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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry letta. All right, thank you, nephew. We've

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Speaker 1: been waiting for this one. Subject. My brother's mistress is

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty two year

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Speaker 1: old single man. And I have a good job and

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Speaker 1: my own place. My brother is a married man with

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Speaker 1: three children and many mistresses. He always brings his mistresses

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Speaker 1: to gatherings with the boys, and I told him that's

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Speaker 1: probably not a good idea because most of them are

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Speaker 1: bad and the boys try to holler at them. I

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Speaker 1: talked to him many times about the cheating, because he's

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Speaker 1: always using me as his alibi. Two months ago, I

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Speaker 1: was out with my brother and one of his mistresses

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Speaker 1: was there. She was six feet tall, with an all

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Speaker 1: it was like love sight for me. I spend the

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Speaker 1: seem to care. After a few drinks, she asked me

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Speaker 1: if my brother is married. I told her the truth.

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Speaker 1: She confessed about spending a weekend with him out of

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Speaker 1: the past month and whenever my brother calls her, she

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Speaker 1: rushes him off the phone. I asked her why she's

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Speaker 1: still dealing with him, and she said it's just until

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Speaker 1: her car is fixed. I offered to give her half

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Speaker 1: the money, but she declined it and said it's the

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Speaker 1: still talks to him and she's willing to take his money.

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Speaker 1: If something's going on, she needs to be honest. My

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Speaker 1: to be sure she's not playing both of us. What

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Speaker 1: do you think is really going on with this woman? Well?

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Speaker 1: I do think she's playing both of you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: why not your brother, because you know, I'm sure the

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Speaker 1: sex is good and the excitement of it all. I

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Speaker 1: don't think the money is that big of a factor

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Speaker 1: because it can't be. I mean, he's just paying for

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Speaker 1: her car repairs. It's not like it's a brand new

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Speaker 1: it take to get your car repairs? Seems like her

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Speaker 1: all right? And as far as you go, she knows

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Speaker 1: I know that, But don't judge her too harshly because

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Speaker 1: you're wrong too. You're wrong. You're going behind your brother's

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Speaker 1: back and seeing his side piece. Come on, now, I

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Speaker 1: you talked to her all night when you first met her,

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Speaker 1: But most men are pretty. It's very territorial, and I

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Speaker 1: just can't see him being happy when he finds out

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Speaker 1: So you need to figure that part out. And here's

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Speaker 1: a question. Is she worth's six feet tall, big booty,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I say no. I say no. There are

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Speaker 1: surely that's not the answer I have. It's a lot

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Speaker 1: that statement. If the brother, I'm sorry. If your brother's

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Speaker 1: I'm afforded, two year old single man. Okay, got a

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Speaker 1: Throwing me a little bit? But okay, you all that

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Speaker 1: You told me, probably ain't a good idea. Cost most

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Speaker 1: girl and your boys try to hold him now. You

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Speaker 1: using you as alibody. And two months ago you was

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Speaker 1: out with your brother. One of his mistresses was there, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Old y'all go out a lot. Y'all need to stay

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Speaker 1: Always out? She's six feet tall, all natural booty, flash stomach,

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Speaker 1: got y'all know that love at first sight for most

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Speaker 1: come back, I'm gonna tell you what got you, and

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Speaker 1: then I'm gonna tell you a few other things. All right,

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. My brother's mistress is

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Speaker 1: We love this subject. My brother's mistress is my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Let's go all right. We got this forty two year

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Speaker 1: old man that's single, he got a brother that's married

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Speaker 1: which is gonna be the key to this whole thing.

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Speaker 1: And he always brings his mistresses to the gathering with

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Speaker 1: He's still gutted showing out. You ain't really supposed to

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Speaker 1: show he still got it. He's swinging with the fellas.

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Speaker 1: He know they'd be gawking at him and everything because

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Speaker 1: cheating cause he always used as an alibiut all right,

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Speaker 1: So one night you go out with your brother and

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Speaker 1: one of his side pieces was that one of his

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Speaker 1: many mistresses, but this one caught your eye. She had

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Speaker 1: And for you, it was love at first sight. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I got you. I got you. That you Jessica Rabbit

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Speaker 1: was at the damn party and you saw her. I

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Speaker 1: got you, all right. I spent the whole night getting

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Speaker 1: to know her, and my brother didn't seem to care. Well,

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Speaker 1: few more mistresses. That's what he went out for. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if he didn't care that you was talking to her,

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Speaker 1: he making moves, he moving around the club, that's what

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Speaker 1: he'd do. Now. After a few drinks, she asked you

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Speaker 1: What he's married? What? None of that? He? All she

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Speaker 1: She confessed after spending the week Now, why would she

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Speaker 1: So then you got a number, and y'all went to

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Speaker 1: We've been inseparable for the past month. And whatever my

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Speaker 1: it's just until her car's fixed. Now, surely asked the question,

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Speaker 1: You know, she's been a mistress before. That's how she

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Speaker 1: because she got to keep servicing him to get the money. Bro,

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Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? Same reason you offered to pay half,

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Speaker 1: you're willing to pay half? Why because did not Your

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Speaker 1: Don't give it down? And if she put that makeup

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Speaker 1: lashes on? Who? Who? What? We're dealing with him? So

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Speaker 1: now she wouldn't take it? If something going on? She

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Speaker 1: needs honest, honest dog? What are you asking for you?

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Speaker 1: This chick has no morals. She's dating a married man

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Speaker 1: get upset. She's still talking to the married man because

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Speaker 1: you stupid? Are you? But you won't player? My brother

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Speaker 1: damn difference, y'all being a separable and you know that man,

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