid twenties, and you're just gonna get crushed and you're
Speaker 4: not gonna feel it today. It's gonna be like slowly
Speaker 4: turning the water up on a lobster or something like that.
Speaker 4: But that money is gonna get big, and that interest
Speaker 4: is gonna get big, and you're not gonna be able
Speaker 4: to pay it off. It's not gonna happen. You're gonna
Speaker 4: you're gonna end up out, dead, ass out. And then
Speaker 4: what you're gonna have. You're gonna go from having cash
Speaker 4: to spend and credit to spend to no credit to
Speaker 4: spend and only cash. You're gonna have to let the
Speaker 4: ship all go to collections. You're gonna demolish your credit,
Speaker 4: and if it's bigger, I forgot.
Speaker 1: The be K bankrupt people that don't know what the fun.
Speaker 4: Or you're just gonna have to sit there with fucked
Speaker 4: credit for seven years.
Speaker 2: I had this conversation with Joey before, and I was
Speaker 2: telling him that.
Speaker 4: Oh, I didn't think that b K and your audience
Speaker 4: might mean blood killers.
Speaker 1: Also, yes, that's not they people that clings understand the difference.
Speaker 4: But I'm just saying, you gotta make.
Speaker 1: Okay. So look Dodo.
Speaker 2: But I was telling Joey this, we were talking about it.
Speaker 2: He was talking about the buddy his and I was like, man,
Speaker 2: his buddy had just got married. And I was telling him,
Speaker 2: I'm like, yo, make sure you buy what you can afford,
Speaker 2: because women will push you to buy some shit you
Speaker 2: can't afford, right, And I'm like yo, He's like, well,
Speaker 2: if I make if I bring home fifty eight hundred dollars,
Speaker 2: you know, and mortgages is thirty two hundred dollars. I'm like,
Speaker 2: how many children they got?
Speaker 1: They like none. I'm like, then why would yoe rent
Speaker 1: be thirty some hundred dollars? She gonna want this house?
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, why not get a house that you
Speaker 2: can afford, you know what I mean, on your salary?
Speaker 2: Why not getting a living domain? He like, well, she
Speaker 2: ain't gonna go for that. I'm like, well, she ain't
Speaker 2: going for you.
Speaker 4: And you know, you know, I've always blamed the two
Speaker 4: thousand housing crash bubble on this exact description.
Speaker 2: Sure, So if somebody makes fifty eight hundred dollars, which
Speaker 2: is really good money, because that's probably that's like somebody
Speaker 2: pretty much almost making a hundred thousand dollars a year
Speaker 2: before taxes, or at one hundred thousand dollars a year before.
Speaker 4: Taxes, Oh, fifty eight hundred dollars per check.
Speaker 2: No, fifty eight hundred dollars a month, so roughly six thousand,
Speaker 2: that's seventy you bring home seventy two thousand dollars roughly
Speaker 2: take two hundred dollars each, twenty four hundred, So that's
Speaker 2: what seven bucks sixty nine is some change. That's pretty
Speaker 2: much one hundred thousand dollars a year before taxis that's
Speaker 2: good money. So if somebody's bringing home fifty eight hundred
Speaker 2: dollars a month, how much can they afford? I was
Speaker 2: telling him, My belief is I wouldn't be spending more
Speaker 2: than two thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: He's like, well, where the hell were gonna live with
Speaker 1: two thousand dollars? Whatever?
Speaker 2: Two thousand fucking dollars get you? If this is your
Speaker 2: old lady, you feel me this shit, this is where
Speaker 2: we're at. You don't got you don't gotta pay none
Speaker 2: of the money.
Speaker 1: He's like, well, she'll try to chip in. Don't let
Speaker 1: her chip in.
Speaker 2: Don't let her do that, because let her on, she'll
Speaker 2: resent you for that little money she gotta spend. If
Speaker 2: the place is twenty seven and she got to give
Speaker 2: up seven hundred dollars, she'll resent you for the seven
Speaker 2: hundred dollars.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you won't. You'll be half a man.
Speaker 1: You'll be fine for the first four or five months.
Speaker 2: But when she realized she have to go to work
Speaker 2: versus wanting to go to work, it's a different thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I'm always a woman wanting to go to work.
Speaker 4: You don't want to go to work. You just want
Speaker 4: to have some leverage in this conversation.
Speaker 2: M Okay, so we at that mark. So why the
Speaker 2: fuck are you calling your grandmother a slept.
Speaker 4: I thought I had seventeen more minutes.
Speaker 1: No, you don't see.
Speaker 2: This is your time right now to explain to me
Speaker 2: why I should be Okay, what you call it your
Speaker 2: grandmother and your fucking great grandmother or slut.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'll tell you exactly why. Well, my sleckt grandma
Speaker 4: was on her phone.
Speaker 1: He stopped calling her a slit.
Speaker 2: Just you let me know, just say, my grandmother, please,
Speaker 2: for my sake, it makes me feel better.
Speaker 4: My grandfather got her pregnant and married her.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: And he worked full time. And he was diagnosed in
Speaker 4: his mid twenties with multiple sclerosis, and he continued to
Speaker 4: work full time when he could hardly walk. He continued
Speaker 4: to work full time. He went to work every day
Speaker 4: and paid every bill. They had four kids, he paid,
Speaker 4: He fed every mouth, full time, all the time, in
Speaker 4: deteriorating health and deteriorating quality of life and all that
Speaker 4: shit for about twenty years. Solid man, he is, Yeah,
Speaker 4: he lived. He lived with MS for fifty four years.
Speaker 2: For so they don't make humans like that no more.
Speaker 2: These niggas' mess for two days.
Speaker 4: It's a shame that he had to live those last
Speaker 4: thirty three thirty four years by his goddamn self in
Speaker 4: a house alone. Because the house he had lived with it,
Speaker 4: lived in and paid for and bought. She was living
Speaker 4: in and that when he was at work before the
Speaker 4: Americans with Disabilities Act was so he couldn't even let
Speaker 4: anybody know he had that shit or he'd be fucking fired.
Speaker 4: So while he was trying to walk without canes from
Speaker 4: the office to the car, she was fucking guys in
Speaker 4: the house in his bed while he was out at work,
Speaker 4: paying the fucking bills. And then she fucking divorced him
Speaker 4: and took his fucking house. And then he died alone
Speaker 4: on the floor in his fucking house. And she's on
Speaker 4: her fourth husband with an ocean fucking view. And you
Speaker 4: tell me who's a fucking slug grandma. God damn it, Pete,
Speaker 4: She's not a slug grandma.
Speaker 1: No, she's not a slug grandma.
Speaker 4: She's a filthy ten cent horror grandma. That's what the
Speaker 4: fuck is.
Speaker 2: No, she's not righteous, I'm there, she's not righteous. I agree,
Speaker 2: she's unrighteous. That's not righteous.
Speaker 4: Very promifically, my grandfather didn't die on death row.
Speaker 2: No, know, this is not a story about your grandfather,
Speaker 2: your your grandmother being promiscuous over the top. This is
Speaker 2: a story about how they used to make.
Speaker 4: Men it is. This is a story about her being
Speaker 4: that ship too.
Speaker 1: This is not your grandmother's story. See, and that's what
Speaker 1: this is.
Speaker 4: Yo. This isn't a good example.
Speaker 1: This is a story about my super grandfather.
Speaker 4: No, that's half the story. That's the whole we started,
Speaker 4: you know. Hold on, hold on, I made a mistake, Okay,
Speaker 4: I should have started at the beginning with my sluck
Speaker 4: great grandmother.
Speaker 1: I'm done. This ship is over.
Speaker 4: No it's not. It's not over yet.
Speaker 1: Grandmother is a slut.
Speaker 4: Yes you do.
Speaker 1: I did not feel right.
Speaker 4: My my, my great grandfather, my great grandfather was a
Speaker 4: stand up guy from Fitzgerald, Georgia, and he was in
Speaker 4: the Navy. He was stationed on the West coast. He
Speaker 4: thought California's paradise. He moved his wife and the family
Speaker 4: out to California from Georgia after he was done with
Speaker 4: his service. They moved to a town, interestingly enough, called
Speaker 4: Paradise in northern California, a low rent, white trash town
Speaker 4: full of low rent white trash folks, which subsequently burned
Speaker 4: down into fire. The whole town, the town no longer exists.
Speaker 4: Who goddamn town town? Yeah, that was a town so
Speaker 4: he was a butcher, you know, worked all day every day,
Speaker 4: paid every bill and you know, man, I think they
Speaker 4: had four kids too. And good guy went to church
Speaker 4: every Sunday, which is interesting because you wouldn't think going
Speaker 4: to church every Sunday that would be such a problem
Speaker 4: till your wife started sucking the pastor in your church
Speaker 4: and left you for him.
Speaker 2: So so minus all it is, there's only really the
Speaker 2: real story.
Speaker 4: Is and then move the pastor into the house. Lied
Speaker 4: about everything because our pastor got put out of his church.
Speaker 4: Can he stay here with us for a while because
Speaker 4: he works six and a half fucking days a week
Speaker 4: as the town butcher. But you know, it is what
Speaker 4: it is.
Speaker 1: The real question is why do the men in your
Speaker 1: fucking family.
Speaker 4: I don't know why there's a simping on that side
Speaker 4: of the family. I don't know what the fuck's going
Speaker 4: on over there, bro. I've talked about that with my
Speaker 4: cousin at like one hundred times and said, brother, I
Speaker 4: don't understand what.
Speaker 1: The fuck are you at least breaking the chain?
Speaker 4: Does it look like I got motherfucking women, fucking men
Speaker 4: in my apartment right now that are not me?
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